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#RebeccaZung I have see most of your videos in 3 days now and trying to make a full diagnosis. Is covert narcissist and covert passive - aggressive narcissist are the same? They knowing what are they doing? Do they have consciousness of what they are doing or why? They want to be change deeply? Even if they understanding it somehow, can they change at all? Its my mother. If you can please answer me. Your videos have help me A LOT! and now, i know how and why i get thru all this hell. Thank you!!!
Alright!! Got ta. Get on up. Thanks and I'll try moving my stuff back into the guest room. To give her space. So she can relax better from all the stress of my 😉Being behind on bills. And my spider webs on the balcony😧 how the he'll are those mine. Really now I'm Spiderman. Then where were my Spicdy Senses.
5) confidence, self-assured 4) keep emotionally distanced from them, play offense instead of defense 3) maintain independence 2) set strict boundaries 1) show them that you are not afraid of them, they are more afraid of you
I agree with you they never respect you but if you can get them to fear you then I know they will leave you alone. I have things about him that I have never repeated and he has the fear inside of him that I will. he said if you ever tell anybody about this it will destroy me. all I would have to do is start talking if he ever comes near me again. and he knows that.
That sounds like the alpha way to deal with it and making them fear you.. that’s not a good goal to set for yourself. That will only be food for the flying monkeys.. no my friend, they must respect you as their superior
They often brag about how they pulled a fast one on someone or broke some law. Make them think it's OK so they reveal more stuff. Pretty soon you have a dossier of wrong doing on them. Then when you finally have a bust up they suddenly realise you have a lot on them which they never thought you would use against them. If they do threaten you, tell them they aren't in any position to threaten you, not with the stuff you have on them
Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you. 💙CZcamsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
The emotional distance step is very important. Once they know what makes you react, they'll plot scenarios that trigger you then point and say "See? You're crazy/unstable/mentally ill" etc, etc. Of course, they are describing themselves.
Showing them that you are not afraid of losing them is ultimate control. This seems even more powerful than showing less fear of them as a person. At core they are spineless weaklings, desperate addicts using others as a fix. Nonchalance and disinterest is real power over a crumbling emotional meth head.
its weird, its like turning yourself into a designer drug. most of what the list is composed of is what todays society would consider a high Value Man/Woman. I really dont think it would be a good idea to be with someone so superficial. but atleast you know what you're getting yourself into
I use to have a neighbor who was a narcissist. A woman whom I made friends with. She was attractive, and there were characteristics in her personality that I liked. After awhile, 2 to 3 months later, as I was talking with her on the phone, she voice an opinion on a matter and I disagreed, but in a friendly manner, and she screamed her head off at me! She couldn't tolerate my opinion! I made the mistake of staying friends with her when I needed to cut it off right then and there. It slowly went bad over the years until I finally cut it off from her. I once told her, she was the most egocentric and narcissist person I ever met. She freaked out! She went into a tirade and screamed, not to call her anymore. She later called me and I stupidly started to talk to her again. One time I straight out called her a b**ch on the phone out of anger. I later called her and apologized, another mistake. How did she respond? She threatened me! I responded, Are you threatening me? She had no answer. Before I apologized to her, and after I called her a B, she became afraid of me, yet she knew me for years, and I never made any threatening gesture towards her, or caused her any reason for her to be afraid of me. Narcissists deep down inside of them, are really scared, and cowardly people who might, if they can make it work, benefit from professional help. They are some of the most out of touch people in existence.
@@RebeccaZungEsq You're absolutely right, I learned my lesson the hard way. If I run into anyone whom I think are narcissists, I immediately go no contact. It's the best way to save your sanity. Thanks for your video, it has some good insights.
This is why I keep to myself. I moved into a new apartment about 2 yrs ago and I am cordial with my neighbors, a simple hello how are you, a wave, but that is the extent. I know narcs will force themselves onto you with instant "friendships" so I don't give anybody opportunity. But then again, I cherish being an introvert.
This one sounds like my relationship with my daughters mother in law. Unfortunately I have to spend more time with her than I d like. Everything is ok as long as I dont say anything but this is not the way I want my granddaughter to see me. Yep I am in control. No more mrs. Nice guy.
Thank you for the tools to deal with this horribly manipulative person. Was married to him for 26 years and newly divorced. I'm so happy that he moved to another state. Freedom at last! I still have to deal with him for the moment. So much fun watching his "covert" little tantrums. Now is my time for healing. I got this, today. Work in progress.
