Women Who Called Out Sexist Things That Are Still Blatantly Accepted
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Best one I ever heard: "Why do we tell our daughters 'to be safe' while going out and not tell our sons 'to behave'?"
And this is soooo true and so scary!
It sounds nice, but it's really stupid. Because the point of "be safe" is to say there are criminal assholes out there, and if your view is they should just behave, you're going to end up in a world of hurt, or worse.
Hopefully popular opinion: do both. If itâs 100% crime rate and women are told to be safe, it will make the rate 50%. If you tell men to behave, it will make the rate 50%. Do both and 0%.
This is hypothetical btw, just an example of how itâll have a greater effect.
i pulled this up thinking it might be kind of sarcastically funny, after watching it im just angry as hell.
same, honey. fuckin' same.
If humor is truth-telling, there's a lot of humor here.
Of course.
"Misogyny Mouse's Patriarchal Playland " oh God, how I love this
I will be using this in later conversations! Love it
4:42 _"Did the idea of regulating a man's body make you uncomfortable?"_
*and*
5:58 _"If you think girls are too irresponsible to make life decisions without their parent's permission, maybe don't force them to become a mother."_
**POW**
That's hitting the nail on the head so succinctly it countersinks itself.
My dad: âsheâs one of those âangry feministsââŠâ
Me: âThereâs lots to be angry about.â
Dad: âhaha, ok!â
Thanks, Dad.
I am so sorry about- that.
People think they're competing with other suitors
when dating me, but really I'm comparing you to
my own solitude. That's the competition. Is your
company better than being alone? Am I growing
around you like when im alone? Do I feel safe?
Is there joy??? Is there peace??
- KAYA NOVA July 2021 I love your poetry.
Yes, and it's exactly like she says.
Every single word in this video is spot on.
Regarding the Sarah Everard case; when asked what a woman should do if she's feeling threatened by a Police Officer, the advice that a Chief of Police said was "wave down a bus". Nope. Not dial emergency services, run away or grab a passerby. Wave. Down. A. Bus. As if the bus would even stop when they're only allowed to stop at scheduled stops anyway.
Here's an idea. How about proper vetting procedures to weed out dodgy police officers in the first place? Or make it easier for other officers to come forward and make anonymous complaints about other officers behaviour? Nope. Let's leave it to potential victims to deal with life threatening situations instead.
Context: A woman named Sarah Everard was murdered by a Police Officer. He arrested her under the pretext of breaching Covid rules. Oh. And other officers nicknamed him "the Rapist" prior to this. A peaceful vigil in her memory, mostly attended by women, was also the scene of heavy handed force used by the Police, in order to break it up, under the pretext of breaches of covid rules.
Things seriously need to change. It's the 21st century for crying out loud. It's just awful.
Following on top of the Met Pol's astounding response, was the CC of North Yorks Pol saying, it was Sarah Everard's own fault for being raped and murdered....
@@ashlingcullen5017 Jesus wept. In that case are they saying that every murder victim only has themselves to blame? That's absolutely abhorrent!
@@philrichardson9855 apparently Sarah should have known that her arrest wasn't lawful!!!! So all us women will now have to undertake Law Degree's.....
@@ashlingcullen5017 Yep. Law degrees, martial art black belt training, tactical and strategic planning, combat awareness, diplomacy, de-escalation techniques, crisis management, economics, psychology and sociology. Basically you have to be superhuman now. Incredible.
@@philrichardson9855 it's rather exhausting.
I was going to applaud a couple of these ladies, but realized there's not a single one who is lesser than any other. Maybe the ones who hit home the most are the ones I most needed to learn from. Thanks!
Instead of asking what was wrong, my dad would tell me or my mom to smile, or "stop looking so depressed"
So sad.
After reading these comments for about a half hour, I realize how lucky I am to have a kind family. Live in a kind place with kind people and kind rules. Never met any creepy person. I still live in the area I did as a kid. When I was a kid, I would go out a few hours per week. Just me and my sibling often far apart. No phones. No anything. Any creepy dudes? No. I had social anxiety though, so it was scary if I fell and someone offered me help, but thatâs called kind women and kind men and kind kids and kind other. Moral of the story: donât fck up and be sexist and misogynist no matter who you are. I donât care, simply donât do it.
@@bonyworm internalizing that lesson is harder than 'don't do it'. You still have to have a checklist of what you give respect to, so that's not misplaced. Quality interactions for self-preservation is fundamental for decent mental health.
And men wonder why we think theyâre so stupid.
This makes me realize how blessed I am: in my country, girls can get contraceptions at the age of 14. also abortion is possible, if you get some counseling before making the final decision. Both without your parents even knowing about it (even though it is a good thing to talk about those things with your parents!).
Mrs. W, they are really women. Even before puberty, some girl children are aware of males treating them as objects, sexual objects.
we can always adopt
@@thekiller7026 - yes adoption should be presented as an option to someone seeking an abortion. But the idea of a parent or politician vetoing an abortion is upsetting.
I live in South Africa and yes, in my country as well. Even though "some" people call Africa a sh!thole. At least as a woman in my country have reproductive choices, so we are truly "free"...
Is it wise to be messing around with the endocrine system, especially in kids? Whatever medicine you take ends up in the water supply and affects others. Condoms wind up in landfills. Also, parents should have the final say on that, not kids going around their backs. I read time and time again how planning parts of the brain are still not fully functional in teens, so why do so many people insist on giving teenagers that much power?
How about people who don't want a pregnancy don't have sex? It is called a reproductive system, after all.
Regarding the snitching on a guy not paying alimony, either Norway or Sweden has the right idea. The state pays the mother and then it is the states job to get the money back from the father. QED.
Exactly how I said it should work all the years I did NOT get Child Support.
I don't think it's an exaggeration to say that in the USA, the entire government would be tied up solely with child support cases if it were done that way. Its different when your country's population is only 5 or 10 million as opposed to 300 million.
@@paul16451 Yeah, it would have to be done at a state level in the US, with a federal agency for interstate transfers of money where the parents live in different states. ALso, the US would have to give a fuck about its citizens, so.....probably not gonna happen. Sigh. Y'all are so screwed. I am praying for you all, hope it helps.
