When You Feel Left Out
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- čas přidán 16. 01. 2015
- Sometimes, we can’t help but feel excluded.
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what's worse is when you still feel left out when you're with other people
That's exactly me, when you are in a group but feel excluded because everyone forgets that your there
+Vnaing AJ it literally sucks so bad
+Kanakalala🌺 that's very true. I hang out with my friends because they wanna keep me. They act like I'm not there especially with my attention whorey friend who cries for atyention
that happened to me so many times in school last year.
That's my entire school day. I just follow my group.. Not saying anything, no one even noticed im there.. I always sit alone at lunch.. Quietly crying on the inside..
have you ever sat with your friends and just known that you're the least important friend in the group and you felt like it wouldn't make a difference if you were there or not...
that friend is me.
COOKIE MASTER same :((
Omg this is the most relatable thing I’ve ever read in my entire life
Same :/
we're in this together
thats me right now
When you’re walking with 2 other friends and the sidewalk gets thinner so *you* have to walk behind them.
too relatable
Then u take the next right and meet with an actual guy who will actually be yr friend
This 110% relatable
They do it in purpose
I just wonder.. how to be that 2 friends ? Don't they feel bad for left me behind ?
It’s the worst when they tell secrets right in front of you and don’t tell you.
this always happens then they're always like "oh its nothing" when im just like *i heard it all i know you're talking about something important*
ikr
happens all the time,, and i mean ALL the time.
@@dumbfridge7576 same :( they send me away when they want to talk alone...I feel like they don't trust me and they don't even ask me if I want to hang out with them so they do it without me every week :( I am so used to being left out that I didn't even notice until an other friend of mine told me that she noticed that I am left out...
THIS HAPPENED TO ME A FEW DAYS AGO AND I FELT SO SAD. like I even asked what It was and they didn't tell me. I'm not allowed social media until I'm 15 (I'm 14) so my group of friends has grown closer together while I just drift away. I just feel so excluded... I know this comment was made two years ago I'm sorry I just had to rant😅
Do you ever feel like this? - Sara
Yes, but not a lot. Introvert perks :3
Yeah but it's one of my friends friend does it on purpose but he dose it secretly and spitefully and my friend doesn't believe me as he has been friends with him for longer.i fell like I should just walk away but I have no other friends.
Yup! Especially at school.
Every day :(
In school... my friends live not in my city
Sometimes I feel like no matter what I do, I’ll _never_ fit in. When I walk, alone, to the library, they whisper things, laugh, stare at me. Just because I’m by myself doesn’t mean I’m lonely. I like it, okay? I’m not deaf, okay? I’m not fucking invisible, okay?
*Just because I’m quiet doesn’t mean I don’t have a heart too. :(*
i feel the same way.
Ikr! Just because I'm quite doesn't mean I don't have a feelings. It seems like every group of friends I get in to, I don't fit in in some way. There is this rude girl at my school, we will call her 😡 for now (lol.) One time we were all talking and we were kinda mad about something that I don't even remember, but I wanted to say something so my bff told everyone to let me say my opinion and I said how i felt me and my friend was getting left out and 😡 said something like, "What? It's not like we care what you say because you don't talk." There was tons of drama that day. I cried a lot and didn't talk. But that day I did talk! I yelled! I said my opinion "JUST BECAUSE I'M QUIET DOESN'T MEAN I DON'T HAVE A VOICE OPINION. IT JUST MEANS I DON'T USE IT AS MUCH. I DON'T JUST SAY MY OPINION, I THINK BEFORE I SPEEK." This might be a long story btw but I still want to tell it. Anyway, I did cry that day. So one time in a group project I wanted to tell them my ideas and my buff ACTUALLY said-
+Valerie Marie "Wait, let's let her tell us, if we don't she will cry." I was so angry at her but I just hid it and laughed... I wish I would've just yelled right in her face even tho she's my bff...
Loneliness sucks
Violet M yeah your Rigth😊
I hate it when I'm left out. Well to be honest, I often isolate myself because I'm a shy person. I always sit at my best friend's lunch table every day. Whenever I'm over there, all I really do is eat and scroll through my device because my friends don't really pay attention to me and never include me in anything. They always have sleepovers together, and I'm always at home, liking their pictures. They make friendship bracelets for each other but apparently "run out" when they see me. One day, a classmate invited me to her table and now we both are best friends and I totally forgot about my old ones. :)
That's a gd end, glad to hear that
Yay!!
EXACTLY I WANT TO MOVE SCHOOL BUT IM NOT ALLOWEDDD.
that's great that you left your old friends! :)
Does anyone get that strange feeling of wanting to be with friends, but when they're around you, you feel lonely?
Yep, just me :)
I have felt those same feelings, you're not alone
Yup :)
That's definitely me😂😭
Not alone 😳
This is literally describing me
It makes me super uncomfortable when friends discuss plans in front of me like "oh hey, i'm having a party on tuesday" "cool, who're you inviting?" Person doesnt list my name. I just find it so disrespectful when people do that. Or like the only time my "friends" message me is because they want something from me. And they sometimes throw insults at me
SAMMMMMEE OMG
SassiZazzi i hate that too. it's disrespectful and mean.
SassiZazzi Yeah, it like you're invisible unless, people either want stuff from you, want you to help them, do something to them, or just basically treat you like crap by their actions or what they say or just give you grief. Other than that, you don't exist.
