My Sexual Abuse Story | Chiquis and Chill Ep 18
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My Sexual Abuse Story | Chiquis and Chill Ep 18
Warning: This episode may be triggering for some listeners.
Chiquis recounts parts of her sexual abuse story in an attempt to help others. She talks about some of her earliest experiences of abuse by her biological father and explains how she’s been able to forgive him.
If you, or someone you know, needs help call the National Sexual Assault hotline at 1-800-656-4673. You can also visit them at Rainn.org
Original Air Date: March 7, 2022
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That fact that she says her dad was a good dad regardless what he did to her you can clearly see that she was groomed by him I could care less what he taught you a good dad will never do this to his childrens
Definitely 😢
He pretended to be a good dad ):
She’s very religious and I feel like that plays part in it. She even said that her dad would already state that ‘the girls are such liars’ to make it seem like no matter what they say it would seem like they were just making things up. There’s nothing wrong with her forgiving her father and letting go to help her move on but the fact is her father did horrible awful things to multiple people and for that he is not a good dad, man or human being.
it sounds like he treated her like a spouse , not a daughter . Sick
Exactly
I’m definitely going to start calling out my creepy uncles in front of everyone
Yes!!!! You do that !! I just called out my husbands abuser who was a family member of his , i got so pissed off 😤 when I saw that pervert at a family gathering That I made my poor husband tell him in front of everyone in the family what he had done to him as a child! My husband was so glad that I made him do it , because he felt a ton a weight fall off he’s shoulders. And now we are doing so much better in every way in our life’s because of it !! My husband now feels free 🙏🏼❤️
@@michmex220 omg!!! That’s so intimidating to do! Props to your husband for telling everyone. Glad he feels better 🙏🏼
Yes girl please .. we won’t be there with you but spiritually we’re with you.. you have the strength
@@michmex220 im still not ready to confront him and tell the whole fam 😔 my cousin (his daughter) and i where so close when we where little and i can't find the courage to tell the fam. They would'nt believe me cause he seems so "innocent, and a very good man"... i hope your husbands closer relatives believed him and stoped talking to him. God bless you guys
I had a creepy uncle. I told my mom that he gave me vibes. She said I was lying.
That man is disgusting. He was not a good dad. He was grooming you.
I can't believe she said he was a good when he was clearly not!!!! He had choices at 🌃 night! He was for sure GROOMING her😔
My dad was excatly like that. 😯 didn’t know he was grooming me 😮
@@andreac.b8319 of course. As kids we don’t know when we’re being groomed. The adults are fully responsible and despicable.
That's a exactly what I said she was groomed especially hearing her saying that regardless he was a great dad and taught her many things seems like she admire him but truly he was a monster and not a good dad
i think she's fully aware of that despite him doing that parents still teach you things. I was also r worded at a young age so I understand. The hardest thing to do is forgiving someone especially in this situation. I used to be angry with everyone and especially with my mom she was diagnosed with schizophrenia she at times embaressed me but idk better. Despite that she was still my mom she gave me good memories still. You dont get it until you been in her situation
You are 100% correct our community tends to protect the abuser and ostracized the victims, No child ever does this for attention or lies about such a serious thing,
My aunt told my mom
Not to believe me
About my step father molesting me. Still at 38 I struggle with it.
@@valerierosad0 You will struggle for the rest of your life. Those feelings will come in big and small waves, frequent and infrequent waves, and one day you will cry happy tears because you will notice your inner child is healing. If you can seek a therapist that specializes in childhood trauma the cognitive behavior therapy will help tremendously.
Y lo,peor de todo es que esta persona continúa eso con otros ! Nose como protegen a personas así
Is it weird that it gives me comfort hearing other peoples stories? Like im sorry we all went through this but it also makes me feel that I’m not alone. Like im not the only one in the world that went through this. I just want to say FU to all the people that ruined our childhood. 💯😩❤️
It's not wierd and I've done the same thing all my life. Always watched movies and documentaries and youtube testimonies about sexual abuse I guess in hopes it would make me brave to talk, but still took me over 40 years to finally tell my truth.
I know I always thought I was the only one dude I need someone one to talk to fr
FU !!!!
