5 ICE-COLD INFJ MOVES
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Get ready, because today we're diving into the world of ice cold INFJ moves. As INFJs, we have this frosty persona that's equal parts intriguing and intimidating. But here's the secret: we're not proud of it. We keep it under wraps, not wanting to make others uncomfortable. But let's face it, this icy disposition is a unique skill. The real question is, how are we going to wield it? Are we going to tap into it for good or for mischief? It's high time we not only embrace this part of ourselves but also revel in it and let it guide us towards the life we've always dreamt of. Buckle up as we explore five bone-chilling INFJ tactics and how they can help us create our ideal reality.
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What are some of your ice-cold moves that come out from time to time?
When a MFer tries to provoke or gets too nosey and I look at them for a full 5 seconds with a serious / curious look and then look away, smile and change the subject.
One person literally shivered in a 'someone just walked over my grave' type of way 🥶
What abou the INFJ unentional soul stare
When I've established extremely firm boundaries that even those I would defend with my life at one point that I've allowed Humans to breach, so making healthy space has had most in my former life view me as "dead inside," because most of who I was prior to that point doesn't exist
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All of the above. Playing only games that we will win is my top favorite. The cold sigma prudence... simply me and nothing more to say. 🥰
To my fellow INFJ’s… EMBRACE that inner ICE🤙
nice!
Oh yes!
Ice ice baby
Cutting those out that are delusional is necessary. I'm not a game player. It's simple. "You're done."
After quite a bit of soul searching and thought, I'm capable of walking away from long term relationships with no guilt. I see that as far less cold than blowing up quickly and emotionally and then changing my mind later. When my mind's made up it's made up.
Don’t ever quit doing this service, Wenzes because nobody else can put this into words so simply
1:11 # 1 the INFJ dreams and dares big
3:29 # 2 the INFJ doesn't play the game of society
5:15 # 3 the INFJ always has a backup plan
7:00 # 4 the INFJ is constantly evaluating other people
9:15 # 5 the INFJ only fights when they know they will win
I got into a situation recently with a friend that drew in several of these "ice cold moves" on my part. I had observed her subtly disrespect me and treat me with contempt over the better part of a year, and finally I had enough of it. I confronted her and ended the friendship. She didn't really see it coming and was surprised at my reaction. This was a "fight" that I knew there was nothing she could say to change my mind. I knew all along that there was nothing left to salvage. INFJ door slam ensued promptly after that conversation, and I've never looked back. She's contacted mutual friends to whine about it, but I'm just done. Ice cold? Maybe. I prefer to look at it as healthy boundaries, and I wish her all the best going forward.
Same thing happened to me. Ended a friendship of 14 years after 6 years of toxicity from her. We would have existential convos that would end with her personally insulting me if she felt I "won" bc yes she needed to WIN conversations. Ofc there was much more to our friendship ending but yes she was surprised and offended and tried to act like she knew all along. She was just mad bc she had deep abandonment issues and O abandoned her ( me the wimp she probably thought whole time I was sparing her and trying to empathize initially). She texted me months later. I didn't have much to say bc she didn't acknowledge anything just said she was praying for me. I couldn't accept it bc you never listened to me, dismissed me and insulted me but now you're suddenly praying for me when i cut you off. Girl please and girl bye. I don't miss her at all. And I don't say that like some would say I must if I mentioned it. I just was surprised yet confirmed that I really no longer liked her if aftet 14 years of me considering her my bf I didn't miss her at allllllll. I was so happy once I wad done with her. Like that boyfriend that abuses you and thinks you don't have the guts to leave and is blindsided when you do. I had an inner smile writing this. Yes can be ice cold but it's just my boundaries after years of pouring and not being poured into.😊
@@mercedesharrison5550 I totally get it! I am sure my friend never thought I would have the guts to stand up to her because she knows a lot of my secrets (none of them are bad, just personal stuff I don't tell everyone). I felt a huge weight lifted once I ended the friendship.
Had no problems to lose about 6-8 friends i felt stealing my energy and i finally got a chance to lose them over 10 years ago when i again was moving and i just did not tell them were and changed my cell phone number lol. I have felt lot better since and i actually had no problems to end with my 2 sisters either about the same time lol. Finally alone Cold as Ice ha ha.
