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I am always saying WE GOT THIS in real life and online. We all have our own struggles and I believe we can get through anything together. When I was diagnosed with cancer in September, I thought this was my own struggle but I realised my cancer has affected everyone around me. I am a daughter, a girlfriend, a sister, a friend, a cousin, a grand daughter & more. I know my journey has affected everyone around me and I know now more than ever that I have no choice but to get better. Whatever life throws at us, we are going to get through it together. We Got This
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Hi my loving tifanythinks family. THANK YOU so much for all your love on my last video (tea with tiffanythinks) - I can’t believe how many of you left a comment. I am still struggling but the doctors are saying it will take time to get back to normal - back on morphine now to help manage the pain. Sorry for being so quiet on social media, I just haven’t had enough energy to post anything. Please SUBSCRIBE!!. Instagram, TikTok & FB: @tiffanythinks. Love you lots&lots!! WE GOT THIS💙
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It’s ok Tiff! I’m just super happy to see your face.
Sending you love, hugs and kisses hunny and happy belated birthday to your darling and hi to your beautiful mother 🎂😘🤗
We’ve got this 💙💙💙 and you are such a beautiful person. So positive yet so honest. We all love you and pray this journey ends successfully soon.
Dear Tiffany. I usually don’t leave comments, but this time I just needed to say something.I am a surgical oncologist in training not in UK though. It amazes me that the waiting option is even offered to you. There are no proof to this day that colon cancer can be cured with chemo and radiation alone (without the surgery). All the guidelines in Europe and US say that neoadjuvant therapy MUST be followed by surgery, otherwise it is considered palliative treatment. Please do not hesitate to do surgery, do your own research, read guidelines on rectal cancer management. “Clear” biopsies does not mean anything in regards to not doing the surgery. It just means that your cancer has reacted to the treatment like it should have in order for you to undergo the surgery. We do complex surgeries on T4 patients all the time, recovery usually is not that hard even for geriatric patients.
Take care.
Very helpful post.
@@KickinTheBucket-List i agree it needs to be wrote again so tiff see’s it 💯
Also i thought the whole point of all the treatments was the goal of the surgery to get rid of it all.I am praying right now that Tiffany has wisdom in this.Amen 🙏🏻
Tiffany has mentioned before that she doesn't like to research the cancer as it frightens her, which is understandable, but I think at this stage it's so important to be as informed as possible. I truly hope this all works out for her.
Tiffany I pray you see this comment
I have worked in health care for 30 years and this is what I was told by a very wise surgeon- "Better an empty house, than a ban tenant". Best of luck with your decision- prayers!
Dear Tiffany, Remember the story about the man who was in a flood and was standing on top of a building praying to God to be saved? A man came by in a helicopter and offered him a ride - he said that no ‘God would save him’. Then a man came by in a kayak and offered to save him. He said ‘no. God would save him.’ Then a man in a raft came by and offered him a ride. He gave the same response. The man drowned and when he got to heaven he asked God why he didn’t answer his prayers. God said he did - he sent him a helicopter, kayak and raft and the man refused them all.
Surgery is your helicopter. Please take it.
Please do the surgery as soon as humanly possible. I have cancer that started in my intestines. You want to take the opportunity to remove it when it is presented to you. Surgery will be hard. I’m not going to lie. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. I had part of my intestines, liver, gall bladder, removed and my scars are massive. But it was the best decision I ever made. It gave me my life back. You don’t want to take the chance that he missed the cancer and that it will grow. It’s too big a risk. Please take your helicopter. Take your miracle and do it now.
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Amen🙏🏻💙
I'm sorry but watching this video again what the hell is Matt on about? Risk/ Reward, this isn't a bet on the football on Saturday night, this is your life on the line here. In 6 weeks time it won't be a case of "oh well we took the risk" looking at your other comments in 6 weeks time you will not have a choice and you will be terminal. Please stop clinging on to false hope, you need the surgery. X
Exactly! Like we're clear on the extensive risk of metastasis, what exactly is the reward? Will the tumor miraculously dissappear in 6 weeks? It hasn't even shrunk with chemo and radiation!! None of it makes sense.
@@brilliantbutblue She's not wrong. When you have cancer you must question everything and everyone. Those are the people who survive. Loved ones want to tell you what you want to hear. I'm glad her audience has finally snapped out of this wishful thinking, sunshine and lollipops mindset and are being frank and honest with her.
@@brilliantbutblue I realise this however people around her need to stop sugar coating, as if this is a mild illness. There is no risk/ Reward it is simply ALL risk with her situation. It is good that she has this platform so that people outside of the situation can give realistic advice and feedback, I just hope Tiffany reconsiders. X
@@brilliantbutblue she's right though, and he's not her full time caregiver. I hate to be the one to sound like a B word, but sometimes you need the truth, and I'm afraid she's going to make a decision based on his comment you know?
You should never ever wait and risk with cancer. Just do the surgery
As an ICU-nurse I would recommend you get the surgery right away. I can understand how much you're probably longing for a break from treatment but six weeks is a long, long time for cancer to grow, especially without treatment.
On my ward I see cancer patients all the time that waited too long to get treatment. And when we see them often times it's too late to help them.
You are such a lovely woman and you are so young, you have so much more life to live. So please, don't wait, get the surgery as soon as possible. Waiting is just not worth the risk of your cancer getting inoperable.
My 2 cents. I am also a believer and faith is so important to us. You have literally been praying for surgery. You now have that option! There is a story about faith. There was a man hanging from a bridge, about to plummet to his death. Another man came by - hearing the man praying to God - and looked over the rail. He ran to get a rope and told the man to grab it. The man says, "No, thank you. I'm waiting for God." The man kept telling him to take the rope, but he kept refusing, saying that God would save him. The man fell and when he got to heaven, he asked God why didn't He save him. God said, "I sent a man to that bring to help you. He even had rope to pull you up. Why didn't you take the rope?" Tiffany, PLEASE, take the rope. All the best to you and your family. 💛
It made me worry when Matt said to ‘take the risk’. It’s a risk with your life - it could become inoperable. Please do the surgery. ♥️
Don't listen to him. He like alot of men don't want to be inconvenienced.
I am very disappointed in Matt. If he knows something that we don’t know then maybe but how cool he is acting. It’s like they are deciding to get a flu shot or not. I am sorry for the health system in UK.
I am very disappointed in Matt. If he knows something that we don’t know then maybe but how cool he is acting. It’s like they are deciding to get a flu shot or not. I am sorry for the health system in UK.
@@malimbep4298 I agree. I think this too. It just made me worried, but I don’t think it’s because he doesn’t care. It must be so overwhelming. Also Tiffany’s doctor suggested that they wait, so it makes sense that his is re-enforcing that - the doctors are the ones we are meant to trust at the end of the day. I just hope Tiffany reads these comments telling her to go ahead with the surgery. X
he seemed flippant, probably just being very logical in his own mind measuring 'risk/reward' but he doesn't know the facts enough to make that kind of decision. what is going on with her doctor/team
As a stage 3 rectal cancer survivor. GET SURGERY ASAP. A biopsy is like shining a laser on a single spot and declaring "no cancer"! The problem is...what if the area adjacent to the biopsy is cancerous? Or a few cm over? You need to be as sure as possible and the goal is to NOT DIE OF CANCER. You're young, fight this HARD...NOW.
Totally agree as a stage three survivor too. I was diagnosed and within 3 weeks had my op. That was 9yrs ago don’t wait. ❤️🇦🇺👍
Wow Mike! God blessed you! Don't forget to thank him!!
God bless you. I hope that she reads the comment section. So many stories here. It's a hard choice for her though, but I hope she changes her decision.
Well said
Agree totally!!
As somebody who works in radiology, I cannot stress enough how critical it is that you are either receiving chemo/treatment or having surgery asap. If you were waiting six weeks for surgery but still doing active chemo or treatment, it would be a completely different story. But doing nothing for six weeks with adenocarcinoma it's just so risky. I can't tell you how many patients I have scanned that come back for follow up scans after "wait and see" period And they are full of metastasis. 😩Please heavily consider what everyone is shouting from their computers! It's only coming from the very best intentions of our hearts 💜
Completely agree
Completely agree
Agree
I agree, from my experience... all too often in the uk they take this route and it ends badly.
Agree 💯
Also.. not trying to be rude. I'm german so very honest. But "Risk/Reward"?
Your life is not a stock market. You can gamble with money and things, but not with your life, please.
And I have nothing against religion. But please keep in mind that in the comments, there are tons of nurses and doctors. They know what they are doing. They have experience.
Prayers and believe alone won't kill cancer cells. Again, I'm sorry if I sound rude. I don't wanna be negative, I just want you to have a long and good life.
I’m going to say this out of love… WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WAIT??!! GET THE SURGERY! Imagine you wait, they say it’s spread to your lymph nodes, lungs or liver and it’s inoperable or terminal. What a huge risk. Do the surgery. Please ❤
Gosh !! Why has the doctor said wait! Oh my gosh 😢 get the surgery pls.
