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Before I started watching this channel my confidence was in the trash. I traded in my everyday t-shirts and sweats to sun dresses and sandles with pedicures and all that and the response has been mind blowing... What started off as a silly experiment has been life changing Thank you Cloe 🤗❤️
And Thank you for this TESTimony💕
Many do not feel that they can change but oh you have just proved it wrong!
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I love sundresses and sandals I been wearing
Wow thank you for sharing this!!!!
Right!
It’s has changed how men approach me
I just want to say just because your not your crush's type physically doesn't mean your ugly. Don't let one man make you compare yourself to other women and make you feel insecure. Be yourself and stay feminine. You are somebody's type.
Love this advise and message 🙌🏾
Amen 👏👏👏👏👏
Needed this ❤️
I really needed this ❤️
I actually needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏❤️
Update: I’ve lost 18 lbs so far! Yay!
This video was right on time! I’ve just accepted the reality that NO ONE will support me on this hypergamous & femininity journey. Everyone in my life benefits from me as a BW being a mule. I’m dedicating the next three years to getting my feminine appearance together (100lb weight loss, skincare, hair care, etc.). It sometimes hurts that I have no one I can talk to or having friends who support my journey. So thank you Chloe for being the only motivating force in my life right now! ❤️
Yeah right on time not a second late
Hey my love. Give yourself 6 months. Then after that add another 6 months. It’s a lifelong process regardless but when you say “three years” it sounds too lofty and may cause you to feel like you have “all the time in the world” which may lower your consistency. Do it bit by bit. Focus on something different for each month.
@@nessawithsmiles Thank you for the advice! Three years is not just for weight loss. I’ve lost 18lbs in the last month already and my over all goal is to lose 50lbs by the end of the year ( 5 months) My three year goal is to get my teeth fixed, skincare right, network, go on dates, work on my feminine appeal, etc. There is a lot more encompassed in there besides weight loss 🥰❤️🙌🏾
Sending lots of love and blessings towards you. I am exactly in the same position as you where there is nobody to support or understand me. I know exactly how that feels. Don't let yourself to be too conscious about how alone you are. There are always new ways in front of us to find new friends and support.
@@deenadream I will be posting soon on my CZcams channel but I have been following this Nutrionist called Gauge Girl Training ( she has a youtube) she teaches you how to eat and train for your specific body type. She has changed eveything for me 😭🙌🏾
I get my confidence from my parents. Growing up, I saw how they took care of themselves and always telling me how special I am, how beautiful, talented and proud they are of me. I always reward myself with candle light bubble baths, going out to my favorite 5-star restaurant and making sure my home is peaceful.
I love this!!
That is amazing! Consider yourself blessed!
Well lucky you!😒 ...Yea I'm hatin 🤣....wish I had that growing up. But for real may The Most High God continue to bless you and your family. Have a good day 😊
Me too! ❤️
Same, same! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Ladies!!! Today was the first day I said “no” to a man wanting sex before relationship/ marriage. I’ve had 2 partners so far and they were a waste of time, I learned through experience that’s it’s best to wait. I’m so thankful for you Chloe, your videos are truly changing my mindset. Much love! ❤️
I am proud of you girl...I had a similar experience a few weeks back...he tried to shame me for turning him down (I am abstinent) and asking how long am I going to continue withholding sex...anyway we can feel proud that we stayed true to ourselves! 🤓
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Its not like your a virgin but okay
I applaud you! And you don't regret it Honey.
I am abstaining to.
Ladies, if they want to they will wait I have had relationships that didn't involve set one 8+ months and the other nearly 2 years and neither of them ended for that reason I know it can be hard sometimes when everyone is saying that it has to happen but it really doesn't
Since starting my feminine journey I’ve been actually walking more and watching what I eat and the weight as been falling off even fit into old jeans and I’m 20 pounds away from my goal.
So proud of you!!!!!!😊😊
Congratulations
Beautiful!!
You go girl!!! I had a good walk yesterday!!! Walking is great for our mental health too!!! 🤓
Good for you girl 👏👏👏 ! Keep up the good work, you'll succeed !
the earlier you start taking care of yourself the better.
