DATING NIGERIAN MEN IN LAGOS NIGERIA | Culture Shock Nigeria | It's Iveoma
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- Dating Nigerian Men In Lagos, Nigeria. The biggest culture shock I have experienced in Lagos Nigeria. This video is about how married men dominate the dating scene on the Island in Lagos, Nigeria. Building relationships, platonic, or romantic is an essential aspect of relocating to an African country. So I am sharing my experiences here, so all of you know the deal.
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Who else has had this experience? LOL
It's Iveoma I’ve had this experience, but it’s right here in the states. I thought getting married would mean less men would hit on me. Nope, black men steady try and talk to me. Even after I say I’m married. It’s just a cultural thing I guess.
It's Iveoma hey sis I listen to your story and all I can say just be careful out there about mens who tryna impressed you for the money you know just keep that in mind 😉
Yesssss! My ex is Nigerian, he is Igbo and his name is Chika. Need I say more 😒
Haha Im preparing to move to Nigeria so this is great information 😂
Men are naturally polygynous and African Men are proudly so.
However, while those in the West are hypocritical about it, Nigerian men are comfortable bringing it to the knowledge of their families and friends.
Although, while the Christians would keep the ladies as Mistresses and concubines, the Muslims are more likely to marry them legally in accordance with Islamic rites and afford the women equal rights and privileges.
“Yeah, I am. Is that a problem?” 🤣🤣🤣 tears
I’m enjoying your stories
Tolani!! I want to meet you LOL
We lowkey should meet up. ASAP
Haha! Let’s do sometime next week.
Please remind me too 🙈
Loollllllll killed me.
Low key reminder here. Where is the T-Ive collaboration guys? Please share.
"The dating scene..and how its dominated by married men." 😂 Im not even a minute through and im like "lawwwwd." 🤦🏿♀️😂 Ok, let me finish watching. Lol
LOL! I know right, it’s a crazy sentence
Girl, yes...
@@CalabarSweetii It's wild!
Ha ha ha, our men need Christ. I'm glad that I am born again.
I can't laugh Oo, have you heard of "bye bye to yeye boyfriend". Ladies here make interested men try too hard, men that most time's available to buy their needs are the uncourtious married ones.
In Nigeria I just think its soooooo common for married men especially the ones with money most times will have side chicks it's sad
Why
"I am, is that a problem?" 🤣🤣 chineke!
My 3 sisters married Nigerian men... needless to say... they're no longer married. Can't fool me! I recognize game
Stop hatin
Close your mouth now
My 4 sisters married Nigeria men, they've been married for an average of 7yrs for all.
Game is game
When the married guy asked “is that a problem?” 😂 she didn’t say her response 4:17 😂😂
I enjoy this so much I didn’t want it to end. Please do more gusts like this. And, there’s something about your voice that’s so sweet to hear; almost Oprah-like 😊
Loving your stories!! Please keep it coming.
Mama l have to say you’re looking good keep it up and be very cautious with Nigerian men , l know you’re very intelligent ❤️you👍
Iveoma, I definitely want to meet you when I get to Nigeria. And you're very right about our parents exporting the most conservative aspects of the culture to the diaspora. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Thank you for watching :) yup I really thought about it that disconnect when I moved back LOL
@@IveomaMedia 👍🏾✌🏽😊
I would love to meet you too Iveoma. I love Nigeria to a fault
It’s really sad how much of a mockery marriage has become in Nigerian culture.
Fuelled by materialism
Bassey Bassey fueled by infidelity is more like it
Don't forget that the African culture permits polygamy.
Men who are not religious believe they can marry as much as they want.
@@AfricasRealities even the broke ones? It’s not African culture so much as it is the culture of African men who lack discipline and contentment
Wow!! Iveoma!! this made my day almost choked on my cornflakes!! your recounting of your experiences are funny!! James Bond monent...lolol!!
