You’re Going to Quit Natural Hair (and I'm gong to tell you Why)
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- čas přidán 12. 09. 2023
- You're probably going to quit your natural hair... and I'm going to tell you why. I watched many "Why I Quit Natural Hair" videos and took notes to find the 5 most common reasons for giving up on natural hair. Do any of these reasons resonate with you? Have you ever considered quitting your natural hair? I want to hear your experiences in the comments!
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Natural hair became easy for me when I learned to accept my hair, stopped using a bunch of products, and learned proper detangling techniques. With proper detangling I can wash and condition my hair in 30-40 minutes. Plus I wash and wet my hair MORE. The longer I wait to wash, the more detangled the hair gets. Also, I've got like 5 or 6 styles that I rotate through and feel my most prettiest in. Bam easy.
Thanks for sharing!!
What styles? How do you detangle? Do you know your porosity, density, and/or hair type?
@@carina9629 I have thick type 4 hair. I have no idea about porosity. Various stylists have told me different things and so I just don't know 😂 I know when my hair is dry and needs moisture and when it is good so the hair facts don't really matter to me.
I had a wash hour today and here is what I did and always do.
1. Take my hair out of previous style (high bun with added Marley hair) and wet thoroughly while finger detangling.
2. Shampoo all hair at once and continue finger detangling
3. Split hair into 4-6 sections and apply conditioner while continuing to finger detangle. THEN, detangle hair with denman 38 paddle brush.
4. Let conditioner sit while I wash, shave, etc.
5. Take all the clips out, rinse conditioner out
6. Get out of shower, apply leave in and grease if I'm not blowing the hair out
7. Style accordingly. Today was 2 cornrows down to a low bun in the back. (Other styles: high puff, sleek low bun, high sleek bun with Marley hair) (blowout styles: sleek low bun, sleek ponytail to the back and wand curl my ponytail hair that is left out, ponytail attachment from beauty supply store)
The 2 braids into a bun I have now could last all week if I wrap it every night but if it's getting dry I'll wet my hair and remoisturize on Wednesday or Thursday and go into a high puff possibly to finish out the week.
YEEEEES 💯
@@Mskyraelise Thank you for such a detailed response!! It sounds like you have your routine down pat -- amazing!!! I recently transitioned to natural so I'm stil figuring out what works with my hair
When I think about relaxing my hair again, I am reminded of all the horrible hair dressers I put up with for many years. The bad attitudes, the always changing their location, the mystery products, the I know what is best despite telling the stylist what my hair likes, to prices that are like "you kidding me right...". If nothing else I can always wash, condition and put my hair in a nice protective style.
COVID is what did it for me.
Trying to hit a Beauty Supply in a narrow window of time.
I agree!
I think the biggest thing that hurts the natural hair community is people wanting hair textures they don’t have. When I stopped styling my hair in ways that were different from my natural texture I started really loving my hair. A wash and go is a wash and work so I don’t do them. I started styling my hair in ways that allowed my natural curl pattern to remain so there was no reverting of the style when humidity hit my hair. I also just accepted that once a week or twice a month I’m going to need to set aside 2 and a half hours to do my hair. Be realistic. Stop following people with looser hair. And find styles that compliment your actual hair texture and curl pattern so your style lasts. Oh, and actually learn how to take care of your hair. Healthy hair is the best hair.
Thanks for sharing
I love doing my hair. To me wash day is a pampering session. I love trying DIYs..experimenting. I enjoy the failures too....challenges me to find out what works...its a journey for sure. My hair tells me what she likes and dislikes....its amazing ❤
Thanks for sharing!!
Same !
You see what most ppl see as bad about natural hair, in a positive way,I feel like if we all were able to approach it that way , it would make it a way better experience. Which everyone’s situation with kids,time , texture etc is different..so we have to find what /how that can be specific to us individually.
Girl Yesss🙌🏾 I’m a 4c Natural, and my hair is Absolutely Stunning🙌🏾🙌🏾 I love wash days, it’s Therapeutic, and allows me to Analyze and Baby my Hair. I love the way my hair looks and feels when it’s Dry and Wet. My Curls are Sooo Pretty🙌🏾🙌🏾 I went Natural 10 years ago, and I’m Loving it…
I loved my hair before peri menopause, I DETEST doing my hair. I’m keeping it so real! And I have fine but super coily hair…
I don’t understand why influencers can’t have the confidence to make life decisions without trying to convince their followers to do the same. Just because you went back to relaxers doesn’t mean that all other naturals will
😂😂😂 Tell me you didn’t watch the video without telling me you didn’t watch the video
@@ALove4MeI'm dead 😂😂😂
@@ALove4Meto be fair, you wrote a clickbaity misleading title sooooo
But why comment if you didn’t watch? People have the free will to ignore the video all together. To be fair, I can only assume people who don’t watch and comment with no context want attention 🤷🏾♀️
@@ALove4Me wouldn't it be more fair to say that people who write clickbait titles, like yours, want attention more so than folks who read the clickbaity title and comment on it because they are so thrown off by it? Like how are you going to come at someone for want you incited? You could have chosen a title that is aligned with your message, you consciously chose, instead, something that you knew would be provocative to drive people to the video. Some accountability would be nice. It doesn't have to be an argument - this is an opportunity to reflect for future. You don't need clickbait.
I don't consider braids quitting natural hair I wear braids all the time its and it's apart of my heritage
Same
me neither !! it’s a protective style with extras ❤
First off, I am in a LOVE AFFAIR WITH MY HAIR!!
I started my natural hair journey in 2017, started making my hair myself in 2018, Mastered Wash n Go in 2021, got to bra strap length in 2021, had major set back due to pregnancy, postpartum, miscarriage and anaemia, did my big chop to 6 inches in 2022 and almost a year later, I'm close to my scapula.
These are the lessons I've learnt so far:
1. Healthy body produces healthy hair.
2. Consistency and Patience is utmost.
3. Not all hairstyles will fit into my book.
4. I have multi texture which ranges from waves, to curls, to kinks, to coils, zig zag, straight etc.
5. Climate and environmental factors, density, style of choice and texture affect the choice of style and products I use.
