She broke up with me just a few days ago, and I kept thinking of reasons for why. None of the reasons she said made any sense to me. Only now do I realize just how obsessed I was, and that she genuinely meant that this would be the best for both of us. I'm still in the process of grieving, but I will forever be thankful to her for teaching me such a valuable lesson.
Love how self aware you are, especially given how you must be feeling right now. It’s gonna be a painful few weeks / months ahead - but you’ll get through it and be a better partner for it after. Good luck 💪
I was once like this. It was just horrible. I didn’t reach stage 4 luckily, but I did reach stage 5 and eventually found a lover who is better and loves me back.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him. Romans 6:23 23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
"World War 5, Lois!" "Peter, we've been over this. There hasn't even been a 3 yet." "Oh no that's what's so special about world War 5, Lois.. it's so bad, it skips over the other 2."
when I was younger, I felt like I went through these stages of obsessive love. When I got older and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I realize that all the feelings of obsession and toxic feelings of abandonment were actually a projection of my own trust issues and abandonment from my traumatic childhood. the first stage of getting better is always going to be awareness and acceptance. Now I’m married to my high school sweetheart went through all stages that I put him through, but I left him alone and started loving myself, that’s when my feelings were reciprocated. Now we’re going on 20 years and I couldn’t ask for a better partner to help me deal with, my issues and disorder.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him. Romans 6:23 23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
I think I've gone through most of these stages, but in my 33 years I have never been in a relationship, so I don't know if that could be a factor for my huge anxiety towards being with someone (among other factors).
Look, obsessive love is very common for individuals with unstable/unsupportive family background or kids growing up without proper care. So, if your partner loves you obsessively, please dont leave him/her.try to make them understand where they went wrong and stand by their side unless they regain themselves and flourish❤
This was not a good advice for the other person on the other side of the obsession. They are getting involved in this toxic cycle too and it can be harmful to try encouraging them to stay. Sometimes it can even involved the safety of the other person, sympathy or guilt tripping is exactly a tactics that most of them use already, don’t add more to it.
not exactly a good advice, especially if the obsessed person turns to emotional or even physical abuse to their partner. better take that person to therapy than just suffer with them
Not exactly safest plan, maybe try taking them to therapy and getting mental help first, if they recover maybe yes stay with them but if it gets continuously worse, you need to leave them and get a professional or the persons relatives to help. Safety first.
i am a hopeless romantic, an obsessive type of a lover, after realizing my toxic habit i stayed single until now. im so afraid to commit relationships because at the end of the day i'd still long for them like a mad man. they say it's just limerence 😢
happens the same to me but you dont worry eventually you'll find who likes that or at least can understand it. Just be real to you while setting the right boundaries everything will be ok
The root is always lack of self love. I was reading the definition of insecure and the one definition said it's being unprotected and susceptible to danger. So I think when you meet someone and you are not secure in who you are, you just leave so much room for sense of self to be drained even more. I'm learning now to not only build up you self esteem but to guard your heart as well and know that for someone to be able to experience your love it is a privilege.
@@TuPapa... Not that easy when your mind gets sexualized at a young age and destroys your self control and compulsiveness. Sounds like a personal issue, well, it is. But I do agree with you though.👍
@@jonathannicholas07 I mean... My mind is a little sexualized, but I don't let it take control of me. Also I put myself in place of the other ¿Would she be okay if I suddenly started fucking yelling at her just because she doesn't put all her attention all the time? Also I thought this was a reply to a geometry dash argument I had a couple hours ago lmao
Glad I’m not in obsessive love with my gf. We don’t get to talk very much rn, cuz she’s in the process of recovering from cancer treatment. What I understand from my cousin (he had cancer) is that therapy and recovery take a ton of energy and her days are probably filled with therapy and sleep. I don’t hold anything against her. But that doesn’t fully help the pain of not being able to speak to her. I do miss her, but all I want rn is for her to get better, and us actually enjoy our relationship. Keep my gf in your prayers plz. Her name is Kiana
My ex boyfriend is in the throws of stage 4 with me. Scared for my safety. So it beyond just being angry, he tried to run me off the interstate recently. But a Protective Order has been delivered today. I pray 🙏 that my codependency will not make me faulted by letting me back in my life. With God all things are possible!! 🙏 🤲
To see your life shown almost verbatim in a youtube video is a terrible feeling because I have been anxiously attached and fit most of what the video describes other than losing my identity. But it's also cathartic to know I've known it wasn't rational or logical and that my obsession was hurting the one I purported to love. I have never loved someone so much, and so even though we just broke up, for my mental health and well-being I'm going to give him space and cut off all communication because trying to be friends with him is torture. I'll always be there for him, but right now I need to heal before I can be a good friend so I have to say goodbye to him. I know it's hard but love yourself guys, know that you are deserving of just as much love as you are investing in someone.
I'm kinda going through this in my current relationship. Things have been worse, but luckily they've gotten better. I'm on a journey with self love and trying to find ways how to feel good when my bf is busy or we can't be together at that moment and it's going okay so far :) I want to really get my shit together because no one has ever been so compassionate and understanding as he is and we have been together for 2 years and he never gave up on me. Even when I had severe anxiety and depression, he helped me through it ❤ I can't thank him enough
I want to say this is somewhat exactly how it is for me, but we haven't been together for 2 years lol. I'd known her for about a year before we started dating, and I helped her through some rough stuff, and she had grown attached to me and asked me out, and I said no, realizing that after what just happened with her, she doesn't need to form another attachment like that and needs time instead, but staying very close friends after that. I then started slowly realizing I did like her, and asked her out. It's been great with her but I feel like I might be too like this. I want to know how you have been trying to better yourself and stay away from this, because I don't want to lose her, even if it hasn't gotten as severe as shown
notification appeared right when i started missing and reminiscing about my ex 😋 i definitely went through all four stages, and i can say that this is (hopefully) the last time ill ever get obsessed and overly attached
This video was eye opening, this was something I always knew about myself but I didn't wanted to recognize. I reached stage 4 and I hated myself for this. Few days ago I started to practice self love, so this video came in the best moment. Thank you.
I’m glad the video came at a time when you needed it. Don’t beat yourself up for being in stage 4-recognizing it and starting to practice self-love is a huge step forward. What’s one self-love practice that’s been especially helpful for you lately?
My grip of obsessive love had me in an in and out relationship where I'd get with my ex then break up and get back with him then break up and get back with him. I was the one who was obsessed and thought things would change and that we could really date this time but he started spoiling me and doing things that had me obsessed again....so eventually the cycle broke and we started arguing to the point of screaming at each other.....
