Why A Woman Must NEVER PURSUE A Man & The Power She Has Of WALKING AWAY | RC Blakes
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On Today's Episode:
Today’s narrative of the independent, strong, secure, empowered woman says we can do anything we want without a man’s approval. We are not victims or damsels in distress, we are total badasses capable of being CEO of Fortune 500 companies, caring mothers, best friends, truck drivers and construction workers.
With all that we are and all that we do there are still biological differences we may be ignoring in our fight against society’s narrative of oppression.
Is pursuing a man that you’re interested in a defiance of our biological nature or an act of defiance against what men in society say we shouldn’t do?
Pastor RC Blakes is a voice for female empowerment that doesn’t dance around hard conversations and addresses the realities women are struggling with in society. He’s the bestselling author of Queenology, Father-Daughter Talks, Soul-Ties and more. He and his wife, Lisa, also host women's conferences to bring healing and power to women in search of a better version of themselves free of abuse and manipulation.
Today’s conversation brings us some interesting points, some of which may be triggering:
What happens when women pursue men
Why women can’t behave like toxic men without consequences
Instead of looking for a high-value man, seek out what it takes to be a high-value couple with the right person
“Submissive” doesn’t have to be trigger, it can be a clear indication of the man your with
There is a relational rhythm of a healthy masucline-feminine dynamic in high-value relationships that may be a better target to aim at in your next relationship.
QUOTES:
“There’s a price to be paid for a woman who pursues a man.”
“If a woman has to jumpstart a man she will have to keep him motivated in the relationship.”
“If you need to be married or joined to someone, you don’t need to be married or joined to anyone. In other words, if you’re not a fulfilled, healthy and happy individual as a stand alone, you really don’t need to be joined with anyone.”
“When you don’t know your value, people can put you in places that you don’t deserve.”
“No woman should submit to a man that demands submission. If a man has to demand submission he does not deserve it.”
“Just cause a man can afford you doesn’t mean he can value you.”
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I dont think its right to spank a child. A child is a child because of how its brain operates. You have to raise kids science based not with voilence.
Can tony gaskins come next ? 🙌🏻
Can you btw please slow a little down your fast talking 😂😅
Thanks a lot. Someone contacted me impersonating Richard Grannon asking for my assets.
Was married to a man who really looked great on paper 📜 but Lawd he was a very selfish terrible husband !!! What he'd learned from his Dad.
“When you don’t know your value, people will put you in places you don’t deserve.” Just. Brilliant.
Pastor!!!! So good to see you growing! Everyone needs to hear your WISDOM. 🙏🏾
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Facts 💯‼️
Love this
people cant put you nowhere it's what you choose to accept.
"If a woman has to jump start a man then she will have to keep him motivated in the relationship." That is so true!
And you think man aren’t doing it right now ¿ fuck that
So you don't believe in the idea that as you get to know someone more they might start to develop attraction as well as desire for commitment? By your logic whenever woman is the one that initiates first toward a man, then that man will never be motivated or/and change his feelings toward that woman even as they get to know each other. Isn't this interpretation of life a little too naive? In some cases this could be true but let's not apply this to every single case out there.
It's only in few cases that a woman Jumpstart a man and it pays off so what would be the point of stressing on that when in most cases that's not the case. Let the man pursue, he's built for that
@@cybomakh210 you have a decent point. However I am not sure what you exactly mean by "pay off". Does it mean your feelings being reciprocated at first when woman initiate? Or reciprocated feelings later into the stage after they get to know each other? Or you mean a successful date? I think it's important that you know what you want out of a relationship with a guy that you initiated first to. And make sure you and him are on the same page. For example, at the very beginning when woman initiates first, she can be direct and tell him "hey I have feelings for you and I am curious whether you will feel the same later as we get to know each other. However if you see no hope in this or no potential then be honest and say no now and save us the pain and time for both of us. Are you in this or nah?" I know it may sound a little cringe but It's really important how the woman communicates and how direct she is in terms of what she wants out of the relationship. And if you do that you usually do just fine and guy will tell you what he wants and how he feels and from there u navigate what the best route is.
@@estoyaqui257 she just said flat out that she’s not initiating first…
"Honor is the seed, submission is the fruit" and "the man who demands submission, does not deserve it" - this is gold!
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Lol, okay single lady
Amen2that: statement!!
@@jinkazama2555Single is not a diss. Some men want all the benefits of marriage without putting any effort. It's give and take, not just take
"When a woman pursues a man, she cannot do so without losing a part of herself." The stinging veracity of this statement made me realize I've done this in most of my romantic relationships - both in the dating phase and in committed relationships. I've found myself consistently exhausted and demoralized as a result of not valuing myself.
That statement stuck with me too. I have tried to pursue some men recently and I got hurt in the end. I’m not chasing anymore
I used to it not anymore
Pastor Blakes is spot on about the importance of the father-daughter relationship.
Me too
mots of us do it sis, and at the end of the day, we are tired and drained
"Just because a man can afford you doesn't mean he can value you." PREACH!
Afford you? That only applies to women that come with price tags! By choice!
Louder pls
I know women who brags about men spending. A man spending money cause he have it. And secondly if u feel u need a constant price tag and think him only spending price his love. U are wrong. Men will do such for few months and move on to the next.
Waoo... exactly to 🙌
@@eveheart2876 what happens in the dark will come out to the no one can mock Jeh God..
I used to have problems with men. I wasn't happy being alone, and the men were never serious. I became unhappy with the situation. I just stopped dating! I was so sick of the very same thing happening over and over. Then I stepped away for 4 years. In those 4 years, I dated myself! Whatever I wanted I gave to myself! Wherever I wanted to go, I went by myself! I pampered myself and had quiet moments alone. I became so happy within, I felt so whole. I later found 4 respectable men that chased me. I choose one man and now have been happily married since. So get out there and make yourself whole and happy! Men will see your inner happiness and be drawn to it! You will never appear desperate because you aren't! You are
happy all by yourself! Much ❤️
@K Y You won't be disappointed! When you start loving yourself, you will start to feel so fulfilled! The joy will come from within and you will just naturally draw people to you because of the positive energy. Men will feel it, and you will find yourself less clingy, and less needy. Just remember to show the feminine side of you too.. Always be youself too, no fakenes ls, the more real you are, the more comfortable the man will be. The more he can be himself! And men love to be around women that they are comfortable with, and that are easy to talk to. Like I said I had 4 men who were basically throwing themselves at me. My husband kept on me about marrying him. When in the past I couldn't get men to even say any word, that started with the letter M. Haaaa..... Soo...., go get out there and make yourself happy!! You got this! 😘👍🏽
Hello! Thank you for sharing your story, how did you know which one to choose?
