When I was about 11, riding my bicycle in Windsor Ontario, a young child amongst others on a porch yelled out to me “are you a boy or a girl”? My answer slid-out loud and clear “somewhere in between (not premeditated). And, that’s how I felt until my transition some 50 years later. Being trans was not in our vocabulary back in the 60s, so “somewhere in between” seemed to be a very correct response.
Ok I finished reading your post and omg that’s so cool! I don’t know of many older trans people, just people for like teens to mid 30s, so hearing about someone in my area like that is awesome! I’d love to pick your brain sometime if you have like a Facebook or something?
That's really cool, I wish i'd had the understanding of myself to answer that as a kid Instead I would adamantly answer that i'm a boy (especially when puberty hit and my voice started sounding deeper) ; now I wish I had seen what the other kids were seeing at the time. (And looking back at pictures, I understand why they would be confused, I was very much androgynous back then)
I’m 51 and starting transitioning almost 5 years ago. I understand that not in the vocabulary. I’m from Texas and because I grew up with my dad being military, we moved around to several states/countries in 10 years time then back to Texas. I’ve be lucky to have one friend that is transgender as well. I also have to be careful with whom I have as friends. Luckily for me I have just under two hands worth of fingers of friends that truly accept me and very easily were able to change how they address me and love me for who I am.
Edit, edit, big fat edit: I am speaking only for myself, there seems to be several cis men in the replies who apparently do feel like they might be more happy as a woman and vice versa, I can only speak to my experiences. /Edit I am cis man, let me reassure anyone who's made the jump and is second (or third or fourth) guessing themselves: the idea of being a woman fills me with no joy or happiness, it doesn't make me feel anything at all, and the only time it's on my mind is when it's brought up, say in a video like this. You should probably trust your first instinct.
I can relate. As a ciswoman I feel a vehement repulsion to the thought of being a dude, i.e acquiring the andromorphic anatomical traits (beard, wide shoulders, thick biceps, muscular thighs, big calves, etc) . Y’all are pretty attractive though ;P. I really think sex organs should be separated from the gender. Hormones determine the characteristics of the body, not your sex assigned at birth.
I am a ciswoman who lives in jeans and tshirts. Uterus has yet to fall out. I detest society's gender roles very much. If you say you are a sister, you are a sister.
Me: - loved hot wheels - loved pokemon - literally asked my dad if I could pretend to be a boy to join boy scouts as a kid (I'm afab) - hated dresses/skirts My dad: "there were no signs!"
My mom was like that. I came out at 45 and she acted like this was unimaginable. Seriously? You've known me 45 years and there isn't even 1% of you that goes, "Hmmm....."?
Omg literally me!!! Also afab! I still have have all my hot wheels, and pokemon, and I preferred to play with my dinosaurs and tonka trucks over the barbie dolls, and my dad worked for the BSA (Boy Scouts of America), and I had always wanted to officially be one! I did get to participate in some of the day camp stuff tho, cause of the position my dad had with them, and a co-worker of his allowed me access to whatever day camp activities I wanted to participate in, lol 😅
I was actually a boy scout for around 3 weeks in the 1970's. I grew up Mormon and a Brother in the Ward had started a cub scout troop. When someone told the bishop, I was forced out of the group. Sorry for the inconvenience Brother Hopewell 😢 It's ok, I am out as an enby now and things turned out fine.
same, dude. I was actually sort of in boyscouts, since my brother was one and my parents were scout master and couldn't afford to have a babysitter. I did all the boyscouts stuff, just couldn't earn any badges. Was fun! I can't really be anything I am until my family is all dead, though. :) They'd kill me.
I'm AMAB, and was sort of the same but opposite. My mom: You can be anything you want to be, no matter what your gender is! Me: I want to be a Girl Scout. My mom: No, not like that!
I called myself a lesbian because the thought of men seeing me as a woman made me sick. But I just liked men in the gay way. So I'm actually pansexual😵
I think blahaj is our mascot because movies and bad press made people think sharks are dangerous and scary but they're just floting around eating garbage and we relate to them.
I’m a cis woman and I love boxers and boxer briefs especially in summer because chub rub is real. Women’s “boy shorts” are a nod to that, but just not long enough in the leg to be useful for me. I also tend to buy men’s shoes because I have big, wide feet and women’s shoes are frequently too narrow and too pointy-toed for me to walk comfortably.
I had no signs as a kid. It was a perfectly cis thing for a boy to do the Wonder Woman spin hoping it would would actually transform him... and like magical girl transformations and wonder if they worked on boys. It was also very cis to want a chakram like Xena's even after I learned what a supposedly VERY feminine symbol it was. Also definitely didn't relate to almost all the memes on egg irl for years. /very very sarcasm & irony
When my egg started to crack I would deny it by reminding myself that I never wanted to play with "girl toys" (I'm mtf) so I thought there was no signs. Then I remembered many moments similar to when my teacher read the class a book about a boy licked his elbow and turned into a girl, so I spent hours that night trying to lick my elbow.
In all seriousness, it can be normal for trans people to have no childhood narrative and only realize things later in life. Such was the case for me, as I didn't have the language and tools available to describe what I was going through when I was growing up. I assumed everyone else felt the same way, and didn't even think to question my gender until I was older than Jamie is now.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Same. I had zero idea back then despite many of my signs being obvious to me now. Without the language and concepts I explained away some things and simply assumed others were "normal"
I went out in public with my mom yesterday, and she told me later on that I was confusing the older man we met because they didn't know if they should refer to me as ma'am or sir. She was trying to tell me it would be better to get a haircut or grow it longer because I'm confusing people on what gender I am and that can be aqward (I sincerely don't care). My pixie cut is getting overgrown, and with a mask on, apparently, I appear very androgynous is all I took from her telling me this 😊. I really don't care what people refer to me if we are strangers. In the long run, I find it amusing that I can pull off any gender (expression).
I absolutely hate it when people try to change what you're doing because they are bothered with the awkward social interactions. It's my awkward social interaction. Let it be weird. I hate socializing anyway, making myself uncomfortable isn't going to make me enjoy the conversation anymore
@@lilitpatchworkI’ve said this to multiple other other people and usually that makes them shut up and get more self conscious. Hopefully someday it’ll make someone become self aware.
@@GuiSmith yep, some people can ask far too invasive questions when trying to figure out what gender you are. Though they are actually trying to figure out your assigned sex. I started just asking people who won't take polite hints to drop it "Are you asking me what my genitals looked like as a baby?", bonus points if other people are in earshot, because they get very uncomfortable when everyone turns to stare at them. Like good, you deserve to be uncomfortable.
This is so relatable lol I had a phase where I was like "I'm just a woman that doesn't like to dress in a feminine fashion, nor be associated with feminine things, I just don't like having long hair... or boobs... or periods...." I basically didn't know trans men existed so I thought I was just weird (I had only known and seen trans women, so I thought only women could be trans). Until my boyfriend at the time introduced me to trans men... and then I was like "pfff but I'm not trans, I'm just not feminine!" And then one day I was on tumblr, and a post with photos of David Tennant appeared and when I was looking at them I was like "wow, I'm so gay........ wait what?" and that's how I knew. So thanks to David Tennant and his handsome face I realized I was a man 🤣
@@qwertykeyboard5901 well that sounds about right but there's more than one way to feel negatively about something. it could just simply suck, or it could feel outright wrong
I'm a cis woman but I was raised in a very tomboy fashion, short hair and boy's clothes with a foreign name that people didn't automatically guess the gender of, and definitely had a phase where I questioned my gender even before I learned about trans people. I felt uncomfortable in very feminine clothing, and had mixed feelings when people mistook me for a boy, I was annoyed but also pleased at the same time, and when I got older I started feeling worse and so I had to unpack that eventually. Ultimately though I figured out I wasn't trans. I felt this way because I was raised in a very tomboy manner and didn't know how to feel comfortable outside of that style, but was expected to "grow out of it. I was getting less understanding from strangers once I hit puberty and they could tell I was afab and presumably a girl, which was why I was starting to feel pleased when simply being misidentified as a boy instead of being squinted or frowned at. I also came to realize that my discomfort in feminine clothing was actually much more like a trans woman's discomfort. I'm very tall and broad with big hands and feet, and felt dysphoria when I tried to look feminine because I felt it emphasized all the ways in which I wasn't. I think that people who worry about cis kids questioning their gender nowadays are blowing things out of proportion. Just because someone knows that trans people exist and so their teenage identity crisis includes questioning their gender doesn't mean they're going to mistakenly transition. Having access to trans women's accounts of their feelings was one of the things that helped me actually identify that I wasn't trans.
It's good and important to ask these questions and have introspection. If you've never wondered, then how do you REALLY know? There are lots of ways to be uncomfortable with gender roles, and how you are perceived by the world.
Same (or similar). I was an absolute tomboy growing up, I spent years with short hair getting called "young man" and finding it more funny than bothersome. Nowadays my presentation is actually fairly feminine, and I enjoy that. I know trans people exist, I've spent some time thinking about my gender, and cis woman is probably accurate for me.
@@sarahr8311wow never really read an experience so similar to mine online! I found it really funny when I got called "son" by the older shopkeepers and I had a lot of hand-me-downs from my brother be it clothes or toys, so I was fairly comfortable with typically masculine stuff because of the familiarity it brought. Nowadays I'm more sure of my cis woman status (though once every blue moon I question it) but I'm happy with how things are and feel no need to stress over femenine or masculine, I learned to just go with what feels best and leave the details aside, and it really is nice.
I think my defining egg moment (transmasc) is when I was in third grade at my birthday party. I was in the middle of a water gun fight and most of my friends were guys so their shirts were off. So naturally I tried to take my shirt off without thinking of it and my mom scolded me and I had no idea what was wrong with it- I didn't understand why it bothered me as much as it did cause of how conservative my family is and now I have the words to say it.