@@mercedesharrison5550GIRRRLLLLL I had to read your commend 3 times when you said your ex friend said she’ll pray for you, because the LITERAL same thing happened to me holy fucking shit. Are all covert narcissists the exact same????!!! Let me guess, she’s an ENFP or something similar who appears charming and social on the outside but cannot accept that she has negative dark shadow qualities and everyone else is the problem but her poor victimized ass. Lmfao. Damnnnnnn. Hello Venus retrograde confirming my deepest intuitive ability to see people for who they are
Anyway, my story is eerily similar to you. She was my childhood best friend and we were friends for 15 years before I ended that shit. Friendship had been breaking apart cause we were drifting and then we tried again and tried to rebuild it. I don’t think she ever forgave me for the perceived slights I did upon her even though I thought we were good. In the final period she would do the same thing of subtle disrespecting me, enabling me when I was in a hurtful situationship, making passive aggressive jabs, blowing me off and still never changing her lack of punctuality. Not to mention that it was only in retrospect that I realized whenever I got blackout drunk it was always due to her encouraging me with more drinks when I was already tipsy.
I told her over a year ago I wanted a break and I deleted the 20 minute long birthday video I made for her when I was 18 that she would show to people lmao. I stopped talking entirely and then for whatever reason felt the need to reach out earlier this year to speak my final piece. I was angry bc I felt misunderstood and felt negative evil eye energy from the old friend group we were in, and then she writes an entire paragraph telling me with great honesty (after the fact mind you) her true thoughts and feelings about me except it was very accusatory. Tried to play victim by calling ME the one victimizing myself, and said she will pray for me ..: still pretending to the end like she’s the good guy and I’m some horrible Joker. Ironically my life has improved a whole ton and I’ve gotten mentally healthier since I left her and the entire friend group behind. I’ve moved my life forward so I felt bad for her anyway.
Also like a few months ago I had a dream of her stabbing me 😐
It made me so damn angry. I’m not a terminally ill cancer patient you need to pray for. It was implying her putting herself on a high horse like I’m the fucked up one lmao. I’m the one actually seeking to improve myself in therapy and personal development and I’m learning to accept my flaws. Delusional asses 🙄 it also gave me closure in a way and made me SO glad I left the friendship. Even me leaving the friend group and another mutual friend was in big part due to our connections together. Like this person was never my true friend. My lesson is that I deserve the love I have to give to be reciprocated to me equally, not take in projects to fix and only have them write hate poems in public to post on social media. Jesus I never asked to be part of any narrative.
This is great, thank you!! I always struggle with feeling “harsh” but only because others are willing to put up with things that I am not. As I’ve gotten older, I realize the necessity of boundaries and letting people know how to treat you. Folks will treat you any kind of way, and I don’t desire to be treated just any kind of way.
it backfired too much
was too stubborn to agree i made mistakes so pain
i should improve my skill furthermore and tbh i am a infj even though its 50 years and kinda been disapproved but still extrovert and introvert still lives on
The truth is harsh for some. They live in a delusional world.
Yes!!
Yeah, most people would agree that i'm ice cold and unrelatable.
My closest friends see quite the opposite. Cause they make me comfortable to be my true self.
Hard shell, soft core. The first to cry when something bad happens in a movie. Still not someone average joe wants to mess with.
"The INFJ only fights when they know they will win"
Not necessarily, at least in my case. I usually step in more when I feel like it is "safe" to do so. In other words, I see more good than harm coming from my "fighting." Even if I don't "win," at least the impact would be positive overall. Ideally the other person will leave and think about what was said and come back with a cooler head next time.
Right I fight when necessary or bc of it's truly come down to the principle. Win or lose I will fight. I'd rather win ofc bc I'm human but only if I'm right. If I'm wrong which is rare bc I think before I do so much 😂 (true infj stuff) I'm happy bc I feel it was something I needed to learn. I never fight bc I know I can win unless it's under the context of something like work or landlord issues where I know I need to have ducks in a row and documentation. Regular people can get this work regardless, if it's necessary. Win lose or draw don't mess with me once you've gotten us to this point. Your feelings will be hurt
Sometimes, fighting for what I know in my heart is right, feels like the only choice I can make to feel like me living my life, true to myself. If I just gave up without standing up for myself or what is fair, then I would regret not trying, and feel that as a loss. If I fight and don't succeed, I won't regret that I tried, I will feel strong and move on.