Thank you 🙏. Well said 👌
Agree 👍
@@Seaflower1008 Maybe he feels the surgery in itself is a huge risk as well, no other doctor wanted to take it on.
GET THE SURGERY
Hi Tiffany, I have a degree in cancer pathology, been involved in cancer research and I am in the medical field. I know how much Matt's opinion means to you, but in this video what he is saying is very frustrating as he doesn't understand. You will need surgery, the cancer hasn't disappeared. Matt saying 'in 6 weeks it won't become inoperable' is completely incorrect and the cancer can spread and can be inoperable. Please think about what everyone is commenting here, we all care about you so much and want what is best for you. Listen to the professionals and talk to another family member who has a medical background please! I really don't think you should delay the surgery. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this difficult decision. You've got this.
I completely agree with you Ellen, I really hope she sees this and maybe reaches out to a family member in the medical field to give her some proper advice 🥺
I agree totally with you!
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I completely agree.
@@leaveittolefty hey, I know right? Med student here. I've always been interested in hearing how people live with a disease. Their experiences, how they feel about it. Because all we learn is from text books, and guidelines, not much from the patients perspective. I'm guessing that's why lots of medical professionals are here also you know?
Hi Tiffany…I kept thinking “why would she wait” the whole day ystrday. I finally checked the comment section, and a lot of people feel the same. I do not know much about cancer but I do know that “you should not test your luck with cancer” and “6 weeks is a long time for cancer to spread”
Please go for surgery sweety. I never comment on any videos, but this one my heart pushed me to.
American nurse here. Reading through the comments I am astounded by the depth of knowledge that people in the tiffanythinks family have. Please have the surgery. I have yet to read a comment that advises you to wait. XX
There’s no reward in waiting 6 weeks IF the cancer spreads. I’m a oncology nurse and your best chance IS surgery. Literally you’re getting so many comments to move forward. Hope and prayers coming your way🙏🕊
there's just risk of losing her life no reward in waiting
Well said
I wonder if Tiffany has someone she knows that has medical knowledge that can go with her to see the surgeon...or maybe her sister or uncle or cousin... that could help ask these questions..who is outspoken & inquisitive...& can get the answers to many unresolved questions.
It can be overwhelming in a doctor's office.
What are the results of the PET SCAN, MRI, CT scan?
Yes - it’s not adding up! doesn’t she have an aunt who’s a doctor? I’m surprised she’s doesn’t go to her got advice. Maybe she’s going tp talk to her. But very confusing.
@@whyujin I wonder why Matt isnt researching this. One of them needs to. Ignorance can be deadly in this situation. They are 2 positive people trying to make the best of each day, trying to live a normal life. Unfortunately in this situation they need to face reality and go into battle mode.
My Dear Tiffany, ♥
As a nurse Darling, I would completely advise you to have the surgery NOW and DO NOT wait. WAITING with Rectal/Colon Cancer for 6 more weeks, could make a negative difference. The pelvis is very vascular (rich in blood supply) and lymphatics - and cancer, as you know, is so often aggressive. There is a rather old saying when dealing with cancer, and it says: "Your first chance is your best chance." - Having spent sooo many years in caring for - and caring about - precious people with cancer, I do believe with all of my heart, that though surgery is often soooo very challenging. However, surgery sooo often does give you the finest result for remission, especially in known cancer(s) to have a higher degree of rapid metastasis and mortality.
Be of good courage Darling Tiffany, and please rethink your decision of wanting to wait. Keep your beautiful faith in God, for He indeed has gone before you every step of the way - in this journey, and He will continue to go before you - always!
Listen intently to your surgeon - for God speaks Words of Wisdom to them to help us here on earth as well. Your surgeon gave you a VERY POWERFUL message when he said to you: 'You can have surgery now, or your can wait six weeks and re-evaluate, however, the prognosis could be such in six weeks wherein the SURGERY TODAY MIGHT BE INOPERABLE IN SIX WEEKS! In my heart and my professional opinion, I think he was telling you, in gentle words, your BEST OPTION is to have surgery and not wait. Waiting allows the cancer to "migrate" - metastasize to other organs, often vital organs - and spread.
Therefore my Dear Dear Precious Tiffany, schedule your surgery Darling. Do not take a short 6 week risk that might not bear the prayerful fruit we are seeking for you. 'Tis so much better to opt for what is absolutely the best option (surgery) than to risk an alternative that possibly leaves you with no choices going forward.
You are continuing in my prayers of healing, for strength for you, for your Beautiful Momma and your Darling Matt, and I am so thankful that YOU ARE CLAIMING GOD'S PROMISE to TRUST HIM IN ALWAYS!
I send you a heartful of LOVE LOVE LOVE, my Sweet Girl!♥
Carol Bolton, RN
California
you are so kind and intuitive Carol. Excellent advice.
Up up up voting up this reply!
I agree, the way you put it makes sence!
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Carol your words are so soothing . I can truly feel the love in your message. I too feel
Surgery is the best course to take. As I was watching Tiffany’s video I was taking out loud
Saying “do the surgery “. I think my husband thinks I’ve lost it! ! !
Praying Tiffany takes everything into consideration before making her decision!🙏🏼💙🙏🏼
I agree, I think he was advising surgery but unfortunately not being fully truthful with her by leaving it up to her. She’s not a doctor why would she know the best decision!!!
Tiffany, as a 20 year cancer survivor, i just want to say that i honestly don't think i'd still be here today if i hadn't have gotten all the surgeries necessary right away. Waiting 6 weeks is a long time to wait. When my cancer was discovered i had every surgery possible within 6 weeks, and also had the radiation treatments and 6-1/2 years of taking anti-cancer tablets after that. Many people with my same type of cancer (ESS) did not survive, because they opted to wait or not do all of the surgeries the doctors recommended.
I’m the same, I had 3 surgeries in 2 weeks when mine was diagnosed. While my cancer was different to hers, if I hadn’t had those it would have killed me quickly. 10 years clear now as of August.
@@50sRockChick ⁰0 9th
At his first visit with his oncologist, my husband's doctor said, "We have the opportunity at this moment to hit a homerun (ie baseball term for the best result possible) if we do everything in our power to stop your disease." Everything in his power meant having a team including himself, surgeons, urologists, radiation oncologists, and plastic surgeons, taking every step necessary to rid my husband's body of cancer and to reconstruct his body afterward. The immediate effects required healing, time and adjustments. These things were, at times, very difficult. But every single thing he went through was necessary to save his life. He is alive and enjoying life over a decade later. I know it seems like you are between a rock and a hard place, but cancer is so very unpredicatable that it may be a gamble to wait.
Well said and thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing. I have a sinking feeling that the risks of her going for surgery and waiting it out are comparable at this point, in the doctor's mind. He was probably telling her indirectly so...
@@Lucy-lh4wn Oh Lucy--I'm so very sorry to hear this.
So glad it paid of for your husband
You made the best choice possible. Smart thinking👍
I understand that having everything inside of your pelvis surgically removed, is major major surgery and a major operation, and your life will change, absolutely no doubt. Look, I agree with everyone. If it were me, I would be having everything removed, so I don’t have to worry about it coming back in a month or 6 months or a year or 10. I know it will mean major life changes, and it will mean not being able to carry your own child, and it will mean food/getting rid of waste, will be outside of the norm, and I can’t imagine how the prospect of that must feel. But, you had a grapefruit sized tumour, and according to your last scan results a few months back, it hadn’t shrunk. Where are your scan results now? Why is the biopsy the news you are listening for, when there’s a massive chance he scraped the wrong area, and if he did, you will move to inoperable. Don’t risk it Tiffany, at the very least, get a second opinion, because this is strange news. Why would you have so much pelvic/rectum pain etc, if there was no disease there? I don’t want to burst your miracle bubble, but the miracle is that you are operable, when not that long ago, no one thought you were! Be safe Tiffany.
I agree 100% what was running around my mind. I would take the surgery 100% I don’t say that lightly like the surgery and the long effects of the surgery will be for her. My opinion it’s more of a risk leaving it and keep having biopsy done. I wouldn’t normally say my opinion but because she asked we have see most of the results have more of a personal understanding of the situation. If I was her I’m 35 I would do it.
Listen to this advice
I would agree with this comment! Get everything removed even though its a major surgery because you never know. And do not take a risk
THIS!
I totally agree x
Tiffany as a oncology nurse for many years please do not wait 6 wks. I feel strongly this is a mistake Metastatic cells can spread rapidly and make this surgery impossible. Prayers for you and you decision 🙏🙏💙💙💙
I agree with you. It's like watching a train accident in slow motion, and I don't think I can stick around and watch it. It's tragic.
My sweet Tiffany. I was an oncology nurse and hospice nurse for so many years...please honey...I agree with everyone. Cancer hides. It can spread in 6 weeks. It absolutely can! If anything get a second opinion just dont wait and do nothing for those weeks. You got this! And you got this because you have powered through and pushed and pushed making sure you have gotten the treatments with the back logs at the hospitals and pushing for your chemo. There has been alot of "waiting" with the doctors but YOU have gotten things done. Dont stop now! Dont take the advice from ONE man when when its your life on the line. At least a second opinion?? We probably sound selfish and its because we don't want to loose you!
