Not Tonight, Honey

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  • čas přidán 11. 05. 2016
  • Contrary to popular belief, he's not always in the mood. Would you be offended if your man told you, “No honey, not tonight”? Tamar, Tamera, Loni, Jeannie and Adrienne dish on how they’d react, in this Girl Chat.
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  • @Empressive
    @Empressive Před 8 lety +3876

    I don't understand why it's so hard for them to believe that a man may choose to not have sex right away. I agree with Tamera, as usual. There are men out there who practice celibacy and want a meaningful relationship that is not based on sex.

    • @BeautyUnraveled
      @BeautyUnraveled Před 8 lety +99

      Right!! There are men out there who are celibate. Sad that most women now days don't think it is possible.

    • @lillyc5805
      @lillyc5805 Před 8 lety +23

      I agree, there are more people who r waiting to have sex r practicing celibacy and not just because of their morals or religious reasons and I think that people who r choosing to having sex should put some RESPECK on this decision without making them feel something is wrong with them, if they don't agree with it find someone else but don't label or judge them cause u r choosing to do something different. #I ain't gon say it no moe😜

    • @allysonmessina1785
      @allysonmessina1785 Před 8 lety +23

      +Empressive AMEN! It's true, I think Tamar has just met so many duds and not enough good guys, which is probably why she has the attitude she has, but she always acts as if her opinion is the right one, no one else could ever possibly be right. I really truly don't like her, there are very few times when I actually like her, she really angers me most of the time.

    • @Empressive
      @Empressive Před 8 lety +1

      +lilly c lol

    • @Laila-fq7hk
      @Laila-fq7hk Před 8 lety +10

      +Empressive yeah tamera is always on point!!!

  • @courtneywilson2232
    @courtneywilson2232 Před 8 lety +3609

    No means No. End of discussion

    • @marie9219
      @marie9219 Před 8 lety +42

      exactly

    • @acacius9903
      @acacius9903 Před 8 lety +34

      Come on now. Come on somebody.

    • @oil1252
      @oil1252 Před 5 lety +1

      Ok when you ask for the bills to be paid; no means no

    • @zoegotbored9280
      @zoegotbored9280 Před 4 lety +12

      @@oil1252 just think about what you just said for a second

    • @santanagamingcinema
      @santanagamingcinema Před 4 lety

      @@oil1252 I wish I could thumbs up this again, lol

  • @IsabelleMN11
    @IsabelleMN11 Před 8 lety +3572

    It's funny to me that we talk about having men respecting our wishes and no means no, but you turn around and tell guys they might be gay if they want to slow down? that's just awful to me

    • @ellenphetsa8439
      @ellenphetsa8439 Před 8 lety +198

      Exactly. This is the type of mindset that pisses me off. Double standard af.

    • @quentinwooten30
      @quentinwooten30 Před 8 lety +8

      +Ellen Phetsa exactly

    • @fromspace7
      @fromspace7 Před 8 lety +5

      Omg you're right 😱

    • @Denise-ob8dk
      @Denise-ob8dk Před 8 lety +5

      Right

    • @yagyalKaye
      @yagyalKaye Před 8 lety +60

      And then we keep perpetuating the lower standards that this society has about sex and eventually people rethink morals...it's just a bad downward spiral. People taking on that mindset is why celibacy/abstinence is made out to be a crazy and impossible feat when in actuality it ultimately gets you with the right person for life instead of one night and a string of heartbreaks.

  • @itsjackson91
    @itsjackson91 Před 8 lety +1839

    "It doesn't matter how far you go, if you say no it means no." YASSS Jeannie preach it! 👏

    • @LeaEspinoza12345
      @LeaEspinoza12345 Před 8 lety +1

      +Alandra Bradshaw lol way to yank the trophy from poor little Jeannie's hands

    • @jezz718
      @jezz718 Před 4 lety +1

      Yessss

    • @Meloncooleeh
      @Meloncooleeh Před 4 lety +1

      Yeeeeeeeeeesssss

    • @shanice_a
      @shanice_a Před 3 lety +2

      And they always want to take advantage of that lol. That kind of ish gets you slapped. Like have some damn RESPECT for that woman .. smh

    • @nahomienoel9045
      @nahomienoel9045 Před 3 lety

      @@LeaEspinoza12345 aq vvv vdddhjjddv

  • @ajagiselle281
    @ajagiselle281 Před 8 lety +3302

    Wait, so Tamar and Loni are trying to say that if a man turns down sex with you, that he's either not into you or gay?? That's total BS and sounds ridiculous.

    • @sunkissgirl818
      @sunkissgirl818 Před 8 lety +18

      agree.

    • @shrutikaondich8416
      @shrutikaondich8416 Před 8 lety +16

      +Aja Giselle Yeah they sound crazy!! Yikes

    • @Liongang25
      @Liongang25 Před 8 lety +86

      Tamar just likes to hear the sound of her own voice.

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube Před 8 lety +92

      +Aja Giselle Yeah also that comes off as sexist to me. You would not automatically accuse a woman of not being straight if she declined.