I step in many "things" too and thought i am from this part of my North European country where people is always frank and we are known for that in the rest of my old Country . But i found out i was a INFJ just few months ago and maybe there is some mix why i get in trouble all the time with my background lol. Yes i fight always for the good sake against bullies and disrespect.
For me, I don’t try to engage in fights, but when I do, I fight to win, especially if the other person had had it coming. I’ve always tried to keep the peace, but when I snap, I let out all things that I’ve held my tongue back for. And because I snap, I get to be seen as the one with the temper when the other people have been angry at me for the littlest things.
Sometimes I feel guilty for having back up plans but whenever something awful is happening I immediately make sure I have a plan. It’s usually my very first thought-how it will affect me and should I be making other plans 😬
The Ice Queen! When I was about 18 I had this boyfriend who kept threatening to kill himself if I left. I can still picture getting off the phone and thinking "well go on then.." and he did try. But my mind was made up
I'm probably an INFJ, I took a test, and came out as such. And I recognize the aspects as described. (English is not my first language, by the way.) I have two examples from my own life: I had a woman, a neighbor, who tried to make me look bad or stupid on a couple of occations. We lived in a four flat building. This happened many years ago. One afternoon I heard some commotion out in the staircase area, and I went to look. This lady had started to clean the walls of the staircase, with furious energy, and not speaking a word to me as she spotted me. Okay, I had nothing better to do just then, so I got my bucket of soap water and starting to clean our side of the staircase, not uttering a word to her, just working on like there was no tomorrow. When we reached the lower part, our downstairs neighbor peeked out, wondering what was going on. That way, she was witness to both of us cleaning the walls. I could see what lady A was planning; to make me look like a sloppy and unwilling neighbor, to tell all her friends (she had a couple of them) what a despicable person I was. Her having to clean the whole staircase alone! Well, she failed hard. Acouple of days later, the sun was shining, and most of my neighbors were sitting out in the garden, drinking coffee. I had just baked a cake, so I asked them (lady A was there, too) if they wanted me to bring out some cake, and some more coffee. Yeah, they all agreed, and I went up and got the cake and the coffee, and a cup for myself. When I came down in the garden, lady A shouted, laughingly; - no, we have! She really enjoyed herself, making me look foolish. - Well, I said, - you might want some more! I smiled, poured myself a cup, put the cake on the table, and sat down on a chair. I spoke not a word, picked up a magazine laying there, read some of it with deep interest, drank my coffee, and told them to keep the cake, because I had things to do. 1-0 to me, I guess. After these episodes she walked on eggshells around me...
Ha ha ! You are one of us as it seems so welcome. I am from Scandinavia kind of too .
Well done!! And I’m very similar!!! I would do the same
When I was working in high tech, I came up with a new idea for a division for the company I was working for. Most people would have thought I was crazy if I would have said I was going to be a VP of the largest division of the company. I ended up retiring due to health issues. When I left, I was about 6 months away from my division spinning off. I shook the hand of the director of Engineering in the division I was working in, and I said I will be seeing you. He looked horrified and asked me if I was firing him, even though I was not his boss or a VP yet, he knew I had the power to get him fired if I wanted to.
I didn't think of this as an ice-cold move when it happened but since watching this video I think it was a very good move. There's a guy at my job who is attracted to me and since he's not really my type, I don't respond to his flirtatious moves. But even though I haven't given him any encouragement at all, he still finds a way to interact with me somehow. He's actually very subtle about it so I don't know if anyone else has noticed, but because INFJs can read people so well, I know he's interested in me. It would be very easy to outright turn him down,but that might lead to some awkwardness, so one day we were in the breakroom Getting Coffee and he said something about politics. Even though it's not how I actually feel, I took this opportunity to throw a big wet blanket on his affections. I took the opposite stance on political ideas and all but called him a tree-hugging snowflake. Needless to say, he has been actively avoiding me ever since!! 😂😂😂
I use my ice very rarely as I stop talking. Freaks them out.
