to anyone who has lost hope in life and feels like life is unfair
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- čas přidán 16. 02. 2024
- i genuinely hope this video changed your mindset on things. things were pretty bad at the point i made this video but things has been a lot better since. hence this is proof that things will become better as time goes on. the first step is to always just to get the idea of "change" into your head. always take the decision that is best for your own well being. don't make decisions based off of how other's will react but based on your own mental health.
i love you all and I'll see you next week!
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"In the darkest times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength." - Uncle Iroh from ATLA
Honestly my favourite character !
His lines were always so wise
God i love uncle iroh.
I am cured by uncle iroh quotes
He also said “Make tea, not war”
"you are your number 1 priority" literally the realest thing ive heard. this doesnt get talked about enough omg literally needed this video so bad tysm via 😭💗
Brooo why sooo relatable 😭🫶🏻
That's probably why life seems so pointless
Not true when you actually enter into a real relationship, specially when you have kids . You eventually have to be selfless and devote yourself to your partner and children .
@@joshuabuchanan1141 Tell me, why are you speaking facts rn 😂
The worst part is that nothing happened, this feeling is constant.
I feel like nothing ever happens. I'm not sure if I'm even here. I'm absent in my own life.
Same. The worst lie I’ve heard is “it’ll get better”. No, and I’m not a pessimistic person, actually, I’m quite positive most of the time. But honestly, when things got worse and I thought I’ve reached rock bottom, somehow, it found itsway to be even worse. I’m tired of keeping having to be positive about my life because nothing good happens, no matter what you try and do. I don’t know what the point of trying anymore. Nothing happened, nothing at all.
you are HAPPENING, there don't need to be a specific incidents or something, you are the good thing that's happening in this world.
FACTSSS ngl
Dissociating from life?
.....oh me too....
@@jokertaylor6492 As Via said in the video ''The littlest tiniest things can make you feel immensenly better''. Try finding relief in the most trivial things in your daily life, they could perk you up and see that something it's def happening. Not only you are happening, but also the existence is happening. The birds are chirping, the seeds are becoming small baby plants and the sky is completely different from yesterday.
Also, try going to the depths of your nothingness to see why you feel that nothing good ever happens to you.
The problem is that I don't feel safe. Not outside, not anymore. My younger self would've been so disappointed of what her life became.
Sometimes nothing specific happens but you just get tired of life and it feels like it's never getting better
the way i was JUST crying about how i feel like ive made no progress in my life and then i see u posted this 😭😭 omg
its gonna be okay
@@yeojin6759 THIS IS SO SWEET😭 tysm! same for u
Why is this me 😅 i feel like im wasting my time job searching for part time jobs
@@tsuzu3948 omg SAME😭 but i refuse to give up! there’s so much i wanna do in this life i refuse to give up over a temporal situation!! keep going
your videos make me SO HAPPY! i feel like we are longe distance best friends who are always in tune with each other, since i never had real friends in life. your content, your vlogs are THAT wholesome to me, keep going. thank you and lots of love from brazil.
Taking care of your own inner child is so beautiful 🥺🥲
I am in depression for like 6 months cuz i have no real friends but today i search on yt how to cure from loneliness and depression and your channel poped out....now i am so happy that i found you..thank you💗
i also don't have any real friends, and i don't know what place i have to say this but its gonna be okay
@@yeojin6759 aww how sweet of you...thank you so much...sometimes strangers from online can comfort me better than my close ones...srsly tysm i wish i could meet you in person and thank you😭 and you're so sweet💗
@@dior5204 If it is any comfort, I am in a similar position as you are. I believe things will get better for us!
Bro i feel u, i leave school and feel so isolated at home, making real close friends is so hard
I grew up not having friends and always being alone so let me tell you the time will come when you will be able to make friends for life. You are now in an enviroment where people aorund you are not the friends you want or need. Be your friend,take yourself on dates,treat yourself to some food, a drink,a trip to the bookstore if you read. Discover yourself and be your own friend. You will see then that you don't need others to be happy.
