What Women Need To Know About Men - Yasir Qadhi - Animated
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It saddens me that most men think that the only thing women want from their husbands is love! We also need respect, consideration and equal footing in some matters and need to be heard when we are voicing our concerns. Love is a bonus but everything else is necessity.
@@ebrahimi44 I understood it. Just have a different perspective. Also you don't NEED to love someone to have consideration. ❤
oh come on thats the feminist speech......use your own brain to find out what you want.
Kay C.
You need to have rethink as to whether you're a feminist or a Muslim. Feminism is a mental disease!
How is asking for consideration as a human being , feminism? Men are quick to throw this word around.
tayseer rahmaan
She says equal footing and consideration.
The husband clearly has a higher status in Islam even higher than the wife's father.
My husband made a decision to commit adultery... I didn’t contradict him. I divorced him, hope he learned from HIS mistake.
Good taught
👏👏👏
From adultery you mean with you or someone else ( im bad at english )
@@cooldude-mi9wz someone else duh, it was her husband
why not get him stoned?
Prophet Mohammed didn't have a ego
Comment of the year. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Because he was prophet
@@predatrz and we should all learn from him:)
Great great great COMMENT!⭐
@@deadinside-jk of course
ok but the girl wants respect too
pinKiwishimmerz YESSSSS
This video is about how to treat the husband right. Not wife. Watch how to be a good husband then you will see no sexism at all.
There are hundreds of videos where shaykhs speak about how men are supposed to treat the women .. please let us enjoy this one 😂
@@saladinmustafi 😅😅🤣
pinKiwishimmerz so true
Never make a joke about your wife in front of others too who feel disgusted.being a women I need respect , support rather than love
@will de she deserves it a man must respect his wife and a wife must respect her husband
Prophet PBUH said it himself
@will de okay first of all it’s written in my Islamiat book it’s written in Urdu I’ll do my best to translate if it does not satisfy you then search it the chapter is خطبہ حجتہالوداع
The translation might be off since I’m translating it from Urdu to English but I’ll try me my best
Oh people your women have permission on you and you have permission on them your permission is that she may not infect your bed with another man and she may not bring home any man that you dislike and think of your women as imant from Allah and Allah has made them halal to you and be afraid of Allah for women and treat them like your brothers
That is the main point of you’re not satisfied with it then search up a better source it
What makes her entitled to respect is because Allah has given women unto man as imant and I think you might know what imant means so don’t bother with that and prophet PBUH asked you treat your women like how you’d treat your brothers
@will de like I said before I fucking converted the text from Urdu to English so of course my translation would not be that correct and not to mention my book put that in inverted commas which I quote
“اور ان کے ساتھ بھای کا سلوک کرو”
Which translates to treat them like your
bothers clearly I made an effort
Again she’s entitled to respect as Allah sent women to man like imanat and I think you’re educated enough to know what that refers to
And above all it’s written in Quran to treat everyone with respect so... please explain how the OP is not entitled to respect because from what I’m getting you’re just a sexist Muslim who coverts Islam to his advantage and al in supports the main OP of the videos sexist morals
The imant part is written in my book
Agree
why women talk about their rights only .. selfish
One can live without luv but not without respect....
Woman needs her share of respect as well.
Sister you are very thick
If you feel loved that means you are being respected
All your conditions are met and tick ✅ as a result you feel loved you not be a dumb fuck a cloud other people’s judgement .
Thankyou
Absolutely
My mom always respected my dad for the past 20 years and now he treats her like a slave and now even if she tries to correct him he never respects and says her to know her limits so what kind of advice are you trying to give me
I think love and respect are a two-way street, men need love too as much as women need respect! It all comes down to empathy and mutual understanding between married couples. Miscommunication and misunderstanding can violate any of these aspects of marital relationships.
Yes, when you love someone you automatically respect him/her. Woman and man were created to worship Allah. That's number 1. the woman is not created to obey the husband/man, but to obey Allah, her creator. The man is not created to buy what his wife needs and to protect her at all cost. These are a bunch of roles of many roles that the women and man have. Islam is all about harmony, mercy and love when it comes to marriage. No slavery and hardship. The prophet pbuh himself used to serve himself many times as our mother Aisha has told us. He used to wash his own clothes and he had 11 WIVES. Everyone even his companions wanted to serve him with a big smile. But he was that man pbuh.
Muslims, please when you speak about subjects like "hitting women in Islam" and "obedience of the husband" especially to our beloved sisters know how to speak about it first. Islam is supposed to make women feel safe and secure, not like a slave that must obey the man or she will get beaten to the ground. READ THE BOOKS + PUT YOUR EMOTIONS AND PERSONAL EXPERIENCES TO THE SIDE.
@@user-zu3ot5lo8w It's a command from AlllahSWT and His Prophet to women. Yes obedience to husband is what I'm referring to
Very mature thoughts. I was looking for the EMPATHY and I got it.
Will you please just look at the video without comenting equal rights, do you see us doing this when they speak about how to be a better husband?
@@nyxgamers9846 Becuz when they speak about husbands. Those videos stroke their ego, and so does this one. And once again woman r to blame if men don't behave like decent human beings. (Sarcasm btw)
Don't doubt him, don't disrespect him... Bottom line is, marry a wise and respectable man! So you won't have to be respect any fool
ⵍⵎⵖⵔⵉⴱ how tho ?
Jubair Hamza what no it’s not. I’m Muslim and feminist. Islam speaks about RESPECTING BOTH people.... please don’t spread lies
Jameelah Sarumi He’s been under this video commenting crap for two months. Doesn’t that alone invalidate everything he says? Him and his other buddies. They’re basically trolls. They’ve made it their life’s mission to troll the commenters under this video. Don’t interact. Block and report. And also this imam doesn’t understand either gender. He needs to educate himself more.
@Jubair Hamza Sexism isn't a Western construct. It means treating women unfairly on basis of their gender.
@Jubair Hamza You claim sexism is a Western construct then you use the word yourself and go so far as to claim what is an example for it?
Edit: an example not definition
When the husband makes mistakes, it drags the family with him. Should a wife be quiet while the family loses the house or their autistic son loses his aid or they lose family connections. Should she watch as he commits sins? What to do when everything she does is wrong?
