@@trevorchester4439 bigot /ËbÉȘÉĄÉt/ noun a person who is obstinately or unreasonably attached to a belief, opinion, or faction, especially one who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group. a bigoted person is someone who is prejudiced or antagonistic to another person or persons of a group. youre the definition of a bigot. just because your unsourced 95% of people agree with you, doesnt mean its not bigoted.
I grew up in a very conservative Christian household, and was homophobic and transphobic until I was about 18, when I broke away from all that. Even after I started being an ally, I still felt like trans people were weird and I had trouble seeing them as their real gender. About two years ago I started watching your videos to better educate myself, and your whole personality and appearance so reminded me of my older brother, that I finally acknowledged the truth. And a few months ago, I realized that I myself am not cis. So thank you Jamie, for helping me become more open-minded about the journeys of others, and ultimately myself.
Bro went through a character arc. And honestly, I was the same at one point due to all my (now former) friends being homophobic and transphobic. Because they were my only friends, I thought it would be cool to be like them. Thankfully, my attitude has changed, and I regret my past.
I hope your transition process, whatever it may be (social, medical, etc...) is going well. I'm glad you were able to escape those bigoted beliefs your family passed down
@exposingfrauditorsisback Oh my goodness, you're right! I've been lied to all this time, and after those powerful words you said, I've realized the truth. Thank you, kind stranger
I stand by the fact that the âcis is a slurâ crowd think this way, is because to them âtransâ is a slur. They see being trans as so utterly negative that âwell if cis is the opposite of trans it MUST be negativeâ
i gotta agree with moose, most of these people had never heard the term until "the trans debate" started with JK's tweets. so they just associate it with trans people. good hypothesis, but it's way to nuanced for the phobes.
They super resent not being able to call themselves "normal". They hate that so much. I had the same reaction from someone when I used the word "omnivore" when talking about vegan issues. Like dude, it's not derogatory just because there is a specific word instead of getting to say "I'm the Normal Person here".
Actually, there might be something more going on here. Sometimes, trans people do in fact say things like "well of course you'd say that, you're cis" or "ugh my parents are too cis to understand" and like, in these cases "cis" does in fact have a negative connotation. Doesn't make it a slur though. Just like "reverse racism" doesn't exist. But it is still stereotyping, because not all cis people by far act that way, and I firmly believe all stereotyping is harmful to all parties involved, including transphobes, allies, and trans people. EDIT: because everyone keeps not reading the rest of the thread, here is a later reply of mine: [...] It's about tone I guess. If you say it with contempt in your voice, that communicates that you have certain opinions towards a privileged group. And they don't like being reminded of their privilege. (which also ties in with the "im not cis, im normal" thing) And, if you only ever hear it in that way (which, let's remind ourselves that trans issues are barely present in most cis people's lives, so it is fully possible you'd only ever hear it in a context like that) then you might, reasonably even, conclude that it is _always_ used negatively, and hence it has a negative connotation, and hence it is a slur. Now, towards allies, this contempt feels unwarranted. They didn't choose to be privileged just like we didn't choose not to be, and they are trying their best to help. Which means "yelling at them because they are privileged so they always deserve it" (which I have heard some trans people say before) is never going to help the situation, unless they have _very good_ emotional control.
Including children. I'm going on 14 but look like I'm 10-11. I've had grown ass strangers ask me what I've got going on down there and had people grab my chest to "prove" my gender. Christ people, and you're saying I'm the creep. Okay, got a little heated there, but I'm hoping I got my point across.
â@@msjkrameyI'm sure some people actually do ask others that... I mean, we live in a society where people are being rejected for their height and wage right now... A lot of these things don't surprise me xD
When I still worked with patients I was asked about it all the time. My response was usually along the lines of, "This vein looks good. Pump your fist 3 times and then hold it."
I have something called photophobia. It doesn't mean that I am afraid of photos, it means that my eyes are super sensitive to bright lights. People really need to read a book.
Youâve only proven my point further. Just like hydrophobia, youâre eyes just donât want to touch bright lights. Itâs a small if theyâre AFRAID of it.
TIL that I can refer to my experience with light as photophobia, thanks! But yeah, also trypophobia is another one. Also, for anyone wondering, trypophobia is an intense aversion to things like holes, bumps, etc - honeycomb patterns are a famous example. If you think you might have it I'd say don't Google it because I just tried to look it up JUST TO DOUBLE CHECK MY SPELLING and literally the FIRST result was a trypophobia trigger. I guess the internet assumes people who have it have no need to look it up đ So if you're curious, maybe there's a trypophobia safe subreddit or something?
Got an ad for a âdetransitioner documentaryâ that said that â80% of transsexual children detransition.â The irony of that lmfao. Itâs not pride anymore but remember youâre still valid everyone :3 â€ïžđ§Ąđđđđ đłïžâđđłïžââ§ïž
I never understand how people say that trans folks push other people to be trans.... Why would I wish for anyone else to experience all the troubles that come with feeling like you were born in the wrong body? If I could choose, I'd pick being cis every day... but that's not how it works, unfortunately.
â@gloriaf6971 they still say this bout gay people. This straight couple was practically having sex in the pool (they were grinding, moaning and eating eachothers face ) but the moment I touched my wife's waist and kissed her for less than a second and a lady loudly complained about "f@gs throwing in their face our faces" but just stays silent about the straight couple
We donât cause people to become trans , we inform people they actually have a choice to be themselves. They also see us living our best life and they are jealous
The people who think "cis is a slur" are the ones TAKING it as a slur when it's used on them. "I'm not cis I'm normal!!" being cis IS normal and so is being trans - you're okay buddy
Well, even innocent words can be considered a slur if they are often used in pejorative way. The N-word was a common word but since it was usually accompanied with distain, it become a slur.
@@Karak-_- the N word has always been used negatively because it dates back to before slavery was abolished. It has always been used to identify people of African decent or with dark skintones as lesser beings. It has always had a history rooted in centuries of hatred and racism, and continues today unless reclaimed. The comparison of racial slurs and a term that simply means ânot transâ doesnât make sense because cisgender isnât used in a negative connotation unless its to point out the lack of understanding cisgender people have of how transitioning works. Secondly, the term is fairly new and has never been used to personally attack a marginalized group of people so itâs not comparable to a slur. You act as if trans people look down on others for being cisgender when the reality of the situation is that itâs often used just to correct misunderstandings or as a completely benign adjective.
@@Gamefan86 It is necessary? It may not have to distinguished every time, but say something pertains to strictly cis people and not trans people, then it'd be important to clarify (and vice-versa of course)
It's so telling because they just have this primal instinct to attack the moment anyone says they are trans. But they also can't imagine someone being trans and not being able to "clock" them, so they assume Jamie is a trans woman who hasn't started any kind of affirming care ... The same way on Twitter for example they see me defending trans rights, I have a cartoony avatar and pronouns in my bio .... So they immediately assume I'm trans and start misgendering me thinking I'll be upset. Like I'm a cis man and I'm not even going to blink when they misgender me I think it's just funny for how pathetic it is.
one of the best parts of being multigender, messing with transphobes who desperately want to offend someone, especially if they don't understand the concept yet. the only way to win is to not play (or just have good intentions)
@@I.Lostalim It does seem to be common for anti-trans people to assume that *all* trans people are trans women, because they tend to focus on trans women.
@@I.Lostalim someone thought I was lgbt just because I was defending trans people. No honey, Iâm an ally, we are not hateful creatures like them, we exist.
crazy how transphobes get so particular with etymology when it comes to the word "transphobia" but then lose all that when the word "cis" is said almost as if logic is a secondary priority to them and the top priority is being a horrible person edit: i'd like to thank Kate Wick for volunteering as a demonstration in the reply section of this very comment :)
But see, it's actually just that by rejecting the cis prefix, they're rejecting the concept of trans people. Which is completely different from, and not at all similar to transphobia.
I've decided that I want to go into law specifically to help LGBTQIA+ individuals and fight gender affirming care bans, unconstitutional trials such as the recent web designer case, and help as much as I can to make LGBTQIA+ equality something that isn't just a dream. I want Pride to be a celebration of a war we won, not just a fight. Let it be history and not a reminder of what we might go back to. Fight bigotry with education
Goodluck dude. I wish you the wisdom, intelligence and success of a valedictorian. Go get that law degree you gat damn amazing person đđłïžâđđ
One thing I will bring up, is that you should think of a way that you can make a living and pay for colledge(if American) with being a queer lawyer/lobbist.
These are the same people who carried those signs depicting bathroom sign guys doing anal with đ« over it. Like... lemme get this straight: you're the one thinking about how complete strangers have sex, but *I'm* crazy? Lmao, wtf.
@@kellinquinnfeetpics unfortunately no. The amount of times adults asked me what was in my pants when I was transitioning in my teen years (I'm 23 now) was just disgusting. And none of them learned anything.
@@vinnyoz4709 honestly i wouldve clapped back and said "why do you wanna know? are you a pedo?" "No, im not" "Im underage and you want to know about my private parts, sounds like a pedo to me"
I am VERY upset with Jamie! đ đ đ đ ...because he knew from a young age that he was a boy. I'm joking of course, but I'm lowkey kinda jealous of trans folk that are so confident in it and don't question what they are.
Jamie is the one who broke me out of my transphobia (I'm 57 and just "didn't get it"). Once I found him and watched a bunch of his videos it actually clicked in my head that trans people are just people like everyone else just trying to live their best lives, honestly and happily. You simply can't fault anyone for that unless you yourself have issues. WHY anyone's life who is not you should bother you is beyond me at this point. Live and let live and leave everyone else alone, worry about your own business.
He seriously gives off such cool art teacher vibes. Like jes the teacher you'd remember years after you left high school for being one of the few bright spots in that hellhole.
It's the same as all the str8 people who can't think of anything other than gay sex when trying to defend their bigotry... I just call them perverts now, cuz that is what they are.
I heard about a Christian lady who prays every day and has a strong sense of belief in her religion LEAVE church because she saw the transphobia sparking among Christianity, saying that god she knows is not so narrow-minded and now practices her religion in her home. This was such a breath of fresh air to hear about.
I've always loved the transphobes who try to argue "don't change words". Language has been changing since its conception and continues to evolve. Also, "cis" and "trans" are pretty basic chemistry terms that contemporary science uses to describe compounds in the same way its used to describe gender. Not that that matters to these people. They want to be mad. Edit: My "I paused to make this point that you made 2 seconds later" is showing. lol
I said that to someone in a comment section of one of Jamie's shorts and I got the response "but cisgender as a term came after transgender" and I'm like uh yeah?? When they coined the term transsexual in the 40s I don't think they realized how many of us were out there so they didn't feel the need to at the same time coin the term for a non trans person Edit: like allistic came way after autistic! Able bodied came way after disabled!
transphobes: oH, nOw We ArE iNsUlTiNg MoLeCuLeS, hUh?! As someone who gratuaded from applied chemistry, I can confirm those are basic chemistry terms. And not only in chemistry. I tried to explain it so many times.. but oh boy do local people want to be mad about everything.. I hate this country..
I'm one of the straights and I honestly can't understand why some other straights can't just mind their own f---ing business and live and let live. These people must be leading either miserable or overly privileged lives to feel the need to beat up other people in comment sections. Everyone, get a life and work on yourself instead of being a busy body about everyone else's life. đđœââïž
I đŻ% agree! If those people would put that much energy into improving their own lives they'd be happier. They need to get a more constructive hobby.
â@unintent no one is telling kids that they're trans. Trans kids are coming to adults that make them feel safe with their identities. And what's the worst that can happen as a kid? They socially transition, realize that's not them, and then go back. But that's super rare and most de-transitioners do it out of social pressure, not the other way around
@@unintent giving information to questions is about giving clarity not confusion. Not discussing things in life doesn't make them magically go away. Giving information isn't indoctrination unlike church which is.
