This video has no common sense. She is at a healthy weight and has a higher metabolism so she is okay to eat like this. An overweight person is not afforded this same privilege because they are not a healthy weight and will continue to risk their health and well being by eating a diet that is hurting them. You just pander to what people want to hear to give them hope they can keep living the same way and be healthy, it’s not right
bro stop with the shit that she has to give health adive and all of that it's a what I eat in a day not advice for a eating disorder also stop comparing 😭
The girls that do this are probably like me. I get weirded out seeing these vids because they could eat alot of high calorie food and still look the same. I feel like it's kind of terrible to try to advertise your body is a certain way because of your actions when I feel people are taking a video one day and trying to get credit for how well they eat... Then eat just about anything for a week or two between videos... It feels like a fake pat on the back... Idk...
I follow a fat influencer who is trying to heal her relationship with food and recover from binge eating. They tell her how unhealthy her SALADS are. For reference they are not the least bit unhealthy. They bash her more for her healthy choices I swear. It's like they hate you cause you are fat but they mock and make fun at your every effort to do better too.
I can’t remember her name off the top of my head but is she the one with the adorable freckles everywhere and did a “No fast food” challenge for a month?
Sierra is who made me decide it was time to treat me ED. She is saving lives. I didn’t know there were triggers for binge eating until her. I’ve eliminated several trigger foods. Not forever, I won’t restrict myself to never having chocolate covered cashews. But that bag from target won’t last more than 2 days in my house. It’s cool how people just sharing their knowledge is so helpful.
When you're fat, you're fat because of the pizza you eat. Then you eat salad, so now you're fat because of the salad topping you put. Then it's the olive oil. Then it's the bread. Unless you eat just the lettuce, it will not be enough.
As a fat person trying to fix obesity, I am shamed for my calories intake. 1800 a day and someone who is half my hight and weighs 3 times less is telling me my intake is way to high. I can't 😅
1800 is good if it fits you caloric intake deficit (you probably checked it it but in case you haven't it's important to measure it) honestly people just want to complain pay no mind
Never forget you need to feed yourself. Even when you're dieting, you still need to fuel your body and if 1800 works for you for now then please don't feel ashamed, you deserve food just like anyone else. If anything because of how you feel you actually deserve food more
My sister was eating well over 2,000 calories a day and that was what was causing her to gain weight. In order for her to lose weight her calorie deficit is at the 2000 mark. Mine is 1600. And while we both weigh the same our bodies are different. 2000 would be too much for me and 1600 would be too little for her. It's all about what works for you not for them. And we are doing much better with our eating disorders. We are only eating when we are hungry.😊 We also started going to the gym.
Bro my google fit tells me that's how many calories I use up with my 63 kg weight and only activity being 10k steps a day. 1800 is a normal intake to survive wth are they on about
i’m so sorry love :( i wish people could be more compassionate and not speak from a place of insecurity or hate. i wish you the best and i hope you can get to a place where you’re comfortable with your body 💞
As someone who has been on both the underweight, middle and overweight sides of the weight spectrum I can attest to this. When I was 30 lbs underweight if I ate a big mac, 20 piece nugget, fries and a milkshake I was "cool" and "one of the guys". When I was overweight I would get comments about how the dressing on my salads must be calorically dense and that eating a salad wasn't even worth it, even when it was a lemon vinaigrette that had maybe 20 calories for multiple tablespoons. Even when I mentioned I was going to the gym the response has been drastically different. When I was overweight I'd get super backhanded "good for you for trying" comments and now as someone who isn't exactly thin but definitely not fat either people feel the need to explain why they don't go to the gym and how much they want to start & how I have such amazing healthy habits when I mention it.
I've always been heavier. Only time in my life I was "thin" was my first job out of high school. Worked stocking shelves at a busy grocery store. On my feet and doing manual work 50+ hours a week. All the exercise eliminated my appetite. Only drank water and ate 1 snack bag size of chips for about about 2 years. 6 months into the job I went from a US womens size 20 to a size 10. I remained a size 10 for 1.6 years despite only eating those chips. My personality has remained the same throughout. When I was thin i was looked at as cute and quirky. When fat people say im weird and gross. Only time in my life people have been kind to me was that small window of time I was a size 10. They try to say it's because you're more confident at that size. No - society treats fat people differently.
That's fascinating. I find I have a similar thing when I tell people I'm vegetarian and they tell me why they aren't (they like this specific kind of meat too much, it's too expensive, too much cooking if you do it the cheap way, etc). Looking back I used to do the same thing when I was eating meat. I think people think being vegetarian or working out as a straight sized person is a virtue. I wish we all felt okay either what feels good / we are able to and moving in ways that feel good / we are able to move.
One thing I noticed after losing weight: the people who criticised me for eating too much started to criticise me for dieting "wrong" (e.g. food groups, nutrients, etc) It really is just about control for some people. And some whole new people fell out with me for "not loving myself as I was" when all I wanted was to walk up multiple flights of stairs without getting winded 😂
I got super sick being skinny, we didn’t know me being skinny was the reason why I was passing out, why I was slowly losing mobility in my body. I gained weight for my health, I’m nearly 190 pounds. I’m the healthiest I have ever been. Everyone is telling me to lose weight, my doctor(who doesn’t know anything about it my disability) told me to eat less. When I told her I barely eat 600 calories on a good day. She wants me to eat different foods, like more vegetables. However, when I told her that it’s going to drop my calorie intake. She told me quite rudely ‘then I don’t know how to help you anymore’ I’m looking for a new doctor. She also tried to blame the fact I gained weight for my low blood sugar, full well knowing I’ve been dealing with it since I was a child. When I only weighed 110 at the age of 14. We found out that my low calorie intake isn’t the reason my blood sugar is dropping quickly. No matter what I ate my blood sugar always dropped quickly after. I talked to my GI she said what I’m eating is fine, since I’m eating what she told me too. The point of this is half the time they don’t know what they’re doing, even when corrected. I am planning on losing some weight, but not anything under 150. Knowing her she’ll try sending my to an eating disorder clinic again.
I follow a plus sized creator who documents her repairing her relationship with food and even in videos where she eats healthy and goes to the gym, people are *still* harassing her in the comments because she is fat. Who decided this was okay???
@@jelly.belly2 the amount of people that think being fat is a choice is crazy. the opposite is true fir most, most people have to choose to be thin. Whether they do that healthily or not. Being a bit fleshy is the natural norm, especially for women. And then you have to account for metabolic and autoimmune disorders which a lot of people have nowadays.
I dated a man who ate fast food constantly...there was very little nutritional consideration in his food choices. His older sister was the same. They both consumed food that would feed two men every single day. Both were thin and never gained weight. That's genetics at work. Yet, BOTH felt perfectly fine to criticize me for having orange juice at breakfast. Me, who worked out every day and didn't eat nearly the amount nor levels of fast food they did.
Probably bc you aren’t working with your body lol, if they are eating that much and still thin it’s obvious that their body needs that amount of calories, if you are eating less but still fat then you are still eating too much to not lose weight. You can’t compare yourself with them
His contents make me so emotional. This is literally so true. People do not see anything in a fat person beyond their size. They never ask if they have an underlying condition, an ED, hormonal problems. They just care about people being conventionally attractive in the facade of health when their knowledge is limited to what their gym trainers told them. We all have mirrors. We all know gym exists. Funny how you bully the shit out of fat people and then expect them to have 0 social anxiety and hit the gym. You say you are trying to help motivate them by shaming them? Make them hate themselves so much that they desperately want to be skinny? What do you think will that lead to most likely? A healthy lifestyle? Or self hate and potential ED? So clearly health is just a facade. The process takes time. ...do you care to know if they are in the process? No. Do you poor-shame a person with financial problems? Do people actually shame skinny people for eating unhealthy or abusing substance or any other unhealthy lifestyle habit as much as they do fat people for enjoying one good meal on the internet? Stop bullying in the facade of health. If you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say it. They already know what they look like. Your bullying is not helping.
Yes, thank you! I’ve seen commenters fawning all over skinny women who post Mukbang/competitive eating videos but will shit all over a fat woman who ate a bag of crisps and half a donut. The hypocrisy is disgusting.
not hypocrsy its not that its same thing and we only shit on fat people. its that the skinny if not anorexic is in good shape and clearly not doing that often and nothing wrong with it, while the fat one eats a lot daily and doing it is detrimental to their heath that makes it not good.
@@valentincsonka327 Someone being skinny does not mean they are healthy. I am genetically skinny, but I'll be upfront. I eat like trash and I don't exercise. I get winded going up the stairs and there are a lot of people bigger than me that would be less bothered by it. But no one, not one single person, has ever said anything to me about how I eat. It is ENTIRELY bias.
@@Arissiah You are not fit and with good cardio doesnt mean you are not healthy. Do you have any serious sikness, do you get sick often? if yes you are not healthy but if not your diet is working for you. You eat crap but with crap you eat good things too and because of your low apetite you dont overeat massively to gain weight. Being obese is unhealthy doesnt matter if you can run a marathon whitout a sweat break. ITs simply too much adipose tissue that releases hamiful hormones, the weight puts pressure on orrgans and joints constantly, which eventually max after 50 result in very serious problems. And no, their diet is trash especially if they active cuz it means they over eat so much calories, and you cant overeat so much with good food cuz it fills you up and you would throw up so they eat lots of high sugar, fat crap. So you are not a obvious addict, a junkie on who is clearly visible his harmful addiction which is only visible if he does it to a very harmful extent so harm himself severy whether its alhoholic, drug addict or food addict. An obese person eat crap is same as drug addict injecting himself, its okay for a normal person to have a drink or eat a big amount a food cuz its fine since hes not doing it often but for an addict its feeding his own addiction. Hope its clear
People especially men find it really grossly sexy when skinny women binge eat in mukbangs or eat an entire cheeseburger as if its not their fault women are expected to diet in the first place
@@Jsjhkwnsn you can be in a current weight loss routine but still fat. I’m technically that right now. You can’t be skinny overnight. I eat it a calorie deficit every single day and workout at a gym 3x a week for about an hour and a half doing the circuit and try to at least do a walk on the days I can’t go to the gym. I’ve lost 14lbs but you’d never know it if you just looked at me now. You’d likely think I wasn’t trying. But I am. I’m 222 as of this morning. That’s BIG right? But so is 14lbs heavier. I’m not lying when I say I had a sandwich and a salad that all came to 537 calories - and that I am still 419 calories under for the day. But if someone saw what I ate they’d comment…they’d either say it was too much or that I’m lying. But 14lb heavier me wanted to be the weight I am so bad. And here I am. And 222 me wants to be 220, then 215, then 210. And I will be.
@@CourtKazee nobody will say you're not trying if you stated what you said, that you've lost weight because of calories deficit. people are ridiculing those that said to be on deficit yet do not lose weight (over an amount of time)
@@mvpz I don’t have to state I’m in a deficit. But, I’ll argue, that if a person is truly in an actual deficit and works out and doesn’t see a difference that can be a true indicator of something. So, rather than ridicule them I’d just tell them to see a physician. Now, if the person says all this, and they’re not not seeing a result but you’re unsure if they’re in a true deficit/working out. I’d still not ridicule them like some do. Being fat doesn’t mean you did it maliciously, that you did it because you wanted to, that you did it knowingly. Not a lot of people REALLY are told how to eat, how to workout, and how to make their lives better. They THINK they know (workout - calorie deficit) but if no one showed you (like me) then even though you eat your veggies and avoid large amounts of bad stuff you can still be big and it’s hard to understand why. Until recently I didn’t understand any of this. I also have a condition that makes losing weight a lot harder and I had my son over a year ago now. Life got in the way and the knowledge wasn’t passed down. And fat people are very much aware they’re fat without people reminding them.
