3 Ways To Know You Should KEEP TRYING With Him

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  • čas přidán 16. 06. 2024
  • The 3 Ways To Know You Should KEEP TRYING With Him... In this dating, love, and relationship advice video, I will give you the three ways to know you should keep trying with him that you need not overlook. You may want to recognize if you should keep trying with him on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to this dating advice, and be sure to watch the entire video.
    It would help if you didn't keep asking yourself whether you should give him another chance or let him go. I want you to understand men better and adequately communicate with men. If you watch this dating advice to the end, you will learn how to know if you should keep dating someone, and the question of should I keep trying with him will no longer bother you.
    If the question of should I keep trying or let him go has ever crossed your mind, worry no more because this dating advice will clarify that and help you understand men. As your life coach, I will teach you how to communicate with men effectively to know when to give him another chance and when to let him go. Be sure to embrace this relationship advice to learn how to know if you should keep trying with him.
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  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +83

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    • @shonteljones2420
      @shonteljones2420 Před 2 lety +3

      Yeah I think I’m REALLY DONE!!!!! I KNOW I deserve better I’m a good woman and I don’t ask for much take me on a REAL date once a month just cause you like sitting in the house that’s fine sometimes. Sex is 🔥 but I kinda took that away I believe my Devine spirit is guiding me but I’m so heart broken 😞😢😢😢

    • @shonteljones2420
      @shonteljones2420 Před 2 lety

      Awesome video what if he’s so focused on an issue and don’t even realize all the good stuff anymore it’s done it’s a wrap I’m so hurt right now

    • @amazinggraces3850
      @amazinggraces3850 Před 2 lety +1

      YOU SHOULD BE AWARE SOMEONE FROM NIGERIA HAS HACKED YOUR U- TUBE ACCOUNT

    • @nisharenee4706
      @nisharenee4706 Před 2 lety +2

      HI I NEED HELP PLEASE. ILL PAY YOU

    • @dianerusso2231
      @dianerusso2231 Před 2 lety

      What if ur man does things and instead of correcting it. Takes it to a more disrespectful level. You have been dealing with it for 16 yrs?

  • @1tenacityify
    @1tenacityify Před 2 lety +1372

    The truth is, if a man truly loves and wants to be with the woman he can build with, he will show his woman just that. He will not have a hard time acknowledging, learning and changing himself for the better in order for his relationship to grow🙏🏾 He will be consistent with you at all times. No mixed signals. Just simply love, consistency, proper communication, time, attention, trust, and respect for his woman and his woman will show him the same 🙏🏾 This kind of love that both male and female give to one another is what you call “Equally Yoked”🙏🏾❤️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +47

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @valariepigletpeairs888
      @valariepigletpeairs888 Před 2 lety +17

      I agreed wholeheartedly

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Před 2 lety +10

      Equally yoked is different for everybody ma. Its Whatever you like and want and are. So it is what it is. But I hear ya

    • @1tenacityify
      @1tenacityify Před 2 lety +60

      @@jayc5756 Just to simplify my whole point, “Equally yoked” meaning that you are good for the person and the person is good for you. Simple.

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 Před 2 lety +1

      @@1tenacityify also meaning that your legs and home are open before and/or with no marriage in 80% of the cases lol

  • @chefnic4763
    @chefnic4763 Před 2 lety +551

    When you are healed, when you are in tune with who you are and what you want, when you are ready for who God has for you...YOU WILL NOT TOLERATE ANYTHING LESS. Your spirit will not allow it. Ladies, I can't stress this enough. Choose wisely ❤️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +20

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @latashadestinedingodgriffi3069
      @latashadestinedingodgriffi3069 Před 2 lety +22

      I totally agree I lost my husband of 23 years last year he passed away he was my everything a great man . I can’t even imagine dating anyone down the line listening to the horror stories of dating from my friends & family there is no way I’d date the world ain’t what it was .& I’m not saying all men are bad there are some great ones out there it’s the crazy ones trying to finesse & run games are the ones I definitely don’t want to run into so I’ll focus my time & energy on God & myself if there is someone God sends later on down the line my spirit will know him by his fruit so yes choosing wisely is a must to protect yourselves .That goes for male & females .

    • @chefnic4763
      @chefnic4763 Před 2 lety +9

      @@latashadestinedingodgriffi3069 I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️

    • @latashadestinedingodgriffi3069
      @latashadestinedingodgriffi3069 Před 2 lety +8

      @@chefnic4763 thank you God is holding me up right now so he gets the glory

    • @chefnic4763
      @chefnic4763 Před 2 lety +3

      @@latashadestinedingodgriffi3069 Amen 🙌🏼

  • @dianethompson6804
    @dianethompson6804 Před rokem +120

    I worked with a young woman who complained constantly how her husband always left toast crumbs on the counter every morning! Her husband was practically perfect in every other way. He was attentive, a hard worker, a good Dad and an all around nice guy. I suppose those toast crumbs got to be an irritation for her, but my thought was honey, if that's all you've got to complain about---just wipe up the crumbs and thank God you've got such a good man!