The fact she was scared to tell her mom cause she knew she’d kill him. Jenny has always been that WOMAN
He was grooming you. That’s why he was being so nice and doing all these things. My heart goes out to you.
My mom believed what happened to me and she never spoke with her bother again. Never trust your kids with anyone.
Why is it always the family? Like people are so sick! There's so many people you can have sex with & they chose innocent young souls to sexually abuse.
Exactly 😭
But the worse part it’s when you are 18 , and you on family blames you, because you knew what was happening and let it happen 😢😡, and they continue with their lives like nothing happened, until this day call me any nasty name , but no sexually abused 😢.
@@ruthnavarro-torres9266 I hope that you at least know that it wasn't your fault and that the names and things your "family " call and say about you aren't true. I also hope that you've removed them from your life and are happy living your best life .
I was raped at 18... I kept it secret from by dad for 5 years... I got breast cancer age 29... I truly believe it's because I carried so much pain for so long... your right, trauma like that does cause sickness x
My heart goes out to you. My first time here and I'm heartbroken hearing these stories.. Your all AMAZING 💙🥰🤗😉 Take care and b well .. OLD G
@@Kawiboy thank you... that's very kind of you x
@@liverbirdxoxo1984 Have a Fantastic Holiday 💙😉
Awe baby I’m so sorry you went through all of this but I hope you’re way better 😢
This happened to me as a kid😢 I grew up bitter and later in life developed anxiety. I live till this day in fight mode. I don’t trust my kids to ANYONE . My job is to protect them and to make sure no one hurts them 😢 people who harm kids don’t deserve to live
Aww your a good mom. Protective always even when the kids don’t understand ❤ I hope your anxiety goes away for good someday. Hang in there
It happened to me from my sister husband 😢
So sorry you went through that, i hope you've found some healing 🙏🏽
Pediphiles are usually very charming and “caring” this are tactic they use. He was not a good father.
I’m surprised she thinks he was a good dad. Shows that he still owns her. Sad.
He’s not in jail because you testified against him. That monster is in jail for doing those horrible acts on his own child. We need to stop guilt tripping ourselves when we were just children who they preyed upon. I promise once you have children of your own you will look at it much different.
I could never have the strength to talk about my sexual abuse! I spoke to my therapist about it and told her how scared I was to open about it to my mother because of how many years I kept it to myself!
I thought I would never talk about it ever! I held on to it for over 40yrs and when I was triggered the emotional damage I went through was the most awful and terrifying moment in my life, but saying the words outloud was necessary. Writing the words down was therapeutic and like they all say....after you let it out you take a big sigh and breathe. It stays with you, but no longer holds me in that dark mental and emotional space. Peace and Hugs to you and may you one day heal from the trauma! ❤
Same! I am now turning 35 and JUST started speaking out about my SA to my therapist that happened from the ages of 5-8yrs old. I told her I will NEVER tell my mom what happened because I already know she will go in & it will just create more problems that I don’t want to deal with in my life 😢
That’s why I respect Jenni so much, she wasn’t aware because it’s the last thing you can think of that your kid’s father is abusing them in any way, but as soon as she found out she didn’t try to keep it quiet, she went to the police and got her daughters and sister help. Chiquis is right, in the Mexican community people don’t say anything when these things are happening, or they just straight up don’t believe their kids, and it has to stop. Parents need to see the red flags, it doesn’t matter if they never did anything to you but that doesn’t mean that they won’t do anything to your kids, if you get bad vibes from a family member or if someone in your family is brave enough to speak up or just say that they don’t feel comfortable around a certain family member, don’t just brush it off ask more questions say something.
Me at 32 years told my mom about what happened when I was little and I still wasn’t believed even though my cousin had spoke out as a child about this relative no one believed her. I will always believe what my children tell me. If parents or guardians would support the child more I think more people would have the courage to speak up.
He was not a good parent. I’m sorry that you still believe he is. A good parent is someone who keeps you save. He failed you in more ways then one
Thank you for this !! You’re giving us the perspective of little chiquis and it’s good for awareness for other parents to know the signs !
this sounds so similar to my story… my dad, and 2 cousins. crazy how a lot of us have the same stories by the most important men in our lives. ive always felt crazy for my story- stories! it takes a strong person to talk about their abuse. you probably saved somebody’s life.