Well said Victoria
Totally agree..
I completely agree you should have second opinion
If you r finding hard to decide
Like I said so many times
Unfortunately I had 3 members of my family with cancer
My mum .,
my dad passed away 3 months ago is cancer change in weeks was to late for treatment .
And my brother has metastatic cancer they gave him 5 years 9 years has passed and is doing good he has a good team doctors always doing is ct scans every 3 month
Brain
lungs prostrate .,and he follows always is treatments and eat healthy ., it’s so important .
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I don’t mean to rain on anyones parade here Tiffany, but prayers and positive energy don’t make cancer magically disappear. Even the most faithful people who attended church every Sunday still passed away from cancer. We, as your followers, really just want what’s best for you! Please speak to your cousin, the doctor… She will know what’s best for you to do.
Exactly my point. I know she wants to keep a positive mindset but reality is prayers and positivity can’t cure cancer
The answer to prayer is that the surgery CAN now be done.
@@psydoc5685 Exactly!!!
I'm giving you a very non biased opinion of someone who is looking at this from a distance. I understand why you want to wait, you have experienced the horrible side effects of chemo and biopsies to a point where many of us wouldn't understand how bad it can get. If your doctor said that there is a chance that the tumor could grow and/or metastasize to where it becomes inoperable, with all respect to your boyfriend, his opinion of "I don't think in 6 wks is not gonna become inoperable" is not quite correct. I think many people in this comment section share the same opinion because just like myself they are looking at this at a distance and with the idea of what is the best chance to keep Tiffany alive.
AGREE AGREE AGREE! I am a Registered Nurse and former Nursing Professor, in the U.S. and my husband just completed 3 years treatment for cancer at the renowned Fred Hutch Cancer Research Center in Seattle, WA. I have had alarm bells going off throughout your whole treatment for the same EXACT reasons that this commenter wrote about. There have been what looks to be multiple problems with your care there, multiple! This was especially evident with your most recent struggles with ONGOING BLEEDING for SO LONG. Every time you see the surgeon, what you say after, I am thinking, something is not right with what they are telling her. What they are saying and doing makes no sense and the first big red flag/alarm bell was when they stalled on the initial surgery and gave interim chemo? No. As a medical professional and a believer in prayer and the spouse of a cancer survivor, I can not urge you more strongly to be seen as soon as possible in the U.S. The go fund me is an excellent way to make that happen. Please hear those of us who are medical professionals that have been saying, “wait, that does not sound like the correct course” all along. Blessings to you all and prayers continuing! 🙏🏻
Hi Tiffany, as an oncology nurse I highly recommend you to go for the surgery ASAP!
I know it is a very radical decision and it is a very big surgery but it may be your only chance! DO NOT WAIT FOR 6 MORE WEEKS
Cancer is a silent killer.
I will pray for you and your surgeons that God may bless their hands during surgery.
God gives you the opportunity to do this surgery, please take it.
As an oncology nurse myself, I agree completely with Ellen. Do not wait. Please be proactive. ♥️♥️🙏🏻
I agree
I am sorry to be blunt Tiffany, but while I respect your religion, it is not prayers that have helped your health. It is the treatment you've been having. People and little children don't die of cancer because they didn't pray enough. I think you need to base your decision from a medical viewpoint. Im sorry if that's not what you want to hear but you asked us. I would be having surgery NOW. We will support you no matter what you decide but please, please, make your choice on facts. Love you 💙💙💙
The chemo, radiation and endless invasive tests have so far done more harm than good. Surgery will finish her off, though the doctors are not being honest about it.
I'm sorry but how can you say you don't think it's going to spread in six weeks? The doctor literally told you that it may become inoperable, the risk is huge! And how come the doctor recommends to wait? I just don't get it. What comes to mind is that he's afraid/hesitant to perform the surgery because he's not so sure of it's outcome. But since he's very well known surgeon I hope he knows what he's doing. There's so many questions I would've asked him and the most important one is: what is the delay of surgery for? Is there any chance you won't need surgery at all? He has experience, he can tell from his patients. You said you're not cancer free yet- does that mean PET scan lighted anything up? If so, please consider booking surgery and don't be afraid to ask your doctor anything! You're so lovely and polite but it's your precious life we're talking about Tiffany- be straightforward with your doctor and demand specific information what's the reasoning behind his suggestion.
Hi Tiffany. I’m a doctor in the UK. If the surgeon has said there is a risk that it could become inoperable in the next six weeks, it’s because there is that risk. It is ultimately your decision and most of us can’t imagine how difficult this decision is to make, but I would recommend that you consider if the risk of the cancer becoming inoperable is a risk you are willing to take.
I agree 100%
I think her doctor just wanted to take the responsibility off of him and put it back on her ..its unusual to me for a Dr to do this.
I’m surprised that “doctors” and “nurses” here are giving her advise as to what to do when they don’t have her full medical history.
Hey Tiffany! I’m a final year medical student and recently had my oncology placement in 4th year so I have an idea of how cancer patients progress etc. The big risk is that in 6 weeks of waiting, you will not be having any cancer treatment. All this time, your cancer spread was being suppressed by the treatment. Even though one surgeon has made the decision that all biopsies are cancer free, it is the subjective opinion of one surgeon and is down to the human assessment which as we all know, can make errors or miss things. All it takes is one cancer cell to disseminate with the lack of cancer treatment and will spread more aggressively the 2nd time round (God forbid). I don’t want to scare you, but I wouldn’t want all your hard work to go down the drain. If it was me, I wouldn’t take that chance and I would have surgery straight away. All the best with making your final decision. I know you’ve got this.
I’m glad you chimed in. Question, wouldn’t it be prudent for her to get an expert second opinion as a couple of others have commented? Apparently it only takes 48 hours and they can simply do a review of her case. I haven’t heard any results from her recent PET scan. What about what they had found in her lungs upon initial diagnosis?What if surgery isn’t the correct next step anyway, but rather more chemo treatment to suppress the cancer? This is all quite confusing.
1000000% THIS
Totally agree I have worked as a registered nurse in this field and I have seen no cancer to cancer in a matter of weeks , waiting 6 weeks and no treatment is given these cells time to spread , in 6 weeks going through more biopsy to determine if no cells , I am gobsmacked , I know we can only offer out opinion and it’s Tiffany choice , but I am worried 😟 xxx
Absolutely
Exactly my mom passed away after surgery just cos they missed its spread to other place and she didn’t get chemotherapy on time
Tiffany…for the love of god get the surgery asap! If you can book in tomorrow then book in tomorrow. God is there to offer moral and spiritual guidance. The doctors are there to fix cancer. This is an exceptionally aggressive form of cancer, and it will return without the surgery. If not in 6 weeks then in 10 or 12 weeks. The surgeon is telling you that waiting is an option because he has to, and because it means that the patient that came through his door 5 minutes after you can be offered surgery now. The fact he mentioned that it could become inoperable in 6 weeks is really where the medical opinion is. Matt (who is awesome) is off with his risk/reward metrics here. The true risk/reward is an unavoidable slow and painful death vs kicking this in the butt in a relatively short period of time.
Get the surgery and get it soon!
Sorry if this is blunt but it needs to be!
Hi T n family there is so much to say, but I need to start off with a major concern that shouldn’t be happening.
I READ COMMENTS OF PEOPLE SPEAKING ‘ILL’ OF MATT- THIS IS THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE, IF YOU HAVE EVER HAD A LOVED ONE GO THROUGH ANY FORM OF ILLNESS CERTAINLY YOU UNDERSTAND, LET ALONE A DIAGNOSIS OF THIS MAGNITUDE. WE HAVE ALL WITNESSED THE LOVE THAT HE HAS FOR TIFFANY AND WHILE HE MAY NOT SAY MUCH, THIS AS TO BE EXTREMELY DIFFICULT FOR HIM- HE HAS NO KNOWLEDGE OR EXPERIENCE WITH THIS DISEASE , THEREFORE HE CANT GIVE OBJECTIVE ANSWERS WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE OF THE DISEASE PROCESS. MATT IS SPEAKING FROM A PLACE OF LOVE N CONCERN - IM SURE, IF HE WAS KNOWLEDGEABLE, HE WOULD DEFINITELY HAVE NOT MADE THOSE STATEMENTS. LETS ENCOURAGE HIM TO BE MORE HANDS ON AS IT RELATES TO READING, RESEARCHING, MAKING NOTES, HE CAN BE MORE INFORMED WHEN HE SPEAKS TO THE DRS, TIFFANY AND OTHERS- OUT OF AN ABUNDANCE OF LOVE AND CARE TIFFANY N OTHERS LETS BE KIND, SHARE LOVE N UNDERSTANDING- PICK EACH OTHER UP WHEN WE ARE DOWN. -Motto “WE GOT THIS”-WE GOT EACH OTHER!!!!