I literally got betrayed by someone I loved soooo muchhh and was depressed but now I feel much better...
you're doing well 🌷
@@maggiemaggie5301 It was my best friend 🤧🤧
im so sorry to hear that, sending lots and lots of hugs and energy fren
Welcome to the Strong Club. Stay Strong.
There’s always better people wanting to come into your life and will come inside your life at some point.
I love when people post content like this- because someone out there needs to hear it. And I don't want to be cliche but if you do focus on yourself and how to get where you want to, your hard work will pay off, just don't stop believing in yourself guys.
I had been trying to get into medical school and after so many rejections, disappointments and just general frustration I've been accepted - so whatever it is you are seeking in life it is possible💜
Great job in getting into medical school! I'm proud of you 🎉💞
Take a Big black via
This is so very much relatable!!!! Been through this whole traumatic events for months, thought I could die of sorrow. There are those toxic who you can’t really be reasoned with, even with constant communication one after one, nothing changes… people don’t change it’s just that you haven’t seen their true color. And yes ofc I didn’t ask for this… but I will go up after hitting hard on the rock bottom. Thank you
this popped up so timely on my feed. i just went through probably the biggest epiphany of my life that the only person i can truly fall back on is myself. it just hurts so much to see someone i thought could support me at the time where i needed it the most take a step back and started degrading everything about me-how they don’t approve of my future plans, my career, etc. simply because it’s not “prestigious” enough for their ego and that they have their own self interests. i felt so small and helpless like how i was as a child in that house. i had to remind myself that there’s nothing they can do to me now because i am an adult with independence and choices. this video was much needed! thanks!!
I finally let go of my toxic friendship last week🙌 I felt really frustrated and depressive, i thought i had a mental breakdown at first but then i realized that growth is painful. And letting go of toxic relationships is a chance you give yourself to create a better version of yourlself. Dear old memories; thanks for leaving me and giving me the oppurtunity to grow. And dear old memories; thanks for leaving me.
Hope. That’s a word I definitely needed to hear today. Thank you. Especially after my gf broke up with me on the phone earlier. YT recommendations be wild nowadays.
revisted this video because i just had one of the worst arguments with my parents yet. long story short they didnt like my personal future plans so they belittled me with phrases such as "you dont understand how anything in life works", "youll get it when the real world treats you like shit like it treated me" ect. it was a horrible experience, it gave me major anxiety and it all started because i didnt take the career path they wanted me to. i see my parents as toxic monsters that cant be trusted with anything now.
its very reassuring to hear the phrase "you will make it out fine". it reminds me that i will be okay in the end despite everything going on in my life right now. tysm for making these videos!
woahhh! i literally just ended an unhealthy friendship today. i feel like i needed to hear this
I feel like this a lot of the time lately. My father died a few months back, I just turned 20 and my life has been turned upside down. I still have my mom, my family and friends who are always there for me. But it’s very hard to see the light at the end of tunnel when something like that happens, you just don’t see any hope in life anymore. My constant fear is that it can always get worse but that’s the part of me that is scared of the future. I just wanted to thank you, Via, for all the videos because they helped through the last months and even now. You’re so relatable and funny. Keep on going girl🤍
Im sorry for your loss ❤
May you flourish even more om also that age too, we'll both make it ❤️🩹
There was someone i knew from my mom's side that passed away i cant imagine being my father. You are very strong ❤
But it made put life in perspective like my life could be taken away any time without i ever knowing and at that time i was in a depressive state and now i start to be grateful for eveyday that i wake up cuz we often take our days for granted but anyways
Keep hoing girl, im rooting for you.
Im sure your father in heaven is looking over you akd hoping you stay healthy
i really needed this video via! i’ve been going through a rough patch in terms of losing certain friends and opportunities and feeling lost about the future. hoping that time heals those wounds for me and that I can pull myself up. just made a scared decision and hoping it puts things back on track for me. hoping anyone that reads this is able to slowly move back up from rock bottom too 💕💕
I REALLY needed this Via. You’re so wise and I’m just so so happy I found your channel. I’m overwhelmed with school and just feeling like a failure. But you reminded me that I am more than capable of getting through this semester and I will succeed!
