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Hello Lynn . If you can be able to bring Gaterina of the famous show in Inooro Tv she's a great lady having passed through depression and a lot to teach us especially through fame and down due to life issues tu. Thanks in advance
I am so proud of you .it's taken you years to heal 😭. Thank you for saving lives because I know you are .I love you so much 🙏. Lynn we love you so much,God bless you for this platform.
She a strong person ...l like that she has set an example to the young persons who don't know what to do in the same situation...she has taught us to stand up to what we believe
I am so overwhelmed by all the love and encouragement! It’s crazy that most of us have the same story with abuse! I pray that each and every one of us is able to get past it and reclaim our joy! We deserve better! We’d rather be called names and ridiculed for leaving than be a hashtag after we’ve lost our lives! I truly thank all of you for being so gracious and Lynn for such an amazing platform! God bless you all ❤️
She said that because she was 21 she did know enough to see the sign and her ignorance caused her to put up with it for way to long and to not listen to her own mother's advice.
She is a very good storyteller between the crying and laughing this was a roller coaster. But I am thankful to God for the strength He has given Idah to share this with us. As a young lady I am educated and inspired ! Thank you Idah and Lynn.❤
I can't imagine I've cried throughout her whole story, I'm turning 21 on Thursday and I've learnt alot, atleast you've helped me not to make mistakes, and you have a very beautiful voice btw, I also want to be an actress 🥺🥺I just don't know how to start... But thanks for your touching story... I love you already
One thing that stands out in this conversation is that no matter what Idah went through with her marriage and the church, her relationship with God is still intact. 🙏🙏
Just watching this after getting out of a one year relationship with a mental, emotionally and physically abusive boyfriend, he only started showing this side to him when she moved in together in the beginning of the year, the fact that your story just got recommended to me is a big sign that I made the right decision. Thank you for sharing your story and standing up for you. I wish you all the happiness you can get cause you deserve it
Idah is such a beauty in and out.Havi ng interacted with her during childhood I also asked the same question she asked,Idah mwenye nilikuwa najua utotoni would not take this bulshit sorry to say coz alikuwa kinda tough,but I thank God for the woman she is today,coz out to the hard times,a gem came out.She is such an inspiration to many,I included.
Her voice is beautiful and strong Her command of English language is wonderful And her story makes us all empathetic Teaches us to remove the veil of the church and know God on our own
God bless Idah's strength and courage. She went through the fire and survived and now thrives. I'm truly glad she told her story! You never know what ears they may reach to those who need to know 1. Do not feel shame 2. You are not alone and most importantly 3. You have every right to walk away! Peace with you. ❤️
This is what most women go through in their relationships. They suffer in silence. I'm glad that Idah was able to speak up on behalf of all those women.
I just love her voice and the way she is expressing herself with the correct choice of words. Na fans wa lynn ebu wacheni wivu ,if you like it crown it .
Thank you Idah Alisha - I have learnt a new phrase from you - "Trauma Bonding" - i will include this in the counselling sessions we give to singles wanting to be in a relationship and couples planning to wed
Hey Kim, glad to know you have a chance to help people to avoid such suffering. It would be nice if you study trauma in detail. It's not just a phrase but a complex phenomena, a reason why the majority stick in domestic abuse. You can't just apply, you need to understand. Trauma healing should happen beforehand. During premarital counseling such patterns should be applied. Unfortunately most people don't get that kind of help. They first get into trouble only to learn later
If you do this regularly, please read and always have on hand: 1.Things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman 2. Jesus, the gentle parent 3. Leslie Vernick's books 4. Lundy Bancroft's inside the minds of angry and controlling men 5. The body keeps the score 6. Esther Perel books/content 7. Non violent communication Marshall B. Rosenberg 8. Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie Nimemaliza... For now 😂😂😂. Usinichukulie vibaya but I find that we Kenyan family, friends and the church in particular hatujielimishi kwa mambo haya. We should not continue perishing for lack of (readily available) knowledge. And I hope one or 2 may also benefit from these. Baraka kwako na Mungu abariki kazi ya mikono yako Kimani
I listened to Pascal Tokodi's wife when she called off her first wedding...when I see Grace Ekirapa today....I feel it was worth it. I won't get myself into something Iam still doubting. Thank you Ida for coming out.
I love Idah's career story. What I have learned from her is that when an opportunity arise I need to give my all 'cause you never know how far your ideas will take you. More to that, I love her personality. She is a strong Lady.
Triggers going off everywhere! Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. I was blessed enough to dodge a bullet. We live. We grow. We learn. Spirituality over Religion. You are so bubbly and life giving, no one should ever dim that light.
She's so eloquent I love her vibe I remember watching her wedding in wedding show with Nonny Gathoni. .... anyway coming home from a failed marriage is better than coming home in a coffin
Who else is laughing and crying the same time ,she has gone through so much but is still full of humor,and her voice is iconic,Thank God your at a better place idah ❤️
Yess and she narrates it in humour. Lyn too had a great flow with her. I just love happy women. As for the man who had married her may he never know peace.
Idah thanks for sharing this very touching story of your life. Many women are staying in abusive marriages for 'the sake of children' without understanding how much damage they are doing to themselves n the children as well. This is very enlightening. May God continue to uphold you by His grace.