Ameeeen. I understood it last year at 23 y/o.
Chloe, I recently had a falling out with one of my “friends” she just cut me off out of nowhere. I’ve been nothing but nice to her and I found myself just overthinking how did I make her mad? After a lot of reflection, I realized that God has a way of taking people out of your life. I enjoyed this video bc I realized being friends with her wasn’t helping me evolve. She benefited more from me then the other way around so it’s really her loss.
PS- I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and I really love who I’m becoming. Mindset is everything. Thank you for your content.
Asia, if your friend cut you off with no dialogue attempt at resolution and no reason given. He/She was not your friend. Not in their eyes at least. That is how you break up with associates.
@Asia Bryant
My cousin did the same thing. One day we was straight and after that she just cut me off. But it's cool I had previously asked God to remove her from my life some months earlier because of other things so this how it played out. Honestly she's really never been for me like that anyway. I kept dealing with her because she my favorite cousin but I know in my heart the relationship is not good for me at all. And she has stop talking to me out the blue on a few occasions. 🤷🏾♀️oh well. I'm GOOD!!!
@@purplereignsupreme6990 hmm I mean it depends on what happened. People can do some
outrageous things…after that there really is nothing to talk about 🤷🏾♀️
@@renreads7211
Yeah that's true but some people are just childish and don't know how to communicate with others. And if we suppose to be so close if I did something wrong at least tell me and if we can't rectify the situation then we can go our own way.
Sis I had this happen on several occasions too I wanted to make a video on how friendships are conditional anyways it’s not worth being nice to people who don’t reciprocate ive had peace of mind by mirroring their behavior instead 🤷🏼♀️😂
I maintain my confidence by steering clear of negative or toxic people. I have more work to do in order to be the woman that I want to become.
However, I am at the place where I do NOT care about losing "friends". In addition, I accept who I am without the approval or validation of others.
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I don’t think you can even realize that you saved my life Chloe. I was on the edge after spending my entire childhood being humiliated, disrespected, gaslit, and isolated. I actually would get into trouble for being feminine (wearing dresses, makeup, baking cakes) because of my messed up culture and their gross expectations of women. I had so much social anxiety. Because of this, anyone that so much as just had a conversation with me, became my world. I had been so ignored so many years, simply talking back to me felt like love. Even if the way you spoke to me was extremely disrespectful. I so desperately wanted friends and people to love me. After watching you for just a few short months, the horrible heavy feeling in my chest has significantly subsided. I basically eliminated 99% of my “friends” who always made me feel so badly about myself. I have a newfound hope and joy I used to have before evil people stamped out the beautiful light I have inside. So many tears and pain that wasn’t mine shed not just with this video, but your other ones too. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing lives and the trajectory of lives. You have no idea. You have become a part of my life story and I pray one day I get to meet you so I can hug you and may god always bless you.
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Not crying-yes Chloe is our Hero!!!💖🙏🏻
@@colleenfremont-smith3783 she really is!! Her advice is priceless.
I’m 5’8 curvy I love my body! Some guys want shorter girls or real skinny but Its never stop anyone from approaching me. When I was younger being skinny was more in and even tho I wasn’t fat my curves weren’t seen as Desirable but now OMG curvy is in! And I get a lot of play lol. Society changes all the time. Love yourself no matter what! Take care of your Temple!
@@investirenafriquedepuisloccide lol “ high value men” interesting
Why do you use the word “skinny.” Somehow ppl who are over weight want to be referred to as “curvy” and anyone who is a size medium or smaller is suddenly “skinny.” It’s insulting. We won’t call you fat, heavyset, pudgy, or obese, so don’t call us skinny. You can use words like: slim, smaller physique, fit, and slender. Thanks.
