Movie Family Therapy: FREAKY FRIDAY
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Have you tried role-playing (not the RPG kind) or perspective taking?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are taking a look at Freaky Friday through the theme of perspective taking. It’s a legitimate therapy technique, and Jonathan explains how it’s used in a real setting. They talk about the assumptions and hurtful behaviors that culminate in Tess and Anna switching bodies. Alan praises the performances from Jamie Lee Curtis and Lindsay Lohan because they’re each acting as the other actor acting as the character. And they do it so well!
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When Lindsay Lohan had her baby, Jamie Lee Curtis congratulated her and posted, "My movie daughter just made me a movie grandmother!" Aww. So sweet.
That's why we love Jamie Lee Curtis!
Jamie Lee Curtis grew up in Hollywood, and has always been compassionate & supportive of Lindsay, even when she went through her rough times. Hollywood can be traumatic, and Jamie knew that and always held space for her. I love that.
(Edited for spelling)
SHE HAS A BABY??
@@jaymesigler6402MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY LIKE WHY AM I JUST NOW HEARING THIS
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Knowing Lindsay Lohan had to teach Jamie Lee Curtis the different intonations of "Shut Up", just makes this movie that much better.
@@axis_line_mediaDamn, true. It's sad beacuse Amanda Bynes also has gone down a similar path as Lindsay, I think Manda may need compassion too.
@@seanluzdeluna8153 Where is Amanda now in her journey? Still having trouble?
@@2degucitas We all struggle for the rest of our lives. But yeah, I don't think she's gotten through the worst of it yet, unfortunately.
@@ajwindlecame here to say this!!!!
Making Ryan a great guy rather than the typical bad step-dad was such a clever move. I just love the scene where he tells both Anna and Tess to go to the gig because you see how it changes their view of him, not just Anna's but Tess' as well. Before that moment, she clearly assumed that he was marrying her in spite (not because) of her family and was therefore mainly concerned with how her kids were making her look in front of him rather than how they actually felt about him.
And yeah, major props to Jamie Lee Curtis and Lindsay Lohan. They basically had to play a mother playing her daughter who is trying to pretend to be her mother and vice-versa respectively. That's a crazy level of layers.
Yeah.
Most movie step dad are assholes and it's so refreshing to see one that actually cared
First Princess Diaries, now Freaky Friday--y'all are covering my CHILDHOOD THANK YOU for all the good analysis' internet dads!!!!
You're so welcome! 😁
I really want them to review The Parent Trap. I think Jonathan will have some heavy Opinions on separating siblings and keeping it a secret from them
Agreed, I hope that they review more teen girl movies, like Clueless, Bring it On, or Heathers!
@@trinaq a million yeses to Clueless!
Right!! Now they have to do Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen because Lindsey Lohan’s character in that movie was NUTS !!!
This movie was my childhood. We don't get a lot of mother-daughter buddy comedies and I love that this one feels so organic and well acted, not just the comedy but the more emotional moments as well.
Definitely
Watch Ladybird. It's very recent and it's not funny like this one is, nor is it a buddy comedy but it's a damn good movie about a mother-daughter relationship
Watch 'The Meddler', it's darker and doesn't blur the lines between parent and child in the same way (if I remember right) but still a mother-daughter comedy.
@Kassidar I was just going to comment this! This channel should feature it
@@andreap3147 Absolutely, but I can't imagine the CT episode is going to be anything but Johnathan going, "Yip i've seen this dynamic 100 times and this is exactly how it goes"
Didn’t expect something as simple as you guys swamping seats to unsettle me so much 😂
Wait how dare you point that out?! 😂
And shirts! XD
@@clockworkmonsters8590OH NO i didnt even realize the shirt change!!
And shirts. Immediately made me go "woah"
I didn't get the shirts oml I'm having problems with this
"Mr. Dude, YOU ROCK" is such an excellent example of kids trying to reciprocate respect and gratitude in their language.
Explaining why Freaky Friday is a masterpiece is like explaining why ice melts into water.
For you maybe. My sister and I were not allowed to go see it growing up.