For the last 2 days, I have been reading, praying n brainstorming about tiff’ journey to this point. I believe at this point like many others have said Tiffany needs an advocate or advocates going forward. There is so much that she seems to not fully grasped. if the Royal Marsden offers Specialist Nurses, Tiff should definitely get access to this service. This is so major, i don’t understand why they wouldn’t have offered her this service or if they did, why she didn’t accept it.
This family seems to be going through this blindly n it’ terrifying. Someone be it Matt or other family members need to be doing the leg work AKA research about the disease and all it entails, so they can encourage Tiff herself to learn more about it as well as SURGEY OR NO SURGERY and what implications of both scenarios are. SURGERY AS ALWAYS BEEN THE GOAL …THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL / THE OPPORTUNITY TO RING BELL N IN HER WORDS “….IM C ..FRREEEE !!!! Given this, why would Tiff not be alarmed that they are throwing all those other “so call options” when analyzed aren’t really options at all.
Tiff’ Cousin(Dr) if possible needs to be with her when she goes fr major Dr appointments and if she can’t attend all, after every meeting, she should ask fr copies of results and findings, discussions n the decisions that are made n share with her cousin - something she herself had said her cousin told her to do on previous Dr visits. SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS THE MEDICAL TERMS AND THE INFORMATION THAT THE DOCTOR IS SHARING. Tiff cousin will then break down the information in LAYMAN’ TERMS- CLARITY IS NEEDED-THIS IS AN ABSOLUTE MUST NOW.
Matt, Tiffany and Amma have no information about the disease except that which they are told by the Dr. For a disease such as this, more needs to be understood by the family and this can only be achieved by them researching, this will MAKE A MASSIVE DIFFERENCE IN HOW THINGS ARE PERCEIVED AND HOW DECISIONS ARE MADE.
Tiff believe me and the rest of ur Tiffany thinks Family RESEARCHING and ADVOCATING FOR YOURSELF IN THIS CURRENT HEALTHCARE SYSTEM, WE HAVE WORLD OVER IS THE BEST THING YOU WILL EVER DO FOR YOURSELF. The health care system is broken all over the world especially after COVID, therefore patient are having to do things, they previously took fr granted- RESEARCH, Speak up, having a say rather than being told what’s best for their health and accepting those decisions blindly. With the advent of the internet, we have access to a wealth of information, tiff and family if you are reading please please utilize these resources, so informed decision can be made about the best option.
FINALLY BUT CERTAINLY NOT LEAST OF ALL, TIFF U ALWAYS SAID THAT YOU DONT NEED PSYCHOLOGICAL HELP AND IF YOU SEE A NEED YOU WOULD ASK FOR HELP. There so many different groups - people going through the similar situation that you can relate to and can share with - having commonalities or speaking to a trained psychologist sharing your thoughts, concerns , fears etc…just the ability to share without being judged-please consider; nothing is wrong with counseling you might be amazed the clarity you might get from sharing. A CLOSED MOUTH NEVER GETS FED - people can only help when they know what you need. If possible the all 3 of you may need to have a family season/ sessions with a psychologist- just a thought
YOU ARE OVERWHELMED N WE GET IT SO OF YOU MUST PLEASE PLEASE TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA, BELIEVE ME WE UNDERSTAND - Time to think-process all that is happen, have discussions with your family, get a second opinion or just spend some time with your self- TAKE A BREAK TIFF
ONE LOVE💙💙💙💙💙🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Ps. I know I said a lot but trust many of us have been having sleepless nights n waking moments thinking abt you, praying for you, about your situation and for your family.
Tiffany, I have been watching your journey for months and recognised all too well the dismissive attitudes, delays, understaffing and incompetency that is rife within our healthcare system. I feel compelled to share with you my own family's experience with the NHS, in the hope you see you are not alone in having to push for life-saving treatment.
In 2016, at 18, my younger sister collapsed with severe head pain. My mother was an experienced nurse and took her to the nearest NHS hospital, where multiple doctors dismissed it as a 'migraine'. She was almost sent home, despite displaying TEXTBOOK symptoms of a brain hemorrhage, except for the fact that my mum demanded she be kept in and reviewed. If my mother had not been medically trained or familiar with the politics of NHS hospitals, my little sister would be dead. Thankfully, another doctor happened to see her and recognised the severity of her condition. Even after this, her ambulance transfer to a specialist hospital was delayed for a day, due to miscommunication from the hospital.
Like you, her brain bleed was so complex, there was only one surgeon who had experience with the type of surgery she needed. She got brain surgery as soon as possible. We were petrified initially - was it really necessary, what if something went wrong? - but the doctor explained she had likely bled twice and people don't survive a 3rd time. She recovered completely, and is now starting her PHD, with her whole life ahead of her.
All of this is to say that whilst we are all incredibly grateful for the free, life-saving care she received, we have recognised that she would likely be dead if we had accepted the diagnosis and decision of the multiple doctors at the first hospital. They gave her mild painkillers for a bleed in her brain. They then left her in a room overnight, un-monitored, after my mum fought tooth-and-nail for her to be admitted.
Sometimes the easy-going, uncomplaining, unfailingly positive patients fall through the cracks in the NHS. Sometimes you need to have other people shout for you to be heard. I can't imagine the position you are in and the life-changing medical decision that has been put on your shoulders. But in my experience, the NHS provides excellent treatment - it is the process of getting that treatment where many people have been badly let down.
@@Michelle-wk4ek we can argue that it isn't free because it's tax-funded, but the fact remains that it is (for the most part) free at the point of use, meaning you don't have to go into crushing debt to save your own life. The service itself is full of skilled and compassionate clinicians who are being failed by a government that would rather sell it off than fund it for the 99% for whom it is a lifeline. Where there are failures in care, it is because staff are overworked, underpaid, and lacking the resources to do their jobs thoroughly. These factors, plus covid delays, have put Tiffany in an extremely difficult position.
And USA socialists and liberals want this fucked up type of fucked up health care system. Health “care.” In and out. As many as possible. I know so many in Canada, as I am a doctor, that have passed away from cancer while awaiting scans.
Okay so let me get this straight: your options are waiting six weeks to see if whoops, he missed something and you're now terminal or going ahead with a super invasive surgery in case he missed something? Those are bad options. Personally I would ask for additional scans and examinations to clear up the status of the cancer. At the very least cut the waiting time in half: 6 weeks is just too long in my opinion. If scans are off the table and he insists on the 6 weeks, I would go for surgery. You've got 1 life and if the cancer is there and possibly spreading, your window to do something about it may be closed in 6 weeks.
Exactly my question too.
Absolutely! I 💯 agree. I would not want to be confused in the least little bit.
Yes !00%, cancer isn't something to wait and see....
Thats it! Absolutely.
Did she mention the scan results ? Or just biopsies he recommended waiting the 6 weeks which confused me
Tiffany, I am a nurse and have seen and taken care of many cases similar as yours. Do the surgery and schedule it ASAP. This will be your best action. The Lord will protect you in the process. Please consider all the comments.
Dear Tiffany, I cannot ignore the sick feeling in the pit of my stomach! I have to reach out to you! Please don't gamble with your life!. I am on the New Zealand high risk cancer register, I am on yearly surveillance due to my high number of pre cancerous polyps. Every single year I have huge numbers of polyps removed. I understand the fear that comes with the threat of cancer and it's definitely not one to take chances with. One year I was overdue by 8 weeks for my colonoscopy and when it was done polyps had grown to large to remove so I was sent to Auckland Hospital to have them removed by a more experienced surgeon. They were only precancerous cells thank god, but the point is that waiting is not something you want to do! I have lost loved ones from cancer and its such an aggressive fast moving disease! You have been through such a hellish time and your bravery is something to be admired! you will face life changing effects from the surgery but I know you can get through those! what you can't be at peace with is loosing your life because of putting all your faith in the recommendations of one surgeon please get a second opinion because these results don't sit right with me. Please don't wait have the surgery Tiff !! All my luv xxxxxx
I have been following your channel for many years and rarely comment. I was hesitant to comment as I can see a lot of others have said exactly what I want to say, but felt called to do so, especially as I know I might be able to offer some insights into the inner workings of the theatre department in NHS hospitals. I really hope you don't take all these comments as anything other than us showing our love and concern for you, Tiff ❤🙏.
As a Theatre nurse and a firm believer in God, PLEASE TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO GET THE SURGERY. You, and all of us, have been praying for you to have the opportunity to have this surgery, and God has answered. Going from being inoperable to operable is a miracle in itself! From an operation standpoint, the sooner you get the operation, the better for your body. Some surgeons do prefer that you have not had chemo for a couple of weeks so that your body and immune system is not at its weakest, so now is a perfect time, not too long, not too short.
Coming from my experience working at King's College Hospital in the theatre department, I can tell you there are massive financial and staffing issues in the NHS. The system was on its knees back in 2020 when I left England, and from what I've heard from friends, it's somehow even worse now. There were many times that we had to delay oncology surgeries, despite the urgency, due to having no beds in ICU due to trauma cases or not enough staff to run the theatre because everyone had already done max overtime during the trauma cases etc. I saw some cancer patients wait 3+ months for their surgeries when they should've been done within 30 days!
