I so get this- when I tell people going outside to any event makes me so tired- they're like "Oh, maybe you should eat more vegetables or something- this isn't a personality thing" ,but it's like NO BRO being around a lot of people for a long time is freaking exhausting because I can't stop thinking about everything that's going on around me 😂😂
If vegetables were the fix my life outside my cozy chair would be amazing! I dont think the veg is working....more kale maybe? Coconut oil? Maybe an essential oil roller? Oh wait, we are made this way
I hate when people tell me that I'm quiet. I'm only quiet because I don't think we are on the same wavelength and I don't think we are going to have a very intellectually stimulating conversation right now!
Ha! I don't know if our brain is slow, but certainly the connection from brain to mouth in terms of forming thoughts can slow to a crawl! Thank you for commenting!
I had no idea what "category" I was untill recent that non categorisation was what allowed me to grow, without knowing where the end or "roof" is Where I'm going with this is that the ability to bridge brain to words, I call it the highway, and when we work on ourself and feel the flow we open new lanes and as we observe this freeing of the highway we can work through "slow brain" and realise how to maximize what we have, and in no way is it an inadequate mind 😂 Mushrooms fast track this self seeing and self observation, but that is just my experience 🤙 Thankyou for this video and allowing us to read you, great to see another complex lifeform ✌️👍 Point of the story we are not slow 😂 quite the opposite!
Uani P, I don't think I'm an INFJ, although I have most of the qualities of one... deep conversations are still my favorite kind of conversations. I find that a lot of people aren't ready for, or don't gravitate to such deep conversations. And that's okay. I don't expect everyone to think and feel the way I do 😉.
The day that I discovered what an INFJ is and that I am one, I cried. Someone finally gave me a permission slip to be who I really am. It was life changing, and the beginning of genuine spiritual awakening. That happened two years ago, I am now 66. Thank you for this great video. It will be a real help to many people.
Mate, I wish CZcams would allow me to give this a heart rather than just a mere thumbs up. I'm right where you were two years ago (plus the ten months ago you made the comment, of course). Nearly forty nine and finally I get to not feel so guilty merely for being who I am. And SOOOOOOOOO many comments up here from other people who've recently made their own similar discovery and experienced exactly that same sense of relief at the point of 'self-realisation'. I think part of the problem is that this 'industrialised' society only really truly caters for the mode average type of personality - the cookie cutter type, or the average Joe. Don't fit that mould and you're always gonna feel like you're standing on the outside with your nose pressed up against the window, looking in on a really cool party where you didn't get an invite. When I clicked on that first INFJ related clip that made it though on my CZcams feed, it was as though I'd been stumbling and grasping around in the dark all my life for answers as to why I've always felt like a square peg in a round hole ......... and then somebody handed me a REALLY powerful set of night vision goggles.
In highschool I once told a friend (ENFP) I felt awkward how people would just stare blankly at me while I talked sometimes, thinking there was something seriously weird/wrong with me, and she said “it’s because they have no idea what you’re talking about and it completely went over their heads.” XD
INFJ are Casper The Friendly Ghost 👻 We’re so friendly in our extroverted moments, but when people want to feed off that energy we switch over to introverts. Ghosting everyone, is our super powers 👻👻👻😂
Yep...after doing all I can to make relationship work...if not needed, there's no reason to hang around! You will not be able to find me. I have to erase everything.
It’s true that we hate small talks but we don’t like to just jump in and talk about intimate stuff. We are pretty private . We need to be comfortable that we can trust that person to talk about these kind of intimate stuff.
I want to hear everything about you,what’s important to you, what you love and hate, what makes you you. But I’m not telling anything about me. Also, I find people telling me their life stories with minutes of meeting me even if I’ve told them nothing about me.
I talk on a highly personal level very easily but if people took the time to analyse what I share (which they don't) they'd realise I dont say anything I'd be overly sensitive about if it wasnt well received
Girl I seriously wow just yeah hahahs same thing happened with me. I wanted to help this person and help fix their issues and it was emotionally and physically a train wreck one right after another ya know
@@flouncymagoo9766 A lot of reading to understand how my head works, and a lot of honesty in dealing with it. For assertiveness, I've been a martial artist for most of my adult life, and that comes with a measure of practical problem solving, managing people and situations, and having to see things very clearly and objectively. That has helped a great deal.
@@DavidBadurina we in the spiritual world call that "shadow work" self reflection and research on why you are the way you are and being brutally honest with yourself so can accept it work on it change it and better yourself with the knowledge you've gained
Me: I'm an INFJ it's totally cool 👍 Me a second later: It's totally not cool 😭 Me: Talk to me about anything I'll listen Also me: Oooh no don't talk to me about that Friend: I've bought new shoes Me: That's nice (thinking: I wonder why she has that need to always buy stuff...must be something missing in her life...maybe it has to do with her father being away all the time when she was little 🤔) Friend: Are you listening? It looks like you're thinking about something else Me: Ooo yes I'm LISTENING 😁😁😁
@go away 明 that's the fun part of it. Imagine doing your favourite activity, it's draining but in a good way and you enjoy doing it. :) It's just that all of us have different preferences. Adding a new philosophy or thinking about a concept takes alot of time and if I have another person to bounce ideas with(talk with), it's more efficient and helps alot. Both in short term and long term because in my case, I tend to reflect upon that conversation for some time until I get everything out of it.
I dont know why people I just met , they told about their life stories like they knew me before and like I was their closest friend.. I’m between care and don’t really care about their stories tho.
It happens to me all the time! I don't know if it's just being a warm/welcoming person or if there really are people with zero sense of societal boundaries out there? I'm very grateful someone is that trusting of me, and I'm very careful with it, but I can usually detect if there's an ulterior motive going on. Those are the ones I'm a bit shorter with. Thank you for watching and commenting!
It's your intuitiveness and your introvertness which is a calming to the talking.. the j for problem solving will happen later in the interaction.. example you: Susy long time no see Suzy: not much just my daughter is driving me nuts You: How so.. what happened Susy?{as you put your arm over her shoulder} (Suzy will open up because of your eagerness to learn what was bothering her.. the calming vibes that you sent her.. and the intimate conversation you had with her... basically your IN of INFJ) Introvert will be more calming with not having as high energy Extrovert would be more hyper friendly and caring but might be perceived not as calming
Lol same goes to me, they tell me their private stories 😂😂😂 and i get confused since they barely even know me, yet they choose to talk to me about things they only tell a close friend
So, this past year I started treating my eating disorder. My therapist was like “you feel a lot of stuff all the time” and she prompted me to take a personality test. It resulted with the label of INFJ. It helped me treat my ED because I finally understood how I worked. No one in my family is like me, and none of them are super deep. I finally understood why people said I was hard to approach. I want an authentic view to life and constant self- improvement led to not only extreme self criticism, but also unresolved conflict in my family and friendships because I didn’t want to contribute to the chaos. This created, as you can imagine, a mental and emotional disaster. Slowly, I am improving and steadily practicing my functions and putting in the good aspects of my personality to pursue people and things in my life that make me feel happy and motivated! Happy INFJing everyone. :)
Most infj talk in your manner 😂 not really sure how to explain it, but after seeing many videos by infj, you all talk in similar manner, soft & trying to make sure the words that come out make sense I guess?? 😅😄
We are often way better at communicating in written word as opposed to spoken. It has a lot to do with our cognitive process as INFJs and wanting the words to come out JUST RIGHT. Very observant! :-)
@@DavidBadurina Yes. It can drive me crazy. Just imagine how my partner must feel, except I suspect he is one as well with a few other descriptors. Oh God!!!!#
My wife is an ESFJ and when she starts talking about what is or what happened, my eyes glass over and I start thinking about what if energy had a negative mass and I discover dark energy when I google negative mass of energy. She’s still telling what she bought to wear and I say that’s wonderful dear. Meanwhile I’ve discovered something that will keep me occupied for the next three months.
RIGHT?! Omg it’s like me and my mother... I’m all (I’m going into film) “wow this movie I just watched really says something about human nature and the references to such and such classical philosophy was so fascinating if a little shallow...” and she’s like “so I saw this cute dog today...” It.... can be aggravating when you’re unraveling the mysteries of the universe in your head and your conversation partner is interrupting your thoughts to talk about shoes :|.
@@RamonGoudeauDoneX2 Just enjoy the strengths of their personality! I find ESFJs to be pretty grounding for me. They're very good at living in the present moment, let that happen from time to time, it'll help you!
Today at work there were just too many people on the shift trying to engage me in some game they were playing on their phones and I started to think about how many stars there are in the universe and if there is an end to them but how can they be infinite? Or maybe they are? How do we know unless we measure them? But we can't! Oh, I think I just got sidetracked...why was I posting this again?
...and once it clicks, "that person had a bad day", that person becomes the most important person in the room Because 'I want to help solve (the puzzle)'. You've explained it more clearly than I've ever heard before.
I talk with people and they say wow you're so extroverted, but then I can't bear them anymore, I fee like they take too much of my time and I can't reflect anymore and I leave them. And then they are all disappointed saying you isolate yourself. Curse of the INFJ.
INFJ makes sense to me. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who sees what is going on at work. I hate small talk. I do take care of myself because work is sometimes stressful and I take care of my son who has CP. I'm older and wiser now.
What really helped me w/small talk was being told people are using whatever they see in common w/you to start building a connection. Once I viewed it as relational, I felt freer to find less common commonalities & stop being so bored :)
Even though we seem like aliens, we are the natural therapists and counselors in the world. We can help someone grow without them knowing it. We relate, ground and calm people. We teach them to see themselves and feel things differently. We help them to understand themselves. We are the human interpreters of the world. Our job is to help those around us grow in kindness and love. To lead by example and to show love and kindness. We are natural leaders behind the scenes that keep things going. The key is to understand we are different but we are very special and very much needed in this world. Not every conversation has to be deep, sometimes we need to keep things light and fun. It's important to push outside our inner world and not always take ourselves so seriously. If we learn from those around us it can makes our own lives more enriched and balanced.
