Overcome Male Anxiety and Insecurity in Relationships
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- čas přidán 2. 08. 2024
- If you're feeling anxious and insecure in a relationship, then you need to watch this video. A lot of men feel nervous and anxious when they're in a relationship, this isn't a big problem if you know how to handle it the right way, but if you don't, anxiety and insecurity can have serious consequences on your relationship.
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Trust yourself and trust the process,
Chris Canwell - Jak na to + styl
Women reward strength and punish weakness. Burn that into your mind.
Powerful statement
Who cares?
Yes I will 😊
Very true 👍
Tell me that when your 90 years old and can't wipe your ass.
Mosy underated coach ever. This guy is a legend
true
It's better that less people know
damn it hurts 💔
Yea real talk
Keep Laughing The *Pain* is really not that much different from going to the gym and tearing yourself up a bit. You went to the gym of your own accord. Don’t be surprised if you felt some pain in a deliberate effort to get *Stronger.*
Women smell weakness like a shark smells blood.😂
keep at it. Great videos.
Yes, it's true. A good comparison.
This words comes from an big ego place which in my opinion is sickness.
Ana, just to check do you mean the words and idea that he is speaking about is the sickness? Or more agreeing with his idea on the anxiety in a relationship?
Yes 😂🥰😂
I laugh but I'm hurt
Just putting this out there. This man is definitely right. Coming from someone who went from confident and relaxed in the interaction (generally speaking) to anxious about what she is thinking at all times (me and my gf have been together for 1.5 years now ) - not of me necessarily, rather whether something upsets her, something is wrong or whatever. Regardless, giving her so much attention screams "neediness", and I can see how this has affected our relationship, the intimacy between us had to suffer a lot. Girls really don't want you to be in touch with their emotions all day long or "be genuinely interested in what they are doing". Sure you might ask a few things here and there, it gives them the chance to talk about themselves and brag to you in order to get your attention, helps you to bond with each other, but it is nothing you should be doing too frequently. In the end, if you really want to provide for her in terms of your relationship, you need to be working on your goals and whatever makes you a man. You can't fill anybody's tea cup as long your pot is empty. So make sure to make a damned good tea first.
The one that cares the least controls the relationship. She must always chase and choose you! Men are programmed to be the pursuers, this is why most relationships fail because we’ve been tricked to please women when we should be focusing on ourselves. Think about celebrities, they are focused on pursuing their passion. Women flock to them. Always focus on SELF improvement. It will drive you crazy when you only think of her. You must always remain unattached. They believe that’s masculine behavior. You realize the girls that loved you the most you didn’t care about em. The ones you chased didn’t want you at all. That’s because women want to know if you value yourself more than them. They can EASILY get other guys that are gonna cater to their needs, but you must be Godlike. It’s harsh but that’s what women respect
I like it when you say: Dont show anxiety instead of dont be it. Because sometimes we men are just insecure. Realizing it is a big first step.
Listen up, young men! This guy is spot on! Take his advice and avoid a world of heartache. I wish I'd known this stuff when I was a younger man...
I have made all the mistakes you talk about. You're 100% right in every single thing you say. Thanks Chris for helping me to be aware of my insecure behavior
We've ALL done these things, my friend. You're not alone.
@@danthomas2146 same here. Been there and did it.
Another here...Rehab in progress.
Oh trust me about this... We all found this stuff due to all of our mistakes!
Same here dude, this channel has helped me realized I've been doing this whole dating thing wrong. My gf recently pulled away and I'm guilty of everything that Chris described. Wish I had discovered this channel way sooner!
Yes 100% right.. I backed of and she came back. I need to work on myself more and she is willing to help me with my anxiety issues.
How exactly is she helping you?
NEVER! Never let her help you with anything!!! She'll remind you tomorrow.
i just killed my marriage getting anxiety . 23 years gone because i didnt realise what i was doing.
