A WOMAN MUST NEVER PURSUE A MAN by RC Blakes
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In this video, RC Blakes discusses the negative effects of women aggressively pursuing men. He refers to this behavior as "the generation of broken consciousness" and states that it stems from a lack of self-awareness and understanding of one's worth. He argues that women who actively pursue men are devaluing themselves and making it harder to develop healthy, committed relationships. Blakes emphasizes that it is the man's role to pursue the woman, and when a woman takes on this role, it repels masculine men and attracts submissive ones. He advises women to let men take the lead and warns against misrepresenting their virtue and self-esteem through aggressive pursuit. He offers some remedies, such as being polite, well-groomed, and appearing interested when approached by men. Blakes stresses the importance of focusing on personal growth and purpose rather than desperately seeking a relationship. He ends by promoting his website, books, and mentoring program.
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Thank you for coming in today. Please 👍 share and comment. Thanks family!
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Dear Pastor Blake's,The Simplicity with your messages brings such Elasticity to the hearts of QUEENS.
I Appreciate You' Sharing this moment with Me' and My' Beautiful Daughters and Friends. GOD'S CONTINUEOUS BLESSINGS
@@ladysusanharris what are you saying?
@@angeliagreen5859 My apologies. Crazy phone🙂
Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you.
He does even have to tell you once. Don't DO it.
Ouch. I needed to see this
I needed to hear this
Amen … yes, I heard that from Judge Lynn Toler
I let him and I did pay the price, not anymore, now I know my worth.
My Grandmother, GOD rest her soul AlWAYS told me that when a Man is truly interested in you he will move mountains to get next to you. Sounded good to me...
AMEN
I'm sorry, but for me to move mountains for someone, I have to be passed for part where I am "chasing" her. If i am just getting to know someone, there isnt any reason to do any of that because the Woman has shown me that she deserves that.
100%!!!
Amen
@@eddielacrosse2 And if a woman is getting 2 knw of a man she jus met. Ain't no need of her holding convo about sex either until that man becomes her hubby, even deal. Amen Amen Amen🤗Now carry on Sir!👈
Mothers please teach your daughters to NEVER chase a man !!! Absolutely TRUE ‼️‼️ My husband pursued me and we were married 22 years until his death. ❤️🩹
Does it mean don’t call him if he doesn’t call? Does it mean don’t tell him how much you love and miss him if he doesn’t? Thanks
@@Realtalkwithlin Yes, child. Yes.
I actually disagree with this, women are supposed to chase men.
@@fonda7760 lol…maybe he just has a genuine interest sis
I agree 100%, is your okay Nadine is it how you pronounce that yeah that's pretty that's correct and then another thing stop having these unexpectations unrealistic expectations of the man that loves you don't keep testing it why do you want him to be perfect nobody is but the man above that's sitting on the right hand of the father preparing a place for us to go back with him girl I got to make sure my name is in the Lambs Book of Life I can't miss that seat I don't understand these women I think most of the women that want a man to be perfect they like men and women they're bisexual and a majority of the time if a man is heterosexual he's completely straight he's really not going to take up serious interest in a woman that like men and women no once he discovered they like both and he's a real man and he like women only he's going to dissipate out that woman's life that like men and women why do you want men to be perfect hell if I was a man and some woman wanted me to be perfect or I would run run for the Hills why do you want him to be perfect he's human that's unrealistic I'm sure even the best of couples they don't have some kind of disagreement disagree to agree like meet your man halfway y'all can like compromise and meet somewhere in the middle that's a healthy relationship first and foremost know God love you love yourself and then it'll be safe to love somebody else why do you want a man to be perfect he's human those are unrealistic expectations expectations he you want him to be perfect hell you ain't or you wouldn't even be making a statement you wouldn't even post such
❤When a man sense that you are desperate or emotionally weak, they manage and manipulate you and take advantage of you ❤
Yes
Amen
Had this, seen this, survived it and helped other women.
This is sad that men do this. They should be taught better than to do this
Exactly
"A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her." ~ Maya Angelou. 🙏💝
Beautiful
Amen 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Lovely !
Amen 🙏🏽
Wow nicely put
A wise woman once told me, " how a man dates you, is how your marriage to him will be" I learned this truth.
Wow!
Amen
I like to look at the treatment of his Mother or the lack there of by the man I'm dating.
WOW!!! 💖💯💯💯SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY GRANDMA. SOUND ADVICE…. YOUNG GENERATION BETTER WISE UP AND LEARN LIKE WE DID. STAY BLESSED & GUIDED ALWAYS
Wise words never thought of it like that
OMG, THAT LINE RIGHT THERE!!! "... Any man that you have to pursue, AIN'T WORTH HAVING!"
Lord He ain't never lied. I pursued my ex husband and regret it to this day. I should have left him where I saw him
Thank you Bishop 🤎🙏
Whew!! 💯🙌🏽🔥
You can say that again 👌💯
You all are too easy lol. Keep up that energy.
I used to chase men. One day I was running, with the intention of getting super skinny so a particular guy might be more interested in me (and I was pursuing him in other ways too), when I heard this voice say, "let them chase you". And I believe it was the voice of God. I stopped dead in my tracks and thought, "men would chase me??" I was confused as to why a man would chase me because my self-esteem was so low. Two babies to two different men later, and I am a single Mother who dated bums, clowns, and bullies. I am finally listening to the words I should have listened to long ago, "let them chase you". Instead of focusing on a particular man I am focusing on God and I am holding fast to accepting nothing less than a man of God who truly loves me and my daughter's. I have also realised the man I marry will love me for my heart much more than my appearance.