Gracy Jones Dealing in interest (Riba) and mortgage are not halal.
@@hanzalaomar3234 if you have a house you have a mortgage. If you pay rent you pay your landlords interest plus profit. Only people who can buy a home is people with generous and wealthy parents. A house is over a half a million here, even for a run down place. Rent costs more than a mortgage. Some people have work two three full time jobs just to have shelter and eat. Many of our seniors rent is so high they have go to the soup kitchen just to eat. I cant image having a place and not paying interest if you have your own place. Here landlords find loop holes in the law to raise rent. One way is called a Reno eviction. He kicks you out, paints a few walls and replaces a bit of flooring and raises the rent sky high. We have working homeless here. I cant get a mortgage because I am on my own and will never in a million years qualify for a mortgage. My landlord has tried to Reno eviction me. My kids and I are step step away from being homeless. Imagine a single mom with two grown autistic sons and a teenage daughter on the street in -20 weather? I would take a mortgage if I could just to have secure housing. Not everyone has family to help them. And I can not receive low income housing because my sons are over 18. So what am I to do. I volunteered with the homeless. People with jobs have no shelter. Rent is too high. I saw an elderly man who lives in a tent in -20. The other homeless people stole his gloves. He had arthritis. I could have weep at the sight of him. It's easy to say interest is haram but people have to live too. Just because you dont pay interest directly, you do pay it. Its built into the system and there is no escaping it.
@@hanzalaomar3234 you know where I live people pay their music so loud sometimes the walls shake. Sometimes they neighbors drink and do pot on their padios late into the night. Sometimes couples swear and scream at each other. During summer there are festivals and the loud music is heard all day and into the night. There are some people who sell drugs here too. This spring there was a police stand off. I was in shut down in my house. My kids were coming home from school. My middle son who is autistic could not be reached till 4:30. All day I was sick with worry. The kids were not allowed to cross the police line to come home. With a mortgage my family could live in peace and quiet away from all the drama. Interest is unavoidable sometimes to just manage in life. It's how the system works. 😔
Gracy Jones i 100% support you, may Allah help you. I know buying a house is really difficult and people with money pretend these problems don’t exist. A big big hug sis
@@valeriedhodson3014 I understand where you are coming from, may Allah bless you sister. Allah knows best of your condition, i don't think these rules of interest will apply if it's such a difficult situation. It is for a situation when you do have other options. Please take care of yourself
"No man wants to marry a motherly figure"
I dunno brother Yasir.... I beg to differ. Some of them are definitely looking for mommy figures.
they want someone who cooks for them, cleans for them, iron their clothes, is always happy when they get home and is always telling them how great they are ...yep that sounds like a mom. the kind that spoils her kids.
@@nessyness5447 exactly
@ⵍⵎⵖⵔⵉⴱ There's another video about that. Why don't you watch that one before hating on it?
yes obviously, there are 3 billion men on this planet. They all want different things.
Just like most women, including you, want a meal ticket. Top acting like women are on some moral high ground.
if no men wants to marry a motherly figure then why would they keep on camparing each n every thing of his wife with mother ....look my mother use to cook this things for me ??? look my mother use to oil my head every day?? listen u add this ingrediant in this recipe which my mom use to make for my???
Will men ever stop talking on behalf of women?
I can tell you I want much more than "love" from ALL of the men in my life. I want respect, support, equality, trust. In the same way a man wants to be supported when he is trying something new so does a woman. We are all human at the end of the day.
The entire tone of this lecture is so patronising for women.
Is it the responsibility of a wife to make a man feel like a man? I should be a damsel in distress when throughout history Islam is filled with strong women who could handle things independently?
A man should become a husband ONLY when he can support his wife. Not behave like her child.
Edit: I am no longer replying to people on this comment because instead of you acknowledging a woman’s feelings I am being told how I should feel. We have opposing opinions and as far as I’m concerned I’ll respect your right to feel the way you do but I don’t have to agree with it and so I won’t.
always someone to complain about everyting
Ayoub Nouamani Call it a complaint if you like. I’m speaking on my behalf. You can’t silence me so you can take your negativity elsewhere.
We don't believe in equality we believe what the quran says. Men and women are not equal and they never will be we believe in justice. Just because i don't believe in equality does not mean i don't respect women does not make me a sexist or a misogynist.
Mas A There are Quranic verses which suggest that in SOME ways women and men are equal. Islam tells us regardless of your gender, you are expected to pray 5 times a day and observe modesty. The Prophet pbuh helped his wives with homely duties. Some women went to battle. Is that not equality? I agree that there are ways in which men and women are not equal, for example, a mother has 3 times as much importance as a father - Jannah lies under her feet. I am not an Islamic scholar by any means so may Allah swt forgive me for any wrongs however, I do believe some Muslim women are left uneducated about their rights and importance in Islam from a young age, and therefore many Muslim men do not observe the women’s rights as a result.
@@ZShake277 This is untrue, it is often the muslim woman who denies her husband his rights like leadership, polygamy. Men and women are not equal, the Prophet pbuh didn't teach us about gender equality he taught us gender roles/responsibility, For example; women can't be a leader or a judge. The husband has a higher status than the wife, even higher than the wife's father.
Hussain Ibn Muhsan’s aunt mentioned her husband to the Prophet (pbuh) who said,
“Evaluate yourself concerning your husband for he is you Paradise or Hell-Fire.” (Ahmad and Al-Hakim)
Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) related,
“There are three people whose prayers will not be accepted by Allah, nor do any good deed of theirs risen up to heaven: a fleeing slave until he returns to his master and helps him, a woman whose husband is angry with her until he is pleased with her, and a drunkard until he becomes conscious.” (Ibn Hibban)
Prophet pbuh,
“The first things a woman is called to account for on the Day of Judgment are her prayers and her (relations with her) husband.” (As-Suyuti in Al-Jami Al-Kabir)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws) said: If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise.
Dangerous. Perpetuates the idea, that men are poor regulators of emotion and have extremely fragile egos. So women should walk on eggshells. Instead of men bettering themselves. Allah help us.
@Jubair Hamza Nailed it on the dot.