Idah has walked in faith and turned out to be the best version of herself may God continue taking her to greater heights ❤❤❤❤❤Lynn & Idahs friends may God bless you all ❤❤❤
This here in my story.. unfortunately it broke me, I got mental disorder but through the pain God still is faithful. I walked away just as she did with my two sons.... His family told me "tumekupa 6 months ukule shida! Njaa itakurudisha...." Its been years and God ni yule msee
I've been through exactly the same, got married at 21 to the most narcissistic man I've ever known. To make matters worse he was the one making money and I had no job. I also had to move out of Kenya coz he was stalking me and even harassing my friends. I know better now! Thanks @Idah Alisha for sharing your story.
my story too ,married at 22 he was 29 n was soooo abusive for 9 good years wah its now 6 years since i left n wah this life u can just loose your life for society
I don't even know why I am watching this now, 1 year later. It is heartbreaking to hear this and all that you had to go through. I'm all in tears as I wat this. I am so glad that you have found your healing and continue to heal past this experience. Nobody should ever have to go through abuse. It is not justifiable at all. But what surprises me the most is that the church (represented by the individual who was assigned to offer counsel) failed you terribly. I wish you blessings and may your heart continue to restore you @IdahAlisha
I'm 21 and Idah I love your story. You showing up and talking about this has really made me realize that marriage and church don't have to mean everything in life and from here onwards I'm confident enough to say No I don't want marriage if I'm not ready. God bless
I really resonated with you when you said,"if you are raised up in an abusive family,you either become an abuser or a victim." Girl am genuinely happy for you. You are an overcomer and so much more.
I understand why zulu says the reason as why a lady should start thinking marriage when you are past 25 yrs.Makes alot of sense now .Sorry for what you had to go through and thank God you are stronger and sharing to inspire lot of people.
I have been bitten before with a person who raped me at 16 for saying that he was my boyfriend, got raped again at 21 I don't see men the same, am afraid of them. I got born again and stood till now. Idah this is so inspiring am very sorry for what you went through, you are so beautiful and pretty to go through that am very sorry. I got a fiancee when I met him I healed a lot he is in Qatar very young, handsome and kind. I 💖 him, it's a journey to heal. Thank you for your inspiring story God bless you.😭😭😭😭🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏😇😇
That part of cutting off ties with your friends and adopting his is very 100% accurate. Its called manipulation. Dropping your beliefs for his beliefs.
Hey Lynn it's a pleasure to listen to Idah, especially now that she's our heroine, she a representation of some of us who also walked out at a very young age. At your own time, I'd like to tell my story on your channel and encourage young women on the importance of moving out. I personally lost myself, my child taken away, suffered with depression and ended up in drugs. Being married to a cop character debeloped me real bad. I am doing better now and no longer depending on alcohol
Also was married at 18 to a narcissist but ithank God i finally got the courage to walking away,am 23 now and a mom to a five year old and my choice was the best gift i ever gave myself and my daughter.
U can listen to Idah 365 days over n over again,she is such a vibe.I have really learnt alot from her.Thanx alot for sharing,much💖Thanx Lynn for letting this gal pour her heart ❤️
Idah's story is so enlightening and a great inspiration to many ladies who have been made to question their worth and are in toxic relationships. I pray that ladies find the courage to walk out of toxic relationships. And of course, having a great support system like Idah's is the best blessing in life.
i went through GBV for 3yrs in my marriage til he almost killed me the day i left i never looked back. Thanks Idah for leaving and saying leaving is very ok
Hey Idah, I hear you. It's not only the church. You remind me of some Imam when I wanted to walk out of the abusive relationship. The hypocrisy in this society is sickening. I also walked out&left everything that I had bought,left the country for 3 months. No amount of material things can amount to life. You will be healed, though the scars can never be erased deep within. I'm really happy for you Idah, we missed you in mother in law. True, if someone yells at me, points a finger in my face, use insulting language, is controlling, I literally run.. Thanks Lynn for giving Idah a platform to share her story. Idah thanks for the courage to come out
Ever felt someone giving part of your story.... went through abuse at 26 and I thank God for showing me the door, starting all a fresh no matter how hard it was, even with the fact we had a wedding to happen! It's weird how someone can beat you up to a point of death and tomorrow is like nothing happened and still reminds you are a bride and wife to be and family is looking forward to the date! Manipulation.... in the eyes of other his an angel but in the house you can not explain who you live with.... Great encouragement LNS.... Ladies /Men run for your dear life and happiness..... Never settle for less for you might not see tomorrow No one should stay with a violent person no matter what!
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words and that's what your friends did to you I salute them all
my ex was the same way, he used to slap me kwa road nikisalimiwa na mwanaume, I left the moment he took a harmer to beat me but it knocked the wall ... its now one year after i left and I also used to dream of him attacking me but i thank God he restored me am now happy and strong...Can never allow someone abusive in my life kama huniwezi tembeza
I always enjoy watching your videos. I have not ndergone any form of abuse or been in an abusive family,but I have learned A LOT from your stories.Can't wait to hear your story Lynn. Please do something 😊
My sister went through something like that, years of emotional abuse and months of physical abuse. She has two boys, when she decided to leave, her life changed. First thing I noticed was how shocked she was by her support system, especially our mum. Our mum is a single mum as well and she never knew what my sister was going through, but the minute she did, she was so supportive. I don’t know what my sister was expecting, but the support surprised her. As Africans, we shy away from emotional conversations, even telling family we love them and we'll be there for them no matter what. I think this needs to change. This may be why people go through hell for years, all alone.
