I can't stand feeling so angry all the time, sometimes I feel like I will never be able to treat my parents and my brother with more kindness and with a joyful and light attitide. When I try to ask my mother how her day has been I become shy and avoid eye contact, as if I wasn't even supposed to care, but I do care and I want to be able to show to my family how much I truly care. This single chapter already speaks deeply to me, and motivates me to continue struggling in the pursuit of being able to love without constraints. Luckily I have no problem showing my girlfriend just how much I love her, and I am able to use our kind and loving relationship as a basis for me to expand the way I love
Thank you for your tenderness and your honesty and I'm so glad you found your way here, you are exactly the kind of person I read this for. I'm sorry you feel that anger and I'm proud of you for having the people like your gf in your life to support you on your journey and YOU for wanting to take it and heal
@@anarchistaudiolibrary It really did resonate!! You had me in all the tears. So good to have ancestor bell hooks' work read with such love, depth, and care!! Thank you so much for your offering.
@@hellogoodbye4061 this book has helped a lot of people and maybe if you took to heart the struggles people go through you'd have more respect for the source material, kay why ess
Great reading, thanks. Love the tonality of your voice (maybe bc im a former smoker, lol. Makes me nostalgic. Almost as nostalgic as it makes me for my toxic relationships😂😂)
@tinaferr I figured I was transitioning, I could put a ton of work into voice training,,,, orrrrr I could keep smoking and be a sultry lounge singer 👩🎤
Yeah! Angela Davis is brilliant, it's a little heavier on the US context but talks about how by and large prisons were built to *generate income* NOT respond to a real increase in criminals or crime, and that the laws that followed were based off this fabrication because of lobbyists not because of an actual societal need to brutalize people into "redemption"
Even though the feminist movement in the 70s and 80s did not take seriously male suffering and mental health In everyday modern life I've seen that it's not ( or at least rarely is) the mother, the sister, the girlfriend that shames the man for expressing his feelings, and precisely the father, the grandpa, the brother, the friend and stranger... Does the author mentions this in her book? And if so which part?
in this video there is a section that talks about men's fear of other men's judgement if they are showing signs of love, which is similar to what you are looking for
yeah, its me! I'm just a gal with a long to read list and a smoking habit. bell hooks is the author, I am just helping bring her words to life, but I'm glad to hear you enjoyed it
@@raphaelradespiel9970 i got thru the first chapter and at first thought 'why the fukk im spose to read this for how tf this gon change my life' but then i listened to a later chapter n i realized what dude was sayin so thats why i clarified that i realized what he was gettin at
@@raphaelradespiel9970 whether itll change my life or not idk but iain feel disrespected once i heard one of the later chapters, the first chapter set a certain tone i wasnt fukkin with
@@SNOwyte I understand. Yeah, I was just asking cuz this chapter really resonated with me and what's happening with my life, being a young father and all that
@@raphaelradespiel9970 ya i dont feel offended i feel like they tried projectin they own problems onto me n ion care cuz they aint my problems....they was trollin, glad iain waste no time readin it
@@protect_trans_lives like rainbow...does the whole book have a rainbow theme to it? It aint nun i was readin anyways bc ppl was tryna project they own problems onto my comments section trollin bc they goin to therapy n shyt so it aint nun But at the time i was asking if it sounded rainbow the whole book Not trying to sound offensive or derogatory
@@protect_trans_lives ya exactly is it all about that type of shit and/or not being urself or is there anything that id actually want to read in it like in terms of maybe bigger than me. Like does it have a chapter on society changing or anything w any remote reason id want to read it or nah
I appreciate the conversation yall are having, sorry that people were in your comments over it. It isn't pushing being queer or rainbow really, just asking for people to look at how they relate to their masculinity and how that affects the people they want to love (and themselves)
And idk i guess its probably an important listen if you feel worried its too rainbow hehe. Nowhere does she say don't be straight, just asks people to feel and show up and know themselves. If you feel resistance to feeling and showing up or label that rainbow then sure, but ask yourself why
This was one of my first ones, when I was still reading into a phone and couldnt see levels or play back easily, I have since gotten a mic and edit / clean up audio, but ty for the heads regardless ^^
I can't stand feeling so angry all the time, sometimes I feel like I will never be able to treat my parents and my brother with more kindness and with a joyful and light attitide. When I try to ask my mother how her day has been I become shy and avoid eye contact, as if I wasn't even supposed to care, but I do care and I want to be able to show to my family how much I truly care. This single chapter already speaks deeply to me, and motivates me to continue struggling in the pursuit of being able to love without constraints.
Luckily I have no problem showing my girlfriend just how much I love her, and I am able to use our kind and loving relationship as a basis for me to expand the way I love
Thank you for your tenderness and your honesty and I'm so glad you found your way here, you are exactly the kind of person I read this for. I'm sorry you feel that anger and I'm proud of you for having the people like your gf in your life to support you on your journey and YOU for wanting to take it and heal
This is really such a beautiful reading. Thank you so much for honoring the words of bell hooks like this.