I embrace my ice cold side 😂
I use it for continued peace and love to always flow. I have 0 energy to allow anyone interrupting my journey.
Same. We're protecting our peace 😊
I have no problem setting and keeping my boundaries with strangers and people that I couldn't care a less. I don't even care if they think I'm mean, if they don't know how to behave first. But the closer the person is more difficult it is. So many times I'm way too kind and pleasing. I'm trying to learn anyway.
I have the same issue. I almost feel completely disarmed if I care about the person bc I really don't want to hurt them. A woman I know who is probably a narc or borderline (not auiet bpd) said this makes no sense. I thought yes and that's why your son doesn't speak to you yet you made so many friends of people you manipulated and have lost them too once they started to see you. I have only one friend now but only bc I cut my others off due to boundaries not bc they seen thru me a fled from me like a refugee from their war torn country. It all pays off in the end.
INFJs also have a plan within a plan within a plan within a plan, they like to keep their cards close, always have something under their sleeve, and checks the "climate" of the situation and things and how it affects their plans and decisions.
Great video💯Number #5 is so true, and we also often don’t get in fights we know won’t lead to a resolved solution too, especially with people who don’t listen, lack empathy, and only can see their own perspective and never accept yours. These people only try to persuade you and really don’t care about how you feel as an individual.
Maybe not all the time, but sometimes it’s better to accept the blame than to explain. Sometimes losing is winning because you persevere your energy. On some occasions, speaking to some people can make matters worse. But as long as you and GOD knows what’s right is what matters most. Everyone has to take accountability for themselves.
"Fear is not an option" (True Lies 1994) 😏😎
Much love to my infj family.
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#3..... got let go from a company that needed to shed staff on trumped up accusations. Was offered a weeks pay....
I said 'don't bother', phoned a mate in need, drove up to him and had work for three weeks and then found a better job. 😅
Because I'm basically friendly and not shy about greeting people (a result of a lot of practice; a story in itself). I also try to say positive things to people. So it surprises them when I'm working on my 'Big Dreams," many of which aren't according to the game of society that you spoke about.
And then, yes, that's when I'm often seen as "cold." After all we should be concerned about what others think, shouldn't we?
Well, I don't want to hurt people unnecessarily, but there are times when I need to pursue my plans, and there are people who aren't going to like it. It's at that time that I have to keep following those dreams in order to live at peace with myself.
Yup, I was being called selfish by the narcissists in my family bc they underestimated me.
4 hit me I questioned if I was judging by evaluating
I've had people call me "negative" for having a back up plan. I don't see anything wrong with being practical. I think NOT having a back up plan is negative, because it leaves more room to fail.
People don't always treat you with kindness
That there are so many websites focusing on INFJs makes me wonder if the other 15 types get the same level of interest? Do INFJs, even though they are the smallest population, garner the most interest, being the most interesting to both INFJs and non-INFJs alike?
All of your videos are amazing. But this one....this one is off the charts. Thank you for posting this.
I agree
Turned up the Aries fire within, now they know from the first moment, that they are dealing with the goddess of fire. Burn at you own risk😊
1. Plan "A" must always maintain the ability to evolve incase plan "B" becomes necessary.
2. No plan survives first contact.
3. You will never need a "Plan C".
Ashamed for me isn't the word. I'd say more so "not proud of". As others continuously (and severely) underestimate us, the reality is we have to break out our cold persona.
If we don't, we get made a fool of.
We know others so Well, we already know hiw to react when they come in with their Negativity.
I've recently decided to relocate and of course, all of a sudden people out of the woods are wanting to "re-connect".
Not happening 😂
It's not our fault that *we* make others feel bad because we have the guts to take steps that they are too Fearful too.
That's completely their fault and short-coming 🤷🏻♀️
We embrace nearly everyone. If they have a big, weak Ego then little do they know, but it's not in their best interest to approach us.
I don't at all see myself as Bad. Perhaps it's a military baby thing, but being Observant & Analytical.
As I've gotten older, I've realized the are the core skills to Winning in Life.
Be it The Game of Life or my INFJ Life.
Great insight, @Wenzes!