    • @Nisestory
      @Nisestory Před rokem +5

      No. He is suppose to clean his own crumbs and be thankful for who she is also

    • @rosalynzografos
      @rosalynzografos Před 9 měsíci

      Amen

    • @Janet1975
      @Janet1975 Před 8 měsíci

      Right?! Dang.

    • @lemonlemon7186
      @lemonlemon7186 Před 6 měsíci +2

      If we’re just about crumbs - she wouldn’t be irritated. It is obvious the crumbs being left on a clean counter top is demonstrating something bigger and she hasn’t found a way to articulate it yet. It is rare that the things that irritate us are easily ignored.
      I keep my home very clean and neat so when my s/o comes over - he is very mindful to keep things as clean and orderly as I do even though his house isn’t as kept. I think that just shows that he respects me enough to recognize that if I take the time that I do to keep my home clean then it must mean something to me. Coming back home to my bed made, dishes cleaned trash taken out honestly makes me feel very much seen in our relationship. If he would just leave everything in disarray I would feel very disconnected and I would probably not want to be with him 😂

    • @jd6331
      @jd6331 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@lemonlemon7186so true

  • @celestine833
    @celestine833 Před 2 lety +323

    1. understood and acknowledge the issue
    2. Consistent effort and progress
    3. you can see true change with your relationship and his relationship with others

  • @lozannevanniekerk5489
    @lozannevanniekerk5489 Před 2 lety +186

    You cannot change what you dont acknowledge

  • @ms.mcghee8682
    @ms.mcghee8682 Před 2 lety +313

    When a woman realizes she cannot let an issue go or genuinely forgive her partner for the issue, it’s time to move on. Seriously. If not, it turns to resentment and unaddressed troubles down the line. You’ll end up in arguments for small things that aren’t the real problem at all

    • @BeautiNSuccess
      @BeautiNSuccess Před 2 lety +9

      Exactly. Ms. MCGHEE.. I'm actually Ms.McGhee hey possible cousin 👋🏾

    • @ms.mcghee8682
      @ms.mcghee8682 Před 2 lety +7

      @@BeautiNSuccess Hey beautiful branch from the family tree 🥰

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +2

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @janayewill3883
      @janayewill3883 Před 2 lety +5

      That part I can’t forgive there weren’t no infidelity that I was aware of but he made me feel so bad not loved at times maybe it’s internal

    • @thehitmaster102
      @thehitmaster102 Před 2 lety +2

      I'm kinda in this part me to the tee

  • @mariomarin1552
    @mariomarin1552 Před 2 lety +98

    Sadly relationships are disposable nowadays. Rarely does anyone on either side want to put in the work. Continue to focus on you and build that that strong foundation for the right person

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +8

      It's not an easy situation, but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

  • @donnarebrown9656
    @donnarebrown9656 Před rokem +10

    I just broke it off with a guy after dating about 3 weeks. There were serious sparks, we talked so easily but he was non-responsive to texts and calls. He would say he will call me back in a few and hours would go by. The last straw was when he said, I'll be right back and 4 hours later... didn't respond to text or call. I sent the final text saying I'm not down for games... done. He called immediately, he explained where he was, etc.. but accepted my decision. I was extremely uncomfortable with the non-responsiveness and we had talked about it. He said he would work on it but did say he felt it was like programming...silly. Good communication is critical, why accept less!!!

    • @navina4271
      @navina4271 Před 20 dny

      Went through the samething,,he got mad at me for telling him how I felt,,he keeps telling me trust the process,,no I want communication, even if I'm not seeing u as much bcuz of work,,communicate,,I cut it off,,too stressing

  • @MixxxedFruuts
    @MixxxedFruuts Před rokem +126

    As a domestic abuse survivor, I am always so impressed and pleased with how sensitive you are to these issues. You really are a light in the world. Thank you.

    • @aaliyaah7382
      @aaliyaah7382 Před rokem +2

      Sista you are speaking facts!!! And I'm glad you got out that situation and continue to strive. Be blessed

    • @andreahollins3310
      @andreahollins3310 Před rokem +2

      Glad you are here to tell your story! You made it out ❤

  • @jahzyjase
    @jahzyjase Před 2 lety +118

    God doesn't send confusion!!! For me if we let everything in God's hand we will always know where to go n who will come with us!!!

  • @Betinhaac
    @Betinhaac Před 2 lety +63

    Your parents must be so proud of you. You are a gift to this world 🥰

  • @shopperoo99
    @shopperoo99 Před 2 lety +85

    Every man and women should educate themselves what a narcissist is. Once you understand what it is and remove them from your life, it's not hard to find a good man or woman. Don't let sex or money be the deciding factor for chosing someone.

  • @missbrownsugga6782
    @missbrownsugga6782 Před 2 lety +366

    COMMUNICATION is so IMPORTANT! We all grown...let's talk things out. UNDERSTANDING is also necessary. This video is so helpful, thank you young man.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +16

      My pleasure ❤ Communication is definitely key!

    • @vanessaleriche
      @vanessaleriche Před 2 lety +9

      Agree! Some men don't know and understand that.

