Family Court - IF you’re going to represent yourself. 4 things you need to know.

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  • Oftentimes people have to represent themselves in their divorce, child custody, child support, or other family law hearing. It’s important to understand that even if you don’t have a lawyer, the expectation from the court will still be that you know your stuff and that you are prepared for your hearing. Getting it wrong can have severe consequences that may be detrimental.
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Komentáře • 305

  • @FatherX2022
    @FatherX2022 Před rokem +8

    You nailed it when you said that judges don't know all the laws and you have to educate them 60% of the time. I had to educate them like 95% of the time.
    In my custody case, the judge didn't understand the best interests of the child. The judge was an expert in making orders that were in the best interests of the mother... but not of the child. I testified for 28 hours about the best interest factors of our child and won primary custody.
    Meanwhile in child support court, over about 6 years, we had approximately 14 child support orders... because of various modifications and small issues. I objected and appealed 100% of the orders because they all had errors in law and fact. I had more than 50% of those overturned on appeal.
    These people don't know the law at all.
    I find it terrible that so many people have custody and child support orders that are in violation of the Law...And these parents have to live with these erroneous orders. And most people don't know that there are errors and they don't know how to appeal them. Shame on family court for doing this to our fellow citizens.

  • @bheilfmcsmt
    @bheilfmcsmt Před 2 lety +9

    Get a 3 or 6 month paralegal certificate for $2500. You’ll never need an attorney again..

  • @jamielanay1047
    @jamielanay1047 Před 3 lety +55

    “If you’re gonna represent yourself, you gotta represent yourself!” Yesss!!! Feeling this! 👏 💓

  • @jessicaparman4338
    @jessicaparman4338 Před 2 lety +6

    Hello, Im a mom that has been in court since 2017. If i had any idea that god placed you on this earth with skill sets specifically designed to give from the heart, i wouldn't be in court case #3 & #4 right now in 2022.
    Every moment of 4 years i have had in court, watching the judge, the lawyers movements, tone changes, vocabulary adjustments and mico social subtitles, took me years to learn. You captured it in mins, so much time saved for other parents just stepping in to this.
    THANK YOU!!

  • @lynn4460
    @lynn4460 Před 4 lety +60

    I represented myself and was so thankful. My former spouse got custody, but once i followed the money trail i discovered my former spouse purchased custody. Saved thousands of dollars. Now I'm teaching others how to be pro se and making the process easier.

    • @vernmexico
      @vernmexico Před 4 lety +3

      Lynn...do you give advice?
      I'm a single mom in WA state..needing an attorney...but can't afford..would like to file papers with a paralegal, but I have to represent myself....

    • @lynn4460
      @lynn4460 Před 4 lety

      @@vernmexico go to the pro se page at artsoolk.com

    • @sunshinesunshine2714
      @sunshinesunshine2714 Před 4 lety +4

      I need your advice please!! I'm taking a narcissist to court for contempt and change of custody. He lied to get custody but he will NOT walk away with my child again! This has been pure hell. I havent seen my daughter in 5 years. Please email if you have any advice for me! heatherjolee30@gmail.com THANK YOU!!! #Justice4Justice

    • @lynn4460
      @lynn4460 Před 4 lety +1

      @@sunshinesunshine2714 more than likely custody was purchased. They sell custody several different ways. Learn more about family court at ArtSoolk.com

    • @sunshinesunshine2714
      @sunshinesunshine2714 Před 4 lety +2

      @@lynn4460 I believe it!! Thank you so much!

  • @jjackieo31
    @jjackieo31 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you for being out there for the people! I was served wrongfully for the custody of my child and study gardening NOT law. I literally have no idea what I'm doing. I got a wild hair to research if someone somewhere could offer useful information bc out of 10s of lawyers I've tried consults with are all just telling me to hire before they assist. I have four children on low income. It's impossible. So thank you for offering very useful threads of information I am able to use to better myself and my child's in this situation. Thank you!

  • @truthwillsetyoufree2024
    @truthwillsetyoufree2024 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Excellent video. I like how you said judges don't know 60% of the laws. I've spent a lot of money on lawyers where I had to get restraining orders to protect me and my kids and also going through a messy divorce. I do a lot of observing and I often find that the judge always deflects back to the council the lawyers and says you guys come up with a solution...

    • @takamusic2242
      @takamusic2242 Před 14 dny

      My brother can I ask you some questions ? Please ! I have my very first family court date every next month in August of this year for my 1 year old son. Your story seems similar to mine and I need help please

  • @leobonek3204
    @leobonek3204 Před 5 lety +32

    Exactly what she's saying all the advice that she's giving that's what I did for my court case, I got myself very educated I used to go to the courts and sit and watch how everything went down, I did it over and over again I followed this to a T but my case was way before she ever made this video I just knew that it was the right thing to do and it worked... and it works very well but I'm just the type of person that's able to represent myself and my case went fabulous👌/ I recommend representing yourself if it's not a "crazy wild case" and if you know the person on the opposing side is a little wacky then don't worry you will win......