In particular, your case will need a significant amount of staff involved, from the different surgical specialities, a couple of scrub and anaesthetic teams to swap throughout the op, a few theatre techs and runners etc. It's a significant staffing/money commitment from the theatre team, who are already struggle to stick to their budgets and meet their time targets for their theatre lists as it is. In no malicious way whatsoever, I am sure this is a factor in the team wanting to delay your surgery. I don't say this to make you feel guilty about the resources involved, but so that you can understand that there are times that medical personnel might not be making a decision that is in the patients' best interest (unintentionally) due to pressures from the higher ups. This happens in all industries, and healthcare is no exception to this!
If your team are not able to get you in for the surgery, please seek a second opinion privately. Please start a GoFundMe or something similar if you need, I know there are many of us that would be extremely happy to help if it means you get the best care possible! ❤❤❤
Tiffany. I had cancer (endometrial). I had the same choice you have been given. I went for it. I didn’t want to wait, only to find it had spread. My surgery was a success and two years later I am still cancer free - and worry free. It is too important to hope nothing changes in 6-weeks. Surgery is you best chance of this never coming back.
Dear sweet Tiffany, don’t wait. Do the surgery and be done with it, move on and have the rest of your long life. What if it doesn’t come back in 6 weeks, but comes back in 4
months and it’s so aggressive, that you can’t have the operation. It’s crazy that doctors leave up to untrained patients to make life changing decisions like this.
Doctors generally give multiple options, when it is already clear that the outcome-whatever option is chosen by patient- will not make a big difference for the prognosis in the end. If doctors were 100% sure that immediate surgery was 100% life saving, they would have made the decision for her and would not have given options, believe me!
With this said: Tiffany went through a lot and had twice the biggest scare of her life ( Cdiff infection plus the pain and bleeding post-biopsy). She struggled to get adequate care last week and is extremely traumatized. This should be taken into consideration. Quality of Life is an option that doctors consider at this stage. I support any decision Tiffany and family are taking. She is a true warrior! God bless her and enjoy every single day in your life, as all of us should. Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. Sending Tiffany, Amma and Mat love and peace💙💙💙We Got This!
Unfortunately it is up to the patient to ask all the right questions, however difficult that is, they rarely offer the full picture and probable outcome unless they are pressed to do so.
Totally!
Thank you for your response and very comprehensive point of view. However, I can’t help but remember Farrah Fawcett when she had colon cancer, then refused the surgery, went into remission, then it came back very aggressively and she was gone. That’s what I remember, I might be wrong. I just don’t want Tiffany to miss the chance and then it’s too late. But, I see your point and you are right. Every case is different. I do trust that they will make the best decision for themselves. May God guide them. ❤️
Tiffany, SURGERY is ultimately the one thing you have been hoping for to beat this cancer. Don’t wait around. The fact that surgery is an option in your case is a miracle in itself. Count it as a blessing and please think through your decision. Wishing you all the best xx
I am a nurse as well! I also have a son with colorectal cancer! I agree with all of the other folks who have written to you! I believe you are playing with fire not to have this surgery! Cancer is the great trickster ! To take a chance like this is not in your best interests!
Sweet Tiffany, please do not wait on surgery. This cancer is aggressive and spreads quickly. Since you are no longer receiving chemo you are at risk for your cancer to spread. It boggles my mind that the surgeon would even suggest you wait.
If there is still a tumor, there is more than likely cancer cells. Please do not wait.
Dear Tiffany, PLEASE think carefully. My best friend of 25 years was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. The doc said it was an unusual type of tumour and they wanted to wait to "see how it develops " they gave surgery as an option but wanted to wait. Unfortunately she waited. Only a couple of weeks later it had spread to her brain and she passed. I can't help feeling like the pain she went through and how her children and husband had to watch her deteriorate could have been avoided. The 2nd surgeon advised surgery right away but by this time my friend was clutching at straws and chose to take a positive attitude and deny the probability of death. Whatever you decide to do i hope it works for you. I genuinely hope you make a complete recovery, Tiffany, you have so much to enjoy in your future. Whatever the outcome,good or bad , you are such an inspiration and positive role model for us all. Of course we lost our Queen this week I am in the Beautiful Highlands of Scotland....but you are everyones queen. Poised, regal and just downright loveable!! 💕💕💕 big hugs to you, matt and especially for Amma.
You absolutely should not wait. I'm so confused that your whole family agrees with waiting being the best decision?! It's one that you cannot reverse, and you may literally not get another chance to help yourself if the cancer spreads. This could be your last chance to be cancer free. Biopsies do not show the big picture of what's going on, did all your scans come back completely clear? Even then I wouldn't wait 6 weeks. That is such a long time. I hope you do what's best for you and your family, but please, please rethink the decision to wait.
Hello again beautiful Tiffany. I am in Australia, and am awake at 4.30 am, thinking of you, unable to sleep… Please read over ALL youre messages from health professionals.. every single one of them have suggested surgery !!! And advise not to wait the 6 weeks.. We all care about you so much, and want the absolute BEST for you.
@@brilliantbutblue she has a piece of all our hearts !! Like you, she has been on my mind all night.
My mother had adenocarcinoma. It’s aggressive and sneaky and knows how to hide. If I were you, I’d get the surgery YESTERDAY. Six weeks can make all the difference.
I agree 100%. I lost my paternal grandfather, my father and at the end of May lost my husband to adenocarcinoma. Please Tiffany, get it gone 🙏
Now! ( it kind of sounds like socialized medicine)
I feel like her treatments are just dragging out forever!!!
I Agree,My Dad Had The Same Kind Of Colon Cancer & Refused Surgery 😔😢He Past Away 2 Years Ago,Colon Cancer Is So Sneaky & It Hides Very Well,Tiff Is Showing Signs That It Hasn’t Went Anywhere With C Diff & Stomach Pains,Recent Trips To The Hospitals,My Dad Went Though The Same Thing Sadly,He Refused Surgery & It Took Him Quickly Out Of My Life Just That Fast,I Am So Lost Without Him,So I’m Begging U Tiff PLEASE HAVE THE SURGERY 🙏🏾🙏🏾
My Sister too horrible aggressive 😪
I normally wouldn’t be so bold as to tell you to do anything but Tiffany, consider the surgery. My husband was left with no options. You have an option to put this nightmare behind you. Please take it.♥️
Tiffany Please listen to the people on this thread who know what they are talking about! Rolling the dice on cancer at this stage of your illness is not a sensible strategy! Surgery tick tick tick!
6.7k comments, 90%+ say to go ahead with the surgery... please Tiffany, rethink your decision, look at all those professionals in the TiffanyThinks family 😥😥😥
Hey Tiff… please reconsider and opt for having the surgery ASAP! My good friend took 6 weeks off of chemo because she desperately wanted to travel and when she went back for her treatments the cancer had spread and enlarged even greater then when she was just diagnosed. Unfortunately, she passed away 8 weeks later. Please don’t wait. See this as the perfect window of opportunity to try and be cancer free and live a long life!!!!! Just my thoughts! Much love 💙
Agree with you 💯
I’m so sorry for your loss. 100% agree with you, get rid of it ASAP
Nuris so very sorry for your loss,
Thank uuuu xo
Hi Tiffany! Retired registered nurse here. You have a great chance of being cancer free if you have the surgery right now, but if you choose the other option the element of risk seems to be far, far greater and could possibly lead to a devastating outcome. I'm deeply concerned for your well being and do appreciate that the surgery will be very invasive but I feel it would give you the best longterm outcome. It is a huge step of faith to allow God to administer his healing power through the hands of the surgeons. I think of you every day and send my love.x
The Royal Marsden Told Jade Goody That She Didn’t Have Cervical Cancer & She Died,The NHS Failed A lot Of People,Please Get The Surgery
The NHS was bad prior to 'covid' no it is awful, the national death service
@@brilliantbutblue She could cross the pond to Belgium too with one of the highest cancer survival rates in the world
@K I Live In The United States All My Life & Receive The Very Best Healthcare Around & I Follow NHS,They Are Horrible & They Will Tell There Dying Patients Home Knowing There At Deaths Door,So Horrible & Tiff Doctor Knows She Sick & With Cancer,My Father Died From The Same Kind Of Cancer Tiff Has,He Refused Treatment & Suffered From A lot Of C Diff Infections,Stomach Pains,Fevers,Cramping & Vomiting Like There’s No Tomorrow😪😪Tiff Ur Cancer Is Not Gone,Get Treatment Or It’s Gonna Spread Like My Dads Colon Cancer Did,He Sadly Left Me Two Years Ago😢😢Don’t Let NHS Kill U
So far, there is nearly 7.5k comments on this video, more comments than on any of Tiffany's other videos. That shows the strength love and concern people have for Tiffany. I looked up this surgery and I can fully understand why Tiffany is scared. I also found people who had had the surgery and are so glad they did. They had to adjust to a new way of living, but they were living and they were happy. I pray Tiffany will take the same path they did.
