Here's why you shouldn't fake a disability if you fake it then others might think people who actually have it are faking it which will cause so much issues
Because TikTok that's why... So many in there claiming to have certain things look Ike ADHD, autism, tourettes, DID. They seem to take the textbook list of symptoms & they have, & then they over exaggerate them all. People are getting called on it now, but they still do it. There's been others with the same condition speaking out & drs warning about self diagnosis. But they still do it, but this week's stimming stops next week to be replaced by a new one. Someone in my area was doing this, but was totally free of their condition at home & on weekends. Eventually the school contacted their parents who confessed they have no diagnosis because they never saw a Dr as they never showed any signs at home.
Honestly, the faking it is a big deal, the way I see it, autism can be a good thing. I mean, seriously, I feel like the autistic people are smarter than most people. My brother for example, is smart and fun to be around, and he has autism.
Itâs like those people who are so chronically uninteresting that they want to get kidnapped because at least then theyâre the guy who got kidnapped or something.
As someone with Autism I'm going to say how I feel about this situation. Everyone with Autism experiences it differently to the point where people say that you will never meet two people with Autism who are exactly the same. With that being said however I have been told that there are some more common symptoms that most people tend to have such as being sensitive to loud noises. You also don't just have symptoms or behaviors all of a sudden appear because you have been diagnosed with Autism, you can have a Autism diagnosis explain why previous symptoms or behaviors are happening but your not going to have new ones appear. Assuming the original poster of this story isn't lieing about his facts and he has truly known her for years he would have most likely picked up on any behaviors way before she was telling everyone that she had Autism and new behaviors wouldn't have just started appearing. With all that being said and only knowing what was said in the story I definitely think she is faking it and it was good of him to call her out on it. I don't think people really realize how serious Autism really is and honestly I can't think of any reason someone would willingly want to live with it. If anyone who is more informed then me and would like to correct me on anything I said feel free too just be respectful please I may have Autism myself but that doesn't mean I have all the facts on it 100% right all the time.
Don't forget that autism is a spectrum, so some people have worse/more serve symptoms than others and that's why it is possible to get diagnosed with autism at a later age than others, but yea, just bc u get diagnosed with autism you won't develop new behaviours, at best you'll realise some behaviors that you were doing but didn't realise that you were doing them till now
I think something that needs to be said though is women tend to mask pretty well when they are neurodiverse. Maybe she felt more comfortable not masking so much because she had a reason behind her behaviors. She shouldnât have made fun of them but how do they know she doesnât have Autism.
Women are on almost the a complete opposite of the scale almost Aspergerâs and often get misdiagnosed with other disorders. whiles as males itâs easier to diagnose
I do agree, but i have noticed that having autism, ADHD, etc seems to be the new trend lately... It does irritate me, because as you said symptoms for these things vary, but i cant stand people who claim these things as if its the new "in thing". Its weird and gross... My kid has ADHD
As an autistic male, the issue as stated feels very one-sided. While there is a disturbing trend of people faking autism online, it is a known fact that autism is grossly underdiagnosed in females due to a number of factors, including A.) that women tend to mask their autism much more strongly, and B.) that women who do show symptoms tend to present them in different ways. What seems like her randomly starting to "obviously fake" having autism could just be her finally letting down her mask and showing her real, female autism. Granted, I don't know the specifics of what's going on, so she could actually be faking, but the point is that I don't have enough information to judge one way or the other. However, the part where she joins in on that kid making fun of OP because "she's autistic and she doesn't do that" is absolutely a bad apple moment on her end. Like I said, not all autistic people present the same way, so even if she is actually autistic, she should not be judging him. TL;DR: OP _might_ be gatekeeping, but the girl is _definitely_ gatekeeping. Final verdict: INFO (NTBA or ESH)
thank you for pointing everything out!! i was trying to covey in my comment how while her making fun of him is wrong he also shouldn't be invalidating her and all but i didn't want it to seem like i was condoning anyone's bad actions
Agreed that line I have that and I donât do that triggers me so much because this has been used on me specifically, one instance of this happened I had said that I struggle with regulating my volume due to my ADHD, which is an actual thing and I know this because Iâve done research on this because I was curious other things like how this affects me. Anyway some jerk started calling me a hypochondriac is just saying I have it to be trendy and just wasnât taught manners as a kid I needed to have manners beaten into me so I would learn how to act and someone else claiming to have ADHD he said âoh yeah youâre right I have ADHD and I donât do that theyâre just lying and making excusesâ which I think is arguably worse than what the first person was saying because this person having ADHD themselves if they are telling the truth, they should know better than to say what they said. I feel like if someone doesnât have NRR divergence themselves then itâs more excusable for them to be ignorant about it than someone who actually has it and is diagnosed because if you know you have it, you should at least be aware of how it affects you and might affect other people as well. I hate that phrase so much just so much.
@@maxhatush5918 no. Sheâs wrong in any case as the person youâre responding to says. However, it doesnât appear that OP clarifies whether or not he knows for an actual fact with factual evidence that she is not autistic he hasnât said anything about whether or not she has a diagnosis or not. just that he doesnât think she acts autistic, which he could still be wrong about since autistic girls tend to act different than autistic boys. This isnât about defending a female like you say. I mean I have had people with ADHD and autism. Tell me and tell other people that Iâm probably not autistic or have ADHD because they have that and they donât do what I said I did due to neurodivergence and that is whatâs messed up especially considering that they would only shut up once I revealed that I actually am diagnosed.
Bro my best friend of 14 years suddenly got tics a few months after I did. It really made me mad because my tics usually hurt and she would just kind of jump up and then go âWOW I just ticked SO BAD lolâ like no you didnât you just jumped. And she kept pointing them out to me and that would usually trigger mine.
Fake tics are spreading through TikTok along with lots of other fake disorders. There is now an epidemic of 13 years old claiming to have 500 personalities in their brain and they're all characters from anime and video games. It's wild
Tic can happen randomly though. I used to be normal but then I started getting tics when I was 15. I think it was from stress and taking wrong antidepressants, and started getting worse when I had seizures from the meds too. I have no other explanation for them other than that However, from what youâre describing, it could be fake. When ppl have tics (including me) we usually donât announce it. When I tic I just try to act like it didnât happen because I donât want attention, plus I canât control it so I donât wanna put more focus or attention on it (like I donât wanna make it like a big deal or anything) So your friend randomly getting tics can happen, but then pointing it out everytime it happens is weird and would get annoying too Plus I understand how itâs triggering too because thinking about my tics or mentions of tics trigger mine. So I get how thatâs annoying too, especially if your tics hurt
Yeah its like some people who copy my tics randomly but the person youre describing like WHY POINT IT OUT THOUGH like they must be doing it for attention because i have a couple of tics and i just try to make it seem as if it didnt happen but sometimes its really embarrassing because people laugh at me for doing these weird noises but i dont try to i just do it and i also get this really weird thing that happens to my neck when it suddenly bends really quickly like i try not to let people notice but i cant help it or anything and i dont really want it to happen but idk why but thinking about my tics and having people mention tics just makes them worse so idk if thats normal but yeah WHY IS THAT PERSON JUST RANDOMLY JUMPING AND POINTING IT OUT like its really rude tho if they are copying
I hit the back of my head really hard in high school, and ever since then my neck muscles spasm and I'll jerk my head to the side occasionally. I don't think its a tic since its more of a muscle thing. But so many kids claimed I was faking tics when I seriously didn't do it often, call attention to it, or even call it a tic. If someone asked, I just said it was a muscle spasm.
My son has Autism he turned 25 last week and when he was at school there was some issues with other kids that really pissed me off My granddaughter 6 also has autism and my daughter had a upsetting time because some other kids called her wried at a party and wouldnât play with her tears your heart out My GD has only just started taking while in lockdown and now sheâs gone back to the sounds and mumbles Sheâs my little diamond
girls mask earlier in life and autism presents very differently between one person from another, let alone the difference in genders. it was believed last century(1980's) that women cannot be autistic. how would she feel if she finally stopped masking after years of doing so just to get accused of being not autistic.