@@unintent But what if they ARE trans? What if when they get older, they realize they would be happier living as a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth? Learning that being trans is an option when they're young would save them a lot of pain later on in life. We're not trying to push anything on anyone, the most we're doing is telling people that it's possible to be trans, or _suggesting_ for someone to explore their gender more if they're expressing feelings that many trans people felt before they realized they were trans. And if you meet a trans person who is actually trying to push things on others, they're an exception. 99% of trans people would not approve of their actions. Telling kids that it's possible for a man to love another man like mommies and daddies love each other doesn't make them gay, but it does let them know that it's possible to be gay and _could_ make figuring themselves out a lot easier later on in life. And if they don't turn out to be gay, it would make them more accepting and understanding when they meet a gay person. And it's the same with trans people, telling kids that someone can be trans doesn't turn them trans. It only gives them information that _could_ save them a lot of pain later in life.
You've just done a whole video with lint in your hair. This is something only a man would do. The haters can no longer question your masculinity as it is on clear display here.
I'll never understand people who use religion against trans people. I am a christian myself and we've talked about this in my house: we believe God made man and woman, yes, but in no place it says "you must behave and identify as what your genitalia defines even if it makes you unhappy." God is love and loves all of us equal, he wants us to be happy and love ourselves and the other, why are people so focused on using it to hurt?
@@kjlat exactly! My church adapts to the modern times but keeping the values which are the most important thing. We don't selectively ignore things and keep things to conveniently hate (for example) gay people. There are gay people at my church and we believe God loves them too and wants them to be happy. Love is love, and God sees the heart and soul, not what YOU HAVE BETWEEN YOUR LEGS. The whole point is that the body is temporary
Christianity began as sun worship, the stories about Jesus are symbolic. He is just a personification of the sun, made into a god figure later on. The sun "dies" for 3 days on December 22nd, the winter solstice, when it stops its movement south, to be born again or resurrected on December 25th, when it resumes its movement north. In some areas, the calendar originally began in the constellation of Virgo, and the sun would therefore be "born of a Virgin" The sun rising in the morning is "the saviour of mankind" The sun is "The light of the World" The sun "walks on water" is just the reflection of the sun on water/the sea. "He cometh on clouds, and every eye shall see him", is just sun rays. Jesus' "crown of thorns" is just the sun's glare, also know as a halo. The sun's "followers", "helpers" or "disciples" are the 12 months and the 12 signs of the zodiac or constellations, through which the sun must pass. The sun at 12 noon is in the house or temple of the "Most High": thus.."he" begins "his Father's work" at "age" 12. The sun enters into each sign of the zodiac at 30 degrees, hense, the "Sun of God" begins his ministry at "age" 30. The sun is hung on a cross or "crucified", which represents its passing through the equinoxes. The vernal equinox being Easter, at which time it is then resurrected. The reason why saviour myths are so similar with a godman who is crucified and resurrected, who does miracles and has 12 disciples, is that these stories were based on the movements of the sun through the heavens, an astrotheological development that can be found throughout the planet, because the sun and the 12 zodiac signs can be observed around the globe. In other words, Jesus Christ and all the others upon whom this character is predicated are personifications of the sun, and the Gospel fable is merely a rehash of a mythological formula revolving around the movements of the sun throug the heavens. Christianity is ancient astrology, it's just fables about the sun. Check out Acharya S aka D.M Murdock for more info. .. ....
I'm also pretty sure that it doesn't say "god *only* made a man and a woman". Maybe they had a nap for a few weeks before making non-binary and intersex people. Or maybe there *were* originally just cis men and cis women, but somewhere along the way mutations happened so gender and sex variations appeared. It's also well documented that some books were discarded when the original bible was collated, plus some of the books have different accounts of the same event (and I imagine other religious texts have similar histories). So we know that it can't possibly cover every event and scenario completely accurately with all details included (and that's before even considering all the numerous translations and amendments over the years). So basically, no-one should use their personal beliefs as an excuse for hatred or discrimination, *especially* when those beliefs advocate for love and acceptance.
It's just weird, creepy, and invasive to ask random people about their junk. Trans or cis. Unless they're your doctor, what do they expect to do with that information anyway?
Fun fact: Where I live, intentionally misgendering someone repeatedly might be considered harassment soon, depending on if the new law goes all the way through! I'm hoping it does, it pretty clearly states that to be considered harassment, it would have to be done with the intent to make people feel uncomfortable or afraid, which means you gotta question what's wrong with the people opposing it.
I've looked this up and this seems to be false. It sounds like writing media was spreading this claim to fearmonger. From what I read, Michigan law makes it harassment to intimidate people based on certain characteristics, and the new bill would add gender identity among other things to those characteristics. So not so much misgendering someone, but perhaps misgendering someone as a means to intimidate could become harassment.
"The transphobes are angry and confused" ...What else is new? They could legit look at a damn lumberjack lookin dude with a beard that would make a dwarf proud and go "SHE doesn't even look like a man! SHE'S just a GIRL!"
On the opposite spectrum, they also see a fully grown woman with respectably sized breasts, a feminine face, and child baring hips and go "No, that's a MAN >:(" Transphobes really have no idea whats going on lmfao
@@pathevermore3683 My best friend lives in Slovakia and she once sent over some fruit gummies (I typically hate gummies) and when I opened them I was so surprised they smelled like they had real fruit in them. I told her this and she was confused so I had to explain the CONTAINS REAL FRUIT JUICE!* *Contains less than 2% fruit juice thing to her. Would recommend JOJO gummies, though. 10/10
I had a person yell at me on fucking iFunny DMS about how "you're illiterate because transphobia isn't real we aren't scared of trans people" and then posted the definition of Phobia including the B definition which was an "aversion to something or someone ". I pointed that out and he said and I quote " B definitions don't count. Those are the woke agenda" never change iFunny. đ€Ł
Hello mate, cis bloke in his 60s here, and may I say that I thought by this stage of the game that people would be a bit more tolerant and groovy, however it appears the culture has been in reverse for a few years.... Personally I'm happy for people to be who they are, and maybe in time we can forget all that bigoted nonsense. Big dad hugs all round â€
OMG A PERSON OF IMPRESSIVE AGE (my nice way of saying old) THAT IS LGBTQ SUPPORTIVE!!! You guys are so rare, and it always warms my heart as a 15yo trans girl to see you!
3:16 can confirm, I'm non binary and am frequently utterly confused. Usually by transphobe logic and whatever those people in "that's not how women/men work" videos are thinking. 7:45 I agree completely with your response but hey, they see you as a man and are trying to insult you as a man by calling you feminine. Misogynistic, yes. Weirdly affirming of your gender, also yes. (For clarity since this is the internet, using feminine as an insult is misogynistic. Using it as an insult to Jamie affirms his manhood because that's the kind of insult one hurls at a man.)
Don't apologize for plugging your book. Your channel helps so many people, your book will hopefully reach even more. You are a hero for sharing so much of your journey. I have a few people in my immediate family circle that are LGBTQ+ & I support,accept and love them all because that is what you do. You love your people. â€
never understood how people say trans people are different from cis people. We are all different. Even twins looking alike will somehow have a difference. Nobody is exactly like someone else. Why would a different sex or gender be a bigger difference than, i dont know, a skill or a hobby?? Gosh transphobes really try to hate something
This is a take I haven't seen but I like it. I use a similar argument when addressing people who don't believe trans people exist. It goes like this: Do you realize everyone's face is different? No two people look the same because the human race is incredibly diverse. Why would you expect variations in sex and gender to not also be commonplace?
I'm different as a trans person the same way I'm different as an autistic person. It causes me some distress and struggle, but some changes can greatly improve my general wellbeing. And both ways, although it causes me some discomfort and some people think it needs to be fixed, there's no way to get rid of it and it doesn't need to be "cured". I really hope that allegory worked, I kinda suck at explanations.
One thing that every single living thing in the world has in common is that we are all different. So why hate someone over one thing we all have in common?
I 100% guarantee that every transphobe that comments about phobia = fear has been told repeatedly, and shown the dictionary definition, of what it actually means. But they still love to trot out that old tired nugget again and again.
(I may be wrong here, take it with a grain of salt) I've literally only heard the "phobia is a strong fear" argument in regards to LGBTQ+ identities. Never in regards to words like xenophobia or Islamophobia. Hmm, weird.
5:10 As a psychologist, I like to bring in the fact that anger/disgust are secondary emotions triggered by fear/anxiety. So in a sense, they are afraid but itâs triggering the anger theyâre showing
Hey me too! I am absolutely confused. On one hand by the amount of meaningless tautologies in this video, and on the other hand about myself. I mostly have gathered stuff I am certain that I am NOT. :D
my enby friend came to me some days ago and told me that they get dysphoria from tucking in shirts and they said that maybe i, a transfemme might find some euphoria with tucking in my shirts, especially with high wasted pants and sure enough it felt amazing to tuck in my shirt with my high waisted pants. so if youâre a trans person or just anyone really and is ever in need of some gender affirming clothing techniques, just ask your trans friend about their dysphoria and it might become your euphoria :) this doesnât have much to do with transphobes and the video but i thought it may be helpful to some people ^ ^
Thank you for this. I'm enby and have always hated tucking in shirts and never associated it with dysphoria. I just recently got a better therapist who's actually helping me process my transition instead of gaslighting me, and gosh is it weird looking back and realizing how many "quirks" I've had all my life were actually about gender dysphoria. I think this is one of them. Thanks for taking the time to comment and helping me see that. â€ïž
People who argue that "you can't just change what words mean" must not have ever spoken to anyone ever. That's like, the single most predictable feature of language: it changes. You can actually plot it on maps and timelines and PREDICT future changes based on when and where different people, places, things, and ideas enter the zeitgeist.
They donât understand basic language. Countries have different meanings for different words. In Australia, an âeraserâ is called a ârubberâ (because you use it to rub stuff out and itâs made of rubber.)
I think people who refer to themselves as normal are often the worst kind of people. They're the people who are incapable of looking at their own/family life objectively.
If you look up âphobiaâ the meaning says itâs a fear or aversion to something. So those people would see that phobia isnât just being scared of something if they literally just spent 3 seconds googling the meaning of one word.
Remember, anything that doesn't agree with what they already believe is clearly 'woke nonsense' they wrote because they were afraid of being cancelled.
These people only read untill they see whatever will justify their position then they stop right there. We need the definition changed to "aversion or fear" so they don't just stop at the first word.
I actually REALLY needed this today! I posted a reel about neopronouns yesterday, and I have been called mentally ill so many times today. Like SO many times. Also narcissistic. And told that we should go back to the 40s. And gotten a death threat. So fun
People who complain about neopronouns hail from bathsalts county, I swear. It's not even like it's new, that stuff was around in pre-Strikethrough LiveJournal days, and I know that in Trekkie fandom it was even OLDER I remember xhe/xir and zie/zir dating back to freaking _1998_ and that itself took from physical zines and scifi lexicons that predated it... We've HAD the neopronouns for almost half a century at LEAST (and I mean in like... fandom spaces, that's the corner of the world I'm aware of), we've only relatively recently started being more exploratory about it, but it isn't even something to fight over. Also you have very lovely dresses and I dig your haircut.
