How I broke the hustle/burnout cycle and experienced *true* rest.
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- čas přidán 8. 08. 2024
- By the time I had my daughter, I was knee deep in burnout. My mental health was suffering, I was stuck in a cycle of hustle culture-burnout, people pleasing, you name it. In this video I share my raw story on burnout, how I got there in the first place, and specific shifts made that helped me to recover from burnout. It was the catalyst that kicked off my minimalism and slow living journey, I hope it blesses you.
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00:00 how I got here
01:38 radical declutter
03:30 stop tying worth to productivity
06:15 replenish minerals
08:04 outside time
08:50 cultivate play
10:25 embracing limitations
13:18 boundaries
If you're new here, hi! I'm Jess, a former over-achieving restless soul that is passionate about helping women cultivate contentment exactly where they are, especially amidst motherhood. I post about slow living, minimalism, my faith, and honest motherhood. If you're into that, join me and a tribe of women looking to reject restlessness and step into joyful fullness by subscribing and joining the community. I'm glad you're here:)
Did any one of these hit a cord more than most? I'd love to know which area you're looking to focus on to heal
Which mineral supplement do you recommend from your Amazon storefront?
Learning my worth! Huge learning curve for me. High performer. Trying to live in constant burnout.
@@alitan5069 speaking my language!
@@TheBlessedLifeee it totally depends, you can't go wrong with focusing on your Na and K (like the adrenal cocktail powder and using it in coconut water or the pickleball especially if pregnant or nursing) and have a topical magnesium. I deep dive in my mineral video, let me add it to the description.
Control.
You speak so much wisdom here, Jessica. At 53, I have been on this road my entire life. It was when I was 31, after my mother died, that I came face-to-face with burnout, suicidal ideation, and myself. Perfectionism, productivity, and achievement for over 10 years had me so low. I took time off from my business and I had to LEARN how to have fun, make friends, read fiction. I've made a lot of progress in the last almost-20 years. However, now in a time of peri-menopause, I am facing again those innate and learned patterns that keep me anxious and striving. I pray that your videos continue to feed me, you and others to let go of rules and embrace our God-given joy, worth, and BEingness. Thank you!
thank you for sharing. What a journey you have been on and are currently on, I'm grateful my content is helping you in any way!
My mom died when I was 31 too, just 13 months after my brother died. It has completely changed my life..
Yes 🙌 all of this ❤
Girl I found your channel recently and it is really resonating with me so much! My goal for the rest of this year is to really work on healing my nervous system. I am exactly the same as how you were in terms of over-achieving, constantly on the go and never truly present or able to rest. Your videos are filled with such guidance and you totally glow from the inside out in all of your videos! Thanks for sharing your wisdom and all the best on your journey ❤
what kind words and I am so glad it is resonating! I think a lot of us are in the same camp of previous over acheivers!
the hardest part for me is actually doing it. the boredom is literally painful for me but i need it to heal. great video and advice :)
I totally get that!
I need more on this idea of our worth and productivity. I’m addicted to productivity as a stay at home mom…. And I can’t quite wrap my head around what you’re saying and yet I know I’m my gut there’s something deeper there going on in my too!
It’s amazing to not feel alone, thank you for sharing your heart with us! I’m a mom of 3 very very busy little boys and I’m on the exact same journey as you. Decluttering , slowing down, becoming more aware and intentional.
This video was exactly what I needed to hear!! Thank you so much!
Can't relate more to EVERYTHING said in this video. Thank you!
Ummmm girl. I literally had to sit and screenshot the captions several times in this video because the WISDOM. Thank you for sharing. It really spoke to me!
I'm so glad!
Thank you for creating this video sis ❤
I’m so happy I found your channel! Thank you for your encouragement! You had me at Sabbath ❤
I am so happy to have found your channel! It is exactly what I needed and right on time ❤
Thank you so much for the video! It was so inspiring and calming for me :)
Admirative of how well you articulate the experience you went to through. Thank you for sharing it with the world 🙏🏼
A lot of the topics you cover really tie into buddhism well, especially concerning moral responsibility and balancing your moral worth with work. I just recently found your channel and I love your videos especially about minimalism and how to declutter your mind and home! ❤ I’m not a mom (yet or maybe never) but I still binge everything. - Awesome video!!
I wasn’t even looking for this video but it popped up and I’m so glad, it exactly what I needed one year postpartum ❤
Thank you for sharing this Jessica! I can definitely relate to the burnout from constantly putting yourself into a state of doing. And yes, perfectionism and control...those are two big ones for me too!
100% YES!! Great video Jessica!
What an inspiring video this was, Jessica😊❤
Loving the advices you share.... "Merci" from france :)
So excited for another video! I’m obsessed with your insight and wisdom. As a new Mum struggling, I’m Grateful for you ❤
So grateful these are a help:)
Had to rewatch this one Jessica! Exactly the journey I’m on right now. Such a soul nourishing and affirming video. Thank you for helping light the path forward. Would love to hear more about all of these on the list😊
so glad it spoke to you!
