The Plight of being A Chubby Black Woman In South Africa
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- čas přidán 25. 02. 2022
- Being a chubby woman comes with its own unique challenges. From society feeling the need to police everything that chubby girl eats or wears, to old men finding young chunky girls sexually appealing and not to mention the disrespect of being called "fat".
Host: Ursula Mariani │Instagram: / ursulamariani
Co-host: Sibonganjalo Bonga Botha
Guest: Nonkululeko Mpetsheni-Mautsa │ Instagram: / chunkygirldiary
Co-producer: Sibonganjalo Bonga Botha
Co-producer: Babaland
Editor and Technical Director: Given Masilela │ Instagram / givenillustrative
Assistant Technical Director: Silo - Zábava
Please don't be scared of making the video's longer - these conversations need to be had, and heard. LOVED EVERY SECOND OF THIS!❤
Wishing this channel to grow beyond imagination!!! I’m watching the SA actors and mental health conversation now.
I LOVE THIS CONTENT!!!
I'm from Malawi and I can relate to all these... Being sexualized at younger age by older men just because of being chunky
I feel so validated, seeing someone who looks like me who has gone through similar struggles as I have and is so strong and can stand up for herself. Fat shaming is real, I’ve always struggled with my weight coz I have thin cousins and 1 of my sisters has always been thin, so I always thought I was big even when I wasn’t, now that I am I find myself reminiscing of when I was thinner, I hate being fat shamed, I hate the conversations of weightloss but now I don’t feel as offended as I used to
A topc that's always ignored is petite/thin ladies and the struggle of disrespect we face. The discrimination, especially from other women. Why are women so harsh & judge towards each other!? Can we talk about how difficult it is to gain weight this please!
Lol no one cares about us lol
Yes. So many Jokes about us needing to “Eat”. And not looking like a true “African Woman”
I love how you are in touch with your emotions on this ladies. What a subject, I felt sad by the question that Ursula posed, "feeling grateful to be loved since it seldom happen for chunky girls". That is so touchy, but I don't think we are seen as less attractive but rather that those who adore us as chunky are rare to come across.
Definitely had a lot of "Ah Haa" moments,one of them being my biker shorts that my mother got me in different colors, she was trying to protect me, the baggy shorts that went up to my ankle almost as though they were not my size or even made for girls, all of that was tp protect me. Thinking back and listening to you ladies has me feeling validated, like how did we all go through the same experiences??
Thank you ladies.
And to think chubby girls, younger than us, of a different generation go through the same? Still!?
Thanks for watching Zenani!
It’s sad that they still go through body shaming, I remember Thickleeyonce talking about the comments she gets online about her weight, this bothered me. For me she is a Body Positivity Ambassador for us, I look more like her body wise and weight wise so I felt represented by her and the fact that she still gets body shamed bothered me, but ke it is what it is, it’s like wherever you go you have to be ready with a comeback if someone comments on your weight.
Nooo this was too short!! ❤️❤️ I enjoyed this ladies.
When you said "that rubbish" that took me out lol great convo ladies.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 it came from a deep place
Nodding my head and screaming because it feels good having other validate how I've felt and experienced for so many years. And being the only plus size person in my family has often felt isolating and just exhausting 😮💨
Its so exhausting! Having to explain that you’re the younger one! And having people say really? You are bigger than your older sister. Trrriiiigggeeerrreeed! -Bonga
@@theconversationcapital yyyyoooooooooohhhh🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️ that's the one it just kills me everytime!!!!!!!!
You have a beautiful voice Ursula and pretty.
Oh my gosh! Loved this! Would love a part two, it’s so lovely watching you guys talking and having so many epiphanies like I’m really part of the conversation. Amazing amazing conversation!
Hey Kitso! Thank you for watching! We will definitely do a part two some time.
Nna ke rata Bonga ka pelo yaka kaofela!!! ❤ ❤
You are all beautiful ladies and I appreciate your confidence ❤
aaaaaaawwww I am so glad to hear (read) that. I appreciate the love. Thank you for watching and loving the conversation capital - Bonga.
New favorite show🥰🥰 im really enjoying this channel maan. Also Ursula onale voice e monate and unique i really enjoy listening to to speak
This was such a great conversation!! Can we please have a part 2 so we can unpack more.
Hey Basi!
We will definitely have that noted down ❤️
Ii need a part 2
I would love to sit in this room with this incredible cast of women... just to be involved in such healthy and intellectual discussions. Love this channel...I will Binge it all today
Omg, how am I only finding this now🙆♀️ I am officially hooked. How I wish I could've been part of this conversation❤️❤️❤️
Just discovered your channel today and I looovvveee your topics. Only thing, I'd love for them to be longer.
Black men all over the world love you my sister including me.
When I saw this title I knew I had to watch this cause im a size 30 and in my view chunky girls are winning like on social media, men seem to prefer bigger women, and in alotta stores like Woolies I dont have a size...It goes to show we all have our struggles and we need to judge people less and not assume their personal experience. Thank you for sharing ladies ❤
No, ladies 30mins is too short. Maybe 45 - 55 min? That's still digestible in 1 go.
Greetings from jamdown. I just love to hear you ladies speak. Big up yourself Bonga
Great conversations, well really appreciate if you make them longer.♥️
Enjoyed this episode, could relate to almost everything. ❤
Loved this conversation, how about part 2 and maybe add gents as well.