Respect has to be intentional,or does the narcissist fake it,if you don't get it,it's because they need their supply no matter the consequences.If they couldn't use you,they'll abuse you,if you see them,keep your distance,don't always be on the defensive,start going on the attack,because sometimes the best form of defence is attack🆘🚩💲
@@Jackgritty28 Mine is a very long and sad story. You don't stay with someone for 28 years and not love them. I've watched way too many youtube videos on the subject and I honestly have to turn some of them off because they become so hateful toward the narcissist. I understand why my ex is the way he is, because his mother nurtured it in him. He's now coming to terms with that. He says he is "healing" and I tell him to get counseling. I have no doubt he will never change and I've finally set him free in my heart. I only understood what was happening to me in the last year or so, but when I look back over 3 decades I see classic behaviors of narcisism and co-dependency. I thought I had a solid marriage and I was lucky to have him because I was having issues with low self worth and shattered confidence after only a couple of years together. Aww, anyway, I should write a book. I'll always be untangling myself from that abuse. So many layers.
I was married to one of these monsters and I made the mistake of paying for all the renovations of our house with MY credit cards since he didn't have any. Needless to say, when he divorced me, I barely escaped with my life and left being tens of thousands of dollars in debt. Decades later, I am still in severe debt and in a constant battle against depression, anger and hurt.
@@joanngross786 my ex husband stole most of my assets and committed bank fraud in my name by forging my signature- 10 years later he is now facing charges because I found banking documents and other legal documents that prove his crimes. I never should of let him have any financial control either -that’s why I made the comment so I get how you feel too
Yes, especially for women, who are often educated to be dependent: your own job, bank account, car if possible (or at least learn to drive, don't depend on him to drive you). Your own friends. Your way of breaking free.
Absolutely 💯. Once I gained my power back he began to glitch. I kept pushing through despite his mental,verbal and guilty attacks. There was so much resistance between us when we had interactions. It's a mindset. I could feel myself in a capsule protecting myself from his attacks trying to drain my energy.
Last but not least one command of respect is to leave the narcissistic relationship,let karma conception flow, don't entertain a clown and be part of the circus, maintain the distance.
I’d add that if CONTACT is necessary, take as much time as you need before replying the “text/email/call”, preferably avoid the call and keep everything written, never “react” replying quickly, take a day or two if possible and respond as briefly as possible, if the answer can be given with an emoji (e.g.👍), even better
I am in control of my own life so glad i never relied on him for anything he relied on me for everything a pure taker selfish unkind heartless deffo believe they are empty souls
My narcissist asks me for money even though he has a good job, I have learned to say NO... he really gets upset with me but slowly I have just learned to stop being scared when he reacts from me saying NO...
Dealing with this right this minute. My husband works, makes great money and has 3 bank accounts with money in it. He asked me yesterday to borrow money and I told him NO for the 1st time. We had a big blow out and now he's giving me the silent treatment.
I’m in control! Rescind your heart space, attention & energy and direct it inside for yourself and only those beautiful souls who give you all the feels…who truly reciprocate the love you offer them. ✨🙌
We're all in control of the manipulator. Keep a healthy distance and try to get back to your plans that day, so they haven't taken over your happiness.
I live with my 1/2 sister. She's exactly like what you've described. If I detach myself emotionally, she gets angry because I'm not making her feel like its all about her. She loves people making her feel like she's better than anyone else. She thrives on attention. I definitely need help with dealing with her. She has made me feel neurotic and put me in a major depression. If she cleans, she wants recognition even though she lives here. She has tantrums all the time. If I didn't need her money for half of the rent and utilities, I'd kick her out. I usually just keep quiet so I don't give her anything else to blow up about.
Do whatever you can to not live with a narcissist, no matter how badly you need the money. Is "she made me feel neurotic and put me in a major depression" worth the money and stress to live with her? These people destroy your lives - get them out!
I was self assured, just graduated as an engineer starting my career when I met my narc. After marrying him and specially after my daughter was born and I quit my career to raise her the abuse started. 20 years later I am struggling to pick up pieces and put myself together. It took that long to get away from him.
@@lynnolmsted4698 No, they want's to control, destroy and dim another humans light ‼️It's been said from a Godly perspective, that Narcissistic abuse makes us stronger, you really find your own worth, when someone works hard to destroy you‼️I have educated myself on the topic Narcissisism for 3 years, grew up as a Scapegoat of two Narcissistic parents, and has been heavily Gangstalked for a decade, monitored, ppl taken themselvs into my home when I'm out, sleepdeprivation, the Flying Monkeys of an earlier Narcissistic landlord have moved into neighbour flats everywhere I moved in, it's into the Police register, neighbours is being thrown out bcs the sound torture they have put me tru at nights‼️I'm stronger than ever‼️💎Starseed
I didn’t know I was dealing with a narcissist until recently. Three years married helping him with a green card right after we got married l started noticing the change from the love bombing phase 😢.
5 ways to command respect from a Narcissist(my notes) 1. Confidence in self-assured people. 2. Keep emotional distance from them. We are no longer allowing them to control us. Keep your cool. Say I'm in control. They don't hand power over your soul. 3. Maintain your independence. Start to put your boundaries. Keep your independence in every way that possibly can. Go here and there, read a book etc. Start doing things for yourself. I declare my independence for myself.
