The Importance of Roughhousing | Art of Manliness
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- Why you should roughhouse with your kids and some of my son's favorite roughhouse moves.
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My son is actually 7, but I shaved his mustache off so he looks like he's 2.
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This makes me want to be a father.
+Julian Bonilla That’s when the paternal hormones kick in. ;)
+Adnan Najeeb I've been wondering if it was possible for a man to have a "biological clock" haha
+Chad Mower
We do! :) ...And I think for a decent bloke it never stops ticking. I'm into my mid-50's now but this vid got me "clucky" (roostery?) all over again!
I had such a great time when my kids were of toddlers-to-teens age, we rough housed a lot.
As they became teens we went bush on outdoors adventures more instead. Our communications became more both verbal and physical as we faced a freezing night riding by motorcycle up to a remote camp together, or hiking and chatting along the Heysen Trail with limited water on a nice 35 degree South Aussie day.
Now that they have left home, gone to uni, gotten careers, etc we have rather long distance relationships, so it's all verbal. But hardship doesn't seem to phase them. They are both level headed and going places their old metalworking dad never did.
This video made me start to hope I get to play "Dad is a trampoline! Jump on Dad!" with my grandchildren while I'm still young and strong!
+lordchickenhawk what kind of name is that
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Refer to: Stone. Take the trip.
I respect this man and his CZcams videos. He has a positive message
beseeingyou6 Thank you.
I second this comment.
I bet feminists are enraged.
MooseheadDrinker They always fucking will be!
MooseheadDrinker
I think you're confusing bad feminists with bad soccer moms. Level-headed people, regardless of gender, know to let kids be kids as long as they're being safe.
As a feminist and a mother of a son I am very sad that so many people seem to think respecting women and being manly are opposites.
You can be the manliest man ever and still be a feminist.
My father was too sorry to keep me in his life, but my grandparents raised me and my grandfather roughhoused with me and for that I am grateful to him.
Most likely your mother ran him off .
Go check with her first .
Many father's love their children , but when the family courts and a malicious female join forces to destroy him , the time with you is not worth rotting in jail . It's better to keep a distance and pay that monthly child support and remain free .
Find out first if your mother took him to court or got law enforcement involved before you so quickly judge him . Do some research.
@@MrWARHAMMER68 Yea I'm sure that's exactly what happened when all a stranger said was "My father was too sorry to keep me in his life". Women are not the root of all evil and not all men are good.
@MyBlaahblaah -:every righteous man in this world has been lied against and hated by others. And you are telling me what you heard about him from a stranger?
Do your own research. Find out if your "mommy " used the police and the courts against him. Do not even ask her . Go check the public records.
Grow up and stop being an emotional coward. Maybe you are the problem.
Roughhousing is good for girls, too! Studies show that girls who roughhouse with their fathers are more confident than girls who don’t. And some studies even indicate that roughhousing can prevent your little angel from growing up into one of those Queen Bee, Mean Girls that psychologically terrorize other girls.
He's really no better thanks to excluding girls than the same tired manosphere bloggers.
This is absolutely vital information thank you.
Finally, this message is getting out!! Wrestling is one of the best things fathers can do with their children, it creates a great bond between them. Thank you for this video!!
IronBroadsword1 You're welcome!
Yes!
I think wrestling creates a bond between men. When I was very young, my dad wrestled with me. As I got older, my closest friends and I would wrestle. Now that I'm an adult, I find that the guys I'm closest to still want to roughhouse or at least pretend to be roughhousing.
some of my fondest memories were of rough housing with my dad.....
same
Same here.
Same
This reminds me of what a great man I am married to! He roughhouses with the kids all time, and is never afraid to show his love and affection.
Brett McKay You have an astounding outlook on being a man. You're not the "I have to show I'm a man" man. You're the it's okay to be a wise, intelligent, confident, and good father to your children, man. I respect you a lot for this channel and would like to extend my utmost and sincerest thank you for taking the time to make these videos for this generation of males who are now able to step in to manhood. I also am curious on how you have people that oppose the ideas and thoughts of someone who is completely sincere and positive as yourself, but some things aren't up for understanding. Thanks again Mr. McKay. Keep the momentum going, because it is awesome!
david miller Thanks for the kind words and encouragement sir. Much appreciated.