Also that line about reminding your inner child that you will protect her really got to me. It’s such a simple statement yet held so much weight. Yes you may be scared but this time, we are more than capable of protecting ourselves and getting through it. Loved this video. You are such an inspiration. And I hope your situation gets better soon and you can find peace. 🤍🤍
"You need to live for your younger self." (I hope she's proud and will continue to be proud of me now🥺)
Thank you and luv you so much via♡
I'm at a point in my life where I feel less than I have been in a hot minute. I can't find a full-time job even tho I'm applying every single day AND my BF just broke up with me out of nowhere. I'm feeling extremely abandoned and like I can't grasp what I want (a job, an apartment, a car, etc.), so I'm so happy that I saw this in my recommendations. I'm glad so many people feel the same way I do and that I will be happy as time goes on. Thank you for this video, doll!
Yess hun can really relate to what you said - Also having job and love problems :( I wish the best in you, believe in yourself! You got this!!
These last 3 days I have been in a depressive relapse from overthinking and remembering all the bad things I have gone through in life. From the time I can remember until I am 21 today, everything is still bad. Even bad news continues to reach me daily. I really feel that giving up is a better option than continuing to strive for things that are not going to change around me and things that I don't even know if they are worth it.
My dreams are breaking into pieces, my hopes are flying away and everything I once liked no longer means anything today. I want to abandon everything and move on from an existential perspective to whatever is next but I can't do it either, much less because I decided to open this video after feeling bad about everything.
I feel like it grounded me again and although I don't have the energy to work on myself immediately, it did give me new perspectives.
Maybe there is something to live for and I'm still having a hard time deciding whether to continue or not, but I really appreciate you making this video
Get a pen and paper, or tablet, and write down what you love. Write down your dreams, write down a future that you’d be happy with. Then think of what step you could take today to get closer to that. Let’s say your goal is to get a job. Okay well first, if your health isn’t good then you won’t have energy to work right? So your first step would be making sure to feed yourself. Get into a habit of doing just that even if you feel like you’re not getting anything done in life. Once that has become easy for you, you add your next step, like sleeping early, then when that becomes easy you add another step. These things may seem so far from what you actually want in life but they aren’t. If you want energy to commit to your goals your physical and mental health come first. If you don’t take care of yourself then of course you’re going to feel stuck. Little by little your health will get better and then you can start thinking about steps to take OUTSIDE of your daily routine. If you don’t have love for your hobbies then you’re gonna have to make yourself fall in love again. Watch your favorite movie/tv show, read your favorite book, listen to your favorite song. Anything that gets you inspired. Then keep looking for and finding things that inspire you. Learn MORE about what you love and become entitled to enjoying it.
If you have a good day, write down what happened and why it was a good day. If you had a bad day write down why it was a bad day. Keep track of your emotions, your habits, and your thoughts. You will get to know yourself and your cycles through this and you’ll actually have an idea of what can change. Ask yourself “What can I take from that good day and put into my daily life?” Write down what you ate, how much you moved that day, when and how much you slept and relate it to how you end up feeling that day. All of these little things matter and are the building blocks of changing your life.
Awareness and commitment.
as i went through depression mental breakdown it took like 2 years i got myself to healing , now things are getting better but now also i have breakdowns but i know its goona healed one day
I swear that every time I watch one of your videos I can physically feel inspired, I don't know how to explain it, it's just incredible, and also like that second after you've just finished your journal entry and you feel like a weight has lifted. Just clicking one of your videos is like slipping into a sort of introspective, meditative state, where you feel your emotions more clearly. I think it's just a combination of how the videos are done, and the way you say things in such an authentic way, it resonates a lot with me and I'm so grateful for everything you put out there for us to see. ❤❤
This journal entry really connected with me as I've been going through something challenging that has definitely taken a toll on my mental health. Every day, I tell myself that things aren't going to get better but your journal honestly helped me see life for the greater things and not just for the bad. It gave me a sense of hope that I'll be able to recover as I'm not alone. Your content inspired me a lot to start journaling my feelings and that It's okay to feel shitty sometimes but also to never forget that the situations I go through don't define me as an individual and that life itself has so much to offer that we can either learn from or experience. Thank you so much for this
girl you have no idea how your words helped me and every video content you upload is something i'm currently feeling and it feels so weird that all of them are on my point or align to the timeline i'm in so you have no idea how much i can relate
"I'm not going let them win"
Thank you for the reminder!