Oh how I love 'chunky women' I just don't see myself with a skinny woman NEVERRR. As you were talking I could relate with all your stories as I was always the tallest guy in class and in the neighborhood
I enjoyed this topic so much. I was today years old when i realized why older men approached me. I always thought i was intimidating because i was very spoken for my age😮
Loved this 🥰❤️
Love your conversations ladies ❤
I love your sense of humor 😂.. i enjoy and learn from conversations and laughing at the same time. It lightens my day ❤
Re kopa part 2.
I think we definitely need one! Thanks for the love ♥️
❤❤I stumbled onto this podcast and I immediately felt at home ,feels like having chats with the girls ,keep it up ladies ,amazing 👏 🙌 🎉
Welcome home ♥️
Part 2 please!!!😍
This opened a lot of wounds especially being sexualised by older men it happens to this day.🤮🤮Being big is such a thing for other people who aren't big I wonder why ? I like my body and I always have but other people always seem to be the one with the problem.
I enjoyed this conversation so much and it is so relatable, thank you. Can we please get more details on Nonku’s boutique?
Hi Avela, please contact her via Instagram: @chunkygirldiary @blackallsa_
Woow what a beautiful conversation ❤
I think being referred to as "fat" is a new societal phenomenon. Going a little back (without revealing my age), I think people were not discriminated by size. The fashion industry is the image created by foreign mentalities for us, especially in the female section, to start looking at weight, comparing ourselves to those models. Isn't it wrong to be comparing ourselves to other people, other racial groups? Must people from the Eastern block are, in my terms, skinny. Do they want to get plus-sized? I think the "fat" mentality has been implanted in us by societal changes. My 2c worth
You have a point, especially considering that fashion standards or trends are not defined by Africans mostly. On fashion and comparing though, we are not comparing ourselves, we are saying the market does not serve us fashion wise. The problem may lay in the fact that we do not have enough, affordable fashion made by Africans, for Africans because I am sure they would better serve our market - Bonga
@@theconversationcapital absolutely
This episode got me so emotional😢
I was also a size 34 in varsity and wish I still was. For me the disadvantage is that I’m into fashion which is more catering to size 32/34. I’m currently size 38 and as someone who’s into fashion I don’t know how to dress for my current size let alone feel beautiful in this size.
Parents 'allowing' their kids to be fat/overweight at a young age & letting it get worse as time goes on Is A Failure On Their Part.
Then again, they don't preach nor do they practise living a healthy lifestyle. We only see this on social media or on TV
But as an adult, the only person to blame for you not having good health is yourself. You choose what to eat, when and how much to eat. You choose when or how often you exercise, if you do.
Be Accountable For The Choices You Make As An Adult!
It's YOUR responsibility to maintain good health, mentally, emotionally & PHYSICALLY! It's your responsibility to educate yourself on the benefits of living a healthy lifestyle
I believe one day I will be part of this team 😊Mark this😍
This episode needs to be continued Ursula😂❤️Please go deeper! Im 19 turning 20 next year,Ke size 34 and im scared im getting bigger by the years and i keep on trying these weight loss thingies, le gym ya palla!!..Can you talk more about your experiences on how you tried to lose weight and how it would work or on how its could be a waste of time other than just embracing oness body as it is
Please please please 🙏🙏
Ursula is so funny😂😂😂😂
Oh My Gosh!!!!
I think chubbier women as much as I love them tend to assume that skinnier women ‘eat anything’ and that is not true. I would actually like to talk about the insane discipline fit and skinny women have but I know that’s not a comfortable conversation to have because we ‘have it easy.’
I feel seen!!
Please invite Min Ntokozo Mbambo Mbatha
I would love to come on your show ❤
I really feel validated as a chunky girl♥️
This is the Most Beautiful Woman in South Africa Right now...... ❤❤❤❤. I've said it. The rest might be Pretty, Sexy or Thirsty wat ever.. But this woman right here is Absolutely Beautiful end of.
When someone calls you fat, they are saying they think you're overweight. They're not saying you're defined by your weight.
I think there is space to teach others to be less judgemental.
there should be space to tell people not to be overweight as medical advise.
you are free to be whatever weight you want, but unfortunately the world will have consequences for your choice. you cannot the divorce the 2.
Could you please guys have this conversation again. Plp think being chubby is caused by food. I have being big since I was born and I tried everything to shred some kilos but nothing is working.
I've never been chuncky in my life and I doubt I'll ever be however, I have always envied big girls,the way they move,sit and have presence unlike me as a size 28 trying to be a 30.I get excited when I gain a bit😅😢 Big girlies I wish I had your problems❤❤
😂Ursula yhoo u etsa hore ke tšehe mathata aka... im very new to this platform, and im staying, InCommunityofProperty...
I stopped ballet because my teacher kept saying squeeze your bum in 😢bathong
That rubbish!😂😂😂
l love plum women as long as you are healthy and if your not just get healthy ....
My future wife
Ay andazi..... Are we embracing or appreciating or covering the bad or good? What's the point of science, dietitian, nutritionist, right or wrong. If we can sit and justify whatever we justify?
Let's just descend to anarchy, with no boundaries, no rules.
Triggering 😭😭😭😭
Honestly this episode is disappointing to watch. You guys were completely off the mark on this. You can't allow yourself to gain weight and when people are telling you(what already know) that you've wa kwata. I hope you've changed your ways. If you wanna lose weight, be aware of what you eat and do, simple. And lastly, there's no such thing as "I've been big my whole life", it's lie you tell yourself.
Much love.
I love chubby women, my mother is chubby and beautiful
Conversations I wish I was exposed to in high school🥹 so validating🥹 thank you for this conversation ladies❤