I did the same thing but at a swimming pool. The boys took of their swimming tops to use the showers and I tried to too. (I wore a a swimming top with shorts aswell)
I had a similar experience! It was hot, I took my shirt off and my mum scolded me for walking around shirtless. I remember her exact words "you can't walk around shirtless you are developing breasts". Took me a very long time to realise what this simple sentence really did to me and even longer to have the words for it
Once i was swimming with my male cousins when I was around 9 or 10. I wore a swimming top and it pretty much fell off. All of them covered their eyes and told me to fix my top because they could see my chest. I calmly slipped it back on without extra thought but after that day I had a very raw interpretation of not only gender, but how people viewed my body. It made my uncomfortable that my chest made people uncomfortable or that I was wrong for exposing it even on accident. I wish this still wasn’t the case, I desperately want top surgery just so that I can go shirtless without being immediately sexualized
If any of you dudes don't know, trans fems (and fem enbies who were assigned male) have the exact opposite. We don't want to remove our shirts in situations where it's seen as entirely appropriate for boys/men.
Same! My mother passed away when I was very young, so I only grew up with my dad. Saw him taking off his shirt to water the plants in a really hot summer day and so naturally I did the same. He got mad. I was confused. (Transmasc enby)
No joke, egg_irl memes made me realize I was trans. First time I went there, I related to so much stuff, I had to stop myself looking at those memes because it was making me question myself so much. Some time around Feb. of this year, I went back (because those memes are funny as heck), embraced how relatable they were and I started seeking a psychiatrist. Lo and behold: they confirmed I was a trans man lol. 7 months on T and going. Just got my recommendation letter for top surgery. It DOES get better, folks. :)
Really happy for you ^-^ I had my realization last summer (mid August) and have to wait until end of January/start of February to get my first counselling. Not even close to get E yet
That's f awesome to hear that your transition is going well (and that the medical personell probably has actually taken you seriously when you could start relatively soon after realising. trans people really deserve being believed and havinf access to health care)!! I am really happy for ya!! =D
I have this memory of me (before 11 but I’m not sure exactly what age I was) thinking “I wonder what my boy name will be when I’m older?” Or “I wanna name myself Kai when I’m older” 💀 turns of I was transmasc lmao
Thank you so much for this! I had a supervisor who insisted that we could only use a students’ gender aligned pronouns if the parents were on board. I would NOT consider outing a student to parents, particularly when a student was afraid of his parents knowing that he is a boy! However, as much as he needed protection from his parents, he also thrived when I started using he/him pronouns. That shy smile, the confidence that developed, were essential to his mental health, even if he couldn’t be himself at home. Please please please keep being a voice for kids who are not able to share their truest selves, yet. Please keep educating us. And thank you for your voice.
-Drew crossdressing/genderbend art -Liked to pretend to be a different gender -Often imagined a genderswapped version of our universe -Unironically said I identified as a cat -Obsessed with Mettaton from Undertale Came out at 17. I'm 21 and have only been medically transitioning for 5 months. I'm so mad at my younger self for not realizing what was wrong.
Don't feel mad at your younger self. it took me almost 40 years to realize, and only ten years after my GF's own transition did the egg finally crack for me this year. Feel good that you finally connected the dots and that you can do something about it now. Be safe.
Don’t be mad at yourself, working out who you are takes so much time. In a similar vein, it took me till I was 31 to work out I am adhd and then another 3 years to realise I am bi! You know when you know and that’s ok
On the other hand, I've done all those things (except I prefer the skelebros to MTT), and I'm cis. Sometimes the "signs" aren't really signs. And sometimes they are. Like Jamie said, it's about how you feel.
@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378oh no, don't misunderstand that wasn't me being self-hating. I walk into every room like God sent me. Sometimes as a gift, often as a punishment. My existence is powerful and absolutely nobody can stop me not even myself 😊
Transwoman early in transition here, with this to say: I’ve had two experiences related to transition that stick out in my mind. The first is someone yelling “K*ll yourself, tr*nny!” From a moving car. The second was a complete stranger, a (presumably cis or cis passing) woman, gushing over how cute my outfit and telling me she wished she could pull it off as well as I did. This lead me to a deep moment of consideration: I can either focus on the first interaction, and ruin my day/fill myself with doubt, or I can focus on the second and feel empowered and comfortable that there are plenty of good people in the world. I chose the latter, and feel like I am much happier for it. Great content as always Jamie! Subbed, I can’t believe I haven’t done it until now.
I was 15 when I first said out loud that I wished I was a girl. It took 15 years to discover it was a thing others had done. Another 20 years saw me spending time with trans men. 5 years later I realized I had to embrace both or end. I'm currently presenting as fem, and apparently passing, even without hormones which I hope to start before the year ends. Delays due to health issues. Amab and have always had more room than balls. I can't stand boxers and didn't try boxer briefs until 5 years ago. Nananananananananananananananana Batman
5:46 This happened to me once. I was 16 years old and presenting femininely (long hair, no binder) and closeted (so no T or voice training) and this kid asked "are you a girl or a boy?" and I was just so excited that he wasn't sure, but I had to say "girl" because he might tell his mom if I said boy and this was at my (transphobic) church. He straight up goes silent for a moment and then says "you sound like a boy." I probably would've been really upset if I was a cis woman or transfem but my transmasc heart was so happy
Had my hair cut and wore a pretty masculine outfit that day. My mom told me not just once, but twice to wear earrings cause I looked like a boy. She didnt know it but that reaffirmed my gender and made me feel quite happy that day :>
@@percyfunnyI've never talked to anyone irl abt how happy it made me feel the one time I went shopping on my own back when I was a teen and an elder shopkeeper told me "anything else you need, son?", I have since unpacked everything I needed to and feel comfortable with my identity, but your comment brought that nice memory back to me, thank you! 💚
My mom also told me to wear earrings because I looked like a boy when I had my first masculine cut. It was nice being affirmed as a boy but after I told her "I'll probably wear a pair of earrings I bought yesterday" to please her, she started being mad at me because she didn't knew what the world "pair" meant and she thought I would wear a single earring. She said that I couldn't do that because "that's what the gays and lesbians do". My joy of being affirmed got cut short by my homophobic mom with her stereotypes and her limited vocab 😭
Long before I transitioned, my cis girlfriend loved wearing my boxer briefs, and I loved wearing her pajamas and bathrobe. And she tried on one of my button-up shirts once. I haven't talked to her in years, but as far as I know, she's still cis. Although that would be really funny if a transmasc egg and a transfem egg had gotten together.
I needed these 💕 my four year old goes by she pronouns. I know that might sound odd for some people. It did to me at first too because of how young she is. She’s been telling us she’s a girl for eight months now. Whether it’s “a phase” or not, people give me a lot of flack for letting her go by what she’d prefer. It’s really encouraging to hear these memes and feel kiddo might not have to go through a lot of this.
It also doesn’t really affect them does it? I mean she’s only 4, if she grows out of it, well that’s that. Nothing major will really happen. And if she doesn’t well, you knew how she was comfortable with it since this age, which prevents her from getting all the bad feelings later in life.
Trans guy here. I knew when I was four. I never told anyone, but I knew. I ended up forgetting for a long time, but I've been going back through my memories lately and yep. Clear as day, I knew. Thank you so so much for supporting your little girl. It's going to mean so much to her, I'm sure
@@terittexactly! Willingly changing your name clothes and pronouns is not going to hurt anyone. And giving someone the freedom to explore themselves is absolutely healthy
That's right around the age when scientists say gender identity begins to form. So it makes a lot of sense. In any case, though, it's great to explore things, and you've got plenty of time before she even needs to worry about puberty blockers, let alone anything "permanent". I knew in kindergarten that I wanted to be treated as a girl, even though I didn't really have the words or concepts to express it properly. I wish someone had given me the words and concepts to figure it out then, rather than figuring it out 40 years later, as I eventually did.
damn im a trans women and i feel as though my really supportive therapist is a little skeptical cause i havent gone through a lot of measures to appear feminine, but im just like when i was a kid i literally called myself a tomboy though
Is it fine that I showed no signs of being trans as a kid? (Im an afab enby) I was fine being feminine but when I found out non-binary people existed I started trying new things out and I feel more comfortable being gender neutral now
Yes, I was like that too. When you're a really little kid a gender feels sort of similar to your nationality or ethnicity: it's just kind of a trivia fact you don't have much reason to think about frequently. Then you hit puberty and *everything* is aggressively gendered. Suddenly the gender question gets a lot more uncomfortable.
I'm trans, older, and have been out for slightly over a year at this point (it was October 2022 I came out at work). The cruellest thing people in the UK have to deal with are the waiting times for a Gender Identity Clinic (GIC) in the UK, and the atrociously slow pace of treatment. You only get your dose increased by a maximum amount of 1mg every three months (estrogen gel). Honestly, watching content like Jamie's was one of the things keeping it nagging at my mind. It was just so good to see trans stuff. I've been a lurker for years, never commented that I recall anyway. I am here, I am trans, we exist. We walk among you. Jamie, you are amazing. All trans people, we are all amazing. To all my trans sisters, brothers and siblings: Respect yourself, enjoy yourself, and be safe. And stay amazing :)
Seriously it's so long!! I got put on the list at 16, I'm 17 now. I'm on the children's list but my fear is when I turn 18 which isn't too far away, they'll have to put me on the adult list. Would they put me on the bottom and I have to wait all over again?!? It's so frustrating
I really needed this video after all the crappy transphobia from yesterday, thank you! Also happy trans awareness week everyone :) you're seen and valid whoever you are ❤️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Transmale here, my names Ash and I get "is it short for Ashley/Ashlee?" More than you would think by people who don't know I'm a male. Some people don't ask they just use she/her before I tell them
Yooo I go by the same too! And I'm a trans masc enby. I've had the same thing happen to me a bit before I got my haircut. It is kinda annoying but I just cut them off by saying "my name is Ash, yes that's my full name" which usually works.
Lol I’m Asher but at school I’m Ash because I didn’t want to out myself but I also didn’t want to be called my very feminine deadname in a place I didn’t have too
@@AnAlienHiddenInPlainSight I love your name Asher :) and yeah I feel the feminine deadname, I'm in the same boat, it just happens that Ash can also be a nickname of my deadname but it's the name I want.
I was a tomboy and I got frustrated trying to explain the difference between expression and being trans. I really wish angry straight people would research what they are hating on 🤦♀️
@@silverghostcat1924 yeah that would be even better. I mean because I stand by trans rights (or anyone that has less if a voice) people then go oh you are fat you have no right to that opinion... And I'm like my weight has nothing to do with standing up for someone that needs it.