@Handle18880 you mad cause you a stick 😂
I just wanted to say before watching this video. I've lost roughly 50 plus pounds since watching your videos months ago. I just want to thank you for your content. I'm happy to be apart of the hive 💜
Blessings beautiful
Congratulations 🍾🎉🎈🎊
@@beautyroses8771 Yes! Thank You Queen 🙌
Congratulations keep going! I’ve lost 18 lbs so far 💪🏾❤️🙌🏾
@@theredrubyclub congratulations! Keep up the progress. I'm happy for you love 🫂
Well done to you. 😘
Chloe you have definitely helped me grow in my feminine energy. For me, I definitely need to work on boundaries more. I’m beyond scared to speak up for myself. I’m not for sure if something happened in my past which stopped me from doing it now. But as an adult I need to do better. I also need to be okay with everyone not liking me. I’ve dealt with this since I was a kid. As an adult, I can tell that other women and even men can fear and dislike people with confidence and/or a calling on their lives!
I'll be 50 in two weeks, I feel like my confidence is stronger than ever. I was a people pleaser for a long time. Know a dibbie out my time to some people and hang out with people who we equally support each other.
Another great video Chloe ❤
I have often been criticized for speaking "proper" and using correct grammar and have even been told that I should quit sounding white. In the past this would trigger some irrational and insecure feelings but as I matured, I realized that my face is my canvas to the world and my voice and dictation are the what people will use to determine whether or not I know my own worth.
@@nelixsulu6201 I totally agree. Correct grammar is necessary in this society where everything you say is looked upon as politically correct or incorrect.
#1 Be Your Own Best Friend - YES!!!!! I absolutely love my own company.
A lion(ness) does not worry about the opinions of sheep. I've learned that in this "likes" and "loves" driven society, you can't win them all--and that's okay. When you're busy posting your life, you can miss out living life. People also don't like when you're body confident (first hand experience as a former athlete). Co-workers make sly comments about me bringing my lunch and the damn size of it because I care about what goes in it. I realize these comments come from those co-workers shaped like Ms. Pac-Man or an ice cream cone. Awesome vid!
hahahah shaped like a ice cream cone...I'm over here cracking up
Facts
Lol it's just because your self care reminds them of their lack of self care so instead of doing something about it they choose to be triggered and act out instead lol...I have had the same experience.
Omg! This made me laugh 😂
Trauma dumpers! I never heard that term but wow that’s the perfect term. I knew it was toxic but couldn’t put my finger on it. We are not qualified to absorb trauma of other people. Recognizing unhappy people, and recognize the source of criticism. Wow! I needed all of this 🤯
Self- forgiveness is my struggle
Listen 🎧 to the Ho’oponopono Meditation 🧘♀️ for self forgiveness & to manifest miracles.
It’s a life changer!
Namaste 🙏🏽
When I was in my 20’s I was a major trauma dumper. My mother has passed and no family. My friends had grace, I’ve learned people don’t have the capacity and I started seeking out professionals for the help I need. It’s ok, to be friends with people who are sad because we will all be sad at some point and we too will need grace.
Loved this video, I recently cut ties with a low value man after 4 weeks of dating. I could immediately tell that because he was older than me, he tried to be manipulative, and used certain tactics to tear me down/get a rise from me! I simply did not engage, and made the choice to move on. My well being will always come first along with MY goals. I cannot have a low value man enter my life and try to take this away from me. Thank you Chloe!!
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@Elon Nicole ❤️❤️❤️
I released 30lbs* this year and the body dysmorphia is up a few points. Learn to love yourself at every stage.
Y’all please when on this journey, stay away from negative people. Those negative people will bring you down and also make you feel responsible for this insecurities. Smh
I will listen to this again and again until I am an actual confident woman rather than someone who pretends to be. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I really appreciate the points about trauma dumping and being your own best friend.
Just pretending means you are on the right path. No one has to know that the confidence is not quite there but you. Eventually the confidence will come. Love & Light 💕
Same I will listen to Chloe again and again until I'm brainwashed by her messaging! 😂
The most beautiful thing you wear is "Confidence "...
I have lost 44 pounds (20kg) and now I actually feel happy with my body. I still have about 20 more pounds (10kg) but its okay.
I just loooovvveeee myself. Like a lot lot and I value myself too. I dont tolerate nonsense or anything. And feeling confident in myself just feels so liberating and free.
I am a Malaysian lady. Thank you Chloe. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You go girl ! I just started my weightloss journey today. I just wanted to congratulate you because what an achievement this is. Wishing you continued success on your last 20lbs.