@@neoqwerty thank you! And yes!!!!! That was kind of what my reel was about, neopronouns re hardly new to english (& not even new to more âcommonâ usage). Like the first known neopronoun dates back to the 1700s (& possibly the 1300s!) & (I wanted to include this but didnât feel like it fit) the modern boom of neopronouns can be traced back to the beginnings of modern day femininism in the 1800s! There is such a cool history & I donât get why people get so stressed over them
Yesterday I was listening to my neighbour rant for hours about "trans rights" and "lgbt ***" and I had such an urge to just come out and yell at him. It was like an internet troll, just outside of my window. I am personally a cis ace but most of my friends are gay and/or under trans umbrella so I have a pretty zoomed view on what the struggle in this country is.. and hearing that man was just pissing me off so much.
That "trans men are trans men and trans women are trans women" comment really felt like a thing my 3-year-old keeps doing; ever since I intruduced her to her first synonym, by saying "A and B are the same thing", she keeps saying "A and A are the same" and "X and X are the same." Congratulations, hater - your language and analytics skills are on level with a 3-year-old.
â@@KateWick1997 In really simple terms, a non-binary person is someone who does not identify as exclusively a man or a woman. I'm pretty sure there are many people, including myself, who don't identify as a man or a woman. Therefore we are Nonbinary and do exist. So yes there are people that don't identify as a man/woman therefore being Nonbinary does exist. It's really a simple concept to grasp that some people don't identify as a man or woman. What would you rather Nonbinary people call themselves other than Nonbinary since according to you there's no such thing?
I haven't watched this yet but if any transphobes say "you'll never be a woman" to you I'm literally going to acsend to heaven edit: I'm acsending (love seeing transphobes being allys by accident đđ)
Hating someone because they are not a carbon copy of yourself or doesn't conform to what you feel is "normal" is asinine, those haters need to take a deep look inside. Jamie is one of the sweetest people I've never met (but would love to!!) hating him is beyond...well just beyond! đ
It comes with dealing with transphobia on a daily basis. After a while it becomes more like water rolling off a ducks back. Though sadly some of us don't make it that far. That's why older trans people and ally's need to stand up for trans kids. So we don't lose anybody along the way.
I remember one person with an anti trans profile picture leaving a hate comment on some video of Jamieâs, before I reported it I looked at their profile and they had commented 200 times on the channel⊠so thanks to that person for the engagement
3:18 as a non binary, I can confirm, I am very confused. About a lot of things, like, for example, why do transphobes exist? What was the person's comment supposed to achieve? How does one do geometry? Why did they make that last Star Wars movie so crap? I have no clue! :D
14:13 Youâre not alone. Iâm a trans woman and donât talk that much about my genitals online that much, but transphobes still find a way to talk about it as if theyâve seen it which is really weird
I mean, generally, laughing at hate is one of the best ways to deal with it. Because if they had valid points, they wouldn't need to resort to hate. Also one of the things Jammi said make me think. We have masculinity, femininity, and toxic masculinity... but has anyone ever seen any toxic femininity?
Yes. Think of any beliefs that are sexist. If a feminine person internalizes those beliefs proudly and claims that it's natural, that's toxic femininity. Seeing yourself as a fertility goddess whose sole purpose is to breed and submit to your husband (yes these women really exist), believing you're naturally bad at math and science and shaming other women who show interest in it (this happened to me multiple times), claiming it's the man's job to carry anything mildly heavy when you could easily carry it yourself, shaming men who don't hold the door for you (usually online rather than to their face), etc. Toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are just sexism internalized into how we perform gender.
So much of it. Iâve experienced it mostly when I was religious, but thereâs also the whole attitude of âwell I had to deal with misogyny when I was coming up in this industry, and if you donât then youâre weak and donât deserve to be in this field.â Internalized misogyny is a vicious beast.
Yes. Female circumsion is a thing. Normally promoted and performed on girls by their mothers and aunts. One a personal level - I was in college and was told I (cis-woman, btw) wasn't 'woman' enough to be a feminist. Because, you know... being a feminist has gender requirements, evidently. I'm pretty ure these are the same women now trying to sexually assault other women to "prove" they have the "right" to use a bathroom.
I challenge any transphobic person to explain the phrase "be a man" if it was solely biological why does this phrase exist people used it for decades and it's suddenly wrong or is your definition of a man wrong???
@@Complain2023 first off animals aren't part of the social construct of gender so stop conflating what I said with random phrases they're are not the same again if a man was solely biological why would a phrase like that exist
@@sandersGG that's why exactly I try to explain to you, is like a simile you are telling me if someone telling you are as lazy as a pig. You will literally get more offended by being mis-species rather than being called lazy?
this gentleman being able to calmly and confidently respond to these horrible people and comments is something I wish I could do. I always get fired up and then I can't even say proper words. I hope my sister will be able to do this when someone tries to deny who she really is.
â@@martind2520Because she said that's who she really is. How do you know you're cis? Or gay? You feel it, right? You feel right in a man's body and you feel right in a man's body đ
@@TransIsBest You know you're gay, not because you "feel" gay, but because you are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. There is a clear criterion to judge being gay against. I don't in anyway "feel" cis. So why do you keep calling me cis? Clearly you have critera you are judging me against, and not just relying on my feelings. People's feelings can be wrong, that is why we judge claims people make about themselves against information that either supports or rejects the claims.
@@martind2520 Sexual attraction isn't a feeling? đ you wanna try that again And you don't feel like a man? I might have some news for you then lol And not when it comes to personal wellbeing. Come back with an argument
This week I had my cis-trans isomer lesson in chemistry class. Thanks, Jamie you were broadcast in my NZ classroom (some "are the cis okay" video) to help educate where the word cis they hear more commonly now, legitimately comes from. Between us, facts were checked, myths were dispelled, aha moments were had and hopefully, a whole lot more allys sent out into the world.
I'm also a trans guy who talks with his hands a lot...but I'm also AUTISTIC so it helps me talk, if I didnât use my hands I wouldn't be able to talk well since I have a hard time staying still and not stimming for even 2 minutes...but I know CIS guys (autistic and neurotypical) who also talk with their hands! It's not just a "feminine" thing, some people literally need to do it because it helps them talk, and others just do it because it's just how they talk đ
These people keep insisting âIâm not cis, Iâm normal!â And its just likeâŠnah kid. Normal people donât obsess over the genitalia of random internet strangers. đ
@@prestonsmorg2098 if I donât know their gender, I use they/them, and if I do know their gender, I use the appropriate pronouns. It ainât rocket science.
@@RunOut25 Another one I came up with was "Guess who has two thumbs, two balls (substitute boobs if you're transmasc,) and a desperate need to get rid of two of those things? đTHIS GUY!đ"
Gotta say, my parents accept "anti-trans" far more than "transphobe" when talking about someone. It sounds like a stance, rather than something you cannot control. It feels ironic that they'd be so reluctant to accept that reality when they're continuously pushing one of their own making to us.
In regards to the weirdly obsessed with stranger's genitals, the "bathroom law" in Florida went into effect that you have to go into the bathroom corresponding to the sex you were assigned at birth. Me as a fully bearded trans male, I have a strong desire to go visit the state capitol in Florida and go pee in the women's bathroom because "Oh sorry, I am a law-abiding citizen and was told I have to use the bathroom of the sex I was assigned at birth and I was assigned female at birth." Main thing holding me back is I know how many gun toting nutjobs there are in the area and so I would fear for my safety and health more than finding worth in sticking it to transphobes. Plus I live far from Florida, so that would be a long way to travel. It's just amusing to think I could be arrested for going into the women's bathroom as I am now, but then I would be able to show documentation that I was assigned female at birth because not all of my documents are changed.
â@@martind2520You still assign a sex on a birth cert. Also, for people who are actually intersex, some doctors do assign them either a male or female sex.
@@ShinyTillDawn Example: Imagine a baby is born with a penis and testicles, but the doctor is blackout drunk and writes that the baby is a girl on the birth certificate. Is that baby now a girl? Or did the doctor get it wrong? Answer, the doctor got it wrong. Sex is not assigned it is discovered. This also applies to intersex conditions. Certainly the doctor is far more likely to get it wrong in those cases, but there is still a correct answer every time. All intersex conditions are either an intersex condition that affects males, or an intersex condition that affects females.
@@ShinyTillDawn I'm not making a claim about boy or girl, I'm talking about male or female. You cannot be assigned male or female. Those are things which are biological facts.
i think my most favorite arguments are, "God only made two genders!" obligatorily that's just wrong, because gender is a very human construct. And, "God only made two sexes!" which is again simply wrong on a factual basis. Nature is full of different sexual, intersex, and a-sexual combos. Not only that but animals they refer to like lions as having sex or gender 'norms' like manes are ALSO wrong. There are female lions with manes. There are female lions in the wild who behave like males and lead prides and fight. Who came and taught them to be like that, hmmm?? LMAO There's just... Just so MANY holes in their arguments and if only they were slightly more aware of the world around them, they might see it.
Also there's a big hole from the start because with the way Genesis is written in the original Hebrew? That. God made Adam and Eve male and female thing? It's repeated with "They were made male and female" and that "they" can be read as SINGULAR and refering only to *Adam* before Eve is then made from him. Which honestly makes more sense since Adam literally starts off being a single person made of clay/dirt/soil and breathed to life. Adam was made without a counterpart and literally bemoans it. Adam was frecking intersex. There's interesting Jewish commentary around the language about the internet, and it also points out that Eve didn't have the ability to procreate until God cast these two out of the Garden and gave that to her as a curse/consolation prize. Sounds very much like Adam was intersex, and Eve was copied from him and also intersex until God gave them a magic sex change into binary physiology to me!
Yeah, and the funny thing is that there are 2 fundamental fact about Christianity that disprove transphobia instantly: 1. God makes no mistakes 2. God made and makes everything, including humans So, god makes all humans, and fundamental aspects of humans, or any human, cannot be mistakes. Including being trans. Or NB. Or gay. Or anything ever. Iâm not even Christian anymore, Iâm aethiest, I just find it funny that Christianity fundamentally cannot justify any bigotry, ever, even if it was correct.
@@PrismTheLoser this is part of why the 'only two' thing makes me laugh so much tbh. If god makes no mistakes and gay attraction, intersex creatures, and others exist in all states... Well, the argument is dead before it leaves the door. God made em that way, so how can it be a mistake?
Iâm confused, why are people mad at a bunch of adjectives and pronouns? Did they fail to English? Why are they mad at trans people and not their English teachers, or themselves? Unless the teacher was trans or they are trans; then why are they mad about their own community?
That's fascism for you. Fascists hate knowledge and science, so they hate language. They try to simplify to the maximum a language (Known as "newspeak".) so that people don't have anything to descrive themselves and the others. Without being able to descrive people, knowledge of them became unobtainable. Without knowing people, people stop being people and became things. Dehumanization of themselves and the others allow fascists to commit atrocities, to not only to others but also to themselves, because there is no atrocity if there is no people being affected.
The "I'm a transgender man" in the intro just really made me laugh, I didn't realise that myself until he directly referenced it when I started watching his videos - must've been the 3rd or 4th I was watching and I was just like "oh, really?" lol
When I first heard people using the term "cis", I thought it might have been used as a slur or insult, but then I looked up the word and realised that it is just a normal adjective
So I have a theory, based on nothing but my own thoughts, on why cis-gender people (and I am one) reacted negatively to the term "cis." "Trans" as a prefix occurs in many everyday words: transatlantic, transportation, transform, etc. I had never heard the prefix "cis" before, probably because I never studied chemistry much. So the terms "cis" felt very foreign, unlike "trans" which felt familiar. I've gotten used to it, but it's never going to feel natural to me (I'm old). I accept it, and understand it's not an insult, but that has taken time. This is just and explanation of what might underlie reactions, not an excuse for hate. Love your videos!
