5 toxic habits I QUIT to heal my nervous system.
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- čas přidán 4. 06. 2024
- I was stuck in survival mode most of my life. Besides it taking a toll on my health, relationships, and quality of life, it totally robbed me of the presence, joy, and contentment available to me exactly where I was. Turns out I was actually engaging in some really toxic behaviors that KEPT me stuck in fight or flight. Quitting these allowed me to heal my nervous system and find true rest.
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00:00 Intro
01:05 MULTITASKING
03:30 UNDEREATING
05:30 HURRY CULTURE
08:10 SOCIAL MEDIA
10:25 CLUTTER
If you're new here, hi! I'm Jess and I am a former over-achieving restless soul that is passionate about helping women cultivate contentment exactly where they are, especially amidst motherhood. I post about slow living, minimalism, my faith, and holistic women's health. If you're into that, join me and a tribe of women looking to reject restlessness and step into joyful fullness by subscribing and joining the community. I'm glad you're here:)
Do any of these 5 resonate with you more than the others? I'd love to know!
Definitely the rushing, but also I interpreted it as just a lack of presence, which I definitely had with my kids quite a bit. Which was mostly due to depression. I wonder if you have anything to say to how that effects things?
Not multi-tasking is my new favorite. Doing one thing at a time is calming. And I feel like I get more done.
agreed!
Not me, listening to this video at 1.5 speed 😂😂😂 called out 😅😅
hahahah omg
😂😂😂😂same ❤❤
Me at 2x lol
Decluttering has been crucial for me. I used to fill every nook and cranny of our home with decor because I thought that was what I was supposed to do. Now that I have decluttered, I appreciate the empty spaces and it has given me room to breathe. Plus, cleaning is a lot easier when you have less to manage.
I would love to see a video on your 10 item wardrobe.
i agree! My wardrobe video is the next to drop:)
This is ME right NOW 😞.. thought it was JUST me… I feel like the years are flying by… it’s NOT.. it’s ME rushing to get towards my goals, then I’m out here looking for the next goal! But I’m working on slowing down and enjoying each day 🌺
Yep! Not rushing around allowed me to be present. I didn’t even realize I wasn’t present until I would have to keep rechecking things (did I lock the door, did I turn off the lights, etc). In the past, rushing around/packing my days/multitasking is what made me have to temporarily stop running my business. I also learned that rushing was a form of avoiding/running away from some internal feelings. Great video, thank you! ❤
so agree on it being running away from feelings!!
I'd like to ad nature to the list... Nothing so beautiful and calming to my nervous system as being in nature..... ❤
I feel so overwhelmed. I feel so relaxed when I don’t multitask even for a day. 👀
The hurry culture. The programmed glorification with doing and busyness (busi-ness). Survival mode rushing and avoidance of internal feelings.
Currently off all social media. Do have to watch addictions on CZcams. A useful tool in moderation. The Social Dilemma documentary I watched recently was quite telling. Grateful your channel popped up in my feed. Much love and blessings from Toronto, Canada.
I have to watch that one! I've heard great things!
Hurry culture is so real and so not for me. I will always remember my ex husband would rush for everything mostly for work and it bothered me so much. I’m very slow maybe for medical reasons I’ve always been low in iron but I just like to take my time even though I work 9-5 I still don’t rush.
My low iron is what made me rush around sometimes. Because I knew I had finite energy. Lol. I started using iron patches (like how a nicotine patch works but for iron). That helped so much, but I still had to figure out how to pace myself after I had more energy. Haha
@@LilAnonymissinteresting! What patch Brad do you use if you don’t mind me asking?
@@mamabear4633 I like the PatchAid brand. I just get them from Amazon
Ladybugs all dressed in red, Slowly strolling through the flower beds. How brave a ladybug must be! Each drop of rain is big as she. Tiny bug big Beauty knows how stop & smell the roses & just take it in🐞 ❤ 💪🏽
Thanks for the wake up call! It worked & im going to continue to declutter & slow down & not keep up with the Jones, I dont want to race in everything I do. I thought racing gives you a 2nd & 3rd winds & then you get the runners high... but i didnt realize i was putting myself in survival modes. Im going to be more aware of staying present.