@@DavidBadurina No worries! I'm just doing what we infjs do! 😁 I did just think of something else that I have come to understand. Because we are so deep and intense, it can be very overwhelming for us sometimes. That's why it is so important to relax and not get so deep all of the time. Besides, we can intuitively read people, which means that we can learn all kinds of skills and abilities from people and that can greatly benefit us! So my hubby is an enfp and not as emotional as me but I need his calmness and logic to balance me out. Also, if our natural traits were more of the norm, how sucky would that be? I love that I can read people, I just choose not to do it all the time to give my brain some me time! Hopefully this makes sense! Just be sure to focus on yourself, it's exhausting and soul draining to constantly try to help or read people all the time. Knowing when to shut that off takes time but it allows you to learn to live in the moment and enjoy it.
"..natural theraphists and counselor.. " yeah, finally i understand why people share their deepest thought or experience that they won't share with others, even though we are not even close or just an acquaintance. I do keep secret well, but sometimes i just don't understand why to they keep telling me their secret/ problems when i never curious to ask. I think after i understand better about my personality, it might be because INFJ person is really have deep thought and empathy, so people really do feel comfort when sharing their secret/ problems with us. It can be overwhelming sometimes though.
All resonates with me - this is why I am single, pubs freak me out, clubs freak me out, multiple conversation assaulting my ears freaks me out so yes, I too feel like an alien - thank god for my spiritual work and my deep connection with the universe. Now, where did I park my spaceship? Hmmm...
Ever since I discovered the INFJ and the MBTI, I have found many INFJ's around me and a very common trait is that we all have stopped aging at 25, and aging does not resume until the 60s, though truth be told we are now ascending into an age of gold, where technology has made aging a personal choice and if you so choose you will never grow old. INFJ's are just ahead of the curve.
Telemahos Telemahou The perfect fit is the one you have. Please don’t second guess your marriage because of a theory. In the end, you are your own person, and she is hers. A typology theory didn’t choose you, you two chose each other.
So true! I always feel that there’s something wrong in some situations or with people but I have a difficult time to understand why, I just feel it. So sometimes I need time alone to unravel all the stuff and see a clearer picture of it
OMG! 60 years old and finally I have found my people. I truly started laughing not at you, but because of the relief of YES YES YES. I swear it feels like someone with 3 noses who finally finds another person with three noses. If I didn't take that psych test on a whim and not learned that I came out INFJ, not realized its so rare, and not found your channel I probably would have just lived a life as an oddity with 3 noses. Thank you. Seriously, thank you.
We all have 3 noses here! 😂👃👃👃 We just affectionately refer to ourselves as fellow aliens. 👽 Glad to have you here, it’s never too late to discover and improve!
I knew my coworker was pregnant before she announced it. She gets a kick out my intuition. She said, "I knew you knew bc right before I said it you smiled." Her time off and appts and energy and attitude and everything tipped me off when no one else noticed a thing.
I was thousands of mikes away (in a different country) and I knew my grandmother died before anyone told me. Even stranger, I knew months before that she was going to die soon even before anyone knew she was sick (also I was still in a different country).
Good video. I agree with everything you said pretty much. I just want to add that sometimes the not taking care of ourselves can become a serious issue if we are dealing with depression. I have gone through some serious depression where I've neglected caring about the clothes I wear, forgotten to eat, missed taking showers/baths for a couple of weeks or worse (aside from spit baths for stinky areas of course), not shaving my legs for months--especially in winter lol, and so forth. I didn't go to the doctor (of any kind) for years even though I know I need to have regular checkups on eyes, teeth, and all other areas. Yet I'm the first person to tell others they should go to the Dr for something. The more I sink into a depression the less I want to be around anyone else at all. I hide in my own head when I'm around others because I feel like people don't really get me and are constantly misunderstanding everything I say and do, which is very frustrating. In my head I know none of this is healthy, but it's easy to get stuck here. FYI, please don't worry about me. I am doing much better these days through counseling and spending time with God, but I wanted to leave this post for others who might be having these kind of issues as a reminder that you are not alone and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And part of it starts with giving yourself permission to love yourself and take care of YOU. Blessings! I hope this helps my fellow INFJs who are each beautifully and wonderfully unique and individual creations of God.
I’m about to turn 49 and I feel like I’m finally coming in to my own, so to speak and being ok with who I am. I have recently lost loved ones, and friends because I’m at a point that I can not tolerate shallow and fake relationships, and they couldn’t handle my honesty about it. This of course is torchering me and yet freeing me at the same time! I want to both let go of those toxic people but yet fix the brokenness.
This is SUCH a feeling! I'm so sorry that you've experienced that loss because it's so hard on so many levels. I get that. And the constant contradiction (wanting to fix, wanting to be free or can't tolerate the fake but they can't handle the truth of it) is SUCH a mood. I understand this on such a deep level. Be strong and be you. I appreciate you!
My friend, out of the hundreds if INFJ videos I’ve come across, I feel you are probably the only one that truly is who you say you are. Awesome mind dump. Thoroughly enjoyed it.
I'm 70 years old and female, a writer and INFJ and I now have my best way to describe who I am because of this authentic video! We do feel alien. The brain won't stop functioning even if we haven't discovered where to place that word or concept or puzzle piece but the JOY when it gets laid down!
As an infj you need to sometimes self reflect on yourself instead of trying to read other people all the time.... You get so deep into other people's minds and everything and usually we don't really see the missing piece of the puzzle... You have to love yourself and for that you have to be in full self awareness and accept yourself the way you are... It's a curse to live in this society as an infj but it's a blessing when you say and realize that YOU LOVE YOURSELF.... Took me alot of years to get there... My life isn't perfect and never will be but it is who i am and if i don't love me then you'll never be satisfied with anyone
Maybe INFJs should all live on an island together. It would be great. Everyone caring about everyone else. :-) Do you think INFJs should have relationships/marry other INFJs?
No, I think we would be too much.Probably that’s why there are so few of us. My hubby is the opposite of me (don’t know his type) it can be very refreshing to see that he doesn’t consume himself with all the feels in the world. I don’t have to read him because his energy is quit stable and I like it but I also wish he could understand me more when I’m spiraling away into destructiveness
I had a first date last week with a younger man. We clicked because he is an introvert like me. I asked him to take the 16 personalities test and he obliged cause he’s cool like that and he showed as an INFJ-T. I did a little happy dance. I think it is a great attribute to at least have your starting letter as I (not E).
Lmbo! Ive referred to myself as an alien plenty of times, it seems an accurate comparison to how I feel in relation to other humans walkin around, frickin hilarious man, thank you for that one.
I remember specific conversations for months. I analyze it over and over. I recall faux-pas like some turrets fit. I am content alone and distressed in a crowd. I hate small talk, because I can feel it’s surface garbage. No real interest behind it, just filling the silence. I love the silence.
Aloha my alien infj family, lovely to know the universe and everything good and holy is guiding all of us to find each other and come together for a great cause. LETS SAVE THE WORLD! right, much love to you all
I actually like sports! It’s something to do with friends/family when I’m watching and when I’m REALLY into it it’s one of the ONLY ways to shut my stupid brain off. Granted, I was raised on college football because my dad played for the UW huskies (and briefly for the Philadelphia Eagles) and my younger sister was a damned athletic wunderkind (she got all the talent) so I’m a bit biased, ha ha. I also used to play team sports when I was younger but I’ve come to realize I do better in individual activities where dedication and focus (and no having to deal with -other humans- in a semi-intimate situation) are a major factor. Things like fencing, archery, and even yoga. It’s also nice to engage in Se in a healthy way and again, to shut your damned brain off! All that being said, I couldn’t care less about the POLITICS of sports, ha ha. It’s basically jock gossip, lol. Edit: there are actually a higher number of INFJ athletes in individual sports than you might think :)
Omg this is one of the most relatable INFJ videos I’ve ever seen. I myself have used the term “alien” before (hell, in a letter applying to colleges I once wrote a manual for how to fit in with human society from the perspective of a race from a worldbuilding project I was working on!) and it’s not so much a “wow I’m so special uwu!” it’s a “wow I’m so weird, WHY am I so weird?! Why can’t I be normal???” Man, the hating small talk? Other people have described it before but not in such specific detail. My GOD me feeling like I’m watching paint dry when my ESFJ mom talks about shopping for boots makes SO much sense now! Lol I love the “formative moment of your life” conversation thing XD. If only it were that easy! I also relate to the “extroverted introvert” because I worked in retail for ten years and I could put up a cheerful, happy, extroverted front for while I was at work, but as soon as I got home I turned into a prickly hermit. Also, I’ve never heard anyone describe our mental thought processes like you did. I’ve been struggling SO hard to explain what it’s like for YEARS (I’ve used analogies like “a nebula where I can zoom in or out and navigate where each cluster is a thought” or “constantly shifting four dimensional rubix cube... or multiple rubix cubes”) and it’s been a source of massive amounts of frustration being unable to feel like what I’m saying is “landing.” It’s a pretty lonely existence, being this different-it’s sort of like living on a cold, distant planet sending signals into space hoping for someone, ANYONE, to pick up, and it turns out you’re not even using the same communication technology as anyone else. Anyway, yes, I’m definitely showing that ESFJ mother of mine this video, and it is so, SO refreshing (and a bit startling) to hear what I’ve never heard articulated outside my own thought processes from another person. Suddenly I don’t feel so alone anymore, that I might have finally picked up a signal on my dark, cold rock. Thank you, sir! :)
Thank YOU for this fantastic comment! I'm so thrilled it resonated with you! My partner is an ESFJ so ... yeah. OMG yeah. I appreciate you! Thank you so much for watching!