6. I invest in good tools to make my work easier. I don't follow fear mongers.
7. I also invest in products that help make my job easier, hair smoother and conditioned and grow. I don't follow politics and fear mongering
8. I follow rooted and grounded people in the Science and Art of Natural hair.
9. I educate myself voraciously for the benefit of my hair.
If you are not in Love with your hair, you would find it difficult to maintain it.❤
Thanks for sharing
@@ALove4Me 🙏🏿
Truth😊
No lies spoken.❤
I think self hatred still plays a big role here. If you still find straight or loose hair the top of the beauty standard, youre gonna be affected by your natural hair not fitting any of those. I find that this particular natural hair movement differs from the 60s and 70s bc major Black female stars wore 4c twas with full confidence and they looked great. I find many of us dont think short 4c hair is beautiful or 'done'. And we are allowing outsiders to define done, pretty, and presentable in a space that is supposed to be FUBU!
Since going no butters no oils, my hair has THRIVED. And I discovered that we believe so many myths about tightly coiled hair. We see it as coarse, rough, needing to be tamed and beat into submission. Imagine discovering its just as fragile and needing a gentle touch as any other hair? Blew my mind. Didnt think I could walk outside with no raw oils in my hair. Boy was I WRONG. Even my plaque psoriasis cleared up! I struggled for years with painful, red, bleeding plaque psoriasis. Im so pleased with the simplicity of my new regiment. I see complicated and tiring regiments are a result of expectations and sometimes self hatred, and sometimes the perception that straight hair is easier to maintain. And its not true. Look how long these girls take to wash wigs, dye em, press em, melt em, curl em, etc. That too can take an entire day. Hanging out that fake hair all over tables, hanging it up like expensive garments, all that space required for that. Its not easier to maintain. You are willing to put in the effort bc you think its worth it. You adhere to that beauty standard.
But you have to consider that although the straight and fake hair takes just as long to maintain, the result is one that they like. Where as, going through the process of natural hair and it not coming out as desired is discouraging. I understand where you are coming from, and clearly I know my hair well, but I wanted to offer you another perspective
right exactly. It's not about natural hair being too much work for those people, it's about them not liking the look. Which they should just say that. Self hatred plays a very obvious role but it's hard to have honest conversations in this era because we all have to support whatever women do in the name of "choice feminism". We have to "if you like it I love it' each other to death
@Neferfifi21 PERIOD! If you are disappointed that your hair isn't coming out like YOU WANT and it's causing you to want to risk fibroids using a dangerous chemical treatment, YOU HAVE NOT ACCEPTED WHAT YOU HAVE. What you desire with your current expectations has to be examined thorougly! You dont like your natural hair. You're trying to live up to something that you can't.
I stopped doing twistouts, bantu knot outs, braid outs, etc! I fell in love with my own natural curl pattern and texture. It is pleasing to me and it is GORGEOUS. My hair is THICK! I MEAN THICK! DENSE! SOFT! A pretty almost JET BLACK CLOUD! I like it for what it is, AS IT IS!
I used to get told all the time, WHAT ABOUT THEM WHITE FOLKS AT YOUR JOB? WHAT THEY GON SAY? DONT LOSE YOUR JOB... AINT LOST ONE YET! AND AINT STUTTIN THEM NOT ONE BIT EITHER. **EYEROLL!**
My hair has also thrived since I stopped using oils and butters and my scalp is doing wonderfully after having such bad scalp issues most of my life.
Yes. Agree with every single point you made about the lies we tell ourselves about our hair being too much work.
You can wash your hair every 5-10 days and spend no more than Teo hours. It takes all day for some people because it all the shingling and manipulating they are doing to their hair.
I do my wash and go in the shower and it takes 5 mins to detangle my hair, and maybe 20 max to do the rest.
We need to stop the cap about this ‘too much work’ nonsense
@@Neferfifi21Black people, women especially, need to learn that they don’t understand every other black woman and their motives. You making assumptions and being judgmental about strangers won’t help anyone who may actually have issues accepting themselves. It is not self-hatred to not like the look of your hair, it’s just that you don’t like the look of your hair. And yes, natural hair is more work, plain and simple. Some of us don’t have time to spend 4+ hrs on just our hair. Hair length and density play a huge role in how much time it takes to style hair. And it’s beyond frustrating to spend 4hrs washing, detangling and styling my hair for a bit of humidity to ruin it in minutes. I’m not about to glue some Brazilian woman’s edges to my head or do quick weaves or whatever else and act like I’m better than those who relax. Just let people live their lives and wear their hair how they want. As long as no one is banging down your down and forcing a relaxer on you, you’ll be alright.
If fake hair never existed. This would be a different conversation.
Maybe. I think people have a very hard time accepting that overall there are people who just don’t like doing their hair
Facts
@ALove4Me Agreed. I am one of those people who get no joy from doing my hair. I've always hated it. Relaxed or natural I just don't like it. I think my hair in its natural state is beautiful but the amount of effort i have to put into maintaining its health is a lot.
@@msb7902same here, I never liked hair like that. I don't do wigs or weave because I don't like hair. I'm always cutting it after I reaches a length
If colonialism didn't exist this wouldn't be a conversation.
Everything changed for me when I started medschool. You literally have NO TIME for all this. I was forced to think of my hair as an extension of my body (I know it’s a literally part) just like my nails, lashes, teeth etc vs how I used to think of it which was as a responsibility. Now, I’m more in love with my hair. I understand my hair and I know what it’s going to look like when I attempt a style. Now, I attempt a style because I like it not because I want to achieve a certain curl type with the results
Rather than look at my wash hour and night routine as a burden, I now see it as things every woman who cares about her look does. Upkeep! Some may say I’m biased cuz I have long and dense hair, but I truly think this can apply to women with natural hair of any length (medical conditions exempt). I have had quite a journey and am at peace with my hair now. It is an extension of my body not a responsibility. My hair owes no one anything
Love you perspective
I have natural hair and I love doing my hair cuz he give me time enough to get to know my hair and I read all different kind of ways and on my wash day take my time and wash my hair and my hair be soft when I do it cost there is the product that I used I stick to the same product that I use when I first started going natural I've been nothing there for the last 3 years and I love doing my hair
Love this❤
Love this!!!