I love Chloe a million pieces! May her life be blessed a billion fold! Thank you so much for what you do, remaining authentic, and using your voice as a revolutionary platform!
Amen🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏽 She is a blessing
Amen
Chloe is the big sister and I never had although I have sisters
I am so grateful for this video because I had a few rejections before which really destroyed my self worth
I'm 16 so now at least now I have better things to focus on
Boys/men will always be their, my childhood won't so I will enjoy the rest of it
That's right girl!!! Focus on being the best version of you and ENJOY your life!!! You are young and some (boys/men/girls/women) will try to test you but always listen to your intuition and keep up with wise women like Chloe_ , Salkis Re and others who focus on the internal level up as well as the external 🤓
Thank u for the encouragement
I hope all is well with u Queen
I know a woman, recently divorced and single mother of two, tried to tear down my confidence when I made it known I was dating someone. I recognized her hurt and the reason why she was miserable, I secretly wished her healing and decided I no longer wanted to interact with her. She’s been trying to be “friends” with me ever since smh
Wow you’re mean.
@@sweetiekie6799 not at all.. I just recognize misery when I see it
@@imophelia sorry all I’m hearing is that you blamed a black woman for a black man abandoning her, and his children.
@@sweetiekie6799 yea clearly you heard what you wanted to hear instead of the point I was trying to make. A black woman attempted to tear my confidence down and sabotage my relationship (several times) because of her own life short comings.. idc what I’m going through in life, I would never be a “misery loves company” kind of person. But I appreciate your point of view
Those who LOVE to remind you of your past mistakes are not your friends and may also be dying inside from their own mistakes and the negative voices in their own heads.
“Go tell them to step on a lego” 😂😂😂
I like how the video's title is body inclusive (though being healthy is obviously encouraged). Women tend to want to wait to be confident until they're their ideal "body goals" but you should be confident at all sizes!
yes, i'm very naturally thin and want to gain a bit of weight, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't be confident now and see other parts of me as beautiful!
This has been very hard. I’m overweight and no support nor encouragement to lose weight.
Go for it. Do it for you and you only. Block out everybody else and remember why you started. Good luck with your weight loss transition.
There's a lot of support online hun, give it a try if you feel you need it
Go to the gym or the park is always free put on some music sometimes we gotta motivate are selves when no else wants to. Write down your goal weight take a picture of yourself like a before and after
I felt like this as well. You just have to do it! If you need any help hit me up! I’ve lost 18lbs so far 🥰❤️🙌🏾
start by doing only two meals a day. come off white bread and white rice. play youtube exercise videos and start walking. do baby steps.
I love the advice of disengaging! That's exactly how I navigate social media. Report, Block, and Disengage. Why let things rattle you??
I go to the gym but my figure is not the skinniest but people always say they notice how confident I am
Thanks Chloe.
I tell myself "oh well" when faced with negative, confidence-draining people. I either move on or treat them with quiet politeness (i e. long-handled spoon).
I have a co-worker who is toxic--I speak to her, give her eye-contact and always have a light smile. I do not deal with her.
This is how you do it
Thank you Chloe. I’m 2nd year in therapy and I still have quite a way to go but I must say that therapy is good for self respect but not very supportive on hypergamous journey. Therapists see becoming a ‘full package’ for that man and wanting a provider as shallow and codependent. So I don’t talk about it anymore but just heal my issues.
Interesting therapist perspective!
Try to find other nationalities. If they have a richer national background, they might understand and go beyond the books, that they have been taught.
Still a certain firm or masculine side has to be developed.
I had confidence growing up in Haiti then I lost it when I came to America at fourteen then due to so many hurt and bad circumstances it just got worse now I am beginning to heal and slowly get it back recently cut off all the situations hips I had they both were white dudes now I am learning to love myself and heal while waiting for the man who is meant to love me the way I deserve
I'm with you sis 🇭🇹
Trauma dumpers!!! I just encountered this and I refused it. She was upset but not my problem.