@@amayasasaki2848dang that’s rough I hope you’re able to see it now
@@amayasasaki2848 How come? If you don't mind my asking.
@@CaitMcKi I grew up pretty sheltered. I can't remember if it was the body horror aspect as just too weird or if it was the "magic" bit.
Liquid thermodynamics? :D
Jamie Lee Curtis' performance is even more impressive when you find out she was brought in last minute because she was available and lived conveniently near to the filming location.
Dying at this lmao
Sometimes, Lady Fortuna smiles on us with kindness.
Can we also just appreciate the fact that Jamie Lee Curtis actually learned the guitar for this movie
I didn’t know that thats awesome!
SHE IS AWESOME!
So did Lindsey Lohan
I like how the mom learns from the daughter too.
In most movies like this (and in previous and newer film versions of the concept), it’s usually the daughter learning the lesson that “Wow I need to be better, my moms life isn’t easy!” But here the mom also learns that her daughter has her problems too and learns from her as well.
I’ve always liked the “Parents aren’t perfect.” morals because they’re realistic. Even the best parents aren’t perfect and can learn from their kids, and it’s important for kids and adults to understand that.
That's something that I think is really important about this movie. The mom assumes that her daughter is just being a teenager about a teacher who's strict and failing that class because she doesn't want to do the work, and that's a reasonable assumption! But she finds out that no, the teacher actually does hate her for reasons that are completely out of her control, and she wasn't exaggerating his behavior at all. An important lesson about actually assessing what someone is saying to you and what you know of that individual rather than leaning on an assumption you have about them or a group they're a part of.
Anna's priorities and concerns are also given credence, which is so refreshing. She has problems, relationships, stresses, and dreams that all matter, and I really appreciate that it's given the same weight as the adult problems. Kid problems matter! They're hard to deal with and so many adults forget that as they get further away from being a teenager.
Happy 20th Anniversary, Freaky Friday! Lindsay and Jamie Lee were so convincing at mimicking each other's mannerisms, that I was convinced that they really HAD swapped bodies as a kid! 😅
They really are that good!
i used to watch movie scenes where a character as a child grows up through the years and i genuinely thought that the actor would grow up in the movie and that movie making processes could take like 20 years because of this
@trinaq this is kinda random but I think I see your comments on a TON of the channels I watch, which makes me think we have immensely similar algorithms.
20 anniversary?! Man that has me feeling old, I remember watching this a lot and thinking Anna was so cool. Even trying and failing miserably to write music. I think this and the first Jonas Brothers album are the reason now I have the music tastes I do well the 00s music taste anyway. (for reference I'm 27)
20th anniversary? That feels really weird because I was about 6 or 7 at the time. And the movie still holds up today. You guys possibly talked or will talk about something similar when y'all do an episode on one or both of the newer Jumanji movies.
I frequently have the "crying so hard that you can't understand what they're saying" issue when my kids fall down or get in an argument. Sometimes you think they're hurt, but they're just mad that their sibling slammed the door. 🤣
Oh my god this happened with my little sister yesterday. She started screaming bloody murder i ran out to see what was happening, and my little brother scared her and was just blabbing away. She was screaming so hard i thought our dog died 😭
After this, I *need* a Movie Family Therapy video on Max and Goofy from “A Goofy Movie” and “An Extremely Goofy Movie”
I second this
Yes please! 🥺🥰🩷✨
OMG YES!!! this was a mother-daughter struggle, and that is a father-son struggle!!!
So much yes!
Please
"Most of our hurtful behavior comes from either trying to get love and affection or we're responding to a lack of love and affection." Very insightful movie review & commentary!
I loved how Jake fell for Anna's spirit, not her appearance, showing that their connection was more than surface level. I like to think that Anna and Jake managed to make things work, though things were probably awkward with him and Tess for a while.
It’s also weird AND illegal that Jake is apparently a member of staff at Anna’s high school
@@moviemelody2210was he an employee? I thought he was like a TA, which is really common for seniors to do as a class period
@@thefatefish in the synopses it said Anna has a crush on a “school staff member named named Jake”. I always thought he was a senior TA as well but now Idk
@@moviemelody2210I’m 97% sure that synopsis is incorrect. Jake is a teenager in the film and not a member of the high school staff. Wikipedia can be edited by anyone so it’s always good to take information with a grain of salt.
