5 Things Narcissists Withhold to Torment You
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Do you know someone who is a narcissist? Chances are, you probably do. Narcissists can be difficult to deal with and sometimes it feels like they withhold things on purpose to torment us. In this video, I will share five of the most common things narcissists withhold from their victims.
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..and sometimes you can hear their Evil Laugh...I think they share cos' they think we're not listening!!!
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I think being alone seems to be a better option.
It is!
100%
Yes, I am starting to agree with this sentiment after this experience! She her illusion had my heart hurting. But she was clearly lying and telling half truths lacking the details for sure! It was always something was off when interacting with her.
I’d give anything to live alone. 😩
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I'm very blessed to live alone and not feel alone. It's a great place to be in. I hope that very soon, you'll be in the same position.
Anytime he sees me happy he literally gets angry. I smile 24/7 😁
i have an illness called major depressive disorder. Its caused by Chronic lyme disease…My narc spouse hates it that HE cannot MAKE ME happy. he literally becomes fits of rage When im crying or having an episode….When Im sad and depressed, it angers him, because OF COURSE its all about HIM, HE did something wrong to MAKE ME depressed….well, not initially, but now that he’s making himself the victim when its ME who is havin a very diff time w/sadness….he is so so so very incredibly SELF CENTERED..SORRY to say, but after 39years, i hate him.
@@1timeslime971 I’m so sorry to hear that. Crazy bc I’ve had untreated Lyme for over 20 years now. It’s in the late disseminated stage. It’s killing us slowly…ppl just don’t understand. We have a systemic infection running rampant in our bodies. I feel for you and pray for you. Looks like you need to take the first opportunity you get and leave this clown. You need some 1 empathetic & understanding. Prayers 🙏🏻💚🙏🏻
That’s so sad
@@1timeslime971you sure it’s depression or is your body rejecting your husband. As soon as I got divorced I never got sick again. Been two years since I caught illnesses or felt pain
So, "he" is a police officer?
Children need to be educated about this in schools to prevent them wasting their time and lives with these vile people
That would be amazing! (I wish I knew then what I know now. If I had learned about narcissists at a young age, then it wouldn't have gone on for my whole life with my narcisstic mother.)
The problem with that is most of the world that is in power are narcissists. 😬
Right? Narcs 101 🤣
AGREE 👍 💯
I see this comment on almost every video. I've even left one myself. I'm keen to start discussing steps and plans to make this a reality
The blood bank is closed... so long Dracula! I deserve better!
Baby!!!! This man withheld everything. From sex, affection, attention, money. They withhold any and everything they think will hurt you. Thinking you will come crawling back. I did at first when I didn't know about narcissist. After I learned the game his withholding became my healing. It gave me time to heal and get away from him.
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I fell out of love when he cheated over and over and he lied about everything even stupid stuff like my parents love you ... They actually didn't so why not just say that?
Thank you
I deserve better
Absolutely, me too. I also learned about healthy boundaries and keeping them and wanting "better" for myself! 🙏♥️🇺🇲
No victim should have to live like that - being tortured by such a creature in a so called 'Relationship.'
Stay strong! ❤
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Your talking to the wall. Doctors lawyers judges marriage councilors friends children NONE OF THEM HAVE A CLUE WHAT and who these monsters are. NARCISSISTS RULE. ITS SCARRY.
If we allow it, it is what we get. Maybe we are not aware of that, but public mocking, shaming is a big part of our culture. I wondered about that when young. Narcissists are just making it obvious.
They definitely withhold approval, compliments, commendation, encouragement, forgiveness.
....and companionship.
Sleep deprivation is another weapon.
Audio warfare, screaming and staring arguments in the night.
My ex used to wake me up in the morning by screaming at the kids.
My narcissist used to do the passive aggressive thing, and sing songs which contain the lyrics of what he was accusing me of doing / saying.