    • @tiffanywilliams7183
      @tiffanywilliams7183 Před 5 lety +2

      You gave me hope

    • @gisselmartinez5599
      @gisselmartinez5599 Před 4 lety +1

      So u can just go to a courtroom and sit there? Are u allowed to b there without being kicked out? Didn't know any civilian could just get into a courtroom and sit right there...

    • @drpicmeup
      @drpicmeup Před 2 lety

      @@gisselmartinez5599 I'm gonna do this myself. My soon-to-be ex-spouse and I were originally gonna do a joint simplified divore where we don't even have to show up, but we don't meet the requirements, so we have to do a regular one. I know which judge we will have for our first court date so I'm gonna see if I can go and sit and watch.

    • @wesleycagle2354
      @wesleycagle2354 Před rokem

      I think my biggest draw back is I do not know the lingo, I can provide everything (definitely done my research) except how to present all the facts

    • @takamusic2242
      @takamusic2242 Před 14 dny

      I’m so scared right now. I’m up at 3:57am educating myself on all of these things. My court date is aug 14 of this year and I’m extremely ready to stand up for my son. My wife is extremely wacky and abusive but placed the order of protection on me.

  • @MandyAmelia
    @MandyAmelia Před 2 lety +6

    This happened to me where my husband kidnapped my children from VA to CA. I submitted for an emergency hearing snd the judge allowed him to keep all four children bc he said it costs less to have you go to CA then bring them here back to VA, even though I didn’t give permission for my children to even go to CA! I struggled and have been separate from my children for 2 years with a few days every month to see them. So much more to this but people who represent themselves also get railroaded which is what happened to me. I was a stay at home mom and I got taken advantage of and even told my kids were “uneducated” which wasn’t true because I homeschooled my kids! Now I’m back to set things right and make sure my kids are home safe with me.

  • @jrollins14
    @jrollins14 Před 2 lety

    Thank You for the great information!!! God Bless

  • @richardmabie5779
    @richardmabie5779 Před 2 lety +5

    Zero doubt it is very serious to rep yourself. Trying to pitch your case to do what is in best interest of the kids requires work.
    That is why they cost so much. They are worth it.

  • @ts9374
    @ts9374 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much for this!

  • @mreugenelee5166
    @mreugenelee5166 Před 5 lety

    I'm glad I found your channel. I'm a Human Service Professional. i'm currently in a CJ Class

  • @JeremyJones
    @JeremyJones Před 5 lety +15

    1:13 went thru the exact scenario, only difference is I had an attorney representing me and we researched the jurisdiction for the state I’m in, didn’t matter the judge kept same decision. good luck to the guy fighting it living in a different state... really wasn’t going to comment but it touched a soft spot.

  • @jumpman-ef8ln
    @jumpman-ef8ln Před 4 lety +1

    thank you so much for the info 💯

  • @YoWhoThisFool
    @YoWhoThisFool Před 2 lety +3

    I've been representing tf out my self all 2021 and was in the same situation. Best advice, exercise your custodial rights. Fill for emergency/temporary custody + Custody meeting. I was unfortunate that in my case. I was clueless to where they was. So how do you get them served. Where are they? By God's good grace I was able to find him. But I did obtain Emergency custody. Acknowledge that you are worried about his well being and future. I, myself could never be heartless enough. Honor that kid if you really wanna be a PARENT. Full Time working and parenting takes alot of dedication and devotion. But don't take my advice and higher one as soon as possible. Because let me tell yah. Conniving mfs won't let you live in peace on top of all your obligations to maintain now. Persistent-righteous is salvation. But it can be tough mentally. Keep faith and show consistent effort in raising your precious child. "A wise man knows he knows nothing so get a god damn lawyer." But for real start saving because I'm annoyed by the 3 trial in and I wish I had one. Wish me luck Dec. 1st God Bless

  • @monicacalvert1273
    @monicacalvert1273 Před 4 měsíci

    God bless you. Thank you so much!

  • @takamusic2242
    @takamusic2242 Před 14 dny

    Thankyouuu so much for this video 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @cdesano2411
    @cdesano2411 Před 9 měsíci +1

    You’re awesome! Wish I could ask you a few questions as I always represent myself

  • @kevinbarrera6985
    @kevinbarrera6985 Před 3 lety +46

    I’m literally so broken without my daughter😔💔 How can my child’s mother do this? Hopefully everything goes well I can’t afford a lawyer and if I decide to represent myself I will try my best to keep y’all updated

    • @ciciiib6850
      @ciciiib6850 Před 3 lety +8

      praying for you ❤️

    • @rahjae-annmitto5406
      @rahjae-annmitto5406 Před 3 lety +4

      Good luck with everything

    • @trevinjohnson4385
      @trevinjohnson4385 Před 3 lety +5

      Yes keep up updated, I am going to court to see my son. Haven't see that boy in 3 years. Let us know how it goes.