Totally agree. You have a very positive and healthy attitude about being manly because it's not about showing off how "manly" you are but to actually be it deep inside and towards others. Also you know how to convey this message in an entertaining and educating way. Keep up these great videos if you can and wish you and your family all the best.
This is a male, mental genius. He maintains very strong and legit statements but also has humor. Your awesome, keep it up.
Video make me not want to pullout! Great Vid!
AccurateOG GOAT comment
Roughhousing isn't just for boys either. I began roughhousing with my 5 year old daughter and she went from being a shy and introverted follower-type personality to being an outgoing, active and take-charge individual. She used to silently sit in front of the television for most of her free time but now prefers running around the yard, foot racing and playing tag. She even lifts small weights, stretches and practices yoga and t'ai chi....all of her own accord. Her school grades have also improved greatly. She is much more focused and alert in class and has a memory that puts my own to shame.
Shyness and introversion are not the same.
Mick Lethal and sometimes extroverts are shy.
Mick Lethal Educate yourself about the difference between introvert and extrovert. Google those terms.
Mick Lethal I will confront bigotry against introverts any time I wish, even if it hurts people's feelings to be corrected on the matter. There's a term to describe the tough masculine introverted man - the "strong silent type". These are brave, active men who happen to be very reflective. Bruce Lee is probably the best archetype here. There's nothing shy about him. Thanks for affording me the opportunity to clear up this common misconception.
Mick Lethal I am Bigotry Man!
Art of Manliness is bringing back the lost sense of boy- and manhood that's so important to us. This channel is quickly becoming my favorite channel out there, it really encourages me to live a good, healthy life. Honestly, Art of Manliness made me a lot happier as a person.
Incel
Me and my father still rough house some times, even as an adult. It gets excess energy out, you get stronger, and your mood improves. I highly suggest it, and this video is a great learning tool. 👌
I remember back when I was just a lil tyke, my dad would do the "Superman" move like at 4:16 on me. One time he shook me up a bit too much and I puked on his shirt. He got kinda mad at first but ended up laughing it off.
I really love these fatherhood videos that you put out, Brett. I'm not a dad yet, but they're kind of like subtle reminders of how great my dad really was, even if I didn't really think so when I was a teenager. I hope I'm half as great a dad as he was.
Watched this while feeding my 24-day-old daughter. Looking forward to roughhousing with her, but also enjoying this awesome infant stage.
It's important to learn how to interact physically with other people - to do otherwise is to unhealthily ignore our ape ancestry and our animal nature.
Seeing this brought back great memories of my dad and I roughhousing when I was a kid, probably 50 years ago. Love it when he threw me on the bed or carried me on his shoulders...sometimes he wouldn't duck down far enough for me to clear the doorway, but that's the way it was!This is one of those times when I miss him terribly. Thanks for having this posted!
LOVE THIS! Nowadays it feels like you've got to have the facts and science backing you up for things you just know intuitively are great, so I really appreciate that you did the research. Now if any home visitors protest, I can point them here and say Neener-neener, my kids are awesome because we do this. Both my boy and girl!
I guess you’recnot living in 2020’s lol. Everything is “toxic masculinity”.
Have done this with both my 4yo son & 2yo daughter. They love rough housing and they both love wrestling their dad. Thanks for posting this video.
my roughhousing include strangulation, drowning, electroshocks, and severe beatings..
Kinky
If my kid gets out of line I usually crucify him for an hour or two.
I used to do this SO much with my dad and brothers when I was little.
This video was very painful for me to watch because I grew up without a father and I feel like I've missed out on a lot. your son is very, very lucky...
Mom: dont do rough housing
Kid: K
and gets adhd
dude you don't "get" adhd. That's not how it works.
Agreed. ADHD doesn't exist.
@@SebastienAuger Actually, ADHD is largely diagonosed by Women (AKA Public School Teachers) that do not know how to deal with boys!
bcsviewer1 Actually, you have to be diagnosed by a professional and not a school teacher.
