wedding planning update: i already have regrets & made mistakes
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- Today we're switching things up and instead of vlogging, I decided to sit down and talk about where I'm at in the wedding planning process. Zac and I get married in less than 5 months (eep!) and I thought it'd be beneficial for those of you who are also planning weddings if I talked about my regrets, mistakes & decisions I still have to make!
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0:00 why/how I'm planning my own wedding
2:14 regret #:1 destination wedding?
5:10 regret #2: the weekend we picked
8:25 regret #3: the venue
9:57 a controversial decision
12:13 i made a mistake
15:28 i made another mistake lol
16:33 wedding dress regrets?!
18:34 first look decision
19:50 the facebook groups...OMG!
21:17 what will zac wear?!
22:13 the one time i got mad at zac...
23:27 spray tan?!
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Hellloooo! My name is Clancy and I'm originally from Long Island, NY, whch is about 40 minutes from NYC. My fiance, Zac, and I decided to put our things in storage and travel the country. Crazy, right? We'll be sharing all of our adventures right here on my CZcams channel, so be sure to subscribe to follow along!
I love making all kinds of videos, focusing on everything from money and finances (saving, budgeting, and being financally independent in your 20's) to health, fitness, and nutrition, to beauty and fashion. I'm getting married next summer so I also love providing wedding updates and showing you exactly how I'm planning my own wedding.
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My mother was a bridal designer. We started planning a huge wedding then just eloped. No regrets. Marriage is about the life, not the party. With a wedding though, no pressure or stress. The laughs and memories years later end up being in what went wrong.
This made no sense haha I’m confused
Can I use your statement? Marriage is about the life not the party.
Well said!! You need to make a stamp out of it.
the last sentence is confusing lol
I really encourage you to at least have a bouquet for yourself. It really makes the pictures that much more beautiful! And you could even do greenery or fake flowers to add a little bit of color to the decor.
She mentioned she will have a bouquet :)
I used wildflowers!
I imagine it gives you something to do with your hands, too! I’d hate to just stand there with my hands like by my sides feeling awkward. If you’re holding a bouquet you can hide behind it a bit! Can you tell I wouldn’t want a wedding, haha
@@crystaledwards8854 I said the same until I started planning my wedding and Covid hit 🤣🤣🤣
@@jackiekupper4972I love that idea!!! I’m also considering planting my own 😂😊
You should have your cousin do your makeup at your wedding! It looked so good in your recent video.
I came to comment the same thing!!
Agreed!
That's a good idea. Then it will take some stress off Clancy.
Why are you teĺl uswhere u r having your wedding.
We did a first look and it doesn’t take away from the magical moment. It was actually our favorite moment of the day because that’s when we did our private vows and got to spend time just the two of us. And getting all our pictures done before the ceremony was a plus!
This is me a year ago. I felt that way up until my wedding day. Biggest thing I will say is MAKE SURE YOU EAT! You get so busy having fun and talking that you literally forget. Our team actually had us eat during cocktail hour and they had a nice romantic setup for just us two with the full menu. It was a nice break from the ceremony ending to being “on” all night at the reception. Both of us are introverts and it helped us with not feeling overwhelmed
You’re not the only one who “doesn’t care” I’m a wedding photographer and I got married at my home. We bought a house rather than spend that money on a wedding. I have shot 100s of weddings and I still don’t get how people spend all that for one day lol
Idk flowers were my favorite part of my wedding and they were only $1400. We had flower columns, bouquets, 10 centerpieces, small centerpieces for hightops, flowers for the groom/best man. It was a million percent worth it.
This was in Pittsburgh (city proper) in Oct ‘22. If you do a small business owner the flowers arent expensive and they are truly pieces of art.
Clancy use to have flowers all over her house from her brother. She has a flower connection. He could give her a sister discount . He could do the fake and real flowers for the wedding.
“Only” lol not being mean but $1400 is ALOT of money for alot of people
Flowers don’t appear to be what she’s personally passionate about. She’d rather put the money towards other aspects of her wedding 🤷🏾♀️ I love that she’s not falling into the wedding norm/standard.
