FAMILY ESTRANGEMENT: A Session with Dr. Joe DeBruin

Dr. Joe DeBruin, a clinical psychologist, provides a general framework to explain the extremely common experience of family estrangement. It includes specific strategies to end estrangement and experience reconciliation. The video provides three excellent book resources on this important topic.
FURTHER READING
“Rules of Estrangement” by Joshua Coleman
www.amazon.com/Rules-Estrange...
“Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child” by Tina Gilbertson
www.amazon.com/Reconnecting-Y...
“Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them” by Karl Pillemer
www.amazon.com/Fault-Lines-Fr...
00:00 Intro
01:10 Statistics about family estrangement
02:40 Why family estrangement happens
04:08 Books about family estrangement
05:35 The role of differentiation
08:27 Does reconciliation require a loss of self?
08:51 Why is this wound so powerful to me?
09:25 Empathy / perspective-taking
09:38 Unambiguous progress markers
10:01 Don’t force interpretations of past events on others
10:31 Don’t prioritize processing the past
11:10 Don’t force change
11:32 Don’t require an apology
11:56 Consider your role in the rift
12:15 The aftermath of reconciliation
12:46 Summary
Connect with Dr. DeBruin at joedebruin.com
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I appreciate the geek insight, as opposed to psychology 101 version.
You very briefly touched upon divorce component. I have been trying to cure the specialized subspecies, parental alienation syndrome. PAS is more insidious than adult alienation, as it's so much deeply rooted, especially when done in the formulative years. DSM might not recognize it, for what I believe are 'political' reasons, but I know it to be more real and painful than anything and I have held my SIDS baby in my hands.
I know the field has more insight since Richard Gardner's seminal work, so would your reading list be the same or do you know anything more PAS specialized? I'm open to research papers and not just books.
Thanks for the great channel!