Doing the things he says not only helps the situation, it makes you a better you!
i did all of this ,omg the pain ,when u see all the shit u have done ,and u know how u can fix it ,but u cant anymore ,couse she is already gone
Damn just damn
This video came too late for my ex but on the right time for my actual beginning of new gf. I think the best is TO NOT CARE about relationship. When you DO CARE is like you give all power to the other side...
Facts
I just suffer in silence. I messed up 2 relationships with my anxiety and needy behavior. Girl I'm dating now I'm starting to get those old insecure feelings back but the good thing is I don't show her. I just play it cool like nothing bothers me all though deep down inside, it's killing me.
Bruh ikr
Friends and Focus on You is what i try to do but damn this little feeling of insecurity hate it!
I used to be like that, and you can't hide it forever my dude. She already smells it and if she's a good looking gal, she will already have her backup options ready. To them, we are always replaceable, but once you learn to see them in the same way, you will no longer suffer from the same type of relationship anxiety. It is your worrying that will turn her off you, so the sooner you can let go of your attachment to her the better. If you adopt the attitude that nothing she does matters that much, because you can always find another girl, then she will not leave you.
Make sure first that it’s a girl who’s worth to be in your life, let alone feel anxious about, be careful with who you share energy with, you are the prize not her
@@mayorofthenonsense damn you're right AF, .. I'll take a screenshot of this comment
Legend is back.
You are the man! Ur videos r super helpful!
Its sad to see so many guys out there struggling with their insecurities and anxiety about the relationship and think talking to the girl about it is the way to go..
Keep it up 💪
The Lord used you, brother. Just what I needed to hear.
Keep your great and straight forward content coming! Don't stop! Your channel will grow fast if you do so.
Thank you.
Cristiano Sacramento I agree, this guy is a legend. Hats off. 👏
You are awesome
What are you talking about, that man is an atheist.. He doesnt believe in your imaginary lord
@@iyancasulla8867 *,
@@diseasedsavior2747 The Lord can use any tool as long as its what you need.
Every bits of what he says is true no wasted time on the videos always direct to the point. Best relationship coach I’ve ever encountered! More power Chris!
Your advice is practical and straight to the point.
Many thanks.
Dude is spitting truths here, his style is so easy to digest as well 👌
I immediately liked the video even before viewing it. I knew it has to be good.
i did the same
wow dude your videos have infinite value. Props
Basically what I’m getting is that when you start getting needy or gut feel she’s losing interest go ghost
No but nice to recognise a narc so quickly.
I have a problem with anxious attachment style, but you halped me a lot. Thank you very much, really.
I love ur voice man its so calm.
Thank you for the advice. This is just what I wanted
I bought your book.
It's a tremendous book I ever bought.
Thank you very much for teaching us
This guy deserves an award
That was some really good advice thanks🙏❤️
The dude is just not fakeing . The finishes of the goals. Beautiful. Magisterial. Love you *Minslegend!.* .🙏🏼
Thank you brother I respect you Chris you are the best I love your knowledge brother
they call themselves partners, as soon as one gets weak. they leave. you're supposed to help and not leave them miserable.
100%
They’re helping you to grow stronger and not be a weak little man
Thank you. I needed this...
Bro your channel is excellent and a lot of your vids are helping me out right now, I hope you keep uploading brother, I’m gonna do what you said and go the other way when I feel like txting her, it’s been 3 weeks and nothing lol
Your a legend ill, always listen to your videos
Desperately needed this!!!
Brooo. Finally met a Sri Lankan here. Hi5! 😍
I can relate to most of this!
I must say.. I love the way you articulate and make everything sound simple about attraction .. you are a genius.. great job!
He is copying anther coaches material. its obvious
Erik Myers don't be mistaken it tells the way he talk that make u believe from experience...he is great guy listen to him
@@ErikMyersComedy who would that be?
*Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of the jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you minslegend*
Thank you so much my friend
💯 needed this!
i love you coach much appreciated!
Great advice.