@Natasha Kalanke I relied on my intuition, heart, and mind. You have to watch people, talk to people, and listen to people. Watch their actions around others and how they act towards others. And you don't race the relationship. I took 2 years to dive deeper after I was engaged before I took the plunge. I also prayed to God for his wisdom. and guidance. My husband was the one who loved me for me, had a lot in common with me, and made me feel at peace whenever I was around him. It's just a feeling you get, you will know. That man will stand out from the others. You will find the relationship just comes so naturally, and easily. You will know.
Thank you very much for this response! I wish you many more years of happiness and joy in your marriage xx
@@natashakalanke1085 😘
"You can't fix a man's character if he doesn't have one". Oof. Accurate. Works both ways too.
Chasing after a man just doesn’t feel right to me! It definitely feels wrong and when you do this a man won’t love you for who you truly are. Never be desperate for a man’s love and affection!
That's why ur single.
@@jinkazama2555 why because I won’t chase a man!!! Did I say I was single anyway??
MAKE SURE U KNOW WHAT THAT MAN IS ABOUT. DOES HE SERVE JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. IS HE ABUSIVE TO WOMEN. IS HE BISEXUAL? DOES HE HATE WOMEN N IS CONFUSED. OR HOMOSEXUAL? ID HE INTO WOMEN N MEN? IS HE ABUSIVE? GAY MEN USUALLY ARE? IS HE A MAN IR A MONSTER👹 DO U LIKE HIM AT ALL? IS HE STALKING U N IS DELUSIONAL,ABUSIVE TO WOMEN N MEN HE DATES N WOMEN HE SOES NOT KNOW? IF SO THESE ARE OBVIOUS RED FLAG? IS HE A USER? DOES HE CURSE U N STALK U EVEN IF U R TAKEN N HAPPILY MARRIED? RED FLAG. DOES HE BELIEVE IN GOD,THE GREAT CREATOR OF HEAVEN N EARTH? DOES HE STEAL FROM WOMEN. MONEY FOOD? OS HE LOOKING FOR A MAMA? SOMEONE TO TAKE CARE OF HIM? DO U LIKE THIS STALKER? NOT AT ALL? IS HE DESPERATE? DESPERATE DEMONIC BOYS STALK WOMEN WHO ARE TAKEN. RED FLAG RED FLAG. 👹
Men that want to be chased… does he not know what he wants in order to go after it? It’s giving damsel vibes. Far more attractive when men step up to what they want and go after it in life, especially to get the women they want. ❤
@@Beautytrends77 😂 the attacks on the status of a woman’s relationship is crazy.
I WAS HONORED TO HAVE THIS CONVERSATION
Thank you RC
So very pleased to see you on this show Pastor. I’ve been gleaning so much uplifting Empowermerment from your messages! Blown away to see you here!
Bishop Blake’s I’ve been following you for several years now I must say your wisdom and real talk has been pivotal in my own healing process from divorce and just my outlook on men and relationships.
The healing for wholeness process is definitely a marathon, not a sprint but I thank God for you. You are definitely one of His disciples who’s made a significant change in my life for the better! God bless you🙏.
🎉 great seeing you move around CZcams
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This is the BEST breakdown of how a relationship between a man and a woman should exist that I’ve ever heard. My husband and I have 3 daughters and a son and this is how we’ve brought them up. Women absolutely should not pursue men. Thank you.
I nearly fainted when the thumbnail of this conversation came up in my feed. This man’s wisdom and a direct, clear way of communicating it is the reason I am still standing today after a relationship that broke me into a thousand pieces. Every time I had an obsessive urge to go back, I’d listen to him over and over. It was not enough for me to mentally recognize how dishonorably I had allowed myself to be treated. I needed to hear the truth spoken by a man whose character, values, morals, and a virtuous, purposeful life I wholeheartedly respect, and let it renew my mind and become deeply embedded in my psyche. Thank you so much, Lisa, for bringing such impactful guests on your show!!!
Yes, his wisdom is gold.
Yes!!!! Such a great person to have on
I did the same. I am out now, stronger
Girl same we love Rc Blake’s he really is a genuine Godly man ❤️❤️❤️
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I was journaling one day and I asked god why want you allow a man to see me the way I see myself? I heard him clear as day say that the problem they are; low self esteem, not good enough, and not worthy. God said instead of asking me to allow a man to see you the way you see yourself, ask me to allow a man to see you the way I see you; better yet ask me to allow you to see you the way I see you. It was deep. When you don’t know who you are you will settle for who ppl tell you you are.
That was beautiful
Love this! ✨
More fathers should listen to this interview and explain this to us daughters. Women will have less pain and will definitely choose healthier relationships.
more fathers should have a supportive, healthy relationship with their daughters, and there would be no need for explanations.
i think its more about how mother and aunts hold themselves then men. and the impact it has on daughters
Yes!!
You're absolutely right. However, those who unfortunately don't have fathers, real solid father figures that can understand this won't have this knowledge and so, it's like the blind leading the blind. So often we hear us as women say that we've had to be both mother and father to our children but if women don't understand what RC Blakes just explained, the truth will be lost.
Well said dear 😢
A man who honors you pursues you. You don’t have to run him down. Thank you! A gem I needed!
No strong man who is becoming somebody already, or rich will chase any woman. No woman or man deserves honor by default.
@@richthedesign yeah this is all ass backwards
@@richthedesign the point is if the person cares or has you on their mind and is a man they will acknowledge you and entertain you not the opposite that's why a woman shouldn't chase a man down because it showcases a woman that is pursuing that man, is not interested in her chasing is purposely pursing someone that does not want to be pursued
@@brieflyflesh4917 No man has time to waste just acknowledging you and entertaining you all day. It might seem cute in the beginning but most likely if that's all he does, he doesn't seem like the type to work nearly hard at anything, and will eventually become fat/lazy. I've wasted plenty of time in my youth doing those 2 exacts things you've said and that is just what a woman wants. It's going to detriment whoever you are with long term, and that's only red flags of being needy in my world.
Especially in the times we live in today, no man has time to waste just sitting around lazily, and entertaining someone because they are bored. If you aren't actively lifting your man to be his best version, or helping each other out, I can guarantee you long term, whatever you have will not work.