Jubair Hamza you dont get her point do you
@@athirahsufyan7509 you didn't get his point did you
I felt the same while watching his video for how men should treat their wives. It's a pain. But after watching this one, it makes sense, and is fair n equal. He's not quoting rules, but saying to men and woman to both be considerate of each other. While he urged men in the other video to keep reassuring their wives frequently that they love them (which is a pain if you ask me), he urges the women in this video to also make similar effort and go the extra mile. Both partners need both love and respect, but the wife/woman craves more love than the husband, and the husband craves more respect. In my opinion, the love-respect dynamic isn't limited to the marriage only. A teacher not respected by students won't be able to love them in return. It's a self reinforcement cycle. Both love and respect feed each other. While you may think why the husband is being compared to the teacher and wife to students, it shows different responsibilities, not inequality.
Also, you mentioned fragile egos and egg shells. If we interpret a need for respect to (fragile egos, egg shells etc), one can use the same interpretation model to translate the incessant need of wives to be reminded by the husbands that they love them, and anniversaries etc etc, to (fragile self esteems of women, and egg shells for men). But hey its an incorrect interpretation.
What if a husband made a stupid decision that impacted on the future of his wife and children? I don't see how that can be respected. However I do believe that Allah possibly makes the consequences of this stupid decision happen so we can all collectively as a family come closer to Allah.
Shabana Dawood
Allah has chosen your husband as the decision maker. So, if you think your husband makes stupid decision remind yourself that Allah is the Most Wise and He has put responsibility of decision making upon the husband.
@@hanzalaomar3234 and often we saw, that husband making decisions and in the end whole family struggling. Wifes also want a Husband and not a father figure.
Everything Sabrina
If you don't like Islam, don't marry a muslim. And if you marry a muslim husband give him his rights. Btw, the husband has a higher status than the father..
meriem maroc
Don't marry a practising muslim and turn his life into a living hell then...
meriem maroc
If you're not willing to do what Allah and His Prophet ( pbuh ) have commanded don't seek someone who does follow Allah and His Prophet ( pbuh ) with all his hearts.
Seek someone like you not a pious muslim man.
I felt so bad when i saw my father disrespecting my mother all my life even when he always got respected by her in return and he thought that he deserves it
So, me and my sister have this thing in our minds that we would’nt compromise with a man who can’t respect u
why should a man pay the price of mistake he didn't do ? a mistake of another man to another women not even you ? and you shouldn't judge their relationship your are their child .. I'm not saying that what he did was right but it's not your place .. and to negate that choose someone good from the start and talk about the dynamique of your relationship from the start .. what the video is talking about is how to interract with your man
@@haythemib2853 What about the wife ? It’s always about men , men , men , a wife will not let their husband do something that we know will hurt him !
And there’s nothing in her comments saying man pay for the price he did not do ! She said she and her sisters will not allow any MAN treats them like their father did to their mother. A Man , Husband have no right to disrespect their wive or any other women , they are not above us , woman are not a door mat that can be stepped on anytime a man feels like it . Man needs to give respect and love in order to get respect or love .
It goes both ways not just one way .
@@Marie..00-e9E God forbid who said that a woman should be treated like a door mat that's not the prophet how told us .. what I meant by a man pay another man fault is that combat attitude of I'm expecting you to be bad baised on my personal observasion like what you're doing now I didn't say anything negative about woman or how they should be treated and you jumped for a conclusion about what I think
what the video is explaning is how to deal and understand man as simple as that .. it's neither about man all the time nor woman
man should understand woman and woman should understan man why is it so hard
Respect is vital in marriage, it should be given as well as received.
@@altineadamu6505 exactly
Sometimes husbands make rheir mistakes and then go on to blame you 🤷🏻♀️
Allah will punish if they don't repent .
True sis and they’ll say that ‘you’ should have corrected me like bigotry at its best
1:45 time stamp for you ma'am.
So this video is just saying protect his ego and never tell him what’s wrong because he has to “learn from his mistake” there are things that I agree with in this video but some of it isnt ok.
How does someone learn from mistakes they don't know.
@Jubair Hamza he was as rude and he could be. What makes ur think it wasn't rude at all? I mean I feel sorry that you think this way. Brainwashing is a thing. You can keep your way of religion to yourself. And again. I'd rather stay single if I have to deal with men like that. Spoiled and ego bigger than his brain.
@Jubair Hamza yeah sure. Keep your logic to yourself. People are gonna laugh at you
XD
@Jubair Hamza I wasn't saying anything no Islamic either. It's just that your view is twisted than mine.
@Jubair Hamza yea sure. :)
Some people don't get that love even if they respect their husbands and listen to them. Their husbands still do whatever they want and make their wife mentally upset..
The husband has the God given right to decision making with regard to most if not all family/marital matters.
@@hanzalaomar3234 I'm genuinely concerned for you bro
Yes you're right me too
@@hanzalaomar3234 If you have read about the husband being the decision maker, you should also have read the part where husbands should respect their wives and treat them with love and respect! Do NOT just read islamic rulings that are of benefit to ONLY you. Thank You
@@nabilahyahya134 Yes, and I also read the part where wives are to be disciplined if they disobey/disrespect.
I feel that the speaker is expressing his personal frustration 😂🤣
Expressing his way so that his wife could do the same
Yeah ... but positive frustration xD
As a woman, the first thing I want from my husband would be respect. Before love or anything else. I cannot spend the rest of my life with someone who makes me feel unheard, unseen or disregards my opinions simply because he is the "man".
So basically men are like children? I use alot of these points with my 3 year old -_-
Only if you treat that 3 year old the right way.
Yep
I think so...
@Brock lesner saying that men are like children doesn't necessarily have to mean something negative. I believe men no matter what age they are have a part that is so childish and sometimes even immature,I've come across with many women that have been married for decades and they say the same thing, but obviously, I have never seen a man that will admit that. Because they think it's like an insult or something.
@Brock lesner no, I don't know anything about you. Neither I was thinking of you while replying. Just speaking in general.
Yes, we get it, it's the famous ego.
Women also have their good and bad things too. So, it's equal.
As a young man I want both love and respect, if I'm given that from my significant other I'd happily reciprocate! All I want from a wife is to be sweet, caring, sensible, listening to my opinions, I'd also be very ready to listen to her wants, problems and her opinions (two-way like it should be) and try to find the best solution, if she's right then I'll listen to her if I am right then shouldn't she listen to me? Also respecting her sensitivity by not saying or doing things which would hurt her in anyway, take care of her when she's in a bad situation and helping out with chores when I'm free.