Continue... Create Your vision of what it is that you want. You almost forget what you want, your perfect life. Think about it like a GPS. 4. Set your boundaries. That's how you command respect. They will have a tantrum. It's like having a tantrum on the floor. They think the parents will give in. Scare tactic. They want you to be afraid. Stick to your boundaries. 5. The most important one. Show them that you are NOT AFRAID OF THEM. They are more afraid of you than you are of them. They love to see you squirm, they love to see you react because they feed off of that. If you cut off the supply source then they won't be there. Down the road they'll move on. Show them that nothing that they are doing will bother you. They are like vultures. They need something to feed off of.
I found that if I turn their agressive and digging remarks into some fun and give a big smile they step back surprised. Yes, they can see I am not afraid of them. It is one of the most important tactics, I suppose. Thank you for all the help and support you give to people. 🍀🍀🍀
Love the declaration Of Indepencence! Btw, the malignant narcissist having a tantrum on the floor is a special kind of hell when they're in the condo overhead.
Rebecca you are also like Jesus who said the devil is a narcissist and explains how to deal with them. Very correct and a spiritual warrior you are to me.
Thank you Rebecca ! I've been listening to your videos for about a month. I've never had an intimate relationship with a narc before. At 60 years old I met a lady that I thought I could spend my life with...then, well...you know...Thanks again for the clarity !
A narcissist doesn't have any respect for you or anybody else! You will wonder to yourself why did I ever trust this person? You will go down a dark hole with a narcissist friend, who you will learn isn't a friend after all! Just a jerk who doesn't know how to really love you in the first place and who only thinks of women like a supply or a Object or a thing to use as they see fit to do with you! So if you are experiencing this kind of disfunctional relationship I would suggest that you go and seek a therapist and a good Therapist To help you deal with this problem! And may God be with you in this most difficult time in your life!
I'm so glad I watched this video. Your comments in the 8th minute sum up my life. I am at a loss. My mum was a prolific narcissist and a horrible person, my childhood was horrendous. My ex and I have 2 daughters and he is the most vile narcissist on the planet. My girls are suffering horrifically after my mum gave my oldest daughter to him when I was arrested for assaulting him when I had finally had enough of the 8 years of horrific abuse I had suffered. I was betrayed in the most soul breaking way and now my daughter's are suffering and I feel like there is nothing I can do. I'm honestly so lost. 😭
Claim your daughter back, and fast! Sure you can get family counseling support or something, where you can state your case. Especially when the sisters want to stay together. The stakes are too high not to try everything before it's too late and he poisons her against you enough to lose touch with her altogether. I'd fight like a sabortooth 🐅 for my child. Good luck!
Get a good, kick a** attorney to fight for your rights. Narcissists can be scared of lawyers if they think it would expose their true rotten behaviour to the public. What u experienced is called a reactive abuse: reacting to your husband's bad treatment after he provokes u n then u get blamed for it. This is often part of the narcissist's manipulative n cunning tactics to land their victim in hot soup by getting them to react. Please find a competent n experienced lawyer to help u. Don't ever let these narcissists separate u from your children - don't give up until u win. Good luck.
My narcissist kicked me out of my own business!! I was dependant from him legally to keep my business open, and he knew that, and he controlled me.. One day I got enough, and I fired him, he was totally confused, he always thought he had all in control, but finally I took control😊!
I'm in control I'm not afraid now I will have my life back now I won't be manipulated and belittled anymore or feel guilty or blaming myself for past 15years !!!
Thank you very much! This is so true. I have my mother in my mind which until few months ago I would have never thought she was a narcissists. After many analysis in the last months I connected the dots and I recognized she is a narcissists covered by nice words in appearance, which never relate to her actions. I have always maintened a distance from her financially because it was impossible to deal with her, but I was emotionally dependent on her as a mother figure. I cut off everything few months ago and she is begging people around me to forgive her as she will try to recover her mistake. Which she didn't until now. She always saw me as a strong person to rely on and to take advantage of whatever I had. But when it came to support me she never was able to do so, because she was busy taking care of her adults children, who by the way have their own family and never really had problems in their life.
* I request respect in my life , marriage, with my family, children, employment, job, work, company, everything related to my personal, public, private, health, finances, services, and everything related to me . Thank you !
Going through the divorce process now and he is dragging it out, yet he is the one who wants the divorce and yes I am going through with it. I want my freedom. A boundary I set and he hates - if he wants to have any kind of negative attack - he is to talk to his paramour, his lawyer, or if he wants to communicate with me it is only by Email. We are co-parenting an HFA autistic 30 year old male. If he wants to communicate it is to be civil, calm and cooperative and I repeat this mantra.
Married to this person for 36 yrs and she divorced me and she ended the msrrage a week before I had surgery and always asking for koney and completely ended with hate and been realy verbally abusive. But it ended,finally so am getting help now,thank you for your advice she herself was a leaga secretary,nothing I did was good and am in control now of my life.