Women love hearing what sounds sweet to their ears but most words spoken are a double edge sword not meant to just validate a womans strengths but for them to understand the responsibilities you are required to do behind the words. A grown adult knows no one should be chasing anyone, that it should happen naturally regardless of who makes the first move. That both people should be working towards the common interest of building something with each other if their values align, and both people have to be able to provide something of value consistently for the relationship to grow. Anything else is child thinking.
not all females deserve to be honoured most just hear these things and run with n that's what's wrong with the world some females want to be honoured right off the bat (acting like they special am not generalising) am saying now fucked out whore hear what this idiot man is saying n wants to be honoured and pursue ( men if your reading this comment don't be fool by these females try and make a good family n honour that) these bitches just want to hear the word pursue so that they can beg ( her: "if a man is pursuing me he have to buy me this buy me that take me shopping nth else matter just a materialistic n delusional world for them (FOCUS ON YOUR SELF GET MONEY WOMEN WILL PURSUE YOU FACTS)
But let's not be under the illusion that if a man has pursued you, somehow this means the relationship is a guaranteed success. There are millions of men who have taken the 'masculine' role, pursued their women and are still controlling, manipulative, disinterested, dishonest and ultimately betray the person in their life. There is no panacea to dating someone who is simply wrong, except for dealing with your inner crap and having firm boundaries against emotional and physical abuse. Be a whole and healthy person, partner or no partner.
Thank you! I applaud your critical thinking
Being whole, healthy and willing to walk away is what keeps the relationship going. The man constantly pursuing because he's never sure if he's got you. It requires an unattached and independent mindset. Unfortunately it's treating the men how they treat us - without the cheating.
I thinkntoo many women love men like we should love our children
Pursuit and a man that shows disinterest cannot be in the same sentence. They contradict each other. God has given women intuition of pursuit- healthy pursuit that is consistent with wanting a marriage. Breadcrumbs from a man that starts pursuing will always only be breadcrumbs…
Fabulously said.
This
After 1.5 years of me persuing him the majority of it- we broke up today - this video popped up as a message from God, bringing me so much peace. Thank you.
Yes me to
My health has declined severely from the stress and no validation just ghosting
Me too.
Wow I really hope you move forward and don’t find but let an amazing man find you!
Me 6 years so do don’t feel badly. Now I’m focused on my health and my own well being. I’m proud of you. It will be hard but they were using us. It’s a hard pill to swallow but it doesn’t take that long to commit & marry
When you walk away if he doesn't reach out, then it was never meant to be 😳
This man is a father many of us girls and women have never had. Thank you Sir for your life changing wisdom.
I needed this kind of father in my life. My dad never cared about me and never valued me (both mom and dad). Now I am 36 year old woman and it's ridiculous for me that I am still single and never really had long term relationships :( I want to find a good man but I cannot find him and no one is really into me even though I show so much power and learned to love and value myself
EXACTLY! I'm understanding more than ever now that I didn't have the best father figure and that I didn't learn how to validate and empower myself cause my dad didn't showed me the right way. I know my dad loves me but he doesn't know how to show it, he's very acid and all the time puts me down, and all of that made a huge mark in my soul qnd I'm comming to learn that. He once told me "she's a woman, she can't say a thing about it!", what is really fucked up. I'm starting to understand that it was never my fault, but simply the way I learned I should behave to get a man's affection and attention, and that I learned it all wrong.
He’s dishing out life saving advice for women, thank you sir ! My sister always says ‘if you chase a man and get him, you will chase him for the rest of your life’.
and its literally the same thing vice versa
Agree with you
@@melly_7258 not necessarily. Y’all men of today want to be girls so bad. Smh
Goes the same for guys, they don't need to chase women. For me it should be a give and take relationship. For a relationship to work the partner must reciprocate the effort, love and affection given by the other. If they can do that, then it's not going to be a healthy relationship
@Casanova Breaker
If you want to be a kept lady boy, just say so...You wreck of effeminate energy🤢
I agree. My female friends disagree. Woman should never pursue a man, by design, by nature, a man is a hunter and a woman nurturer. Lets keep nature that way. And I did the power of walking away trick to give him space to miss me. It worked. Stay strong, girls, feminine energy is passive, masculine is active. Do not initiate, he has to set up the time and date etc. If he is not commited, keep your options open too!
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@@kekesheks6109 i don't think anybody loves a passive lover. love itself is an action a verb
All of these are your excuses for doing nothing 🙄No wonder why today's men don't mrry anymore.. sheer loss of money, energy, attention, time
I agree with you but the problem is that a lot of men know what they want when it’s too late, and then they persue you when you already moved on
1 minute women n men are the same n then the next we have specific roles. Feminism right
I was basically chasing a guy for almost a year. He dumped me a few days shy of April 2022 and gave me false hope for the future. I was in love and wanted to believe he was a better man, all while risking looking like a clown. He initiated contact, sent texts, we talked for hours and he really tried keeping me around. Once I was in his orbit, he basically ignored me and acted like he simply tolerated my existence. Kept my hopes up until May 2023 when I cut contact with him. That's when all of a sudden he tried to follow me back and come back. I'm done with chasing and I'm done with him.
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@@sharonbraselton4302 purr
Lots of manipulators out there who only want an ego boost. Let the Lord help you navigate any relationship your in.
“Just because a man can afford you doesn’t mean he can value you!” Whew!
Yep 😊
Best quote but true
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Let's be clear, there are 2 sides to a sword just like the mans words in this video but women get lost in the context making it about themselves as usual. As a man or a woman, you don't deserve value by default. If you don't know how to help or serve anyone but yourself, you hold little to no value. Women that are hard working, consistent, honest, loving, caring, gentle, capable, supportive, that have little to no drama are the only types of women most men see as valuable. Otherwise men will just look at you as for the streets.
@@richthedesign EVERYONE has value BY DEFAULT. However, not everyone has earned respect. Hopefully, you are out in your world living in a respect-earning way.
" A woman can't give a man 'TRUST ' he has to earn it." Ladies! That comes with dating with close legs. So, you can discern the man's true intentions! Lastly, guarding your heart from hurt and pain!
This is absolutely true! And it has little to do with religion, it has everything to do with the exchange of energies and merging of electromagnetic fields. You get something from that person (even their depression or negative energies) or any implants, chips or overlays they have in their etheric body. I learned these in my mid 20’s and changed radically once I realized the truth of this. There is science and spirituality in this, and all women should be taught that the WOMB is like a sponge, and it absorbes all the energies, specially emotions from others. So you gotta guard it like it’s a holy grail, others you’re gonna be carrying the energies, chips, implants and all that cr@p that men have.
Guess what, 33 year old virgins have just as much pain but you never get that dose of reality because no one usually waits until 33 to understand that truth.