Pretty sure there is a correlation between the two. Children are supposed to play while they learn and we stuff em in a classroom to get them to sit down shut up and become a "better" worker in the future.
I want to add that they will stay in line better if they know daddy is capable of tossing them into a ceiling fan.
I watched this video just before i had my first kid and it changed my view on faterhood. Now i roughhouse with both my kids. Not only is it good for their development but it's the best quality time i have with them.
Aww that's so cute!
You and Alpha M should do a collaboration video, you two are my favorites :)
+Noah Simmons holy crap you're so right. best men channels on youtube would be a great colab.
+Noah Simmons I have seen many of Alpha M's videos and what I can understand from those videos and AoM's videos is that their understanding of masculinity is very different. Some very basic examples would be:
Alpha M. would be against roughhousing while AoM supports it.
Alpha M. is completely against the idea of ever getting into a fight while AoM doesn't encourage violence, at the same time understands that there may be some necessary situations.
Alpha M's idea of masculinity is based simply on confidence while AoM's believes it to be about physical strength, courage and honour.
Do you want the internet to break? Because that's how you get the internet to break.
Great video! I used to roughhouse my daughter, now she's an star athlete, strong, intelligent and articulates like a 30 year old. She's 6.
I think this is my new favourite video of yours. I'll remember watching it 20 years from now.
Another immediate benefit is the expulsion of some of their energy, especially boys. I read an article when my oldest was around 3, and my middle one was just born about this. When they have trouble calming at night, 20 minutes of horseplay with dad gets them ready for bed. Eventually. Really enjoyed the video and even the examples of simple play. Sometimes we forget.
Saying rough housing causes adhd is even worse than saying vaccines cause autism
Is that why so many people have aspergers these days coupled with the inability to detect sarcasm?
Lack of rough housing
How do you know that Aspergers is caused by lack of rough housing?
***** my sarcastic senses are tingling
King Kingy HAHA!
Thus totally makes sense. Even puppies do it all the time.
The Importance of Roughhousing [VIDEO]
I have a hard time believing that any rational individual who looks at the appropriately tame roughhousing moves seen in this video could believe them to pose any significant threat to the child's safety. Yes, some dads take roughhousing too far, but there are many good, positive activities that become bad when taken to extremes. Drinking water is good; drinking too much water too fast will kill you. Giving children responsibility is good; putting a 6-year-old in charge of doing the taxes is not. Public affection for your girlfriend or spouse is good; getting *too* friendly in public invites incarceration.
So yes, be careful, but please roughhouse with your kids. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater, literally or figuratively.
I loved this video! I've been reading recently about the reality of fathering and mothering (versus merely gender neutral "parenting") and how fathers and mothers parent (verb) in complementary ways in their child's development. This agrees with the presentations I've seen that roughhousing is, more often than not, a distinctively fatherly activity (the mother is usually more protective/nurturing/sensitive of the child's safety and health). This video went into a lot more detail and I really enjoyed it! I especially liked learning about the moral and father/childbonding benefits of roughhousing. You've earned another subscriber!
I do that all the time with my daughter - as my dad did with me. Was beginning to think it was not normal or healthy. Great to know it is ok.
Thanks for this video, it really helped me in understanding why I've become who I am, and what I want to change in that. Long story short, I grew up without a dad, and I missed out on all this. As a person I am often really introverted, afraid of any physical contact, and often unsure of myself.
A few weeks ago I spent a week helping my mothers friends family who live in the countryside. I got to do physical work, play with their two school aged daughters (a bit rough as well), and talk with their father, man to man. I can't remember when I have last been as happy, as I was during that week.
Not sure where to go from here, having started college and all, but taking up sports is going to be on the list. Once again, I thank you for the work you are doing.
Have done this since day one and am glad to hear its more positive then I thought!
This video brings back so many happy memories of when I was a kid and I had fun roughhousing with my dad. Thank you for the memories.
Glorious and very funny. Long time reader. We're a proud supporter of kids roughhousing and playing games.
Fantastic! Well done, Brett & Kate
This is great advice. There are so many kids now that are over protected by their parents. I would take this a step farther and suggest a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (or submission grappling) school for the young boy or girl. There are plenty of these rough house games that teach kids to play well with others and develop mutual respect with their peers. Not only are the kids having fun but they are also (unknowingly at first) learning how to defend themselves and stand up to bullies. This confidence helps develop a well rounded and well adjusted individual.