@@sylviareed80
Thanx for the prayers. You're right. We desperately need them!
@@paul16451 I don't think it's an exaggeration either if I point out that the number of law enforcers in the USA is about 100 times as many as in Sweden or Norway. Counting per capita, I don't think it makes any difference at all.
It's not insulting to be friend-zoned. It's just disappointing when you happen to be attracted to the person. I have several female friends I love who I think of like sisters, but I've also had lots of disappointment from girls I liked different who didn't like me back the same way. But time heals all wounds, you can get over it every time.
Paul, maybe if you think of them as women, and treat them as women. Girls are children.
@@jdd8826 I do. And I'm fine with that. I'm married now to a wonderful woman. I've just had my share of past disappointment.l, but it all worked out fine I'm the end.
@@jdd8826
Both men and women commonly use "girls" and "boys" to refer to members of the opposite sex. It's not meant to convey their level of maturity.
This so assuring knowing that the young girls in my family ie my lovely granddaughters are gonna have much more freedom to be themselves and voice their opinions than I ever had
This was so impactful. These men and women spoke from their hearts and shared parts of their personal lives to make a point. I admire every one for sharing.
as a female oldeest sibling i can confirm we are more motherly...
that sorta comes at the cost of constant panic over your siblings like children, extra points if your parents dont care for their kids and you are literally their parent
I came out wrong and now i avoid responsibility over groups of people who look at me for answers, like if we get lost at a theme park and im the oldest, im automatically the one who can't panic, needs to stay calm, find the adults, and make sure no one gets lost or panics... its hard and annoying and i hate it :/
We are not " more motherly", we are just forced into a motherly and carataker role. From a very young age. Which is bad, don't use your oldest kids as free babysitters.
@@nessyness5447
Everyone uses their older children as free babysitters. That's what happens when you're a family, and not just a bunch of random shits living in the same house.
@@avishevin1976 no, that's what happens when parents prioritize their want to have another kid over the kids they already want and decide to have another baby that they can't afford to take care of because they don't have the time so they will force the older kids to do it, without consulting said kids first. Forcing the responsability of caring for a child on your other kids, expecting your older kids to leave aside their free time with their friends or study time to babysit their sibling, is not a good thing and it shouldn't be so normalized. If you are gonna have a child make sure you have the time and money to invest on that child, don't go counting on putting part of that responsability onto your other kids who don't even have an opinion in the matter. Your kids don't need to be saddled with a big responsability like is caring for another living being,when they may not be ok with and didn't ask for it, just because you think another baby is cute.
@@nessyness5447
You say it shouldn't be normalized as if it hasn't been done this way since the dawn of humanity.
You are also clearly bigoted against poor people.
You are also clearly unfit to be a parent to anything or anyone, as you don't believe in teaching responsibility.
@@avishevin1976 Having the older children raise your own kids, doing your job, has been proven harmful and should not be tolerated
I've been watching so many of these kinds of videos just to write down a list of laws and social norms for the aliens in my story.
when the aliens have better social structure than us...
When the state of Israel was founded (1948) there was debate in Parliament on whether there should be a national night curfew put on women and it was settled by Golda Meir, who became first Prime Minister, saying that since it's men who are dangerous a curfew should be put on them.
Not alerting one's offspring to the dangers of the world because you think the dangers are unfair is not good parenting. It's a death sentence. Teach in context.
Ik this is late but 'boys will be boys' is overused. Seriously. I had a childhood teacher who in KINDERGARTEN got mad at me when I accidentally knocked over the pencil sharpener and spilled all the shavings. He made me sweep it up and write an apology. Luckily there was a young assistant teacher (I think she was an assistant teacher but maybe she wasn't idk) helped me sweep and told me I didn't have to write the letter (would've been a big picture anyway with a big 'I'm sorry' on it anyway). Later some of the boys broke the outside stuff bin by pulling off the door to make it a "summer sled". He said loud and clear: 'Boys will be boys'.
Avoid saying anyone should smile more. You don't know their life. It can be very jarring for depressed people.
Just because someone tells me to smile does not mean his words will force me to smile. They have the freedom of speech to tell me that, and I respect it.
This makes me cringe inside, ÂŽcause itÂŽs so damn true. One should think things change in time due to change of minds. Hope is the last that dies...
Kicks off with the unsurprisingly perfect observation from AOC - and stays strong rhoughout đđ»đđ»
I think every man should read the words on this video and see how women feel and how they make us feel. I don't think it would have too much effect on them because most men are the center of their universe and can't see past their own eyes. It's a shame that they don't see our value.
@ Lin Stanley So true, what Society has wrought & continues with because Media knows it can get away with it. The ones that spoke of the TV show's "brainwashing" of both boys and girls (big boobed, narrow waisted cartoon women, big muscled cartoon men for starters). Parents are too swamped trying to raise children to fight Media, to boycott, or even barely take time to teach their children to ignore the blatant sexualization even when trying to raise a strong girl or a feminist boy. The TV shows continue in reruns; no one is complaining, no one is fighting to stop them.
I agree that this is a really great tool for understanding the perspectives of women. I don't think the response to these issues should be more sexism, though, because that only makes it about this type of person versus that type of person and no one learns anything that way. I don't know what "most men" are like because I haven't met most men, but I know that most of the men I've met have treated me with respect and I'm thankful to live in an environment where that's the case. When it isn't the case, I fight against the mindset and the culture, not men in general. I've experienced just as much sexism from women as men, and I think it's important to hold *everyone* responsible instead of targeting one group of people with certain physical traits. The problem is the culture, not the penis.
@@BlueDragon-vm1bt very true
I get where you're coming from, but please keep the thought that some men see NOTHING of value, because its been beaten out of them. They may not value themselves, and look to leaders for valuation. It's also not a great idea to use generalizations to divine truth.