    • @missbrownsugga6782
      @missbrownsugga6782 Před 2 lety +7

      @@vanessaleriche and women 😬

    • @misscandyb6820
      @misscandyb6820 Před 2 lety +14

      Sad to say, some people don't know about communication. They just shut down and walk away.

    • @missbrownsugga6782
      @missbrownsugga6782 Před 2 lety +3

      @Miss Candy B previous traumas...as Sir Stephan always states...HEALING is Necessary before beginning a relationship. Start the BEST relationship with yourself.

  • @heavenlygrandma9992
    @heavenlygrandma9992 Před 2 lety +81

    When a man doesn't want to spend your 23rd anniversary with you, but wants to spend it with friends and when he deceives you to be able to not spend you birthday with you, it's time to say good bye.

    • @healacalmwellness5394
      @healacalmwellness5394 Před 2 lety +4

      Hunni try him making your birthday a living hell while on vacation. I’d rather him not spent it with me…

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 Před 2 lety +7

      @@healacalmwellness5394
      It was hell just the same feeling abandoned and unwanted. But it won't happen again.

    • @qt7140
      @qt7140 Před 2 lety +2

      This got personal quick 🥴😂

  • @biruruth5956
    @biruruth5956 Před 2 lety +213

    The more you give them chances the more they take your love and care for granted

    • @ms.mcghee8682
      @ms.mcghee8682 Před 2 lety +15

      Facts. People who get taken for granted get taken.

    • @caramelkisses8396
      @caramelkisses8396 Před 2 lety +5

      @@ms.mcghee8682 For sure

    • @CoachLove
      @CoachLove Před 2 lety +30

      Damn right.. Black women and that "struggle love" or being put through bull to "show" you're a ride and die...that's OVER. We are choosing better now.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +3

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback ❤

    • @mrs.rosariohisqueen5618
      @mrs.rosariohisqueen5618 Před 2 lety +12

      I have to agree I swore I would never let a man cheat on me again or entertain another female I have a message on my fiancé phone tell his ex she should get out of work early so he can well you know what I’m saying even tho I know it never happened still I allowed him to stay he gas lights me all the time I love him but I can’t be no ones door Matt I know what I need to do but my heart gets in the way

  • @JemyM
    @JemyM Před rokem +12

    Without communication, the relationship is already over.

  • @kourtney101
    @kourtney101 Před 2 lety +120

    A lot of times people save the "nice" version of themselves for the strangers on the street, the job or @ church. Don't do that! That's a big relationship no-no AND it's fixable too! 🙏🏿

  • @michelleelizabeth4980
    @michelleelizabeth4980 Před rokem +24

    I experienced the latter examples. My boyfriend kept making "new" mistakes regarding one same issue: interactions with other women. He showed "remorse" and "improvement" and a willingness to change, but it got exhausting. Why do we need to have so many conversations about things that were common sense? (At least to me)
    I let him go and chalked it up to having different values.

  • @ChristianaSenibo
    @ChristianaSenibo Před 2 lety +92

    Hmmm!! I hear you. When the deeper issue is not resolved, it will keep springing up as uncertainty, insecurity and just a lack of peace about the relationship. And that will keep the relationship stuck.

  • @fareedamuhammad7250
    @fareedamuhammad7250 Před 2 lety +265

    As a woman I’m dealing with this right now when I’m feeling like it’s time to let this go. I’ve been patient and acknowledging about needing more communication and intimacy and spontaneous things to happen. He acknowledges however falls back into the same routine. I’ve spoken on this and I give up. I’ve been the fool and accepted it for so long he doesn’t see why I keep bringing it up. I feel he needs to be with someone that doesn’t expect him to communicate and build intimacy. We had it, after the kids and jobs were tired. It’s time I walk away. I love him but have to love me more.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +23

      I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

    • @valeriekemp7834
      @valeriekemp7834 Před 2 lety +21

      I agree with you sister I feel like need a support group. I have wanted to leave so many times but I can seem to pull away. I’m just going to but on my big girl pantries

    • @leahsummer5515
      @leahsummer5515 Před 2 lety +14

      Same Fareeda 😒💔😪...once on 4 years have we cuddled. Well 2 if you count the other night and he was smooth passed out, I laid across his chest for idk long...a while, and just reveled in it. Held hands once...lack of a human loving touch will absolutely destroy you. Especially after also being neglected as a child. Can someone just love me and love ON me? He thinks I'm more after sex than anything...well, that's the only intimate and close time I get and it's rare so yes I enjoy it for far more than just the act...he doesn't get it 💔

    • @1234532785
      @1234532785 Před 2 lety +10

      Sis, I completely understand how you feel. I just ended a two year relationship because of the lack of affection my ex showed me. Although I do not have any children with him, it still broke me and made me feel less than. I’m a super affectionate person so when I suppressed that part of my self to make him comfortable, that’s when I knew I had to dip. I chose self love and I realized that what he’s lacking emotionally has NOTHING to do with me. He has his own issues he needs to sort out within himself. I suggest you consider leaving because he will not change especially if you’ve brought it up more than once. I wish you peace, joy and healing. I would also suggest going to therapy to unpack what’s going on. I’ve been in therapy for over a year and my therapist has really helped shift my perspective on why people do the things they do. I hope you heal in peace.❤️

    • @fareedamuhammad7250
      @fareedamuhammad7250 Před 2 lety +11

      @@1234532785 thank you, I’m in the process of finding a therapist. I suggested counseling. I truly don’t know how to leave and our children know him being there and it’s a mess. I can’t make him be more. I’m turning cold and shut off. I see why people build walls. I am hopeful to have someone to be clingy to that wants to return the same energy. Have deep conversations with. Have intimate conversations laying in the bed or in the car listing to music. I need razzle dazzle.