There is a fork in the road after infatuation, either the obsessive love path or the healthy love path. It's possible that you went down the healthy path rather than stopped at infatuation.
I was once in that position. The difference is I was constantly asked to act that way, and would be cried on whenever I would try to "let go". Meanwhile they keep hurting and blaming me in the process for not "trusting" them enough, like bro you asked that I act like this then blame me for acting the way you asked?
I had an experience of obsessive love from a former stalker which traumatized me for years, it still bothers me whenever I came across that person even when it happened ages ago. Hence why I found it difficult to deal from traumatic experiences perhaps because I haven't yet healed from it.
i am confident enough to say that i've been through obsessive love before, and i only stayed on stage 1 with most of them, maybe slightly moving up to stage 2 with some early obsessions. but recently, i went absolutely crazy about someone over discord. i didn't even know what she looked or sounded like, i was just attracted by her personality. i feel very bad about everything now. i don't really wanna give any major details, but i will say that my relationsip started off pretty healthy in the beginning, but it was only until the end of april where things got pretty bad (i kept asking her for voice calls, which made her uncomfortable), but even after that, we were still friends... until the start of june, when things got MUCH worse... that was it, i was at the end of stage 4, and i went into stage 5, as she ended all contact with me, and blocked me. i was pretty popular in a community aswell so i got cancelled and kicked out for my obsession to this person. i tried to apologise sincerely, but not many people forgave me, let alone the victim herself. so to anyone else who's currently going through, or already went through something like this: i know exactly what it feels like, and stage 5 is literally so horrible to go through, i'm sorry for those who have to go through something like this, and i'm also sorry for all the victims
One of the loves of my life, and now I'm working on a new start with him so that we can actually have a mutually trusting, comfortable, secure, healthy, and unconditionally loving relationship. The first thing is trust. However, I've never tried to isolate him from friends or family. I would never do that. Since you can't replace a person, he's one of whom whose presence has always been uplifting.
@@kobi2024 that's what I thought immediately, sounds like my bpd ex... You just confirmed it for me, thanks for being so honest and sharing this..... 😊
As a high functioning neurotypical person who has been on the obsessive end (high school, didn’t know any better) AND on the receiving end of this behavior, including right now years later, all I can say is run and run as far away as fast as you can lolol Self love, healing, recognition, and growth is the very best thing you can do to control this. And learning to love others right, helps you love yourself right.
Watching this shows me how obsessed I was with him and why he probably broke up with me, I only just started to get over him, after about 5 months of still liking him..I really need to get over him
I'm just now recovering from an obsessive love of 6 years. I appreciate you making a video Educating people! ❤ it does get better! And you'll find someone who loves you just the same, it may not be that "one person" but it is out there!
I’m on 5 rn having this happen as my first relationship really sucks it really does but I can only learn from my mistakes I guess thank you please keep making these videos they help so many people and me learn so much
I was in the stage 2 of obsession, i was obsessed with a girl in my school, she was pretty, kind, smart, and everything i wanted. i was well known to my friends that i make music, make art work, and i was really talented.. but when she came into my life, all i cared about was her. my grades were going low, i wouldn't hang out with my friends. and i would tend to isolate myself from my parents. often eating in my own room. i was able to date her and she still is currently my girlfriend but when i watched this video, it really helped. i was often feeling depressed. insecure. and sometimes even mad when she interacts with others.. this video helped me alot into improving my love and improving mentally. i now focus on other things such as music, art work, crafting, programming. i filled my life with so many things other than love. I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much!
You are on point in everything you said! It kind of feels like you're in a horror and or suspense film! Being in a constant state of panic, fear, worry and other agonizing conditions is no way to live! This perpetual enigmatic loop can take a heavy toll on your complete well being! Follow these guidelines as I will, and the dark cloud should disappear! What a 🛼🎢 rolller coaster ride this life is! Good fortune and have a good one!
@@Trust_worthy_24definitely. In my case, one of my classmates said she’s obsessed over me. But later when I became overly attached to her. She started appearing cold. Now “We don’t talk anymore.”
This video opened my eyes a bit. Naturally I'm easy to make anxious, naturally my partner is quick to anger. Just generalized problems the two of us have. I may not be controlling to them, though I ask for (admittedly) a bit much reassurance sometimes out of fear that I've done wrong or upset them- as I know (And they do too) that they are quick to anger. This video made me realize that I should look further into myself, assess the few issues I have, and continue with the happy relationship I have. I shouldn't let anxiety dictate what I feel or ask to my partner. I do have a bit of a habit of asking my partner what they're up to, but only in the intent to spark conversation and talk about the activities they're doing. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
каждый "уважающий себя" подросток хотя бы раз в жизни: это случалось и со мной. не сказать, что только я вела себя плохо с человеком. этот человек поступал со мной ни чуть не лучше и, более того, нанёс мне серьёзный вред своими действиями гораздо раньше, чем началась моя больная привязанность к ним. ребята, которые проходят через подобное сейчас - если вы смотрите это и понимаете, что это про вас. и если вы хотите измениться - это первый шаг. главное двигаться дальше и постараться выбраться из этого. так вы поможете не только себе, но и объекту вашей одержимости🙏
I’m married and now I realize that I am obsessed with her and realize how much I rely on her for comfort and attention as well as gratification I will sometimes make her feel bad because I want all her attention and that sometimes comes off as needy or manipulative I don’t mean to be this way and I know that I am hard to deal with but she puts up with all of my crazy antics and looks past all that which I appreciate
This is happening to me in my relationship. I’m conscious that I’m obsessed over my partner and I tell her sorry for being so high maintenance. Thankfully she says she doesn’t mind and feels assured of my love for her. But both of us know this is a problem that needs some attention. So I’m holding myself back from calls and trying to learn new stuff like coding to keep me busy.
I’ve had a friend like this before. We would text everyday without fail and it was so fun for the first bit of the friendship. But after a while he started questioning why I wasn’t responding as much, why I would hang out with friends more than him, and why he wasn’t prioritized if I considered him my best friend. I ended up ending the friendship because I was tired of trying to explain things to him over and over again when it didn’t seem like he would listen. I hope he’s doing ok now, he was a good guy and I wish the best for him.