Lol she said go step on a lego….. that really hurts 🤣
Therapy taught me that I was raised to put the interest of others above my own, I am still in therapy and it is the best thing that has ever happen to me. I used to be emotionally dysregulated and lack self-worth due to have had a crappy childhood. Now I can tell when a guy does not have my best interest and I can get rid of overly narcissistic people in no time whereas b4 therapy I would allow these people into my private life to use me. Lately, I can make healthier choices and I don't share details of my life with abusers anymore.
Another gem! Confidence is key may sound like a clichè but there are few statements that are truer. My confidence comes from knowing that I am filled with Devine feminine energy. My crown Goddess has one rule: love yourself. Whenever I need, I refocus on that and my life gets right every time. Love yourself and you benefit. Love yourself and your loved ones benefit. Love yourself and the world benefits. Just imagine what the world would be like if people even just liked themselves… If you are reading this, may you be filled with the inner knowing that you were born kind, capable, worthy and beautiful. 🌻🐝🍯💛
I love your name
“Keyboard banshees” killed meee!!😂😂😂I was just trying to fall asleep to her knowledge.
Chole did not lie. The story of my life…Jaded and miserable people love company. Ask yourself does this person add any value to my life? Block. Delete. and Ignore / Avoid these types at all cost in-life.🏃🏾♀️x
Literally right on time! I finally cut ties with my trauma dumping, narcissistic ex bf and I am now at a place of self forgiveness, healing and soul searching. I realized I really sold myself short during that relationship and pushed aside many of my personal values just to appease him. Now I'm finally at a place where I'm putting myself first again and remembering who TF I AMMMMM! 💪 Stay up ladies, we got this! ❤️❤️
I'm in a similar situation as you. She is not a narcissist she's a really lovely caring person. The issue I have with her is she keeps getting into relashionships with dusty men. She complains alot but doesn't do anything about it even though she has been given great advice over the years. This has been going on since we were 16 we are both 34 now. Today before even watching this video I told her I need some space as I can no longer hear about it anymore.
Omg,i never knew trauma dumping could take so much energy,when i stop talking to that person.i feel so much energized, n less 😟 😰 😟 anxious.
A very much needed video. Will definitely be passing it along to my 19yr old daughter and 11yr old niece🥰
I'm actually very playful and joke alot. People often enjoy my company 🤣🤣🤣 my best friend is a trauma dumper. Today I told her that we need to take a break as we are not adding value to each others lives. I would be stupid if I'm still listening to her talk about her dusty in the next 6 years when we are both 40. I love her I wish her the best but I can't.
That's the best gift you gave yourself...travel light.
@@Sunshine_INFJ thank you 😊
Hi Chloe, I had a childhood friend actually repulse and repel me away from her by all her excessive use of profanity, her harsh and vulgar comments about relationships and men. She would always try to belittle my feminine ways and the softer I spoke the harder and mean she was. She noticed I just cut her off, and she contacted me questioning what I hadn’t invited her out. Ans she actually had the audacity to to say she will pray for my jealous spirit! Honestly I couldn’t think of a think she has had or has that I would even remotely want, so I assumed like you stated in the video, misery loves company and that she was actually projecting her jealously towards me. I should have known to release her months ago when she told me she’s not like me, she has had to work hard for everything she’s got! And that’s a shame because she was married twice, and me just one time. I’m unfortunately now divorced, but my ex was extremely generous with me. I’m thinking that’s what she’s mad at too. SMH....
This was a wonderful video Chloe. I just journaled on most of these topics and being my own best friend was number one for me too.
The comment section 🥺😍
Your worth is not in your shape.
Women, you are human beings, stop selling yourself short!
It was the “go step on a Lego®️” for me! Very timely! Thank you
Dust bunnies, dusties and keyboard banshees!!!
Recognizing all of these traits within myself at 24 makes me happy. Especially coming from a complete different world, but I made it my point to heal & be the best version for myself! ✨
Love this video! Confidence is key and we have got to stop letting other people shake us. I’m getting healthy because I want to live my best life for a long time and not for anyone else! Thank you for this video!❤️
Yeeeeeesssss to ALL of this!!!