@@tvtitlechampion3238 hi! im a biological man. i think a big part of sexism is how many double standards there are. like, i try to check my bias all the time. but it's rather difficult when men get free passes on things women won't. i'll do my best though. if everyone does their best to check their bias and not abide by double standards, the world might be a bit of a better place. (does that make sense? i hope so. please correct me if i'm wrong.)
Thank you for making this video. In light of everything thats going on I think a lot of these things are really important right about now.
Regardless of what is going on, these points are as important. Respect plays a huge part.
@@lorriefinley3129 true
@@lorriefinley3129 the fight to obtain or command respect is what's going on, from culture to transitory interactions at the grocery store. Some people will not give it, unless it is of clear benefit to themselves.
I love your videos but this one is now at the top of my list! Every word was spot on!! I love it!!
ill never forget the first time someone said I should smile.
I was sad because I was thinking that once I got home I would have to bury my rabbit of three years.
The absolute agony of realizing what they said while also not realizing that since I had just started my first job, I would hear this weekly
Love this vid!!
so ... if women couldn't vote, how did they vote themselves the right to vote? Asking for a friend...
Fighting and dying for it.
"Fighting and dying," my ass. Women were given the right to vote by legislation that MEN voted for because women couldn't. Whether any "fighting and dying' convinced any man to vote for suffrage is anyone's guess and it's entirely possible that men of conscience and justice believed that anything affecting all citizens of a country should be voted on by all those citizens.
No doubt that irks all the IAmWomanHearMeRoar bunch, but if women roared and all men were deaf, nothing would have changed. Give credit where it's due.
7:10 Fencing. Fencing is an Olympic sport where women need to wear quite a bit more than a bathing suit. Tbh, it's one of my favorite sports to watch when the Olympics roll around.
Spot on..every single one of these
I think we need to address the inequality in abortions. A women can legally abort a child without the father even having a say even if he wants to keep said child yet if the women keeps it and the father doesn't he will be chased for payments and could face prison. If a women can abort a baby then a man should be able to legally opt out of having anything to do with raising a child he doesn't want.
Little problem with that theory: Parental Rights. If a man doesn't want anything to do with a child, he can visit a family law practitioner and sign legal documents with the family court system to say he has no rights and involvement with said child. Of course, at that point, the legal system will not recognize the man as a parent, and if somehow the child ends up in care, he's not getting a call no matter what, even if he changed his mind, or if Grandma wants the grandbaby. However, for a woman to sever parental rights... it's coming out of her. If a man forces a woman to have the baby and then decides being a single parent to an infant that, to start, needs feeding every 3 hours, he can leave the hospital before Mom and baby are released, and now there's a child abandoned by the custodial parent. Most foster systems are run through CAS, which may have certain ideas on how they feel about this. There are women who end up with a lifelong "Seize at birth" order for any kids they have past that point. There are also cases of controlling partners who do force women to go through with pregnancies, and then abuse the children as a way to control Mom.
As to equality: It takes a sperm and an egg to make a baby. Stop your sperm, and baby doesn't happen. It's equity, but until men have the ability to gestate, that's the closest we'll get. If you're worried about an "Oopsie!", then don't have sex. If you forced a woman to carry and then abandon her, I think getting chased by the police is really being unequal to her.
6:51 Would have saved a lot of people lots of troubles if marriages were banned. Same with politics.
The man-child one scare me too. I know we will both work full time jobs but in many cultures, the women is the one to do the laundry, cook, clean, and then I have to give up my body for 9 months and to have a child. In my culture, many eldest daughters (like me) take care of all their siblings, I practically raised my youngest brother, given chores and more responsibility at a younger age and now both my brothers can't do anything around the house. I'm expected to know how to know how to cook and clean and they can't do anything and I try to point out this problem to my parents but apparently that is how everything is "supposed to be."
i love this video so much. i keep coming back to it. please keep more videos like this.
This isn't like anything bad or major but me one other girl and some boys were like passing a football around and the boys just started keeping it away from us and one of them kept saying we were bad st football so I yelled at him "you aren't passing to me and the only other girl that's sexist" and he responded "yeah it is" it was a joke but still đđđ
Hate it when jokes are a thin cover for rude, shitty behavior
i am 13 and walking the hall, i have been told to "smile" i typicly look like depressed/bored, but really? I DON'T WANT TO SMILE
I have too many comments to list them all but I can tell you that I've experienced three different situations of domestic violence. My siblings for some reason want to blame my parents that I did this or I did that. I don't blame anyone I don't blame myself. Both women and men have experienced violence in their lives and neither is acceptable. Rape or violence has nothing to do with sex therefore has nothing to do with what you're wearing. Your body is your own. You have a right to dress it up or dress it down however you please.
I'm 67. And the myth that boys should sow their oats and girls should be proper is still b*******.
This probably sound the simplified answer but as I have suggested in my daughter acknowledge get a big f****** dog. I don't believe in guns or violence but I believe in my 93 lb German Shepherd. I live in a University Town in Georgia and I see young girls often walking alone wearing earphones, totally oblivious. It doesn't matter whether it's daylight Twilight or night time if you continue to be unaware of your surroundings you could be in danger, so get a big dog. My daughter has Labradors they're lovely but they're kind of sort of p**** dogs. Get a German Shepherd, Rottweiler, Mastiff and I can guarantee no one will bother you.
Now let's talk about choice. I love babies I have been blessed to have two of my own 20 years ago I had my first grandchild and several months ago I had my second grandchild. And because I love babies I would take any baby anytime anywhere anyhow and I believe in a woman's right to choose because someone who doesn't want that baby it's not going to treat that baby right. My daughter is a pediatric ED nurse. She says the result of people who don't want their babies not judging them some people can't handle them babies are very difficult. So why should we force people to have a baby but in the end in my words will go back to heaven or God or Jesus or whoever you think anyway. There is no need for those unwanted children to go through hell before they get back to heaven. My sister on the other hand is pro-life. My sister would never ever desire to be around a baby. So let's make sure she would never ever have to be forced to be around a that's a great agree to bring all children into a life where they're wanted.