For example, if he thought I was lying to him, he would sing "Send me an Angel"
' Don't tell a lie. Don't be false or untrue it all comes back to you'
@@judicox5559 😭 thank you for taking the time to post this comment bc I've been up for days feel like I'm losing my mind and the neverending whistles of songs to deliver a message and everything of that nature while acting stupid whenever I ask him to stop.... I'm broken bc I know my children probably think I'm crazy but have no clue the torture I'm enduring to protect them... bc when I don't give in he goes after my children and I no longer know why to do
Yes, it is. A systematic way of torturing... And the thing about it is it's specific to you. So no one else even understands or nose what he's doing except the two of you. Even a certain look that he would give me when other people were around to make me react, and sometimes I did. So then it just looks like I was going crazy on him for no reason. And during this time I also had cancer so I was in a lot of pain. Anyway. I had cervical cancer which he used to blame on me saying it was because I had too much sex when I was younger. How insane is that?
But I am so sorry that he visits out upon your children! I had two parents that were diagnosed with MPD in their late '50s early. '60s mother was a covert narcissist and daddy wasn't overt narcissist
They withhold to bait you by keeping you confused and in fog until you become frustrated . They’ll hold that frustration against you and say to you and everyone else you’re confrontational or argumentative
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Reactive abuse. When they provoke a reaction from you then shame you for your reaction.
Thank you for validating my experience. He gradually and increasingly withheld all 5 over the 4 years.
On the bulls eye
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1) Narcissists enjoy manipulating and controlling others, including withholding certain things to torment their victims.
2) They withhold affection as a form of punishment and to maintain control in the relationship.
3) Narcissists may withhold the truth or not tell the entire truth, which can include omitting important details.
4) They may withhold sex as a form of control and to torment their partners.
5) Narcissists may withhold resources, such as money, information, or emotional support, as a way to maintain power and control in a situation.
The MOST POWERFUL man that ever lived was gentle 95% of the time. He didn't use anyone for $, or anything else, and died for all. Narcissists are the opposite. They are evil.
Amen!
Stay strong! ❤
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Excellent point
They withhold emotional intimacy.
They aren't capable of emotional intimacy
@@liadown9052but they feign it. And then withdraw as a tactic
My god yes.
Yes they do!!!
@@liadown9052 I was told this by a psychologist.
The narc would not hug me.
Mine wouldn't either!!!
But when you go along without it for so long and don't ask... they get confused when you don’t reciprocate.
6.5 years since I've had a hug from him
I thought it was just me.
Sometimes, wife folds her lips in when i try to kiss her, so i am not kissing her lips....i thought it was maybe because she just put on chapstic or something, but when i asked her about it, she made a nasty remark or something and walked away. Very strange behavior right?
All of us deserve better !!
Wow,wow,
It hurts me the
More i hear the truth the more it
Hurts.
Hurt. Greive the perceived loss. Move forward. They never existed as you wanted to see them. You'd never chase a snake that bit you, to ask it why. Just know that's what a snake does. Educate yourself, be kind to yourself. Give it time. It gets so much better!❤
I agree so true
I deserve so much better
😢😢
Yes he wouldn't show me any affection. Withheld sex then just laughed and left me crying. Evil . Kicked him out after 6 years of hell . So happy to be free . No man will destroy me again.
Keep up your good work with healing. Thank you for explaining this so others understand that it is not your fault. It's extremely painful and life threatening.
Narcissistic behavior is life threatening. Thank you for waking the true victims of Narcissistic behavior.
Instead of saying "No man" try saying nobody or no person There's plenty of affectionate good men wanting to rattle your bones. IMHO
I deserve love. Respect and validation..no compromise
You got this! 💪
I can relate to the affection withholding! She love/lust bombed the hell out of me! Then pulled it back the minute I asked some questions about something she was clearly lying about!
That's what my husband did the minute i ?? Him about something he was lying about, I got pushed away.
I went from a bride to an enemy in one night.😂😂😂😂
Me too. I went to nothing the day I got married.
@@ruthslater6364 It’s their loss not ours. We still have our self respect and dignity even though they devalued us in their eyes.