    • @yamesland5934
      @yamesland5934 Před 3 lety +7

      Don't question why a snake is a snake, or why a demon is a demon, or why garbage is garbage. Just fight for your daughter with everything you got. And when you got nothing left, you still fight. your daughter is going to need you.

    • @MandyAmelia
      @MandyAmelia Před 2 lety +3

      That’s messed up. I can’t stand parents who use their children as a power tool. I’m so sorry and I know how you feel.

  • @dustinbest00
    @dustinbest00 Před 4 lety

    Great information!! Thanks so much.

  • @lamaraverytv
    @lamaraverytv Před 4 lety +7

    thank you so much ! I would like to represent my self in court cause hiring a lawyer gives them jurisdiction

    • @tyroncline5978
      @tyroncline5978 Před 2 lety +2

      Exactly. This is what so many people don’t understand. You have to do it yourself, but you can file a special appearance motion to argue the merits of Case. I’m not an attorney. I do not practice law. Seek an attorney for legal advice and not necessarily “lawful” advice

  • @janetb3063
    @janetb3063 Před rokem

    This was great info. Ty

  • @nick.schneider1445
    @nick.schneider1445 Před 2 lety

    Thank.You ! Great Info.

  • @lucindatanksley5370
    @lucindatanksley5370 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Marisa I’m so grateful for this information!

  • @redbaysfinest
    @redbaysfinest Před rokem

    I need to know from start to finish what documents should be filed for a custody/visitation case in SC.. thank u… great stuff

  • @StephenStop
    @StephenStop Před rokem +1

    This was awesome! I’m representing myself in two days lol. 🤞🏽

  • @Nw46784
    @Nw46784 Před 2 lety

    Love it!!!! You are awesome!!!

  • @SS-ky6rr
    @SS-ky6rr Před 3 lety +9

    1.Study procedure (in your state )
    2.What criminal laws apply to your case
    3.Study a judges Cues when ruling
    4.If nothing else consult with a lawyer

  • @mperez4701
    @mperez4701 Před 8 měsíci

    Spotless Advice. Shes a great Attorney!! 5 Stars!!

  • @vesselofchristjesus2887

    OMG! Bless You Merissa V. ! You are legit answer to my prayers, I ALSO had to sself-represent. I am a very smart, educated woman, however i stuided earth science and Human Biology, Chemistry.. i did NOT take the Bar exam, nor have i ever been to COURT in my entire 30 years of life, I am VERY ignorant when it comes to Law, because I try to follow it. My now EX husvand had a lawyer from day 1, and he knows loop holes since he's been in and our of jail since the age of 14. I was a stay at home mom, our only son is 7 WITH special needs, hes NON verbal and cannot be interviewed, anyways my ex is just - idk how else to say this- a piece of💩 who knew i couldnt afford a lawyer, i tried 7 and got shot down by legal services twice because of their large caseload... I LEGIT have been fighting for over 2 years to get proper custody of our son back, if i had been studying this entire time on HOW TO BE MY OWN ATTORNY , it ha not been easy but thank God i'm actually doing all the advice in your video today, before I watched it, so this gives me hope. Even though I'm standing alone, I DO have the truth and undeniable mounds of evidence, but these last TWO YEARS to learn, for theres no "How To" gudie when you get divocred then forced to self- represent

  • @mycatsnameiskaren8253
    @mycatsnameiskaren8253 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! This was invaluable! As of last week, I am pro se, again. Last time was the same case, 7 years ago (I'm still in a custody dispute with my ex after 7+ years) and it turned out AWFUL! It was a couple of months after the dissolution of our marriage and I was in shock from recently finding out that my husband was having an affair for over a year and had impregnated her! My ex then kidnapped our daughters on my custodial Day. Blah, blah, blah. Anyway, I'm about to binge your channel! Thank you again!
    P.S. After 7+ years of research and hiring 3 different lawyers who loved my money but weren't compelled to work. I feel like I could ALMOST pass the bar, lol. I'm kidding!!!! My confidence certainly has improved because of lawyers like yourself!

  • @cwest2301
    @cwest2301 Před rokem

    TY so much. I am self represented, I've noticed his attorney has tried to pull some sneaky stuff and the Judge is not having it.

  • @HadassahHannah
    @HadassahHannah Před 2 lety

    thank you so much,

  • @WCarter615
    @WCarter615 Před rokem

    Thank you!!!!!

