What It’s Like To Be An Outsider
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- čas přidán 16. 11. 2014
- Being on the outside is tough, but you should power through. Because there’s probably someone there waiting to be your friend.
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People giving you “that stare” when you try to hop in on a conversation is the most anxiety inducing thing ever...
Can relate
Yeeeeees, or you hop into conversations and get ignored instantly...
I hate that stare
Im an outsider and i just know its never gonna get better from here
Only worse and ill just be an outsider for the rest of my life
@@Churrohs I wish I could buddy up with you my guy... I feel you
@@Churrohs
I can feel with you there, but don't lose hope, Im nowhere out of that mindset myself, but still, don't pre plan that...
Have you ever felt this way? - Sara
Yes
Yep, everyday :(
Middle school and after high school..which is right now 😯
yes being a teenageris tough
I have a lot actually, especially in elementary school
People say being an outsider is actually a cool thing.. that you're special and you don't fit into basic groups. This all sounds kinda comforting but in reality sometimes I get tired of standing out.. tired of standing alone.
Ikr? But from experience, I think we should try to do different activities we like, and go to a different sites. Maybe in that way you have the chance to meet new people who are like you or at least, who accept you.
GgukSshi_69 I’m glad I’m unique but I want another unique friend.
❤️
Same
But no one is special
It hits different when you used to be be apart of that group.
Yea it hits differently when u *are* part of that group
It hits different when you used to be a part of the group but they still tell you they love you and value your friendship. (Just not enough to be included and invited though I guess)
OMG FRRR
It hits an all time low when your own parents know it's hard for you to make friends and agrees with you.
It hits more different when You’ve never been in that group ur whole school career
The comment section is literally the saddest thing in the world... yet so relatable...
agree
Or kinda comforting knowing you're not alone
fionaishiar I’m saying sis
Yep
F i o n a very relatable
God bless those rare people who approach the outsiders
I'm not really sure what I am. I am like an outsider with a few close friends but when I see someone alone I instantly try to make them happy and be friends with them because I know what it feels like. Does that make me both?
@@cosmicgemini7619 who cares what other people think, u r a nice person thats what matters. i was the coolest guy in college. now iam nobody and super lonely all the time. its almost like that movie neighbous, but i was never in frat
Darcy Bhaiwala honestly. Like bless your heart
I try to do that :)
1000th like
22 years old now and never had someone I could call a friend
You'll find someone some day. Many people have found their real friends in college.
You are worthy of love and friends don’t ever forget that
Same
Wow
@Amaru, someone will come. I promise. I don’t know who you are, but I know you are worthy of all good things. Fall in love with yourself. Keep looking for ways to improve. Don’t worry. 💜
Honestly ive just given up on social interaction
Dude same,sometimes you just get tired of trying to be social with others that you feel like there is no way you could change that
Same here
Same
same
Same ever since 6th grade
i think ive been an outsider for so long, i just became used to it. no big deal.
Lovely_ wworld exactly no big deal, you don't need a lot of people anyway.
Lovely_ wworld same here!
same
I've been living in my own kpop world
Lovely_ wworld
I've had literally no friends for 3 years now, but they are all still friends, I've attempted suicide in October if 2016 but my mom caught me. I lost my best friend a year ago and it hurts so bad, I get you
7.5 billion people on Earth... yet I'm still all alone.
Pakura Uzumaki You’re not alone❤️
Me too
Do you have Instagram?
Are you searching, or are you waiting to be found?
no, don't say that. I'm sure there are tons of people out there who would love to be your friend.:)
People say "You dont talk much,huh?"
I HATE IT
Why should I talk to you when you just talk to me because you want to be politley?!
I hate pity ,never liked people feeling sorry for me
Lilly Billison you Should starting beeing thankful that they only Talk to you because they wanna be polite
@@user-cu9en4ix1v I am talking about people who obviously dont like me. Who talk about me behind my back. And then they wonder why I dont really wanna talk to them...🙄
@@lillybillison7564 ikr, people talk about you behing your back and then act as if they care about you.
Why should I talk if my opinion never matter to anyone or because I’m too quiet.
It’s feels nice when someone approaches you when they know you feel lonely, even though they barely know you it shows that they care. I’m kind of that back up friend that people hang out with if they have no one else, or if they invite a group over. It always
feels nice to be noticed once in awhile.
I too am the backup friend☹️😞💔
Stay strong! There are always people who are just the second opinion if nobody else is there
The only bad thing is one does approach, might be just me I don’t know how to respond because it doesn’t usually happen.
God bless you for doing such a great thing! I am an outsider and i really appreciate your doing
i like being alone but those certain few people we dont talk much still go out of their own way and say "hey! How are you?" and put a simple conversation. I thanked those people
And when someone talks to you or make a friend
You appreciate it more than most people
I'm not Going to tell you my name true
Exactly then the friendship fails and you're hurt and back at square one.
Tatyana Najee
I'm the feeling.
Last year me and my BFF "broke up."
She stopped talking to me so randomly,I still have a scar on my heart and my mind,she was like my sister.But it's over,we will never be friends again no matter how bad i or she wants.Yeah people deserve second chance but that was her second chance to prove that she is better than what we would saw,she did great,but after about 7 months she re-became her real self,bossy b***h.
