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Thoughts on how to handle babies and toddlers sitting through church
How I currently schedule my day to balance all the family and work responsibilities
My tips for planning out and accomplishing work tasks for the week
Thoughts on adding a new baby to your family in the midst
How we approach baby sleep throughout the baby’s first year
An update on some of our ups and downs with having a dairy cow
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One Sunday when in church many children/babies where crying and running around and priest observed some people being bothered by it and he said "When you no longer hear those noises in the church it will be the end of the church because the noise of children in the future of the church; they are our future". Never be ashamed to bring your child to church, built the habit from young. Thanks for sharing!!
We go to a very old-timey Baptist church. Just the main church part, a foyer and two bathrooms. We have two babies and several toddlers in the congregation right now. Everyone says the same thing, we would all rather hear the babies in church. That's life and hope for a church. Take them out if they are screaming and keep going to church. It can be stressful in the beginning and feel wearisome at times but they learn so fast as they get older how to sit still and be quiet. Quiet and still for an hour or so is totally doable from about 2-3 years old and a valuable skill for kids to have.
THIS!!! Yes!!! Also I trained my kids at home. Practice runs at home & make it fun but also familiar. My oldest just turned 3 & youngest is 14 months & I don’t even pack much anymore. We fell into a groove & we all know what to expect. I have a difficult time focusing BUT training them made it possible again (training does NOT mean discipline- training is proactive & discipline reactive)
You say how you’re wondering why to answer these questions you’ve already talked about a million times. Well that’s actually what I like about your channel(s). It’s the consistency and your honest answers to the same questions BUT in different seasons of your life which makes it so that there are little snippets here and there throughout these different seasons that make it all fall into place. It helps me a ton to relax a lot more about things that I would usually stress about or question myself about. I think all this to say that I like the way you’re pretty much the only CZcamsr I know who talks through the different seasons of one subject. If that makes sense? 😅
I agree too! She explains things in such a refreshing way everytime ilh!!!
“If you were my sister, I would tell you have the baby. That’s what I’m sayin’” 🎉 yes! 🙌🏽😄 I love it Lisa! Fun episode 😊❤
I watched this just for the sleep training. I have a 5 month old, 5th child. I’m so tired from not sleeping! I keep thinking: if only I can sleep train now! And I did try a couple of months ago, and it worked, but then she started rolling over, and now we’re back to square 1. It does work better closer to a year since they’re pretty self-sufficient in their movement by then. But I’m just so tired, I can’t wait
Thank you for being honest and encouraging her to just have the baby! You'll never regret the babies you have. Anything else can be figured out. Her business might even improve! Sounds like she's trying to do everything at once and that might be pushing it. She needs to remember that there is a season for everything and, if you squeeze everything into one season, something will fail. It's better to calm down, do the baby thing during your baby years, and know that you can make money anytime.
So sorry to hear about the passing of your milk cow :(
I think Lisa is giving so much great “older” woman advice. Thank you Lisa for helping the younger women!!!!
And she’s still so young.
@@theresabrown1272 Exactly!!!
Love the solo episodes!
That’s so interesting about the dairy cow journey! Thank you for risking the judgement of the internet and sharing what’s been happening 😅
Just another perspective for others also looking in the comments for suggestions :) i am a 29 year old mom of 4 under 7, i take my newborns with me in my wrap into church with us until they’re so big that they’re starting to become more interested in the world, not sleeping so much, wanting to nurse as much, etc. then they start going to nursery, the big kids go into their classes & my husband and i go into the main church service. It’s one of my favorite time of the week. My husband and i get our time together with the lord, my kids get taught on a level they understand & they look forward to church & seeing their friends. I have a hard time focusing with the kids in there, i want to keep making sure they’re good & not fussing & i feel like it turns into a very stressful time & i don’t even hardly take in any of the teaching! It’s worked out so well so far! just another perspective if your personality may be more like mine! It’s also been such a blessing to have so many wonderful people pouring into & loving our kids! ❤
Aw I feel this way too! I’m 29 with 3 under 5. It is SO nice to worship and listen to the sermon with my husband. The kids are being cared for in their classes and get to wiggle around while hearing about Jesus. ☺️
I basically got nothing out of church til my son was old enough to be in nursery. When he was with me I wouldn't process a single word of the sermon, it had been such a blessing to actually get something out of church again. As he approached 1 I would leave him in nursery for 30/45 min then go pick him up mid service, til he could handle the full time :)
Definitely do what works for you, I needed my kids to be away, so I am not needing to think about books and snacks and colors and let them be with kids their age and doing activities that cater to them. I prefer to be kid free while listening to message.