I've struggled for years with my plus size weight and it never helped I was short. The bullying was so bad that while I was playing soccer and rugby near weekly as well as hiking I was also throwing up every meal I ate because I wanted to be healthy. I didn't loose much weight getting to 180 at my worst. People were so proud of me but still critical saying I could lose more and so on. It all finally peaked when I passed out at a rugby game after playing a double header soccer match that morning with nothing in my system. But the only person to notice was my dentist the next day, she pulled me aside and had a nice long conversation where I caved and told her everything... The only person to notice after 2 and a half years was my dentist. I spoke to my school counselor that day and told my couches. My couches were extremely apologetic and worried so much so I was benched until I could document at least two meals fully consumed and not purged. I'm still recovering after years... It's a harsh world we live in and it never holds it punches
aim to lose weight and be healthy, healthily? You're probably doing wrong by going on too high of a deficit and absolutely wrong by throwing up every meal you ate
@I'm Crazy Idea Shack Owner giving solid advice is equal to condemning her? Are you gonna shower her with toxic positivity "you go gurl" with no useful info for her to actually achieve her goal?
@ash I gave solid advice on the which direction she should look to already. Yes I agree that I used the wrong approach(male way). Girls in general are afraid of harsh truth and needs sugar coating and prancing about the issue as to not hurt each other's feelings 💀
I really love the message you promote about health over all else. 5 years ago, I lost 20 pounds uncontrollably and doctors were complimenting me, and questioning why I was coming in. I could only keep 1 meal a day down and was super sick (turned out to be gastroparesis, a slowing of the digestive muscles) and it was so distressing to hear everyone compliment the weight I’d lost.
Same I'm in extreme fitness and really fit but eat like 5000 calories a day .what a lot of people don't seem to understand is that people gain weight differently the help of a fast metabolism probably can lose weight quicker than someone without it like someone could do the same workout routine and eat the same amount but still be a different weight .
Don't you think it's because being fat is undesirable? Unfortunately I don't know anyone that can break the laws of physics and gain weight in a calorie deficit. Obviously whilst being fat, poor and unnutritious food choices are evidence about the choices that got them there whilst for someone that's extremely in shape, it's getting there in SPITE of poor choices
@@kuntyasfuck that's the point of the video. People pick on those who are overweight saying what they eat is just unhealthy for them. But think people eat unhealthy too and we don't get criticised. People just hate 'fat'
@Extra Stout don't you think a certain amount of negative punishment is necessary to dissuade poor behaviors? Pretty similar case is an alcoholic, we would definitely bash an alcoholic for their drinking choices, but not a normal person for drinking
Nope fat people can’t win when they make these videos. You’re either eating too unhealthy or you must be hiding calories cause “why would you be fat if eating healthy…” good folks will look to encourage people to achieve their goals, not make fun of them or invalidate their efforts.
As someone who is very active and eats healthy for the most part and has struggled with weight problems in the past themselves, I can say the only type of people who think they can judge ones health based on weight or how they look are very ignorant and likely very insecure with their own image and trouble minded cuz no one who isn't wont act like that nor go out of their way to bother people. And more people need to call them out for that as well as ignore what they have to say cuz they give no value to the situation
@@justhere630 active for Americans or active for the rest of world? There is a difference. Like the rest of the world walks or bikes while Americans drive.
If someone was fat the first thing people say is “Come on show us the rest of it, we know that’s not all you ate. Show us the midnight McDonald’s and Burger King meals”
Yeah I saw the video of like what I eat as a fat person that's not trying to lose weight at moment. Everyone Lynn the comment is like what do you eat off-camera. this is only what you eat when you're on camera.
I would love to see people get together and actually test that out. Exact same foods, but have two different models do the body check at the beginning. See how different the responses are
different ethnicities would react differently and have different issues depending on weight. Me being Asian if we are overweight we may have issues that other ethnicities have at obese. We also process food differently (some of it is genetic and part of it is based on the biome of our stomachs). So for us we have to keep our body weight down as there are more issues at those weights then under (under by American standards).
@@aaronmontgomery2055 we're not talking about how the people eating the food would respond, but the people in the comments. Would they judge what someone is eating differently if the person eating it is skinny vs overweight, even if the food is exactly the same?
@SirPhysics oh, I thought you meant something entirely different. Well my comment actually goes into this a little then. I think the comments will simply be based on the model and perception. Caloric intake differs for different bodies. An obese person burns less calories than a person of the same weight who is fit and so I think it depends on what is the food and what is the person. This would be hard to test as how can you even see if the same people are commenting or see the same videos? It may become viewed in one region and then another video get no views. This might just test the algorithms rather. To be clear I am agaisnt the channels views on caloric intake as he views it as narrow to me. He is also bias based on his experience. I get where he is coming from but it's not like skinny people don't get hate for being skinny (even in comments). It really depends on looks, messages, and other factors.
Yeah definitely a double standard. Im on my journey down frpm 340 pounds and im around 270 now. I swear i need a shirt that says "i already have a trainer and dietician" they're vultures in the gym to get clients. But oddly only ever bother the bigger people.
Keep up the good work! I’ve been a trainer for twenty years and a lot of gyms expect their trainers to try to strike up a conversation and “sell themselves” to every one on the floor. Sometimes it isn’t your weight that will attract them but how approachable you look, it’s not very comfortable having to strike up conversations with strangers in order to keep your job. Just wanted to share if it makes you feel any better. You might be getting approached bc you’re smiling/not wearing headphones/ overall giving out nice vibes!
I hate that the most, I can't go to a store without some gym trainers trying to stop me. I lost so much weight still get bothered while men and women in sports gear just waltz past. Ugh.
Definitely wouldnt treat them the same. There are a few influencers ive seen who are overweight but film themselves making healthy meals and trying green foods, and STILL get hate comments and judgment
@@elim.288 Oh I saw one of those. The comments went ballistic saying they don't believe her because her dinner was too small or something I don't remember. And saying where's all the snacks in between.
@@berserkisdead357 it really depends on the influencer and why it popped in my feed. I don't care if they make no illusions that be obese is bad but when they make claims like it is healthy is where I say they are trying to spread dangerous lies. If they are just posting their life then I don't care.
Absolutely TRUE. I knew a skinny girl who had the absolute WORST diet and everyone asked her for diet advice and she was like: "Be born to my parents. That's how to be as skinny as me. Also, ask ANYONE ELSE."
cause they dont care about health they care about being a beauty standard, a lot of thin ppl r thin for unhealthy reasons and they get praised for their thinness, its never about health its about looks
And you're more likely to lose your period from being underweight than being overweight.. which means your body knows being underweight is a less healthy condition. Obviously i know there are extremes but these days even average size is considered overweight by beauty standards. Weight ranges are man made anyway, your body will tell you wheh you're unhealthy.
Obviously not. I’ve seen it already. Balanced meals look like unhealthy meals next to a fat person. It’s always cute when skinny women are “foodies” though 😗
@@experiencesweaty2527 Nobody drops 100lb overnight though. You still need to eat, and a slow, controlled weight loss will always be healthier than a crash diet. So why bitch about people who don't currently fit your aesthetic ideal?
For example like I have 3 cats. All born together. All grew up in my house being fed the same amount. Being treated the same. All 3 are different sizes because of their metabolism. Same with humans.
I noticed online… If you’re overweight, people criticize you for eating too much and praise ya for eating a salad. If you’re skinny, people criticize you for not eating enough and praise ya for eating a cookie. I think both get criticized, just differently.
Yup and I bet those people who criticize her probably put a bunch of garbage in their body and think their healthy, weight doesn't completely determine if ones healthy or not you can be skinny and at the right weight for you but if you put garbage in your body it will catch up to you
@@justhere630Exactly. I'm fat (and have PCOS and an underactive thyroid which don't help lol) But I do try to eat a pretty healthy diet. Lots of veggies and berries, fish, salad, nuts, wholegrain, brown bread only, lean meat etc and I always cook home meals as opposed to eating take away. I also walk 6 miles a day. But I'm big. My brother on the other hand is skinny and he's a vegetarian so people naturally think he's really healthy. He orders pizza and other take away at least 3 times a week. He doesn't eat fresh fruit and veggies. He eats junk, mostly cheese, chips, pizza and sweets. He gets hardly any exercise, works from home and spends his free time sitting for hours in front of his computer games. Yet because he's thin people think he's healthy 🤦 and they think I'm lazy and stuff myself on junk even though I don't. I have way more energy and stamina than my brother does. I get way more exercise and I get lots of vitamins and nutrients from my food. People make such weird judgements about people based only on their appearance. Luckily I don't give a shit what insecure people think of me and I know I'm doing my best most of the time so it's fine 😂
Nope they wouldn't. I follow a gal doing her weight loss journey and she does a calorie deficit of 1900-2000 calories and people heckle her for eating bagels or getting In and Out Burger even though she stays within her calorie deficit goals. Now flip side, if the comment creator in your video showed nothing but healthy stuff, shed probably get comments like go eat a cheeseburger, you're too skinny. Can't win 🤷
You talking about Michelle Platti? If so, the comments on her videos are so obnoxious. Glad she seems to have kept a good and positive attitude despite it though
Yeah, and every time someone skinny shows their body in any way or looks at a mirror, it's body checking. If someone fat does it, it's glorifying obesity. You literally can't win.
Calories aren’t the only thing that matter 💀that’s like wondering why you’re so out of breath if you ate fast food but 10% of nutritional food and it was in ur deficit
@@leila.7754 Girl you won't stop being out of breath by eating lettuce and eggs 💀💀💀exercising builds your condition lmao. As long as someone is at calorie deficit he/she will lose weight and less body weight= less fatigue by default
@@azas680 they will lose weight, but they will lose both muscle and fat in a ratio of something like 30:70, which is a lot of muscle to lose just because you want fast food every day.
No it probably wouldn’t, but why are you using this person as an example of double standards when she hasn’t done anything wrong ? She is simply showing honestly what she eats, it doesn’t matter is she is skinny.
@@Kira_Martel this has nothing to do with her audience, that guy is not her audience. He is just some guy on the internet trying to prove a point with an unrelated video. This woman has done nothing wrong, she is just showing what she eats in a day. If you want to call out double standards, let’s talk about it. It’s admirable for a bigger person to show what they eat in a day when they eat a balanced healthy meal, but it’s not when an already healthy person does it ? That’s double standards if I’ve ever seen any.
@@stellabari246 Again, he isn't talking about her doing anything wrong, he is talking about the critique or absence of critique coming from her audience compared to the kinds of responses fat people get for sharing similar dietary choices. Maybe watch the video again, this isn't about her.
@@Kira_Martel yeah, but he I using her video to do it. In the end, he is putting her, who did nothing wrong, in the spotlight, comparing her to other people to point out double standards. He could have done the opposite, show a video of a bigger person, eating very healthily, and then showing the bad comments. After that he could say « now imagine this is a thin girl, would the response be the same? » He would have highlighted the same issue, without using a person who has nothing to do with the problem, and putting her in the spotlight to be critiqued for things she has nothing to do with. He did it this way for a reason, which is that it sells more to put someone on the spot, than it does to outright defend someone.
I mean....it kind of is 😅 The vast majority of people still don't understand that at least one third to one half of the population have predispositions and are affected by gluten 🤷♂️ A nonchalant attitude is extremely detrimental in a world where most everything is artificial, surface level, and or modified for profits.
There's definitely a double standard. Skinny people don't get ridiculed for eating the same amount of junk food as a fat person. I find I get ridiculed more by fellow fat people (like my dad) for my food choices compared to skinny people. Skinny people don't even comment on my weight or food intake. No hate intended to any person, this is just my experience
It’s usually internal discomfort that makes us judge others. No one believes a fat person is unworthy more than a fat person who has been that way their whole lives. If you are fat and don’t hate yourself you challenge their entire existence.
My dad literally lectured me about my diet while at a pizza restaurant HE TOOK ME TO and told me if I keep eating like this I'm going to kill myself. Meanwhile eating 3x as much as me and not managing is diabetes well in general.
@@Waywardwindfall You underestimate the anti fat comments/posts/threads on websites. Reddit use to be notorious for having a subreddit to hating on fat people.
Half the time when I see someone who's not considered skinny post a healthy what I eat in the day a bunch of the comments are in disbelief saying they don't really eat like that too lol 😭
Slight correction- that isn’t a body check. Body checking is a behavior seen in people with eating disorders where they “measure” their size against objects/their hands or in a mirror, usually by contorting their bodies. It isn’t the kind of thing people post on tiktok to trigger others, it’s a symptom of their illness and is generally kept pretty private. Really important to not conflate bodychecking with people on tiktok simply showing off their figure bc one is a pretty normal aspect of social media and one is a sign of an extremely dangerous psychological condition.