Yep definitely in control, after years and years of abuse from my sister, I see it all so clearly. She is a vile abusive liar, no friends, partner or children! Loves to aim all her abuse at me, even calls me the nasty bi...ch and bully! Definitely like watchkng a 2 yr old throwing a tantrum then conveniently forgets it ever happened 🤣 Not anymore, thank you so much Rebecca, your videos are the best and so helpful xx
Learn to Go Gray Rock from Dr Ramani video, so you don't react to a Narcissist bcs that's what they want, it's giving them Narcissistic supply, learn to be as interesting as an grey rock and they can't feed off on you‼️Look to Narc Survivor ‼️🎖️
My sibling who is a narc has kids and she has neglected each one. So its best they do not procreate. She blames me for losing everything (her half of an inheritance) 17 yrs ago bc she couldn't get me to take my life after a loved one died. Yep now she has my child and it is a complete Shit show. Excuse my language. Her child whom is so oppressed made my child think i was not rich enough or a good enough mother. It's awful pattern but At Least we can now be empowered with this Knowledge.
My question is why are there so many of these assholes around at present . They are everywhere breaking up job opportunities, relationships all sorts of things . Give me a subject of human interest and there is a narc trying to do something nasty too it. I have had enough of them..
Thanks a lot Rebecca for the wonderful powerful motivating trips...I am your follower...dealing with a Narc husband and a lawyer who is helping me with my case and I recently figured out the he too is a narc..
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I have see most of your videos in 3 days now and trying to make a full diagnosis. Is covert narcissist and covert passive - aggressive narcissist are the same? They knowing what are they doing? Do they have consciousness of what they are doing or why? They want to be change deeply? Even if they understanding it somehow, can they change at all? Its my mother. If you can please answer me. Your videos have help me A LOT! and now, i know how and why i get thru all this hell. Thank you!!!
Thank you, Rebecca. Appreciate these tips that empower our souls by retaining self-assurance and confidence.
Alright!! Got ta. Get on up. Thanks and I'll try moving my stuff back into the guest room. To give her space. So she can relax better from all the stress of my 😉Being behind on bills. And my spider webs on the balcony😧 how the he'll are those mine. Really now I'm Spiderman. Then where were my Spicdy Senses.
5) confidence, self-assured
4) keep emotionally distanced from them, play offense instead of defense
3) maintain independence
2) set strict boundaries
1) show them that you are not afraid of them, they are more afraid of you
They never respect you. If you can get them to fear you, you have an advantage. They will leave you alone.
You are right they don’t have respect for you
I agree with you they never respect you but if you can get them to fear you then I know they will leave you alone. I have things about him that I have never repeated and he has the fear inside of him that I will. he said if you ever tell anybody about this it will destroy me. all I would have to do is start talking if he ever comes near me again. and he knows that.
That sounds like the alpha way to deal with it and making them fear you.. that’s not a good goal to set for yourself. That will only be food for the flying monkeys..
no my friend, they must respect you as their superior
They often brag about how they pulled a fast one on someone or broke some law. Make them think it's OK so they reveal more stuff. Pretty soon you have a dossier of wrong doing on them. Then when you finally have a bust up they suddenly realise you have a lot on them which they never thought you would use against them. If they do threaten you, tell them they aren't in any position to threaten you, not with the stuff you have on them
Yes, it's best when the narcissist drops you as their target. Hope you're doing just okay, patricia!
Tables have turned. I’m in control now. Day 36 no contact. Never going back, it’s ovah!
Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you.
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It's hard to leave a narcissistic husband when he's the bread winner, and you are on his medical insurance, and inflation is horrible.
In applying number 4, they tend to accuse you of been arrogant and seeing someone else.
The emotional distance step is very important. Once they know what makes you react, they'll plot scenarios that trigger you then point and say "See? You're crazy/unstable/mentally ill" etc, etc. Of course, they are describing themselves.
I’ll show the narcissist
Just how I roll
By letting him know
I’M IN CONTROL. 😀🦅
Nice!!!
1: NO CONTACT
2:NO CONTACT
3:NO CONTACT
4:NO CONTACT
5:NO CONTACT !!!
That works!
That truly works.
What if , that narcicist contact your circle of friends and threat you to post private photos if you not contact to them?
@@Diamanter. Get rid of any so called friends that grow monkey wings
@@Diamanter. Plus its probably just another lie , as usual
Showing them that you are not afraid of losing them is ultimate control. This seems even more powerful than showing less fear of them as a person. At core they are spineless weaklings, desperate addicts using others as a fix. Nonchalance and disinterest is real power over a crumbling emotional meth head.
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You are right They are literally spineless lol .