Honestly, this video helped me understand exactly why, me liking someone, isn't an unhealthy obsession because while I might have lunged at someone for rejecting me as a child (because it would stirr up feelings of not being wanted and jealousy of whoever they might actually like), I do try to move on when they reject me now because I know I can't control someone. I think it's just that I'm 19 in a few days and I still haven't ever had a relationship, I know there are people in their 20's out there who are the same but honestly the problem is just that I don't like to feel different from others who surround me and most people I care about are already in a relationship and the feeling of jealousy is terrible. I have felt like committing suicide on multiple occasions but that's not just about romantic feelings but about my life in general and therapy isn't an option once I've had that on multiple occasions too and it hasn't helped.
I once met a girl who was like this to me, I liked her at first, but then I realized how really obssesive and controlling she was. We got in a relationship and everything was going right. I spent 50% time with my friends and the other 50% with her, but she started demanding me to spend more time with her than with anyone like I was her dog. We ended breaking up and she came back to me, acting like I was still her boyfriend, kissing me even thought I gave clear signs of being uncomfortable. Yesterday I told her how I felt about that and we don't speak anymore, but the point of this is that, no matter how you love them, please don't try to make their whole life about you.
@@micahhershey311 a friend of mine fell.in love with a guy online by only texting and hsving a picture of each other and thats it,they are in a Distance relationship and my friend literally believes that this is true love,they fell in love within one month knowing eachother and are in a Distant relationship No phone calls,no facetime,only texting and Playing online together and that is called love? I mean they talk like they know each other for many years bit they only Know eachother for less than 5 months They have never met in person and thst will probably Happen rarely or never
I've went through all 5 stages of obsessive love but not exactly as severe thank the Lord. I am now a born again christian that has been saved from depression and anxiety from what I went through.
@@jonathannicholas07 it sure is tiring as all hell. Just once I'd like a day of peace where my mind is quiet and it's not obsessing, not depressed, not anxious, just.... calm.
Remember you can still date multiple women. you don't need to always relying on one. And once any girl gets Jelous cuz your dating or meeting other girls these are signs that she cares about you. As a man don't chase, just attract without even thinking about her. Also, having good communication and purpose is more important than love and romance. Don't let a pretty girl face fools you! She is not what you think.
After going through depression in long periods 2 different times in my life. I didn’t expect my most recent one would be from love. It’s also very draining for the other person of the relationship and even more so when you’re aware of why the other is like that and still caring for them makes you scared to let go (or be strict and forward about it) since you don’t know what’ll happen if you do so. I thought my worst days were a thing of the past but after my most recent relationship I just haven’t been feeling like living at all and all the things I tried to get out of depression in the past are just not working. Especially since I have more responsibilities as I’m older. I don’t know if she was obsessed with me or not but I felt so much codependency and expectations that just made me feel like a failure every single moment and every single day as I keep on making “mistakes” and not making her satisfied or happy enough. I started dropping other things for her and now that I’ve broken up my life’s in shambles and I’m so lost.
When I clicked the video, I was worried this would describe me. I'm very comforted knowing that in the more extreme stages, I'm not showing any signs. Thank you Psych2go!
hey dont worry, I know like 10 guys who would do anything for someone like you. you'll find the right guy to lock up in your basement ❤ this is a joke I honestly worry for my friends. I'm glad you recognized your mistake, good luck with your next relationship
So, you only have the sexual attraction to people? No like... social attraction? Its interesting. I think i'm asexual, cuz all i want is to talk with people and hear them talking, no sexual attaction to anyone, huh.
I wasn't in my obsession stage but they were , almost reached 4th stage..I got fed up by all the pity fights and continously battling inside thinking what to do with them but in the end i ended up as i cant take it because it was affecting my mental health to the greater extent and i really thankful that i ended up, i hope they are fine now and realises that it wasn't how it should be
My last relationship was toxic and obsessive he was very very clingy towards me and anytime i wanted space hed always ask me if he did something wrong snd try to guilt trip me he would get angry randomly at me if i didnt respond and he would mever let me make my own decisions when i finally had the confidence to leave him he would not let me leave if i left him he would do anything to gaslight or manipulate me to get back together with him it happened 5 times with the same person km just so relieved that im finally out of it..
Well, i dont know if its love at all, but i have like a little bit of obsessive things you've mentioned. 1. Often checking a messanger for new messages. 2. Overthinking and overanalysing conversations. 3. Sometimes thinking of what we can do together in the future, like, places we can go, or like: "We should talk more often", idk. But maybe thats just because i dont really have much relations and conversations in life for... a half a decade rn at least, and thus I'm trying to catch any social fuel from a single friend i have. I like to talk with her, but I dont think thats love at all. I dont know what the love is, huh. I dont have sexual attraction to anyone and never had, and I heard that its the one of the main aspects of love. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
A friend of mine obsessively fell in love with me. When he had just a crush on me, I'd made it more than clear that I don't feel the same way. I did initially find him cute but when he started showing signs of obsession, it was a major turn off and I honestly told him that he should move on as I don't feel the same way but he wouldn't budge. He'd often say "even if you don't feel the same way, it's alright. Just let me love you" and he began acting just how it's being stated in the video. All of our friends saw how messed up this was and were telling him how obsessive he's being over someone who ISN'T even his girlfriend. But he wouldn't understand. I had no other choice but to cut him off. He was a wonderful friend. I'd even call him my best friend and hope he gets the one that's best for him.
I have gone through this stages. After we stop see each other I realised my mistakes and the toxic habit that I make. Now I'm stoping my self from obsessing and wanting others. The realisation hit me hard and sometimes the guilt is killing me. But after all now I'm knowing my mistake.
Ive been on the receiving end in the past, and to no surprise, im also on the obsessing end as well. Thankfully its never gotten destructive.. i talked about it with my very wonderful and understanding partner of 7+ years. Im still looking for what makes me happy in life, and just taking one day at a time. It truly is about open communication and feeling each other. If you cant do that, obsessive or not, it wont last. Me and my partner have our moments, mostly from my insecurities.. but im a work in progress, and i refuse to give up. Looking back now on me and her journeys, I'm so blessed to have my partner in life. Thats why I will do better, not just for her, but for me. Dont give up.
I completely recognize myself in this video. Once i was in love...and quickly became obsessed by one of my friends.But the problem is.. he was gr00mer and he really took advantage of it by manipulating me or touching..if you know what i mean.I was so obsessed that i thought i was normal and maybe the feelings were reciprocated..but no sometimes we were fighting cause i was jealous or cause he's avoiding,I was stalking him..but with help of my friends,I finally stopped with this obsession and finally let go..I still have feelings and i don't know what to do..if someone can give me some advices,it would be great.