I definitely think that's part of it, but that's true of most people. Experience helps no matter what and to gain wisdom you have to go through some things, particularly adversity. It's not just for INFJs, that's for anyone. For INFJs, we often have a hard time because of our desire to fix people/situations.
I have Mercury in Pisces in the 12th house, and let me tell you, it looks like I have bad memory. Sometimes I even think I do. But it's just that only visuals and emotionally tied informations will stay with me. The rest falls into my unconscious lol.
I treasure those rare one-on-one connections. A good coffee & meaningful conversation helps me feel a little more human...and provides sustenance to keep going.
"sitting down with a friend having a meaningful conversation"... You nailed it! David, you are a man after my own heart! I would love to sit down with you. I'm in Yakima, WA.
I always tell people my life/and brain is like a kaleidoscope, always moving and changing, always reading people, and situations, I tell people “sometimes I just know things” this video explains it perfectly
I found two of your videos while crying at 2 am because two of my friends are sending weird texts or leave me at read and it made me doubt myself. It feels so good to see that I'm not alone. I feel understood. 10 minutes ago I was saying "i hate my personality" thanks for changing my mind tonight
I’ve always thought that I automatically assess ppl bc I’m a nurse; then I’ve realized that I’m a nurse bc it was always easy for me to assess ppl; and these other INFJ healer concepts...but boy is it draining!
I'm an INFJ and i just like how you are through all the video, you start so introverted then the more you speak the more you get energetic from the subject you speak.
Disclaimer: I’m an INFJ as well and have done the test over and over again on different platforms. I’m not sure why people like to “glorify” our type like we are some sort of mutants. Lol our letters are just slightly different just like any others 16 personalities who are also unique. The fact that science says that we are the “rarest” might get a little too much into the head of some. Nobody cares except for us, like we are trying to find self validation with old psychology where it has been proven that the big 5 is the most accurate personality test. You are unique, so is the rest of the world. There’s always something special about each one of us. It is a little hard for us the blend in, I get it, but I believe as your grow comfortable in your skin things get a little easier and that not just true for INFJ. Brief, Psychology can’t give you the validation and self-acceptance that you need to give to yourself. Learning about yourself is a great step when you want to grow comfortable in your skin, however don’t get stuck in the “omg I’m so rare, nobody gets me” petty party. Common, you can still live a great life and make great contributions just like millions of INFJ before you have done. Let stop making this a big deal for real 🤷🏽♀️
Words well said! There's so much more to an individual than just the "INFJ", but there are a lot of commonalities between how we process and perceive the world. I think that commonality has us gravitating toward INFJ self-growth. We are ALL individuals and human but finding any bit of common ground is sorely needed these days, I think! Thank you so much for commenting!
Thank you, I don't know either why to glorify this " type " of personality I obviously have. I simply don't get it. It is one thing to be openminded and sensibel, but I don't like the way I am categorized, ..Tests everywhere, I even went to a psychiatrist, he subscribed Ritalin/ methamphetamin( I don't know the correct english word for it..😝) And I joined a group, unfortunately that was simply an attempt for those people to glorify themselves. I wish you all the best , thank you for your post😇
This is my first time here and I feel like I just found my long-lost tribe! I'm subbing, following and probably bingeing. LOL. I'm so happy to meet you! 😊
Reading comments from INFJs makes me realize it’s not that I don’t like people or having friends, I just find it near-impossible to meet people I align with. Here, I feel like I found my species. 😭
I used to work with children, when I got home from work I would lock myself in my room and play the piano for a few hours to release all the feelings I had soaked up all day with the kids and other workers.
New Alien Sub here :) I remember as a kid that my mother would take me to the supermarket with her to try to teach me how to "small talk" with people. lol ... she was concerned and scared because when I was about 4, I started asking "when my people were coming back for me?" She thought I would never fit in, and she was right!!! Now I celebrate the difference, and as a portrait artist, this intense empath/INFJ energy has become a the greatest gift, no doubt just like your writing has! I so identify with these 3 helpful tips you have shared, and look forward to more of your videos!
Aww welcome Libby! Thank you and so glad to have you here as part of the tribe! I'm so glad this video resonated with you! I hope you enjoy many of the others!
OH TOTALLY! The number of times that I finished your sentences for you... your description of what happens when someone walks into the room and "something isn't right" is just perfect. Thankfully, my hubby no longer tries to get me to explain the plethora of minute and subtle details that led to that. "But you can't be an introvert - you love people too much!" Of course, I do! But I find them exhausting, especially when they want to talk about their weekend plans or their garden. (Unless they planted roses because that was their mum's favourite flower and they are struggling with grieving for her, in which case they are still exhausting but the exhaustion is worth it). I don't think people realise that the more people there are, the exponentially greater the permutation of possibilities/more complex the web of interacting factors and therefore the more tiring it is to process it all. THANK YOU so much for sharing this so eloquently. I see your INFJ across the world and I salute you, brother! I'm going to stop overthinking it and go and make my family watch this video.
Zoe! This is glorious! Thank you so much for the kind words and for commenting and sharing! I see you right back, and cheers! Tell the fam I said hi, and I hope it resonates with them as well! Best to you all!
Also thank you for being so real about how exhausting it is to extrovert. Ive heard people say it’s tiring....it’s so beyond. “My brain slides out of my head” is a great analogy
Im an introvert but own a salon so i can be extroverted but it is exhausting and when i get home i just want to put my comfy clothes on and not be bothered by people but my husband is a hyper extrovert that loves people(any and all people😖) he doesnt get me at all and likes having his dumb user cousins over so i bought myself a $10,000 camper as a she shed to escape company that i dont want! Its working out great i love it sooo much its the best thing ive ever bought i call it my dipshit free zone and even have a f*** off garden flag in front of it lol. I dont feel like im an alien at all but i think my husband does he always says that i hate everybody lol
When I was called into the principal’s office, you can imagine what my mind was doing. I was analyzing EVERYTHING (at top speed) and I determined it was their fault instead of mine : )
Elfen41 you know, it’s interesting that you use the term “surface dwellers” because it reminds me of an analogy I’ve made before to describe my experience vs that of other people (and I bring it up because I think you and other INFJ’s will relate to it). What I came up with is the image of a sunny beach next to a deep, fathomless sea. The beach I conceptualized as relating to casual living, surface-level emotions, taking only superficial interest in things, etc. Dull, flat, boring (I’m also not a fan of the sun). I’m biased but BLECH. The sea, on the other hand, is where the mysteries are, the darkness, the intensity so many people find “weird” or “too much,” obsessive interest, the source of artistic inspiration, the private and sometimes murky and dangerous recesses of the innermost psyche... you know, light stuff like that, lol. Now applying this metaphor to real people, someone like my mother (ESFJ) would spend most of her day on the beach, hanging out, sunning herself, basically just... not doing anything interesting (to me). She might dip her toes in but the water is “too cold” or “dark and scary” (and why would anyone want to be in there? It’s so dark and darkness is bad!). My sister (for what it’s worth, she’s an ENFJ) can fit pretty comfortably in both worlds. Me (and other INFJ’s?) though? I’m like a selkie, lol. If you’re unfamiliar with selkies, they’re mythical creatures from Irish folklore that live their lives in the sea as seals, but have the ability to shed their skin and transform into humans and come onto dry land (but their true home is in the water and they’ll pine for the sea until they can return to it). It’s.... a pretty melodramatic metaphor and I’m kind of loathe to compare us to magical creatures because lord knows we get enough of THAT, but it just fit with the nature of an INFJ, a person whose “habitat” is considered unusual and unknown and “weird” to outsiders. Of course, this strongly reflects how I was treated as a kid growing up (yup, alien-or freak) and I don’t pretend to deny that I don’t have some pretty deep-seated resentment toward the “normies,” but hopefully you might get a kick out of this anyway :).
Oh my gosh, that's so funny and too true! I was always saying to my daughter "Humans seem to do this..." Or "Humans seem to do that..." One day she goes "Mom, you know you're human too right?" I couldn't identify. I was like "Well, technically, that is true... But overall, no." 😆 lol.
I love my my mom and my sister, and desperately want to connect with them. It's so difficult, especially with my sister, all they talk about is what happened at work and this person or that person, like I'm supposed to know or care who they are, what happened with the dogs, this tv show, blah blah blah blah omg...WHYYYYY!!?? I have to excuse myself to the "bathroom" just to get away from this hell!
Me finding out that I'm INFJ through a personality test was the best thing happened in my life so far, coz it answered so many questions I had because I was wondering why I am like this.
Lol I have this classmate, he used to be very joyful sometimes too joyful that it’s annoying cuz he hugged everyone around him but now he’s quiet and kind. Then I said to my friends:”remember when he was happy?” And now my friends think I’m too deep. :’))
As an INFJ I find it hard to keep new friendships because I’ll find a new friend or group of friends, and we will hang out, but then I’m so exhausted from extroverting after we hang that I need a break for a while before I hang out with them again. It isn’t because I didn’t have fun or I didn’t like the new friends, it’s because I just need some alone time to recharge before going out again. So, new friends stop asking me to hang out because they think I’m no longer interested. It’s something I really struggle with!
Hi Maddie - I experience this too! I usually let people know that I'm someone who needs some quiet time and I'd LOVE to hang out just can't do it frequently. To help them understand I value them, I try to hang out in small groups, one-on-one more often, or ask them to schedule a hang out day for the following week or what have you, and to help me, I try to control how much of that time I spend out and about. There's a super happy medium where you can value them and their time, and conduct yourself so you are still not overstimulated. You can do it! Find the balance!
Your videos do help. Sometimes, I forget that I am an INFJ and wonder why I am struggling. Then, I remember! I'm an alien! Returning to your videos gives me a toehold in this old world. Thank you! You are so right. Sitting down with one other person and having a meaningful conversation...that is time well spent. Its what we're good at.
loved this video, this was great... not many of us INFJ males around, so very nice to see another alien. This video confirms that we are all so exactly alike!