Well, if its any comfort, the prefix cis need only be used when the conversation is specifically about trans issues with reference to non-trans people and their reactions. I never refer to myself as a cis gay male, for example, as in 99% of normal discourse it's entirely irrelevant. I just refer to myself as male and only if that's relevant. It's only when discussing the politics and biology of LGBTQ+ issues it's relevant at all.
Good point. Now compare cis- to hetero-. Apart from heterosexual, what words use that prefix? Heterogeneous, heterozygous, heterotrophic, heterodox (and anyway "unorthodox" is commoner). Yes, it is used but the words are "learned" and unfamiliar. So perhaps some people on first hearing the word heterosexual disliked it just as that transphobe hates "cis". Now we have the words gay and straight, and haters can't complain that the words are unfamiliar. Perhaps in time queer people will repurpose two familiar words to mean trans and cis. But for now, trans and cis is what we have, and they're just going to have to put up with that.
I wonder if the SOUND of the word is part of it. Like the person who spelled it "sis" might be thinking it's like "sissy"? But, yeah, unfamiliarity both with a word AND with considering yourself a subset of humanity rather than the assumed norm can be unsettling. There are people who don't like talking about whiteness in the same same terms as we talk about other racialized groups, and the way in which they frame their objections suggest that it is partially because they're used to "white" being the assumed norm and not just one category among many. I could see "cis and trans" falling into something similar...but maybe even more so, since trans people have been more or less invisible to cis people for so long that we didn't really have a word for either (in most European languages) until fairly recently (unlike racial concepts, which have been around for a couple of centuries in similar-to-current-day forms).
@@emilymoran9152 I guess that could be part of the issue, mere unfamiliarity with the concept. As a cis gay male, I don't claim to understand what it must feel like to be trans, but I do at least know what it feels like to be different from most folk, and how prejudice can hurt you. That's why I support trans issues whenever I can. I've even bought Jamie's book, _The T in LGBT+" - looking forward to reading it once I've finished the book I'm on!
Transphobes: "Don't call me transphobic, I'm not afraid of you, it isn't even proper grammar." Me (literally a few minutes later): "So you are a cis person..." Transphobes: "Ew, don't call me that!" Me *eyeroll* : "I thought you cared about grammar."
Jamie, spouse and I are about 2/3 through listening to the audiobook version of your book. It is so good, informative, practically useful. Spouse said "I think this is going to become like a bible for this". I love the inclusion of stuff for allies and of general interest, and of the non-binary stuff. 100% recommend!
I have my pre order of the audio version of your book ready to go when I finish my current book for me but I also pre ordered a physical copy of your book for my 15 year old trans child. I have been pointing them towards watching you for ages with no real look but your book arrives and they disappear of with it. A few hours later I get âthe book is really good, some of my friends already know him from CZcams!â. So thank you for writing your book it is already having an impact on one young trans person. I look forward to listening for myself. Thanks Jamie. (and hi my lovely if you see this â€â€)
"But phobia can ONLY mean fear" - probably said by some of the people responsible for the definition of "literally" to change to also mean the opposite...
Fun fact : the suffix "mancy" like in necromancy, originally means "to read the future" but it is most commonly used to speak of magic like in pyromancy
In what way at all am I transphobic? Btw a trans woman is a man. :T you probably think you can prove it but all youâll prove is that the word transphobia is for a bigots use to make people go by a social construct
@@KateWick1997 You must have ESP, or you are already determined to predispose answers regardless of the question. While it's not your business, I was born me. Seeing as I'm gender fluid, I was "born" both girl and boy in my gender.
Yeah itâs almost like normal isnât a fucking thing and is just society trying to force everyone into molds that basically nobody fits in (Not annoyed with you, Iâm just kinda pissed in general at this)
As a Non-binary person myself, i have to agree. I am utterly confused.
As someone who identifies with the lgbt, Iâm confused, as what to have for lunch lmao
Same đ
Same, not about being nonbinary, just in general
Same here đ.
Iâm non binary and confused. Not because Iâm non binary just in general
As a strait female I am also dazed and confused about pretty much everything these days but adore Jamie and support him completely. đ«¶đŒ
Iâm worried about the trans generals. Who is hurting them?
Well, itâs not the homophobes, they donât cut up their generals
i think theyre all leading armies right now, trans armies, that is!
@@ChewedBubbleGun lmfao
I fucking love the implication that there's an army (of assumedly mercenaries, but potentially even of a specialized nation) of and for trans people
@@nicreven The nation must be hidden somewhere in Transalpine Gaul.
"Trans women are trans women. Trans men are trans men" Ah yes, the floor here is made of floor
â@@trevorchester4439they are, thats why they are called *men* and *women*
@@trevorchester4439 bigots calling other people bigots is something i never thought i'd see
@@trevorchester4439
bigot
/ËbÉȘÉĄÉt/
noun
a person who is obstinately or unreasonably attached to a belief, opinion, or faction, especially one who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group.
a bigoted person is someone who is prejudiced or antagonistic to another person or persons of a group.
youre the definition of a bigot. just because your unsourced 95% of people agree with you, doesnt mean its not bigoted.
that's acquite small sample size for all of humanity :/@@trevorchester4439
@@trevorchester4439 bigot
I grew up in a very conservative Christian household, and was homophobic and transphobic until I was about 18, when I broke away from all that. Even after I started being an ally, I still felt like trans people were weird and I had trouble seeing them as their real gender. About two years ago I started watching your videos to better educate myself, and your whole personality and appearance so reminded me of my older brother, that I finally acknowledged the truth. And a few months ago, I realized that I myself am not cis.
So thank you Jamie, for helping me become more open-minded about the journeys of others, and ultimately myself.
All the love for you on your journey :) đ
Bro went through a character arc. And honestly, I was the same at one point due to all my (now former) friends being homophobic and transphobic.
Because they were my only friends, I thought it would be cool to be like them. Thankfully, my attitude has changed, and I regret my past.
I hope your transition process, whatever it may be (social, medical, etc...) is going well. I'm glad you were able to escape those bigoted beliefs your family passed down
Thanks. Still trying to figure out what my actual gender even is, and trying not to think about the transition process whenever I do nail it down.
@exposingfrauditorsisback Oh my goodness, you're right! I've been lied to all this time, and after those powerful words you said, I've realized the truth. Thank you, kind stranger
âHello, Iâm transgender. Yes. Ta-Da!â
Somewhere, thereâs a dad wanting to say âHello, Transgender. Iâm an ally.â
so would this dad then be...transparent?
1000% and there's a dad with a trans kid who's dying to break out the "Hello, Transgender, I'm Transparent!" IRL one day
I'm trans, but it hurts to _not_ make dad jokes lol.
Hello, Transgender. Iâm an ally.
.. how did you know that I wouldn't be able to resist?
â@@jasperjazzieno. I'm trans. And I'm a parent. So that would make me transparent. In the words of John Cena. "You can't see me". đ
I stand by the fact that the âcis is a slurâ crowd think this way, is because to them âtransâ is a slur. They see being trans as so utterly negative that âwell if cis is the opposite of trans it MUST be negativeâ
That still don't logic đ
the opposite of bad is bad. consistent with the rest of what they say tbf
i gotta agree with moose, most of these people had never heard the term until "the trans debate" started with JK's tweets. so they just associate it with trans people. good hypothesis, but it's way to nuanced for the phobes.
They super resent not being able to call themselves "normal". They hate that so much. I had the same reaction from someone when I used the word "omnivore" when talking about vegan issues. Like dude, it's not derogatory just because there is a specific word instead of getting to say "I'm the Normal Person here".
Actually, there might be something more going on here. Sometimes, trans people do in fact say things like "well of course you'd say that, you're cis" or "ugh my parents are too cis to understand" and like, in these cases "cis" does in fact have a negative connotation. Doesn't make it a slur though. Just like "reverse racism" doesn't exist. But it is still stereotyping, because not all cis people by far act that way, and I firmly believe all stereotyping is harmful to all parties involved, including transphobes, allies, and trans people.
EDIT: because everyone keeps not reading the rest of the thread, here is a later reply of mine:
[...] It's about tone I guess. If you say it with contempt in your voice, that communicates that you have certain opinions towards a privileged group. And they don't like being reminded of their privilege. (which also ties in with the "im not cis, im normal" thing) And, if you only ever hear it in that way (which, let's remind ourselves that trans issues are barely present in most cis people's lives, so it is fully possible you'd only ever hear it in a context like that) then you might, reasonably even, conclude that it is _always_ used negatively, and hence it has a negative connotation, and hence it is a slur.
Now, towards allies, this contempt feels unwarranted. They didn't choose to be privileged just like we didn't choose not to be, and they are trying their best to help. Which means "yelling at them because they are privileged so they always deserve it" (which I have heard some trans people say before) is never going to help the situation, unless they have _very good_ emotional control.
As a cis person, I donât understand why so many cis people think itâs ok to ask trans people about their genitalia.
Yeah, it's not of your business unless you're sleeping with a person. Like imagine asking random people if they're circumcised or something?
Yeah the "trans are perverts" crowd are weirdly obsessed with other people's genitals, like some kind of pervert themselves.
Including children. I'm going on 14 but look like I'm 10-11. I've had grown ass strangers ask me what I've got going on down there and had people grab my chest to "prove" my gender. Christ people, and you're saying I'm the creep.
Okay, got a little heated there, but I'm hoping I got my point across.
â@@msjkrameyI'm sure some people actually do ask others that... I mean, we live in a society where people are being rejected for their height and wage right now... A lot of these things don't surprise me xD
When I still worked with patients I was asked about it all the time. My response was usually along the lines of, "This vein looks good. Pump your fist 3 times and then hold it."
I have something called photophobia. It doesn't mean that I am afraid of photos, it means that my eyes are super sensitive to bright lights. People really need to read a book.
Reading is too much effort them.
Yo photophobia gang, i always look downwards when I'm outside during daytime
Youâve only proven my point further. Just like hydrophobia, youâre eyes just donât want to touch bright lights. Itâs a small if theyâre AFRAID of it.
TIL that I can refer to my experience with light as photophobia, thanks!
But yeah, also trypophobia is another one. Also, for anyone wondering, trypophobia is an intense aversion to things like holes, bumps, etc - honeycomb patterns are a famous example. If you think you might have it I'd say don't Google it because I just tried to look it up JUST TO DOUBLE CHECK MY SPELLING and literally the FIRST result was a trypophobia trigger. I guess the internet assumes people who have it have no need to look it up đ So if you're curious, maybe there's a trypophobia safe subreddit or something?
Got an ad for a âdetransitioner documentaryâ that said that â80% of transsexual children detransition.â The irony of that lmfao.
Itâs not pride anymore but remember youâre still valid everyone :3 â€ïžđ§Ąđđđđ đłïžâđđłïžââ§ïž
80% detransition and called it transexual... Lmao
@@alisteruizyeah XD the transphobes are indeed angry and confused. If you get that ad honestly just report it.
"Ad says outrageous claim"
"Ad can't even get the term right"
their so mad that the actual number is less than 1%
@@azure-pg6nd yeah, Iâm just glad theyâre wasting money advertising to very obviously pro-trans people.
I never understand how people say that trans folks push other people to be trans.... Why would I wish for anyone else to experience all the troubles that come with feeling like you were born in the wrong body? If I could choose, I'd pick being cis every day... but that's not how it works, unfortunately.
They used to say they same thing about homosexual people. The world learns slowly. They keep repeating the same silly nonsense.
they don't push others to be trans though?
â@gloriaf6971 they still say this bout gay people. This straight couple was practically having sex in the pool (they were grinding, moaning and eating eachothers face ) but the moment I touched my wife's waist and kissed her for less than a second and a lady loudly complained about "f@gs throwing in their face our faces" but just stays silent about the straight couple
oh wait i misread the comment my bad
We donât cause people to become trans , we inform people they actually have a choice to be themselves.