SassiZazzi I can relate to that alot... just get rid of them. avoid them. theyre not really your friends... maybe i should take my own advise?
they are not your friends leave them and have a new ones
You guys ever felt like when trying to talk to someone,they literally don't pay attention to what you're saying even though you listen to THEM because you're a nice person. Or when your entire class ignores you even though you're like the friendly and a good listen to them.
Carol Trevino yeeeesss sometimes I hate myself because I'm to nice but people would treat me badly I hate it
Caseeeyyy don't worry you're not alone😞
all the time everyday
Carol Trevino all of my siblings did that to me since i wss little. in fact, my mom too.
And when someone interrupts you when you try to speak and no one cares what you say, because the other person is more important,
I always feel like the side person. And not the most important so i prefer to be alone.
This is basically how i feel every single day, but worse... because
1. I'm ugly
2. I'm dumb(math science etc)
3.I'm shy(I do NOT talk)
Me too.
Wow that is so relatable I can feel the pain there :((
Things got a bit better now but social anxiety is something I am still trying to deal with.
OK so u obviously are me but from a parallel universe
If you want a friend, please contact me. Because SAME! maybe this is the comment that might change my life ( Sorry, I watch a lot of Ghibli movies, but seriously)
Same I have selective mutism. I so hardly socialize with people that know me as someone who doesn't speak cause words dont come out of my mouth, that's awful...
Imagine everyone who has been left out get together. We'd make sure no one is left out :')
Exactly. Because we know what it feels like. ;-;
Hungry people know the value of food
Poor people know the value of money
Lonely people know the feeling of being left out all the time
I was once with my friends at school at they we were all talking and then one of them said "we need to hang out together more often I feel like we're growing apart. Let's make plans to meet up just the three of us." I was the fourth person.
I can relate to this every day..
I can relate, stings don't it? I'm sorry man.
+Owen De Kalb They sound like really bad friends... I know that feel bruh
Those aren't friends, those are assholes.
+Owen De Kalb Don't try to keep up with them, you're worth some true friends! Go find them instead of hanging with the fake asses.
I always feel like the least important person out of my circle of friends :( whether I am there or not wouldn't make a difference. They never wait for me or invite me to anything and I just feel like a lost soul standing around when they have conversations about parties I've never even heard about. It's depressing every time they have an outing because all these photos are posted on social media and they're all smiling and happy. I just feel so sad that they don't appreciate the things I do for them. It's my last year of high school and I'm so desperate to go out into the world and meet new people because I have no other friends else to turn to.
I know how it feels to feel unappreciated. Keep being the good friend that you are! Sometimes people don't even think to mention how much you've impacted them and sometimes they're just thoughtless. Either way, you're being wonderful for caring and there are people out there who care as much as you do.
You will for sure find new friends that will appreciate you!!! That same thing happened to one of my good friends!! When she was going into high school she had no friends and then she found me and now we hang out all the time!! So don't worry you'll find people!!
" I just feel like a lost soul standing around when they have conversations about parties I've never even heard about. " that just hit me so bad.
me too
This is me, my "best friend" invited my whole class except me to a pool party
I’ve always wondered what it feels like to be wanted . To *feel* wanted. Must be nice, I’ve never had that. None of my friends like me. My “friend group” couldn’t care less about me. They don’t text/call me, they don’t invite me to anything, they don’t acknowledge my presence, and I’ve come to understand that I’m easy to forget and I’m only wanted as a backup/when they need something, but it still hurts to scroll through social media and watch them have fun without me. It hurts when I’m upset in front of them and no one bothers to say anything. It hurts that I’m not strong enough to leave and find better friends, I know everyone says they’d rather have no friends than fake friends, but I’m only in the 7th grade, and things are hard for me. I don’t know where I belong, I’m lonely, and all I want are some friends. Some friends than care about me at least almost as much as I care about them.
I always wonder why people similar to us never cross paths or are in the same place. We would all be making the most perfect friendship. I hope you're okay right now
i am in the exact same situation right now. it feels like they really don’t need me?? even my best friend who i thought cares about me (and isn’t in my class) doesn’t even text me anymore and tries to find a reason not to meet me. after summer holidays i‘ll be in 9th grade and i have no idea what to do. i wish holidays would last forever, because of school and friends, i feel really empty. i want someone to need me because sometimes, i forget why i‘m even with them.
Hey dear, I have been in 7th grade and I have felt left out, I have been in 9th grade and again have felt left out all that I want to say is that this is GOD who is doing this...you may feel terrible that time, but that is the thing about growing up. GOD knows what you need in the next 5 years to become what you aspire to be and so let him plan. I am so thankful to GOD that he didn't let me stick to that group because that helped me found myself, know what I love, what are my opinions and I became a mature person who has a plan in the future and is mature enough to know that if things don't workout as I want, its my god's will. HE WOULD TAKE GOOD AMAY FROM YOU TO ALWAYS GIVE YOU SOMETHING BETTER, REMEMBER THAT!
Here is a virtual hug 🤗
@@drttt4630 I appreciate that you're trying to make people feel better, but not everyone believes in God, so that isn't really a valid way of support. You can say that to someone who believes in God, but this is the internet, and there's millions of people who don't. Telling them to find happiness from something they think isn't real isn't exactly the best way to go.
My friends wouldn’t even know each other if it wasn’t for me, then they became best friends and got rid of me
SAME!!!!!! IT SUCKS
Ifkr
This is happening to me right now, I hope this doesn’t happen or 5 years of my life will be wasted.
Yeah, happening to me right now. Now they do everything together, without me :'(
omfg ikr?