@@stellaborealis4846 Where did you learn about this? I'm curious about the topic
@@stellaborealis4846 🙄
@@tetrapak4300 me too
"When you don't know your value, people can put you in places that you don't deserve"
While I respect what he’s saying, I would like to see more of these wise men directing this wisdom at men! Men need fatherly wisdom they didn’t get in childhood to learn how to be a healthy masculine partner and a good man. The problem is a lot of women are out here listening to this advice and doing the work and healing and alone.. because majority of the men out there are still operating from their wounds and chasing lust and treating women as if they were disposable. Look at how many of these wise men are on social media gearing their messages towards women. We need more men leading the men to heal.
Agreed!!!!
There are many men addressing toxic, abusive & manipulative behavior. Challenging the men. RC, Shumake, Tony Gaskins and many more on CZcams. Looks like a movement has begun!!
Agreed, however, men don't listen, so it's only right to teach women.❤
@@Tee-StarLet's avoid generalizing about men. Insinuating they're stupid. A Godly man will listen.
@danilaroche1156 "A godly man will listen." Sounds like a generalization to me. 😊
My god that is so profound “if a man has to demand submission, he does not deserve it”.
I wish EVERY dusty will read and understand this.
If a woman demands protection and provision, she does not deserve it 😅
@@evanjahlist6008 That’s false because men and women are completely different. If a woman has to protect and provide for herself, there’s no point in the man. Why would he even choose to pursue her if he felt no need to protect her? If she hast to beg for provision and protection, that means this man does not care about her and she should leave very quickly and find a man that does value her.
@@acemanifester1401 it's false when I reverse the roles? If she's not submissive, cooperative, feminine and friendly, then why would I provide and protect. At the end of the day, a person deserves what they tolerate from another person.
Can we say - if a god has to demand submission, he doesnot deserve it?
A man is not attracted to a woman that would beg. A wife is a woman that sets a certain standard, holds to it and demands that the man meets her at that level. Wow!!! There should a curriculum for young people from RC Blake’s teachings. I’m in my 50s and I’m still learning soooo much much from him. Thank you sir
You mean how Ruth laid herself at the foot of Boaz, then showed him Naomi’s wealth in order to get his “yes” to marry her…who he found to be a good an excellent wife (whom he ultimately adored so much- people made him into a brand name for chivalry?
Actually they both went after each other. He saw her, and left clues (knowing she wouldn’t know). He felt for her but did not approach her. He was subtle, leeaving extra food for her to crop in his field.
She made the first overt move by going where he would be at an event, ending up at his bedside uninvited.
One could say, she pursued him. And they became a great couple and it was no threat to his leadership.
Amen! My daughters will be taught the same.
Yes! Me too and I'm 64 😊
Modern men dont agree with this, they want the women to initiate and persue otherwise shes just having high standard & playing hard to get
Good 4 her. He needs 2 take that loss. She will win with the good man God has 4 her. Amen
Needed this today! Had to walk away from a man i thought would be my future husband, but he's suddenly dating other people and saying we were just "casually dating" but that's not true at all. I told him I'm good and he can go have his fun. I know what i want in my life and want someone that only wants me. It still hurts and hearing discussions like this help.
Keep moving growing living loving like you’ve never been hurt learn to love yourself heal seek gods face ❤I love you I’m praying for Us
I only want the man to pursue me. If I have to pursue him the relationship is doomed.
do not look back!!!!
He is so correct. Rejection causes a woman to be broken. They begin to wonder what is wrong with her. We have and are a thin thread. 😊 No matter how hard we try to be. We are more sensitive.😊
Rejection causes a woman to blame herself. The good thing is woman does introspection whereas most men don't...they blame the woman
For me, I view it as "What's wrong with him?"
Pastor RC Blakes is my pastor. I am a member of his cyber church. You have no idea how much this man’s teachings have helped me heal, take my power back, walk in femininity, develop a queen conscience, and changed my life!!!
Thank you ❤🙏🏽
Same here. He has definitely opened my eyes! He is changing sooo many lives! I am stronger bcuz of his teachings
Right! Love RC Blake’s
Amen!
Same here ! They are , his lovely wife and himself , very nice people.
I was supposed to attend the meeting in London in 2020 but covid decided otherwise...😢
Hope they ll come back to Europe so that I could make it🙏🏼 I followed them since 2017 . They are a blessing to women.
He's exactly right. I did this and I spend 2 years trying to prove myself to this guy who rejected me and I regretted wasting so much time on him. Never again!
So true it’s the worst feeling in the world and take so long to heal from it. Too much wasted time.
@@Sunshinelollipops223 Indeed.
It's So hard to let go of a person that you like, but who thinks that he is above you.
hey beautiful lady, the mistake that you did wasn't you tried to prove to someone you liked them , the mistake was you spent too much on it, man never do that you approach the next , next, next, next till they match the girls they have mutual like, men are the same never waste time over a women rejected them. why would you ?!
He’s 100% correct. I’m 57 years old, and I did this so many times in my life. 😢 and all from a place of abandonment issues (back from my childhood) .
I’m not saying I’m 100% healed, but I’m on my way Praise God
Rejection from a father is the worst thing EVER!
I've been watching relationship advice videos off and on for two years and I can now say that I'm comfortable being single. Content and won't have it any other way. Dating is like playing the lotto for me - I never win. So alone and on my way to becoming whole I am. Dealing with men brings out my insecurities so I'd just rather not.
I hear you. I have more peace when I am not looking. But I would like to change. I read that our problem has a lot to do with our attachment style.
I can totally understand. Everything is a game for a lot of people and at the end the ugliest and the rudest people with no heart wins 😅
This guy is on another level. He’s truly the father we all need.
he is not adding anything of value you just feeding you more feel good lies he is know different than a preacher feeding you half truth and half lies, if you need a man to teach you how to be a woman then it means that you are far gone from your femininity.
@@corneliuselbourne1044 you didn't listen to a word, clearly.
True
He's the author of "The Father Daughter Talk", "Queenology" and several other books.
Yes he is!
I have always been a very independent, introverted, self-sufficient women. I had a past relationship where I was not able to tap into my femininity. It was a controlling, emotionally manipulative experience. After being single for 6 years since my first relationship ended it's been three months I have been talking to this man...his presence make me feel extremely safe and secure. I never thought I would ever feel this intense urge to submit to a man ever in my life but the aura of this man I am slowly getting to know is of a divine protecting honouring masculine which is so beautiful to experience.
So beautiful ❤ I am happy for you and wish you the best of luck 🤗
Amen, this gives me hope ❤
@@MsLibra-fo8tw me too
So happy for you 💓
What do you mean by submit?
NEVER INVEST IN A MAN....unless he's your husband. I learned this lesson over the last year. I bought a truck, paid all the expenses to "help" my bf at the time "boss up" no no no no no. I found out the hard way, this is NOT the natural flow of energy. He made out like theif in the night, would take girls on dates in the truck I bought and never took me out once. Lesson learned. A MAN wouldn't even allow you to do this. But I had a lot of healing to do with myself and I'm still healing. It wasn't his fault lol he saw his opportunity and my vulnerability and he took advantage.