LOL @ choke on your cornflakes!! I hope your okay Hahahahaha It was crazy, he almost ran me down LOL
My sister, this your channel dey very addictive. Keep up the good work. New subscriber 👍🏾
I'm NEW to this channel this is the second video I've seen so far and I'm hooked!!! 😍
You're very beautiful and your skin glows so you will have a lot of Naija men making it to you for absolutely different reasons. The good thing is a lot of Nigeria brains are coming back home which would help to change a lot of wrong perceptions of Naija men.
You are great storyteller and very fair minded. I think that will enjoy subscribing and listening to you talk about Africa.
WOW. That is scary. I live your channel and your content :)
You really have a talent for storytelling....your gist too sweet 😂🤭
LOL thank you!!
This was so hilarious because of the way you told the stories. I was just laughing with you as you laughed. Nigeria men are something else and if you say No to them, they get very offended. I don't know if that has been your experience as well. Sometimes they just stare at you and you know that they are staring. You know that your American accent is also a magnet to Nigeria men.
LOL I told my friend these stories and my theory and she told me I must make a video. She thought it was hilarious too. Hmm Here when I say no, they seem to take it very well. I think they are used to rejection LOL Nigerian women are really firm with men here and I have learned to be the same. Yup @ accent. Have to be careful about that too.
@@IveomaMedia I live in Ohio, came home last year and I was at a restaurant with my siblings and this guy sat next to us and was just gawking at me. My brother got so offended and wanted to confront the guy and I told him to stop it because they know how Nigeria men behave. I was told that they could figure out that you are from abroad even without saying a word. So, I try not to speak and even give my siblings money to pay for every transaction when ever we are in public. I just don't say a word but they still stare because they can see the Obodo Oyibo on you, lol!!!!!!.
You are absolutely right!!! That happened to me as well. They can look at you and know that you not from there. And when you start speaking oh my goodness. They surely believe they have the best opportunity ever. LOL!!!
Why is an American accent a magnet?
@@daydayga , because they love AA women.
A wild dating scene out in Lagos city : ). Shine ya eyes o
Lol I love this channel. Subbed on the first video I watched
The women don't care about married men either.
exactly
Whaaaat???
True because a married man chasing girls is likely to be a successful man in a country with high unemployment rate and girls will troop to where the money is..
Good job, Iv. Proud of you!
I had to pause the video and say Sis I am eating potato chips and drinking a juice listening to you tell these fascinating stories! Now back to the video...
So enjoyable! Thank you.
Look alike wife!! Iveoma, I’m in tears!
Jaime!!! How are you girl?
I needed a good laugh😂😂😂, thanks😂
Yasser!!!
Wealth distribution is skewed in Nigeria, with men having upper hands. Most ladies want beautiful things of life. Some men realized this and took advantage of this development. Life of Zaddy is becoming a norm among some of the single ladies and married ones too. A friend's son who relocated to Lagos for compulsory NYSC, said he couldn't find a wife because of Zaddies. There are still hardworking and good looking single ladies out there but you have to really search very well. Do not be deceived by this born again crap. Many hide in the name of religion,
Very sad.Hook me up,I am Kenyan living in Nigeria.
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My first time coming across your video and you are just so right,I'm married to African American and the part where you talked about presence increasing price is so true, I sometimes tell my wife to just wait in the car or just don't talk when a negotiation is going on,and yeah Nigerian men can be crazy too, I have watched a man walk across my wife and just said wow!to her face, I ve watched men tell her" you are so beautiful "and ask for number it's just crazy..
This is hilarious I’m married to an African here in America we went to a baby naming party out of town, my husband walked away, a man came sat beside me asking my number, I showed him my wedding ring it didn’t matter. When we were leaving the man came up to me with a paper and said you dropped this I was surprised gave the paper to my husband it was the man’s phone number. A lot of Nigerian man are aggressive and very disrespectful. I’m so glad you saw right through this pathetic disrespectful behavior also learn the language it’s so important. It was hard for me at first but NOW😊
@T Ehis Baby Naming party??