Law school killed the 6 hour hair day for me. My goal is 2 hours or less, once a week, routines and systems be damned.
I will never quit doing my natural hair. I love my coils.
Being natural for almost 8 years with hair that's almost waist length, I keep my routine very simple. I shampoo 2x, finger detangling for the 1st session put my hair in twists to focus on my scalp for the 2nd session, and deep condition it for 15 to 25 minutes with heat. After that, I rinse my deep condition out and do my moisture routine. Tie my hair up in a t-shirt and let it sit for an hour before blow drying with my RevAir, which takes a little under an hour. My whole wash day process is literally under 3 hours. After I blow dry, I just put my hair in four chunky flat twists until I'm ready to put in my protective style, which is usually mini twists. I don't mind having to do my hair. My mini-twists take me 6 hours to do. I make sure to watch movies or series. This way, I don't get frustrated.
how long do you leave your twists for and how often do you wash your hair, do you also have a heat routine. your routine seems legit.
@@talk2mambie I wash my hair once a month. I leave my twists in for 4 weeks. In between wash days I refresh my scalp with rose water and massage. It helps to reduce itching and build up.
Thanks for sharing!
@@ALove4Me you're welcome 😊
I think I'm going to be changing something. I just don't know if I will be a blow dried natural or texlaxed.
As I read through the comments, it's definitely refreshing to know that most of us enjoy doing our hair and we genuinely want to do what's best for our hair as well. This video provided solid reasons why a person may grow fatigued when doing their natural hair, however it also provided many many ways to overcome it. There's no right or wrong there's just what you decide to do with your hair. Just happy to see so many naturals embracing their strands 😊😊😊
Absolutely!!
Love this video and the transparency! And the nails, so cute! But your observations are what I've seen lately on CZcams as well. It always makes me a little sad to see people "quit" and throw relaxers back in their hair, only because of the negative health correlations to cancer and fibroid tumors. However, I'm glad you're vocalizing the difference between the hair and the effort to take care of it. I'm always here to support a safe space where we can be honest with ourselves.
As soon as they relax then they start complaining about how the hair has no volume!
Then they start doing 6 month relaxer stretches yet complaining about shedding and breakage. Make it make sense. Honestly natural hair is sooo easy. I love shampooing literally daily. It’s a breeze. I got tired of protective styling and a bunch of rules yet my hair suffered.
Same. The health risks related to relaxing are too significant to ignore
@@tmcurly
Or they throw the wig back on without skipping a beat.
@@tmcurlyEXACTLY 💯
I’m over the idea of “done” hair because it usually means contorting your hair into styles that cause pain and tension. Something about braids, pony tails, and wigs have always seemed like self induced pain that black women feel the need to endure to be seen as beautiful. Even if the style isn’t overly tight, it is still more stress on the hair and scalp than letting your hair be free.
I don’t believe it’s as black and white as having “done” hair though. Theres a loooooot of nuance involved there.
My hair in particular has a few different textures which look crazy in a shrunken state. Genetics play a major role here. That being said. There’s good and valid reasons why we have hair stylists and why we get our hair “done”
One is to help keep our hair looking more uniform in curls or texture. Especially woman like me with multiple textures and crazy shrinkage.
Which is why many women opt for a relaxed or blown out styles. The end goal wasn’t to “hate” , control or cause pain. The end goal was to have a uniform hair pattern. They “like” and prefer how their hair looks with uniform texture. It’s aesthetically pleasing. Just like if you braid your own hair most likely you prefer EVEN parting as opposed to uneven parting.😅
Also think of why men go get haircuts, or why people go to the dentist, or to the get lash extensions, or to their nails done or even to get facials.
Society likes to thinks that they “hate themselves” but in actuality it’s simply grooming themselves for a more uniform aesthetic.
I do agree with you that beauty doesn’t have to equate to pain.
Exactly which is why I wear my hair in old fashion curls again and it is healthier and scalp is healthy.
literally so accurate some will look down on you for not wanting to participate in the self inducing painful process 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I have been natural for 3 years & was relaxed for 35 + years. My scalp changed & immediately I knew my relaxer & coloring days were over. It is so ironic....I could not see myself w/o a relaxer & now I can't ever see me not being natural. I love the texture & everything about it actually. I also embraced my silver strands & what a relief to embrace the real natural all of me. I consider myself a lazy natural..99 percent of the time twist up & out on damp or dry hair. Since I don't let anyone touch my hair, I purchased the revair when I want a stretch & when I want something different I use my flex rods or braid out. I use the same 4 products, wash twice a month & it stays nice because I refresh nightly. Most weekends I keep my twist in & wear a silk scarf with my twist hanging down. I dust my ends as needed & any ssn. I enjoy doing my hair & feeling put together for I work outside my home. I also will never cut my hair again & looking forward to keeping my scalp & strands nourished & flourishing the best I can. I enjoyed your post & reading the comments. I wish everyone well with their journey!
Thanks for watching!
This video really resonated with me. I’m a natural that’s still enthusiastic about the journey and trying to retain length to reach waist length. I realized when I kept my routine simple, I’m more likely to do it. I got swept up with doing the most and that’s when I neglect my hair. All my friends don’t wear their hair because they feel it’s too complicated to deal with and I partly blame the natural hair movement for that.
Yep, simple is a recipe for success!
@Unknown-xq5km Twist all day, every day. I use the same products, very basic.