I'm sad that I had and have to watch that with my other friends,they are sad too,but they still hang with her.This month was her birthday both of them went not me.
"Outsider" are actually the special ones who don't fit into basic groups
Not assholes.
These ppl are always trying to fit in, until they realize that they are diffrent and that they shouldn't changed themself
@@gods_light_1111 That's a pretty general statement to fit a whole group.
Or just someone who didn't really try to at least be social and adapt with their current environment.
no. “outsiders” are just another basic group...
We can try but no one will really accept us.
I always feel like an outsider even when I’m with other people who consider me their friend, I just feel so disconnected from everyone and everything around me
I heard that can be an indication you're an introvert, where being around social interactions can leave you feeling drained, and you need some time alone to recharge. You crave real meaningful relationships and are not into superficial small talk.
same
It’s not that I don’t lose energy from them I feel the same way sometimes and so I feel guilty about :/
I have had one true friend who I feel like I can just be myself around my entire life..... We sometimes have fights.over the stupidest things but always make up within 30 minutes you can ask us to separate but we will never I do believe we will be friends until death sets us apart
Me too bro/sis!
for me, being an outsider is like being the 'reject'. you know that feeling of having a lot of friends but they all have different group of friends too that they prioritize over you, and it's okay because it feels so wrong to beg for their attention so you just sit there and be alone instead.
that feeling when the group activity is grouped by friends and everyone in class has their group of friends and you end up in the extra group instead.
the feeling of not even wanting to approach someone because you feel like you're just bothering them.
that feeling when the people around you are enjoying with their friends and they're all happy while us, we just sit there on the side and mind our own business.
it's actually sad but, it's our reality for us outsiders... and we're used to it.
that 4th comment there hit me hard. I just want to rant if thats ok, for me the group who is like family to my best friend do everything together like go on trips, parties whatever its so much freedom. For 7 years and ongoing i never once was able to join them, i couldnt. They have tried to involve me in the past, ofc im happy for her to have fun but sometimes i just feel frustrated that i cant join them, its just watching your best friend and the group have fun together while you sit alone in your room behind a screen for 7 years only hearing and not experiencing those moments together can get to you hard. I dont feel resentment to them i just feel frustrated that I feel this way
Omg yes. The worse is when people talk about you like you're not in the room when you actually are and can hear them...
I have trouble in social interactions due to severe anxiety, but it's even harder when everyone just thinks you're weird or antisocial. No one has a clue what others go through and I just wish others would at least be kind.
Yup… so true… experienced all of it…..
The comment section is so depressing, we should all just get together and be friends.
Beatrice G.C.
So true,so wanna be friends???
Habituated Abnormality
It would be an outsider friendship ring,and I actually want to be in it.
Wolf In Heart :D can i join too ?
Beatrice G.C. great idea
We have the same name😂
I got teary eyed through this whole thing... I related to Sarah so much... especially the trying to talk to people and being friendy but people finding it annoying. and then being akwardly friendly out of nervousness. the worst part of it isnt that you arent normal or "one of the cool kids" its when you try being friends with someone else who is "weird" or a group of people who are "weird" and you get shot down. and you know its because they dont like who you are. then you start to hate yourself and wish you could be anyone else. and when youre in a big group of people doing your best to keep up with the conversation. But you know that nobodies really listenning. they either cut you off or dont speak out of courtesy. but they dont really care and you know that theyd be happier with you somewhere else. despite being around so many people you feel lonely... and you try so freaking hard to be a kind of person that is well liked. you look at the kids who are surrounded by friends and think "what am I doing wrong? why dont people like me like that?" and then you watch them and start thinking "what exactly about them do people like so much?"and try to mimick that. but youre just so jealous and despite trying to be there friend you secretly hate them. everytime you talk to someone it kills you not to know what theyre really thinking. youre paranoid about every conversation you have. in your head youre think theyre thinking, "this person is so annoying." and that they hate you, that everyone hates you, because you just want people to like you. to be a part of something. because lonelyness SUCKS.
Same I literally cried because it related to me so much
Simmer Girl Ive never been bullied in that way Im normally just ignored by those kind of people. in a weird way I sort of wished they would... because I was that lonely. ik its pathetic. ***** :(
I've never had someone express EXACTLY how I feel so properly! It's a kind of touching moment when you realize that you're not as alone as you think. :\
Sara*
i know exactly how you feel. you just have to find someone as outcasted as you are. i always try to join in discussions or when i say something i feel like people don't like me for it.
My own family ignores me :/
Also don't blame outsiders for having "dry" conversations we literally have no one to talk to
I feel like this everyday I'm ignored, allways feel unwanted and feel invisible everyday... but I'm used to it so everybody that feels like this it's ok you will get through it...
Thanks...
I feel you man, it's been like that ever since 7th grade. The only people I get to talk to aside from my family are the teachers, right now I'm in 10th grade, and still, no change whatsoever.
At this point, I already got used to it and accepted the new and miserable reality that I'm in right now.
And the hateful looks that people make in public
Right? Whenever I try to jump into a conversation people talk over me or just ignore me. I've just come to terms with my loneliness.
i’m even an outsider to my closest friends. second choice group?🙋♀️
Im here
me too homie
im here bud
I'm here I got no friends
At least your a choice, I'm not even a choice
All of us outsiders in the comment section need to meet up and be happy weirdos together.