They also see us living our best life and they are jealous
The people who think "cis is a slur" are the ones TAKING it as a slur when it's used on them. "I'm not cis I'm normal!!" being cis IS normal and so is being trans - you're okay buddy
Well, even innocent words can be considered a slur if they are often used in pejorative way.
The N-word was a common word but since it was usually accompanied with distain, it become a slur.
@@Karak-_- the N word has always been used negatively because it dates back to before slavery was abolished. It has always been used to identify people of African decent or with dark skintones as lesser beings. It has always had a history rooted in centuries of hatred and racism, and continues today unless reclaimed.
The comparison of racial slurs and a term that simply means ânot transâ doesnât make sense because cisgender isnât used in a negative connotation unless its to point out the lack of understanding cisgender people have of how transitioning works. Secondly, the term is fairly new and has never been used to personally attack a marginalized group of people so itâs not comparable to a slur. You act as if trans people look down on others for being cisgender when the reality of the situation is that itâs often used just to correct misunderstandings or as a completely benign adjective.
The "cis" thing is very annoying and not necessary to describe normal people.
@@Gamefan86 It is necessary? It may not have to distinguished every time, but say something pertains to strictly cis people and not trans people, then it'd be important to clarify (and vice-versa of course)
I know this dude not talking got a anime pfp with a lgbtq flag the def of a loser fatty and a blue hair wokie đđ
as a trans person, i can confirm that i am in fact a trans person
Person first, trans second
No way đ€Ż me too
Omg, I'm not alone!
What a plot twist!
What a plot twistâŠnone of us couldâve possibly seen this coming!
You chose a word. Congratulations. You are so brave.
I love when transphobes are so confused they use the proper gender accidentally :')
It's so telling because they just have this primal instinct to attack the moment anyone says they are trans.
But they also can't imagine someone being trans and not being able to "clock" them, so they assume Jamie is a trans woman who hasn't started any kind of affirming care ...
The same way on Twitter for example they see me defending trans rights, I have a cartoony avatar and pronouns in my bio .... So they immediately assume I'm trans and start misgendering me thinking I'll be upset. Like I'm a cis man and I'm not even going to blink when they misgender me I think it's just funny for how pathetic it is.
â@@I.Lostalimyeah like this one person misgendered a NON TRANS PERSON
one of the best parts of being multigender, messing with transphobes who desperately want to offend someone, especially if they don't understand the concept yet. the only way to win is to not play (or just have good intentions)
@@I.Lostalim It does seem to be common for anti-trans people to assume that *all* trans people are trans women, because they tend to focus on trans women.
@@I.Lostalim someone thought I was lgbt just because I was defending trans people. No honey, Iâm an ally, we are not hateful creatures like them, we exist.
crazy how transphobes get so particular with etymology when it comes to the word "transphobia" but then lose all that when the word "cis" is said
almost as if logic is a secondary priority to them and the top priority is being a horrible person
edit: i'd like to thank Kate Wick for volunteering as a demonstration in the reply section of this very comment :)
"...the top priority is being a horrible person"
So true!
Bigotry is an emotional attachment to ignorance
But see, it's actually just that by rejecting the cis prefix, they're rejecting the concept of trans people. Which is completely different from, and not at all similar to transphobia.
â@kimarna I'm gonna steal that!
Do they say the same about homophobia, xenophobia or any of the other words with the same format? Such weird thing to focus on honestly
I've decided that I want to go into law specifically to help LGBTQIA+ individuals and fight gender affirming care bans, unconstitutional trials such as the recent web designer case, and help as much as I can to make LGBTQIA+ equality something that isn't just a dream. I want Pride to be a celebration of a war we won, not just a fight. Let it be history and not a reminder of what we might go back to. Fight bigotry with education
That's so wholesome and amazing đłïžâđ
as a trans person I salute you! o7
Goodluck dude. I wish you the wisdom, intelligence and success of a valedictorian. Go get that law degree you gat damn amazing person đđłïžâđđ
One thing I will bring up, is that you should think of a way that you can make a living and pay for colledge(if American) with being a queer lawyer/lobbist.
Hell yeah! I'm studying to be an archivist for the same reason! i wanna make our history more accessible so education can grow :-) hell yeah!!!
Worrying about a strangers genitals is super weird and creepy. Can people just....not????????
These are the same people who carried those signs depicting bathroom sign guys doing anal with đ« over it. Like... lemme get this straight: you're the one thinking about how complete strangers have sex, but *I'm* crazy? Lmao, wtf.
Ikr like if you be asking a MINOR whatâs in their pants youâre gonna catch a case đ
@@kellinquinnfeetpics unfortunately no. The amount of times adults asked me what was in my pants when I was transitioning in my teen years (I'm 23 now) was just disgusting. And none of them learned anything.
@@vinnyoz4709 honestly i wouldve clapped back and said "why do you wanna know? are you a pedo?" "No, im not" "Im underage and you want to know about my private parts, sounds like a pedo to me"
Worse that being worried about the genitals of others, they have an unhealthy obsession with the genitals of everyone else đ±
You have to be a very disturbed individual to be upset at Jamie, he's such a cinnamon bun
True
I am VERY upset with Jamie! đ đ đ đ
...because he knew from a young age that he was a boy. I'm joking of course, but I'm lowkey kinda jealous of trans folk that are so confident in it and don't question what they are.
Jamie is the one who broke me out of my transphobia (I'm 57 and just "didn't get it"). Once I found him and watched a bunch of his videos it actually clicked in my head that trans people are just people like everyone else just trying to live their best lives, honestly and happily.
You simply can't fault anyone for that unless you yourself have issues. WHY anyone's life who is not you should bother you is beyond me at this point. Live and let live and leave everyone else alone, worry about your own business.
He seriously gives off such cool art teacher vibes. Like jes the teacher you'd remember years after you left high school for being one of the few bright spots in that hellhole.
jamie is the type of person to give away free pastries at night at a bakery
Arenât Transphobes angry and confused 24/7?
Bigotry is an emotional attachment to ignorance
usually
It's the same as all the str8 people who can't think of anything other than gay sex when trying to defend their bigotry... I just call them perverts now, cuz that is what they are.
Daaaaaazed and confused~
Thatâs like⊠their thing.
(Notice how I used their in a way to describe people who arenât non binary, so itâs been around like, forever)
I heard about a Christian lady who prays every day and has a strong sense of belief in her religion LEAVE church because she saw the transphobia sparking among Christianity, saying that god she knows is not so narrow-minded and now practices her religion in her home. This was such a breath of fresh air to hear about.
a lot of christians let their biases go above God, we ignore them. trans people are valid
I've always loved the transphobes who try to argue "don't change words". Language has been changing since its conception and continues to evolve. Also, "cis" and "trans" are pretty basic chemistry terms that contemporary science uses to describe compounds in the same way its used to describe gender. Not that that matters to these people. They want to be mad.
Edit: My "I paused to make this point that you made 2 seconds later" is showing. lol
Are you telling me this molecule is trans!!
I said that to someone in a comment section of one of Jamie's shorts and I got the response "but cisgender as a term came after transgender" and I'm like uh yeah?? When they coined the term transsexual in the 40s I don't think they realized how many of us were out there so they didn't feel the need to at the same time coin the term for a non trans person
Edit: like allistic came way after autistic! Able bodied came way after disabled!
@@Red-in-Greenthat molecule like be fr fr đ
transphobes: oH, nOw We ArE iNsUlTiNg MoLeCuLeS, hUh?!
As someone who gratuaded from applied chemistry, I can confirm those are basic chemistry terms. And not only in chemistry. I tried to explain it so many times.. but oh boy do local people want to be mad about everything.. I hate this country..
Cis and Trans are also used in geography as well. They aren't new words.
I'm one of the straights and I honestly can't understand why some other straights can't just mind their own f---ing business and live and let live. These people must be leading either miserable or overly privileged lives to feel the need to beat up other people in comment sections. Everyone, get a life and work on yourself instead of being a busy body about everyone else's life. đđœââïž
I đŻ% agree! If those people would put that much energy into improving their own lives they'd be happier. They need to get a more constructive hobby.
â@unintent no one is telling kids that they're trans. Trans kids are coming to adults that make them feel safe with their identities. And what's the worst that can happen as a kid? They socially transition, realize that's not them, and then go back. But that's super rare and most de-transitioners do it out of social pressure, not the other way around
@@unintent giving information to questions is about giving clarity not confusion. Not discussing things in life doesn't make them magically go away. Giving information isn't indoctrination unlike church which is.
@@unintent But what if they ARE trans? What if when they get older, they realize they would be happier living as a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth? Learning that being trans is an option when they're young would save them a lot of pain later on in life.
We're not trying to push anything on anyone, the most we're doing is telling people that it's possible to be trans, or _suggesting_ for someone to explore their gender more if they're expressing feelings that many trans people felt before they realized they were trans. And if you meet a trans person who is actually trying to push things on others, they're an exception. 99% of trans people would not approve of their actions.
Telling kids that it's possible for a man to love another man like mommies and daddies love each other doesn't make them gay, but it does let them know that it's possible to be gay and _could_ make figuring themselves out a lot easier later on in life. And if they don't turn out to be gay, it would make them more accepting and understanding when they meet a gay person.
And it's the same with trans people, telling kids that someone can be trans doesn't turn them trans. It only gives them information that _could_ save them a lot of pain later in life.
"Oh no, I perceive this person's genitals as wrong for their gender. The horror." -The Straights âą
You've just done a whole video with lint in your hair. This is something only a man would do. The haters can no longer question your masculinity as it is on clear display here.
I feel like that little guy a little extra something to the video
I was thinking I'm weird because while I was listening to Jamie I kept getting distracted by that piece of lintđ€Ł
OMG I AM NOT ALONE
Nooo you made me notice it!!! I canât unsee it now!!
@@silverghostcat1924 *me frantically looking at the comments to see if anyone else had the same thought.*
I'll never understand people who use religion against trans people. I am a christian myself and we've talked about this in my house: we believe God made man and woman, yes, but in no place it says "you must behave and identify as what your genitalia defines even if it makes you unhappy." God is love and loves all of us equal, he wants us to be happy and love ourselves and the other, why are people so focused on using it to hurt?
Because they donât actually care about Christianity. They only use it as a weapon.
Isn't Christianity all about like "we all love each other" but then people make up a bunch of stupid exceptions to fit their ancient views.
@@kjlat exactly! My church adapts to the modern times but keeping the values which are the most important thing. We don't selectively ignore things and keep things to conveniently hate (for example) gay people. There are gay people at my church and we believe God loves them too and wants them to be happy. Love is love, and God sees the heart and soul, not what YOU HAVE BETWEEN YOUR LEGS. The whole point is that the body is temporary
Christianity began as sun worship, the stories about Jesus are symbolic.
He is just a personification of the sun, made into a god figure later on.
The sun "dies" for 3 days on December 22nd, the winter solstice, when it stops its movement south, to be born again or resurrected on December 25th, when it resumes its movement north.
In some areas, the calendar originally began in the constellation of Virgo, and the sun would therefore be "born of a Virgin"
The sun rising in the morning is "the saviour of mankind"
The sun is "The light of the World"
The sun "walks on water" is just the reflection of the sun on water/the sea.
"He cometh on clouds, and every eye shall see him", is just sun rays.
Jesus' "crown of thorns" is just the sun's glare, also know as a halo.
The sun's "followers", "helpers" or "disciples" are the 12 months and the 12 signs of the zodiac or constellations, through which the sun must pass.
The sun at 12 noon is in the house or temple of the "Most High": thus.."he" begins "his Father's work" at "age" 12.