As someone who has a brother with autism, itâs baffles and offends me that people want to use his disability for attention. As much as I love the way he is, I dream for him to be able to go out in the world and live his life, but he canât. These people donât understand what our family and millions of others have to go through to support them, and they treat it like this months new trend. Same thing with any other neurodivergent disorders, adhd, anxiety, ocd, Touretteâs, etc. Peoples struggles and special circumstances arenât for those who use it for personal gain period.
Yess I have depression, anxiety and possibly adhd and it feels weird that people pretend to be depressed or anxious for attention- like it affects me everyday my anxiety where I canât go outside sometimes or talk to people
As someone who is autistic, OP sounds like an entitled & privileged AH. She shouldn't have made fun of him however he is not a doctor, he isn't friends with this girl & knows absolutely nothing about her personal life. He is not qualified to say if she has autism or not. He is also speaking from a place of privilege because he was able to be diagnosed as a child, while most autistic girls will go years without being diagnosed. Some will even reach adulthood without it ever being addressed. She most likely recently found out she didn't have to mask anymore & is learning how to be herself around people. That doesn't excuse making fun of another student but OP should've kept his mouth shut & addressed his concerns differently.
I agree with all what youâre saying, but OCD isnât a neurodivergent disorder Being neurodivergent is something youâre born with from what Iâm aware I have OCD personality and I never used to have it. It just suddenly happened after I took the wrong antidepressants and never went away. OCD is something developed or genetic. Itâs more of a mental illness than neurodivergent disorder
Mmhm. I have two siblings with autism and I was diagnosed with PTSD. I hate that people fale trauma for attention and or fake autism. I just hate faking disorders in general. My siblings will never be on their own. I will probably never be fully recovered from my trauma. If these fakers really want to be "quirky" , they can come take this off our hands.
Girls/females present differently than boys/males do. And our Autism can be completely missed or misdiagnosed or just plain not even considered. If the girl is faking then thatâs just awful but if she isnât then the boy is completely wrong.
I think autism needs to be separated again, making it a spectrum is so nonsensical and makes it extremely difficult to get help because it's so over diagnosed now and we don't have the facilities to support people that genuinely do have autism. There are physical aspects to autism, objective factors. Dying your hair green and spinning around in a chair screaming is not autistic.
Okay, so on one hand it is a pretty big issue thatâs going on specifically on tiktok right now where people are faking having autism, adhd, did, Touretteâs, etc for internet clout, so I sadly wouldnât be all too surprised to find out she really was faking it. On the other hand, Iâm diagnosed autistic but Iâve been masking pretty much since I was 12 (been trying to stop for about 2 years now) and that shit changes your whole perception of self. I myself have kinda lost sight of my own identity, I donât know how to act (in neither the autistic or allistic ways) and donât always act in a âtypical autisticâ way (autism is a spectrum anyway, so there is no âtypical wayâ.) I usually ignore people who âact autisticâ because I donât know them so who am I to say theyâre faking or not, but some people are being extremely obnoxious about it and it tends to make us all look bad.
There will always be people who will fake something to be trendy and get attention for themselves because they enjoy it, and an unfortunate person is someone who points the faker out but isn't believed.
she could be autistic, like pretty likely actually, girls start masking way earlier in life and how autism presents is much different from person to person. one person may have sound sensitivity while another may seek out extremely loud noises.
Ok, hot take, but maybe sheâs been masking for a while, and now that sheâs been diagnosed, she feels more comfortable with doing the things sheâs wired to do. Just to be clear, saying âbecause I have autism, and I donât do that, you canâtâ is 100% not ok, but calling someone a âbasic bitchâ for something they identify as is also 100% in the wrong no matter who they are or what they did. Edit: okay, so just to clarify further, i am not justifying the âfakeâ autistic girlâs actions, Iâm just saying that the way the op narrated her as a fake autistic person is harmful to the autistic community and people thinking that they have to or donât have to act a specific way all their lives in order to be diagnosed as autistic.
Yeah that was my thought not personally knowing this person, maybe she was masking & now feels more comfortable. But it could be that sheâs faking & just trying to be quirky, I donât know enough about the situation to say.
I love how op says I've known my neighbor since we were six so? You're only seeing one side of a person it really bothers me when people say I've known this person for x amount of time but do you really know them?
Autism is not something you identify as. It may be on a spectrum but you either have it or you donât. Just because Iâm extremely forgetful doesnât mean I get to âidentifyâ as someone who has dementia.
Yea and he's 17. Having autism does not make you an expert, he can be the authority on his autism. but luckily a 17 year old boy doesnt get to decide who is autistic enough to count. She could have gotten diagnosed late, I've heard of a lot of women who have autism that don't get diagnosed until they children who are on spectrum. They thought they were just weird or sensitive but now they're getting help and access to coping skills. It's really shitty when people play the struggle Olympics. She could totally be faking it but autism is harder to diagnose with women. I feel like a lot of my friends could have gotten help sooner if everyone wasn't so focused on playing the struggle Olympics. When I was born you weren't "autistic" unless you stopped talking or never did and needed a wheel chair. Imagine how shitty the world would still be if that was the case?
As someone with autism I find the fakers appalling. Everyday is a struggle, because I get very easily overstimulated. Luckily my teachers and friends are nice about it.
Definitely not the bad apple. Whenever someone fakes a disability, I want to give them that disability, and about a dozen others, most of them physical and related to physical trauma
People should not be faking disability because it is not funny to make fun of someone my friend is autistic and if she saw this it wouldnât be funny because that actually hurts people you are definitely not the bad apple
Afab possible autistic here (runs in the family, been doing a lot of research but not officially diagnosed) I feel like I've been masking since the day I was born, (which logically is inaccurate because masking is caused by social norms being forced upon you, but that's neither here nor there) One of the only ways I felt comfortable stemming was; rapid blinking and picking at my skin. I forced myself to be still, to try to be like the normal girl, now I'm not even a girl⥠Trying to force myself to stem when I never let myself do it before, letting myself make weird noises, weird faces! Mandatory masks helped me unmask lol Now I barely make facial expressions or change my tone of voice, because I realized I was queuing myself to do it. I'm not sure if you need any of this information for me just to simply say: anyone who did any research before self-diagnosing, would know that every autistic person is different. Different needs with different intensities, and many different ways to stem and cope. I don't know whether or not that woman's autistic but she certainly is a bitch.
Autism, OCD, and some other personality disorder I donât remember all of them almost all have the exact same symptoms so itâs best not to self diagnose neuro disorders at all
See a professional. I spent 40 years trying to behave like "everyone else" before I was finally diagnosed with ADHD. Having the diagnosis didn't immediately change everything, but it helped me piece a lot of things together and gave me direction in home to properly manage some of the issues I'd been dealing with for years.
also runs in my family, 2/3 cousins have it and so does my brother. I haven't got a diagnosis yet because I don't exactly have 3k to spare, but I hope to eventually.
Not at all as I kinda know the feeling. As was I the bad apple in this story?: I know someone for years who has sezers at times and I am one of the few knows what to do about it when it happens since I have seen the student have them. Which means I end up having most of my classes with the student. So one day this other student who knows about the sezers too pretend to have one when we had a sub just to get noticed. None of the students found it funny and the sub was caught off guard. So after class I punched him and I got away with it. Mostly because the other student wanted to do the same but I beat them to the punch. Lucky though the student who actually got them wasn't at school.
the boy doesn't seem to know that girls mask way earlier (complely possible that she started at age 5 before meeting him) and girls express autism extremely differently than boys. let alone the extreme differences from one person to another.