That’s the same way I feel I asked him. When did I become the enemy? I’m sure you know there was no answer. There’s never an answer. It just sits there like a lump like he can’t hear.
I deserve better
@@sheilamusker-lovett4472 you are so right. I now know it’s for a lot of reasons1 they have no feelings for us. 2 they enjoy watching us suffer 3 they are very sick
Yes like when they cheat on you multiable times do not take it personal 😮👌
My husband constantly cheated on me...I DESERVE BETTER CAUSE I'M A GREAT PERSON
I left and I deserve better.
Totally! 💯
I’m thinking of leaving too
I left 2 weeks ago,he came into a win $$$ so this is my perfect chance to get away.
@@Milarniworld I hope you leave. I felt so much better!! No more sadness, fear, anxiety, feelings of worthlessness. Good luck.
THEY ARE JEALOUSE. ABSOLUTELY TRUE. Mine withheld. EVERYTHING.
Y thing
You are so right about empaths. I was sexually abused at 5 and 17. I was date raped. Now in a 20 year marriage with a Narcissistic man I met shortly after beind date raped by an ex boyfriend. Ive only dated 2 people my whole life. The man who raped me at 17 and the narc I'm now married to. My life is an emotional roller coaster. I deserve better!
Bingo I got hours of texting from him in the early stage ,,,now I am lucky to get any from him even though we are in the same house
I DESERVE MUCH BETTER.
Definitely! 💯💯
I'm a behaviorist. Behaviorists are uniquely perturbed by narcissists because we can see this whole other set of Motivating Operations that are governing a separate, unique set of behaviors which include lying, misleading, and withholding the truth. The MO conditions are unique and special to the narcissist's ongoing behavior and perceived needs. Behaviorists see these conditions that lead to the pathological/compulsive lying by narcissists...and it is SO painful to witness
It is painful to be at the receiving end.
They create such confusion they cause you lie to yourself and others.
I deserve better! Learned I was dating one and didn't realize it till the end putting all the signs together. The love bomb is serious especially if you been single for a while. Be careful in this world, be stronger than them. They hate that!
Exactly! He called me even feminist 😂 thank god I figured it out in less than 2 months.
Psychotherapy saved me 🙏
I deserve better ..
my ex narc is doing this to me atm ..
with hold intimacy !!
how is he ex if withholding intimacy ? Or do you mean ( I hope for your sake ) soon to be ex ?
I have gone thru so much with my nar, it ain't even funny. Actually he taught me how to treat him. Now I'm strong . I always say , who's fooling who. If that make any sense. When he or she going thru there craziness, just repeat the Lord's prayer out loud.
Few months ago, I went out of town one weekend w my kids, took them down to the beach.
He called me Fri night to make sure we arrived safely. My kids and I were in the indoor pool area - so it was hard to hear, I told him I’d call him back.
Well…i didn’t call him back until Saturday night.
And WOW…ever since then, he has withdrawn from me.
Like I’m being punished.
I'm going to need a backstory to make a diagnosis :P
how can u be having an affair when u have the kids in tow?
He needs to get a life and give you some space.
I deserve better!!!
Withholding sex was the last straw! I thought it might be a prostate disfunction on his part -then I found he was just being mean. 😢
Another one is withholding really nice pictures/photos of you, and especially if they have social media, posting the bad ones (by comparison) instead.
Omg, my partner did exactly this to me ,only a few weeks ago, she took a rather casual photo of me in a local bar, refused to send it to me, then asked what I wanted it for ?
She then defaced it, before sending it to me, with a stupid hat and moustache on the photo, I hate having my photo taken ! She did eventually send me the original after weeks of drama.
Exactly! They are so jealous and petty like a 12 yo teenager (perhaps more like a giant toddler) but meet one, you’ve met them all!
My ex narc never wanted to take pics together. Claimed he didn’t like taking pics yet he’d post pics of himself n with others on his social media all the time. He didn’t want to take pics with me or acknowledge I even existed. Such an asshole looking back.
