Signs Each of the 16 Personalities Are Attracted to You
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Unexpected Signs that Each of the 16 Personalities are Attracted to You
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0:00 Intro
1:42 ESTJ
2:09 ENTJ
2:43 ESFP
3:13 ESTP
3:43 ESFJ
4:37 ENFJ
5:30 ISTJ
6:05 ISFJ
6:55 Why the Personalities act this way
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Great bed hair, FJ!
i wish you would do a video with/for jumpers. like im both esfj and entp sortof. but neither is as accurate as could be most of the time. it would only make for 32 types instead of 16, and youd get more people considering ops!
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shhhh - don't tell. INFJ here. that was unexpected. (and yes)
INFJs at home: "I'm such an individual." INFJs around people they want to impress: "I can be brown I can be blue I can be violet sky."
Yes queen Iâm INFJ and this is me
I'm kind of disappointed that he didn't say INFJs would just stare in awe trying to read you.
@@darkbluealpha sneaky stares from across the room
I'm an INFJ in my 50s and have 2 kids, never lived with a man, never married. I can read men too well. I would freak them out head tapping them. I have an ability to read people analyzing every word, facial and body movement, that I know the lies they tell. I'm heterosexual and I have never met a man I liked who wasn't a cheat and a liar and found spending any significant amount of time with men draining and disappointing. I also never find anyone physically attractive, there was one and he was the dirtiest dog of all. I attract a lot of men, I'm much happier alone and with my kids.
@@darkbluealpha yeah, i will charm you with my awkwardness... Kind of things
1:46 ESTJ
2:11 ENTJ
2:44 ESFP
3:14 ESTP
3:44 ESFJ
4:39 ENFJ
5:31 ISTJ
6:06 ISFJ
8:37 ENTP
9:33 ENFP (hey thatâs me :D)
10:33 ISTP
11:11 INTP
11:58 ISFP
12:48 INFP
13:53 INTJ
14:19 INFJ
ENFP gang đ©
Hey me too :D
Actual biscuit, and ENFP? yeah, makes perfect sense to me. â
Iâm a INFP! Nice to meet you guys!
hello! im am intp :D
As an INFP who just started dating another INFP, I can tell you that the moment we knew it's mutual, we just started interrogating each other to death LMFAO
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lol. As an INFP I guess I donât like anyone at school since I donât really act like that, at least at first
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OMG my crush is an INFP and he was doing that too me đđ€đŒ
How is it dating another infp?? As a single infp i feel like infp males are the best đ i want my partner to be an infp pr enfj
I can explain why us INFPs ask those "interrogation" questions. We're trying to see if you would be someone that's safe to date, and other such things. Because we're very guarded. We wanna be 200% sure about a decision so that we don't stumble into an unhealthy relationship. We're basically profiling you- đ It IS an interrogation.
Yes
as an INFP I can confirm đ
FACT
Yeahh
100%
"Trying too hard?" Wow, Frank really knows his stuff, unsurprisingly, since he's an INFJ himself!
@@AbbaOjcze bold statement, is that because he seems to be very aware of himself? Curious what you see to make you say that?
I think he is kind of proud of being an INFJ, especially since his initials are FJ! Need to be careful of the barnum effect...
@@joshuasukup2488 well INFJ's no Introverts in general are self aware
@@AbbaOjcze I am also an INFP
@@hamoodyrody me too!
Frank James has really taken over the MBTI community on CZcamsđKeep going muchacho!
he's pretty incredible & gifted
I am an INFJ and you are absolutely correct. When I was on school, I had a crush on a classmate for 3 years and even my best friend didn't notice that.
It was my first love and I felt very nervous, so I kept hiding the fact that I liked him...
AAAA NO COS SAME-
ive had a crush on this guy for, like, months now, and no one noticed. at all. the only person that knows is my sister, and the only reason she knows cos ive told her abt it.
its strange to me cos im thinking abt him everyday. and the emotions are THERE. its odd and a little funny. wonder what my best friend will think once i tell her.
LMAO NO FR that was meee toooo đđđđđ
Fun fact: nowadays we're friends and he said that his mbti is ISTP. :)
@@vyctoria9966 ooooo, congrats to you!
That ENFJ was spot on with my first experience with my fiancee. We were both at a party, and she would talk and laugh with pretty much everyone, but when we were close to each other, she wouldnt talk to me or even greet me. I only knew she was into me because her friend tipped me off. So me, the INFP introvert, had to be the one to start the conversation with the extrovert. Pretty wild
Yah that's sooooo trueđ I'm an ENFJ and if I really like someone I will not look at them as much anymore, talk to them as much, I'll act all cool, tough, and uninterested. Probably because I don't want them to like me back, because I'm afraid they'll hurt me.
@@licithelion1174 makes sense
I'm ENFJ and made ISTP make the first move. đ So yeah, this is true. But you can be sure that we will still try to make you feel comfortable and warm in our presence to make you open up.
Itâs so interesting but I think extroversion works on a scale! I can be shy and seem introverted sometimes but Iâm an extrovert at heart
@@licithelion1174 thatâs so me tho i do all of those stuff around my crush too lmao
As an INFP, I think what Frank says is true, but in my opinion we also pretend to be more grounded and in full control of our life.
I do relate to grounded n in control.
Makes sense, an ne would try to show off some si sensibility. And fe would try to show they are not reactive to everybody else's moods!
i often tried to act cool like âoh you want to do something okay have funâ while i say this i die in the inside just wanting to ask if i can come along
Yea I agree they try to be more grounded
@Endless Twist same same
As an INFP I can:
- Be really sweet, good listener and shy.
- Ignore you.
- Act as a self-efficient person that doesn't need anybody.
Generally it's difficult to tell if I like you or not, so I will end up by giving you compliments until you'll finally realize it... or I'll simply love you and daydream about you in the long and painful silent of the night.
Haha INFP here too and I relate to all the above. Sometimes I feel we're walking contradictions
Yes! This comment is INFP confirmed.
Mature INFPs generally donât need people. They love who they love (including their mums) and thereâs usually a certain shy amiability about them but thatâs it. Whatever the interpersonal relationship is when itâs voluntary (and not essential - aka in networking/occupational/extended family situations) that circle (or bubble) is highly-circumscribed and only a very small amount of people are allowed to pull through. If youâre entertaining the possibility of letting that person into your innermost bubble thatâs a sign but it could just be the making of a strong platonic friendship.
@@Anonymous_Anon882 true!
@@Anonymous_Anon882 I think your comment is parcially true, it depends on the INFP. Being introvert isn't the opposite about being social, the factor introversion-extraversion it's more focused on how do you use your energy. I actually need to feel loved as every human. I love going to university and seeing all my friends there, laughing, studying, talking or simply being relaxed, all together. I love harmony, and I need to check out everyone is ok, and if I see an injustice my shyness disappears and I'm very very cutting. As you said, I don't share my inner world with anybody, I sometimes have conversations with the sea and with the mountains because they teach me lessons and things that no human couldn't. And no one knows that. I only share my most private thoughts and feelings with my sister. But I need people like the air I breathe, to experience love and to feed my Ne...
as an INFJ, itâs so true. Also i use to take care of my body, put cream, trying to have a nice scent, nice clothes, i even try to eat healthy. i donât know why i do such simple thing just to give my crush little signals. I want it to be noticeable but not too much and at then end THEY NEVER NOTICE đđđ»
I like that though when they donât notice
Well I donât fit đ
You'll be fine baby one day they'll notice if not you can't let them slip by so you going to have to try a little
We're so good in hiding our feelings that they will never know. It's best to told them even if we're afraid of rejection. However, If someones declined you, sometimes isn't over cause you will let them see that they have an opportunity and sometimes they will see that maybe you're what they wanted and they didn't know...đ hope you understand hahaha
Why are we like this. Like i want you to notice but not really.