As someone who had 3 seizures in the past, thatâs literally not funny at all and I wouldâve punched them too I only had seizures because of antidepressants (I went off them though after that happened) but they were still very scary I donât have trauma from them but my mom says she does. I do get very uncomfortable when remembering it though, as like I said, it was very scary
As someone whoâs had autistic friends and has an autistic cousin, this behavior is unacceptable. Itâs very mean and also considered bullying. You canât just identify as a disability and act like itâs all okay
I hate it when people just declare themselves adhd or ocd, both of which I actually have been diagnosed with. And mine are fairly minor, so I can only imagine how this guy must have been.
Iâd say crab apple. Itâs REALLY hard on this one. While I NEVER agree with faking a disability for attention and I know itâs popular for some reason. His choice of words couldâve been better, again. I totally understand where heâs coming from but still.
kinda conflicting since most of the time when someone is faking something like that itâs because of another thing going on. doesnt give an excuse but just be careful what youâre saying.
Iâm on the higher end of the PDD NOS side of autism, which I apparently was diagnosed with when I was 4 years old in 1997, and I didnât even know I had until I was 27 in 2020, and my god, this makes me FURIOUS! Autism is something weâre born with and canât control, it is NOT something you personally choose to âidentifyâ with. She deserves all the flack she gets far as Iâm concerned.
Sometimes I really don't understand why people feel the need to pretend to have something, that they very well know that they don't have, just for a really short moment of attention..
I understand what he feels. I have argued with the people who identify as autistic without even trying to get a diagnosis. when I started talking about sensory overload and mental breakdowns they soon shut up lol
I hate people like that, I have autism myself which I was only finally diagnosed with recently (I'm 21) I understand not knowing until then but to completely change things about yourself and act it is a whole different story
Completely changing, how you act can also deal with unmasking. So if her changing behavior really was as sudden as OP made, it seem, then itâs probable that she is faking. However, if it was actually gradual overtime, then itâs still possible that sheâs not faking and is actually autistic, but just a jerk because what she said was not OK whether sheâs autistic or not. Iâm also autistic btw
As a person with autism, ocd, and adhd this makes me furious because I see this stuff everyday and get made fun of every day for my disabilities this is not a joke ppl
I had autism and walked on my toes bc thatâs a autism trait and I could not stop everyone thought I was faking and would even push me to get me to go on my flat foot to âexspose meâ and always said I was seeking attention and compared me to other autistic ppl in the school and said how I could not be autistic (btw I used to go to a autism school and I was professionally diagnosed) they felt so stupid when I got casts for my feet which proves I was not faking
Yup! This makes me so upset on her behalf, honestly! Her joining the bullies wasnât cool but nobody should be trying to gatekeep Autism especially when someone may be unmasking for the first time which can be incredibly liberating but challenging process as it is.
Bruh I have autism and I canât stand the fact people do this. Even having autism I donât point it out every 5 seconds. Iâm so tired of people like that girl just thinking itâs ok to fake autism and I just canât stand it anymore.
My issue is when did it become trendy to have mental disorders ? My step son is on the low spectrum of autism and I still can see the irritation or difficulties he has living with the lower end of it . Breaks my heart , these people are so chronically uninteresting that they want attention and to be different any way they can .
With autism myself I am furious. Autism shouldn't be something to joke about and is DEFINITELY not some people should fake for attention. I have officially given up on humanity
True. I had really bad depression and suicidal thoughts for years, and my Dad thought I was faking until I recieved counselling. (The counselling started because of my tendency to over share, but the depression and suicidal thoughts were definitely a more important issue. I'm a lot better now, no major incidents for a few years now.)
Why would someone fake dyslexia? I can't read when I'm tired and I'm a mom in school. It's not even trendy... it was so deep that I would not have children with someone with a family history of dyslexia cause I want my children to have a chance at being neurotypical, call that ableist if you want i dont care. I'm still gonna get her tested at 7 no matter what cause even though right now she's actually learning to read early I could just be teaching her to mask and that will not always work. I'm prolly not even gonna have another partly because of how I could not "mask" while I was pregnant, I did not have the energy. Some nights I had to call into work I was so tired I could not read, my brain wouldn't do it. It was a shit job and I ended up quitting to go back to school but still. It impacts my life in so many surprising ways I'm so shocked someone would fake it when it's not trendy or cool or even gets you that many accommodations.
as an autistic person people legit get mad at me when i say there is a growing social contagion of people self identifying as autistic for an aesthetic
MY EX FRIEND DID THIS TO ME TOO, I HAVE AUTISM AND SHE ONLY STARTED ACTING WEIRD AT THE START OF THE SCHOOL YEAR BUT THEN WHEN WE ENDED OUR RELATIONSHIP SHE ENDED UP TELLING EVERYONE I KNEW THAT I WAS FAKING AUTISM AND ADHD
I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!! Why just why?!?!?!?! Having a disability myself I hate it when people feel like they have autism or whateverđ€đđ€
relatable. i dont have any disorders or anything btw- this gworl at my old school faked having ADHD and being Autistic. one time she made me really uncomfortable and i just asked "why?" and she started crying saying she has ADHD to make me feel bad đ one time out of the blue she said she was autistic. basically she said she has disorders to ither make ppl feel bad or she wants alot of attention. she tend to act like she was in an anime show and stuff- she did rlly weird stuff too..
I wasn't diagnosed with any form of the spectrum until I was in my 30s. My father just got his adhd diagnosis in his 50s. If you don't know, don't talkđ
I have had autism professionally diagnosed at the age of 7. This makes me so.. I donât even know what to call it. Itâs disgusting how people act like that, itâs a real struggle people have to deal with, itâs not something you want!
honestly this makes me uncomfortable. AFAB and undiagnosed in adulthood. I am seeking diagnosis and mask heavily. The thing is, it is extremely different in everyone and some kids are shamed for stimming by their parents. Or they don't feel they can safely do it in public but later realize its harming them to suppress it. I know some people do fake it but I don't like to just going around gate keeping. in addition anyone faking something is still suffering from something else.
People in my school that Iâve known for a while have recently been over exaggerating autistic behaviours And it drives me insane. I am being tested for autism soon, and if i get diagnosed or not, i know how offensive it is to all autistic people. I display autistic behaviours, because I. Canât. Control. It. I honestly give up with my generation đđ
I had a horrible toxic "friend" who one day started purposely coping my stims and manerisims (I can't spellđ„Č) . This continued for the rest of the school year. One day I was talking about my ADHD and this "friend" said "Oh! I have ADHD too!" and then I asked "Oh, when did you get diagnosed?" This girl looked at me and said "I'm not diagnosed. I think I have it cause I do alot of the things you do. " that.... That's not how ADHD works
I like the only thing I took out of this is that I have something in common with OP. The blinking. Idk. Anyways, good apple. They should not be able to act like that at all.
My sister (6th grade teacher) had a bad throat so she had a sub for the day, when she came back the next day she said the students were horrible talking and didnât do much work and told my sister that I was going to the bathroom at 7th period and I saw the teacher yelling at the students because they were talking in a group project and so I told my sister that my math teacher had a â sub report â that went through basic questions about the sub and this one girl wrote there were making their favorites animals and had to do something with it (donât remember) well she wanted to make it funny so she added a hamburger on top of the cat and the teacher saidâ this is one of the worst drawing Iâve ever seenâ and she went home crying and was throughout a horrible teacher saying shut up to the students and saying â I donât careâ to students who try to talk but happily she was banned from ever being a substitute again :> next Monday or Tuesday theyâre getting donuts
My bestie is very low on the Autism spectrum. And if she saw this she would be 100% more angry at those pick me girls :( But it is disgusting to behave like that.
Not the bad apple. I donât have autism but I do have Schizoid Personality Disorder which is similar in a few ways. I would have snapped too. Itâs not cool or trendy, itâs a struggle. Be proud of who you are. Thereâs no shame in having disabilities but thereâs no shame in not having them either. I kinda feel bad for this girl because she sounds really insecure but it seems like she got a much needed reality check.
I have recently been diagnosed with ASD that goes back to when I was younger. I am still trying to process the news. It explains my childhood but I just feel like my life has completely fallen apart.