Interesting perspectives here. Thank you for sharing. My church has a nursery for children ages 18 mo to 3 years for the second hour of classes (the year they’re 4 they get to start children’s Sunday school). We have sacrament meeting the first hour for the entire congregation. The mothers’ lounge has a speaker so we can still hear service if we have fussy or nursing babies. Sometimes there’s a couple classrooms with speakers too, so dads who leave with kids can listen as well. 😁 It’s a pretty sweet setup. It would be odd not to hear the little voices whispering too loud or singing with abandon the songs they know too.
This was SOOOO helpful in so many ways. Thanks, Lisa!!
Thanks ❤
Great conversations
Thank you forever for Inspiring All of us So much !!!❤❤❤😊😊😊😁
Yes, have the baby!
Great informative video - Thank you! 😊 I have a barn so everyone thinks I must have a cow or horse - nope! There are so many family owned farms near me that I can buy what I can’t produce/grow at home. Eggs are the easiest and I grow some fresh produce, but I love supporting local farmers. My husband jokes that the barn is his future work shop once the chickens learn they’re supposed to live in the coup. 😂
I typically always enjoy your interviews but I really love these solo podcasts! ❤
thank you!
I love your parenting style! I had the same instincts to do things exactly that way with my babies with sleeping and nursing ,but I wish I had the confidence and peace to not second guess my own instincts as a mother, finally at almost 40 and 5 kids later I’m starting to trust my own motherly instincts and stop allowing others cause me to second guess myself and influence me so much
Enjoyed listening while my little grandson was napping and I was crocheting. So sorry to hear about your cow. Y’all take care and God bless y’all! 😀❤️
Thanks for your honesty, Lisa ! Truly appreciate hearing about your experiences, be it with bringing up children, taking care of the home, cooking or hens ! 😊
LOVE the solo episodes! Specifically home/farm life and the business!
Bummer to hear how cautious you needed to be about talking about your cow (sorry to hear of her death!). Animals die, despite our best efforts! We just had our two cats die on the same day and have no idea what happened and neither did the vet. Judgemental people need to check their assumptions. Anyway, thanks for another great episode! We're close to the same age but I'm a new mom and your advice and perspective is so helpful!! My mom is unable to be there for me at all and it's people like you who've given me the no-nonsense, experienced long view that helps keep my new mom anxiety in check. Thank you!
Thank you so much!
Love loved this episode where you did a Q & A session. :)
Thank you!
I’m so sorry you lost your cow. ❤
hey girl- this was oh so good!😀🥰 Y'all have a wonderful week😁
Thank you so much 🤗
Lisa I just love you! Thanks for speaking into my motherhood and homemaking journey. You are so wise but gracious and balanced ♥️
thank you!
Your podcasts are always fun to watch, both interesting and entertaining. Your filming is so well done & you’re great at explaining how to do something - I’m going to tackle bread baking any day now!
I’m so glad you talked about the vintage stoneware bowls. I thought maybe they’d been handed down. I completely agree with using things even if they do get broken.
Thank you....give bread a try!
I do too!!!
Maybe one day you could talk more about your experience with goat milk 😊 my background /experience is with sheep and goats so I have always thought about getting a milk goat once we have property.
Another good podcast!
thank you!
It’s ok!
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m currently milking 5 goats twice a day. It’s such a blessing and it’s fun but wow is it a lot of work! God bless you and your family. I have learned so much from you over the years. You’re the one who tuned me into raw milk in the first place ❤
thank you for sharing!!