Small, simple ceremony over here! No regrets! You’re speaking my language. ☺️
We were planning our wedding and realized the cost kept getting higher. I wanted a simple but beautiful wedding but didn't have the money that it came with it. Drama came while were discussing the guest list because we didn't want kids at the wedding while his sister was upset because she had a 3 year old that she felt MUST be at the wedding. While planning one night my husband stopped me and said "hey lets just go to Vegas and get married just you and I". I said when, he said "NOW". We got up, packed a small suitcase and headed out. NOT ONE REGRET!!! 10 years later, we renewed our vows with only our parents, siblings and our nieces/nephews at the same chapel we eloped. IT WAS PERFECT. We just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary. Wishing you all the best.
Hahahaha omg that’s amazing 😂😂
Definitely your wedding, your choice, but I would probably feel some type of way if my sibling didn’t want my kids at their wedding. That’s your niece or nephew.
@@Badfishtooo my husband was the one that had said that he didn’t want them at the wedding. He & I wanted an intimate wedding. We agreed that saying our vows with a kid screaming and crying throughout the WHOLE entire wedding was not for us. However we did tell her that the kids were welcome at the reception. She disagreed.
I’d feel some kind of way about my sibling insisting on me inviting her 3 year old who could potentially ruin things while also having no memory of them. Glad you guys did it your way!
So your sil finally got her way and her kids came to your renewal of vows ceremony 😂😂😂 older of course
I had already sent out invitations, paid a deposit on the venue, bought my dress and decided it was making us too stressed out so we just eloped. We ended up losing the deposits but still saved so much money compared to what we would have spent by the end of the wedding, people didn’t end up having to travel, like it just worked for us. I just got too stressed!!
Good for you for making that decision and knowing what was right for YOU! 💞
I hope so many other brides reads your post. You are a very smart woman.
@@MegaBpop thank you! I’m sure it wouldn’t work for everyone but it worked for us!
Ohhh Clancy I just love your videos!! You’re so relatable, I love how you try to be frugal, and not always rushing to buy the latest trend to show off to your audience. You’re just so level headed and real, I enjoy your content so much! 💕
I love love love how realistic, simple, and practical you are. Not just doing something because it’s the Trends or bc everyone else does it. I admire that about you!!
I love how realistic you are about your wedding. I'm only 22, and definitely not thinking about getting married anytime soon but it is nice to know the behind the sense of what it is like money-wise for a wedding. Definitely will be coming back to this video in a few years!! Thank you for telling the truth about weddings!! I am so happy for you and Zac!!!
I got married last summer and I felt the same as you. I didn’t want too much and we kept everything simple. Everybody told us it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to. You don’t need fancy things to have a good wedding!
I loved this video. Reminded me of vlogs you did back in Cincy. Just you being you, talking about something we can all relate to.
PPPs. Do NOT do a tanner before wedding day. It does not look good in pics. If it isn't natural, don't do it.
We Eloped/small wedding July 2021 with just our immediate family and best man and MOH and it was the best decision ever!! We rented a big cabin in the mountains and got to really enjoy the day. I am a low maintenance girly too and I honestly didn’t want the stress and planning of a traditional wedding. You are not alone!! ❤
It will all work out, truly! 👰♀️🤵♂️
I feel like I can relate so much!! The wedding is going to be amazing.
I got married at a courthouse in San Diego, California, outside near the water. Never knew they did outdoor weddings at a courthouse. It was simple, inexpensive, and perfect for us. We took pictures next to the boats at the harbor. Never would have guessed it was a "courthouse wedding." Only the immediate family was there. I couldn't care less about a wedding so it was perfect. I think I got my dress for $50!