I almost quit my natural hair before it fully got off the ground. On the other side of this coin, I was the curly who thought I was supposed to have kinky hair. I wanted thick, lush, kinky coily hair! I big-chopped several times because I was confused as to why my hair wasn't growing in kinky. I thought my hair was so heat-damaged that it was growing out of my scalp that way (I know how ridiculous that sounds). Imagine my surprise when after the 3rd big chop, my hair was still loose curls. SMH. I was low-key mad about it and seriously wanted to quit. I wanted to wear braid-outs, my hair won't braid-out. I wanted twist-outs. My hair won't hold a twist out. I wanted to use oils and butters. They dry my hair out. Now that I've excepted myself through my own self-inflicted texturism, I love my new short wash days and only use 3 products. I'm still bonding with my hair, but at least we understand each other and I won't "quit" her. We need each other. 🥰 Love the video!
randomgrannie. Lol! I thought I was the only one who’s hair doesn’t hold twist outs. I can only wear wngs. It took time for me to learn my hair, it’s needs, and to use the right products that work for it. I wear wngs everyday and I’m fine with that!
YEEEEES!!!! "At least we understand each other" 😁😉😁 That's the most important thing!
Girl, same. I thought I had heat damage 😂 kept cutting it. Then after a loss my hair stopped growing as fast (stress). Never cut it again
This happened to me with front half of my hair (im multi-textured). I cut my hair twice and stopped all heat, then realized my hair naturally grew that way 😂. I was pissed that I could get cute coily bangs.
I resonate with this. I have different curl patterns on different parts of my head, but all coarse hair. My hair never smooths, and only some of it will curl. Dreadlocks worked well on my coarse hair, because it will definitely lock on itself even areas that aren't coily, though the coils lock the most easily and in the smallest locs. Now that I'm wanting to wear my hair without dreadlocks for a change, I'm noticing how hard this combination is to do much else with. These days I just blowout with revair to keep the ends stretched and avoid single strand knots, and then put in a couple of large flat twists or french braids, then either wear that out or cover with a wig. Plan to try a keratin treatment soon to see if that will finally give me a smooth enough finish to wear a loose straight style, but the wash n go for me never looks like anything.
Managing expectations is such a HUGE part of things like this most definitely.
Well I’m a straight natural now. Don’t really care for heat damage, it’s just hair. I don’t have the patience for my natural hair anymore, so I’ll just wear it straight. I’m not someone who is really into hair care routine. Like you said I just want my hair to be presentable.
Glad you figured out what works for you
So true! Im so thankful my mom kept my hair natural until I started middle school, I was able to know my hair texture and knew what I had before I went natural again 20 years ago. Many people got relaxed to young, and thought their hair was going to look different then what grew out.
Many people hopped on the trend, for the trend and not for the love the hair.
It really comes down to self expectance.
This was me. My mom relaxed my hair in elementary school and when I went to high school, I wanted to transition to natural because all the other girls were doing it online. This was back in the 2010s. I have 4c hair and hated it. It didn't help that my whole family (including parents and family friends) made fun of me or called me ugly when I already had low self-esteem as a teenage girl.
I ended up wearing my hair in braids back to back and never wore my hair out. In college, I locked my hair and really loved it. Now I've had locs for almost 10 years. I sometimes think about going back to loose natural now that I'm older with more confidence. But I still enjoy my locs too.
Thanks for sharing!!
@@lemoncat9213im so sorry this happened to you 😢
Really appreciate you broaching this topic, thank you! Once I came to the realization that I hated the process of twisting/braiding/etc. to keep it stretched, it clarified for me that I don't hate my hair, I've just not been willing to wear it exclusively in a shrunken state. I admit I continue to struggle with shrinkage because while I love my texture (kinky, coarse, "4c"), I become bored when the progression of length retention is not immediately evident. I've always loved to use my hair as an additional fashion accessory, so having it appear to be in the same style at the same length (though it is of course just growing and then shrinking) for extended periods of time frustrates me. It feels as though my self expression stops at my crown instead of extending through it. For now, blowouts each wash day are really helpful so that I can keep it stretched and find some joy in playing with top knots, updo's, pony's, and even fluffy Afros closer to the next wash day. Seriously considering that RevAir tho (and thank you for the review!); I'm even too lazy for a traditional blow-dry session lmao. Thanks again for keeping it a buck and opening up this space for this community to be honest and vulnerable. Very grateful for you and your channel.
Thank you for sharing!
Me sitting here with a dry dusty twistout, feeling all the way called out 😅
😂
I relaxed my natural hair in 2020 and instantly regretted it. Last year I decided to transition and cut off all the relaxed ends this past August. Over the past year I took the time to learn about natural hair care for my hair. I watched a ton of Anthony Dickey tutorials and now my wash and go is amazing. I’m no longer aversed to hydrating my coils two to three times a week. I do my own protective styles but don’t keep them in longer than three weeks. Developing a simple routine and keeping my hair hydrated has made a world of difference.
I've learned to love my kinky hair. I've gone from a wash day to a wash hour. It has to do with the products I've learned to use, the way I use the products, and embracing my 4c loveliness. You speak the truth. Companies have made BANK off the heads of Black Women! No one will accept our natural hair until we accept our natural hair.
I like what you said “no one who speaks in absolutes has your best interest in mind”
You said a WHOLE WORD! Love it...I resonate with this message.❤
So glad!
This video is so timely. I have been feeling the same way. I love my curly hair and I don't mind my wash day routine, because it only takes 3 hours from start to finishing under the hooded dryer, but I too need a break. Maybe if I had of found a good curly hair stylist where I live I might not be so ready for a change. My change will never push me towards relaxers or perms though.......whatever I do I still want to work with my texture. I realized many years ago its hard to work against what is natural.....trying to straighten something that just wants to curl is not natural. Thanks for sharing. Your content is always on point.
Great points. The question of where you want to put your energy is a lovely guide.
Thank you!
LOL you're so real for this! I'm literally looking into getting micro braids next week because I AM TIRED, CHILD.
I feel you! We all do so much in life. Something has to give, and that thing shifts from time to time
When I went natural in 2015 after being relaxed for 37 years, it was a serious eye opener. I had no clue how to take care of my own natural hair which I thought was a same. I followed CZcamsrs with beautiful thick hair that was nothing like mine. I bought a cabinet full of products and used no silicones, co-washed, etc. I hated my hair. Once I started listening to my hair, we became friends and I love my hair and will never go back to a perm. My wash day now is a little more than 2 hours which includes my 30 minutes deep conditioning. I do get tired sometimes but wigs i don’t do. I only do braids for vacations. For me, the hardest part is getting started.