As an INFJ, thank you for telling me what my sign is! Now, I'm gonna try really hard to look like I'm not trying hard at all when I'm in front of my crush! đ
Unless your crush has strong intuition because if he does, he could still sense that you are into him no matter what you do or how hard you try to hide it. Love tends to radiate anyway whenever somebody is around his or her object of affection. đ„°
Don't be afraid. Love prevails.
Gonna start dressing in all black around my crush so they think I donât dress to impress
Exact same thing I was thinking after that đđđ
EXACTLY!! đ€Łđ€Ł
Well, if you don't want a relationship that could be perfect. But if you do, we need to tell them that we are interested cause they're never going to know unless we said it directly...
As an ISFP, this is 100% accurate for me. I'm married, but when I was younger, no one had a clue if I liked them or even remotely had a crush.
Sucks! I am an ISFP with same experience.
Youâre married?! So there is hope for me đ„čđ
In my late teens I (INTP) had a big crush on a girl who had textbook ISFP qualities. She said that she kind of liked me. Of course, I asked a lot of questions, which maybe became awkward at some point and she soon started acting distant, especially in person. But she didn't like seeing me talking to other girls (especially one of her classmates; we were in the same "friend group") and she sent me videos of her practicing with her band a few times. The weirdest thing is that later I found out that her father knew about me flirting with his daughter.
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accurate for me too. I do my best to try to hide my crushes and only glance at them when they are not looking. My ex actually thought I was interested in his friends instead because I talked more to them than him.
I'm a female INTP and I married a male INFP. The beginning of our relationship probably sounded more like a fact finding mission than a relationship. lol
As a matter of fact we still ask each other lots of questions. He's constantly asking how I'm doing, if he makes me happy, if he's upset me in any way, what I want to do with our life, and all sorts of existential questions. I'll ask him about his work or games or stories, except for his stories, I'm really not interested in those topics, he works with clients to get their claims paid from the insurance companies. I get the jist of it an I love that he does it, it's just so, so boring.
This is love in an introverted world. LOL It'll be 15 years of marriage in a few months. So, we're happy.đ
same! :D female INTP with male INFP. our quality time consist of throwing questions and get derailed to random facts/nerding/intermezzo/"how we end up talking about this". he is the only person I don't get tired talking with. happily doing so đ„°
I am an INTP and those questions would be to personal. Even for me. đđđ
AWWWWWWWEEEE I AM AN INTP FEMALE AND I LOVED YOUR STORYYYYY
This is actually the relationship I aspire for and I'm also a female INTP
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Iâm an INFJ and this was completely accurate for me. I really have been known to read up on the signs that someoneâs into you, as well as trying to look extra nice when I know Iâm going to see someone Iâm interested in.
Oh hello how are you fellow INFJ
@@Mis_lady_cat hii fellow injf
@@Mis_lady_catwhenever I liked someone back in high school my fellow INFJ friend would say to me, âitâs time to wear a dressâ. And of course I agreed.
Me right now in my new relationship đ€đ
Advice for INFPs:
- Don't put too much pressure on being yourself
- Work on yourself first and ask if the relationship is good for YOU.
- Accept that you're not as weird as you think. And everybody has quirks.
- Just vibe and have a good time, show your feelings if you want.
And: PLEASE JUST STOP PUTTING PRESSURE TO YOURSELF, IF YOU'RE NOT PERFECT OR YOU CAN'T DO ALL OF THE ABOVE CALM DOWN â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
Great advice â€
@@strawberryxoxo6841 Thank you love â€ïžâ€ïž
Thanks this helps
@@azukib2230 you're welcome
Great advice. Actually, the second one is the major reason why I'm not in a relationship right now, there's a lot of things I need to fix about me physically and mentally before I do that đđđđ
an INFJ is the type to learn about signs other people like them back... me watching this video as an INFJ I'd say that's pretty accurate
I literally wrote the same thing I just wrote a whole paragraph cause why not
Not me asking google ''how to know if an ENTP likes you'' xDDD
As an INTJ, I completely disagree with this description. Usually I say what I think no matter how it affects the way other people perceive me, but when I'm attracted someone it's just different. Suddenly, I choose my words more carefully and don't talk about my controversial opinions to make sure that the person doesn't feel offended. I plan ahead everything I am going to say and try to predict how the person will react. I become more quiet and shy, I try to talk as little about myself as possible, I'm afraid they won't like my interests so I avoid talking about them. Basically, if I like you, I will cancel all my meetings, change my plans for you and listen to what you say for hours, even if I thought it was boring before. Also, I will probably agree to everything and treat the other person as if their opinion mattered more than mine, I will do whatever they ask me to do. I just want this person to feel comfortable with me and to know that they mean so much to me. Also, I will try to sit really close to that person and be around often. It is very possible that I will buy them a small gift or send them pictures of cute animals. I will want to know what they are doing during the day and I will text them back in seconds.
This. It is so accurate. I was thinking, If I liked someone Iâd literally lay down everything for them. Including my time. I would be invested completely in the other. Maybe Iâd show off, but that is not surprising for an INTJ. Whatâs shocking is our ability to prioritize someone else over our plans. ~an INTJ
Fellow INTJ here... usually Frank is pretty spot on, but I agree with you, this time I didn't connect to what he said about the INTJ tells at all. Your comment, on the other hand, I can attest from personal experience is 100% accurate.
This is facts
I agree. Our time is sacred, but when we like someone they become a priority.
Frank was talking about unexpected things each personality type does. So even if I agree with you as a fellow INTJ and admit I would act similarly - especially the part about being around as much as possible - I believe this is something to be expected from us. Yet I don't think we brag like Frank said. Of course we want to show off a little bit but I think it's more in accordance with what he said about balancing out. I personaly definitely become more easy-going and bubbly to balance out my severe general vibe. If I brag it's about my travel experiences so I seem more adventurous and spontaneous than I am in reality đ it's actually silly, isn't it?
As an INFJ listening to these I always feel like I'm being unmasked, like "NOOO DON'T GIVE AWAY MY SECRETS!" đ
Ah yes, and that's so INFJ to want to keep our secrets. đ
As an ENFJ if I start sharing unsolicited opinions with you it means I see some sort of future with you. Because ENFJ's are chameleons and we don't share our opinions easily. If we're being our true selves and not mirroring you then you'll know we like you in a very special way.
Yes! As an INFP, I do the super direct in-depth questions to determine:
- their values
- a sense of their real self underneath what they show to the world
- whether they share my dislike of small talk and my preference for 'deep' conversations
- their tolerance for weirdness (because they're gonna need a high tolerance!) đ
I flirt by hiding any obvious signs of interest, but once I am on a date with them, the questions start. Also lots of absurdist humour to see if they'll roll with it!