Please forgive. I got long-winded. I hope you women and men stand beside my grandchildren and make a difference
You go, I read every word. Only quibble I have is the use of the term "pro-life". Most all of us are pro-life, and the prospect each new day brings. The more accurate term is 'anti-choice'.
it's still the 'muricans way to respond. Get a bigger more violent way to protect yourself. awful perspective . why the need to protect yourself. teach your boys to be men of integrity.
5:42 this makes me so sad.... i have no words to even describe the anger and disappointment i felt after reading that
7:26 This prevents of being with someone in order to solve problems one wouldnât even have, alone.
As a teen, I learned in school about the âdouble standardâ. Our teacher actually told us with a straight face. I decided it was ridiculous. I found out that if you keep it secret, you can sleep with as many guys as you want - just make sure they donât know each other and be safe. I had a lot of fun but eventually, I learned that some of them actually had feelings. I stopped using guys for sex after one guy called me up crying and asking what he did wrong. Poor guy, I felt bad. I was raised in a family of women - I thought men didnât have feelings like women do. Some do I guess.
4:45. What SHE says!! đđđđđ
I took screenshots of a few of these so I remember them.
I think 4:16 brings up a good point, but let me help all male readers, and all female readers. When you have sex without birth control you ARE planning a pregnancy. I raised my sons and daughter to know that birth control was 100% their responsibility. So if a girl tells my son she is on BC, that is of no concern for him, he still needs to wear a condom, get snipped etc. my daughter learned that just because a guy has a condom, this doesnât mean it will go on, stay on, or even effective, it could have been in his wallet forever. So be pro PLANNED pregnancy, versus the possible emotional damage and pain of an abortion. If you are vegan, or vegetarian, that makes you anti abortion by default, (not that you knowingly eat aborted fetusâs you get my point, so stop typing) teens SHOULD ABSOLUTELY HAVE ACCESS to BIRTH CONTROL. If you can make a baby, you should have the option. I will always be pro choice, however I AM ANTI-PLANNED PARENTHOOD, as the founder was a racist, genocidal maniac wanting to âstop black people at their sourceâ (language cleaned up, youâre welcome)
Empower yourself to live your life on your terms. Take your sexual health into your own hands. And girls, DO NOT believe in the pull out method! This has been your cool as mom and grandma talking, you ever want to ask me anything, Iâm here!
You are spreading lies about PP.
@@avishevin1976 no Iâm not. That would be very easy to prove. Iâm telling you the truth, you just donât like it.
@@valerief1231 I think you need to do actual research on Margaret Sanger (the founder of Planned Parenthood) and look up the actual statistics of abortion. Wikipedia and the Guttmacher Institute are your best friends.
@@valerief1231 Also, you're not pro-choice if you don't even know what consent is, or if you think that your daughters (or women in general) have absolutely no choice but to gestate a human for nine months or get some facts about abortion wrong. What you really are is pro-birth control and anti-choice.
You may be correct about Margaret Sanger, but Planned Parenthood IS NOT Margaret Sanger, and deviates wildly from who she was as a human being. If you are pro-choice, PP is your ally. They also advocate for pre-natal health and other areas important to pregnancy and women's health. Please reconsider your stance, because it's rooted in a false equivalency.
1:26 thats totally meeee
6:39
Oh hell yeah. Insane the amount of men that have told me they wished they had a girl instead of a boy for that specific reason is insane. I'm by no means a feminist, as I disagree with many of the views, but that was just insane
Feminists are not a monolith. There are many kinds of feminists. At its core feminism is about the peculiar idea that woman are actually people, you know, just like men are. So you can decide not to be a feminist and be complicit in the misogyny baked into virtually every other culture or you know you can do what you did here and actually be a feminist by embracing the fact that woman are human beings - just like men are. It's not like we have special meetings and a ruling body that dictates ideas and policies - so your free to be yourself - whatever politics you may or may not want to get into is your own business.
What they really mean is "someone we can treat as a slave".
*grin* My dad wanted a boy first because he (the boy) could then protect any smaller sisters.
@@happygamer3395 You âthinkâ that women are human beings? What?! Women are human beings. Also, your âwhat aboutâŠâ responses are completely invalidating, questioning, and minimizing the suffering of victims of misogyny, gendered violence, and sexual abuse. You comparing men vs women when it comes to harassment and abuse is like comparing apples to oranges; both are tragic but not the same.
@@misssmisssymaria I'm sorry. I didn't mean it like that
Also, the free IUDs at Colorado is a reality. Pregnancies rates wonât stop with abortions (you stop the birth to happen, get it?), but IUDs and other contraceptive methods do. The problem is that, many girls (and boys) donât have access of that knowledge (types of contraceptions), or from parents or from school (in case the parents says no to). Also, many girls are âthoughtâ that if the guy donât want to use a condom because he wonât âfeelâ it, she should âobeyâ him (if a guy do this, he really donât care about you hunny. Just dump him).
Now, in my country (Brazil) abortion is illegal in all states, EXCEPT there are only three instances by Federal Law that it is âLegalâ: 1)rape, 2)threatens the mother health, and 3)fetus with microcephalyâ. Then, the mother has the final word at the clinic.
Personally I feel like that's how it should be with abortion laws. I feel that birth control and condoms and other preventive measures should be easier for people to get so they don't have to have abortions.
Every. Single. Word.
WOW, is this real? If a woman I knew or just âbumpedâ into was thinking this about me I would die of shame! But how do I know? Ladies never tell me/us so where do we/I learn?
Bob
England
Bob, this is very real. In a conversation of only men, your response to some of the others may start a conversation, or maybe get others thinking. As a woman, some of the men I interact with I consider not men, but boys, or just males.
@@jdd8826 but JD if you donât help men to understand how do we?
I understand you feel some donât care or donât want to know , so please deal with us that doâŠâŠâŠ..
Bob
I think you should ask them.
You began the process already, doing good by maintaining curiosity and empathy. People will never fully tip their hand as to what they're thinking, not until they're ready to do so. Just remember we're all human beings, with vastly different demeanors, appetites, and experiences with love and pain. You do know why men have nipples, right?
It is OK to be angry with your Mother.
9:23 Same here.