I wish i had a dad like you...
Keep being awesome!
Just discovered your channel. I have a 2 1/2 year old and this is super insightful.
Thanks!
It's so lovely to see how you play with your son. I wanna be a dad like that!
awesome video!! i always rough housed with my older brother and sister growing up and we have the best relationship ever. i think that's a huge reason why.
Bawww, you and your son are adorable together!!! I found myself smiling every time you guys were playing around.
now this is a channel I will keep coming back to
I really look up to you Brett, post more of these man!
Thanks for this Brett, I've used this in my Human Development class and I plan on using it in my Fathering class. Keep up the good work!
Baby duplex and horsey was my fav in this video but I just loved watching you play with your kid. It brought a smile to my face. Great info! Totally agree.
I enjoyed this article. Nice job on the video.
Congratulations on the new daughter. Those infant days are indeed nice.
This video makes me so happy.
Quite sensible ! Such good advice !
Great. Useful, honest and touching.
Through no choice of my own, I became a single mother when my son't father disappeared from our lives when my son was just a few months old.
However, I roughhoused my son regularly, I did all the things you demonstrated in your video, and more, from his babyhood until his puberty (by then he was getting too big and heavy for me) - both married and single mothers are perfecty capable of roughhousing their children.
Yeah it's but not as much as dad's because it's pretty common in boy's and men's they're mostly rough house's without any instructions
This is an awesome video. Thanks!
Thank you for your kind words. I try not to be melancholic and upset and depressed but it's pretty hard not to be. I cannot help to think I could have been a different person, a better man had he stayed. It's too late now. thanks again, you are a good person.
This brings back a lot of fond memories. My dad did this with us all the time and we loved it. A+ to the dads out there like this. And most of the points you brought up ring true with us as adults. I don't understand the misconceptions though, I was one of the least violent kids in my class, but I can't disprove the ADHD one lol. I'm sure it's bs.
I could not agree more. Father child interaction is key. And rough housing is how my son learned not to be afraid of water. He saw a video on navy seals and wanted me to "drownproof" him like he saw. He is now 11 and not afraid of anything when it ones to water. Again to reiterate what McKay said, use your head!!! And you and your kids will have a blast
Such great insights!!
Awesome! Roughhouse play is a staple with my boys.
I'll have to check that out. Thanks for the tip!
Very cool video, I am using the Gracie Bullyproof dvd's for my kids. It has lots of fun moves for them to learn, like the ride the horsey shown in this video.
this is the greatest response ever.
Awesome video! Your a great and well presented public speaker too. Keep the videos going!
It reminds me of two things from when my son was little.
Pool Time! We would often use the back yard pool as a stage for a role play fight or wrestling match and sometimes it got a little rough. And Adam could dish it out too.
Light Sabers! We had a couple of plastic light sabers and had some pretty intense battles, occupying the upstairs until we were both spent. Full swing, occasional body contact, and a blast.
Great video Brett. Love AOM.
What a lovely video. Both informative and amusing 😂.
Once I show this to my father, I bet he'd totally claim the honor.
And tell me how : "That's exactly why you should always trust me son... Even if I throw ice cold water at 'cha during your shower."
Great video, thanks for sharing
thanks for the reminder Gus
Time flies, doesn't it?
Awesome! Great job dad!
awesome, i always thought this to be true, but now i can show this video to my first time pregnant wife. Keep the vids coming
Awesome father, lucky kid. Very inspirational!
Like most sensible and simple things, this makes a hell of a lot of sense. The only sad thing is that the fathers who really need to see these sorts of 'how to" videos will either never see them or see them and blow them off, thinking they don't need advice or guidance.
I used to look forward to my dad throwing me high in the air and catching me.....my little brother never really liked it...and i am better adjusted than he is....yes, little girls love it...it is liberating...!thanks for the video!
Thank you sir. I'll keep putting them out.
This is such a cool video!
I really enjoyed this, thank you.
Now this is some damn good wholesome quality content!