  • @shizz617btc
    @shizz617btc Před 3 lety +2

    I have been researching and finally you are the only resource that has made any sense. I am a single dad with full custody of my daughter and I could really use any advise from you for my situation. Please, I beg of you.
    Sincerely
    The single dad aka the tree in the forest

    • @takamusic2242
      @takamusic2242 Před 14 dny

      Hey man! I’m a dad and I’m trying to educate myself the best I can so I can be prepared for my court date Aug 14th of this year. My wife is abusive and a bit wacky but I don’t hate her nor wanna see her suffer. Yet I believe it’s truly in the best interest for my son to be in my primary care. Can I please email you about a few things if you have the time ?

  • @cwest2301
    @cwest2301 Před 8 měsíci

    . Much needed info again.

  • @thenonlawyer3127
    @thenonlawyer3127 Před 4 lety +1

    Awesome video..... Dad needs to file a petition to vacate a void judgment.

  • @myalong877
    @myalong877 Před 5 lety

    Thank you

  • @flyyscorpio2263
    @flyyscorpio2263 Před rokem

    This is so helpful my son just had a horrible experience with a biased judge. He has proof of his child's mother being abusive to him she had punched him in the face. She has pepper sprayed him. Threatened to kill the baby and said no one will ever know. She has harassed him constantly. When the police are called argue with them curse them out. She leaves the baby with her new man that she just met from buying weed from him. Everyone that was some type of lawyer law enforcement and mediators said he had a solid case. He has proof of everything and then some. If it's not texts it's recordings. She even set him up to pic up his child on Saturday when he had no idea that she had an emergency order put in place for Sundays on for 8 hours only. Once they agreed for him to take the baby hom on Monday she tried to have him locked up for kidnapping. The judge did not want to hear him plea his case at all and he had an attorney representing him. So the end results an 8 hour visit on Sunday with out a secure drop and pick up location for my son so that his child's mother doesn't fight him mase him or whatever she even said she will shoot him all recorded. My son has never hit her ever and he has that recorded.keep in mind that before he even had their child he supported her and her child for 3 years. What kind of judge allows all the laws to be broken by the child's mother constantly and everything plays in her favor. Only in Philly. Yeah that's why it's a mess now

  • @divorcetv7311
    @divorcetv7311 Před 4 lety +1

    Good points!

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  • @faithlala8741
    @faithlala8741 Před 3 lety

    I wish you were my lawyer!! Omg your the best

  • @roddywilliams9957
    @roddywilliams9957 Před 3 měsíci

    Nobody will tell my story better than I .. i had to fire my divorce attorney for inadequate representation. I am now at the tail end and settlement phase trial. At this point he tried basing the entire divorce on half the year of 2020 to the year she was fired for insurance fraud and filed for $45,000 I’ve been found out as I had no knowledge of any financial situation or dealings a jointly filed tax return for $98,000

  • @HadassahHannah
    @HadassahHannah Před 2 lety

    thank you

  • @ma8969
    @ma8969 Před 2 lety

    Thanks

  • @conspiracybuilder
    @conspiracybuilder Před rokem

    Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!

  • @melviansimmons1128
    @melviansimmons1128 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Representing yourself is not for the weak 😩😩😢 I am representing myself right now and I’m thinking about getting an attorney because the other side’s attorney is playing dirty in family law. She’s putting down and documentation that she served me properly and I was not served properly. I know this is 100% sure but she’s saying that she serve me so II am representing myself right now and I’m thinking about getting a attorney because the other side’s attorney is playing dirty in family law. She’s putting down and documentation that she served me properly and I was not served properly. I know this is 100% sure but she’s saying that she serve me so now I’m asking the court to make her show proof.

  • @srirachahero4679
    @srirachahero4679 Před 2 lety +1

    A watchmaker charged a customer $100 dollars to repair an old watch. The customer asked why they were doling out $100 when all the watchmaker did was tighten two tiny screws.
    The watchmaker replied, "the actual tightening only cost you $1. You paid me $99 for knowing exactly which screws to tighten and how much to turn the screw driver".
    That's the moral of this video - you wanna represent yourself? That's cool but KNOW what that means and what that takes. It's not a simple matter of showing up because you think you're in the right. The person on the other side of you also thinks they are right and it's up to you to convince a judge. And that takes skill.
    Thank you, Ms. Grayson.