Know that you helped many of us who have been through this. Forgiveness has to be for you not the other person!! 💞💞💞
Thank you so sharing Chiquis. I cried as a survivor. Thank you for opening up. Gosh chiquis thank you. I am not what happen to me . I never will be.
Thank you for this Chiquis. This is my first time tuning in & I really needed this ❤️❤️
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH CHIQUIS!..YOUR VOICE NEEDS TO BE HEARD‼️💯
I want to say all these beautiful ladies that have survived, you guys are truly angels and i wish nothing but happiness for your guys lifes ❤️❤️❤️
Love you Chiquis, I see you. It takes a lot of strength to be this vulnerable. I’m proud of you for speaking your truth, you’re not alone.
You telling your story is something that a lot of people that went threw it like my self and other woman won’t ever say a word and stay quite and be afraid more so I’m glad you told your story to aware other woman and girls don’t be afraid to speak 🗣 speak up 🆙 cause it can get worst 💯
I am so proud of you speaking your truth. The use of your flat forms to help people is great.
Amen
Subscribed! Wow what an amazing story you are so strong so brave to share this. I’ve been crying through out this whole video I hope one day I’ll be as brave as you to be able to tell someone about my assaults
Chiquis is such an amazing soul and very strong woman and she is right.. this trauma starts to come and surface once your older. I admire her so much. Thank you for speaking up about this topic and being brave enough to speak about your testimony ♥️ Sending hugs
Mija I am so proud of you. Thank you for helping so many with all this! May God always keep you safe and keep you free!!
It’s so sad how much this can consume you in so many ways as a little kid until now as an adult…At this point as an adult I try to let it go but the emotions and flashbacks hit me even more so now that I just want this to be in my past..
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. This topic is fr so taboo in our culture. I pray anyone going through sa gets the help they need 🙏
He wasn’t a good dad. A “dad”is supposed to cook for his child and is supposed to show them how to wash clothes etc so the child can do it on their own. That doesn’t make them a good dad. A good dad doesn’t harm their kids. There is a difference between love and providing food and shelter.
Hi Chiquis, I have always admired you! The things you have been through is crazy. Thank you for sharing your story. It definitely helps many people with their own stories to speak up. I am no one to judge your decisions. I respect you, and I wish nothing but blessings and good vibes for you and your siblings. #JenniForever
I cried so much reading your book because I could relate to it. I cry now when I remember but not only because I was a little girl , I wish I could hug my youngest self sometimes
Thabk you for sharing this and being so open and vulnerable.
OMGOODNESS ...CHIQUIS,,,I AM BECOMING YOUR #1 FAN !! keep living, keep smiling, keep loving NEVER EVER LOSE YOUR FAITH IN GOD ! YOU ARE A INSPIRATION AND THANK U FOR TELLING US YOUR TRUTH...HELPING US WHO CANT OPEN UP. COPE ❤️🙏
Awareness is key. Thank you for sharing 💗
oh my gosh i can't even imagine going through anything like this. I'm so thankful my mom talked to me at such a young age on what was okay and what wasn't. Definitely saved me from this happening bc i was able to advocate for myself bc i knew it was wrong.
This happened to me with my step dad when I was 11 I’m 20 now and still haven’t told my mom I’m scared they both will say I’m lying especially since it’s been so long. I’m so thankful God never gave him a daughter only 3 sons.
You did the right thing chiquis by testifying against your dad. You probably saved a lot of other children that he could have hurt if you wouldn’t have spoke up!! Because till this day your dad is still not remorseful, he has not came to you and even asked your forgiveness yet !! That tells me that he still doesn’t own what he did to you , nor is he sorry about it. Unfortunately!!!’ He is right where he needs to be.
You don’t know, what he needed is therapy, prison doesn’t help much.
Somehow this is so comforting… Just hearing someone elses story, sadly. My mother never believed me. I’m sooooo glad you have the mother you have because of her backing you up and standing behind you 1000 % you are the person you are now!
