Most times when men never approach you or talk to you is because they can sense you are not the one to be played with. And most times its also Gods protection!
When I was 19, I asked my neighbors if I was ugly 😂😩 she said no and asked me why would I ask that. I replied because when my friends and I go out, we have fun, we all link , I’ll have good chemistry with someone or someone will seem interested but it never goes anywhere 😂😂😂 like it just never works. Her husband literally said to me “You can tell you’re not the type of girl to let things slide and play those games. You’re not going to entertain the things they looking to do, I’ve seen and met your friends and those girls will” 😭😭The worst part was he wasn’t lying 😭😂 They played toooo much. I miss those neighbors. His wife was my coworker and we worked together and was neighbors for 2 years.
I hope you least give him a smile 😊that would go a long way to show some interest....Body language is very important, because some ladies facial expressing is like if they sucking on something sour.....😂lol
Actually I think it may be a bit more nuanced than that, & it may also depend on context. This wknd I went to a large nightclub with a bunch of rooms. I went with one of my older friends, so I found myself in a space where I was averaging 5-10 years younger than the men there. Now as a single woman expecting her husband, I am always open & ready for him. Ie dressed well, friendly, open, happy, smiling, overall great energy. Honey I’ve never had so many men approach me in my life!!! I could not walk or move around the club without getting hounded. I had to hide at one stage as it was exhausting. I left with one number. I rejected several. However the one guy that I wanted to talk to never approached me. And fate so had it that we ended up in the same corner of the room. I engaged him in conversation & we hit it off. He actually revealed he was a holder of a special ticket (some men got this to give to women who approached them) & gave it to me, as no one had approached him the entire night. That night made me realise there are different types of men, especially in a club/social gathering setting. I took it that if a man doesn’t approach you, he’s not interested. But actually some men need to gather their data before making their move, so naturally they need time. Especially 30+ male, you are looking for more inherent qualities from a woman & also considering the baggage you may also be carrying from being hurt in previous relationships. You’ll therefore need to spend a good portion of the night assessing that woman. How she moves around the space. How approachable she is. Etc. It actually taught me that 1) men are looking at EVERYTHING & 2) the better quality of mate would’ve been assessing you the whole night so he needs to be given time. You may also need to position yourself in his vicinity.
@@yanikeonpurpose1000% agree. As a man that is 30+ I full endorse this message. This is the best advice women can use. How a woman moves in a social setting is very attractive.
I know there’s some of you women like me who can question themselves and wonder what’s wrong with us. If you’re bettering yourself and have a good heart, consider yourself lucky not to be asked out by a lot of these men, especially the ones YOU find attractive. God may be preventing unnecessary heartache…
I was like that but I’ve gotten to the point I just don’t care. I do notice they’re more likely to reach out on social media. I feel like dating apps and social media in general are a crutch to men approaching in person.
Yes. This has been what I’ve figured out is the case majority of the time. Even some of those act like they can’t resist striking up some type of conversation, trying to make you laugh, etc
False. If you show no interest or look unapproachable which most women today, you likely not get approach. Women who are friendly, show interest and approachable will always get approached.
I have interviewed literally Hundreds of men about dating & relationships. #1 reason men look & don't approach is fear of rejection. Men run a complicated calculus of whether or not it's safe to approach us. If they don't feel it's safe, they don't approach. A lot of us shoot ourselves in the foot by going out in groups. Many men aren't going to approach you in a group, unless they are players. Guys don't want to be embarrassed. Ever notice when you somehow end up alone for a minute in a club that a guy might approach you? They feel safer then. It has less to do with confidence than people believe. I have interviewed firefighters who are decorated heroes & have saved hundreds of lives, that are too afraid to approach a woman. I interviewed a man that climbed Mt Everest, a mountain that has claimed hundreds of lives, but is afraid to approach. Firefighters & mountain climber not confident? Nonsense. A lot of guys, especially the best ones, are a little awkward when you first meet them. Don't focus on that too much. Once a guy gets comfortable with you they tend to be more confident. Men are really simple once you understand this.
Agreed! In my experience the ones that approach with no inhibitions are usually manipulators. The ones I was around often enough to notice they checked me out several times before approaching usually seemed to be the good guys. The problem is the good guys then complain later that women want “bad boys”. No the bad boys are just the ones that approach us first and unless we want to approach them, most of us aren’t going to wait a lifetime to be approached by the “good guys”.
My husband never approached me because he thought I was married. He thought I was beautiful but wasn’t confident about approaching. I approached him because of his sweet spirit and genuine kindness and we’ll be married 8 yrs this year ❤
Smart woman, women have better intuition than us. You knew he was interested you, nothing with starting the conversation and he will pursue. Most don't take risk.
I think women should be programmed to do such. Women have the upper hand already with swarming the guys in. She has the say so so she should be the one to approach and or choose. I don't have time or energy to compete with men for a woman.
I get looks ALLLLLL the time. Like staring. But they don’t say anything. Which is okay with me because I would only entertain a man thats man enough to talk to me 😬
@@beefaye6861 exactly. Thats so feminine to me. A huge turn off. I dont even smile to be honest. Women already have to do a lot in the society.. we have it the hardest.. and you don’t even have the basic courage to talk? Naa bruv, you can’t lead a household.
All women today don't look or smile anymore on their cell phones 24/7. All dating apps are only for hookups. Dating is dead. I've given up! I Look 35. 55, here 5'10, 170 lbs introverted here. Long -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. I hate women with dogs replacing them for a boyfriend, I hate women with tattoos, body piercing except on her earrings, drinking problems, doing drugs, smoking and acting very masculine. All huge red flags. No wonder why men have given up!
Ladies, trust your season is coming!!! It’s better to be approached by NO ONE (even if this is literally for yearssss) rather than get approached by men you find intriguing or attractive and those relationships all fail because they’re not under the foundation of God. Just make sure you’re doing the work as Tony teaches and stay optimistic. You are worthy 💓
I remember when I was around 21 I had a crush on this intern teacher at my job. We literally locked eyes when we first met and I felt the chemistry but he never approached me. I had the biggest crush on him for about six months ! He would just always stare at me whenever he saw me and only spoke to me like twice. It was so bad even my coworkers were like “he likes you”. One of ‘em even called themselves confronting him to see why he wouldn’t talk to me (I didn’t ask!) Come to find out, he was the biggest flirt and had about two other female intern teachers that he had in rotation. I thought it was something wrong w/ me at the time (not pretty enough, was working as a custodian at the time so I felt he looked down on me) but now I understand that it was just God protecting me. It was such a shame tho cause he was so fine to me !
I agree with you but I will say a few things that you probably won’t like but you have to accept because it is the truth. He really did like you but unfortunately he liked others as well and probably liked them more than you. See men and boys we see and desire multiple women and girls throughout our lives because it is so many of y’all. However a man or a boy who smart enough to realize that he can’t be with several women and should only be with woman will toughen up and make the decision to choose that one woman. It’s not that he didn’t like you but you weren’t that one woman and he’s probably not a monogamous man. He’s not a bad guy either tho.
I know this is going to sound super awkward but it always works. Practice “winking” at people who stare at you. It’s something nobody does in public so it throws everyone off and gets them laughing. It’s been my ice breaking tactic from across rooms for years! 😂💯
Both men and women have said to me, “You look like a woman that men have to bring their A-game to in order to approach you.” They say that I probably make too many men feel like they don’t have a chance. I used to feel bad about this but I don’t anymore. I’m so thankful that only the most accomplished and confident men approach me. Yes that means that I don’t get approached often but when I do, the man is always top tier and I love that.