I have had to reorient my brain to think about the concept of small talk as a way to breach the surface to get deeper in conversations with people. I hate it, but if I think of it as a tool to eventually talk about what I think is truly valuable and interesting then it helps 😊♥️
I agree with that, it's hard to dive straight into deep stuff because I need to get a feel for the other person as well. If they're more interested in talking about their favorite hand cream, I typically avoid probing deeper. :-)
I found this wonderfully relieving. Not sure really what INFJ is, but it made sense to me on a deep level most people have never approached. I say this to encourage you - it takes a deep understanding and inner strength to cut to the heart of a thing that is yourself. Bravo sir! My hat off to you.
I feel detached in everyday social interaction because people often misjudge me as weird and out of the context. I have never felt so understood. Thanks.. New subscriber here💜
We are people who put together puzzles! Amen! I often tell people I’m not being nosy. I genuinely am interested and want to know what you’re thinking. This is me trying to figure out the puzzle and putting it together. Oh My!
Even on FB, I find myself more drawn to the ‘deep, heartfelt stuff’ so tend to spend more time and comment or ‘like/love’. I skip quickly over the silly stuff I consider to be ‘shallow or mindless,’ or abrasive and have even unfriended or blocked people who post ‘nothing burgers’ with no ‘meat.’ Life, whether observed or engaged in, needs to have meaning for me to have fun and feel ‘interested and alive’. I feel this is a curse, and like he said, exhausting sometimes because you expect so much out of yourself and others.
I wouldn't consider it a curse, to be honest. It's just a cognitive preference (if that's a thing). I vastly prefer it as well but as INFJs to function in the real world we have to learn the techniques of starting off with the small stuff and getting in to the deep stuff. When it's ALL superficial (OMG DID YOU SEE THOSE CELEB BABY PICTURES!?) then I just need to ... not.
Up till today I didn't know that I was an INFJ, and used to think why my brain is so fucked up. Now I do it's the brain wiring. Thanks for telling about introverted intuition.
Newly founded INFJ here :) Thank you for your insight and knowledge. "Don't want to go out there, it's too peopley out there" LoL I have watched some of your other videos too .Awesome! Grateful. It's a very nice thing to find out personality. I knew I was different as a kid, highly misunderstood. 5 years ago I found that I am an HSP/Empath~ Indigo. So yeah we are highly unique, weird & different. Thanks again. Have a great day!
I'm an INFJ- T Aquarius. I'm either an alien or god and now I've finally come home.... thank youuuuu loads. I've been alone in a crowd of shallow junk humans..and cursed myself for not fitting in. My parents never understood me. Thank you for being here.
I totally understand where you are coming from, I feel like an alien, my family thinks I am a weirdo, but my grand-daughter who is 15 years old gets it, because she is an INFJ like me, she says to me, "Nanna, lets talk deep stuff" when I am around a crowd of people for a while, I come home feeling like a zombie, like the life and emotions are sucked right out of me. I notice everything and feel everything and you can't shut it off. Can you recommend any good books on the subject of INFJ personalities? Thanks for your informative video.
I used to have fabulously deep conversations with my parents, but mum's passed away and dad's mind doesn't have the energy anymore. Family gets antsy and squeamish in case things go south or an uncomfortable subject comes up...so I stop and conform. It's a very lonely place.
DUDE... just discovered your channel. I’m an INFJ and aspiring writer too. I love your videos and find them to be very helpful and entertaining. Please keep up the great work buddy!!
I so get this- when I tell people going outside to any event makes me so tired- they're like "Oh, maybe you should eat more vegetables or something- this isn't a personality thing" ,but it's like NO BRO being around a lot of people for a long time is freaking exhausting because I can't stop thinking about everything that's going on around me 😂😂
Haha if only vegetables would work! :-)
😂😂🤣
Totally agree. "You all just sucked out my energy like vampires!"
Stimuli overload
If vegetables were the fix my life outside my cozy chair would be amazing! I dont think the veg is working....more kale maybe? Coconut oil? Maybe an essential oil roller? Oh wait, we are made this way
I hate when people tell me that I'm quiet. I'm only quiet because I don't think we are on the same wavelength and I don't think we are going to have a very intellectually stimulating conversation right now!
Nothing wrong with that! When you have to recharge, you have to! You end up better for it!
Preachhhhh !
In times like those, I get asked if something is wrong or if I'm OK.
Lololol I also use that word - wavelength.
I just say, "yes." or Smile and nod. It really annoys them...
I found my people and I feel like crying
That's such a great feeling!
Amen
💜🙌🙌💜
It is good to find your tribe.
Same!
1. We are walking contradiction
2. The most noisy introverts
2. We got a slow but a very good 🧠!
Ha! I don't know if our brain is slow, but certainly the connection from brain to mouth in terms of forming thoughts can slow to a crawl! Thank you for commenting!
I had no idea what "category" I was untill recent that non categorisation was what allowed me to grow, without knowing where the end or "roof" is
Where I'm going with this is that the ability to bridge brain to words, I call it the highway, and when we work on ourself and feel the flow we open new lanes and as we observe this freeing of the highway we can work through "slow brain" and realise how to maximize what we have, and in no way is it an inadequate mind 😂
Mushrooms fast track this self seeing and self observation, but that is just my experience 🤙
Thankyou for this video and allowing us to read you, great to see another complex lifeform ✌️👍
Point of the story we are not slow 😂 quite the opposite!
@@DavidBadurina YES YES !!
True indeed
My brains as fast as light,very difficult to slow down !!
Us INFJs love deep convo but it seems like everyone else don't lol....
It's a thing, not gonna lie!
OMG Right!!!
Uani P, I don't think I'm an INFJ, although I have most of the qualities of one... deep conversations are still my favorite kind of conversations. I find that a lot of people aren't ready for, or don't gravitate to such deep conversations. And that's okay. I don't expect everyone to think and feel the way I do 😉.
Find yourself an ENFP that can read.
i know right !!!
The day that I discovered what an INFJ is and that I am one, I cried. Someone finally gave me a permission slip to be who I really am. It was life changing, and the beginning of genuine spiritual awakening. That happened two years ago, I am now 66.
Thank you for this great video. It will be a real help to many people.
Thank you Jeff, I appreciate you! Happy for you!
I found out a bit later too Jeff, welcome to the Club! Only the awakened admitted lol
I cried too
Mate, I wish CZcams would allow me to give this a heart rather than just a mere thumbs up. I'm right where you were two years ago (plus the ten months ago you made the comment, of course). Nearly forty nine and finally I get to not feel so guilty merely for being who I am. And SOOOOOOOOO many comments up here from other people who've recently made their own similar discovery and experienced exactly that same sense of relief at the point of 'self-realisation'. I think part of the problem is that this 'industrialised' society only really truly caters for the mode average type of personality - the cookie cutter type, or the average Joe. Don't fit that mould and you're always gonna feel like you're standing on the outside with your nose pressed up against the window, looking in on a really cool party where you didn't get an invite. When I clicked on that first INFJ related clip that made it though on my CZcams feed, it was as though I'd been stumbling and grasping around in the dark all my life for answers as to why I've always felt like a square peg in a round hole ......... and then somebody handed me a REALLY powerful set of night vision goggles.
😘
We are not screwed up...The world is.
Thank you for understanding
amen
The whole world is crazy
Don't watch the news. :-)
Says the minority always.
I had a friend tell me that what I was saying was to deep and she just wanted to have fun right now and I thought but I was just talking🤷🏼♀️
That happens! We go for the deep conversation!
😆yep!
*hugs* i know how you feel man
lol so true
In highschool I once told a friend (ENFP) I felt awkward how people would just stare blankly at me while I talked sometimes, thinking there was something seriously weird/wrong with me, and she said “it’s because they have no idea what you’re talking about and it completely went over their heads.” XD
INFJ are Casper The Friendly Ghost 👻
We’re so friendly in our extroverted moments, but when people want to feed off that energy we switch over to introverts. Ghosting everyone, is our super powers 👻👻👻😂
Ha! Great analogy!
Yep...after doing all I can to make relationship work...if not needed, there's no reason to hang around! You will not be able to find me. I have to erase everything.
😣 yes especially narcissists an self haters
@@veramariecano289 THIS sadly people don’t realize this about us until it’s too late. Door slam. Permanently.
YESSS!!!
It’s true that we hate small talks but we don’t like to just jump in and talk about intimate stuff. We are pretty private . We need to be comfortable that we can trust that person to talk about these kind of intimate stuff.
That is definitely true. But as soon as I'm a liiiiiittle comfy, gimme the deep stuff!
So TRUE!
I want to hear everything about you,what’s important to you, what you love and hate, what makes you you. But I’m not telling anything about me. Also, I find people telling me their life stories with minutes of meeting me even if I’ve told them nothing about me.
I talk on a highly personal level very easily but if people took the time to analyse what I share (which they don't) they'd realise I dont say anything I'd be overly sensitive about if it wasnt well received
Absolutely. I feel odd when someone opens up extremely fast too. I end up questioning their motives
This INFJ wasted her 20’s being manipulated in a toxic relationship - now in my 40’s I can relate to this video 💯 %.
Being an INFJ in your 40s gives you a different type of perspective, I've found.
Girl I seriously wow just yeah hahahs same thing happened with me. I wanted to help this person and help fix their issues and it was emotionally and physically a train wreck one right after another ya know
How did you work on the assertiveness or self care?
@@flouncymagoo9766 A lot of reading to understand how my head works, and a lot of honesty in dealing with it.
For assertiveness, I've been a martial artist for most of my adult life, and that comes with a measure of practical problem solving, managing people and situations, and having to see things very clearly and objectively. That has helped a great deal.