You know you watch too much buzzfeed if you know who all four people at 0:15 are suppose to be.
MissPyro1029 Allison definitely
I think the fourth one is Alison?
I KNOW CAUSE YOU MA BITTTTCCCCHHH
It's actually Gaby, Ashley, Eugene and Ella! :3
I think it was Ella because of the curly hair
People only come to me when they want something, Im always the one thats left out
I feel your pain ;-; Happened a lot in high school
fullmetal_alyssa at least I know I'm not alone
Biby I love Pandas You're not the only one, believe me
Biby Flores I.L.P. Awhhhh. I can be ur friend :D
same...
This happened to me after my best friends and I graduated highschool. All 5 of us were inseparable. Then slowly I started to feel like I was an outsider, not understanding their inside jokes anymore , and not being included in their chats. It came to a point where I was never invited to hang out with them anymore. I was upset about this for atleast 6 months until I realized it's me that grew apart from them. I matured a lot more after highschool and they still were into the highschool gossip, drama and just things I wasn't into anymore. I wanted to be more intellectual and insightful. I just drifted away... but the thing that hurts is that they never tried to invite me or even ask me how I am anymore. I would get up on their birthdays and text them at exactly 12 am and throw birthday parties. They didn't put that effort into me (I never wanted it but it's nice to get). I started to think why do I care so much for my friends who now don't even remember my birthday anymore? They don't even care, and I guess we grew apart.. it's life and it happens... but it does upset you sometimes
Don’t worry, there are more than 7 billion people in the world. You will find the right people!
I am THAT friend that always ends up walking behind everyone else when the sidewalks get too small...
😔😕
That feels bad I can understand It happened yesterday with me I was walking behind everyone and I stopped for taking a call and everyone moved forward. I finished the call and realized they had left me so I went home without even saying good bye and no one noticed.
I feel left out all the time...
1. We need to get into groups of 2 and i wanna be with my friends but of course they partnered up with someone already leaving me alone
2. At lunch my friends are talking and im just sitting there staring at the walls
3. My friends make plans to go to the mall or something and i'm never invited
That 2nd one is so true with me...
+Yazmin Rodriguez Maybe you should think about making new friends :( *hugs* I totally understand how you feel! You deserve better!
what happens if everyone ignores
I don't want to be an introvert
same here
+BlueBird 1990 You can't just become an introvert just like that. It's genetics, man.
this video is saying that its not a big deal to feel left out, but when this scenario happens to you every single day....
Them Feels -_- Happens to me every single day :(
... you need to try hard to be included by going as far as even finding new friends who actually want to include you.
D.L. Elliott
It's hard though. It took me years to find people in school that I actually felt comfortable and included in.
I completely understand and people who are trying to help, thank you but you don't understand the feeling unless you have it yourself. It's much worse than it seems. It's like you're cursed. Your friends are doing everything without you and they always have an excuse for what they're doing. I am experiencing this right now, it's sort of like this: My friend, who I've known for 9 years found herself better friends and is always hanging out with them. We're still keeping in touch via facebook, whatsapp, twitter but never in real life even though we live in the same town and always when I ask her to hang out she has an excuse, but when she needs me, she's always there until the need is over.
And also some other friends, it's like we're bff via fb and also in real life, but whenever we're together they are mumbling something to each other and when I ask what are you talking about, or what's funny they say nothing and continue. It's obviously something about me but I pretend that I don't care or that I didn't hear. And also we hang together for about 2-3 hours and then all of us go home, but later they get back together and go without me and sometimes they're even so cruel that they're throwing it into my face. It fuckin' hurts you know. When the only friends you have treat you like that. And I know that I should get better friends but I don't think so because I could get hurt again and again and again. I know , everything in life is risky, but this is just too much. We can all fake smiles, pretend that it doesn't bother us or something else but whenever we're alone or sad or feeling down, all of that is in our mind and it just keeps getting worse. I'm sorry if I bored you or if this is too long, I just needed to share my story. Thanks for everyone who's reading. I hope you're not experiencing the same thing, but if you are I know exactly how you feel and you should know that you're not the only one who's feeling like that. Let's just hope God has something worthy waiting for, later in life. :)
I guess you either need new friends or try and be more outgoing. Either one can help out in a situation like those ones.
Just a few days ago, a bunch of my friends hung out, nobody told me or invited me, since then they've made there own little group, and i'm not included in any of this, they said they will invite me next time, but I know they don't want me there. Plus my 'best friend' now only talks to me when there's nobody else to talk to, I want to mention it to her but if we no longer become friends, at least 3/4 of my friends will turn against me. Plus if I mention it at all, i'll end up apologising, I don't know what to do anymore.
i know this was 2 years ago but right now i feel the exact same. i feel like they’re just going to leave me at school and i’ll have no one...
@@charliedits4699 going though exactly the same thing now...
My group of friends always is leaving me out, like they always wait for each other but not me, always plan to do thing without me
It is so ironic how we can all be surrounded by so many people, yet we feel so left out and lonely. Everyday I wake up in the morning and put a smile on my face so that others will not feel the same way I do. The worst is when your "friends" go out, take pictures, hang out as a group, whilst you are at home liking their picture on Facebook or whatever, and wondering why u weren't invited. This type of isolation is so hard to explain to others, and it is like no one around you even cares.
explained everything now add divorced parents and back stabbing that sounds more like it
+twentyone melanies oh that's the cold harsh truth of life.😔
+In The Pink omg you don't know how much I related to your comment,like I'm in the exact same situation.I got this friend that I've known all my life long and now she is ignoring me. She's got all these friends, is popular and does loads of things with them all the time. And I just feel like her shadow.i wish I could turn back time to when she actually cared about me and was my friend.