@@nichellecox4846 that has no logic whatsoever! WTFF does your weight have to do with anything? But let's be honest, logical thinking (or thinking of any kind) is a rarity among homo/transphobes.
6:47 I had this happen at work the other day. A little girl leaned over while her mom was paying at the window and blurted you look like a girl and her mom immediately said, "don't say that that's rude." I laughed and said thanks tho and then felt very good.
Someone called me a slur the other day and just, expected me to think its a joke? Imagine if i did that! "Shut up you ni-" and just expecting it to be fine, it doesnt make any sense!
Recently found this web novel about a MtF lovely transgender who to get distracted from a break up of a 3 year long relationship entered a VRMMO, ended up with a female avatar from a happy little accident and eggs really were cracked…. Such a lovely thing, when people, trans or not, realise who they are and can just embrace it in a safe environment. Luckily this character had a supporting family and it felt great reading about. But the entire dysphoria that came after her spending a week as a girl in this game, just to come back to her male body as she logged out. It was so overwhelming (as I can really live through characters in stories), the jump between dysphoria and euphoria. Now I am trans myself, MtF, and could relate a lot to this story. And a few of the memes here. As someone who’s been unable to get any medical help yet with transitioning I know one thing for sure though… aesthetic expression can do a lot to alleviate dysphoria. Dress up for you, not for anyone else. And although it may not remove the dysphoria completely. Being in an outfit you like, maybe having make up on if that’s your thing, etc, it helps a lot.
Not my neurodivergent brain wondering how someone would survive a week inside a vr video game without real life food or, more importantly, water 😂 But that sounds like a cool web comic
This reminds me of the comic/manga (I forgot which tbh) called Magical Boy, it’s about a trans boy who is from a line of magical girls, and the conflict in the first one is not only bad magic stuff, but also transphobia from his mother, as “only girls can use the power”. One of the prominent scenes that stuck with me was when his parents (or people at school, forgot tbh) called him by his deadname, and in the speech bubbles, it was just.. inked out. It’s SUPER good, not only artistically but also representing how some trans people just ignore people who deadname them. The second book (probably the last idk) is one I HAVENT read, but the first one is super good so I expect good things. (Also my Mom bought it for me after I came out as transmasc and it made me so giddy) ❤
@@ranting2daMAX wow, I can definitely see why that’d feel good. That sounds like a great gift. Interesting concept though. When it comes to deadnames and such I don’t think I’ll ever be able to flat out ignore someone from my family… however I have decided that I accept that name until I have legally changed (which I hope to do SoonTM) as legally speaking it is still my name. And although I’m definitely out as trans, I don’t go around screaming it to the world so anyone who knew me before, etc, would only know if they asked or ended up in a situation where it was super obvious. (I’m not on HRT or any other treatment yet but I hope that comes soon. All I can do for now is dress the way I like and be happy with that)
My first time being accepted was in a psych hospital, I got to wear boxers, hear my preferred name, everything. My mom took me out after 3 days because of it and says they were abusing kids cause they let you chose the underwear you wear...[i also got to keep my binder last time i was there 🕺🕺🕺]
I am so grateful for conversations like this. I'm in my mid-forty's, and was only able to understand that the extreme discomfort I feel when someone refers to me as a "woman" was not due to my strong feminism, but because I'm agender a few years ago.
I distinctly remember thinking one time when i was very little about the pros and cons of being a boy or girl and then i remember not being able to come to a conclusion about which i found better Now my bigenderfluid self is questioning myself everyday 🙃👍
Same! When I was little some days I would expect to look in the mirror and see long hair, delicate face, and then others I would expect short hair, a more angular face. And then I never told anybody! Got busy with school and all the struggles that came with it, and now that I’ve graduated and (kinda) have reached a good spot it’s like it all hit me in the head.
@@kittyjuneo2218 I've always thought of long hair as a guy trait the reason? Dee Snider. A metal musician who's basically a drag queen. A drag queen rock star is the peak of manliness to me (for reference I'm a genderfluid AMAB)
A very *fun* point I want to make is that like, You can be the most stereotypical transgender kid ever growing up- and if you aren't given the resources to understand what's going on with you- you might still not come out until you are an adult. And people will still act like there were never any signs. I knew I wanted to be a girl from the age of 7 years old. I had a few very stereotypical, very cliché, experiences with gender dysphoria as a young child- and I was routinely *corrected* by adults around me, my family, teachers, etc. I was excluded from lunchtime play in primary school because one of my friends lent me a spare school summer dress to wear while we braided each other's hair. Stuff like this kept happening to me. I even told a school councillor, aged 13, outright, that I was scared my body was changing in the wrong ways and I wanted to be a girl. She told me that saying stuff like that is probably why other kids think I'm gay and why I get beaten up all of the time, and she signed me up to out of school sports clubs, to help me man up. I eventually "accepted" that I had to be a boy. But I would find ways to alleviate the dysphoria (a word I wouldn't hear used to describe the feeling until I was 21 years old) as best I could, but as far as i knew, I couldn't be a girl, even if I wanted to. I delved deep into counter culture as a teenager, because goths, punks, emo kids? well, like, dude's in their circles could wear makeup, could grow their hair long. Hell even the girls in those circles often liked androgynous looking guys! I remember being bullied for looking too girly, you know those memes about guys clinging to compliments for decades? I can perfectly recall compliments and *insults* about how feminine I looked from my adolescence even now. I remember listening to the Against Me! track "the ocean" in 2007, in an art class in high school, while I was sketching drawings of mutants and zombies. I picked up on the lyric "If I could have chosen, I would have been born a woman" I remember rewinding and listening to that verse over and over. feeling this sinking in my heart. "Was he just like me?". (Turns out she was by the way, the lead singer is now a transgender icon). Later I moved in more queer circles, and was able to present femininely, even outright crossdressing with the explicit intention of passing as a girl.... always just for laughs ofc. Always just to make a statement. My time with people from all of those groups shaped a lot of the person I grew to be. But it was never really what I wanted, there was always a secret reason I enjoyed wearing makeup, or dresses, or wearing my hair long. I wanted to be a girl. When I learned what being transgender was, I was terrified. I went into denial. I tried to be more masculine, I tried to hide from it. If I accepted that I wanted something I could never have, that would hurt more than I could ever imagine. If you had asked me 4 years ago if I was transgender I'd have laughed and half-jokingly said: "I wish, then I could take oestrogen and be a pretty girl!" Now I'm several months deep on HRT and laser hair removal treatments, and my only regrets are that more people didn't accept me, and that i didn't do this sooner.
I never felt voice dysphoria because i used to pretend that i was acting as a female character so i had to play the part with my voice, which actually made me not feel like my voice didn't align with my identity because it wasn't my voice it was somebody else's.
Same, but not for my gender. In 2020 I was like "oh cool gay people!" and joined the subreddits as an ally. Spent more time there and was like "oh fuck I think I'm aroace." turns out yea I'm aroace. Gotta say, probably not nearly as impactful as some other people's realizations considering I'm not really defying the hetero norm (unless you consider having sex, period, being in the norm) but still pretty interesting. Also found out my mom definitely isn't straight and is probably aromantic demisexual, so that was cool. Guess I get some of my absence of romance/sexuality from her lol
@@existenceispain_geekthesirenI had it for both orientation and gender. My big "Am I actually straight?" moment was hanging out with some queer friends all listing off how straight they were (straight as a wavy line) and it got to my turn and I answered that I was "as straight as air."
I really appreciate this video since ive been having some really bad chest dysphoria recently, and this is a welcome repreive from the transphobia and transphobic ads ive been getting recently. Tysm for making content Jamie! Im trans androgynous and i hope ome day soon i can get top surgery or at least a chest reduction because I HATE my chest most days.
I know that it doesn't completely fix the problem, But I've been blocking every ad that pops up like that and it actually did lower the amount that I see eventually. Hang in there. I know it's psychological warfare, and I know it hurts
Im trans and a really femme guy. I didnt show any signs as a kid because I LOVE traditionally girly things especially when i didnt realise there was a gendered connection. I still love all of that stuff. It wasnt until puberty came that I started to internally show signs.
That’s literally my experience tho. I was pretty girly and thought I was a girl. But yeahh puberty happened and it made rethink everything I knew about myself.
Before I fully realized I was trans I thought “is being with a woman supposed to fill that feeling of wanting to be one” or something around those lines
I came out and everyone acted like it was so sudden and they were surprised. and its like, of course you didn't know. It wasn't safe to tell you. also, I heard about the soy thing. I ate more.
7:12 (american school years) on the contrary, when I was in eighth grade I had just come out, and I was kinda a teacher assistant, and so I was told to take a beaker to the sixth grade science class, and so I did, and I had one side of my hair shaved and the other went all the way down my face, and I can't remember if this is when I had pink, blue, or black hair, but I think it was pink, but the sixth graders were arguing on whether I was a boy or girl, and as I left I shouted "I'm a boy" and they all started freaking out like "THAT'S A BOY?!?!" still one of my favorite trans moments I've ever had
A child accosted me in the women's room T_T (cis woman, but I look masc at times depending on how I dress...) she was screaming "THERE IS A BOY IN THERE. A BOY IN THE WOMEN'S ROOM." I was dying. I just wanted to pee.
It's funny I started watching channels like this as a bisexual then I started to relate too much to the trans memes and then all the repressed memories and feelings started coming back and now I realize that there may be a reason that I hate hearing my own voice and mirrors so much.
14:43 the longest route you can go to buy the blajaj is do you have money: no do you have a job: yes do they pay you: no do you have possessions: no do you have a soul: yes
Lol, I've been dodging mirrors and cameras most of my life cause I didn't like how I looked. Turns out I've been training for transitioning my whole life.
As an agender person currently going through a dysphoric episode--I agree with the sentiment that dysphoria deserves to be poked with the suggestive shape of the castle in the Little Mermaid.
I'm relating to this but as a bi egg cracking. The "are you a girl or a boy" one made me think of a friend in high school who had a pin that said "straight but not narrow". I thought "oooh I like that! It would show that I'm am ally! But...straight? That doesn't sound....truthful?" Sadly my bi egg didn't properly crack till I was already married to a man (who I love) so I just appear to be straight even though I'm definitely not. Oh well.