I am just a shy person
Even when all outsiders meet...some outsiders will form a group and other outsiders will become out-outsiders
@@gittikamangal8368 well um I never thought about that
@@gittikamangal8368 true 😅
When and where I'm fucking coming
This video is basically what it's like to be a loner
True true just true
The fact that we are still watching this 6 years later is kind of sad
I’m an outsider, and I’m perfectly fine with that. I don’t, um, _talk_ very much, so everyone just assumes I’m depressed, or lonely, or rude. But I’m not rude, I’m just shy. No one understands that! It’s not that I don’t like you, I’m *just an introvert*. I don’t like talking too much, and socialising is _tiring_. Everyone always asks things like, “why don’t you ever talk?” and I just stand there, speechless, because what can I say to that? What is there to say to that?
God, everyone in the comments are so much like me. I just wish all you people were in my school, because no one there actually understands anything. They think life is just talking, flirting, talking, talking. But it’s so much harder than that - you have to fit in, you have to say the right things, look the right way. But what if I _can’t_ do that? What if I _don’t_ want to be like the rest of them?
Sometimes I just want them all to just stop and take a moment to _understand_. But they can’t, they won’t, and never will. :(
Idk why.. but I wish that, outsiders like you and me, be friends in real life.. What I have to read in the comments make me really sad.. We all here have the same problem. We all could be such good friends and nobody would be sad again 'cause we know how it is to be with this feeling..
Molly O'Brien I know! It sucks, because everyone here completely gets it - but no one I know in real life understands anything! :\
I relate to you so much ;-;
"Why are you being so quiet?”
“Well you don’t wanna plan a murder out loud now do ya?”
Crazy Brunette
hahahah i get you so much :)
1. those friends are jerks
2. that’s the best drawing ever
3. jerkface
4. i love tap
5. i LOVE her hair
6. happens to me all the time
7. i know exactly what she’s talking about
8. she could be an artist
9. that’s the worst, talk to herrr
10. same tho
11. YAAAS QUEEN
13.subscribe
The end was so nice tho I loved it
I want you to list those positive kind of things in my day to day disaster life. Would you kindly hop into my pocket? Like right now?
15. No
@@echoedsoul9355 i'd love to
I have that issue too, I love talking to people but it feels like they aren't interested at all. Everytime I'm around a friend group, I feel like I'm more of a guest rather than apart of something. I usually get quiet when I start to feel that way. There's at times when I would try to chime in and talk to people and either they look at me weirdly or they would just be rude. I try to be positive about stuff and it's just hard.
Reality hits mate :)
"Friendships never last kids"
I never believed in that, and thought we were special, but now, I don't even know.
And you don't even want to have friends causr you know they will break your heart
@@mitjamackenzie1219 oof deep. I mean I don't totally agree
The only person that knows your an outsider is you...not even family or friends.
It gets so lonely to the point you can't handle it anymore.
But always know that being outsider doesn't mean you will always be one.
agnes chuti I quite agree, it feels like nobody will ever understand you!
Since I moved, this is how I feel...
I have always felt like that my whole life
i realate
Wow wise words have a beer with you or a talk would be something else good words fellow bein
Me: complains about being alone
Also me: turns down offers to hang out with people
*this is the problem with me ;)*
Me lol
If you really like people you wont turn them down, thats what I found out :)
My gosh so relatable
Me too!!
Me too
Hell at least they know her name. I moved away from my home state when I was 15 and no one noticed til I was 18.
I wish I were joking.
25 now and still kinda trying to find a group of pals I can hang with. 😅
Little to no friends here in my small town
Online friends are nice too, good luck
Someone wana be friends i feel more lonly after this video.
Yes🤒
Depends on your age because I am not trying to get you arrested for talking to a minor if you are older than 18
Sure mate
hi 😅
hey
My mom thinks that I'm rude , and that's the reason why I don't have any friends ,but she don't know the truth...she don't know that I can't chat cause I don't know how , she don't know that every single day in my life I'm trying to have someone on my back... she don't know that I'm crying every night ,and she don't know what is like to be an outsider either!
I wish she didn't have to remind it to me every time I get back home...
your mom is the rude one not u. but trust me the good days are coming and you'll never cry again. i love u :) stay strong
I am in the same situation as you my friend. I hope things can get better for the better ♡
Cecilia C amen to this my life is that same way
Cecilia C i feel the exact same way
Cecilia C don’t worry.. me too
The fact that people feel sorry for you is so painful
I can relate
True. They don't even do anything when they can.
Yas
Truee
The fact the people dont even notice you is even more painful. Some even take it as a opportunity to bully u and make u feel like nothing. Some may not even feel bad for u at all and enjoy hurting u. That is the painful thing.
the most relatable thing for me is going on social media and seeing everyone hanging out and going to partys and drinking and stuff, meanwhile i have about two friends/acquaintances. its not that i want to go to partys or have a ton of friends, its just that it reminds me even more of how introverted and reserved i am. i like being by myself but its sometimes difficult while being around groups of people who all seem so confident. this is kind of messy and im rambling on but i feel like i needed to type this out to make myself feel better.
Exactly me....I was always feel when I'm approaching someone that they don't like me or they just want me to leave...Who knows this feeling??
Being an outsider and an introvert. Even when people talk to me I don’t know what to say so I just stay quite.