You are sooo right!!!Sounds like my soon to be ex. I am sick of it, its Wednesday and because he is mad, no affection, no communication, no sex, nothing since Sunday 😢. I am looking to move, almost 6 years of this and i am over it.
Yep. Mine has withheld intimacy for months. None in over 6 months.
I changed my ex narcs name to i deserve better in my phone so whenever i was tempted to unblock her i thought twice
I'm doing this NOW!!! Thank you!
Wow! I like that!
Why don't you just delete their phone number?
Because YOU are a narcissist and that's why you convinced yourself that you "liked" her.
@@devilsoffspring5519 whatever.. Since when does that stop someone, deleting their number. Many ppl have coworkers, children with their ex partners. They have to talk.
"I deserve better " and I told him that 2 months before I walked away from him.
"I DESERVE BETTER" I truly mean it!!
Gratitude Rebecca for all support, I can see clear now all what I have been through!
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I deserve a much better father!
So so so so so so so accurate. It's such a sad truth unfortunately.
Wow this definitely was my last relationship! I finally went no contact. I Deserve Better!!!!!!!!!
This all resonates..the with holding of sex was the hardest thing I've ever been through
I deserve better
How do I understand you. Been there too here. Almost 4 years- after child'th birth. That is why it was bot easy to concentrate on the topic ir getaway easily. Finally, in 2022, released: I don't want any s. Relationships anymore
I was glaring: finally it is clear!!! After that: the emotional swing: let me hug you. I didn't mean that.
But no further actions taken. I knew nothing of the narcissism back then...
Finally, when I started looking for my own apartment to rent:I realised, I want a family with you, I need us.
No getting back to the topic within a few weeks.
Further: a comment to our relative: I don't like her. She is wearing such an improper clothing at home.
The day after, trying to hug me and being asked by me to get away- Why don't you let me? Who am I living with?? Where shall I go...
If not for shared custody and lack of a free housing for herself, I would go long time ago.
Planning how to make means to get away.
It is so soul crushing. Then you find out they are cheating.
They will definitely try to provoke you at work to do something stupid.
I felt duped and it took years of my life to figure it out, as I tried to explain to family.
You reminded me when I tried to initiate dance with my narcissist husband and he withdrew like I was a hot flame.
I DESERVE BETTER!!
I'm a very good woman I'm a empath and he is always trying to pick a fight and gaslight me and holler and curse at me then he comes home and he is so sweet and loving but I have my garden up and I'm aware of his ways thank you Rebecca for helping me with this
I deserve better
You got this! 💪
People are All users and abusers so I don’t care about people! The more people I meet, the More I miss my Dog!
Most ppl are not evil, just asleep. I remember my parents publicly mocking me so many times and none said a word bc they were asleep.
There are people who are this way, but not everyone.
I've been married for 20 years to my husband and we've been together for 29 years. I met him when I was 17 years old and he was 21. Well to make it short for about the past 10 years after birth of our 4rth child he has been withholding emotional intimacy. He says I don't deserve to be kissed anymore because of lying about partying with my friends when I was in college. During college he was very controlling so i wouldn't tell him when I went out with friends just to dance. I'm a dancer and it's a passion for me. So recently he has been extremely enraged about it. He hugs me goodbye only when I'm leaving the house with the boys as if to make himself look like a great loving husband in front of the kids. About a year ago my youngest son noticed how he withholds money from me and he stated mommy when I grow up I'm going to give you money all the time. Our oldest daughters have also noticed thing about him they are 21 and 19. We have 4 children. My oldest son is 14 and was just recently granted a birthday party when he turned 14. He goes so far as to not allow me to plan parties for our children. It's getting to the point recently that I suffered with suicidal thoughts from his torture. He's always accusing me of cheating or wanting other men. I've been faithful this whole time. I also cant talk with my Pastor because he and His wife have narcissistic tendancies as well. I don't know what to do besides secrectly plan to disappear with our youngest children and that's not realistic I'm not financially able to leave. I cry all the time and listen to music about God's love for me because what I know about Jesus he withholds nothing and doesn't shame us of our past or accuse us. He also constantly asking me what's wrong but when I share to him how he's making me feel about withholding