A person who loves you doesn't hurt you. He is a narcissist who was a great dad so he didn't feel guilty about what he was doing to his own kids.
This is heartbreaking thank you for sharing ur so strong 🥺🥺🥺
i needed this. emotionally & mentally i needed to hear this. thank you Chiquis deeply 🙏🏼🤍
Chiquis Youve been through Sooooooo much .. i hurt for you , i relate to your story...my respects to you .. your mentality remains positive which helps me on days im mad at the world
I truly admire your honesty and your heart. You are so amazing Chiquis. I hope you know that :)
So heartbreaking ❤️🩹 you’re so so strong. 😭
WOW Chiquis I admire your strength to be so vulnerable & do what was right despite your fear❤ You are the epitome of your mother! And your story, your platform is helping so, so many people!! Keep being real it looks good on you! God bless you❤🙏❤
I’m sorry this happened to you Chiquis… this is terrible.. specially as a child. I hope you’re okay & find peace of mind.
Poor baby, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope those who get abused speak up, there’s always someone that’ll help ❤ GOD BLESS the good
Poor Chiquis man this soo sad she been threw soo much! I’m glad u went to therapy and got help that defitely helped ur healing! Your dad is a sick person and deserves to stay n jail for life!
He was not a good dad! He took the purest part from you. That’s an evil thing.
DIOS MiO!! I was listening to this horrible but true story and I cried the whole time. I pray for you and your family for God to give you the strength to go on. God bless you Chiquis. 🙏 🙏 🙏
You are incredibly well spoken! Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you.
Thank you Chiquis for bringing light to do this it has made me think of something I chose to pretend it never happened
I stumbled upon 1 of your podcasts. Well I'm hooked. U r so humble, smart, and beautiful person inside and out. Chingona.
Chiquis your dad is in jail bc HE TOUCHED YOU! It is not your fault AT ALLL EVER! Love you you’re so so strong ❤
He is jail
Told my man about my experience and he’s so supportive of me but his family is very traditional in mex he told me they could never know or they won’t love me it’s sad but I’m moving forward to the point where I don’t need everyone to know cuz unfortunately not everyone is accepting or understanding thank you for sharing your story
and theyre apart of the problem girly
The MOST important thing about these horrible situations is WHAT WILL THE PARENT DO?
that changes EVERYTHING.
I needed to hear this for my own situation
This story made me cry. My son is 9 and I could not imagine if someone ever would hurt him in this way.
Definitely you are helping a lot of people Chiquis , including my self ❤.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏼♥️
Anyone out there reading this, the abuse you suffered was an experience nobody deserves but we are the unlucky few, but don’t dwell on it or waste any
More negative thoughts, live and do what makes you happy what counts is what you do with your life now
I was abused by my uncle and I've never told anyone! But hearing this podcast now. I feel that I can tell my mom even though it's been sometime. But I'll be damned if I let little girl get near him.
ur strong! if no one believes i just know i do ☹️🖤❤️🩹
It's never too late to speak up. I was 5. I am now 27, and I told my mother this year. I've been moved on from it, but I thought it was important to speak up and educate my mother on the importance of boundaries with people because a lot of Hispanic/Latino parents force us to hug and talk to and fully trust our uncles, aunts and family friends. It's ok to remove family members who don't believe you. You know your truth.
That part when you said 31 years ,, he’s responsible for his own actions 💯
God bless you chiquis 🙏🏼❤️ god has given you the strength to help others so they can heal and come to him. Praise god 🙏🏼 I love this podcast!
Absolutely jaw dropping hearing your story. Thank you for sharing such a heartbreaking story.. I'm a NEW sub today 👍 and I wanna thank your for your content 💙 😉.. Take care and know that your much APPRECIATED 🤗🤗😊😉 Til next time, OLD G
Forgiveness is The Key !!! Yessss you are Right !! God is Great ! Thank you for sharing your story ❤🙏🏻🙏🏻God bless you
I never told anyone, then at 16 I went on vacation with my moms best friend and she caught me slippin. I was swimming in the beautiful ocean, and she just asked " did soso do something to you"
And without even thinking I spit out the truth.😢
She told my mom and when I got back home my mom gave me the option to handle it however I wanted. She said it was my chance to get my revenge.... 16 yr old me was too scared so I said no let's just never talk to him again.