So true. Trust me I know how u feel😌
Yes ma’am 🥰🥰🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💗💗💗
Use to be me
This sounds harsh but you need to put effort into your looks. Men are visual. Just do your best. Some makeup, pretty hair (biologically, men are attracted to clean LONG hair) and get a manicure or do your own in an elegant colour (not crazy blues or greens but pinks or reds)... He will love you for your soul but you must attact him first. ❤
Please PLEASE read the book that changed my life called "Not your mothers rules" by ellen fein and Sherrie Schneider. LIFE CHANGING.
@@tracysnipes2144 women degrade themselves
"Any man you have to pursue, ain't worth having!" Period.
LOUDER
I think great men are more focused on pursuing their goals rather than a relationship. So if you want a great man you may need to pursue him or put yourself in his life. But if you want an average man he’ll pursue you and when he gets you he has no more goals or ambition because he got his “prize”
yet they all pursue the top 20%
@@jerseysteelfitness6927 go to bed.
@@brandonayyye3487 if he needs to be pursued, he is surely not a great man😂
My grandmother told me a woman is to be found. Never chase a man, he knows who he wants.
Grandma is right
Give grandma a 👊🏾 for me! 💯
Julinda, please ask our Grandma what kind of drink she loves . Everything on me her Granddaughter 😊😊😊😊😅😅 . Advice happily taken. Thanks Grandma
This is true. It’s not a woman’s place to chase. It’s a turn off.
Mhm
I'm currently 17 yrs old, and I'm looking for the real definition of "healthy relationship" because my parents never showed/ taught it to me, thank you pastor Blake.
Wow, you’re doing awesome. I wish I had thought about this stuff at your age.
The love of your life will lift you up and treasure you in good times and bad. You'll never have to wonder how they feel about you because they will make it a priority to show how much you mean to them. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Dear the world we live in today is wicked be careful out there you seem intelligent cause you are here learning about self esteem which is great I wish you nothing but success love and happiness take care .
When your relationship with Christ is healthy, then you will know! Seek him with all your heart, mind and soul. He will do the rest! God bless
You should be focusing on school and not relationships.
"Any man you have to pursue, ain't worth having"
Thank you pastor, I needed to hear these words today. God bless you! 🙏
If you carry yourself as the Queen that you are, you’ll attract Kings. Peace. ✌🏾
period！
Gotta look like one as well. That’s always a plus.
True!!!!!!!!!!
Just three years ago, I was out with this happily married could of 30 years, the man told me what you just said, word for word. :)
Not always true!! You can carry yourself like a Queen and the tigers will come. But you gotta know what cage to play in.
My Dad told me, A bird never lay her eggs on a tree branch, she always lay them in a nest. He told me to make sure the Man that comes in my life Married me first, put me in a house before l lay down with him. Thanks Dad RIP🙏🙏🙏
❤
Your dad is super cool for this 🕊
@@richaispencer2925 Yes he was,thank you so much🙏🙏🙏❤
😘😘,
😘😘,
My Grandma taught me a Man Pursues and a woman CHOOSES!!! And this word just reminded me of the virtuous woman I am!!!! He just got blocked immediately!!!🙏🏾
Don’t worry, I won’t be pursuing any man at all! When he pursues righteously, I’ll respond righteously ❤
@@MB-iv4mq LMBO😩😩😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Stop it!!!!
@@MB-iv4mqladies. This is the type of man that should be avoided at all cost.
If a man wants you to pursue him, he wants you harmed.
Choose a man who loves women not men who are using women.
When a man wants to be pursued, it means he doesn't want you and he is using you and he will dump you for a woman he finds attractive.
This type of man is no one's father or husband. They are destined for singleness
“If you work on finding yourself, you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else.” - AMEN!!✨🙌🏽👏🏽 So good.
This! I was gonna quote it myself lol 💕
REAL TALK!!!!!! SIS.
Good analogue.
My God today! Screaming PREACH!
Powerful!!!
The man God has for you will come and find you
Yep. Enjoy being single while it lasts.
AMEN!
You said what you said pastor!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🗣🗣🗣
Amen but Im 52 & never married. Still waiting.
@@GLeon-ov9yu he will show up when you least expect it! Be blessed!
I’m Jewish woman but I’m going to continue listening to these videos because they are extremely helpful and this is a lot of good spiritual advice regardless if I’m not a Christian. Much respect, this type of voice is heavily needed especially in this generation.
Shalom.
😌🔥
Absolutely. The teaching of Jesus are life-changing, in a positive way. Then a relationship with Jesus has been my saving grace.
No matter ethnicity or religion, these are truths that go back to Genesis, the dawn of time.
@@TheBthebabe definitely I agree , especially when my father doesn’t really talk to me about this
As a young lady who didn't grow up with a father, this was tasteful and helpful. 😇
❤ Thank you so much Lisa QUEEN for your Husband Teaching I'm truly Blessed praise GOD 👏
Yes, but also your profile picture isn’t the most appropriate to attract high value men. The show of breasts would attract those who would boyfriend you, or cheat. Because those are purely visual men who see sexual only. Try to elevate yourself and how you present yourself as well to get the right attention.
'If you push him into a relationship, you'll have to push him through the relationship!'- Ps Rob (From one of his other videos)
Soooooo true 👍
And vise Versa. If both just was there for fun and Sex. And then want to make a relationship out of it. And move in fast and it doesn’t work.
I did that exact thing 35 years ago. We are still together. I am the initiator. I am exhausted and his life has been a breeze.
Fact
Your messages are true masterpieces , and today this one resonates to me. I praise God for giving you the key of discovering women hearts and discerning their minds. These teachings have been shedding lights over my life.I love your character and cannot thank you enough for answering God's call , devoting yourself to the knowledge that brings eternal encouragement to women in the pursuit of happiness. Thank you my pastor cause you are now , my loving pop and my cherish leader. Thanks to your lovely wife who accepts to share you with we women out there.We absolutely need these teachings of discovering ourselves as women.Thank you!