I hope you're doing alright, its a big change in self identity to find that out. I'd recommend possibly joining some forums or just finding some online communities to talk with :)
It's very hard to tell when someone is making an autism diagnosis up because autism in people assigned female at birth is vastly under-researched. There are differences in how it presents even regardless of sex assigned at birth. And the girl could just have more mild symptoms. As outsiders we just don't know. Because OP is a (presumably cisgender) boy and the girl in the story is a (presumably cisgender) girl, he just might not know the male/female difference in symptoms, even if he has known her for years. He may know her but not enough to be close. Nobody but OP can say. BUT I will say that whether or not the girl is autistic, she should not have been participating in the ableist bullying. That is NOT okay even if you are autistic. That is perpetuating abuse and she should have been called out on it.
or she got a diagnosis and is trying to stop masking, or she's just learned what masking is and is trying to stop. I agree with you there's just a lot more reasons to stop masking than just trauma.
I'm autistic and I think he'd be able to pick up on some of her behaviors if they've known each other since they were six? People don't really mask until they're older and realize their behaviors don't work well in public. So I do think it's more likely that she was faking it (and I've seen many people do it, or even have one behavior and assume it's autism immediately, it really pisses me off), especially if everything she was doing was really exaggerated, but it's absolutely possible that she stopped masking. Either way, she's a bully, and autism isn't an excuse for that.
Not autistic so I can't relate but I have terrible adhd and was diagnosed in 2nd grade. I have seen other kids say they have adhd to get out of trouble all the time when they don't and I know them well. It makes me furious when someone lies about a disorder to feel special or get out of stuff.
As someone with autism this makes me furious autism is a serious thing that shouldn't be joked about this makes me question if humanity has braincells edit: I forgot to mention everyone experiences autism differently I myself am socially awkward unless I've known you for a couple years my brother also has autism who is in 8th grade struggles on simple words I have to help him most of the time (im in 6th btw)
Honestly, though I have never had split personalityâs i get so upset when people fake it. I swear after moon knight came out people started saying they have split personalityâs at my friends school at least. I know they are more then likely lying since the never switch personalitys and they name them out of anime characters? Itâs weird two people named them after anime characters. Then when they say something mean they go sorry that was my other personality saying that sorry it was star or something like that. This one named them after star moon and etc. they will act exactly the same for texting talking and everything else but then they do something stupid or mean and go sorry that was my other personality after you call them out.
I have a family history of autism and down syndrome, even my best friend is autistic, I was fortunate to not have either one, but I do have my own set of problems, I had this one friend (I'll call tallia to keep her identity secret) who constantly faked disorders, one of which being autism, and DID (desoseative identity disorder) she became super toxic, I am aware that disorders differ from person to person, but it was extremely clear that she was faking it, I didn't think to much of it at first and mostly just ignored it bc there wasn't really enything I could do, but the last straw was when she started baicically bullying my friend to the brink of an unalive attempt, and then blamed it on her other identity, and then threatened my autistic friend saying that she was going to kill there intire family, on top of that, she only acted these disorders when someone brought it up to her, or she thought she could use it to her own advantage, yea none of us are friends with tallia enymore, and my best friend has a retraning order
As someone with autism.. these kind of people infuriate me. Itâs actually really difficult to have autism. Even when itâs as low as level one like mine. Itâs not fun, cute and quirky itâs just something we have to live with. Exhausting
My brother has Autism, and he is one of the smartest people I know, and is kind too. He doesnt act terribly weird except under circumstances, because he is on the high functioning end. So, honestly, people who fake this shit annoy the fuck out of me
As someone who has Autism and ADHD this is incredibly offensive because having Autism is so hard for me because I always get insecure about how a talk to much but the more I try to stop the more I push my friends away making them think Iâm weird and annoying. So someone thinking this is trendy makes me want to cry.
As someone with autism, thatâs so annoying that someone would fake that, and omg, Iâm glad she didnât fake a meltdown, cuz I have bad meltdowns, Iâll hit myself, and punch myself in the arms and legs, and I kick and scream, like Iâm 5 but the thing is, itâs my autism, but itâs so annoying to know people like faking autism for attention, like again, itâs a disability and not smth to joke abt
as someone who has never had an actual experience with an autistic person but did grow up with multiple disabilities, I would extremely offended if someone i know didnât have it started acting like they, avoiding contact sports and having extremely messed up speech.
For me, an autistic person who is currently in High School and have to deal with furries and toxic MHA fans, makes me kinda pissed off because when people fake autism, it isnât even particularly believable. I never couldâve imagined myself in a society where people act âautisticâ on a social media app just for attention, it hurts me to see that all the young men my age who fought for OUR generation have too see this.
I have autism too and there is a kid in my class that says all the time that he has autism on a daily basis but most of the time he just isnât listening even though he gets told something he still could but he says he has it too much like every 20 minutes he says it
my brother is autistic and im in the middle of getting a diagnosis, people like the girl in the video make it so much harder for people to take us seriously
As an autistic teenage girl it shows signs from childhood. Even though girls can mask it and there is a huuuge spectrum. Random things don't just pop up. I had depression and wanted to off myself thats when I learned I was autistic and it put an entire puzzle together. People refuse to belive im autistic even though I am because I don't "act autistic " it comes in many forms pretending is obvious
That is just wrong on her part! My 4 1/2 year-old is level three nonverbal autistic, and why in the world anybody would want to fake having something that disrupts so many peoples lives just amazes me. My little guy is absolutely amazing, but I would move heaven and earth to make him not have autism. I hate everything that he has to deal with. I think what I hate most is those people that act like they know everything about autism, and that it can be cured with diet, medication, or exercise, when they actually have no clue.
I went the majority of life not knowing I am autistic. I found out at 28 years old. It makes so much sense to me! I'm now 32... and some of my family just can't come to terms that I have a diagnosis. They actually told me to keep it a secret. I'm smart... but very shy I was always told "You're just quirky" or "socially awkward". It's hard to keep friends because people think I'm weird. I've been married 10 years... and my husband loves me no matter what. He understands why I hate fireworks and turtles neck sweaters... also germs! I have many obsessions and random facts but he enjoys my personality.
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As someone with an autistic partner, this makes me furious. Autism is a SERIOUS thing and shouldn't be joked about. Why humanity, why...
Here's why you shouldn't fake a disability if you fake it then others might think people who actually have it are faking it which will cause so much issues
Because TikTok that's why... So many in there claiming to have certain things look Ike ADHD, autism, tourettes, DID.
They seem to take the textbook list of symptoms & they have, & then they over exaggerate them all.
People are getting called on it now, but they still do it. There's been others with the same condition speaking out & drs warning about self diagnosis.
But they still do it, but this week's stimming stops next week to be replaced by a new one.
Someone in my area was doing this, but was totally free of their condition at home & on weekends.
Eventually the school contacted their parents who confessed they have no diagnosis because they never saw a Dr as they never showed any signs at home.
I was diagnosed when I was 12
Honestly, the faking it is a big deal, the way I see it, autism can be a good thing. I mean, seriously, I feel like the autistic people are smarter than most people. My brother for example, is smart and fun to be around, and he has autism.
it sad people fake it
Itâs like those people who are so chronically uninteresting that they want to get kidnapped because at least then theyâre the guy who got kidnapped or something.
As someone with Autism I'm going to say how I feel about this situation. Everyone with Autism experiences it differently to the point where people say that you will never meet two people with Autism who are exactly the same. With that being said however I have been told that there are some more common symptoms that most people tend to have such as being sensitive to loud noises. You also don't just have symptoms or behaviors all of a sudden appear because you have been diagnosed with Autism, you can have a Autism diagnosis explain why previous symptoms or behaviors are happening but your not going to have new ones appear. Assuming the original poster of this story isn't lieing about his facts and he has truly known her for years he would have most likely picked up on any behaviors way before she was telling everyone that she had Autism and new behaviors wouldn't have just started appearing. With all that being said and only knowing what was said in the story I definitely think she is faking it and it was good of him to call her out on it. I don't think people really realize how serious Autism really is and honestly I can't think of any reason someone would willingly want to live with it. If anyone who is more informed then me and would like to correct me on anything I said feel free too just be respectful please I may have Autism myself but that doesn't mean I have all the facts on it 100% right all the time.