INTP and I question for the same reasons except I test the boundaries of their tolerance (open-mindedness) in general, not only weirdness. But I sound casually curious. No interrogation vibes. :)
YESSSSSS!!! Their tolerance for weirdness is especially important because this will determine how I act around them XD
Always gotta dig deeper to uncover their real self underneath :D
i like to do that as well but sometimes i feel maybe im pushing too hard or i should mind my own business instead of asking them questions about why they do this or that. would they think im annoying if i asked this? especially when they are complete strangers, maybe i should start with normal questions. but what are normal questions tho? what are considered normal questions? how do i even talk to them? i had an infj friend but once i learned he likes to have deep conversation. i always wonder what stuff is considered deep?? arent they just talks? im so confused rn. i think i confused myself.
an infp has a crush on me. he asked me to be his girlfriend right after we got into a deep Convo. ngl he was the one who'd been bragging about heyy what'd you like what'd you do in your free time tell me about your family it was like I was being interviewed đ€Ł and later that night he just proposed me saying he's deeply fallen in love with me. I was like dude! I don't even know you đ we started talking 12 hours ago
That's soooo me, with the absurd humour!! đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
As an INFJ, I literally planned to change my whole wardrobe just to look better and cooler around this one girl. Luckily it didn't work out and my wallet is safe. So yeah, confirmed xD
Hmmm, I thought everyone liked to dresser nicer for the people they liked lol.
INTP here, so accurate. When I like someone, Iâm like, âwhatâs your favorite potato chip flavor?â Then I go to the store, intent on buying them the sour cream and onion, realize I forgot to ask them what brand they prefer and buy one of each brand. Go back to them with like five different brands of sour cream and onion and be like I wanted to surprise you with your favorite chip, but then realized that I didnât know which one of these is your favorite. So enjoy! And then leave because theyâre looking at me strangely. Love: so weird, gotta hate it.
Basically, I guess what I'm saying is that, when in love or liking someone, INTPs start to focus their intense interest and focus on the person they like and basically go about learning about said person, often in direct and slightly embarrassing ways. Actually, now that I'm typing this, it makes it sound stalkerish, but it's really to find out what the person likes and what makes them happy so that the INTP can, well, love them and cherish them.
Same am a intp too and it like the persone give me energy and i become like a hapy cat đ đâ€
Aaaww the efforts that count...INTP is so cuteee, my boyfriend INTP acts this way too -from ENFJ
My ex is INTP and it was so heart-warming to read this, 'cause it was so accurate, but he could never tell me this kind of things. Love for INTPs â€. - ENFP-A
As an INFP, I literally wrote two pages of questions for my partner at the time and sat them down in front on me to ask them, writing all the answers as we went down the list. Luckily, they didn't mind it, but I was made aware by my best friend that might not be the most natural tactic...you said it well, it was a little interrogation/interview like.
As a fellow INFP, that's oddly romantic
đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł I would have them... but do it discreetly...ISFP
Yes. I felt so interrogated by an INFP and I wad so taken aback lol
Which type was the other person?
@@monikap8777 I think they were an INFP too which would explain why they didnât mind it too much đ
An INFP wouldn't say anything for the longest time. She'd just stare longingly. If her beloved actually approached her, she'd either flee or, as FJ said, start asking personal questions.
And speaking of personal questions, I have had many dates turn into counseling sessions. After a few hours, I knew way too much about my date, and I just wanted to run away and crash.
An infp and it's accurate
Haha when my crush was near I was just ignoring him
@@marinac444 Aah, that ignoring... it resonates with me. I try to not do that but it's too much intensity...
My crush is an ENFP and I swear he can read minds. He asks me tons of questions and can read me well yet I don't know much about him. I'm an INFP
@@justsomegirlwithamoustache I don't know why but almost all my crush is an enfp. I just see rainbow and butterfly in them but at the same time feel super anxiousđ° when around them even though they're kinda naive.
Frank, I hope you know the fact that you literaly are the Beatles of MBTI right? Not just about being the greatest but from every aspect I could look at it. For instance every type of video you try you're killing it just like them with different types of music. Or the amount of innovativeness you have. They made me love music and you made me love MBTI. Also unnecessary information but you both kind of saved my life. đ Thank you for existing and sharing your intelligence with us. đđ
haha well thank you, that's a big compliment!
damn mbti ost comin out soon
I know you canât tell from my pfp at all, but Iâm a huge a Beatles fan I totally agree
@@maddiemae73 I should change mine too! đ€Ł
@@cansueceklc5020 this was the best, sweetest compliment I have read all day long. What's your personality type, if you don't mind me asking?
The part of the ENFP signs of attraction that I related to wasn't the teaching part as much as the getting it wrong part. I get soooo awkward and self-conscious around someone I'm attracted to that I will fumble my words, my ideas, things I totally know forward and backward, everything.
could not agree more
Same
Now I get why it took my husband and I 6 years to figure out we liked each other. Iâm INFJ and probably masked my feelings. My husband is ENTJ and was so relaxed and we just talked and had fun. He made me relax as well. We were really good friends but none of us saw the other one show signs of more for a very long time.
Spot on, Iâm an istp and I have showed up at parties and dances just in case the person I liked was there so I could see him even though I was astoundingly uncomfortable there. The things we do for love.
You could see him and acted like didn't care him.
Oh my fucking God you donât fucking understand the accuracy made me feel embarrassed I never đ€đČ feel embarrassed with myself ever
This is relatable and I'm not an ISTP
As an ENFP this is so accurate, I had a crush on someone and then I started teaching him about the whole 16 personalities and he ended up calling me his therapist
TRUE
As an INFJ-T married to a ENFJ-A this is so true! Before we became a couple, mr.ENFJ would tease and roast me, but is always hanging around to go out of his way to help me. At first I wasn't convinced, but then he showed instances of being an honest and good person. And because his challenging me is balanced by his obvious obsession, I mean devotion to me đ
FJ: Signs an INFP is attracted to you is if they ask a lot of questions like is an interrogation
Me: Shit, thatâs me.
The person(that I like) whenever this happens: Why are you asking so many questions????? *person getting annoyed
Me: *goes into INFP bubble to never talk to another being again
Omgthis is so true đ€Łđ
Me quiet avoidant distracted pretending to not be interested or coming across very lady like grounded n like I got my life sorted. Spending still a lot of time in their company if it is optional nevertheless.
If anything as an infp I was the one being asked a lot of personal questions by someone. Not the other way around. Iâm not the one to outwardly ask but to seek for the information I need where it is easily accessible to all.
You need to find an INTP, if they're interested, they just fire questions right back. An interrogation made in heaven
I try "socializing" with that person and then when they act some way that is not how I expect, I'll overthink about it and then I'll stop talking to them then once I feel that my feelings goes down, I confess like it's nothing LIKE BRO, THOSE WORDS WERE JUST A LOGLINE OF MY FRUSTRATIONS
Make the questions funnier and lighter. You have to gauge people by proxy. Find out their favorite characters to things and why⊠then judge values based on that silently to yourself and it makes it fun for the other person when they donât feel interrogated. I am also INFP. It works better.
So what your saying is, as an INFJ to mask my affection for someone I just need to stop wearing clothes? Itâs like I have reached my final form of no one being able to predict or read my thoughts or feelings. đ
lol
@@FrankJames thank you so much for the vids. They make my day đ
Some dress up, some don't dress at all lol
So an INFJ at a nudist colony has their attraction perfectly hidden.
final form đ hilarious
I was together with an (I believe) ENFP recently and when we were just getting to know each other he was once suddenly like: 'You know it's not healthy to be on your phone at night in the dark because it's bad for your eyes.'