And we never saw him or spoke to him again. I'm glad everyone believed me, he was my favorite uncle 💔
Thank you for sharing your story ❤
This is so painful for us to go through not just fathers to do this but our brothers to do this...I have so much to say, but I am doing the therapy...I love you for just talking about this....
Thank you Chiquis for sharing.
I cried, thank you for sharing 🫶
Thanks for listening
I think its important to teach our kids about boundaries with people especially with family and family friends. When I was young I was always told to speak to ,hug, and fully trust family I didn't know what was ok and not ok for family to do. When I didn't feel comfortable around someone I was still forced to interact with them because it would be rude not to, we need to stop forcing our children to say hi or be around people they're not comfortable with. It's very important we teach and talk to our kids about these topics its uncomfortable but it's necessary. Make sure you're involved in your kids lives, social media, online games, so that they can feel comfortable speaking to you about anything.
You are so right 💜,thank you for sharing.
I could never forgive something like this. I’m sorry, but you never forget something like this. 😮 no. Thank you for sharing your story. You are a good person for still believing your dad is good man.
Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you Chiquis!! You’re so brave!!🙏🏼✝️🥰
Thank you for being transparent. You gave all of us a voice, when we can’t speak up for ourselves…..Thank God your mom believed you. Not everyone is that lucky 🥲
I’m so sorry🥺 exactly how I saw the movie de La Mariposa 😔 you’ll help so many people to speak up after this video
First time hearing this and I can also relate when she said she had a good dad after everything
Man it really is in our community. I know from also being a victim. It wasn’t my dad but it was family
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼
Beautiful this will help so many
This happened to my little sister and it breaks my heart I couldn’t do anything, our family really swept it under the rug it was our aunts husband.
I understand.. and may God make you even 🙏 better for opening up and trying to help others. I understand Tabu.. Hurts a lot. I lived in Long Beach as well. We went to the Library ... I have a daughter named Vanessa and Erica. Makes me wonder if I know you. But know you are helping so many! I'm so proud you are strong enough to still find the true love you can still have. I've learned Amor , Agape. Which is Love with Principles ....Love truly covers a multitude is Sins.
Ill follow your Pod.
Being blamed or not believed is worse than the abuse itself
That is absolutely true. The original "trauma" can be dealt with easily. The domino effect of self blame, shame, and distrust among many other patterns of thinking are what destroy people. It has taken me years to realize what you've said.
This is really sad I’m sorry you had to go thru this 😢
I wish I had a mom like Jenni who believed me and helped me 😕
Same😢
This made me cry 😭 so sorry this happened to you and Rosie 😡, Jenny was the best mother and artist and human being 💕🩷 we all miss her too 🙌🏼🫶🏼
Am glad you are doing well and healing..❤❤❤❤❤❤ echale ganas chula!!
Thank you for speaking on this, I was raped and molested by a family friend from 7-9. It is crazy, and your emotions you felt were the same I felt and still feel until this day. I never pressed charges because I was so afraid 😭 and wish I did now.
@Marco Que te importa!
New Subscriber love your podcast
OMG I am sorry that happened to you and your brave for sharing your story. I pray God is with you ❤
i have the chills im sorry chikis
Thank you for sharing your history. I love you and admire you so much! I’m proud of you!❤
Omg!!!!! I need to talk about it with u I was watching Hulu and seeeing your aunts story… I m a victims and my daughter and my niece and still living it!!!!
I spoke out about what happened to me! I was molested by my Step Uncle! His name is Porfirio Parga Jr and lives in Tucson, AZ!! I spoke up at she 12 and nothing EVER happened to him!! He's molested others as well. I feel my Dad & StepMom we're not good enough advocates for me!! I can't be around him, I leave family functions if he shows up. I wish somebody fought for me & made him pay but no. But he has to go in front of God & answer for what he did!!!
I am truly sorry my love for all the pain and suffering you have gone through... Not having the people who should be there for you , be your voice and have your back!! Just know I know your pain and yes he will answer to God!! I love you more than you know and I will always be there for you ❤❤