Perfectly well said the showing that we are not bothered about losing them will scare them and make them respect us
its weird, its like turning yourself into a designer drug. most of what the list is composed of is what todays society would consider a high Value Man/Woman. I really dont think it would be a good idea to be with someone so superficial. but atleast you know what you're getting yourself into
I use to have a neighbor who was a narcissist. A woman whom I made friends with. She was attractive, and there were characteristics in her personality that I liked. After awhile, 2 to 3 months later, as I was talking with her on the phone, she voice an opinion on a matter and I disagreed, but in a friendly manner, and she screamed her head off at me! She couldn't tolerate my opinion! I made the mistake of staying friends with her when I needed to cut it off right then and there. It slowly went bad over the years until I finally cut it off from her. I once told her, she was the most egocentric and narcissist person I ever met. She freaked out! She went into a tirade and screamed, not to call her anymore. She later called me and I stupidly started to talk to her again. One time I straight out called her a b**ch on the phone out of anger. I later called her and apologized, another mistake. How did she respond? She threatened me! I responded, Are you threatening me? She had no answer. Before I apologized to her, and after I called her a B, she became afraid of me, yet she knew me for years, and I never made any threatening gesture towards her, or caused her any reason for her to be afraid of me. Narcissists deep down inside of them, are really scared, and cowardly people who might, if they can make it work, benefit from professional help. They are some of the most out of touch people in existence.
It's best to go no contact. Really hard dealing with the most toxic personality. You got this!
@@RebeccaZungEsq You're absolutely right, I learned my lesson the hard way. If I run into anyone whom I think are narcissists, I immediately go no contact. It's the best way to save your sanity. Thanks for your video, it has some good insights.
This is why I keep to myself. I moved into a new apartment about 2 yrs ago and I am cordial with my neighbors, a simple hello how are you, a wave, but that is the extent. I know narcs will force themselves onto you with instant "friendships" so I don't give anybody opportunity. But then again, I cherish being an introvert.
This one sounds like my relationship with my daughters mother in law. Unfortunately I have to spend more time with her than I d like. Everything is ok as long as I dont say anything but this is not the way I want my granddaughter to see me. Yep I am in control. No more mrs. Nice guy.
If she wasn’t attractive, would you have kept things going? Wonder why that is…
Thank you for the tools to deal with this horribly manipulative person. Was married to him for 26 years and newly divorced. I'm so happy that he moved to another state. Freedom at last! I still have to deal with him for the moment. So much fun watching his "covert" little tantrums. Now is my time for healing. I got this, today. Work in progress.
Good for you! Remember to never give up and to stay strong. It's never always easy but it's not impossible to beat the narcissist. You got this! 🙌
Respect has to be intentional,or does the narcissist fake it,if you don't get it,it's because they need their supply no matter the consequences.If they couldn't use you,they'll abuse you,if you see them,keep your distance,don't always be on the defensive,start going on the attack,because sometimes the best form of defence is attack🆘🚩💲
@@Jackgritty28 Mine is a very long and sad story. You don't stay with someone for 28 years and not love them. I've watched way too many youtube videos on the subject and I honestly have to turn some of them off because they become so hateful toward the narcissist. I understand why my ex is the way he is, because his mother nurtured it in him. He's now coming to terms with that. He says he is "healing" and I tell him to get counseling. I have no doubt he will never change and I've finally set him free in my heart. I only understood what was happening to me in the last year or so, but when I look back over 3 decades I see classic behaviors of narcisism and co-dependency. I thought I had a solid marriage and I was lucky to have him because I was having issues with low self worth and shattered confidence after only a couple of years together. Aww, anyway, I should write a book. I'll always be untangling myself from that abuse. So many layers.
Congratulations on your freedom 🗽
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you for the kind words. Lots of twisty pieces to these folks, but I can now see one coming from a mile away.
I'm proud to be an empath- basically the polar opposite of a narcissist! Empaths are emotionally very mature! 🙏😊
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I am in control with my Lord Jesus!
Amen Amen
Amen 🙏
Stay strong! ❤
Living with a narcissist will make you so stressed out that you will end up very sick. Don’t do it.
@@jestem2023 I got depressed and put on 100lbs
#3 on independence- have your own bank accounts. Don’t ever let a narcissist hand access or control of your money and assets
I was married to one of these monsters and I made the mistake of paying for all the renovations of our house with MY credit cards since he didn't have any. Needless to say, when he divorced me, I barely escaped with my life and left being tens of thousands of dollars in debt. Decades later, I am still in severe debt and in a constant battle against depression, anger and hurt.
@@joanngross786 my ex husband stole most of my assets and committed bank fraud in my name by forging my signature- 10 years later he is now facing charges because I found banking documents and other legal documents that prove his crimes. I never should of let him have any financial control either -that’s why I made the comment so I get how you feel too
@@GracieAckerman Thank you Gracie for such great advice so others don't have these financial disasters.
💯 Phone is even more important to maintain control of imo.
Yes, especially for women, who are often educated to be dependent: your own job, bank account, car if possible (or at least learn to drive, don't depend on him to drive you). Your own friends. Your way of breaking free.
