Your Breakup will be a Temporary Separation IF you Learn This ONE THING!
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I feel like no contact only can ever work if there was a real genuine love..
No, no contact work if you have self respect, standards on what you deserve. Of course it would hurt because it is someone you love but you have to love yourself more to walk away knowing you deserve way better. It's either they rise to the occasion or let them keep walking.
Yes, there needs to be strong and real feelings, connection and attraction...
Not necessarily, it works on women who are especially good looking because all men have always chased her, so when you don’t and you just go cold it’s a slap in her face and her ego is hurt, but then it also gives you value
Coach no contact worked.... She called me.. She called me coach.. Love u man.. Love u sooooo much.. I ll come to c u.. Love u coach.. I followed all ur videos..
Thanks a lot....
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Sana all
Coach blac today she just reached out with a crazy nice text. no contact literally worked for me in 8 days. Cards are back in my hand in would seem by her sudden attitude change. Way to go! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Happy for you.
@@timbob1145Facts! I made this mistake
@@timbob1145 exactly
Awesome man! Happy for you.
Congratulations
I have been on no contact for 3weeks now😢It hasn’t been easy 😢I hope things work out for me and everyone out there that’s in a situation like this 😊
Hello Christabel, I just read your comment and wanted to empathise with and to make sure your ok of course. I have been in no contact with my ex for 9 weeks now. No calls, no texts, no looking of social media etc. We were in love. I know pain. Keep busy and be gentle with yourself. Have a good look at Attachment Theory. It will help. Sending best wishes and healing, Peter 🙏🏻
@@peternall6566 thank u so much😊I hope we all turn out ok 👍
Any updates?
@@Christy710how are you now ?
updates? I failed no contact after 3 weeks, do I have a chance
13 days no contact she finally reached out today!!!!!
That’s fast as hell. How long did you guys date before you broke up?
How's it going a year later?
How did it went
Lol 😂😂😂😂😂 i cnt stop laughing after reading ur comment @sams517
Imagine showing up for your partner time and time again. No matter the distance or financial inconvenience to yourself. And your partner says to you that want you want isn’t their top priority. Well guess, what now you are no longer my priority! I hope he is ashamed and haunted by the way he treated me. I would have literally gave him my last cent because that’s how much I loved and cared about him. I put him before myself everyday … that was my first mistake. I’m never making that mistake again.
Spot on ! Thanks
Very helpful. Thank you so much!
"You deciding to set boundaries and have standards is not going to sit well with your ex"😂😂. This vid came right in time my wife was so upset with me last week when I decided to block her everywhere like a whole bunch of f**k you text, like listen you know where the apartment is we don't Need to communicate if you not coming home.
I am literally in the same boat as you! Post break up (She's the dumper and I'm the dumpee), my ex and I were talking on the regular until one day I told her I'd reply a bit later as I was heading out for lunch with a friend (I said it in those words). Next I see she has blown up my phone with messages and missed calls wanting to know who I went out with and if it was a date I went on with another lady. I told her I don't have to tell her my whereabouts nor who I'm with as we're no longer together, but no it wasn't a date, yet she replies with she doesn't care if I was on another date and that it is all "Fine." She didn't like that I instilled a boundary and has been short off with me ever since until a few days ago I have gone no contact. All of a sudden I see she is liking some posts of mine and viewing all my stories on my socials, and even her family has started to follow me on my socials post breakup.
It's been 4 weeks no contact..some days I'm coping well and some days it's just so so difficult. She's always on my mind...even though she's the one who walked.
I’m going through that same thing. Your not alone brother
I feel you bro. Been in no contact for 3 weeks. My ex also walked away from me.
Yeah I'm 4 weeks in, but I have seen her twice in passing and I have been short but hospitable. What do you do if they expect you to forgive them when they haven't even apologised! Keep the faith brother!
Likewise buddy
Just it work out for you mate
Very informational video! Thank you!✨❤️✨
Thank you this was very helpful.
Love your videos, thanks for creating helpful content for everyone who’s going through a breakup and who is a dumpee like me, in a no contact so your each and every word makes a great impact
Thank you my brother all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦
Goijg through some things with my partner now and these videos are really helping me!!