Don't forget that autism is a spectrum, so some people have worse/more serve symptoms than others and that's why it is possible to get diagnosed with autism at a later age than others, but yea, just bc u get diagnosed with autism you won't develop new behaviours, at best you'll realise some behaviors that you were doing but didn't realise that you were doing them till now
I think something that needs to be said though is women tend to mask pretty well when they are neurodiverse. Maybe she felt more comfortable not masking so much because she had a reason behind her behaviors. She shouldnât have made fun of them but how do they know she doesnât have Autism.
Women are on almost the a complete opposite of the scale almost Aspergerâs and often get misdiagnosed with other disorders. whiles as males itâs easier to diagnose
@@unscmistressgaming1132 True but she's not extending the kindness we are to him...
I do agree, but i have noticed that having autism, ADHD, etc seems to be the new trend lately... It does irritate me, because as you said symptoms for these things vary, but i cant stand people who claim these things as if its the new "in thing". Its weird and gross... My kid has ADHD
As an autistic male, the issue as stated feels very one-sided. While there is a disturbing trend of people faking autism online, it is a known fact that autism is grossly underdiagnosed in females due to a number of factors, including A.) that women tend to mask their autism much more strongly, and B.) that women who do show symptoms tend to present them in different ways. What seems like her randomly starting to "obviously fake" having autism could just be her finally letting down her mask and showing her real, female autism. Granted, I don't know the specifics of what's going on, so she could actually be faking, but the point is that I don't have enough information to judge one way or the other.
However, the part where she joins in on that kid making fun of OP because "she's autistic and she doesn't do that" is absolutely a bad apple moment on her end. Like I said, not all autistic people present the same way, so even if she is actually autistic, she should not be judging him.
TL;DR: OP _might_ be gatekeeping, but the girl is _definitely_ gatekeeping. Final verdict: INFO (NTBA or ESH)
Thank you for writing this out so well! I couldn't figure out how to convey the same thing.
thank you for pointing everything out!! i was trying to covey in my comment how while her making fun of him is wrong he also shouldn't be invalidating her and all but i didn't want it to seem like i was condoning anyone's bad actions
Agreed that line I have that and I donât do that triggers me so much because this has been used on me specifically, one instance of this happened I had said that I struggle with regulating my volume due to my ADHD, which is an actual thing and I know this because Iâve done research on this because I was curious other things like how this affects me. Anyway some jerk started calling me a hypochondriac is just saying I have it to be trendy and just wasnât taught manners as a kid I needed to have manners beaten into me so I would learn how to act and someone else claiming to have ADHD he said âoh yeah youâre right I have ADHD and I donât do that theyâre just lying and making excusesâ which I think is arguably worse than what the first person was saying because this person having ADHD themselves if they are telling the truth, they should know better than to say what they said. I feel like if someone doesnât have NRR divergence themselves then itâs more excusable for them to be ignorant about it than someone who actually has it and is diagnosed because if you know you have it, you should at least be aware of how it affects you and might affect other people as well. I hate that phrase so much just so much.
Anything to defend a female i guess⊠đ€·ââïž
@@maxhatush5918 no. Sheâs wrong in any case as the person youâre responding to says. However, it doesnât appear that OP clarifies whether or not he knows for an actual fact with factual evidence that she is not autistic he hasnât said anything about whether or not she has a diagnosis or not. just that he doesnât think she acts autistic, which he could still be wrong about since autistic girls tend to act different than autistic boys. This isnât about defending a female like you say. I mean I have had people with ADHD and autism. Tell me and tell other people that Iâm probably not autistic or have ADHD because they have that and they donât do what I said I did due to neurodivergence and that is whatâs messed up especially considering that they would only shut up once I revealed that I actually am diagnosed.
Bro my best friend of 14 years suddenly got tics a few months after I did. It really made me mad because my tics usually hurt and she would just kind of jump up and then go âWOW I just ticked SO BAD lolâ like no you didnât you just jumped. And she kept pointing them out to me and that would usually trigger mine.
Fake tics are spreading through TikTok along with lots of other fake disorders. There is now an epidemic of 13 years old claiming to have 500 personalities in their brain and they're all characters from anime and video games. It's wild
Tic can happen randomly though. I used to be normal but then I started getting tics when I was 15.
I think it was from stress and taking wrong antidepressants, and started getting worse when I had seizures from the meds too. I have no other explanation for them other than that
However, from what youâre describing, it could be fake. When ppl have tics (including me) we usually donât announce it. When I tic I just try to act like it didnât happen because I donât want attention, plus I canât control it so I donât wanna put more focus or attention on it (like I donât wanna make it like a big deal or anything)
So your friend randomly getting tics can happen, but then pointing it out everytime it happens is weird and would get annoying too
Plus I understand how itâs triggering too because thinking about my tics or mentions of tics trigger mine. So I get how thatâs annoying too, especially if your tics hurt
Yeah its like some people who copy my tics randomly but the person youre describing like WHY POINT IT OUT THOUGH like they must be doing it for attention because i have a couple of tics and i just try to make it seem as if it didnt happen but sometimes its really embarrassing because people laugh at me for doing these weird noises but i dont try to i just do it and i also get this really weird thing that happens to my neck when it suddenly bends really quickly like i try not to let people notice but i cant help it or anything and i dont really want it to happen but idk why but thinking about my tics and having people mention tics just makes them worse so idk if thats normal but yeah WHY IS THAT PERSON JUST RANDOMLY JUMPING AND POINTING IT OUT like its really rude tho if they are copying
I hit the back of my head really hard in high school, and ever since then my neck muscles spasm and I'll jerk my head to the side occasionally. I don't think its a tic since its more of a muscle thing. But so many kids claimed I was faking tics when I seriously didn't do it often, call attention to it, or even call it a tic. If someone asked, I just said it was a muscle spasm.
My son has Autism he turned 25 last week and when he was at school there was some issues with other kids that really pissed me off
My granddaughter 6 also has autism and my daughter had a upsetting time because some other
kids called her wried at a party and wouldnât play with her tears your heart out
My GD has only just started taking while in lockdown and now sheâs gone back to the sounds and mumbles
Sheâs my little diamond
Iâm so sorry that happened to her thatâs horrible!!!
Iâm surprised no one from the school called home to talk to her parents about it
Absolutely deserved! Hate when people do this, glad he stood up for himself. Bet sheâll stop now.
girls mask earlier in life and autism presents very differently between one person from another, let alone the difference in genders. it was believed last century(1980's) that women cannot be autistic. how would she feel if she finally stopped masking after years of doing so just to get accused of being not autistic.
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As someone who has a brother with autism, itâs baffles and offends me that people want to use his disability for attention. As much as I love the way he is, I dream for him to be able to go out in the world and live his life, but he canât. These people donât understand what our family and millions of others have to go through to support them, and they treat it like this months new trend. Same thing with any other neurodivergent disorders, adhd, anxiety, ocd, Touretteâs, etc. Peoples struggles and special circumstances arenât for those who use it for personal gain period.
I agree but anxiety isn't a nerological disorder. That could just be me not understanding what you mean by that but idk.
Yess I have depression, anxiety and possibly adhd and it feels weird that people pretend to be depressed or anxious for attention- like it affects me everyday my anxiety where I canât go outside sometimes or talk to people
As someone who is autistic, OP sounds like an entitled & privileged AH. She shouldn't have made fun of him however he is not a doctor, he isn't friends with this girl & knows absolutely nothing about her personal life. He is not qualified to say if she has autism or not. He is also speaking from a place of privilege because he was able to be diagnosed as a child, while most autistic girls will go years without being diagnosed. Some will even reach adulthood without it ever being addressed. She most likely recently found out she didn't have to mask anymore & is learning how to be herself around people. That doesn't excuse making fun of another student but OP should've kept his mouth shut & addressed his concerns differently.