The sun enters into each sign of the zodiac at 30 degrees, hense, the "Sun of God" begins his ministry at "age" 30.
The sun is hung on a cross or "crucified", which represents its passing through the equinoxes.
The vernal equinox being Easter, at which time it is then resurrected.
The reason why saviour myths are so similar with a godman who is crucified and resurrected, who does miracles and has 12 disciples, is that these stories were based on the movements of the sun through the heavens, an astrotheological development that can be found throughout the planet, because the sun and the 12 zodiac signs can be observed around the globe.
In other words, Jesus Christ and all the others upon whom this character is predicated are personifications of the sun, and the Gospel fable is merely a rehash of a mythological formula revolving around the movements of the sun throug the heavens.
Christianity is ancient astrology, it's just fables about the sun.
Check out Acharya S aka D.M Murdock for more info.
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I'm also pretty sure that it doesn't say "god *only* made a man and a woman". Maybe they had a nap for a few weeks before making non-binary and intersex people.
Or maybe there *were* originally just cis men and cis women, but somewhere along the way mutations happened so gender and sex variations appeared.
It's also well documented that some books were discarded when the original bible was collated, plus some of the books have different accounts of the same event (and I imagine other religious texts have similar histories). So we know that it can't possibly cover every event and scenario completely accurately with all details included (and that's before even considering all the numerous translations and amendments over the years).
So basically, no-one should use their personal beliefs as an excuse for hatred or discrimination, *especially* when those beliefs advocate for love and acceptance.
It's just weird, creepy, and invasive to ask random people about their junk. Trans or cis. Unless they're your doctor, what do they expect to do with that information anyway?
Fun fact: Where I live, intentionally misgendering someone repeatedly might be considered harassment soon, depending on if the new law goes all the way through! I'm hoping it does, it pretty clearly states that to be considered harassment, it would have to be done with the intent to make people feel uncomfortable or afraid, which means you gotta question what's wrong with the people opposing it.
Where's this?
Intentional repeated misgendering is definitely harassment, and it's done to hurt trans people for sure
@@WolfgangDoW Michigan, US
I've looked this up and this seems to be false. It sounds like writing media was spreading this claim to fearmonger. From what I read, Michigan law makes it harassment to intimidate people based on certain characteristics, and the new bill would add gender identity among other things to those characteristics.
So not so much misgendering someone, but perhaps misgendering someone as a means to intimidate could become harassment.
@@adrienstarfaerAll the more reason why our state is awesome. All hail the Water Mitten! đ
I canât recall a day when the transphobes werenât confused
Edit: Apologies to those who find it annoying but HOLY CRAP 1K WOW!!! TYSM ^^
Yup
Accurate
Very true.
Fr
Transphobes = Whiny buttinskis.
some ppl think cis is a slur because they use trans as a slur
I think people think "cis" is a slur because they consider "trans" a slur and use it as an insult themselves.
"The transphobes are angry and confused"
...What else is new? They could legit look at a damn lumberjack lookin dude with a beard that would make a dwarf proud and go "SHE doesn't even look like a man! SHE'S just a GIRL!"
On the opposite spectrum, they also see a fully grown woman with respectably sized breasts, a feminine face, and child baring hips and go "No, that's a MAN >:("
Transphobes really have no idea whats going on lmfao
â@@KateWick1997Are you?
@@marymystery4427 Bruh it is a costume to wear
Trans people live in fantasy land.
As an American, I loved that Jamie had to Google if Kool-Aid was made with real fruit juice. đ
LMAO, same here. i'm like "just google liquid candy"
The sugar free version can be used to dye yarn.
@ruthspanos2532 According to my mom, when she was young, she used to use the sugar-free kool-aid to dye her hair.
@@pathevermore3683 My best friend lives in Slovakia and she once sent over some fruit gummies (I typically hate gummies) and when I opened them I was so surprised they smelled like they had real fruit in them. I told her this and she was confused so I had to explain the
CONTAINS REAL FRUIT JUICE!*
*Contains less than 2% fruit juice
thing to her. Would recommend JOJO gummies, though. 10/10
It was a trend seven years ago for middle schoolers to dye their hair with cool aid
I had an old dictionary that defined -phobia as an irrational fear or hatred of something. The definition has stuck with me all my life.
IYeah, thats just the standard definition.
it's repulsion. You have hydrophobic matter and hydrophilic matter. Sounds like a perfect example of understanding what phobia is
As a trans person, I can confirm that Iâm not made of juice and I have never harmed any generals
Trans is an adjective. A trans woman is a type of woman. A young woman is a type of woman. Is not that hard.
thank you : ,)
Have you seen a blue apple before?
@@Complain2023 people are not apples, i can't believe i had to actually tell someone this
@@woodie3030 well wrong adjectives then! I can't believe I had to explain this to someone.
@@Complain2023 what are you even talking about
which adjectives were wrong
Jamie is dressed so smartly, that the hair right under his bottom lip looks like a bow tie. Fancy!
I noticed that too!! Now we need his mustache to be shaped like a top hat! >:D
I was going to say the same thing, the goatee part looks like a jacket yo go along with it
I had a person yell at me on fucking iFunny DMS about how "you're illiterate because transphobia isn't real we aren't scared of trans people" and then posted the definition of Phobia including the B definition which was an "aversion to something or someone ". I pointed that out and he said and I quote " B definitions don't count. Those are the woke agenda" never change iFunny. đ€Ł
Hello mate, cis bloke in his 60s here, and may I say that I thought by this stage of the game that people would be a bit more tolerant and groovy, however it appears the culture has been in reverse for a few years.... Personally I'm happy for people to be who they are, and maybe in time we can forget all that bigoted nonsense. Big dad hugs all round â€
OMG A PERSON OF IMPRESSIVE AGE (my nice way of saying old) THAT IS LGBTQ SUPPORTIVE!!! You guys are so rare, and it always warms my heart as a 15yo trans girl to see you!
3:16 can confirm, I'm non binary and am frequently utterly confused. Usually by transphobe logic and whatever those people in "that's not how women/men work" videos are thinking.
7:45 I agree completely with your response but hey, they see you as a man and are trying to insult you as a man by calling you feminine. Misogynistic, yes. Weirdly affirming of your gender, also yes. (For clarity since this is the internet, using feminine as an insult is misogynistic. Using it as an insult to Jamie affirms his manhood because that's the kind of insult one hurls at a man.)
You mean misandryst? Cuz Jamie man
@@Sly-Moose Assuming feminine bad is the misogynistic part. Perhaps I could have been clearer. Sorry if so.
@@Toni-lo9ms Ah. I can see that perspective. Ya ok
Even though the only thing feminine about Jammi is his chromosomes.
@@UmongusSussehFrusseh And even then, that might not even be the case. Neither us or him knows what chromosomes he has
Fun Fact: Earlier today, I was accused of having âgender phobiaâ because I used the word CIS.
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Transphobes have the weirdest hangups.
@@carolinelabbott2451 Theyâre hanging up over the wrong things.
@@PokhrajRoy. yup.
It's like they don't want to confront what's really going on in their heads so they lash out at anything ordinary around them.
What the heck
@@carolinelabbott2451 bigotry is an emotional attachment to ignorance
I'm a cis woman and I would be utterly offended if someone referred to me as normal! I can't think of anything worse.
Don't apologize for plugging your book. Your channel helps so many people, your book will hopefully reach even more. You are a hero for sharing so much of your journey. I have a few people in my immediate family circle that are LGBTQ+ & I support,accept and love them all because that is what you do. You love your people. â€
It's better than a Raid ad.
â@@ShinyTillDawnagreed
@@ShinyTillDawn better than any ad honestly
never understood how people say trans people are different from cis people. We are all different. Even twins looking alike will somehow have a difference. Nobody is exactly like someone else. Why would a different sex or gender be a bigger difference than, i dont know, a skill or a hobby?? Gosh transphobes really try to hate something
This is a take I haven't seen but I like it. I use a similar argument when addressing people who don't believe trans people exist. It goes like this:
Do you realize everyone's face is different? No two people look the same because the human race is incredibly diverse. Why would you expect variations in sex and gender to not also be commonplace?
I'm different as a trans person the same way I'm different as an autistic person. It causes me some distress and struggle, but some changes can greatly improve my general wellbeing. And both ways, although it causes me some discomfort and some people think it needs to be fixed, there's no way to get rid of it and it doesn't need to be "cured".
I really hope that allegory worked, I kinda suck at explanations.
One thing that every single living thing in the world has in common is that we are all different. So why hate someone over one thing we all have in common?
I 100% guarantee that every transphobe that comments about phobia = fear has been told repeatedly, and shown the dictionary definition, of what it actually means. But they still love to trot out that old tired nugget again and again.
I think the 'phobes just don't want to admit they fear LGBTQ+ folk, as well as hating us. They're just weak and afraid of anything unfamiliar.
i've witnessed it many times in these here comments.
Bigotry is an emotional attachment to ignorance
I'm old enough to remember when they tried that with homophobia. Maybe we'll get some more of that again too
(I may be wrong here, take it with a grain of salt) I've literally only heard the "phobia is a strong fear" argument in regards to LGBTQ+ identities. Never in regards to words like xenophobia or Islamophobia. Hmm, weird.
Iâm nonbinary and im always utterly confused. Not about my gender, no. Stopped being confused about that when I realized that mine is absent
5:10
As a psychologist, I like to bring in the fact that anger/disgust are secondary emotions triggered by fear/anxiety. So in a sense, they are afraid but itâs triggering the anger theyâre showing
As an enby, I can confirm that I am utterly confused about everything
I am nonbinary, and yes, I am completely and utterly confused and stressed out at all times.
Isnât anyone at any time?
Hey me too! I am absolutely confused. On one hand by the amount of meaningless tautologies in this video, and on the other hand about myself. I mostly have gathered stuff I am certain that I am NOT. :D
â@PUP_8I love pillow nonbinary people. They're so huggable. So soft and lovable. LOL
As a fellow non-binary person, your comment is very relatable.
That's because you have a severe mental disorder.
dude, i have no idea how people could hate you, you are WAY too wholesome.
Many people think that Jamie is a bad role model.
â@@ShinyTillDawnwhy
@@spiritsys _The people who don't support kids knowing about LGBTQ+ identities_ would think that Jamie is a source of harmful indoctrination.
@@ShinyTillDawnyeah why? he just promotes happiness and acceptance.
my enby friend came to me some days ago and told me that they get dysphoria from tucking in shirts and they said that maybe i, a transfemme might find some euphoria with tucking in my shirts, especially with high wasted pants and sure enough it felt amazing to tuck in my shirt with my high waisted pants. so if youâre a trans person or just anyone really and is ever in need of some gender affirming clothing techniques, just ask your trans friend about their dysphoria and it might become your euphoria :)
this doesnât have much to do with transphobes and the video but i thought it may be helpful to some people ^ ^
Thank you for this. I'm enby and have always hated tucking in shirts and never associated it with dysphoria. I just recently got a better therapist who's actually helping me process my transition instead of gaslighting me, and gosh is it weird looking back and realizing how many "quirks" I've had all my life were actually about gender dysphoria. I think this is one of them. Thanks for taking the time to comment and helping me see that. â€ïž
No signs? Explain why I tuck shirts into every pair of pants and immediately feel better? And also why is it euphoric as heck?
â@@ofconsciousnessEnvy here, I hated tucking shirts so much and my new gender euphoria is crop tops đ
Tell your friend that he is an idiot and there is no such thing as being "enby".
Being trans is also a delusion.