Charice Omg that's so true.. absolutely the worst kind of isolation... and also my biggest fear
Same bro I just get calm and do whatever I love doing and didn't mind talking to those people
Her hair looks like it was dunked in blue raspberry blow pop flavor. I like it.
Thank you, I think.
BuzzFeedViolet
Woah never in a million years did I expect a reply from you guys when I posted this!
Alana Sloan
omg lol maybe you hurt her feelings idk :0
Same I love her hair colour :D
I think her hair is awesone
In my group of friends, I've always felt like if I wasn't there, their friendship would be the same like my existence was just a bonus!
Me: forgives everything my friends do
Friends: *make a huge deal out of a silly small harmless prank*
I literally thought the comment was 29 years old for a second
I just cry cause i feel like they dont like me
same...
Me too...
No worries, just become emotionally dead inside. It will help a lot......... ;c
Emma hollow for Me Its not like "i dont feel like they like me" Its I KNOW they dont like Me because they Said it in my Face. That is why i starded cutting again....😔
tbh
like i feel like my friends are just pretending to like me because they feel pity for me or something
I have a "friend" who literally only contacts me when she needs academic help or emotional support. When she is doing something fun she never invites me. I know I should cut her out of my life but I've been friends with her for 8 years so it's hard to
Same with me but I just stopped responding because in school she like never even talks to me
Marissa Matteo I'm out of school so I never even see her. I guess it should be even easier for me to stop talking to her..
Same, she only talks to me when she needs a seat on the bus, or needs help on her math homework
i have a cousin like that... :(
I know how you feel. My situation isn't the same but I've been in toxic relationships and it's not easy. I suppose I still sorta am in some. But the best you an do is to cut them out of your life, even if it feels really hard. Or at least talk to them and see if you can communicate to them that they aren't being friends or hanging out with you, they're just using you, and hopefully they'll realize and stop and if they don't cut them out. In middle school I was in some toxic friendships, and yet I refused to leave them because I was afraid of being alone because they were really the only friends I had at the time, at least in school. I had another friend but I didn't really know her at the time. I sorta regret not cutting those friends out of my life because it was painful and I suffered quite a bit. I promise myself if I'm ever in that position again, I'll leave. Because there are other people, who want to be your friend, and I'd rather be alone than stuck in a toxic relationship that hurts me.
Anyone here because all your friends are staying in touch and hanging out during quarantine but nobody seems to care enough to even text you hello?? I want people to ask me how I am doing 😭
How are you doing??
In my school, I feel so left out! None of my friends sits with me, Cuz they have their own bffs. I sit alone.... 💔 they all purposely leave me.That feels terrible
- No one even liked my comment -
Well someone commented on yr comment!! Hey listen its OK to be alone and sit by yrself, just learn to be strong and learn to realise that u are much more important than u think, and have a million times more importance than whatever those ppl think about u.
I liked becuAse I keep telling my self it doesn’t matter I could get friends in high school ones who are mature
No, 98 people liked your comment
Zayn all the Way likes on this comment will most definitely not validate you in any way
Same.. I really feel so sad.. And disappointed. thats why i wanted some friends.. Atleast.. But im too shy.. Nobody even is that close to me.. Since im socially ackward.
My friends don't invite me to anything at all. Everyday I see pictures of them out together. The worst part is that I can't really say anything to them because I know that they don't consider me that much of a friend as consider them. I'm also super quiet so they've probably forgotten about me yay.
Same here. Can we be friends?
Yeah,quiet person doesn't mean they don't need friends and not fit in.i feel you
Emily Hankinson same
Emily Hankinson I felt the same way and it hurts.
Emily Hankinson I ralete to u on such a high level..
"we're only the center of our own individual worlds and everyone is scared of being left out" ......... this really spoke out me cause i often get left out and come up with the craziest conclusions for as to why
My biggest fear is that when I grow up I won't have any friends and that I only have school friends
Me too I've felt like that various times
When you’re casually hanging out with friends and one of your friends invites one of your other friends for lunch and you later find out all your friends are invited but you aren’t. And they literally make plans right in front of you without inviting you. I just watched this video and began to tear up😥
My story: last year, all nine of us were basically best friends. Which was big but we all liked each other. But this year we separated 3 of my friends started hanging out together and the other 5 started hanging out together so basically I was alone and didn’t have a “group” they would hangout with me sometimes like when all of us play volleyball at the night but other times like in the afternoon they never invited me to hangouts and lunch. I cried every single day saying what did I do to them? I still don’t have a real friend😢
i'm one of those people who get left out when the p.e teacher says "ok get into a team of 6" and all the rest are full
Same
I feel you 😔
Yes i dont think my friends like me...
i'm the one where the teacher asks us to get into groups of four, and my clique splits up and it's probably my fault :((
Or when the teacher says to pair up and you have no one or your the odd one out in a group of 3 and the 2 are closer and leave you out.
Sara's videos are my favorite
!!! Thank you !!!
Agreed
Same here!!
Totally agree
yep
Actually I fell left out many times..Sometimes when me and my friends are talking and discussing, one of then starts to whisper on the other'r ear and go somewhere else leaving me all alone ..so.. when they come back they start to ingnore me really badly!