Your voice is so soothing to me @CoachBlac
I been watching your post for over a month now and today I lapsed on the no contact
I’m in absolute hell at the moment. A week of no contact and I let him have the last word. I’m so down. I had a miscarriage 3 weeks before he dumped me. I would have done anything for him. I was a good partner and I’ve respected his decision. I hope he realises his mistake, as I am starting to dislike him, which is frightening. He expects me to run to him and constantly message but I haven’t. 8 days tomorrow-no chat. His last message (he dumped my by text after 18 months) said he loved me and he always will. I’m confused
The heartbreak that I’ve felt these past couple of days is just out of this world. The pain in the soul is the worst feeling anyone can feel.
So addicted to your content, please start making 2-3 videos each day, 1-2 shorts and if possible live also, I repeat your videos everyday
Oh yes! I do not tolerate disrespect from family or friend (lover, associate, business owner, stranger etc.)
You’re voice has become so calming.
I really appreciate this message today...I need it. You actually spoke on my EXACT situation in the previous video...to the letter. It feels as if you're leading me down a very very specific path. I found u in time
Thank you 😊
Coach blac you are the best seriously you've helped me so so much..probably saved my life
Thankful for you brother 🙏
Cant walk away when we have a child so not so simple. But I think the child can help to rekindle the love because they get to notice your changes.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 most calming voice
I'm telling you he really does!
Great vids blac❤
I believe that you have helped so many people with your videos. Thank you . Miss. Linda 😊
He reached out to me on day 39 of no contact. It does work. However you have to be prepared too when they do come back so that reconciliation happens properly.
Respect sir🔥
WOW! ...that was amazing! Thanks Coach!!
Isn't possible to follow you twice, your teachings so legit... stating facts, feels like you talking to me all the time
Thank you! That means a lot
Absolutely love this channel and the genuine content that he puts out but from what I have realised when you stop feeling the need to watch any ex or ex-relation related videos/signs that's when you subconsciously start to focus all your energy only on you and am pretty sure it is what you say about stop caring about them in your no contact ! Big support to this channel ❤
You are so right. 😊
After they fked around and then theyll come back. Smh 🤦🏻♂️
My ex and I were working on things, but the other day she said she wants 100% space. It really sucks because we work at the same place, different shifts but see each other in passing. It’s been two days since I’ve reached out to her & I hope it helps in the long even though she said not reaching out is seen as not caring at all. I love & care for her so much. I really want her to be my future.
Going through this as well, at work situations are so tricky. She said she didnt know what she wanted etc. I have to see her at work almost constantly, but not texting just being neutrally friendly towards her.
@@arthurdane8508 don’t associate w a woman who doesn’t know what she wants dawg. think ab you, yk exactly what you want and it’s her right, that’s why your watching this. she doesn’t know, she doesn’t know if it’s you she wants. should say a lot ab who is more important, it’s supposed to be mutal man. wish you the best
Story of my life
I'm 5 months in NC. I got the never ever lecture on a breakup that came out the blue. She unblocked me on a social media site.
I've been cracking on and reinventing myself with some pretty big stuff that I was always going to do. Now is my opportunity and I hope she is noticing and it hits her in a different light. It would have been out first year together this month and those feelings of nostalgia I dreaded have hit me today and it's been an uncomfortable upsetting day for it.
good luck man
@@antonios2002 thanks man 👍
Update on ur story bro?
Me and my ex are living together, and have 3 kids together. Che have a rebound now,Che hawe talkt with this man 1.5 year. i have triad everything to chow hear what we have and what we can do to have a brand New start. To be happy
Thank you Coach blac. Your info is helping me with this break up I have been going through. 2 break ups this year with the same person. Hopefully no contract works for me. I've always been the one to reach out, but I have recently stopped. Taking your advice and hoping it works out this time. After 10 years of loving this person it's really hard to do no contract but I'm gonna do this for myself & my relationship with them.