intimacy he turns it around on me and blames me because of college 22 years ago. And want to know every detail of the parties I cant even recall. I refuse to talk about it because it just makes him more enrage. He says I hurt him and I'm trying to figure out why he even married me if the whole time he believes Im cheating and accusing me of wanting other men. It makes no sense and and I feel like I'm losing my mind. Recently I read about Leah on the Bible and I feel my life mirrors hers in alot of ways. He also has been emotionally involved with female coworkers 3 that I can name. 2 have visited our church . One actually placed her child in our church camp and was extra flirty on a trip to Disney World and he admitted to meeti her on a Sat to change her tire and kissed her but denies now that that happened it was when my second daughter was a year old. The other recently visited our church and he walked all the way to her side agter church and embrassed her. I was so ashamed. And he says it was nothing. I never felt so hurt and when I called him out on it he argued with me about my college days 20 something years ago as to why he did it. I'm so over him now and I'm battling regret thinking I made a wrong life choice. Also his older brother 30 years ago was stabbed by his girlfriend at the age of 20. His brother was physically abusive to her so the police did not arrest the woman. His brother died and he was there. So I feel his issues and hate towards me are a result of that trauma I also believe he is stuck me tally as a 18 year old when that happened. He will be 49 this year. I have mentioned this to him and he gets really upset and angered and says I lack compassion but he is still grieving its hard for me to grieve his brother because I never met him. When I met my husband he was stalking the girlfriend who killed the brother and had lots of rage toward her I convinced him to stop doing that and he did. So there were so many red flags but a 17 year old is too too blind to see these things then. I know I made my bed in hell but God is with me. All I do is pray and he also has asked me to stop praying and calling on Jesus name. This has been exhausting just reflecting on all this pain.
It would be a good idea for you to find another church with kinder pastor and wife. If you can't go to your pastor to look for help, you're in the wrong church. In not talking about the denominational, but that particular church. Hi OnLive and find one close by, and read the reviews, try it, go to the pastor with a small issue, to text how he deals with you. You deserve better, pay the game life I did, until my kids were 18 and of to college, because I wouldn't want have left that evil person alone with my young, innocent children. So, I divorced myself emotionally, stopped expecting things from him. I no longer cared, and I lived that way for a while - So, I no live saw him as my partner, husband, on my side. I just survived, played the game like a video game. I kept learning about narcissists, and keep strong. Then be prepared, with enough money to retain a lawyer, and leave, never to return. Good luck!!! 🌷
Sis, please get a therapist and learn how to use the information you’re learning as leverage.
It's not fair to bring up the past constantly and never let it go. You are in a battle and there is no longer love. When it gets to this stage, one is actually getting dopamine from engaging in this conflict. They can't stop themselves. Somethings got to give. I'm glad the Lord is looking after you. Maybe the right therapist could help you navigate these waters.
Be strong..be positive, your life is precious
I deserve much better😊!
True!! What is something that you are grateful for? 🙌
I have deserved better my whole adult life. Maybe I'll get it now. Raised to be an empath, others first!
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Thay are full of rage that' s why they try to make you emotional and insane. They like negativity and conflicts because they are full of it and can' t stand your positivity or peace.
Rebecca, You are always so spot on. You are a godsend. Gratitude!
You are so welcome! What is one point that you start using today?
For Sure.
The ex a covert narcissist is ADDICTED to terrorize, torment and try to make me squirm! He tries and tries even rt now however I’m ignoring him 100%. While together yes he withheld affection allot versus when we first got together the affection was astronomical. I was duped! I was sucker punched! He has NO capability to truly be affectionate.
And its only going to be worse
Do you have a good support system in place?
@@RebeccaZungEsq I’ve had to submit complaints for cyberbullying to the FBI on him and his friends. Also submitted evidence to state attorney for violating my injunction again. Filed charges on his friend for physically assaulting me AND security is alerted as well as sheriffs everytime im at venues I work at. Have security added double fold for Feb 4th and mar 4th. He shows they will arrest!!!