Another reason a man would stare and not approach, is because the woman is showing off her body parts, which is visually attractive, but not what the man sees as wife material. So he just enjoys the eye candy.
This is a problem that I suffer from. I used to think maybe I dressed to “ rich” looking for average men and that’s why I am not approached as much. But I would never approach a man and rather prepare myself for when God send me my husband who has the confidence to take that leadership role ☺️ As always Tony your videos help me a lot🫶🏿
The idea that God will send you a husband is not biblical in any way. God rewards those who make effort, your husband will notice you and need to move like a wife. Women need to put themselves in the presence of men and then they will choose. Ask yourself this, do you exude femininity, are friendly, and approachable, and do show interest even in subtle ways. God will give something you are not prepared to receive.
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins.
@@moe808 Actually it is and it just show how much you know the Bible lol Have you ever heard “ He so find a wife, find a good thing”? Your logic is the exact grown boy mindset Tony tell us to stay away from. Be blessed and stay around to listen to more videos to learn something that can help you grow as a “man”.
@@itstimefortea4582 yes it says that but you have to be a wife and he has to identify you as a wife. If you think the role of a wife is easy you are quite mistaken. The standard of what a wife was in those times would disqualify most women today. What people define as a wife in the modern day is not even the bare minimum at best. Many women meet don't even carry themselves as a wife so I don't think there are many wives to pick from hence why men don't care to approach them. Never seen a woman that is wife material single older than 30.
@@moe808 You do not need to be a wife first, but more so present yourself in that way to be seen by a man who wants to be a husband first before finding a wife. I never said being a wife was easy but I know it’s worth it. Are you married? I don’t consume nor recognize the way modern women think. I am VERY traditional which would keep me in a position to only attract a traditional man. In Tony teachings, he teach that if it isn’t your season then God will keep you hidden from your husband until it is your time. This the reason why it’s important to have faith in God promises and his words that stand true today. I see plenty of men mainly rich who do not get married until their 30’s. That is my target audience; therefore, once I finished with my own purpose God will lead me to the man who is in submission to him that will provide to my standards and self worth. It’s simple when you actually align your life with God teachings and leadership.
Imma be real, I get the “how are you even single???” from both men and women all the time. I’m not a bad looking woman, I was a car show and atmosphere model for years (still am), work out, eat well dress well etc. Men stare for DAYSSSSSS but will never approach lol. Sometimes they orbit around me, especially if I’m at a show or car event. The only and I mean ONLY men that have approached me were: 1) taken (and I find out) 2) highly undesirable (poor hygiene, overly sexual right off the bat, someone’s grandfather lol, etc). I still have very little interest in playing role reversal by approaching men instead. But I do want to try being more intentional and strategic about where I am meeting them. Example, putting myself in SOCIAL settings that I both enjoy and am more likely to meet decent men who are less afraid to spark up conversation. Classes, seminars, restaurant bars, art gallery openings, etc. Best of luck Ladies, it’s hard out there lol
Just give the guy you're interested in the flirty eye look. Most men who are interested will try to make eye contact and if you give it back that's like a signal to them that you're interested.
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins. She did a good job
No it’s because they only want secks and can tell the woman isn’t going to be an easy conquer. That’s why they only look. They are daydreaming in their head about secks with you.
First of all Tony, you are hilarious. Your effort to not call someone ugly is top notch. Secondly, I have that happen all the time; they look but don't approach. Them being taken makes so much sense. It's more realistic than the idea that I just intimidate men. I'm going to stop taking it to heart and enjoy the ones who do approach.
That is so true I am single and I literally only had like 2guys approach me in 7 months when they see me they just stare like a deer in headlights… I am at the point where I am desperate…lol I just want a date , sneaky link or just a man’s presence.. and can’t just get it 😅
@@mrsyoungdolph3755 aww ! How old are you? It’s just not fear I watch some of these vloggers on CZcams and I see them getting approached by guys all the time .
You are absolutely right..Men are hunters.. and the average man is smart enough to know when a Woman is out of their League... Ladies 80 percent of them know they don't have the money to persue a Queen . It's not you, they have played the game long enough to know who or who not to mess with. Majority of the time it's about their financial status. A man know when he's gone have to wine and dine a woman...He just knows...So that's why they just stare
Not all men are hunters and not all women are prey. A majority of the time, women are artificial and have a mask on to hide there true self. Men on their purpose don't have time and money to waste on a "Queen" we want traditional women that know how to show femininity. Hence why they would rather travel to other countries. 😊✌
Tony, according to your logic "a man who does not approach you is your protection" I've been protected my whole life! Lol. I'm not looks challenged and am approachable/personable. At 30 years old, I can only chalk it up to God's sovereignty as to why I'm still single.
I’m now 40, single, childless and it’s okay. Actually, men stopped consistently asking women out 13-14 years ago and want women to pursue them, which isn’t normal. The social shift is sad, even over a decade later. I hope this helps you.
It depends on where you live too. Some places the men are more forward. I am from Baltimore and the forwardness up there is insufferable. I moved to Florida 10 years ago and men rarely approach, just stare. Ultimately, a MAN will approach if he’s really interested.
It’s fear of rejection. That’s just true. Fear of rejection. And we can try to rationalize it as much as you want but fear of rejection does not mean lack of confidence or leadership. As a matter of fact, most of the guys I know who are most apt to approach have the least to offer a woman. Any guy who has the introspection necessary to air hood faults and improve himself, probably has a healthy degree of doubt as to whether or not a woman will be attracted to him.
I believe a lot men fear rejection! I see some men staring at me and I can tell they want to talk but be so nervous lol I’m naturally shy and reserved so we both end up just walking away 😅 I have some men that approach me but have the wrong attentions. Maybe, I need to start breaking the ice.
It’s not fear of rejection stop saying that if you aren’t her type it’s a waste of time approaching her, women say all the time guys don’t approach no the guys you are interested in don’t approach, the guys that do they shoot them down, majority of women don’t want be bothered and we can see that one reason we don’t approach nothing to do with rejection
I been waiting on this one Tony! Came a few weeks too late but right on time just the same. I wondered why the man in the gym kept looking at me and I just thought he wasnt confident or I was scaring him with my serious face. So when I struck up general conversation with him, it was revealed he was taken and I respected that. He was very honest and said the only thing that he could do was look. And we keep our distance. If they don't approach me, "it's protection"!
I just wanted to comment and say your comment about your face made me laugh. I have serious resting bitch face when I'm working out. Lol. Keep up the good work! 💪
I just randomly went for a walk and came upon a house someone was building, I was curious so I asked the owner if he can show me around, I walk in and I see a man from behind I walk past and greet him..instant chemistry like it was just me and him, I proceed to walk and I go upstairs, a second later he comes up doesn't say anything just stare, note I am a very open friendly woman. Deep down I said to myself if a man wants a woman he will do anything to get you..I smiled talked to him briefly walked out the door and never saw him again. Now maybe because there were other people or he was working and my dad was also in my presence but I somehow moved around the house for him to ask for my number. Anyway the moral of the story is , I have grown to become a wife concious woman my old self would've asked for his number etc but my heart refused. Thanks to these kind of videos. Just wanted to share. Stay safe and God bless.
