Afraid Of What The Narcissist Will Do Next? Do This
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- Afraid Of What The Narcissist Will Do Next? Do This
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One of the scariest things about narcissists is that you have NO idea what he or she will do next.
When cracks have appeared in your relationship, or you have separated, then abuse from a narcissist can REALLY heat up.
You may have already experienced the cruel, terrible acts that are designed to hurt you deep within your soul life, and emotions and threaten everything that you love.
How can you know what will happen?
How can you prepare and look after yourself?
In today’s Thriver TV episode, I am going to help you understand the TRUE way you can predict a narcissist, as well as finally keep yourself SAFE from one.
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The WHAT IFS keep you crippled..
Crippled with fear
Does anyone else out there ever wonder... with the time, effort & skill your narcissist has exhibited, what they could be & achieve if they used their narc "skills" for good & positive purposes?
It baffles me because if they did, that would fill their need for attention, self-esteem, & praise.
Then I realize, they are just pure evil, -- empty, soul-less shells. Their true need is to be the source of pain, fear & unhappiness.
For me Narcs is always the same when I resist them. I focus on myself and happiness because they try to pull me down in their black hole when they see me moving on in my life. Its like a competition with them. They will never try to work on themself but they will compare to us and destroy what we have build.
So true. Thats how predictable they are.
@Free Spirit I just saw your notification today. I learn to put the focus on myself to be protected because I guess they see us like a savior to pull our energy all the time to fix them a narc told me this one day ( you are there to fix my void lol ) imagine.
Sick of freezing in frustration.
Trying to leave house for uni. Scared of getting off train and finding him there in carpark
Hope your good and safe, love from Holland💗🤍💙
After going no contact with my narcassist, he came into my workplace and applied for a job there. Pray for me.
Oh God. You are in my prayers 🙏
That’s the most terrifying thing. Hope you reply to this but are you okay? That’s what I’m also scared of.
That's horrible, why will the police not do anything?
They have absolutely no introspection they are blinded by there own needs regardless of others.
Edith Nagy
That is so true 😣
Introverts are recluses to the covert narcissist. We're just recharging and healing.
I’m terribly afraid of my narc ex… I pretty much won the lotto and I’m afraid that she’s going to find out how happy I am and come ruin it. Those people HATE seeing their old supplies or victims happy. They hate it. Your happiness cause them deep hurt. Your suffering gives them comfort. I’m definitely scared
The saying “what you resist, persists” and I have learned what she’s talking about is true. Inner healing is key❣️
Heaven helps the man who flights his fears, this works on so many levels. ☺️
Love that. May God protect us from these evil people.
Melanie, you may have just saved my life. No joke. You are a qquuueeeennnn! Thank you thank you thank you!
I searched the words "afraid of my narcissists days off" and this was the first video that popped up and I'm truly grateful for your words, thank you for the comfort i needed in these moments before their day off as i sit awake all night in fear... I truly needed to hear this, so grateful for CZcamss platform and for all you do to help all of us Thrivers around the world 💯👏💫🌟
, if you know what you're afraid of, and deal with these fears they can't scare you. If they can't induce fear, anxiety in you they have can't control you ..
I lovingly handmade a toss bouquet and a garter for my daughter's wedding. The entire time, I KNEW my ex narc was gonna do something to make the wedding less fun for me, and sure enough, my ex narc caught the garter and his new supply caught the bouquet. They shouldn't have even been in the contest! I was careful not to react, because that is what he wanted. But still, he knew how to get me where it hurt.
Yes, Yes! I very recently “washed my hands” of the dirt and low and behold, it seems that she (the neighbor from hell; that I share walls with) has also moved on. She had tried to hover, but I stood my ground by not even looking her way or making her believe I did not hear her comments, and she has lightened up. I continually told myself, I did nothing wrong. THANK YOU, for your continued education and reinforcement. 😁😊😀🙃🤪
It moved out looking for greener pastures of Narcissistic Supply from elsewhere
you did the right thing! No contact or even looking at them is the best way, but keep in mind to stay safe, so if they are threathning, leave and contact police.