My husband is a pastor, I play piano, and all our children are in church with us. I understand it is hard but they do catch on and it is worth it. I disagree that a four yo won’t get much out of the service. Even 1yo understand some things. :)
The No Cry Sleep Solution is a good resource for transitioning to sleeping alone, but without the crying.
You should hear our church ! 🙉 Everyone takes there children to church service the only nursery we have is for the mamas to go in and take care of there babies. And most of our families have up to eight children. As a grandmother now it is hard to hear if the parents do not take the child out of they throw a fit . But yes very kid friendly.
Regarding the beds next to the windows, even with good windows, it is chillier close the window in the winter, and hotter next to the window in the summer. Lots of old houses have older windows too, so that makes it even better to pull those beds away.
It has worked for us!
I have 5 and approach sleep very similar to you, maybe slightly earlier (like 6 months) I get more into a routine with sleep. Works great for us!
Thanks for sharing!!
I love your podcast... you are like the sister I wish I had or the daughter I always wanted. ..P.s I have 3 daughters and 2 sons.
Whenever I have had babies, I am always sitting in the back of the church or foyer where I can still hear the message. I don't think I put my kids in the nursery at church until they were 3 and older.
Loved learning your answers for all of these. My babies have always gone to bed around 9 pm or something and then I put them to bed at around 7 as they got older.
Thanks for sharing with us!
Glad the little ones in church was talked about! I am a first time momma with an under 1 yr old and I needlessly stressed sooo much over this in the beginning and would leave church feeling frustrated and drained. I kept trying to stay during the service but would constantly be stepping out to feed, diaper change (he always pooped at church 🤦♀️), quiet his energetic self, etc. Finally i started staying back in the nursery during service and helping with the 2 and under. It was such a special time to spend with the kiddos, I have been feeling refreshed serving instead of consuming, and the whole situation convicted me of the fact that if I am waiting for Sunday to be my only time of bible study and communion with God (which is ultimately why i was trying so hard to make it work) something wasnt quite right. Im confident youll figure out what works best for your situation. Hope this helps!
Thanks for sharing with us!
Would love to hear an interview with Rachel the Good (David the Good's wife) about homeschool and recipes for southern/tropical root veg.
I always appreciate hearing your perspective on all these different topics. I'm so sorry about your milk cow. Question, why not feed excess milk to chickens and pigs? The book, The Independent Farmstead (I've visited their place) says they feed clabbered milk along with soaked wheat, root veggies, butchering scraps, etc to pigs and chickens and the milk takes care of the protein requirements
Though i realize extra animals would br extra work 🙂
Also to add to little kids in church:
Some kids have ADHD or other things going on, and it’s actually impossible to sit still. I’d rather have them grow up with a positive association of church where they get to wiggle around in their nursery/class than constantly being corrected. ❤️
yes Moms know what's best for their own children
Keeping furniture away from walls just looks better. Smashing furniture up to walls looks crowded. That’s just my 65 year old opinion ❤
More solo episodes! But also please interview Britton LaTulippe 😄
There's so much scrap metal left from previous owners on old acerages.. small nails, hinges etc. It's so difficult to find it all.. that's not your fault! I find old nails all the time
Sorry about the cow! 😢
thank you!
Oh, I wish I could go to the Homesteading expo, it's in my town 😊 how cool that you'll be here! Sorry about the loss of your cow. Have you considered a mini jersey cow? I heard they have about half the amount of milk of a full sized cow? I had been considering it, they have some locally here.
Sorry you won't be able to come....still considering all our options on the dairy cow choices....
❤PRO life ❤
For me there has been a lot of pressure to keep my kids, one just turned 2 and the other is almost 1, in church from the older women at church because “that’s what they did” or that’s what they think is right. As a young mom it definitely makes Sundays more stressful than they probably need to be.
You just need to decide for yourself what will work best for you and your family
Thank you for being a Titus 2 woman for some of us who don’t have that!!! Love your videos 🫶🏼
Her answers are so simply explained, i love listening to Lisa’s mind, shes such a blessing to other Mothers & Homemakers, praise GOD!
thanks for listening!
Your skin looks amazing and no wrinkles on your forehead! Please share any tips! Thanks!!