    • @ajagiselle281
      @ajagiselle281 Před 8 lety +7

      Helena Exactly!

  • @Xk8rsx
    @Xk8rsx Před 8 lety +2085

    Doesn't matter who says no, the man or the woman, if you are just not feeling the other person or are just not in the moment then YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO!!!!

    • @Xk8rsx
      @Xk8rsx Před 8 lety +81

      And another thing IT SURE AS HELL DONT MEAN HES GAY!!! Just...stop with that ok.

    • @lillyc5805
      @lillyc5805 Před 8 lety +2

      +Xk8rsx 👏👏👏 amen

    • @Mel__21
      @Mel__21 Před 8 lety +1

      +Xk8rsx preach! 🙌

    • @destineyuzaka2113
      @destineyuzaka2113 Před 8 lety +1

      +Xk8rsx girl you better preach!

    • @monk3ysAn
      @monk3ysAn Před 8 lety +18

      Hat's off to you, girl! The last time I checked, consent does not have a gender.

  • @MsBrooklyn11232
    @MsBrooklyn11232 Před 8 lety +1653

    As always I agree with Tamera and I also agree with Jeannie. There are some men who are not obsessed with sex and sometimes they just don't want to have sex. Tamar can sometimes be immature and irrational.

    • @nonya7418
      @nonya7418 Před 8 lety +20

      Absolutely

    • @10puddin10
      @10puddin10 Před 8 lety +15

      Very

    • @Dymsx86
      @Dymsx86 Před 8 lety +78

      +MsBrooklyn11232 I agree. To say 'something in the milk isn't clean' because a man wants to get to know a woman before sleeping with her is so immature and small-minded.

    • @helenatube
      @helenatube Před 8 lety +33

      +Jazzy One *smh* that made me feel exasperated with her. People who don't believe in genuine relationships make me sad.

    • @malakasiedubagdadi6093
      @malakasiedubagdadi6093 Před 8 lety +35

      Tamar always wants to be the best among them eventually turns out be stupid, irritating and annoying 😏

  • @ayaan765
    @ayaan765 Před 8 lety +773

    I actually respect Adrienne for sharing that story, not a lot of people would and she kept it real 100%. People need to stop with these double standards and accept peoples decisions whether male or female!

  • @Dymsx86
    @Dymsx86 Před 8 lety +615

    If a man or woman says no, it should be respected.

  • @LanNguyen-iu3oe
    @LanNguyen-iu3oe Před 8 lety +596

    Poor Adrienne; she's trying to keep her cool in. I really don't agree with Loni's and Tamar's perspective this time. Some guys actually do want to "slow down" without any ulterior motive

  • @PlanetElle
    @PlanetElle Před 8 lety +735

    This is such a double standard. There are alot of men who may be virgins, celibate or want to slow down for that special someone and we need to allow men to be comfortable in that right without implying he is gay.

  • @1sava
    @1sava Před 8 lety +2139

    I gotta give Loni and Tamar the side eye this time. I mean, I am so tired of that old tired ass "Men Will Be Men" mentality! Just because a guy doesn't want to have sex right away doesn't mean he's gay or that there's something wrong with him. Not all men want sex right away. Some men value their bodies as well as the relationship they have with you more than getting physical, so much so that they are willing to wait as long as possible to prove that they are about emotional commitment first and foremost. Stop putting people in boxes. We men, as well as women, are NOT monoliths. We are all complex, diverse, and, most of all, unique beings with different perceptions, perspectives and preferences.
    STOP pigeonholing people and perceiving them through outdated society-influenced biases and start accepting people for who THEY show and tell you THEY ARE, not who you think, would rather or have been told they are!

    • @TiyaBabiiee
      @TiyaBabiiee Před 8 lety +18

      💯💯💯

    • @lester2588
      @lester2588 Před 8 lety +58

      This right here is a sermon. Come through, brother! 👐👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @makala.without.the.y
      @makala.without.the.y Před 8 lety +10

      +Sava Thank you Pastor Sava

    • @1sava
      @1sava Před 8 lety +3

      Tiya Caemara Thank you!

    • @1sava
      @1sava Před 8 lety +3

      Intersectionality Haha! Thank you for the support!

  • @plw8414
    @plw8414 Před 8 lety +256

    Im here for Jeanie's genie ponytail 😊

  • @AmmaMama
    @AmmaMama Před 8 lety +157

    I like Adrienne. She is so secure in her opinion and stories but she still keeps it classy. Tamar sometimes thinks her opinions are facts.

  • @MsEMAJOR
    @MsEMAJOR Před 8 lety +408

    That's so narrow minded to think that if a man doesn't want to have sex when you want to means he's either gay or getting it somewhere else. Tamar is dead wrong.

    • @yasmahmom6554
      @yasmahmom6554 Před 8 lety +4

      Her views on relationships can be so juvenile, it's appalling.

    • @MartianBlues11
      @MartianBlues11 Před 8 lety +2

      Tamar didn't say that.

    • @MsEMAJOR
      @MsEMAJOR Před 8 lety +7

      She said the first part and implied the second. But even if you disagree, she SAID that if a man doesn't want sex from you when you offer it to him he doesn't want you. Which is still narrow minded.