Ha ha ! I always have a plan B when i go out on the streets to do something and so we are not lost if the first move dont work . That is so me and probably for my brothers and sisters too. Then i been writing about things for 10 years and have now a channel on a alternative site coz i want to share my info that is huge about these truths and i been challenged about my knowledge time to time by the normal narcissist and happened again few days ago and i pulled my normal info to silence this guy and no need to be a jerk back to him, just explaining the facts i have in my head and he went silent ,like they always do lol. Think many recognize this too from they own knowledge about something coz we know about lot of things and we want to share that ,right .
Loved this video and it overlapped with some recent experiences. Two concepts that others may find useful "know your worth". If you are high value individual, you do not have to compromise or sell yourself because another soul does not see your worth. Also "shake the tree", if you think others are fishing for more and you are not sure of them "shake the tree" and see what fruit falls. If it is old rancid or underripe and without flavour - leave it behind. Leave immature fruit on the tree to ripen, but do not be manipulated or cajoled into fruit that is unpleasant, lacking nutrition, old or premature.
Thanks so much for this perspective you providw. The cold persona is my boundary with others. I need it to be emotionally healthy and to be able to separate my emotions from other peoples emotions. Without it, im confused and not grounded in reality. Thabk you for encouraging me to embrace it. I feel stronger now and unashamed.
A friend who attacked something and someone I admired very much. It was done so nastily. I suspected it was also a (jealous) dig at me. That was it. Our friendship was over. The famous door slam. I saw a darker side that perhaps I had overlooked, wanting to see the best only. But that others had perhaps seen more clearly - despite the famous infj intuition. I saw something demanding, opportunistic or even malicious, and I stepped right back. I didn’t wish her ill, but that was the end.
I was just talking to someone about having this disposition at the core of who I am, and I am ready to embrace it.
Wenze's what you said is so true!!!
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My ice cold INFJ move is watching some yt videos at 1.25x speed
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My game name is cold ice and i am an INFJ
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Thank you so much, you explained exactly the patterns of my behaviour and why so I don’t feel bad about myself after I fight back. Plus really liked your suggestion to let people know from the begging that they can’t mess up with me, because otherwise I am giving the wrong message to them until it’s too late for them to change anything :)
Perfectly that. But at this stage of my life I feel stock , Despite all those abilities and the non stop self work. I feel like I'm completely alone and that hurt me the most . 💔
I think we always evaluate other people bevause we want to protect ourselves. As we have a kind nature, we want to make sure that other people are sincere before we open up to them. I trusted someone whom I realised is a narcissist. Now I'm learning to evaluate others and not to feel guilty for doing it.
Yes, it's called being an ascending Scorpio 🦂♏ or Scorpio rising, as some might call it. We know who we are. The true Phoenix
I always say 'there is more than one way to skin a cat.'
5😂 points r totally crt apart frm ashamed,,,1.ideas n suggestions is the worst n big part of my life..n
5.fighting, back then in my schooling n graduation only my frnds knew me well...
An INFJ’s persona is his (or her) camouflage! 😁
She gets it, wow.
Being able to think strategically when going into 'battle' is very useful. Pick your words, stay calm and have your say. I have to say something to a friend of 15 years who I suspect is saying things about me behind my back. I've picked up the patterns and am joining the dots. I will continue to put my mind to the issue until I'm ready to strike. I feel sad that the friendship might not survive, but I've got to do what I've got to do
Wenzes, as an INFJ-T, I want to thank you for giving me the truth and embracing my real self and the tips to make it happen via your videos. I do have a question, though. And for that to happen, let me explain the scenario to you:
Today, I went to a writing group meetup. I have met them once and thought that they were chill and nice. The moment I meet them for the third time, they decided to ignore me on purpose. For context, the purpose of it was to write your pieces, socialise and get advice from fellow writers. They were talking to others, but they didn't bother to check up on me ONCE. At once, I felt small and know that I wasn't wanted at all. I decided to leave early, and made the decision to leave the writing group due to the fact that they acted like assholes. This is the same cycle that I am trying to break: I try to approach and talk to people like a normal adult, they ignore me. The people that attract me would be either a-holes or toxic in nature. I want to attract healthy relationships, but every single time I try, I end up failing. And even when I finally believe and trust myself, even just for one moment, everything goes wrong in all sorts of ways and I go back to not believing and trusting myself. EDIT: and oh, I forgot to add: if I wanted to make any friends be nice and sympathise and be close to me, I end up telling my "trauma" story to them, and they fall for it. If I didn't say anything, they ignore to talk to me.