I had a customer ask if I was a man or a woman the other day. I was like ask again in a few more months. edit: Also, I've spent hundreds on gender affirming clothes, while my computer can no longer run one of my favorite games after it had a massive update.
8:24 Like how I ironically had to play every male character in any Barbie's or roleplaying game as a kid because "no one else wants to and I don't mind" and tried to convince my friends that male characters were necessary to the plot when they weren't
My therapist was amazing until I told her I didn't want to be a girl. She said that it was because I saw my female role models as weak and didn't want to be like them. She misunderstood me so much in that moment, I don't know if I was able to be vulnerable with her after that.
8:42 this is literally one of my biggest insecurities because I was the girliest girl ever to exist as a kid and I was so extremely feminine and most of the trans guys you see online are like „yeah I’ve always known, I dressed like a boy all the time“ And I know it doesn’t matter but my brain can’t seem to get that :/
I don't think I ever had an egg phase. I didn't think there was anything weird about being a masculine girl and I didn't know that cis was a term (I've lived under a rock my whole life). As soon as I heard the word trans I was like "Yes! This is me!" But when I told my mom she did the whole conservative Christian thing and scared me out of it. And now six years later I'm still trans. Big surprise.
I want to share my trans joy : today is a big day, as I just got my paper with my new name on it, i can start changing it everywhere ! And I met my T doctor who said I could start soon ! Happy day to you, I wish you the best
About that very first meme, I might be able to move out in a week or so!!!!!!!! So f*cking excited :DD Oh also that voice dysphoria bit thing was the most relatable thing ever
Im bigender and genderfluid so i have two genders and they are both wiggly and boy does dysphoria suck I am in a state of confusion and crisis about my gender 24/7
I had a genderneutral birthname. Still changed it because it had a lot of sad memories from my life up to that point attached to it. I still flinch everytime i hear it somewhere. And it is really popular with Trans and nonbinary people as a chosen name -_-
- wanted short (boy) hair - wore oversized clothes that hid my body and were boyish - got very upset when accused of shaving all the time when i actually just couldn't grow body hair - hated being called "cute" bc it was so girly... so my family taunted me w that FOR YEARS - parents picked my backpack in kindergarten: barbie. I picked my lunchbox in kindergarten: Dick Tracy. I came out at 37... My entire family: THERE WERE NO SIGNS!!!
10:53 thank you for saying this. I am agender but I tend to present more feminine for safety reasons and because of that most people assume I am a female.
Haha one of my favorite and most validating moments to being ‘switching between feminine, masculine, or somewhere else’ is when a neighbor kid (who I’ve known for a while, he was like 8 then) saw me walking down our street and loudly asked his Dad “Is that a girl or a boy?” I was wearing a flannel with jeans, but my long hair was tied up in a ponytail and I had purple shoes on. He still got it. When I got in the car with my Mom I mentioned it to her, and she gave an awkward laugh and said "What? You're obviously a girl." The rush of happiness I got was one of the things that clued me in that maybe I wasn’t strictly ‘girl’. I was thinking about it for the rest of the day :) Thanks kid.
I dont have many happy moments from my school but this one moment made me extremely happy, a little boy who was probably in grade 3 or lower, asked me if i was a boy, i told him that i was and then he paused and asked "why is your hair purple" it broke my heart a little because due to the very hard rules of having no dyed hair in my school and his parents definitely have made remarks to people with dyed hair, i responded that my hair is dyed purple because i like having purple hair and he happily said "cool!" And walked away and i hope i gave him a little hope that he doesnt have to abide by societies cruel "rules"
I am non-binary and I pick the Satan flag. I was asked all the time growing up if I was a boy or girl. I used both bathrooms in high school because I was so androgynous. This was in the 1980's ! The woman clerk at JCPENNEY once called me "young man" when I went to buy a bra. I know that embarrassment. It does not matter how you answer the question of are you a boy or girl. Do what keeps you safe and feels right for the moment without any shame. When did my egg totally crack? I was 51. I took my time. Don't let anyone invade your privacy. Come out when YOU want, not when people force the issue.
Slowly coming to the realisation in my 30’s that wanting to be mistaken for a boy some days is not a normal AFAB cis thing. Beginning to accept that I probably fall somewhere under the gender fluid banner. Many thanks to Jamie and OT for introducing me to these scarily relatable subreddits.
I've always had mild body dysphoria and so i think that's why i have so much compassion for not feeling at home in your own body. To all of you who suffered and beat it through transition or other procedures, I'm so proud of you and i wish you nothing but joy from here on.
It might seems scary at first and some moments will be hard, but it'll be alright. Just hang in there and congratz with finding your true self. Take care 💙
I'm in my 30s and grew up thinking about being a boy, sometimes dreaming about being a boy. I could very well still be an egg, my husband often calls me a man because I don't always behave feminine.. but for now I feel cis if not masc woman - I might be here for the butch grandma aesthetic.
15:41 As I learned more about trans & non-binary people, I decided that if I ever had a kid, I would make sure either their first name or middle name was gender neutral so if they were trans or non-binary, they were set.
Me when I was 12 thinking it was usual for people to wish they would get breast cancer so they could have their breasts removed and not understanding why that would upset some people Also me years later being asked if I was the brother of my younger sibling and just standing there for a full minute being confused/weirdly happy until the person who asked walked away.
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When I was about 11, riding my bicycle in Windsor Ontario, a young child amongst others on a porch yelled out to me “are you a boy or a girl”? My answer slid-out loud and clear “somewhere in between (not premeditated). And, that’s how I felt until my transition some 50 years later. Being trans was not in our vocabulary back in the 60s, so “somewhere in between” seemed to be a very correct response.
👀 southern Ontario mate?
Ok I finished reading your post and omg that’s so cool! I don’t know of many older trans people, just people for like teens to mid 30s, so hearing about someone in my area like that is awesome! I’d love to pick your brain sometime if you have like a Facebook or something?
That's really cool, I wish i'd had the understanding of myself to answer that as a kid
Instead I would adamantly answer that i'm a boy (especially when puberty hit and my voice started sounding deeper) ; now I wish I had seen what the other kids were seeing at the time. (And looking back at pictures, I understand why they would be confused, I was very much androgynous back then)
Had a kid in my PE class ask me that, my response was “that is entirely up to your interpretation”
I’m 51 and starting transitioning almost 5 years ago. I understand that not in the vocabulary. I’m from Texas and because I grew up with my dad being military, we moved around to several states/countries in 10 years time then back to Texas. I’ve be lucky to have one friend that is transgender as well. I also have to be careful with whom I have as friends. Luckily for me I have just under two hands worth of fingers of friends that truly accept me and very easily were able to change how they address me and love me for who I am.
Edit, edit, big fat edit: I am speaking only for myself, there seems to be several cis men in the replies who apparently do feel like they might be more happy as a woman and vice versa, I can only speak to my experiences. /Edit
I am cis man, let me reassure anyone who's made the jump and is second (or third or fourth) guessing themselves: the idea of being a woman fills me with no joy or happiness, it doesn't make me feel anything at all, and the only time it's on my mind is when it's brought up, say in a video like this.
You should probably trust your first instinct.
Its actually really reasuring hearing it from a cis person
Thanks bro
Then I'm a really weird cis man
@@anoNEMOs I can only speak for me at the end of the day
@@anoNEMOswhat good is life if you can't be a little weird?
Weird is good
I can relate. As a ciswoman I feel a vehement repulsion to the thought of being a dude, i.e acquiring the andromorphic anatomical traits (beard, wide shoulders, thick biceps, muscular thighs, big calves, etc) . Y’all are pretty attractive though ;P.
I really think sex organs should be separated from the gender. Hormones determine the characteristics of the body, not your sex assigned at birth.
"are you a girl or a boy" what are you, a cop? come back with a warrant
I am a ciswoman who lives in jeans and tshirts. Uterus has yet to fall out. I detest society's gender roles very much. If you say you are a sister, you are a sister.
Uterus has yet to fall out is such a funny sentence out of context
‘ciswoman’
another puppet to the groomer community
Say ‘WOMAN’ like a normal person
Of course it hasn't! The jeans hold it in!
same, all I wear is jeans and hoodies
LMAO I WISH my uterus would fall out some days. I'm an afab NB, And my chest is what gives me the most dysphoria, but also fuck periods.
Me:
- loved hot wheels
- loved pokemon
- literally asked my dad if I could pretend to be a boy to join boy scouts as a kid (I'm afab)
- hated dresses/skirts
My dad: "there were no signs!"
My mom was like that. I came out at 45 and she acted like this was unimaginable. Seriously? You've known me 45 years and there isn't even 1% of you that goes, "Hmmm....."?
Omg literally me!!! Also afab! I still have have all my hot wheels, and pokemon, and I preferred to play with my dinosaurs and tonka trucks over the barbie dolls, and my dad worked for the BSA (Boy Scouts of America), and I had always wanted to officially be one! I did get to participate in some of the day camp stuff tho, cause of the position my dad had with them, and a co-worker of his allowed me access to whatever day camp activities I wanted to participate in, lol 😅
I was actually a boy scout for around 3 weeks in the 1970's. I grew up Mormon and a Brother in the Ward had started a cub scout troop. When someone told the bishop, I was forced out of the group. Sorry for the inconvenience Brother Hopewell 😢 It's ok, I am out as an enby now and things turned out fine.
same, dude. I was actually sort of in boyscouts, since my brother was one and my parents were scout master and couldn't afford to have a babysitter. I did all the boyscouts stuff, just couldn't earn any badges. Was fun! I can't really be anything I am until my family is all dead, though. :) They'd kill me.
I'm AMAB, and was sort of the same but opposite.
My mom: You can be anything you want to be, no matter what your gender is!
Me: I want to be a Girl Scout.
My mom: No, not like that!
Friend joking: I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body.
Me: 🥹 finally. Words that truly describe me.
Relatable af
I called myself a lesbian because the thought of men seeing me as a woman made me sick. But I just liked men in the gay way. So I'm actually pansexual😵
I’m a gay man trapped in a woman’s body.
wait I can relate to this-- interesting. I didnt expect more cracks to show when I looked in the comments of this video 😆
for me its more like trixic since im bigender androgyne, but same story overall
I think blahaj is our mascot because movies and bad press made people think sharks are dangerous and scary but they're just floting around eating garbage and we relate to them.