Game is game
We need a part 2!! 😂
Can we get a part 2 to this because your stories have me interested in what else has happened🤔😂
Stakes are high in lagos. Yeah the social circle bit is true. But still keep your guard up. Nice story anyway. Good story telling too. Just be aware that they know and smell you from afar as an IJGB.
This is hilarious...😂😂...new sub..!!
Here is the thing about Nigeria, everything and everybody is fair game. We've learnt to take what we want and to guard it jealously so they would give everything a try, that's why loyalty is so important in relationships loyalty and real love.
His traditional wedding video 😭😭😭 if I scream!!!
You have great videos..and very colorful background with your dressing.. What kind of camera do you use?
Thank you 🙏🏾, Canon Rebel T6i
Girl, I had to sub you because of this story, its so funny am laughing so hard.
That would be so strange to me . I live in Japan and Japanese men would never approach me here . I’m totally not used to men ever talking to me . My man is Igbo Nigerian . I won’t cheat on him lol .If a man approached me when in Lagos I think I would panic so much and immediately call my husband to help .
I can't think of any other culture that's in direct contrast to Nigerian culture like the Japanese.
Nigerians on average are more animated, Japanese are generally subdued. No way a Japanese man would walk up to a married woman. They can barely approach single girls! The population is practically declining because less people are hooking up! Nigeria on the other hand is set to be the 3rd largest population in the world in the next 30 years.
@@MoneyGist you are totally right!
That is what we the single ladies are suffering here in Nigeria.
The married men won't let us meet single guys 🙄
😂🤣 #facts
Hehehe. Because single ladies looks down on bachelors in Lagos.
Unfortunately, if you seem successful and single in Lagos,single guys tend to think that you are being taken care of by married men especially if they are your boss.It is kind of a general thought and sickening at that.
Hi it’s Roxy here good video
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‘The dating scene that is dominated by married men’ one of these words does not belong in this sentence 🤔
🤣🤣🤣 I am telling you! A really awkward sentence LOL
💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
His brother didn’t know he was married..........Lol!
I am hollering! 😂😂😂 you are a great storyteller.
Very hilarious, and you handled it well. I have spent enough time in Lagos to not be surprised by anything you reported. It’s part of the social marketplace that enough men and women indulge in to make it a thing. I think its harder for women in Lagos to find legit non-polyamorous partnerships, because women face harsher penalties for promiscuity than men. Best bet, from experience from the women I know, is to have legit intermediaries help in the search and vetting of potential male partners. I know it’s not as sexy a what might be in Mills and Boon books, but it seems to work.
Lord it wasn't until my last visit to naija, that i realized just how wild relationships and dating in nigeria must be. I was shooketh when this married man tried to kiss me and then have the audacity to ask me to go out with him later. This literally was a dude i thought kind of highly of/didnt seem like the other naija dudes who are often time super flirtatious. It made me realize how much embedded in the current culture that behavior is. I wonder if the wives know or have just accepted the reality or are even just doing the same things them selves. Its both shocking and comical.
Yup @ shocking and comical LOL perfect sentence to sum up dating scene here. I am not surprised by your story!
@@IveomaMedia yea sis. After that im not surprised by anything anymore 😂. I wish u the best in the dating. I salute you!! Also thanks for this video. Very hilarious and informative.
Men and women. Women accept it and do their own cheating. The country is a cheater's paradise
African men are like this in Atlanta, Georgia, USA too.
LMAOOOOO
So are African American men, in all of USA!
Omg yes!
@@shaniqueperez6139 They sure are.
Yes they are
Wow thanks for this video
Sis, you are gorgeous and this video was both sad and hilarious!
Do they date American women
Nigerians don't respect boundaries.
It happened to me in South Africa, a Nigerian attempted to get my girlfriends number when I went to the bathroom and he failed woefully.
So is that the reason for some of the hostility I heard that happened a while back?
South African men have no boundaries too. I can attest to that.