I agree with all what youâre saying, but OCD isnât a neurodivergent disorder
Being neurodivergent is something youâre born with from what Iâm aware
I have OCD personality and I never used to have it. It just suddenly happened after I took the wrong antidepressants and never went away.
OCD is something developed or genetic. Itâs more of a mental illness than neurodivergent disorder
Mmhm. I have two siblings with autism and I was diagnosed with PTSD. I hate that people fale trauma for attention and or fake autism. I just hate faking disorders in general. My siblings will never be on their own. I will probably never be fully recovered from my trauma. If these fakers really want to be "quirky" , they can come take this off our hands.
Girls/females present differently than boys/males do. And our Autism can be completely missed or misdiagnosed or just plain not even considered. If the girl is faking then thatâs just awful but if she isnât then the boy is completely wrong.
I think autism needs to be separated again, making it a spectrum is so nonsensical and makes it extremely difficult to get help because it's so over diagnosed now and we don't have the facilities to support people that genuinely do have autism. There are physical aspects to autism, objective factors. Dying your hair green and spinning around in a chair screaming is not autistic.
shut up
Okay, so on one hand it is a pretty big issue thatâs going on specifically on tiktok right now where people are faking having autism, adhd, did, Touretteâs, etc for internet clout, so I sadly wouldnât be all too surprised to find out she really was faking it.
On the other hand, Iâm diagnosed autistic but Iâve been masking pretty much since I was 12 (been trying to stop for about 2 years now) and that shit changes your whole perception of self. I myself have kinda lost sight of my own identity, I donât know how to act (in neither the autistic or allistic ways) and donât always act in a âtypical autisticâ way (autism is a spectrum anyway, so there is no âtypical wayâ.)
I usually ignore people who âact autisticâ because I donât know them so who am I to say theyâre faking or not, but some people are being extremely obnoxious about it and it tends to make us all look bad.
Thank you!!!
This kind of people are definitely faking.
There will always be people who will fake something to be trendy and get attention for themselves because they enjoy it, and an unfortunate person is someone who points the faker out but isn't believed.
she could be autistic, like pretty likely actually, girls start masking way earlier in life and how autism presents is much different from person to person. one person may have sound sensitivity while another may seek out extremely loud noises.
@10gracie30 yup.
But there will always be people who will fake something to get attention for it because they enjoy it.
Iâm so proud of him for popping off like that. As. He. Should. đ
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Ok, hot take, but maybe sheâs been masking for a while, and now that sheâs been diagnosed, she feels more comfortable with doing the things sheâs wired to do.
Just to be clear, saying âbecause I have autism, and I donât do that, you canâtâ is 100% not ok, but calling someone a âbasic bitchâ for something they identify as is also 100% in the wrong no matter who they are or what they did.
Edit: okay, so just to clarify further, i am not justifying the âfakeâ autistic girlâs actions, Iâm just saying that the way the op narrated her as a fake autistic person is harmful to the autistic community and people thinking that they have to or donât have to act a specific way all their lives in order to be diagnosed as autistic.
Yeah that was my thought not personally knowing this person, maybe she was masking & now feels more comfortable. But it could be that sheâs faking & just trying to be quirky, I donât know enough about the situation to say.
I love how op says I've known my neighbor since we were six so? You're only seeing one side of a person it really bothers me when people say I've known this person for x amount of time but do you really know them?
Autism is not something you identify as. It may be on a spectrum but you either have it or you donât. Just because Iâm extremely forgetful doesnât mean I get to âidentifyâ as someone who has dementia.
Yea and he's 17. Having autism does not make you an expert, he can be the authority on his autism. but luckily a 17 year old boy doesnt get to decide who is autistic enough to count. She could have gotten diagnosed late, I've heard of a lot of women who have autism that don't get diagnosed until they children who are on spectrum. They thought they were just weird or sensitive but now they're getting help and access to coping skills. It's really shitty when people play the struggle Olympics. She could totally be faking it but autism is harder to diagnose with women. I feel like a lot of my friends could have gotten help sooner if everyone wasn't so focused on playing the struggle Olympics. When I was born you weren't "autistic" unless you stopped talking or never did and needed a wheel chair. Imagine how shitty the world would still be if that was the case?
@@abbybrown638 exactly!
As someone with autism I find the fakers appalling. Everyday is a struggle, because I get very easily overstimulated. Luckily my teachers and friends are nice about it.
Definitely not the bad apple. Whenever someone fakes a disability, I want to give them that disability, and about a dozen others, most of them physical and related to physical trauma
People should not be faking disability because it is not funny to make fun of someone my friend is autistic and if she saw this it wouldnât be funny because that actually hurts people you are definitely not the bad apple
Afab possible autistic here (runs in the family, been doing a lot of research but not officially diagnosed)
I feel like I've been masking since the day I was born, (which logically is inaccurate because masking is caused by social norms being forced upon you, but that's neither here nor there)
One of the only ways I felt comfortable stemming was; rapid blinking and picking at my skin. I forced myself to be still, to try to be like the normal girl, now I'm not even a girlâĄ
Trying to force myself to stem when I never let myself do it before, letting myself make weird noises, weird faces! Mandatory masks helped me unmask lol
Now I barely make facial expressions or change my tone of voice, because I realized I was queuing myself to do it.
I'm not sure if you need any of this information for me just to simply say: anyone who did any research before self-diagnosing, would know that every autistic person is different. Different needs with different intensities, and many different ways to stem and cope. I don't know whether or not that woman's autistic but she certainly is a bitch.
Autism, OCD, and some other personality disorder I donât remember all of them almost all have the exact same symptoms so itâs best not to self diagnose neuro disorders at all
See a professional. I spent 40 years trying to behave like "everyone else" before I was finally diagnosed with ADHD. Having the diagnosis didn't immediately change everything, but it helped me piece a lot of things together and gave me direction in home to properly manage some of the issues I'd been dealing with for years.
Runs in my family too! Lmao. As far back as my grandparents on both sides.
also runs in my family, 2/3 cousins have it and so does my brother. I haven't got a diagnosis yet because I don't exactly have 3k to spare, but I hope to eventually.
Say it for the people in the back
Not at all as I kinda know the feeling. As was I the bad apple in this story?: I know someone for years who has sezers at times and I am one of the few knows what to do about it when it happens since I have seen the student have them. Which means I end up having most of my classes with the student. So one day this other student who knows about the sezers too pretend to have one when we had a sub just to get noticed. None of the students found it funny and the sub was caught off guard. So after class I punched him and I got away with it. Mostly because the other student wanted to do the same but I beat them to the punch. Lucky though the student who actually got them wasn't at school.
the boy doesn't seem to know that girls mask way earlier (complely possible that she started at age 5 before meeting him) and girls express autism extremely differently than boys. let alone the extreme differences from one person to another.
As someone who had 3 seizures in the past, thatâs literally not funny at all and I wouldâve punched them too
I only had seizures because of antidepressants (I went off them though after that happened) but they were still very scary
I donât have trauma from them but my mom says she does. I do get very uncomfortable when remembering it though, as like I said, it was very scary
I'm autistic, and if she was actually faking it, you're not the bad apple
As someone whoâs had autistic friends and has an autistic cousin, this behavior is unacceptable. Itâs very mean and also considered bullying. You canât just identify as a disability and act like itâs all okay
I hate it when people just declare themselves adhd or ocd, both of which I actually have been diagnosed with. And mine are fairly minor, so I can only imagine how this guy must have been.
When your affliction becomes a competition.