Thank you Jessica, I think this channel is meant for woman, but I was blessed by your honesty and authenticity. It just gets tiring to keep working hard and pleasing people and I have and still struggle with this over thinking and pondering and worrying and etc. etc etc, and part of it or much is because of rejection and pain that builds up... its a harsh world Jessica. Am glad you are coping well and shining for others to shine too, pls keep it going, bless you.
so grateful it spoke to you:)
I was the same and can relate to your story. But oh what a beautiful journey of growth we are all on now! 😊 💕
agreed!
Ooooh girl this is good stuff!
I love your videos i recently started following you this video was definitely on point because i have been feeling like this until one day i had to take a step back prayed and realized im doing too much and for what lol . I found that i actually love nature and coloring and the simple things .
haha isn't that the truth. i think we are moving to too fast to even stop and ask ourselves "why"
"you don't get a break, that's not available to you" it's like you reached into my brain and pulled these words out 😅 thank you for this video ❤
so grateful it spoke to you!
Jessica, know that this video has so blessed me. You have struct a lot of cords in my listening to this, it may aswell have been a symphony 😂 Thank God for his wisdom and for you heading it and sharing your journey. Sending you and your household love from Australia 😘
hahah a symphony, i love it!
Loved the video. I am also trying to heal and detach from hustle culture and your videos resonate with me. Can you make a video about the decision to be a stay at home mom and motherhood?
Currently working on a video about moving from hustle and career oriented to stay at home mom. It should come out in august! It's been a while because I have a lot of thoughts to sort through haha
Thank you very much for this video, I'm new to your channel and already a new subscriber ☺️.
I hope is ok to ask if is possible to make a video about what you do on Saturday, what a day of rest could look like. Thank you again
Yes to all of this. I run a limbic system healing program and this is sooooo integral to healing!!!
oh man, you're doing good work!!
Wow this was my motto 10:35 "I can do anything if I put my mind to it or if I put in the time and effort", but true, this isn't freedom.
Love this ❤
Because of anxious thoughts i am produktive, thank you!!❤️
The over achievement is ME ! Always need a goal. Never content with today. It's exhausting, and I'm a Christian. I know I should rest like Jesus but I don't know how. I feel lost without a plan or a goal.
I totally get that, this whole channel is basically my story of coming out of that mindset of striving for my worth, i hope it speaks to you !
Where is that beautiful place your swimming ?? I’d love to go there. Thanks for sharing your journey ❤
Thank you for your videos! I love your approach to health, motherhood, and life in general.
Could you share in the future how you run a business without social media? I’m a mom of two and want to start a CZcams, but I DO NOT want to get back on Instagram, so I’d love to hear your tips :)
I think I'll have more to share down the line, but if it makes you feel any better I have not had a social media since posting back on youtube and have seen growth and success without it. honestly I think it does better because I'm not so distracted on running different things and can focus on creating content I love which I think translates. it CAN be done. you don't have to have multiple social media platforms!
Wow! Youre videos have been a great encouragement to me to make the necessary changes that Ive known I needed to make for a long time. I am on the same hamster wheel and its exhausting but Im causing it so your suggestions of changes made me excited and gave me hope that I can get out of this terrible cycle Im in. Curious, but how do you implement the day of rest in your life when there is so much to do and so many demands. I feel like 7 days a week aren’t even enough sometimes and there are activities and plans that would probably come up on your day of rest. How do you respond to those? Do you switch your rest day or turn them down. It seems like I would miss out on a lot if I was always turning things down. Thanks again for your videos! Im really enjoying them❤.
I think it depends on the family and schedule, I personally don't mind switching the rest day if something comes up. I'm not super strict on it, but to me, if we have so many things going on that I literally feel I cannot take a single day off, then that means I have too many plates spinning and things need to go. it's the litmus test for me
Can you make a video of what kind of meals you cook for your family? Cheap & simple meals. Idk why this is something that stresses me out a lot
Is there a way I could load up my body with minerals before we start trying for a 3rd baby? Would your mineral drink do that? Just chug that before during and after?
minerals are so important for health and fertility. including mineral rich foods and focusing on nourishment would do wonders. I have a youtube video on it, one of my very first ones:)
Really beautifull ❤️😍
Do you have a podcast !?
no but I'm hoping that's a next step for me!
I became an older mom through adoption. Would your class apply to me?
nourishing new mamas? It's designed for all moms who are depleted and burned out. there are specific info in there about breastfeeding but I would say 80 of the content would still apply to you, and all the principles I'm teaching are important for womens health in general:)
Can we be friends 🥹 I need more women in my life that create kindness, peace, and boundaries while also inviting God into their family.
friends!
Iam so happy i found ur channel 🤍 from EGYPT