The reason I (as a wedding MUA) am booking a makeup artist for my personal wedding is because there’s nothing worse than it not turning out how you like. It would literally ruin my day if my eyeliner was wonky or lashes popping off. It allows the bride to relax on the morning of the big day
I got married last august with 100 guests! My best advice for anyone is do not please other people. This is your wedding and what you want, people will figure it out to get there and have fun. ❤ you’re so close and I am sending you all the love in the last few months to wrap up planning.
During planning I did majority of coordinations but never made a decision without my husband ! It was so helpful getting his opinion
Hi Clancy! Thanks for making this video and being honest about being different when it comes to a wedding! I totally can relate to just having a simple wedding!
I actually planned and catered my own wedding and my sisters did all the flowers. It was a beautiful wedding and I have no regrets. I was in culinary school at the time so I was able to hire some class mates to help serve and everything.
I was literally in the kitchen cooking up until two hours before the ceremony, then did my own hair and makeup.
This was many years ago, but still, it was as amazing as most weddings I’ve been to or catered over the years.
My venue was in Sausalito, overlooking the San Francisco Bay. That’s the thing that people will remember.
Celebrating married 13 years next month. Married before pinterest but still had a great time. Had the same mentality you do when ut came to all the fluff. We did bouquets for myself and bridesmaids with faux flowers. I still have my bouquet this many years later in our cabinet. We spent the majority of our budget on food and photography and would do it again! Enjoy and whatever decisions you all make will be perfect for you!!
You do you, Clancy Burke!
You're amazing and are doing great!
I want my wedding to be a happy medium, not completely basic but not extravagant either. I think as long as couples do things that make them happy for their wedding that’s what counts. I can’t wait to see your dress it must be beautiful 💜
Clancy! I’m a fellow low maintenance bride. I know you get a bunch of suggestions/opinions but I only have one regret after my wedding.. I loved my bouquet (but I agree, other flowers at weddings are crazily overpriced) and I wish I had saved it and used the dried flowers in some art work. People press dried flowers or put them into a paper weight/piece of decor. I wish I had done that to have a small momento! Plenty of small business artists do really cool stuff with bouquets. Just something to check out if it sounds interesting to you
I spent less than $200 on flowers between my bouquet and my husband’s boutonnière. One of my bridesmaids gifted us the bridal party bouquets because her mom made them for us. I never remembered any flowers from any weddings I’ve been to but I do remember watching my friend throw all of her flowers away after the wedding and all I saw were dollar signs on fire 😬. I also did my own makeup and I have zero regrets. I knew it was how I liked it and I looked like myself but “elevated”. You’re doing the right thing!
I had a "first look" and I am so glad I did! We had fun taking the pictures before the ceremony with our friends and family. One of our favorite pictures from that day is a picture of us sitting on steps in the church looking off camera and laughing. When the ceremony came we were so relaxed and I just really enjoyed the whole day. I also have done wedding coordinating for a photographer. And I would tell people that were trying to decide to do a first look or not. 1. Your hair, makeup, flowers etc. will never look as fresh as when you first put them on vs. after the ceremony. 2. Do you really want the first time that you see each other that day be with 200+ people staring at you? I love the private first look with the bride and groom and photographer capturing that sweet alone moment before the ceremony and celebration begins.
It’s so hard to know what you’re gonna care about until the day comes!
I have things I’m so relieved I didn’t do/buy even though it seems like everyone does them (ex. “Unplugged” sign for the ceremony or misc. decor to fill spaces). And definitely a couple things I didn’t think I’d care about but ended up regretting not doing. It’s tough to know when you’ve never done it before!! Good luck Clancy!
I was waiting for your upload like crazy!!!! 🥰❤️
Aww thank you!!❤️❤️
I love your sit down talking videos! I think you stance on weddings is very valid! I feel like in The simplest words you just care and more concerned with the people at the wedding not the things at the wedding!! Also the longer you’re home the more your accent is coming out 😄💗
I am having the same exact thought process with my dress! It is not at all what I thought I’d go with and keep questioning my decision but I was so happy and comfortable in it
I totally get all of this. When we were planning our wedding, my mother in law felt like she had all the say but wasn't paying for any of it. It finally got to the point where I was like THAT'S IT, WE'RE GOING TO VEGAS. Southwest had a $49 fare to Vegas (this was back in the day when flights were actually that price, friends fly free, and all those other nostalgic deals) and we got married at Paris Las Vegas with just our closest friends and family. And honestly, out of all the traditional weddings my friends and other family have had, everyone still talks about our $2000 Vegas wedding and how fun it was. Vegas weddings are not for everyone, but for us, it was one of the best decisions we ever made.