It was both so caring and informative for him to say, I miss him gosh haha
My boyfriend is an ENFP and this made me realize that on our first date he literally taught me how to fend off geese. Like, we weren't even really being bothered by them, but he was like "Just incase a goose ever tries to attack you, you can just do this!!" And ran full speed at a goose that was hanging around us. The goose (understandably) ran away. He then walked back over to me and with the most smug look on his face he said "See?" Then he sat down and continued eating.
Also, I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend said that the give away for him was when for a split second I let my guard down and sighed/smiled at something he said (which was that he loves animals and wants to live on a farm). He said other than that he had no idea, and he wasn't even entirely sure and was honestly surprised when I asked him out (don't ask me how I did it, it was a fit of pure impulsiveness). Also I 100% agree with the dressing up thing haha. After I started getting to know him I went shopping and started dressing nice and got new shoes and dyed my hair all nice. Even now after we've been dating for awhile I still put extra effort into my looks lol.
I love your stories! Especially the strategy for geese đ Awww.
We ENFPs do (surprisingly) enjoy teaching others, but that can be for any one when we feel inspired and like we have something to share that excites us. Big sign we're crushin' hard: saying things that accidentally sound rude :-(
The thing about trying to act like the opposite type when your crush is around you is so TRUE. I am an Infp and I'm always the quiet one at social events, trying not to be the center of attention. But when my crush is around, I instinctively joke around, being loud and trying to make everyone laugh. I act so different that I think that it's really obvious that I have a crush on someone around.
I can relate đ€đ©
Relate and not lol
The problem is that your crush probably thinks thatâs your normal personality, but everyone else who knows you is definitely aware
@@thomasffrench3639 that could be true, but my crush is a close person who knows me well so idk
As an INFJ, I'm proud that no one seems to have an idea about how I am attracted to someone.
With you! As an INFJ myself, I once got myself in a muddle. I had praised this one guy's athletic prowess, and immediately felt seen and wanted to hide. Well, they didn't see me, of course. But someone then asked me did I think this other fellow was attractive, since he had been working out too. Needing to avoid insult, but also wanting to deflect, I had to reply, "Who wouldn't?" I live with the fact that that gaggle likely carried that back to guy #2 to whom I was actually not attracted, but I still take satisfaction that I successfully prevented guy #1 from learning that I fancied him. Kind of INFJ of me really, as I learned from this FJ video.
I know many INFPs commented already, but I'd like to share my experience as well. For me everything that was mentioned was so true, plus I tend to try acting like I have my life together and I'm really coordinated. I try to really project this down-on-earth image rather than my usual head-up-in-the-clouds self. So basically I just pretend to be my sister, who is an ESTJ. But it still comes out awkward and I seem dumb because if there's one thing I'm terrible at even more than socializing it's flirting.
yes, I think you have to try to act as if you have your life together and are coordinated. I really do the same. Oh, man, I really have to clean up a little bit here...
@@lastgunman5270 ahahah i feel you. But I guess being ourselves is what we need (though I could use some organising skills, ngl). Now that you're mentioning it my room's a mess, I gotta clean it up too lmao. Stay happy and healthy hun
también necesito hacer limpieza -INFP
Same here
Infp asks a lot of questions to other people, especially if they like them, because as infp I really want to know a person better about his plans, dreams and opinions to better understand him. We-infp, we want to be one with a person. Only with your heart you can see what you won't see with your eyesđđ»ââïž
It's the exact same with INTPs!
The only difference is that they struggle with the talking part, and end up screwing everything up and asking about their traumas or something really dumb lmao
But I do that in secret private I donât outright make it obvious I like someone I like
Is that a Le Petit Prince quote at the end, my friend? You are automatically amazing to me
i couldnt phrase it any better (infp too, here)
Awww true
As an INTP, I show affection by asking questions about the other personâs opinions/views/goals/feelings/ideas/preferences etcâŠ
And spend time with them.
Me too (INTP). Spending time and showing interest in whatever my INFP husband is doing is my love language.
Okay.... showing interest is a bit over the top, I'll ask questions about what he is doing. He then thinks I'm interested and unless I want to play the game with him, I have to make sure I tell him out right. Something I always seem to forget to do, and I've played many an online game that I have little interest in...lol
Think the spend time part goes for all introverts, if any of us seeks you out to talk to you and spend time with you they probably like you, at least as a friend. As for asking questions, isnât that what a discussion is, people sharing their viewpoints on a subject? You should try to hear the other person out in any discussion, even more so if you like them in any way. The question the video mentioned makes sense to me, if they told you they are on a diet of course you ask them how is it going (ISTJ here)
As an INTP (I think)
I just ask questions in general o_e
But would prefer to spend time as questions only go so far.
@@edi0157 I care what someone does/thinks/feels If I like them a lot, or if they are highly intelligent.
So I only value the opinions of a select few.
As an INFJ, totally spot on. Spent an insane amount of time in front of the mirror to look pretty for my ENTP husband to get his attention when I first met and was getting to know him lol
Hate to be the barer of bad news but as an ENTP he probably wasn't bothered on how u looked more how u were personally đ€·ââïž which is probably a good thing is supposeđ
Frank, for ISTJ, when you said, âWhen they like you theyâll start to make fun of youâ I burst out laughing! You nailed it. I do that whenever I like someone, friend or more. The difference being when itâs someone I want to be friends with I poke fun at them, like âhaha, letâs laugh together because weâre all idiotsâ, but if I like someone in a romantic way, my humor becomes razor sharp.
Also, I have NO idea when anyone is attracted to me. They have to be VERY obvious or direct. I never ever make the assumption anyone has any interest in me.
Great video!
Why r we like that? My bf says to me exactly what frank said, that im bad and I make lots of fun of everything he does or says haha
bro fr, there's no way in hell I'll be able to tell when somebody is attracted to me. (I'm also ISTJ)
I'm also an ISTJ and you literally described my lifeđđđ amazing
As an INFJ with an INTJ spouse, I can confirm those hints are totally spot on! I do tend to put in more effort into my appearance when I want to impress and he lets his inner monologue out for a spin. It's a fun time xD ~Sassy~
Yes more cleavage
Sounds like a cute romantic comedy
As an INFJ, one of the things I'll start to do if I really like someone is asking them really direct questions. I'm not usually open with people and like to keep my opinions private, so when I do finally open up and show a little bit about myself it's usually with a person I trust or want to know more. I'll usually ask a lot of very personal questions like how you describe with the INFP, although I learned to somewhat undo that since some of the people I was interested in couldn't handle it straight away.
I relate with that people think I can be too intense once I show them how I analyze them so quickly. Question, does it "irk" you when folks interrupt your explanations about yourself? Or answer your questions with another question?
@@joshuasukup2488 The first one never really happened to me, but I guess it will irk me. The second one is a dead end and a sign the other person isn't interested in revealing certain parts of themselves, so at that stage I'll usually stop nagging them about it.
Yup, my INFJ friend used to do that.
I'm and INTP. Although I could handle the topics, I couldnât with the frequency. He was low-key demanding too much time, until I was honest and told him he was acting as if he was obsessed. âItâs not obsession, itâs just that I donât usually find interesting people, and I just⊠get excited when I doâ.
Long story short, no matter how much clear I tried to be with him about my space necessity, I still got overwhelmed.