Same
So just today I figured out that everyone at my grade had a huge Halloween party. They were posting everything in Instagram with clown makeup on their faces and partying and stuff and like I was the only one not invited I felt and still am feeling so useless I'm realising nobody loves me. While they were there having fun and taking pictures I was there studying the whole day. Man it hurts scrolling down insta right now
It's worse when they don't invite you on purpose!
Zella 22
My "friends" do that and then they act like they didn't go anywhere
Same and now I've stopped hanging out with them cause they're so mean and they act like they don't k ow who I am and that they haven't done anyrhing
It’s like you don’t know if u we’re forgotten or purposely excluded
@@annaayers1621 Yessssss.
They don't even care about your feelings when they do exclude you on purpose. Sucks a lot.
The thing is I want to talk to people but no one will listen to me so I usually wait until people are quiet then i talk, but just right before I say something someone else talks. No one listens to me, I don't think people even understand what I say sometimes.
Yo guys up top *high five*
Same I sometimes feel ignored.
same. i have this friend in my friendship group and she always talks over people with her random stories and even if one of us is having a conversation, she still talks over us and says 'shut up'.
Carly Diep dont *wait,* make it happen.
I relate
"they probably didn't mean to leave you out" i don't even think i'm an option for them, let alone even their friend. god it's so confusing. why do i want to be friends with them so bad.
It feels tormenting when you support someone nd also they mean everything to you and then after they are stable and okay in their lives they just forget you exist and keep excluding you from everything 🙂🙂🙂
@qqq??? yeah i totally get what you're saying but by helping em i meant i did it truly bcuz they mean so muchhh to me nd no other reason but then when i just wanted to share some stuff thinking that they are my good frnds they'll understand me that time none of em even cared to listen... They don't owe me they are my frnds 🤷🏻♀️ ! Nd i don't think this sucha red flag behaviour when one goes to their frnds for help !
Today my group of friends were joking about how it wouldn't be any different with out me there, I know they were joking but they throw jokes like that at me all the time, To the point I just walk off and go hide in the girls toilets. I am a very emotional person and quiet, only loud and confident randomly. But I'm the most quiet in my group, and I never really feel like talking because of how tired I am. I always feel really excluded, and I try to get myself included but honestly it's just too hard. :/
i feel u :(
I knew a group of girls like that, they would say mean stuff and not realize that they were mean to me. I try to avoid them but they usually shrug it off as a joke haven't seen or talked to them since the last ( probably too extreme) time I tried right to cut ties right before summer break and I am wondering what will happen when I go back to school. They could react in almost any way but I would rather them be openly mean then having them make sort of mean comments under the cover of friendship.
I'm the same :(
TT
Same, "I didn't even realise you were here!"
I can relate to this video a lot. I have awesome friends but I always feel like they secretly hate me. We're just acquaintances in a way. We don't hug, or hang out in places other than school, and they hardly text me. I'm super insecure and worry about everything, apologise too much, and constantly feel alone even when I'm surrounded by a ton of people. I guess I haven't found the right group yet. It sucks. Sorry, I needed somewhere to rant..
twenty øne editing tips honestly I feel the exact same way. I hope things get better for you, cause everyone deserves to be happy. |-/
jorja is bored ikr I just want to find my group were I could hang out after school and gossip but my new friends aren't like that and I'm scared of leaving them for another group
I understand how you feel completely
I understand, i feel the same way and can relate with dis
I know how it feels
It sucks to feel unwanted and excluded. It just brings you down so much. You feel so alone and like it doesn't matter if you weren't there. They wouldn't be affected if you weren't alive even. That feeling sucks. So much. I wouldn't wish it on my enemies. No one should feel that way
Yes i 100% agree
I feel that way all the time even though I'm a lone wolf
I Constantly just feel left out because I’m the nice girl who everyone likes and just thinks he can come to me if you have a problem and that separate exclude me all the time I’m the only girl who didn’t go out because you never invite me I just feel so sad and I’m in high school and more friends with the boys as they except me and a nice
This happens to me all the time. Idk if there's something wrong with me or it's just me, but if something happens like I'm not included in a conversation or I have to go last for something it just throws me off so much. I just start thinking so deeply about it, way more that I should, and it's just those kind of small details that get me so frustrated and sad. There's also no happy ending to it because since I absoutely hate sharing my feelings there's no way no one can know about it because I just end up covering it all with a fake smile
***** Thank you, that was very helpful. What works for me best I think is just reminding myself that people don't really know the true me, because since I hide so many things and trust ABSOLUTELY NO ONE, I'm aware that you will never really know EXACTLY how someone feels unless you are in their own shoes.
***** Ya, I always think about that because no one ever really knows for sure unless you open up to them. I have courage for many things, just not that. I don't like too much attention and I ABSOLUTELY hate sharing feelings unless they're positive. I'm actually surprised I even made that first comment.
+Chubby Bunny I think everybody feels like that too. Just gotta keep on moving forward. Become the person that you would want to hag out with! Have confidence! I hope you feel better!
+Dalia Velazquez Ok thank you, I figured this out on my own but at the time I made that comment it was just harder to deal with it. But I'm pretty much alright now and I know everything's possible so I'm making the best out of it.
Good! Me too
this is the reason why i poured myself in books, people (kpop) that doesnt know i exist, tv series, and other things that would just help me build a wall between me and the outside world. why? because i feel like im being really myself when im separated from the outside.
same *sigh*
Yeah, same.
I love you tube, tv and Netflix, books , as long as I'm healthy and fit, I don't need hypocrites or opportunists in my life.
same
yesssssss
3 things that crush me.