So far to be honest, I felt like I am at the first stage of obsession and I haven’t stalked yet but I kept looking my favorite person from afar. I do know it is un healthy but I let my heart do what it want to do but I always make myself remember to love myself and always remember that god is with me.
Happened to me in 2023. Broke up because of that. I thought I learnt my lesson ...Entered a relationship in 2024 broke up in 2024. The worst part, is that you see yourself becoming codependent. You try everything to auto-regulate (journaling, meditation, passions etc ...), but it's stronger than you, and you see yourself become codependent. But now, I know the concept of "reparenting you inner-child", it might be better the next time. I'll try and i'll give my feedback.
Not really in obssesion can still be love someone who is obssesed with someone and doesn't wanna let the person go can still care about person's opinions thoughts needs and so on. I know it by my lover
I knew someone who I went through all 5 stages of this over, and I ended up cutting them off. At first I was sad that they weren't reciprocating what I was giving them, and eventually that sadness turned into frustration, which later turned into anger, and I took it out entirely on them because I figured if I was treating them nice, they should be treating me the same way. I never really processed the fact that they simply don't feel the same way and I wouldn't be surprised if I made them very uncomfortable at times. Even after I cut them off, I came back to them, not realizing that I was in this cycle. Eventually I ended our communication for good after explaining I was only upset at them because I didn't understand that those feelings aren't something you can give and expect to be given in return. Going through all of this has truly improved me as a person and strengthened my emotional stability, and despite all of the dark times I went through because of this person, I am forever grateful for learning the lessons given to me along the way. This video touched the deepest part of my soul and I can't stress this enough, watching this was a trip.
This is why "Mark Manson" the author book of "subtle art not to give a f*ck" he explained that love is not always everything, basically communication, and finding any sort of purpose within your partner is more important than love and romance.
I had this old classmate and we were kind of close. He was a shy type thinking that he was really innocent.He chatted me around pandemic, then he confessed to me. I had feelings for him so i accepted. Then months later, he kept asking for my voice records (I don't like sharing voice records) and kept asking me who i was chatting with and what we talked about. A year later, he began to tell me that I should play with knives because it's fun and he kept sharing vids that can help me bury a body. It was starting to get weird that time. I ended things a year later, but he came back months later with a new account and i immediately knew it was him. He started saying that He still likes me despite knowing I was in a relationship. I blocked him.
I almost found myself obsessively loving my best friend. I was able to control it, however, and stopped by stage 2. I'm so grateful I had the strength to do that.
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too." - Ernest Hemingway
That happened to me way too much in the past😔
@@Ray_347I'm sorry😔
@@TRW-DILTO its ok..
@Dogday86429 Hope you the best!
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She broke up with me just a few days ago, and I kept thinking of reasons for why. None of the reasons she said made any sense to me. Only now do I realize just how obsessed I was, and that she genuinely meant that this would be the best for both of us. I'm still in the process of grieving, but I will forever be thankful to her for teaching me such a valuable lesson.
That's a really healthy way to see it. Good for you man, I'm proud.
Same, i am going thro the same thing. I can feel ur pain and sadness, but just as u said, it's the best for both parties.
Love how self aware you are, especially given how you must be feeling right now.
It’s gonna be a painful few weeks / months ahead - but you’ll get through it and be a better partner for it after. Good luck 💪
i understand man
she left because you are a losser
Psychopath X Obsessive Love=Horror Movie
It happened to me, only with a sociopath. Same disorder, really (antisocial personality disorder).
Agree
basically the show “you” on netflix. love quinn x joe goldberg lol
They can't actually 'love'
They maybe people who are borderlines and bipolars
killing stalking
I was once like this. It was just horrible. I didn’t reach stage 4 luckily, but I did reach stage 5 and eventually found a lover who is better and loves me back.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him.
Romans 6:23
23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
I can relate, man. It's scary what we can turn into before we heal 😬
@lionofjudah5221 you suck at converting. You can't save souls if you give people the ick first. Don't be weird.
@@taramcflaraI agree it is scary what we can turn to before we heal
"World War 5, Lois!"
"Peter, we've been over this. There hasn't even been a 3 yet."
"Oh no that's what's so special about world War 5, Lois.. it's so bad, it skips over the other 2."
when I was younger, I felt like I went through these stages of obsessive love. When I got older and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I realize that all the feelings of obsession and toxic feelings of abandonment were actually a projection of my own trust issues and abandonment from my traumatic childhood. the first stage of getting better is always going to be awareness and acceptance. Now I’m married to my high school sweetheart went through all stages that I put him through, but I left him alone and started loving myself, that’s when my feelings were reciprocated.
Now we’re going on 20 years and I couldn’t ask for a better partner to help me deal with, my issues and disorder.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him.
Romans 6:23
23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
It is so great!!!! ✨✨✨
I think I've gone through most of these stages, but in my 33 years I have never been in a relationship, so I don't know if that could be a factor for my huge anxiety towards being with someone (among other factors).
Hey can I ask can you differentiate between being obsessive and being clingy. I don't know if i have both or one.
@@lionofjudah5221leave religion out of this
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Look, obsessive love is very common for individuals with unstable/unsupportive family background or kids growing up without proper care. So, if your partner loves you obsessively, please dont leave him/her.try to make them understand where they went wrong and stand by their side unless they regain themselves and flourish❤
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Also this is literally me, no jokes intended
This was not a good advice for the other person on the other side of the obsession. They are getting involved in this toxic cycle too and it can be harmful to try encouraging them to stay.
Sometimes it can even involved the safety of the other person, sympathy or guilt tripping is exactly a tactics that most of them use already, don’t add more to it.
this got me now depressive knowing how accurate it is to what i went and am currently
going through
not exactly a good advice, especially if the obsessed person turns to emotional or even physical abuse to their partner. better take that person to therapy than just suffer with them
Not exactly safest plan, maybe try taking them to therapy and getting mental help first, if they recover maybe yes stay with them but if it gets continuously worse, you need to leave them and get a professional or the persons relatives to help. Safety first.
i am a hopeless romantic, an obsessive type of a lover, after realizing my toxic habit i stayed single until now. im so afraid to commit relationships because at the end of the day i'd still long for them like a mad man. they say it's just limerence 😢
happens the same to me but you dont worry eventually you'll find who likes that or at least can understand it. Just be real to you while setting the right boundaries everything will be ok
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Low-key like the obsessive and jealous type
@@Imnot_moodyDon't give him hope. This feels like one of those signs that say, ''don't feed the zoo animals''
@@Goo_Gle. My bad, g.