The hate for bigger people is ridiculous! You never know what that person is going through or the reason why they are overweight. No matter how healthy they eat or workout trying to lose weight they still get so much hate for it! Why??? They deserve to be encouraged and cheered on in their journey towards a new healthy lifestyle. Today’s society is disgusting with these double standards. I was small growing up and still got ripped apart mostly by women in my own family. It still affects me today. Be careful what you say to someone words can hurt and they stick like a tattoo in your brain.
Is it a body check if the person showing the physique before the video is overweight/obese? I think it’s important to address double standards, as you do, but a girl wearing leggings and a crop top is a pretty standard outfit. When someone is intentionally in a bikini or moving their clothes to show off their abs, that’s clearly body checking to me. But sometimes it feels like we (the collective of people on the internet) jump to criticizing women for… existing in a variety of contexts when it suits us. A skinny girl with abs shows herself at the beginning of a what I eat in a day? Must be a body check. A plus size girl in the same outfit does the same thing? It isn’t considered a body check (though it very well could be). This isn’t meant to be shady. I think these are important issues to address. But I can’t help feeling like accusing women of body checking skirts close to policing how women dress/exist in the world.
Imo there's zero reason for people to show their bodies in what I eat in a day vids except to body check, trigger people, or get shock value. I'm saying this regardless of size. It's completely unecessary to show your body in that type of video. The context matters. If she was making a "what I wear in a day" video or a "here's my gym progress" then ofc, showing her body would be fine. What I eat in a day vids typically don't require anyone to show their body at all.
I've seen a lot of plus size people start their videos off with "body checks" and I don't get how duetting random people who didn't ask you for advice or commentary helps anyone. you can talk about fatphobia without dragging random people sharing what they eat into it. starting videos off with shots of your body or face is pretty normal on tiktok as well not everything is that deep
as a skinny person i agree, i never get negative comments for my diet i dont work out or eat healthy i just have a fast metabolism. if i was fat id get so much unsolicited advice about health and negative comments on my food choices. 🤦🏼♀️
@@mvpz plenty of fat people live healthy lifestyles, plenty of fat people arent fat by choice. the assumption is ridiculous, and regardless of whether someone is fat by choice or not there's absolutely no reason to give them unsolicited advice or make comments on their weight.
Really? Because now that I have some chub I don't get comments. When I was actually skinny, I got told to "eat" and that I looked like a stick tons of times. You like a salad- you're starving yourself, obviously. God forbid you have some semblance of control over binging, you get about the same response as a bulimic fat person.
@@valesth4903 yeah i get lots of "do you have an eating disorder?" "you need to eat a burger" comments but when i do eat unhealthy i never get comments on my food choices where as a bigger person will get unsolicited dieting advice when theyre not even eating anything and just existing
@@nelliiel And you don't think people telling and encouraging you to eat and be unhealthy to gain weight is actually more problematic than encouraging a fat person to be healthier? As one of those rare people who used to be able to eat a lot and was still skinny, I have not met a single person who ate healthy in moderation and was fat. I've met plenty of fat people with very murky and wrong idea of what "healthy" is, and I've met lots of skinny people who think they eat a lot when they don't.
Thank you for addressing the double standards! I know that if I posted a video showing the EXACT same meals, the response would be wildly different because I live in a larger body.
EXACTLY omgg. In so many other videos he doesn’t complain when a bigger person shows their body at the start, but when it’s a think person it’s suddenly toxic and a problem?
I can't understand why ppl wants to look like other ppl's body As a 14 years old I'm in love with my body and I eat normally idc if it has a lot of calories And I do exercise to make my body stronger not thinner
Another double standard is that you would never say a fat person is body checking in the beginning of their videos even though a lot of times, they show themselves just like the girl in the video.
The reason the comments are not the same is because fatness is a representation of CONSISTENT overeating, or undermovement. Excess fat shows up on the body as a result. A thin person eating a cookie won't get looks because their body indicates that they balance their diet (whether that's by healthy means or not, you can't tell from looking). But you CAN tell if someone is obese, that it is due to consistent imbalance of their diet. So yeah. there's a difference. I say this as a former fat kid with skinny siblings. we were served the same types of food. I had a lower metabolism and also didn't like as much movement (prefer reading, gaming). my siblings were either picky eaters or very active. so yes, my parents put me and only me on an adjusted diet. why? our bodies indicate what's going on inside. excess fat is indicative of a diet that needs adjusting, so if you see a morbidly obese person eating excess calories when they ALREADY have a ton of excess weight, it sets of all the flags that 'this person's body indicates they already consume far too many calories, to regain a balanced figure they need to consume less calories and more nutrition' it's that simple
Yeah. Like, if someone is a “bit” chubby (idk, +5-20kg over their “normal” body weight range), I don’t rlly care but when morbidly obese ppl (I’m talking 400kg or smth) say they “can’t” lose weight I’m like chile, take away your enablers and you’ll be losing weight fast asf bc you’re overeating by thousands of calories to sustain such weight💀
Adam, you are single-handedly the only "weight loss" (healthy eating/living) content creator i care to follow. love love love how realistic you are with it all and just no bullshit, you call out the toxicity and still give fantastic advice! please keep being you and posting when your able to !! :D
she showed her body for the exact purpose of comparing it with the food she eats. it wasn't a video about her clothes or for beauty reasons. it was for food/weight
Hot take, the reason that the fat person gets more ridicule is because of the obvious addiction. Here is an addiction example, a person having a glass of wine at a restaurant is a lot different from an alcoholic drinking vodka out of a paper bag. I don't agree with being mean to random people but if your gonna put something on the internet someone's gonna say something
i say this ALL the time, people always fat shame others and use the healthy excuse but i know some thin people that eat the unhealthiest stuff and they’re praised for it 😭 finally someone said it seriously THANK YOU
she was just showing her outfit in the beginning, it was not a body check. she does this in all her videos. also shes literally recovering from an ED so let’s not do this with her, people aren’t judging her because she’s recovering/recovered
I’m gonna be honest that was a really long outfit check in the beginning for it literally just being leggings and a tank top, she’s making a video about what she eats in a day and you just said yourself she’s recovering from an eating disorder.. I’m pretty sure it was to show her body. No hate tho, I’m sure she’s a lovely person but that definitely was a body check.
@@no-ic7vt she is recovering from an ED? and plus every time people see a skinny person in a tank top and leggings yall say it’s a body check, I have never seen anyone complain about a body check when a bigger person does it. In one of this girls videos she literally states “it’s not a body check”
@@merrysnow9935 not just because she’s skinny. That’s not what I meant. It’s a boring ass outfit dude there’s no way she needed to stand their for 15 seconds to show off a blue tank top and black leggings. And just because she’s in recover doesn’t mean she won’t still partake in behavior Indicative of an eating disorder. And nobody “complains” when a fat person does it because they’re too busy berating them in the comments. If she’s in recovery why would she want to put her self in a position to receive comments on her body? When I struggled with multiple eating disorders I would never post anything of my body. I still don’t because it’s counterproductive. idc if she’s in recovery, a body check is a body check. Idc if she plays it off as an outfit check or not lol when you’ve had eating disorders you tend to understand that behavior and the thought process behind it.
@@no-ic7vt okay well you can believe what you want but if you were to actually go to her account you would see that there is nothing wrong about her “body check” and in almost all of her video captions she makes sure to state that what she eats is for inspiration, nothing else.
lets be honest here. Shes not judged because shes a size 0. Theres countless fat people recovering from eating disorders who are ripped to shreds. Being given the graces of never being judged is skinny privilege
No.. point is that she’s able to eat like that and still not gain weight which is why she isn’t getting hate or harassment, it’s because she’s working enough for a diet like that to still work. If a fat person ate like that obviously it’s not gonna get taken the same way since it’s not helping them lose weight
@@Brhidkudude. I am not sure how many calories that is exactly. 2300 maybe? I'd still lose weight on that. Sat on the bike for 22km yesterday, but even without that i would.
Thank you for saying this. I'm overweight and even I hold other big people accountable for eating badly in these type videos but the skinny women never get hate because they look like they need a cookie so nobody says anything. Being that thin isn't ideal in my community or the ever-changing beauty standard so it's almost a manipulation into convincing people that she doesn't need to be held accountable because she looks underweight. I am truly humbled and need to be nicer to bigger people who are honest about making bad choices. Thank you for this.
Oh if it was an overweight person: why are you having a cookie?? 🤔You had popcorn and soda earlier!! 🫣That’s a REALLY BIG breakfast. 🤢You would be fine with just the muscle milk. Or just one slice of avocado toast and the milk. 😘 A single jolly rancher! That’s really good! 😉That’s control and you need to be like that for all your meals
same thing applies to parents too. I eat a maximum of 1500 calories a day, and went through a fad of eating only 500 for a while, and my mom is always complaining about my eating habits because im plus sized, but she doesnt say anything to my skinny sister who eat at least 3000 calories every day and exercises way less than i do
I've had two beautiful children. I am not as thin as I used to be, I've always struggled with my weight. I try to think about what I eat, but just like everyone else in this world, I'm not perfect. I learned a long time ago though, it's MY BODY, my choices and I really don't give a crap if you think I'm fat. Life is waaay too short to care what strangers think about you. If you have a loved one in your life that makes you feel inferior, set boundaries, if they don't respect them, cut them out of your life. I'll say it again, life is way to short to keep negativity in it.
Adam, thank you. Thank you for pushing me towards healthy options for my body and to not fall into the trap of unhealthy weight loss and starvation and most importantly seeing through the bullshit on social media, i never knew what body checking was until i started watching you!
Uuuuuh I think the bodycheck comment is uncalled for, and even quite hypocritical... I just watched another one of your shorts where a heavier girl starts her 'wieiad' by posing in front of a mirror wearing a bikini, this girl is doing the exact same thing (and actually shows less of her body) so why is she the only one being accused of bodychecking? Because she's thinner? That's a double standard too imo, and an ironic one at that. Both ladies look great and should be equally free to show off their body.
I was thinking that too because he never said the bigger girl was body checking and now the thinner girl is doing the same thing and now it's being called out.
this is always running through my mind. the way people always say ‘we are just worried for their health’, but it’s only directed to fat people. i think it’s so crazy how hypocritical they are, yet so unaware of it.
I’ve been obese and unhealthy and no one would say a word if I ate an entire tub of ice cream followed by a dozen doughnuts but as soon as I eat a salad it’s “don’t go crazy dieting” or “don’t exercise too much” or “you DESERVE a treat!” Or “muscles look gross!”
Obese people and underweight people have different diets because they have different needs. Obese people need to loose weight, underweight people need to gain it. So if you see an obese person eating a cookie, popcorn, and a blizzard yeah that’s bad for their diet. For someone trying to gain weight that’s good as those are high in calories and makes it easier to gain weight. Very weird how you’re a fitness channel yet won’t recognize obese, underweight, and healthy people are all different.
As a fat person, I've kinda just accepted that everything I do will be looked at with a more critical eye than a skinny person, and I've taken to laughing at it more than ignoring it.