It was his choice, his fault, his responsibility. Your overgiving was also yours. Don’t release him from responsibility !
100% it was his fault, he saw your vulnerability and we should never take advantage of someone, cause we don’t know what’s going on in their mind or life. He’s disgusting and I wish you strength in your healing process. Don’t regret the love you gave, he’ll always remember it cause he’s never gonna find someone like you again.
Big heart ♥️ guys play games with the pier ones, the ones they claim to ask for, the ones that if any guy or lady sees , will tell them how lucky and bless they are with a person that has their back if needed… karma will eat them up alive and you will see your phone ringing overly cause they in a need and crave you , they may have took advantage of you and your kindness and need you much more and them females will take advantage of that guy and take what they can get overly as well with the next one and the next one and the next one and look at him as what they can take from him as if he’s the joker 🤫
I love that the female submission to a man they're discussing is not giving in/up due to being manipulated or out of fear of loss, but rather an enpowered surrender stemming from a woman trusting her man's leadership, love and integrity. ❤
Female submission ain't a thing and shouldn't be a thing. That's religious propaganda. We ain't dogs. As he said, if a man is demanding all that, he ain't worth it.
It's so beautiful isn't it? Like, that's the right thing to happen but then evil man twist the meaning of a woman "being submissive". Of course a woman will be submissive of her man when he's a protector, not a controller, when he's a provider, not a taker, when he loves that woman for who she is and wants her to shine, not to shut her light down. I'm coming to the understanding that a lot of man only change for the better when a woman is strong enough to not accept bad behaviour from that man and put herself first at all times.
"When you don't know your value or worth people will put you in places you don't belong." I thought this was such a powerful yet true statement.
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He helped me get through a divorce from a narcissist. I am so grateful for his wisdom. Today I embrace my queen conscious self.
Same one day he was teaching “ PhD women getting pimped by GED men and I was floored! Left the same day! ❤ life has never been better since leaving the toxicity.
That queen mentality is the reason why you will remain single still living in a fantasyland
So many gems. Just realizing that we out here dealing with immature men who just want sex, then those men and people around us who have the same problems, convince us that its ok, just to let it slide and its just a thing men do, meanwhile we end up never getting what we want and be bitter at like 40. No, we need to listen to our hearts when it tells us there's a problem and move on and wait for the one who sees us and treats us like a prize.
This is a true masculine man! You won't have to "jump-start" this man!🎉
AMEN!!!
I needed this! I'm in a place of tearing down my old patterns. I kept dating the same man with different faces. I realized something needs to change and it's me. My parents never made me feel valued so I was comfortable dating people who didn't value me. It's not how I wanna be living. I deserve so much more ❤
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so relatable!!!!
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Felt this completely! We in this together ❤
Me to
He makes alot of sense. Only a man should do the pursuing. The woman who pursues makes a fool of herself and puts herself in a position to be rejected.
Yes, and also in a position to be used.
Exactly, we make ourselves vulnerable doing that and the men in my life who I respect have told me not to pursue a man, but they said they wouldn’t mind a girl pursuing them lol what does that tell us?
I MADE THIS MISTAKE !! OUCH! HE HAS THE BLUE PRINT... THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME... STILL HEALING ON SOME LEVELS BUT I MANAGED TO PULL BACK.... IT REALLY HURTS. SELF LOVE IS PART OF MY DAILY PRACTICE BUT IT STILL WORKING MY BRAIN... I DONT RECOMEND LOL OUCH! OUCH OUCH!!!
same applies with a man
@@dch1421 You are always in a position to be used, whether you realize it or not. By the way, there are countless stories of men pursuing women and pretending to be in love only to change after marriage, first baby, etc. Many abusers started like that.
This is THE talk all us ladies we wish we had from our Dad, brother, or uncle. 😢❤❤
Never jumpstart a relationship. It will fail every time. Sometimes, you just have to step back.
This man is telling my story. I had to fight in my marriage all the time. I kept praying for the man to change. I had to leave
It hurts when they leave us no choice but to save of ourselves but life sure is good again without someone there to sabotage it.
I LEFT my x.. Abused and used...
I am in that position now
This is my reality at the moment....I have left, broken, broke but choosing myself and my child's peace is worth it
Saying that prayer alone meant you married 4 potential.
I'm sure you will do it differently next time.❤
Don’t chase a man, ladies. It often ends bad. In my experience my man was not ready and end up cheating on me, he was not as masculine in leading, and he lacked many qualities I desired and needed. Being healthy, your natural feminine self, and maintaining boundaries will do well in most situations.
crazy how we blind
I don’t think a man should chase a woman either. They both should be willing to pursue (present the option of relationship) which is far from chasing. Anything that runs away from you has decided a lack of value in what they see. So if man or woman chases, they are trying to prove their value (which is unhealthy).
To teach women not to present themselves to men as an option or the one with the idea of being an item- is because he underestimates women. All you have to do is listen to his “why.” All of his why is gross assumptions about what women cannot handle! Or what a man wouldn’t do for a woman based on her being the initiator. These are horrible assumptions!
If a man is whole, he’s going to give to the woman he is married to period- regardless of her being the initiator of relationships. Only a man without wholeness deems this to be demasculating and cause to not treat her like a gift.
Do you mean even after few months in the relationship? Or just before it started?
@@leilagingil In the beginning or at any point the man shows you or says he is not ready for commitment. Just let him go and a good man will find you.
So many men lead qnd still cheat ...literally writing a book on side chicks
This man's calm, peaceful energy is so very powerful. His wisdom is truth. I feel this.
This is why I don't understand these new age dating coaches teaching women to approach men, especially when the dating coach is a woman. She's setting you up to be embarrassed.
People who are teaching that are worldly know the difference
Mr. Blakes has a preternatural ability to speak to women in a loving way. It's like listening to a good father.
He must be a great dad
Yup.
Yes. He is just a good teacher. I love his teachings
Sometimes it's also the loving way that women take certain things out of context, and make it about themselves instead of looking at the bigger picture. There are 2 sides to a sword, and 2 sides to every word being spoken. What is important is that you work on improving yourself, have standards for yourself when it comes to finding a good man, and when you find someone worthy, it doesn't matter who pursues who first. What matters more is when you do find that one, you at least make an attempt to get his attention, and if he's interested, it's up to you to keep him. Women that cry about all men are the same are also the same women that probably never tried to be a decent girlfriend, or had any real value to give to a man because I can say this. I've seen women of all shapes and sizes get married by men. So it's the quality that you are as a person that is what keeps both a man and woman together. No man or woman is perfect but that's why having standards, and being honest about your own value as a person is important.