The root is always lack of self love. I was reading the definition of insecure and the one definition said it's being unprotected and susceptible to danger. So I think when you meet someone and you are not secure in who you are, you just leave so much room for sense of self to be drained even more. I'm learning now to not only build up you self esteem but to guard your heart as well and know that for someone to be able to experience your love it is a privilege.
1. 0:51 Infatuation
2. 1:27 Intensification
3. 2:26 Obsession
4. 3:51 Destruction
5. 6:03 Resolution
Thank uuuu
Don't know why they removed time stamps
@@Songwriter2009 my pleasure
@@moreliatapoc971 I have 4 out of 5 of those
@@legendshadow547 ikr they had it before
Oh boy.... Now I need to be WAY more careful.
@@AC-ni4gt Fr
...same
what? It's mostly about not being a creep lol
@@TuPapa... Not that easy when your mind gets sexualized at a young age and destroys your self control and compulsiveness. Sounds like a personal issue, well, it is. But I do agree with you though.👍
@@jonathannicholas07 I mean... My mind is a little sexualized, but I don't let it take control of me. Also I put myself in place of the other
¿Would she be okay if I suddenly started fucking yelling at her just because she doesn't put all her attention all the time?
Also I thought this was a reply to a geometry dash argument I had a couple hours ago lmao
Glad I’m not in obsessive love with my gf. We don’t get to talk very much rn, cuz she’s in the process of recovering from cancer treatment. What I understand from my cousin (he had cancer) is that therapy and recovery take a ton of energy and her days are probably filled with therapy and sleep. I don’t hold anything against her. But that doesn’t fully help the pain of not being able to speak to her. I do miss her, but all I want rn is for her to get better, and us actually enjoy our relationship. Keep my gf in your prayers plz. Her name is Kiana
Too much love is not that good, i am still suffering from it from that, and i mean like a boy is making me suffer, not myself.
Well, there’s healthy love and not healthy love. So yeah too much healthy love is never too much or bad
@@SamanthaBaker8 well idk about that
Well no love hurts the most trust me
@@yellowworldytand dont ask me how ik
@@Eaglisthebest o how😅
My ex boyfriend is in the throws of stage 4 with me. Scared for my safety. So it beyond just being angry, he tried to run me off the interstate recently. But a Protective Order has been delivered today. I pray 🙏 that my codependency will not make me faulted by letting me back in my life. With God all things are possible!! 🙏 🤲
I’m praying for you as well❤
i'll pray for you, are you doing okay? 🙏 🙏
@Jay-bo2jc Yes, prayers are always welcome. Thank you so much!! 🙏 🤲
Your ex didn't love you, he's just probably a psycho, like this video describing someone "in love in a bad way" lol
Keeping you in my thoughts. You are stronger than you know. Remind yourself of that every day until you truly believe it. ❤
To see your life shown almost verbatim in a youtube video is a terrible feeling because I have been anxiously attached and fit most of what the video describes other than losing my identity. But it's also cathartic to know I've known it wasn't rational or logical and that my obsession was hurting the one I purported to love. I have never loved someone so much, and so even though we just broke up, for my mental health and well-being I'm going to give him space and cut off all communication because trying to be friends with him is torture. I'll always be there for him, but right now I need to heal before I can be a good friend so I have to say goodbye to him. I know it's hard but love yourself guys, know that you are deserving of just as much love as you are investing in someone.
I'm kinda going through this in my current relationship. Things have been worse, but luckily they've gotten better. I'm on a journey with self love and trying to find ways how to feel good when my bf is busy or we can't be together at that moment and it's going okay so far :) I want to really get my shit together because no one has ever been so compassionate and understanding as he is and we have been together for 2 years and he never gave up on me. Even when I had severe anxiety and depression, he helped me through it ❤ I can't thank him enough
Wish you all the best
@@bharghavigummala3150 thank you :)
I want to say this is somewhat exactly how it is for me, but we haven't been together for 2 years lol. I'd known her for about a year before we started dating, and I helped her through some rough stuff, and she had grown attached to me and asked me out, and I said no, realizing that after what just happened with her, she doesn't need to form another attachment like that and needs time instead, but staying very close friends after that. I then started slowly realizing I did like her, and asked her out. It's been great with her but I feel like I might be too like this.
I want to know how you have been trying to better yourself and stay away from this, because I don't want to lose her, even if it hasn't gotten as severe as shown
notification appeared right when i started missing and reminiscing about my ex 😋
i definitely went through all four stages, and i can say that this is (hopefully) the last time ill ever get obsessed and overly attached
As long as you can recognize it next time, I hope you can do okay. ❤
This video was eye opening, this was something I always knew about myself but I didn't wanted to recognize. I reached stage 4 and I hated myself for this. Few days ago I started to practice self love, so this video came in the best moment. Thank you.
I’m glad the video came at a time when you needed it. Don’t beat yourself up for being in stage 4-recognizing it and starting to practice self-love is a huge step forward. What’s one self-love practice that’s been especially helpful for you lately?
My grip of obsessive love had me in an in and out relationship where I'd get with my ex then break up and get back with him then break up and get back with him. I was the one who was obsessed and thought things would change and that we could really date this time but he started spoiling me and doing things that had me obsessed again....so eventually the cycle broke and we started arguing to the point of screaming at each other.....
This makes me think I've only ever been in the infatuation stage 😂😭
And it makes me think I have never been in love😂😅😲😓😭
That's probably a good thing as it means you have healthy love. if you get to stage 2 it means you have obsessive love.
There is a fork in the road after infatuation, either the obsessive love path or the healthy love path. It's possible that you went down the healthy path rather than stopped at infatuation.
Yeah same 😂😂 I easily get bored with the same person lol
Timestamps
1). Infatuation 0:49
2). Intensification 1:26
3). Obsession 2:24
4). Destruction 3:49
5). Resolution 6:02
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
This animation style is very cute; the eyes are highly expressive! Kudos to the artist!
I was once in that position. The difference is I was constantly asked to act that way, and would be cried on whenever I would try to "let go". Meanwhile they keep hurting and blaming me in the process for not "trusting" them enough, like bro you asked that I act like this then blame me for acting the way you asked?
My question is why you have to listen others ?
Others are not responsible for your happiness !
Why you waste your time on that ?
ngl my relationship is healthily obsessive because we love each other so much we both respect boundaries
Me too❤
I had an experience of obsessive love from a former stalker which traumatized me for years, it still bothers me whenever I came across that person even when it happened ages ago. Hence why I found it difficult to deal from traumatic experiences perhaps because I haven't yet healed from it.