We shy away and sometimes it's because not everyone will be understanding and supportive. In my case I was the talk of the family. Most of my relatives would see me and give me that disapproving look, talk about me without regard for my feelings and the fact that I had turned to alcohol was their only focus. No one wanted anything to do with me even after all the support I had accorded them through the years. My aunts would tell their grown up children not to hang out or talk to me cos nitawafunza tabia mbaya ( meaning watakua alcoholic kama mimi) . All in all God healed me and now I am happily single, healthy and wiser.
@@nekesamapesa I'm happy for you. My family, that is our other sister, mum and I enveloped our sister and nephews with so much love and support. Alafu we didn't even tell the extended family, she told whoever she wanted to know. Mtu akijaribu sijui nini, tunamkomesha. Extended fam will of course be messy and nasty abt it, but if your parents especially, are there for you. I saw with my sis that it really helps. I'm sorry for the crap you went through and I'm glad and proud of you for prevailing. Hug from an internet sister 🤗
I really relate to you both i have been there the beating even in front of my kidz this sad I'm happy you left i too left n am grateful to my pastor, bff Mariam n sharleen n mum who were my support till date thanks for sharing
I wish mom could support me..i was to live today morning...i packed my belongings n called to know if she could pick my kids from town,,cz was reporting to work but oops...my family had changed their mind.Am told i need to stay for my kids to have a father, this is the same father who is abusive to my kids emotionally..He told my First born ww utakua na maisha mbaya Sana..Mimi c Baba yako😭😭
Its been two years since i left my baby dady and toxic relationships does nt mean physical only but emotional and mental. I really needed to be the best version for my son and i felt i was drowning mentally from my relationship. Thank you Idah for sharing your story
We often think that toxic/ abusive people come looking really evil and bad. But in reality, they come well-dressed, well-learned/successful, they come as the pastors, they come the silent humble ladies or men etc. We need to learn what toxic traits look like so that we are able to identify and assess toxic people/situations when they are being toxic. My heart goes to Alisha and everyone who has undergone (or is still undergoing) narcissistic abuse. I pray we all heal :) Thanks to Lynn and everyone you interview. You are creating a ripple effect. By impacting one person who will impact another, change is found and people's lives are canged.
I remember 8 years back I was with a man who worked so hard to see me dead be would beat me up like I was a thieve and at the same time take care of me...I too turned to alcohol and became a full blown alcoholic and after very many incidents and struggles I was literally taken out of that house. Skip forward to last year when he found me again and was apologetic (did a good job of acting with tears and all) then proceeded to declare that he had realised I was his soulmate...I feel that I let God down by trying to consider that maybe he had changed and grown up..luckily before I could go back to him he told me a story about how his wife (the one he used to beat me about) was a bad woman and he would bad mouth her. That's when God asked me ' Nekesa do you remember all the shame, tears and pain you used ask me to take away from you! And now you want to cheat yourself that this guy is sorry!" That's when I woke up.Been single 6 years now and I have learned so much on what isn't acceptable in any relationship.
@@Keenytravels tribe tena???? Hahah a good Man comes in any colour and tribe, you marry your own and he turns wild pray to God to bring your true match
I have not been married before but this is enlightening, even in relationships people go through the same and Idah's story is timely to anyone going through such an ordeal. 1% is still a chance, if you have it take it and run with it.
I can't believe she was going through all that and she managed to appear on our screens ❤ thanks for sharing your story Olive🖐let's show love her love team LNN❤
She is so beautiful,and eloquent. Brave of you to have shared this Idah. It is sad,that the bodies put in place to help victims fail them so much. Some police officers will even joke to you about it.
Getting into marriage before 30 years is like going to a party you get a buffet but on the first pot you fill your plate with the first choice of food ,, later you go forward and realise the mistake you made
This is so encouraging, l love Idah energy and confidence ,, Lyn please talk about ladies who have children, trying to make things work in a relationship but they are not working as expected even after giving their best
By far this has been the best interview i have watched in a while and has really been an eye opener. Thank you so much Idah for being vulnerable . You have really inspired me cz i was really at my lowest mentally!! God bless you!
I love how Lynn said we take our time to forgive this pastor. I love your energy Lynn. You are 100%. Thank you Idah for being so genuine and authentic in your sharing. I'm so happy for your healing.
Idah's story has relieved me in one way or another.Nothing feels bad like getting married to a narcissist.The world will judge you like they did to me but i chose peace for the sake of my daughter.I'm a divorcee and i don't regret.. happier being a single mother rather than being married to a toxic person 💯
As you have said. You have God's favour. That's why you had challenges. Your future is much brighter. Being on screens looked beautiful on you. Your friends are great too. Have more peace.
Hi sis proud of you,am asingle mum of 2 and had a narcissist husband for 8 years wooii I lost my sanity but am happy now and very peaceful after he kanyangad kubwa kubwa
I love the show🔥, I love her vibe, I love her voice, I can listen to you all day long. Idah girl! You are authentic. I appreciate the vulnerability . You are amazing!