I'm going to preface this comment by saying I'm a middle aged woman. I would like to encourage any young woman reading this to not be afraid to think for yourself and to live your life as a PERSON, not as a man or a woman. Some of these comments make good points. However, in my opinion, many come from a sense of victim-hood, others from entitlement, and some from plain old immaturity. I'm a woman been treated equally? No. Have I been discriminated against? Yes. Have I seen or experienced sexual harassment? Yes. The truth is that everyone experiences those things regardless of sex, color, or status-its called the human condition. Not living in a perfect world is not a form of oppression. You will get much farther in life by conducting yourself as an equal, responsible person and disregarding anyone or anything that doesn't correlate with that. You cannot control the behavior of others and you cannot navigate through the world using idealistic notions. Don't allow others to define you-that includes other women. I have been treated far worse by OTHER WOMEN for having these beliefs and conducting myself as an equal than by men. I always remember the quote, "be the change you want to see in the world." It's your life, live it and make it your own.
I get where you're coming from. I think women do victimise themselves a little too much these days. But I also believe women do experience more specific treatment by virtue of them being a woman. However, you're also right about not allowing what others think/do to define you. You'll find many of those Tweets, were you to ask the person if they retorted or questioned what was said to them, 99% of the younger ones would come out with the usual; 'I didn't complain' 'I was too uncomfortable', 'I didn't know what to say' 'I didn't refuse' and so on. Sorry but if you don't do it, who will?
If "the truth is that everyone experiences those things", does that make it acceptable? Think of these points as anecdotes related by people who have been in those situations, and here to bear witness there is a better way. They may be "idealistic notions", but capitulating your self-governance to the brutality of other's unthinking is also not acceptable. You have to fight!
@@tvtitlechampion3238 "You have to fight." This is a common theme now. Fight what? Reality? This is what I mean when I refer to as victim-hood. Obviously crimes against women are wrong, but to imply that every slight, every inappropriate glance or comment is a form of assault that must be fought is ridiculous. In a way I'm glad that I am in an older generation. I was raised before "empowerment." I was told I could do anything and be anything, to respect myself and expect respect from others. I was NOT told that I'm special; I was told that I was like everyone else. Today we tell our daughters that they live in a patriarchal system, that they will face constant misogyny, that they aren't equal. We raise them to believe that they CAN'T achieve what men can because they are oppressed. We teach victim-hood and in doing so WE rob them of ability to truly succeed.
This is a beautiful comment. Some of the complaints I hear/read are making mountains out of mole hills of momentary discomfort. How many times have I seen in the comments I've seen people horribly upset about being told to smile? Their words did not force them to smile. I think compilations like this sometimes are self-fulfilling prophecies that reinforce the stereotype of women as either harpies or fragile orchids, a make your own enemy, if you will. I view many of my difficulties in life as being a quiet person in a society that values gregarious conduct and instant personal connection rather than being a tomboy. I work with conservative Christian men in electronics, and they have never belittled me or made me feel out of place or like I didn't know how to handle a soldering iron. I had no experience when I came on, and they taught me. In comparison, I had prior experience in a different field, applied to other places, and didn't even get an interview.
I get so sick of hearing about empowerment because people don't want to take responsibility for the consequences of their actions or put the hard work into becoming whatever. Somehow they're always victims of circumstances when it's time to pay the piper.
I think a problem is that the ability to instantly put stuff out there has eroded patience, so people don't stick out initial awkwardness in encounters and, even worse, use that awkwardness as proof of a hateful mindset. It does not make people want to reach out to you when you judge them based on what you say they're thinking and then try to get the rest of the world to condemn you. Even with broadband internet, it takes time and deliberate effort to form a good relationships, and I don't see people putting that effort in as much now. I'm younger than you, so I don't know if what I wrote is accurate, but I am glad to see someone else who doesn't view herself as special to the populace at large.
We will just have true equality when women are recognized as adult and drafted!
It's men who are keeping women from being drafted, winging on about how women 'can't fight' or 'aren't suited' for half the jobs in the military. Can't whine about what you (universal male) you won't allow!
We donât have a US draft any more. And there are many female enlistees.
Why as a woman be forced to fight a war , started by egotistical men who can't mind their own business?
Every word is truth. Personal experience: sports bar in my town serves terrific food, & a male friend & I often dropped in for a bite. I asked him one evening if he wanted to go there, & he said he had plans, but that I should go on my own & have dinner. Had to explain to him that in our current society, a woman going alone to a sports bar means she's "open for business". He was shocked at that insight into what it really means to be a female.
3:54 You know what you call a prey animal that doesn't modify it's behavior around predators? Dinner.
6:05 And the gender of everyone in the legislatures that passed those laws was? Take your time, I'll wait.
Putting aside the "pro-life" versus "it's my body" debate, why should tax dollars be used to pay for abortions? "Your body, your choice"? You pay for it....
Because the US hasn't moved to single-payer healthcare yet.
4:05 because it's cost-effective on infrastructure. You've never used public resources, like roads, police, or safety in foods?
@@tvtitlechampion3238 I'm talking ABORTIONS!! Not birth control!! And the idea of not telling the parents, yet, still holding the parents responsible for their minor children's actions is totally wrong!
@@oldschooldiy3240 abortions are the last line of contraception, when the puck got past the goalie. It's a reprieve when normal contraception fails, which it does. Sounds like you're not ready to have the debate that you proposed. So emotional!
@@tvtitlechampion3238 I'm ready! Abortions are not even in the "line of contraception"! Abortions occur AFTER CONCEPTION!! After a life is conceived is not the time for murder! And, if the "puck got past the goalie", why is the spectator in the stands penalized monetarily? The "hockey players" need to accept the costs at that point! Be it having and raising a baby, or abortion/murder, the tax payers should not be charged! If the "players" are minors, charge the parents!
This might get people railed up
I can agree with some of the tweets like the lawmaker should do something and that the only solution to end rape culture is to control women rights is ridiculous
But..(here we go) there is a fundamental problem with the rape culture.. which somehow also the roots for the abortion polemic.
Its the mentality about how you (westerners) guys view sex activities.