Thank you....I can only say I use Toups and Co. products and you all know how I eat....
@@Simplefarmhouselife thank you! Have a beautiful day!
My babies went to the nursery until they were 5, so they never had a problem with staying there. When I took them into church we did things to make it work for them~go to the bathroom before, make sure they're comfortable, take certain things that will quietly occupy them, and also be ok with sleeping while they're young. They learned very quickly to sit through without a problem. Also~farm animals die. There are many things that can happen even when doing all the things, and we don't always know what that is. You shouldn't have to explain yourself. 😉
My baby slept all night at 6 weeks. I can't imagine being woken 9 times a night.
I'd love to know more about how you sleep train between 9 months to a year!
Same
I follow you on You-Tube
I usually don’t follow your podcasts
But this was pretty interesting
Her podcasts are awesome! Definitely watch more of them. Lots of great conversations on an array of topics.
thank you!
What time do your older kids go to bed?
My kids are all over the age of 10 now. Our church didn’t have nursery workers, but we did have a preschool age childcare room for ages 2-4. I spent so many services in the foyer with my babies.
Currently our church has a lot of babies and toddlers. I struggle when the parents do not take their whining and crying babies out. We do have a speaker in the foyer and in the nursery. I think they just want their kids to have the expectation that they won’t get to go out of service and play every time they whine. I’m not sure it’s an effective strategy 😂. Like you said… they will learn to sit through at an appropriate age.
“If you were my sister I’d tell you to have the baby” I love you!!! 😊❤
haha...thanks for listening!
I am a morning person and like to use my mornings to read my Bible and then get ahead on chores. To give myself more time in the morning with out my early riser children in my way we have a sleep training clock. It's called Mella and is on amazon. It has a face that's awake during day time and sleeps at night time. You can set when bed time and day time is. It has a green light that comes on in the morning to tell your child it's ok to get out of bed. I have 5 kids right now only my 4 year old needs it. But if she wakes up before then light turns green she just sits in her bed and plays with her stuffed animals until the light turns green. It's very helpful for the early rising children. It was also helpful when we transition from crib to bed, because many children think when they wake in the middle of the night it's time to get up. But they can look at the clock and see it's still night time(sleepy face) and know to stay in bed. I usually sleep train mine around 9-12 months too and I google how many hours they are supposed to sleep at that age. Subtract how much I want them to sleep at night and make sure their nap or naps are not longer than the left over hours. Waking them up from a nap it needed. I do this every 3 month or so to make sure they are getting enough sleep. The sleep training clock also has a nap setting with an alarm to wake your child after a set amout of time. Making sure they are always going down at the same time helps alot. If I need to adjust nap time. For example I wanted to move my son's nap back by an hour so we could start going to story time at the library I start a few days early and adjust by 15-30 minutes each day. Always make sure you child has at least 30 minutes extra time in bed than what their needed sleep for their age is. I have done this even setting bed times for my old kids even into teens.
Listening to the chat about baby sleep schedules did give me a few things to try but cry it out has not worked for us. My daughter is 2.5 years old and still comes to our bed most nights at some point. This is also the child that won't go to sleep without me rocking her and when I tried cry it out....I caved after multiple hours of it not working. My son is 15 months old and currently teething and waking up 4-10 times per night to need soothing and comfort before he will fall back asleep and you can lay him down in his bed. It's a challenge for us right now for sure. I was desperate enough to consider paying for a program but I'm thinking that paying for a program probably won't solve the problem.
I've heard that the older you sleep train, the harder the battle. Their habits are more ingrained, they are stronger, and can cry longer and louder.
@@RCGWho we started with both kids prior to one year old and it's just not worked. I'm sure it's us, I'm just at a loss on fixing it. My oldest just likes cosleeping and snuggles and the youngest was doing great until teething so now it just feels like we don't sleep. Lol
@@minifarmwife6753 well, you have to be somewhat hardcore for it to work, as in committed and persevere. Most women are too tired to deal with it. Prayers you'll sort it out.
I'm sorry, that is difficult!