    • @donnelldavis5029
      @donnelldavis5029 Před 4 lety

      All About Austin nuggets

  • @raqueldoyle9859
    @raqueldoyle9859 Před 8 lety +215

    Adrianne had me dying...nahhh it was clean lmao

  • @Jordishness
    @Jordishness Před 8 lety +1427

    Tamar was legit just RUDE in this. Sorry. I do not care for her words. Not at all, honey. Rude rude rude rude RUDE.

    • @SAM11671
      @SAM11671 Před 8 lety +40

      +Jordan Taylor you are sooooo right!!!! it such bullshit to say "oh yea he must be gay because he didn't want to sleep with me or that he doesn't want to be with you" if he didn't he would not take the time for you this is so sexist and women want equal rights how are we gonna get that when they talk like this???

    • @kimoyadavis6975
      @kimoyadavis6975 Před 5 lety +15

      I think she is being REAL in her own right, ITS about five of them views of the topic being discussed ,, just because it doesn't sound politically correct doesn't mean it aint REAL

    • @sBaby-zs5ee
      @sBaby-zs5ee Před 5 lety +13

      @@kimoyadavis6975 well it's 4 now 😂

    • @ilenix3074
      @ilenix3074 Před 5 lety +6

      Kimoya Davis that’s not being real THE REAL Tamar is also a bitch but she is all bark and no bite

    • @mariogo9607
      @mariogo9607 Před 4 lety +5

      Glad shes off the show.. fired

  • @michaelamarie4288
    @michaelamarie4288 Před 8 lety +233

    That's a frustrating double standard. Both women AND men should be able to wait as long as they want to wait.

  • @arianagrande9
    @arianagrande9 Před 8 lety +213

    Not all men are the same Tamar.

    • @aashianaedwards6949
      @aashianaedwards6949 Před 8 lety +8

      okay! like for real!

    • @10puddin10
      @10puddin10 Před 8 lety

      I so agree

    • @black4ev3r
      @black4ev3r Před 8 lety +10

      +Ariana Jonhson ... she's messing with boys all her life, and she don't know to react when Gentlemen comes into her life, treats her with respect and his intentions are genuine...

    • @Couture426
      @Couture426 Před 8 lety +1

      +black4ev3r and that's why she married a millionaire..who's a gentlemen ...your dumb👍👍.

    • @alexandria4401
      @alexandria4401 Před 8 lety

      Tamar has a very good husband

  • @MakebyJen
    @MakebyJen Před 8 lety +680

    Blue is Tamera's color. Remember when she slayed the blue pant suit and her was curly 🙌🏾

  • @schondra1993
    @schondra1993 Před 8 lety +519

    I'm really disappointed in Tamar and Loni's reaction to Adrienne's story. I can't stand when people act like that when it comes to men and sex. They act as if men are just these animals who their only duty to have sex with any and everything. We women say we want a man who is about more than just sex but when we get one, we treat him like Tamar and Loni and act as if something is wrong with him. Then we tend to complain about men supposedly having more sexual freedom but I feel like its contradicting because we act as if that's all men are about. I think men deal with plenty of double standards like women do but they aren't broadcasted and this is definitely one of them.

    • @brigregory5822
      @brigregory5822 Před 8 lety +23

      Exactly, making Adrienne feel like it was something wrong with her r him. Like real shade n y'all suppose to b sisters....

    • @tapwaterthirstoflife7605
      @tapwaterthirstoflife7605 Před 8 lety +10

      +Cakeandsum Rosesplease You said it! Exactly! Double Standards are everywhere. Sometimes Loni & Tamar create a peer pressure environment. I like Jeannie cause she sticks by her opinions and is level headed.

    • @dinishalewis425
      @dinishalewis425 Před 8 lety +1

      agreed

    • @xJellyMx
      @xJellyMx Před 8 lety +10

      The funny thing is that out of all of them you just know Loni and Tamar get it the least so its just like sour sour grapes, kinda like that conversation about how long the difference between a quickie and making love is, and Adrienne was talking about how when you make love it can go on for hours and the least time would be about 40 mins or something like that, and Tamar and Loni were just :/ like Loni laughed like it was a ridiculous notion and Tamar was just there with her stank face....I mean like if your men barely last five minutes like some horny teenagers than thats just you and i highly doubt either of you has had as much experience with men as Adrienne so dafuq do you know.

    • @195victoria
      @195victoria Před 8 lety +3

      +Cakeandsum Rosesplease But they might be talking from experience they had with men

  • @midnightsmoothie
    @midnightsmoothie Před 8 lety +823

    The awkward moment when you're watching this, as a virgin, not really giving a crap about this situation.

  • @Datgirl0922
    @Datgirl0922 Před 7 lety +96

    tamar: "something in the milk ain't clean."
    Adrienne: "no it was clean" 😂😂😂

  • @LeaEspinoza12345
    @LeaEspinoza12345 Před 8 lety +107

    Jeannie looks like a Jeanie today. so adorbs!