Me too bro I am a young man too. I want the same respect and love. I would treat my wife with so much respect, love, intimately, kindness, generosity tend to each others needs but not only that, I want us to be life partners so trust and treat each other fairly and be open. I dont expect or demand anything else from her.
pit her on a pestital she would lie u adnot honor you remember is first Allah 2nd you 3rd her 4 th the kids
@@mikiasg8453 Waouh! I'm truly impressed by you two, mashallah! Wish Allah will grand you both a great life and after life!
As a female I feel the exact same as you, not asking for too much. I just want a man who can respect and care about me, and allow me to treat him with the same respect and care. One I can be myself around but also respect his boundaries and feelings. Not judging me for my niche little hobbies, and I not judging him either. Honestly just want a trusting relationship where we can thrive off each other 😔
Mashallah!
Isn’t it haram to have big ego to began with?
Other than that all the other things apply to everyone really
@Jubair Hamza it's also haram to disrespect women
@Jubair Hamza why would women want to marry someone that wants to be obeyed but won't obey them. Why would women marry someone who will beat them. That's so messed up.
@ⵍⵎⵖⵔⵉⴱ May Allah protect women from these toxic men.
@@franksjuice816 It's obligatory for muslim women to obey their husband. A fact straight from Noble Qur'an and sahih hadith.
@ⵍⵎⵖⵔⵉⴱ He didn't lie when he said it's fardh for muslim woman to obey their husband since 1. Allah SWT says so 2. The Prophet of God says so
So, if you're muslim you should accept the truth.
First 59 sec was enough for this video, i could not handle more
Edit: i'm being generous, seriously
Agreed 🤝
Watch junaid akrams video on listen to the women sometimes she gives you a better idea..
@Safwan "Dont criticise his decisions or he'll be angry" it looks pretty emotional and childish to me. Because of that maybe I'm not the one who need to think with brain
@Safwan in hollywood extramarital affairs and legal relationship is normal.
By the way always equality is not the just .
Man and woman are different psychologically , biologically.
We are given different kind of duties .
Like for women joining war is not compulsory...
Our Creator knows the best .
If Allah loves me I don't care who is Superior ...
Allah is Most powerful most merciful . He's love is the most important thing I know.....
If you try to make man and woman equal in every place you will see lack of discipline in society.
@@beyyzzaa if it is not Haram(decision) .than don't argue with your man .
So women don’t want respect and don’t have an ego??!!
What’s with all that BS?! I hate those kind of videos I swear
The channel is called battle ignorance and yet I find a lot of the videos very very full of ignorance especially towards what women want or feel
In the video it said both genders have ego, but mens ego are more fragile
@@Kleptomaniac66 ego is Haram for every human.(but in every relationship someone is superior)
By the way always equality is not the just .
Man and woman are different psychologically , biologically.
We are given different kind of duties .
Like for women joining war is not compulsory...
Our Creator knows the best .
If Allah loves me I don't care who is Superior ...
Allah is Most powerful most merciful . He's love is the most important thing I know.....
If you try to make man and woman equal in every place you will see lack of discipline in society.
@@Ashu-mg6ef 👍
This is complete and utter bullcrap. My job as a wife is not to sit here and coax your ego, let you ruin our home, our finances, or our family into the ground. Both a man and a woman need to show up equally to a marriage. When i first married i did exactly what this video said. Spoke nicely and gently, used the “I” all the time, tried to make him feel like a man. Honey, he ran with it. Nothing ever got done. You know when things got done? When i stood up for myself and made it clear that i expect and deserve equality and respect just as much as he did. And i wouldnt tolerate anything less. Then things shifted. This does not apply to every couple. Because were all humans with different personalities and thus require different approaches. This is more fluff from the man trying to control us women 🙄 not here for it.
The video doesn't say to never ask for respect ... it's about how you ask for things . It's the same way with every human relationship. Of course by demanding you get stuff done, that's how humans are, but like the video says "What is the effect you do in his heart?"
His heart 😂 there’s a difference between his heart and his ego. This is a coax to his ego, plain and simple. And like i said, were all different. We all need different approaches. There is no “one way fits all” and in my household, this way was played out and did nothing productive. It was like dancing around the subject. It wasnt authentic. Being straight up and saying “hey this isnt cool. Im not tolerating this. If i do my part then you need to hold yourself accountable for your part too.” That right there, that’s realness. Accountability.
@@milacapila wow sounds like you have a big problem in your relationship
But that last statement of yours was utter bullshit lil sister
Cuz if you would just look a little bit further you would have seen the vid about how men need to treat women so its not just one sided
But whatever do whatever you feel like its right
You see where that will bring you
And btw in the quran it says good women are for good men and bad woman are for bad men
This video is not meant or made for feminists. This is for Muslims and people who still holds traditional values not the male bashing feminist values. This is not directed towards your community and you shouldn't have watched it
@@kaz9242 i dont think she is a feminist but she had her experience and maybe her husband doesnt has these values for her to act like in the vid but her choice of words are just toxic tbh
“If you want a knight in shining armour, you have to be the damsel in distress”.
What kind of backward mentality is this and which century are you from? Both partners have to be self-sufficient and be mutually respectful and encouraging of each other. The main idea that this video seem to propagate is that men are busy with work. What you seem to forget is that many women also juggle between work and managing the household. Get over your stereotypes of women only staying at home. It’s 2020.
He is a weak man to say this. You are right.!
Yes those woman working it is their fault. All that stupid stress and waste of time is not the husbands or islam fault. It is all the girl.