Is your michigan trip fo rbusiness? Id love to schedule a trip with my daughter (who is your age) to see you speak. 😊
I’m sorry about your cow ! I grew up on a dairy farm and occasionally one of them would get hardware , most times a magnet worked because we knew what to watch for . I think I’d still be able to spot it by how the cow acted , sunken eyes arched back ,that and ketosis I still remember how there breath smells with that .And dairy farmers didn’t go on vacation 😅.
I'm sure they don't. What good life experience for you though.
About the sleeping thing.. I co-slept until my little was too mobile, she refused to sleep once mobile unless in her crib. Anyway, this is what worked for me.. any time baby woke up in the middle of the night, I would attempt to get her back to sleep by patting her, "shhh shhh shhh", putting the paci back in her mouth, anything that comforted her. If it didn't work, then I knew she needed to nurse and/or be changed, but this process taught her to sleep longer and she was sleeping through the night by 2mo. Maybe this can help someone. Try to get them back to sleep, within reason, to teach them to soothe and learn to sleep longer. ❤
thanks for sharing!
Maybe try dairy sheep. Less milk to deal with and no goaty taste 😬
Sorry to hear about your cow. What happened to her calves?
Could you please share the link for your sister meat, I would like to check them out. Thank you!!
sure...NewHartfordFarmCo.com
Is your 15 year old interested in a little side business? Maybe the milk selling would be a good teenager job??
I'm sorry you haven't had a kiddo sleep through the night on their own. I know my wife and I were very lucky with our son. I dealt with a lot of the nighttime stuff, by three months he was sleeping for a block of about 4 hours. so I would get from 12-4 or so, by six months was closer to a regular six. Of the struggles of parenting we've been through, I'm thankful that wasn't one of them. We got to deal with the stresses of exclusively pumping, so there's that. (And I will confess, exclusive pumping is like the best of both worlds for dad.)
I'm surprised it is legal to sell whole raw cow milk. Our family had a Jersey and we sold the extra but that was ages ago when I was young and growing up. I understood it became illegal to sell it in the 60's or 70's. Has that changed.
Depends on what state you live in.
@@EveryPeachInReach yes, I've been researching that some. Thanks for your reply.
Not where I live but it varies from state to state and country to country
It's legal in Idaho. Anyone can sell it, and we can buy it almost any grocery store too!
Glad to know it is legal in at least some states!!
Lisa, I'm really sorry to hear that your cow died. 😢
thank you!
We have very similar styles in parenting with our babies. My 11th baby is 6 months old and the nights can be tough! But I feel like it’s easier to just nurse baby back to sleep than worry about a young baby crying for me and I do love the baby snuggles. Plus I also know that my supply suffers greatly once my babies are finally sleeping at night. My very first two I tried all the tricks to get them to sleep through the night only for them to not sleep through the night until 9months. So we choose to just roll with it. Our 10th baby was the absolute worst though so when he was a year old we finally put his bed in the bathroom (very large bathroom) and closed the door. It only took two nights and he was sleeping so much better. I have no regrets in how we’ve done it. It’s amazing as young moms we can question sooooo many things, but as a more seasoned mother now (I’m 38 and my oldest is 20) I have much more confidence and just roll with the punches 😅
I haven't watched the video yet but this is so reassuring for me. I am a young mom of 2. I second guess EVERYTHING I do, especially when it comes to baby sleep. I sleep-trained my first (he still woke up 3x to feed after that since I didn't want to cut breastfeeding yet) and my second I made him het used to sleep alone from the get-go. I am sure that this was the best decision for my family but I also can't help but feel affected sometimes by what other say. I am happy to have communities where we can ask more seasoned moms about their experience!
Is buying raw milk from a separate family legal where you live? Here in Canada, it's almost impossible to do because no one is willing to admit they offer it for legal reasons!
Yes it is legal where I live.
My daughter-in-law''s pony just died last week from the some thing as your cow.
What a bummer...I didn't know ponies could have that happen too....
Maybe you could sell your milk to another farmer who sells milk for wholesale and they can resell it? That might be too much for legality but an idea if you end up with too much milk again!