Great video! I have already quit most social media (I love Pinterest though!), and it’s incredible the difference it’s made in my life. I no longer feel the need to buy things that I saw on Instagram, I’m not comparing my journey to anyone else’s, and I’m overall happier. I’m going to try the others now too, especially no more multi-tasking. I am really bad at trying to do all the things at the same time.
Yes! No social media was life changing for me
I think when we really stop and listen to our bodies, we naturally want to stop all these things that we were meant to do
At least that's how it was for me. I don't think it's a coincidence that so many people seem to be quitting all the same toxic habits
Loved this video ❤
The thing you said about nutrition is so so true. So many of us do not eat enough nutrient rich meals. I would literally in the past just not eat cause I was too lazy to cook. I wonder why I felt so lazy lol. Cause I wasn’t eating enough 😢
honestly though!
This is the video and channel I have been needing!!!
I love the idea of being more intentional and I truly believe that clutter raises cortisol, at least it does for me. I also used to strive for productivity by being a multi tasker, only to realize that it feels so much better to do one thing at a time. There are also studies that REAL multi tasking is impossible, humans are unable to do more than one thing at a time actively, fully. e.g. typing and listening to someone: one of the two tasks suffers in quality when compared to doing those two tasks one after another.
So while I was sure to be so much more efficient trying to do more than one thing at the same time, I was doing them with less quality and of course not at all mindfully, just speeding through the process. Needless to say I am now in burnout and depression and slowly recovering. Now I am so much more intentional with what I spend my time on and how I do things. It feels so much better.
yes to this!
This literally sounds like ME! I am always in a hurry. When I was listening to this I was brushing my teeth and I noticed I was brushing as fast as I could and so vigorously! LOL I’m a stay at home mom and homeschool my three, and I am always in a constant state of “what can I get done?” And ALWAYS multitasking. And if someone is talking to me it’s “inconvenient”. So terrible! This video was so helpful!! Something else I struggle with is people pleasing 😅❤
I have a video planned all on people pleasing haha this is a real struggle for so many!
I also multitask, but I realized that because of my personality and my upbringing I always felt like I had to be doing something because my parent always wanted to see me being productive getting something done. I was not allowed to just exist. I had to be cleaning, organizing or helping with something. I now realize that I can simply do what I need/want. I can do things that I like or do nothing at all without being made to feel lazy or useless, I am an adult now. Although I will say it is hard because I find myself thinking that my husband is going to think that I am lazy or useless if I am doing nothing or if I’m doing something for myself like a hobby. I’m working on fixing this.
Nothing like childhood narratives sneaking up on us haha. My husband and I were actually just talking about how I should make a video on this. The things we carry from childhood and how it affects our home, definitely more common than we think!
You have highlighted all five of my toxic habits. At least I'm consistent.
These are all wonderful ideas and ones I need to implement!
I am 53, and have just implemented/began implementing all of these strategies into my life within the past three years. You are very wise to figure this out at a young age. Social media was the last one I implemented last month. I deleted FB (the only social media I had and used since 2009), and choose to get on FB, on my desktop computer, which is downstairs in the basement/family room. And like you, that’s not often. I am so much more at peace now. God is the only one able to handle knowing everything (omniscient) about everyone, at every time of the day and night, and be present (omnipresent) everywhere around the world. We are not created for that kind of pressure. I hope you reach many young ladies with this video. ❤️
could not agree more. thank you!!
Thx best video i saw about this topic
Omg this is so me 😩!! Finally time to start making small changes 🙏
This was so good 😊
This was the best timing for me to hear this! Such a revelation for me :) Thanks for sharing
great advice, i'm doing all of those as well
Great video!
I can relate so much with these video. I can relate with multi-taskig and the culture of rushing.
One of the best videos out there . This is absolutely helpful. When tou described your state in the beginning it is my current state. I am so amazed that i found this video. I should have found this sooner
Im so glad you enjoyed it!
I just came across your channel and I love the way you speak. I really needed to hear this :)
I'm so glad!
Yes.
FEEL YOU on the rushing and multitasking. I feel like I'm constantly looking for little chores to do while waiting on other things, 'that's how the house stays clean!' But actually it's just making my house stressful because everything is a to-do. The times when I only do one thing at a time are so peaceful, if my social-media stimulated brain can tolerate the boredom of it. These are all things I've heard but you articulated really well!!