  • @lizzierose007
    @lizzierose007 Před 2 lety +43

    As far as Im concerned, if they flirt in front of you, God only knows what theyll do behind your back when they think no one is looking. People should know how to act. Looking is one thing, dont oogle over someone or flirt. Have some class. It goes a long way...

  • @evelyndiaz4562
    @evelyndiaz4562 Před 2 lety +24

    I feel good you mentioned to stay classy and don’t stoop to their level. I started at my best and I walked away at my best, knowing I went above and beyond. God is good!

  • @martikabraidbar394
    @martikabraidbar394 Před rokem +3

    Being single is starting to look more & more attractive

  • @barbaracanterbury8533
    @barbaracanterbury8533 Před 2 lety +34

    Respect to everyone's opinions. My point of view pertaining to perfection is, every truthful moment, is a perfect moment. Sometimes truth is painful, and sometimes truth is pain-free.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +2

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

  • @tiffanisimmons8608
    @tiffanisimmons8608 Před 2 lety +120

    For me, what I am learning is Consistency is Key... I am learning through My Own Healing and Growing Journey that if both parties are Willing to put in the Effort to Make a Relationship work. They will remain Consistent in their efforts. The relationship will either Grow or Not. Thank You for Sharing this video it Definitely helped me view situations Differently and be more open minded, and also more Understanding... Learning about others and even our own selves is a Process. Also Knowing Our Worth, what we will and will Not tolerate.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +6

      Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤

    • @shirleyagee6677
      @shirleyagee6677 Před 2 lety +1

      Amen amen you said a mouth full thank you for that message well done👍🙏🙏🙏

  • @lookwithin3114
    @lookwithin3114 Před 2 lety +41

    I just ended a 24 year relationship with the father of my children. 😞 This is very difficult because neither him or I were raised in a two parent household. We value that. However, The same issues for all these years, that has been addressed by me, in the most loving ways, have not been corrected. I just cannot continue living unhealthy. Now he gets it, (I suppose) but It’s time to move on,, there are no more chances to give. I got some healing to do.
    I just feel like when you know better you do better. 💜💜. In some cases, even doing better is not enough because it’s too late to make it right.🤷🏽‍♀️ Above all, people need to take other people out of the equation. If you have issues that is constantly causing the problems in the relationship, take accountability and do better for yourself. Work on you! Become aware and consistent with Mediation /Prayer, Heal, Release negative energy. Then open your ♥️ and be receptive to the blessings you deserve. You attract what you are!💯🙏 #blessedandbehavingbetter!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +4

      I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

    • @lookwithin3114
      @lookwithin3114 Před 2 lety +2

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks 🙏Thank You🙏

    • @ruthie8466
      @ruthie8466 Před rokem

      Sorry about tht. Yeah sometimes it is too late. 😢

  • @cryscris
    @cryscris Před 2 lety +26

    What I realize is that most times people do to others what they wouldn’t like for themselves. That’s why I’d ask if he’s flirting…”how would YOU feel if I flirt with people?” If you know you wouldn’t like it then why would you do it to me? Communication (effective communication) is FUNDAMENTAL in relationships. Also ensuring this person shares the same core values and hold them high in esteem like yourself. I’m not afraid to ask questions. And if what you say does not align with my values then I’d not even give you a second look. These videos help so much because I’m working on me and educating myself on healthy relationships and what it looks like.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +2

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

  • @maxineadderley5378
    @maxineadderley5378 Před 2 lety +52

    Allow him to change and don't make him feel like he is living under a microscope. Set reasonable and clear boundaries and allow him to get there.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +3

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @rolandastewart4243
      @rolandastewart4243 Před 2 lety +2

      Totally agree

    • @kaitlinclipper3535
      @kaitlinclipper3535 Před 2 lety +7

      Allow him to get there is so true. I think where women and men fail to allow the person to change is because we waited too long to set clear boundaries and stick to them and now we have this resentment behind it because of previous repetitive offenses that offers no tolerance or patience. That is deceitful on our part, Because if we are offering them another chance... How quickly would you jump back into something or feel positive about it if you knew that if you messed up one more time for something that you were struggling with, how quickly would you feel positive about even attempting to truly get over that struggle. So when men or women say "I lied to you because I didn't feel I could be completely honest with you because I didn't want to lose you" maybe it's a situation where they feel stranded with confusion and being overwhelmed because they don't know what to do To Overcome their weakness... AKA finding healthy coping mechanisms for the feelings That caused that behavior. that also need to be addressed separately .. Everyone's feelings and needs and desires in a relationship are valid and important and are subject to our individual selves. So being honest about those desires (Hopefully the beginning) as soon as they are recognized, is imperative. As offensive as some of the behaviors The people who love us do... We have to stay humble and realize that for most people bad behavior is usually just a sign of poor upbringing where they were not taught how to Manage those feelings through communication, Trust and empathy And you have to decide through his willingness to be aware of that Whether you want to put in the work for this person that you say you love and you want to be accepted for your flaws. Ladies and gentlemen we've have to stop living by double standards and dig deep and self reflect or do we want to just sit there and saying it's not my job to raise somebody else's Child. In some cases that's true... So have the patience to truly figure out if you're raising someone else's child or if you see a child left behind who needs help and wants help to become a good man - The recipe for respect.