Me too.
I am just like Sarah introvert, right brained, an outsider, and more.
Kennedy Coles same
sAmeEeeeeE and when I want to talk
I just say dumb things because 🤷♂️ what to say and people look at me with disgusted look 👀 so I just
Set and 🤐
@@aya-ii2yy and then i feel guilty because it's not them it's me
I kinda wish that all the introverted outsiders that are watching this right now can have like their own little group chat when they need to talk to someone
Yeah
How about a discord server?
That would so cool
I'd be an outsider to that too
That would be very awesome!
I'm not that kinda person that talks whenever i come to school, i just pretend to talk to people.
i have literally never fitted in in all my life, i was ignored and bullies in elementary school. now i’m in middle school and i thought i fitted into a group for once, turns out i was wrong. in the middle of the year everyone dropped me, boys only talked to me because i was friends with two girls who were popular but when those started ignoring me, everyone did. now i kinda accepted being the outsider, i just hate the fact that i don’t have anyone to talk with or fangirl over kpop and other things we like.
My whole highschool years was like this I'm 21 still little to no friends lol
Same, I had some friends but they turned out super toxic and now I’m in between friends
Whenever I try to talk with other people in a conversation they always talk over me
Michelle Gutierrez this is very much relatable... it’s like they can’t care less about what you say
Its like they've invalidated your thoughts before you've even said them.
Alex Dunbar right
aamin ali honestly
mxchelle same here
I don't know how to explain myself...
I'm an introvert. I literally have one real friend and I barely even see her. Last time I hang out with her was almost two months ago. I can be social at school and work, I talk to people and stuff. At school I hang out with my classmates but still I'm always the outsider, I feel disconnected with everyone. Sometimes when I come home and I'm in my "safe place" I feel emotionally and physically exhausted.
I used to have social anxiety. And depression. I also used to have more friends who hang out with me almost daily.
I know as an introvert I like my own company and time and I don't necessarily need other people, but.. sometimes I feel like I'm truly alone in this world.
This is me. I call it my social battery. It only lasts so long. I’m truly happy alone & at home
I’ve never related to something more in my entire life.....
And the thing is that I like being alone a lot but my parents are worried about me and there’s nothing wrong with me
i know that people always to say this but... i can related so much. i feel like you the only one that can understand me bcs no one ever did. oh god why can't you let me live like others
me too i relate 😕
Honestly, this is how deaf people fee like when we are around hearing people... ;-; please talk to us or write.. just because we are deaf doesn’t mean we can’t speak..
Anyone who is a second choice?
Come here my buddies, you're not alone
*hug* 🤗
Lol I'm not even a choice
I am not even a choice at all
As cheesy as this sounds, I honestly wish all the people saying "this is my life" lived close to me; then we could all hang out and be friends. 😔 Unfortunately that's not the reality & what she portrayed is exactly what my life is like. :(
Same..
melibrry Heh..i wish that too, im in high school and im "the outsider" in my class :/ . Every time i see group talking to eachother, i wish i had the confidence to talk to them or even have some topics to talk about, but im like Sarah in this video :D . I just dont want to be a nuisance to them or them think that im boring.., so everytime i walk past them.. and then quietly eat lunch in the corner while drawing or reading something.. (i know im lame..just please dont tell me, because i know :D :/ and sorry for my english, im not a native speaker) - Lame European 2017 :D (me :"( )
I wish we lived near one another.
I wish to have friends, even one good friend... Like the girl before me, i'm exactly like Sarah in this video. People in my class talk to me, but i'm always the one who walk alone, who don't have a partner on PE. Btw I'm from Europe too, so sorry for my bad english :D
Kitty Studio Hey, my European fellow ˆ-ˆ :D Same here, they sometimes talk to me too, but then i'm always alone.. :( I'm glad there's someone like me, but in the meantime im sorry for both of us. :( BUT MAYBE WE'LL GET THROUGH IT, MAYBE IN A FEW YEARS..? :D And maybe we will make some friends :D I hope.. (and again sorry for my english :D i just hope you understand to what i said ) -Lame European 2017
Can I like, hug everyone in the comment section???? Please??????
Yes. Hug me
*sends virtual hug* 💙
Hope that made u feel better 🙂
I wish i could have a hug
*SAME*
I want a hug
who else doesn’t like meeting up with friends and calling them all the time but gets upset and jealous when u see them all having a get time
Story of my life, except the ending. Even though people say I'm friendly, I don't have friends. It's a tough life. Anyway, I keep coming back to this video. It's oddly comforting
It's comforting knowing it's not only you
How can she have the courage to actully ask her to lunch
Ikr
build it up
Esla 188 Yeah when I get the courage to even say hi I feel so glad.
Esla 188 I would!
So I'm friends with one person but they hang out with a bunch of other girls, and I feel so jealous and left out but I don't have the courage to even tell my friend because I'm so shy.
The sad music gets me all the time.
Pure Sugar With A Pinch Of Diabetes YES!
Pure Sugar With A Pinch Of Diabetes Don't even say it, it hit home hard.
LET'S ALL BE FRIENDS HEREEE AND SPREAD L9VE
Same😥😭😭😖
gush voyages same
I used to be like that girl. Socializing and feeling confident takes practice, but we can all learn. ♥️
I don't think it works that way
The music makes everything worse I just feel like crying so much :(
Really want to know the name of the BGM
Am I the only one who escapes reality by reading books or going into my mind?