Absolutely 💯. Once I gained my power back he began to glitch. I kept pushing through despite his mental,verbal and guilty attacks. There was so much resistance between us when we had interactions. It's a mindset. I could feel myself in a capsule protecting myself from his attacks trying to drain my energy.
Congratulations in getting control back! Keep safe and stay strong! 💪
Glitching, that's what I noticed when I started to say NO MORE BS and started to stand up for myself!
That’s my situation right now.
@@inesavoege5560 ex melted down and topped things off with catfished photos
Yes, once you show them you WILL not stand down they throw in the towel . Lesson learnt, eh? 😊
I'm in control. I will not let them suck the life out of my family any more.
No longer! Stay strong, Susan!
Last but not least one command of respect is to leave the narcissistic relationship,let karma conception flow, don't entertain a clown and be part of the circus, maintain the distance.
I couldn't agree more.
great advice!
Great advice!!
Stay strong! ❤
Mantra: “I’m worth more than this!” “This chaos cycle is exhausting and I’m DONE with moving in this circular path and ready to move FORWARD”
Stay strong! ❤
I’d add that if CONTACT is necessary, take as much time as you need before replying the “text/email/call”, preferably avoid the call and keep everything written, never “react” replying quickly, take a day or two if possible and respond as briefly as possible, if the answer can be given with an emoji (e.g.👍), even better
I'm in control Thank you Jesus
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I am in control of my own life so glad i never relied on him for anything he relied on me for everything a pure taker selfish unkind heartless deffo believe they are empty souls
My narcissist asks me for money even though he has a good job, I have learned to say NO... he really gets upset with me but slowly I have just learned to stop being scared when he reacts from me saying NO...
You got this! Stay strong and if you need extra support, you can email support@rebeccazung.com. Team SLAY will be there for you!
But he tells your children you're financially abusive. Even though... (throwing up...)
The narc I know makes 3x more than I do and still thinks I should help him pay bills he created. FAWK THAT
Dealing with this right this minute. My husband works, makes great money and has 3 bank accounts with money in it. He asked me yesterday to borrow money and I told him NO for the 1st time. We had a big blow out and now he's giving me the silent treatment.
That’s because they like to keep you broke so they can spend theirs with or on whatever
Thank you I was in unaware these personalities existed!!! I maddened one and my whole family is and I broke the cycle so they are SUPER PISSED!!!! 🤬
I’m in control! Rescind your heart space, attention & energy and direct it inside for yourself and only those beautiful souls who give you all the feels…who truly reciprocate the love you offer them. ✨🙌
Amen
We're all in control of the manipulator. Keep a healthy distance and try to get back to your plans that day, so they haven't taken over your happiness.
Super hard to emotionally distance from the narcissist if they are your child. I’m trying.
I live with my 1/2 sister. She's exactly like what you've described. If I detach myself emotionally, she gets angry because I'm not making her feel like its all about her. She loves people making her feel like she's better than anyone else. She thrives on attention. I definitely need help with dealing with her. She has made me feel neurotic and put me in a major depression. If she cleans, she wants recognition even though she lives here. She has tantrums all the time. If I didn't need her money for half of the rent and utilities, I'd kick her out. I usually just keep quiet so I don't give her anything else to blow up about.
I have a sister like that. I finally went no contact.
Do whatever you can to not live with a narcissist, no matter how badly you need the money. Is "she made me feel neurotic and put me in a major depression" worth the money and stress to live with her? These people destroy your lives - get them out!
@@d.r.q.2032 I went through the same thing. Never used ito have anxiety attacks til now
Put an AD on the internet and find someone else to live with you!! Then go " NO CONTACT" and move on without her! She will NEVER change!!
I was self assured, just graduated as an engineer starting my career when I met my narc. After marrying him and specially after my daughter was born and I quit my career to raise her the abuse started. 20 years later I am struggling to pick up pieces and put myself together. It took that long to get away from him.
Being impassive and indifferent towards a narcissist is best
Thanks for sharing and exposing Narcissists, it's about time that those parasites get known to the world‼️
There is no purpose for their existence
@@lynnolmsted4698 No, they want's to control, destroy and dim another humans light ‼️It's been said from a Godly perspective, that Narcissistic abuse makes us stronger, you really find your own worth, when someone works hard to destroy you‼️I have educated myself on the topic Narcissisism for 3 years, grew up as a Scapegoat of two Narcissistic parents, and has been heavily Gangstalked for a decade, monitored, ppl taken themselvs into my home when I'm out, sleepdeprivation, the Flying Monkeys of an earlier Narcissistic landlord have moved into neighbour flats everywhere I moved in, it's into the Police register, neighbours is being thrown out bcs the sound torture they have put me tru at nights‼️I'm stronger than ever‼️💎Starseed
I didn’t know I was dealing with a narcissist until recently. Three years married helping him with a green card right after we got married l started noticing the change from the love bombing phase 😢.
5 ways to command respect from a Narcissist(my notes)
1. Confidence in self-assured people.
2. Keep emotional distance from them. We are no longer allowing them to control us. Keep your cool. Say I'm in control. They don't hand power over your soul.