Overweight girl trying to recover here. I've been overweight for most of my life (not obese) and my god I hate it. For my whole life I never had people who actually liked me, people always thought I was gross and ugly and always left me behind, to the point where everytime (and still today) when someone didn't want to be my friend or seemed rude to me, my auto-response in my mind was "they're right to do that, you're fat, you're not like them". I arrived now to a point where I can't trust anyone, I struggle to make friends because I am extremely afraid of being a burden for the way that I am. I am on a diet now (got permission from my doctor) and I exercise every week. But still today I think I just look ugly and I'll never be beautiful or liked, no matter what. I don't understand why people hate me so much, when they don't even know I am trying to change the best way that I can (don't get me wrong, I am not trying to recover only because of the people, I also want to recover for myself to feel better with my body). 👍
to those who say "being fat is a choice" NO. it is not a choice because you know NOTHING about the person, their hormones, their thyroids, their mental struggles or upbringing! If you're taught wrong food choices and wrong amounts of food as a small child it is NOT your choice those behaviors are ingrained into your mind
@@personalaccount3 I said can't because some people with heath issues literally can't loose weight it's got nothing to with being lazy or whatever but HEALTH 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@@personalaccount3You're joking right? A child being brought up to eat unhealthy amounts of food is not making the choice for themself, and it will absolutely affect them long-term. Maybe you were lucky enough to grow up without abusive parents, but not everyone is so lucky, and many children are punished for not cleaning their plates. It's been proven through multiple psychological studies that people will put on weight as a form of protection from the outside world. People with traumatic childhoods are more likely to be overweight, and are more likely to have dysregulated thyroids. None of that is a choice, and many of those circumstances do prevent people from losing weight while they're living through them.
No, but also life isn’t fair, we all got different calorie maintenances and we got to adjust what we eat, how much we eat, and when we eat to meet our genetic standards. I eat less than her and I’m a 200lb 6ft dude, I lost the metabolic part of the genetic lottery, but I’m glad I accepted that and am no longer 280lbs.
There's no case here? He's just simply stating that if a bigger person posted this same video the comments would be entirely different and that's simply the truth.
Idk, I've seen skinny (mostly women) being "cancelled" for promoting eating disorders out of these videos and then plus size ones who kinda borderline promotes binge eating disorder being praised in my experience...
This is a double standard. We praise and up lift fat people in the name of body positivity but the second someone is skinny they’re not allowed to be positive of their body. I’m a fat woman myself and I find this hypocrisy ridiculous. We can’t allow anyone to be happy whether they’re skinny or fat.
EDed person here, that's not body checking 💀💀💀💀 Real body checking is really different, stop accusing possibly healthy people of ED behavior, you keep doing that and they might actually end up with an ED
THIS. there are people literally arguing with me about this and half of the people accusing this girl of body checking clearly hasn't struggled with an eating disorder
@@freakyfrankieee To me she's just checking herself out in a mirror like anybody would and honestly even if she was body checking calling it out like that is so damaging, people treat eating disorders like a moral failing these days
@@zeink6373 EXACTLY. My god, have you seen those people who claim that restrictive ED's are inherently "fatphobic?" It's ridiculous. Honestly, the people calling the video of this girl "harmful" just reek of jealousy.
@@freakyfrankieee he didn't call it harmful! He's pointing out that showing her body at the beginning of the video can influence people to think if they eat like her they'll look like her, which is untrue. And he's also pointing out how she eats a variety of foods that some people would deem unhealthy, yet nobody says anything. If a fat person ate the same meals and posted it, they'd be bullied to no end.
if an overweight person were to post this, they'd get bashed and bullied in the comments. If an overweight posted a wieiad and ate things like salads, fruits, ect. just because they wanted to and weren't trying to lose weight, it would be considered "weird" because they're overweight and eating healthy. Friendly reminder you can still be healthy and be overweight.
I saw a reel of a (chubby) girl on insta who was recovering from binge eating and was happy she was getting back into cooking. Not every meal was the "healthiest" but yer portions were spot on and more than half the comments wouldnt stop going off on her about how "its not hard to drink water" and that her food choices "weren't within good dieting". It was such a bummer.
😂😂😂 she received "no unsolicited health advice"?! Sir, you probably aren't familiar with the phenomenon. Everyone only talks about fat-shaming, but completely ignores thin-shaming which as harsh as obesity-shaming, BUUUT when it happens to thin or skinny people, this harassment suddenly becomes "socially acceptable" ✨ and is not even considered harassment ot bullying, but just "teasing" or "joking", especially in a country where the majority of people are overweight. The comments I received as someone who wasn't even skinny, but thin (50 kg at 160 cm): "Reversed t1ts", lemon ass","sick","bones sack","skin and bones", "two sticks stuck in the butt","blown by the wind","fried intestines","radiographic image","advertisment for starvation", "you look like a biscuit in the profile", "someone give this girl something to eat","no man on this planet will ever love you or marry you because...look at you","you're so skinny I can see through you", "underdeveloped","do you even eat anything all day?! Like...water is not food, you know?!", "leaves-eater","it's finally spring, so you can go outside and have some grass for lunch", etc. Let alone my classmates who were thinner or even skinny... "Early fetus" or "scratched my hands into your pointy bones","skeleton" etc. And people say "thin people can never be victims of body-shaming", "that thin-shaming "isn't a thing" or "doesn't exist" or "it's a joke", or "it's waaaaay easier" or "cannot even complain if you're thin". BRAH... Look at Ariana Grande. People aren't even aware of this, they don't even think they should intervene because they see nothing wrong in shaming a thin person or don't even remember that their thin or skinny classmates have been bullied for so many years. As a conclusion: YOU WILL BE SHAMED NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK.
It’s why I’ll never post what I eat in a day. People don’t actually care about my health, they only care about comparing themselves in their heads and making sure I know they’re “better than me” because they’re thin. Perfectly healthy here, just have a thyroid disorder haha.
I am similar to that lady ams was told because I had sugar that it was unacceptable thinking of giving up all forms of fat. Im experiencing muscle wastage. I've said it to my psychiatrist that she has made me feel ashamed to eat food with any fat and im now in 9 year old pants which is very annoying.
Well, unlike north American culture, in Latin culture when you're too thin people aorund you and loved ones, will ask if you're OK, how's your health and if you're eating right. The won't say immediately "oh you look great!", if you're too thin or thinner than usual or what they're used to see you, but they will on the other hand compliment on how healthy an good you look if you indeed look GOOD, and by that I mean, hair, skin, nails, teeth, eyes. Latinos pay attention to health more than fitness and typically in the households, a full nutritious meal is the norm, skipping meals is a nono. Of course this is correlated to your financial status and if the family can afford 3 meals a day and maybe snacks for the family, but even when not, they will try to make the best out of what they have. With some exceptions related to living under the poverty line, of course when you have to eat whatever you can. This video reminds me of when I finished high-school and started college and my mom took me the doctor because I was way too thin and got into a diet to gain weight because I was thin but not healthy and my body needed to be balanced. Since I've been struggling with weight but the only times I have not been in good health is always when I lose a lot of weight or lose weight in general, and is not about starving myself is that the type of vitamins and minerals my body needs are not met under any dietary regime that excludes certain elements.. Anyway, complicated, not everyone is the same. But the point here is that a Latino will question it, fat or thin, if the food choice seems unhealthy, we don't roll with the "imma die trying to get thin", your family will shove food, literally, if they have to, and take your food away if they must, as well. 🤷🏻♀️ North Americans are obsessed with this and have made it a world wide nightmare by means of people like the Trashdarshians. Everyone looks the same, bodies and faces.. Is insane, and the worst part? Natural beautiful Latinas, Colombians, Dominicans, Chileans, Mexicans, you name them, are being accused of trying to look like those women, but is the other way around, they took the prototype of the voluptuous, beautiful faced latina and bought themselves faces and bodies alike.
Yup saw a video of a fat person EXERCISING in the gym and getting food. There were comments of how she should stop eating and exercise more if she didn't want to look 'ugly' anymore. WTH 🤦♀️ discouraging the person working on themselves. They need time, she cant become thin in a day! 🤦♀️🤦♀️
im a competitive swimmer and i play a lot of sports, i dont eat very healthy at all but im still skinny and fit. If someone fat had my diet they'd be made fun of and berated. Its cool and relatable if i have it though, of course!
I am the smallest size in plus size and I'm not even that big, am a band kid that does marching in fall and takes walks and swims during the spring and summer. I also have a hormone imbalance issue. I'm active and try not to eat a lot and still get fat shamed every day. I've tried saying my struggles in comment sections before but delete my comments usually because the replies zone in on "plus sized" and "not big" and just automatically fat shame and tell me to go to the gym. The anxiety is so bad I don't even want to eat lunch anymore at school because I feel like people think I'm disgusting for eating.
Please just eat. You will face judgement from others whether you are fat or skinny or anything in between, especially from teenagers. Just be kind to yourself.
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This video has no common sense. She is at a healthy weight and has a higher metabolism so she is okay to eat like this. An overweight person is not afforded this same privilege because they are not a healthy weight and will continue to risk their health and well being by eating a diet that is hurting them. You just pander to what people want to hear to give them hope they can keep living the same way and be healthy, it’s not right
Shut up wiener boy…. Tsss wiener 🤦🏻
Stop crying 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
bro stop with the shit that she has to give health adive and all of that it's a what I eat in a day not advice for a eating disorder also stop comparing 😭
The girls that do this are probably like me. I get weirded out seeing these vids because they could eat alot of high calorie food and still look the same. I feel like it's kind of terrible to try to advertise your body is a certain way because of your actions when I feel people are taking a video one day and trying to get credit for how well they eat... Then eat just about anything for a week or two between videos... It feels like a fake pat on the back... Idk...
Saw a girl the other day get mocked for eating a carrot. Hope people stop pretending Fat-shaming has anything to do with health!
i mean to me personally carrots are nasty af but still
why?..
@@AverageImp You’re right, they’re DISGUSTING but like why?!?!?!
Carrots are tasty 🥰
@@yessweetie883 "too much sugar" or something... i can't stand people.
@@dottyContrarian Carrots have “too much sugar”? What is up with people, that’s absurd. I might dislike them but that’s nitpicking like a mf.
I follow a fat influencer who is trying to heal her relationship with food and recover from binge eating. They tell her how unhealthy her SALADS are. For reference they are not the least bit unhealthy. They bash her more for her healthy choices I swear. It's like they hate you cause you are fat but they mock and make fun at your every effort to do better too.
I can’t remember her name off the top of my head but is she the one with the adorable freckles everywhere and did a “No fast food” challenge for a month?
OMG SIERRA ANN!!
I've seen her. They were talking about the mini watermelon she ate. Like bro. It's a watermelon. It's water.
Sierra is who made me decide it was time to treat me ED. She is saving lives. I didn’t know there were triggers for binge eating until her. I’ve eliminated several trigger foods. Not forever, I won’t restrict myself to never having chocolate covered cashews. But that bag from target won’t last more than 2 days in my house. It’s cool how people just sharing their knowledge is so helpful.
When you're fat, you're fat because of the pizza you eat. Then you eat salad, so now you're fat because of the salad topping you put. Then it's the olive oil. Then it's the bread.
Unless you eat just the lettuce, it will not be enough.
This is why I refuse to share my weight loss journey on the internet. I have enough people judging my diet.
Good for you. You're smart for that.
As a fat person trying to fix obesity, I am shamed for my calories intake. 1800 a day and someone who is half my hight and weighs 3 times less is telling me my intake is way to high.
I can't 😅
1800 is good if it fits you caloric intake deficit (you probably checked it it but in case you haven't it's important to measure it) honestly people just want to complain pay no mind
Never forget you need to feed yourself. Even when you're dieting, you still need to fuel your body and if 1800 works for you for now then please don't feel ashamed, you deserve food just like anyone else. If anything because of how you feel you actually deserve food more
My sister was eating well over 2,000 calories a day and that was what was causing her to gain weight. In order for her to lose weight her calorie deficit is at the 2000 mark. Mine is 1600. And while we both weigh the same our bodies are different. 2000 would be too much for me and 1600 would be too little for her. It's all about what works for you not for them. And we are doing much better with our eating disorders. We are only eating when we are hungry.😊 We also started going to the gym.
Bro my google fit tells me that's how many calories I use up with my 63 kg weight and only activity being 10k steps a day. 1800 is a normal intake to survive wth are they on about
i’m so sorry love :( i wish people could be more compassionate and not speak from a place of insecurity or hate. i wish you the best and i hope you can get to a place where you’re comfortable with your body 💞
As someone who has been on both the underweight, middle and overweight sides of the weight spectrum I can attest to this.
When I was 30 lbs underweight if I ate a big mac, 20 piece nugget, fries and a milkshake I was "cool" and "one of the guys". When I was overweight I would get comments about how the dressing on my salads must be calorically dense and that eating a salad wasn't even worth it, even when it was a lemon vinaigrette that had maybe 20 calories for multiple tablespoons.