@@therealameliabedelia7821 if that’s the case I’ve never been more happy to be wrong about something relating to a movie
I love that they made the mom a therapist in this movie. It just showed how even the smartest and best communicators are still human and can benefit from therapy and role reversal.
"I'm like the crypt keeper!"
Iconic.
When Anthony Hopkins was playing Loki who was pretending to be Odin, I actually felt like Tom Huddleston had turned into Loki instead of the Obvious that it was Anthony Hopkins the whole time. LOL🤣 Which just shows how skilled Anthony Hopkins is
same goes when loki was pretending to be steve rogers. like... dang chris evans.
Yes, exactly!
(also Helena Bonham-Carter playing Emma Watson playing Hermione Grainger playing Bellatrix Lestrange - increeeeeeeeeeeedible acting)
@@lucyj8204 I was hoping for someone mentioning Helena Bonham-Carter, she was incredible in those scenes!
Happy 20th anniversary to one of Disney's best live-action movies!Hands down. Lindsay Lohan and Jamie Lee Curtis are both amazing in this. Not for a second did I think they were acting, it truly seemed like they had switched bodies the performances were so good.
Seriously great performances from both!
Can we all agree that Ryan is one of the best on screen step dad characters ever written for film? He holds his ground yet he remains respectful, he doesn't diminish Tess' role as a mom or provider, he doesn't see Anna as lesser, he knows why people are doing things and can see beyond the first impression. He surely does rock
I didn't even realize you guys also switched shirts 😆
That's such a cool move!
I started the video and felt that something was off. Then I saw you switched seats. But the theme goes even deeper. Clever!
I noticed the seat thing immediately but I totally missed the shirts! Good eye!
@@t.h.1492me too lol
We had to do it for Freaky Friday. 😉
I wouldn't have caught the shirt thing if Johnathan hadn't mentioned how Alan filled out that polo. Then I realized that Johnathan always wears the polos and wasn't this time, and it's only at that revelation that I caught that they were in different seats as well, lol.
I noticed it right away😂.
I remember when I watched this as a kid, I said, "Wait, Anna's step-father is gonna be Gibbs, that's pretty cool. I don't know why she's complaining."
I’d love for Gibbs to be my dad.
I knew I'd find another NCIS fan if I scrolled long enough XD
@@k1tkat-kate that’s what did too! I knew there had to be others.
Ayyyy fellow NCIS fans
Who wouldn't want a federal agent/envelope-pushing silver fox renegade as their stepdad? 😂
My mom is going to be so excited that you guys made an episode about this movie. Me and my mom love this movie. God bless you. ❤
Awesome! Enjoy!
My mom and I love this movie too! It's a classic and it came out right when I was a teenager and she was a single parent.
I really like this episode, but I also like that you acknowledged that the goal shouldn't always be to reconcile with someone the way it happened in Freaky Friday. I've long had a tumultuous relationship with my mother and we eventually stopped talking, and while I feel bad about that in concept, I also feel a lot freer than when I was always trying to be understanding and forgive her and not getting anything back from that relationship in turn. I don't bear her particular ill will. I want her to be happy with her life. I just don't want to invite her into mine anymore.
❤️👍
Felt
You made the right choice. Some relationships cannot be saved, and when that happens your peace of mind and freedom are the most important
I love how in the toast when Anna (in Tess's body) says "now I know how Anna feels." I always get really teary eyed at that because it's like Anna herself has finally discovered how she really feels about this whole situation, and is finally able to put it into words, and that it wasn't as nasty as she thought it was. That this could be a good change for her and the family. That's a powerful revelation at any age, but especially when you're a teenager and begining to grow up: to finally figure out how you're really feeling.
I honestly have enjoyed this movie since it came out. I feel like it's Lindsey Lohan's hidden gem, unfairly overshadowed by her next movie Mean Girls. So happy you guys are giving it attention!
I also feel like Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen is also criminally underrated (as is Megan Fox in that role).