This is so encouraging at the right time.. thanks for sharing your story Idah, truly love can mess someone mentally when they dealing with a narcissist . keep soaring high beautiful
Good morning team LN. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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Idah your beautiful 🥰
Hello Lynn . If you can be able to bring Gaterina of the famous show in Inooro Tv she's a great lady having passed through depression and a lot to teach us especially through fame and down due to life issues tu. Thanks in advance
Sad story and also funny 🤣🤣🤣😳
I am going through the same and looking for a way to overcome. Everyone says I have a problem in the mist of many toxic people
Idah you are beautiful inside and outside ♥️
Who else lowkey loves Idah's voice?😍😍
Meeee🤭🤭🤭
It's literally obsessive
Yooh😍
not low key for me,I love such voices, beautiful
It's obsessing
I am so proud of you .it's taken you years to heal 😭. Thank you for saving lives because I know you are .I love you so much 🙏. Lynn we love you so much,God bless you for this platform.
and Kate you have been a true friend to her!
We need friends like you Kate you did a great job May God bless you🙏🏻
Friends like Kate ❣️
Hi Katey 😘
Kate actress receive all the love 💜💜
I went through the same with a youth chairman for 2 years, it's God that I'm here writing this. We thank God for you Idah!
Hope Idah will know that she has just saved thousands of lives.
❤️❤️❤️
She a strong person ...l like that she has set an example to the young persons who don't know what to do in the same situation...she has taught us to stand up to what we believe
I have been there still am.....I completely agree. More women need to come out by God's grace. May God heal whoever reading this
I am so overwhelmed by all the love and encouragement! It’s crazy that most of us have the same story with abuse! I pray that each and every one of us is able to get past it and reclaim our joy! We deserve better!
We’d rather be called names and ridiculed for leaving than be a hashtag after we’ve lost our lives! I truly thank all of you for being so gracious and Lynn for such an amazing platform!
God bless you all ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story ❤.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️it's very inspiring
God bless you Idah! Thank you for being brave with your story. You have touched many souls🤝
Your story 🥺is just so inspiring. Thanks for sharing it🥺❤️.You are truly the real definition of "strong" 🥺❤️.
Thanks for sharing.
Her English is bomb... Talk of her voice... Let's all agree we can listen to her speak all day
She could be a good voice on radio too if not yet there already.
Kuongea n humor ka za cate kabisa
It's like am watching cate they have alot in common
You know aaaaw sweet 😊
She's a whole vibe!!!
Abuse didn't happen because you were 21,it actually happened because the man was abusive.
She said that because she was 21 she did know enough to see the sign and her ignorance caused her to put up with it for way to long and to not listen to her own mother's advice.
She is a very good storyteller between the crying and laughing this was a roller coaster. But I am thankful to God for the strength He has given Idah to share this with us. As a young lady I am educated and inspired ! Thank you Idah and Lynn.❤
'Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.' - Maya Angelou
True
Powerful peace beautiful
I love this
True
Amen
Why is this lady not on radio? Her voice just wants you to keep listening 🎧.
True😃
English please English
Ako radio huko majuu.....
Very true
And vibes too
I can't imagine I've cried throughout her whole story, I'm turning 21 on Thursday and I've learnt alot, atleast you've helped me not to make mistakes, and you have a very beautiful voice btw, I also want to be an actress 🥺🥺I just don't know how to start... But thanks for your touching story... I love you already
Nakwambia am also 21 but it’s good we are out here getting what we need
Walking away from abusive marriage is always the best decision
Coz this people never change no matter how many times they apologize
One thing that stands out in this conversation is that no matter what Idah went through with her marriage and the church, her relationship with God is still intact. 🙏🙏
very key
wow....
Church people can be evil but not God. It's important to understand that.
True
Her mum raised her in Godly ways
Watu wenye tulifanya Kifo kisimani, Utengano and The River Between 💯 pita na like 👍. It was awesome ✅
Best set books
@@lindagatwiri869 yess
You don't know how much your opening up has done to the world.thanks Idah thanks Lynn
Just watching this after getting out of a one year relationship with a mental, emotionally and physically abusive boyfriend, he only started showing this side to him when she moved in together in the beginning of the year, the fact that your story just got recommended to me is a big sign that I made the right decision. Thank you for sharing your story and standing up for you. I wish you all the happiness you can get cause you deserve it
Pole kagendo
Power to all the women who walk away from abusive relationships. Love should never be toxic.
Same to men
Hahahaha 🤣🤣🤣 ntakufa nkiwa 78
Aki this is so my story
@@leahwanjiku3566 This is why men do not and will never come out and say their shit because all they get is ridicule :) .
Idah is such a beauty in and out.Havi ng interacted with her during childhood I also asked the same question she asked,Idah mwenye nilikuwa najua utotoni would not take this bulshit sorry to say coz alikuwa kinda tough,but I thank God for the woman she is today,coz out to the hard times,a gem came out.She is such an inspiration to many,I included.