Chloe, I listen to your videos over and over lest I forget this valuable information. 23 years old & never had anyone tell me this ✨vital✨ advice. Happy I get to learn this early on. Praise God
Thank you, Chole. Your messages are always so motivating and encouraging. Your channel is more than just teaching femininity but helping us realize our biggest self.
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Love this Chloe! New Yorkers love to say kick rocks 🤣🤣🤣 I used to say this a lot when living up there! Unfortunately, my family has a lot of negativity and it’s such downer especially since you don’t want to trust any and everyone with your information but it’s just as bad if those “close” family members are so negative and jealous they are of no help as well.
I’m so happy my career gives me the time to work on these things. I make 10k a month doing credit flipping & I have so much more freedom for self care ❤️ thanks Chloe
I'd love to learn how to do this! Can you give me some info please?
Yea teach us young blck girls how to make money like you.
I personally enjoy your sense of humour and the way you describe things, such a delight 😆!
I’m an hourglass ⌛️ but I’m fat lol 😂 but don’t worry I’mma get it together! 😎
Chloe thank you again! I needed to hear this so badly! No settling!
Lots to reflect on. Thank you for posting.
This video hit home today! Great Stuff here Chlo’e
Just what I NEEDEDDDDD!!!! Thank you Chloe❤️
LOVE this. Thank you Queen!!!!❤️
This was amazing and so needed! Thank you ❤️
I'm so grateful for your advice and guidance, Chloe 💛
Chloe's back! Yes!
Always a good word and on time. THANK YOU.
One of your most helpful and informative videos yet!! I am replaying this over and over until I get this info is a part of my life
This video is speaking to me very loudly! Glad I can hear every single word & put it to use! Thankyou Chloe!💎🤗🙋🏾♀️
I love the organization of your videos: a dive into the current problem and then a in dept discussion on how to owercome it. Your truthful and direct words are needed.
Chloe as always, thank you for your wisdom and words. Stay Blessed
Yes to this video!!!! 💯 Thank you Chloe!
This video came right on timeeee thank you so much!❤️❤️❤️
Love how I was just having a conversation with my spiritual advisor about me working on having a positive body image of myself, and then this pops up!
I absolutely love and appreciate how you go deeper than the physical in feminity. 💫
This video is right on point! I had these experiences and loved myself more each and every time!!!
Chloe’s videos have changed my life. Hearing someone articulate your intentions is so helpful 💕
The timing of this video is impeccable! Chloe you’re really out here saving lives & I cannot thank you enough. Love you 💕
Thank you for properly explaining shadow work. I have ask people in the past but when they explained it I never really grasp or understood what they meant until you explained it for me to understand.
I am doing this now even though I know my flaws etc I will write them out now. Thank you Chole!!!
Thank you for this perfect video!
Simply A CLASSIC.
I really love you chloe and appreciate, your channel is one of the first classy and feminine and mostly sportive channels
This is such a great video. Definetly gonna rewatch until everything is nailed into my head lol
I just want to say I love it here Chloe. 💜 It’s just so crazy how much I’ve changed for the better because of you and others like you. Thanks for doing what you do.
Speak that truth! We are worthy Black Women!! I'm a new subbie! I love this channel!!
Thank you soooo much for sharing your wisdom and insight Chloe! I will forever be grateful!
EDIT: This video is SO timely! Wow!!!
Your channel is literally a God send! I REALLY needed this! Learning SO much! Thank you for dropping the knowledge 🙏🏽
I love this video! I struggle with confidence and after talking to my therapist I went on CZcams and this popped up. This was divinely posted to allow more women to grow out of their shell!
This reminded of me of things I knew within but at the same time something I needed to hear. Thank you, to me you’re better than most. I resonate with what you’re saying. Have a bright day! ☀️
I needed to hear that intro when it comes to replacing therapy with youtube videos... thank you so much ma'am
I’m already liking before I start listening!! I’m so excited 😆 ❤️
My love, you are always on time. Thank you for being you Chloe. I appreciate your advice and wisdom so much!
I see Chloe is absolutely in her BAG with this video 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾
Liked before I listened. Chloe never misses
This video is everything sis
Thank you sis 🙏