😂😂😂wow‼️‼️‼️ sorry for laughing but geez
@@Nikkinoonie 🤣
There is a goalkeeper and footballers still score goals that is the logic
You have a good sense of humour, I wish I could tell stories like you. You should write books
You are an absolutely beautiful story teller hey
Okay, so when I heard that first story, I was like: mad o!
Imagine that, a man is trying to procure a woman for his already married brother! Not only that, but he was trying to get a woman who was a doppelgänger of his brother's wife. For what? I can't wrap my head around it! I would have understood if his brother's wife was dead but she is alive and well.
A common thread runs through all the stories that you told, and what it underscores for me is that a lot of Nigerians seemingly cannot tell what is right from what is wrong.
I find that hard to believe but I think that is the only conclusion that I can make. It is what it is. It honestly doesn't make any sense, because I realize that on a normal day the churches will be full on Sundays of the same people!
Married men have turned churches into hooking grounds and ladies aren't left out.They aren't really after serving God.
Do they so sexy and shrarp
Logas nigrara OMG that no respect I'm not married I'm so sigle I want
Wow thanks for sharing
Not quite. People who immigrate tend to take with them the best memories and remain locked into the rea when they left while culture is dynamic.
I have seen that from both sides of the migration fence so to speak.
When I returned to jamaica afyer 14 years away I both loved and hated what I found. I loved being back but the new attitudes just had me so angry.
4:20 omg I also laugh so hard🤣 "Yes I am is that a problem?" 🤦♀🤦♀🤦♀🤦♀
Atleast it’s nice to know you getting all the attention , I am certain you like it 😀😀
You had me laughing Iveoma. You are so right though.
Listen I live in a state that is full of Africans from all over Africa... mainly west ... ALLLLLLLLLLLL OF THEM ARE THIS WAY!!!!.... being with them fells like you are in an African movie. I have been with African men who see nothing wrong with prancing me around, meanwhile he is married to a woman who is with another man or just deals with his behavior. Once I find out I leave. Had a man from Ghana tell me, “if u leave me I’m gonna f your neighbors and stalk you” .... he definitely did all the above. But had a wife at home. Smh I didn’t believe he was married bc he was with me 24/7 and constantly took me around town and all of his friends and everyone of them called me his wife. He never went home even before me 😳 I was a complete and total mess. African men have a “I’m an African man, I do what I want” mentality
Their friends encourage the cheating .The married ones are even more jealous if they hear that you want to start dating a single guy.
Hilarious stories, almost doubling over here with laughter...
This is a wounderful expecirance ,oh my God, hope i can see simeone that look like me.sotty dear, you are not Madrid? Or you are kidly , i want to know ,thanks for sharing
I feel like some of their wives know about it, honestly, and are even in on it.
See Hollywood storyline 😂
Some wives procure ladies for their husbands just to keep the husband.They say that his sex drive is too wild and she can't satisfy him alone,especially if she stands to gain a lot materially from the man and they always do,mostly after giving birth and during their birthdays. The fakeness of it is disgusting.
Cos money matters more to them.
@@imembacrystal4954 Very sad.
Most married Nigerian men are very quick to approach good looking ladies that are single they seem to think they are free to do this it is a game.
Aren't they
Ahụ dị gị mma Iveoma. You're looking great!
Imeela!
Wow 😳 so you can speak Igbo
Loving this "gist" 😂
So funny!! But so true!
Preach Girl.
In Lagos cheating is very common but most people are decent.
Please no matter don't date or fall in love with a married man,as that would be adulterous.
I don't know much, but let's do what we can make heaven at the end of our lives, here Earth.
I love you thanks
Pastors are taking peopkes wives .