Her voice is beautiful and strong
Her command of English language is wonderful
And her story makes us all empathetic
Teaches us to remove the veil of the church and know God on our own
I love 💕 to be like u
God bless Idah's strength and courage. She went through the fire and survived and now thrives. I'm truly glad she told her story! You never know what ears they may reach to those who need to know 1. Do not feel shame 2. You are not alone and most importantly 3. You have every right to walk away! Peace with you. ❤️
This is what most women go through in their relationships. They suffer in silence. I'm glad that Idah was able to speak up on behalf of all those women.
Women should have the courage to get out to listen to the society
I just love her voice and the way she is expressing herself with the correct choice of words. Na fans wa lynn ebu wacheni wivu ,if you like it crown it .
A broken engagement is better than marrying the wrong person.
A broken marriage is better than lying in Langata.
Kudos for walking away!!
You can say this again I relate a lot to this story but thank God the wedding never happened 🙏🙏
That's true
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What about prostitution and cheating??? 🤷♀️
@@kathleendonna5550 why are Soo bitter have read your comments it's about time you understand that abuse is real stop demonizing the victim
Thank you Idah Alisha - I have learnt a new phrase from you - "Trauma Bonding" - i will include this in the counselling sessions we give to singles wanting to be in a relationship and couples planning to wed
Involve me
@@faithmwendwa9276 - how can i involve you? How can i reach you
Hey Kim, glad to know you have a chance to help people to avoid such suffering. It would be nice if you study trauma in detail. It's not just a phrase but a complex phenomena, a reason why the majority stick in domestic abuse. You can't just apply, you need to understand. Trauma healing should happen beforehand. During premarital counseling such patterns should be applied. Unfortunately most people don't get that kind of help. They first get into trouble only to learn later
If you do this regularly, please read and always have on hand:
1.Things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman
2. Jesus, the gentle parent
3. Leslie Vernick's books
4. Lundy Bancroft's inside the minds of angry and controlling men
5. The body keeps the score
6. Esther Perel books/content
7. Non violent communication Marshall B. Rosenberg
8. Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie
Nimemaliza... For now 😂😂😂.
Usinichukulie vibaya but I find that we Kenyan family, friends and the church in particular hatujielimishi kwa mambo haya. We should not continue perishing for lack of (readily available) knowledge. And I hope one or 2 may also benefit from these.
Baraka kwako na Mungu abariki kazi ya mikono yako Kimani
I love the fact that she embraces the simple things in life. That's how it should be.
1a
The fact that her relationship with God is still intact after all that is everything!
I also love that. Her faith is Intact ❤️🙏
I listened to Pascal Tokodi's wife when she called off her first wedding...when I see Grace Ekirapa today....I feel it was worth it. I won't get myself into something Iam still doubting. Thank you Ida for coming out.
Recently a Nigerian lady called off her wedding and refunded all expenses used
Where's the interview, I would love to listen to it?
I love Idah's career story. What I have learned from her is that when an opportunity arise I need to give my all 'cause you never know how far your ideas will take you. More to that, I love her personality. She is a strong Lady.
Triggers going off everywhere! Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. I was blessed enough to dodge a bullet. We live. We grow. We learn. Spirituality over Religion. You are so bubbly and life giving, no one should ever dim that light.
She's so eloquent I love her vibe I remember watching her wedding in wedding show with Nonny Gathoni. .... anyway coming home from a failed marriage is better than coming home in a coffin
Who else is laughing and crying the same time ,she has gone through so much but is still full of humor,and her voice is iconic,Thank God your at a better place idah ❤️
Yess and she narrates it in humour. Lyn too had a great flow with her. I just love happy women. As for the man who had married her may he never know peace.
Me here mehn she is strong
I 💯
🤣🤣🤣🤣 true
As young,and stunning she is,some men
Idah thanks for sharing this very touching story of your life. Many women are staying in abusive marriages for 'the sake of children' without understanding how much damage they are doing to themselves n the children as well. This is very enlightening. May God continue to uphold you by His grace.
Idah has walked in faith and turned out to be the best version of herself may God continue taking her to greater heights ❤❤❤❤❤Lynn & Idahs friends may God bless you all ❤❤❤
Leaving/quitting marriage is the hardest but worthy decision. Thank you both Lynn for the platform and Idah for sharing your story
There's so much resemblance between Idah and Cate especially how they both speak and i totally love these two women , it is good to hear her story
This is the comment I was looking for
Me too. I was wondering why no one is seeing the resemblance
My thoughts exactly
Exactly, I noticed the same before reading the comments
My thought too. Hadi humor ni zile tu za cate na kuongea kiuk in btwn conver
Her courage to speak up touched me...the church has been made a hiding place by abusers and I think it's time we learnt to move out when it's not safe
Exactly 💯
Idah, you are the defination of STRENGTH. Thank you for shairing your story it has really inspired me
This here in my story.. unfortunately it broke me, I got mental disorder but through the pain God still is faithful. I walked away just as she did with my two sons.... His family told me "tumekupa 6 months ukule shida! Njaa itakurudisha...." Its been years and God ni yule msee
Only weak men do this,,,keep winning honey
God is so faithful,watangoja sana
Amen
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 proud of you
May you always have enough for your sons.
Despite all she went through, her humor is everything.
I said the same thing to myself😂
I'm in tears.... Kwani gari ilikuosha
😃 sure
🤣🤣🤣aky..
lyk ulilala kwa gari na ulicome ukismell geisha😅😅really
This is so powerful🔥🔥I am 21 too currently and I also feel young to get married...