Does anyone else feel angry the doctor gave Tiffany a choice to wait and do another biopsy? Even if there is a small amount of cancer, there is no guarantee it won't metastasize. I feel like our sweet girl is playing Russian Roulette with her life, and as a TT family member, I'm really flabbergasted.
Yes I feel the same
Doctors don’t always have good bedside manner.
I had a suspicious thyroid nodule, the doctor was like ‘meh it’s probably cancerous but honestly you have more of a chance of dying in an accident than thyroid cancer’.
It’s easy for others to say but a cancer diagnosis is a cancer diagnosis. This is before he even did a biopsy which by the way he informed me couldn’t be done due to it being too small. He made me do a tumour marker test.
I can’t tell you how traumatic that weekend was. I was fighting back tears my hands were shaking and he was literally laughing in my face like no big deal. I can never forget that appointment. My markers were not suspicious and the nodule has shrunk.
Anyway, I have since decided to pursue surgery even tho my nodule remains stable and unchanged. I am going to fight the doctors to get this done who say ‘oh no reason to cut a perfectly healthy organ out’. Such is the psychological impact of one meeting with this endo, who told me it could be cancer, watch and wait and no I can’t do a biopsy yet (which is the official ruling). I was like you expect me to endlessly wait with a ticking time bomb in my neck with no solutions!
Ugh no it’s not healthy it’s a goiter😂.
I feel the same way. I am angry.
Lovely Tiffany, PLEASE TAKE A SURGERY OPTION INMEDIATLY!!!! Waiting six weeks, can be so risky and fatal decision. My husband is a colom cancer survival for ten years, our decision to do his surgery inmediatly SAVE HIS LIFE!!! My prays are with you and your family.
When you initially finished your chemo after Radiotherapy, the surgeon suddenly informed you that you had to have more chemo, because of an increase of cancer cells. You were told then, that this was simply to prevent spread and now they’re saying there isn’t cancer present. What about the mass though, at the very least are they not looking to debulk it and how will you cope if you become inoperable. I personally would be taking the view that from day one surgery was the main goal, so therefore continue with that plan so you can be cancer free, rather than praying every day that spread does not happen.
This is a big gamble and sadly it should never have been placed in your lap, as you have already said several times that you have not researched your cancer, the odds etc, so how on earth can you make an educated decision. I hope you are lucky Tiffany, but this really feels like a gamble with your life.
No she had a second round of chemo coupled with radiation to see if it would shrink the tumor, because chemo alone didnt shrink it, not bc the cells spread. Again still wondering about that sizable tumor. Is it gone?
She needs to educate herself I believe she doesn’t want to read about it. Neither her family. It’s sad. They need to be able to ask smart questions to the doctors but I understand they don’t. Sometimes they forget to ask some important questions and sometimes they say they can’t remember what the doctor said. I don’t know what else to say anymore. I just wish her the best of health and luck. 😢😢
She needs to educate herself I believe she doesn’t want to read about it. Neither her family. It’s sad. They need to be able to ask smart questions to the doctors but I understand they don’t. Sometimes they forget to ask some important questions and sometimes they say they can’t remember what the doctor said. I don’t know what else to say anymore. I just wish her the best of health and luck. 😢😢
When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I had a diagnosis and after surgery, that diagnosis changed because once they’re in there, they can truly see more of what the cancer looks like and where it’s at. I hope you choose surgery.
Also, many doctors are religious but they can’t just rely on those beliefs to hope for a good outcome. Remember that there are people that die from this and it’s not because they didn’t pray hard enough. Please use logic first and keep your faith in the process. I will be thinking if you. Sorry if my comment seems insensitive, I am just worried that you will wait 6 weeks.
In the west most doctors are atheists and are very bleak and unhopeful.
Patients - not the doctors - are religious, do you mean?
Dear Tiffany, we lost my darling Dad to lung cancer in 2009. He had 7 weeks from the diagnosis to him leaving us broken hearted. Up to two days before he passed, he was climbing stairs at the GP for a checkup, eating, drinking, joking all as normal, but the cancer moved so fast that within two days his organs failed and he was gone. Even his doctors were shocked how literally overnight the cancer spread. Please, please give yourself the very best chance, you darling girl. It is of course your choice and we respect whatever you choose. Warmest wishes to you and your family.
Dear Tiffany, having been told your cancer was inoperable and then finding a surgeon willing to do it was huge. Don’t take a chance that it becomes inoperable again. All that you have gone through to get to a point when they were able to do the surgery. My feelings are that even though surgery is scary, taking a risk like this where you trust the cancer not to grow or spread is so much worse. Love to you and all your family.
Is that even a possibility scenario? I’ve never heard of inoperable to all clear in so short time. Has anyone else?
@@christylynn451 I do think there is a misunderstanding here. I think the original cancer is unchanged. The hope was that the chemo and radiation would shrink the tumors thus making surgery simpler. What I understand is that the scans and biopsies have confirmed only that it has not spread, but the original tumors remain unchanged. I do not understand the idea of waiting. Waiting for what? Waiting for it to spread?
Yeah six weeks might just start it all up again. Read 4BarbaraJ important.
I agree completely, a mistake to wait, very urgent to have the surgery asap.
@@christylynn451 I hope she gets more clarification from her oncologist.
Dear Tiffany. Please listen to those who advise you to get a second opinion or surgery asap.
There are cancers where wait and see is an option. But not at your age and not your type of cancer. There are cancers where “no surgery” is an option with a good prognosis. But it’s not your type of cancer. I really wish I could see the documents, because from what I know as a 5th year med student, I can’t see a point why your doctors think waiting or no surgery is an option what has a good 5 year survival rate. But they know more than me. That’s for sure. Yet I haven’t seen a patient where surgery was postponed. Because honestly, the rate removal is in fact the factor that sets the prognosis. So every doctor that I know goes for a surgery that is as radical as possible. Especially in younger people, who really have a chance to survive. Being inoperable means that your route would be a palliative one. And from what I have seen in your videos, that’s not what you want. That can be a valid option, but you seem to outweigh this with MAYBE being able to start your family with kids that are genetically yours and AVOIDING the surgery. But avoiding the difficult situation of the surgery just for the sake of avoiding it, is not a good option.
I can tell you that the surgery will be a tricky one. You will feel bad afterwards and will lose function. But personally I would 100% choose that route for myself and my beloved ones. Because this means that there is an option of long term survival. And you are so strong. You can handle that. Take it one step at a time. But surgery should come next and It should be very soon. Everything else can be handled afterwards. Less cancer at the moment also means that they might not have to remove so much, but they can only evaluate that in surgery. Not at a colonoscopy.
We do want to take into consideration that after chemo, it’s advised (in my country) to wait for 6-8 weeks for the surgery, because the body wants to regain the capacity to heal itself. I don’t know when your last chemo was, but what might be a reason why they didn’t do the operation already.
But as I said, other than waiting for 6-8 weeks after the radiochemical therapy, I would not wait at all. In order to keep as much function as possible, downsizing was done with the neoadjuvant therapy and now they should operate and see that they can save and what they have to remove. After chemo and radiation, the tumor will start growing again if no surgery was done.
This decision is a hard one and you are the only one who can really make that decision. But I feel like you might have to seek more help to actually do an informed decision for yourself while knowing all the consequences that every option might go with.
Greetings from Germany.
This is really well-written. I think Tiffany may not realize that no surgery is basically saying no to curative treatment, as you mention here: "Being inoperable means that your route would be a palliative one. And from what I have seen in your videos, that’s not what you want."
My sweet girl❤️you need to have the surgery right away! Cancer can grow so fast within days. My mother went from a negative cancer test and 2 months later stage 4 cancer. If it was me I would schedule it as soon as possible I would want it out of my body.
Sweet Tiffany, please have the surgery straight away. Cancer cells can spread so quickly and six weeks is a long time when it comes to cancer. You will recover from surgery and have your dear Matt, Amma, and sweet family all around you for support and care. Get this behind you. We got this. 💙
I absolutely second that
Yup same!!
Please don"t take the risk!!!!!
Disagree. Chemo has greatly weakened her system ... and surgery sounds very concerning to me. *Also, very surprised the doctor didn't have her admitted in the hospital the first time!! He should have known she was a high-risk candidate for bleeding! Shakes my confidence in him.
I cannot believe you Will Wait for the surgery. IT,s impossible to take such a HUGE décision the same Day you got the news, because you are still on a boost from the good news. But you need to think harder than this. Don't rely on the opinion of the surgeon only , ask other doctors. It's too important a décision to ne Taken ligthly like this darling. Also don"t rely on the prayers for this news. I believe in God and in prayers, but we can't influence God Will by our prayers. He only decide. I have lost both my parents to cancer and I have MS. So I have a lot of expérience with doctors and disease. You need to Also take your responsabilities and Read about what you have what kind of opération ... Etc. Please it's too important. Lots of love and prayers.