  • @merhawitjkl
    @merhawitjkl Před 8 lety +226

    Tamar must have had really fucked up relationships if she's that close minded

    • @johnski350
      @johnski350 Před 8 lety +2

      She was in an abusive relationship before Vince

    • @deandrejohnson7752
      @deandrejohnson7752 Před 8 lety +5

      +John Cruz an abusive relationship has nothing to do with the fact that she's so closed minded that she thinks man has to be on the a closeted homosexual to want to take it slow.

    • @johnski350
      @johnski350 Před 8 lety +1

      +DeAndre Johnson I'll have to watch it again cuz I thought she meant that people withhold sex because they want something and that's the only reason anyone would say they wanted to slow things down.

    • @deandrejohnson7752
      @deandrejohnson7752 Před 8 lety +2

      +John Cruz after Loki said that and she wanted to cover her ass. That's what "something in the milk ain't clean" means and she actually said around the 3:00 mark.

    • @johnski350
      @johnski350 Před 8 lety +3

      +DeAndre Johnson ahhhhh I see what you're saying, yeah that's fucked up. Adrienne gave her that "did you really just say that look" to.

  • @D.Drayton
    @D.Drayton Před 8 lety +327

    Tamar sometimes has a very one sided view and can only see things based on her experiences rather opening her mind to another point of view. It is possible for a man to be respectful and not want to go there so early.

    • @allysonmessina1785
      @allysonmessina1785 Před 8 lety +1

      +Dara Dray AMEN! YES!

    • @chuckie102883
      @chuckie102883 Před 8 lety +7

      I know! She's lives in a very black and white world

    • @chosenonekay
      @chosenonekay Před 8 lety +3

      Thank youuuu! She so closed minded. Like not everybody has the same experience as her and she needs to open her mind and understand that

    • @10puddin10
      @10puddin10 Před 8 lety +1

      She likes to be right.

    • @chosenonekay
      @chosenonekay Před 8 lety

      +Kedra Trimble But it doesn't mean she's always right.

  • @797sexii
    @797sexii Před 8 lety +391

    Tamar must've had a terrible experience with men, because she's always assuming the worst. It's like she has no faith in men what so ever.

    • @allysonmessina1785
      @allysonmessina1785 Před 8 lety

      +797sexii That's exactly I'm saying!

    • @JRob594
      @JRob594 Před 8 lety +20

      +797sexii Yes if you watched some of her old interviews she talks about how she was abused and mistreated by different guys in the past

    • @797sexii
      @797sexii Před 8 lety +3

      +Allyson Messina it's always an ulterior motive like... girl who hurt you.

    • @10puddin10
      @10puddin10 Před 8 lety +2

      Her man either that's she do protective of Vince, checking his phone, not wanting him away from her, she's very insecure

    • @797sexii
      @797sexii Před 8 lety +1

      +Kedra Trimble she's extremely! If you watch Tamar and Vince you can tell.

  • @TiffanyKelly21
    @TiffanyKelly21 Před 8 lety +330

    Tamar was kinda being childish towards Adrienne.

    • @UrbanDecayLova247
      @UrbanDecayLova247 Před 8 lety +25

      +Tiffany-Kelly Fritz She definitely was...and the fact that he was 35 makes sense. When people are younger I could see them rushing and not saying that but as a man gets older and still isn't with anybody they wanna start trying something new. Being 35 and wanting a relationship, I could easily see a man saying something like that. Just cuz Tamar never dealt with that shouldn't mean it's hard to believe especially at that age.

    • @TiffanyKelly21
      @TiffanyKelly21 Před 8 lety

      Tany Britt exactly.

  • @MiaCarter7
    @MiaCarter7 Před 8 lety +278

    I think its sad and even backwards that a person no matter male or female wanting to build a good relationship before having sex would be considered gay or playing games....Maybe not all men are stupid and shallow like that..I would LOVE to find a man that wanted to move slow in that area of our relationship. I'd prefer it!

  • @DGenerationX1311
    @DGenerationX1311 Před 8 lety +56

    Ridiculous double standards. Anyone can say no and have no questions asked.

  • @pizdaaumaa1089
    @pizdaaumaa1089 Před 8 lety +251

    Love me some long girl chat!!

  • @CleverAOYM
    @CleverAOYM Před 8 lety +539

    Tamar's mind is so enclosed it's not even funny

  • @LivinLifeWitYanna
    @LivinLifeWitYanna Před 8 lety +55

    Yasss Jeanie, I COMPLETELY agree. No matter who it is, no means no!

  • @RoodianneTide
    @RoodianneTide Před 8 lety +181

    Not all men are the same. Some actually respect the act of having sex and want to wait. Women should know and understand that. He shouldn't automatically want to have sex with you just because he's a man and you're a woman. And you shouldn't feel offended when he turns you down.

  • @SomeGal
    @SomeGal Před 8 lety +22

    No means no! Thanks, Jeanie!