Oh it definitely will!!! Especially if you always reach out and now nothing but silence. Don’t post anything on social media that would even suggest your sending subliminals. Make them curious, then make them feel it by having you NOT THERE TO CLEAN UP THEIR MESSB
10 Years is crazzyy. I hope everything works out for you! My ex of 5 years left me and it hurt hurt!! So I can only imagine how you’re feeling. Much love.
@@chantelles5841 Thankfully I dont have any kind of Social media so he cant ever know what im up 2. But I'm hoping this all works out.
@@sergiopacheco8014 yes 10 years of giving my love & Devotion to this person wasn't enough. But after all these years I still feel that love for him as if it was the first time I met him. I still have hope. & I know I'm A keeper for sure. I've always known that.
Same here, my ex is a separated from his ex wife for 11yrs he has 4 children they are all grown ups the youngest is 15 yrs old because of his job we only see each other once a week live together for 10yrs but i did not know he wasnt been faithful for that 10yrs, and aside from cheating he is using his children to me, when his retirement will start i will only have his time for 3days and 4days for his children which im not agree, i have been waiting and petience alone for six days in a week then he told me i will have him only for 3days thats not pair, so i decided to end the relationship, its so hard and sometimes i wanted to chase him i miss him so much.
True ❤
I walked away in July 4 days after my bday. Was told she lost feelings for me but she " was a coward" and couldn't tell me...I did reach out one month after the break up and then 3 months after. No reply to either text. Never texted her again after that. She still monitors my social media, likes almost every single post. But around Valentine's day she had a new dude completely opposite of me. If I was her new man and I knew my girl was all over my exes social media I'd be concerned. Eyyyy we'll see how this plays out. Keep you updated Coach Black, from a local Texan! I appreciate you man
Dont wait for anything be you do you when u stop chasing u start to attract
how u know she monitoring your posts?
@@mh8286 because she physically hit the like button and it tells you who watches your stories....
Stay away from her and find another. She’s a little girl…😂😢😮
@@hemannathan8423 EPIC!!! ❤🎉
Thank you, it the manuplation
Coach black Iam glad for this video that your making...it's helping a lot of person who's experience this kind of pain... Coach black I don't have money to book you on session... Hope you can answer or advice me on what i'am situation is.. me and my girlfriend is almost 3yrs now... I do make promises to her but I can give all that promise and she very upset about that... What can I do to make her un upset.. I Love her and I know she is too.. deep insider she love me very much... Please help me🙏🙏
It's simple if someone walks away from you then let them walk end of move on and keep on moving
3 week into nc situation here. He just hugged me and wished me well three weeks a go. No cheating no regular fighting he was all I ever wanted despite some doubts regarding his financial situation I still went ahead through the relationship. The break up it was all in one day where I told him I was upset in a very anxious lashing way because of my abandonment wounds and called him twice during work after seeing that he is upset. He then said three days later he can’t see me growing and said I reminded me of his situation with his ex from two years a go despite trying to work things out with him.. no contact worked on one ex of mine but not sure if it will with this guy he is so stubborn and logical and emotionless
Update
We broken up almost 3 month ago and our 2 month got a new gf and then 2 weeks ago he say it he was sorry for everything he put for 12 years
After 6 years of being the side piece (unknowingly 🙈) he moved to a Spain October 2021 to be with me. Within a year it has blown up - he is either creeped back to ex or got a new 21 years his junior squeeze in the gym or both 🙈 solid 2 month no contact after a series of brutal weekly discards - he clearly had too much on his plate 🤷♀️ I think I’m good 🙏🏻 Aries new moon solar eclipse in 4 days I hope I can close this chapter for good. The baby mama will always be hating on me as I was the one she got replaced with. The new one is so immature that it might work for them as a polygamous relationship. Defo not my dream life so wish them all well. I never really fitted into the picture as I wouldn’t obey for monetary gains 🤷♀️ my safety was so far compromised I struggled with severe cPTSD and disassociation post discard.
Can you make a video how to rekindle things after no contact?
Yes please!