Lindsay and Jamie had to have spent a lot of time together to learn how the other would actually act in the situation to get the body swap dynamic as on point as it is.
I'm so glad Annette Bening stepped out of the film because Jamie Lee Curtis is the PERFECT person for the role. I can't imagine anyone else as Tess
You guys should also do A Goofy Movie! It’s another great movie about a parent and child who don’t see eye to eye on things!
I see what you did there
@@spencersegler The opportunity was there. I had to take it
@@spencersegler I was going to comment this! 😆
YES! I have been trying for them to do that movie!! SO great. I grew up watching that.
@@meghanbarry3489 It was certainly a standout comment.
This is such an underrated movie. Sure, it's a very funny comedy, but it has a lot to say and makes some solid points about emotionally struggling families and grief. These performances are absolute gold.
I have this thing where awkward moments that are meant to be funny in movies aren’t funny for me and instead are just painful to watch because I put myself into that situation, and before this I had not watched Freaky Friday, so I paused like once every minute just to physically prepare myself for the intentionally awkward scene lmao
I have that problem as well 😂 good to know I’m not the only one
Both Lindsey Lohan and Jamie Lee Curtis are powerhouses in this movie, would love to see some bloopers of them cracking up at their imitations of each other on set.
Lindsay Lohan and Jamie Lee Curtis are definitely what makes this movie still work, even with some of the other wacky plot elements. Like Chad Micheal Murray's whole character is just its own can of worms, though the scene where Lindsay as the mother tackles him while he's singing Baby One More Time never fails to crack me up.
The magic Asians though 😂 as someone who studied Asian representation, it’s the best version which isn’t great but… entertaining enough that I forgive it. The lack of malice helps. (The evidence? I didn’t cringe through my childhood with this movie compared to others)
I find it funny we had to have magic Asians for this version. The original version had no actual logic or reason for thr switch.
But it also had the weird subplot of the mom giving the daughter a make over while she was in the girls body.
Yeah I loved this movie as a kid but I'm very glad we've (mostly) moved on from this awful trope.
Yasss freaky Friday!!!!! Pls do Kiki’s delivery service too 🥺
It's coming in a few months!
@@CinemaTherapyShowWow, so you make these a lot in advance?
@@MusicLoverInTheSky That makes sense, a lot of big CZcamsrs tend to schedule out their projects for ease of production, just like they do in television.
@@CinemaTherapyShowThank you! I rented this movie for my very young kids when right after we moved to a new state, and it’s still one of their favorites, 25 years later.
The new Jumanji movies also do the character swap very well and I think its so cool seeing how all the different actors portray the same characters. I think its also really cool to see how the characters grow and they learn to better understand each other through their insane circumstances and these wildly different personalities all become best friends.
I loved the new Jumanji!! ❤
They should do those next!!!
@@rach3092 omg hi! another purple butterfly! 😆❤️
@@danielleking262 AH HI! 💜
@@rach3092 why didn't I think to do a purple heart instead?! 💜💜💜
It's a pipe dream to have this relationship with my mom. Now I'm an adult, one time I tried to open up so that maybe we can start over and mend the bond but instead she takes it as me being "insolent" and "disrespectful", when I never even raised my voice but just conveyed my true feelings that bottled up. Plus she thinks counselling/therapy for crazy ppl. While me, I know it's for everyone and it's just nice to talk to someone even if u don't have a current problem. So I just have to accept she never gonna change or improve no matter what unless she herself wants to change which I don't see ever happening
My mum is like that too. I tried many times to get her to see my perspective as well but she always get’s defensive and she would never admit to her wrongs. Sometimes I said sorry to her just so I could hear it back but I never did. I feel she just took it as confirmation that she was right and I was wrong.
It’s really sad knowing that for the rest of your life you’ll be the only person really working to make this relationship as good as it possibly can be.
I think what’s left for us to do is be careful and not repeat these patterns.