@@DavidBadurina we in the spiritual world call that "shadow work" self reflection and research on why you are the way you are and being brutally honest with yourself so can accept it work on it change it and better yourself with the knowledge you've gained
Me: I'm an INFJ it's totally cool 👍
Me a second later: It's totally not cool 😭
Me: Talk to me about anything I'll listen
Also me: Oooh no don't talk to me about that
Friend: I've bought new shoes
Me: That's nice (thinking: I wonder why she has that need to always buy stuff...must be something missing in her life...maybe it has to do with her father being away all the time when she was little 🤔)
Friend: Are you listening? It looks like you're thinking about something else
Me: Ooo yes I'm LISTENING
😁😁😁
That sounds like a classic INFJ/ESFJ conversation! Haha! Thank you for commenting! Appreciate you hanging out here!
@@DavidBadurina correct 👍😁...thank you for sharing...just found your channel and everything you're talking about is so me...love that 👍
Sums it up!
😂 i can relate because this is so me..
Ha ha ha...Exactly
A cup of coffee and a person to talk meaningful concepts, ideas, feelings and philosophies. Yes, I'd like that too. I agree, it's the best gift ever.
Truth! Thanks for watching!
@go away 明 that's the fun part of it. Imagine doing your favourite activity, it's draining but in a good way and you enjoy doing it. :) It's just that all of us have different preferences. Adding a new philosophy or thinking about a concept takes alot of time and if I have another person to bounce ideas with(talk with), it's more efficient and helps alot. Both in short term and long term because in my case, I tend to reflect upon that conversation for some time until I get everything out of it.
It's a drug...better than chocolate...
When you get back as much as you contribute to a good conversation, it's truly a gift.
Feeling like an alien is very lonely, but it gives me some comfort to know that I'm not totally alone in this fucked up world. Mahalo for the video.
You aren't alone at all! Appreciate you!
We aren’t alone, but heaven forbid we form a group. Nobody would attend because we’d rather be home by ourselves.
@@bettye444 Bettye. You are so RIGHT! Nobody would show !#
Stoney boy Curtis you certainly are not alone
I dont know why people I just met , they told about their life stories like they knew me before and like I was their closest friend.. I’m between care and don’t really care about their stories tho.
It happens to me all the time! I don't know if it's just being a warm/welcoming person or if there really are people with zero sense of societal boundaries out there? I'm very grateful someone is that trusting of me, and I'm very careful with it, but I can usually detect if there's an ulterior motive going on. Those are the ones I'm a bit shorter with. Thank you for watching and commenting!
It's your intuitiveness and your introvertness which is a calming to the talking.. the j for problem solving will happen later in the interaction.. example
you: Susy long time no see
Suzy: not much just my daughter is driving me nuts
You: How so.. what happened Susy?{as you put your arm over her shoulder}
(Suzy will open up because of your eagerness to learn what was bothering her.. the calming vibes that you sent her.. and the intimate conversation you had with her... basically your IN of INFJ)
Introvert will be more calming with not having as high energy
Extrovert would be more hyper friendly and caring but might be perceived not as calming
Correct
Lol same goes to me, they tell me their private stories 😂😂😂 and i get confused since they barely even know me, yet they choose to talk to me about things they only tell a close friend
I rarely understand myself, let alone asking others to get it.
That's the trick right there, Eric! Thanks for watching!
that awkward humor that I relate too much 😅😅😅
Ha! Thank you! Nothing wrong with embracing some weird.
So, this past year I started treating my eating disorder. My therapist was like “you feel a lot of stuff all the time” and she prompted me to take a personality test. It resulted with the label of INFJ. It helped me treat my ED because I finally understood how I worked. No one in my family is like me, and none of them are super deep. I finally understood why people said I was hard to approach. I want an authentic view to life and constant self- improvement led to not only extreme self criticism, but also unresolved conflict in my family and friendships because I didn’t want to contribute to the chaos. This created, as you can imagine, a mental and emotional disaster. Slowly, I am improving and steadily practicing my functions and putting in the good aspects of my personality to pursue people and things in my life that make me feel happy and motivated! Happy INFJing everyone. :)
Happy INFJing right back at you Kaileigh! Thank you so much for sharing this! I appreciate you!
Facts 💯 I'm in the same boat ♡
Most infj talk in your manner 😂 not really sure how to explain it, but after seeing many videos by infj, you all talk in similar manner, soft & trying to make sure the words that come out make sense I guess?? 😅😄
We are often way better at communicating in written word as opposed to spoken. It has a lot to do with our cognitive process as INFJs and wanting the words to come out JUST RIGHT. Very observant! :-)
Its a worldwide video..of cours in evry country theres an INFJ..
Extrovert are million or billion...introverts is just thousands..
Asian Kepler no, we’re billions too
Yes as an INFJ I think so. There are this pattern when we walk. Not exactly the same but something in the way we talk.
Constantly analyzing 🙌🏼
Whether you realize it or not!
@@DavidBadurina Yes. It can drive me crazy. Just imagine how my partner must feel, except I suspect he is one as well with a few other descriptors. Oh God!!!!#
My wife is an ESFJ and when she starts talking about what is or what happened, my eyes glass over and I start thinking about what if energy had a negative mass and I discover dark energy when I google negative mass of energy. She’s still telling what she bought to wear and I say that’s wonderful dear. Meanwhile I’ve discovered something that will keep me occupied for the next three months.
It's ... SO ACCURATE! Hahaha. Thank you for this comment, you made my morning! *runs off to search dark energy and quantum theory*
RIGHT?! Omg it’s like me and my mother... I’m all (I’m going into film) “wow this movie I just watched really says something about human nature and the references to such and such classical philosophy was so fascinating if a little shallow...” and she’s like “so I saw this cute dog today...” It.... can be aggravating when you’re unraveling the mysteries of the universe in your head and your conversation partner is interrupting your thoughts to talk about shoes :|.
i have one of those! how do you deal?
@@RamonGoudeauDoneX2 Just enjoy the strengths of their personality! I find ESFJs to be pretty grounding for me. They're very good at living in the present moment, let that happen from time to time, it'll help you!
Today at work there were just too many people on the shift trying to engage me in some game they were playing on their phones and I started to think about how many stars there are in the universe and if there is an end to them but how can they be infinite? Or maybe they are? How do we know unless we measure them? But we can't! Oh, I think I just got sidetracked...why was I posting this again?
...and once it clicks, "that person had a bad day", that person becomes the most important person in the room Because 'I want to help solve (the puzzle)'.
You've explained it more clearly than I've ever heard before.
Thank you so much! I appreciate you!
I talk with people and they say wow you're so extroverted, but then I can't bear them anymore, I fee like they take too much of my time and I can't reflect anymore and I leave them. And then they are all disappointed saying you isolate yourself. Curse of the INFJ.
So much inner conflict, right?
That’s me Casper the friendly ghost 👻
Lol yeah people keep thinking in extroverted ...kinda not really , I just have tolerance I guess
When I tell people I am introverted, they don't believe me. Then I go hiding and they can't understand why.
Right?!!it is like it was a wasted time,everytime,so its best to spend time with myself
INFJ makes sense to me. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who sees what is going on at work. I hate small talk. I do take care of myself because work is sometimes stressful and I take care of my son who has CP. I'm older and wiser now.
Thank you for this comment, Marty!
What really helped me w/small talk was being told people are using whatever they see in common w/you to start building a connection. Once I viewed it as relational, I felt freer to find less common commonalities & stop being so bored :)
Even though we seem like aliens, we are the natural therapists and counselors in the world. We can help someone grow without them knowing it. We relate, ground and calm people. We teach them to see themselves and feel things differently. We help them to understand themselves. We are the human interpreters of the world. Our job is to help those around us grow in kindness and love. To lead by example and to show love and kindness. We are natural leaders behind the scenes that keep things going. The key is to understand we are different but we are very special and very much needed in this world. Not every conversation has to be deep, sometimes we need to keep things light and fun. It's important to push outside our inner world and not always take ourselves so seriously. If we learn from those around us it can makes our own lives more enriched and balanced.
Thank you for this! :-)
@@DavidBadurina No worries! I'm just doing what we infjs do! 😁
I did just think of something else that I have come to understand. Because we are so deep and intense, it can be very overwhelming for us sometimes. That's why it is so important to relax and not get so deep all of the time. Besides, we can intuitively read people, which means that we can learn all kinds of skills and abilities from people and that can greatly benefit us! So my hubby is an enfp and not as emotional as me but I need his calmness and logic to balance me out. Also, if our natural traits were more of the norm, how sucky would that be? I love that I can read people, I just choose not to do it all the time to give my brain some me time! Hopefully this makes sense! Just be sure to focus on yourself, it's exhausting and soul draining to constantly try to help or read people all the time. Knowing when to shut that off takes time but it allows you to learn to live in the moment and enjoy it.
"..natural theraphists and counselor.. " yeah, finally i understand why people share their deepest thought or experience that they won't share with others, even though we are not even close or just an acquaintance. I do keep secret well, but sometimes i just don't understand why to they keep telling me their secret/ problems when i never curious to ask. I think after i understand better about my personality, it might be because INFJ person is really have deep thought and empathy, so people really do feel comfort when sharing their secret/ problems with us. It can be overwhelming sometimes though.
WOW! Years ago in therapy, I said exactly that: Why can't I just enjoy life a little? Well, it turns out later I found out I'm a INFJ...
Well I am glad it resonates at least! Thank you for this comment! :-)
All resonates with me - this is why I am single, pubs freak me out, clubs freak me out, multiple conversation assaulting my ears freaks me out so yes, I too feel like an alien - thank god for my spiritual work and my deep connection with the universe. Now, where did I park my spaceship? Hmmm...
Hi Paul! Thanks so much for commenting! Might I suggest checking Area 51? ;-)
The whole point of being an INFJ if you ask me is the connection with the universe and the unseen. If we fit in we would not see it as easily.
lol.