You are really enlightening many of us Ida..
And your voice🔥🔥🔥🔥
It takes courage for Idah to share her story and God will take her places. She did the best thing to tive to tell her story. Go girl. Love yourself.
Grew up watching her on TV . She’s so beautiful.. it’s so sad hearing what she went through. Glad she’s at a better place now ♥️
Yeah May God fight for us 🙏🙏
Yes she looks familiar aki 🤔
Hi my favourite couples
Wow Annette nice seeing you here kwa Lyn 😀
Hey Annette good to see you here ulitoka ushago ☺️
I've been through exactly the same, got married at 21 to the most narcissistic man I've ever known. To make matters worse he was the one making money and I had no job. I also had to move out of Kenya coz he was stalking me and even harassing my friends. I know better now! Thanks @Idah Alisha for sharing your story.
Kudos to you dear for walking away u definitely made the right choice
Strong Woman
Congratulations for being strong ☺️💪
Same my story 😂😂 woiii ahk
my story too ,married at 22 he was 29 n was soooo abusive for 9 good years wah its now 6 years since i left n wah this life u can just loose your life for society
I don't even know why I am watching this now, 1 year later. It is heartbreaking to hear this and all that you had to go through. I'm all in tears as I wat this. I am so glad that you have found your healing and continue to heal past this experience. Nobody should ever have to go through abuse. It is not justifiable at all. But what surprises me the most is that the church (represented by the individual who was assigned to offer counsel) failed you terribly. I wish you blessings and may your heart continue to restore you @IdahAlisha
I'm 21 and Idah I love your story. You showing up and talking about this has really made me realize that marriage and church don't have to mean everything in life and from here onwards I'm confident enough to say No I don't want marriage if I'm not ready. God bless
You are a wise lady
Qqqq,,,
@@hannahwanjiku1930 I was gonna say that...She's really wise.
Keep pursuing wisdom Ann...You are a wise young lady😇
Thank you so much 🥰
I really resonated with you when you said,"if you are raised up in an abusive family,you either become an abuser or a victim."
Girl am genuinely happy for you.
You are an overcomer and so much more.
I can connect
God is great .you are so beautiful am happy for you coz you never loss hope. I like the show.
No one is taking about her voice weeh💖💯🥳
Thats wonderfully God is good am happy for you go gal that is a testimony all this yrs God was there with you know you are here be still am God
I understand why zulu says the reason as why a lady should start thinking marriage when you are past 25 yrs.Makes alot of sense now .Sorry for what you had to go through and thank God you are stronger and sharing to inspire lot of people.
Oh Ida😭😭, your story is really inspirational, thank you for sharing, we all are healing ❤️
I have been bitten before with a person who raped me at 16 for saying that he was my boyfriend, got raped again at 21 I don't see men the same, am afraid of them. I got born again and stood till now. Idah this is so inspiring am very sorry for what you went through, you are so beautiful and pretty to go through that am very sorry. I got a fiancee when I met him I healed a lot he is in Qatar very young, handsome and kind. I 💖 him, it's a journey to heal. Thank you for your inspiring story God bless you.😭😭😭😭🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏😇😇
Much love to you dear
@@abigailsozi6412 Thank you dear God bless you 🙏💖💖💝💕
I'm so sorry you went through all this. May CHRIST JESUS HEAL you
@@denisetheur5641 Thank you 🙏🙏😊
She speaks so beautifully and she's such a character, a whole vibe. So much love.
A whole story told by a beautiful soul with a beautiful voice...Mothers should live forever to receive us back when we cannot take it anymore🤲
Ameeen
I'm so sorry for what Idah went through. I thank God she has healed and able to tell her story. She is such a strong woman.
That part of cutting off ties with your friends and adopting his is very 100% accurate. Its called manipulation. Dropping your beliefs for his beliefs.
To every woman who've walked away from an abusive marriage,just know you are so brave and strong... congratulations to us all... it's well😍
We deserve medals 🏅 sis with God and prayers we will be fine 🙂 🙏 🥰😍
@Furaha...ooh Yes, He's a faithful Father.
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I love that Lynn is such a keen and avid listener. She's also empathetic, she always have a place in her heart for everyone. God bless you so much.❤️
Hey Lynn it's a pleasure to listen to Idah, especially now that she's our heroine, she a representation of some of us who also walked out at a very young age. At your own time, I'd like to tell my story on your channel and encourage young women on the importance of moving out. I personally lost myself, my child taken away, suffered with depression and ended up in drugs. Being married to a cop character debeloped me real bad. I am doing better now and no longer depending on alcohol
That's true girl...
what a story. You are a legend Idah. You speaking out so bravely has truly changed hundreds if not thousands of lives. Blessings
No one is talking of how her English is nice😍her Voice is lovely
Very nice English
The comment I was looking for 🔥
Very very nice English
Very very nice n her voice inapendeza.
It on point 🔥 can listen to her all the day
Am glad she's free.... Most Pastors should learn to be human surely 😢😢
Ladies you look gorgeous 😍
Good to see u here😍😍
@@Luobeby-254 😅😅😅.. thanks ❤️
Also was married at 18 to a narcissist but ithank God i finally got the courage to walking away,am 23 now and a mom to a five year old and my choice was the best gift i ever gave myself and my daughter.