You're not alone. I read books to since nobody talks to me often. It's kinda fun to read fiction for when the real world sucks. Which is always.
You're not the only one.
Not the only one.
+Mary Gray No,you are not.I often tend to go into my mind :/ (sorry if my english is bad )
Well, the fiction that lives everywhere but reality is a welcome escape, at least to me.
I am an outsider tho whenever someone tries to be talk to me I get a little nervous since my social skills are zero and even tho I am an introvert that dosent mean that I hate talking
Kitty Mc Cakeatron oh my god same here, I just need to be comfortable when I'm alone that's my problem I have some like friends but we don't talk that much and I can't go anywhere without feeling bad and insecure of being alone
Suff3ring Soulz Don't worry you're not alone in the fact that there are a lot of people just like you and that people are going through something similar to you
I want to be you're friend
Kitty Mc Cakeatron ikr
Kitty Mc Cakeatron I can understand you that's basically my case and I am also an introvert 😋😋😋😋
I come back here every once in a while to not feel so alone in the struggle of being an outsider. Thank you BuzzFeed for this video ❤
Same friend
Same here. Watching this since 7 years
This same thing happens to me even when I am with my friends they ingore me, and ultimately they just forget me....
Today when I went back to school my friend saw me and went pass me, this crushed me dude
This video actually kind of made me want to cry. This was my entire life in high school
This is my life.....
Me too
I was like that in high school
I'm still in high school
Same here boo
This video made me cry even more. This accurately nails my feelings every day. Especially observing everybody at my lunch table every single day, just wondering, "How do I do that?" or "How do they come up with jokes so fast that are funny?" Everybody laughs at each other jokes, and then when you try to make a small one, they just weirdly look at you and continue their conversation. Today, I asked a girl, "The pools opening the weekend. We should go." She had an expression I couldn't read. She ran over to her other friend. "Hey, the pools opening. Wanna go with me?" she laughed.
Sometimes I just get so damn tired of playing this game. Just so tired.
I can relate to how you feel. I left my "friends" a while ago because they insulted me and excused it as jokes, but my breaking point was when I overheard them talking behind my back saying that I was ugly and stupid. I've left them since then, yet I was alone that whole school year with no one to hang out with. Sometimes, I do like being alone, I'm naturally very isolated because people are draining sometimes. But feeling lonely is the ugliest emotion I've ever felt. Even though I do have friends now, I have trouble trusting people because my worst fear now is thinking everyone that hangs out with me secretly doesn't like me and just pretends to, you know? And the feeling of loneliness just comes at the randomest times, like when I go to parties where everyone is in their groups and I'm just there standing alone. So I just sit in the corner quietly and try to entertain myself as much as I can because no one seems interested in talking to me.
Sorry for the long comment, but, I just had to let it out to someone. For now I just hope it gets better.
Ugh same
Bohemian Bricolage-check me out on Etsy
When u get older it gets easier trust me
Natalia Paredes
I WAS EXACTLY THE SAME TRUST ME IT GETS BETTER OMG
Same even my so called "close friends" left me. I don't know what I'm doing wrong they kinda just avoid me then comeback when they have no one else to talk to. I don't understand why,maybe I'm just too weird or I'm a jerk I just don't know I want to say sorry everyday,sorry for everything that could cause them to ignore me ,it's my fault though, I should had been a better friend I guess, I should had been more funny somehow, I should had tried to be a extrovert and talk more ,or maybe I shouldn't had cried when my feelings were getting to me in the start I shouldn't had cried and let them call me a crybaby I'm just a crybaby in their eyes. This hasn't stopped though it's been 5 years. 5 years of someone constantly insulting me then saying it was a "joke" it's gotten worse now and I still don't know what to do, usually I sit alone and thinking about everything. Everything that I could had done to maybe change it all but then ill remember that they won't listen , they keep on saying you have no proof , but I do they keep insulting me every time I try to talk to them such as I'm annoying, I'm gross, I'm an idiot , I'm stupid , no one likes me,I'm mean ,every single day and I still don't know what to do, they're my best friends and I can't just forget about a best friend, I can't just ignore a best friend ,I trusted them and usually insults don't really hurt, so why do these insults hurt so much? Why just why do they make me want to cry everyday?
I remember watching this when I was in middle school and crying myself to sleep because I always felt an empty void that i was lonely and I didn’t fit in, I was always kind to everyone and it always hit me “what’s wrong with me?why does no one want to be my friend?” and would turn to this video and tell myself that I’m not alone. I was so depressed and would eat my feelings and had suicidal thoughts “would anyone even care if I died?”. Boy , let me tell you… I’m now a sophomore in college and my life changed dramatically. I decided to change high schools and started from a blank slate, no one knew who I was. I was always worried about what other people thought of me and that’s when it clicked that I could fake being confident in high school. That was the turning point for me. I use to draw white henna on myself (I love drawing on myself) and do it at school, so other people wanted me to do it on them and that’s how I started talking to people and faked being confident and even made FRIENDS, mind you I haven’t had a friend since like elementary school, I was so relieved to finally talk to someone at the lunch table. Also not once did I change my interests, I was always weird and shy but this time I embraced it. Also guess what??? I finally made a personal Instagram and The guy I’ve had a crush on since elementary school even hit me up, telling me “oh I actually had a huge crush on you in elementary” LIKE WHAT? I didn’t even know he knew I existed, let alone he was really popular and out of my league 😭 He even told me “you’ve changed a lot, but In a good way” anyways he’s now my boyfriend lol. Since then I have lost 40 lbs and started expressing myself the way I wanted to. It’s very fulfilling. I hope someone in this comment section takes this advice… because YOU are the ONLY ONE to make a change.