I'm omitting a lot of details, but he sometimes gave me the vibe that he didnât just like me as a person, but also romantically. However, he kind of didnât at the same time hahah. Quiet confusing (and maybe on purpose??).
I become more straightforward with people I like very weird đ đ I am very quiet and private person but with people I become direct đ€Łđ€Ł
@@naskedai1693 he may have had a crush on you but was very good at hiding it, but with INFJs you can't be sure. If you want to know if he really likes you, keep an eye on for how much he cares for you and tries to help you solve your problems. Immature INFJs may take on the world for the ones they love and try to 'fix' them. Also keep an eye out for long awkward stares
As an ENFJ, I can safely say that if we like someone, we are usually pretty obvious about it, especially if we want to act on that attraction and explore the possibility of dating that person. We will flirt and flirt back, respond to advances, show interest etc. If not, we are just being our friendly (hopefully) and extraverted selfs! Easy peasy
(And also sometimes we can get unexpectedly quiet or shy around our crush, that's a telltale sign too)
Yes, totally! If I like a guy..even if he just puts his toe in flirting, I'm right there with him! But if it's someone I don't feel attracted to/just platonic..I completely skirt any kind of flirting. I stay super-friendly, but redirect the conversation away from getting romantic or whatever. Get him thinking/talking about any other female than me!
As an ENFJ, it's really funny since I always hide my feelings so well, but then I go and tell the person who I like anyways so there isn't any point lolll
I think his statement was super true though too. That the way you can tell is that we (ENFJs) get comfortable and drop our performance. Like we think âOh, I donât want to make you like the social version of me- I want you to like me and this is what Iâm like: a little more curt, blunt, and less careful with what I say.â
@@Musicisavibechangemymind yesss Exactly! đ
@@Hallfreakyzoid yesss true! XD đ
I'm getting rather sure I'm an INFJ and that I'm in a relationship with an INFP.
When we started talking, I was asking her about a historical painting on her IG, just so we can talk about something without it being obvious I'm interested in her, and we continued talking about European history, while she started asking me questions about what I do, with the one nailing it being "What kind of girls do you like?"
She is still asking me many random questions, almost three years later.
me with both my INFJ best friends (1 of them is a boy and he flat out told me heâs obsessed with me)đ I ask questions all the time Iâm just curious about everything. But if I like you I definitely pull the 100 questions and try to act like everythingâs in control pretend Iâm an INTJ or something but Iâm a mess inside and nervous wreck
10:04 I literally fell on the floor laughing. I just met an ENFP who actually did exactly this, only we weren't even in a car, he was just explaining it. đ€Ł
See if it were any other enfp id feel offended as I hate being patronised to n had it all my life coz ppl think I look or appear young even if Iâm in my 30s. But for the one I love Iâd swoon,
@@healingandgrowth-infp4677 I've always loved me an ENFP, and usually it doesn't come across as patronizing. I suppose it depends.
Yea I texted a guy some fun fact at 4am xD so that's so enfp
đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł ENFP here and I feel like I have to apologize on thr behalf of my people
@@daniellac.7588 Oh don't apologize, it's part of your charm! đ And I happen to really like stick-shift explainer guy. đ
My romance starter set.
INFJ at 16: I need to focus on my exams I don't have time for romance
INFJ 26: Yeah. My career's going smooth. Once I'm stable, I'll find a handsome, rich, good personality, guy to go out with.
INFJ 36: Shit. I waited too long.
Iâve met some rich ppl already but didnât like them
Find your INTP partner. Guaranteed to make you feel relaxed and more accepting of yourself.
~ INFJ with an INTP partner and hasn't regretted it
đđđđso me right now at this time of my life!
I though similary as an INTP(it could be just a mechanism so i won't need to get a gf bc i don't feel like doing it rn)
I'm an ENFJ in a long-term relationship with an INTP and I can confirm both of your approaches are scarily accurate!!! and gosh, even after the crush phase, I still get butterflies when my INTP babe asks me personal questions and wants to decipher me... as an ENFJ thats such a turn on!
ikr I agree..because we rarely share our own view and opinions..and there's an INTP keep asking about it..great match indeed..I'm ENFJ and my boyfriend is INTP
As someone who is awful at knowing if someone is attracted to me or not, this was super helpful to watch
Lol I'm just like you yet everyone around me can tell. đ I'm getting better at picking out when someone likes me but it's usually physical attraction and that's not what I'm looking for.
Not helpful to me because I don't go out lol
INFJ female here crushing on an ISTP guy. Spot on. Him and I both liked each other. I masked all of my feelings and acted stoic around him. I thought he hated me because he was kind of a jerk at work. He didn't like interruptions while working. I seriously thought he didn't like me...until we caught each other sneaking glances at the other. Busted. After that, he became super friendly and would follow me. Teasing me. I still played stoic though because I didn't think it was a good thing to pursue. Yeah, he was a sexy ISTP.
Sounds like a guy i had a crush on as well....until one day i decided to be a bit more blunt at work, complimented on his new tan, he smiled (never smiled at work lol) and then he went on to throwing hints on emails then inviting me for cocktails for my bday, quite a shocker as he used to be a total mister mystery as a contracts manager until then....lol).
Wait so it didnât progress? I am sorry for being nosy lol everyoneâs so interesting.
As an ENFJ, I have experienced situations where people liked me/ thought that I was flirting with them but I wasn't! đ€Ł Now I understand their confusion better, but the truth is I'm terribile at flirting or "playing the dating game". When I like someone I become very shy and tip-toe my way around things, the opposite of what I normally do around friends so... Yeah, Frank is totally spot on!
Wow. This is so accurate. I'm ISTP. I met my future wife one day and something just switched in my brain. She never knew what hit her. I bulldozed my way into her life and we were married two months later. We've have been together now for 51 years and I still don't understand how that happened.
That's amazing! đđđ»
Infj girl here. I have a crush on an istp guy but he's not bulldozing his way to me. Guess he's not as interested to me as I am to him
@@blancheb3533 More likely it has never occurred to him that any girl might be interested in him. đ
@@qwadratix well he has had dated other girls before and I made it clear I was attracted to him (sending heart emojis) but I'm not sure if he is truly interested in me or just trying to be cool. He was the first to message me though and said I was pretty, ironically I was the one who didn't reply after a few questions since I thought his initial answers were weird, but then he suggested a video call, and then he was more attractive to me when we video called haha. He does still initiate most of the time though and set up call dates and I just mostly lean back and allow him to take the lead even if I'm crushing on him so hard, I try to keep it cool too, INFJ and ISTP ain't mirror functions for nothing lol
@@blancheb3533 Yeah, being young is hard. You've got nothing to go by. I guess that's life though. I'm really old now and I can look back at my life and see all the things I missed at the time. I can't advise your current situation because things were really different back then in ways you probably couldn't imagine. It was a different mind-set.
Anyway. I think you're doing it right. It sounds like he might be interested. Hang out, talk about stuff, visit museums, art galleries, quiet places where you can talk about things you find interesting. ISTPs are generally into that.
As an INFP... Yeah
My INTP boyfriend has said, "Why are you always interrogating me?"
I am over here asking things cause I am interested in how his mind works & why he does the things he does. Plus I like knowing things about him so I can feel superior to the girls who like him that think they actually know him.
INTP has a lot of girls who like him but he normally attracts crazy. His main issue is being terrible with communicating his feelings & showing affection. It's hard to tell if he actually cares or just feeling forced to. However if you can read between the lines & see the subtle signs then easy.