LOLLL. this is an islamic idea of a family and intersexual dynamic between a husband and a wife. Whether you approve it or not from your 21st century modern liberal, individualistic society (supposedly feminist as well), that is on you. Calling it "backwards" or somehow inferior does not change our primary reason why islam has a specific structure for it to be this way. We believe strongly in gender roles backed by biological and psychological factors that give us optmize our achievement of the goal. The main goal is to preserve the family system which creator (GOD or ALLAH) provided us to procreate AND pass on the genes with STABLE muslim households. Now based on the goal, the downstream system of family institution is set accordingly. This "backwards" problem is for you guys, modern atheistic and naturalist (I.e. followers of modern evolutionary biological and physcology) people of the west that have no concept of a design or a structure which is to be followed by the divine revelation of GOD. It is mere evolution, technology permits, we keep becoming more advanced (in every sense of thr word in the given context).Even the religious lot of you has been drowned in modern liberalism to the extent where these values have been considered simply 'evolved' and with the times. Now I am not saying muslims should live literal cave like people, albeit may Be required in war torn countries, as pragmatically that makes the most sense. But to follow the west in its social ideologies, is number one contradictory with islams fundamental values, and quote frankly stupid for muslims to follow the west all the way long term. We have enough OPEX to learn from a failed experiment. Again I'm not denying some (most matterof fact) cultural practices and their suppose alignment with islams teachings may be too extreme from a generic "human rights perspective", but to going in this direction will be the biggest deviation from our goal (note a divine goal, not a sinister reproduction machine to take over the infidels goal lmao). This sadly is already happening.
yea that's why women are always better being a "house wfe" that is th most desirable trait for men in marriage
“You don’t have those priorities, he does” excuse me, but respectfully I’m planning on working myself, and I’m pretty sure engineers have important deadlines as well. I can fix the faucet myself if it bugs me that much. But a lot of this video is just basic respect? Not patronising or being mean. But I can do that without portraying myself as inherently inferior and catering to his ego. Ew this video made me feel all sorts of icky, like I stepped back 40 years.
Triggered by a video intended to educate and spread goodness! Typical women!
Icky is a good word to sum up how I felt watching this!
Ahmed Sufiyan not triggered, I just think that we need to update world views on the roles of men and women a bit. I’d have more sympathy for this if women still didn’t have jobs and were financially dependent on men and didn’t have any responsibilities at all other than looking after the house and family had no rights - but that’s not the case (as much) anymore. We have equal rights and most women will also go to work full time and earn money themselves. If I had the same education and life experience as a man I would expect the same level of respect for big decisions in a relationship. If I am also working the same amount and have the same work responsibilities as a man I’d expect the same consideration at home for getting things done when I get the time after my other responsibilities. If I have to cater to his ego to not make him feel small then I definitely expect him to not patronise me in the way this video seems to think all women ever in the world want to be patronised.
@@nadiaditta4647 What you said goes against the teachings of Islam. So, if you're going to be so anti Islam as you are why not find a non muslim to marry. Well, I mean it won't make any difference considering you deny God's laws anyway. But marrying a non muslim will save a muslim from being tricked into marrying a fake like you that may destroy his life and his deen.
Ahmed Sufiyan “typical women”
Fragile masculinity i swear 🙄
and women don't have fragile femininity?
Rubbish femisnism
Do you say the same to your dad?
Shame on you.
Feminism is a failure.
@Safwan sweetheart i'm a married woman and i've been married for years i probably know more about marriage and sacrifices than you do this video was made from a sexist mysoginistic manipulative male perspective and islam doesn't say half what he said and for fact i was born muslim so ...
It is haram to have a big ego and "male pride" in the first place
It's the way a man is. Men have a predilection for dominance and superiority.
Abdullah Tariq and some people have a predilection for killing others and committing vile acts instead of putting up with people’s bullshit. Are you saying they shouldn’t go to hell for that?
Hamdha Sherief
Men are the leaders of the household, their ego is a justified one.
@@hanzalaomar3234 I seriously pitty the women who is going to marry you. May Allah give her patience to deal with your bullshit.
@@shimab8898 What "bullshit" are you talking about? I have spoken the truth. Men are the leaders of the household and it is obligatory upon the muslim women to OBEY their husbands.
As-salamu alaykum
I see so many people missing the point of these lectures. I watched both the male and female version and they are amazing! Both of them make so much sense, only if for a minute we step out of our viewpoint and try to see things through our partners eyes. Tolerance and solidarity is the key, and of course mutual love and respect. Unfortunately, today's media are brainwashing women so much to be "the boss" in the relationship and basically make us feel like less of a man. Our only role is to be "fertilizers" while they hold all the control of our actions and relationships. It can never work that way, from either side brothers and sisters.
What proves my point even further I believe, is the comment section. Switch to the video that talks about "What men need to know about women". There were no negative comments to be seen, just admittance and assurance of the facts. On the other hand on this one, you see a bunch of people complaining about the way men should be treated from the women side. Point being - without giving and understanding of one another, it can never work. We both need to try our best, and these videos are just there to open our eyes to some things we possibly did not understand so well before about our partners.
yes i saw this as well and it saddens me.
Idk why I'M A DUDE....i feel like i don't want to be like the men you described in the video...
Please don't be! It's wonderful to have a man who is sweet and caring and doesn't the woman to be just a female body with no personality
Being a girl I think solving Math problems is way far easy than MAN.. how can I solve you my future hubby🤣 now I'm afraid😅
I dont think theyre easier for men, and dont worry, the advice Yasir is giving is very easy, its just being a little more positive and trust
yea treu like Talha said. its just gifing some motivation and love!
Allah said in quraan 18 parah (mafoom) you will get husband who will having similar attributes (good for good and bad for bad ) be good and get good .
Be pious and get pious.
Nothing to worry inshallah
Don't worry i will be easy for you
This doesn't work all the time ,because the husband should not be mentally ill, that makes the wife and children suffer,I have seen it with my eyes.
Sowmya Krishna very true
This talk is actually good. But I think that this is how all people should treat each other. Not only in marriage or between men and women.
If your husband make a decision which is not Haram Don't argue with him.
In every relationship someone has to be than Other superior OK.
ego is Haram for every human.(but in every relationship someone is superior)
By the way always equality is not the just .
Man and woman are different psychologically , biologically.
We are given different kind of duties .
🔥Like for women joining war is not compulsory...did you ever think this .
How can we be so selfish ...man have so many responsibility's towards society ,,,which woman's don't have.
Our Creator knows the best .
If Allah loves me I don't care who is Superior ...
Allah is Most powerful most merciful . He's love is the most important thing I know.....