This man's fathering energy is so strong and powerful. Even him being on this very feminine set drinking from the pink cup and sitting against the feathery pillow that's clinging to his suit. 🤦🏾♀️ It's giving "Dad at a teaparty with his daughter" in the realest sense. 💯 It's disarming, and causes me to let my guard down to hear the wisdom he is sharing. Thank you for hosting him. So glad my mom shared this with me.
Well Said
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Didn’t even notice that. How sweet.
@@omardelmar not interested hv a gud day.
Lisa this is one of your best if not THE best episode so far . This man is speaking the truth and there is so much wisdom in what he is sharing . It is so needed in today’s disillusioned society . I will make sure my kids actually listen to this when they are older - but hopefully my husband and I can teach this to them through example .
I said that same thing, this is the BEST interview I ever seen about relationships !
I was listening to this with tears on my eyes . The father absent wound is something that really touched me .
RC Blakes ministry saved my life 2 years ago. I left an abusive relationship that left me broken. I found him and listened every day for hours.
Like RC says, God will break your heart to heal your soul.
RC Blakes ministry was used to heal my soul.
Why are there so many women being abused? Don't these men have any shame? Beating up a woman is no different than beating a crippled or elderly man. I was never hit by a man but I was by my older brother when I was a child. One more reason to not want anybody anymore.
Same here. He and Dr. Ramani has helped me so much.
@@carolhutchinson7763 Cycles of abuse, spiralling society, the worst of the dark triad traits seek power, the worst do not have shame, it's not in their vocabulary. It suits their purposes in being able to abuse others, then they create hurting people, in fact they encourage it and ferment it.
Job 34:10- So listen to me, you men of understanding: It is unthinkable for the true God to act wickedly, For the Almighty to do wrong.
Powerful
All true I gave my now x husband an ultimatum after 8 years of dating. I had to jump start him the entire marriage. He didn’t want to be married. I was never happy. Biggest mistake of my life. I had to do all the leading - church - lived in my house - all the work - was awful. I had as completely burnt out. I felt so unloved. I deserved so much more - I gave him my youth. 😔
Are you guys still married? Do you have children? Why did you have to lead in the church? Sorry, I'm a guy so I have to find reason for the guy. Maybe the guy never wanted to take power from you. With leadership, comes power.
@AliSand you're 30 years young. You still got it. Get back out there and live your life. Remember everything is just a mindset. If you believe you deserve better, you will attract better ❤
@@Hero-wc6gq while we all like to find reason sometimes there is no logical reason sometimes the person just simply doesn’t care
Girl, my husband(soon to be ex) pursued me. But a couple months into marriage I had to lead in everything because he got slothlike and lazy. He cheated ten years in leaving me to raise the family alone. So I initiate divorce after soooo much emotional turmoil and he wants to hop back in my life and he has done no work on himself 😅.
I did not cry every day for the last year and a half and be lonely to go back to that!
I am happy with not looking for validation. I decided way before I got with my boyfriend that there is no need for validation. At least not before we got together. He teaches me so much! I love it. No need to belittle me, sneak and hide anything from me . I am more than thankful for my guy.
I've been a fan of Pastor R. C Blakes for 3 years now. I am at my best self now, all because of him and his authentic wisdom. ❤️
I've been saying I cannot be with a man who cannot lead. The respect goes out the window. The same as for a man who lacks discipline. I cannot do it. Money, we can secure together but not character and leadership.
But a man you secure money with often leave with a girl later on
@@elefoundation3703 Sad truth
I introduced RC Blakes to my daughter and she is really absorbing his teachings and reaping the truth and benefits in his message ❤
Such a great mom to do this
Jheeeeezzzzz! "Just because a man can afford you, doesn't mean a man can value you." 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This man speaks some truth. I pursued a man I was in love with and when he eventually rejected me it broke something in me, it questioned my worth.
He is right! Never pursue a man. As a women who did this mistake Im telling you it's not worth it ! I pursued the relationship with an ex and he was never fully in. It left a scar on me. But I'm healing. I learned my lesson and I'm getting stronger
You can show him that you like him, you can give him compliments. But don't pursue
Some of the best relationships I've come across were the result of the woman making the first move and asking the man out.
I appreciate the fact that you're willing to engage in small talk with a guy w/o actually pursuing him. It seems as though alot of the women in this comment section expects a guy to go through hell and back just to show them that their interested w/o them reciprocating any energy in return. As a man myself, a guy that does that is a punk and most women will never fully submit to a guy who is that devoted to them. Their needs to be somewhat of a balance when it comes to getting into relationships.
@@nsFana It's not worth the hassle
He could’ve perused you and still lost interest. Most relationships don’t work and it’s bc the two don’t click not bc of who asked who
Lisa's shark analogy is spot on!! If you ooze desperation, you eill attract those wholl give you the bare minimum. If you ooze nothing but a sexual vibe, you will attract men who only want you for sex. But if you ooze charm, mystery, sexinrssy, confidence, happiness, etc., you will attract men enamoured by all that you are and only the one(s) who truly desire all that you are will pursue you on THEIR time frame, not necessarily your own. That's a process of weeding 'em out, so ladies - you must be patient, keep your options open until the right one steps up to the plate, and most importantly - be OPEN to the one who wants to earn you. - He wont necessarily look like your movie star "dream" man. He will surpass that in every aspect because the beauty and love he has for you cannot be deduced down to looks or money or whatever. Though he may already have those qualities, the ideal man for each of you will prove himself. Case in point: my bestie has a man who, when he married her, 6 months later did he very much prove himself when she got a cancer diagnosis. She didn't know if she'd ever be able to have kids. They worked together and not only did they have 2 beautiful kids together but he is a champion breadwinner, is very dedicated to her, and asks nothing more that she live, respect, and cherish him. Shes been going through some doubts, some 16 years in now, but I keep reminding her all that he did for her and continues to do. Her doubts arise from the fact that she has been caught up, lately, thinking that her fantasy "dream" man might be out there. I call that a mid life crisis. She already has the dream man. And ladies, we may not have these men forever. I know of someone wo lost her dream man to cancer at age 47 (him). So in truth, we women also have to be wose enough to know and see what REALLY holds value at yhe end of the day. Is he someone who respects you? Does he support you and your thoughts? Does he genuinely care for you? Would he have your back going through cancer, even if it altered your body or your ability to have children? Does he protect you? When youre both old and saggy and grey, will you both still be able to have good conversation and laughter? Think about it carefully. Stop giving in to social media and the need to flaunt your bodies barely clad. If you need to make your ass clap and twerk and if you need constant new gand bags and a brand new luxury vehicle but he doesn't and cannot fulfill all the stuff I mentioned, than you are just looking for unsustainable fillers that are temporarily filling a void. Know your worth and keep your chin up.