U can listen to Idah 365 days over n over again,she is such a vibe.I have really learnt alot from her.Thanx alot for sharing,much💖Thanx Lynn for letting this gal pour her heart ❤️
Idah's story is so enlightening and a great inspiration to many ladies who have been made to question their worth and are in toxic relationships. I pray that ladies find the courage to walk out of toxic relationships. And of course, having a great support system like Idah's is the best blessing in life.
i went through GBV for 3yrs in my marriage til he almost killed me the day i left i never looked back. Thanks Idah for leaving and saying leaving is very ok
Hey Idah, I hear you. It's not only the church. You remind me of some Imam when I wanted to walk out of the abusive relationship. The hypocrisy in this society is sickening. I also walked out&left everything that I had bought,left the country for 3 months. No amount of material things can amount to life. You will be healed, though the scars can never be erased deep within. I'm really happy for you Idah, we missed you in mother in law. True, if someone yells at me, points a finger in my face, use insulting language, is controlling, I literally run.. Thanks Lynn for giving Idah a platform to share her story. Idah thanks for the courage to come out
Wow. This is why we need to know Almighty for ourselves and not soley through what others tell us.
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Ever felt someone giving part of your story.... went through abuse at 26 and I thank God for showing me the door, starting all a fresh no matter how hard it was, even with the fact we had a wedding to happen! It's weird how someone can beat you up to a point of death and tomorrow is like nothing happened and still reminds you are a bride and wife to be and family is looking forward to the date! Manipulation.... in the eyes of other his an angel but in the house you can not explain who you live with....
Great encouragement LNS....
Ladies /Men run for your dear life and happiness.....
Never settle for less for you might not see tomorrow
No one should stay with a violent person no matter what!
We call them 'street Angeles and house devils'. They have the Jackell, Heid personality!
Hea 🌹
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words and that's what your friends did to you I salute them all
Wow love the words
my ex was the same way, he used to slap me kwa road nikisalimiwa na mwanaume, I left the moment he took a harmer to beat me but it knocked the wall ... its now one year after i left and I also used to dream of him attacking me but i thank God he restored me am now happy and strong...Can never allow someone abusive in my life kama huniwezi tembeza
This story has reminded me my past. I went through that similar situation with my ex. I left with nothing and gained much more. God has been faithful🙏
I always enjoy watching your videos. I have not ndergone any form of abuse or been in an abusive family,but I have learned A LOT from your stories.Can't wait to hear your story Lynn.
Please do something 😊
My sister went through something like that, years of emotional abuse and months of physical abuse. She has two boys, when she decided to leave, her life changed. First thing I noticed was how shocked she was by her support system, especially our mum. Our mum is a single mum as well and she never knew what my sister was going through, but the minute she did, she was so supportive. I don’t know what my sister was expecting, but the support surprised her. As Africans, we shy away from emotional conversations, even telling family we love them and we'll be there for them no matter what. I think this needs to change. This may be why people go through hell for years, all alone.
We shy away and sometimes it's because not everyone will be understanding and supportive. In my case I was the talk of the family. Most of my relatives would see me and give me that disapproving look, talk about me without regard for my feelings and the fact that I had turned to alcohol was their only focus. No one wanted anything to do with me even after all the support I had accorded them through the years. My aunts would tell their grown up children not to hang out or talk to me cos nitawafunza tabia mbaya ( meaning watakua alcoholic kama mimi) . All in all God healed me and now I am happily single, healthy and wiser.
@@nekesamapesa I'm happy for you. My family, that is our other sister, mum and I enveloped our sister and nephews with so much love and support. Alafu we didn't even tell the extended family, she told whoever she wanted to know. Mtu akijaribu sijui nini, tunamkomesha. Extended fam will of course be messy and nasty abt it, but if your parents especially, are there for you. I saw with my sis that it really helps. I'm sorry for the crap you went through and I'm glad and proud of you for prevailing. Hug from an internet sister 🤗
@@2mw_ke thank you so much. Hugs right back at you
I really relate to you both i have been there the beating even in front of my kidz this sad
I'm happy you left i too left n am grateful to my pastor, bff Mariam n sharleen n mum who were my support till date thanks for sharing
I wish mom could support me..i was to live today morning...i packed my belongings n called to know if she could pick my kids from town,,cz was reporting to work but oops...my family had changed their mind.Am told i need to stay for my kids to have a father, this is the same father who is abusive to my kids emotionally..He told my First born ww utakua na maisha mbaya Sana..Mimi c Baba yako😭😭
Its been two years since i left my baby dady and toxic relationships does nt mean physical only but emotional and mental. I really needed to be the best version for my son and i felt i was drowning mentally from my relationship. Thank you Idah for sharing your story
Proud of you❤️. You are doing amazing
So Beautiful! It's my second time watching it one year later. I am just so impressed by Idah! She is just an original.May God bring you to the peak
We often think that toxic/ abusive people come looking really evil and bad. But in reality, they come well-dressed, well-learned/successful, they come as the pastors, they come the silent humble ladies or men etc. We need to learn what toxic traits look like so that we are able to identify and assess toxic people/situations when they are being toxic. My heart goes to Alisha and everyone who has undergone (or is still undergoing) narcissistic abuse. I pray we all heal :) Thanks to Lynn and everyone you interview. You are creating a ripple effect. By impacting one person who will impact another, change is found and people's lives are canged.