    • @rolandastewart4243
      @rolandastewart4243 Před 2 lety

      I agree

  • @goddessoflight74
    @goddessoflight74 Před 2 lety +28

    Relationships should have boundaries. Therefore, expectations, should be talked about. It's so important. When you see a great deal of progress, it's time to yield and show compassion, rather than throwing it back in a person's face. I could see how that could be really hurtful to someone. Reward the effort and be kind.❣

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 Před 2 lety +101

    Don't lose the man GOD has for you he brought you together for a REASON. Avoid NEGATIVE influences they will only DESTROY what is good because they are in OPPOSITION.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @carolynbutler6691
      @carolynbutler6691 Před 2 lety +1

      So true 🙏

    • @wturner9168
      @wturner9168 Před rokem +2

      You can’t presume God brought everyone together.

    • @quandraadams7583
      @quandraadams7583 Před rokem

      Convincing others and believing that a God brought ppl together is the ace in the hole for cheaters, especially the evangelical ones. Lmao
      A woman is more likely to put up with disrespect when she thinks it's a part of a God's plan and will lead to some worthy end goal. 🙄
      A lot of men push "traditional values and marriages" because the model favors the man. He is the "head and leader" and a woman should just "trust" that he knows best.
      So some random individual automatically gets to lead because they won the gender lottery?
      They shouldn't have to possess leadership qualities, effective skill-sets like being a good communicator, or have a high emotional intelligence? Just a certain chromosome arrangement and vibes? Okay...😂
      It is a scam.
      Plus, not one believer of any faith has ever even demonstrated that any God exists let alone demonstrated that a God told a group of men to write down his messages.
      A scam.

    • @quandraadams7583
      @quandraadams7583 Před rokem

      @@wturner9168 I agree with you but unfortunately, that is the danger of faith.
      You can justify anything with it because, by definition, you are apt to believe a proposition without having/needing/requiring evidence to support that proposition.

  • @nikadomi-psychology
    @nikadomi-psychology Před 8 měsíci +3

    "There has to be a full understanding of the issue in order for change to occur" - profound point !!!
    Points to the importance of "shadow work"

  • @dtpbach
    @dtpbach Před 2 lety +64

    At 18:39 every man watching you say this needs to hear this 10,000 times because God is speaking through you and you just said a lot right there. They have to show the change in their life not just in front of the woman that I love!!!!!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +4

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @ddiva511
      @ddiva511 Před rokem

      true change happens outside The relationship for the whole person.

  • @tintedglass9022
    @tintedglass9022 Před 2 lety +13

    Recently a lot of this finally made sense and I now fully understand a lot of this. I recently took a L because I didn’t understand what the issues were, why they were such a problem and understanding why ( problem was with me) and truthfully I didn’t see them at that time. I was functioning through life but not living my life. As badly as I wanted it to work and said over and over I would correct these issues , I truthfully didn’t understand or know how. It was what I wasn’t doing that caused this, not something I necessarily “ did” . A lot is new to me. On top of that, I was a terrible communicator in general due to social anxiety, overthinking, and some unresolved issues from my past so I was super quiet. I was in love but stuck and overwhelmed with emotions and feelings and it all fell apart. I had convinced them I “didn’t care” or was “ jealous “ or something else. I’ve been working relentlessly now for weeks now on bettering myself and working towards a better me because now… I have understanding. Thanks for this video. ( if I gotta pay for a talk session Damn it I will lol )

  • @kourtney101
    @kourtney101 Před 2 lety +43

    I am always proud of your content, Stephan. Your wisdom, tact and care are wonderful to gleam from and apply @ relationships & lifestyles. You continue to prove that at the base of the problem is the solution. "Is this reparable?" and "Are you willing to work to make it better?" Blessings ,👑!

  • @1Daniegirl
    @1Daniegirl Před 2 lety +6

    Being aware and looking for something is completely different. Needed this, thank you.

  • @jimena242
    @jimena242 Před rokem +2

    I've watched a few videos from you. Man, your emotional intelligence is astounding. Thank you so much for your insight!

  • @salithadargan167
    @salithadargan167 Před 2 lety +7

    I just want to say.. you are a blessing in this world of relationships society. I’ve been listening to you for a few years now and every video I listen to from you validates my own experience in my own relationships good or bad. Stepping into what I’ve learned from my own experience and listening from your videos really let’s me know I’m own the right path of knowing what I want and willing to accept and how to allow him to be himself so I can see if himself is what I can accept. Thank you❤️

    • @gloryedesiriokpe4314
      @gloryedesiriokpe4314 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

  • @shopperoo99
    @shopperoo99 Před 2 lety +17

    He's a narc and there's nothing you can do to change a narc. You don't want a "pretender" or an inauthentic relationship because it takes precious time out of your life when you can spend that time with a man of quality . Trust your gut instinct, that's the one thing every women who endured narcissistic men regret.