I totally agree with him. I've been in both situations and he couldn't be more on point. This guy actually knows what he is talking about.
Marriage is good, it's a paradise, when both parties respect each other and know each other's role. Cheers to all happy married couples ❣️
Ladies yall better listen to this man he knows what he's talkin bout. Men don't like nothin that comes easy to them. Men don't respect women that pursue or quick to jump in the bed with man.
Well women aren’t slaves so if men only want what they can control many will be lonely. Plenty of men don’t get caught up in who initiates... Anyhow relationships are plenty hard .
Brokenness is real. It has taken me 4 years to find my worth. Thank you
Also women who pursue are not capable of seeing toxic or indecent behaviour. She is ready to close her eyes when treated badly and accept less than she deserves from the guy she pursues rather than from the guy she is not crazy about. It leads to lowering her standards and not optimal relationships in the long run, because men don't improve they only get worse with time
Opposite . When you persue you are consciously choosing instead of being chosen. You are in control of yourself.. leaving yourself to Be prey is the simplest way to be manipulated/abused
Working in a big organization, I’ve seen a lot of couples form. And in those were the woman pursued the man, and even got him married to her, these guys are now telling everybody how miserable they are, and are already cheating, within the first year of marriage. So please let the men pursue you, otherwise, they will see no value in you.
I have also gone on dates with a lot of divorced men who said they only got married the first time, because the woman pursued them and insisted, and now they would like to be with somebody that THEY chose and pursued themselves. So please don’t do it ladies!
Wow! Smh this changes my mindset when women try to convince my to pursue men..
I have to disagree as its easy for a guy to pursue which probably happens most of the time. We are now told if the girl is chasing us, she is not replacing us. I will only do so much chasing.
My boyfriends ex was extremely pushy and pursued him, stalked him, was obsessed with him. He had his problems so went along with it but he was very miserable with her. Plus she was a narcissist and he was easy to control. He went through a lot of therapy and he has pursued me the entire time. I know this man loves me for who I am because of how much he just wants me and shows me that
@@angijac18 I love this!
I pee when I choose to pee.
I'm a feminist, first off. I think he's right. Our childhoods and society molds us, they literally wire our brains from birth.Relationships will ultimately reveal who you are as a person, the beautiful parts and the ugly, dark parts. These are the hard truths we all have to face. We want the happy ending so badly....that we will lie to ourselves shamelessly.
You right about that relationships will reveal alot bout you as person. Especially when there's crisis or inconvenience in the relationship the mask will eventually come off.
@@crystalcormier9376 💯
Absolutely, childhood and society molds us,and mostly in more toxic ways! That's why,I try to be around as less people, as possible....
@@godessunivers6941 Yes, feminism and society are both toxic.
you got it! 👏👏
Wow! "If a man has to demand submission, he does not deserve it." So true!
I've waited 20 months for my boyfriend to make the first move and ask me out, he did it only after I was finished healing (from chilhood trauma and former toxic relationship) He picked up on my energy and things happened at the right time. I am glad I waited :)
This also relates to friendships. Not all friends are qualified to have access to you. Stay woke!
Learnt it the hard way
Woman pursuing a man is so degrading. He is right.
It’s not degrading it’s natural to go towards whom you are drawn to.
This cultural practice of Dumping on women who are acting in their own interest is very ugly
Idk how many comments I’ve seen saying dehumanizing remarks to women who are happy to persue as they like.
Weird obsession trying to humiliate a confident woman.
I agreed with Mr. Blake. I would never pursue a man for a relationship. Mentally I would be deeply humiliated in my mind. The man that I am going to have a relationship with must pursue me for this to happen.
Randomly going through my CZcams and stumbled upon this gem of an interview. THIS IS PROBABLY THEEEEEE BEST INTERVIEW I’VE WATCHED❣️ (I’ve been sharing this to my friends like crazyyyyyy man and woman been getting it 😌😂) It’s the way this conversation had me on the edge of my seat! THANK YOU🤍
its great.i keep coming back to it
I use to see my brother assign women each day of the week in rotation.
It was the one who bounced that he married. She set boundries and didn't play. He told me if I chased a man he would whoop my azz.
I never have problems.
A Goddess attracts a man when she loves herself first.
Self respect is sexy.
Take care of your daughters fathers.
Your boys need you too.
@Sparkle Agree Setting boundaries is key . Self-respecting women set BOUNDARIES. They make it crystal clear how they are to be treated, what is unacceptable and acceptable, and what needs and wants are necessary. You’re [you are] right about boundaries. Greetings from Chicago.
A man that deserves it doesn’t have to demand it ❤
"just because a man can afford you does not mean he can value" 🙏🏾
The right one will not have to be chased.
This makes sense. I wished I knew this sooner. All the rejection I received created such feelings of inferiority and low self esteem in me that I've carried for years. So painful.
Same, Sister🥺
The radical feminism is a bust
We were stronger as LADIES
Also, bring back dresses/skirts
@@kathleenking47 she's not even talking about that. You don't know if she was femenine or not. Bottom line rejection hurt her and that's the point here.
@@kathleenking47 THANK YOU!!!🙏🏿 Kathleen, you made a point that's often overlooked.These days, the human race has gone completely against the grain. Some Women are acting more Masculine, and some guys are acting more Feminine.
Same here
He is speaking facts! He just described a situation I’m in. My husband walked out on me. I didn’t see it coming. It left me broken. It left me feeling like something was wrong with me although I had not done anything wrong. I chased him for awhile trying to convince him to come back home. I had lost myself. I’m now working on healing.
Praying for you!
Praying for you. God will see you through and give you strength.
God be with you my Dear
Praying for you. May all the brokeness flee and may restoration, love and peace fill your soul.
same my bf keeps walking out, breaking up and doesnt chase me when i'm in feminine energy for 12 yrs and i always ended up chasing him instead to fix.. it's awful i feel worthless
I'm only now finding your channel, and into this conversation only 11mins, and 49 secs and ALREADY got so many pearls and realising how much my background, never being informed, questioning my value, and being in a place where I am now learning "backwards". Never too late to up-value ME, and I can't wait to keep watching. Thank you so much for this! Definitely worth sharing!🙏🏽🙏🏽👍🏽👍🏽💯💯. So much appreciated!
My parents never taught me to chase a man. You will always be disappointed. But I get chase and still get disappointed, so I’m just doing me.