This shit is crazy!!!! Thank u for all of ur videos!!! Wow! Just wow
You are so funny Iveoma🤣🤣
Girl you give me life omg, i wanna be you when i grow up 😂😂😂 ive been debating relocating to lagos but idk lol.....youre beautiful! I love your vids❤️ Stay blessed
Your words are very sweet LOL
It's Iveoma i really identified with your comment in a last video that life in US just doesnt quite feel right but im a nurse and i feel like thats not lucrative in 9ja and no wan suffa lol ive been vacationing in nigeria since i was a child every year and im yet to find a “good decent” hospital out there... seems like the island is super gentrified now though, and still yet no medical facilities That compare to US- im from NY. Not even banana island
Hopefully the Nigerian gov will invest more into healthcare after this pandemic. Fingers crossed.
Most of the nurses I have seen who make real money after relocating, open clinics, home help businesses, etc. Train under employed nurses and send them to help elder patients in their home. People need that for real.
It's Iveoma its funny you say that because i do home health out here! But in lagos, idk fam with this american accent!? I feel like id end up missing, you already know, those nigerians peep that accent a mile away its like dangling steak in front of a hungry lion. These nigerian men do THE MOST, and move funny. Lol ill see sha, thanks so much for your advice!
The first example is so funny 😂
I enjoyed it.
Very shocking to hear this. Other factors too could include one's energy/vibe and dressing/appearance. Flashy looks attract more attention from all sorts generally speaking. Although of course promiscuity is higher in big cities. Sounds like Africans need a cultural reboot.
Iveoma you are looking so good
Awww, Thank you!!
Yesssoooooooo!!!!!!!
There is too much promiscuousness Nigeria.
My last trip to Nigeria/Lagos and the East. Women don't have time for chit chat these days. They straight up ask you if this is a "Hookup" or not. And go to church on Sunday .
They have been conditioned to believe all are interested in money. Excuse me, sir. I have my own money. What else are you bringing to the table? I need you to bring the entire dayum table.
Come through, sis🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Conditioned by poverty
The 👏🏾entire👏🏾 d@mn 👏🏾table!
whole table? and what will u bring? 🤣🤣 u women are delusional it's million women in Nigeria, nexxxtttt.
I had experience when I came to Lagos Nigeria about 6 or 7 years ago. I had a luggage issue occur when I arrived in Lagos. So I went to find someone to help me with it. So this man that worked for the airline that I was on, came to help me very handsome man older guy, he was Hausa Yoruba gentleman. And how hausa men believe in having more than one wife. But I didn't find that out to later who he was. I'm very aware of Nigerian culture because my in-law is from Nigeria. But he did not know for sure how much I knew. He gave me the slip of paper with his number on it. And my in-law said that why is he giving you his number they don't usually do that??? So make a long story short he was trying to talk to me he telling me, how beautiful I was he can see me being a wife second wife to him, that he'll buy me a car, and I will have my own house even though he already had a wife for almost 30 years, an adult children. I believe being an African American woman traveling to Nigeria played a big role in that so I truly understand what you're saying. I said thank you but no thank you because I don't consider sharing my husband, when the Lord bless me with one. He was Muslim and I am Christian as well. And I'm saying all to say this it didn't even matter, a lot of my Nigerian Brothers regardless of their Muslim or Christian seems to feel that they want more women. They're not satisfied with the wife that they have. Lord have mercy!!!👀🙏💪
Coming from Japan, I was shocked by their response. My bestfriend had to protect me a lot in the club when we went out and one guy even sent a waiter to order some drinks for us. It was a crazy night! I miss Lagos. I had so much fun. At least I didn't spend money on drinks at the club nor even on dates.
ooh wow a man order you drinks at the club how scary?? how ever did u make it out? 😒😒😒
@@terrelbrown3216 Shut up fr. When in that entire paragraph did she complain once or even suggest she was “scared”. Grow up.
@@ideus3718 to be fair she had her best friend had to protect her and 2. You replying to a year old comment lõl
@@captainlacklustr Someone goin out of their way to protect you, out of their own rationale, does not dictate how you, the person being protected, feel about the situation. Plus I don’t think it matters how old the comment is, if I want to share my opinion on a matter I’m allowed.