Also I wanted to add that one of the main reasons why I wouldn’t talk was because every time I’d talk I’d be terrified of being shut off and being judged. So I’d go back into my shell and keep to myself. No, I decided to change my mentality and thought “not everyone in this world is going to like me so might as well talk to as many people and see who likes me :)” as soon as someone judged me for talking, I was like “oh okay, on to the next person!” maybe they weren’t a person worth talking to either way and are probably assholes. You will find people that like you! Embrace rejection!
Thank you for sharing. This is extremely motivational!
Really cool story. Glad things worked out for you in the end!
Why.. was this so relatable.. it really does feel like you're drowning and people will help, but for some reason you don't take it because you don't know how?
It was portrayed here that she had no friends. But sometime, you can also be an outcast WITH your friends. That horrible feeling when you know that YOU'RE THE LEAST IMPORTANT IN THE GROUP AND IT DOES'NT MATTER IF YOU'RE THERE OR NOT, it's much worse.
+Rezine Mohadali Right? Like you're just a backup friend to them. It also sucks when you're the only single friend in your group because they'll just spend the whole time talking to the person they're dating and whenever they ignore you you immediately think "oh I'm being annoying, I need to get over it, they want to talk to other people and that's okay" but no matter what you tell yourself, it still hurts just as much
+Gestice Exactly! That's why we end up hating ourselves. We'll just think that "Oh 😔 i'm so annoying" or "maybe i wasn't meant to have friends"
ikr like what am I doing wrong ? or whats wrong with me ?
my life
My life, in P.E. at school when they are doing the teams I end up being the last one to get choosed to be on a team. And in everything my classmates do.
This is basically me, but I don't join in on other people's conversations.
Sometimes i try and sometimes it doesn't work lol
Same here and I don't even try
The people in my school talk in circles. I can't even fit into one. No one lets me.
Amethyst Panda I try
Ok but having anxiety and depression on top of being an outsider is the absolute worst
it gets so impossible sometimes..
YUP
Absolute fact.
My high school experience was exactly like this, and i hope that i can erase all of those memories, sadly i got used to being ignored, now i don't even care if nobody notices me
The hardest thing is having best friends who are your best friend, but youre not theirs. Does that make sense? Like, you have two best friends, but they are each others friends and youre more on the outside. yeah, that sucks.
NotSoPlain Jane I can totally relate. I've been going through that for so long now... It's like they never return the favor and they only need you when they need something. I always feel like a "filler friend" and it always feels like it wouldn't make any difference if I weren't there at all. I need them, but they don't need me. It breaks my heart 😢😢
NotSoPlain Jane Me :/
I feel you, :(
NotSoPlain Jane ya....
NotSoPlain Jane You've just described my entire school life! Yay!
This is a lil too relatable
I've kinda lost all my friends, a lot of my friends self harm and because I'm trying to help them all out i can't focus on all of them at once. Plus those friends show me their cuts which makes me really upset and then they think I don't care. I'm very stressed and a lil bit done with the whole living thing and I cry a lot but nobody cares about me as much as I do them...
naomi-pcy Well, it's really hard for somebody who never experienced self- harm themselves to help other people that struggle with it, because you have no idea of how it really is. Kinda had the same problem a few years ago. I cared so much for those people , but i felt so helpless because i had no idea how to help them. But still , stay strong! ❤ I'm sure you will find a way! 😊 Fighting! ✊😊
naomi-pcy That right there is my life legit
naomi-pcy тяυє😂😪😕
this vid is my life😭
This made me abit emotional, just because I literally live that everyday. It’s not through lack of trying, it’s just hard.
Everybody body says "be yourself" but then when I am being nice and friendly to people nobody is ever interested in me, and it makes it hard to be myself. Even my mom tells me the same thing but always judges me for everything I say or do and I get angry at her a lot. Also, when I try to express my feelings to her about why it's hard for me to make friends, she blames me for it and it becomes an argument. Nobody understands me and it hurts that everybody thinks I am bad person even though I am not. Situations like this can make you think that everybody is mean and evil and that's a fact. I have tried so hard to fit in for a decade and nothing worked. It would sometimes turn into drama instead. I was lonely for so long that I had suicide thoughts because nobody would listen to me. So, the "be yourself and not care about what anybody thinks" quote that people say is not genuine. They don't mean it all.
This is my life... I hate it. The biggest problem is that I'm a freshman in highschool do people don't really realize the fact that they don't pay me any attention.