Thanks for sharing
Thank you for talking on this subject . You have to be happy with yourself .Everyone should do what’s best for them
Exactly
Love the content! Love the community and the format
I Love my natural hair. I was natural until age 23, went relaxed for years and when I returned to natural, I never looked back. There are many, many natural styles.
I loved my hair in small dreadlocks for decades. I cut/combed out my locs a little over a year ago and still struggling to find something else I love. Now I'm just coping, but still not wanting to go back to the same style I wore for 24 years.
Embrace the journey and have fun with it. No need to restrict ourselves too much. I have 4c and I shampoo every other day and wear an Afro everyday, my hair does not break, shed or tangle and it’s easy to manage xx
Mini braids
I felt this! When I was natural, I wore braids religiously. Some of my friends didn’t even know what my hair looked like. I work out pretty hard 4-5 days a week, so if it wasn’t in braids, whatever I did to my hair would be undone. I've noticed people are either locking or relaxing.
Thanks for giving us so many reasons not to quit our natural hair ❤
You are so welcome!
The natural hair movement has definitely changed. Sadly, the space has completely changed. I loved the Heyday of the community as well. You touched on so many great points about the community. Thanks for this amazing video and for being in this space!! 😍🙌🏾
Thank you for watching!
I installed locs 8 years ago and never looked back. I was never a fan of my 4c texture. But now i love it when the locs have grown out and the roots are thick and spongy. Ive even embraced my silver. I added loc jewelry to enhance my locs. I get the most compliments when it's at its need a retwist state and not manicured.
Thanks for sharing!!
I enjoy doing my hair but I keep it simple and I don’t do the most.
I can’t imagine a all day 5-6hrs. I’d be tiiied to if that was my process.
Great video!
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you for saying this out loud. I don't hate my hair, but I def do get tired of maintenance. So I cycle through phases where I do the minimum and/or favor a simple up style just because I need a break. This entire video is like a much needed sigh of relief. 🙌🏾
Thank you!
That’s why I I ally got my locs. I love my hair but the beauty work required to keep it healthy (detangling, protective styles etc) and aesthetically acceptable to society was wearing on me. Now I’m two months locd and loving the journey
I love this video……I needed to hear this so I can start appreciating me! Thank you!
So glad!
You spoke straight facts about everything!
Thanks for watching!
Love this commentary
Love your unbothered OG vibe
I'd love to hv you as a hair advisor...
I appreciate that
Excellent video! Thank you!
Glad you liked it!
I kinda' think 2 people forget that being in the salon, even doing your own perms still take HOURS!!! Hair salon 3-5 hours and a perm 2!!! It takes love, practice and patience...
Love the hair the creator gave you and love yourself. DON’T POISON YOURSELF with perms and toxic bleach. Less is more when you have real self care and self esteem
Well 'naturals' dye their hair alllll the time LOL.. But they think they're natural. That's funny.
Hi young sis, I loved this message! You are so on point! I really had to join because I think you should have so many more viewers that engage w/ you-at least a couple hundred thousand. May your channel continue to grow & you just blow up and see a financial benefit because you really are helping others. I haven't had any chemicals on my 4c hair since before most of you all were born and there wasn't all the products that we have today. FYI, I'm 65 & have been natural for 27 years (since 1997). I have to say, that sweeping baby hairs is madness (like caterpillar eyelashes), especially when I see edges gone and women are sweeping hair all the way from 1 to 2 inches from their natural hair line. Who are they fooling? Just stop, you are doing nothing more but a type of combover (lol)! Those 2 things need to go the way of the dodo bird! But, thanks young sis for dropping serious knowledge because they need to know!! Blessings to you, Nela
Well timed, I’m celebrating my big 50th in November and I luv ereyting about hair my wash , cond and I find myself slipping and continue to buy hair products but finally mastered the (how) to but it does take time ✌🏾
That product junkie life loves to circle back and come at you when least expected
A year ago, I threw relaxer in my natural hair because I was ready for a change. It was cute, straight and flowing but I missed my curls and texture. I cut off the relaxer in May and Im back in love with my curls again.
Yaaaaye for you!
Welcome back
Mic drop at the end! It’s the chemicals that means you quit for me too! I myself too also love Afrikan Hair God. Because of him and other channels over the year and a half I have become a natural who went completely old school. I use cholesterol, hair grease, and I blow dry my hair regularly. My hair is doing well in my journey I would say. I’m definitely breaking all my previous rules but it feels good to do so.
I like having my 4c hair as adult (not a child). My problem is I can't style it to save my life. I go to salons or braiding places. The problem is neither one wants to do my hair. I have the salon trying to get me to put chemicals, dye it to make my hair more manageable as they claim. I finally stop going when she tried to made an appointment to cut it in a style I didn't want, and put a texulizer in it. I stopped going to the african braiding place because they would half do it. Yup that's right they told me to braid the rest of my hair and sent me on my way. I have no clue what I'm doing.
What! That’s wild
That IS Wild!
there's anew hair place i might try them.@@A_Wilson
Yep. I stopped going to the salon b/c I get substandard service too b/c ppl don't want to put in the work. My hair isn't 4c but it's very thick.
Geez! I am so sorry you had that experience that is terrible. It looks like you can only trust yourself with your crown. I am in the process of learning how to braid my own hair. They are way too aggressive with my hair and it hurts
Excellent video. I have been natural almost 4 years and I am enjoying the journey which has been truly insightful. It's sad to see so many people give on their hair journeys and in particular revert to relaxers. They are just not worth the health risks when there are other options available.
We are in a fortunate period where there a loads of products to choose from and at times the selection is overwhelming.
When I was a child hair grease was the only hair product available for Afro hair. I also think people are not willing to use use basic products such as grease which can work well on Afro hair.