Honey, it doesn't matter who's around. Whether it be your dad, he'll the poppe, if a man wants you, he will approach you. I had a men approach me while my dad was next to me 😅. The men gave me his business card and all, trying to sweet talk me off my panties while my dad was sitting right next to me lmao
I think he was afraid to be accusing of being a stalker or a creep. A lot of us men don’t want to approach anymore because of false accusations and public shaming 😔
@@Rico401Prov I believe a man who is confident in himself will not allow a woman to walk away , men have hurt me in the past but I don't put them all in the same category so men also need to realize and say I don't care if she thinks I'm a creep I want to get to know her.
I was in McDonald’s and this guy came in and instantly locked on me. Handsome had his reputable work uniform on okkkk. He even asked me was I single and my name give me a compliment. We parked next to each other. I even went to write my number down. Then I said to myself 🤔 Don’t come for him if he didn’t send for you Sis☝🏾 Drove off…💪🏽🙏🏾
@BrothaJohn-br2hd Well brother John…your wrong. I met a confident successful man one morning, paid for my coffee and took me out later that day for lunch. Calls me everyday even when he’s busy. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Why because I rest in my femininity and he’s in his masculinity. He chose me!!! I don’t have to chase him down or make the first move. I’m here to attract not chase honey. I love ❤️ this for both men and women. Restoring order…but you maybe one of these sassy men drizzle drizzle men sooooooo this may go over your head🙈😑🤔😂😂😂
Listen! I was just told by a guy that he was unsure about approaching me because I looked mean. After I spoke to him, we chatted for a few and exchanged numbers. One text and that was it. Dead silence. Another guy asked for my number and I was hesitant because I normally don’t give out my number at all guys. He watched me interact with another customer on my job and assumed that I had given him my number also. He started sending crazy messages. I told him that I was still healing from my divorce (I’m fully recovered) and to take care. He is still messaging me with no response. I’m tired and ready to give up already.
I cannot thank enough God for Tony Gaskins. This message was completely my answer from God. He is used by God in incredible ways. You are saving so many women. Thank you so much.
The modelesque man approached me when I was younger and naive, and I gave him the cold shoulder multiple times, because deep down I was very suspicious because I knew guys like him were not usually interested in me. He befriended me though and I fell for him. Got used for about 3 years. My spirit was giving me sirens 🚨, that came out in my body language and initial treatment of him. But it was flattering and such a great temptation that I walked into the trap.
You’ve made some great points Mr. Gaskins. I will forever remember how “good” a man is who stares but not approach me. I love this perspective and gem that you’re shared. There are a LOT of good men around. 😍😉👀🤣
There are many reasons why men stare and dont approach. I had one guy tell me that if a man is married and looks at you everyday at work and never approaches you, it means he just wants something pretty to look at or just admiring. I'm glad he never did approach me since he was married. Also, men stare because you look like somebody they know because Ive had a coworker tell me that I look so much like his mom. Or they just find you attractive and could be already in a relationship. Or just lack of confidence
I can understand us women showing interest/ being inviting towards a man but it’s a fine line between doing that and chasing. Be open to inviting him in, from there let him take the lead.
I love you for this comment. That’s all us men ask for. As a man I have no problem pursing you as a woman I love it actually I just want to make sure that it’s worth it.
This is VERY confusing ……meanwhile so many women tell me “ men are shy, shoot your shot! I got my man by shooting my shot and he liked me but was shy” lol I give up on everything! BYE
@@la6136 very true! But if keep waiting then we’ll we might not ever find him! Also, my friend told me men are tired of women screaming independence so they just stopped asking now!
It really is . I have had the most success with saying hello to a man to show my interest and letting him go from there . Many have told me they thought I was taken or would reject them .
I’ve been needing a video like this. This guy who follows me on instagram just hearts my photos and stories but doesn’t dm me. Mostly every other guy tries dming me except for him. I’ve met him in middle school but I only was there for a year before I moved away and we didn’t even really speak or were friends. We did have one conversation or two, but he had a girlfriend at the time. I’m 18 so I think it’s best to just let things go and focus on myself for now.
A lot of guys won’t approach women because internally they know there’s far more of a huge chance they’ll get nowhere than there is in getting somewhere. Just because a woman’s looking at you and there’s a bit of eye contact happening it doesn’t means she’s actually interested therefore if she is interested it’s actually on her to make it completely clear to a man that she wants him to make a move And due to the complexity of a woman that’s not always as straight forward for a man as it seems even if she wants him to make the move. Men are well aware of how complex women can be
They aren’t interested enough . Back in the day before cell phones and social media. Men had to approach a woman . If he is interested enough he will find a way to meet you. 😊
I've lived a lot of places. I noticed more in the south a lot of men will look but not approach a woman. In NYC or even the DMV area Men sent to be a bit more assertive. This is just my personal experience.
A lot of men in the South are DL. They’re truly b!tchmade. You know what, I believe most men, at least 50% between the ages of 18 and 45, are homosexuals.
@@Fraziercranium97 not going to lie majority of the approaches are aggressive , sometimes scary. But I guess they are very masculine with their approach to me that it can be a bit overwhelming because you might think they will do something bad to you if you reject them. It’s unpleasant but at least they are in their masculine. Some are genuine though
I get asked why I’m single all the time by men but ironically they never ask me out. I am not sweating it though. I know they’re not my person, so I quietly keep doing my thing . The men that ask me that are heavily sexual at first without even getting to know me.
There’s always a spark! That’s when I go for it, I know how to see, then feel. But the feeling gotta be right as we are conversing. I always know from there regardless if there’s a continuation or not after the approach.
Thank you for this video! It is so so helpful! All kinds of things runs through my mind and none of those reasons you gave I thought about! I feel safer now! 😊
ME TOO MOVEMENT have made men more careful at approaching women. Back in the day men would approach women all day long. Now , that dude that really you going to be careful how he approach you.
Thank you so much. I recently learned that it is best for a woman not I chase a man for many reasons. Recently I have noticed one guy in my school looking at me but no really trying to talk to me and I was wondering why and started to make assumptions as to what would be the reason. I am deciding to no think about it. Also your video was well presented and easy to understand, thanks once again.
@Teddiii CareBear Yep and hot pants women will try to run a play with a man on your behalf...like you asked them to. I don't need no lustful spirit, manish, single for a clear reason, herself, women playing devil match making😂😂😂 Good for you. Don't tell nobody, but God.😉
A lot of men are insecure about themselves that's one of the reason they don't wanna approach women especially good women. They don't value themselves enough and wasn't taught this since childhood. Most of the girls they go for is bad girls anyways because they like play games with them. I know this from observation too many times and I see that they like that because it makes them feel better about themselves when really it tears them down. Second reason is they're either are taken or already Interested in someone else. Third reason is it could be God protecting you from attracting bad company into your life especially if you trying to heal or remove it from your aura. Finally just wait for the good men to come into your life maybe there's something inside you that you probably need to deal with to move on better from. Best of luck!💗
@@alvincolvin9156 thats not what I meant. I know yall don't like rejection I was just you Most of you guys just like any other women are insecure about themselves. But however I get the whole rejection part even i dont like rejection but I rather for it to happened to be lead on or mislead if that makes sense.
@@jada3956 why does have to be insecurity? men are shamed if we dont approach and we get shamed for approaching. Men just came to conclusion that the juice isnt worth the squeeze. i wish we lived in a world where we can approach freely without consequences but this is reality.