  • @EnnyOwl
    @EnnyOwl Před 8 lety +24

    "It was clean" 😂😂

  • @createdvoidx
    @createdvoidx Před 8 lety +26

    Jeanie "MEEE?!" 😂😂

  • @JK-tp6nh
    @JK-tp6nh Před 8 lety +82

    Goes both ways, of course guys should be able to say it without offending the girl. If a guy wants to wait because he wants a real relationship with you, well personally I would respect that a lot. No problem with waiting.

  • @dashelledisna6239
    @dashelledisna6239 Před 8 lety +58

    This happened to my guy coworker,he didn't even know this girl & she called him gay. Because he "turned down this million dollar pussy". so rude & disrespectful. Thank God my coworker is a gentleman

    • @jlbellla
      @jlbellla Před 8 lety +11

      Lol laughed out loud when I saw the "million dollar pussy" 😂 but good for him. She was probably wack anyway

  • @Chaka_Davis
    @Chaka_Davis Před 8 lety +34

    The woman in the text message was waaaaay out of line. If he doesn't want it he doesn't want it. No need to justify it or pressure it. NONE of that. End of story.

  • @prettygirlrock195
    @prettygirlrock195 Před 8 lety +241

    I've learned not to pay attention to what Tamar says when it comes to these kind of conversation. The thing she says just smh lol let me not say it... I just stick with Tamera and Jeannie's opinions.

    • @yasmahmom6554
      @yasmahmom6554 Před 8 lety +2

      Lol, I totally agree.

    • @DonelleLatrice
      @DonelleLatrice Před 8 lety +2

      +kika myverla Lol agree. I was watching this thinking, 'why am I torturing myself?' LOL! Love them...but I ride with Tamera on this.

    • @jeromainemarlo1285
      @jeromainemarlo1285 Před 8 lety +2

      lmao totally agreeing with you

    • @tanyalake9152
      @tanyalake9152 Před 7 lety +7

      kika myverla that's one of the reasons why I'm glad she's not on the show anymore.

    • @learning.growing.1017
      @learning.growing.1017 Před 6 lety +1

      kika myverla me too. And I appreciate Adrienne's transparency.

  • @danielle23999
    @danielle23999 Před 8 lety +152

    Well wait til marriage first of all. That's it. How many times do we need to go over this? Sex is more than just the physical. It's SPIRITUAL. It's the deepest connection that you can ever have with someone and people just go around giving it out like some Girl Scout cookies.

    • @Lalala-fz2ci
      @Lalala-fz2ci Před 8 lety +10

      No.

    • @danielle23999
      @danielle23999 Před 8 lety +6

      Jewel Kitty Lol no what? No you don't agree? No it isn't spiritual? Elaborate hun.

    • @created2inspire459
      @created2inspire459 Před 8 lety +13

      +Danielle A. It's more than just sleeping with somebody and sharing bodily fluids. It's a deeper connection involving emotions and sharing a part of u. The person you've slept with may have also slept with several other partners, so you're ultimately sleeping with them too if thay makes sense

    • @Denise-ob8dk
      @Denise-ob8dk Před 8 lety

      Ha! yes ma'am

    • @MartianBlues11
      @MartianBlues11 Před 8 lety +11

      +Danielle A.
      Spiritual is an idea. I personally don't believe it at all, but I do believe that sex is an important connection. Waiting until marriage is irrelevant to whether you connect with someone sexually.
      It's an important part of being with someone. Chemistry matters to some people and not everyone is interested in marriage.
      There are other perspectives on the subject than just yours.

  • @yvetteabesoada1712
    @yvetteabesoada1712 Před 8 lety +50

    tamar is so disrespectful -.- I can't

  • @marianslife5073
    @marianslife5073 Před 8 lety +22

    Adrienne's little pout/smile is killing me! So on point everytime

  • @AmmaMama
    @AmmaMama Před 8 lety +56

    Jeannie is so cute. She looks like a Disney star.

  • @MajesticMyronn
    @MajesticMyronn Před 8 lety +242

    Umm.. If you have morals and values and respect your body , then you should not let others or being judged for being a virgin ,, force you into having sex and you are not ready !

    • @Xk8rsx
      @Xk8rsx Před 8 lety +5

      Amen pastor, amen. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @Accune
      @Accune Před 8 lety +8

      +Myronn Coleman I agree completely.Aren't these the men that they say they want?Men with standards and morals."You can tell a tree by it's fruit"

    • @romant142
      @romant142 Před 6 lety +1

      Exactly

  • @wickedelphaba5076
    @wickedelphaba5076 Před 8 lety +60

    If someone doesn't want to have sex why is that such a problem? No means no for EVERYBODY! Like I love this show but honestly they really are so hypocritical.

    • @mawaye2000
      @mawaye2000 Před 8 lety

      They are just being real about a double standard that exists! It's not just them that react this way. It's pretty common to expect men to be down whenever given an opportunity. But of course, when someone says no, it means no.

    • @mawaye2000
      @mawaye2000 Před 8 lety

      To be clear, unlike Tamar, I believe plenty of men out there want to take things slow in favor of getting to know someone. I am just talking about the initial reaction of women getting offended if they want to move forward and the guy says no

    • @wickedelphaba5076
      @wickedelphaba5076 Před 8 lety

      Francine Morris True, I understand. I usually side with Tamera when it comes to double standards. But I can understand where they Come from with initial reactions.