Agreed! Ain’t nothing wrong with hair grease
New subscriber here hey 🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️
Love the topic. I loved everything your speaking about in this video. I'm that natural that learned to love her hair once I learned how to take care of my hair. I wasn't taught to take care of my care by my mom, because she didn't have my type of hair, so she couldn't. But CZcams has been a blessing. Learning to take care of my now bra strap length hair which stayed shoulder length for years because of breakage. Thanks to Now I Am Nappy, Curly Proverbz, Curly Chemistry, Hennasooq. Oh and Naptual85 (hope I spelled that right)
They all have helped me on my journey. I'm low porosity thick with 4c is my crown, 4b all over and 4a in the front.
Love that you found representation
Video responses were a time!! I say all the time there’s nothing new under the sun. Nothing y’all do surprises me anymore 🤣🤣
Exactly!!
I love my hair. And I love doing my hair. It took a while to figure it out but I finally have a routine and affordable products to do my hair.
Thanks for sharing!!
i love my natural hair. i didn't plan to go natural. i wore braids for years then one day didn't feel like sitting for 11 hours so i didn't. that was over 10 years ago. i find it easy to care for and i love the different styles and natural hair flatters me ❤
Well I tell you this, unless it’s a special occasion, I’m done with the wash n gos.
Tired of the single strand knots, tangling, and matting, and always having to wet/mist my hair to refresh the frizzy spots. By day 4 my wash n go looks dry and tangled and I always a sleep with my hair pinned up at night. Im tired of having to style my hair all over again after 3 or 4 days.
Now, I just wash and blow dry my hair on low heat. I keep it stretched. I can go 2-4 weeks in between wash day. I can easily get my comb through it and style it in a bun, or 2 braids, corn rows or whatever style I want. I put 4 braids in it at night and unravel them in the morning if I want to wear my hair out. Boom, done.
This video kept it all the way real ❤
Thank you!!!
20 years natural. I am lazy with hair, even when I relaxed them I just had no energy to look after them so they don't grow. I need to make more money to pay someone to wash them for me every two weeks and the maintenance in between. Yes, I need a personal hairdresser. A stay-in hairdresser who would style them every morning and anything in between.
My sister feels the same so she pays someone to do her hair regularly. Makes sense to me
I didn't like doing my hair when it was relaxed either, and that wasn't even much work overall. Still frustrating when it didn't come out right. I got braids to take a break and now I've been in protective styles for 2.5 years. I plan to tackle natural styles next year but I can't say I'm looking forward to putting more effort into my hair again 😂🤷🏾♀️
Too many people telling you what to do with your natural hair and they don't even wear their natural hair. I just don't know how to style my hair. I will continue to attempt styling it,though. 😂 I do have to say that I still have a lot to learn. ❤
I really like the thumbnail of the video and seeing the different ways you've worn your hair. To me cutting is also a way to quit with hair. Certainly helps with sanity if you're tired of doing your hair (altho added work of going to a barber or learning to cut it yourself). I bristle at people declaring all afro textured/kinky/very tightly curly hair unmanageable tho and I think that's my only issue when people announce their natural hair departure haha
I cut half off into a Fro-hawk and fell back in love with my hair. Lol!
@@marleyhill34 it be like that! Cutting my hair off was some of the most fun I had with my hair
@@Chromagens I am not a fan of detangling so I always cutting my hair, LOL! Normally it's just the ends but this year I shaved all the sides and back and just left the strip down the middle. Lol!
Thank you!
My main gripe with my natural hair is feeling like its more of a responsibility than anything else. The costs are a lot for me, as well as putting in so much effort to baby my hair without much reward? So many products, wash days and bad combos, just for it to still be dry as ever and fragile. I've spent so much money on "affordable" products and I'm tired of trying new ones. My hair is pretty "long" like maybe even nearly waist length now, I don't really check anymore, but due to shrinkage theres pretty much zero visual difference when dry. I thought I'd feel excited to finally experience long hair but I don't really get to experience it besides more detangling and product used up. I don't even have the energy to style anymore and just wear my hair in two twists or a bun.
Cost is not a lot just wear it curled with 3 products and do it before bed and get it shampooed at student salon.
wash day products and styling products combined all cost alot@@ladybird491
@ladybird491 the cost is not a lot for you, but I absolutely agree. Between the cost of all the products that don't work and the time that I genuinely don't have, I'm about to shave my head. Not for a fresh start, just to get rid of it and not have it. I hate it. It makes me miserable. I don't have two hours every morning. I don't have time for my hair to take 9 (yes I've counted, literally NINE) hours for my hair to air dry. It's always dry and brittle and any time I go to a salon around me, they charge you over 100 dollars to chop it all off and say it wasn't worth saving. At a certain point, it makes you want to give up
@@theiwatobiicepick7673 you could think about heat training your hair.. super low maintenance
Great points
Thanks!
I have never not been natural, I have learnt some lessons over the years with my hair. And I do different things, during and after lockdown I kept my hair curly, in its natural pattern, wash n go’s were my thing, then when I had less time switched to protective styles, would literally do braids in succession and keep them in for 6-8 weeks, then recently I have gone straight natural, so most of the time my hair is straight, although I would only apply heat once every month or so, then maintain it, going back to protective styles again soon. There is so much to do with our hair now, and so much information, that whatever your schedule if you want to stay natural you most certainly can, and it will be manageable. But it’s still totally personal preference.
I was tired of my hair at some too. I was thinking to go back to relaxers but didn’t. Instead I tried a texturizer, did mini twist and mini braids. Eventually I big chopped after trying my first sew in. Now I miss my long hair 😢but I’m trying to love my hair in it’s short growing process.
My hair regimen that I've created for myself over the past 4 years now, is my therapy. Never quitting ts. but go off 😅
I have an under active thyroid and mild anemia from fibroids. I was able to improve my hemoglobin with supplements and diet. Once i was diagnosed with Hashimoto's and got on medication and made lifestyle changes, my hair improved drastically.
That's great!