@@alvincolvin9156 first of all i never said you guys couldn't. Its highly obvious y'all are insecure and don't wanna admit it which I'm am not shaming you for. But I was agreeing with what he said in video about guys being insecure. If you didn't like what I said you could've ignored it. Secondly you can express yourself in anyway but it's how you do it.
Nah I don’t stare unless I’m going to say something - all of Men are not the same - I don’t see every woman - I only see the woman who catches my eye from time to time - the man with wondering eyes is a lost man
I’m never going to approach a man. Idgaf what the case is. Ik my value & ik I’m beautiful within myself. But he’s not lying about men watches everything because it gets on my last nerves 😂😂😂 this boy at my job notice that when I’m nervous I tend to rub my eyes. He gone say I noticed whenever you rub your eyes it means your nervous😂 I started laughing cause why is he in my business like that!!!!!!!! Then another time when we be talking he’ll try to stare at me in my eyes and I always look the other way then he gone say you can’t seem to make eye contact for long and I can’t lmfaooo. I truly can’t. Especially if ik the guy is interested in me. But it’s so funny cause he be really thinking he know me but he be right.
This would happen a lot to me in my 20s I would smile and they would get what I call the panic face. I asked my male friends what was going on and they said that I was pretty and was high maintenance so men assumed I would be rude and that I looked expensive. I replied but I work and pay for all my grooming. What am I supposed to do look unkept. It was confusing and upsetting. I left the US. Men act like they will be dragged to bloody hell if a woman says no. And when I would approach a guy they assumed it was a joke. It’s was all very confusing. I’m with my sons father now. So I’m good.
This was very helpful. I am an attractive woman I get looks from men often and am always complimented. But honestly majority of the time when I’m walking past men I look the other way because I’m simply not interested in conversation at this time. But when I do get to that point I’m going to apply what I learned here for sure!
Most times when men never approach you or talk to you is because they can sense you are not the one to be played with. And most times its also Gods protection!
When I was 19, I asked my neighbors if I was ugly 😂😩 she said no and asked me why would I ask that. I replied because when my friends and I go out, we have fun, we all link , I’ll have good chemistry with someone or someone will seem interested but it never goes anywhere 😂😂😂 like it just never works. Her husband literally said to me “You can tell you’re not the type of girl to let things slide and play those games. You’re not going to entertain the things they looking to do, I’ve seen and met your friends and those girls will” 😭😭The worst part was he wasn’t lying 😭😂 They played toooo much. I miss those neighbors. His wife was my coworker and we worked together and was neighbors for 2 years.
Or...maybe you're not attractive to him or he has a woman.
@@bournegod_kiyhow many times he tried to get at you ? Some of you women need personality transplants
Thissss!!!! I get it all the time and I don’t care. 😂
@@ahmorgan exactly
If a man doesn't approach me, I definitely won't say anything to him first. A man is supposed to lead 🎯
That part
IKR....I will smile n say hi.....thats all u gettn dude ✌
So true!
Every guy I approached it never worked out, and this is why I'm letting them approach me first
I hope you least give him a smile 😊that would go a long way to show some interest....Body language is very important, because some ladies facial expressing is like if they sucking on something sour.....😂lol
@O'Neil Farquharson- I FEAR THE LORD! Oh most definitely, I smile regardless. I like to keep life positive 😊
Wow! - "A man that do not approach me, is my protection". I will never forget this great word sent from Heaven. Thank you so much Mr. Gaskins!
Actually I think it may be a bit more nuanced than that, & it may also depend on context. This wknd I went to a large nightclub with a bunch of rooms. I went with one of my older friends, so I found myself in a space where I was averaging 5-10 years younger than the men there.
Now as a single woman expecting her husband, I am always open & ready for him. Ie dressed well, friendly, open, happy, smiling, overall great energy. Honey I’ve never had so many men approach me in my life!!! I could not walk or move around the club without getting hounded. I had to hide at one stage as it was exhausting.
I left with one number. I rejected several. However the one guy that I wanted to talk to never approached me. And fate so had it that we ended up in the same corner of the room. I engaged him in conversation & we hit it off. He actually revealed he was a holder of a special ticket (some men got this to give to women who approached them) & gave it to me, as no one had approached him the entire night.
That night made me realise there are different types of men, especially in a club/social gathering setting. I took it that if a man doesn’t approach you, he’s not interested. But actually some men need to gather their data before making their move, so naturally they need time. Especially 30+ male, you are looking for more inherent qualities from a woman & also considering the baggage you may also be carrying from being hurt in previous relationships. You’ll therefore need to spend a good portion of the night assessing that woman. How she moves around the space. How approachable she is. Etc. It actually taught me that 1) men are looking at EVERYTHING & 2) the better quality of mate would’ve been assessing you the whole night so he needs to be given time. You may also need to position yourself in his vicinity.
Thanking God because he is always with us keeping us on track to meet the right one! 💯
@@yanikeonpurpose1000% agree. As a man that is 30+ I full endorse this message. This is the best advice women can use. How a woman moves in a social setting is very attractive.
@@yanikeonpurpose wow I love this so much, thanks for this
@@yanikeonpurpose Wow thanks so much! I’ll definitely keep this in mind 📝 💯
If a man stares and doesn’t approach he’s either taken or not interested enough to approach you.
I guess that explains why I am still single at 50 😂
needed to hear this from another char
This makes the most sense to me. 😂
True😂
@@genovasquez8361no we don’t
I know there’s some of you women like me who can question themselves and wonder what’s wrong with us. If you’re bettering yourself and have a good heart, consider yourself lucky not to be asked out by a lot of these men, especially the ones YOU find attractive. God may be preventing unnecessary heartache…
Like 👍..... Dodged a bullet 🙏
🎯🎯
I was like that but I’ve gotten to the point I just don’t care. I do notice they’re more likely to reach out on social media. I feel like dating apps and social media in general are a crutch to men approaching in person.
@@pocahontas4583 IKR....Im not on either.....ths CZcams is as far as I will go....I need my metal health to stay in tact...
@@pocahontas4583 I can totally relate.
If he dont approach hes taken sis. Just know you still got it. Its on you! Keep looking good & smiling! 🫶🏾😂 New week, new blessings! 💫
IKR.....could have dodged a bullet ...keep stepping 👣 👍
@@beefaye6861 you already know! Big fact!
In my experience,the taken ones ARE the ones who approach . The ones you gotta send back to where they came from 😂
Yes. This has been what I’ve figured out is the case majority of the time. Even some of those act like they can’t resist striking up some type of conversation, trying to make you laugh, etc
False. If you show no interest or look unapproachable which most women today, you likely not get approach. Women who are friendly, show interest and approachable will always get approached.
I have interviewed literally Hundreds of men about dating & relationships. #1 reason men look & don't approach is fear of rejection. Men run a complicated calculus of whether or not it's safe to approach us. If they don't feel it's safe, they don't approach.
A lot of us shoot ourselves in the foot by going out in groups. Many men aren't going to approach you in a group, unless they are players. Guys don't want to be embarrassed. Ever notice when you somehow end up alone for a minute in a club that a guy might approach you? They feel safer then.
It has less to do with confidence than people believe. I have interviewed firefighters who are decorated heroes & have saved hundreds of lives, that are too afraid to approach a woman. I interviewed a man that climbed Mt Everest, a mountain that has claimed hundreds of lives, but is afraid to approach. Firefighters & mountain climber not confident? Nonsense.