If you try to make man and woman equal in every place you will see lack of discipline in society
My husband to be..🤗complains me to change my tone somtimes if i start yelling at him..he always says dont speak me in this tone🤭because of this things get even worse😑...i didnt knew that itt hurts him and his ego and make him feel disrespcted...😶but any ways..i realised now😍n got few tips from here..insha allah...🤗i will try n follow these tips n make our relation even more better one🤗thanks alot for this wonderfull tips😍
Women need respect too you cant love without respect and it goes both ways
If your husband make a decision which is not Haram Don't argue with him.
In every relationship someone has to be than Other superior OK.
ego is Haram for every human.(but in every relationship someone is superior)
By the way always equality is not the just .
Man and woman are different psychologically , biologically.
We are given different kind of duties .
🔥Like for women joining war is not compulsory...did you ever think this .
How can we be so selfish ...man have so many responsibility's towards society ,,,which woman's don't have.
Our Creator knows the best .
If Allah loves me I don't care who is Superior ...
Allah is Most powerful most merciful . He's love is the most important thing I know.....
If you try to make man and woman equal in every place you will see lack of discipline in society
@@Ashu-mg6ef what has that to do with not respecting women? Cant you do all that without disrespecting your wife?
Of course but that won’t be mentioned in this vid because the vid is specifically talking about 1 gender
Why his mistakes should be blamed on the women.Honestly this is crap
Lol
I’m a woman. Well, a 15 year old girl but I’m basically so. I just don’t 100% agree with this video. I’ve been trying to be a good Muslim lately, especially being from the newest generation, and watching videos from this channel has really helped. But I feel like all humans deserve respect, man or woman. And I feel like all people want to be loved and cherished, man or woman. Sure, most women tend to have more of a desire to be loved but at the end of the day, I feel all humans have that need. I just feel that your gender has a lot to do with who you are, but it isn’t everything. Just because I’m a girl doesn’t mean I only want to be loved and cherished. I want that respect, and as a human being I deserve it. At the end of the day, I believe the key to understanding a person, man or woman, is to have an open conversation with them. Communication is key. You shouldn’t rely just on their gender to decide how to treat them. I feel like while this video sets up a good foundation on the relationship between a man and woman, it’s more complicated than that. It’s true, but also restrictive.
Mariam J that’s exactly what i was about to write
I agree with you and I’m the same age. Respect is what everyone wants and it should be shown to people whether it be a man or woman.
Yea of course all women deserve respect but this video is about how to be a good wife and how to treat your husband in a good way. So of course the video will focus on the man and what he needs. Its not like the video is going to mention everything a man and woman need.
Watch the video of how to be a better husband.
@Noor Hasan
Assalamualaikum
By the way always equality is not the just .
Man and woman are different psychologically , biologically.
We are given different kind of duties .
Like for women joining war is not compulsory...
Our Creator knows the best .
If Allah loves me I don't care who is Superior ...
Allah is Most powerful most merciful . He's love is the most important thing I know.....
If you try to make man and woman equal in every place you will see lack of discipline in society.
when a 15 yr old girl has a higher intelligence then the 40 yr old men commenting on this video.
For anxiety and sorrow:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ
Allaahumma ‘innee ‘a’oothu bika minal-hammi walhazani, wal’ajzi walkasali, walbukhli waljubni, wa dhala’id-dayni wa ghalabatir-rijaal
O Allah, I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardice, from being overcome by debt and overpowered by men (i.e. others).
Al-Bukhari 7/158.
For ladies that feel overwhelmed by the video.. Women aren’t easy to understand either (comming from a man). It’s about understanding that we both have different perspectives in life and different needs. Figuring those out is 80% of the joy of being married if you ask me.
You know what the rest of the 20% is for😉😂
Yes
I will just crank up the sex part to about 90% and the rest shall come naturally, along side with the new beds, every 2 weeks
@Saman Zeb
What what?
o-0
Yes
Basically we men are children and we should be treated as such
yes, thank you for understanding
agent 007 i think you have it backwards my guy haha, and mega2(stupid) agreeing with you doesn’t really help your case..
Hamdi Ali
You can learn how to be the best wife from Qur'an and Sunnah..
Man ur dumb.🤦♂️
agent 007 it seems only Muslim men. Not our Western men.
This is sooooooo right..very well spoken 👌🏻. This is such a good reminder for us♥️. And I am a woman.
My hubby and I joked about one another all the time and we lasted 38 years. What made our marriage tick was we were equal neither of us was better than the other.
when i first watched the video i was like what is he talking about but when i finished watching it, it really makes sense
After seeing both vedios I could conclude
🔸that we as partners let it be wife's or husbands should be PATIENT💕, RESPECTFUL 💕 and SUPPORTIVE 💕 When it comes to strengthening our partner's capabilities 😊✌️.
This is the most genuine manner of expressing our love to them 😊.
I've been following this channel for quite a duration of time. I think it is greatly underrated. Congo to the people behind it.
For all the women in the comments saying “we also need respect, support etc” ofcourse that’s true. But the point of the video was made from the perspective of what a husband needs from his wife and not the other way around. There are plenty of videos out there where he is discussing what the wife needs from the husband. You should check those out as well before assuming that he’s expressing a wrong narrative, because that’s just not true. May Allah bless you!
Wtf did I just watch? So you’re telling me that you can’t advise or correct your husband? Omg wow I can’t believe it. Sexism it’s at its finest..
Ayah Xo Sexism is a non muslim/western construct. Muslims don't believe in such rubbish.
@@hanzalaomar3234 Be quiet, you can't speak for all muslims.
dolly
Muslim, a believer, doesn't believe in rubbish like "sexism"
He never said that a man should never be corrected , he said it should be done in a calm and respectful way and as for sexism Islam is a religion that doesn't not see people for their gender " Men and women have equal rewards for their good deeds" my friend listen and understand don't just listen and jump to conclusions. May Allah guide you and except your good deeds .Ameen.
I'm a Muslim and a feminist, and I completely agree with this advice. It's all about tone, patience and communication to draw results vs conflict. In our natural state we communicate without thinking with our spouses and that hurts their ego and damages the relationships. If we are more conscious then respect begets respect and love begets love, you have to give to get and really put your own ego aside and not fight about who gives first. I have learnt a lot from this and InshaAllah can follow it. 🙂
Maximum men wants to take risks at any point of their life... want to overcome bumpy tracks.