@@DavidBadurina no, not there.... hahaha...:)
I know that this is off topic, but since I haven’t seen any comments here, YOU LOOK SO GOOD for being in your 40’s; never would have guessed.
Well shucks, thank you! A steady diet of donuts and coffee seems to do the trick! ;-)
@@DavidBadurina It's all the preservatives in both.
Personally I'm a fan of diet soda - makes me glow in the dark too like a real alien. :)
Ever since I discovered the INFJ and the MBTI, I have found many INFJ's around me and a very common trait is that we all have stopped aging at 25, and aging does not resume until the 60s, though truth be told we are now ascending into an age of gold, where technology has made aging a personal choice and if you so choose you will never grow old. INFJ's are just ahead of the curve.
@@DavidBadurina i think it's being physically active too lol
@@krayzeeasskris INFJ here and I'm 43 still regularly carded. I've also noticed that a lot of us have very striking eyes such as David here
INFJ: I'm an alien and I'm weird
INTP: hold my soda
We're ALL weird!
INFJ male with INTP wife-to-be. Great pair, though according to socionics ISTP women (kind of hard to find) are the perfect for us.
ROFL 🤣
Telemahos Telemahou
The perfect fit is the one you have. Please don’t second guess your marriage because of a theory. In the end, you are your own person, and she is hers. A typology theory didn’t choose you, you two chose each other.
I love me some INTP’s!
So true! I always feel that there’s something wrong in some situations or with people but I have a difficult time to understand why, I just feel it. So sometimes I need time alone to unravel all the stuff and see a clearer picture of it
That time in solitude is critical for INFJs! Thank you for watching and commenting!
OMG! 60 years old and finally I have found my people. I truly started laughing not at you, but because of the relief of YES YES YES. I swear it feels like someone with 3 noses who finally finds another person with three noses.
If I didn't take that psych test on a whim and not learned that I came out INFJ, not realized its so rare, and not found your channel I probably would have just lived a life as an oddity with 3 noses. Thank you. Seriously, thank you.
We all have 3 noses here! 😂👃👃👃
We just affectionately refer to ourselves as fellow aliens. 👽
Glad to have you here, it’s never too late to discover and improve!
@@DavidBadurina 5th time watching and I don't know if I am laughing or crying. Thank you. Simply fantastic.
I knew my coworker was pregnant before she announced it. She gets a kick out my intuition. She said, "I knew you knew bc right before I said it you smiled." Her time off and appts and energy and attitude and everything tipped me off when no one else noticed a thing.
That's awesome! That's the kind of thing we pick up with intuition. Great stuff thank you for commenting!
My mom's an INFJ and she has guessed people's pregnancy before they themselves knew several times.
@@medhavigupta6146 That's fantastic!
I was thousands of mikes away (in a different country) and I knew my grandmother died before anyone told me.
Even stranger, I knew months before that she was going to die soon even before anyone knew she was sick (also I was still in a different country).
Intuition is 60% experience, 30% pattern recognition, and 10% ability to see the future.
Good video. I agree with everything you said pretty much. I just want to add that sometimes the not taking care of ourselves can become a serious issue if we are dealing with depression. I have gone through some serious depression where I've neglected caring about the clothes I wear, forgotten to eat, missed taking showers/baths for a couple of weeks or worse (aside from spit baths for stinky areas of course), not shaving my legs for months--especially in winter lol, and so forth. I didn't go to the doctor (of any kind) for years even though I know I need to have regular checkups on eyes, teeth, and all other areas. Yet I'm the first person to tell others they should go to the Dr for something.
The more I sink into a depression the less I want to be around anyone else at all. I hide in my own head when I'm around others because I feel like people don't really get me and are constantly misunderstanding everything I say and do, which is very frustrating.
In my head I know none of this is healthy, but it's easy to get stuck here. FYI, please don't worry about me. I am doing much better these days through counseling and spending time with God, but I wanted to leave this post for others who might be having these kind of issues as a reminder that you are not alone and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And part of it starts with giving yourself permission to love yourself and take care of YOU. Blessings! I hope this helps my fellow INFJs who are each beautifully and wonderfully unique and individual creations of God.
Thank you so much for this Jenn, and I'm so glad you've pulled out of this as well! I appreciate you!
I prefer to call us ambiverts.
That works!
I’m about to turn 49 and I feel like I’m finally coming in to my own, so to speak and being ok with who I am. I have recently lost loved ones, and friends because I’m at a point that I can not tolerate shallow and fake relationships, and they couldn’t handle my honesty about it. This of course is torchering me and yet freeing me at the same time! I want to both let go of those toxic people but yet fix the brokenness.
This is SUCH a feeling! I'm so sorry that you've experienced that loss because it's so hard on so many levels. I get that. And the constant contradiction (wanting to fix, wanting to be free or can't tolerate the fake but they can't handle the truth of it) is SUCH a mood. I understand this on such a deep level. Be strong and be you. I appreciate you!
My friend, out of the hundreds if INFJ videos I’ve come across, I feel you are probably the only one that truly is who you say you are. Awesome mind dump. Thoroughly enjoyed it.
Thank you so much for hanging out and watching, I appreciate you!
@@DavidBadurina honestly, gotta agree, he seems like he has a lot of my own movements, lol
Bjorick Thank you! :-)
I'm 70 years old and female, a writer and INFJ and I now have my best way to describe who I am because of this authentic video! We do feel alien. The brain won't stop functioning even if we haven't discovered where to place that word or concept or puzzle piece but the JOY when it gets laid down!
Very true!
As an infj you need to sometimes self reflect on yourself instead of trying to read other people all the time.... You get so deep into other people's minds and everything and usually we don't really see the missing piece of the puzzle... You have to love yourself and for that you have to be in full self awareness and accept yourself the way you are... It's a curse to live in this society as an infj but it's a blessing when you say and realize that YOU LOVE YOURSELF.... Took me alot of years to get there... My life isn't perfect and never will be but it is who i am and if i don't love me then you'll never be satisfied with anyone
So true
Maybe INFJs should all live on an island together. It would be great. Everyone caring about everyone else. :-) Do you think INFJs should have relationships/marry other INFJs?
I mean like anything it depends on the personality, right? As long as two people get along and understand each other, type doesn't matter. :-)
I was just thinking that the MORE people have in common and understanding of each other the better a successful and happy relationship:-)
No, I think we would be too much.Probably that’s why there are so few of us. My hubby is the opposite of me (don’t know his type) it can be very refreshing to see that he doesn’t consume himself with all the feels in the world. I don’t have to read him because his energy is quit stable and I like it but I also wish he could understand me more when I’m spiraling away into destructiveness
I had a first date last week with a younger man. We clicked because he is an introvert like me. I asked him to take the 16 personalities test and he obliged cause he’s cool like that and he showed as an INFJ-T. I did a little happy dance. I think it is a great attribute to at least have your starting letter as I (not E).
Um...rethink that maybe...
I say the opposite: extroverted introvert - gotta keep that introvert identity 🙌🏻
teambeining Valid point! I’ve been known to be backwards. Often. :-)
@@DavidBadurina Yeah. And I don't think I'm dyslexic anymore!
INFJ: I feel like an alien, and no-one understands.
INTJ: Hi, nice to meet you.
Adore my INTJ family and friends!
Lmbo! Ive referred to myself as an alien plenty of times, it seems an accurate comparison to how I feel in relation to other humans walkin around, frickin hilarious man, thank you for that one.
Aliens Unite! You got it! So glad you enjoyed, I appreciate you!
lol. Yes. Same. Hilarious endeed - (if it was not so that in my case, I could not be more harmed by it all then I am being!)
I remember specific conversations for months. I analyze it over and over. I recall faux-pas like some turrets fit. I am content alone and distressed in a crowd. I hate small talk, because I can feel it’s surface garbage. No real interest behind it, just filling the silence. I love the silence.
Silence is really quite lovely!
Aloha my alien infj family, lovely to know the universe and everything good and holy is guiding all of us to find each other and come together for a great cause.
LETS SAVE THE WORLD!
right, much love to you all
Aloha! :-D
Yea. That would be cool. 😎
I’m an INFJ writer too! High five! But seriously, I love how you explain information.
“And how many touchdowns does it take to make a home run or whatever” 🤣🤣🤣 YES!!! So true!!!!!
I think it's four?
@@DavidBadurina Yeah that sounds right 🤣🤣🤣
I'm so gonna use this line! I could literally not care less about sports. So dumb.
I actually like sports! It’s something to do with friends/family when I’m watching and when I’m REALLY into it it’s one of the ONLY ways to shut my stupid brain off. Granted, I was raised on college football because my dad played for the UW huskies (and briefly for the Philadelphia Eagles) and my younger sister was a damned athletic wunderkind (she got all the talent) so I’m a bit biased, ha ha.
I also used to play team sports when I was younger but I’ve come to realize I do better in individual activities where dedication and focus (and no having to deal with -other humans- in a semi-intimate situation) are a major factor. Things like fencing, archery, and even yoga. It’s also nice to engage in Se in a healthy way and again, to shut your damned brain off!
All that being said, I couldn’t care less about the POLITICS of sports, ha ha. It’s basically jock gossip, lol.
Edit: there are actually a higher number of INFJ athletes in individual sports than you might think :)
Sports talk is the absolute worst thing in the history of conversation. Nothing makes my eyes glaze over more.
Omg this is one of the most relatable INFJ videos I’ve ever seen. I myself have used the term “alien” before (hell, in a letter applying to colleges I once wrote a manual for how to fit in with human society from the perspective of a race from a worldbuilding project I was working on!) and it’s not so much a “wow I’m so special uwu!” it’s a “wow I’m so weird, WHY am I so weird?! Why can’t I be normal???” Man, the hating small talk? Other people have described it before but not in such specific detail. My GOD me feeling like I’m watching paint dry when my ESFJ mom talks about shopping for boots makes SO much sense now! Lol I love the “formative moment of your life” conversation thing XD. If only it were that easy! I also relate to the “extroverted introvert” because I worked in retail for ten years and I could put up a cheerful, happy, extroverted front for while I was at work, but as soon as I got home I turned into a prickly hermit.