  • @marivicsandriana9284
    @marivicsandriana9284 Před 2 lety

    Stephan you speak the truth!! The situations I dealt with you explained solutions on point!! You’re gifted in what you do!

  • @stephanieweipert2791
    @stephanieweipert2791 Před rokem +1

    I really have to say that I like and appreciate your videos. I love your complete honesty and your insight is amazing. I'm not religious at all but I am spiritual and I love how you talk about these things from your faith. Truly a blessing. 🥰

  • @SuperMjai
    @SuperMjai Před rokem +3

    I’m so glad you touched on verbal abuse

  • @marisolarreola4006
    @marisolarreola4006 Před 2 lety +3

    Watching this while getting ready to
    Work definitely needed this for my relationship gotta finish watching later for sure ! Thank you so much for you’re lovely videos

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @shevanoorda7252
    @shevanoorda7252 Před rokem +1

    You are very communicative it's actually amazing 💎 addicted to this knowledge. A lot of these dating coaches just ain't it but this is another level I'm learning a lot 👏🙌

  • @kaliha55
    @kaliha55 Před 2 lety

    Stephen,
    This was a great video! I understand everything you are saying. Omitting the abuse part of course. Your vids have been very helpful when trying to understand my partner.

  • @Sherry-cc4dg
    @Sherry-cc4dg Před 2 lety +27

    Thank you for re iterating the Verbal Abuse Aspect I was in a Verbally Abusive Relationship for years, and no one should have to be subjected to that. Love your advice ❤️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      I'm happy they are helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

    • @godlove5912
      @godlove5912 Před 2 lety +1

      Exactly!
      The verbal abuse I accepted turned into Physical Abuse. That was my wake up call because I was at death’s door at the hands of this man.

  • @KielleDeAnda
    @KielleDeAnda Před 2 lety +97

    It fails to amaze me how much your videos come out exactly when I need them to. I feel so affirmed and liberated. Stephan you’re work is so inspirational ! Thank you !

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +4

      I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

  • @ruthie8466
    @ruthie8466 Před rokem

    Last point,wooow 👏. Sums it all up great!

  • @faizahanif9515
    @faizahanif9515 Před 2 lety +74

    So good to see men like Stephen, RC Blakes and Kev Hick helping women understand the relationship problems when it was easy for these men to join red pill and disdain us. Appreciate it ✌❤

  • @renee167
    @renee167 Před 2 lety +44

    Great advice! I definitely believe in giving people a chance to redeem themselves, however, I do have my limit. 😊😊. If you mess up over 3 times, and I’ve told you how I felt about the issue, then that’s a deal breaker for me. Acknowledge that you’re wrong, and I’ll do the same. Respect works both ways in a relationship.

  • @pspr1149
    @pspr1149 Před 2 lety +5

    Stephen you are truly working in your gift.

  • @Bmitchell10
    @Bmitchell10 Před 2 lety +1

    Love this keep them coming Stephan 👑 💙

  • @venoywalker8820
    @venoywalker8820 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks 🙏🏼 Stephan❤️You are hitting on key 🔑 God’s Blessings Over Y’all Lives💖🙏🏼🤗😘💗

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and may God bless you as well 🙏

  • @Fox1nDen
    @Fox1nDen Před 2 lety +45

    you are so right. if a man hurts you by flirting or cheating around, you have to decide one thing. Do you want to keep the relationship? Or not? If you want to keep the relationship, forgive him and forget it. If you don't want the relationship, walk away, and be honest with him why. No dramatic extension of the issues is needed and will only damage both of you. What is done is done. You won't change him by scolding and rubbing his face in it after he has owned it was wrong. If you can't forgive him the problem is you.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 Před 2 lety +1

      The problem is NOT ME. WRONG.

    • @ruthie8466
      @ruthie8466 Před rokem +2

      If you cant forgive,walk away.

  • @aliciaalbert2979
    @aliciaalbert2979 Před 2 lety +4

    I needed to hear this thanks 😊

    • @gloryedesiriokpe4314
      @gloryedesiriokpe4314 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

  • @sharonmcmillian358
    @sharonmcmillian358 Před 2 lety +1

    Addressing the issue is the key Stephan I like the fact that you acknowledge your faults that's maturity.

  • @suze204
    @suze204 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Blessed to be with a man who acknowledge and does change the situation. 🙏🏻

  • @cassandrad9377
    @cassandrad9377 Před rokem +6

    I like the fact that you listen to your sprit then accept the fact that something different needs to be said
    Or other advice given 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @rose-nd9gy
    @rose-nd9gy Před 2 lety +4

    MAN! I needed that! That was deep & you were real! Relationships should be beautiful & so is the way you speak of them! 🔥💯💜👑👏🏾

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you I appreciate that!