If I have to pursue a man, then he's not from God.
Greetings from Ireland.
Words of wisdom to live by.
Never cast your Perils before swine.
Kind regards Kate. 👱♀️💕
I like your answer. Thank you. I needed to hear that. 🙋🏾♀️I agree.
Jo Ann👏🏾💝
Amen 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amen! Yes that's true
Amen
I really needed to hear this… I found myself falling into the trap of going after men when they truly didn’t want me in the first place. They love the idea that I had all the traits of a wife… I cook, I keep a clean house, I don’t have kids, I can sew… but they don’t find it necessary to commit to me. I have to take it back to God and remember my worth.
" a real man does not take pride in the fact: oh my wife ran me down and she caught me, she made me give in .." made my day 😁
I wish I had heard this before, it a good teaching indeed .Thank you RC much appreciated will pass it to my offsprings
Me too.a man said that and all I can say he is a clown
Lord I don’t know what is going on with woman asking men to marry them… I’d rather count every grain of sand on a beach before I do that…😒
Your comment made me laugh. It makes me sick seeing a woman asking a man to marry her. Talk about desperation.
It's easy to understand. If the women us sleeping with the man for any length of time, her power base has gone (or should I rephrase to say both of their virtual bases have been compromised). Personally, at that time, I don't think it really matters who does to the asking, because 'tings garn bad aready' ... Yep my origins are JA!
ROTFL
YES
Hahahahhaha
Let the man lead in the beginning so he will lead at all times.
But feminine man are very emotional they are good conversationalist and you can connect with them deeply no?
Masculine man doesn’t love talking and they have difficulty to open and express their emotions
@Just Michelle interesting perspective. I agree on that they are doble minded and they can’t make a decision. It is very hard to rely on them. I am married for 13 years to very masculine energy man and sometimes I wish he has that Devine masculine in him but he doesn’t. So I wish he was a little bit more feminine side to better connect. It’s not like a masculine man is an ideal man. I would say the ideal man is a masculine man who has worked with himself to balance both energies masculine and feminine but such a man are very rare I think.
@@geo.na_824 then those masculine men that say they masculine are really not- they just weak men not understanding who they really are. A real man will tell you exactly how they “feel” 🤷🏽♀️
@Just Michelle those are the “modern men” you speaking on.
@@sg5720 yes I feel you. Some man has a complex of not being man enough or masculine enough they try to mimic other masculine guys but deep down they are insecure.
1- Be polite.
2- Be well groomed.
3- Appear interested, when a person is interested in u.
Thank you so much Pastor for this teaching. Don't be a woman who needs a man, be a woman a man needs!
“You were so desperate for a man, that you did his job for him.”
Well said👏🏽
There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.
you said the correct word, "DESPERATE!" Chilling just hearing it said! 😱😵😌😂🌞
@@ericbreaux6124 you know that's true what you said but actually men are designed to pursue women. God made him that way I want to go against and pursue other things, like each other as in other men it interferes with the delicate balance I believe. There's a very Victorian kind of a notion that women have to wait to be pursued and and in other cultures where marriages are arranged from the time of birth, and people meet at the altar and having never known each other Med each other become friends those kind of situations where people adjust thrust together to make a go of it used to be the norm. Then time to change Free Will has coming to the Forefront of decision-making for relationships and pursuit and feminism has certainly played into this relationship ideal women will go after a man if they want them!
God put me with
A woman looks beautiful when she is being pursued. I know my worth and most men don't like that. They like it when you settle. I will never lower my standards for anyone.
Good on you girl
Don’t settle for less !!! 🙏
@@josee-mariehowman5234 I won't, I am of great value and God created me for a great purpose. Mishandling and misusing a woman is not part of it.
Amen
Amen Linda. You go girl!
Facts
When a woman is rejected, there is something broken in her heart and it will take years to heal.
Never pursue a man. The rejection is too much. Stay in your power
"Any man you have to pursue ain't worth having." 💥 BOOM 💥
I once dated a man who was snatched away from me by another girl....they quickly got married and years later got divorced. when i asked him what went wrong he said, its never a nice thing when a relationship or marriage is initiated by the woman. So you are right sir. Anyway i had moved on and another wonderful man found me, we have been married for 11 years now
Excellent word!!!!
You dodged a bullet - good thing
Wishing you blessings girl
AMEN. I WISH I GOT MARRIED , BUT THIS VIDEO TOLD ME ABOUT MYSELF. THE TRUE. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE 🙏🙏🙏💖
Yes I So Love This! ❤
When I met my husband 16 years ago, he told me that's why he was attracted to me because I was not chasing after him..he said I was different because he was use to women chasing him..and believe me those women had his head swollen..I had to bring him down to earth
What about if you pursued a little in the beginning but you stopped quickly? Do you think that repels the guy completely? Ask your husband please lol 😳
Mine too, my husband pursued me and did all the texts and calls. He said he never had to put any work in before. Now that we married I am training him how to apologize and resolve conflict bcos that too he didnt have to do in past relationships. I will bring him down to earth he is on time out. LOL
@@Cupid_ 😆😅😅🤣🤣🤣
Ok now sis, you know the deal!😉
@@MorenitaBonita19 Just try to take the advice that you were given and learn from it. Because the thing is if he is not hitting you up, more then likely he went on his way. It is okay to let a man know that you are open to date him, if you comes on to you, and you are interested. But don't pursue then. They know what they want.