If prayers could stop cancer then nobody would die from this cruel cruel disease. My dad's cancer specialist told us they would delay treatment to try and build him up again and would see him 6 weeks later, well 4 weeks later he had died.
Sorry for your loss
Like everyone else here I question the wisdom of waiting. I would like to remind you that the reason your cancer was diagnosed so late was because doctors decided to wait and see. Had the right action been taken early last year you would not be going through this now. Is there something more to this ? Is your surgeon reluctant to go ahead because he is uncomfortable doing such a complicated operation? If so , perhaps you should look for one who is confident in doing it. Could he be concerned about long terms consequences of the surgery or doubtful of the success of the procedure? Whatever it is I hope it has been explained to you.
At the end of the day it is your life ,but we would all hate to see you miss the the timing and then regret. Diagnosed at stage 3 ,your eindow was narrow even at the point of diagnosis. I dont mean for survival but i mean with regards to treatment. This is a stage where it can progress fast and if it does there is no turning back. Frankly, i am taken aback so much time has lapsed since you completed chemo and radiation ,with no clear plan fwd. I wish you all the best. Pls consider getting another expert opinion.
If she don't go through its her fault she made that decision she has to live with it
@@riase He should be honest with her about that though, if that's the case. That's so sad though. I can't believe she has to go through this.
I'm very confused and disappointed ☹️ with her surgeon. First of all the biopsy was a bigger procedure bleeding for days and in pain. She should of stayed in the hospital a few days. Now he is saying no Cancer was found ???? Ok but what about the Tumor that the chemo and radiation did not shrink? That's still there. Wait 6 weeks to see what the new area of biopsies turns to Cancer ? In danger of spreading? I definitely think she should demand new scans, and talk about the surgery.
@@riase That's true. And that's fine, we don't deserve to know anything. But there's still a chance that her doctor didn't tell her, or she's misunderstood her circumstances, that's what we're here for.
@@riase Yes, if our comments do anything, I hope it at least inspires her to get a second opinion. Doctors make mistakes all the time. I know all too well.
Tiffany if there’s one thing I would say is please think again, you wanted the surgery so much and then now there is an option your obviously feeling this is a sign but things can turn and could be completely different within 6 weeks and the option took away. I lost my mum to bowel cancer, it did travel to the liver and lungs so please Tiffany don’t wait ….we got this x
Hi,Tifany! I am a doctor and if I would be you I would have the surgery ASAP. I know how cancer works and I’ve seen it on so many pacients. Cancer spread very quick and easily. Please don’t risk it and have the surgery
Thank You , Doctor . 💖💖
Thank you so much for sharing your opinion, I hope that Tiffany reads your message of wisdom & expertise. The risk is too high for her & waiting is giving the devil time.
We all know surgery is not a guarantee. I’ve known plent of people who go through it and it comes back. This surgery is very radical and I think her body and mind need to wait.
I agree doctor. The nhs is known for this suggestion and it doesn't end well so many times.
Agreed!
Yeah, in cancer, you have to act fast. Both my family members that deccided to put off surgery had it spready with in 3-6 weeks. Pancreatic cancer on one and breast cancer on the other. Both became metastatic within such a short time, going to the liver and lungs. Not trying to scare anyone. Just stating experience.
Im wondering if because they can't find any cancer, that, in her case, she is responding well to treatment so it is not likely to spread?
The team required for this operation is very difficult to assemble and would take months to schedule. A general surgeon, gynaecologist, urologist, plastic surgeon, anaesthesia and nursing staff. All this during covid waves and staffing shortages. Your surgery will not be in six weeks if you decide to do it,but in months. If at all. Have to be blunt here. Its your only chance to live. If Matt cannot live with the new post surgery Tiff then he needs to find someone else. Unless he works in this field, like many of us do, then he needs to get over himself. Cancer does not wait. 💙
I have held too many hands and hugged too many women who get the devastating news that their cancer is too far advanced and cannot be treated. Often times their partner is not even with them. I do not want this for her. Yes I feel she doesnt want to be a less than women for her bf. Risking her chance at life for that. We are women regardless of body parts. We should be loved as we are.
@@danielbobberson9849 immature too for 30.
I am not judging his motivations at all but I audibly gasped when Matt said he’ didn’t think’ it would grow in 6 weeks: “I’m guessing.” With all due respect he is in no position at all to be offering his opinion on whether or not her Stage 4 cancer will spread in 6 weeks. He is not her oncologist. He is not a doctor. He is not a researcher familiar with her type of cancer.
This is Tiffany’s life! You absolutely should not be saying to her ‘you don’t think it will grow’ when you are not a medical professional and have nothing substantial back up this opinion!
The “risk- reward” is not ‘surgery or no surgery’. It is surgery now or out of options. Who on earth is advising them?!
@@danielbobberson9849 the only ones forever there for her are her dear mother and sister. I am really worried about them too.
As a nurse and an “in remission” cancer patient, I’d have the surgery straight away. Without treatment in between, and the hell you’ve gone through, I’d have it done and over with. This is good news! Cancer can be insidious. It can be gone and 4 weeks later, relapsed and sick without warning. (What happened to me). You’re on the right track and this is great news but I’d get the surgery done as soon as possible. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Matt and ur mom and family are so loving supportive my dear u have been thru so so much been watching ur journey from day one god positvity and your doctors god be the rock for her please let her be fine and remission she has her whole life ahead of her let this journey end with good news amen
Yet a pelvis removal might include vaguna anus bladder repro organs etc and she will need a bag to go to. Bathroom for #1 and #2… it’s life altering but agreed that waiting has great risks also
I fear this loving trusting woman is in "Magical Thinking" ANF it will be the cause of her death.
As a retired nurse I would advise to have the surgery right away. I know you are relieved and finally feeling halfway better. In 6 weeks time the caned could come back with a vengeance. Take some time rest and counsel with your family. God Bless
@@oneseeker2 Thats exactly what I’m hearing too. The fact that surgery has been prolonged this long is mind blowing. What scares me is that you can only have so much chemo before they say your body can’t take anymore.
Dear sweet Tiffany. I have been following your journey and praying for you since the beginning. I don't often comment, but I feel compelled to now. I would have very serious concerns about a wait-and-see approach with such an advanced and aggressive cancer, especially considering you just had scans. Did you ask the surgeon what the scans showed? I know from personal experience that biopsies are far from perfect: they can and do miss what they are looking for. Like others here, I find many aspects of your health care concerning. I live in the United States, and it seems crazy to me how long they have made you wait, put you off, and failed to prioritize you in some of your most dire hours of need. Please seriously consider what your Tiffany Thinks family is saying. Yes, miracles do happen, but God also speaks through others, and personally, I believe He is speaking through these comments. At minimum, it would be prudent to get a second opinion ASAP, even if you have to pay privately. Others here are right that if you start a GoFundMe, the cost will be covered in no time. You are such a beautiful person, and we are all rooting for you. We support you, Tiffany! God bless. 💙
Hi Tiffany, i'm a doctor and i've been following your cancer journey. I have to be honest that these non cancerous biopsies can very easily be a few cm off from the tumor, and without knowing the specificacies of your illness (scans, histology) i would still strongly encourage you to get the surgery. This all seems a bit off, please consider getting the albeit large and life changing surgery, if it becomes inoperable the consequences are huge. I wish you all the best!
Hi Tiff.....God is in control. Surgery is always very risky and I will be reluctant to do any surgery if it can be avoided. However if you are feeling well enough now is the time to do it. Cancer never goes away completely. Good luck to you....tough decision here but pray about it.
You couldn't have worded that better well said
@@riase this!! I know everyone wants what’s best for her. But no one knows the particulars but her and her doctor. I’m sure we’re not hearing everything that he said. People are filling in the gaps w their own experience. And mistaken info from not having watched all the vids. And it’s hard for me to read doctors who haven’t examined her being so confident (not this doctors comment but so many others) and not asking questions about her case. I’m just hopeful if there truly is a problem with what the doc is suggesting, she’ll consider changing her mind and she’ll see there are so many people who care about her!!
@@jenc1276 Jen ... your cautionary post is well taken but think about this ... Tiff became Stage III many many months ago which means that daughter cancer cells have been circulating throughout her body for a long time. No matter what type of cancer, no matter the tumor grade, surgery ASAP is ALWAYS the optimum approach under these circumstances. She seems to need a multi-disciplinary surgical team which is not easy to assemble under the NHS. Even if she waits six weeks to see if there has been any tumor regression, from the time she finally agrees to surgery you don't think the operation will be scheduled for a few days later, do you? No ...it will be another several weeks delay. Even if she had the surgery tomorrow ... and all visible tumor was resected ... she still would not be 'cured' but NED ... no evidence of disease. After surgery, one always hopes that those pesky circulating cancer cells are overwhelmed by the patient's immune system and the patient can be truly eventually cured by showing a long-term survival. So ... cancer is unbelievably smart and resistant ... the best option is to get rid of any visible tumor ASAP by surgery.