Even when I mentioned I was going to the gym the response has been drastically different. When I was overweight I'd get super backhanded "good for you for trying" comments and now as someone who isn't exactly thin but definitely not fat either people feel the need to explain why they don't go to the gym and how much they want to start & how I have such amazing healthy habits when I mention it.
Bruhhh meh, People, just ignore them
I've always been heavier. Only time in my life I was "thin" was my first job out of high school. Worked stocking shelves at a busy grocery store. On my feet and doing manual work 50+ hours a week. All the exercise eliminated my appetite. Only drank water and ate 1 snack bag size of chips for about about 2 years. 6 months into the job I went from a US womens size 20 to a size 10. I remained a size 10 for 1.6 years despite only eating those chips. My personality has remained the same throughout. When I was thin i was looked at as cute and quirky. When fat people say im weird and gross. Only time in my life people have been kind to me was that small window of time I was a size 10. They try to say it's because you're more confident at that size. No - society treats fat people differently.
That's fascinating. I find I have a similar thing when I tell people I'm vegetarian and they tell me why they aren't (they like this specific kind of meat too much, it's too expensive, too much cooking if you do it the cheap way, etc). Looking back I used to do the same thing when I was eating meat. I think people think being vegetarian or working out as a straight sized person is a virtue. I wish we all felt okay either what feels good / we are able to and moving in ways that feel good / we are able to move.
One thing I noticed after losing weight: the people who criticised me for eating too much started to criticise me for dieting "wrong" (e.g. food groups, nutrients, etc) It really is just about control for some people. And some whole new people fell out with me for "not loving myself as I was" when all I wanted was to walk up multiple flights of stairs without getting winded 😂
I got super sick being skinny, we didn’t know me being skinny was the reason why I was passing out, why I was slowly losing mobility in my body. I gained weight for my health, I’m nearly 190 pounds. I’m the healthiest I have ever been. Everyone is telling me to lose weight, my doctor(who doesn’t know anything about it my disability) told me to eat less. When I told her I barely eat 600 calories on a good day. She wants me to eat different foods, like more vegetables. However, when I told her that it’s going to drop my calorie intake. She told me quite rudely ‘then I don’t know how to help you anymore’ I’m looking for a new doctor. She also tried to blame the fact I gained weight for my low blood sugar, full well knowing I’ve been dealing with it since I was a child. When I only weighed 110 at the age of 14. We found out that my low calorie intake isn’t the reason my blood sugar is dropping quickly. No matter what I ate my blood sugar always dropped quickly after. I talked to my GI she said what I’m eating is fine, since I’m eating what she told me too. The point of this is half the time they don’t know what they’re doing, even when corrected. I am planning on losing some weight, but not anything under 150. Knowing her she’ll try sending my to an eating disorder clinic again.
Of course not. People would crucify the fat person for anything that’s not green-and then they’d still be made fun of
And if it’s green with dressing they’ll crucify them for daring to eat anything other than just plain lettuce!
Even if it’s green people will still accuse them of not showing everything they eat cause “who can eat that little and healthy and still be fat”.
I follow a plus sized creator who documents her repairing her relationship with food and even in videos where she eats healthy and goes to the gym, people are *still* harassing her in the comments because she is fat. Who decided this was okay???
People are blaming them too, as if being born not looking like a skinny supermodel was their fault
@@jelly.belly2 the amount of people that think being fat is a choice is crazy. the opposite is true fir most, most people have to choose to be thin. Whether they do that healthily or not. Being a bit fleshy is the natural norm, especially for women. And then you have to account for metabolic and autoimmune disorders which a lot of people have nowadays.
I dated a man who ate fast food constantly...there was very little nutritional consideration in his food choices. His older sister was the same. They both consumed food that would feed two men every single day. Both were thin and never gained weight. That's genetics at work. Yet, BOTH felt perfectly fine to criticize me for having orange juice at breakfast. Me, who worked out every day and didn't eat nearly the amount nor levels of fast food they did.
Probably bc you aren’t working with your body lol, if they are eating that much and still thin it’s obvious that their body needs that amount of calories, if you are eating less but still fat then you are still eating too much to not lose weight. You can’t compare yourself with them
@@Brhidku thats what they said??? did we not read the same comment. "Thats genetics at work."
@@Brhidku also, they work out everyday - did you just completely misunderstand the entire point of their comment?
@@Brhidku What made you assume that this person was fat? I don’t even know where you tried to go with this comment. Tbch..
@@lightlylemony I never said they didn’t workout everyday lol
His contents make me so emotional. This is literally so true. People do not see anything in a fat person beyond their size. They never ask if they have an underlying condition, an ED, hormonal problems. They just care about people being conventionally attractive in the facade of health when their knowledge is limited to what their gym trainers told them. We all have mirrors. We all know gym exists. Funny how you bully the shit out of fat people and then expect them to have 0 social anxiety and hit the gym. You say you are trying to help motivate them by shaming them? Make them hate themselves so much that they desperately want to be skinny? What do you think will that lead to most likely? A healthy lifestyle? Or self hate and potential ED? So clearly health is just a facade. The process takes time. ...do you care to know if they are in the process? No. Do you poor-shame a person with financial problems? Do people actually shame skinny people for eating unhealthy or abusing substance or any other unhealthy lifestyle habit as much as they do fat people for enjoying one good meal on the internet? Stop bullying in the facade of health. If you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say it. They already know what they look like. Your bullying is not helping.
So wonderfully said!!!!
Facts. I'm sick and tired of people shaming people for how they look.
@@no-ic7vt thank you
@@missbread3618 right?
@@anshikasingh8419 yes
Yes, thank you! I’ve seen commenters fawning all over skinny women who post Mukbang/competitive eating videos but will shit all over a fat woman who ate a bag of crisps and half a donut. The hypocrisy is disgusting.
not hypocrsy its not that its same thing and we only shit on fat people. its that the skinny if not anorexic is in good shape and clearly not doing that often and nothing wrong with it, while the fat one eats a lot daily and doing it is detrimental to their heath that makes it not good.
@@valentincsonka327 Someone being skinny does not mean they are healthy. I am genetically skinny, but I'll be upfront. I eat like trash and I don't exercise. I get winded going up the stairs and there are a lot of people bigger than me that would be less bothered by it. But no one, not one single person, has ever said anything to me about how I eat. It is ENTIRELY bias.
@@Arissiah You are not fit and with good cardio doesnt mean you are not healthy. Do you have any serious sikness, do you get sick often? if yes you are not healthy but if not your diet is working for you. You eat crap but with crap you eat good things too and because of your low apetite you dont overeat massively to gain weight. Being obese is unhealthy doesnt matter if you can run a marathon whitout a sweat break. ITs simply too much adipose tissue that releases hamiful hormones, the weight puts pressure on orrgans and joints constantly, which eventually max after 50 result in very serious problems. And no, their diet is trash especially if they active cuz it means they over eat so much calories, and you cant overeat so much with good food cuz it fills you up and you would throw up so they eat lots of high sugar, fat crap. So you are not a obvious addict, a junkie on who is clearly visible his harmful addiction which is only visible if he does it to a very harmful extent so harm himself severy whether its alhoholic, drug addict or food addict. An obese person eat crap is same as drug addict injecting himself, its okay for a normal person to have a drink or eat a big amount a food cuz its fine since hes not doing it often but for an addict its feeding his own addiction. Hope its clear
Facts
People especially men find it really grossly sexy when skinny women binge eat in mukbangs or eat an entire cheeseburger as if its not their fault women are expected to diet in the first place
If a fat person showed what they eat in a day and it came in at a deficit people would still ridicule them
Well you can't eat like a child and weight 3 times what you should, so yes, they are indeed lying.
@@Jsjhkwnsn you can be in a current weight loss routine but still fat. I’m technically that right now. You can’t be skinny overnight. I eat it a calorie deficit every single day and workout at a gym 3x a week for about an hour and a half doing the circuit and try to at least do a walk on the days I can’t go to the gym. I’ve lost 14lbs but you’d never know it if you just looked at me now. You’d likely think I wasn’t trying. But I am. I’m 222 as of this morning. That’s BIG right? But so is 14lbs heavier. I’m not lying when I say I had a sandwich and a salad that all came to 537 calories - and that I am still 419 calories under for the day. But if someone saw what I ate they’d comment…they’d either say it was too much or that I’m lying. But 14lb heavier me wanted to be the weight I am so bad. And here I am. And 222 me wants to be 220, then 215, then 210. And I will be.
@@Jsjhkwnsn mfs when fat people don’t lose 200 pounds in 1 hour 😡 😡 😡 😭 😭 😭
@@CourtKazee nobody will say you're not trying if you stated what you said, that you've lost weight because of calories deficit. people are ridiculing those that said to be on deficit yet do not lose weight (over an amount of time)
@@mvpz I don’t have to state I’m in a deficit. But, I’ll argue, that if a person is truly in an actual deficit and works out and doesn’t see a difference that can be a true indicator of something. So, rather than ridicule them I’d just tell them to see a physician. Now, if the person says all this, and they’re not not seeing a result but you’re unsure if they’re in a true deficit/working out. I’d still not ridicule them like some do. Being fat doesn’t mean you did it maliciously, that you did it because you wanted to, that you did it knowingly. Not a lot of people REALLY are told how to eat, how to workout, and how to make their lives better. They THINK they know (workout - calorie deficit) but if no one showed you (like me) then even though you eat your veggies and avoid large amounts of bad stuff you can still be big and it’s hard to understand why. Until recently I didn’t understand any of this. I also have a condition that makes losing weight a lot harder and I had my son over a year ago now. Life got in the way and the knowledge wasn’t passed down. And fat people are very much aware they’re fat without people reminding them.
I've struggled for years with my plus size weight and it never helped I was short. The bullying was so bad that while I was playing soccer and rugby near weekly as well as hiking I was also throwing up every meal I ate because I wanted to be healthy. I didn't loose much weight getting to 180 at my worst. People were so proud of me but still critical saying I could lose more and so on. It all finally peaked when I passed out at a rugby game after playing a double header soccer match that morning with nothing in my system. But the only person to notice was my dentist the next day, she pulled me aside and had a nice long conversation where I caved and told her everything... The only person to notice after 2 and a half years was my dentist. I spoke to my school counselor that day and told my couches. My couches were extremely apologetic and worried so much so I was benched until I could document at least two meals fully consumed and not purged. I'm still recovering after years... It's a harsh world we live in and it never holds it punches
aim to lose weight and be healthy, healthily? You're probably doing wrong by going on too high of a deficit and absolutely wrong by throwing up every meal you ate
No shit Sherlock she knows it’s bad and is actively trying to do better so why are you condemning her?
@I'm Crazy Idea Shack Owner giving solid advice is equal to condemning her? Are you gonna shower her with toxic positivity "you go gurl" with no useful info for her to actually achieve her goal?
@Asher saying "uhhh be healthy" isn't a way to get rid of an eating disorder 💀 like you really thought you were productive for that?
@ash I gave solid advice on the which direction she should look to already. Yes I agree that I used the wrong approach(male way). Girls in general are afraid of harsh truth and needs sugar coating and prancing about the issue as to not hurt each other's feelings 💀
I really love the message you promote about health over all else. 5 years ago, I lost 20 pounds uncontrollably and doctors were complimenting me, and questioning why I was coming in. I could only keep 1 meal a day down and was super sick (turned out to be gastroparesis, a slowing of the digestive muscles) and it was so distressing to hear everyone compliment the weight I’d lost.
Yeah I'm a ex competitive swimmer and eat like trash but am a size 2 so guess what? It's cute. The double standards are real
Same I'm in extreme fitness and really fit but eat like 5000 calories a day .what a lot of people don't seem to understand is that people gain weight differently the help of a fast metabolism probably can lose weight quicker than someone without it like someone could do the same workout routine and eat the same amount but still be a different weight .
Don't you think it's because being fat is undesirable? Unfortunately I don't know anyone that can break the laws of physics and gain weight in a calorie deficit.