So, my question is how do I, as an INFJ-T, find a supporting group and befriending them whilst being my real self. I want to find a group of people who will be like, "Yeah, she's cool, let's talk to her more often in spite of her quirks" than "Let's back away from the weird one, she's not one of us" sort of thing WITHOUT the use of me doing the trauma story act. I hope it makes sense! Lots of Love from Australia 🇦🇺
This is 100% spot on!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one who experiences these things.
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We can handle the cold cos we’ve been there all our lives.
I was always wondering about this side of me
My partner stayed with friends a few nights 15 years ago. A gal there liked her, hit on her and wouldn't take no for an answer and because my partner was still visiting during the week, she was convinced it was to see her. My girl came home and avoided the calls. We were invited to a New Year's party only a few months later and when chick got there, the whole place started whispering that, psst chick, psst partner is here.... I wasn't supposed to know she'd been hitting hard on my girl so I acted like I didn't know... When she got to our side of the room I reacted with, "Oh hi! Didn't know you'd be here! Hug hug. How good to see you! Blah blah....," Poor lady was so upset that I wasn't upset and had no idea that she had to leave crying. 😈. I don't know WHY she was so upset???? Grr! I don't have to play their game and get uppity. They've got their manners on so I don't "see" they're angry or upset and just manners and pleasant them right back. Sure pisses them off that I don't see the egg shells I'm supposed to be walking on under those manners... I love doing it to the ones hiding their ugliness under politeness and manners. Well, how can I tell? If I was tuned in and cared to play their game of control and manipulation, but I am tuned in and I'm not gonna be manipulated. Here's your manners back at ya baby!!!
You are 100 % correct in all your statements !!!!!!
I come across cold and don't smile constantly. I don't want to come across as a phony. I notice people don't bother to initiate friendliness to often.
So I guess you'd call him my best friend when we were younger throughout college years and such but he tends to tell people that I just met embarrassing pasts that I want to forget but he never realized how humiliating and embarrassing it is as I never want to remember stupid things I've done. I've never told him how uncomfortable it is so I pretty much have done the silent doorslam and haven't contacted him in forever but I've changed and don't want to be friends anymore. He doest respect my thoughts. I think I just need to move on and find new people to meet but I'm also happy being alone but long term isn't good.
I definitely understand this feeling. I also understand the action bc you feel like they should know what they did wrong bc it's so obvious to you. However I would always recommend trying to talk it out and only door slamming if the person gaslights and refuses to hear you out. Cutting people off with no explanation of wrongdoings will leave you lonely. If you express it and they continue to not listen then you know you did all you could. Out of 7 friends I only had 2 that would listen and understand. Those two were worth it bc they listened objectively. The others I had peace cutting off bc well they just reacted defensively with no empathy, apology, insight or change.
this is true totally about #5 i let a girl know who thought she could take me down i told i have friends in places in this world that they would avenge me. she never bothered me again.
not putting up with bullies
Your clear, graceful expression of #4 answered so many inner questions whirling around today! Thanks, sis! Shine on!
Loved it!
Love you Wenz. 💙
Amazing. Just amazing.
I love this lady. Explains me soooo well. I need to tune in more!!
Lol, I was thinking about it today. It's a really a thing you gotta fine tune!
Everything you said is spot on. Exactly as we respond
You are incredibly talented at this. I have learned so many things about myself. Thank you!
JUST FAAACTS! You look so pretty btw. 🥰
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Damn, you look amazing!
you’re such a blessing to us all. do you do any 1-on-1 coaching ?
She looks like Cleopatra.
How to tell your 70year old ESFP grandma that you like being INFJ; don't like going outside but like stay at home and reading?😅 She is using a lot of Fi. It's hard to listen. This affectation is too much. It's like : please go outside. why do you behave like this? maybe try this. I care about you.... I know she is careing but long listening her "exaggerated affected careing speech" can be exhausting and later I feel bad that I was not nice to her 🙃😅
My grandma was the same. I regretted a lot of things after she passed. Spend as much time as you can with her and listen to her from time to time.