  • @HarrisKrieger
    @HarrisKrieger Před 8 lety +10

    I like that Loni looks into the camera a lot of the time when she speaks.

  • @93RZ
    @93RZ Před 8 lety +87

    Cant believe Tamar said "something in the milk aint clean!" and Adrienne responded with "it was clean." loooool don't know if anyone caught on to that but talk about getting sexual.

  • @paccinocappaccino
    @paccinocappaccino Před 8 lety +82

    Honestly I agree with Tamera like honestly there are some good men out there who don't wanna have sex right away

  • @tllymchll7474
    @tllymchll7474 Před 8 lety +11

    Absolutely! that must be Adrienne's favorite word!

  • @ese4741
    @ese4741 Před 8 lety +144

    Tamar dear can we talk.... STAY AWAY FROM PONY TAILS... This is hurting my eyes.

  • @lilithontop3835
    @lilithontop3835 Před 8 lety +19

    Had to pause and read to make sure it wasn't a screen shot of one of my textversations 😂

  • @lorianahines3152
    @lorianahines3152 Před 8 lety +76

    why is it so hard to believe that not all men want to jump straight to sex. I know plenty of guys who save sex for last. of course they want it, but they hold out for their reasons.

    • @Laila-fq7hk
      @Laila-fq7hk Před 8 lety +6

      +Loriana Hines exactly!!!! why must all relationships be based on sex..

  • @kmrf27
    @kmrf27 Před 8 lety +81

    Sooooooooooo,........ Let me get this straight to see if I understand clearly......! If a woman says "no" to a man for having sex is ok and normal, but if u man does it it automatically means that's he's "gay" , I don't get it?🤔🤔🤔🤔

    • @Denise-ob8dk
      @Denise-ob8dk Před 8 lety +11

      Right....double standards

    • @MartianBlues11
      @MartianBlues11 Před 8 lety

      Literally nobody said that he might be gay though.

    • @kmrf27
      @kmrf27 Před 8 lety

      +MartianBlues then can u explain to me what was the meaning of the expression of Loni and Tamar then?? Coz that's the feeling that I'm having😗...and that is what they meant...... I'm confused, let me know😉

    • @ladieesc0
      @ladieesc0 Před 8 lety +4

      +MartianBlues Yes they did because although Loni and Tamar didn't say it literally Adrienne picked up on it and said "yea thats what I was thinking, which is people saying he isn't straight" followed by Tamar saying "yea its one of the two.."the two meaning. he is gay or not into you.

    • @kmrf27
      @kmrf27 Před 8 lety

      +Ama O rights, exactlyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!😏

  • @shntltylr8758
    @shntltylr8758 Před 5 lety +4

    I love that Jeannie made it clear that no means no. No matter what no means no

  • @wickedelphaba5076
    @wickedelphaba5076 Před 7 lety +9

    See this is where true Feminism comes to play. I believe that if a man doesn't want to have sex then he shouldn't be forced to. He can still be attracted to you and no want to have sex. As a women I say this now: "If a woman or man does not want to have sex they don't have to. I don't care if you, yourself is horny, if someone says not right now, the mean NOT RIGHT NOW." That's equality, that's Feminism.

  • @madmann1000
    @madmann1000 Před 8 lety +59

    Women like Tamar annoy me. I've done the casual random sex thing and I didn't like it. It's not unusual for a man to reject meaningless sex.
    To assume a man is gay because he rejects you sexually is so petty.

  • @loo2400
    @loo2400 Před 8 lety +2

    Tamar just looks BEAUTIFUL! I love this hair and makeup look on her!!

  • @CeeJayyMerius
    @CeeJayyMerius Před 8 lety +18

    Tamar: it has ? 👀 watchu mean ? do tell...
    💀😭

  • @stelluhh45
    @stelluhh45 Před 8 lety +15

    love jeannie's hair!!

  • @jaybird5589
    @jaybird5589 Před 8 lety +18

    tamar that is NOT what you were trying to say!!

  • @sydneyhopes
    @sydneyhopes Před 8 lety +25

    Tamar can never let anyone have their opinion... unless they're agreeing with her

    • @ObeyMyGayy
      @ObeyMyGayy Před 8 lety +1

      Yes! I kid you not, I said the exact same thing so long ago!

  • @BiancaVolcy
    @BiancaVolcy Před 8 lety +32

    I feel bad for Tamar sometimes. Loni too. Tamera and Jeannie are my people.

    • @cycy805
      @cycy805 Před 8 lety +11

      Adrienne reminds me of myself sometimes. Confidence is key. she's a grown woman. I can't wait for her to carry herself more in the manner of one, in a cool and collected manner ^-^

    • @tjack8235
      @tjack8235 Před 8 lety +4

      +Bianca V I say the same thing. They really sound like ignorant jump offs. They was the type who let dudes use them b/c of no self esteem, that is why they don't understand a man wanting to get to know you first. Adrienne take your pointers from Jeannie & Tamara w marriage. They both saw the wait first in their husband, that is why they can relate. Just cause Tamar is married don't mean it's not easy. The way Vince is disturbed by her "ghettoness", he seem like he have, or had low self esteem and was glad someone like Tamar showed interest. He probably thought he couldn't get better. I love some Tamar, but she letting her ghettoness get the best of her and its getting annoying. I like when she give key points of how her mother raised her, like Tamara.