Im gonna leave the interpretation of my background for you... but i was educated that sex outside marriage is forbidden. Its a sacred things and you dont do it with someone who is not your legal partner...
Thats it... if all boy and girl educated like this then chances of girl getting abortion is gonna get lower coz they wont getting any sex at all. Except for rape ofc. But then the boys was taught that you cant have sex with someone who is not your wife. If the boy was taught properly then the chances of him become a rapist is also lower.
This bring us to who is the rapist.. those who didnt get proper education or/and abandoned and they have to learn the way of life by himslef... that make the chances of him being a criminal higher. Educational and poverty problem also correlate directly with the rape culture.
Anyway i think abortion still not the way to go. Its also not a good decision to force an 18 years old girl to become a single mom WITHOUT ANY HELP.
You need help with those situation but abortion isnt the way to go. They need intense help from those around them and not scornful hate gaze.
Very few, if any, rapists rape because they enjoy the sex. Itâs a form of domination and control. Teaching abstinence wonât change this.
@@avishevin1976 teaching adults about abstinence? Bullshit i get it. But to the kids? Thats rhe way to go fam
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What does that have to do with rape?
Abortion is the last line of contraception. We need to have it on the table, without shame, without the guilt-tripping even you are engaging in. Rape is not about poverty or education. There are many examples of college rape, which would suggest money and intelligence are present. Legislating sex has NEVER worked, except in oppressive states. You speak from idealism.
I've got a scenario for you too. I'll leave the interpretation of my background up to you, but I made the choice I didn't want to have sex outside of marriage. It's something that I felt was good for me. My long time boyfriend professed the same belief, as he was raised in a religion that forbade sex out of marriage.
He forced me. Despite going to a university that's considered the only one to go to in his field of work. He never had charges laid against him, so he's not a criminal.
There's a movie I think you should see: Promising Young Woman. I think it will really drive home a few points for you about seeing this from a woman's perspective. Especially how the male characters "totally aren't rapists" despite having forced themselves on non-consenting women.
It's not the education of the men, nor their poverty. It's the perspective that they can get away with it because... well, watch the movie. And think hard about every interaction you've had with a woman. Are you sure you never made a woman feel uncomfortable? Have you always made sure they felt safe, and knew they were safe? Did you discriminate based on your assumptions about their sex lives? Have you treated a woman as less than because she might seem more sexually open?
I am not fond of abortion. But I know how babies are made. And I also know that what happens doesn't concern me. I do believe that whoever forces a young girl to carry that burden is headed for a much hotter place than the innocent child put in that position by others, and if she feels that's what she needs to do to avoid homelessness, shunning, or even caring for a child that she will never be able to support on her own without substantial risk to herself, I do not believe God would be unmerciful.
0:21 Unless fragile capricorn is a child psychologist, she needs to sit down and be quiet.
1:45 Men start much more interesting drama.
War etc.
@@tvtitlechampion3238 For example.
I support true feminists who want equality(men have problems to) not the ones who called the police because I'm making them uncomfortable, no I'm not here to kidnap your kids I'm here because my sister wanted to go with her friends to the park.
You arenât making them uncomfortable. Youâre SCARING them. Theyâve learned to expect the worst in any given situation with a man (Iâm assuming you are a man, if not Iâm so sorry) So society has taught them to be on guard around men.
@@missybennet1594 point still stands, being scared does not mean you should call the police on some guy just minding his own business there are normally better ways to handle it, you could move further away, call a friend or if that's not enough just leave and go somewhere else. Society makes women assume the worst about men that is true and a true feminist would support the idea that men are not any worse or better than women. My point is don't treat someone different or make assumptions based off of their gender, race, or attractiveness but by WHO they are.
I thought that Feminism meant Equality for both genders
@@thekiller7026 that's what I said true feminists want equality while some so called "feminists" believe that men are trash and women should be treated like queens.
@@frankpurvis9189 you do realize the feminist and sexist are two completely different thing?Otherwise Thank you. we need more equality people out there:]
So much available birth control, unwanted pregnancy should be considered negligence....just saying....
Available if you have money.
"I don't like condoms, it doesn't feel as good" or "shut up, bitch" or "just this once" or...
No point being just friends with a woman. What the hell are we gonna talk about ? Car engines? Star Wars? Operating systems ? Sharemarket prices ? 50 hour weeks ? The footy ?
None of the above.
No, we have to talk about who said what at a party 5 years ago, who is wearing what, tedious stuff about her second cousins best friend. No thanks.
When a lady hits mid-30's she finds being F888-zoned suddenly ain't so bad.
This comment is genuinely confusing. Many women talk about their careers and their life. Women aren't time travelers, Darren.
My God Darren, you have actually NEVER talked to a woman
Men should respect women as they want to be respected. Women are the other half of the human race. Unborn babies should be respected too. They have a right to live as much as everyone else. If a person doesnt want babies then they should refrain from sex or use birth control. Children are a gift from God. If men and women want their bodies respected then the bodies and life of unborn children should be respected too.
Why would God give a baby to someone who can't take care of it? Isn't God supposed to be omniscient?
Once you bring religion into it, you've lost the debate. Because most people on the planet don't believe in any god, never mind yours.
@@avishevin1976 not for some people, as evidenced here. Religion, at it's best, is a poetic reckoning of origin stories. At it's worst, it's a restrictive, hierarchical societal structuring. Fundamentalism ruins everything.
Some pregnancies are, in fact, accidental, or worst, non-consensual. And no, while we have contraception, pregnancies are not inevitable. Unborn babies are zygotes, fledgling life forms, not children. When they are born, they have rights to a life unhindered by contrary opinion (though quality of life is not guaranteed, is it?). Until that moment, they are not material.
If "make-up" is so much trouble, and you're not advertising, why bother?
Because it makes you feel good??
@@maryqueenofbooks Then we are back to "why complain about wearing it?"
@@oldschooldiy3240 They are not complaining about wearing it, they are complaining about how that makes other people (mostly men), think about them.
@@maryqueenofbooks Contradiction is strong with this one! They are complaining about how men think about them WHEN WEARING MAKEUP!!! SO, DON"T WEAR MAKEUP!!!