    • @thecouplecrew
      @thecouplecrew Před 2 lety

      Thank you for watching! And for the analogy...good stuff 🙂

  • @djkanemusic
    @djkanemusic Před 2 lety

    This video is amazing

  • @ChildSupportMadeSimple
    @ChildSupportMadeSimple Před 5 lety +1

    You do not Understand that can support and supporting your child are 2 different items under this program. See the court case Blessing versus Freestone Supreme Court in Minnesota

  • @woowookyrieters6654
    @woowookyrieters6654 Před rokem

    It happen to me three time now in Kentucky

  • @princejudah3789
    @princejudah3789 Před rokem

    I appreciate ur content

  • @johnjohnson1681
    @johnjohnson1681 Před rokem

    diligent and competent key words right there... I have had THREE total potatoes represent me if you want to call it that. Im currently preparing for a dissolution trial in Pierce county WA atm and just finished my trial brief max pages 24 I got in at 19 BUT I should have taken a few pages out of the background/facts and used them in my Arguement albeit I still feel my points where factual to the case and the statutes and I have all the receipts to prove it. BUT I will say this being a male in the family law arena... I have never felt so discriminated against in my 35 years of life its the most awful thing I have endured. But God willing whoever gets assigned our trial is fair and impartial because honestly if not imma just walk away from it all being dragged through the mud as some unhinged women / child beating vet for over a year withholding my children on unsubstantiated allegations of assault its ludacris

  • @samuelwhitlingum8479
    @samuelwhitlingum8479 Před 2 lety

    I am trying to go all in, I have been told I have a parental alienation case. I can't afford to hire an attorney at this time. The mother had already went against the court order at least 5 times at this point. I been trying to submit a contempt order. Courts telling me I am missing paperwork, will not tell me what though. They denied making copies prior to submitting them and told me I would have to come back for copies once the judge see them and they would call me. It is extremely stressful. All while the mothers boyfriend is holding my child hostage and has been behaving in a threatening manner towards myself for absolutely no good reason. I've already missed all of 2021 with my daughter because of this guy. And now I'm am forced into court in order to see my daughter again.

  • @amandapandakrueger
    @amandapandakrueger Před rokem

    Do you have a video on what questions are usually asked in divorce court and child custody hearings?

  • @tahoerider79
    @tahoerider79 Před 4 měsíci

    Ty

  • @a.gnailz
    @a.gnailz Před 3 lety

    Thaks!!!

  • @gonzed11
    @gonzed11 Před 4 lety +29

    2:50...Then what in THE HELL is the judge good for if you have to TELL them what the laws and rules are???? thats what they are there for! the system is shot!

    • @karibelllovee1572
      @karibelllovee1572 Před 4 lety +1

      gonzed11 I think 🤔 u can’t tell the judge 👨‍⚖️ nothing

    • @eddiegreg7064
      @eddiegreg7064 Před 4 lety +4

      Once you realize what type of court your in (article I/II/III), family court is article II since it derives it's limited authority from the Hague treaty.
      Knowing that you are not in front of an article III(judicial branch) judge, and that they are acting on a limited authority position as a result of an active and ratified treaty, then you can build your defense.
      Active and ratified treaties are supreme law only right below the CONSTITUTION. Knowing that, you should yourself read the treaty and then several others on the books like the ICCPR, there is a provision in it to protect the parent. I'd also look into the dsm-5 and look for any violations.
      Anyway, just some food for a hungry mind.
      Thanks 🙈 🙉🙊

    • @lynn4460
      @lynn4460 Před 4 lety +2

      Exactly. Like they don't have a brain and don't know what to do. They are selling Custody, it's just a farce they use.

    • @borntodoit8744
      @borntodoit8744 Před 4 lety +4

      @gonzed11 - You do not understand what a court is when you say
      .
      "what the hell is the judge good for if you have to tell them what the laws are?"
      The point of court is to access justice.
      The phrase "scales of justice" is very correct metaphor for what is happening in court.
      Litgants load each side of scales with their case (their information).
      A judge is not the scales.
      A judge operates the scales.
      A judge has no need to understand what each party puts in their scale pan.
      A judge ensures both sides load their scales fairly eg follow the rules of court.
      A judge only makes a decision on what is infront on him (on the scales) not what he thinks outside of the evidence infront of him. No matter how obvious the judge is meant to be impartial in his views and bias's.
      To help him the litigants (both claimant and defendant) must present their cases in a formal way.
      EVENT (FACTS) >ISSUE >CLAIM >DEFENCE >PROOFS >LEGAL REASONING (FACTS vs RULES) >JUDGEMENT >RELIEF
      An EVENT happens and raises ISSUES which need RELIEF (resolution).
      FACTS are what happened (in the event).
      RULES are what should happen (in law).
      CLAIM is the ISSUE presented in formal manner for court.
      DEFENCE is the ISSUE RESPONE presented in formal manner for court.
      PROOF is the evidence to support CLAIM and to support DEFENCE
      eg scales of justice weight: CLAIM+PROOF1+LEGAL REASONING vs DEFENCE+PROOF2+LEGAL REASONING
      LEGAL REASONING is literally a process to draw the impartial judge a picture.
      Look up IRAC : ISSUE >RULES > ANALYSIS >CONCLUSION.
      (for ISSUE, the RULES are xyz, the FACTS are abc, APPLICATION of rules to facts once analysed draw a legal CONCLUSION).
      Without litigants doing this for judge the judge is powerless to say he knows best...
      he can only judge based upon information presented to him...
      legal reasoning is literally about laying a bread crumb trail to where you want the judge to follow so his JUDGEMENT agrees with your CONCLUSION about the event and issue being examined.
      I repeat judge has no need to know the law just how to operate the scales of justice and how to follow your legal reasoning.
      Hence your legal reasoning must include "the law or rules" as well as "the facts". Is not for judge to go and find find the rules.
      He is just a referee after all - he can hear thousands of cases about many many jurisdictions (types of law)....he cant be an expert in all hence the machinery of the case must present everything in a nice neat bow for him to have a chance at making a best decision.
      QED !