Raw milk is $20/gallon in Southeastern NC 😭
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Wow!
I’m sorry..did you say $15/gallon?? Who is paying that?? My family goes through 2 gallons/week. Though I would love to get fresh raw milk, there is no way I could justify spending $30/week on it. Is it really worth that? Is that a normal going rate? Maybe I’m out of touch with that kind of thing, but that just sounds insanely expensive to me for milk!!🤯🤑🥛
I've found that milk prices vary from area to area. Where we live, you have to be in a herdshare to purchase the raw milk and due to timing and situations we are actually members of two herdshares. The farms are approximately 2(ish) hours apart from each other. Different counties, different demographics and one is priced at $5 per gallon and another at $10 per gallon. In the same state in yet a different area, I know of farms that are priced at $13-$15 per gallon.
That being said, I think the worth it question is something each individual has to decide on their own after researching raw milk vs. conventional milk. Personally, our family goes through 3-4 gallons per week currently and we've made the decision that it's worth it for us to do until there is a time we can have our own dairy cow.
My opinion probably isn't the one you were looking for but hopefully you get something out of it. 😊 Have a great day!
@@minifarmwife6753 that’s actually quite helpful. Thank you!! We recently bought a 50 acre property in a rural area of AR and I’m slowly becoming acquainted with the lifestyle changes. We came from a large home in the Atlanta suburbs and we are now living in a camper (family of 5) on our property while we build our home. I would love to slowly get further from buying our food products from stores and transition to supporting local farmers in my area and growing my own garden. Just wasn’t sure how much to expect that to alter my family’s grocery budget. I’ve sourced local honey, beef, & pork..but not milk as of yet, though I know it is available near me. Just hoping the price here is more in the $5-10 range per gallon bc hearing $15 gave me a bit of sticker shock!!😅🤑
@laurenhinman8861 congratulations on the move and props to you for living in a camper as a family of 5. I used to say I could do that for a duration and then actually went camping in one as a family of 4 with one on the way and the bed alone changed my mind. 😁
We progressed to where we our in our food journey over many years and after having kids we were more comfortable with raw milk than conventional milk. Not to say the kids have never had conventional milk because we aren't perfect but for us, we were more comfortable with their main source of milk being raw dairy.
Once you get your farm up and going, after the infrastructure, you may find your "grocery" bill is lower or shifted to elsewhere. I can't say our lifestyle is cheap or inexpensive by any means but for us the value outweighs the cost. There are a number of things in this lifestyle that can save you money, especially gardening if you build up the skills and put the sweat equity in. 😁 Best of luck!
@@minifarmwife6753 thank you!! Yup, that’s the plan!!🥰🙏🏼
😮😮 15$ a gallon ! Who can afford that !? Our children grew up on local farm raw milk we have seven and we used a gallon every day when they were all at home . We paid 1.50 a gallon for years !
About the cow and eating metal.. i’m betting this is a problem around the world. But here in Norway there Are big campaigns to keep people from throwing soda cans etc.. out of car Windows, or out in nature at all. It gets in to the fields, and eventually in to the animals food. Don’t know why, but this is basically only a problem with cows, and is rearly seen with sheep.
I learn something new all the time with animals...
I wondered what happened to your cow..... animals die... it is a part of life.... so many people don't understand life and death of anything anymore....
yes, that is definitely a part of real life
Maybe your older kids would be interested in selling extra raw milk?
Please look up alternatives to sleep training. Sleep training is such an American thing. Most of the rest of the world does not do this. Look into alternatives
What people don't know who haven't done sleep training is that if you do it via a rhythm and schedule, most babies sleep through on their own without crying at about 6 weeks. If you train later, you have to deal with some crying, if that's your concern. Many cases that I've heard, it only takes 2 or 3 days with not a whole lot of crying. For some women, demand feeding works. Some women need their sleep and they should not feel bad about it. When I had my first, I started the symptoms of celiac disease and git down to 96 lbs. Having a baby that slept was a lifesaver until I got diagnosed. After my second, my Dad was murdered and then I had my 3rd baby. Sleep again was a life saver while my Dad was missing and I was a wreck.