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Před rokem

    Thank you, Stephan!💜

  • @jennc1585
    @jennc1585 Před 8 měsíci

    Thanks for these videos always so helpful 🙏🏽

  • @gykkasebidca4122
    @gykkasebidca4122 Před 2 lety +8

    I’m very glad to have discovered your channel recently, I truly got so much important advices and things to ponder to especially in dealing with my relationship. Your videos has been somehow very therapeutic and been my go to recently. You’re truly a great help to lots of us here. I’m grateful, and I wish you all the best 🙏🏼

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      🙏 Glad I could help and don't forget to subscribe and click the notification bell to be notified each time I release a new video.

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      Whatsazzz him👇👇👇

  • @sierraspeed4231
    @sierraspeed4231 Před 2 lety +3

    Those who have been following you know your heart- It’s good. You corrected it 🖤💜

  • @selenanguyen4094
    @selenanguyen4094 Před rokem

    Loved your advices . Thank you 😊

  • @danielletoups3288
    @danielletoups3288 Před rokem

    I needed to hear this tonight 🙏 thank you

  • @JamaicaLove876
    @JamaicaLove876 Před 2 lety +22

    Many great points in your video. The main points that I look for to decide if I should keep trying is to determine how genuine and sincere he is about the relationship. If his heart is really into it and he made a poor choice then yes I would forgive. You really have to first make sure you are truly aligned in values & standards, and ask yourself if he is truly the best choice God has for you. The reality is that the one that is truly for you will have effort, consistency, and love will just be the main goal. The one you love will need correction at times but if they truly learn you & study you then they will already know the love language you desire. The man who values you is the one you should keep trying with not the one who fails to recognize that your love is a treasure. Blessings & peace to u. Great topic. Love will always recognize the sincerity of the heart. and the genuineness in the actions.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před 2 lety +14

    "He accepts it and corrects it" keeping a wrong in perspective, making a real effort is worth sticking it out if foundation is strong, exercise discernment over haste. Authentically trying your best trumps perfection ~ owning it deserves acknowledgement, respect and recognition 😎

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      Whatsazzz him👇👇👇

  • @laigisele5879
    @laigisele5879 Před rokem

    Thanks for Yr last message : stay being Yr best or you walk away
    That’s so important for ppl who r still struggling

  • @vitiligobeautyco
    @vitiligobeautyco Před rokem

    Thank you so much for this helpful insight. ❤

  • @anam5099
    @anam5099 Před 2 lety +6

    I love your insight. You actually helped my fiance and I.

  • @dh4183
    @dh4183 Před 2 lety +6

    Encouraging the process is very important. It be hard when you never receive appreciation because she feel that it should just be natural. And she shouldn’t have to teach a man.

  • @tonidavis479
    @tonidavis479 Před 2 lety +1

    This is right on time! Thank you.

  • @arleenotero3243
    @arleenotero3243 Před rokem

    Thank you for this video, it covers alot

  • @ashleybigger32
    @ashleybigger32 Před 2 lety +5

    I agree with this video 💯 percent. Communication, honesty, acknowledgement, acceptance, understanding, deep dive to the problem, come up with a strategy together and let it go. If he don't make a effort let him go.

  • @ericapaul1755
    @ericapaul1755 Před 2 lety +11

    Thank you so much Stephen for this awesome video 💯🎯🙏🏽!!! This is so very helpful for both singles, dating, or married. I’ve learned a lot just by watching this. Blessings😇.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      Whatsazzz him👇👇👇

  • @tracygibson3196
    @tracygibson3196 Před 3 měsíci

    This was awesome information. Thank you.

  • @tiffanyRN504
    @tiffanyRN504 Před 2 lety

    Needed to hear this...Thanks 😊

  • @venusmalloy6134
    @venusmalloy6134 Před 2 lety +13

    When you say "what's hitting my spirit" I say to myself COME THROUGH Holy Spirit. LOL!!

  • @EllieM_Travels
    @EllieM_Travels Před rokem +4

    My man was flirting with other women and when I asked why, he said, “Idk I guess to boost my ego.” Doesn’t get anymore honest than that. We broke up because of his flirting, but then he proved over the next few years that he only wants me in his life, because he never dated anyone else after that. Now we’re hanging out again and giving it another go.

  • @terriwhalen3618
    @terriwhalen3618 Před 7 měsíci

    You are doing an excellent job!

  • @karengates925
    @karengates925 Před měsícem

    ❤...love how Stephen looks at all sides to a situation.

  • @annekajordan6952
    @annekajordan6952 Před 2 lety +3

    You are amazing Stephan ❤️

  • @angiemccoy7639
    @angiemccoy7639 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you for this. I am in a situation of having to know how to proceed with an issue. Wish I had this years ago. I appreciate it now though

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      Glad it was helpful 🙏

    • @dh4183
      @dh4183 Před 2 lety

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks have you made a video on how a man should know if he should keep trying with her?