This is the point I’m at. I’ve got nothing left to lose, so I’m working on myself. When he does or says anything that might scare me, I have to realize it’s just his game. He’s dead to me now. I’m older and our son is older.
The phrase I heard from you first and try to emulate is to be “unbothered” by my mother - happy to say I accomplished that when I had to see her at a family thing after being no contact for nearly 2 yrs. It felt very natural and easy because I’ve been doing the work on myself and not trying to figure out what she might be up to. Thank you for being a mentor to so many of us working this stuff out 😎
I look forward to being where you are in the process. I've only been no contact for a few weeks and have refused an invitation to a family reunion of sorts just to avoid exposure to the narc's emotional manipulations. Congratulations to you!
Your videos, Melanie, it's like I am talking to myself. I religiously watch many more CZcamsrs for narsisistic topics, but with you, your way of dealing with this evil is equal to my way. Motherly and classy. Just like me. It's like u r my future talking to me. Thanks.
Thank you SO much. This gave me the confidence that I can finally escape my fear of the narc.
In fact, working on my brokenness is the only thing I thought would make things better - then I watch this and you tell me the exact same thing, so I'm feeling confident!
Much love and health to all.
Because he always said "I will ruin your life".
He has no friends. Only enemies. So I have a good reason to be afraid.
Channel Tools No don’t let him project onto you ...remember the God inside of you is bigger and stronger than he can ever be ...never let his words play on your mind that’s exactly what he wants .stay strong nothing is forever this will pass xx
Amen
It's hard to get to the point to say who cares when the Narc has possession of the children
matt mitchell prayers
Yes, that’s why I’m here… and this video isn’t helping.
This is beautiful Mel, I am healing from the inside its beautiful to actually starting to feel amazing and free. It is the truth and I love the truth.❤️🙏
That's just gorgeous Luisa. Youa re doing such a great job with your dedication to NARP! Continued blessings to you xoxox
It's definitely an inside job; so within so without. Inner work is the key, I am planning to get your book :)
I've conquered my fears to the point of being willing to let the whole family go if necessary, but my sister still hasn't disappeared...And my attempt to go "no contact" with her is just "food" for her to create her "favorite things"...namely disappointments, chaos and divisions within the family...for which she will then "heroically mediate" (if history is any indication) in such a way that will leave everyone involved feeling terrible and/or powerless and/or guilty THAT IS UNLESS they have been convinced that she's their "hero" and, as such, feel indebted to her.....Either way, it will leave her feeling "sufficiently fed" and "safe" until the next round. I do realize that she cannot do this single-handedly...The rest of the family are each playing their own dysfunctional roles in this drama.... Would you say that their unwillingness to address the issues is reason enough to go no-contact with all of them as well? I have to tell you Melanie, my biggest fear has been, for quite some time, of not being able to live with myself if I were to just "walk away" knowing that there are those in the family who just don't seem capable of seeing just how destructive this toxic dysfunction has been for me ...and who may be deeply hurt, due to that lack of understanding. I don't know...maybe going "no contact" with all of them is what it would take for them to actually "see"it.....and if that doesn't end up being the case, maybe I just need to "let myself off the hook" for their feelings about it? Yes! I think that may be my answer...I cannot be responsible for their feelings...let alone sacrifice my own sanity for them.
Don’t tell the devil your fears. I told the Marc I never wanted to have another abortion in my life he swore if I got pregnant he would be there for me and step up. Well now he got me pregnant and he says he will not a da** thing to help unless he is absolutely forced to. He will be kicking and screaming the whole way too I’ll never get to live in peace as long as I live. It’s a nightmare what they put you through, absolute hell on earth
I feel the Divine Angels and Divine Spirit Guides are Guiding me and protecting me and All important beings in my life 🙏.
The Narcissist will not come near me 🙏🙏🙏💞💕💞
Thank you Melanie 🙏💞💕💕
Thank you, you're amazing. This is just what I needed.