Flowers are so hard 😭😭😭 they cost more than anything else I swear but they bring the space together. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world and one of my besties had done some floral design so we bought the flowers in bulk and she arranged everything for a friend rate ❤ couldn’t have been more appreciative to have that- we saved thousands of dollars with how beautiful it all turned out. No matter what Clancy, you’ll be the most beautiful thing on your wedding day and that’s all anyone will notice 😊
I totally agree on the not caring about a big wedding!
Omg Clancy finally someone who also feels the same way as I do! It's refreshing to see another person who is not head over heels obsessed with planning their own wedding and fawning over how amazing the whole process is. It is really not fun planning the wedding, totally feel you on wishing I eloped instead. Like you, only doing this for family and friends. Cheers to us getting married in 2023!
I can say everyone has dress regrets. I remember crying the next day because I thought I picked the wrong dress, because it was completely opposite of the dress I had always imaged. Once you get your dress in your hands, you put it on, and you know that dress is 100% your dress, you’ll fall back in love with it! ❤ Don’t worry about having these feelings it happens to every bride!
My wedding is a couple of months away and I really needed this "deinfluencing" style of wedding content 😂 It is so easy to get caught up in it and there are things I've had to just put my foot down and say this is not worth the stress.
My cousin did candles and rose petals on tables and flowers as a backdrop for the wedding ceremony which were moved to the reception hall ... I had so much, I didn’t even notice until she told me. She saved thousands. The venue was beautiful which probably made it easier not to notice ❤️
Current bride here, screaming and crying at the price of flowers!
I ended up choosing a garden venue and all the flowers are built in. It’s a great alternative.
Good morning Clancy, it will all work out, it always does. You and Zac are meant for each other and i am anticipating seeing your wedding picture. 💑 thank you for sharing and see you Saturday.
Aww thank you!!💞
This is enlightening wow I didn’t know how much went into weddings! Now I feel more sure of my decision to have basically a step down from an elopement…when that day comes, I’m not even engaged yet…despite pressure from my family to have a “real” wedding or else I’ll “regret it” because I am too shy and wouldn’t even enjoy a family party! Clancy, you definitely sound like the sane one in this situation!! People go crazy!
I'm getting married in less than a month and I am so happy I had a planner to help! I did a lot of stuff myself but it's super time consuming if you are working.
That’s great that you and Zac planned the wedding that you both wanted. Without the help of a wedding planner. I’m sure your wedding will be amazing and beautiful. 😄
Please reevaluate all of your wedding plans. Getting married should be an enjoyable time and it seems like you hate literally everything besides the groom. you’re going to be miserable if you stick with all of these things you can’t stand. Im not trying to be harsh, but dang this video was depressing.
i can’t believe you’re less than 5 months away from getting married. it seems like yesterday you announced he proposed. i can’t wait to see your wedding dress!
I know!!! Time flies 🙊
Yay, we finally talked about the wedding 😄
I lovee how you just say it how it is. ❤ ugh Im with you on so many things
I am eloping to Italy for my wedding. Just immediate family and closest friends. I feel the exact same as you! ❤️ I never saw myself having a huge wedding, it’s just not me. AND… it has saved me way more money than you’d think!
Sooooo happy you will do your makeup - you are the best at it!!! Same with your hair - you know what looks best for you - you can do it!!! 👍🫶💖
My Fiancé and I are eloping and we are very happy and feel like for both of us it is so freeing! Also any wedding vendors or venues are so expensive that it makes more sense for us to elope. So don't feel bad if you do decide to elope in the end. You can always plan a dinner and celebration afterwards. Either way super excited for you both and I hope you enjoy the day and don't have stress or worries about everything being perfect. Just have fun!