  • @rosalis2010
    @rosalis2010 Před 2 lety +2

    This is exactly the video that I needed. Thank you 🙏🏼

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      My pleasure ❤

    • @imeubokulo4994
      @imeubokulo4994 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

  • @BrieLani
    @BrieLani Před 2 lety +1

    This video came right on time 🙏🏾

  • @tashajones7864
    @tashajones7864 Před 2 lety +4

    💯
    Great teachable info. On how to communicate regarding this unacceptable behavior. Acknowledged, Addressed, Corrected, moving forward ⏩

  • @fantasiaroberts5157
    @fantasiaroberts5157 Před 2 lety +3

    I love looking at your videos, you have got so much common sense and you are so funny😆. I am marriage now for 21yrs; everything you have been saying is straight up my alley..sooo many relationships can be fix out there if people just took the time out to listen and try to understand where the other person is coming from. You are an amazing man, keep up the good work that our God has sent you to preach..🙏🏽💚💚💚

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +1

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you I appreciate that!

    • @fantasiaroberts5157
      @fantasiaroberts5157 Před 2 lety +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks you are very welcome 😊🙏🏽💚

    • @fantasiaroberts5157
      @fantasiaroberts5157 Před 2 lety

      @@kabirmuazu4190 I don't need any help my dear; but thank you for trying.. if I did, I know exactly who to ask. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @teresacalladine7479
    @teresacalladine7479 Před rokem +1

    Thank you Stephen.
    I believe patients is key in most worth while relationship or situation or person we spending time with.
    Because we always leaning and changing in life and within life and relationships.
    Things take time.
    If he's worth it, you will know.
    Nothing or nobody perfect.
    And don't make a rash decision.
    I believe you have to give each other time.
    Let it grow
    Think first.
    And realize it takes two to make it work.

  • @Sweetheart0189
    @Sweetheart0189 Před 2 lety +1

    I was literally about to then this popped up 🙄 let’s see! Thanks for posting

  • @bettywinn8296
    @bettywinn8296 Před 2 lety +3

    This just came thru my phone at the perfect time.
    Just received a text from prior boyfriend, out of the blue..
    Will watch this video closely. I broke up with him but we never discussed issues although even though I texted him why. That was last year before I started watching your videos.

    • @bettywinn8296
      @bettywinn8296 Před 2 lety

      ALSO, MY ANDROID PHONE DOESN'T SUPPORT JAVA, SO, CAN''T TEXT "LOVE".
      (IF THAT MAKES SENSE?)

  • @aliciapierce9389
    @aliciapierce9389 Před 2 lety +3

    This is one of your best videos! Good job. I think the empathy for various situations. None of us know everything about relationships. We must always look to God for answers.

    • @gloryedesiriokpe4314
      @gloryedesiriokpe4314 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

    • @gloryedesiriokpe4314
      @gloryedesiriokpe4314 Před 2 lety

      Whatsazzz him👇👇👇

  • @fatmatasesay7467
    @fatmatasesay7467 Před 2 lety +1

    Great talk, thank you so much sir.

  • @ruthmungai7882
    @ruthmungai7882 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank u soo much Sir, u are a big blessing to this generation

  • @theythinkidontknow1975
    @theythinkidontknow1975 Před 2 lety +13

    There’s no talking with my husband he just doesn’t know how to communicate or accept responsibility for anything he does…Everything is my fault and I’m over it I want a divorce .. I’m too old for this mess…24 years of him walking away ,getting mad and silent treatment is enough for me…It’s time to end this marriage because now I’m thinking about ways I can hurt him… GOTTA walk away from this crap…He’s almost 50 and still acting like he’s 16… UNBELIEVABLE!!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +1

      I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

    • @newnew-mv1uj
      @newnew-mv1uj Před 2 lety

      Imagine that, yes, leave him, think about the other years you have remaining to be Happy, God will see you through

  • @abigaledavis1223
    @abigaledavis1223 Před 2 lety +4

    Wow!! Powerful
    I’ve gone through this in my marriage.
    Yep! He doesn’t see the problem with anything he does that hurts me.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +2

      🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through

  • @temekamays3041
    @temekamays3041 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you! No need to drop a common! Well said!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @karenmiller6131
    @karenmiller6131 Před 2 lety +1

    Oh my.. this is good. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @tiyahouse2299
    @tiyahouse2299 Před 2 lety +5

    Growth I believe is key in any relationship. When an individual wants change and growth that's when the significant other will know and see change. At the same time, communicating and if the trust and love is there in the relationship like it should be hold each accountable with respect. Plus compliment each other when the change comes to fruition. On the other, if a person isn't trying to do anything to make changes when things has been addressed over and over point blank it's time to depart our ways.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @tiyahouse2299
      @tiyahouse2299 Před 2 lety +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks You're Welcome

    • @tiyahouse2299
      @tiyahouse2299 Před 2 lety

      @@kabirmuazu4190 Thank you for wanting to help me out but I am good though. God Bless ❤️

  • @stephaniewaller6655
    @stephaniewaller6655 Před 2 lety +5

    The more I tried to build him up, the harder he tried to bring negative challenges within our relationship.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Před 2 lety

      I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation and I pray you're able to do what is truly best 🙏

  • @tiffanyrivera3648
    @tiffanyrivera3648 Před rokem

    You are awesome Stefan give good advice thank you Stefan I'll listen to all your videos