But maximum women wants to stay safe & wants to keep safe their fmly member..
So....... 🙂
I just watched Sheikh's video about women and I saw this. I knew even before clicking what women would be saying in the comment section! Lol! Never disappointed!
Honestly, after watching this video, I think I’m okay with not being “loved”. I would rather have respect and equal rights. Telling women to not speak up in front of their husbands, to not voice their opinion or to stay silent or baby talk to him is just wrong. Get a slave if you want us to stay quiet.
What do you mean by equal rights?
Btw we muslims believe in Equity and not equality
@@muslimboyilyas775 i don't know either
@@muslimboyilyas775 do women really have to act a certain way so that the man gets his way? If he makes a mistake, a woman should be quiet? I don't know but this whole video bothered me, sayin a wife only wants being loved and being cherished. It's okay for men to have ego, but is it extreme? I want to understand men's side but this video scared me. Hence why I'm asking in the first place.
@@ikken5707 I m not married but I totally agree with Sheikh Yasir Qadhi in this video.
I dont understand your first question.The second question you asked.If his mistake is going to affect you in any shape or form than you should correct him.All it needs is a positive tone.You can understand his psychology how to deal with his mind.
As for the Ego,yes we men have a very big ego.If a woman make fun of my capability of doing certain thing,then our ego go to extreme.Then we try our best to do that thing even if we fail.And this bevaiour of a woman create hate in our heart.
Again positive tone will work here.Everything is hidden in Positive tone🤣
Sorry for my english
I rly like the art of the lady😂😂
(E:)Also the way she look like "yeaa im the gangster here"
😁😁😁
Very beautifully explained. Awesome
AND MAN CAN UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT WOMEN , IT GOES TWO WAYS .
Erika Luleå Women should obey their husbands and men should treat them well. This is the teaching of the Prophet ( pbuh )
What if husband is criticising wives for her kitchen related or house work? I saw some men doing that. And their wives, quiet but crying.
Women not only need love, but we also need respect like we give to our men.
May allah guide us to the right path
Alhamdulillah I am not yet married but watching this video makes me understand marriage more
Yes got to get married hence here
Sir what if HE hurts my(WIFE) ego ?? What should a women do??
INDIAN bharatiya How did he hurt your ego?
@@hanzalaomar3234 m not married yet m just asking what if a guy hurt his wife's ego?
@@shanaahmed6130
You choose.
Either go the "eye for an eye" path and hurt his ego back, sacrificing good relations with him for a while or idk really what else. I personally as a man, would be pissed if someone fucks with me so I can't tell you to just not do this or that or not feel this or that way
wow thanks for this video. never thought about it this way
You must be strong when you have an irresponsible man
Be a woman. Indeed history is a witness of the power of feminity.
😎😋😂
Fine as long as your feminine - not feminist
Wallahi I found this helpful Mashaa Allaah...
Baarakallahu fiik
Jazaakumullahu khayran
To all people here in the comments, we have got to understand that men have their way at it too, most videos talk about womens' feelings and how men should respect them, but rarely any videos about the opposite direction. I suggest you sisters to try to understand that when you improve your view, people around you will respond as well
As a practising, male Muslim, this appears horribly sexist and is based on conjecture - even things presented as fact, e.g. "9/10 we get it" The content sounds very egotistical.
Yuki H That’s exactly how i feel
How is it sexist?
Very sextest and backwards in many regards. Unfortunately many listen to such clips and do not pick out the negative points and will probably follow this blindly. Causing more problems in marriage.
@@marypoppins6973 this is advice on how wives can be better to husbands not the opposite.
@@marypoppins6973 so of course its gonna focus on the men and how to treat them right. Not women.
Barak allahu feekom, wa adkhalakim janat alferdaws al2a3la inshaallah. I know i am a man 🤣😅but even thought this was a very accurate and a correct video mashallah. As2alo allah an yenajehkom fe aldonya wal 2akhera inshaallah.
JazakAllah khair for this video. Really enjoyed it and insha'Allah I will take this advice.
Jazak Allah khair dear brother ♥♥😊
This is ridiculously true
I do all the things mentioned... I and my husband has very friendly relationship... 🙄 It's been 2 and half year of our marriage
Mashallah. Thank you . Jazakallah khairan dear brothers and sisters.
JazakAllahu khair
I see there are arguments in the comment section, I do agree some points like women as well needs respect that's right but the video is upon "what women needs to know about men" that's why they are more focused on what men actually need and no where they mentioned that women doesn't need respect she should be respected it's just that the key points for men being respected and how it effects them in a good way .. I think they should upload a single video which shows both sides what women needs to know as well as what men needs to know about women so it will be easy for both
There is absolutely no sexism in this video and sexism shouldn't be mentioned since this is only half of the main topic. Watch what men need to know about women.
Man's respect to a woman means love. She wants him to listen to her opinions and gently discard or approve them. To a woman, that's love. A woman's love to a man means respect to him. He wants you to give opinions gently and not obstinate with it. To a man, that's respect.
I agree. Dealing with each others imperfections in a kind a loving manner is the only way to make a marriage thrive and survive.
A feeble minded question, but WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND RESPECT? I WANT AN ANSWER
love - heart (eq)
respect - brain (iq)
What does 'be the damsel in distress' even mean?
I think the issue here is that men should just work on their egos and their pride.. Is it even halal to 'have a big ego', really? So your whole life it's just about protecting it, why don't you just get rid of it?
Jubair Hamza it’s one thing to “obey”, and another to not even speak a word to criticize. If I see you doing something stupid, I’m gonna tell you to fix that stupid thing. If my husband gambles, I’m gonna have to take charge because if I continue to “obey” him, we’ll be on the streets!
@Jubair Hamza I agree. We can obey them and love them but also be able to speak our minds in a respectful way without it being an issue with their ego. What this Shaykh is saying is wrong. Dont correct them? Wait till they realize they are wrong? How long is that? Why do I have to be late for the party because you took right when i could've easily told you to take left and save us both 5-10 minutes?