I love your view on the wedding planning. I did a "traditional" wedding which was great but my husband and I always say we would have been perfectly happy eloping too and saving that money! Also, you can totally do your makeup yourself.
You are so sweet to think of everyone else, but put yourself first!! It’s YOUR day!! ❤
I think it is more common in US to have a small wedding or elope. We had a destination wedding in DR and it was one of the most amazing moments. And we had a wedding planner, which was the best decision because we didn’t know nothing there.
Keep it simple. Weddings are for everyone else !!! Do what you want and you’ll have no regrets!!😊
I didn’t know what my venue looked like until I showed up. My Mom used silk flowers (fancy word for fake) and it was beautiful. I was so hands off. I didn’t care about anything but the photos. It turned out nice. Thanks, Mom!
My vote for the suit: blue or grey! They’re best for warmer weather. Also black has always felt very plain and more funeral-appropriate lol
My hubby did a blue suit (not a tux…plain old suit from a store lol) and his groomsmen did grey in the same suit.
I would say I’m an extroverted introvert as well and agree with so much about what you’re saying 😂😂❤️ I ended up having around 130 people at my wedding, but I absolutely see the appeal of a smaller gathering as well. One thing I will say about flowers- I had flowers made from book pages- so much less expensive than real ones and Ill have them forever! We did that for bouquets and then had non flower centerpieces.
My husband and I eloped. We told all of our friends/family ahead of time and everyone was supportive though some had questions which is somewhat understandable. No regrets at all! I’d do it all over again and again.
We did a first look and we loved it!!! We also exchanged vows during our first look and it was probably my favorite part of our wedding day. We wanted to write our own vows, but we didn’t want to say them in front of everyone, so it was really meaningful that it was just us (and our photographers haha)
The flowers through Costco are so affordable and gorgeous. My sister used them. It was awesome
Finally someone with common sense.
It’s so refreshing to see that someone else isn’t wedding obsessed! I love this!!
My advice is make sure your photographer gets pictures of the back of your dress!
I know that sounds silly, but I had such a gorgeous train and open-back on my dress and I regret forgetting to ask the photographer to get a picture of it.
Also, make sure you get cake! I made a point of carving out time to eat a piece of our cake before we left the reception! I’m so glad I did because it was delicious!
Clancy, I love your honesty!! Good luck, everything is going to be smooth because whatever happens that day is what is meant to happen!
It’s interesting to see what it’s like having a longer engagement. I had a 3 month engagement ;) and wasn’t easy but I think because it wasn’t so long I barely had time to even really think so much about if I really liked my dress etc. sometimes less time is better! And I had the best. Day. Ever!
My brother & SIL had a beautiful budget-friendly backyard wedding. I was responsible for the flowers... Went to a family run florist and for around $200 we made 12 centerpieces and had enough for the bridal bouquet, corsages for the mom's and boutonnieres for the groomsmen. My mom has floral design background and helped me with everything, but everyone loved how it turned out. Another idea for simple centerpieces is hobby lobby. They have inexpensive glassware and you can get good deals on artificial plants if you don't mind spring flowers for a summer wedding... Wait until Joann's, Michael's or hobby lobby have those on clearance! You could even put together a simple bridal bouquet.
Several things! My anniversary is July 6th 🥰 We barely did any flowers and what we had was fake! I did my own makeup because I wanted to look like myself and I love my pictures. I also started to second guess my dress but I ended up falling back in love with it when I put it on on my wedding day! I would 100% recommend a first look, not only for logistics but also because it was my FAVORITE part of my wedding! It really eased my nerves and made the day so much better ❤
Clancy!!!! I have never heard anyone else say they are an introverted extrovert!! I am too no wonder i like watching you!!