You have no idea how much I love when Amanda does the voice overs ❤️ her voice is so nice to listen to.
Thanks so much! She definitely has one of the more pleasing and soothing voice!
I can just feel the fedora hat and the cheeto breath aura
@@Eltaryy girl what? So now it’s wrong to compliment someone’s voice be fr
@@val.-.8911 dawg I'm a guy 💀
@@Eltaryy okay? I don’t care if your a zebra, I said what I said
0:08 CLOUD 9 MENTIONED!!! AHHHHH!!! WHAT ARE SMOKES???
Yes
RAAAAAAAAHHH
WE ARE NEVER GONNA WIN WORLDS WITH THIS ONE 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥
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i am confident enough to say that i've been through obsessive love before, and i only stayed on stage 1 with most of them, maybe slightly moving up to stage 2 with some early obsessions. but recently, i went absolutely crazy about someone over discord. i didn't even know what she looked or sounded like, i was just attracted by her personality. i feel very bad about everything now. i don't really wanna give any major details, but i will say that my relationsip started off pretty healthy in the beginning, but it was only until the end of april where things got pretty bad (i kept asking her for voice calls, which made her uncomfortable), but even after that, we were still friends... until the start of june, when things got MUCH worse... that was it, i was at the end of stage 4, and i went into stage 5, as she ended all contact with me, and blocked me. i was pretty popular in a community aswell so i got cancelled and kicked out for my obsession to this person. i tried to apologise sincerely, but not many people forgave me, let alone the victim herself.
so to anyone else who's currently going through, or already went through something like this: i know exactly what it feels like, and stage 5 is literally so horrible to go through, i'm sorry for those who have to go through something like this, and i'm also sorry for all the victims
I also went through all four stages and I don't want to go through that again😅
How is it that every video has the perfect timing for whatver goes on in life ? Bht thanks yall, i was noticing this myself , finally someone said it
Sleepy voice lady is a W! looks like I'm getting nap in at 426pm
One of the loves of my life, and now I'm working on a new start with him so that we can actually have a mutually trusting, comfortable, secure, healthy, and unconditionally loving relationship. The first thing is trust. However, I've never tried to isolate him from friends or family. I would never do that. Since you can't replace a person, he's one of whom whose presence has always been uplifting.
All your videos on this subject describe me and my BPD perfectly 🙃
Okay. Maybe my ex is just like that 😅.
Now that I have pets, I try to fall in love with my hobbies instead of new people.
Real
@@kobi2024 that's what I thought immediately, sounds like my bpd ex... You just confirmed it for me, thanks for being so honest and sharing this..... 😊
As a high functioning neurotypical person who has been on the obsessive end (high school, didn’t know any better) AND on the receiving end of this behavior, including right now years later, all I can say is run and run as far away as fast as you can lolol
Self love, healing, recognition, and growth is the very best thing you can do to control this. And learning to love others right, helps you love yourself right.
Watching this shows me how obsessed I was with him and why he probably broke up with me, I only just started to get over him, after about 5 months of still liking him..I really need to get over him
I'm just now recovering from an obsessive love of 6 years. I appreciate you making a video Educating people! ❤ it does get better! And you'll find someone who loves you just the same, it may not be that "one person" but it is out there!
I’m on 5 rn having this happen as my first relationship really sucks it really does but I can only learn from my mistakes I guess thank you please keep making these videos they help so many people and me learn so much
Same here
I was in the stage 2 of obsession, i was obsessed with a girl in my school, she was pretty, kind, smart, and everything i wanted. i was well known to my friends that i make music, make art work, and i was really talented.. but when she came into my life, all i cared about was her. my grades were going low, i wouldn't hang out with my friends. and i would tend to isolate myself from my parents. often eating in my own room. i was able to date her and she still is currently my girlfriend but when i watched this video, it really helped. i was often feeling depressed. insecure. and sometimes even mad when she interacts with others.. this video helped me alot into improving my love and improving mentally. i now focus on other things such as music, art work, crafting, programming. i filled my life with so many things other than love. I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much!
0:17 You Become An Obsessed Yandere Girl! (or Boy) ^w^
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Literally me in every relationship I've ever been in. But I've never been able to reach stage five. I've never been able to get over anyone.
You are on point in everything you said! It kind of feels like you're in a horror and or suspense film! Being in a constant state of panic, fear, worry and other agonizing conditions is no way to live! This perpetual enigmatic loop can take a heavy toll on your complete well being! Follow these guidelines as I will, and the dark cloud should disappear! What a 🛼🎢 rolller coaster ride this life is! Good fortune and have a good one!
The realization hit, I'm obsessed...
I am pretty obsessed with someone but I think they obsess over me as well so this help a lot
Ask yourself who is more obsessed? The one who is more obsessed the one that will get hurt and left out.
@@Trust_worthy_24definitely.
In my case, one of my classmates said she’s obsessed over me. But later when I became overly attached to her. She started appearing cold.
Now “We don’t talk anymore.”
@@thesussycatFemale hypergamy/human nature. I recommend Casey Zander's CZcams channel to learn more about this. Thank me later. 🙃
This video opened my eyes a bit. Naturally I'm easy to make anxious, naturally my partner is quick to anger. Just generalized problems the two of us have.
I may not be controlling to them, though I ask for (admittedly) a bit much reassurance sometimes out of fear that I've done wrong or upset them- as I know (And they do too) that they are quick to anger.
This video made me realize that I should look further into myself, assess the few issues I have, and continue with the happy relationship I have. I shouldn't let anxiety dictate what I feel or ask to my partner. I do have a bit of a habit of asking my partner what they're up to, but only in the intent to spark conversation and talk about the activities they're doing.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
каждый "уважающий себя" подросток хотя бы раз в жизни:
это случалось и со мной. не сказать, что только я вела себя плохо с человеком. этот человек поступал со мной ни чуть не лучше и, более того, нанёс мне серьёзный вред своими действиями гораздо раньше, чем началась моя больная привязанность к ним.