    • @gypsychristo6727
      @gypsychristo6727 Před 4 lety

      @@eddiegreg7064 Wonderful information, thank you so much.

  • @raychelb6904
    @raychelb6904 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow that was so helpful. Just one question since most court cases are by phone/video bcuz of covid19 do you have any suggestions for learning the flow of the Judge & the flow of the bench??
    Thanks 4Sharing

    • @NicoNicole1969
      @NicoNicole1969 Před 3 lety

      Check your court's website. Most likely cases will be screened live for public due to COVID-19.

  • @yahisenough2137
    @yahisenough2137 Před 2 lety

    Hi Lynn I need your help for a modification. I don’t know where they get the documents from to fill in the information …

  • @janekajohnson8797
    @janekajohnson8797 Před 2 lety +1

    I would love to talk to you about a case and get a consultation!

  • @tyannatheempress858
    @tyannatheempress858 Před rokem

    I’ve lived In Indiana since 2015 my ex filed in Kankakee Illinois in 2016 I tried to fight the jurisdiction and he had his attorney put into the court order it can not leave this jurisdiction

  • @osmanvincent1975
    @osmanvincent1975 Před rokem

    The Ex- got caught telling lots of lies and both the court counselor and court appointed therapist totally flipped to backing me for custody. The Ex- then disappeared with our toddler daughter from California to the Maryland area. I got full custody, but my California order was a worthless foreign court order in Maryland, and the sheriff & police refused to even do civil standby to prevent violence.
    In California, the unannotated Family Code was only 50 pages long. It contained a quarter page section on registering foreign court orders. Theoretically, I could have walked up to the right court clerk’s office in Maryland, said I want to register my court order under their registration code, gotten it stamped again making it a Maryland order. Somewhat better process would be to type a cover sheet with the familiar Maryland layout, stating that the attached California order is now also a Maryland order under the registration section. No filing fee, no court cost, no attorney fees.
    My supposed family law specialist was unaware of this small section. Similar for the Maryland family law specialist.
    I learned to do my own legal research and write legal briefs that attorneys were happy to put their names on. If I represented myself and other side had an attorney, I always lost.
    If neither side had an attorney or we both did, I or we always won.

  • @theproducer31
    @theproducer31 Před 3 lety

    Can I Hire you???? this information is AWESOME!

  • @Twinboi85
    @Twinboi85 Před 3 lety +5

    She wont tell you family courts dont have jurisdiction. Challenge jurisdiction. Represent yourself, not the strawman. These courts operate on administrative rule, not judicial.

    • @tyroncline5978
      @tyroncline5978 Před 2 lety

      That is correct and therefore you cannot be “ordered” to do anything. Only impartial, unattached, and neutral judicial judges can issue a final order or judgement. This is what they don’t want the people to know. It’s fraud.

    • @Livesacred
      @Livesacred Před rokem

      Can you tell me how to challenge jurisdictions

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      @Twinboi85 Před rokem

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  • @captainswan3079
    @captainswan3079 Před 3 lety

    I have an ugly trial coming up. Am I allowed to do subpoenas as a pro se?

  • @BillionaireBombshell
    @BillionaireBombshell Před 4 lety

    Could a man lose a custody case if his license is suspended and got arrested for driving with a suspended license knowingly. Silly question but I know someone currently worried that may hurt his case.