All of these stories have taken place this recently? Wow...how Sway? I’m married and CAN NOT IMAGINE a man approaching me while I’m out with my husband? My husband is a large, muscular, Black man but I would think their are other large Black men in these scenarios. The audacity!
This is hilarious.....I was literally chased by men while with my husband....Victoria Island also🙈
Hahhahahahahahahahah WHAT? LOL that’s bananas
They really dont care. 😭😂 That is crazy!
3 minutes into the video and I'm here laughing 😂🙆🏽♂️
Yes we Africans like big clean girls , not stock fish , but nothing sweeter than a black big girl
So i see Nigerian and Ghanaian men are siblings. No shock there.
Not all men plz for real same go to d ladies
Very similar behaviour
That first example is really gross to me though, like it reminds me of a tweet I saw which said men are usually friends for long because they don't hold themselves accountable. Like! How can your own family member be enabling this nonsense? It clearly means the brother must also be a serial cheat. I wonder how this all started in their family. Sigh!
Welcome to patriarchy, what did you expect?
My mate had a horror story living with polish bf in family home......both sons and father were cheating...all of them knew .
Especially when they stand to gain material things from their siblings,they do it.Even sisters do it for their brothers.
Sister, this is one of the reasons for Nigeria's crazy population size.
Thatz just da way it iz !!! #TuPac-changes* Lol
This is too funny! I heard they do not accept No for an answer and very persistent.
You are so hilarious......it's so interesting listening to your life experience in Lagos.....lol...
I can't stop laughing 😂😂.
OMG I just laughed so hard. I can relate because I had a similar experience when I dated a Nigerian in the USA. 😂
I think most men don’t have social Etiquette or read about it here and it’s so heartbreaking to hear all they say about nigeria men. But some are quite nice and respectful.
murban media pro Of course many of them are respectful. That’s not what this post is about.
Dudes are out of it all over the world. Ladies, it’s imperative to understand that. Don’t continue wasting your time dating these undeveloped guys. They not ready for a real relationship. And my sympathy goes out to wives for being legally strapped to them.
marriage of nowadays is quietly different from marriage of the olden days cos men dont respect marriage anymore like before and its so sad but you know,it is what it is
I’d love to meet you. You are definitely “BF” material and animated like me🤣😆😜
😄😄😄😄😄 stitches. Omg i guess i haven't experienced Nigeria.😄😄😄
I had one try to pick me up in London. I was 7 months pregnant
Not only are they comfortable with their behavior. They are also comfortable rapping women too. There’s a campaign for a rap law now to serve time for rap.
Savagery eh! I couldn't agree more and yeah.. Most Nigerian men think around their account balances as a catalytic reason for why they should get any woman their eye catches, judges okay or maybe just moves a muscle for them.. And that's not okay. It's the society I grew up in and I'm well aware how men with money get around.. In fairness to the subject though.. Some Lagos women too are super balsy too.. Even married ones.. It definitely goes both ways in that terrain.. So.. It is what it is really!! Lol..
Money and power act like an aphrodisiac. All of them like act that everywhere under this sun. In some parts of the world, men lacking the guts to approach women, some of whom they find intimidating, will resort to assaulting them. In a country like where the young lady comes from, one will hardly believe what those men who have money and power are capable of or are doing. There have been countless stories unveiled about men leading double or tripples lives without their spouse noticing. A man having a wife and children in California for instance, a mistress in Massachussets and another one probably with children in New York! Now then, what is the probability of those three women and their children encountering one another? None at all and the man can get away with it! Making such a comparison is not an approval of such behaviours. Certainly not! My stance on the subject is that Nigerian men are being open and honest about the matter. In fact, they are just living in a competing land where there are sooooooo many beautiful women and handsome men who are rich, therefore generous providers. This is no excuse either but men's brains were wired to make calculations and find solutions. If a man is married and court other women, that does not mean he lacks respect to his wife or wives. Hell no! This is an error side chicks usually make because there is no confusion in a man's head about that. They are just performing a duty God created the for but society by means of laws always discipline them.