Already did all these things guess there's not love or respect anywhere with anything or anyone
I did no contact but broke NC after 2 weeks. Thot I was emotionally detached as I was ready to accept any outcome, boy was I wrong! He got upset with me why I didn't call him and meet up with him when he asked me to couple weeks ago, he turned the table completely on me. We were good for a few hrs but back to square one. I felt so angry at him and called him out, in a very mean way.
I blocked his number. I'm between wanting him and losing him for good. I want him to come to me and apologize but I doubt
I think coach it's create disrespectful thought for them in my mind 😅
Without this I feel nothing to give I'm fade up all those shit😂😂
You are so cool.
Me and my ex got into it Sunday and she told me to remove my stuff from the house and give the key back. She didn't say nothing to me about we are finished or I don't want to see you again, just get out. We have a 7 month old son, could she think she has the power?
no further evidence of their delusion is that they break up and expect you to keep paying. something similar happened to me recently. i dressed her down quickly with a list of all the non partner related costs i covered...she had not much to say
My ex text me a few months ago that he misses me and he thinks about. But he is with another chick. Says he will always love me. But actions don’t match.I have been no contact for 2 and a half months. But we both have hurt each other.
This one is really directed to me😂
I like watching your videos but my situation it's been years... And I never went fully no contact on him for long though... But this time I plan to, can your advice still work if we broke up like 3 years ago? His also very avoidant, stubborn etc
I CAN NOT achieve no contact,every I mean every time I set in my mind this is it,, a situation causes us to have to phone each other or work together
No contact worked in 3 days buh the girl doesn’t know what she wants now too
Coach! Can you tell us what we do at the first text when they reach out and say they love & miss you hope you have a good day. It’s closed ended and not saying much to me at all. So do I ignore that ? Or do I just say hey had a great day hope you did as well!
Do you want me to remake the ending for you and show you post structural love phenomenon? All this stuff you get anyway but bypass the post structural proper.
What if she's stubborn and wouldn't care if you went no contact? Will she eventually reach out? After being together for 13 months?
How do you do no contact with a coworker? I'm treating them like a normal associate. But idk if that's the right approach
NEVER move in without a cohab agreement!!!
I really to book a session but its to expensive for me . I cant afford
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How no contact works when she is spying me using dummy account ?? What should I do ? She’s with another guy.
How long should you go. No contact when they send a text. “Hey what up with you?” Things like that
At least 30 days, then respond.
Hello coach my ex came back after going no contact she came with a good text coming back ,we came back together but this time she's she's behaving what can you assist on that thanks
I'm currently in the break up mode she's walked blocked me I keep emailing her as I love her I know I need to go no contact and respect her decision it's so hard we were going to move in together a month ago but I felt pressure anxiety and left didn't speak for over a week and I reached out told her I was taking my kids away for a holiday asked her to come but she said she was an after thought so hard different countries kids in one her in another complicated but I love her
My ex did the same to me
Ex avoidant reached out after over a year last week for my birthday. It shocked me. He said he never reaches out to anyone and he doesn't go backwards (this is what he said at the end of the relationship). But haven't heard anything else. So confusing, but i said thank you and went back to no contact. It messed my birthday up that day but im ok now. Just trying to process how he remembered my birthday i havent been on social media for 3 years .
Keep walking... stuff em.
So you’re significant/relevant enough to him for him to remember your birthday
@sams517 I don't think so. I think it was breadcrumbs and I haven't heard anything else. I wished him a happy Father's day two months after that and no reply.
3 weeks no contact. I blocked him from every social media platform. I recently opened a store, he knew about this. He followed me on my store’s socials. He likes posts where I’m wearing my brand and I don’t understand why is he doing this. He’s not reaching out but why doing all this? I don’t get it.
Very good advice, but my ex husband moved on so quickly and is hot and cold with me. 😢
Your a kid! Lol
It really feels like you talking me
What if he wasnt disrespect or cold or angry? He broke my heart at the airport, but he was always there n never tried to avoid me. He reached out a day later to ask to call me to explain. What do i make of this?