So as an INFP I am very good with reading him like a mystery book. He is very interesting which first guy to keep my hooked on every word. My favorite book hands down. Every other book can't compare to him ^^
Had to let go of my fictional crushes tho... I feel like I am cheating on him lol
Anyways I love him & he can't leave cause he knows too much about me so I would have to commit some crimes.
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That's sweet and weirdly a little bit creepy at the same time đ but I mean it not in a negative way i promise
Awww đ„șđ„ș How cute!
I'm an INTP girl, and now I just want a INFP boyfriend for me too lol
I'm an INTP and have been married to my INFP husband for 14 yrs. Great match in my personal opinion.
Edit: he told me he put away his fictional relationships. đ„°
@@natashadavis2959Damn! That's a truly proof of love! Haha
Oh, yeah def. Im with an INTJ and I always ask him questions about his day and then even further questions from what he was talking about. At the end, heâd ask âWhy are you asking?â And im like âIm just curious/wonderingâ
Honestly, the easiest way to see if an INTJ likes you is that they spent time with you. Time is the one resource we can't get back. The fact that an INTJ is willing to give you some (or perhaps a lot) is a sure sign.
This!
Try to text you back ( even in examen week ), or apologize for see you message hours later, can be a signal too, I guess. Normally, don't feel the necesitty to do that.
I wasn't sure what to think of the "ENFP's will try to teach you something."
Then I thought about it, and I realized that yeah, if I'm attracted to someone, I want to have something that feels like a meaningful interaction with them, and since I like learning about stuff, it makes sense that I'd want to "show off" by teaching someone something that I've learned.
as an INFJ... THIS IS SOOOO REAL, I used to watch videos on how to show someone you like that you like them without actually doing it, and yeah I definitely tried very hard and I always couldnt understand how Im still not obvious enough
PS great video, hope yall are doing well
A friend told me that my "come hither" is like someone else's "go away." Devastating, but accurate.
Spot on with the INFJ, whenever I like someone, I can make it seem like I don't like them AT ALL
Oh as an INFP I can tell you that I absolutely see when an INFJ likes someone, especially for your clothes, as Frank said. I'm really good at reading people and I can see through other peoples' eyes. Basically, when an INFJ likes you, they'll start remembering all the small details like your grandmas' birthday or the name of your ancient school. They try to give you compliments in a cool way, like if they did this with everybody and as if it was natural for them, and there's a special sparkle in the INFJ eyes.
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 ohhh that's good to know someone can actually read us. As for me, I compliment everyone because I believe everyone deserves to be appreciated and I also remember small details about almost everyone, so outwardly it's hard for them to tell if I like someone, BUT the only thing that you can observe in me is the look in my eyes. My INTJ friend also told me that my eyes are so expressive it cannot lie, though my body language can. So when someone already see through me and told me about it, since I'm a bad liar, I cannot make up an excuse. đ
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 btw I am also a good reader of people, and I can tell when someone has issues with me or when someone is lying đ
â@@wehopoutthecoupe825 I appreciate your comment! You said you INFJs remember details from everyone, and that's true. I also do that as an INFP because I want everyone to feel heard. But, when an INFJ really likes you, they act like they are proud of knowing that things, it's noticeable that they do it with a greater purpose... at least, the INFJ I know. And yes, INFJ eyes are expressive, transparent and compassionate.
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 ohhh I appreciate yours as well. We also love it when you remember small things about us, we may be a big picture people but we see a lot of subtleties and actually small things/details remembered about us makes us happy and proud as well. As for me, I used to like an INFP (just got into a heartbreak from him recently) whenever I look at him, I feel so proud of whatever he says and I always feel a sparkle in my eyes whenever I looked at him endearingly. However, things didn't really go well between us, sadly, he took me for granted and I had to atleast build walls. I loved him so much though.
(INTP) Whenever I had a crush as a teen I avoided him like the plague. I loathed crushes (still do) because hormones subjugate rational thought. I also had no clue how to attract him, so I spent time convincing myself that "He's not glittering wonderful," and "Cut it out, oxytocin!" đ Now that I'm older I still commit to a good bit of introspection, as if testing my sanity, then when I question the men due to piqued curiosity I try to sound friendly and sweet. But not as much in writing; playfulness reigns in text.
Thank you, a fellow INTP who understands! I hate how crushes block your whole sense of rationality!
Intp female here, I can confirm this is painfully true!! đđ
I hate how crushes literally drive us insane! đ
@@09MoonStar Yep, it's an altered mental state.
Thatâs so me LMAO
Wow, thats me in a nutshell too xD. I just never know what to DO with these feelings. Apart from the fact that I often think/find that the other person finds my lack of intuitive emotional response insincere or manipulative, because I prefer to think even my feelings through twice and then might decide I have better things to do then to listen to them. đ
I would have NEVER chosen this for the ENFP but it's totally spot on lol. I've offered to help people start podcasts, start businesses, review their website, do all kinds of random stuff lol.
Ok, Iâm ENTP and I would love to have watched myself when I was first getting to know my wife. I remember that we would talk for hours effortlessly and that she turned out to be the real deal. I know that the stereotype for ENTP is that we just like to argue but for me having access to something real and true to give mooring to my overall thought process is more important than many people might know. She really and truly believed and stood for the few things in life that I cannot compromise on. I think once I knew she was the one I did something surprising for me. I told her without irony and without setting up a back door for myself that I was going to marry her. This wasnât a proposal lol! I knew it was going to happen and I declared it to her! In my mind a proposal was a separate event involving a game of surprising her. I donât know if I complemented her more than usual or not! Now Iâm curious :) (by the way she re-typed herself after studying cognitive function from her initial ISTJ to ESTJ when she realized she didnât match the ISTJ cog functions) We are supposed to be like oil and water but 19 years of marriage and 7 kids later we are closer than we have ever been :)
I'm an ENTP and I also married an ESTJ. Things didn't work out but we were and still are very good friends. We laugh and joke around constantly. I'm glad you guys are working out. I definitely experienced the oil and water phenomenon and probably wouldn't date another one lol.
@@violetmoon4314 thanks, I could write several books about it I think! Hopefully everything is going well with you đđŒ
@@robmangeri777 Things are going fantastic, thank you! đ May you two continue to grow closer everyday!
@@violetmoon4314 good to hear and thanks đđŒ
Oh thats good to hear since my boyfriend told me he knows Iâm the one he will marry pretty early on in the relationship and he is an ENTP too đ (Iâm ENFP). I wish the best for your wife and you âš
This kind of makes me realize how the most unexpected couples can come about. Imagine an ISFJ debating a lot more since they acknowledge that the ENTP likes to debate, and eventually that ENTP becomes much nicer to that ISFJ since they start to like them back. Or an ENFP since having a crush on an ISTJ, tries to teach that ISTJ something to which that ISTJ starts to like about that ENFP and becomes more jokey for their sake too.
Yup, it's really crazy what love can do
This is genius-as an INTJ who struggles to identify when I like someone, this has helped me figure out who I have liked. And based off past relationships-it seems like ESTPs are attracted to me! Weird but helpful!
Wait, you've had relationships? You sure you're an INTJ?
@@handle_unknown lol
@@handle_unknown relationships might be needed for the plan.