You are actually a good person in the situation so donât blame yourself you were just standing up
As a with autistic from sweden this make me sad đąđ for real
Iâd say crab apple. Itâs REALLY hard on this one. While I NEVER agree with faking a disability for attention and I know itâs popular for some reason. His choice of words couldâve been better, again. I totally understand where heâs coming from but still.
One thing that immediately sparked in my head is parental neglect
As a diagnosed autistic person, SHE DESERVED IT.
kinda conflicting since most of the time when someone is faking something like that itâs because of another thing going on. doesnt give an excuse but just be careful what youâre saying.
Iâm on the higher end of the PDD NOS side of autism, which I apparently was diagnosed with when I was 4 years old in 1997, and I didnât even know I had until I was 27 in 2020, and my god, this makes me FURIOUS!
Autism is something weâre born with and canât control, it is NOT something you personally choose to âidentifyâ with. She deserves all the flack she gets far as Iâm concerned.
No, you are not the bad apple, you are a legend
As someone who is autistic, has autistic friends, and autistic family, this hurt, and not lightly
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Sometimes I really don't understand why people feel the need to pretend to have something, that they very well know that they don't have, just for a really short moment of attention..
I understand what he feels. I have argued with the people who identify as autistic without even trying to get a diagnosis. when I started talking about sensory overload and mental breakdowns they soon shut up lol
I hate people like that, I have autism myself which I was only finally diagnosed with recently (I'm 21) I understand not knowing until then but to completely change things about yourself and act it is a whole different story
Completely changing, how you act can also deal with unmasking. So if her changing behavior really was as sudden as OP made, it seem, then itâs probable that she is faking. However, if it was actually gradual overtime, then itâs still possible that sheâs not faking and is actually autistic, but just a jerk because what she said was not OK whether sheâs autistic or not.
Iâm also autistic btw
As a person with autism, ocd, and adhd this makes me furious because I see this stuff everyday and get made fun of every day for my disabilities this is not a joke ppl
I had autism and walked on my toes bc thatâs a autism trait and I could not stop everyone thought I was faking and would even push me to get me to go on my flat foot to âexspose meâ and always said I was seeking attention and compared me to other autistic ppl in the school and said how I could not be autistic (btw I used to go to a autism school and I was professionally diagnosed) they felt so stupid when I got casts for my feet which proves I was not faking
She girl who "was faking it" most likely masked for years and now finally feels comfortable being who she is
Ikr! I thought so too
Yup! This makes me so upset on her behalf, honestly! Her joining the bullies wasnât cool but nobody should be trying to gatekeep Autism especially when someone may be unmasking for the first time which can be incredibly liberating but challenging process as it is.
Bruh I have autism and I canât stand the fact people do this. Even having autism I donât point it out every 5 seconds. Iâm so tired of people like that girl just thinking itâs ok to fake autism and I just canât stand it anymore.
As someone with a brother who has autism this make mad tbo
My issue is when did it become trendy to have mental disorders ? My step son is on the low spectrum of autism and I still can see the irritation or difficulties he has living with the lower end of it . Breaks my heart , these people are so chronically uninteresting that they want attention and to be different any way they can .
The voice though- đ
With autism myself I am furious. Autism shouldn't be something to joke about and is DEFINITELY not some people should fake for attention. I have officially given up on humanity
I think this is a double edged sword because some people really do fake it I have somebody at my school who faked dyslexia
Or how Ticsandroses made an entire social media presence based on faking Tourettes.
True. I had really bad depression and suicidal thoughts for years, and my Dad thought I was faking until I recieved counselling. (The counselling started because of my tendency to over share, but the depression and suicidal thoughts were definitely a more important issue. I'm a lot better now, no major incidents for a few years now.)
Why would someone fake dyslexia? I can't read when I'm tired and I'm a mom in school. It's not even trendy... it was so deep that I would not have children with someone with a family history of dyslexia cause I want my children to have a chance at being neurotypical, call that ableist if you want i dont care. I'm still gonna get her tested at 7 no matter what cause even though right now she's actually learning to read early I could just be teaching her to mask and that will not always work. I'm prolly not even gonna have another partly because of how I could not "mask" while I was pregnant, I did not have the energy. Some nights I had to call into work I was so tired I could not read, my brain wouldn't do it. It was a shit job and I ended up quitting to go back to school but still. It impacts my life in so many surprising ways I'm so shocked someone would fake it when it's not trendy or cool or even gets you that many accommodations.
as an autistic person people legit get mad at me when i say there is a growing social contagion of people self identifying as autistic for an aesthetic
MY EX FRIEND DID THIS TO ME TOO, I HAVE AUTISM AND SHE ONLY STARTED ACTING WEIRD AT THE START OF THE SCHOOL YEAR BUT THEN WHEN WE ENDED OUR RELATIONSHIP SHE ENDED UP TELLING EVERYONE I KNEW THAT I WAS FAKING AUTISM AND ADHD
Crab đŠ but mor good than bad
I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!! Why just why?!?!?!?! Having a disability myself I hate it when people feel like they have autism or whateverđ€đđ€
I'm autistic and this pissed me off.
relatable.
i dont have any disorders or anything btw-
this gworl at my old school faked having ADHD and being Autistic.
one time she made me really uncomfortable and i just asked "why?" and she started crying
saying she has ADHD to make me feel bad đ
one time out of the blue she said she was autistic.
basically she said she has disorders to ither make ppl feel bad or she wants alot of attention.
she tend to act like she was in an anime show and stuff-
she did rlly weird stuff too..
I wasn't diagnosed with any form of the spectrum until I was in my 30s. My father just got his adhd diagnosis in his 50s. If you don't know, don't talkđ
If she has never been said to be on the spectrum she needs to clean her act up
As an autistic person it upsets me to see
I totally agree with the teacher that is SO messed whatâs wrong with her!
I have had autism professionally diagnosed at the age of 7. This makes me so.. I donât even know what to call it. Itâs disgusting how people act like that, itâs a real struggle people have to deal with, itâs not something you want!
honestly this makes me uncomfortable. AFAB and undiagnosed in adulthood. I am seeking diagnosis and mask heavily. The thing is, it is extremely different in everyone and some kids are shamed for stimming by their parents. Or they don't feel they can safely do it in public but later realize its harming them to suppress it. I know some people do fake it but I don't like to just going around gate keeping.
in addition anyone faking something is still suffering from something else.
People in my school that Iâve known for a while have recently been over exaggerating autistic behaviours And it drives me insane. I am being tested for autism soon, and if i get diagnosed or not, i know how offensive it is to all autistic people. I display autistic behaviours, because I. Canât. Control. It.
I honestly give up with my generation đđ
Autism is not a thing to fake!!
My grandson is, and he has had a horrible time. I think this girl needs to see a therapist to get straightened out.
I had a horrible toxic "friend" who one day started purposely coping my stims and manerisims (I can't spellđ„Č) . This continued for the rest of the school year. One day I was talking about my ADHD and this "friend" said "Oh! I have ADHD too!" and then I asked "Oh, when did you get diagnosed?" This girl looked at me and said "I'm not diagnosed. I think I have it cause I do alot of the things you do. " that.... That's not how ADHD works
I like the only thing I took out of this is that I have something in common with OP. The blinking. Idk.
Anyways, good apple. They should not be able to act like that at all.
My sister (6th grade teacher) had a bad throat so she had a sub for the day, when she came back the next day she said the students were horrible talking and didnât do much work and told my sister that I was going to the bathroom at 7th period and I saw the teacher yelling at the students because they were talking in a group project and so I told my sister that my math teacher had a â sub report â that went through basic questions about the sub and this one girl wrote there were making their favorites animals and had to do something with it (donât remember) well she wanted to make it funny so she added a hamburger on top of the cat and the teacher saidâ this is one of the worst drawing Iâve ever seenâ and she went home crying and was throughout a horrible teacher saying shut up to the students and saying â I donât careâ to students who try to talk but happily she was banned from ever being a substitute again :> next Monday or Tuesday theyâre getting donuts
These trends of self diagnosis needs to stop
My bestie is very low on the Autism spectrum.