Oh my gosh thank you for honoring ME like this!!! 🥺 I'm glad it resonated
@@anarchistaudiolibrary It really did resonate!! You had me in all the tears. So good to have ancestor bell hooks' work read with such love, depth, and care!! Thank you so much for your offering.
agreed!
Well read, I appreciate the time energy and effort put forth to deliver such soul saving message.
Revolutionary. Thanks for reading this chapter.
Thank you for this! My book club just started this week and we are reading the first three chapters. Keep it up my friend
@@hellogoodbye4061 this book has helped a lot of people and maybe if you took to heart the struggles people go through you'd have more respect for the source material, kay why ess
@@hellogoodbye4061 who hurt you
@@hellogoodbye4061 bro why are you like this
Great reading, thanks. Love the tonality of your voice (maybe bc im a former smoker, lol. Makes me nostalgic. Almost as nostalgic as it makes me for my toxic relationships😂😂)
@tinaferr I figured I was transitioning, I could put a ton of work into voice training,,,, orrrrr I could keep smoking and be a sultry lounge singer 👩🎤
Thank you so much for making this! An absolutely fantastic reading of an absolutely fantastic book!
Thank you for this audiobook! You have such a pleasant voice 😌
Wow. This might be the most real thing I've ever read/heard. This is absolutely the problem in the world.
I love your channel and your voice, never stop
You are the GOAT for posting this thank you. Is 'Are prisons obselete ' a good introduction to prison abolishing? Have a great life!
Yeah! Angela Davis is brilliant, it's a little heavier on the US context but talks about how by and large prisons were built to *generate income* NOT respond to a real increase in criminals or crime, and that the laws that followed were based off this fabrication because of lobbyists not because of an actual societal need to brutalize people into "redemption"
love love loooooveeee this book
thank you!!!!
Thank you so much! This came out for at the perfect time for me :], excited to read along with yous!
Thank you for this offering in honor of our beloved Ancestor bell ❣️🙏🏿🫂
Never stop ❤
OMG I have the same voice. Represent the vocal register!
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bruh turn your notifications off when you record
Even though the feminist movement in the 70s and 80s did not take seriously male suffering and mental health In everyday modern life I've seen that it's not ( or at least rarely is) the mother, the sister, the girlfriend that shames the man for expressing his feelings, and precisely the father, the grandpa, the brother, the friend and stranger... Does the author mentions this in her book? And if so which part?
in this video there is a section that talks about men's fear of other men's judgement if they are showing signs of love, which is similar to what you are looking for
Thank you!
thank u!!!
did you read this yourself? If so ty I started to think someone made their own audiobook when I heard a phone go off and coughing lol.
yeah, its me! I'm just a gal with a long to read list and a smoking habit. bell hooks is the author, I am just helping bring her words to life, but I'm glad to hear you enjoyed it
THANK YOU
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yr doing great work
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Someone told me to read this in my comments n now i feel disrespected and confused at the same time
Why do you feel disrespected? Is it because of the books content or the comment that brought you here?
@@raphaelradespiel9970 i got thru the first chapter and at first thought 'why the fukk im spose to read this for how tf this gon change my life' but then i listened to a later chapter n i realized what dude was sayin so thats why i clarified that i realized what he was gettin at
@@raphaelradespiel9970 whether itll change my life or not idk but iain feel disrespected once i heard one of the later chapters, the first chapter set a certain tone i wasnt fukkin with
@@SNOwyte I understand. Yeah, I was just asking cuz this chapter really resonated with me and what's happening with my life, being a young father and all that
@@raphaelradespiel9970 ya i dont feel offended i feel like they tried projectin they own problems onto me n ion care cuz they aint my problems....they was trollin, glad iain waste no time readin it
Does the whole book sound like this?
@@protect_trans_lives nevermind ppl was trollin... n what i meant might be offensive
@@protect_trans_lives like rainbow...does the whole book have a rainbow theme to it? It aint nun i was readin anyways bc ppl was tryna project they own problems onto my comments section trollin bc they goin to therapy n shyt so it aint nun
But at the time i was asking if it sounded rainbow the whole book
Not trying to sound offensive or derogatory
@@protect_trans_lives ya exactly is it all about that type of shit and/or not being urself or is there anything that id actually want to read in it like in terms of maybe bigger than me. Like does it have a chapter on society changing or anything w any remote reason id want to read it or nah
I appreciate the conversation yall are having, sorry that people were in your comments over it. It isn't pushing being queer or rainbow really, just asking for people to look at how they relate to their masculinity and how that affects the people they want to love (and themselves)
And idk i guess its probably an important listen if you feel worried its too rainbow hehe. Nowhere does she say don't be straight, just asks people to feel and show up and know themselves. If you feel resistance to feeling and showing up or label that rainbow then sure, but ask yourself why
It sounds like the author has a misunderstanding about fatherly love.
It sounds like fathers have a misunderstanding about fatherly love :)
Nah she definitely has a misunderstanding
What do you believe fatherly love is?
how so? please explain.
The reading is great! However, for future reference it sounds like you have your mouth close to the speaker which makes it k unbearable to hear. 🫶🏿
This was one of my first ones, when I was still reading into a phone and couldnt see levels or play back easily, I have since gotten a mic and edit / clean up audio, but ty for the heads regardless ^^