@@oldschooldiy3240 That sentence should go like This: SO SONT JUDGE THEM FOR WEARING IT
While I agree we have always been equally important to men, I happen to believe we have different strengths. And other than a few exceptions, men are stronger physically than women. Saying differently doesn't change facts and only makes the speaker seem silly to anyone listening. Just because people don't say it, doesn't mean they aren't thinking it. I also happen to think women are stronger than men in other ways, and I may be biased, but I think we're generally smarter too. I prefer to celebrate our differences and recognize facts. While women did fight and work to obtain the legal right to vote (permission), men did give us the legal right to vote. We always had the right, just not the ability. Revisionist history, imo, is basically saying the story teller can't handle the truth. And if it wasn't for men who voted it into law, we would not have been able to vote. It's an injustice to gloss over those brave souls who stuck their necks out and used their power to assist us Everyone is born equal. Not everyone is treated equal. I have never wanted to be on par with a man; I've also never been lesser. I also think blanket statements as a rule are ignorant.
Women like you are the enemy within. Shut up and sit down if you cannot handle independence.
Honey you may FEEL that way but you are in a minority. Experience has shown us that men, as a general rule, do NOT consider themselves on equal ground with women AND that for the most part, they are raised this way whether intentional or not. Many, imho, are indoctrinated and aren't even aware of the depths of their behavior until it's pointed out and explained. Sometimes it helps, sometimes not but it's almost ALWAYS worth a try!
@@spicybrown75 Really? So your response to a woman who speaks her mind is to tell her to shut up because she disagrees with you? It sounds to me like it is you who cannot handle hearing my voice. One who is truly secure knows that their worth is not dependent on others. We also are not afraid to hear different views, knowing that only those who are afraid of being wrong or not being right have anything to lose. I handle independence just fine--I think for myself and form my own opinions. I listen to different views and and perspectives. And while I may not always agree with someone, I pride myself on being able to see most points of view. Which is why I can posit that your response is really saying, "I don't know how to rebut you. I'm worried you might give others ideas. Or worse, inspire them to speak their minds." So you lobbed the worst insult you could think of at me and issued an order--something I suspect would be like a red flag to you. Me too--when I was a child growing up. You have no authority over me, or anyone else. We cannot control others--their thoughts or opinions--nor their speech. We can only control how we react to them.
@@nancyranft4801 đ I never meant to imply that men felt we were equal. I mean no doubt some do and some don't. I've worked for a few that were just awful. But I've also worked for some that were great. You may be right about the indoctrination. I'll have to think on that. Of course my experience and those I have to observe may not be comparable to those you've had experience with. But one of the points I was trying to make is what I know and feel. Plus that I really truly think that men don't get enough credit and recognition for a lot of things. Before anyone goes off on me, I don't mean to imply all or most. Or to say anyone is wrong about all the men they've had contact with. I'm saying I've observed a lot good men whose contributions go unnoticed or marginalized. And I suspect one of the reasons is because society just paints everyone with the same brush. And I don't think that's fair to the good men who don't deserve to be lumped in with scum. Plus, it can signal to those growing up or deciding what path to take, "What's the point? No matter what we do, society is going to act like we're what's wrong with the world". If we truly think most men are what ills us, and the world would be better if they changed, then shouldn't we encourage that behavior when we see it? Btw, I really like your style. And I'm sorry for your bad experiences. Had a few of my own.
@@SavvyAnnaP unbunch your panties ma'am. Have a good life!
One question. Who allowed these women the privilege of speaking online?
This is a joke. Do not crucify me, I have nice hands. Also every human should have equal rights, but in this world we got to pray.
3:18 learn how to take a complement
You should smile is not a compliment in this situation or tone
Don't be a creeper
'When you stop calling abortion murdering a baby....' What else is it? Does the baby live? Did the baby commit suicide? When you take someone's life, when you forcefully make them stop living, well, that is murder.
Lmao , ok Karen.
Finally, a sane comment. I can't believe that the "right" for a mother to literally murder her own baby is on par with the fight against sexism, rape culture and the like. Promote adoption. Promote government child support. Give everyone access to contraceptives. Do proper sexual education at school. Yeesh.
Is not murdering a baby because that's not a baby yet, is just a group of cells that could, maybe, possibly , under the right circumstances become a baby at some point, but not surely. When you take a seed out of the earth, your are not cutting down a plant, because is not a plant yet. When you have an abortion you are not killing a baby because there is no baby yet.
Don't ask a liberal to understand logic. It's completely lost on them.
When the doctor pulls the plug on a coma patient, did he murder someone?
Just two things. As far as birth control. No! Itâs the responsibility of who doesnât want to get pregnant to not get pregnant or impregnate someone else. Are you a woman who doesnât want to get pregnant? Thatâs okay. Make sure youâre on birth control and only have sex if the guy is wearing a condom. Are you a guy who doesnât want to get someone pregnant? Thatâs okay. Just make sure you you wear a condom and preferably only have sex if the woman is on BC or willing to take a morning after pill in case the condom breaks.
Voting rights: White men had to fight for voting rights just the same as women. The difference? White men fought for a right to vote, and the right was given on the stipulation that men who were eligible to vote were required to register with the military draft. The majority of Women did not want to be drafted and did not want to be held responsible for the same responsibilities as men who voted, so the majority of women actively campaigned against the right to vote. Women sufferages were the extreme minority with more women being outspoken anti-Suffrages. In fact, the anti-suffrage movement was started by women who did not want women to vote, and the first organized anti-suffrage organization was founded and run by a woman. So the idea that women fought for the right to vote and men did not give it to them is false. In fact, men changed the requirements for required draft just to convince a large number of women to accept voting rights.
While that's true, it's also quite probable that if voting rights had always been granted to women, the right would not have been tied to the draft in the first place. After all, originally there was no draft and only White land owners could vote.
@@avishevin1976 Correct!
@@avishevin1976 there ya go!