  • @Crush0819
    @Crush0819 Před 8 měsíci

    I just got 20k n child support thrown out 50/50 custody by reading all laws of 4d then state laws and procedures read up everything she knows hay she is saying!!!!!! You go girl thank you for the knowledge

  • @jessicawoods4163
    @jessicawoods4163 Před 5 lety +7

    Exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you for posting this! I'm dead set on getting full custody over my daughter

    • @davidflash603
      @davidflash603 Před 5 lety +1

      Mgtow

    • @elsie7017
      @elsie7017 Před 2 lety +3

      is that what is right for the children? if your family is fit. then fundamental rights to all sides are the best fight. i know children need both parents,

  • @vanessamagdaleno5560
    @vanessamagdaleno5560 Před 2 lety

    I have court June 23 for child support custody

  • @alisonpelletier8028
    @alisonpelletier8028 Před 2 lety

    hey I found your video, were from vt and my partners x is in ny were going in with out a lawyer bc we cant afford one, we have custody of one of the kids and still have to pay child support on him, and we don't quilify for help and being in 2 different states we cant get legal aide or anything so here it goes, we are trying to get full custody for both kids, she has cps cases, and very toxic how do we prepare the testimony evidence etc, were do we start. PLEASE HELP!

  • @StacyFrancis94
    @StacyFrancis94 Před 4 lety +1

    I am representing myself pro se. I already embarrassed myself and made a mistake when filing the lawsuit.

    • @lynn4460
      @lynn4460 Před 4 lety +1

      You can get motions already written and then tailor then to your case at Motions 4 Sale.

    • @Jen-qd7sc
      @Jen-qd7sc Před 3 lety +1

      What is a motion? I have a Pre trial in one week and do I need this?

  • @Livesacred
    @Livesacred Před rokem

    Is there a way to go with my daughter in a closed court to support her emotionally-while she represents herself- is there a loop hole that can get me on there with her

  • @markjackson7530
    @markjackson7530 Před 3 lety

    I'd like some advice for my court Ms ...

  • @vegas9440
    @vegas9440 Před 2 lety +1

    I'm about to go to trial next month and I've did my extensive research. Question, can I read from my notes 75% of the time? In civil cases can I chose from judge or jury. How much time do you have to plead your side 8n Texas civil

    • @merissavgrayson
      @merissavgrayson  Před 2 lety

      Just now seeing this comment. In case you haven't gone to court yet...
      I read from my motes all the time...so I imagine it shouldn't be a problem.
      Many states allow you or the opposing side to choose between a judge/jury depending on the type of case it is, you'll need to check your local court rules.
      I don't practice law in Texas, so I don't know about the requirements, but a good rule of thumb is to always be prepared to plead your side.

  • @chosenonekay
    @chosenonekay Před 2 lety

    Im the plaintiff representing myself in court im pressing charges for terroristic threats and i have a restraining order on the defendant. Im deciding to drop the charges but keep the restraining order. Do i really need a lawyer to do this?

  • @natevscasper
    @natevscasper Před 4 lety

    Ok! I need to talk with you! I’m starting a case and would love to just talk with you to get your insight

  • @woowookyrieters6654
    @woowookyrieters6654 Před rokem

    Spend money lawyers and Judy go out to eat together, they all know each other. In Kentucky

  • @GGCustomArt
    @GGCustomArt Před 2 lety

    Can I ask, if everyone, lawyers and non lawyers, know you have to go by the same rules as an attorney if you represent yourself pro se, why is that even legal if attorneys go to college to earn a degree? The system is corrupt.

  • @mfs2022
    @mfs2022 Před 3 lety

    I have a contempt order for rule to show cause of on payment next month on child support,, if i catch up the total amount owed can I motion for dismissal?

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  • @xoxopenny7877
    @xoxopenny7877 Před 3 lety

    I wish you could be my lawyer for my child support case

  • @thenewme35
    @thenewme35 Před rokem

    I am going to trial for a custody case. I have to represent myself, I cannot afford a lawyer, are you available to talk at all?

  • @geedaytamesthecharts9093
    @geedaytamesthecharts9093 Před 4 lety +1

    Can I still file child support on myself with a TRO placed on me by my ex?

  • @chantelmorset7176
    @chantelmorset7176 Před 2 lety +1

    Attorney Grayson, recently in a response to a complaint filed . The respondent stated that " they reserve the right to supplement this position statement with additional material as it is gathered. Company also reserves the use of any and all objections and priviledges that may be raised pursuant to Federal and State rules of evidence in any further proceeding under the law regarding information contained herein.
    1. I wanted to ask you if they can present evidence later past the deadline to respond to the complaint. After seeing my rebuttal. Where I may have, stated , they made
    statement to, but provided no supporting evidence for the statement they made. I am afraid that then they will fabricate evidence after the fact. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!!!!

    • @merissavgrayson
      @merissavgrayson  Před 2 lety +1

      Evidence is typically presented at trial or evidentiary hearings, which happen after the discovery stage of your case (where parties are able to collect evidence). Sp to answer your question, yes...it may be possible that either party can present new evidence as the case moves forward or at the end. Thanks for watching!