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One Of My Ice Cold Moves Is To Slam A Meteorite Sized Iceberg Into Them, Telekineticly Lifted.
@9:10 , real talk
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No we’re not, but you wouldn’t think so outwardly.
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I don't think ISFPs generally come off as cold as ice in fact quite the opposite; perhaps icy cold in short bursts? I think it's interesting as an observer I see more intensity but I understand ISFPs with Fi-Ni can feel cooler in their feeling owing to Fi being spread over a larger surface area 😊. This more contingent upon aspects of personality superfluous to cognition however. But yes ISFPs do dream big! Yes ISFPs make it 'very concrete' owing to their Se-Te divergent pairing when their Fi-Ni has established a goal. I think what you're saying re society rules is very much indicative of what somebody would brood over who's on the Fi-Te axis; remember it's not always a primarily concern even thinking about whether we fit in or not for types who are not on this axis, which I know may come as a surprise. People can like the stability a good job etc brings without worrying about what society thinks at large. I'd look up the Fi-Te axis on CPT for clarification. I'd rather conceptualise it that Fi doms feel an innate need to think about this stuff as they try to align the Te objective reality with their Fi individualism. Again you're doing a great job Wenzes it's just not from a cognitive INFJ perspective. Talking about vulnerability for ISFPs I applaud you for mentioning this as it is very true for the relationships I've had with ISFPs and you're right not everyone is comfortable with this, even my own type; I wouldn't say it's a fear of loosing yourself however as how one type defines the self or what credence they even give to that concept is going to be very much contingent upon your cognitive type. As a cognitive ENFJ unlike the ISFP we rarely rely on archetypes to cement our identity - we do albeit in much shorter bursts. We too are future centric but much more from a perspective of Ni (as our authority function) - a kind of abstract end goal independent of the self - this could be cementing change in society via academia (or in my case for example) - the self is rather a secondary consideration. To this end it might be helpful to contrast the types against that of the ISFP as opposed to putting everyone else in the same proverbial basket so to speak. There's also made shades of the ISFP just as there is for all the other cognitive types 😊. Sorry big no no, INFJs are not aware of others emotions - they are logically not emotionally predictive: if you give an INFJ a line of reasoning they can probably foresee what you're going to say but as divergent feelers the predictive emotional capability is not there realm of expertise. It's an easy mistake to make if you're an intuitive feeling type like the ISFP who does have this gift. I wouldn't however say the ISFP has the upper hand: everyone is strategic & everyone evaluates it's just how we go about that & our relative blindspots that might be the difference. If you put me on the spot as my Si-Ti- is poor I'm going to be caught out every time as my short term memory is bad. If you ask an ISFP to look at a number of abstract objective facts they're going to struggle as their Ne-Te is impaired etc..this doesn't mean we can't develop however. I think the ISFP can sometimes take things too personally when they think people are pushing against their rationale - not their person as this is frankly insulting; I only point out the indiscrepancies as a Ti oppositional type. To be objective truth matters more than anything & see typology (which is happening via CPT & academia) out of the realm of pseudo science & behaviourally imbued stereotypes where everyone 1 in 5 people is typing themselves as an INFJ. You are beautiful without the INFJ label, it doesn't matter. ISFPs are an equally wonderful type. When people invest that much in a type code it's time to take stock. This is never a personal attack - it's a rationally cohesive critique based upon Jung's work. Feel free to come back with objections based upon Jung & CPTs evolvement's of thereof. It's not about winning, it's about progress. What would really be my sore spot?...Seeing a lack of progress in the typology community & the continuation of mistyping based on pseudo science - in a way I'm already devastated every time as see the ' I sooo relate to this. I must be an INFJ!'