â@@handle_unknown ikr? how?? I need advice đ
@@CarterWills1 Having a loyal right hand is always helpful
I'm an ENFP and it's so accurate
Yesterday I was telling my boyfriend (he's an INFJ) things about avatar the last Airbender (the show) and we were watching it together (it's his first time watching Avatar). Today we're going to watch the last episode of the last season and I'm so happy I finally get to teach him everything I know about it without worrying about spoiling anything anymore.
Also the INFJ one is accurate for him too because he is like that.
As an INFP this is soooo accurate, I just want to get to know their inner world so I interrogate them
It's easy to know if an INTP likes you, they just start _TALKING_ đ
Also I find it hilarious how confused Frank is about the fellow ENFJ and their flirt game 04:46 confuses the crap out of me aswell, Frank such unique creatures the ENFJs can be indeed
Love the vibe of the whole video btw, great stuffđ
As ENFJ I can tell that everything what been told about my mbti type in this video is totally accurate.
I'm an INTP and I lay into my emotional side hardcore when I'm in a romantic relationship. Suddenly my love language switches to physical touch and words of affirmation
ENFPs will try to help you in ANY capacity they can, not just try to teach you something. They will go out of their way to help you if they care about you in any capacity: friend, lover, familyâŠ. So its hard to know what kind of way we love you unless you ask us and bring it up. We hug everyone but we sometimes will back off the hugginess of someone we like so as not to seem too forward and freak you out. We also will try to tailor our convos to your personality type to engage you and will find out about you via you, your friends and family or side comments just so we can mention it or gift that too you or help you achieve a dreamâŠ. Whatever it is.
I am an INFP but I am that kind of person who reads about signs a person likes you and signs I might be giving to them.
Yes
Thank you ! As an ENFP, I just realized why I start monologging and teaching shit, and after interactions be like⊠why the hell did I explain that to her ?! đ
Most of my exâs were all INFJâs and one of the biggest issues was often them showing feelings openly, I guess I just never was able to catch on to things they did in the moment, and only after discussing with them did I realize their thought process, which was a painful and grueling experience getting out of them because theyâre hard nuts to crack, if crackable at all.
Maybe I should try and date another type đ
As INFJ, if I like you, you'll never see me look at your direction or even budge when you're around because I'm so aware of where you are and you'd never know I have already calculated how much distance I stand apart from you and how much movement I should do when you're around.... LOOOOOOL.
Bro Iâm an ENTP and when he described me I remember the time I complimented this one girl on the fact that she had a *black stripe on her pants* đ
Lol! You are quite the savage of an ENTP! Iâm ENTP and I probably practiced complimenting people at some point because my mom was good at it so Iâm not sure if I really think of that as a trait to show off. Maybe thatâs why I tried to dance. I canât do that for crap lol!
Spot on for INFJ. I really considered my outfit earlier because of the cute guy in the store I was gonna see and thought about what clothes he'd like lol people pleasing at its finest
(INFP) Truth. Sometimes it's just to get to the bottom of their motives. "Why are you being so nice to me" "who told you to tell me I was pretty?" lol. I also want to see honest reactions and get a feel for their personality AND if I can be myself around them. It's exhausting.
Accurate. I'm an ISTP woman and I'm a damn hermit. Quiet. Don't care about being around crowds. But when I get REALLY attracted to someone, I turn talkative, exciting and jokey. Like I try to laugh about everything and make them think I'm so social and interesting and I know what I'm doing. (I don't know.. haha.) It wears me out after awhile!
iâm a INFJ women. i relate on so many levels đ
came to this channel for mbti, stayed for FJ laughing at himself every few mins
edit: just reached the enfp segment and having my cringe self-conscious 'you give me butterflies so i'll give you support on this very niche subtopic of a subtopic while questioning why i'm even saying this but hopefully it becomes a bonding experience as you see the world 0.1% differently all bc of me' self explained back to me is painful đ i've not liked anyone in so so long but goodness does this give me awkward flashbacks, dark times indeed đ
ahahaha omg same!! the âchange in their perspective that will happen bc of meâ is toooo true. i actually used to do it (and sometimes still do, oops) with not just crushes, but people that i just insecurely want to like me. đ
INFP is spot-on. Every crush I've ever had, I always ask them tons of questions. This can also happen for friendship-likes too. Any time I talk with a close friend, I usually turn the topic onto them so they know that I want to learn more about them and that I value our friendship. It's a very convoluted way of going about it though if I'm being honest, đ
Not only are you engaging and hilarious, but your insights are spot on. Love your videos!!!
I literally laughed the entire time you were explaining INFP because that's literally exactly what I do. I constantly just ask my crush questions about himself and his interests
Us ENFPs trying to teach things to every single person they meet, cuz we are attracted to almost anyone that is even remotely attractive to them in like half a way or less
Is funny because I obviously like people and tryt o teach them things but, is not because I like them in a romantic wayđ€Ł
lol! Iâm ENTP and I think I compliment everyone! There is some plane where ENTPs and ENFP frolic or something.
@@robmangeri777 I WANT TO GO TO THERE!!
@@lisa_gay haha! It would be a fun vacation spot right?
Yep as an infj we can hide it well....too well. My crush had no idea I was into him....then years later I heared he was into me as well years ago but thought I didn't care.đ€Šââïž
Also not daring to look at that person is a dead giveaway. Cause I am trying to play it cool here and I know if I end up having eye contact with my crush I will turn into a tomato so I will avoid that awkwardness by avoiding him. Works but again I come across like I don't even know he's alive. Not a good strategy.
omg yesssss. I feel like itâs an infj thing to do everything you can to not look at your crush. or atleast itâs a thing for me.
Sameeeee I will act like they doesnât exist and I will be more cold towards themâŠPlus I will try so hard to not make eye contact with him
The INTP one is SO ACCURATE as one myself I do ask so many questions and with my other traits this often means I can't understand when a question is too much BC I find it hard to read a situation - I'm getting there, ish. I feel like I do this to learn random little details about the person I like and then in the future I'll mention a details and honestly my crush would be so shocked and surprised that I remembered and it's just such a heartwarming feeling
Yes! I do that too! It's awesome
He's exposing us
Yes. I had an INTP boyfriend and he would ask things like how was my sleep day in day out lol
As a INFP I find it really relatable and for me I like asking questions also because it's really less stressful to ask and listen because if I begin to talk ik I'm gonna be weird af đ
The questions are just our safety net because if the attentions on us itâs just gonna be a mess đ
I love how you do that chuckle after suggesting something absurd, just cracks me upđ
The ENFP is so oddly specific (wanting to impart wisdom into your crush). But yes, for me it's true. I tend to show off everything I know about a subject were talking about.
The INFP is very true.
If I have the courage to talk to them (because I would be too shy and flustered to do so) I would probe them to find out more about them to see if we are compatible. Then I would back off and laugh it off.
I would also put on a mask, if make it seem I have to all together, very wise and got my head on straight, but in reality, I don't.
I am weird, awkward, easy to annoy, still trying to find myself and like my alone time.
I enjoyed your analysis of how personality types will "project" as their opposite type in an attempt to impress others. I think this can apply to general social situations too (maybe to a lesser extent). For example, as an INTJ, when I'm in a new social group of people that I want to get along with, I become more spontaneous and open to doing new activities. Once I feel more comfortable, I might become more emotionally expressive and talkative.
đ€Ł Frankâs obsession with Mexican food and the Cars movies were so random but greatly appreciated! Also, the concept of various personalities trying to act out opposite characteristics is very interesting but makes sense. Cool video!