i swear via im so spiritually connected to your journals because they feel so empowering 💛 i went through a long journey of self doubt but i learned to heal and although im still learning to process everything i can finally say i have truly recovered from everything ! you always know what to say and i genuinely appreciate that
i feel like you are just my older sister giving me life lessons it feels like a warm hug thank u so much
This video was the first thing that popped up in my recommended, and honestly I really needed this. I haven't been able to do the things I needed and wanted to do because my family members have once again been a big trigger. It has put my mental health in a really bad place again and I really didn't know what to do anymore
Thank you for reminding me that I'm allowed to feel the way I'm feeling. Thank you for validating the fact that it's so unfair to be triggered by people over and over again when you're trying so hard to heal. Thank you for telling me that I can get through the struggles and that I can thrive in this life. Thank you for reminding me that my younger self needs me
I've been watching your videos the past few weeks and I appreciate you so much. I relate to the things you talk about in your videos, and I'm so grateful that you are willing to share your beautiful journey with us. You have encouraged me to take steps to better myself, even though it can be really difficult. Thank you Via ❤⚘
The timing of this video is truly insane. Thank you so much for sharing. I feel seen by you, and it feels better to know that this happens to other people as well and that we can get over it and be better.
thanks for posting this. i REALLY needed to hear what you said. i’m also going through what you seem to be going through and hearing u feels so comforting
thank you for being vulnerable with us, i needed to hear all this
girl, i love your content - it's really uplifting and i really feel so seen watching your videos because it's like you just get it 😭💕 rooting for you and keep doing you!! 💝
Forgiveness helps, when we’re ready to heal completely. I’ve read about people who have gone through lots of horrible things like losing a child to murder and forgiving the murderer, and when I was young I was like how, how can they do that. But then overtime I realized it’s so they can let go of the hate that would ultimately destroy them and that wouldn’t allow them to exist in peace.
I love that you’re reminding people that no matter what gotta keep going, and finding internal peace comes with forgiveness and anytime the negative things from the past comes into your mind, thank yourself for getting yourself to a better place.
Thank you for your video!
"Be so rooted in your being that nobody's absence or presence can disturb your inner peace"
Honestly Via you're one of the most insperational youtubers ive ever came across, ive been watching you a lot recently and your videos give me so much insperation and motivation
The video I needed,I literally just clicked the video because of the title as I am going through a situation like that.I love you and hope u recover from your situation too,I love uuuu❤❤
honestly via is just that comforting friend that gives u these pep talks at some point of ur life when u can't and i appreciate that ALOT thank you via for snapping me out of this gloomy life!
the truth is that I feel stuck at a point in life where I feel that everything around me continues and I am not able to move forward, I feel that I have lost hope, and yet I keep trying to get out of here, I do not know how long it will take but your videos help me a lot, thank you for doing what you do. ly
Thank you so much for this video, you explained the exact situation I have with my ex best friend/partner. It sucks so bad to feel like this and having to build yourself back up again- but we can do it! We’ll be fine one day. I’m proud of you.
there's always a shimmer of something immensely hopeful when you hit rock bottom
i'm so glad to see your videos in my recommendations again , this video was much needed , you always provide such comfort with your words and videos in general , thank you for posting , it truly makes you feel less alone knowing there's someone out there going through something similar
never been this grateful for a youtuber in my life. THANKU VIA 💗💗
via's journal entries ARE THE BEST and so thought provoking I LOVE YOU QUEEN
i love your videos so much🤍 sitting down in my room and just watching your videos is so comforting💞 they're always motivating me and you inspire me so much💗i'm pretty sure everyone can agree you're one of the best youtubers
Thank you so much via for making this video I was really in a need for this 😭 love you 💖 please keep making content like this
i really needed this😔listening to you always makes me feel better😘😘
the thoughts you share in your videos are somehow always exactly what i needed to hear, thank you
thank you for this video! Recently it’s been really hard for me to progress in life right now and im at my lowest moment. I’ll keep this in my watch later 😋
i feel like I'm on both sides. I'm toxic to myself but also grateful for myself. Thanks Via, this is very much needed.
thanks for being here via, i really appreciate what you say on ur channel and i can personally tell you that you being here actually makes me feel better about what im going through. love ur stuff, keep it up!