Also, I’ve never heard anyone describe our mental thought processes like you did. I’ve been struggling SO hard to explain what it’s like for YEARS (I’ve used analogies like “a nebula where I can zoom in or out and navigate where each cluster is a thought” or “constantly shifting four dimensional rubix cube... or multiple rubix cubes”) and it’s been a source of massive amounts of frustration being unable to feel like what I’m saying is “landing.”
It’s a pretty lonely existence, being this different-it’s sort of like living on a cold, distant planet sending signals into space hoping for someone, ANYONE, to pick up, and it turns out you’re not even using the same communication technology as anyone else.
Anyway, yes, I’m definitely showing that ESFJ mother of mine this video, and it is so, SO refreshing (and a bit startling) to hear what I’ve never heard articulated outside my own thought processes from another person. Suddenly I don’t feel so alone anymore, that I might have finally picked up a signal on my dark, cold rock. Thank you, sir! :)
Thank YOU for this fantastic comment! I'm so thrilled it resonated with you! My partner is an ESFJ so ... yeah. OMG yeah. I appreciate you! Thank you so much for watching!
Thanks a lot. Thats it how my mind is working 😊
Glad to hear it resonated!
Is it just me or do we have to emotionally learn things in order to remember them in any given circumstance?
I definitely think that's part of it, but that's true of most people. Experience helps no matter what and to gain wisdom you have to go through some things, particularly adversity. It's not just for INFJs, that's for anyone. For INFJs, we often have a hard time because of our desire to fix people/situations.
Gut shot!
So good. Well, at least if with it you mean what I understand by it. For me to remember things they have to be things with include feeling.
Yaaaaaa
I have Mercury in Pisces in the 12th house, and let me tell you, it looks like I have bad memory. Sometimes I even think I do. But it's just that only visuals and emotionally tied informations will stay with me. The rest falls into my unconscious lol.
you're speaking to my heart right now, I felt everything you said, it's soo true!!!
Thank you so much! I'm so glad it resonated with you!
Yea. He talked a lot about brain: but it is about a lot more then brain, isn't it? :) Greetings
you’re such an amazing speaker and i’ve honestly never felt more understood
Thank you, Ashlyn! I appreciate you!
I treasure those rare one-on-one connections. A good coffee & meaningful conversation helps me feel a little more human...and provides sustenance to keep going.
It does indeed!
This is so true😅 Group settings are totally exhausting
I just spent a week doing it! Haha. You aren't kidding!
Except here cuz...this is our Dominion!🤣🤣🤣
"sitting down with a friend having a meaningful conversation"... You nailed it! David, you are a man after my own heart! I would love to sit down with you. I'm in Yakima, WA.
That's far away but if I'm ever out that way, I'm always down for digging into the deep topics! Thank you so much for hanging out with me here though!
I always tell people my life/and brain is like a kaleidoscope, always moving and changing, always reading people, and situations, I tell people “sometimes I just know things” this video explains it perfectly
Thank you so much! I'm glad it resonated!
I found two of your videos while crying at 2 am because two of my friends are sending weird texts or leave me at read and it made me doubt myself. It feels so good to see that I'm not alone. I feel understood. 10 minutes ago I was saying "i hate my personality" thanks for changing my mind tonight
Thankfully, I got some confidence and asked if anything was wrong and I quote "my intuitiveness kicked in". now that they said np, i feel better
I'm so glad something I said helped and resonated with you! Glad it worked out, too!
People think I'm dark but just don't like talking to ppl much
Dude you said a month full with the tourterous lame empty conversations!!! I wanna pass out when that happens.
"Lame" is about the best description of that I can think of!
I’ve always thought that I automatically assess ppl bc I’m a nurse; then I’ve realized that I’m a nurse bc it was always easy for me to assess ppl; and these other INFJ healer concepts...but boy is it draining!
Draining indeed, especially taking in emotions and concepts subconsciously! Good on you for an excellent profession!
I'm an INFJ
and i just like how you are through all the video, you start so introverted then the more you speak the more you get energetic from the subject you speak.
I'm also an INFJ. You are a swan among men. Be proud of yourself.
Disclaimer: I’m an INFJ as well and have done the test over and over again on different platforms.
I’m not sure why people like to “glorify” our type like we are some sort of mutants. Lol our letters are just slightly different just like any others 16 personalities who are also unique. The fact that science says that we are the “rarest” might get a little too much into the head of some. Nobody cares except for us, like we are trying to find self validation with old psychology where it has been proven that the big 5 is the most accurate personality test.
You are unique, so is the rest of the world. There’s always something special about each one of us. It is a little hard for us the blend in, I get it, but I believe as your grow comfortable in your skin things get a little easier and that not just true for INFJ.
Brief, Psychology can’t give you the validation and self-acceptance that you need to give to yourself. Learning about yourself is a great step when you want to grow comfortable in your skin, however don’t get stuck in the “omg I’m so rare, nobody gets me” petty party. Common, you can still live a great life and make great contributions just like millions of INFJ before you have done. Let stop making this a big deal for real 🤷🏽♀️
Words well said! There's so much more to an individual than just the "INFJ", but there are a lot of commonalities between how we process and perceive the world. I think that commonality has us gravitating toward INFJ self-growth. We are ALL individuals and human but finding any bit of common ground is sorely needed these days, I think! Thank you so much for commenting!
I have tried the big five personality test and it isn't really that accurate for me
Yes, I agree. Well said:)
I took this test like 6 times from ages 18-33 and each time I came back INFJ ...I was so disappointed 😩
Thank you, I don't know either why to glorify this " type " of personality I obviously have. I simply don't get it. It is one thing to be openminded and sensibel, but I don't like the way I am categorized, ..Tests everywhere, I even went to a psychiatrist, he subscribed Ritalin/ methamphetamin( I don't know the correct english word for it..😝) And I joined a group, unfortunately that was simply an attempt for those people to glorify themselves. I wish you all the best , thank you for your post😇
This is my first time here and I feel like I just found my long-lost tribe! I'm subbing, following and probably bingeing. LOL. I'm so happy to meet you! 😊
Wonderful! I'm so happy to have you! Thank you for subscribing and watching! Comment away and I hope you enjoy. I appreciate you!
You are more quotable than I can keep up with. You are nailing the INFJ. I feel so hopeful now.
Haha Bonnie I try! Thanks for watching!!
Reading comments from INFJs makes me realize it’s not that I don’t like people or having friends, I just find it near-impossible to meet people I align with. Here, I feel like I found my species. 😭
We’re all friends here!
Someone- Thanks for helping me
Me as an INFJ- That's my duty
Haha, it's what I do!
When ppl who don't know me explain me to myself. Perfectly. I 🤯🤯🤯🤪
So glad it resonated!
I used to work with children, when I got home from work I would lock myself in my room and play the piano for a few hours to release all the feelings I had soaked up all day with the kids and other workers.
New Alien Sub here :) I remember as a kid that my mother would take me to the supermarket with her to try to teach me how to
"small talk" with people. lol ... she was concerned and scared because when I was about 4, I started asking "when my people were
coming back for me?" She thought I would never fit in, and she was right!!! Now I celebrate the difference, and as a portrait artist,
this intense empath/INFJ energy has become a the greatest gift, no doubt just like your writing has! I so identify with these 3 helpful tips you have shared, and look forward to more of your videos!
Aww welcome Libby! Thank you and so glad to have you here as part of the tribe!
I'm so glad this video resonated with you! I hope you enjoy many of the others!
OH TOTALLY! The number of times that I finished your sentences for you... your description of what happens when someone walks into the room and "something isn't right" is just perfect. Thankfully, my hubby no longer tries to get me to explain the plethora of minute and subtle details that led to that.
"But you can't be an introvert - you love people too much!" Of course, I do! But I find them exhausting, especially when they want to talk about their weekend plans or their garden. (Unless they planted roses because that was their mum's favourite flower and they are struggling with grieving for her, in which case they are still exhausting but the exhaustion is worth it).
I don't think people realise that the more people there are, the exponentially greater the permutation of possibilities/more complex the web of interacting factors and therefore the more tiring it is to process it all.
THANK YOU so much for sharing this so eloquently. I see your INFJ across the world and I salute you, brother!
I'm going to stop overthinking it and go and make my family watch this video.
Zoe! This is glorious! Thank you so much for the kind words and for commenting and sharing! I see you right back, and cheers! Tell the fam I said hi, and I hope it resonates with them as well! Best to you all!
There was not a single word coming out of you in this video that I couldn't relate. Feels so unreal yet beyond satisfying!! Thank you! 🙏
I'm so happy to hear that! Thank so much for hanging out with me here!
Also thank you for being so real about how exhausting it is to extrovert. Ive heard people say it’s tiring....it’s so beyond. “My brain slides out of my head” is a great analogy
Exactly right! Thank you for watching, I'm glad it resonates!
Im an introvert but own a salon so i can be extroverted but it is exhausting and when i get home i just want to put my comfy clothes on and not be bothered by people but my husband is a hyper extrovert that loves people(any and all people😖) he doesnt get me at all and likes having his dumb user cousins over so i bought myself a $10,000 camper as a she shed to escape company that i dont want! Its working out great i love it sooo much its the best thing ive ever bought i call it my dipshit free zone and even have a f*** off garden flag in front of it lol. I dont feel like im an alien at all but i think my husband does he always says that i hate everybody lol
When I was called into the principal’s office, you can imagine what my mind was doing. I was analyzing EVERYTHING (at top speed) and I determined it was their fault instead of mine : )
That was always a dreaded thing! Being called to ANYONE'S office!