•when I’m walking with a group of 3, and the way we’re walking gets smaller, so they push you to the back and completely ignore you.
•When your best friend starts hanging out with someone else more than you/when you feel like you’re splitting apart
•That feeling that you’re being clingy but you’re just trying not to lose your best friend/you start feeling like they don’t like you an are just trying to be friends to be nice....
I'm just watching this while my friends are all hanging out without me :')
I'm always feeling left out, I feel like to my friends it wouldn't matter if I were with them or not ;-;
me too, it's like you're on Facebook and see they gathered together without you and posted it, so stupid but it does hurt
Alexandra Lobataya yea :c:::
Sandra Southhal same
Same
Sandra Southhal I'll be your friend :D
My friends never include me in things, whether it be going out somewhere or just in a simple conversation. Like yes, I am quiet, but I do exist you know? I try to be active in a conversation, but they just talk over me like I'm not there, and sometimes they actually DO forget I'm with them. I would send a snap to one of my friends, and they would sending a selfie back with all of our other friends. On the rare occasiouns they so ask me to hang out I'm like "omg yes finally, wonder what we are going to do.." and she's like "soo, I have this test coming up and I haven't really studied......."
Oh.
nerdyfangirl14
Same here... Im a quiet person but im really trying to be active in my so called "friend's" conversation. However they often forget that I'm with them and they're always leaving me alone.
People who have been left out by friends will be the only true friends you can find, they will never let others go through the pain of being left out and they are true people. If your friend's make you feel left out then those aren't true friends
Biggest pet peeve I wish I could be more assertive but I’m pretty depressed. The old me was never ignored
Assertion comes with practice, as well as self confidence.
My best friend is extremely popular at school. Everyone talks to only her while I just stand there awkwardly. I know she doesn't do it intentionally but sometimes it hurts to be left out by my closest friend.
My best friend of 8 years is a grade lower then me and she has all these new best friends and now she leaves me out (i still have other friends but still) and we carpool and we live next to each other but she stills finds a way to leave me out of everything she does
+Lily September that's the same for me throughout high school and even college(I wonder why I always had that kind of best friend)!I know they didn't mean it but it just contributes sooo much to my insecurities back then..
but the older I get,it doesn't seem to matter anymore,everyone has their own place,and it's okay..
so don't let these thing brings you down!! xx
Chat noir Thanks :D
+Lily September This is exactly the same thing I'm going through right now, I cried in my house and spend my school days as a loner...My friend abandoned me and she never talks to me, not even a simple "hi"... 😔
+Lily September And when I try to talk to her, it's like talking to a complete stranger, ya know? It hurts just thinking about it again...
Sara has to be my favorite person in the word when it comes to these videos. I can totally relate to her!
I’m pretty sure my friends all hate me even tho they say they aren’t mad at me or anything. Idk it feels like they are using me because I always bring candy to school and they always want it
I swear, I bet all those left out people in the comment section are probably good people who have nothing wrong about them and get excluded for no reason whatsoever
@@azra8300 Are you the type of person to say no to such things? If yes, it's normal. If no then it's not okay
@@cherryblossom6989 no im not that type of person I help them out so much
where’d my comment go lmaoo
This speaks to me on a Emotional level...
Same
yes.
Same
i started crying..
+Lea Anthes me too
I was diagnosed with social anxiety, so I know exactly how bad this can be. If my friends go and do something without me, I always think the worst, even if they say it wasn't on purpose I'll be okay for a whole and then spiral back down to thinking the hate me. At first I thought I would never be able to live with it. But now, I know when I am starting to be impacted by my anxiety and I can tell when I just need to talk to them and just try not to think so much about it :)
I feel like this all the time! It's hard to overcome that anxiety.
BuzzFeedViolet yeah i know the feeling, but i had a break through the other day, the second i started to notice that my mind was twisting what people had said (changing "okay" into "can you please leave, i don't like you") i decided that i just needed to take a step back for a second and then just talk to them about it :)
I have social anxiety too, all of these things apply to me too. I know how you feel!
i know how you feel, I've started off at a new school 5 times (university counts too because you don't know anyone) and there was always someone who thought they know what was wrong with me and said they could help 'fix' it. this is not something so easily 'fixed' we just have to learn about it, and just work with what we have :)
***** There is always learning about it, talk to other people who have it, read things on the internet, even just thinking about when it gets worse for you, think of what situations are worst for you, and learn from that. That's how I've been able to avoid having too much trouble with it, i learn what sets me off, and i do my best to either a void them take it easy in those situations. :) i know its difficult and its shit when people try to tell you how to handle it, but i hope hearing from someone who knows what you're going through can help you out, even little bit.
i have this friend group of me and my two friends. they decided on a sleepover and I'm not with them and i keep trying to talk to them or video chat them to not feel so alone. but they won't wander and i just feel really disclosed
literally WENT WITH THEM and they posted photos with each other as soon as I left 🧍♀️
I'm just the guy who is at home sitting, doing homework then go online for a while and that's it, I don't get invited onto many stuff...so yeah. :/
I know how you're feeling. I am one of those guys who are not talented in sports while all the guys in my region are. And that's why they are all super friends while I just hang out with girls. And I would be happy if I had some cool friendships, but they just use me when they need help with something and when the need is over; I disappear.