    • @chantelmorset7176
      @chantelmorset7176 Před 2 lety

      @@merissavgrayson Thank you.

  • @ThoughtfulQueen
    @ThoughtfulQueen Před 3 lety

    My sister and law and dhr have backed us in a corner and we had to sign our custody please help Amy advice would help

  • @jamielanay1047
    @jamielanay1047 Před 3 lety +3

    What do you recommend for learning a judge on you case in relation to this pandemic and not being able to sit in their courtroom currently.

    • @bcuaron
      @bcuaron Před 3 lety

      I haven't heard on this either did you get any advice?

    • @NicoNicole1969
      @NicoNicole1969 Před 3 lety +1

      Check the courts website and all proceedings should be live streamed due to COVID-19.

  • @lupecampa1230
    @lupecampa1230 Před 3 lety

    I see my baby on a regular basis and thought I had a good relationship with my daughters guardian I go to the courthouse to get a copy of my daughter case come to find out they have court without me the paperwork is all lies I was never told about my rigths being terminated I need help please

  • @monrrealjesse6673
    @monrrealjesse6673 Před 2 lety

    Where can I find this attorney??

  • @geesmomma9183
    @geesmomma9183 Před 3 lety

    Can you teach us these laws

  • @cassandracruz5202
    @cassandracruz5202 Před rokem

    uhhh how would you go about self representing yourself in court if you are a teenager? I'm 16 and I don't have the money or anything to really help me out so I'm just trying my hardest to do whatever I can before my court hearing in a few days. :')

  • @lentzgaillard8198
    @lentzgaillard8198 Před 2 lety

    Needs more details

  • @JesusChrist-xk9ee
    @JesusChrist-xk9ee Před 2 lety

    Basically what you're saying is... is if the mom took the child away and was gone for only 3 months ...the father's state had jurisdiction underneath uccjea. (Uniform child custody jurisdiction enforcement act)

  • @JustinSwinea
    @JustinSwinea Před 7 měsíci

    Can I schedule a consultation with you?

  • @byroncortezmusic1327
    @byroncortezmusic1327 Před 5 lety

    They just don’t let you in watch a random strangers case as an spectator on NY. At least, not where I live.

    • @luckyme6888
      @luckyme6888 Před 3 lety

      That’s a shame. In Australia it’s a free for all, anyone can sit in the gallery and watch the drama unfold

  • @bcuaron
    @bcuaron Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for this. Do you offer to take cases pro bono by chance?

    • @merissavgrayson
      @merissavgrayson  Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you for watching! I do take pro bono cases each year, but the slots fill up pretty quickly so I dont' have any space available at this time. We open up again at the top of the year.

    • @vaniahwoods115
      @vaniahwoods115 Před 3 lety

      How can I know when your pro Bono case slots are opened ?

    • @tyroncline5978
      @tyroncline5978 Před 2 lety

      @@merissavgrayson how does one get the “court”/tribunal to follow their own rules and not hide/conceal/mutilate paperwork of those not using an attorney and to also close a case for fraud upon the court? My guess is, you wouldn’t offer such advice so as not to operate against corpus juris Secundum volume 7, Section 4. Correct?

  • @xDTackle
    @xDTackle Před 4 lety

    Where can we go to study family law and civil procedures?

    • @merissavgrayson
      @merissavgrayson  Před 4 lety +1

      William Martinez you literally can google (civil procedure + your state OR your state + family code) and resources will show up. Also, look up self-help family law in your area (many courts or nonprofits offer free guidance and sometimes representation) If you want to look up case law, you can use scholar.google.com and search the issue you need info about (ex: child custody + move away OR child custody + drug abuse). Also www.findlaw.com has a lot of great info and you can look up the laws by state. Hope this helps!

  • @shellbell771
    @shellbell771 Před 2 lety

    The Judge told me that he will not listen to me without a lawyer. He stated that he will not take me seriously without a lawyer and he told me that it was my last chance to get a lawyer for family court. Don’t I have the right to represent myself without an attorney? He also constantly made fun of me in the courtroom and humiliated me in front of the courtroom

    • @jmeler1254
      @jmeler1254 Před 2 lety +1

      Damn I’m happy my judge isn’t that mean. The best thing to do is stay calm and explain the financial situation

  • @natiboy513wm
    @natiboy513wm Před 3 lety

    Does this work in Kentucky

  • @shannanbrennan612
    @shannanbrennan612 Před 3 lety

    How do I find all this info tho??

  • @mattiescreations
    @mattiescreations Před 3 lety

    I have the same situation I’m mom and he took her out of California how can I get some solid consultation from someone like you

    • @merissavgrayson
      @merissavgrayson  Před 3 lety

      Thanks for watching! You can request a consultation via the link below: bit.ly/workwithmerissa