3. Maintain your independence. Start to put your boundaries. Keep your independence in every way that possibly can. Go here and there, read a book etc. Start doing things for yourself. I declare my independence for myself.
Continue... Create Your vision of what it is that you want.
You almost forget what you want, your perfect life. Think about it like a GPS.
4. Set your boundaries. That's how you command respect. They will have a tantrum. It's like having a tantrum on the floor. They think the parents will give in. Scare tactic. They want you to be afraid. Stick to your boundaries.
5. The most important one. Show them that you are NOT AFRAID OF THEM. They are more afraid of you than you are of them. They love to see you squirm, they love to see you react because they feed off of that. If you cut off the supply source then they won't be there. Down the road they'll move on. Show them that nothing that they are doing will bother you. They are like vultures. They need something to feed off of.
I found that if I turn their agressive and digging remarks into some fun and give a big smile they step back surprised. Yes, they can see I am not afraid of them. It is one of the most important tactics, I suppose. Thank you for all the help and support you give to people. 🍀🍀🍀
Love the declaration Of Indepencence! Btw, the malignant narcissist having a tantrum on the floor is a special kind of hell when they're in the condo overhead.
Rebecca you are also like Jesus who said the devil is a narcissist and explains how to deal with them. Very correct and a spiritual warrior you are to me.
Thank you Rebecca ! I've been listening to your videos for about a month. I've never had an intimate relationship with a narc before. At 60 years old I met a lady that I thought I could spend my life with...then, well...you know...Thanks again for the clarity !
Glad to help! Stay strong!
Great video. Have no fear of them! They fear that because you have the potential to expose them.
Number three is where I have allowed myself to fall into that a deep financial abuse trap, slowly trying to dig my way back.
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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A narcissist doesn't have any respect for you or anybody else! You will wonder to yourself why did I ever trust this person? You will go down a dark hole with a narcissist friend, who you will learn isn't a friend after all! Just a jerk who doesn't know how to really love you in the first place and who only thinks of women like a supply or a Object or a thing to use as they see fit to do with you! So if you are experiencing this kind of disfunctional relationship I would suggest that you go and seek a therapist and a good Therapist To help you deal with this problem! And may God be with you in this most difficult time in your life!
I’m in control!!!
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It is scary how much you know about these individuals.
Thank you amazing lady.
Thank you for your free help...it surely helped.
I'm so glad I watched this video. Your comments in the 8th minute sum up my life. I am at a loss. My mum was a prolific narcissist and a horrible person, my childhood was horrendous. My ex and I have 2 daughters and he is the most vile narcissist on the planet. My girls are suffering horrifically after my mum gave my oldest daughter to him when I was arrested for assaulting him when I had finally had enough of the 8 years of horrific abuse I had suffered. I was betrayed in the most soul breaking way and now my daughter's are suffering and I feel like there is nothing I can do. I'm honestly so lost. 😭
Worst of it is he is now hurting them to hurt me because he knows it's the only way he can keep me on a puppet string. I'll never be free. 💔
Claim your daughter back, and fast! Sure you can get family counseling support or something, where you can state your case. Especially when the sisters want to stay together. The stakes are too high not to try everything before it's too late and he poisons her against you enough to lose touch with her altogether. I'd fight like a sabortooth 🐅 for my child. Good luck!
Get a good, kick a** attorney to fight for your rights. Narcissists can be scared of lawyers if they think it would expose their true rotten behaviour to the public. What u experienced is called a reactive abuse: reacting to your husband's bad treatment after he provokes u n then u get blamed for it. This is often part of the narcissist's manipulative n cunning tactics to land their victim in hot soup by getting them to react. Please find a competent n experienced lawyer to help u. Don't ever let these narcissists separate u from your children - don't give up until u win. Good luck.
Sending love and light your way 🤍
You are worthy.
You are gold.
You have deep within you the power!
Stay strong 💪🏻
You got this
I AM IN CONTROL, YEAH BABY!!!
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My narcissist kicked me out of my own business!!
I was dependant from him legally to keep my business open, and he knew that, and he controlled me..
One day I got enough, and I fired him, he was totally confused, he always thought he had all in control, but finally I took control😊!
I'm in control I'm not afraid now I will have my life back now I won't be manipulated and belittled anymore or feel guilty or blaming myself for past 15years !!!
Thank you very much! This is so true. I have my mother in my mind which until few months ago I would have never thought she was a narcissists. After many analysis in the last months I connected the dots and I recognized she is a narcissists covered by nice words in appearance, which never relate to her actions. I have always maintened a distance from her financially because it was impossible to deal with her, but I was emotionally dependent on her as a mother figure. I cut off everything few months ago and she is begging people around me to forgive her as she will try to recover her mistake. Which she didn't until now. She always saw me as a strong person to rely on and to take advantage of whatever I had. But when it came to support me she never was able to do so, because she was busy taking care of her adults children, who by the way have their own family and never really had problems in their life.