Obviously whilst being fat, poor and unnutritious food choices are evidence about the choices that got them there whilst for someone that's extremely in shape, it's getting there in SPITE of poor choices
@Kunt what an appropriate user name for you.
@@kuntyasfuck that's the point of the video. People pick on those who are overweight saying what they eat is just unhealthy for them. But think people eat unhealthy too and we don't get criticised. People just hate 'fat'
@Extra Stout don't you think a certain amount of negative punishment is necessary to dissuade poor behaviors?
Pretty similar case is an alcoholic, we would definitely bash an alcoholic for their drinking choices, but not a normal person for drinking
Nope fat people can’t win when they make these videos. You’re either eating too unhealthy or you must be hiding calories cause “why would you be fat if eating healthy…” good folks will look to encourage people to achieve their goals, not make fun of them or invalidate their efforts.
yep it’s like people can’t get through their head that hormones and MANY other things can cause someone to gain weight or be overweight
As someone who is very active and eats healthy for the most part and has struggled with weight problems in the past themselves, I can say the only type of people who think they can judge ones health based on weight or how they look are very ignorant and likely very insecure with their own image and trouble minded cuz no one who isn't wont act like that nor go out of their way to bother people. And more people need to call them out for that as well as ignore what they have to say cuz they give no value to the situation
It's the internet, most of the people who make hate comments are probably fat themselves or hate themselves it's usually always one or the other.
On the flip side if a curvy person was in this video with everyone else the same, even the selfish at the start ge would be praising them
@@justhere630 active for Americans or active for the rest of world? There is a difference. Like the rest of the world walks or bikes while Americans drive.
If someone was fat the first thing people say is “Come on show us the rest of it, we know that’s not all you ate. Show us the midnight McDonald’s and Burger King meals”
Yeah I saw the video of like what I eat as a fat person that's not trying to lose weight at moment. Everyone Lynn the comment is like what do you eat off-camera. this is only what you eat when you're on camera.
I would love to see people get together and actually test that out. Exact same foods, but have two different models do the body check at the beginning.
See how different the responses are
different ethnicities would react differently and have different issues depending on weight. Me being Asian if we are overweight we may have issues that other ethnicities have at obese. We also process food differently (some of it is genetic and part of it is based on the biome of our stomachs). So for us we have to keep our body weight down as there are more issues at those weights then under (under by American standards).
@@aaronmontgomery2055 we're not talking about how the people eating the food would respond, but the people in the comments. Would they judge what someone is eating differently if the person eating it is skinny vs overweight, even if the food is exactly the same?
@SirPhysics oh, I thought you meant something entirely different.
Well my comment actually goes into this a little then. I think the comments will simply be based on the model and perception. Caloric intake differs for different bodies. An obese person burns less calories than a person of the same weight who is fit and so I think it depends on what is the food and what is the person. This would be hard to test as how can you even see if the same people are commenting or see the same videos? It may become viewed in one region and then another video get no views. This might just test the algorithms rather. To be clear I am agaisnt the channels views on caloric intake as he views it as narrow to me. He is also bias based on his experience. I get where he is coming from but it's not like skinny people don't get hate for being skinny (even in comments). It really depends on looks, messages, and other factors.
Yeah definitely a double standard. Im on my journey down frpm 340 pounds and im around 270 now. I swear i need a shirt that says "i already have a trainer and dietician" they're vultures in the gym to get clients. But oddly only ever bother the bigger people.
Dude, that is bananas progress. Well done.
Keep up the good work! I’ve been a trainer for twenty years and a lot of gyms expect their trainers to try to strike up a conversation and “sell themselves” to every one on the floor. Sometimes it isn’t your weight that will attract them but how approachable you look, it’s not very comfortable having to strike up conversations with strangers in order to keep your job. Just wanted to share if it makes you feel any better. You might be getting approached bc you’re smiling/not wearing headphones/ overall giving out nice vibes!
I hate that the most, I can't go to a store without some gym trainers trying to stop me. I lost so much weight still get bothered while men and women in sports gear just waltz past. Ugh.
I went from 360 to 255 (no wls). Never received any commentary from my doctor on it. I regained 4 lbs and got a lecture. It's kinda wild.
Ayo, that's awesome progress! Hope those vultures choke on the bones and leave you alone frfr
Definitely wouldnt treat them the same. There are a few influencers ive seen who are overweight but film themselves making healthy meals and trying green foods, and STILL get hate comments and judgment
Yup, I wanted to say that.
Not to mention how many people would call them liars if they made a video like this
@@elim.288 Oh I saw one of those. The comments went ballistic saying they don't believe her because her dinner was too small or something I don't remember. And saying where's all the snacks in between.
It's the internet, most of the people who make hate comments are probably fat themselves or hate themselves it's usually always one or the other.
@@berserkisdead357 it really depends on the influencer and why it popped in my feed. I don't care if they make no illusions that be obese is bad but when they make claims like it is healthy is where I say they are trying to spread dangerous lies. If they are just posting their life then I don't care.
I got sick and accidentally lost 65 lbs… no one wanted to help because I looked so good
Absolutely TRUE. I knew a skinny girl who had the absolute WORST diet and everyone asked her for diet advice and she was like: "Be born to my parents. That's how to be as skinny as me. Also, ask ANYONE ELSE."
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cause they dont care about health they care about being a beauty standard, a lot of thin ppl r thin for unhealthy reasons and they get praised for their thinness, its never about health its about looks
And you're more likely to lose your period from being underweight than being overweight.. which means your body knows being underweight is a less healthy condition. Obviously i know there are extremes but these days even average size is considered overweight by beauty standards. Weight ranges are man made anyway, your body will tell you wheh you're unhealthy.
@@lavenderoh exactly…majority of the models on Instagram are completely infertile
Preach! 🎉
@Ann where did this come from? No one was saying to go hate on skinny people
@@Ann-dt3xwlol get out from here already...dont bring the hateful comments in
Obviously not. I’ve seen it already. Balanced meals look like unhealthy meals next to a fat person. It’s always cute when skinny women are “foodies” though 😗
Yea cause they put in the work to take care of themselves the fat people eat like that or worse and that’s why their fat
It’s simple calories in = weight gained/lost you can control your body
@@experiencesweaty2527 it’s not that simple ☠️ there are other many factors not just CACI
@@fuo2275 most of the time its just because they cant control themselves when they eat
@@experiencesweaty2527 Nobody drops 100lb overnight though. You still need to eat, and a slow, controlled weight loss will always be healthier than a crash diet. So why bitch about people who don't currently fit your aesthetic ideal?
People always forget that everyone’s metabolism is different.
For example like I have 3 cats. All born together. All grew up in my house being fed the same amount. Being treated the same. All 3 are different sizes because of their metabolism. Same with humans.
Height and muscle mass matter more than metabolism. If 5ft girl try eat like a 6ft skinny guy then she is going to be fat
I noticed online… If you’re overweight, people criticize you for eating too much and praise ya for eating a salad. If you’re skinny, people criticize you for not eating enough and praise ya for eating a cookie. I think both get criticized, just differently.
There’s a person I follow who is fat, and she got criticized for eating a carrot.
Yup and I bet those people who criticize her probably put a bunch of garbage in their body and think their healthy, weight doesn't completely determine if ones healthy or not you can be skinny and at the right weight for you but if you put garbage in your body it will catch up to you
@@justhere630Exactly. I'm fat (and have PCOS and an underactive thyroid which don't help lol) But I do try to eat a pretty healthy diet. Lots of veggies and berries, fish, salad, nuts, wholegrain, brown bread only, lean meat etc and I always cook home meals as opposed to eating take away. I also walk 6 miles a day. But I'm big.
My brother on the other hand is skinny and he's a vegetarian so people naturally think he's really healthy. He orders pizza and other take away at least 3 times a week. He doesn't eat fresh fruit and veggies. He eats junk, mostly cheese, chips, pizza and sweets. He gets hardly any exercise, works from home and spends his free time sitting for hours in front of his computer games. Yet because he's thin people think he's healthy 🤦 and they think I'm lazy and stuff myself on junk even though I don't.
I have way more energy and stamina than my brother does. I get way more exercise and I get lots of vitamins and nutrients from my food.
People make such weird judgements about people based only on their appearance.
Luckily I don't give a shit what insecure people think of me and I know I'm doing my best most of the time so it's fine 😂
Nope they wouldn't. I follow a gal doing her weight loss journey and she does a calorie deficit of 1900-2000 calories and people heckle her for eating bagels or getting In and Out Burger even though she stays within her calorie deficit goals.
Now flip side, if the comment creator in your video showed nothing but healthy stuff, shed probably get comments like go eat a cheeseburger, you're too skinny.
Can't win 🤷
You talking about Michelle Platti? If so, the comments on her videos are so obnoxious. Glad she seems to have kept a good and positive attitude despite it though
Yeah, and every time someone skinny shows their body in any way or looks at a mirror, it's body checking. If someone fat does it, it's glorifying obesity. You literally can't win.
Calories aren’t the only thing that matter 💀that’s like wondering why you’re so out of breath if you ate fast food but 10% of nutritional food and it was in ur deficit
@@leila.7754 Girl you won't stop being out of breath by eating lettuce and eggs 💀💀💀exercising builds your condition lmao. As long as someone is at calorie deficit he/she will lose weight and less body weight= less fatigue by default
@@azas680 they will lose weight, but they will lose both muscle and fat in a ratio of something like 30:70, which is a lot of muscle to lose just because you want fast food every day.
No it probably wouldn’t, but why are you using this person as an example of double standards when she hasn’t done anything wrong ? She is simply showing honestly what she eats, it doesn’t matter is she is skinny.
Because it's not about what she's doing, it's about how her audience is reacting to her.
@@Kira_Martel this has nothing to do with her audience, that guy is not her audience. He is just some guy on the internet trying to prove a point with an unrelated video. This woman has done nothing wrong, she is just showing what she eats in a day.
If you want to call out double standards, let’s talk about it. It’s admirable for a bigger person to show what they eat in a day when they eat a balanced healthy meal, but it’s not when an already healthy person does it ? That’s double standards if I’ve ever seen any.
@@stellabari246 Again, he isn't talking about her doing anything wrong, he is talking about the critique or absence of critique coming from her audience compared to the kinds of responses fat people get for sharing similar dietary choices. Maybe watch the video again, this isn't about her.
@@Kira_Martel yeah, but he I using her video to do it. In the end, he is putting her, who did nothing wrong, in the spotlight, comparing her to other people to point out double standards.
He could have done the opposite, show a video of a bigger person, eating very healthily, and then showing the bad comments. After that he could say « now imagine this is a thin girl, would the response be the same? »
He would have highlighted the same issue, without using a person who has nothing to do with the problem, and putting her in the spotlight to be critiqued for things she has nothing to do with.
He did it this way for a reason, which is that it sells more to put someone on the spot, than it does to outright defend someone.
If you look at the comment sections you will learn that everything is bad for you.
I mean....it kind of is 😅 The vast majority of people still don't understand that at least one third to one half of the population have predispositions and are affected by gluten 🤷♂️ A nonchalant attitude is extremely detrimental in a world where most everything is artificial, surface level, and or modified for profits.
The air is bad for you soo........ makes sense
Dont touch your keyboard. It has led😂
There's definitely a double standard. Skinny people don't get ridiculed for eating the same amount of junk food as a fat person. I find I get ridiculed more by fellow fat people (like my dad) for my food choices compared to skinny people. Skinny people don't even comment on my weight or food intake.
No hate intended to any person, this is just my experience
It’s usually internal discomfort that makes us judge others. No one believes a fat person is unworthy more than a fat person who has been that way their whole lives.
If you are fat and don’t hate yourself you challenge their entire existence.
@@Waywardwindfall that's a perspective I've never thought about. Thank you for that! I completely agree with you!
My dad literally lectured me about my diet while at a pizza restaurant HE TOOK ME TO and told me if I keep eating like this I'm going to kill myself. Meanwhile eating 3x as much as me and not managing is diabetes well in general.
@@Waywardwindfall You underestimate the anti fat comments/posts/threads on websites. Reddit use to be notorious for having a subreddit to hating on fat people.