ребята, которые проходят через подобное сейчас - если вы смотрите это и понимаете, что это про вас. и если вы хотите измениться - это первый шаг. главное двигаться дальше и постараться выбраться из этого. так вы поможете не только себе, но и объекту вашей одержимости🙏
I’m married and now I realize that I am obsessed with her and realize how much I rely on her for comfort and attention as well as gratification I will sometimes make her feel bad because I want all her attention and that sometimes comes off as needy or manipulative I don’t mean to be this way and I know that I am hard to deal with but she puts up with all of my crazy antics and looks past all that which I appreciate
This is happening to me in my relationship. I’m conscious that I’m obsessed over my partner and I tell her sorry for being so high maintenance. Thankfully she says she doesn’t mind and feels assured of my love for her. But both of us know this is a problem that needs some attention. So I’m holding myself back from calls and trying to learn new stuff like coding to keep me busy.
I’ve had a friend like this before. We would text everyday without fail and it was so fun for the first bit of the friendship. But after a while he started questioning why I wasn’t responding as much, why I would hang out with friends more than him, and why he wasn’t prioritized if I considered him my best friend. I ended up ending the friendship because I was tired of trying to explain things to him over and over again when it didn’t seem like he would listen. I hope he’s doing ok now, he was a good guy and I wish the best for him.
Honestly, this video helped me understand exactly why, me liking someone, isn't an unhealthy obsession because while I might have lunged at someone for rejecting me as a child (because it would stirr up feelings of not being wanted and jealousy of whoever they might actually like), I do try to move on when they reject me now because I know I can't control someone.
I think it's just that I'm 19 in a few days and I still haven't ever had a relationship, I know there are people in their 20's out there who are the same but honestly the problem is just that I don't like to feel different from others who surround me and most people I care about are already in a relationship and the feeling of jealousy is terrible.
I have felt like committing suicide on multiple occasions but that's not just about romantic feelings but about my life in general and therapy isn't an option once I've had that on multiple occasions too and it hasn't helped.
I once met a girl who was like this to me, I liked her at first, but then I realized how really obssesive and controlling she was. We got in a relationship and everything was going right. I spent 50% time with my friends and the other 50% with her, but she started demanding me to spend more time with her than with anyone like I was her dog. We ended breaking up and she came back to me, acting like I was still her boyfriend, kissing me even thought I gave clear signs of being uncomfortable. Yesterday I told her how I felt about that and we don't speak anymore, but the point of this is that, no matter how you love them, please don't try to make their whole life about you.
Yep it only took me years to get over this not months, but now I know the signs. 😊
Gosh, I can't believe I actually went through this since 2022 but thankfully ended at stage 2 last year.
You are always SO ACCURATE BRO, STOP STALKING ME
Lmao this channel is way too accurate and relatable at the exact very moment we need it to be.
It's even worse when you're not even in a relationship and she's obsessed with you. Happened to me the previous year 😭
Good timing,I have a suspicion that my friend is Obsessed
With who? Don’t need to answer if u dont wanna
@@micahhershey311 a friend of mine fell.in love with a guy online by only texting and hsving a picture of each other and thats it,they are in a Distance relationship and my friend literally believes that this is true love,they fell in love within one month knowing eachother and are in a Distant relationship
No phone calls,no facetime,only texting and Playing online together and that is called love?
I mean they talk like they know each other for many years bit they only Know eachother for less than 5 months
They have never met in person and thst will probably Happen rarely or never
I've went through all 5 stages of obsessive love but not exactly as severe thank the Lord. I am now a born again christian that has been saved from depression and anxiety from what I went through.
Yep, something is definitely wrong with my mind.
Mine too 😮💨
@@Dance_poetry_nature It's alright, we're not the only ones with fucked up minds.
@@jonathannicholas07 it sure is tiring as all hell. Just once I'd like a day of peace where my mind is quiet and it's not obsessing, not depressed, not anxious, just.... calm.
Remember you can still date multiple women. you don't need to always relying on one.
And once any girl gets Jelous cuz your dating or meeting other girls these are signs that she cares about you.
As a man don't chase, just attract without even thinking about her. Also, having good communication and purpose is more important than love and romance.
Don't let a pretty girl face fools you!
She is not what you think.
@@hyberkonawa272 ik but my mind automatically sexualizes girls😭
After going through depression in long periods 2 different times in my life. I didn’t expect my most recent one would be from love. It’s also very draining for the other person of the relationship and even more so when you’re aware of why the other is like that and still caring for them makes you scared to let go (or be strict and forward about it) since you don’t know what’ll happen if you do so. I thought my worst days were a thing of the past but after my most recent relationship I just haven’t been feeling like living at all and all the things I tried to get out of depression in the past are just not working. Especially since I have more responsibilities as I’m older. I don’t know if she was obsessed with me or not but I felt so much codependency and expectations that just made me feel like a failure every single moment and every single day as I keep on making “mistakes” and not making her satisfied or happy enough. I started dropping other things for her and now that I’ve broken up my life’s in shambles and I’m so lost.
Oh my gosh, I’ve definitely gotten to stage 3. Glad it ended before 4 thougj
not me watching this video and realizing that my ex was super obsessed and i didn’t realize it
ion wanna be obsessed over someone once they show any kind of affection towards me ☹️
When I clicked the video, I was worried this would describe me. I'm very comforted knowing that in the more extreme stages, I'm not showing any signs. Thank you Psych2go!
I'm still recovering... God I wish I've never obssessed over him. If I didn't become obssessed we might've been friends right now... 😢
same 🙁❤️ i hope you’re okay
hey dont worry, I know like 10 guys who would do anything for someone like you. you'll find the right guy to lock up in your basement ❤
this is a joke I honestly worry for my friends. I'm glad you recognized your mistake, good luck with your next relationship
i for once feel like im lucky for being aromantic
So, you only have the sexual attraction to people? No like... social attraction? Its interesting.
I think i'm asexual, cuz all i want is to talk with people and hear them talking, no sexual attaction to anyone, huh.
@@AratGamerProductions Same ! Aromantic and asexual ! You feel natural single and love being single 🤩🤩
Had been there and through all the stages . It feels so good for somebody to talk about that ❤ thankyou ❤
Thank God I stopped at stage 2 and now I´m spending my time with myself :)
Wow this is what im going through, man i really hope im in the resolution. It's been a long journey
I wasn't in my obsession stage but they were , almost reached 4th stage..I got fed up by all the pity fights and continously battling inside thinking what to do with them but in the end i ended up as i cant take it because it was affecting my mental health to the greater extent and i really thankful that i ended up, i hope they are fine now and realises that it wasn't how it should be
Your voice is so relaxing😙❤ thank you ❤
My last relationship was toxic and obsessive he was very very clingy towards me and anytime i wanted space hed always ask me if he did something wrong snd try to guilt trip me he would get angry randomly at me if i didnt respond and he would mever let me make my own decisions when i finally had the confidence to leave him he would not let me leave if i left him he would do anything to gaslight or manipulate me to get back together with him it happened 5 times with the same person km just so relieved that im finally out of it..