A lot of guys, especially the best ones, are a little awkward when you first meet them. Don't focus on that too much. Once a guy gets comfortable with you they tend to be more confident.
Men are really simple once you understand this.
Simple is right
I have heard this multiple times as well .the fear of rejection is a big deal.
Agreed! In my experience the ones that approach with no inhibitions are usually manipulators. The ones I was around often enough to notice they checked me out several times before approaching usually seemed to be the good guys. The problem is the good guys then complain later that women want “bad boys”. No the bad boys are just the ones that approach us first and unless we want to approach them, most of us aren’t going to wait a lifetime to be approached by the “good guys”.
@@aubriellemorgan
Perhaps, not overly complex, might have been a better choice of words. 😂 😂
@@cinemathequerouge317 😂😂😂 Sorry, I couldn’t help myself
"A man not approaching you is a BLESSING" ladies let's not interrupt!
Facts
True 😂
Until its one you actually want😂
Exactly!
My husband never approached me because he thought I was married. He thought I was beautiful but wasn’t confident about approaching. I approached him because of his sweet spirit and genuine kindness and we’ll be married 8 yrs this year ❤
You are the bees knees ❤💯
Smart woman, women have better intuition than us. You knew he was interested you, nothing with starting the conversation and he will pursue. Most don't take risk.
Interesting ❤❤
I think women should be programmed to do such. Women have the upper hand already with swarming the guys in. She has the say so so she should be the one to approach and or choose. I don't have time or energy to compete with men for a woman.
Aww that’s so sweet, congratulations!! 🥰🎉🔥
So, why look and stare at me if you’re not attracted to me? What kinda mess is that?
I get looks ALLLLLL the time. Like staring. But they don’t say anything. Which is okay with me because I would only entertain a man thats man enough to talk to me 😬
Period 💯
@@yr_girl_jade perioddddd
IKR....I jus smile and speak....a lot of thm want you to approach thm....boy plez ✌
@@beefaye6861 exactly. Thats so feminine to me. A huge turn off. I dont even smile to be honest. Women already have to do a lot in the society.. we have it the hardest.. and you don’t even have the basic courage to talk? Naa bruv, you can’t lead a household.
Exactly
Men around my age will look but never approach me, but old men and married men will, and I don’t want either of those two.
Same 🤦🏽♀️
Ditto 🤦🏾♀️
Yesssssss
All women today don't look or smile anymore on their cell phones 24/7. All dating apps are only for hookups. Dating is dead. I've given up! I Look 35. 55, here 5'10, 170 lbs introverted here. Long -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. I hate women with dogs replacing them for a boyfriend, I hate women with tattoos, body piercing except on her earrings, drinking problems, doing drugs, smoking and acting very masculine. All huge red flags. No wonder why men have given up!
“ A man that doesn’t approach you is your protection” that was a whooole word! No man is shy yours will come get you, just be patient
Lol 1 in 4 black women get married so what you said ain't true.
@@user-zv4qx2qw1x😂
Vice versa
@@user-zv4qx2qw1x she crazy as 💩
@@user-zv4qx2qw1x whatever float her boat sje want dudes to flock to her
Ladies, trust your season is coming!!! It’s better to be approached by NO ONE (even if this is literally for yearssss) rather than get approached by men you find intriguing or attractive and those relationships all fail because they’re not under the foundation of God. Just make sure you’re doing the work as Tony teaches and stay optimistic. You are worthy 💓
I remember when I was around 21 I had a crush on this intern teacher at my job. We literally locked eyes when we first met and I felt the chemistry but he never approached me. I had the biggest crush on him for about six months ! He would just always stare at me whenever he saw me and only spoke to me like twice. It was so bad even my coworkers were like “he likes you”. One of ‘em even called themselves confronting him to see why he wouldn’t talk to me (I didn’t ask!)
Come to find out, he was the biggest flirt and had about two other female intern teachers that he had in rotation. I thought it was something wrong w/ me at the time (not pretty enough, was working as a custodian at the time so I felt he looked down on me) but now I understand that it was just God protecting me. It was such a shame tho cause he was so fine to me !
I agree with you but I will say a few things that you probably won’t like but you have to accept because it is the truth. He really did like you but unfortunately he liked others as well and probably liked them more than you. See men and boys we see and desire multiple women and girls throughout our lives because it is so many of y’all. However a man or a boy who smart enough to realize that he can’t be with several women and should only be with woman will toughen up and make the decision to choose that one woman. It’s not that he didn’t like you but you weren’t that one woman and he’s probably not a monogamous man. He’s not a bad guy either tho.
@@ronaldmcdonaldjuniorghost but he is a whore and should be treated accordingly. and whores dont deserve good women
Lol news flash. He worked hard to get where he’s at. You think he’s gonna stick with just one chick?
Most men want multiple options. Only higher status men like him can pull it off
Yesss girl. Been in the same dam situation. Yuck
A lot of the time I'll see a beautiful woman and think 'she's pretty' but then I remember I'm broke and have enough problems😅
We all are mostly broke you can still approach lol
LOOOOOOOOOOL I love the honesty
This happened to me the other day while I was running errands. Staring extra hard and saying nothing. Super awkward at times.
LOL!!
You might've had some toilet paper or something on your shoe
I know this is going to sound super awkward but it always works. Practice “winking” at people who stare at you. It’s something nobody does in public so it throws everyone off and gets them laughing. It’s been my ice breaking tactic from across rooms for years! 😂💯
@@Rico401Prov I gotta try that!
@@jasminerosewater3891 wink followed by a smile will throw their whole thought process off lol
Both men and women have said to me, “You look like a woman that men have to bring their A-game to in order to approach you.” They say that I probably make too many men feel like they don’t have a chance. I used to feel bad about this but I don’t anymore. I’m so thankful that only the most accomplished and confident men approach me. Yes that means that I don’t get approached often but when I do, the man is always top tier and I love that.
Ladies if a man doesn’t approach you, he might already have one of your type in rotation. 😂
Another reason a man would stare and not approach, is because the woman is showing off her body parts, which is visually attractive, but not what the man sees as wife material. So he just enjoys the eye candy.
This is a problem that I suffer from. I used to think maybe I dressed to “ rich” looking for average men and that’s why I am not approached as much. But I would never approach a man and rather prepare myself for when God send me my husband who has the confidence to take that leadership role ☺️ As always Tony your videos help me a lot🫶🏿
The idea that God will send you a husband is not biblical in any way. God rewards those who make effort, your husband will notice you and need to move like a wife. Women need to put themselves in the presence of men and then they will choose. Ask yourself this, do you exude femininity, are friendly, and approachable, and do show interest even in subtle ways. God will give something you are not prepared to receive.
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins.
@@moe808 Actually it is and it just show how much you know the Bible lol Have you ever heard “ He so find a wife, find a good thing”? Your logic is the exact grown boy mindset Tony tell us to stay away from. Be blessed and stay around to listen to more videos to learn something that can help you grow as a “man”.
@@itstimefortea4582 yes it says that but you have to be a wife and he has to identify you as a wife. If you think the role of a wife is easy you are quite mistaken. The standard of what a wife was in those times would disqualify most women today. What people define as a wife in the modern day is not even the bare minimum at best. Many women meet don't even carry themselves as a wife so I don't think there are many wives to pick from hence why men don't care to approach them. Never seen a woman that is wife material single older than 30.