In nature you never find the female chasing the male they have to work hard to impress her, another great video 🙏
I keep telling women the last month that women are so far off from being in touch with themselves. We started acting like men to please men and made ourselves available for whomever. I will not ever beg for attention or affection from a man. I used to and I will never ever do that again. I needed to hear this right now! I just broke it off with my bf because I caught him lying. I remember him saying he would never break up with me and if we split, I would have to pursue him. 🙄😂
Not happening. I can see clearly now!!!!
😂😂😂😂 girl not I can see clearly now!!!! Ik that’s right..
My boyfriend of 3 years and 7 months told me to take leave off work and told me the exact date to take it so that we can spend time together, only for him to forget and say he told me another date the 19th and 20th, I felt so disrespected cos he has never for once taken me on date as I was looking forward to the date but I had to call him to remind him only for him to say he is going to work..In these years we have been together ,we rarely see eachother,I have never met his family or his two kids, he always comes to mine...je has never made me feel special, his dog comes first and then his work and then his kids..and to be honest I think I lowered my standards which I shouldn't and I really pray for someone who will treat me the way I want to be treated...
The man who God has for you, has to have enough energy and motivation to pursue you.
I will write this on a note to myself so I'll always get reminded that I don't have to be worried and desperate. Ty
@@missphilanji4769 Amen. Would be great if you could only copy and paste it. God bless.
Amen
Whew! Yessss!
@@sogood5373 Praying for you 🙏🏾, if you’re able to, seek out counseling or a life mentor to talk to. You’re not alone 🙏🏾
My husband was my high school sweetheart and he chased me, a year after I graduated from high school, we got married. We were married for 33 years until he passed in February 2021 and we was as one.
Amen..! That was an accomplishment, and a blessing. Few have this testimony.
Wow , sorry for your loss and God bless you .
@@shanekamorris693 thank you
@@VictoriaNakaraKizer yes, I was very lucky and very well loved!!
Sorry for your loss. Hope you’re doing fine now. Stay positive and God bless you.
When I was 12, my Dad told me "Never tell a boy you like him". I obeyed my father without question. Thanks to him, I've never chased a man.
I cannot express how much I love this. I was raised by a feminist and the amount of damage... I've been unpacking so much in regards to the male/female relationship and the relief I've been experiencing in realigning to my innate feminine nature has been tear-inducing and powerful. My self-worth over the years was merely a facade for I never felt powerful, and the more of the lies I unburden myself with, the freer I become.
Feminists are often misandrists😢
You are describing an abusive person, likely with mental illness, and I am so sorry for what you went through, but that's not feminism. You were traumatized by abuse, not the belief that women should have the same opportunities as men.
@@audhdcreativity5899 Yes, You are indeed correct. That's merely a label she used to feel good about the choices she has made in her life. I had recently come across a phrase that describes exactly what I could never find the right words to express: enmeshment trauma. Thank you.
@@waterlilyandvine wishing you so much healing and love 🙏 you deserved better so give yourself the best care possible!
@@audhdcreativity5899 most feminists are mentally I’ll!
Mum always said " Never run down a bus or a man "
Ran down a bus the other day, twisted my ankle, child I was looking after, almost fell out of the stroller, because it was falling over sideways 😅, and to top it all...when I did get to bus door the driver said no more space on board for me.
SHAME and EMBARRASSED!!!😳
The same when you run down a man, you run him down only to find he has no room in his heart for you, and look what you had to suffer trying to get him.
I did that one time ,running after a man i called him he was talking to me but on another line his colleague was asking him about the girls he was with last evening.A few years down the line he wanted to get back to me still playin games this time thru' his Dad ,i thought if ur not man enuf to do the chasin sorry!
YOU PREACHING!!! THAT WAS A REAL REVELATION
😆 This just tickled me so, that I burst into laughter. Thanks for sharing🤪
Perfectly said!
Man, I love your analogy!!
My ex-husband chased me when were 19-20 years old in college like somebody crazy lol. We dated, had a daughter and were married a few years later. Although our marriage only lasted 14 years I look back and can appreciate all the letters, crazy stunts and phone calls I received when he was courting me. Now I’m 51 dating a nice guy who pursues me as well with consistent communication, affection, quality time, and kind acts. A very nice feeling indeed!
Girl bye sex before marriage..
@@teeramirez464 Umm duck wtf are you?!!!! I don’t give not one rat’s azz about you or your opinion!! Go back under your rock!!!
Im 54 sis and yes it is nice feeling I agree
That man is a simp ass. Pressuring a girl to be with him lol, in the future the relationship failed lol pathetic
@@Michellemybell739 she is right that God says fornication is a sin, but she is wrong and rude to judge and treat you like an outcast.
I might not learn from my mom or my dad or in school but I’m thankful that there are people like you that teach us the things that we were not taught for many reasons. I didn’t have a strong father figure growing up to have these kinds of father daughter talks, then at 10 my parents got divorced and my mom was too busy doing 3 jobs to care for her 2 kids. She was a masculine strong mother-father figure to me that I admired for years. My mother wasn’t aware of all the internal struggles I have growing up and how much they influenced me as an adult. I have low self esteem and believed I wasn’t good enough therefore no guys/men pursued me. Then when I hit 30’s I face pressure from the social standards, from the relatives, friends everyone that think I’m about to “expire” and I believed it. I believed I run out of time. I believed in the girl friends that encouraged “girl go put yourself out there, go get what you want, don’t wait for the men to pursue you etc...” so in a year I chased after 4 men and my heart got sicker and sicker. I dated a married man, forgot who I’m and my soul and destroyed my moral, then relentlessly went after a man that told me in my face that he doesn’t want a relationship with me and I cried in front of him, then threw myself at a man that took advantage of me sexually and said he can’t be with me, and another one that didn’t want a relationship with me but let me be with him anyways because he was lonely after separated from his ex and then dumped me for someone else. It was a year of heartbreak and sickness. I was sick to my soul. Everything you said in the video happened to me and I feel it like it was yesterday. Even after that when I met a better man who treated me a little better, he was too damaged to commit for long term relationship and ran away too. And yes I felt to my lowest. I invested in him so much, pour my heart out, got too hopeful and desperate to be finally married to a good man but it turned out I was chasing once again. Whatever the real reasons he left, doesn’t matter anymore. I have work to do with myself. And today I say screw the social standard and the pressure and the age deadline bs, I’m turning my life around. I’m not living in the cloud anymore.