Thank you for turning my life around
Stay strong!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom about narcism. You are a super woman! And yes, I am in control🤗
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I am in CONTROL!
* I request respect in my life , marriage, with my family, children, employment, job, work, company, everything related to my personal, public, private, health, finances, services, and everything related to me . Thank you !
I’m in control now! NAMAslay!
I'm in control
I'm gaining ground by gaining control!
Thank you Rebecca for being a beacon of light! Many blessings to you ma'am!
I love you for making a difference An attorney that actually cares is awesome May God bless you:)
That's rare... an attorney who cares.
Listening and learning. Thank you.
You got this!
Her videos are priceless.
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Respect from a narcissist :
Confidence (Keep emotionally distanced from them -Take control of your life
Maintain your independence
I'm only as far in as number 4 so far but excellent advice as always Rebecca I reckon you must save the sanity and safety of a lot of people 🙏
Going through the divorce process now and he is dragging it out, yet he is the one who wants the divorce and yes I am going through with it. I want my freedom. A boundary I set and he hates - if he wants to have any kind of negative attack - he is to talk to his paramour, his lawyer, or if he wants to communicate with me it is only by Email. We are co-parenting an HFA autistic 30 year old male. If he wants to communicate it is to be civil, calm and cooperative and I repeat this mantra.
Hi i was a victim of this and im looking towards getting over it but i can't...i want someone to talk to...
am in control tank u am realy in much abuse in 22 years now trying to heal and trying to gain my control
I'm feeling like being loving is best. It helps me feel in control!
All situations are bettered with love. Especially from ourselves to ourselves, first. Then one is really in 💕
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Married to this person for 36 yrs and she divorced me and she ended the msrrage a week before I had surgery and always asking for koney and completely ended with hate and been realy verbally abusive. But it ended,finally so am getting help now,thank you for your advice she herself was a leaga secretary,nothing I did was good and am in control now of my life.
Yes. I am in control . Thank you so much for pointers that remind me how to handle difficult people whether it is family. friends or strangers!
I'm in control
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Im in control I havent been, but I am now
I am Healing I am in control
Yep definitely in control, after years and years of abuse from my sister, I see it all so clearly. She is a vile abusive liar, no friends, partner or children! Loves to aim all her abuse at me, even calls me the nasty bi...ch and bully!
Definitely like watchkng a 2 yr old throwing a tantrum then conveniently forgets it ever happened 🤣
Not anymore, thank you so much Rebecca, your videos are the best and so helpful xx
Learn to Go Gray Rock from Dr Ramani video, so you don't react to a Narcissist bcs that's what they want, it's giving them Narcissistic supply, learn to be as interesting as an grey rock and they can't feed off on you‼️Look to Narc Survivor ‼️🎖️
My sibling who is a narc has kids and she has neglected each one. So its best they do not procreate.
She blames me for losing everything (her half of an inheritance) 17 yrs ago bc she couldn't get me to take my life after a loved one died.
Yep now she has my child and it is a complete Shit show. Excuse my language. Her child whom is so oppressed made my child think i was not rich enough or a good enough mother. It's awful pattern but At Least we can now be empowered with this Knowledge.
I'm in control I'm declaring my own dependence
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I am in control.
I'm in control 💜
Absolutely correct!!!
My question is why are there so many of these assholes around at present . They are everywhere breaking up job opportunities, relationships all sorts of things . Give me a subject of human interest and there is a narc trying to do something nasty too it. I have had enough of them..
I’m in control.
I am in control!
Thanks to you, I AM IN CONTROL.
Yes, you are!
I’m in control. !
Absolutely!
Yes he is afraid I’m not coming back when I go away on vacation or visit family ❤
I am in control. I am in control.
Thanks a lot Rebecca for the wonderful powerful motivating trips...I am your follower...dealing with a Narc husband and a lawyer who is helping me with my case and I recently figured out the he too is a narc..
i am in control
I’m in control !
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I am in control thank you Lord🙏
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Mine has done it all multiple times and continues on with no regrets remorse apologies nothing
Thank you Rebecca! I am in control.
Yes you are!
In my case it's my mother. I'm old enough to know better. She's NOT in control of me anymore. I'm the one in control of MY life .
I'm definitely in control.
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Yes I’m in control! I’m independent
Thanks for your WIZE WORDS
I am in control ..and really i am now, but what i am dealing with now is, trying to get over past!!
I'm in control
I'm MOST DEFINITELY in control BABY! ! !
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I am taking control! Taken along time but I am
Am in control thanks alot for helping
I'm in CONTROL!!!!
Rebecca Zung. I'm in control.❤😊
Thank you Santa Muerte for helping me find Rebecca Zung. Amen 🙏🏼
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I'm in control...
Heck yeah!!!
I AM IN CONTROL 💪
I AM IN CONTROL
I’ve taken my power back
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