@@moe808 You do not need to be a wife first, but more so present yourself in that way to be seen by a man who wants to be a husband first before finding a wife. I never said being a wife was easy but I know it’s worth it. Are you married? I don’t consume nor recognize the way modern women think. I am VERY traditional which would keep me in a position to only attract a traditional man. In Tony teachings, he teach that if it isn’t your season then God will keep you hidden from your husband until it is your time. This the reason why it’s important to have faith in God promises and his words that stand true today. I see plenty of men mainly rich who do not get married until their 30’s. That is my target audience; therefore, once I finished with my own purpose God will lead me to the man who is in submission to him that will provide to my standards and self worth. It’s simple when you actually align your life with God teachings and leadership.
Imma be real, I get the “how are you even single???” from both men and women all the time. I’m not a bad looking woman, I was a car show and atmosphere model for years (still am), work out, eat well dress well etc. Men stare for DAYSSSSSS but will never approach lol. Sometimes they orbit around me, especially if I’m at a show or car event. The only and I mean ONLY men that have approached me were:
1) taken (and I find out)
2) highly undesirable (poor hygiene, overly sexual right off the bat, someone’s grandfather lol, etc).
I still have very little interest in playing role reversal by approaching men instead. But I do want to try being more intentional and strategic about where I am meeting them. Example, putting myself in SOCIAL settings that I both enjoy and am more likely to meet decent men who are less afraid to spark up conversation. Classes, seminars, restaurant bars, art gallery openings, etc. Best of luck Ladies, it’s hard out there lol
Girl you fine❤
Just give the guy you're interested in the flirty eye look. Most men who are interested will try to make eye contact and if you give it back that's like a signal to them that you're interested.
💯agree about the ones who race to approach. Just speaking or having a conversation in social settings is a good way to let them.know the interest .
I know someone with the very same problem and I wish I had an answer…
How old are you?
Some men do the stare down bc they looking for the green light hoping you become the aggressor & they have the leverage.
Thirst trapping sounds like a game
@@thatbeau1807 it is to them they feed off of it
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins. She did a good job
Yo face aight
No it’s because they only want secks and can tell the woman isn’t going to be an easy conquer. That’s why they only look. They are daydreaming in their head about secks with you.
First of all Tony, you are hilarious. Your effort to not call someone ugly is top notch. Secondly, I have that happen all the time; they look but don't approach. Them being taken makes so much sense. It's more realistic than the idea that I just intimidate men. I'm going to stop taking it to heart and enjoy the ones who do approach.
That is so true I am single and I literally only had like 2guys approach me in 7 months when they see me they just stare like a deer in headlights… I am at the point where I am desperate…lol I just want a date , sneaky link or just a man’s presence.. and can’t just get it 😅
@@13950 I'm going on 5 years lol 7 months is nothing 😂
@@mrsyoungdolph3755 aww ! How old are you? It’s just not fear I watch some of these vloggers on CZcams and I see them getting approached by guys all the time .
@@mrsyoungdolph3755 Im at 4¹/² years. It feels like a distant memory at this point. A date? Whats that again?😅
To be frank. Men arent scared of women lmao we just try to calculate if approaching is worth it or we just simply don’t find you attractive
You are absolutely right..Men are hunters.. and the average man is smart enough to know when a Woman is out of their League... Ladies 80 percent of them know they don't have the money to persue a Queen . It's not you, they have played the game long enough to know who or who not to mess with. Majority of the time it's about their financial status. A man know when he's gone have to wine and dine a woman...He just knows...So that's why they just stare
Intimidating......Be@utiful1, straightalk & Company!
Not all men are hunters and not all women are prey. A majority of the time, women are artificial and have a mask on to hide there true self. Men on their purpose don't have time and money to waste on a "Queen" we want traditional women that know how to show femininity. Hence why they would rather travel to other countries. 😊✌
So true 😄.
Tony, according to your logic "a man who does not approach you is your protection" I've been protected my whole life! Lol. I'm not looks challenged and am approachable/personable. At 30 years old, I can only chalk it up to God's sovereignty as to why I'm still single.
I’m now 40, single, childless and it’s okay. Actually, men stopped consistently asking women out 13-14 years ago and want women to pursue them, which isn’t normal. The social shift is sad, even over a decade later. I hope this helps you.
@@naturallyawesomefitness1738 nothing is normal anymore for both genders
God will not reward you if you haven't made yourself ready to be wived.
Y’all have got to stop playing God and religion. Seriously
You like cats or dogs 😂
It depends on where you live too. Some places the men are more forward. I am from Baltimore and the forwardness up there is insufferable. I moved to Florida 10 years ago and men rarely approach, just stare. Ultimately, a MAN will approach if he’s really interested.
Well, being someone from Florida, I know a lot of them are DL, b1tchmade, and sassy.
Everytime I see a baddie in public, I lowkey start convulsing inside but outside try to play it cool 😂
It’s fear of rejection. That’s just true. Fear of rejection. And we can try to rationalize it as much as you want but fear of rejection does not mean lack of confidence or leadership. As a matter of fact, most of the guys I know who are most apt to approach have the least to offer a woman. Any guy who has the introspection necessary to air hood faults and improve himself, probably has a healthy degree of doubt as to whether or not a woman will be attracted to him.
I believe a lot men fear rejection! I see some men staring at me and I can tell they want to talk but be so nervous lol I’m naturally shy and reserved so we both end up just walking away 😅
I have some men that approach me but have the wrong attentions. Maybe, I need to start breaking the ice.
It's not the fear, because hope outlays that! It's the factual rejection itself 😂
This!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
It’s not fear of rejection stop saying that if you aren’t her type it’s a waste of time approaching her, women say all the time guys don’t approach no the guys you are interested in don’t approach, the guys that do they shoot them down, majority of women don’t want be bothered and we can see that one reason we don’t approach nothing to do with rejection
I been waiting on this one Tony! Came a few weeks too late but right on time just the same. I wondered why the man in the gym kept looking at me and I just thought he wasnt confident or I was scaring him with my serious face. So when I struck up general conversation with him, it was revealed he was taken and I respected that. He was very honest and said the only thing that he could do was look. And we keep our distance. If they don't approach me, "it's protection"!
I just wanted to comment and say your comment about your face made me laugh. I have serious resting bitch face when I'm working out. Lol. Keep up the good work! 💪
The gym is probably the last place to meet anyone serious I guess. I see videos where people are likening them to the club lol.
Dang so he admitted “the only thing he could do was look” that’s crazy
Clear, concise, and 100% truth!!! Thanks for the gems. Your honesty is refreshing. You are appreciated!!! No flattery intended.
I just randomly went for a walk and came upon a house someone was building, I was curious so I asked the owner if he can show me around, I walk in and I see a man from behind I walk past and greet him..instant chemistry like it was just me and him, I proceed to walk and I go upstairs, a second later he comes up doesn't say anything just stare, note I am a very open friendly woman. Deep down I said to myself if a man wants a woman he will do anything to get you..I smiled talked to him briefly walked out the door and never saw him again.
Now maybe because there were other people or he was working and my dad was also in my presence but I somehow moved around the house for him to ask for my number.
Anyway the moral of the story is , I have grown to become a wife concious woman my old self would've asked for his number etc but my heart refused. Thanks to these kind of videos. Just wanted to share. Stay safe and God bless.