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So true. Ive always entered with a masculine energy as a female and attracted feminine men. Its cute and nice at the begining but as time goes on i always realised i wanted a masculine man who can lead.
I think this rejection usually begins in a woman's childhood, when her father doesn't acknowledge, provide love, protection, and affection for her. She gets early conditioning for rejection and being masculine.
I totally agree, it's some time unconscious behavior because this what they did in the past as a child raised by emotionally unavoidable father
Or having no father in the home at all.
That’s me..
I also believe it could be from watching the actions of the mother and grandmother. If the mother and grandmother is not married or chasing men, there is a possibility the female child may do the same.
So true! That is where it started for me!
“If you work on finding yourself you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else.” 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
Pastor you making plenty sense. Great words of wisdom!
Amen
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"You will always attract the opposite of your energy. So a feminine man wont lead the show later down the road since you both didn't start out that way in the beginning. " - the best takeaway of this talk. Thank you Mr. Blakes!
I’ve been struggling now to recognise my self worth. I’ve been depressed over the last 2 days and asked god to help and this video popped up. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and more. Thank you!!!! 🎉
A real man takes pride in pursuing his future wife and finding her
Where can I find a wife? A virtuous virgin?
@ G B - You are supposed to get out there and pursue and find her . . . .
A real man seeks first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. God told man to seek Him first and pursue his God given assignment, not a wife. God will bring a wife when a man pursues God and his earth assignment
@ P O - I neither possess your religious upbringing nor your training, but I REALLY have to admire your sense of purpose, if that is indeed where it comes from.
Key word is "wife".
Men who purposefully hurts women, usually ends up paying for it.
@Don Urban Lol. Not all ladies do it, but yes it is something that need to stop. The enemy will use an unhealed heart to become cynical, bitter, and unforgiving on both sides. That's why we all need to seek healing from the Lord. Seek counseling/therapy of some kind. And build a healthy and loving relationship with Christ and self. And focus on doing His will and His will alone. And know that if it is His will. He will bring the right person in your life at the appointed time. Those that wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength. You have a blessed evening/weekend in Jesus name. God loves you, and so do I. And there is NOTHING that you can do about it.
Those men are called NARCISSIST!!!
I wonder if this is really true, cause I have seen so many guys that don't even cry when a woman cheats on him, call him bad names and so on and so on ❗❗❗
If only justice was so clean
Amen! Vengeance is the Lords and HE will repay.
I spent my childhood with a father who told me every day how worthless I was. This is so healing (and painful because I cringe at my past low value behaviour) to finally hear from a high value man what I should have been told as a little girl ❤
❤ A woman with virtue manages her sexuality carefully, doesn't loose her body with anyone, doesn't loose with her sexuality, he can trust her and believe he can be committed to him alone ❤
Yes! My father was working in a shoe store when my mom came in to get some heels. He made sure he was going to be her shoe sales person. When he put the heel on her foot and she looked at him, he knew she was going to be his princess forever. They were young. He worked two jobs and she was dating the governor's son. My father said he earned every date and worked just as hard for her as he did his two jobs. He won her. They were married all their lives. Three children later, my mother and father both taught us what gentlemen do and what ladies do. They were amazing role models and lifelong blessings as a family. My boyfriends loved my mother. My father never stopped working for her and my brothers learned to treat their wives like gold. They married well and are still married with children.
I love this story so much. Thank you for sharing. You are so blessed to have had such parents. Not everyone can relate.❤
Yass 😊
@@magnolia2 Thank you for your beautiful comment. Wishing you much love in life! 💕
This story!!!!! Thanks for sharing 🖤🖤🖤
But what’s your story?
Never allow a man to change your chracter just because you were hurt and abused by him! Allow God to heal you inside out before you meet the next guy,, if not you'll run him away because not approachable Do not forget your the prize just relax and the right one will come along!
AMEN!!!!!!!👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾✋🏿✋🏿✋🏿🙌🏿👐🏿✊🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥
Omg! This right here!!
I notice they try to change you..for example I dont cook..and I eat mostly protein..and they want you to eat vegs..and I dont want..howver its ok for vegetarian to not eat meat..but the other way round..WOW you have to follow the establishment ...no one questions Donald trump for not eating vegs however and neither his wife...but women yes are questioned..tell you how to save electricity because I steamed my eggs for 30 min while cleaning instead of boiling them for 3 min..it made me think the man would have a mindset of saving electricity all the time..
anyway I dont want a man like that..but many are like that and want to control..I know what I consume and its ok I can pay the bill..its not that much anyway
Facts men and women are the prize
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So true that a man can get rejected by women repeatedly with little to no effect on his confidence or sense of self-worth, but rejection by men will really chip away at a woman.
I’m not religious, but these videos are 100x better than all of those self-help ones made by women who have been hurt and now teach you to empower yourself in a woke, masculine manner.
“... manifestation of masculine energy in a woman REPELS masculine men” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I think when a woman is smart, and wise, this can be mistaken for masculinity, when a man is intimidated by her intelligence.
Not with all the men acting in their feminine energy all day everyday...🙄🙄
Right ! Giving the silent treatment and acting stupid instead of just calling the woman and saying “ Hey it hurt my feelings when you said blah , blah..,” I mean women do it to but Ijs... I’m reading a lot of posts on IG starting with if he doesn’t text back ...