And if she saw this she would be 100% more angry at those pick me girls :(
But it is disgusting to behave like that.
Good Apple, these people are a nightmare and are becoming more common
Not the bad apple. I donât have autism but I do have Schizoid Personality Disorder which is similar in a few ways. I would have snapped too. Itâs not cool or trendy, itâs a struggle. Be proud of who you are. Thereâs no shame in having disabilities but thereâs no shame in not having them either. I kinda feel bad for this girl because she sounds really insecure but it seems like she got a much needed reality check.
I have recently been diagnosed with ASD that goes back to when I was younger.
I am still trying to process the news. It explains my childhood but I just feel like my life has completely fallen apart.
I hope you're doing alright, its a big change in self identity to find that out. I'd recommend possibly joining some forums or just finding some online communities to talk with :)
My brother is autistic and I have no sympathy for fakes who think their "special " or "quirky"
I love this kid
It's also a spectrum but all signs point to good exept the way reacted, but the reaction is esily classified as bad no matter what. Good apple!
It's very hard to tell when someone is making an autism diagnosis up because autism in people assigned female at birth is vastly under-researched. There are differences in how it presents even regardless of sex assigned at birth. And the girl could just have more mild symptoms. As outsiders we just don't know.
Because OP is a (presumably cisgender) boy and the girl in the story is a (presumably cisgender) girl, he just might not know the male/female difference in symptoms, even if he has known her for years. He may know her but not enough to be close. Nobody but OP can say.
BUT I will say that whether or not the girl is autistic, she should not have been participating in the ableist bullying. That is NOT okay even if you are autistic. That is perpetuating abuse and she should have been called out on it.
Not diagnosed, but when she said blinking hard, I started and now I canât stop đ„Č
Guess what females mask really well and it's possible a traumatic event caused her to stop masking .
or she got a diagnosis and is trying to stop masking, or she's just learned what masking is and is trying to stop. I agree with you there's just a lot more reasons to stop masking than just trauma.
Please correct your grammar!
Okay but that doesn't make it okay for her to bully the autistic boy for his autistic traits. If anything, she should be defending him.
More likely that itâs fake
I'm autistic and I think he'd be able to pick up on some of her behaviors if they've known each other since they were six? People don't really mask until they're older and realize their behaviors don't work well in public. So I do think it's more likely that she was faking it (and I've seen many people do it, or even have one behavior and assume it's autism immediately, it really pisses me off), especially if everything she was doing was really exaggerated, but it's absolutely possible that she stopped masking. Either way, she's a bully, and autism isn't an excuse for that.
Not autistic so I can't relate but I have terrible adhd and was diagnosed in 2nd grade. I have seen other kids say they have adhd to get out of trouble all the time when they don't and I know them well. It makes me furious when someone lies about a disorder to feel special or get out of stuff.
Allistic people can be so awful about usâŠ
I could just be it gets worse and she gets older that happened to me around when I turned nine it got really serious and I started struggling
As someone with autism this makes me furious autism is a serious thing that shouldn't be joked about this makes me question if humanity has braincells edit: I forgot to mention everyone experiences autism differently I myself am socially awkward unless I've known you for a couple years my brother also has autism who is in 8th grade struggles on simple words I have to help him most of the time (im in 6th btw)
Honestly, though I have never had split personalityâs i get so upset when people fake it. I swear after moon knight came out people started saying they have split personalityâs at my friends school at least. I know they are more then likely lying since the never switch personalitys and they name them out of anime characters? Itâs weird two people named them after anime characters. Then when they say something mean they go sorry that was my other personality saying that sorry it was star or something like that. This one named them after star moon and etc. they will act exactly the same for texting talking and everything else but then they do something stupid or mean and go sorry that was my other personality after you call them out.
I have a family history of autism and down syndrome, even my best friend is autistic, I was fortunate to not have either one, but I do have my own set of problems, I had this one friend (I'll call tallia to keep her identity secret) who constantly faked disorders, one of which being autism, and DID (desoseative identity disorder) she became super toxic, I am aware that disorders differ from person to person, but it was extremely clear that she was faking it, I didn't think to much of it at first and mostly just ignored it bc there wasn't really enything I could do, but the last straw was when she started baicically bullying my friend to the brink of an unalive attempt, and then blamed it on her other identity, and then threatened my autistic friend saying that she was going to kill there intire family, on top of that, she only acted these disorders when someone brought it up to her, or she thought she could use it to her own advantage, yea none of us are friends with tallia enymore, and my best friend has a retraning order
Narcissism, maybe?
When identifying yourself comes to another level
As someone with autism.. these kind of people infuriate me. Itâs actually really difficult to have autism. Even when itâs as low as level one like mine. Itâs not fun, cute and quirky itâs just something we have to live with. Exhausting
My brother has Autism, and he is one of the smartest people I know, and is kind too. He doesnt act terribly weird except under circumstances, because he is on the high functioning end. So, honestly, people who fake this shit annoy the fuck out of me
Nope he has all right to say that
As someone who has Autism and ADHD this is incredibly offensive because having Autism is so hard for me because I always get insecure about how a talk to much but the more I try to stop the more I push my friends away making them think Iâm weird and annoying. So someone thinking this is trendy makes me want to cry.
Manic pixie dream girls when self diagnosis:đđ€Ș
As someone with autism, thatâs so annoying that someone would fake that, and omg, Iâm glad she didnât fake a meltdown, cuz I have bad meltdowns, Iâll hit myself, and punch myself in the arms and legs, and I kick and scream, like Iâm 5 but the thing is, itâs my autism, but itâs so annoying to know people like faking autism for attention, like again, itâs a disability and not smth to joke abt
as someone who has never had an actual experience with an autistic person but did grow up with multiple disabilities, I would extremely offended if someone i know didnât have it started acting like they, avoiding contact sports and having extremely messed up speech.
For me, an autistic person who is currently in High School and have to deal with furries and toxic MHA fans, makes me kinda pissed off because when people fake autism, it isnât even particularly believable. I never couldâve imagined myself in a society where people act âautisticâ on a social media app just for attention, it hurts me to see that all the young men my age who fought for OUR generation have too see this.
I have autism too and there is a kid in my class that says all the time that he has autism on a daily basis but most of the time he just isnât listening even though he gets told something he still could but he says he has it too much like every 20 minutes he says it
my brother is autistic and im in the middle of getting a diagnosis, people like the girl in the video make it so much harder for people to take us seriously
I blink really hard because Idk I just have the urge to
Im 15 and i have autism i feel the pain of people doing the same thing to me
As an autistic teenage girl it shows signs from childhood. Even though girls can mask it and there is a huuuge spectrum. Random things don't just pop up. I had depression and wanted to off myself thats when I learned I was autistic and it put an entire puzzle together. People refuse to belive im autistic even though I am because I don't "act autistic " it comes in many forms pretending is obvious
thatâs exactly how I would be like
That is just wrong on her part! My 4 1/2 year-old is level three nonverbal autistic, and why in the world anybody would want to fake having something that disrupts so many peoples lives just amazes me. My little guy is absolutely amazing, but I would move heaven and earth to make him not have autism. I hate everything that he has to deal with. I think what I hate most is those people that act like they know everything about autism, and that it can be cured with diet, medication, or exercise, when they actually have no clue.
I went the majority of life not knowing I am autistic. I found out at 28 years old. It makes so much sense to me! I'm now 32... and some of my family just can't come to terms that I have a diagnosis. They actually told me to keep it a secret. I'm smart... but very shy I was always told "You're just quirky" or "socially awkward". It's hard to keep friends because people think I'm weird. I've been married 10 years... and my husband loves me no matter what. He understands why I hate fireworks and turtles neck sweaters... also germs! I have many obsessions and random facts but he enjoys my personality.
if she has atusim or not (i dont want to assume) what she said got me so mad