Stay strong bro :)
same as me :(
omg sammmeee :( my whole life i just sat at home and watched anime and sang to myself all day
I'm being left out all the time. That's what you get for having trouble bonding with people ;_;
omg are you a Jeffrey
TRUE JEFFERY RIGHT HERE
#JEFFREYFTW
YES THE JEFFREYS MUST TAKE OVERRR
Yes a Jeffrey
does anyone else have so many friends but still feels left out?
Just went to birthday party today, my best “friends” party. I felt, and constantly feel left out. I try to be loud, and funny but that’s “annoying” and being quiet is “insecure”. Even the kids that claim that they are constantly left out are usually the ones that receive the most attention. I was even asked if I could act normal, way to put the cherry on top. I really just wish i made my own friend group already.
Yes all the time. My "best friend " has been leaving me out of her life lately. She tells other people secrets and when I ask what happens she just says" I can't tell you "or "nothing ". I try to brush it off but it gets worse every day. I'll be standing right next to her with her other friend and they'll say some secret code and laugh. I honestly feel left out and not wanted. It hurts because I never tell any of her secrets and she can't tell what a single code means! ?
One of my other friends started hanging out with my best friend. The girl, who I will call ,bfs , my best friend, and I got into an argument with each other last year about separation. We forgave her and then all of sudden she swoops in and starts taking my childhood best friend.
I soon found out that my best friend thinks that bfs is better protection than I am. Matter of fact my best friend tells me that to my face. Therfore I started ignoring her. she texted me once about something funny and I gave a thumbs up emoji. She immediately knew I was mad at her so she started confronting me. Asking questions like " why have I been cold" "is there a problem " to which I respond coldly "no".
Basically I'm asking for advice. All of this just started because a feeling of being left out.
I also suffer loneliness. So it Hurts being left out. I honestly have no one to turn too. :,-(
I wouldn't call your friend "Best Friend" they are people who think they are better than you. Get away from them. They are jellies people. One day you will be better than them and they will want to be friends with you but you are gonna say no. Just find better friends. 😀😉
Alyssa Cruz thanks I needed that
No problem
+Alyssa Cruz I agree. Ditch em and find better friends.
i felt so left out i actually deleted my friends off snapchat
same
I don't talk to anyone except my family in a month
Same
my life
Same here :/
Really needed this! Thank you, I felt really excluded today from my group of friends who didn't even want me near them.
i feel left out a lot by my friends. they’ll go somewhere, send me pictures to make me feel jealous, and then they’ll say that they could only have that amount of people over, or that is was for band or whatever. i’m so used to it, that i don’t even care anymore. and when i ask them to hang out, they’ll be like, oh my gosh, i’m so sorry i have to do family stuff that day. and then, they’ll hang out all together again. i don’t care, because if you think about it, none of this will matter in like 5, 10 years from now.
I had a group me with all my friends and the fair was in town. I texted everyone asking if they would like to go that night. No one responded and I went by my self and my step sister, that night while I was on a ride, I saw a whole group of my fried s below me. People I thought I was really buddies with. I just remembered that I stopped talking after that and that I was over come with this depressing feeling.
i hope you're all okay! :-) those friends are fake, move on and be strong!
I just want to say that even though it hurts, you did the right thing. Those aren't friends.
At least you went with someone
That’s fucked up. Why do people do that. Hang in there though.
find some new friends, we are in this together hunny! they arent worth your tears
Ya i get left out a lot and i just wished i had a best friend that would put up with my introvert personality. I just want someone i can play video games with, doodle with, not have to talk sometimes and just be happy to be near each other. Sadly everyones to outgoing and always make fun of me for being quiet a lot :/ also ps love your doodles Sara :) wish i had friends like you haha
On the same boat with ya... *sigh*
this pretty much sums up my life, too.
I felt the same way, but then I met my best friend when I was a senior in high school. She was super outgoing, but she considered me my best friend. After talking about it, we were both opposites who needed the other. You'll find that friendship soon enough. It sucked that I had to wait so long, but it eventually came.
i have a bestie but god decided to send her out of city.
i didnt go to church today.
ThePurfectHamster ikr I feel the same way! let`s be friends hahah :)
sara makes some of the best videos; love her personality sm
I have a close family member who didn't invite me to her wedding she called me when she had a flat tire & also called me when she needed help with her battery both times i helped without hesitation and wasn't invited ?? I was very hurt ! Inside and feel like asking why but I'm to proud !
I'm a weird person. I suffer from depression and I think I also suffer from borderline.
When my best friend is around, I feel like I can do anything. I talk to strangers, I often go to partys with her and when she's around, I can even talk in a big group of people without being afraid.
But when shes not in school, I feel alone and left out. I can't talk to nobody and in recess I never no what to do. I spend my time locked in the schools bathroom, because I'm afraid that anyone is going to see me alone. I'm such an extrovert, sarcastic and bubbly person, no one would even assume that I have many mental issues and that I cry so often about stupid things in life.
To all my extrovert friends with social anxiety: You're not alone. :) Many people have that problem, that is never spoken about. We are fucking awesome, so just relax. :D
+Laura La This makes me feel so good
Lindsay Ripple
:)
I'm an introvert but I have mental issues too. Along with my friend who gets bullied a lot and he doesn't really do homework often though.
I want to talk to more people but I just dont know what to say. people tell me im quiet but im not really.i can be super fun and stuff if I know you well enough.
;___; I feel you so hard....so bad? I feel ya, sister!
I'm in a group of three and whenever we had to partner up
Two people that were more closer with each other would pair up
Since the third person would usually not be here on school days since she was sick
I was that third person
you should find another friend so when they pair up you could just partner up with your other friend
Same exact thing!