@@crownedmelaninqueen typically telling a woman about your emotions is a turn off for them, and if he isn’t texting back it should be because he’s working on the things that make him attractive to you in the first place; his body, his job, his goals and hobbies. A guy that can text you back all day isn’t accomplishing much
@@brandonayyye3487 I agree, he should be busy with his own life. Hell , I can’t just sit and text all day, I want different kinds of communication phone calls, video chats, voice memos, on top of real visits. We all get busy , but show some effort and care. I should also be apart of his world , but not his whole world. I’m not even expecting to talk everyday. Every other day to two days is fine. It’s the 5 days of silence but even in the military it could be an email sent explaining a lock down .Essentially there are no excuses, I’d love when he can say how he feels or send a kissy face emoji. That’s sweet and vulnerability shows trust in my eyes. So bring it all to me...
My Dad told me that when a man loves a woman - that woman can do no wrong. He will gently talk to her about her flaws and if she loves him, she will see the error of her ways and be thankful. He will do everything to try and please her.
"If she loves him" . Most women don't contribute anything to the relationship.
yeah while she screws over him.. he will turn against his family that know whats she doing
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So true !!!
@@bracketvilletexas I see you have been played. That hurts. But, my friend, women do not have a monopoly on screwing their partners over. Men do it equally. I have found that the older I get, the more I learn how to be a better partner. But some people never learn. It doesn't matter if they are male or female. Don't let resentments keep you from seeing a diamond who is right in front of you.
No lies detected! This was wonderful and very motivating for us ladies to just relax and let the man who is for us come to us. Side note: never trust a man who doesn’t want his woman to look good lol
Insecure men
Everything, single, word spoken here is truth. I wished conversations like this were had when I was younger. Thank you 😊
My mother used to say the same, “never chase a man” value yourself as a woman!
Amen 🙏🏽
How about showing love to a man? Is that precluded too?
@@maxk5831 showing love is totally different from chasing
Where you are how do you get in this class that you are having
You are speaking the truth!!!
The men in my age group will pursue us but the moment we show interest they disappear so I thought I had to act uninterested to keep them, but it wasn’t fair to me because I couldn’t be myself. So I think those type of men are just dating for the sport to get validation from us to make them feel good & continue looking for the next woman to boost their ego. I think it’s emotionally abusive because my feelings are invested because I like the guy and he’s using my emotions to fill this insatiable void that’s causing him to do this to so many women. So now I know if me showing him interest turns him off to the point he’s ghosting me then he isn’t for me to begin with. I need to be with a man who is emotionally mature to receive love & not take advantage of it for selfish reasons.
These are the men looking for validation in the same way that women want to be affirmed and validated. Basically, these are feminine men because they are positioning themselves as women/feminine to receive what women should receive. I need to be with a man who is also emotionally mature, but this is hard to find. That's why we need to be sure that we are emotionally mature so we do not attract feminine men. God bless. Be safe.
Well said!🙏
@@reginayfavors That makes sense. Wow!! They are trying to get affirmation like a woman needs.
Don’t give up the cookie too soon.The moment they get it they don’t value you any longer.Hold out for as long as possible and don’t put your feelings into it ever.Put those feelings in selflove instead
@@girlnextdoor2836 The only change I'd make to this comment is about not "catching feelings with sex"
Sex is spiritual and you should WANT to explore many feelings with it. Bottom line being that you shouldn't be having sex with a person at all if you want to avoid feelings.
Bishop Blakes , my goodness. This was so powerful. So many gems and quotables. Sisters please take heed and dont chase a man down. I am living proof of the pain and regret that comes with it. Please do not do it!
Amen. I wish every woman and man could listen to this.
as a young lady I would always say, "any woman that finds a man...finds trouble." God didn't design us in such mannerism. 💯
My man is a free mason and Shriner. I'm white , and he is Black. He's also much older than me. I stopped walking to the beat of his , because he's just my boyfriend. This is creating quite a problem for me because I do not choose to get married although I do want to commitment and I'm going to key to the house what should I do?
This relationship is not for you. Run. Unless you yourself are into the “dark arts”. He will influence you. Negatively. Just MY OP.
Not everyone "fits" the traditional gender or gender roles. We are fortunately getting away from gender roles. The LGBTQ community is the group pushing the most against gender roles as now the genders are blending and that means less gender roles. I advocate feminism, which is a misnomer as intelligent, rational, intellectual, transhumanist and futurist males also can be feminist. And btw, bowing down on one knee isn't necessary to propose. My husband didn't propose. Due to my disability I was unable to work so it unfortunately was up to him to decide when and if he would marry me. We simply talked about it and set a date.
@@jodyblanchard2754 Are you laying with him?
HE, who finds a wife, FINDS a good thing...
Any man that wants to be CHASED or for me to come to HIM, is not the man I NEED. Period!
Any man that doesn’t want a woman to love herself is not a man. Very simple.
Facts 😇
Amen
EXACTLY
I left a whole husband for this same thing ☝ #NoSir
Thank you for this wonderful reminder of us women knowing our self- worth. It's easy to forget in this society, but very true and on point. It never works when a woman pursues a man.
Thank you Bishop,for reinforcing the responsibilities of a man.🙏🏾
Feminine energy makes you attractive to a man
So true
Absolutely. I dont understand masculine acting women
A king will never be pursued by a queen
A king doesn’t chase a queen
@@busydem6161 Being chased and being pursued are not the same.
Really and what might those differences be?