I loved that analogy of the kid torturing a worm, I once took a lighter to an earthworm to see what would happen.
I felt so horrible watching wringing and writhing in pain. I never did that again. I do not know how people can get off watching something innocent get hurt.
Thank you for this video!!
They think that you think like they think, and if they think you dont think like they think, they think your a sucker/their supply.
Your videos have been invaluable throughout my journey of co-parenting with a narcissist. Thank you for all that you do and for helping me to understand that it’s not me who is the crazy one. I can’t wait to read your new book. ❤️
Glad you found them helpful! Keep SLAYing! ❤
All so true, "it's all about respect!"
Agree! What was your favorite part of the video?
@@RebeccaZungEsq narcissists hates the word “respect”. It triggers them somehow.
It is about power / control of the other person. Had some of that stuff done to me. I got professional help and gained the knowledge and tools, that way I could make an informed decision that was in my best interests. Thank goodness I recorded a lot of stuff and played that - once the people I hired to "check me out" heard those recordings, they knew straight away what was going on. If they had not heard those recording, I would have got the wrong information and help.
And theri lack of security and control of their own doings and responsibility, even to themselves..🙏
I deserve some who knows HOW they can take care OF THEMSELVES.
I'm crying listening to this because it's my entire relationship being told to me by someone that doesnt know me. The things that are driving me crazy and sending me into the worst depression ive ever had and its all just a game ro someone. I believe im a magnet for narcissists truely. I found out way to late what a narcissist truly was and the things they do. I didnt understand what was happening and lost my baby to this nutjob and have been fighting for my 1 and only child for the past 2 years. It amazes me the things her father says and does and people just believe him and im the devil but none of it is true. I finally feel comfortable enough to take a chance with someone just to find ive met far worse and I hadnt seen a thing yet. No one has ever made me feel bad about myself or doubt who i am. No one has ever made me feel like im fat or ugly cant do anything right and just so unwanted until this guy that started off great. Now i havent seen him in days, he doesn't touch me, we are sleeping different rooms, he lies lies les, and im crazy and being clingy, BUT if im down to bring a friend then he's all for it. Like im just not good enough alone. Im in a nightmare that just wont end.
Walk away. Choose you. Choose elf love and self respect. Break away and heal. You can do it. You are worth it. Don't say anything. Just make plans and do it.
I will tell you up front. #1 is information needed to make vital decisions! There is the lies of omission.
He was my first love and he really took advantage of that, I did not understand why he did this but it made me weak and he smiled when he cause me this pain. Denied all his attempt to hoover me back. I deserve better.
I feel like I'm the only one you can perfectly understand your every word and I am so greatful I understand most people can not recognize a genius when they see one and you definitely are one as I have said before
I DESERVE BETTER! I RECEIVE IT NOW! THANK YOU GOD! THANK YOU REBECCA. GOD BLESS YOU!
Spot on. Thank you for your great observations and advice. God bless you❤
I deserve better. Thx for the reminders helping me to stay strong. No contact.
Thank you, that is very reassuring and validating to know it's not about us and we deserve better ❤
I Deserve Better!!!!
Yes you do!! Keep SLAYing! ❤
This video, absolutely one hundred percent accurate! Thank you 🎯 💯
Hia Rebbeca 💕yes they love to minipulate and bully! No more! I am stronger now and forever! 🙏❤️❤️❤️
I deserve better! Thanks for the reminder!
HI Rebecca! Thank you for your strong messages ❤ ! They are very helpful.
Thank u So much! I appreciate your knowledge Rebecca 🌻🙏❤️
You are magnificent!! It's like you've been watching my year unfold before your eyes. Your insights are bang on. Thank you!!!
Yes I do all that thank you Rebecca ... You answered and definitely hit the point I needed to hear and confirm what I been wondering about a certain person is like that .