The problem with abortion is that while there are the rights of the woman and her body, there are the rights of another tiny human that can't speak for itself. Like a dead person had rights over their deceased body in life, at what point in life do those rights start? So on one hand I'm all for rights over our own bodies, I am pro choice, Ive made my choice and Im pro life. Becoming vegan, Im pro life for animals, although I do believe in eating meat, but springingly, only in great need, and with great thanks to them and God for their sacrifice. Im not interested in forced vaccinations, ever. Im not interested in men having forced vasectomies, then eugenics basically choosing who gets to spread seed based on various socioeconomic factors. But we have a complication as to when life arrives for the unborn. The bidy within is not yours, you are a steward only. Sex is in fact asking for that stewardship, thats how you ask for that. The body immediately begins to make space for it at conception, immediately moving chemicals around yo accommodate it. Some go the higher life form rule and say when the brain forms. At what point does life begin, and at what point does that life have a right to rights? Its more that an argument over ones own body, when there are two. Do animals that molt, move slow, hybernate, go through a metamorphosis have less rights during those vulnerable times? When we are in control, what rights over others can we take? Conception is in fact the beginning of thst stewardship. Some actually wanting children go so far as to prepare their bodies for it years prior. And the moment they learn they're pregnant, and want it, it's alive and growing. How does simply not wanting it make it less alive?
At birth actually, according to the constitution. And when the fetus is viable to survive out of the mother's body and is not a brainless( literally) bunch of cells who is yet unaware of it's own existance and can't feel anything at all.
And thatâs why it is only legal until a certain month. And as you said it is a choice. The one growing in the mothers body canât make it, so the mother does.
Choice. Having an utterly dependent life sprung into reality is far different than the concept of its legality. Just as somebody taking the life of an assaulting party may be exonerated due to circumstance will not be treated the same as a calculated murder. Most sex is asking for pleasure, not stewardship. Being forced to bear children from rape is utterly depraved.
All I see is a lot of sandwiches not being made and clothes not being folded.
If you can't even make yourself a sandwich, then this video is the LEAST of your problems.
@@665Kattt I always put the mayonnaise on the outside.
@@turdferguson2982 it is better for grilled cheese
What about the bodily autonomy of the fetus? Seriously. Itâs not about religion itâs about the fact that humanity isnât fucking subjective.
thank you
A growth that cannot survive without the affordances of a womb has no bodily autonomy.
Yeah, it is. Everyone's "humanity" is evaluated and disrespected on a daily basis. You are lying to yourself and others if you say different. You disparage the humanity of those who chose to exercise their right to terminate a pregnancy. It is not an independent process. Until birth, there are no rights, only people like you causing trouble for distressed potential mothers.
I have to disagree with the one at 2:02. No one is forced to have children (except rape victims, that is). There are a lot of other methods to prevent having children without the need of an abortion. Who wants to MAKE people make babies? That's something people should decide by themselves. Sorry, but at the point you are considering an abortion, the baby is already made.
It's such a shame then that the very people wanting to ban abortions also want to ban contraception and sex education. You notice the bit about Colorado increasing contraception REDUCED abortions?
Eh. This is one of those comments that sounds like it makes sense, until you put it in context of regimented sexualization, negligent sexual education, health-care deserts where contraception (or pregnancy care, for that matter) isn't readily available or affordable, employment that evaporates once an employee has any health issues (and yes, pregnancy is one heck of a complicated health issue), employment opportunities that evaporate for people with children, policies and cultures that place all of the responsibility of childhood on mothers first and fathers second, and social media fuelled misinformation that traps people into making poor life decisions until it's too late ... sorry, Delores. It sounds pretty to say no one is forced to have children, but it's also total and complete BS for an awful lot of people.
This is true. Of course, there should also be appropriate sex education, and people should have access to birth control that could prevent conception, but ultimately, in nearly all abortion cases, the conception is the fault of the parents, and no one else.
@@aleciaunderwood7944 I would agree that ultimately the responsibility falls on the parents, but _fault_ ? Too many exceptions to make that blanket statement stick, I think.
ETA: and really, so should be the ultimate decision to have or not have a child.
About half of all abusive male partners sabotage their female partner's birth control.
3:25 Wrong. Humans have evolved so that women and men compete to be the most appealing in order to get a mate. Makeup increases your appeal, but also makes you look fake. Therefore, you are falsely advertising a mate (you) to potential partners.
4:25 This woman is basically saying the husband doesn't deserve anything. Imagine if it was a man saying their wife doesn't deserve anything. Think about how sexist things you say are before you speak them. Two sides to every coin.
7:30 Probably because men don't like women who scream at them and demand things from them for no reason other than because "I'm a gurl!" Maybe, just maybe, they'd like to be equal to their wife. Nobody ever comments how a stereotypical marriage is the wife always nagging and screaming at the husband and the husband recoils in fear of his wife.
@ Ionic Retro #1. humans survived because the strongest males could dominate the weaker males to pick the fittest women. Features had & have nothing to do with our survival. When women apply makeup, they know exactly what their goal is to why & it is as individual as each woman. If a person can't tell a woman is wearing makeup, then its a really good makeup job.
@ Ironic Retro #2. A person in a marriage or a relationship are an "equal" and therefore they do not have to prove their worth. What each person deserves from the other is respect & honesty. One cannot demand to deserve anything from the other that lessens the value or integrity of that person. Telling someone how to dress, act, who they can see, talk to, where they can work because the other deserves undivided attention & obedience is abuse.
#3. Read up on what feminism is and how it has positively impacted society, not only women, before commenting. Feminism is about EQUALITY. Your view of women may be out of focus from your experiences. I'm sad for you. (Mine was to men but I started Counseling at18 to help establish correct assumptions & be able to gain insights to be able to have future healthy relationships.)
To be able to have a normal, respectful conversation between a man & woman, on a subject important to the woman. No one is saying anything about raised voices. Or cringing. Or fear. Just. Respect. For a woman to be heard. Without being ridiculed or minimized for what her physical body does.
Maybe women would stop nagging if you actually listened to us.
Historically make up has been a form of art, used to signal someone's social status or their specific role in a society. And also for ritualistic reasons. It never had anything to do with attracting anyone.