Jubair Hamza Lmaoo you think gambling is equally haram to taking control of our financials? I just realized why I don’t argue over CZcams comments anymore
Both husband and wife deserves respect...Allah had given both of them same right
Honestly, if they have an ego so do we, and being loved and cherished isn't what matters in the long run completely, women need the same level of respect too! Respect if goes both ways will make things work, if you have to say it say it complete, all of what you descirbed for men, needs to be taken into regard for women as well, they weren't created without an ego or better self respect either! If you have to describe the nature, say it's in a human's nature not just man's nature, Allah created us all that way.
We all want respect, if u get mad at me because I pointed out(nicely) a mistake that you commited then that's just stupid to me and immature. How about " damn it ,you're right I shouldn't have done that" what's so hard in saying that ????
respect is earned not demanded.
First of all women, voice your opinions of your husband is doing something wrong don’t belittle him but inform him that there’s a better way. If your husband gets angry at you when he’s wrong, find another husband
I agree with the first part. But the last part seemed too soon lol
Yeah don’t think a girl can divorce a guy then get married. She might stay single.
I’m no Dansel in distress and I have so much respect from, we run our household together and our business together.
Thank you very much, this reminder means a lot to me and my marriage. Alhamdulillah.
its not a shock. glad he admitted about mens weak egos.
@Jubair HamzaPlease go read the quran. Its not that simple tbh.
This is the worst video I have ever watched about this subject. You are describing the spouses that muslim men will get in jannah inshallah. This is not realistic. You're describing it as if women don't need respect and they're the people who must support their man even if they're making the biggest mistake in their life. Women don't need love and don't need to be protected by somebody who doesn't respect them. Respect must always be the first thing to think of. I also don't see any ayat in this video that explains that this is the best way to live with your husband, which is necessary in my opinion because everything needs to be seen from Islamic perspective. This video is a joke...
Who decides what's "mistakes" in the first place. The husband thinks the wife is wrong, the wife thinks the husband is wrong. Now, What's Allah SWT say? The rights/responsibility of decision making is upon the husband. The wife can advise/suggest he opinion respectfully but it's up to the husband to have the final say. This is the guideline of Islam!
@@hanzalaomar3234 you say it yourself, the wife CAN advise/suggest. This video says no you can only support him. That's just wrong bc your whole relationship is based on lies if you don't correct one another in a respectful way by giving them advice when you think something is not right. The same thing when the wife does something wrong and the husband only supports her.. Like NOOO YOU HAVE TO CORRECT YOUR OWN WIFE WHAT ARE YOU DOING???
The man makes a video about BOTH sides tho and equals out everything
Respect is earned not demanded
@@hanzalaomar3234 There should be a chance to suggest before the potential mistake happens. I understand not saying it in a nagging or destructive way, but the absence of constructive suggestions is unhelpful. Many men would be more insulted that the wife didn't try to warn him about the potential obstacles and instead assumed he couldn't handle feedback.
But I am a girl and I also want respect
Jazakallah khair.
Dis is it...
This is sooooo true.. hope my future wife dont have this motherly figure.. ameen..
Ameen
Good wife is like a mother ,it means she has compassion , unconsciously love like mother, .
I feel like only the mens will watch this video
I'm a girl and taking notes lol
SLURPY
I'am a man, not married yet. But sometimes, I just wondering what woman needs to know about me (sorry if there's any grammar mistake)
@@ibrahafishbagaskara2601 as in what you should tell them about yourself when you're getting to know them ??
You're wrong
All those who are triggered, why? Lillah understand the point. He's simply pointed out what men biologically are.
The prophet (s.a.w) didn't have a wife nagging and try to mock him either, naudhubillah.
The famous sentences of Khadija r.a (after first revelation) to make him feel better are in all Sahih Ahadiith.
That's what sheikh was trying to suggest women. Make your husband feel like a KING. He will make you feel like a queen. It's give and take.
Jajakallahu khairan 💖💖
Not as simple as that... sometimes can give all the respect love & everything in the world and in return .... get nothing. That’s right, NOTHING. Don’t be so simplistic....
You realize that woman don’t need men to protect us we can protect ourselves, your making it sound as if the men is the one with the power in my opinion. And if my partner can’t take a joke or handle me being sarcastic then I don’t want him
Your making it sound like women don’t have any say, like we have to be the obedient type, in every marriage there should be an equal amount of power no matter what role you play, I honestly disagree with these tips
In Islam men are the leaders and heads of the family. I can infer that you are probably not muslim so you probably won't understand this video. Why do you non-muslims watch these types of videos just to start a debate about religion and say whatever you desire in the comments to incite hate?
Zaky 26 who are you to say whether she is Muslim or not? I’m a Muslim and I agree with her. Yes men are supposed to be the head of the family but that doesn’t mean the women don’t have any authority. Women aren’t all damsels in distress. If a couple can’t joke with each other that’s a really boring relationship. Men and women should have a mutual amount of respect and love. Not all women want to be obedient all the time.
Marriage is not worth.
@@zaky267 lol I am Muslim, I’m simply stating my opinion on the video. Am I not allowed to have an opinion now? Plus I’m not even hating, not once did i say something offensive
Masha Allah ,this is a great speech I think women need to point down.May Allah bless this preacher.
JazakAllah for this❤
Never let a male tell you how to control your man!
I’ve seen the toughest if men respect honour and be merciful towards their wives all due to her smart intelligent intentions
Women know how the male game is played
Sex fake looks simple touch will get her man to obey her
Dirty thoughts and disgusting thing to do. May Allah guide you.
A man weakness is women!
If Shes smart enough , and knows how to play the game, he will stick around.
He wants a women to be everything he sees hence
Makeup = different appearance different types
Fashion same concept the idea of a different women each night
Lady in the streets freak in the sheets
Ask a man why the reason is physical pleasure is there goal
@@piqueny8872 is that what you think? You need some help. All men are not as dirty as your mind make them to be genius.
Good luck gettin a man with just using intelligence lol
@@piqueny8872 nah I don't think I would like to get a man. I'll say I prefer women, you see.
Why does men have low self-esteem
Sheikh Ahmed hey thanks for correcting me. And thank God Im not a man ... cuz if i was I will get mad that you corrected me😭😭😭
Why do women feel insecure without makeup?
ماشاءاللہ
that is true. Men need to learn from their mistakes. Even if you see them going so wrong, resist your temptation to tell and let them be.