    • @nickym4153
      @nickym4153 Před 8 lety +1

      I feel bad for her at times too because she is saying these things based upon her past experience and tamera is my fave too followed by tamar

  • @amaraiola
    @amaraiola Před 4 lety +3

    The word “No” is a statement on its own. You don’t ever need to give an explanation as to why you said “No” to something.

  • @d8nya1
    @d8nya1 Před 8 lety +5

    Tamar at the end "yeah don't play with me like that, that ain't funny" 😂😂😂😂😂 lmfaooo

  • @joyherring81
    @joyherring81 Před 8 lety +10

    I met a man that wanted to wait, he wanted to take his time and get to know me. He was not running game or sleeping with anyone else he just simply wanted to take it slow and now four years later we're still happily in love.

  • @FaithJoelle55
    @FaithJoelle55 Před 8 lety +19

    As a married woman, I like hearing Tamera and Jeanie's perspective on things. Maybe if Tamar could express herself without neck rolling and lip smacking, I would take her more serious.

  • @gregsamuels5637
    @gregsamuels5637 Před 7 lety +25

    Not all men are sex obsessed. You could miss out on a great guy who wants to build a relationship if you keep thinking like Tamar and Loni. And a good man will 100% respect a woman's choice whether they choose to have sex or not. There are more important things in life/relationships than sex.

    • @anjali120
      @anjali120 Před 7 lety

      Amen brotha! It's how these two ladies were brought up then, ghetto culture perhaps. But my fiance was like this when we started dating.

  • @lisaconrad9754
    @lisaconrad9754 Před 8 lety +32

    Jeannie is the BEST

  • @whorebag0003
    @whorebag0003 Před 8 lety +12

    i love Jeannie. point blank lol. She's so funny and sincere, she's a girl's girl

  • @emmab2013
    @emmab2013 Před 8 lety +8

    Ugh. I'm worried impressionable people will watch this and think there's something wrong with them for saying no. Never, EVER feel bad about saying no. Whether you're male, female, in a long term relationship or it's your first time. You have every right to say no. No means no and there's nothing wrong with you.

  • @nooneisbornracist8548
    @nooneisbornracist8548 Před 8 lety +17

    ONCE AGAIN I LOVE JEANNIE for nuancing the debate here and stressing how important consent is no matter what gender/age you are. I agree with Tamera, it's just a different perspective. What can also happen is you decide to take things slow but then you get caught up in the moment and bam. But there are also people who intentionally play hard to get and I don't think there's anything wrong with it unless you're leading someone on and giving them false hope.

  • @shaedavis53
    @shaedavis53 Před 7 lety +15

    Social media and society give so much attention to the unfaithful men and women that they make the faithful men and women sound like a fantasy. There are a lot of GOOD men and women out here who genuinely want to live a financially stable, drama free and happy life without having sex all the time! People keep forgetting that sex is just PART of a successful relationship it doesn't validate the WHOLE relationship!

  • @lissandrafreljord7913
    @lissandrafreljord7913 Před 8 lety +6

    3:50 Tamera is so innocent. I love it.

  • @Lara-ot5dd
    @Lara-ot5dd Před 8 lety +27

    OMG when jeannie said..MEEEEEE? hahahahahaha

  • @clarke4400
    @clarke4400 Před 8 lety +16

    It's obvious that Adrienne is talking about Lenny.

  • @katiebug4512
    @katiebug4512 Před 2 lety +2

    The way Adrienne looked at Tamar 🤣🤣🤣 I can't with her

  • @mariselahernandez7589
    @mariselahernandez7589 Před 8 lety +33

    no Tamar actually there are guys out there that are respectful. if he wasn't clean as she tried to insinuate then his dirty ass would want to sleep with her. mind you there are very few good men out there not many but they are out there. and no doesn't mean they are gay.
    why does that broad always think her opinions are the only ones that should be had.

    • @fromspace7
      @fromspace7 Před 8 lety +1

      Ikr!! She lives in some fantasy world where men are like sex robots 24/7... Especially weird because she just said a minute ago that she herself is sometimes too tired...Yet she doesn't realize that a guy could be too.. Like ???

  • @mimibadge
    @mimibadge Před 8 lety +9

    Is it REALLY that inconceivable that a man may not be in the mood for sex??

  • @Aliiiciiaa
    @Aliiiciiaa Před 8 lety +13

    I would find it disrespectful if a female assumed a man was gay because he didn't want to rush into it. I think when men have been with a lot of women and then come to the point where they're ready to settle, they sometimes don't want to rush into things, especially if they respect the woman they're with :). However I'm talking from situations I've heard about, personally I've only ever had one partner and that's my husband and that's the exact same for him.