We bought the flowers ourselves from grocery stores and put the bouquets and centerpieces together the day before with my aunts and cousins. It was fun!
Love hearing about the wedding planning!
I did a first look too for the same reason and it worked out great. My husband wore blue too.
I didn’t do flowers either, I did fake flowers and they looked realistic and were way cheaper.
I also did my own make up and hair and I felt myself that day.
Feel the exact same way about sweet 16s/weddings/any events that have something to do with me!! Felt weird to not want attention, but I hate it! I want everyone to be happy so it stresses me out and during a wedding, birthday, graduation, I dont want to be stressed.
This was all so validating. We got engaged around the same time, and it sounds like our weddings are now a month a part! I'm right here will you on almost everything....and I agree it just feels odd sometimes with the reactions I get.
Don't stress, not worth it, just about you and Zach at the end of the day!
I had a 4 year engagement. So don't be upset about waiting! totally understanding wanting a specific season! my husband and I wanted Halloween. so we waited it out!
No matter what It's going to be magical and beautiful!
Love the wedding 💑 update 😍 glad you guys are setting it up so you can enjoy the day ❤️ sending you an up thumb 👍
Clancy, I spent nearly nothing on my wedding flowers and I did real flowers. Much less than what you were describing so it is possible! I also did my own makeup and only paid for my hair. We did a first look and it was the best decision ever! IT WAS SO SO SPECIAL! My husband still cried and I balled my eyes out walking down the aisle because that is still THE moment and it is emotional! I recommend it because you actually spend more time together too the day of! Also I am so sorry that Taylor Swift is going to be there the same weekend!! So happy for you!
I’m a may 2023 bride and the Facebook groups are insane!!! It rips people & their relationships apart. Left those groups real quick!
I was also a little torn about first look, but decided to do it. I’m not paying all this money to miss any bit of my wedding! Friends & family are traveling and my priority is spending time with them & my new husband, not just taking photos to document it 😂
in the end, the wedding is for you and Zac. I planned mine in a week. We threw out the plans for a huge wedding and threw a small wedding with about 30 guests. And it was perfect for me. Only thing I would have changed is the date. We got married May 4th and live in AZ. Cinco de Mayo (May 5th) is a huge party holiday here and it's hard to go out to dinner on our anniversary weekend without there being a huge drinking crowd. LOL We usually do it the weekend after for that reason.
Getting married this august and definitely feeling the pressure about finding vendors who aren’t already booked. I totally agree about those crazy FB groups though… there’s so much negativity and I honestly don’t know how helpful they are so far
First of all THANK YOU - I feel like weddings are so fantasized and really all that matters is the people that you care about supporting you. If I could do it over again, I would do a destination or a small wedding with 50 people who are really in your life.
I completely agree with you with wedding stuff 🙌🙌🙌 I am THE SAME 😇
The flowers at my wedding was only 2k. And I loved the touch on the tables and our sweetheart table and flower petals along the aisle🥰
Also we did fake flowers! My sisters wedding was a lot bigger and more extravagant. She found wooden flowers!!! They were SO beautiful! And they did not look like they were made out of wood. You should check them out. I have no idea what the cost was probably not cheap but cheaper than real flowers.
Thank you for reminding me why I got married in a courthouse ceremony. Even that had stress. Remember it is just about the two of you.
My one advice for Zac’s suit is that you want to be really specific as to what color you are requesting. When my dad was in my uncles wedding probably in the 70s or the 80s the tux were supposed to be powder blue and when he went and picked up the suit it was canary yellow!! There was a lot of scrambling that day to find the correct one. 😂
I’m sure y’all will look perfect on your wedding day! I can’t wait to see pictures!
I can relate so much! Here is what we did for my husband's suit, flowers, bouquets, etc. And we were on a budget!
My husband wore a suit, no tux. We found a local suiting store, and they helped him choose the type of suit, the fabric, and color. Yes, it was more expensive than renting a tux, but 7+ years later, he still wears that suit. Definitely an excellent investment.