You’re a legend 🔥
this helped A LOT
I went through that and you saved me thank you
Thank you for the advice. But sometimes I feel like I cant hold my insecurity down. Like when I meet up with her again I just start to feel weak and insecure. I try to deal with it behind closed doors. But when I see her again, she can tell there's something off with me. She doesn't really feel that Im insecure, but I do come off as numb with a lack of emotion and she can feel it. I give off this vibe because in my head Im still fighting off insecurity. Im looking for ways to deal with this.
Bro ikr
Found anything bro? Me feeling this shit all the time now
This is spot on
I have Major Depression. Whenever I fell into insecurity, she realized that it was the illness, not my basic personality. It acts like a pass since it's not your fault.
Talk to a professional, it will help yu to get a perspective,IF its the right kind. of person.
Thanks!
Bruhhhh! Damn you're greaaat. Thanks mann
Thank you so much this
Love Guru Chris
Hands down this dude will be recognized as a goat.. this dude has literally saved my life..listening to his work and job I can relate to it.. *minslegend* keep it up and thank you for your talent... 💯.
this just happened with me 😂
now i am laughing at my own mistakes because i feel like that is good to my career
Appreciated 👍🏽
Thank you sir
Subscribed !!
Yesterday I was with a girl I am dating for 2 and a half months now. I was nervous a bit and she noticed it. I calmed down after some time, but still... Called her today and she did not answer. I have this urge to text/call her again, but I will not. Hopefully it is nothing serious. I mean, this never happened before so I am worried. Damn it, I hate when I feel this way and I hate when I feel anxious. I feel like weakling and it really angers me...
Best way is to talk to other girls when she doesn't respond
This man is a lifesaver...🌻🤘
Thank you for making me feel better everytime she pulls away and test me. I still havent learned
Awesome chris
crist, us men just gotta keep all our emotions in, and not let is shine through (to her that is).
Unfortunately it's so very true what you are saying in this video.
You definitely the best
200% true, the stronger and more alpha you are, less affected by your emotions, the more women will respect you
I'm still working on my anxiety and security
Mind blown 🤯
Can you suggest more books like yours? I’ve read all of Atomic Attraction and loved it. Looking for similar
That was really good!
These videos are the bomb
How to convey the things that u want out of a relationship and also about things that bother you without making things awkward...
Hey I wanna be a secure man, but I don’t wanna do it to get girls or to keep girls. I want to do it for myself, but any time I’m doing something to better myself, there’s a voice in my head and a feeling in my gut that’s saying I’m just doing what I’m doing to improve for girls. That’s a bit of a shallow motive and I want to feel like I’m doing what I’m doing for myself.
You are a god among men
"Chew yoour fingernails until its dripping with blood" 😂😂got me
They can have my sweat and tears but no way my 'blood! ' 😁
good job willem dafoe!
Thanks
Chirish bhava tuch ek chava 🔥🔥
Great for mental health
5:28 is the best sentence
Whenever I have that feeling can you just whisper in my ear "do the opposite"
IFKR 🥺😣
Spot on- do the opposite almost every time
My confidence is always scraping the floor when I hear my gf talking about any guys she's ever found attractive. I know she loves me and it's totally fine but I cant help but think that I'm not as muscular or as good looking or as alpha as these other guys she talks about. I do push ups until I cant think anymore but my god the more unconfident I realize I am behind all my exterior, the less of a man i feel.
how's your lovelife bro?
@@hyzcagulada3559 it's still going, we have bumps and hurdles to overcome just like anybody else, but I'm not one to easily give up and neither is she.