And soon after that when you stop paying attention to him, I decided to open up a I’m monarch butterfly habitat and my time went to that and he just cried telling everybody. Oh he just suffered for five years well that’s because it was narcissistic injury. That’s what it was.
I deserve better 💜
Totally!
Yes you do! NAMAslay!!
I deserve better. My Mothee deserved better too. I believe my Father is a covert narc. He withheld sex for 19 years and that stalemate only ended after Mum died. He was keen to start dating again on the first anniversary of her death.
You are the best! You changed my life!
Happy to help! What is something that you are grateful for?
I deserve soooo much better!
Also beware It is "Mine" Me syndrome. As well as they claim that they bought this and that when you obviously have a receipt on the item.
Wow my husband is the same way ( my car ,my house,my things . He has a building full of expensive bought things for him . I might get something to ( cook) with on my birthday. What a joke!!!
Thank you for your insight/wisdom.
I’m exiting a five year stint with a narcissist. I don’t just throw that word around. Once you experience someone like this you understand the seriousness of “narcissist”.
I still have two months before moving out. I’d rather leave asap, but not possible.
I’m concerned about an escalation of her tactics as the date gets closer and she sees I’m serious. Right now her tactics are subtle, but I know how far she’s gone before. What I don’t know is how far she’s willing to go.
Praying for a way to have my life back without losing it.
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You are right on target! Married over 54 years and it is exactly what you are saying.
Withholding affection almost killed me with my covert Narc ex , because my mother is a covert and cold like a dead fish. My ex is a porn addict-btw: he said I shouldn't take it personal so I struggle with saying we shouldn't take it personal. It is, because Narcs don't mistreat everyone. So, my Ex wanted sex, but he withheld anything I asked him for what I liked in bed. He didn't touch or caress me and he didn't want to be touched. So it ended almost like I satisfied him in 90% of the cases and I didn't want Sex, any longer. Which is quite weird because I wasn't like this in earlier relationships. Btw: I blamed those sexual issues I developed in this relationship on my perimenopause and I still struggle with sexual-abuse like issues years later and though being in an amazing relationship now. Blaming myself for everything came in handy for him, I guess. Also he didn't help in the house. I asked him to clean the dishes a few times, he set the whole kitchen under water and told me he has issues coordinating, so I always did it myself.
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You just described my experience. It's so painful. Thank you for validating my reality.
This speaks to me.
Such eye opening info.
I deserve better..Too bad I never realized for the last 48 years but I do now!!! Thank you Rebecca...what an eye opener!
I deserve so much better and am healing. Thank you for helping.
Rebecca, I think your knowledge and style of sharing on the subject is quite excellent for many reasons. Your words are so succinct and well chosen. Your delivery is as a gifted orator no less that Cicero. I think the US Senate is well within your integrity level and I would vote for you. In fact ... why don't you just go ahead and run for President. There's still time.
I appreciate your kind words! Sending you love and light! ❤
I DESERVE BETTER!!!!
Namasté! Thank you so much for sharing about surviving narcs.. i am still healing
Spot on! Thank you.
No. 2 Withhold . Bingo Rebecca. !! I was waiting for this. " Documents" . They withhold DOCUMENTS ,messages , Information etc.
As a tool or leverage Against you.
Great channel !!!
Thanks.
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/
The legal profession needs more attorneys like you. Most judges and lawyers don't understand the narcissistic manipulation and it's very difficult, especially if there's children involved, for a spouse or mother of children to extricate themselves in a court of law because the narcissist is so clever at the manipulation.
I deserve so much better!!!
Oh yes! I deserve BETTER!
Yes we deserve better.
Totally!! What is one win you had this week?
I deserve better! I matter! Thank you for this content ❤
this is so spot on
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/
I deserve better than to be tricked, cheated on, lied to, and gaslighted!
I noticed this right away. I could literally tell you the day the devaluation started. I could not touch him. It was like a totally different person. The same day, there were undermining comments about my outfit, would barely speak to me and literally nothing happened. It was absolute insanity. Covert Narcissists are brutal.