🌸Via ~ I’m SO very sorry to hear about what you had going on this past week * big hug * that sounded really hard , letting go is so challenging because you do at heart want to believe they changed then you come to realization that they won’t . I hope for a better week for you and everyone here who had a stressful week ♥️ the video was so appreciated and you always have the right words 🙏 thank you
Going through it rn, and I absolutely needed to hear this ❤❤ your videos inspire me so much, it feels like you're my internet older sister 🫂
I love how raw and clear your videos are... I guess I know what you're going through because I'm going through a rough time because of the type of people who are meant to pick you up during rough times... I've stared doing this as well living day-to-day... all I focus on is this day and everything seems a lot better and peaceful. You seem like the friend I've longed to have. Lots of love
thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos to connect with others going through such similar feelings that many others don't speak on. i adore how raw the topics are and how helpful they can be. sending you love :)💘
I was in the middle of a breakdown, really depressed about a manipulative friend that everyone liked, when i stepped upon one of your videos. Thank you for making my day a little bit better. 💗
omg thank you so much i failed my exams that i have been working for damn 2 straight years now i did not know what to do, i was spend my time laying around and doing nothing and just questioning myself thank you via and i am rooting for you, i hope you become stronger each day. love you💞
You have no idea how I needed this, thank you.
THE UPLOAD GRIND!! thank you via, as a fellow creator u inspire me so much and keeps me going
thank you for this video Via
I love how you are real in each of your vids like anxiety you’ve shown, emotions, crying. So many people pretend to be happy all the f time and it’s just honestly awful. And also good luck with healing. Remember, you are cute when you thrift, when you eat sth yummy and when you are trying to create an intro 😁
thank you via, i really needed this. sending you love
I've been really struggling recently due to insomnia which has been deeply upsetting since I finally got my mental health to a pretty good place and that was a long difficult journey in and of itself but videos like yours give me hope that things will be okay again ❤️
I literally needed this thank you via ❤
" the people who hurt you most are the people you love and trust the most " :) that really hits me
I am going thru a situation where i have nobody to share stuffs . its been 3-4 day's and i am really frustrated i want someone to help me but i have no one i can ask for .
You know what via you are the reason that's making me not loose hope and try everytime your video's motives me so much and calms me down ❤
Thank you for existing girl from the bottom of my heartt i really love youuu🎀😊
Thank you so much i needed someone who understands what im going throu and im glad its you i love you
The timing of this is ridiculously perfect.
i swear to god i don't need a therapist i need Via's self-reflection videos, i love her i could listen to her for hours literally !!
You posted at such an amazing timing, as yesterday I've literally gone through a friendship breakup myself, where I got blocked without reason even after we have been through so much together, after all this time they still frequently misunderstood my intentions and didn't want to see me for who I really am. The whole time I was in denial that I was drinking poison. Really sorry for everything you've been through as well, and your video is a beacon of inspiration to me right now. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear, Via ❤As always, you're a role model to me ^-^
Thank you so much for this video. It was incredibly helpful. Trying to pick myself back again.
Lost a close friendship and this video resonated with me. Hoping that time will heal you as well. Wishing you all the best.
I am so grateful towards you, I have only recently found your channel but I have binged all your videos. So thank you.
Thank you Via for another video like this, they really motivate me to keep trying to get better. It just sucks that I'm stuck in a toxic household and tbh all i have time for is being in school and then studying. It's exhausting knowing all I can do is just wait till I finish school and I can finally leave.