I know what you mean man
When she talks about other guys, talk about other girls... If there were only 2, make it 20
Dump her for being disrespectful
You are legend
thanks
*Very easier said than done when you don't have have anxiety*
U're the best
Tradition has messed up the psychology of attraction. It’s so sad these days
Thank you for the content. What I'm curious about is how anxiety, insecurities and neediness manifest themselves in even the strongest men. I was recently blindsided by my neediness. Even after all these years of self-improvement. Is it a primitive and Primal instinct in men or societies brainwashing? Thank you
jay left I think it’s primal
Almost every man will experience anxiousness or neediness at some point in a relationship. If youre talking about being told that it isn't okay or natural to have these feelings sometimes (especially due to how some men are brought up) then its societal brainwashing
It is good to find a solution to alleviate these feelings in a healthy way so the problems don't arise in a relationship though.
Yes it’s natural
Men are natural sacrificial creatures... women naturally think about themselves... at least until their maternal instinct kicks in or their looks began to fade away
I'm following all of his advice for my 4th ex but my 3rd ex is the one coming back. lol
If ur trying to get with someone and ur insecure here’s my advice. Let them know ur insecure, people are people and if they’re decent enough human beings they’ll understand. Not everyone is acts on their primal instincts. If u talk openly and honestly and confidently about your insecurities, than ur significant other will probably understand and if they don’t, fuck them. You don’t need someone like that in ur life anyway.
Let me empathize something, women are not the dumb primal animals you can just manipulate that most of these gurus and coaches will have you believe. Everyone is their own person and they’ll do whatever they’d like. Focus on urself most of all and never lose sight of what truly matters to you.
well said! i appreciate this coaching for males...however I too, thought, well where is the anxious mans mate? a woman who will NOT shame or condemn a man for developing his emotions for her/with her.
talk with her about YOU! and how/what you feel!
bond with your partner! love! live!
My cousin sister's boyfriend is very possessive, how does she control him ? What to do ?
When are you writing another book?
What if I have already done the wrong things half the way..
This was all too real..
?Well I feel like I've already displayed extreme insecurity. Is all hope lost or can I change my ways and start to build my own perceived strength back up?
I was always alpha and never insecure and it worked for a long time - but then my wife in mid life crisis felt like I didmt love her and she fell for affair at work- shensaid she didn’t think I really
Loved her..
So looking back I had to be more careful and re assure
Her. It’s so sad.
Herakles stay strong brother
It's just an excuse to convince herself (and you) that she's a decent person while she's a piece of shit. Move on.
I'm having a hard time thinking if my girlfriend really wants to be with me after yrs of dealing with my insecurities,at one point she she that she felt better if we broke up and each head our on ways but we both stay and talk and keep trying to work it out,do you have any advice to help me stop thinking so negative.
Stop being a bitch basically. I feel bad for your girl, she wants a man not a bitch.
? Then, my follow up question is: What happens 2 years+ into the relationship and you've lost your job or some other setback, can you then trust that same woman to be there for you during a few weeks/months of vulnerability? From your videos and the lessons you are conveying, it seems like women are more like short term propositions instead of long term investments.
Exactly!
This is not 100% sure. My partner dealing with anxiety and he just told me now after 3 months of relationship and I didn’t run away of him. I’m here with him to support to get through this mental issue cos I like him so much and I want him to be better and I’m sure he will get well.
Yeah...
Not 100%
Hmm.... So almost 100%
How it went ?
@@swczn4994 we broke up in the end. It was to much to deal with. Now I’m with someone else and very happy 😊
@@anamihaelaflorescu9895 Thanks for answer. I have the same problem, I am not so much clingy and needy to blow up the phone every day, but still I have my problems with anxious attachment style. My GF left me 2 days ago after only 4 months. Have to work on myself. Good luck.
So what I get from this...getting attached to any partner will push them away? Duly noted.
I have anxiety with this girl..we date twice and she said she not ready for a relationship..I have palpitation everytime think about her..what should I do? I really need help
I know what most of men can't really tolerate is a cheating girlfriend or a girl who is betrothed to and later after cheating the same woman comes back to him my question is what if she pulls away in expense of taking advantage of you she goes cheating on you?
What do you do?
I have seen this happen to someone
Always have backups on the side, even paid ones... That's the only way if you don't, you are done.