@@celestialmaiden4606 it still has it, it’s fatpeople stories or smth like that
Half the time when I see someone who's not considered skinny post a healthy what I eat in the day a bunch of the comments are in disbelief saying they don't really eat like that too lol 😭
Slight correction- that isn’t a body check. Body checking is a behavior seen in people with eating disorders where they “measure” their size against objects/their hands or in a mirror, usually by contorting their bodies. It isn’t the kind of thing people post on tiktok to trigger others, it’s a symptom of their illness and is generally kept pretty private.
Really important to not conflate bodychecking with people on tiktok simply showing off their figure bc one is a pretty normal aspect of social media and one is a sign of an extremely dangerous psychological condition.
You’re wrong. Body checking comes in many forms - what you’re describing is one, but it’s not the only one.
The hate for bigger people is ridiculous! You never know what that person is going through or the reason why they are overweight. No matter how healthy they eat or workout trying to lose weight they still get so much hate for it! Why??? They deserve to be encouraged and cheered on in their journey towards a new healthy lifestyle. Today’s society is disgusting with these double standards. I was small growing up and still got ripped apart mostly by women in my own family. It still affects me today. Be careful what you say to someone words can hurt and they stick like a tattoo in your brain.
Is it a body check if the person showing the physique before the video is overweight/obese? I think it’s important to address double standards, as you do, but a girl wearing leggings and a crop top is a pretty standard outfit. When someone is intentionally in a bikini or moving their clothes to show off their abs, that’s clearly body checking to me. But sometimes it feels like we (the collective of people on the internet) jump to criticizing women for… existing in a variety of contexts when it suits us. A skinny girl with abs shows herself at the beginning of a what I eat in a day? Must be a body check. A plus size girl in the same outfit does the same thing? It isn’t considered a body check (though it very well could be). This isn’t meant to be shady. I think these are important issues to address. But I can’t help feeling like accusing women of body checking skirts close to policing how women dress/exist in the world.
Imo there's zero reason for people to show their bodies in what I eat in a day vids except to body check, trigger people, or get shock value. I'm saying this regardless of size. It's completely unecessary to show your body in that type of video. The context matters. If she was making a "what I wear in a day" video or a "here's my gym progress" then ofc, showing her body would be fine. What I eat in a day vids typically don't require anyone to show their body at all.
Thank you so much for these. It really helps to not let unrealistic expectations seep into your mind by hearing someone dismiss them
I've seen a lot of plus size people start their videos off with "body checks" and I don't get how duetting random people who didn't ask you for advice or commentary helps anyone. you can talk about fatphobia without dragging random people sharing what they eat into it. starting videos off with shots of your body or face is pretty normal on tiktok as well not everything is that deep
as a skinny person i agree, i never get negative comments for my diet i dont work out or eat healthy i just have a fast metabolism. if i was fat id get so much unsolicited advice about health and negative comments on my food choices. 🤦🏼♀️
Because the former is unable to be determined by just appearance and the latter is?
@@mvpz plenty of fat people live healthy lifestyles, plenty of fat people arent fat by choice. the assumption is ridiculous, and regardless of whether someone is fat by choice or not there's absolutely no reason to give them unsolicited advice or make comments on their weight.
Really? Because now that I have some chub I don't get comments. When I was actually skinny, I got told to "eat" and that I looked like a stick tons of times. You like a salad- you're starving yourself, obviously.
God forbid you have some semblance of control over binging, you get about the same response as a bulimic fat person.
@@valesth4903 yeah i get lots of "do you have an eating disorder?" "you need to eat a burger" comments but when i do eat unhealthy i never get comments on my food choices where as a bigger person will get unsolicited dieting advice when theyre not even eating anything and just existing
@@nelliiel And you don't think people telling and encouraging you to eat and be unhealthy to gain weight is actually more problematic than encouraging a fat person to be healthier?
As one of those rare people who used to be able to eat a lot and was still skinny,
I have not met a single person who ate healthy in moderation and was fat. I've met plenty of fat people with very murky and wrong idea of what "healthy" is, and I've met lots of skinny people who think they eat a lot when they don't.
Thank you for addressing the double standards! I know that if I posted a video showing the EXACT same meals, the response would be wildly different because I live in a larger body.
Why do all these people demonize a “body check.” In the beginning for skinny people but applaud it when it’s a bigger person…
EXACTLY omgg. In so many other videos he doesn’t complain when a bigger person shows their body at the start, but when it’s a think person it’s suddenly toxic and a problem?
@@msuakn Yes! This like Abby Sharp praises, bigger bodies when they do it, and then demonizes when skinny people do it🤡😂
I can't understand why ppl wants to look like other ppl's body
As a 14 years old I'm in love with my body and I eat normally idc if it has a lot of calories
And I do exercise to make my body stronger not thinner
Another double standard is that you would never say a fat person is body checking in the beginning of their videos even though a lot of times, they show themselves just like the girl in the video.
The reason the comments are not the same is because fatness is a representation of CONSISTENT overeating, or undermovement.
Excess fat shows up on the body as a result. A thin person eating a cookie won't get looks because their body indicates that they balance their diet (whether that's by healthy means or not, you can't tell from looking). But you CAN tell if someone is obese, that it is due to consistent imbalance of their diet. So yeah. there's a difference. I say this as a former fat kid with skinny siblings. we were served the same types of food. I had a lower metabolism and also didn't like as much movement (prefer reading, gaming). my siblings were either picky eaters or very active. so yes, my parents put me and only me on an adjusted diet. why? our bodies indicate what's going on inside. excess fat is indicative of a diet that needs adjusting, so if you see a morbidly obese person eating excess calories when they ALREADY have a ton of excess weight, it sets of all the flags that 'this person's body indicates they already consume far too many calories, to regain a balanced figure they need to consume less calories and more nutrition' it's that simple
Yeah. Like, if someone is a “bit” chubby (idk, +5-20kg over their “normal” body weight range), I don’t rlly care but when morbidly obese ppl (I’m talking 400kg or smth) say they “can’t” lose weight I’m like chile, take away your enablers and you’ll be losing weight fast asf bc you’re overeating by thousands of calories to sustain such weight💀
Adam, you are single-handedly the only "weight loss" (healthy eating/living) content creator i care to follow. love love love how realistic you are with it all and just no bullshit, you call out the toxicity and still give fantastic advice! please keep being you and posting when your able to !! :D
I love when your shorts pop up, such a nice break from the background hum of fatphobia, pro-ed and diet culture in most of everything else
Bro a body check? She looked in the mirror and didn't poke at anything
Right. It’s like they think every skinny person is body checking atp
she showed her body for the exact purpose of comparing it with the food she eats. it wasn't a video about her clothes or for beauty reasons. it was for food/weight
her showing her body had no meaning for the video. unless to show how skinny she is with her food intake
@@keroki932 nah it's more of a "this is me and this is what I eat" fat people do this too and he doesn't call it body checking, he hypes them up.
her body is really nice looking
Its obviously working out for her. But if she was fat then it wouldn't be working out so people would tell her to eat less. Common sense
Hot take, the reason that the fat person gets more ridicule is because of the obvious addiction. Here is an addiction example, a person having a glass of wine at a restaurant is a lot different from an alcoholic drinking vodka out of a paper bag. I don't agree with being mean to random people but if your gonna put something on the internet someone's gonna say something
i say this ALL the time, people always fat shame others and use the healthy excuse but i know some thin people that eat the unhealthiest stuff and they’re praised for it 😭
finally someone said it seriously THANK YOU
she was just showing her outfit in the beginning, it was not a body check. she does this in all her videos. also shes literally recovering from an ED so let’s not do this with her, people aren’t judging her because she’s recovering/recovered
I’m gonna be honest that was a really long outfit check in the beginning for it literally just being leggings and a tank top, she’s making a video about what she eats in a day and you just said yourself she’s recovering from an eating disorder.. I’m pretty sure it was to show her body. No hate tho, I’m sure she’s a lovely person but that definitely was a body check.
@@no-ic7vt she is recovering from an ED? and plus every time people see a skinny person in a tank top and leggings yall say it’s a body check, I have never seen anyone complain about a body check when a bigger person does it. In one of this girls videos she literally states “it’s not a body check”
@@merrysnow9935 not just because she’s skinny. That’s not what I meant. It’s a boring ass outfit dude there’s no way she needed to stand their for 15 seconds to show off a blue tank top and black leggings. And just because she’s in recover doesn’t mean she won’t still partake in behavior Indicative of an eating disorder. And nobody “complains” when a fat person does it because they’re too busy berating them in the comments. If she’s in recovery why would she want to put her self in a position to receive comments on her body? When I struggled with multiple eating disorders I would never post anything of my body. I still don’t because it’s counterproductive. idc if she’s in recovery, a body check is a body check. Idc if she plays it off as an outfit check or not lol when you’ve had eating disorders you tend to understand that behavior and the thought process behind it.
@@no-ic7vt okay well you can believe what you want but if you were to actually go to her account you would see that there is nothing wrong about her “body check” and in almost all of her video captions she makes sure to state that what she eats is for inspiration, nothing else.
lets be honest here. Shes not judged because shes a size 0.
Theres countless fat people recovering from eating disorders who are ripped to shreds. Being given the graces of never being judged is skinny privilege
The answer is no, sadly. Society cares more about appearances than the inside.
No.. point is that she’s able to eat like that and still not gain weight which is why she isn’t getting hate or harassment, it’s because she’s working enough for a diet like that to still work. If a fat person ate like that obviously it’s not gonna get taken the same way since it’s not helping them lose weight
@@Brhidkudude. I am not sure how many calories that is exactly. 2300 maybe? I'd still lose weight on that. Sat on the bike for 22km yesterday, but even without that i would.
@Brhidku so a fat person should just eat nothing and exercise all day? you don't know a person's whole medical history or how there mental health is.
Thank you for recognizing the double standards and the bs!
Thank you for saying this. I'm overweight and even I hold other big people accountable for eating badly in these type videos but the skinny women never get hate because they look like they need a cookie so nobody says anything. Being that thin isn't ideal in my community or the ever-changing beauty standard so it's almost a manipulation into convincing people that she doesn't need to be held accountable because she looks underweight. I am truly humbled and need to be nicer to bigger people who are honest about making bad choices. Thank you for this.
bro saw a skinny girl posing and called it a body check 😭😭
Oh if it was an overweight person: why are you having a cookie?? 🤔You had popcorn and soda earlier!! 🫣That’s a REALLY BIG breakfast. 🤢You would be fine with just the muscle milk. Or just one slice of avocado toast and the milk. 😘
A single jolly rancher! That’s really good! 😉That’s control and you need to be like that for all your meals
Basically I’m sure the comments would be along those lines
when she showed the single jolly rancher i died
same thing applies to parents too. I eat a maximum of 1500 calories a day, and went through a fad of eating only 500 for a while, and my mom is always complaining about my eating habits because im plus sized, but she doesnt say anything to my skinny sister who eat at least 3000 calories every day and exercises way less than i do
tell me you don’t know what a bodycheck is without telling me you don’t know what a body check is
Simply having a body is not body checking
I've had two beautiful children. I am not as thin as I used to be, I've always struggled with my weight. I try to think about what I eat, but just like everyone else in this world, I'm not perfect. I learned a long time ago though, it's MY BODY, my choices and I really don't give a crap if you think I'm fat. Life is waaay too short to care what strangers think about you. If you have a loved one in your life that makes you feel inferior, set boundaries, if they don't respect them, cut them out of your life. I'll say it again, life is way to short to keep negativity in it.
Adam, thank you. Thank you for pushing me towards healthy options for my body and to not fall into the trap of unhealthy weight loss and starvation and most importantly seeing through the bullshit on social media, i never knew what body checking was until i started watching you!
I kinda hate the word body checking. Just leave the women alone. It’s still rude to comment that even if she’s skinny.
Uuuuuh I think the bodycheck comment is uncalled for, and even quite hypocritical... I just watched another one of your shorts where a heavier girl starts her 'wieiad' by posing in front of a mirror wearing a bikini, this girl is doing the exact same thing (and actually shows less of her body) so why is she the only one being accused of bodychecking? Because she's thinner? That's a double standard too imo, and an ironic one at that. Both ladies look great and should be equally free to show off their body.