@@olgaw5082I'm glad my mom actually listens to me now, it took until adulthood but she listens now
@olgaw5082 seriously. My mom says she knows humans aren't perfect and all but she acts like she is perfect and always right. And idk because of that pride only children and younger ppl needs to apologise. And that adults and older ppl don't need to apologise even when they hurt ppl or did something wrong😮💨
Any other teens with absent or emotionally absent fathers start watching Jonathan and Allan and now they’re just your dads? Or is it just me
My dad used to be pretty absent. I used to think he hated me 😅
A really entertaining drama was an episode of The Little Mermaid tv-show were Triton was reduced to a kid and now his daughter Ariel had to start parenting him, she complained that she started to sound like her dad.
I appreciate this for one big reason: I also gained a stepfather at about Anna's age (16 or so) and it's a unique experience. I was almost grown up, my own father was dying, and I wasn't looking for another father. But I DID want to be consulted about the marriage, have it talked about, and grow a new relationship with the man who was marrying my mother.
None of that happened, but seeing it in a healthy way here is very affirming and healing.
Honestly, I have so much empathy for Alan, because my relationship with my parents is just as fractured. It often feels like a one-way thing, and yet I feel guilty about being so upset about it, because it isn't outright abuse or anything like that.
It's just difficult to know that you will never have an open, honest and trusting relationship with the people you are supposed to look up to. That you can never be your authentic self around the people who raised you. And as much as you might want it, as much as you might try to fix the relationship, it will never completely work unless they aren't willing to put in the work themselves.
same and we can get better, bit by bit, i think.
😢
This is about where I'm at with my mom. She's not a bad mom, but she's extremely transphobic and homophobic, and is becoming racist long after she divorced my colombian dad and fell down the sly right rabbit hole. She was never an abusive or bad mom, but she refuses to see from my perspective or respect my identity as a queer Colombian person and I don't think our relationship will ever be fixed. It hasn't been the same since I was 14, and at this rate I don't think it's going to be.
@@leonineKelter I'm so sorry. I hope you can heal and find some peace with it. It's never easy when you have someone like that in your life, especially when all you want is love and acceptance from them.
Came to the comments to say this. How I WISH my mom and I could swap bodies for a day. Or just that she would agree to go to therapy with me. Like Alan, I've done a lot of work to take her perspective, empathize, seek to understand, and forgive. And it has healed a lot of things and helped foster healthier practices for our relationship. But we're at the point where I can't do much more on my own, and she is not interested in joining me. So, this is likely the best our relationship will get to, until (if) that changes. It sucks. But yeah. Trust is a two way street.
I cry everytime with Alan ❤ I'm there with you, buddy.
Yeah, just seeing a really awesome adult man being so healthy to let his emotions show like this is awesome and so... well, healthy.
Same 😢❤
Same here. But Ive cried and laugh... 😅
JUST WHEN I THINK YOU CAN'T OUTDO YOURSELVES WITH DISNEY MOVIE ANALYSIS...YOU OUTDO YOURSELVES! Makes me wanna rewatch Freaky Friday right away, thanks, you guys
It's movies like these that make me appreciate my mother. Especially since she is also a therapist. I've been away from her for about a week now, and I'd do anything to go home and be with her. Great reaction as always!❤
22:00 that part hit really close to home. It can be hard to find motivation to work on a relationship with someone who can’t even see what they did wrong and you know they won’t accept any criticism. And you also know that they won’t change so you’re solely responsible for keeping this relationship as civil as possible because you still love them despite all the wrongs that they did.
Seriously. I'm at that point with a parent. They aren't going to change, so the best I can do is maintain some level of contact while holding to my boundaries and trying to be honest about what bothers me. It's hard to do without getting resentful or antagonistic.
Been there with parents and now hubby… i am trying to both see his perspective and also not assume his ideas, thoughts and motives even when what he says is so harsh at times and I dont know how to respond.
Life is hard, relationships can go south and you have to sit back and try to actually listen to understand them instead of for giving responses- its hard to do when there is baggage-even if its one sided. Eventually it will either help the other person or at least begin the healing process for you if the relationship ends.
Can't believe Jamie Lee Curtis wasn't the original Tess cast! She's so good in this and my family and I still quote this movie years later :) Make good choiceeeees
The line "You are ruining my lifah!"