Wow.....they be missing out
Honey, it doesn't matter who's around. Whether it be your dad, he'll the poppe, if a man wants you, he will approach you. I had a men approach me while my dad was next to me 😅. The men gave me his business card and all, trying to sweet talk me off my panties while my dad was sitting right next to me lmao
I think he was afraid to be accusing of being a stalker or a creep. A lot of us men don’t want to approach anymore because of false accusations and public shaming 😔
@@Rico401Prov I believe a man who is confident in himself will not allow a woman to walk away , men have hurt me in the past but I don't put them all in the same category so men also need to realize and say I don't care if she thinks I'm a creep I want to get to know her.
@@Didi-fr5ic you are naive.
I’ve had Looky Lou’s for years. They can look all they want. It means nothing to me if they don’t open their mouth. 🤷🏽♀️
I was in McDonald’s and this guy came in and instantly locked on me. Handsome had his reputable work uniform on okkkk.
He even asked me was I single and my name give me a compliment.
We parked next to each other. I even went to write my number down. Then I said to myself 🤔
Don’t come for him if he didn’t send for you Sis☝🏾
Drove off…💪🏽🙏🏾
That coulda been your future husband, but hey you don’t give a damn anyways 😆
@@gsecc Nah I think she made the right move. If he was her future husband he would have asked for her number
@BrothaJohn-br2hd Well brother John…your wrong. I met a confident successful man one morning, paid for my coffee and took me out later that day for lunch. Calls me everyday even when he’s busy. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Why because I rest in my femininity and he’s in his masculinity. He chose me!!! I don’t have to chase him down or make the first move. I’m here to attract not chase honey. I love ❤️ this for both men and women. Restoring order…but you maybe one of these sassy men drizzle drizzle men sooooooo this may go over your head🙈😑🤔😂😂😂
Happens to me all the time. I’m trying to make sure my face doesn’t look mad , lol or too serious . I think that’s the issue
I will jus smile n greet thm....thats all u gettn 😂
This! 😂
I have the same issue.
Listen! I was just told by a guy that he was unsure about approaching me because I looked mean. After I spoke to him, we chatted for a few and exchanged numbers. One text and that was it. Dead silence.
Another guy asked for my number and I was hesitant because I normally don’t give out my number at all guys. He watched me interact with another customer on my job and assumed that I had given him my number also. He started sending crazy messages. I told him that I was still healing from my divorce (I’m fully recovered) and to take care. He is still messaging me with no response.
I’m tired and ready to give up already.
😂😂😂 same
@@stephthecreative6312 never give up. Pray on it and remain open, just not foolish. Which you don’t seem to be by what you’re saying. All the best!
I cannot thank enough God for Tony Gaskins. This message was completely my answer from God. He is used by God in incredible ways. You are saving so many women. Thank you so much.
You're the most sincere to me out of all the coaches. Feels really natural coming from you. Thanks ♥
The cold hard truth !! I appreciate it !!!🙏🏾💯
The modelesque man approached me when I was younger and naive, and I gave him the cold shoulder multiple times, because deep down I was very suspicious because I knew guys like him were not usually interested in me. He befriended me though and I fell for him. Got used for about 3 years. My spirit was giving me sirens 🚨, that came out in my body language and initial treatment of him. But it was flattering and such a great temptation that I walked into the trap.
Girl one of them fine ass men got me too. Wasted a year on his azz. Lol glad God helped me break away from that loser
You’ve made some great points Mr. Gaskins. I will forever remember how “good” a man is who stares but not approach me. I love this perspective and gem that you’re shared. There are a LOT of good men around. 😍😉👀🤣
Tony, Thank You!!!
This message will change my mindset when it comes to the "precieved rejection" that I receive from men. Blessings!🙏🏾
There are many reasons why men stare and dont approach. I had one guy tell me that if a man is married and looks at you everyday at work and never approaches you, it means he just wants something pretty to look at or just admiring. I'm glad he never did approach me since he was married. Also, men stare because you look like somebody they know because Ive had a coworker tell me that I look so much like his mom. Or they just find you attractive and could be already in a relationship. Or just lack of confidence
I can understand us women showing interest/ being inviting towards a man but it’s a fine line between doing that and chasing. Be open to inviting him in, from there let him take the lead.
I love you for this comment. That’s all us men ask for. As a man I have no problem pursing you as a woman I love it actually I just want to make sure that it’s worth it.
This was the realest!!! Thank you for the clarity!!
Congratulations on the new office! Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️🙏🏾
Wow Thanks Tony. I always assume a guy is taken or just not attracted to me, if they don’t approach. And your logic is so spot on.
Thank you for these videos Tony, you have no idea how helpful they are. God bless you.
Ohhh this is what I have been wondering for a while now. Thank u so much for addressing this question.
I appreciate u! 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you again. I'll watch your videos until this knowledge is drilled into my head and I stop seeing things from a uniformed perspective
This is VERY confusing ……meanwhile so many women tell me “ men are shy, shoot your shot! I got my man by shooting my shot and he liked me but was shy” lol I give up on everything! BYE
If a man doesnt have the confidence to approach you , he can not be a leader to you or your family.
No foreal🤣 Very confusing!
I would ask those women why they want to be in a relationship with a man who has such little confidence and such bad communication skills?
@@la6136 very true! But if keep waiting then we’ll we might not ever find him! Also, my friend told me men are tired of women screaming independence so they just stopped asking now!
It really is . I have had the most success with saying hello to a man to show my interest and letting him go from there . Many have told me they thought I was taken or would reject them .
right on time tony thank you 🙏🏾
Mr Gaskins : out of ALL of the videos you've done, thos one was the most REAL. Thank you. Well spoken Sir.❤
Thank, Thank you, Tony, your heaven sent. God blessed you. 🙏🏼💙🙏🏼💙
I’ve been needing a video like this. This guy who follows me on instagram just hearts my photos and stories but doesn’t dm me. Mostly every other guy tries dming me except for him. I’ve met him in middle school but I only was there for a year before I moved away and we didn’t even really speak or were friends. We did have one conversation or two, but he had a girlfriend at the time. I’m 18 so I think it’s best to just let things go and focus on myself for now.
Yea focus on you and your paper the right one will come at the right time and approach you
Honestly, men look and don’t approach for two reasons. 1)They are afraid of rejection. 2) you look mean and unpleasant.
You are so awesome in your conversations and it’s confirmation from GOD Mr Gaskins 🙌🏾🙌🏾😭
Great advice, wonderfully and sensitively spoken. Thanks Yah Bless!
A lot of guys won’t approach women because internally they know there’s far more of a huge chance they’ll get nowhere than there is in getting somewhere.
Just because a woman’s looking at you and there’s a bit of eye contact happening it doesn’t means she’s actually interested therefore if she is interested it’s actually on her to make it completely clear to a man that she wants him to make a move
And due to the complexity of a woman that’s not always as straight forward for a man as it seems even if she wants him to make the move.
Men are well aware of how complex women can be
They aren’t interested enough . Back in the day before cell phones and social media. Men had to approach a woman . If he is interested enough he will find a way to meet you. 😊
Exactly
Thank you for this confirmation!! 🙌🏽
Always dropping 💎💎💎💎💎THANK YOU
Point, blank, perioddttt‼️👏🏾👏🏾💯💯
I've lived a lot of places. I noticed more in the south a lot of men will look but not approach a woman. In NYC or even the DMV area Men sent to be a bit more assertive. This is just my personal experience.
You are correct! Experienced the same…
A lot of men in the South are DL. They’re truly b!tchmade. You know what, I believe most men, at least 50% between the ages of 18 and 45, are homosexuals.