David Badurina Yeah... now I understand why it was so traumatic.
We're always referring to the surface dwellers as "the humans"
I do enjoy that! I may steal that one myself!
Elfen41 you know, it’s interesting that you use the term “surface dwellers” because it reminds me of an analogy I’ve made before to describe my experience vs that of other people (and I bring it up because I think you and other INFJ’s will relate to it). What I came up with is the image of a sunny beach next to a deep, fathomless sea. The beach I conceptualized as relating to casual living, surface-level emotions, taking only superficial interest in things, etc. Dull, flat, boring (I’m also not a fan of the sun). I’m biased but BLECH. The sea, on the other hand, is where the mysteries are, the darkness, the intensity so many people find “weird” or “too much,” obsessive interest, the source of artistic inspiration, the private and sometimes murky and dangerous recesses of the innermost psyche... you know, light stuff like that, lol. Now applying this metaphor to real people, someone like my mother (ESFJ) would spend most of her day on the beach, hanging out, sunning herself, basically just... not doing anything interesting (to me). She might dip her toes in but the water is “too cold” or “dark and scary” (and why would anyone want to be in there? It’s so dark and darkness is bad!). My sister (for what it’s worth, she’s an ENFJ) can fit pretty comfortably in both worlds. Me (and other INFJ’s?) though? I’m like a selkie, lol. If you’re unfamiliar with selkies, they’re mythical creatures from Irish folklore that live their lives in the sea as seals, but have the ability to shed their skin and transform into humans and come onto dry land (but their true home is in the water and they’ll pine for the sea until they can return to it). It’s.... a pretty melodramatic metaphor and I’m kind of loathe to compare us to magical creatures because lord knows we get enough of THAT, but it just fit with the nature of an INFJ, a person whose “habitat” is considered unusual and unknown and “weird” to outsiders. Of course, this strongly reflects how I was treated as a kid growing up (yup, alien-or freak) and I don’t pretend to deny that I don’t have some pretty deep-seated resentment toward the “normies,” but hopefully you might get a kick out of this anyway :).
That's.... True lol
lol...I always say "man you people are something else"
Oh my gosh, that's so funny and too true! I was always saying to my daughter "Humans seem to do this..." Or "Humans seem to do that..."
One day she goes "Mom, you know you're human too right?" I couldn't identify. I was like "Well, technically, that is true... But overall, no." 😆 lol.
I love my my mom and my sister, and desperately want to connect with them. It's so difficult, especially with my sister, all they talk about is what happened at work and this person or that person, like I'm supposed to know or care who they are, what happened with the dogs, this tv show, blah blah blah blah omg...WHYYYYY!!?? I have to excuse myself to the "bathroom" just to get away from this hell!
To some, that's the important stuff!
Me finding out that I'm INFJ through a personality test was the best thing happened in my life so far, coz it answered so many questions I had because I was wondering why I am like this.
Lol I have this classmate, he used to be very joyful sometimes too joyful that it’s annoying cuz he hugged everyone around him but now he’s quiet and kind. Then I said to my friends:”remember when he was happy?” And now my friends think I’m too deep. :’))
That's just the right amount of deep! Sometimes friends don't get it, I ran into a lot of that when I was in school.
God you explain this so well. Makes me feel less 👽...
Thank you Lorena! I appreciate you!
As an INFJ I find it hard to keep new friendships because I’ll find a new friend or group of friends, and we will hang out, but then I’m so exhausted from extroverting after we hang that I need a break for a while before I hang out with them again. It isn’t because I didn’t have fun or I didn’t like the new friends, it’s because I just need some alone time to recharge before going out again. So, new friends stop asking me to hang out because they think I’m no longer interested. It’s something I really struggle with!
Hi Maddie - I experience this too! I usually let people know that I'm someone who needs some quiet time and I'd LOVE to hang out just can't do it frequently. To help them understand I value them, I try to hang out in small groups, one-on-one more often, or ask them to schedule a hang out day for the following week or what have you, and to help me, I try to control how much of that time I spend out and about. There's a super happy medium where you can value them and their time, and conduct yourself so you are still not overstimulated. You can do it! Find the balance!
When you said "I'm an alien" I felt that. I've said that. Thank you.
Your videos do help. Sometimes, I forget that I am an INFJ and wonder why I am struggling. Then, I remember! I'm an alien! Returning to your videos gives me a toehold in this old world. Thank you! You are so right. Sitting down with one other person and having a meaningful conversation...that is time well spent. Its what we're good at.
Glad you liked it, Elizabeth! Thank you for watching! :-)
loved this video, this was great... not many of us INFJ males around, so very nice to see another alien. This video confirms that we are all so exactly alike!
Thanks so much for stopping by and checking it out! Happy to see another Alien, always! 👽👽👽
one over here!!
@@RamonGoudeauDoneX2 good... another club member :D
I have had to reorient my brain to think about the concept of small talk as a way to breach the surface to get deeper in conversations with people. I hate it, but if I think of it as a tool to eventually talk about what I think is truly valuable and interesting then it helps 😊♥️
I agree with that, it's hard to dive straight into deep stuff because I need to get a feel for the other person as well. If they're more interested in talking about their favorite hand cream, I typically avoid probing deeper. :-)
Finally, someone who is focused and speaking clearly on this subject...the man got straight to the point...thanks dude.
Appreciate that!
Thank you for the video ♡ I love that us weirdos can flock to CZcams for validation and community :)
Yep, that's me, INFJ alien. : )
Hopefully, without green antennae and all that!
i always liked the weird ones , they have a story to tell :)
Agreed!
Ah yes...the story tellers...🧙♂️
I found this wonderfully relieving. Not sure really what INFJ is, but it made sense to me on a deep level most people have never approached. I say this to encourage you - it takes a deep understanding and inner strength to cut to the heart of a thing that is yourself. Bravo sir! My hat off to you.
Thank you so much! I appreciate that!
I'm an INFJ and a social worker/therapist. So #1 I work really hard to get to know who people are. #2 Truth. #3 Soooooo much Truth.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! I appreciate you!
I feel detached in everyday social interaction because people often misjudge me as weird and out of the context.
I have never felt so understood. Thanks.. New subscriber here💜
"How many touchdowns does it take to make a homerun" @ 2:36
Brilliant. :D
I think it's like ... four? No. Eight? Whatever. ;-)
We are people who put together puzzles! Amen! I often tell people I’m not being nosy. I genuinely am interested and want to know what you’re thinking. This is me trying to figure out the puzzle and putting it together. Oh My!
Absolutely! We do tend to enjoy patterns and making order out of the seeming chaotic disorder! So glad it resonated!
😂 this INFJ actually DOES care about the deal you got at the local market!! ❤️
Haha not much these days!
It's not that bad where I am. I still care about what other INFJs might consider mundane because I live in a mundane world so I have adjusted.
Even on FB, I find myself more drawn to the ‘deep, heartfelt stuff’ so tend to spend more time and comment or ‘like/love’. I skip quickly over the silly stuff I consider to be ‘shallow or mindless,’ or abrasive and have even unfriended or blocked people who post ‘nothing burgers’ with no ‘meat.’ Life, whether observed or engaged in, needs to have meaning for me to have fun and feel ‘interested and alive’. I feel this is a curse, and like he said, exhausting sometimes because you expect so much out of yourself and others.
I wouldn't consider it a curse, to be honest. It's just a cognitive preference (if that's a thing). I vastly prefer it as well but as INFJs to function in the real world we have to learn the techniques of starting off with the small stuff and getting in to the deep stuff.
When it's ALL superficial (OMG DID YOU SEE THOSE CELEB BABY PICTURES!?) then I just need to ... not.
I quit Facebook and never looked back.
Up till today I didn't know that I was an INFJ, and used to think why my brain is so fucked up.
Now I do it's the brain wiring. Thanks for telling about introverted intuition.
I'm glad it's an explanation that worked for you, Ankita!
Newly founded INFJ here :) Thank you for your insight and knowledge. "Don't want to go out there, it's too peopley out there" LoL I have watched some of your other videos too .Awesome! Grateful. It's a very nice thing to find out personality. I knew I was different as a kid, highly misunderstood. 5 years ago I found that I am an HSP/Empath~ Indigo. So yeah we are highly unique, weird & different. Thanks again. Have a great day!
I'm an INFJ- T Aquarius. I'm either an alien or god and now I've finally come home.... thank youuuuu loads. I've been alone in a crowd of shallow junk humans..and cursed myself for not fitting in. My parents never understood me. Thank you for being here.
Thank you for being here with me!
I totally understand where you are coming from, I feel like an alien, my family thinks I am a weirdo, but my grand-daughter who is 15 years old gets it, because she is an INFJ like me, she says to me, "Nanna, lets talk deep stuff" when I am around a crowd of people for a while, I come home feeling like a zombie, like the life and emotions are sucked right out of me.
I notice everything and feel everything and you can't shut it off.
Can you recommend any good books on the subject of INFJ personalities? Thanks for your informative video.
Hi Tammy! Check out Bo Miller's work. He's done great stuff for INFJ information and he's a great place to start to dig in!
@@DavidBadurina Aewsome, thanks!!
I used to have fabulously deep conversations with my parents, but mum's passed away and dad's mind doesn't have the energy anymore. Family gets antsy and squeamish in case things go south or an uncomfortable subject comes up...so I stop and conform. It's a very lonely place.
I always say when I just can’t seem to make a convo happen “social called out today.” Or “social is on break.” Or “social went home for the day.”
Haha "Social called out" is fantastic!
David Badurina 😂 thanks!
DUDE... just discovered your channel. I’m an INFJ and aspiring writer too. I love your videos and find them to be very helpful and entertaining. Please keep up the great work buddy!!
Awesome Michael! So glad you're here hanging out with me! Put those words down!
Absolutely an ALIEN 👽. Thank you sooo much for the spot on INFJ description!!