Her story is a voice to many suffering in Silent. That was a Brilliant interview. Thanks both💖
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I remember 8 years back I was with a man who worked so hard to see me dead be would beat me up like I was a thieve and at the same time take care of me...I too turned to alcohol and became a full blown alcoholic and after very many incidents and struggles I was literally taken out of that house. Skip forward to last year when he found me again and was apologetic (did a good job of acting with tears and all) then proceeded to declare that he had realised I was his soulmate...I feel that I let God down by trying to consider that maybe he had changed and grown up..luckily before I could go back to him he told me a story about how his wife (the one he used to beat me about) was a bad woman and he would bad mouth her. That's when God asked me ' Nekesa do you remember all the shame, tears and pain you used ask me to take away from you! And now you want to cheat yourself that this guy is sorry!" That's when I woke up.Been single 6 years now and I have learned so much on what isn't acceptable in any relationship.
You made the best decision ever. My sister was in the same situation too but left after saying to God "If I go back to that man let him kill me"
Big narcissist they will cry and lie and love bomb just to get you back then punish you further, so glad you did not go back
I'm young and I swear I learn alot from these comments too. What was your man's tribe?
@@Keenytravels tribe tena???? Hahah a good Man comes in any colour and tribe, you marry your own and he turns wild pray to God to bring your true match
You did great and never regret leaving qn abusive man,,
I don't want this interview to end wooooiye... I can listen to her the whole day. 10.05.2022
"I'm not religious, I'm spiritual".
My mantra. I didn't know anyone else says those exact words. Listening as I write this comment.
i do all the damn timmmmme
Her story acts as an eye opener when choosing a life Partner . She's such an inspiration .GBV must end
GBV must end.
It's her voice for me.
Being a 24yr old,have learnt a lot from Idah.
Thanks for sharing.
I have not been married before but this is enlightening, even in relationships people go through the same and Idah's story is timely to anyone going through such an ordeal. 1% is still a chance, if you have it take it and run with it.
I leave this for my little sons to remember when we cross this storm of an abusive marriage,may the God of idah meet me at my point of need
Amen❤
And HE will sis!!!! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾❤️
I can't believe she was going through all that and she managed to appear on our screens ❤ thanks for sharing your story Olive🖐let's show love her love team LNN❤
Love isn't about toxic, red flags or boxing. It's concern, care and understanding.
She is so beautiful,and eloquent. Brave of you to have shared this Idah. It is sad,that the bodies put in place to help victims fail them so much. Some police officers will even joke to you about it.
Getting into marriage before 30 years is like going to a party you get a buffet but on the first pot you fill your plate with the first choice of food ,, later you go forward and realise the mistake you made
Lyn, I think what stands out for me is your empathy. The ability to get into someone's shoes and feel what they are feeling. You are blessed ❤️
She has a gold heart
she is beautiful and wow ametoka far God is good.
I love Ida's voice and the truthfulness in her ❤️❤️
This is so encouraging, l love Idah energy and confidence ,, Lyn please talk about ladies who have children, trying to make things work in a relationship but they are not working as expected even after giving their best
By far this has been the best interview i have watched in a while and has really been an eye opener. Thank you so much Idah for being vulnerable . You have really inspired me cz i was really at my lowest mentally!! God bless you!
It gets better❤️
Love that she can make fun and now laugh about her experience. Her growth is evident.
I love how Lynn said we take our time to forgive this pastor. I love your energy Lynn. You are 100%. Thank you Idah for being so genuine and authentic in your sharing. I'm so happy for your healing.
It's a touching story🥺and how God came in for her amazed me🥺i love how she is healed and confident to tell her story RN.
Idah's story has relieved me in one way or another.Nothing feels bad like getting married to a narcissist.The world will judge you like they did to me but i chose peace for the sake of my daughter.I'm a divorcee and i don't regret.. happier being a single mother rather than being married to a toxic person 💯
This was my life 4 years ago. I thank God I got confidence to leave. He saved me
I hope you are okay and healed. Hugs and love to you and your daughter.
As you have said. You have God's favour. That's why you had challenges. Your future is much brighter. Being on screens looked beautiful on you. Your friends are great too. Have more peace.
Be blessed stwie
Hi sis proud of you,am asingle mum of 2 and had a narcissist husband for 8 years wooii I lost my sanity but am happy now and very peaceful after he kanyangad kubwa kubwa
Thank you Lynn for always bringing us these stories.
Thank you Lynn for this interview, Wow inspiring story
I love the show🔥, I love her vibe, I love her voice, I can listen to you all day long. Idah girl! You are authentic. I appreciate the vulnerability . You are amazing!
Thanks Lynn for bringing idah on board she motivates many single mothers out here ❤❤
I like that Lynn is always part of the stories..she cries with her guests ☺️☺️
This is so encouraging at the right time.. thanks for sharing your story Idah, truly love can mess someone mentally when they dealing with a narcissist . keep soaring high beautiful
Trust Lynn to make you feel like a superstar! She's truly amazing. Idah too, such a vibe!