100% correct. I'm from up North, and men have always been very aggressive here.
Yes you are correct!
@@Fraziercranium97 not going to lie majority of the approaches are aggressive , sometimes scary. But I guess they are very masculine with their approach to me that it can be a bit overwhelming because you might think they will do something bad to you if you reject them. It’s unpleasant but at least they are in their masculine. Some are genuine though
I get asked why I’m single all the time by men but ironically they never ask me out. I am not sweating it though. I know they’re not my person, so I quietly keep doing my thing . The men that ask me that are heavily sexual at first without even getting to know me.
Right ! And sometimes it's the TAKEN ones who act like that 🙄
Same here! And I'm very attractive and in good shape! But over a year and no dates!!!
@@sherryj738 okay
You’re a Black woman in America nobody takes you serious of course all they wanted is sex
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Tony, this was an extremely informative conversation. I love this. Thank you for sharing.
There’s always a spark! That’s when I go for it, I know how to see, then feel. But the feeling gotta be right as we are conversing. I always know from there regardless if there’s a continuation or not after the approach.
Love that office setup! Check your sound; it's low.
Thank you for yourkind, honest messages 🙏 I needed to hear this in general 😂your a blessing 🙌 God Bless you and your beautiful family 💞 💞
Thank you for this video! It is so so helpful! All kinds of things runs through my mind and none of those reasons you gave I thought about! I feel safer now! 😊
TG add your mini mic when your in the office please. My volume on max! 😂
Same. I thought something was wrong with my volume! Lol
@Reshae2006 lol he said because he was in the office and the walls are thin, he didn't want to talk loud
ME TOO MOVEMENT have made men more careful at approaching women. Back in the day men would approach women all day long. Now , that dude that really you going to be careful how he approach you.
Thank you for this advice 🙏🏼 I am absolutely floored 💯 God bless you.
A lot of thm want u to approach thm....boy plez ✌
Period. Boy byeee 😂
@@DaintyAbby 😂😂😂 ...bump that
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Nope!
Thank you cousin Tony for this- very informative
But looks fade people often forget that so you better come with a good personality.......
loving your new background!
Good information and wisdom. Passing this to my daughters❤
I always assume they are taken...so ✌
Lol if they have some level of sanity and a job, I assume they are taken
Same
@@genovasquez8361 sounds wimpy
@@genovasquez8361 Yeah...but u could miss out 😬...IJS
@@genovasquez8361 understood...if thats the case....to each its own 👍
Good afternoon. Praying a blessed start to everyone’s new week.
Same to you❤😊
@@pamelaking579 Thank you. 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Everytime a topic comes up, I see a video you recently posted explaining that very thing😂 always on time
Thank you for your honesty.
Amazing video as always, thank you
Thank you so much. I recently learned that it is best for a woman not I chase a man for many reasons. Recently I have noticed one guy in my school looking at me but no really trying to talk to me and I was wondering why and started to make assumptions as to what would be the reason. I am deciding to no think about it. Also your video was well presented and easy to understand, thanks once again.
I needed to hear this, thank you.
So useful. Answers a lot of questions. Thank you, from England 🇬🇧
When people ask who I think is cute I be lying. I don’t want nobody to know who I REALLY like df😂
Why?
@@j-tenn226 because some women are messy and try to take the men that you like. They don’t even really like the man, they just do it to make you mad🙄
@Teddiii CareBear Yep and hot pants women will try to run a play with a man on your behalf...like you asked them to.
I don't need no lustful spirit, manish, single for a clear reason, herself, women playing devil match making😂😂😂 Good for you. Don't tell nobody, but God.😉
A lot of men are insecure about themselves that's one of the reason they don't wanna approach women especially good women. They don't value themselves enough and wasn't taught this since childhood. Most of the girls they go for is bad girls anyways because they like play games with them. I know this from observation too many times and I see that they like that because it makes them feel better about themselves when really it tears them down. Second reason is they're either are taken or already Interested in someone else. Third reason is it could be God protecting you from attracting bad company into your life especially if you trying to heal or remove it from your aura. Finally just wait for the good men to come into your life maybe there's something inside you that you probably need to deal with to move on better from. Best of luck!💗
Nah men just don’t like rejection period. If we are unsure on how the outcome might be we most likely will just look and not say anything
@@alvincolvin9156 thats not what I meant. I know yall don't like rejection I was just you Most of you guys just like any other women are insecure about themselves. But however I get the whole rejection part even i dont like rejection but I rather for it to happened to be lead on or mislead if that makes sense.
@@jada3956 why does have to be insecurity? men are shamed if we dont approach and we get shamed for approaching. Men just came to conclusion that the juice isnt worth the squeeze. i wish we lived in a world where we can approach freely without consequences but this is reality.
@@jada3956 btw are you a woman? if so, then you have no idea about the male experience and never will. men and women live 2 different realities
@@alvincolvin9156 first of all i never said you guys couldn't. Its highly obvious y'all are insecure and don't wanna admit it which I'm am not shaming you for. But I was agreeing with what he said in video about guys being insecure. If you didn't like what I said you could've ignored it. Secondly you can express yourself in anyway but it's how you do it.
Best video I have ever seen. Very very insightful. Every teenage girlie deserve to watch this video.
Thank you! I've been wondering about this.
Nah I don’t stare unless I’m going to say something - all of Men are not the same - I don’t see every woman - I only see the woman who catches my eye from time to time - the man with wondering eyes is a lost man
AMEN!
I’m never going to approach a man. Idgaf what the case is. Ik my value & ik I’m beautiful within myself. But he’s not lying about men watches everything because it gets on my last nerves 😂😂😂 this boy at my job notice that when I’m nervous I tend to rub my eyes. He gone say I noticed whenever you rub your eyes it means your nervous😂 I started laughing cause why is he in my business like that!!!!!!!! Then another time when we be talking he’ll try to stare at me in my eyes and I always look the other way then he gone say you can’t seem to make eye contact for long and I can’t lmfaooo. I truly can’t. Especially if ik the guy is interested in me. But it’s so funny cause he be really thinking he know me but he be right.
@Heaven Jones I said the same thing ain lying
Hmm… I have a co worker like that too 😅 🤔
Great word 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
Thank you for this🤝🏾
This would happen a lot to me in my 20s I would smile and they would get what I call the panic face. I asked my male friends what was going on and they said that I was pretty and was high maintenance so men assumed I would be rude and that I looked expensive. I replied but I work and pay for all my grooming. What am I supposed to do look unkept. It was confusing and upsetting. I left the US. Men act like they will be dragged to bloody hell if a woman says no. And when I would approach a guy they assumed it was a joke. It’s was all very confusing. I’m with my sons father now. So I’m good.
Very confusing. I'm over it
Number 1 reason men don't approach is fear of rejection. He could be attracted to you but never ends up obtaining the confidence.
This was very helpful. I am an attractive woman I get looks from men often and am always complimented. But honestly majority of the time when I’m walking past men I look the other way because I’m simply not interested in conversation at this time. But when I do get to that point I’m going to apply what I learned here for sure!
Amazing 👏 🙀 so helpful, Shella from Massachusetts!
Thank you Tony for this video! Needed to hear this message
This helped me 🤸🏾♀️
Oh my !!!! I was just thinking about this in my head and your video just popped up 😅😅😅😅
Thanks for this video, Tony! 🙏🏽💗 Greatly appreciated.