My freshmen year was terrible , i didn't talk to anyone , you are not the only one,
literally same. I'm a freshman in high school too. All my life people have avoided me and I don't know why. No one likes me lol. People talk be behind my back and make fun of me when U have never done anything to them. even my friends are becoming more popular and slowly leaving me behind. I have no one. I try not to let it get to me but all 14 years of my life have been like this idk what to do. at least I'm not the only one who feels like this. :)
+Mariah W This may sound harsh but it's most likely because you don't try hard enough to meet people/socialize. You have to push yourself. Smile, laugh, be outgoing, don't take yourself to seriously and try to be friendly towards everyone. Don't wait for people to notice you, grab people's attention. Some people (like the girl in the video) look like they don't want people to talk to them. I used to be like you at the beginning of high school. I wish you the best :) I know how terrible it can feel to be an outsider.
+Mariah W no one has to pay you any attention. If you want friends go make some. Don't seclude yourself like the girl in the video did - say something and try, people will like you - maybe not everyone and maybe not the people you are trying to be friends with but someone will like you. I know it can be hard and I deal with it myself (I'm 29!!) but if you don't actively TRY to make friends, you never will. When you seclude yourself and stay out of everyones way it is extremely hard to make any friends at all. Lots of people are scared and worried about showing who they are but when you open up and just try there is always someone that will like you.
+Mariah Same here
Literally me except I don't have any artistic talent so when I don't want to do my work I'll just sit there awkwardly
Same
Same
same
my life at school....
Same
I am 15 . In highschool , always trying to make people happy and engage in every conversation while asking people what they think , they end up ignoring me . In my " friendgroup " I am always the one standing there not being included in the conversations .
I've get over this, just asked myself: "do I really need friends like everyone else do or do I just want friends because everyone do?" This isn't a problem for me anymore, because being "lonely" doesn't mean don't having someone by my side
Being an outsider has only one plus side : you know what being made of air feels like 😔
Whitney Trent But you also learn a lot about yourself
that is true, but you cant help that you are lonely...because noone really cares about who you are
Whitney Trent It really depends what kind of a person you are, I am outsider, socially awkward, anxious and honestly, for me being alone is a blessing.
I search for friends, I actually have lots of friends. But at school, ah, well... Not so much
You can experience that feeling with weed to
This is a really good video. I tend to have a lot of friends, but I'm nobody's best friend. I feel like I don't belong a lot of the time. Sometimes I feel like I'm just there. Nothing special. Just there. It's nice to know there are others out there like this.
I'm kinda the same way, I don't have a best friend I can tell anything and everything to. But that's ok. :) you don't need one. You're awesome! :D
I'm pretty much living that exact life!
Yeah, I've got lot of friends but nobody's best. 😔
We live the same.
i feel the same way. it's like everyone is my bestfriend, but i'm nobody's best friend.
I was not an outsider but this is literally how I've felt the whole time in high school
I’m even an outsider to my own family…that’s how depressing my life is😆
I'm like that too sometimes, not all the time 😝.
over 60 years being an outsider has made me not human but something else, more evolved. You don't always get used to being alone and lonely for ever. Having a phone but no one calls me. Being a great honest person but having no friends or family. xJes
exactly 😧 and u think there's something wrong with u but infact there's not.
granpa is that you?
I have a phone too and no one calls me, sometimes I want to throw it away, but need it for jobs interviews. Sad.
Are you 60 yrs old?
+august moon :(
This vid is me
#1. No friends
#2. Depression
#3. Social anxiety
#4. Weirdo
Edit: hi guys umm idek i to say this but... Id love to still be friends with all of u who need it! c: Ik i need it still (still have a fxcked up life lmao)
Nerdy_ Gaming101 same :(
Same
Same
Nerdy_ Gaming101 same I have friends tho
You literally explained me
Its so hard to make friends. It is so haaard😭😭😭
Felt like this my entire life…. Its hard….
this almost brought me to tears because its like me on so many levels.
I know it may sound impossible to do, but turn those circumstances in your advantage. Learn a sport, a language, a skill, use the time given to you in your best interest. When surrounded by people, learn to read them, learn to recognise pattern of behaviour associated with kind, mean, low self-esteem, high self-esteem, liars, honest people etc... This will, ironically, help you develope your communication skills. I've been there and trust me, when you start working on yourself, you won't want to stop. You'll have so many goals, no time will be left for your social life but at the same time, those goals can bring you closer to people who want to achieve similar things as you. They might see you as a role model or a person they want to mentor. In any case, dont give up, I'm there if you need to talk :)
I know right I started to tear up
I literally tear up every time
Same, same.... ;~;
I know the feeling.
who else misses these old days of buzzfeed? :( sarah is so relatable and this music just sets the mood so well😓😓😓
Annie Gao
It's becoming a septic hole, hasn't it?
*sara
Right? You won't find videos like this be uploaded in their channel. 😢
6 years later, and this still hits hard.
Someone:Outseders are rare and they are special
Comment section:99% of people are outsiders.
Me:Why?
To me, Sara has always been one of my favorite buzzfeed people. No matter what
Tru
same here. This video made her my favorite. This video hits so close to home with me.
HoodedGargoyle that profile pic tho :|
Joker Face what's wrong with it?
HoodedGargoyle nothing, i just dont suggest wearing a bikini taking a picture and then using as a profile picture. (there are some creepy people out there.. and once something is on the internet, it can never be taken off)
this hits me so hard. everyday. every single day. but no one notices.
MAR
Ikr happened to me
MAR, yeah same! I/we even don't have anybody to share these things! I always wish that I had someone who I could share all these things!