Had been our (me and my 2 sisters) tagline for months after we watched this movie when we were kids. 😂
That "Cookie?" line was a joke in our family for a while back when this movie came out.
And seeing even clips of it in this really reminded me that I should watch it again. It's really funny and emotional at the same time! Also this was my first introduction to Jamie Lee Curtis and she kills it in this one.
Jamie Lee Curtis is a treasure!
You know what's actually freaky? I haven't seen thismovie in like 3 or 4 years and I start thinking about it casually yesterday, and now this pops up! Crazy, right?😵💫
you could say it’s…….. *freaky*
@@angelita98gaby 😱
And today IS Friday… 😂
"...let go of bitterness, resentment, and hatred- not saying you hated your mom um..."
"I did, but we're not going to talk about that" mood Alan...big mood
Mr Dude you rock🤣😂🤣😂
The therapy session always makes me crack up. 😂
My mom’s a trauma therapist and she howled when she watched it the first time
Lindsay Lohan is underrated IMO. She has played characters in two different movies (The Parent Trap and Freaky Friday) where she then convincingly plays two different characters in each movie! (With one of them having a British accent.) As a kid actress!
Teenage drama queen and Mean Girls were also brilliant
@@Dasani_water_drinker I love those too! I grew up in the Lindsay Lohan era.
This type of writing and storytelling is what’s been missing in recent years. I still have this movie on DVD ☺️
I remember going to see this movie during the summer of 2003. As a kid, I wanted to go see Spy Kids 3-D: Game Over but was overruled in favor of Freak Fridays. I was disappointed at first but instantly liked Freaky Fridays. I later got the chance to watch Spy Kids 3 and mainly thought it was alright. Looking back, I'm happy my family and I went to go see Freaky Fridays in theaters instead.
SWITCHING SIDES IN THE CHAIRS WAS A GENIUS TOUCH
YES!!!! I'm so ready for this video! My mom and I still quote this movie to this day, particularly "Make good choices!". Great inside joke even when I was a teenager
That's a great quote! 😄
My mom would always say that to me too!! 😂
A video about Freaky Friday that was uploaded on Friday…. Hahahaha I love you guys and your videos :)
It would be blasphemy if it came out on a day other than Friday!
Love it. In my experience, i. working with kids 0 - 12 years of age, one of the hardest things to see if parents invalidate a growing persons perspective of the world. "High school isn't that hard" etc. Its something I've really put on my radar when I talk to my own kids and hear their struggles.
Honestly, in so many ways I feel like being a kid is *harder*. You have less power and agency, your body and brain are still developing, and you don't have the experience needed to know how to ride situations out. It's hard to navigate the world, and doubly so when you don't have as many resources. Way too many adults forget how hard it is to be young, and I try to keep that in mind whenever I'm around kids and teens.
I forgot how good this movie was until about a month ago, when I watched another channel react to it. I was like, "Damn, the writing and acting were *amazing* in this!" Nice to see you break it down.
And that ending bit was, for some reason, the funniest ending bit I've seen from you guys 😂Sometimes you just feel like a walrus 😂
love that the boys physically switched sides for a switch movie
I have watched this movie soooo many times, and every time Anna in Tess' body says: "Because he was a really great dad", I get so moved. 😭 It's just such a great performance!
This movie was and is extremely relatable to me (especially, since I like Anna have been playing electric guitar in a band and also did that back then), and I have often watched it with my mom.
Back then, I once asked her, what she would do, if she had a big rehearsal dinner or an event of that importance, and I had a gig that was important to me. She instantly replied: "I would have let you go do it." ☺
the fact that I immediately noticed that you two switched sits just for this movie-
you've become like cartoon characters that feel completely different when they wear a different outfit
One of my favorite movies as a kid. Jamie Lee Curtis is just marvelous and Lindsay Lohan showed a great depth.
RE: "I know how you feel"
My go-to version of this is "Yeah, I know what that's like" with an understanding nod. I feel it focuses more on the (Unfortunate) experience rather than the reaction to the experience. You can be in the same boat as someone without having the exact same reaction or feelings about it. I don't think anyone will deny that.