Great video.
Me and my brothers would do it all the time, when we were kids and teens!
I came to find some grilling tips and now I'm noticing some stuff I was doing that was setting me back. thanks for the reminder guys.
I LOVE the videos! Keep em coming!!! This was beautiful.
But hey sidenote: You should get an iPad teleprompter or build one. I was a little distracted (as subtle as it was) that your eyes kept shifting a bit off screen as you read your notes. But either way great stuff man!
Oh my goodness, your kid is absolutely adorable.
I definitely needed more roughhousing as a boy - raised by my mom and grandmother, who were genteel, kind people with a positive horror of roughhousing. It made me kind of a priss, That took a while (30 years?) to shake it off.
Good advice (from one who knows)!
My dad roughhoused with me all the time when I was young. He was an awesome dad.
Awww! This is the cutest thing I've ever seen!
This is fantastic! Thanks for the "ammo!"
This video actually made me cry, my whole life I wished my father had loved me, so much so that I would envy my friends who had good fathers.
I wish growing up I had a dad like you, I hope to marry a man as good as you, and I hope my children have a father- like the one I always wished I had.
*Att'n all men*: Please love your kids, play with them, love them, build a solid relationship with them.
Otherwise they will end up wondering what they did wrong, why they weren't good enough for you.
Very helpful channel and very unique
Keep it up
This is such great information. Some of the most fun I have is doing this with my 2 girls. We all have fun and we find it hilarious :)
You´re right, roughhousing and some wrestling matches with kids are very important. My son and me we often do wrestling matches just for fun and other roughhousing activties. Such games are very important. Parents should love, protect and help their kids as good as possible. Doing some bareknuckle catchwrestling funny projects is a good way :-)
Oh and I bought your book (I think it's your book) "The Art of Manliness" and I love it! (:
Just stumbled upon your channel and videos, I really liked them and immediately subscribed. You have a great out look and tips on the art of manliness. Really enjoy each and every video. I aspire to be a great youtuber that produces great content. Also your son and I share the same name.
My Dad roughhoused with my brother and I equally. Loved it! I tried so hard to prove to him how strong I was. It was good fun! The horse was the best. I think I'm a pretty confident woman now and I wasn't one of those girls who was shy to show my peers that I was physically capable of trying anything!
I'm having a hard time understanding why people are bringing feminism and a male vs. female attitude to this, as neither of those things holds relevance to this video...
It's clear to me that fathers need play an active role in their childs life and that that role is incredibly important to their child's development. It's also clear to me, and implied in this video, that this sort of play is not limited to fathers and sons (note that Mr. Mckay uses the gender neutral term child), and that mothers should also be roughhousing with their kids. Perhaps I missed something, but I really don't understand the controversy some of the commenters are trying to stir up.
Mitch Mitchell Because modern feminism controls everything from the media to politics and laws. Masculine anything is frowned upon. This is especially apparent in the media where the father is cast as a cold, harsh-tempered and dangerous hindrance to a child. Roughhousing especially is looked down upon.
And yes the mother's role is equally as important and that too is looked down upon. The recent film Jurassic World has received harsh criticism from feminists simply because it showed the female character enjoying being the children's guardian and not being a "man" as per their social rules. The basic knowledge of parenthood is sadly lost in today's PC culture which treats children as gender neutral wards of the state...a by product of feminism.
A lot of these trends have fallen away though after major backlashes to the movement. But the damage has already been done, a lot of kids are growing up without discipline and have no concept of what to do in society due to the lack of both parents in their lives. Hence the high amounts of unemployable youths, drug usage and violence. This more noticeable in some ethnic groups than others but it is increasing as a whole in all groups.
Not to long ago a father was arrested for letting his son walk home from school. And in another case a judge has thrown kids in juvenile jail because they were resistant to the judges demands in a terribly nasty divorce case. This latter event is ongoing.
You have a crazy definition of feminism in the US.
In Germany every child is encouraged to walk to school.
Roughhousing is in no way anti-feminist.
I like this video(s).
Could you also make one about the things a father should teach his son/daughter? I would really like to hear your toughts on that topic.
Dads are back.
Greetings from Europe!