MAR Me2 :( 💔
maggieroemer thats the thing, no one notices... and when you speak up they are like: noo you are so in the group, blablabla, and then the next day nothing changed
I have friends, but I feel that they ignore me, so I just stay alone, at break(school) or at lunch, there is one friend that doesn’t do that, but she is a popular girl, and sit with people I don’t talk, and I’m scared of loosing her. I usually just stay in class the whole break drawing. My BFF lives in USA, and I live in Brazil, so it’s hard to talk to her, I miss her, I could really trust her.(sorry if my english is bad,I’m Brazilian)
I relate to this so much. Anxiety makes it hard to make friends, even as an adult. And even when you do have friends, Anxiety tells you repeatedly that people don’t actually like you, and that they are just pretending too. It can get pretty awful at times.
I'm 24 now. This is how I've felt my entire life
To anyone who relates to this video...
I used to feel like this, ALL the time. I thought I was weird and annoying and that no one would understand me. It made me very depressed, because it hurts so much to be alone. I'm I still an outsider? Well..kinda. But I am so much happier now, I pride being a lil strange and eccentric. I pushed away people who judge and toxicity in my life. So to anyone who is crying from the truth of this video, let go. Let go of all the fear and doubt and have confidence in yourself. Going through life alone isn't healthy. Don't take one little sly remark or annoyed glance to heart. Because you know what? No one cares. Seriously. People are going through life being just as self conscious as you.
You can change yourself to be whatever you want. Personally I think this whole culture of labels, being introvert or shy or whatever, is unhealthy. People stick this label on themselves as an excuse to why they never leave the house, why they are an outcast or whatever. At least, that's what I did. Don't be a victim. Don't let whatever label, whatever fear, whatever doubt you have control your life. YOU CAN CHANGE YOURSELF. My god, I want to scream this message to the world. I'm tired of this pity party all over the Internet. It promotes negativity and self hate. Especially on tumblr...ughh. It makes people think it's ok to stay up till 4 and stuff themselves with pizza and loathe themselves...and then people wonder why they're so depressed. Get outside. Breathe. You will be okay. The mind is an amazing phenomenon that you can rewire, but only if you let go of this victim mentality. I deeply care about all the sad people in the world and that is why I'm writing this message. You are not doomed forever. Peace and love be with you
you make it sound easy.
but it's not, for me.
So true! I used to be exactly like that in high school, I was a shy girl that had no actual friends and I was always the one left behind and nobody cared about.
NOW, I'm in college and I'm super social, I feel like I fit in every group, and too confident for my own good!
Instead of letting your experiences shadow your future.. GET INSPIRED and let it grow into something beautiful! ❤️
+idk I'd like to add that,you can always open up for help and support of any kind. Sometimes if you feel bad about something or lonely,a great step to get over it is to first recognise your weakness and accept it.Most of us are being alone because we put high standards for ourselves,that we can't accomplish.Don't fight on your own,it's ok to ask for any kind of help and discuss about your feelings.Your family,some other friends,or people you feel more at ease with,or whoever else,is also some sort of resourse for you to build up some comfidence and see stuff about yourself.
+idk
You're exactly right. The same change happened to me :)
I Was born social, i love to socialize with other people, but my weirdness freaks other people out ;-;
When I finished watching this.. I broke down because I didn't realise how much I relate to this
Same same
Me too 😔 I feel your pain :(
Same..
I feel the same way too I thought I was a alone
i always wonder why am i always the outsider in every squad. i'm always left out. i always feel like a second option y'know?
Yikes
Same I hate being in friend groups of 3, cuz the others always are happier together, then when I'm around.
I have social anxiety and my parents don‘t understand me😔😔
Same... /hugs
Same
army? 💜
joonpai ARMY!💜💜
Rahmah Anjani hugsss
Nice little fairy tale with a happy ending. In real life I am friendly with people but always get left out.
Same
Same. Even when I somehow get a bit closer to someone they always make me a second choice lol
Same here
my friends always leave me out by hanging out with their friend they’ve known since kindergarten and then they silently brag about it to me whenever we’re hanging out by laughing at their own inside jokes and i’m just sitting there like “👁👄👁”
@@livradabaugh6627 relate
The saddest thing of being an outsider is when you have only one friend who you trusted and then he/she one day start ignoring you.
It hits different when you just want to be friendly or start a conversation and they just exclude you to the conversation all the way and walk out..
This is the story of my life except at the end when she actually made a friend. Man I feel like such a failure in life.
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SChome100
No your not trust me you’ll find a group of friends one day
Same
SChome100 same here
If this is true I'm really sorry, you'll get through this
I'm such an outsider and it's so soul crushing and I hate that about me :(
røs Tyler and Josh love u. U’ll be fine❤️
I got you. I love you. You’re too precious to hate yourself 💖 love myself, love yourself. You deserve the world even when you feel like disappearing. You’re amazing. Don’t try to blend in if you were made to stand out. Reach for the stars and one day you’ll make it. 💜 Don’t let anything stop you.
You’re not alone I’m an outsider too
you dont have to be an outsider in the clique we are your family ☺ come hang out
I know that feeling
I've never related to a short film more in my entire life.
Making plans right in front of someone you’re not inviting is one of the meanest thing I could think of