That's actually an interesting analogy there
I'm a trans woman, and tbh I don't think I'll ever stop wearing boxer shorts because they're so comfortable imo.
I’m a cis woman and I love boxers and boxer briefs especially in summer because chub rub is real. Women’s “boy shorts” are a nod to that, but just not long enough in the leg to be useful for me. I also tend to buy men’s shoes because I have big, wide feet and women’s shoes are frequently too narrow and too pointy-toed for me to walk comfortably.
I had no signs as a kid.
It was a perfectly cis thing for a boy to do the Wonder Woman spin hoping it would would actually transform him... and like magical girl transformations and wonder if they worked on boys.
It was also very cis to want a chakram like Xena's even after I learned what a supposedly VERY feminine symbol it was.
Also definitely didn't relate to almost all the memes on egg irl for years.
/very very sarcasm & irony
In all fairness Xena’s chakrams are super fucking cool!! Lmao
@@FoxiestLia Very true
When my egg started to crack I would deny it by reminding myself that I never wanted to play with "girl toys" (I'm mtf) so I thought there was no signs. Then I remembered many moments similar to when my teacher read the class a book about a boy licked his elbow and turned into a girl, so I spent hours that night trying to lick my elbow.
In all seriousness, it can be normal for trans people to have no childhood narrative and only realize things later in life. Such was the case for me, as I didn't have the language and tools available to describe what I was going through when I was growing up. I assumed everyone else felt the same way, and didn't even think to question my gender until I was older than Jamie is now.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Same. I had zero idea back then despite many of my signs being obvious to me now. Without the language and concepts I explained away some things and simply assumed others were "normal"
I went out in public with my mom yesterday, and she told me later on that I was confusing the older man we met because they didn't know if they should refer to me as ma'am or sir. She was trying to tell me it would be better to get a haircut or grow it longer because I'm confusing people on what gender I am and that can be aqward (I sincerely don't care).
My pixie cut is getting overgrown, and with a mask on, apparently, I appear very androgynous is all I took from her telling me this 😊. I really don't care what people refer to me if we are strangers. In the long run, I find it amusing that I can pull off any gender (expression).
Nice!
I absolutely hate it when people try to change what you're doing because they are bothered with the awkward social interactions. It's my awkward social interaction. Let it be weird. I hate socializing anyway, making myself uncomfortable isn't going to make me enjoy the conversation anymore
@@lilitpatchworkI’ve said this to multiple other other people and usually that makes them shut up and get more self conscious. Hopefully someday it’ll make someone become self aware.
@@GuiSmith yep, some people can ask far too invasive questions when trying to figure out what gender you are. Though they are actually trying to figure out your assigned sex. I started just asking people who won't take polite hints to drop it "Are you asking me what my genitals looked like as a baby?", bonus points if other people are in earshot, because they get very uncomfortable when everyone turns to stare at them. Like good, you deserve to be uncomfortable.
@@waffles3629perfect response!
This is so relatable lol I had a phase where I was like "I'm just a woman that doesn't like to dress in a feminine fashion, nor be associated with feminine things, I just don't like having long hair... or boobs... or periods...." I basically didn't know trans men existed so I thought I was just weird (I had only known and seen trans women, so I thought only women could be trans). Until my boyfriend at the time introduced me to trans men... and then I was like "pfff but I'm not trans, I'm just not feminine!" And then one day I was on tumblr, and a post with photos of David Tennant appeared and when I was looking at them I was like "wow, I'm so gay........ wait what?" and that's how I knew. So thanks to David Tennant and his handsome face I realized I was a man 🤣
"I'm so gay" 😂 it came so naturally. That's beautiful ❤
RelatableTM 😂 My husband asked me if I was trans and the egg wasn’t ready. But now here I am, very trans lol.
David Tennant? Dr who David Tennant? Yeah...
I don't think _anyone_ likes having periods.
@@qwertykeyboard5901 well that sounds about right but there's more than one way to feel negatively about something. it could just simply suck, or it could feel outright wrong
I'm a cis woman but I was raised in a very tomboy fashion, short hair and boy's clothes with a foreign name that people didn't automatically guess the gender of, and definitely had a phase where I questioned my gender even before I learned about trans people. I felt uncomfortable in very feminine clothing, and had mixed feelings when people mistook me for a boy, I was annoyed but also pleased at the same time, and when I got older I started feeling worse and so I had to unpack that eventually.
Ultimately though I figured out I wasn't trans. I felt this way because I was raised in a very tomboy manner and didn't know how to feel comfortable outside of that style, but was expected to "grow out of it. I was getting less understanding from strangers once I hit puberty and they could tell I was afab and presumably a girl, which was why I was starting to feel pleased when simply being misidentified as a boy instead of being squinted or frowned at. I also came to realize that my discomfort in feminine clothing was actually much more like a trans woman's discomfort. I'm very tall and broad with big hands and feet, and felt dysphoria when I tried to look feminine because I felt it emphasized all the ways in which I wasn't.
I think that people who worry about cis kids questioning their gender nowadays are blowing things out of proportion. Just because someone knows that trans people exist and so their teenage identity crisis includes questioning their gender doesn't mean they're going to mistakenly transition. Having access to trans women's accounts of their feelings was one of the things that helped me actually identify that I wasn't trans.
It's good and important to ask these questions and have introspection. If you've never wondered, then how do you REALLY know?
There are lots of ways to be uncomfortable with gender roles, and how you are perceived by the world.
Same (or similar). I was an absolute tomboy growing up, I spent years with short hair getting called "young man" and finding it more funny than bothersome. Nowadays my presentation is actually fairly feminine, and I enjoy that. I know trans people exist, I've spent some time thinking about my gender, and cis woman is probably accurate for me.
@@sarahr8311wow never really read an experience so similar to mine online! I found it really funny when I got called "son" by the older shopkeepers and I had a lot of hand-me-downs from my brother be it clothes or toys, so I was fairly comfortable with typically masculine stuff because of the familiarity it brought. Nowadays I'm more sure of my cis woman status (though once every blue moon I question it) but I'm happy with how things are and feel no need to stress over femenine or masculine, I learned to just go with what feels best and leave the details aside, and it really is nice.
I think my defining egg moment (transmasc) is when I was in third grade at my birthday party. I was in the middle of a water gun fight and most of my friends were guys so their shirts were off. So naturally I tried to take my shirt off without thinking of it and my mom scolded me and I had no idea what was wrong with it- I didn't understand why it bothered me as much as it did cause of how conservative my family is and now I have the words to say it.
I did the same thing but at a swimming pool. The boys took of their swimming tops to use the showers and I tried to too. (I wore a a swimming top with shorts aswell)
I had a similar experience! It was hot, I took my shirt off and my mum scolded me for walking around shirtless. I remember her exact words "you can't walk around shirtless you are developing breasts". Took me a very long time to realise what this simple sentence really did to me and even longer to have the words for it
Once i was swimming with my male cousins when I was around 9 or 10. I wore a swimming top and it pretty much fell off. All of them covered their eyes and told me to fix my top because they could see my chest. I calmly slipped it back on without extra thought but after that day I had a very raw interpretation of not only gender, but how people viewed my body. It made my uncomfortable that my chest made people uncomfortable or that I was wrong for exposing it even on accident. I wish this still wasn’t the case, I desperately want top surgery just so that I can go shirtless without being immediately sexualized
If any of you dudes don't know, trans fems (and fem enbies who were assigned male) have the exact opposite. We don't want to remove our shirts in situations where it's seen as entirely appropriate for boys/men.
Same! My mother passed away when I was very young, so I only grew up with my dad. Saw him taking off his shirt to water the plants in a really hot summer day and so naturally I did the same. He got mad. I was confused. (Transmasc enby)
No joke, egg_irl memes made me realize I was trans.
First time I went there, I related to so much stuff, I had to stop myself looking at those memes because it was making me question myself so much.
Some time around Feb. of this year, I went back (because those memes are funny as heck), embraced how relatable they were and I started seeking a psychiatrist. Lo and behold: they confirmed I was a trans man lol. 7 months on T and going. Just got my recommendation letter for top surgery. It DOES get better, folks. :)
Congratulations. /gen
Really happy for you ^-^
I had my realization last summer (mid August) and have to wait until end of January/start of February to get my first counselling. Not even close to get E yet
@@glarak9819 i can relate to your impatience so much ahhh good luck with everything though, sister. One day we will get there!! =)
That's f awesome to hear that your transition is going well (and that the medical personell probably has actually taken you seriously when you could start relatively soon after realising. trans people really deserve being believed and havinf access to health care)!! I am really happy for ya!! =D
@@keeprollin9911 Best of luck to you as well ^-^
Jamie acknowledging "Jamie Lee Curtis" and then not recognizing her face 30 seconds later is killing me. 😂
OMG same. Glad I’m not the only one
Jamie Lee = HERO
"I didn't have any signs as a kid"
*Had dreams were I was a girl and I was extremely happy and I was actively trying to dream that again and again*
Is it a boy? Or is it a girl?
The Mangle: *static sounds*
Scott Cawthon: yes 👍
Mangle was always my favorite
Ever since I joined the series (at FNaF World) they've been my favorite
Funtime Foxy as well
and maybe Puppet/Marionette also
Mangle is so based
Love the yes gendered fox
my headcannon has always been since the Mangle has 2 heads, one is a boy the other is a girl
@@TheresaBaker420good headcannon
I have this memory of me (before 11 but I’m not sure exactly what age I was) thinking “I wonder what my boy name will be when I’m older?” Or “I wanna name myself Kai when I’m older” 💀 turns of I was transmasc lmao
Thank you so much for this! I had a supervisor who insisted that we could only use a students’ gender aligned pronouns if the parents were on board. I would NOT consider outing a student to parents, particularly when a student was afraid of his parents knowing that he is a boy! However, as much as he needed protection from his parents, he also thrived when I started using he/him pronouns. That shy smile, the confidence that developed, were essential to his mental health, even if he couldn’t be himself at home. Please please please keep being a voice for kids who are not able to share their truest selves, yet. Please keep educating us. And thank you for your voice.
I completely agree with you, as a parent! Not everyone has the support they need and deserve at home!
OMG based teacher!