I am worried because my friend is like this 5:37
Same, Lived through an entire year like that.
It has started turning to stage 5 now (Thank God)
I can't lie going through this right now😢 after all you do for them😭 but I'm coping
Well, i dont know if its love at all, but i have like a little bit of obsessive things you've mentioned.
1. Often checking a messanger for new messages.
2. Overthinking and overanalysing conversations.
3. Sometimes thinking of what we can do together in the future, like, places we can go, or like: "We should talk more often", idk.
But maybe thats just because i dont really have much relations and conversations in life for... a half a decade rn at least, and thus I'm trying to catch any social fuel from a single friend i have.
I like to talk with her, but I dont think thats love at all. I dont know what the love is, huh. I dont have sexual attraction to anyone and never had, and I heard that its the one of the main aspects of love. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
being called out parasocially is crazy
So I'm basically obsessing over my obsessions💀
Are we the same person? Because, same.
A friend of mine obsessively fell in love with me. When he had just a crush on me, I'd made it more than clear that I don't feel the same way. I did initially find him cute but when he started showing signs of obsession, it was a major turn off and I honestly told him that he should move on as I don't feel the same way but he wouldn't budge. He'd often say "even if you don't feel the same way, it's alright. Just let me love you" and he began acting just how it's being stated in the video. All of our friends saw how messed up this was and were telling him how obsessive he's being over someone who ISN'T even his girlfriend. But he wouldn't understand. I had no other choice but to cut him off. He was a wonderful friend. I'd even call him my best friend and hope he gets the one that's best for him.
thank you for this psych2go
I have gone through this stages. After we stop see each other I realised my mistakes and the toxic habit that I make. Now I'm stoping my self from obsessing and wanting others. The realisation hit me hard and sometimes the guilt is killing me. But after all now I'm knowing my mistake.
do you want to be be friend with me?..
Wow that's fast
Ive been on the receiving end in the past, and to no surprise, im also on the obsessing end as well. Thankfully its never gotten destructive.. i talked about it with my very wonderful and understanding partner of 7+ years. Im still looking for what makes me happy in life, and just taking one day at a time.
It truly is about open communication and feeling each other. If you cant do that, obsessive or not, it wont last. Me and my partner have our moments, mostly from my insecurities.. but im a work in progress, and i refuse to give up.
Looking back now on me and her journeys, I'm so blessed to have my partner in life. Thats why I will do better, not just for her, but for me. Dont give up.
I completely recognize myself in this video.
Once i was in love...and quickly became obsessed by one of my friends.But the problem is.. he was gr00mer and he really took advantage of it by manipulating me or touching..if you know what i mean.I was so obsessed that i thought i was normal and maybe the feelings were reciprocated..but no sometimes we were fighting cause i was jealous or cause he's avoiding,I was stalking him..but with help of my friends,I finally stopped with this obsession and finally let go..I still have feelings and i don't know what to do..if someone can give me some advices,it would be great.
@@jimmlmaoWHAT☠️☠️
@@jimmlmao i was not prepared💀🙏🏿🙏🏿
It's hard to stop obsessiveness. but it's important to recognize it before it's too late and completely takes over
This is interesting
So far to be honest, I felt like I am at the first stage of obsession and I haven’t stalked yet but I kept looking my favorite person from afar. I do know it is un healthy but I let my heart do what it want to do but I always make myself remember to love myself and always remember that god is with me.
EARLYYY GANG YIPPIEEEE
WTFFF!! From Stage 1 to Stage 5 it's whole my story from obsessive love to destruction of myself to letting her go😰
Hello there
Happened to me in 2023. Broke up because of that. I thought I learnt my lesson ...Entered a relationship in 2024 broke up in 2024.
The worst part, is that you see yourself becoming codependent. You try everything to auto-regulate (journaling, meditation, passions etc ...), but it's stronger than you, and you see yourself become codependent.
But now, I know the concept of "reparenting you inner-child", it might be better the next time. I'll try and i'll give my feedback.
Sounds more like toxic bond to someone "lover" wants to have to themselfs no matter what, like a very liked toy.
In obsession love there is no love
Not really in obssesion can still be love someone who is obssesed with someone and doesn't wanna let the person go can still care about person's opinions thoughts needs and so on. I know it by my lover
I knew someone who I went through all 5 stages of this over, and I ended up cutting them off. At first I was sad that they weren't reciprocating what I was giving them, and eventually that sadness turned into frustration, which later turned into anger, and I took it out entirely on them because I figured if I was treating them nice, they should be treating me the same way. I never really processed the fact that they simply don't feel the same way and I wouldn't be surprised if I made them very uncomfortable at times. Even after I cut them off, I came back to them, not realizing that I was in this cycle. Eventually I ended our communication for good after explaining I was only upset at them because I didn't understand that those feelings aren't something you can give and expect to be given in return.
Going through all of this has truly improved me as a person and strengthened my emotional stability, and despite all of the dark times I went through because of this person, I am forever grateful for learning the lessons given to me along the way. This video touched the deepest part of my soul and I can't stress this enough, watching this was a trip.
可以得意，不可以忘形
This is why "Mark Manson" the author book of "subtle art not to give a f*ck" he explained that love is not always everything, basically communication, and finding any sort of purpose within your partner is more important than love and romance.
My aromantic ass watching this
Same !!😂
I wish this video was out 9 months ago so I could of saved myself so much pain,maybe,hopfully..but I am here now and realize it
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From stage 1-5, it's literally my whole story throughout 2 years of my obsessive love towards him.
obsession described my partner perfectly, and now im not sure what to do
I had this old classmate and we were kind of close. He was a shy type thinking that he was really innocent.He chatted me around pandemic, then he confessed to me. I had feelings for him so i accepted. Then months later, he kept asking for my voice records (I don't like sharing voice records) and kept asking me who i was chatting with and what we talked about.
A year later, he began to tell me that I should play with knives because it's fun and he kept sharing vids that can help me bury a body. It was starting to get weird that time.
I ended things a year later, but he came back months later with a new account and i immediately knew it was him. He started saying that He still likes me despite knowing I was in a relationship. I blocked him.
I almost found myself obsessively loving my best friend. I was able to control it, however, and stopped by stage 2. I'm so grateful I had the strength to do that.
Unfortunately, I think I might be obsessing, thank you for helping me see it and stop it.