This is interesting to me. I never thought about it this way but this is exactly what happened. After losing the 2 patches of my edges where the combs go on the wigs in the front, and the upkeep of buying wigs JUST to look "acceptable" and lose my edges. I was over it. Then after 3 years of wearing my loose natural hair; it just got to a point where i said "i literally dont have time for this" a FULL day of washing and redoing my hair after working 40 to 50 something odd hours a week...i told myself that doing my hair was my relaxation time and it worked for a while i did love it but the god honest truth was if i dont do my hair than im going to work looking a mess and at some point im going to damage my hair through breakage... basically it eventually just got to a point where none of this is feasible...i dont want to keep spending money on wigs or going to hair stylist every 1 to 2 months only to come out with damaged hair and i cant keep taking a full day every 2 to 3 weeks to maintenance my hair. So i loc'd it a little over a year ago. Now i can shampoo my hair every 2 to 3 weeks still but its 1 hour to the 16 to 18 hours i spent before. i retwist every 2 to 3 months and thats 2 hours of my time.. i did quit my natural hair. Its cheaper i spend like 15 bucks on shampoo probably every 6 months and 11 bucks on gel ever 6 months compared to the conditioners and deep conditioners that i RAN through like water but even that was cheaper than wigs. Because youd need all that stuff to maintenance your hair than the 200 to howver much wig then a whole separate set of products just for the wig...i never thought about all this before..talk about black girl magic how the hell do we find time for all this and raisie kids and get degrees...sheesh
Thanks for sharing
I love love my natural hair and i dont get tired of it or styling. i think the problem is the the 'type" or texture . everyone wants the looser texture etc.
I’m a heat train natural and I love it because it’s easy & my hair is actually growing & I have less split ends.
I love my hair and i love doing my hair. And i love it because of all of you that i have met on this journey who have taught me what to do and when im doing too much! But acceptance is the goal. My hair is bra strap length i think, 45% gray, one side is thicker than the other side. And i accept it all and work with what i have. I actually enjoy the thinner side because its easier to work with and creates less heat. Amd when it frizzes up noone can tell ajyway. Too much length is too hot and the hair ctaches on evevrything. Its really overrated. I also love access to my scalp which is so free and not itchy. Its the little things we take for granted. Keep it Simple Sistas and Love yourself. 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Thanks for sharing!
I've been natural since 2009 and never regretted it one single day! I had this beautiful hair all my life but hid it with constant relaxing. For me, relaxers were harder to maintain. I had to touch up the new growth. There was no way around it. It was impossible for my hair to be in a healty state because the chemicals took it so far from its original state. Having healthy relaxed hair is an oxymoron. The protein structure of the hair is weakened and broken down over time. I constantly had dryness, breakage and split ends. I was so happy to put all that energy into learning how to care for my natural hair and its not complicated at all. I find its much, much easier. BTW, i have 4c hair.
Once I learned different styles and now I love my natural hair. My hair is beautiful and I feel rebellious and confident with my curls.
Thanks for sharing!!
My natural hair solved a lot of problems for me. My relaxed hair was worse for working out. Or sweating out at festivals or the beach or other summer activities. My natural hair withstands those things a lot better! But I love my shrinkage though. I love a little frizz. My relaxed hair just didn't look as good if my hair got wet or in humidity.
Good talk, sis
Thanks for watching
I always focused on my porosity and and went by the look and feel of my own hair. Luckily I fell in love with my own hair. I’ve had people try to market products to me to make my curls “looser and manageable” and I get offended when stylist approach me with a chemical to alter my hair, which is why I don’t go to salons now. Though I love my hair, I still go through periods of hating how it’s shaped and how it’s failing to grow mostly because I get tired of doing my hair so it would mat up and break and thus the shape would be wonky, so all of that frustration is my own doing …
And though I’ve entertained the thought, relaxing it is just not an option for me. I’ve never been against perms/relaxers or weaves or wigs. Going natural taught me that there is a space for every journey and we should give ourselves the freedom to be free instead of always coming for someone for not subscribing to the way of the masses. One size doesn’t fit all. There are some people who will never be natural just like there are some people who will never relax. But to each their own. I just wish people would learn to love what they have and explore all options without envying what someone else has going on. That’s a battle you’ll always lose.
This video was well said. It hit on a lot of points that I’ve been saying for years. But you can’t fix the deep seated self hate and insecurities everyone all over the globe wrestles with, which is what it boils down to. Wether you hate your hair or you’re trying to validate your hair through other people in a militant and annoying way, it all comes out to the same issue. The world tries to dictate what POC do every day. We gotta stop doing the same thing to ourselves and allow ourselves to exist however we want to exist, and that’s not a singular thing.
AWESOME video topic!
Twice this year I strongly considered going back to relaxers after over a decade of being natural. That’s my indicator that something is definitely up when it comes to my view of my hair at the moment...it’s been a long journey with some progress, but not a ton of progress over the years. My big struggle was/is expectation vs reality struggle. That took the longest for me to get under control.
At this point, I just need to decide what’s next for me.
You got this! Thank you for sharing.
🗣️ PEOPLE HATE THEIR HAIR!!!
Why do you care? Do they remind you of yourself
@@Kim-ok5tn this is commentary on the video. engage with the creator, not me. bye.
@@TressesOfAlexis bye now 👋
I definitely fall into the tired of maintaining and just not a general hair person category. I've hated my hair for years because of how long it takes to do, and just how painful it always was and is getting it done. I have long curly hair. I've only recently started to appreciate my hair a bit more and make some level of effort to maintain it. But I'm ready at this point to either chop all or most of it off 😮💨
Always do what will make you happy!
When I adjusted my expectations, I found I had a much easier time with my hair. I also realized there are no hair police so no one is going to arrest me if I don’t follow someone else’s exact technique. So I’m good now.
Love that for you!
Yes, there is a difference between not liking and not liking to do your hair. I will be moving to Georgia in a few years once I retired and I already know we not doing frizzy, humidity hair. Although I can't see going back to a perm, I will be getting my hair pressed now and then and won't be afraid of heat damage.
Love it!!
If you are moving to Georgia, you will be wasting your time, energy or money flatironing your hair unless you do it during the dead of winter.
I live in the south with constant humidity about 9-10months out of the year. I was just about ready to relax my hair again. But the only relaxwr I’d ever use has been discontinued. I’m like welp…God doesn’t want me to relax my hair. Truth be told…I may regret it as well. I feel no matter you hair grade, with enough water, natural hair care products, and length growth & retention…we look amazing!