And I think that because it puts emphasis on the unity through experience and not a presumption of understanding, it opens the door to then go, "This is how I handled it" if you feel like the other person could benefit from something you might have to offer. Always approach it as a suggestion or an offer, not a cure-all or The Answer. People are very receptive to others that they feel are trying to help but won't force their views on them. I think it's just human nature to examine things more closely when they are offered rather than forced on others, and through that examination, they may find parts that can actually be applied and work for them.
I remember loving this movie as a child, ironically thinking the mom was in the right. Now as an adult, I see her for what she was: a controlling, manipulative character who wanted to own her daughter like a possession. If I’d been in Lindsay’s shoes, I would’ve went NC the second I turned 18 💀 great video yet again!
I think Jono and Alan’s point is that both the mother and daughter have things to learn. They’re both (imperfect) people. And don’t they both learn things at the end, and make changes?
@@videoket great point! i think this resonated with a lot of teenage girls including myself cos i think this is a pretty common relationship between mothers and teenage daughters
I don’t think that’s what the movie was trying to portray. Neither of the characters are portrayed as completely good or completely bad. They just didn’t see eye to eye. The mother had some good qualities, and she learned to empathize with her daughter throughout the movie. The daughter learned to empathize with her mother, too.
@@lopachilla Thing is, parents are meant to be better and more mature than the children. Anna was a sixteen year old who wasn’t being heard, her mother constantly gaslit her into thinking her life was easier than it was, and even used therapy techniques as a weapon against her not to mention violating her privacy by removing the door. Anna did nothing wrong here because she was being a kid. Tess messed up by not acting like an adult. Ffs it took supernatural body-switching magic to give her a damn clue as to what her daughter was experiencing. Not a good parent, and I reiterate: this is the type of toxic parent you go NC with the second you can. Have a great day ❤️
@@Wyrd__cat first of all, being an adult doesn’t mean you know everything and have nothing to learn. It’s okay if the mother didn’t have everything figured out. The fact was she was able to take Anna’s perspective and figure it out. Second of all, being 16 doesn’t absolve Anna of all responsibility. She’s 16, not 6. She is capable of also putting herself in her mother’s shoes (and the movie even showed that). It takes two people for a relationship, two to make a conflict, and two to fix it. Both were in the wrong. Both had lessons to learn. Both learned to see from the other’s perspective.
If you guys are liking the old Disney live actions, I highly recommend "Holes" 👀
I second this! One of my comfort movies.
The problem I have with " If it were me i would feel " Is with certain people it switches to me comforting them or them trying to one-up my situation.
One of the best parent and child movie, I really love how they understand how each other live their lives ❤
“Forgiveness can easily be one sided, but trust cannot be.”
- Allen
Would love to see you guys cover "Tick tick...Boom!" and how it tells a similar notion of two people not being on the same page (thinking they know what the other person wants) yet in a romantic relationship, as well as feeling like you're running out of time to make something of yourself due to the pressures of where people think/make you feel you should be at in life at a certain age.
Thank you. The statement 'That you can forgive without trusting' really helps my perspective on a friend I had. Things were done. That person dropped from my life. Then showed up yrs later acting like nothing ever happened. I received no apology.. I know they had an addiction. Now they are clean, but I don't want that relationship anymore . I don't trust. I wish them no harm. It helps - forgiving without re-living. 😊
i love you guys these videos make me so happy thanks for doing what you do!
You're welcome, thanks for watching!
I loved this movie as a kid, still holds up. It has such a silly concept and they could’ve played it as such, but a lot of effort went in especially Jamie and Lindsay’s performances.
This film is such a CLASSIC and it holds up!! Lindsay and Jamie have such great chemistry, I can't wait for the sequel!!!
anna as tess’ rehearsal dinner speech always makes me cry 😩
You make me watch movies just so I can watch your videos with proper context :D
As a kid, I read the book. In college I saw the 1970s film with Jodie Foster. In my 30s I saw this one. I loved *every* version of this story.
ETA: I meant I loved the three I’m familiar with. Just learned there were also 1995 & 2018 versions.