People who argue that "you can't just change what words mean" must not have ever spoken to anyone ever. That's like, the single most predictable feature of language: it changes. You can actually plot it on maps and timelines and PREDICT future changes based on when and where different people, places, things, and ideas enter the zeitgeist.
Radical says hello and one of its hellos is a surfer dude slang, like "cool" is. lmao
They donât understand basic language. Countries have different meanings for different words. In Australia, an âeraserâ is called a ârubberâ (because you use it to rub stuff out and itâs made of rubber.)
Or how a lot of American English drops the 'u' in a lot of words that use 'ou' like in color/colour
This, so much this
Ever notice that their appears to be a correlation between haters, and people who don't seem to understand which "you're" or "their" to use?
they also typically don't know which to use between "woman" and "women"
I think people who refer to themselves as normal are often the worst kind of people. They're the people who are incapable of looking at their own/family life objectively.
They could say the same to you.
If you look up âphobiaâ the meaning says itâs a fear or aversion to something. So those people would see that phobia isnât just being scared of something if they literally just spent 3 seconds googling the meaning of one word.
Google is the bigots worse enemy đ
But then they'd have to actually educate themselves on something. That's too difficult for them.
Aaaa scary gay and trans people !!! !đ»đ»đ»
Remember, anything that doesn't agree with what they already believe is clearly 'woke nonsense' they wrote because they were afraid of being cancelled.
These people only read untill they see whatever will justify their position then they stop right there. We need the definition changed to "aversion or fear" so they don't just stop at the first word.
I actually REALLY needed this today! I posted a reel about neopronouns yesterday, and I have been called mentally ill so many times today. Like SO many times.
Also narcissistic.
And told that we should go back to the 40s.
And gotten a death threat.
So fun
Hope you're doing well. No one deserves that kind of hate :C
Iâm so sorry. â€
People who complain about neopronouns hail from bathsalts county, I swear. It's not even like it's new, that stuff was around in pre-Strikethrough LiveJournal days, and I know that in Trekkie fandom it was even OLDER I remember xhe/xir and zie/zir dating back to freaking _1998_ and that itself took from physical zines and scifi lexicons that predated it...
We've HAD the neopronouns for almost half a century at LEAST (and I mean in like... fandom spaces, that's the corner of the world I'm aware of), we've only relatively recently started being more exploratory about it, but it isn't even something to fight over.
Also you have very lovely dresses and I dig your haircut.
@@Ihaveratsinmyskin thank you đ Iâm doing okay, itâs kind of like Jamie said in the video, you get kind of used to that stuff.
@@neoqwerty thank you! And yes!!!!! That was kind of what my reel was about, neopronouns re hardly new to english (& not even new to more âcommonâ usage). Like the first known neopronoun dates back to the 1700s (& possibly the 1300s!) & (I wanted to include this but didnât feel like it fit) the modern boom of neopronouns can be traced back to the beginnings of modern day femininism in the 1800s!
There is such a cool history & I donât get why people get so stressed over them
I love when transphobes tell trans men "you'll never be a woman".
me to.
My classmates/bullies trying to bully me by saying i look like a boy;
Me: *closeted transmasc euphoria intensifies.*
Trans woman here. Can confirm I contain no real fruit juice
Indeed, the only fruits round here are us cis gay males! ;)
Would you like to contain some real fruit juice? I'll pour you a glass
Trans gay person here. Can confirm I contain real Fruit (đłïžâđ) juice
Non-binary here, 50% real fruit guice
âSis Maleâ is what I call my fellow gay men from now on.
Sis male made me think of James Charles đ
Yesterday I was listening to my neighbour rant for hours about "trans rights" and "lgbt ***" and I had such an urge to just come out and yell at him. It was like an internet troll, just outside of my window. I am personally a cis ace but most of my friends are gay and/or under trans umbrella so I have a pretty zoomed view on what the struggle in this country is.. and hearing that man was just pissing me off so much.
That "trans men are trans men and trans women are trans women" comment really felt like a thing my 3-year-old keeps doing; ever since I intruduced her to her first synonym, by saying "A and B are the same thing", she keeps saying "A and A are the same" and "X and X are the same." Congratulations, hater - your language and analytics skills are on level with a 3-year-old.
OOF
I am nonbinary and indeed utterly confused about things, but my gender is not one of them.
Lol, as a non-binary, I can agree, I am utterly confused by the transfobia and homofobia.
â@@KateWick1997
In really simple terms, a non-binary person is someone who does not identify as exclusively a man or a woman.
I'm pretty sure there are many people, including myself, who don't identify as a man or a woman. Therefore we are Nonbinary and do exist.
So yes there are people that don't identify as a man/woman therefore being Nonbinary does exist. It's really a simple concept to grasp that some people don't identify as a man or woman. What would you rather Nonbinary people call themselves other than Nonbinary since according to you there's no such thing?
As a cis (gay) girl. Same
Aye my genderless friend (genderless as in nonbinary all the love from me)
@@KateWick1997 boy but I am transfem so I would prefer she/her
As a trans man in the closet you are very comforting to watch. Love your content.
I haven't watched this yet but if any transphobes say "you'll never be a woman" to you I'm literally going to acsend to heaven
edit: I'm acsending
(love seeing transphobes being allys by accident đđ)
I love how Jammi can laugh at these haters and not let them bring him down.
Hating someone because they are not a carbon copy of yourself or doesn't conform to what you feel is "normal" is asinine, those haters need to take a deep look inside. Jamie is one of the sweetest people I've never met (but would love to!!) hating him is beyond...well just beyond! đ
Jammie is a sweetheart and so cute, too!
It comes with dealing with transphobia on a daily basis. After a while it becomes more like water rolling off a ducks back. Though sadly some of us don't make it that far. That's why older trans people and ally's need to stand up for trans kids. So we don't lose anybody along the way.
Jamie is a woman pretending to be a man.
@@Gamefan86 and you're most likely a MAGAdolt pretending to be a human being, threatened to the core by someone who isn't a carbon copy of yourself.
You helped me figure out my gender identity (gender-fluid) thank you
You're gender-fluid? Me too!
twinsies
@@friendlyneigborhoodbean let's go
I'm a gender plasma lol
@@WolfgangDoW lol
phobia: an irrational fear OR AVERSION! Also some of them really are kinda scared đŹ
They're scared that trans women are going to do X, Y, and Z when in reality, such things would occur very rarely.
I remember one person with an anti trans profile picture leaving a hate comment on some video of Jamieâs, before I reported it I looked at their profile and they had commented 200 times on the channel⊠so thanks to that person for the engagement
ik who you're talking about
you can't change that Internet user's mind
I almost choked on my tea when you said âand make them (the hate comments) into moneyâ amazing. You are a class act
Just ordered your book. Hope it will help me become a better ally. Thank you for your constant and interesting content. -Some Norwegian bloke.
3:18
as a non binary, I can confirm, I am very confused. About a lot of things, like, for example, why do transphobes exist? What was the person's comment supposed to achieve? How does one do geometry? Why did they make that last Star Wars movie so crap? I have no clue! :D
14:13 Youâre not alone. Iâm a trans woman and donât talk that much about my genitals online that much, but transphobes still find a way to talk about it as if theyâve seen it which is really weird
I mean, generally, laughing at hate is one of the best ways to deal with it. Because if they had valid points, they wouldn't need to resort to hate.
Also one of the things Jammi said make me think.
We have masculinity, femininity, and toxic masculinity... but has anyone ever seen any toxic femininity?
Yes. Think of any beliefs that are sexist. If a feminine person internalizes those beliefs proudly and claims that it's natural, that's toxic femininity. Seeing yourself as a fertility goddess whose sole purpose is to breed and submit to your husband (yes these women really exist), believing you're naturally bad at math and science and shaming other women who show interest in it (this happened to me multiple times), claiming it's the man's job to carry anything mildly heavy when you could easily carry it yourself, shaming men who don't hold the door for you (usually online rather than to their face), etc.
Toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are just sexism internalized into how we perform gender.
I definitely have, I feel like the âtradwifeâ thing could apply here.
So much of it. Iâve experienced it mostly when I was religious, but thereâs also the whole attitude of âwell I had to deal with misogyny when I was coming up in this industry, and if you donât then youâre weak and donât deserve to be in this field.â Internalized misogyny is a vicious beast.
I'm thinking Stepford Wifes, Handmaid's Tale. Possible choices.
Yes. Female circumsion is a thing. Normally promoted and performed on girls by their mothers and aunts.
One a personal level - I was in college and was told I (cis-woman, btw) wasn't 'woman' enough to be a feminist. Because, you know... being a feminist has gender requirements, evidently. I'm pretty ure these are the same women now trying to sexually assault other women to "prove" they have the "right" to use a bathroom.
I challenge any transphobic person to explain the phrase "be a man" if it was solely biological why does this phrase exist people used it for decades and it's suddenly wrong or is your definition of a man wrong???
Urrrgh.
"Don't be a copy cat", does it mean you are a cat?
"You are chicken out! " Does it mean you are a chicken?
@@Complain2023 stop conflating this with random phrases and answer it directly try a little harder
@@sandersGG asking someone to be a man means act more masculine.
Is the same as calling someone as lazy as a pig.
What exactly you don't get?
@@Complain2023 first off animals aren't part of the social construct of gender so stop conflating what I said with random phrases they're are not the same again if a man was solely biological why would a phrase like that exist
@@sandersGG that's why exactly I try to explain to you, is like a simile
you are telling me if someone telling you are as lazy as a pig.
You will literally get more offended by being mis-species rather than being called lazy?
this gentleman being able to calmly and confidently respond to these horrible people and comments is something I wish I could do. I always get fired up and then I can't even say proper words. I hope my sister will be able to do this when someone tries to deny who she really is.
And how exactly do you know "who she really is"?
â@@martind2520Because she said that's who she really is. How do you know you're cis? Or gay? You feel it, right? You feel right in a man's body and you feel right in a man's body đ
People have different personalities & tempers. If Leafy was in Jamie's shoes, then he would be a lot more aggressive.
@@TransIsBest You know you're gay, not because you "feel" gay, but because you are sexually attracted to people of the same sex.
There is a clear criterion to judge being gay against.
I don't in anyway "feel" cis. So why do you keep calling me cis? Clearly you have critera you are judging me against, and not just relying on my feelings.
People's feelings can be wrong, that is why we judge claims people make about themselves against information that either supports or rejects the claims.
@@martind2520 Sexual attraction isn't a feeling? đ you wanna try that again
And you don't feel like a man? I might have some news for you then lol
And not when it comes to personal wellbeing. Come back with an argument
This week I had my cis-trans isomer lesson in chemistry class. Thanks, Jamie you were broadcast in my NZ classroom (some "are the cis okay" video) to help educate where the word cis they hear more commonly now, legitimately comes from. Between us, facts were checked, myths were dispelled, aha moments were had and hopefully, a whole lot more allys sent out into the world.
Wow! This sounds awesome! đ
i can't unnotice this anymore: the little beard part right below jamie's bottom lip looks like a bow tie. His mouth has a bow tie ;-;
Jamie looks more adorable than usual here. Itâs very Summer in Wimbledon playing a low-stakes Tennis match followed by Strawberries and cream.
I cannot possibly describe a more comfortably British description. Well played. Want something from the bakery for being a cool person?
@@MangoPrism A cake đ
@@PokhrajRoy. understandable - any specific type of cake?
@@MangoPrism A fruitcake lol
I'm also a trans guy who talks with his hands a lot...but I'm also AUTISTIC so it helps me talk, if I didnât use my hands I wouldn't be able to talk well since I have a hard time staying still and not stimming for even 2 minutes...but I know CIS guys (autistic and neurotypical) who also talk with their hands! It's not just a "feminine" thing, some people literally need to do it because it helps them talk, and others just do it because it's just how they talk đ
These people keep insisting âIâm not cis, Iâm normal!â And its just likeâŠnah kid. Normal people donât obsess over the genitalia of random internet strangers. đ
Normal people donât do anything they do.