I'm so grateful it spoke to you!
lovely tips 🩷
I enjoyed this video so much. I was in therapy for over two years dealing with anxiety and one of the first realizations I gained from therapy was that I was so stressed that I no longer knew what stress felt like. Nothing stressed me out. Until I started having panic attacks and then the thought of having another terrified me. Now, I see such a value in slower living. If I could build a life that would allow for my family to 100% live slowly, I would. Unfortunately, my daughter’s school begins at 7:30 and the morning rush is a real thing. I hate this. Baby steps though. We’ll all get there in the end.
yes! And i think anyway you can bring presence and slowness throughout the day matters. It doesn't have to be all or nothing!
What a beautiful video, you're a great storyteller! Thank you for sharing
Thank you so much!
Hi Jessica! Great video and also... GREAT course topic. I appreciate your insights and the way you broke it down. I definitely get the hurry culture and clutter!
Glad it was helpful!
This resonated with me ❤ thank you ❤ your whole channel looks amazing! I'm grateful to have found your videos 😇
I'm glad you're here !
Just subbed 🤍! I took the time to watch this video in its entirety and I must say it truly was cultivating and well worth the watch . Everything you shared related , closely as I need improvement in these areas as well. Love the tips! Have been using some of the tips shared only partially but realized it’s time to stop being lukewarm and give it priority. I love how you mentioned , you work towards these habits each day. It certainly isn’t habits that stick overnight but through daily practice until they stick. Thanks for sharing ✨😊!
I'm so glad it resonated!
Also bathing instead of showering
Yes slow living and whole foods is helping me
I was multitasking by scrolling through the comments on this video. Will have to rewatch the video now. 🙃
hahaha
Loved ALL of these. Made me want to purge some parts of my house. It’s hard to get started but I know it’ll be so good. Miss you on instagram but so happy to see a new video on here!
glad you are here gina!
Feel like this video hace changed something in me.. or i found answers within myself from it. Thank you so much. Would love more of your wisedom in videos. Have a great day 🙂
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you this is very thought provoking. You shared some really great points that resonate with me . I am someone that feels my value is tied to my productivity. Im a momma to 8 and I have been in fight or flight for 20 years , bo joke abd then I ended up with an autoimmune disease , so caring for our body and minds is crucial for survival.
I think a lot of women, especially moms, can resonate with tying our worth to your productivity. It's a hard thing to unlearn
I know I may not be the target audience of the video, I’m not a mom and I don’t have a family, but this video was extremely helpful and you helped me identify the different ways I was doing the toxic habits that’s keeping me in the realm of stress. Thank you for sharing this and I’m grateful it came up in my feed.
I'm grateful it spoke to you!!
Hey,
I have been reading the book "The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry" -- Actually need to pick it back up but, I loved it. Thank you for your video xx
It's so good!
Was thinking about this today and then your video popped up. Thank you for articulating in your own way! Currently listening on 1.25 while cooking dinner so make what you will of that 🥴
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Loved this video, and had to take notes❤ I'm a highly sensitive person, and the points you mentioned are really helpful for regulating our nervous system, thank you for sharing 💗
You're so welcome! I'm so glad it helped:)
Great video! Liked and subscribed and so excited to watch more of your content. One little piece of feedback: It very well could just be me, but the audio seems a little quiet. I'm trying to double-check if that's just something going on with my speakers. This video is so visually stunning and well-made. I really needed these tips!
appreciate that feedback!
Watching this video was like looking in a mirror. Couldnt ha e found this at a better time, thank you!
You're so welcome!
So good! Literally today I was working on doing one thing at a time. Maybe God wanted me to see your video. I've been working on all you mentioned except undereating. You are far ahead of me though. I've been decluttering for so long and still have too much in my way. I know that has to change. You mentioned so many good things! Thank you!
So glad it resonated! It takes a while! I’m still moving through parts of my house!
This is super good content, thank you! (The volume was too low for me, FYI.)
Noted!
I’ve been struggling with anxiety for a long time. And where as I got number 5 down pat, the first four are a MAJOR struggle for me. Particularly the not eating and multitasking.
I think there's a lot of women that relate to you there!
Number three, hit right home for me. My child definitely was given to me to slow the f down.
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I like you Jessica
One thing at a 🕙 ?but minimum wages 🆚 maximum Worries ? Focus 💡 NNN, mean , Nice Noble Neighborhood .
social media is actually killing me 🥲
it can have a negative affect on us for sure!