Ive been no contact with my mother since 2017 so watching this movie again was really hard. Having to see all of the things she just was not willing to deal with despite the fact hwr kid was suffering as a result. She didnt love me enough to see what she was doing wrong, but this movie teaches you what you have to face in order to make everything better. I tried to see things from her perspective but it wasnt fair that i was the only one doing it and thats when i knew she didnt care rnough about my feelings and this relationship is never going to happen. Not to mention her mom BEING A THERAPIST and being the most emotionally constipated character😅
I was #cryingwithAlan because of all the Dad talk.
*finally gets a dad that cares, and then has to leave because of their breakup*
This movie holds up so well! Legitimately still so funny, has a great script, and a wholesome message.
Well, the magical Chinese stereotype hasn't held up well. Other than that, the movie is great.
I always love how Alan cries and has a moment because of his past, then Jon is there to comfort him and provide guidance, love, as a friend and a therapist when he needs it. Then they talk about it and how it not only how a movie affects them emotionally just because its a "beautiful scene" but because THEY relate to it. Just as we do when we watch. God I love this channel
The missed bleep was hysterical to me for some reason. Like, there was a bleep…JUST after what they wanted to bleep lol
Cinema Therapy never fails to make me feel seen in this world.
Honestly as a psychologist, I can attest that Tess is describing like 30-40% of a therapist’s job- active listening, occasional nodding, and sometimes responding with asking “how do you feel about that?”. Like, she ain’t wrong 😂
I love this movie. My twin sister and I rewatch this movie all the time when we're kids. This movie reminds me that you forget how hard it is being a teenager and that you're parents also have it hard being adults. It reminds you that no one in life has it easy
I dunno about fortune; but I bet mini cookies might not be the worst way to calm tensions about to rise
Great as usual! I'd love to see an analysis of Little Miss Sunshine. Especially how it explores the confusing experience of being part of a family that is both highly dysfunctional/problematic, yet can involve a lot of fun, closeness, and sweet moments even while being so messed up.
I love this movie. Body swapping plots are some of my favorites to watch, because it's so fun to see the actors mimic each other, and I always imagine the person they're doing an impression of saying or doing that thing. I know you guys don't do tv shows, because of all the episodes you'd have to watch to get the full picture, but it would be interesting to hear what you'd say about something like Gilmore Girls. The dynamic between mother, daughter, and grandmother is fascinating and there's so much to unpack.
This reaction made me tear up a little because looking at this movie makes me think of all the things I wish I could’ve said to my mom before she passed so suddenly very recently.
The other thing not to tell people is "Someone else always has it worse than you." That completely invalidates how they feel. Pain is pain.
Guyyys, Alan tearing up talking about his relationship with his mom and Jono so tenderly asking how he feels make me cry too. I also relate to what Alan said about his relationship with his mom. I’ve gone to therapy for years to try to try to make our relationship work and these videos have helped immensely. Thank you guys for what you do ♥️
This was one of my favorite episodes!
For Alan - I started laughing because as someone who’s also crying due to “mommy issues,” as Jon taught me, idk how you feel…but I do feel you bro. 😅❤
I would like to give whoever edited this video a hug for the 1989 TS reference, I had to pause the video to type this
Oh I can't wait to send this to my mom, we both love this movie! We had a rough time when I was a teen but thanks to therapy we have a wonderful relationship now, and looking back it was very much getting us to see from the other person's perspective.
During the time we couldn't go outside I watched all three of the Freaky Fridays. This one was my favourite but the 2018 is still really solid and worth a watch, especially if you like musicals. The song and dance in biology class is perfection.
Man this was a GREAT breakdown of Brother Bear!
Oh my goodness, please, please, please do India Jones and the Last Crusade!!! The relationship between father and son and the chemistry between Harrison Ford and Sean Connery was so enjoyable to watch.
It took me a minute to realize what felt so wrong about their intro, and it's because THEY SWITCHED PLACES FOR FREAKY FRIDAY. Alan is on the left wearing Jono's iconic polo and Jono is on the right wearing Alan's long tshirt. The subtley in their videos is just *chefs kiss*