I reached out after a month of nc I’m mad with myself I’m back on nc now…
Funny how this video appeared on top of my suggestions. Yes. Today he greeted me with a happy smile. But because all I see his him happy with the other girl, with who he assured me there was nothing going on, yet they are dating romantically, I just said Hi and walked away. He didn't like it.
Me and her broke up about a month ago and she told me that she been trying to leave me but she just wanted to see if i change 2 weeks after the break up she got with someone I kept begging her to give me a chance and today she told me that just stop calling for a while she said that she care about that she don't like seeing me suffering so I'm going to try that NO CONTACT and see what happens hope she reach out one day
Update
He’s VERY angry…he announced he was leaving 7 months ago..it was four months from our wedding. I simply said ‘ok’. I have not one time reached out. I’ve been grieving and am working on moving on. He went through a three month phase of angry texts, letters, etc. I said I would be open to a conversation but other than that no. I wasn’t going to react to grown man tantrums. Then he started the goodbye tour…messaging my family members saying his goodbyes trying to make himself look good. I have remained silent. It’s now been another two months.
damn after 3 yrs my gf finally broke up with me. she told me to move on and she blocked me on everything. but i did apologize to all my actions and it’s all my fault . no excuses. want to take full accountability . right now it’s been 2 weeks no contact. it’s so damn hard esp if u still in love with the person. if ever she will comeback for sure i’ll be better person this time . but for sure i won’t be begging to love me back.
Smh I feel you pain after 7 years my ex said I don’t listen or always dismissing her feelings and she doesn’t trust me with her heart that’s why she break up with me I never cheated it’s very hard I try reaching out yesterday she said she’s done and happy with her life, we’ve been broken up for 9 days now ,, feel like shitttttt can’t even focus life sucks
She broke up with me. I deleted her on snapchat but she still views all my stories. It's been a week NC. Why is she creeping on my snapchat even though I deleted her?
I felt disrespected after he sent to me the song Cheap Cologne. I asked why he didn't send a romantic song? left I left.
Question my behaviour was right or was his?
hey coach blac i was wondering if i’m doing no contact should i continue a snapstreak with my ex she keeps trying to continue it but i don’t know if i should
Delete that shit
This is my exact situation finally! The answer I have been looking for. Married, separated 4months, no contact is on point (for a married couple). She's rude to me almost every interaction and really let me have it when she thought I was dating someone (I wasn't) about 2 weeks ago... not sure what will happen next🤷♂️
Keep it up
Me and my wife been together 17 years married 11 years going on 12 this year. Same situation. Me an my wife live together, but she says she’s gonna move out the house. I’ve been keeping my distance. These last two days she contacted me about me helping her customer with a logo. Really don’t know how to feel about this. BTW, I work on a ship so I am gone.
From a woman's perspective, she is rude because she's hurt, but it also means she still very much cares. It's likely she's wanting you to sit her down and discuss things, and make apologies. Perhaps suggest counseling. I'm only commenting because men and women really don't understand each other. It's a real struggle. But when women walk away, it's usually in hopes of waking up the man, and coercing him to open up, to listen, and to work on himself. Women don't feel heard, and men often neglect us (take us for granted, or so we feel that way).
@@gingygirl4638 same with men tho...I initially opened up and she blew me off so over time when she opened up I would be there for her in the small moments but not in the big moments as I needed her to be open for me in my big moments. My big moments may have looked small to her but when a man open up period, that's big. Dont take your man being vulnerable for granted. But I think I'm too late to take your advice.
@@CiluhStyle1 She needs you to be consistent now. Don't give up after the first try. Keep trying. She needs to see that you've changed, and are worth her dropping her walls for. I know that you'll probably say you want that too, but try to remember that women need to feel safe. It takes a man having to go through an ego death, in order to convince us. You may be able to get results by staying quiet, but if women feel that the man is over them, we move on, because we look for safety and security. Idk, maybe nothing I'm saying will help. But I'm going off my own circumstances.