I think INTJ and ESFP are the two types that are most open about their thoughts on each other and mutual admiration/ hatred
True! I've never been friends with an ESFP, but even though they are puzzling and can be annoying when you're trying to get something done, they also have this strange magnetic energy and carefree-ness to them that I do envy somewhat.
FJ's video made me realize that when I want people to like me quickly (not necessarily if I'm attracted to them), I tend to be more outspoken than usual, joke around a lot more and show-off somewhat. I guess I unconsciously have this idea that "my opposite is peak likeability" or something.
@@kumirapau-chan9880 Same here too. I always wonder why I did that. Makes sense now.
Itâs not so much hatred. Itâs that we mutually hate that the thing the other is good at is somehow so important to society in some way, and yet grudgingly admire theyâre good at that with no effort.
My mom is esfp and im intj, i am really comfy with her and i say a lot of stuff stuff to her. But esfp are sensitive so i try to not to be negative and try to be positive and give compliments at the same time to balance things out (i try my best lol) esfp are really soft, its admirable on how good at socialising they are and they are very interesting as well. Like at the fact that they talk so good with people they don't like but also they don't talk behind their back much unless i start saying how much i didn't like the person she talked to (i say it right away đ when i come home). As complete opposite of me some things about her are very admirable but at the same time there are stuff that i don't like, but she is my mom i have the most respect to her and im fine.
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Yup. As an ENFJ, I notice that when I really want to communicate my genuine interest in the person I like, I get quite serious. Generally, I'm pretty bubbly. In person, as well as texting/messaging. The bubbliness, though, gets turned down low when I want that special person to know..well, that I think he's special. It's like..a lot can get lost in translation, as they say. I change my regular demeanor because I want him to pay attention. I'm not joking around/I really like you, etc. I may not come right out and say it plainly, but want to make sure what I DO say is loud and clear.
This was super insightful for me. As an INFP I'm super self aware like you mentioned but I didn't actually realize how true this was til I heard you say it. I definitely interrogate people, but I never would have guessed that would be the thing out of all the things that could have been brought up. The reason I do this is because I think supporting Introverted Sensing likes to catalog and organize information about people, and no other person other than romance option is this true. I'm really scanning their answers to see if we have matching values, experiences, and preferences. I do think it is also a good way to show interest to listen to someone talk about themselves.
I'm an INFP with an ENFJ. He is definitely blunt with me but it doesn't always go over well. And I definitely interrogate but because I genuinely want to know every single thing about you if I like you. Like I want to be the person who knows you the best. đ
What do you mean, Tasha, by "he is blunt with me, but it doesn't always go over well" ? :)
@@Dom-Tom-Tom It can be difficult to be with someone who genuinely seems very positive and excited around everyone but is more candid and comfortable with you. I sometimes have to remind myself that when he is critical of my choices or if he is less "vibrant" with me than others, it's because he's simply more relaxed around me. There's no front. He can say what he thinks and feels genuinely. However I am quite sensitive at times and he does get reminded of that time to time đ
@@totesmcgotes16 haha OK. Did he also act that way when he was getting to know you?
@@Dom-Tom-Tom Yes he did but less often I would say. We started as friends so it was quite a journey. I got to know him before he was interested in me so I could see the comparison haha.
â@@totesmcgotes16 I am sorry if you feel personally attacked when your ENFJ is being blunt with you. I am sorry the INFP's in my life feel that way. I know I need to slow down with them and gradually get blunter and blunter. Most of the people closest to me in my life are actually INFP.
Some ideas that might help you both. Your ENFJ needs to to seek and tell the truth, your ENFJ needs to feel heard and not assumed about, when they express a need, try to help them, stay focused and supportive when your ENFJ has a need, and seek to do what is right as your core value and you and your ENFJ will be great together. Your ENFJ needs daily and monthly check in opportunities to have serious talks so you can both get back to him being who you feel in love with. This is not natural for an INFP or an ENFJ but it will help you BOTH! Do it in a fun way, like a coffee date, but actually bring your calendars and stay on task till you figured stuff out.
As an ENFJ this reminded me of why those closest to me feel like I am being harsher than I am when I simply get serious for a second and talk about something "I NEED" to talk seriously about, say a medical thing that needs to take place or telling someone something was not appropriate and getting serious to set a boundry. The other time my bluntness comes out is after I have been ignored repeatedly and being natural me does not work with the person and it tends to be ignored the most by those closest to me.
I carry the same energy, but if I need to get serious with someone, I do get blunt and trust that those I love can handle me having a bad day or just being over asking nicely and creatively 18 times and my obvious request not being taken seriously just because I am not naturally serious but if the charismatic way is ignored then serious and blunt is going to need to come out, so the topic is actually discussed.
I really don't get it because I feel like I am being held to a standard by those who love me the most that I can't ever achieve. I have literally had friendships where we never fought for years but I put my foot down once, and act like them for a second, and they tell me I am too harsh. Huh? I am friendly and flirty, but sometimes there is going to be a disagreement and I truly feel like my personality type is not heard unless they are being positive and sometimes it's near impossible to be positive and that's not healthy. I am never fake. It's just that there are more times when you need to get serious when you're in a serious relationship.
Watch the ENFJ vs INFJ (especially, if your ENFJ feels you change plans on him) video. We struggle when we feel others keep letting us down by not helping us the way we have worked hard to help them. Read also, "The Five-Love Language" book. We naturally show love by helping, it can hurt if that's not understood or reciprocated as we made requests for but were not heard.
Honestly this likely sounds too harsh, there is no tone in text, I did get serious, but I am not mad. I mean to write all this to help you understand.
It's like my tone and words matter more than others, this feels unfair. I can only be an encourager if I am allowed to be and have been encouraged myself. People I work with let that happen, sometimes my own family or best friend assumes ill-intent that isn't there just because I have to set more boundaries as someone other than as a boss or employee where the personality feels more respected and their does have to be decorum at all times.
And I do know I need to be more careful with my personality type. I need to express sooner what I am feeling at a 20 so I don't have to go from 0, to 0, to 0, to 0, to 0, to 60! Both yours and your guy has a passion for what is right. But honestly, I hate needing to even be blunt at a 20, I wish people could get my social clues, I feel like I am being "clear" all the time, with those I love I do feel I need to be over the top obvious and this is where the harsher word of being "blunt" comes in.
Youâve caught me⊠as an INFJ, Iâve been acting very calculated and serious when Iâm anywhere close to my crush, seemingly cold and intimidating to approach
This is so dead on it's amazing. I laughed out loud when you said intps ask personal questions. When we first met, my now husband kept asking me what kind of music I like and if I'd ever heard this or that. I found it charming actually. And yes i, an infj, usually start dressing up for someone I like. And usually I couldn't care less what people think of my looks, I dress for me.
IM DYING LAUGHING!!! This is so accurate!! Being an ESFJ, it could not be better described by anyone else. I donât know how Frank does it, but he always hits it dead on!!
Pretty much nailed ISTP. I'll go out of my way to be around you. Almost creepily, in fact, because I don't do "outgoing". So it'll just be me... hovering and looking at you intently.
This is the most istp comment and I love it
Yeah and if i have crush on someone i just try to look cool infront of them lol đż
So spot on about INFP'S! My husband and me, when we had our first real conversation, it was like: so what kind of woman/man are you looking for? Hahaha! And all the details followedđ We actually described each other to each other 100% accurately without knowing each other longer than 2 hoursđ