How is that incorrect? Do you have a source for most going by gender?
â@@prestonsmorg2098Everyone does. How often do you check genitals or chromosomes in a social situation đđđđđ
@@prestonsmorg2098 if I donât know their gender, I use they/them, and if I do know their gender, I use the appropriate pronouns.
It ainât rocket science.
âIâm transgender, ta da!â wish Iâd said that when I came out lol
Sameee
My initial plan was "Pop quiz: how many daughters do you have? Guess again."
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@@tjenadonn6158Ooh, I really like that one, Iâll put it in a list of ways to come out
@@RunOut25 Another one I came up with was "Guess who has two thumbs, two balls (substitute boobs if you're transmasc,) and a desperate need to get rid of two of those things? đTHIS GUY!đ"
it's actually so comforting seeing you be so calm and collected while reading these. Kinda inspiring tbh
Gotta say, my parents accept "anti-trans" far more than "transphobe" when talking about someone. It sounds like a stance, rather than something you cannot control.
It feels ironic that they'd be so reluctant to accept that reality when they're continuously pushing one of their own making to us.
In regards to the weirdly obsessed with stranger's genitals, the "bathroom law" in Florida went into effect that you have to go into the bathroom corresponding to the sex you were assigned at birth. Me as a fully bearded trans male, I have a strong desire to go visit the state capitol in Florida and go pee in the women's bathroom because "Oh sorry, I am a law-abiding citizen and was told I have to use the bathroom of the sex I was assigned at birth and I was assigned female at birth."
Main thing holding me back is I know how many gun toting nutjobs there are in the area and so I would fear for my safety and health more than finding worth in sticking it to transphobes. Plus I live far from Florida, so that would be a long way to travel. It's just amusing to think I could be arrested for going into the women's bathroom as I am now, but then I would be able to show documentation that I was assigned female at birth because not all of my documents are changed.
There is no such thing as being assigned female at birth. Being female or male is something that is discovered about a child, not assigned.
â@@martind2520You still assign a sex on a birth cert. Also, for people who are actually intersex, some doctors do assign them either a male or female sex.
@@ShinyTillDawn Example: Imagine a baby is born with a penis and testicles, but the doctor is blackout drunk and writes that the baby is a girl on the birth certificate.
Is that baby now a girl? Or did the doctor get it wrong?
Answer, the doctor got it wrong. Sex is not assigned it is discovered.
This also applies to intersex conditions. Certainly the doctor is far more likely to get it wrong in those cases, but there is still a correct answer every time. All intersex conditions are either an intersex condition that affects males, or an intersex condition that affects females.
@@martind2520 The baby could be a girl if the baby's gender identity is such and thus would have gender dysphoria when raised as a male.
@@ShinyTillDawn I'm not making a claim about boy or girl, I'm talking about male or female.
You cannot be assigned male or female. Those are things which are biological facts.
i think my most favorite arguments are, "God only made two genders!" obligatorily that's just wrong, because gender is a very human construct. And, "God only made two sexes!" which is again simply wrong on a factual basis. Nature is full of different sexual, intersex, and a-sexual combos. Not only that but animals they refer to like lions as having sex or gender 'norms' like manes are ALSO wrong. There are female lions with manes. There are female lions in the wild who behave like males and lead prides and fight. Who came and taught them to be like that, hmmm?? LMAO
There's just... Just so MANY holes in their arguments and if only they were slightly more aware of the world around them, they might see it.
Also there's a big hole from the start because with the way Genesis is written in the original Hebrew? That. God made Adam and Eve male and female thing? It's repeated with "They were made male and female" and that "they" can be read as SINGULAR and refering only to *Adam* before Eve is then made from him.
Which honestly makes more sense since Adam literally starts off being a single person made of clay/dirt/soil and breathed to life. Adam was made without a counterpart and literally bemoans it. Adam was frecking intersex.
There's interesting Jewish commentary around the language about the internet, and it also points out that Eve didn't have the ability to procreate until God cast these two out of the Garden and gave that to her as a curse/consolation prize.
Sounds very much like Adam was intersex, and Eve was copied from him and also intersex until God gave them a magic sex change into binary physiology to me!
Yeah, and the funny thing is that there are 2 fundamental fact about Christianity that disprove transphobia instantly:
1. God makes no mistakes
2. God made and makes everything, including humans
So, god makes all humans, and fundamental aspects of humans, or any human, cannot be mistakes. Including being trans. Or NB. Or gay. Or anything ever.
Iâm not even Christian anymore, Iâm aethiest, I just find it funny that Christianity fundamentally cannot justify any bigotry, ever, even if it was correct.
@@PrismTheLoser this is part of why the 'only two' thing makes me laugh so much tbh. If god makes no mistakes and gay attraction, intersex creatures, and others exist in all states... Well, the argument is dead before it leaves the door. God made em that way, so how can it be a mistake?
You can really tell the intelligence of these people from their amazing grammer and observations.
Other creators: OMG YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP HATING AND BEING HATERS!!!
Jammie: haha I'll make money off your nonsense! Thanks for filling my wallet!
That use of an indefinite article implies the existence of MULTIPLE transgenderisms. Potentially infinite transgenderisms. My gender is fractal.
Whoaaa
Iâm confused, why are people mad at a bunch of adjectives and pronouns? Did they fail to English? Why are they mad at trans people and not their English teachers, or themselves? Unless the teacher was trans or they are trans; then why are they mad about their own community?
So also prefixes? So they hate English and science.
That's fascism for you. Fascists hate knowledge and science, so they hate language. They try to simplify to the maximum a language (Known as "newspeak".) so that people don't have anything to descrive themselves and the others.
Without being able to descrive people, knowledge of them became unobtainable. Without knowing people, people stop being people and became things. Dehumanization of themselves and the others allow fascists to commit atrocities, to not only to others but also to themselves, because there is no atrocity if there is no people being affected.
The "I'm a transgender man" in the intro just really made me laugh, I didn't realise that myself until he directly referenced it when I started watching his videos - must've been the 3rd or 4th I was watching and I was just like "oh, really?" lol
When I first heard people using the term "cis", I thought it might have been used as a slur or insult, but then I looked up the word and realised that it is just a normal adjective
So I have a theory, based on nothing but my own thoughts, on why cis-gender people (and I am one) reacted negatively to the term "cis." "Trans" as a prefix occurs in many everyday words: transatlantic, transportation, transform, etc. I had never heard the prefix "cis" before, probably because I never studied chemistry much. So the terms "cis" felt very foreign, unlike "trans" which felt familiar. I've gotten used to it, but it's never going to feel natural to me (I'm old). I accept it, and understand it's not an insult, but that has taken time. This is just and explanation of what might underlie reactions, not an excuse for hate. Love your videos!
Well, if its any comfort, the prefix cis need only be used when the conversation is specifically about trans issues with reference to non-trans people and their reactions. I never refer to myself as a cis gay male, for example, as in 99% of normal discourse it's entirely irrelevant. I just refer to myself as male and only if that's relevant. It's only when discussing the politics and biology of LGBTQ+ issues it's relevant at all.
Good point. Now compare cis- to hetero-. Apart from heterosexual, what words use that prefix? Heterogeneous, heterozygous, heterotrophic, heterodox (and anyway "unorthodox" is commoner). Yes, it is used but the words are "learned" and unfamiliar. So perhaps some people on first hearing the word heterosexual disliked it just as that transphobe hates "cis". Now we have the words gay and straight, and haters can't complain that the words are unfamiliar. Perhaps in time queer people will repurpose two familiar words to mean trans and cis. But for now, trans and cis is what we have, and they're just going to have to put up with that.
I never thought of it like that! Thank you for sharing!
I wonder if the SOUND of the word is part of it. Like the person who spelled it "sis" might be thinking it's like "sissy"?
But, yeah, unfamiliarity both with a word AND with considering yourself a subset of humanity rather than the assumed norm can be unsettling.
There are people who don't like talking about whiteness in the same same terms as we talk about other racialized groups, and the way in which they frame their objections suggest that it is partially because they're used to "white" being the assumed norm and not just one category among many.
I could see "cis and trans" falling into something similar...but maybe even more so, since trans people have been more or less invisible to cis people for so long that we didn't really have a word for either (in most European languages) until fairly recently (unlike racial concepts, which have been around for a couple of centuries in similar-to-current-day forms).
@@emilymoran9152 I guess that could be part of the issue, mere unfamiliarity with the concept. As a cis gay male, I don't claim to understand what it must feel like to be trans, but I do at least know what it feels like to be different from most folk, and how prejudice can hurt you. That's why I support trans issues whenever I can. I've even bought Jamie's book, _The T in LGBT+" - looking forward to reading it once I've finished the book I'm on!
I CAME OUT AT SCHOOL TODAY!!!!
CONGRATS â€
Good for you.
Congrats!
YAY!!!
@@anna2qxcf oh did you look into a mirror? Iâm so sorry for that.
I'm cis, but I'd be quite insulted if someone calls me normal in most circumstances. Normal is boring.
Exactly! If everyone is normal then no one is special
You're either a man or a woman. Cis is a made up genetic term.
Transphobes: "Don't call me transphobic, I'm not afraid of you, it isn't even proper grammar."
Me (literally a few minutes later): "So you are a cis person..."
Transphobes: "Ew, don't call me that!"
Me *eyeroll* : "I thought you cared about grammar."
"people are not juice" haha. I am pretty sure the mosquitoes last evening viewed me as a delicious juice box.
Jamie, spouse and I are about 2/3 through listening to the audiobook version of your book. It is so good, informative, practically useful. Spouse said "I think this is going to become like a bible for this". I love the inclusion of stuff for allies and of general interest, and of the non-binary stuff. 100% recommend!
I have my pre order of the audio version of your book ready to go when I finish my current book for me but I also pre ordered a physical copy of your book for my 15 year old trans child. I have been pointing them towards watching you for ages with no real look but your book arrives and they disappear of with it. A few hours later I get âthe book is really good, some of my friends already know him from CZcams!â. So thank you for writing your book it is already having an impact on one young trans person. I look forward to listening for myself. Thanks Jamie.
(and hi my lovely if you see this â€â€)
"But phobia can ONLY mean fear" - probably said by some of the people responsible for the definition of "literally" to change to also mean the opposite...
Fun fact : the suffix "mancy" like in necromancy, originally means "to read the future" but it is most commonly used to speak of magic like in pyromancy
In what way at all am I transphobic? Btw a trans woman is a man. :T you probably think you can prove it but all youâll prove is that the word transphobia is for a bigots use to make people go by a social construct
â@@prestonsmorg2098đđđ "I'm not transphobic, now watch me be transphobic"
Idiocy of the highest order
As a genderfluid person i can confirm i am utterly confused
A fellow genderfluid, I am losing my mind.
As a genderfluid person, I think I lost my mind over all this a long time ago.
@@KateWick1997 and you know that how?
@@KateWick1997 You must have ESP, or you are already determined to predispose answers regardless of the question.
While it's not your business, I was born me.
Seeing as I'm gender fluid, I was "born" both girl and boy in my gender.
â ââ @@twiztedsynzthis kate wick person is in every comment reply section on this video đ just ignore it lol theyâre obsessed
I'm a Cis Man, and I'm Nurodivergent. So I'm very not "Normal" by a long shot.
Yeah itâs almost like normal isnât a fucking thing and is just society trying to force everyone into molds that basically nobody fits in
(Not annoyed with you, Iâm just kinda pissed in general at this)