What if she goes back to her husand
what do i he texted how are you after 8 months he dumped me
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Bro I been in no contact with my wife for like 2 months and she haven’t hmu yet lmao 😂 fuck it tho finna stick n move 💯
I'm going to break no contact today!! I'm tired of being strong and lonely 😢 hopefully he won't blocked the new number I'm going to use to message him 🙏 because he blocked my regular phone number
Hang in there. Don't break it.
Don’t break No contact He will reach out
If he blocked you from one number why would you bother to reach out from another number? Please have some dignity and self respect or he will continue to treat you like dirt.
No don’t break it cause if you do you’ll ruin your chances to fix things just try to be patient ok I promise it will work out I’ll be praying for you 😊
Bad idea
Coach why you always use “get you the moon”?
If ur ex is back with just apologist not because he want u back Is it right to block your him ??
You talked about paying bills in this video, I want to get back my ex wife and been separated about a month. That is when I started no contact, first week or 2 we still texted but was very minimal, about bills and such, nothing about me and her. After that I went complete no contact and have been ever since. She is still on my cell phone plan which payment is coming due soon, the only bill we still have together but should I text her and remind her about it or just let it go and stay complete no contact?
How’s it going now bro ?
I need help! 😢I’m hoping it’s temporary but what if they don’t come back… what if it was all a lie…
What’s meant to be will come back to you. If he doesn’t return, he did you a favor. You dodged a bullet
Then you're someone else's prize. ❤
If they left don't allow them to ever come back
Wordd
So I just found ur channel. I am actually the one who broke up. I am also the one who went no contact. My ex and I are constant on and off, have been for almost 3 years now. He’s a very spoiled person. Always gets what he wants. Parents baby him. They live in another state but visit often. When they’re in he completely changes everything. We don’t even have dinner together because he has to eat with his parents. Won’t go anywhere or do anything unless one of his buddies wants to party then he’s all for it. This gos on for weeks or months sometimes.. then when they’ve left he expects everything to go back to the way it was. I love him but am so sick of all this. Is there hope or should I permanently walk away? Any insight would be appreciated
Start with no contact
You need to communicate how you feel with him. He can’t read your mind
Coach what if we work together, which I meet him occasionally and have to speak/message once in awhile on work matters.? We had to breakup due to a situationship and we parted lovingly, but then it got a little messy. We were ok now, but he’s hot and cold. What would be your advice?
No contact dear
@@fifihashmust7170 got it, thank you!
Man I’m at the point she wants to me sign and thumbprint the divorce papers
Your not alone
So I got a text after no contact as well and he asked me if I hated him... I said no. I don't have the heart to hate. I feel we are two different people and we're not on the same page. I also expressed that I feel we moved too fast and that I learned my lesson. He had said he wants to apologize. He never responded after my response. I am confused and feel like my feelings got all stirred up and messy again.
Stay in no contact and pray to God
It’s a game Coach, isn’t?
Hey Guys.
The best way to attract them back is to get another girl that is more beautiful than her!!
Then when she comes back, the revenge will be ready !! - Show her who you are!
This is the answer! Seriously it drives them nuts when they see your value to someone else. Makes them question their decision.
My boyfriend broke up with me about three weeks ago. I tried reaching out, but he never would respond back to me. So I went no contact. I don't know if he will come back. I am just trying to give myself the care I deserve.
Did he reach out ? 😢
Same situation here. He just hugged me and wished me well three weeks a go. No cheating no regular fighting it was all in one day where I told him I was upset in a very anxious lashing way because of my abandonment wounds and called him twice during work. He then said he can’t see me growing and said I reminded me of his situation with his ex from two years a go..no contact worked on one ex of mine but not sure if it will with this guy he is so stubborn and logical and emotionless…
Same situation here. He just hugged me and wished me well three weeks a go. No cheating no regular fighting it was all in one day where I told him I was upset in a very anxious lashing way because of my abandonment wounds and called him twice during work. He then said he can’t see me growing and said I reminded me of his situation with his ex from two years a go..no contact worked on one ex of mine but not sure if it will with this guy he is so stubborn and logical and emotionless…
What if this is the second time they have walked out the door and wants you to leave their apartment. First time she came back through no contact and strength, not sure the second time will work 😔