I've supported my daughter and her 5 kids for decades. When they turned 16 they left as they refused to put up with her abuse mental, physical and emotional as I've now done. Even although I've never influenced them, she's now turned (as is usual) viciously upon me. She's gone on Facebook for the world to see and told a truly fabricated story of how I beat her as a child when I was always drunk and gave her black eyes. She grew up with 3 fairly older brothers and as they say 'would we have stood aside and watch that happen?' Shes destroyed my reputation far and wide and I can't do a thing about it.I'd decided to leave once and for all and this viciousness has floored me. My husband and I have a good reputation and she's labelled me as a highly abusive drunk. This has all solidified my resolve to totally disconnect from her. Even my young grandchildren have shown more sense than I.
You and your wisdom shared in your videos played an absolutely integral role in saving my life. Xoxoxo thank you honey xoxo 😘
It really makes a distinct difference, in the aftermath, with who left whom.
If they leave you, they seem to also take the power.
Hi Jill-anne, I totally agree the trauma of being discarded can be devastating sweetheart. I hope this resource can shed more light on this topic for you blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-closure-when-a-narcissist-discards-you/ Love to you xoxox
@@MelanieToniaEvans thank you. Good to hear an Aussie accent. I'm Cdn, he's Aussie. Dumped me whilst I was back in Canada to look after my dying Dad. For someone he had " just had coffee with, twice". In the middle of the night, on Facebook Msgr. He's moved and taken all of our things and won't give me his address. Cut me off. I don't know if she's living with him or not. Can't get back to Aus with the Virus. I do have permanent residency, but since I have no physical home to go back to, it's a mess.
I still encounter people in my local area and from narcissistic breeding grounds of origin which I don't want much to do with, but I've gotten a lot better at expressing myself. A lot of that has to do with being able to access healthier cultures even if for now mainly through Internet and reading.
I've always been anti-authoritarian to the narcissistic patterning of society. It's part of my heritage. The difference now is that I own it better and have less internalized arguments.
"Bang two fishes over your head" made my night
Taking my narcissist to trial and watching him stumble over himself and incriminate himself just by talking was worth $20,000. All he did was talk about himself yet he said he was there for custody of our kid. 10/10 would do it again, highly recommend. You don't even need a good lawyer just be calm and let them bury themselves.
I believe in God, and my God tells me to fear no man, especially a narc who clearly has a demonic streak in them 😁😎👐🏾🙏🏿
My son is demonically afflicted. Truly. He even called the evil in his dreams. He has affected our family so badly. But no longer as we all set our boundaries and he moved out. He always plays the victim.
Usually ? Sass , lie , cheat , steal , mug , assault , sexual harassment YIKES ... Jesus I cant tell you how much that used to be a thing before it stopped . Now I gotta decide how im gonna make money and help my family survive for the next few years .
You’ve just helped me so much :(
Shpuld I not watch these videos ? It gets me wondering . Is this toxic or painful this is narc content n I just want to be able to comfortable feeling like this channel will help .
How just how? that’s hard since I also happen to have BPD and my kids are 10hrs away with him 😢
I thought my friend broke free from her ex . She was happy and bubbly at the casino but after covid,he emerged like a Gistapo. In a public place,he mentally strong-arms her and is aggressive, controlling, jealous, and a wacko!
Your doing a wonderful job, though. I think your advice is primarily to help people who haved/ had Narc husbands or wives or partners and much less for folk in other circumsances. Even so your more than worth a listen so keep up the good work.
Hi Grace, Please know my program works regardless of who the narcissist in your life is. My informational videos cover a range of situations but truly, it doesn't matter who or what they are what matters is you. You can heal and my programs will work for you no matter the outside situation because we address the subconscious programs in ourselves to heal. Once we have determined we've been abused- then truly the focus goes from them to ourselves- the only person we can heal. I'd love to show you how. www.youcanthriveprogram.com/freecourse
Love and blessings xoxoxo
In my case I couldn’t sleep just thinking what will be the next move of my ex the narc! When he was happy and singing I was shaking I know he was elaborating something! It was a real nightmare, even now I have nightmares!
Thank you so much for this video. You just told me exactly what I needed to hear and it couldn't have been so clear. I know that what you say is the truth because the truth always hits home and there never is any doubt about it. Are those invitations you send out for the new people or for everyone? I have been a member since Nov 2015.