I was thinking that too because he never said the bigger girl was body checking and now the thinner girl is doing the same thing and now it's being called out.
this is always running through my mind. the way people always say ‘we are just worried for their health’, but it’s only directed to fat people. i think it’s so crazy how hypocritical they are, yet so unaware of it.
for most people it is not about health (physical and mental), it is about looks.
I fucking love this creator. He’s straight to the point and says what needs to be said. No harsh words, just says what we’re thinking or need to hear
Someone : takes a video of themselves in a mirror
This guy : BODYCHECKING!!!!! 😱😱😱
I’ve been obese and unhealthy and no one would say a word if I ate an entire tub of ice cream followed by a dozen doughnuts but as soon as I eat a salad it’s “don’t go crazy dieting” or “don’t exercise too much” or “you DESERVE a treat!” Or “muscles look gross!”
Obese people and underweight people have different diets because they have different needs. Obese people need to loose weight, underweight people need to gain it. So if you see an obese person eating a cookie, popcorn, and a blizzard yeah that’s bad for their diet. For someone trying to gain weight that’s good as those are high in calories and makes it easier to gain weight. Very weird how you’re a fitness channel yet won’t recognize obese, underweight, and healthy people are all different.
As a fat person, I've kinda just accepted that everything I do will be looked at with a more critical eye than a skinny person, and I've taken to laughing at it more than ignoring it.
please do not frivolously accuse people of body checking
Thank you for making this. I needed them
Overweight girl trying to recover here. I've been overweight for most of my life (not obese) and my god I hate it. For my whole life I never had people who actually liked me, people always thought I was gross and ugly and always left me behind, to the point where everytime (and still today) when someone didn't want to be my friend or seemed rude to me, my auto-response in my mind was "they're right to do that, you're fat, you're not like them". I arrived now to a point where I can't trust anyone, I struggle to make friends because I am extremely afraid of being a burden for the way that I am. I am on a diet now (got permission from my doctor) and I exercise every week. But still today I think I just look ugly and I'll never be beautiful or liked, no matter what. I don't understand why people hate me so much, when they don't even know I am trying to change the best way that I can (don't get me wrong, I am not trying to recover only because of the people, I also want to recover for myself to feel better with my body). 👍
That’s not a body check. Ppl need to stop using that term without knowing what it means
to those who say "being fat is a choice"
NO. it is not a choice because you know NOTHING about the person, their hormones, their thyroids, their mental struggles or upbringing! If you're taught wrong food choices and wrong amounts of food as a small child it is NOT your choice those behaviors are ingrained into your mind
It is a choice. All those things mentioned don't prevent you from keeping yourself healthy and in shape.
@@personalaccount3 some people literally CAN'T loose weight
@@veonelxeWeight loss can be difficult with these conditions but it's just a lazy excuse to say that they just flat CAN'T lose weight.
@@personalaccount3 I said can't because some people with heath issues literally can't loose weight it's got nothing to with being lazy or whatever but HEALTH 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@@personalaccount3You're joking right? A child being brought up to eat unhealthy amounts of food is not making the choice for themself, and it will absolutely affect them long-term. Maybe you were lucky enough to grow up without abusive parents, but not everyone is so lucky, and many children are punished for not cleaning their plates. It's been proven through multiple psychological studies that people will put on weight as a form of protection from the outside world. People with traumatic childhoods are more likely to be overweight, and are more likely to have dysregulated thyroids. None of that is a choice, and many of those circumstances do prevent people from losing weight while they're living through them.
nah bro fatphobia is WILDLY under-"regulated" online, and idk what i even mean by that, nobody ever calls it out 😭
No theres just a lot more fat people america would be happy to have a underweight issue
No, but also life isn’t fair, we all got different calorie maintenances and we got to adjust what we eat, how much we eat, and when we eat to meet our genetic standards. I eat less than her and I’m a 200lb 6ft dude, I lost the metabolic part of the genetic lottery, but I’m glad I accepted that and am no longer 280lbs.
That was not no body check 💀
girls just stand like that with a perfect thigh gap. totally natural!
From I gather in these type of videos it's OK to be misogynistic towards women as long as they're thin, fit and active.
exactly.
What the absolute fuck does misogyny have to do with a video about health?
Finally someone said it!
So that's your case? Whataboutism...wow..just wow
There's no case here? He's just simply stating that if a bigger person posted this same video the comments would be entirely different and that's simply the truth.
Idk, I've seen skinny (mostly women) being "cancelled" for promoting eating disorders out of these videos and then plus size ones who kinda borderline promotes binge eating disorder being praised in my experience...
This is a double standard. We praise and up lift fat people in the name of body positivity but the second someone is skinny they’re not allowed to be positive of their body. I’m a fat woman myself and I find this hypocrisy ridiculous. We can’t allow anyone to be happy whether they’re skinny or fat.
EDed person here, that's not body checking 💀💀💀💀
Real body checking is really different, stop accusing possibly healthy people of ED behavior, you keep doing that and they might actually end up with an ED
THIS. there are people literally arguing with me about this and half of the people accusing this girl of body checking clearly hasn't struggled with an eating disorder
@@freakyfrankieee To me she's just checking herself out in a mirror like anybody would and honestly even if she was body checking calling it out like that is so damaging, people treat eating disorders like a moral failing these days
@@zeink6373 EXACTLY. My god, have you seen those people who claim that restrictive ED's are inherently "fatphobic?" It's ridiculous. Honestly, the people calling the video of this girl "harmful" just reek of jealousy.
@@freakyfrankieee he didn't call it harmful! He's pointing out that showing her body at the beginning of the video can influence people to think if they eat like her they'll look like her, which is untrue. And he's also pointing out how she eats a variety of foods that some people would deem unhealthy, yet nobody says anything. If a fat person ate the same meals and posted it, they'd be bullied to no end.
if an overweight person were to post this, they'd get bashed and bullied in the comments. If an overweight posted a wieiad and ate things like salads, fruits, ect. just because they wanted to and weren't trying to lose weight, it would be considered "weird" because they're overweight and eating healthy. Friendly reminder you can still be healthy and be overweight.
If a fat influencer showed everything they ate in a day and 9 out 10 things they ate were healthy, then they'd still be criticized.
If she were fat you wouldn’t have mentioned their body. But you had to point out she was skinny.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!
I saw a reel of a (chubby) girl on insta who was recovering from binge eating and was happy she was getting back into cooking. Not every meal was the "healthiest" but yer portions were spot on and more than half the comments wouldnt stop going off on her about how "its not hard to drink water" and that her food choices "weren't within good dieting". It was such a bummer.
Hair fluffing is a red flag for me. 😆
😂😂😂 she received "no unsolicited health advice"?! Sir, you probably aren't familiar with the phenomenon. Everyone only talks about fat-shaming, but completely ignores thin-shaming which as harsh as obesity-shaming, BUUUT when it happens to thin or skinny people, this harassment suddenly becomes "socially acceptable" ✨ and is not even considered harassment ot bullying, but just "teasing" or "joking", especially in a country where the majority of people are overweight.
The comments I received as someone who wasn't even skinny, but thin (50 kg at 160 cm):
"Reversed t1ts", lemon ass","sick","bones sack","skin and bones", "two sticks stuck in the butt","blown by the wind","fried intestines","radiographic image","advertisment for starvation", "you look like a biscuit in the profile", "someone give this girl something to eat","no man on this planet will ever love you or marry you because...look at you","you're so skinny I can see through you", "underdeveloped","do you even eat anything all day?! Like...water is not food, you know?!", "leaves-eater","it's finally spring, so you can go outside and have some grass for lunch", etc.
Let alone my classmates who were thinner or even skinny... "Early fetus" or "scratched my hands into your pointy bones","skeleton" etc.
And people say "thin people can never be victims of body-shaming", "that thin-shaming "isn't a thing" or "doesn't exist" or "it's a joke", or "it's waaaaay easier" or "cannot even complain if you're thin". BRAH...
Look at Ariana Grande.
People aren't even aware of this, they don't even think they should intervene because they see nothing wrong in shaming a thin person or don't even remember that their thin or skinny classmates have been bullied for so many years.
As a conclusion:
YOU WILL BE SHAMED NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK.
What are people gonna realise no one actually cares what you eat in a day…
This man is the only "fitness/food influencer" that I can watch, he's os awsome man
It’s why I’ll never post what I eat in a day. People don’t actually care about my health, they only care about comparing themselves in their heads and making sure I know they’re “better than me” because they’re thin. Perfectly healthy here, just have a thyroid disorder haha.
Ugh! I know WIEIAD are so toxic in general
If she was fat, would you call it a body check?
exactly that’s what i’m saying
and if you scroll up two videos, there’s a fat girl who shows her body in her wieiad. guess what he has to say about that…? nothing 💀
Pro tip: don’t take fitness and dieting advice from a dude who looks like he hasn’t taken any
I am similar to that lady ams was told because I had sugar that it was unacceptable thinking of giving up all forms of fat. Im experiencing muscle wastage. I've said it to my psychiatrist that she has made me feel ashamed to eat food with any fat and im now in 9 year old pants which is very annoying.
showing your body isn’t a body check in of itself
Well, unlike north American culture, in Latin culture when you're too thin people aorund you and loved ones, will ask if you're OK, how's your health and if you're eating right.
The won't say immediately "oh you look great!", if you're too thin or thinner than usual or what they're used to see you, but they will on the other hand compliment on how healthy an good you look if you indeed look GOOD, and by that I mean, hair, skin, nails, teeth, eyes.
Latinos pay attention to health more than fitness and typically in the households, a full nutritious meal is the norm, skipping meals is a nono. Of course this is correlated to your financial status and if the family can afford 3 meals a day and maybe snacks for the family, but even when not, they will try to make the best out of what they have.
With some exceptions related to living under the poverty line, of course when you have to eat whatever you can.
This video reminds me of when I finished high-school and started college and my mom took me the doctor because I was way too thin and got into a diet to gain weight because I was thin but not healthy and my body needed to be balanced.
Since I've been struggling with weight but the only times I have not been in good health is always when I lose a lot of weight or lose weight in general, and is not about starving myself is that the type of vitamins and minerals my body needs are not met under any dietary regime that excludes certain elements.. Anyway, complicated, not everyone is the same.
But the point here is that a Latino will question it, fat or thin, if the food choice seems unhealthy, we don't roll with the "imma die trying to get thin", your family will shove food, literally, if they have to, and take your food away if they must, as well.
🤷🏻♀️
North Americans are obsessed with this and have made it a world wide nightmare by means of people like the Trashdarshians.
Everyone looks the same, bodies and faces.. Is insane, and the worst part?
Natural beautiful Latinas, Colombians, Dominicans, Chileans, Mexicans, you name them, are being accused of trying to look like those women, but is the other way around, they took the prototype of the voluptuous, beautiful faced latina and bought themselves faces and bodies alike.
Yup saw a video of a fat person EXERCISING in the gym and getting food. There were comments of how she should stop eating and exercise more if she didn't want to look 'ugly' anymore. WTH 🤦♀️ discouraging the person working on themselves. They need time, she cant become thin in a day! 🤦♀️🤦♀️
im a competitive swimmer and i play a lot of sports, i dont eat very healthy at all but im still skinny and fit. If someone fat had my diet they'd be made fun of and berated. Its cool and relatable if i have it though, of course!
I am the smallest size in plus size and I'm not even that big, am a band kid that does marching in fall and takes walks and swims during the spring and summer. I also have a hormone imbalance issue. I'm active and try not to eat a lot and still get fat shamed every day. I've tried saying my struggles in comment sections before but delete my comments usually because the replies zone in on "plus sized" and "not big" and just automatically fat shame and tell me to go to the gym. The anxiety is so bad I don't even want to eat lunch anymore at school because I feel like people think I'm disgusting for eating.
Please just eat. You will face judgement from others whether you are fat or skinny or anything in between, especially from teenagers. Just be kind to yourself.