@@busydem6161 If you are pursuing someone, there's a mutual interest, could lead to a relationship.. If you are chasing, that person is running away. You'll never obtain a relationship if you're chasing someone
@@Lovetheonewithin Buzzer sound
The "Ole Stuff" is the "Good Stuff"!!!❤🎯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 The wisdom this man provides is Priceless!👑💯🕊️
❤In pursuing a man you get disapproved and rejected and your self esteem is gone and whereas a man can take uncountable rejection
, one after another untill he finds her virtuous woman ❤
Yep
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I pursue no ones. My grandma once told me, "only build a relationship with a man who loves you more than you love him"
ONG MY BABY SITTING USE TO TWLK MW THIS ALL THW TINE AND I STILL GO BY IT BUT I AM ALWAYS CONFUAED CAUe I never loved before and I was thinking maybe it is so drilled in me !!!!
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@@MB-iv4mq I 💯% agree she doesn’t even realise how toxic and demonic that ignorant advice is.
@T Smith Oh yes indeed! Extremely selfish, defensive / guarded and Jezebelish. Furthermore if this is the mindset of a believing woman then society has little foundation to build a family on at all. Very sad to be honest and they way she was able to just put that statement out there like it was nothing is truly sickening 🤢
that’s toxic af, why wouldn’t you wanna love him just as much???
My dad said to me.... "a princess never chases a prince". I felt that.
A princess has to be found.
@@orubek355 I'd be a virgin had I never chased a man. I'm 32.
Yo daddy was wrong princess
I guess your daddy never heard of Boaz and Ruth
There are exceptions to every rule. I approached my man first (something I would usually never do) and we are getting married in two weeks. Because I approached him I was careful to fall all the way back during our courtship so that he could pursue me and take the lead. We are happy and he is the head of our relationship in spite of how it initially started. My point is is there are always more than one way to “skin a cat” and while I do not recommend women pursuing men, it doesn’t mean that the relationship cannot thrive.
You didn’t pursue him. You approached him by putting yourself in the position for him to pursue you. Those are 2 very different things. Women used to do that all the time back in the day by dropping their napkin or even smiling or winking at a man from a distance. Then they immediately ran after that woman to pursue her.
Come back in a couple of years to share how your marriage is going. That’s what will tell the real story not the fact that y’all got married. Plenty of people get married… and then get divorced. As a woman you should never promote women chasing. Period. It’s harmful to us and promotes men acting like women and even you don’t know how this marriage will turn out. Everyone thinks they found the one in the beginning due to lust and Infatuation. This means nothing.
Absolutely right!!!
I wish you a blessed, fruitful and relaxed married life.
@@violetselene244 There are no guarantees in marriage regardless to who did the pursuing.Depending on one's level of maturity some grow apart.We seldom talk about expectations before marriage and most often it's to late after; what you see and accept from the start is what you get.
@@violetselene244She clearly said she didn’t chase him and that she fell back during courtship.
This message touched my soul! I appreciate you so much Pastor Blakes. Some of us did not have examples and are learning from trial and error. I appreciate God leading you to do this, it is so needed and greatly appreciated. Peace and Blessings to you and your family!!! Gonna buy your book "The father daughter talks" and anything else you have. I am a supporter!
No, it’s not working! I pursued one man and that was a disaster of a relationship! My current husband asked me if he could kiss me for the first time. I never showed up at his place uninvited. We did eventually move in together, however a month into he asked me to marry him. It all happened so quickly. I fell in love with him the minute he asked me if he could kiss me now and 11 years later I know that this man will protect me and love me with all his might.
Wow, that’s beautiful!!
A true king and queen I love this
Wow that's great definitely God send you to me i was asking myself what's going on it seems i must always text or call is like I'm desperate i decided to distance myself.
My mother chased her husband, and it took him 10 years to marry her! 10 YEARS! I ignored my husband and I was engaged 4 months later! So allow the man to hunt you, don't be so easy, nothing makes a man happier than to hunt for his woman!
10 YEARS? WHEW! 😀
@@deebojo3382 I would have been gone
@@devinesent7696 Me three! 😀
Did she get desperate and put roots on him?
@@bilderberg_news4775A off the wall comment! Yawn...
I wish I was taught this growing up. Sex and relationships weren't spoken about in my family so I went into adulthood with no idea what I was doing. I chased the man I lost my virginity to, and he ghosted me the next day. The rejection stayed with me in my subconscious my entire adult life and affected all my subsequent relationships. I finally found a feminine embodiment program that helped me move through it. Ive been letting men pursue me now, and the difference is night and day. Im much calmer and happier by staying in my feminine space.
Now i feel so embarrassed of my actions in past!
I appreciate how you give advice WITHOUT degrading women. 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you for the perspective!
yes! The advice always hits differently when it comes from a man of God who actually loves and respects women.
He's very respectful of everyone. I'm not a christian but he's so wise I love hearing him talk.
Yeah, what you said….he’s not loud and preachy…and he’s clean.
@@sylvannagreene8437 and the minister's ALWAYS GIVING CREDITS 2 His wife, LISA! TYVM! 😂😍🌞
It dont matter which way a man give the message, today's women dont want to hear and apply it to their lives. Nice attemp tho
Do not care what century or times we are in, this type of Bible teaching never gets old or out-dated..Thank you Pastor Blakes
my name is nkosie barnes am from antigua wi i came to know u during the heat of the covid tru my parthner a teacher and talking to her about some of u and miles monroe teachings she stop talking to me
i think u are a blessing and healing for many of us who wernt listening or paying attension over the years
@@nkosiebarnes4869 Well said!
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The Bible is our blueprint for how to live our lives.
i don't know about y'all ladies but hearing him feels really like talking to a father to me
This message is off the charts! Liquid truth....in it's purest form.