Hi Theresa, you are always welcome to join in hun! We'd love to have you! Love and blessings xoxox
Today he had our cable provider changed without an OK from me
Thats why I like yoga because I started looking within.
She stops me seeing the kids. Anytime she is not happy she makes up a lie and I don’t see my 7 and 4 year old .
Melanie so right another great video beautiful lady 🐈💕🌷🌸🦋
Thank you, Mel. You're the best ♡
Very good message thanks
The key is to have the right attorney. Been through 3. He has taken me to court and threatens to if I don’t sign my finances away. Lost my home and retirement. Attorneys ineffective to this narc. He plays a better chess game. He wants me to fold and back off. He has won.
If you can let them speak for themselves without being guarded by a lawyer all the time it really helps. They bury themselves talking themselves up all the time in front of judges and they don't even know it's not normal cause they do it so much lol.
This is someone who is severely undetected. But sends me messages of the stolen items. They watch my every move.
Constant Battle!
Thank you ♥️
How to do this healing then? I have this weird innate fear of even talking to my narc abt anything serious but he turns the convo into something fun or flirty.... That's comfortable coz that keeps me in a cage. As soon as I talk abt boundaries, it goes south 😂👌
Shinj, I'd love to show you how by inviting you to my free webinar www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar where the healing is explained xoxox
@@MelanieToniaEvans girl thanks I'll look that up right away
It's funny and on one hand it's just fucking insane that there is no way to make that person happy except to just listen. It only makes me hate that I opened all the way up so quickly and now it's like wtf focusing too much on what can actually make this person happy. Nothing.....😌🤐
Timely, good to hear.
My Narc. is not a romantic one, but a family one. It is my Daughter. She is trying to "control" me like her Father used to, (Her Father and I are Divorced). This was over 20 years ago, and I think this is when the situation started, so why now? I am the victim of Parental Alienation, just when I thought I was getting content within myself. I have withdrawn from the relationship, so maybe it is lack of supply.
Ann, many people who have been through narcissistic abuse experience this through family relationship dynamics. This resource can help to address 'why now' which is everything to do with our unresolved traumas sweetheart. I'd love to invite you to join me in my free healing webinar melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar so you can understand more and how to heal and breakthrough this. Love and blessings xoxox
❤Thank you Melanie🤗
Thank you!
Time proven truth in this video.
For women and men. Everyone is included in this content.
Love and respect.
" AGAPE " ✨
Christian Rondow 👍
My narcissist was just a friend not even close one still he is forcing me and manipulating me to marry him and his sister is also involved with him ! I'm thinking that I should start calling him brother from now ! 😂 jokes apart I'm always in a fear what he is going to do next ..he hinders my education by not letting me take admission in the course I wanted to do and I was the one who helped him in his studies and even helped his sister too and this is how these ppl are paying me back ... I'm scared that he is going to come back again so that again he can stop letting me take admission as he did before ! And I'm sure he is going to do all sorts of drama there also by crying and stuff by portraying himself as a victim and I don't know what to do how to stop him ! Please somebody help me suggest me something if anyone has a solution to this issue ! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Melanie, it's "As within, so without" not "So within, so without". 😊
"noe" ..."Paypul"...."cay-as"...😅
He's made his first threat ten months after we split up. He wants to do something bad noone is taking it seriously
what is wrong town ?
It simply means "that doesn't work" xoxox
Can you continue living with and being married to a narcissist if you become anti fear?
No. Get out now
baby5968 I’m getting out now. I just went to couples therapy with my husband and he twisted everything I brought up. He told the therapist that his always saying, “I never loved you” was his plea to get close to me but in reality it was cruel and he would say he was just being honest with me. I think the therapist was a narc too and didn’t even take issue with my husband telling me I shouldn’t be alive but took issue with me being sick from the stress and not being able to keep up with paperwork for our business.
Nope.😎
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she has baited questions daily wanting me to bite
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This is the only channel that supplies strength and doesn’t increase my fear!!!❤️🙏🏼