...When people start to take it personal as opposed to from a rationale standpoint that's when we need to take stock. Im no big wig sat patronising other people: I did the same thing myself mistyping as an INTJ for years based upon said stereotypes but I've seen what correct typing can do for individuation & I know many ISFPs also via CPT that I have these conversations with on discord. I have nothing but the utter most respect for ISFPs, indeed Jordan Peterson is one who I greatly admire & wish I had some of his attributes. If people wish to critique me, fine, but do it in the constructive manner in which I've tried to deliver kind utilising accurate sources of information and logically cohesive arguments...now that's what I call a dialogue and making good progress 😊. I've never provided criticisms where I haven't cited the appropriate sources for people to then go & make their own minds up. I know you're helping a lot of people with the generic very well tailored advice you do provide, again, my only contention is that it's not exclusively catered to or coming from a cognitive INFJs perspective but I'm sure there's a lot of your content we can all agree with. I'm tied to my own type in ways as I always feel the pull to call inaccuracies out owing to my hyper divergent Ti and, despite having a few people messaging me with more queries, generally get ignored or snidy remarks on forums where people are too attached to their perceived type. I already pay quite a heavy price for what I put out there, which I'm fine with but if I reach a few people, I've at least done my best. I'm sure Harry would like some constructive criticism re CPT: that's how we move forward - dialogue not segregation. I see a lot of people so invested in being an INFJ because they have suffered narc abuse (so have I), are empaths (so am I), are HSPs (so am I) etc in really dark places; putting your whole identity into being an INFJ might help in the short term as an explanation for all one's life problems but in the long term a fictitious reality serves nobody...I care about & respect people enough that I will take the road less travelled even if it means I'm scathed at or ignore in the process. We need to let go of notions such as as intuitives being superior to sensors as that's one of the reasons so many mistype when they're equally intuitive as intuitive types. As I've said before, the ISFP is an intuitive feeler with Fi-Ni convergence, not the INFJ, which is something to celebrate in its own right. I look at the likes of Arya Stark & wish I had some sass & individualism like that. When the cookie crumbles, I'm not attacking you or anyone else as a person, you actually seem like a very healthy fully integrated ISFP with higher Te integration than most at such a young age (I don't mean that in a patronising way - just I'm no spring chicken). I actually come to such cites, in parts to learn more about ISFPs etc (& other forums where people have for valid reasons, like myself, mistyped) from their perspective...I just wish they were 'labelled' as such...when we venerate one type so much the complexity of human nature doesn't get a look in when in fact many, many intuitive ISFPs & ESFPs gravitate towards typology (my other half is an ESFP & my best friend an ISFP). Again, not that I'm that important, im just one commentator, but my primary aim is not to personally attack anyone (why would I do that to someone I don't even know? I've had that done to me & certainly wouldn't do it to others) but rather to engage in a healthy, open minded critical dialogue about cognition (not someone's personality as that's a separate issue). If anyone wants to add a critique I'm all ears...I'm sure we all want to take typology out of the realms of fiction/laughing stock it's become in the scientific community. That's why I'll always advocate for CPT: no one is venerated, the nuance is their and most importantly, it helps us understand each other on a much deeper level. If people don't like it then that's fine but I've found most people who do meander over, like I did, have opened themselves up to an Ni-Ti world of insight that can do a lot for helping them cognitively develop instead of the 'ENFJs are all back stabbers masquerading as fluffy teddy bears'...'INTPs are the most intelligent type' etc. I do apologise if a lot of what I say comes off as harsh: it's not meant that way but can, due to the written form get lost in translation. I'm actually a very nice and amenable person in 'real life'...The critiques are never personal, they come from a rational standpoint owing to my Ti. You've gave me a glimpse in side the mind of a healthy ISFP & really do give some fantastic advice, there's no qualms there.
Man, you are so obsessed with your sister, you should have married her in the first place. You want every girl to be ISFP just to live your twisted fantasies
Your parents never loved you, huh?
@@illiterate_readerI agree with you!!! Like seriously it's exhausting to try to read all that mess!
First of all, you're not going to understand this video unless you're an INFJ, so you need to stay with your MBTI type because nearly all of us INFJs relate to Wenzes insights and she's not wrong. We also didn't ask for anyone else's input or opinions of us. You don't belong in here and nobody cares about your criticism because it's not helping anyone. I'd be shocked if anyone actually read your whole comment. I think I'd rather study how to do my own taxes, that would be a better investment time wise.
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