Same:(
same 🙁
Omg related
i feel like no one listens to me. No one wants to hear me talk about what i like or even want to hear me at all. They hang out everyday as if i didn’t exist. I always get pushed to the side when we’re walking together and never get to talk. It sucks.
Wow that last little quote.
I always feel as if my friends are just pretending to be friends with just so they can have someone to blame everything on and to have someone to make fun of...
I think this ALL the time
GoldMoney 1 yeah...
...........
Get new friends. :)
Black Wishes friends are for the weak...i dont need friends
Am I the only one who's considering leaving certain friends behind all the time, because they don't really care about me or appreciate things I do for our friendship... but then I remember I don't have anybody else, and I don't want to be all alone?
same
+Lucija Juric I think about it everyday. But I would be alone if I left my current friends :(
+lovecrafts Yes!!! I feel the exact same way. It makes me feel hurt, angry and resentful when I do a lot of things for the friendship and they just act so indifferent... They only talk to me when they need something. I have dropped friendships in the past because of that. Friendships need to be mutual. They're not really friends if you're the only one that cares.. I only have 3 real friends now but they're friends for life. Quality over quantity!
+lovecrafts THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH.
yep today i cried about it. Its not great at all
I can relate to this video so well,I'm always etheir left out or left behind,or not even notice at all.
I get invited to meetings and going out. But no one will exactly be interested in my conversation. They'll be talking and I'll just be there. I now don't bother to go since I know I'll be alone anyway. Sad life. Work same story and also school. Sucks being an introvert.
2 of my very close friends have been recently making me feel very excluded. I needed this video. Thanks, Buzzfeed♥
Ushma Asher How are you now?
Ushma Asher I feel the same pain.
Ushma Asher Same they rejected me in a group project yesterday and today they rejected me too :(
Same
Ushma Asher same :"(
This made me cry, I made a stupid choice and now all my friends hate me, I am depressed and I even made an apology collage and they didn't care
I don't have anyone now and all I do is just sit in my room all day crying and I can never feel good, I keep praying every night that I could at least be forgiven, if only they knew I still loved them
If they don't forgive you ever again, just move on. Find a new group of friends who like you, and forget about what you did. That is because all of it is in the past now, the future is bright.
OMG same
Kåłìmåńtåñ 15463 I know this isn't my business but what did you do to make them not like you?
Kåłìmåńtåñ 15463 same tough I'm living a life withouth any friends which makes me more depressed than I was
CARL GRIMES everything you said is the same for me... :(
This is my Highschool years in a nutshell. Everytime I would scroll on social media, I would see my friends having fun without me.
i’m always left out but i don’t panic i just feel sad and cry
I feel like i get left out because i have low self confidence, I have a weight issue (currently dealing with) and Social anxiety i find it hard to make "friends" and when i do i get ignored most the time i feel like a tag along so i feel better being alone
+Kasiaydra J welcome to the club, sis ;_;
So do I *sigh*
same..
You are far from alone, friend. 😉
This comment section was definitely too depressing for me I'll just go and watch a funny cat video
Anny Emilia depressing but true
Anny Emilia YOU ARE THE REFLECTION OF MYSELF..i am just same as you..i was also thinking about that
Best idea ever!
Thank you for making these.
Whenever I'm at school and my "friends" circle around and just act like I'm invisible it's really annoying and my dog is the only one that doesn't leave me out
I feel left out since now everyone is smoking parting drinking seeking out and thats all they talk about I'm just there all innocent lol
+jAdamariE I think we're the same person oml
Annabeth Olson yasss
+jAdamariE Same here, well except not quite as bad as smoking yet, in a couple of years though yes.
FlapJackHD Honestly like 90% of the guys at my school smoke and 60% go the girls smh 😒
jAdamariE Well uhm.... they're kind of idiots considering smoking causes 12 types of cancer and there are over 4000 different chemicals in cigaretes so that's one reason why I won't be smoking.
I always feel like this and I have no clue why. I try to tell my friends I feel left out but they don't seem to care and say "oh but I'm your friend" and then they go out and do another thing with other people.
Damn yes
Just leave them be and be your own friend that's what I do now.
I love Sara so much, she is so relatable
My one “friend” is always having sleepovers with my other good friend. She always is bratty and makes a big deal out of everything, I feel
left out when they have sleepovers and stuff.. but I also don’t want to have to spend time with that one girl.
Some of us quieter souls seem to get used by "so called friends", when they want us to baby/dog/house sit, we're their favourite person but not good enough to get invited to the festival or party that their all going to? So, don't get used! Start saying no to these 'favours', let them 'pay' for babysitters, and us quieter souls should all 'find' each other and go party together and leave the rest of them to it! 🌺🌸🌺🌸🙏😂😂😂
Hm lemme think....oh yeah that time my friend took 5 of my pocky sticks asked for alone time later in after care
Yessss
I came here because my best friends are all at a sleepover I wasn't invited to and I'm crying 🙁
I know it's been two years but did it end up good? I'm pretty much living the same thing right now😔
I know it's been 3 years but I'm so sorry 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Tough
Kate Brant the same exact situation right now here too. There are having a sleepover after I invited them all for one but wanted one without me. I feel so non- existent
Those doodles are amazing I want more videos with sara she is amazing😍
Thank you for making my life feel better..when ever I see my friends in their house playing one the PS4 I always feel left out I always thought that my friends wouldn't care but this video thank you!