  • @santriciajones2579
    @santriciajones2579 Před 8 lety +15

    It is kind of sad how women are quick to label men as gay when they are not in a rush to have sex. Like how there is pressure for women, there is pressure for men as well. Tamar didn't know what that man went through in his past relationship. Maybe he took things too quickly in his past relationships and wanted to go a different path with Adrienne because he liked her a lot. Nethertheless, i enjoyed this discussion. SN: Tamar kind of reminds me of Vivica Fox in the face today.

  • @Sheherazade516
    @Sheherazade516 Před 8 lety +43

    I usually agree with 95% of what Tamar says, but she's talking so much ish in this segment. And she's rude to people who want to wait

    • @amie6587
      @amie6587 Před 8 lety

      agree ... But didn't bother Jeanie and Tamera both wait before marrying their now husbands? think they've mentioned it before... sounds like Tamar forgot

  • @lailap9068
    @lailap9068 Před 8 lety +7

    Jeannie looks so pretty here

  • @MiMi-dc9qs
    @MiMi-dc9qs Před 7 lety +14

    I love you Tamar but.. when looking back on the old line up of the show.. the other ladies were really walking on "eggshells" when it came to Tamar. Can't believe I'm saying this but.. I am actually much happier with how things are now (without Tamar). The other ladies are allowed to express themselves a lot more now (which I believe is only fair). I trust she will go on to take the "constructive criticism" left by some of us on SM and continue to use this in a positive way. Peace & Love x

  • @morgan8688
    @morgan8688 Před 4 lety +1

    “If you say no, it means NO!!”

  • @Krisha158
    @Krisha158 Před 2 lety +1

    I think it can be possible for a man to want to wait, but that should be said within the first or second date, not when the woman is pressing up against you. Like declare that during a conversation so she can then make a decision on whether not she wants to wait with you. Communication is key.

  • @taylorembry696
    @taylorembry696 Před 8 lety +9

    but i also agree with tamera because when a guy says he doesnt want to have sex with a woman we go "he must be gay" but we don't do that for women. the worst we get in that case is "she's playing hard to get."

  • @luasare6874
    @luasare6874 Před 8 lety +4

    i love girl chat ,you get to know each and individual personality

  • @monk3ysAn
    @monk3ysAn Před 8 lety +2

    "I ain't never had that problem." Lies you tell, Mrs. Braxton-Herbert! 🙄🙄😅😅

  • @KJW22
    @KJW22 Před 8 lety +7

    First of all Jeanie's hair is adorable.. Secondly Tamar you can have an opinion without shutting down everybody else's opinion.

  • @MsSamiam79
    @MsSamiam79 Před 8 lety +8

    I give Adrienne props for keeping that smile pasted on her face the entire time during that exchange with Tamar. You could actually see the point when she caught on to what Tamar was insinuating.

  • @Shabulousx3
    @Shabulousx3 Před 8 lety +23

    Its not always game, sometimes I wish Tamar would just not talk

  • @aplacefortaryn
    @aplacefortaryn Před 8 lety +4

    I love Jeannie's reaction! Lol

  • @miles1332
    @miles1332 Před 8 lety +19

    ok so we're all agreed jeannies our favourite? da fun were tamar and loni talking about...

  • @MervKamuanya
    @MervKamuanya Před 8 lety +42

    1st. I cringe everytime Tamar talks about her and Vince doing it. Ew.. And why she gotta yell like that??
    I can't take her lately. And that opinion of hers is BULL!!! A guy CAN take it slowly... Just because they didn't do it with you, doesn't me they won't take it slow with others..
    2nd.. These girl need to stop kissing Tamar's ass!! They always agree with her! Especially Adrienne

    • @MervKamuanya
      @MervKamuanya Před 8 lety

      +Baby Girl I feel like they have bad sex! She's just trynna play it off.. Like when Lonni likes to yell about loving the single life

    • @MervKamuanya
      @MervKamuanya Před 8 lety

      +Baby Girl 😩😩😩 You said Ming Lee! Wrong for that! Lmao

    • @MervKamuanya
      @MervKamuanya Před 8 lety

      +Ms Me her name is Jeannie ;)

    • @catherineewhitee
      @catherineewhitee Před 8 lety

      Adrienne does agree with her all the Time and that's why Tamar always cuts her off and shuts down her opinion.

  • @jaybird5589
    @jaybird5589 Před 8 lety +5

    the audience was so quiet when tamar was like "men don't ever want to just take it slow" lol

  • @BlackgirlsAtoZ
    @BlackgirlsAtoZ Před 8 lety +4

    Jeannie's serving up Wilma Flintstone realness! Hair stylist did a great job.

  • @zeusaurora6309
    @zeusaurora6309 Před 7 lety +4

    Me and my fiance enjoy each others company so much that we get physical after 2 years in relationship, and now we even love and attached to each other so much. I agreed with knowing him/her personality first. But again, its just how i take it.

  • @Jess-xi1jb
    @Jess-xi1jb Před 5 lety +5

    I’m so glad Tamar isn’t present anymore in the current shows