In my late teens/early twenties everyone I dated I had asked out, and they never lasted and the men weren't particularly interested in me. I then decided to stop being the initiator and wait for a man to pursue me. Since then I've travelled, did a second degree, started a new career, have my own house, wonderful relationships with family and friends.
I'm now 38 and still waiting for a man to pursue me.
Keep it simple. Don’t change your life for any man let him change his life to pursue you.
I think this aspect is kind of missing from the conservation..
Everything he says might be true, but it seems there are fewer and fewer men actively pursuing women in the way he describes. As time goes on, modern dating etc, men, who as he says, seek sex, are doing that freely and there's no need or reason for them to have to "pursue" anything. Seems strange that no one is commenting on that.
@@samp2782 I completely agree with you. I wish there were more men like RC Blakes describes. Unfortunately, they are few and far between (in my experience). We need to discuss this. So many men just seeking sex with no responsibility. Maybe 1-3 men out of 10 is like he describes. (Not saying women are perfect either.)
@@transitionsnc because women are handing out free sex hoping it’ll get them to commit.
That’s like businesses starting to give their stuff away for free over and over hoping it’ll entice people to buy. It won’t
@@lombmusic07 Shockingly bad advice.
I’ve never heard it explained like this. The beginning about women shouldn’t pursue and the reason he explained was me in my teenage years. Every guy I pursued and got denied affected my self esteem so deeply. I’m happy I’ve been on this journey of really embracing my femininity. I’m attracting amazing men who provide protects and sees me as valuable.
One thing about this man of God, he’s been on this for years educating women about their value. I’m glad he’s experiencing this conversation on different platforms ❤❤❤ let God use you for the betterment of someone who has to be reminded.
The Lord knew I needed to hear this. I was married to an abuser but left 4 yrs ago. I was manipulated spiritually to stay. I left 4 yrs ago. He recently took his life. I took time to be alone but I see the mistakes i made in a new relationship. This is will help me in my transformation ❤ praise God
'A sense of inferiority and a brokenness that takes a while to heal'! This is straight facts 💯
A womans last name, used to be her dathers and husbands
Still is
All of the broken homes led us to this
.in the past 55 years
And that's why men commit suicide at 4 times the rate of women
That’s imposed from society it’s not inherent. I’ve asked guys out and they’ve asked me out and
If we are not interested we politely say so and move on.
So much unnecessary drama obsessing over gender.
I feel bad for all the ppl missing their chances.
@@nadiaoak5123 thank you for sharing your experience! It's great to know women are going against the dating norm & feeling ok romantic rejection.
This whole interview blew my mind. I’m literally seeing everything in my life differently. Thank you, Lord 👑
Bless you ❤
I agree you shouldn't give your body away
It all starts with ourselves, sometimes we have to heal in order to attract what's best for us.
Married a Controlling man and I am so depressed cuz Nothing I do is good enuf… It was MY fault cuz I did the chasing cuz I felt I was in Love 😔 He STILL wants me to be the one whom Should CONTINUE to Pursue and keep the Relationship Alive. Causing much Anxiey & Depression. Although Very Difficult to make this move after 30+yrs I WILL B LEAVING him NOT SOON ENOUGH!
Ladies, he is Right, DON’T PURSUE/CHASE what you START WILL continue. They NEVER CHANGE!! I can’t stand him Now, feeling at times that I Hate him.
In knowing your own value you understand when it's time to walk away for your own self-respect. Make sure you listen to your intuition
This is GOOD. I haven't watched all yet, so this may be repetitive, but I want to add, narcissistic men WILL pursue us. I am the type that has awful backgrounds in relationships but not because I was desperate. I spent months in a talking phase, treating dating with purpose. It weeded out those who were quick to leave when they didn't get what they wanted. However, it amped up the game for narcissistic abusers who made it into a mission to conquer and get me to trust. They have all the patience in the world UNTIL they don't. What mistake I made was allowing myself to give others grace when I saw the mask slip after months, or years in. Those little red flags add up. Write them down. Remember them. Because you WILL need the self-respect to leave so much invested on the table when you see all those flags. The love and investment will keep you in something that seemed to check every box you needed (time, care, being pursued, financial stability, self-love, respect, support etc) When they show they cant wear the mask, BELIEVE IT THE FIRST TIME.
This. They put on such a show and say all the "right things", and even say they know the Lord. Acts like they are "such a good dad" but their kids don't speak to them. Devil in disguise. Control, manipulation, lies, headgames, evil. This what he speaks of is new to me. Grew up in a single mom home, no dad figure. Submission is a topic that has been misused through relationships and even counseling from a pastor in an abusive situation-" oh youneed to forgive and stay together for the sake of the children".
Thank God for RC Blakes, speaking truth.
This was so beautiful. Thank you all for putting this together for us. 💛
I met my fiancé when I was 21 and he was 32. I knew who I was but also still learning who I was as a person. When we first broke up, of course I was heartbroken and therefore pursued him. That didn’t work. Over the years he lived his life got into a relationship and so did I with another man. Coincidentally, both of those relationships failed and last year my fiancé expressed how much he missed me and expressed other feelings I thought he lost/didn’t have for me. Today at 28 and he’s 40, we are currently expecting identical twin girls, engaged, and moved in a house together and are currently building a house in his home country of Nigeria. This man is speaking nothing but facts and I stand by it.
I'm a Nigerian woman and I'm happy for you as long as he's a good loyal man BC most of our men aren't
@@therealone8628 Thank you so much! My grandfather on my dad’s side is from Nigeria too and my mom is white. The dating scene was so harsh from what I remember but I am in a happy place. Thanks for the love 🤎🤎🤎
That’s beautiful which you nothing but a prosperous loving marriage and family ahead ❤thanks for sharing
If a "man" has to demand submission, he doesn't deserve it! Honour is the seed..
So powerful!
I tell women this all the time. NEVER PURSUE A MAN.
Most of the time when a man asks a woman out, she believes he likes her, wants to get to know her.
When a woman asks a man out, he believes she want to have sexual interaction with him.
This is the truth.
Asking a guy out, then, having sexual interaction with him, you will be desired yet, not respected. A woman can be in sexual interactions with a man, be desired by him whenever he needs to get his rocks off, he won't respect her.
The very basic biology of humans is that the sperm chases the egg. Upsetting or going against this basic biology is asking for emotional pain in the worst way. It will waste your time & lower your self-esteem.
Fantastic watch - I'm in the process of learning to be single and digging deep on what makes me happy as an individual, as opposed to feeling a little empty in relationships where I have been bringing 70% to the table! Watching this really confirmed to me I'm on the right path. Thankyou RC