“Any man you have to pursue ain’t worth having”
This is one of my take aways lol
So true
Correct! xx
Point blank period
You sound like a lameo... Cause you aint no real woman real woman chase little girls play hard to get
There is a very fine line between "flirting" and ""pursuing"
Flirting should be in response to initial contact by the man IF, she's interested. Pursuing is taking the initial steps.
So very true!
I recently broke up with my partner, and after couple days I started to watch your and other youtuber's videos. I have to say thank you for helping me to realize how much I didn't value myself. Also you give me hope in my future, and showed me where I have to aprove and fix my behavior, get back to myself, upgrade myself, and work on certain things, on my weaknesses, and main problems in my relationships,and life general. 💖
I’m worth finding & treasuring…PERIOD Just bcause a man can’t see our value does not mean we are not valuable..
That's why I'm single. Not chasing a man, but in times of the Internet that's what men expect. I can remain single, no problem at all 👍🏾
No we just want effort
Most men are visual, so they like cute, pretty, someone who looks good to them and well built. Most like a sweet, funny, intelligent personality as well as supportive. If a woman has this there are men who will pursue. Not all men, but most want the above. Support and respect and look at the man with a true heart but a smart mind, that means a lot. Just my two cents.
@@brandonayyye3487 I would like to know your definition of effort in this context. What the OP is referring to is the energy given by a lot of men these days is that a woman initiate and pursue.
MY definition of effort in this context means that on the part of a woman; we let you know if we're interested and engage with you accordingly. I take your response to mean a woman should initiate. If a woman pursues a man she's operating in masculine energy.
You have to decide whether you want a woman that moves in masculine energy or feminine energy? But that starts with knowing yourself as well.
Hello!!
I swear
1. When a woman pursues a man, it's a manifestation in the woman of a pure masculine energy; 2. When a woman pursues a man aggressively, she is misrepresenting her virtue; 3. A woman who pursues a man is misinterpreted as a desperation; 4. The potential for disapproval by a man will shatter a woman's self esteem; 5. When a woman pursues a man, it relieves the man of the basic responsibility of leadership.
thanks for the recap
A woman chasing a man is seen as easy
Thank you for this summary 🤗
@@noddybrown3074 No she knows what she wants and is a mature woman
Wtf u talking abt, my gf approched me 3 yrs back & we still together & I lead, she follows
Self love will win everytime!!
I just found you yesterday and wished I had these messages when I was starting my dating journey as young adult of 18 Lord my heart wouldn’t be so harden. But I’m grateful to learn now and know what to do and not do. God is for sure been doing a lot of healing for my heart for sure. Thank you pastor 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
❤❤ I agree!!! I needed this message as a young adult
Any man you have to pursue ain't worth having.
But he’s not pursuing you, so he doesn’t desire you. Why pursue him? It’s his job.
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 It doesn't necessarily mean he's not worth it maybe the one that's pursuing he feels is not wife material and he's looking for a wife like the bible says.
Amen
Exactly! Either he is not masculine enough OR he is not interested in you. Both situations are not worth a feminine woman's time, energy, or heart.
@@feminineallure6763 thank you love
I'm 29 years old and I'm still a firm believer in a man pursuing me! I know my worth and I am the prize. This was amazing!
I agree with you on that one!
Me too! I will never pursue a man.
Women are the prize the world wouldn't exist without us
speak on that worth you talk about.
@@norm1815 no sir I won't. What God has for me is for me specifically. 😊
Thank you so much for this! So many times people tell women not to pursue men but they never say why nor do they give resolutions, let alone have word to back it up. I'm in a season of being more intentional with God and being content in my singleness, and you pointed out every single point on why I failed so much in my past relationships. It's because I was trying to lead, not intentionally but because of the type of heart I have I thought it was the right thing to do. So thank you so much for letting God use you it's well appreciated
I have surrendered and submitted to my singleness as well...
@@shonjackson9395 👏👏👏👏 Definitely Praying for you! it's not easy lol but it's worth it.
You spoke up on this one sir! “You thinking it’s for a lifetime when it’s for the night time” smh hard lesson to learn! Ladies if you haven’t yet learned this by experience….please take heed and understand your value!!! ❤️❤️❤️
My Lula use to tell me “ the Sperm goes to the egg, not the other way around“ . Good video. ❤️
Haha that’s great and so true
So true
I never thought about this before, this is so true💝
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And a seed is planted in the ground. A plug gets plugged into a socket. A socket is stationary. If the connection is right you get what music lights etc. a man plants seeds amd a woman nurtures it. The saying what. Man outs in a woman will
Multiply it.
“When a woman is in her masculine energy to the extent that she wants to pursue a man, she misrepresents her VIRTUE” ‼️ The entire video was great, but this right here was a WORD!
This is what I put into my MIND to be a woman to guard our VIRTUES👍🙏😚
It could be that it's a red flag for us to ourselves!!
So very true. I had that before and we let it get away from us. Don't think I'll ever find it again. It's so sad. I miss my ex husband so bad. Never wanted to get old and be alone. Never thought I would. :(
@Renee Honey Ah. I never thought of it that way. I see how black women must feel now. Thank you. I never understood that before. Just prayin for us all to understand each other better and ALL OF US come together. As the one Race that we are... THE. HUMAN RACE.
@Renee Honey ,dear honey this is message for all woman regardless of colour.
Are you sure that you LOST a GOOD MAN,are you sure ,really?
There was a little story I heard about two tears flowing down the stream of water.
One tear asked another,to whom does she belongs?
She said I belong to a girl that lost her man ?And you?
The other tear answered -I belong to the girl that got him.
You see in time you will see if any of those three men were meant for you ,you wouldn’t loose them ,and even if they were and got lost ,good riddance to them and their finders.
Life is still in the front of you,listen to the Pastor again and again until you get the essence of the message.God bless you!
As the woman who had to walk away, hearing this made me cry it was healing!