-Drew crossdressing/genderbend art
-Liked to pretend to be a different gender
-Often imagined a genderswapped version of our universe
-Unironically said I identified as a cat
-Obsessed with Mettaton from Undertale
Came out at 17. I'm 21 and have only been medically transitioning for 5 months. I'm so mad at my younger self for not realizing what was wrong.
Mettaton is so slay
Don't feel mad at your younger self. it took me almost 40 years to realize, and only ten years after my GF's own transition did the egg finally crack for me this year. Feel good that you finally connected the dots and that you can do something about it now. Be safe.
Don’t be mad at yourself, working out who you are takes so much time. In a similar vein, it took me till I was 31 to work out I am adhd and then another 3 years to realise I am bi! You know when you know and that’s ok
On the other hand, I've done all those things (except I prefer the skelebros to MTT), and I'm cis. Sometimes the "signs" aren't really signs. And sometimes they are. Like Jamie said, it's about how you feel.
That's pretty young actually.
Never be mad at your past self, just try to learn from your mistakes.
Am I a boy or a girl? Neither. I am a burden and a mistake 😊
That’s not true, you’re an amazing human being!
@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378oh no, don't misunderstand that wasn't me being self-hating.
I walk into every room like God sent me. Sometimes as a gift, often as a punishment.
My existence is powerful and absolutely nobody can stop me not even myself 😊
@@Jackie_XIII
your energy is amazing 😭
Happy birthday 🎉🎉🎉
Am I a boy?
Am I a girl?
Am I non-binary?
Do I prefer not to say?
I’m a soft taco 🌮
🇲🇽 *Mexican music intensifies* 🇲🇽
(Note: am trans Mexican girl)
I’m a woman who has a very strong hatred and anger towards homo/transphobes.
@@trevorchester4439ew, I’m not a bigot. Bigots are rude and ugly
Trans or cis? ❤️
@@ArtsyKnox25 cis
@@trevorchester4439 thanks for the kind words friend ❤
Based
Transwoman early in transition here, with this to say: I’ve had two experiences related to transition that stick out in my mind.
The first is someone yelling “K*ll yourself, tr*nny!” From a moving car.
The second was a complete stranger, a (presumably cis or cis passing) woman, gushing over how cute my outfit and telling me she wished she could pull it off as well as I did.
This lead me to a deep moment of consideration: I can either focus on the first interaction, and ruin my day/fill myself with doubt, or I can focus on the second and feel empowered and comfortable that there are plenty of good people in the world. I chose the latter, and feel like I am much happier for it.
Great content as always Jamie! Subbed, I can’t believe I haven’t done it until now.
I was 15 when I first said out loud that I wished I was a girl. It took 15 years to discover it was a thing others had done. Another 20 years saw me spending time with trans men. 5 years later I realized I had to embrace both or end. I'm currently presenting as fem, and apparently passing, even without hormones which I hope to start before the year ends. Delays due to health issues.
Amab and have always had more room than balls. I can't stand boxers and didn't try boxer briefs until 5 years ago.
Nananananananananananananananana Batman
Hi im a closeted trans boy and i would like to say thank you for looking at Egg_irl!! I love your channel!!!
deltarune pfp
I hope you feel safe to be true to yourself someday, please stay safe and remember you have people wishing you well even if we don't know you!
swag
kris is so cool
5:46 This happened to me once. I was 16 years old and presenting femininely (long hair, no binder) and closeted (so no T or voice training) and this kid asked "are you a girl or a boy?" and I was just so excited that he wasn't sure, but I had to say "girl" because he might tell his mom if I said boy and this was at my (transphobic) church. He straight up goes silent for a moment and then says "you sound like a boy."
I probably would've been really upset if I was a cis woman or transfem but my transmasc heart was so happy
I dreamt/wished to be a girl/woman for about 40 years - always used to think it was a response to trauma.
If someone asked me today if I was male or female, I'd say "yes!" and smile widely. I might even wink!
Lol, I answer "No" or "Kinda". It's the truth either way. I'm a demiguy so I'm kinda a guy but also kinda not.
I can only remember being asked "are you a boy or a girl" one time. My response: continuing to quietly walk up the stairs.
If I were asked I would reply that I am a boy, considering that was how I was born. Not a girl.
@@planegu_y ok, cool.
@@planegu_y want a reward or somthing?
@@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit yeah
👍
The only uh-oh about being trans that I got was when the clinic called me straight. That made me have to rethink the situation 😂
Had my hair cut and wore a pretty masculine outfit that day. My mom told me not just once, but twice to wear earrings cause I looked like a boy. She didnt know it but that reaffirmed my gender and made me feel quite happy that day :>
fyi I'm not out to my parents yet so thats a bonus ^-^
@@percyfunnyI've never talked to anyone irl abt how happy it made me feel the one time I went shopping on my own back when I was a teen and an elder shopkeeper told me "anything else you need, son?", I have since unpacked everything I needed to and feel comfortable with my identity, but your comment brought that nice memory back to me, thank you! 💚
@@laurainathunderstorm
I hope that in the future, some stranger will affirm my gender without realizing it but hey, one can dream.
@@percyfunny and you should dream! All the good wishes for you, hope you can soon express yourself the way you wish to 💚
My mom also told me to wear earrings because I looked like a boy when I had my first masculine cut. It was nice being affirmed as a boy but after I told her "I'll probably wear a pair of earrings I bought yesterday" to please her, she started being mad at me because she didn't knew what the world "pair" meant and she thought I would wear a single earring. She said that I couldn't do that because "that's what the gays and lesbians do". My joy of being affirmed got cut short by my homophobic mom with her stereotypes and her limited vocab 😭
Long before I transitioned, my cis girlfriend loved wearing my boxer briefs, and I loved wearing her pajamas and bathrobe. And she tried on one of my button-up shirts once.
I haven't talked to her in years, but as far as I know, she's still cis. Although that would be really funny if a transmasc egg and a transfem egg had gotten together.
I also loved swapping clothes with my gfs "for fun"
This is what happened to me and my first partner from high school. We now live across the country from each other but are besties AF!
I needed these 💕 my four year old goes by she pronouns. I know that might sound odd for some people. It did to me at first too because of how young she is.
She’s been telling us she’s a girl for eight months now. Whether it’s “a phase” or not, people give me a lot of flack for letting her go by what she’d prefer. It’s really encouraging to hear these memes and feel kiddo might not have to go through a lot of this.
It also doesn’t really affect them does it? I mean she’s only 4, if she grows out of it, well that’s that. Nothing major will really happen.
And if she doesn’t well, you knew how she was comfortable with it since this age, which prevents her from getting all the bad feelings later in life.
It’s nice to know that a potential trans girl has good parents, good job 👍
Trans guy here. I knew when I was four. I never told anyone, but I knew. I ended up forgetting for a long time, but I've been going back through my memories lately and yep. Clear as day, I knew. Thank you so so much for supporting your little girl. It's going to mean so much to her, I'm sure
@@terittexactly! Willingly changing your name clothes and pronouns is not going to hurt anyone. And giving someone the freedom to explore themselves is absolutely healthy
That's right around the age when scientists say gender identity begins to form. So it makes a lot of sense.
In any case, though, it's great to explore things, and you've got plenty of time before she even needs to worry about puberty blockers, let alone anything "permanent".
I knew in kindergarten that I wanted to be treated as a girl, even though I didn't really have the words or concepts to express it properly. I wish someone had given me the words and concepts to figure it out then, rather than figuring it out 40 years later, as I eventually did.
damn im a trans women and i feel as though my really supportive therapist is a little skeptical cause i havent gone through a lot of measures to appear feminine, but im just like when i was a kid i literally called myself a tomboy though
Is it fine that I showed no signs of being trans as a kid? (Im an afab enby) I was fine being feminine but when I found out non-binary people existed I started trying new things out and I feel more comfortable being gender neutral now
Yeah, that’s totally fine! It’s different for everyone!
Yes, I was like that too. When you're a really little kid a gender feels sort of similar to your nationality or ethnicity: it's just kind of a trivia fact you don't have much reason to think about frequently. Then you hit puberty and *everything* is aggressively gendered. Suddenly the gender question gets a lot more uncomfortable.
yes
It's completely fine! 😊
Of course it’s OK! Feel how you want to feel!! It’s exciting to grow and develop and find new sides to yourself.
I'm trans, older, and have been out for slightly over a year at this point (it was October 2022 I came out at work).
The cruellest thing people in the UK have to deal with are the waiting times for a Gender Identity Clinic (GIC) in the UK, and the atrociously slow pace of treatment. You only get your dose increased by a maximum amount of 1mg every three months (estrogen gel).
Honestly, watching content like Jamie's was one of the things keeping it nagging at my mind. It was just so good to see trans stuff. I've been a lurker for years, never commented that I recall anyway. I am here, I am trans, we exist. We walk among you.
Jamie, you are amazing. All trans people, we are all amazing. To all my trans sisters, brothers and siblings: Respect yourself, enjoy yourself, and be safe. And stay amazing :)
Yeah, the waiting list of the main place to get trans healthcare in the Netherlands has a waiting list of 3 years (last time I checked, it’s mad)
Seriously it's so long!! I got put on the list at 16, I'm 17 now. I'm on the children's list but my fear is when I turn 18 which isn't too far away, they'll have to put me on the adult list. Would they put me on the bottom and I have to wait all over again?!? It's so frustrating
I really needed this video after all the crappy transphobia from yesterday, thank you! Also happy trans awareness week everyone :) you're seen and valid whoever you are ❤️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
@@trevorchester4439Stop coming to these LGBTQIA+ safe spaces
@@trevorchester4439as the other person said, kindly screw off, why even watch these videos if you're a jerk. This is our LGBTQ+ safe space
@@trevorchester4439fellow transgenders, ratio this doofus
@@trevorchester4439ok? Why u here then Trisha
@@Golden-berry It’s not cool.
Transmale here, my names Ash and I get "is it short for Ashley/Ashlee?" More than you would think by people who don't know I'm a male. Some people don't ask they just use she/her before I tell them
Yooo I go by the same too! And I'm a trans masc enby. I've had the same thing happen to me a bit before I got my haircut. It is kinda annoying but I just cut them off by saying "my name is Ash, yes that's my full name" which usually works.