Once I began to love my hair and love myself, I realized that I would always be natural going forward (been natural since 2011). Self-hatred is taught. Braids is a natural style, depending on how you do it. Extensions is probably not considered natural. I loccd my hair 7 months ago, and I still consider that natural. I don't use relaxers, straighteners, or products except for shampoo and oil. But I do interlock my hair. There is no hair that does not require some maintenance, but I think that self-love plays a huge role in it.
For me the key is finding a bog basic routine for when im ill. Thats been my downfall in the past winters as being hi-po the longer i go between washes the tanglier it gets!
Love this, per usual. I can definitely relate. When I first started going natural, I was not happy with the fact that my hair did not respond in the way that others did. I have low density, fine strands and all I saw was big voluminous hair on CZcams! I was frustrated to say the least and felt like my wash and gos would always look drab and limp. After experimenting with different products I learned that it had little to do with the product and more to do with understanding my hair and the technique. That's one of the things I learned from you Achia. All was not lost I thought, so I continued to embrace my fine, low density hair and find ways to make it work. I began taking hair vitamins, which I can honestly say made a huge difference. I tried them for at least 3 months per the instructions and noticed a difference. Also, just using a different pic, change the way I looked at my hair!!!! Something that simple! I embraced the things that worked and released those that didn't. However, I never stopped and was determined that this was my new way of life. I always appreciate you sharing such valuable information and always keeping it 💯. You have definitely helped change the game for me and I'm sure loads of other naturals as well. Yes, I believe everyone gets tired of their natural hair however that with anything, lol You have to remember your why and either keep it moving or choose an alternative. I can honestly say now that I love my wash and gos.... It took a while, but I'm finally here, lol. Specifically, unrealistic expectations that seems to rear its ugly head and discouraging the natural hair journey is key. Embracing our natural texture is LIFE.
I have fine, low density hair as well. I struggle to embrace it. When I first went natural, I thought I was going to grow out the big Angela Davis fro. But my fine, low density strands said that's not gonna happen. So I mostly wear wash and go's, flat twists, and cornrows.
@@ladonna1902 I feel you! It's a struggle sometimes but worth it! I refuse to put the creamy crack back in my hair again So I'm working with what I have and I'm really happy with it. I do a lot of flat twist as well because they always give me a lot of volume!!!
@@kearstenw3855 I'll never go back to the creamy crack either.
I love your enthusiasm for your hair ❤️❤️❤️
@@ALove4Me Thank you 🤗 ❤️
If the natural hair movement isnt in its hey day its because more of us have found what works and are sticking to it instead of following product junkies, switching up routines or doing trendy styles. Consistency is boring to people who are unsatisfied and looking to fill a void. I just wish people could choose for themselves without trying to gather others in to justify that choice. What works for you, is for you and its a good thing!
Amen, preach! You're speaking nothing but the truth. It all starts with learning to love the hair God gave you, the hair you're born with. If you can get there, you'll never quit, but if you can't do that you're going 2 quit. I'm sorry but that's the bottom line
I think the problem is lack of comfortability in hair type people just simply can’t leave their hair alone you want to do a new hairstyle every single that’s tiring in itself also lack of knowledge in density and porosity etc can also cause stress cause you actually didn’t take the time to understand ur own hair and this is coming from someone who went straight bald buzz cut and cut my hair for years 2023 is the year I decided to grow my hair out
Thanks for watching
I may take a break but will not quit my natural hair …
Same!
My last relaxer was nearly 20 years ago. My 4b/c hair is quick and easy to manage, but I’m not a stylist, so I got locked this year.
Natural since 2012, I microloc my hair in April and sooo happy!
I had short locs for 4 months and i combed them out yesterday. Today I wore a cute 4c afro.❤ I love my natural hair, I juat have to learn how to take care of it. All I know is that I dont want to use a lot of chemical laiden products in my hair. I'm learning how to detangle it in the shower as it gets longer, and looking for styles. Im sleeping in a sating cap tonight to prevent dryness and breakage. My hair will probably get really long, because I've always had long relaxed hair. Im thinking about documenting my journey on CZcams, mainly to get help and tips in real time from others on the journey to natural hair care. Oh, lastly, I wouldn't dare blow dry it, although I know it will be easier to manage that way. 😅Well, never say never. I just don't want heat damage or breakage due to the dryer. Help! 😂
P.s. I love locs and have had them since 2017 and I'll probably end up locked again, but for now, i just want to learn how to take care of my hair in its natural state.
My hair kept breaking off so I locked it up I’m never doing loose natural hair again.
Iv always loved my natural hair and the most iv done was go get wash and set at Dominican shop but today iv been loc for year and few months but I'm feeling free from buying all the hair products 😂 love my natural hair ...
That is awesome!
When giving suggestions i always ask 'what is the look u want' and ' how much effort' because sometimes SM smoothie + Eco is the best option. Also people need to look at the fine print of certain looks they see, that voluminous curly afro is full of frizz or that product is only meant for 3 days and then a refresh.
Yep
Is ther something wrong with frizz?
@@MT-yx5cu frizz is beautiful.
I'm "newly" natural and my hair isn't heat damaged (yet lol). I'm a hot yoga enthusiast and have only had two silk presses so far. They last even through 1hr+ of the sauna room 3 to 4 times per week, if prepped well. I was pleasantly surprised. AND my hair reverts back perfectly! I'm 4C.. thiiiicccc! Lol
I still have a LOT to learn though because I've been strategic about my transition period and haven't played with my hair much yet. I was relaxed since i was a child...
yeah i definitely gave up on my natural hair awhile ago. I'm not going back to relaxers, but I have no natural hair goals right now. I am a person who does not enjoy the process of styling it at all (trust me I wish I was. I love long showers, love doing my nails, like exercisings etc. but hair care just does nothing for me), and i also don't like that i'm always just going to end up with a hair texture that doesn't fit societal standards. sure, i can like my texture well enough, but I'm not going to front like what other people think isn't important to me either, and they aren't checking for my natural hair as is. it's gonna be braids until further notice for me.
You hit on a great point!