Thank you for making these videos. They have helped me improve myself and give me motivation to go outside and live my life so much better (I have agoraphobia and covid made it worse). I am 15 turning 16 in July and I'm traveling for my birthday and instead of being scared and anxious I'm excited. I also had to cut off my only two friends for this exact reason and it hurt but realized it made my life way better. I plan on getting my first job this year too and i genuinely WANT to go outside, make friends, and do things. Thank you.
VIAAAAAA I've been crying for an hour. Thank you
Your videos just pop up to me when i need them and I love it, it helps me a lot to listen to you❤
Im so sorry , Via, for what you have experienced to do this video. Im also very grateful for it, because your videos really are making difference to people and in this case for me i understood so many important things, im nearly sure now i can finally deal with sorta tough situations, thanks to you. You're making this world better, Via. We love you so much
In this moment in where I feel that my friend are not so friendly to me, and i feel alone in this life, I apprecieted so much this video, and I'm sure I will rewatch it along time, thank you for you're work ❤
Girl your videos are hitting me strong. Thank you for sharing all that!! ❤
People who are your closest fail you the most. A couple months ago thanks to your video I have cut ties with my best friend, who hurt me in a way I could never imagine was possible.
Now one of my new friends started acting poorly towards me. Your uploads seems to align with my life.
Feeling pain is horrible, I like how you transform your pain into help for other people by videos like that.
I'm so glad you exist
Thank you so much for sharing your progress and the things you learn from life. You are really honest and are actually bringing us with you and it really helps.
Lots of Love from France
i wanna cry right now, thank you so much for your thoughts and videos, it helps me. "protect yourself" it sounds great, thank you for this words
I feel like you’re talking directly to me.. it’s so related to my situation it’s spooky haha. Thanks for this! ❤
thank you for posting this, i just needed to hear this from somebody - anybody.
Never knew this series will help me a lot :) thank you soo much I am really grateful to youu
I needed this message so thank you for putting it out there, even if it meant being vulnerable and diving into uncomfortable memories. Thank you Via 💜
Also, you might don't know how much this has helped me. Thank you so much for making this video! And sharing this with us! Love you too girl!!!
'i'm going to try my best right now, and that's all i can do'
thank you, via, this really offered me some comfort. i've been dealing with a really draining gastric condition that has just sapped my energy and motivation levels and most days I feel like i'm not doing enough in terms of maintaining relationships and school work as I just don't have the capacity at the moment to prioritise others/get creative. but your video has served as a reminder to not be so harsh on myself, and that I should focus on healing foremost
I've been having similar issues with my health and each day is a battle because of it. You definitely aren't alone. Wishing you the best
You're like the elder sister i never had .. love you so much and i am so proud of you for everything.. and thankyou... thankyou for everything.. your videos are the only place where i am understood
I luv you so so much, i really needed this video right now thank u❤️ur videos are so comforting and inspiring
I think, lot of people needed this video ! thx, hope the best for u !!
I recently went through some shit with my mom (she had untreated schizophrenia, thankfully she has help now) and it's so comforting to hear that others also feel like the only person you can rely on is yourself. I think it's the sad truth for a lot of us. Thank you for sharing your hardships with us, cause I know I can do this even at times it feels impossible, but it is nice to hear someone else believes that as well. We will make it : )
Via saying "stay alive until then" touched a some part of my brain. I think I needed to hear that ❤
I swear your chanel it's my safe place, I love every single video so much
As a 13 year old thank you for this video, I’ve been struggling to be myself since I have been feeling horrible and hopeless.
I'm living proof, too. Thank you for this video. It's helped give me the courage to continue forward after a brutal heartbreak and broken childhood.
Omg I NEEDED YO HEAR THIS! I just cut off a toxic boyfriend that I’ve been so emotionally invested in for damn near a year and the scar is deep cause I had so much faith. You’re a breath of fresh air Via I love you for making this .
My go to saying right now is "feel the fear and do it anyway" i have completely changed my entire life in a single year and I will continue to change into something new and better each day I have. I will make myself proud even if I have to do it scared ❤
Hoping you make it thru your struggles soon
i'm so happy to see your growth from last year