I got boutonnieres from Etsy with flowers made of felt. Got them for my husband and both dads. I still have my husband's - it's a lovely keepsake.
I'm glad I had a bouquet because I like the classic look of a bride holding flowers. Also, there are really cute poses to do with a bouquet. Etsy has really nice silk or dried flower bouquets, too.
I wanted fresh flowers, so I ordered plants from a local nursery. They helped me pick a flower that would be in season, and I ordered one 8" pot for each reception table. I just used the free metallic covers from the nursery to hide the pots. Literally zero work centerpieces, and we told guests to take the plants home.
(My dad picked them up the morning of our wedding, so there was no chance of them dying, lol.)
We did the first look ahead of time, and it was really special when my husband saw me in my dress. I loved having a private moment together before the wedding. Plus, we weren't rushed and didn't miss the cocktail hour.
And walking down the aisle was almost another first look because we were in front of family and friends, and I was walking toward him to get MARRIED!
For the dress - find a good tailor/seamstress! I liked my dress, but after alterations, I LOVED it. Tailors are seriously wizards.
Wish I could insert a screen shot of my son and I talking about you!! It’s been years that we have watched you and love your content as you navigate life!
Love your channel more and more and more! You also have responded to my comments and not like a robotic reply, but you take the time to truly reply… You LOVE your viewers and interact with us!
I’m sure I speak for all of us, THANK YOU CLANCY FOR BEING THE SWEETEST!! 🥰
Totally with you on not spending a fortune on flowers. All you really need is, as you say, a bouquet and boutonnière. I dunno about the US but here in Ireland I saved a lot of money and stress by getting dried flowers. I got them about 2 months before the wedding so one less thing to stress over on the day. 💐
I'm so you, Clancy. (Pause in my comment b/c I'm looking at how beautiful your nails are while you're talking about the flowers ... gorgeous nails!!). Anyway, totally agree with you about a destination wedding and NOT spending thousands on flowers. Shout out to you for making decisions based on what YOU want and not what others may expect of you. The wedding is going to be beautiful.
Our wedding is end of May, and wow. This wedding vlog is so refreshing. I’m drowning. And have same thoughts as you when it comes to saving money.
Also, about the hair- my friend did her hair just curly/wavy like her everyday hair. She said it’s her day and she just wanted to feel like and look like herself. So I vote Clancy waves/curls!!
Congratulations 🎉 on your wedding! I started wedding planning after planning my own Wedding here’s some tips
- place cards from Amazon to dress up the table
- neon signs that you see on Pinterest are available on Amazon for $100 and under with sayings like me and you, better togather, etc.
- stands for a neon sign or as well for a custom sign are available on Amazon.
- Candles 🕯from goodwill as well as candle sticks
- check local bride groups, wedding groups and Facebook groups for resold wedding items for super affordable.
- I did diy for my own floral and I don’t regret it, I got around $100 worth of baby’s breath, roses and hydrangeas & I mixed real and fake and it looked so classy. They have tall vases you can get from Michaels. You can store all your wedding decor + floral overnight at your venue (for MOST venues)
So think bringing your decor items to the rehearsal dinner. If the venue allows.
- You can get packs of sequin runners (or whatever color you like on Amazon for affordable.)
- Open bar is nice but a cash bar is so affordable and you can put a good amount for a tab and heavy drinkers can pitch in ( we didn’t have that many heavy drinkers ) but if your looking to save money this helps a lot!
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No matter how much you spend all that matters is your spending time with your loved ones and spending the rest of your life with your husband ❤🤗 & honestly I don’t regret spending a lot less and planning my own wedding. It’s very possible !❤
Oh my gosh I’m laughing so hard about Zac reaching out to a old friend for a DJ honestly I’ve planned SO many weddings and only like one both partners were interested in the planning process ❤😂❤❤❤
I made my bouquet, flower crown, and boutonniere with fake flowers from Hobby Lobby for like $100 like 2 days before our elopement day wedding. We had just the important people there and had about a week notice due to this being an event near us. I wore a dress from my closet and did my own hair and makeup. It was great just to wing it all and not have to prep forever
Don't stress too much Clancy! And don't overthink decisions that you already made. Because really there's nothing you can do about it at this point. I know your wedding will turn out to be great! ❤ And I'm the same way as you when it comes to spending so much money on just one day, or on things like flowers. I couldn't bring myself to do it when I know it's my hard earned money that I can better spend some other ways😂.