Lol I’m Asher but at school I’m Ash because I didn’t want to out myself but I also didn’t want to be called my very feminine deadname in a place I didn’t have too
@@AnAlienHiddenInPlainSight I love your name Asher :) and yeah I feel the feminine deadname, I'm in the same boat, it just happens that Ash can also be a nickname of my deadname but it's the name I want.
Nah clearly its short for "Ash Ketchum" /s
Defiantly tell them that it's short for "Ash Ketchum" and then lob a pokeball at their face lol
I was a tomboy and I got frustrated trying to explain the difference between expression and being trans. I really wish angry straight people would research what they are hating on 🤦♀️
I wish they'd quit hating and get on with their lives finding a more positive hobby.
@@silverghostcat1924 yeah that would be even better. I mean because I stand by trans rights (or anyone that has less if a voice) people then go oh you are fat you have no right to that opinion... And I'm like my weight has nothing to do with standing up for someone that needs it.
@@nichellecox4846 that has no logic whatsoever! WTFF does your weight have to do with anything? But let's be honest, logical thinking (or thinking of any kind) is a rarity among homo/transphobes.
Yep, I'm smarter than the rest, so I look into this before targeting the off colors
6:47 I had this happen at work the other day. A little girl leaned over while her mom was paying at the window and blurted you look like a girl and her mom immediately said, "don't say that that's rude." I laughed and said thanks tho and then felt very good.
Someone called me a slur the other day and just, expected me to think its a joke?
Imagine if i did that!
"Shut up you ni-"
and just expecting it to be fine, it doesnt make any sense!
Why do people have to be so freaking rude!?
@@silverghostcat1924 tell me about it
Recently found this web novel about a MtF lovely transgender who to get distracted from a break up of a 3 year long relationship entered a VRMMO, ended up with a female avatar from a happy little accident and eggs really were cracked…. Such a lovely thing, when people, trans or not, realise who they are and can just embrace it in a safe environment. Luckily this character had a supporting family and it felt great reading about. But the entire dysphoria that came after her spending a week as a girl in this game, just to come back to her male body as she logged out.
It was so overwhelming (as I can really live through characters in stories), the jump between dysphoria and euphoria.
Now I am trans myself, MtF, and could relate a lot to this story. And a few of the memes here.
As someone who’s been unable to get any medical help yet with transitioning I know one thing for sure though… aesthetic expression can do a lot to alleviate dysphoria. Dress up for you, not for anyone else. And although it may not remove the dysphoria completely. Being in an outfit you like, maybe having make up on if that’s your thing, etc, it helps a lot.
omg I've heard of this!
could you perhaps give me the name of this web novel? I've never read or seen it and I really want to :3
Ayo drop the name?
Not my neurodivergent brain wondering how someone would survive a week inside a vr video game without real life food or, more importantly, water 😂 But that sounds like a cool web comic
This reminds me of the comic/manga (I forgot which tbh) called Magical Boy, it’s about a trans boy who is from a line of magical girls, and the conflict in the first one is not only bad magic stuff, but also transphobia from his mother, as “only girls can use the power”. One of the prominent scenes that stuck with me was when his parents (or people at school, forgot tbh) called him by his deadname, and in the speech bubbles, it was just.. inked out. It’s SUPER good, not only artistically but also representing how some trans people just ignore people who deadname them. The second book (probably the last idk) is one I HAVENT read, but the first one is super good so I expect good things. (Also my Mom bought it for me after I came out as transmasc and it made me so giddy) ❤
@@ranting2daMAX wow, I can definitely see why that’d feel good. That sounds like a great gift. Interesting concept though. When it comes to deadnames and such I don’t think I’ll ever be able to flat out ignore someone from my family… however I have decided that I accept that name until I have legally changed (which I hope to do SoonTM) as legally speaking it is still my name. And although I’m definitely out as trans, I don’t go around screaming it to the world so anyone who knew me before, etc, would only know if they asked or ended up in a situation where it was super obvious. (I’m not on HRT or any other treatment yet but I hope that comes soon. All I can do for now is dress the way I like and be happy with that)
My first time being accepted was in a psych hospital, I got to wear boxers, hear my preferred name, everything. My mom took me out after 3 days because of it and says they were abusing kids cause they let you chose the underwear you wear...[i also got to keep my binder last time i was there 🕺🕺🕺]
dude the psych hospital sounds like its a vibe
Ah yes, classic abuse, letting people choose what they wear.
I am so grateful for conversations like this. I'm in my mid-forty's, and was only able to understand that the extreme discomfort I feel when someone refers to me as a "woman" was not due to my strong feminism, but because I'm agender a few years ago.
I distinctly remember thinking one time when i was very little about the pros and cons of being a boy or girl and then i remember not being able to come to a conclusion about which i found better
Now my bigenderfluid self is questioning myself everyday 🙃👍
Same lol😅
Same! When I was little some days I would expect to look in the mirror and see long hair, delicate face, and then others I would expect short hair, a more angular face. And then I never told anybody! Got busy with school and all the struggles that came with it, and now that I’ve graduated and (kinda) have reached a good spot it’s like it all hit me in the head.
@@kittyjuneo2218
I've always thought of long hair as a guy trait
the reason? Dee Snider. A metal musician who's basically a drag queen. A drag queen rock star is the peak of manliness to me
(for reference I'm a genderfluid AMAB)
i also did the pros and cons thing and my conclusion was “if i was a boy i wouldn’t *be allowed* to skip” wouldn’t be allowed.
Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out their gender and thinks they may be genderfluid?
Idk why but i read EggIRL as Egg Girl and I was so confused
A very *fun* point I want to make is that like, You can be the most stereotypical transgender kid ever growing up- and if you aren't given the resources to understand what's going on with you- you might still not come out until you are an adult. And people will still act like there were never any signs.
I knew I wanted to be a girl from the age of 7 years old. I had a few very stereotypical, very cliché, experiences with gender dysphoria as a young child- and I was routinely *corrected* by adults around me, my family, teachers, etc. I was excluded from lunchtime play in primary school because one of my friends lent me a spare school summer dress to wear while we braided each other's hair. Stuff like this kept happening to me.
I even told a school councillor, aged 13, outright, that I was scared my body was changing in the wrong ways and I wanted to be a girl. She told me that saying stuff like that is probably why other kids think I'm gay and why I get beaten up all of the time, and she signed me up to out of school sports clubs, to help me man up.
I eventually "accepted" that I had to be a boy. But I would find ways to alleviate the dysphoria (a word I wouldn't hear used to describe the feeling until I was 21 years old) as best I could, but as far as i knew, I couldn't be a girl, even if I wanted to.
I delved deep into counter culture as a teenager, because goths, punks, emo kids? well, like, dude's in their circles could wear makeup, could grow their hair long. Hell even the girls in those circles often liked androgynous looking guys!
I remember being bullied for looking too girly, you know those memes about guys clinging to compliments for decades? I can perfectly recall compliments and *insults* about how feminine I looked from my adolescence even now.
I remember listening to the Against Me! track "the ocean" in 2007, in an art class in high school, while I was sketching drawings of mutants and zombies. I picked up on the lyric "If I could have chosen, I would have been born a woman" I remember rewinding and listening to that verse over and over. feeling this sinking in my heart. "Was he just like me?". (Turns out she was by the way, the lead singer is now a transgender icon).
Later I moved in more queer circles, and was able to present femininely, even outright crossdressing with the explicit intention of passing as a girl.... always just for laughs ofc. Always just to make a statement.
My time with people from all of those groups shaped a lot of the person I grew to be. But it was never really what I wanted, there was always a secret reason I enjoyed wearing makeup, or dresses, or wearing my hair long. I wanted to be a girl.
When I learned what being transgender was, I was terrified. I went into denial. I tried to be more masculine, I tried to hide from it. If I accepted that I wanted something I could never have, that would hurt more than I could ever imagine.
If you had asked me 4 years ago if I was transgender I'd have laughed and half-jokingly said: "I wish, then I could take oestrogen and be a pretty girl!"
Now I'm several months deep on HRT and laser hair removal treatments, and my only regrets are that more people didn't accept me, and that i didn't do this sooner.
what a beautiful comment. Thank you for sharing your story, and I hope you're happier now!
I never felt voice dysphoria because i used to pretend that i was acting as a female character so i had to play the part with my voice, which actually made me not feel like my voice didn't align with my identity because it wasn't my voice it was somebody else's.
12:05 hahahahaha yeah that happened to me, started as an ally found I was a part of the community
Same, but not for my gender. In 2020 I was like "oh cool gay people!" and joined the subreddits as an ally. Spent more time there and was like "oh fuck I think I'm aroace." turns out yea I'm aroace. Gotta say, probably not nearly as impactful as some other people's realizations considering I'm not really defying the hetero norm (unless you consider having sex, period, being in the norm) but still pretty interesting. Also found out my mom definitely isn't straight and is probably aromantic demisexual, so that was cool. Guess I get some of my absence of romance/sexuality from her lol
@@existenceispain_geekthesirenI had it for both orientation and gender. My big "Am I actually straight?" moment was hanging out with some queer friends all listing off how straight they were (straight as a wavy line) and it got to my turn and I answered that I was "as straight as air."
Same lmao 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
sameeeee
I am tsar
I really appreciate this video since ive been having some really bad chest dysphoria recently, and this is a welcome repreive from the transphobia and transphobic ads ive been getting recently.
Tysm for making content Jamie!
Im trans androgynous and i hope ome day soon i can get top surgery or at least a chest reduction because I HATE my chest most days.
Same 🥲
I know that it doesn't completely fix the problem, But I've been blocking every ad that pops up like that and it actually did lower the amount that I see eventually. Hang in there. I know it's psychological warfare, and I know it hurts
Make sure to report any transphobic ads to CZcams
typical self victimization comment
@angellennie8250 I've self harmed in he past and this is very ignorant. Have a nice day troll. Also, not every trans person gets surgery 💅
Im trans and a really femme guy. I didnt show any signs as a kid because I LOVE traditionally girly things especially when i didnt realise there was a gendered connection. I still love all of that stuff. It wasnt until puberty came that I started to internally show signs.
SO REAL KING. WE ARE THE SAME🙏🏻💜
@@Bunny_Bill LET'S GOOOO
I have found my people
That’s literally my experience tho. I was pretty girly and thought I was a girl. But yeahh puberty happened and it made rethink everything I knew about myself.