At the end of the day, the wedding is a celebration of you & Zac's love with your family and friends. It's gonna be awesome no matter what! 🎉
(And i'm sorry i commented under my dog's CZcams profile🤣 Just made this for him recently🤣)
It seems like you have appropriate expectations and are doing what you think matter the most! As long as you are happy and have a level head, the day will be great because it’s a party with all your closest people!
I ended up picking a dress that was everything I thought I didn’t want. I had dress regret almost immediately but kept trying to think of how I felt when I was in the dress. When I took it for alterations, I fell in love with it again. Then AGAIN had major dress regret. I didn’t even have time to get another dress if I actually tried so I kept it and I am so glad I did. I picked it for a reason and now couldn’t imagine if I wore any other dress! Dress regret it real but know you picked it for a reason!!!
Oh Clancy! I hear you on all the wedding planning stuff. Short and sweet. We also didn’t care about all the details and went for simple wedding. You talked about the date, yes it’s so far away and you’re not even thinking. But when it comes to holidays yeah things get more expensive but I think at the end of the day guests would be honored to share that special day with you. It’s like a vacation. So they will find their way and book a hotel that works for them. As for hair and makeup. I didn’t wanna book too many things either. I was gonna do my makeup but it was for timing. I tend to be very anxious so it made sense for me to get a hair and makeup person. My hands would have been trembling. Oh and professionals are booking at least a year in advance. I had mine during the pandemic so it was hit or miss. Some were working yet some were not. Good thing I booked 6 months ahead cuz after I did so, things started opening up again and then in a snap hair and makeup professionals were being booked left and right. They were like the 2023-2024 wedding seasons is going to be the busiest one yet.
I know you and Zac don’t wanna be going nuts with the wedding planning and details. Nobody does. You sort of have to pretend to be a princess that day and make sure your guests are taken care of. Hear me out. Hear me out. You said you love being a guest at weddings. The bride always looks so beautiful etc. It is like a fairy tale. Even when you’re having a simple wedding, you will feel like a princess cuz it’s yours and Zac’s day.
And finally, it’s totally for the pictures. I’m just gonna say it. All these details are for photos and for you to look back in them. Not like I’m an influencer or care about having a big wedding. When you look back on photos, you’ll want to be present in them and be with friends and family enjoying your day. If you are working with a good photographer, you’re gonna want to coordinate the photos with the cake cutting, first dances, send off, whatever. Every minute of the day should be planned. For your sanity and Zac’s. Start making the spreadsheet now. I didn’t wanna hear it either. But it’s better you plan the day out from the time you wake up and get reedy until your last dance. I timed mine so I was there for my cocktail hour. So much so the event manager said the planning was unparalleled. She praised us for making time to be with the guests. Sure we had time to take family photos but lucky we had a small family and photos went by quickly. Good luck and have fun. We’re all here if you have any questions or need support. You’re doing a great job and it will be the best day ever! ❤
I’m glad I didn’t do a planner, but SO thankful I hired a day of coordinator. The venue one is not enough. They are busy coordinating their people and sometimes multiple events on the property. My hired coordinator would take pictures of things happening and come show me to make sure it was how I wanted it. I loved that. My cake flowers would not have been how I planned them if she had not intervened the florist. Or the centerpieces. She also tore down so much of the decor and everything towards the end of the night and that saved a lot of cleanup time.
We had a destination wedding and it was one of the best decisions ever! A few close friends and family-memories to last a lifetime!
I think your choice of blue for Zac is spot on👍