"Enby character with godlike power having to save the world" has gotta be one of my favorite genres
I didn’t know you and shabba were married !!!! That’s wonderful , last I heard you guys were just bf/gf . ❤🎉 congratulations you two
you should watch their wedding videos, they are really cute 🥰
Before I fully realized I was trans I thought “is being with a woman supposed to fill that feeling of wanting to be one” or something around those lines
Also frack dysphoria
“The train did not even arrive at the station to collect my thoughts. Just… pissed off into the distance…” why is this my favorite phrase now?
THE FROZEN MEME-
youre a peasant
@@Chuckiebeenkinky91No, you’re a peasant
@@Chuckiebeenkinky91 You’re obsessed with me
I came out and everyone acted like it was so sudden and they were surprised. and its like, of course you didn't know. It wasn't safe to tell you. also, I heard about the soy thing. I ate more.
7:12 (american school years) on the contrary, when I was in eighth grade I had just come out, and I was kinda a teacher assistant, and so I was told to take a beaker to the sixth grade science class, and so I did, and I had one side of my hair shaved and the other went all the way down my face, and I can't remember if this is when I had pink, blue, or black hair, but I think it was pink, but the sixth graders were arguing on whether I was a boy or girl, and as I left I shouted "I'm a boy" and they all started freaking out like "THAT'S A BOY?!?!" still one of my favorite trans moments I've ever had
A child accosted me in the women's room T_T (cis woman, but I look masc at times depending on how I dress...) she was screaming "THERE IS A BOY IN THERE. A BOY IN THE WOMEN'S ROOM." I was dying. I just wanted to pee.
Jamie: Which flag are you?
Me: I may be transfem and also a lesbian, but I gotta go with the funny skeleton man ehehehe
16:45 rip Technoblade
rip Technoblade
It's funny I started watching channels like this as a bisexual then I started to relate too much to the trans memes and then all the repressed memories and feelings started coming back and now I realize that there may be a reason that I hate hearing my own voice and mirrors so much.
I love the promo for your wife, so sweet!
20:35 "i was really nervous and its not because i was dodgy"
Also him having "dodger" in his name: 🗿
14:43 the longest route you can go to buy the blajaj is
do you have money: no
do you have a job: yes
do they pay you: no
do you have possessions: no
do you have a soul: yes
Duck dysphoria.
NO WAIT I DON'T WANT THE DUCKS TO HAVE DYSPHORIA NOOOOOO
Lol, I've been dodging mirrors and cameras most of my life cause I didn't like how I looked. Turns out I've been training for transitioning my whole life.
As an agender person currently going through a dysphoric episode--I agree with the sentiment that dysphoria deserves to be poked with the suggestive shape of the castle in the Little Mermaid.
I'm relating to this but as a bi egg cracking. The "are you a girl or a boy" one made me think of a friend in high school who had a pin that said "straight but not narrow". I thought "oooh I like that! It would show that I'm am ally! But...straight? That doesn't sound....truthful?" Sadly my bi egg didn't properly crack till I was already married to a man (who I love) so I just appear to be straight even though I'm definitely not. Oh well.
As someone whose egg just cracked in July, these memes were very relatable
Happy scramble
I had a customer ask if I was a man or a woman the other day. I was like ask again in a few more months.
edit: Also, I've spent hundreds on gender affirming clothes, while my computer can no longer run one of my favorite games after it had a massive update.
I just bought some flea spray for my house because my cat has fleas.
8:24 Like how I ironically had to play every male character in any Barbie's or roleplaying game as a kid because "no one else wants to and I don't mind" and tried to convince my friends that male characters were necessary to the plot when they weren't
My therapist was amazing until I told her I didn't want to be a girl. She said that it was because I saw my female role models as weak and didn't want to be like them. She misunderstood me so much in that moment, I don't know if I was able to be vulnerable with her after that.
Jammidodger being popular is a sign that there's good in the world.
8:42 this is literally one of my biggest insecurities because I was the girliest girl ever to exist as a kid and I was so extremely feminine and most of the trans guys you see online are like „yeah I’ve always known, I dressed like a boy all the time“
And I know it doesn’t matter but my brain can’t seem to get that :/
thank you for pronouncing blåhaj pretty much correctly
Buy yours now!
I don't think I ever had an egg phase. I didn't think there was anything weird about being a masculine girl and I didn't know that cis was a term (I've lived under a rock my whole life). As soon as I heard the word trans I was like "Yes! This is me!" But when I told my mom she did the whole conservative Christian thing and scared me out of it. And now six years later I'm still trans. Big surprise.
I want to share my trans joy : today is a big day, as I just got my paper with my new name on it, i can start changing it everywhere ! And I met my T doctor who said I could start soon !
Happy day to you, I wish you the best
Awesome!!! Congratulations! ❤️
About that very first meme, I might be able to move out in a week or so!!!!!!!! So f*cking excited :DD
Oh also that voice dysphoria bit thing was the most relatable thing ever
Im bigender and genderfluid so i have two genders and they are both wiggly and boy does dysphoria suck
I am in a state of confusion and crisis about my gender 24/7
I relate to this. I’m afab and use the genderqueer label but I am frequently confused about my gender.
@@trevorchester4439 If you've ever taken an English class, cite your sources.
@@thehopefuledwardianI’m sorry, but what the heck does that mean brother 😂
As a little girl I hated wearing dresses. Now, it's complicated, but... skirt go spinny!
Honestly i should have realized i was trans when in theater class i asked to play Rocky Horror just so i could be Tim Curry
Good choice 😸 you can't go wrong with Tim Curry 💜
Am I am boy or a girl? I identify as a problem.
I am just a they/them out to cause May/hem. Walk into every room like God sent you. Sometimes as a gift, often as a punishment.
Happy trans awareness week everyone!!!
Is it!?? Happy trans awareness week to you too!!! Remember to pause your crimes until the week is over, as you will be caught
No
@@Chuckiebeenkinky91 yes 😊
@@Chuckiebeenkinky91 but.. it is?
@@SoapCanFan no one should celebrate it
I had a genderneutral birthname. Still changed it because it had a lot of sad memories from my life up to that point attached to it. I still flinch everytime i hear it somewhere. And it is really popular with Trans and nonbinary people as a chosen name -_-
Same, but my dead name was an extremely femme common name so I flinch Everytime I hear it 😓
- wanted short (boy) hair
- wore oversized clothes that hid my body and were boyish
- got very upset when accused of shaving all the time when i actually just couldn't grow body hair
- hated being called "cute" bc it was so girly... so my family taunted me w that FOR YEARS
- parents picked my backpack in kindergarten: barbie. I picked my lunchbox in kindergarten: Dick Tracy.
I came out at 37...
My entire family: THERE WERE NO SIGNS!!!
10:53 thank you for saying this. I am agender but I tend to present more feminine for safety reasons and because of that most people assume I am a female.
Frick dysphoria. It's one of the worst [redacted redacted REDACTED] feelings and triggers several of the others. Hate it.
Haha one of my favorite and most validating moments to being ‘switching between feminine, masculine, or somewhere else’ is when a neighbor kid (who I’ve known for a while, he was like 8 then) saw me walking down our street and loudly asked his Dad “Is that a girl or a boy?” I was wearing a flannel with jeans, but my long hair was tied up in a ponytail and I had purple shoes on. He still got it. When I got in the car with my Mom I mentioned it to her, and she gave an awkward laugh and said "What? You're obviously a girl."
The rush of happiness I got was one of the things that clued me in that maybe I wasn’t strictly ‘girl’. I was thinking about it for the rest of the day :) Thanks kid.
I dont have many happy moments from my school but this one moment made me extremely happy, a little boy who was probably in grade 3 or lower, asked me if i was a boy, i told him that i was and then he paused and asked "why is your hair purple" it broke my heart a little because due to the very hard rules of having no dyed hair in my school and his parents definitely have made remarks to people with dyed hair, i responded that my hair is dyed purple because i like having purple hair and he happily said "cool!" And walked away and i hope i gave him a little hope that he doesnt have to abide by societies cruel "rules"
I am non-binary and I pick the Satan flag. I was asked all the time growing up if I was a boy or girl. I used both bathrooms in high school because I was so androgynous. This was in the 1980's !
The woman clerk at JCPENNEY once called me "young man" when I went to buy a bra. I know that embarrassment. It does not matter how you answer the question of are you a boy or girl. Do what keeps you safe and feels right for the moment without any shame.
When did my egg totally crack? I was 51. I took my time. Don't let anyone invade your privacy. Come out when YOU want, not when people force the issue.
Slowly coming to the realisation in my 30’s that wanting to be mistaken for a boy some days is not a normal AFAB cis thing. Beginning to accept that I probably fall somewhere under the gender fluid banner. Many thanks to Jamie and OT for introducing me to these scarily relatable subreddits.
I've always had mild body dysphoria and so i think that's why i have so much compassion for not feeling at home in your own body. To all of you who suffered and beat it through transition or other procedures, I'm so proud of you and i wish you nothing but joy from here on.
The Na Na Na flag
Starts singing “Na Na Na (na na na na na na na na)”
Oh fudge. 🥚 me rn realising…. 🏳️⚧️
Edit: I thought everyone questioned their gender 😭
It might seems scary at first and some moments will be hard, but it'll be alright. Just hang in there and congratz with finding your true self. Take care 💙
I'm in my 30s and grew up thinking about being a boy, sometimes dreaming about being a boy.
I could very well still be an egg, my husband often calls me a man because I don't always behave feminine.. but for now I feel cis if not masc woman - I might be here for the butch grandma aesthetic.
15:41 As I learned more about trans & non-binary people, I decided that if I ever had a kid, I would make sure either their first name or middle name was gender neutral so if they were trans or non-binary, they were set.
Me when I was 12 thinking it was usual for people to wish they would get breast cancer so they could have their breasts removed and not understanding why that would upset some people
Also me years later being asked if I was the brother of my younger sibling and just standing there for a full minute being confused/weirdly happy until the person who asked walked away.
I lucked the hell out not having a lot of body hair, i still shave my face daily though. Waiting for E to thin put facial hair and laser to help
random person "soooooo, are you a boy or a girl"
me "no"