@@riase I don’t think any great doctor would do anything bc he feels sorry for her. I just think we need the complete story. I mean in order to understand. 🙌🎈It’s so hard w such little info.
My god! The doctor recommended to wait???? Wait for what??? For the cancer to spread??? This doesn't make sense Tiffany. Something doesn't fit.
If I were in your shoes, I would make my decision based on this one thought… you can get “ahead” of this cancer by having it removed or be “chasing” it the rest of your life. Cancer always comes back rearing it’s ugly head. Put your prayers into God getting you through the surgery. Everyone hear has your best interest at heart by being honest about their thoughts. A lot of people here are professionals in the medical field that has seen a lot. ♥️😘
Also, should you chose to wait, please be proactive- I would find the most specialized Laparoscopic Surgeon in the UK and together with your surgeon start there- urgently. A surgery for biopsies via the rectum is very different than looking via Laparoscope. As an Oncology Nurse who has seen this time and again at the best US Medical centers, I am very worried with this “wait and see” approach… this is not wait and see type Cancer Tiffany. This is go to war type Cancer.
Yes, please Tiffany , as the previous member of your family said , “ Tiffany go to war against this type cancer. “ 🙏🏻♥️
Anyone else like me who went through all the comments and then rewatching the video?
@@aJxxw Me too. I have work to do, but I always came back to check.
Yes, I am rewatching in disbelief at Matt saying it's a "risk / reward" situation. I just don't have the words. My husband had cancer and surgery could've have come soon enough. And that was initially after two rounds of biopsies with clear margins. Three weeks later it was in four pelvis lymph nodes and he needed to have half his leg removed and then a final round of chemo. Being presented with surgery NOW to prevent this becoming INOPERABLE is clearly the way forward. Waiting is suicide.
@@scrappyentrepreneur9100 I guess they overestimate what clear biopsy means and think that in some way, she will nedd no surgery at all, if they just wait for 6 weeks. The situation could be better by then. They completly forgot about the scans.
I´m so sorry for her. I had cancer twice and last time they where discussing a surgery - I would have lost my uterues, my bladder, my rectum. I know how terrified Tiffany must be!
Thankfully my chemo did such a good job, that the tumor was basically gone and radiation finished it.
So many times
Me too!
This video makes me realize what an extremely valuable tool YT is. Here you are with a life/death decision and unsure what to do. In the mean time, you have over 6k comments, many from highly qualified people (doctors, nurses and patients), telling you exactly what you should do without hesitation. Ultimately Tiffany, the decision is yours to make, but based on all the advice given, it seems one option is the best. I would heed the advice of thousands of people who seem to know what they are talking about. Your oncologist doesn't strike me as someone who cares about you as much as those of us who watch your channel regularly do.
I agree and it’s amazing how powerfully affected we all seem to be which really could have such affect on people’s proactiveness in their own lives too. ❤️
Well said , we worry for tiff because she is apart of us all.
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Tiffany knows how lucky she is to have such a compassionate, caring surgeon who has sincerely promised her that he will look after her like she is his sister. He is a highly specialised surgeon at a world leading cancer hospital and apparently only one of about fifteen surgeons in the world who can do this surgery. When he initially explained to her about what the surgery entailed, he said it was brutal and she was so lovely and so young that he felt bad telling her all about it. He strikes me as someone who really does care about Tiffany.
@@minke08 he said the cancer is a “beast.”
They honestly don't care. I think I've met 1 GP who cared about my health and was very adamant regarding me having my breast checked because of a pain I was feeling. I had a huge issue with a nurse at the Royal Marsden. The nurse checked my breast just by barely touching it. No scan, no nothing... With all the respect to all the nurses, but I was supposed to see a doctor, not a nurse. This is the first thing, to start with... Especially when I had a visible lump under my armpit.
I've been misdiagnosed 5 years ago with Leukaemia , by 5 doctors which belonged to the NHS. I have also done a breast scan where they said they found nothing. Flew to Portugal they found a cyst and a nodule, which needs to be controlled for the next 2 years as prevention, every 6 moths. At the NHS, they don't even do this control thing. Lastly, 2 months ago I had some issues did an MRI here, and also within a week another MRI in Portugal. MRI here in London, came back clear all good. MRI in Portugal cervical hernia between C5 and C6. Now, imagine this week with this flaring up, me having to talk to the GP telling him I am not a liar and I have images on my laptop (which by the way NHS never offers/shows you) from the MRI done in Portugal and you can clearly see a cervical hernia which explains the pain and numbness in my arm. While he is telling my MRI report in the UK says I'm fine and I have nothing. Right, how awkward... Honestly, they miss literally everything in this country with rare exceptions.
Yes to surgery. No to waiting. I remember you prayed for the opportunity to have surgery. This is your narrow window to act. I recall you sharing that your surgeon has to assemble a large team, which will take some days in itself. Please start start the ball rolling, the sooner the better. We all want the very best for you.❤️❤️❤️
Don’t wait, have the surgery!
As a former melanoma patient, my doctor told me 6 more weeks and it would have spread…. I know it’s a different situation but why take the chance? Get it done!
I was a melanoma patient .......double diagnosis same leg two sites ...anything appears on me it gets cut out stitches as I choose life .. I'm shocked your consultant is so complacent it's cancer bad evil stuff do the full job properly and please have no regrets ..once it spreads liver that's game over ...spread to 2 my family members to brain brother 39 glioblastoma ...please read and take note of person after person after person advice on here ??? Get the surgery now ?
They managed to organize all of the surgeons, everything and everyone is ready to perform this life saving surgery. In six weeks, some of them might be out of country, someone might get corona, everything can happen to keep delaying it further. I think it's such a good thing you've asked for people's opinions, so many experts, nurses, survivors and loved ones of people who had lost the battle to cancer have spoken up. Please take their voices to heart, everyone is very positive and even loud in the comments because they are trying to get you to the other side of this. You've been through so much, it would break all of our hearts if this six week wait ends up winning over. You want to be there for your family, for your adorable little cousins, for a lifetime with Matt and your kind hearted mom. Whatever you chose, it's your decision in the end. I'm rooting for you as I have for all this time!
Such great point about the supposed surgical team he assembled
so true🙏🏻💙💙💙
I 100% agree with your comment. I needed a surgery to save my unborn baby’s life and my original surgeon that was suppose to perform the surgery had a family emergency. We had to wait an additional day to have the surgery and it was by a different doctor. This was a very random incident but my surgeon was more easily replaced. Whereas Tiffany’s Surgeon (like she mentioned in a previous video) is one of the few in the world that can perform it. I’m just baffled why this even is an option and also why anyone would take such a life threatening risk.😔
😢 yes .. we want to see you grow :-) beat this xx you got this xx
@@jannottage1632 exactly so many red flags. I still can't believe he said those weeks of heavy bleeding, excruciating pain, and vomiting were perfectly normal after a biopsy. Just looking at her it's obvious the physical toll it took on her. I'd be very afraid of him operating on me
Tiffany, I have watched your journey from the beginning. Coming from someone whose mom had a similar cancer. Please please please get the surgery. Do not wait! I know it will be life alerting!!! God will see you through every moment. Just as he has seen you this far. The fact you went from inoperable to operable is a miracle in itself. I am praying for you daily to see many more miracles, but the Lord expects us to also make wise decisions and having the surgery IS the wise decision. It’s what you have been praying for. Many many prayers for you. Love you 💙
If it was me I would go for surgery but that's me. You have to do what you feel is best for you. Take care
Tiffany, Many years ago I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. I had seen a Dr. for spotting for several months. He would paint my cervix with some med, and it would be okay for a couple of months and then resume. I finally got a second opinion from a wonderful GYN, who sent a pap done by himself to the same lab that had been doing them from the previous Dr. My GYN phoned the lab in my presence and asked for a comparison of all the slides. The outcome was that ALL slides showed carcinoma in situ from the very beginning. I had surgery one week later. Had I listened to the first Dr. I likely wouldn't be typing this. I was 29 years old. When the golden ring drops-grab it!
Tiffany I have followed you for a very long time but have never commented. You have taught me so much and I am 74. I have read your comments and being on social media you are so fortunate to hear so many people’s opinions, many of them being doctors, oncologists, nurses but also people who have had a similar journey to you. Tiffany listen to them. Take their advice. There is no second chance. I know you love your family so much and their opinions matter but they’re not medical opinions they are opinions made with love but lacking medical knowledge. I pray you make the right decision very quickly 🥰
Wow! Beautiful .
I'm amazed that the doctor thinks that your vomiting and pain is from the anesthesia... that literally makes no sense.
it can take days to recover from GA and one of the side effects is vomiting
Tiffany, please, I hope you will listen to the little bit of advice I have to give you. My Godsister had the exact scenario you’re in play out. Negative biopsies came back, she pushed her surgery out and 3 weeks later pains started and when she went back to the doctor it had spread beyond te point where anything could be done to help her. She died and left behind 2 very young sons. Please don’t wait. This will kill you if you do. You have the cancer cells living in your body. Tiffany you have to be ruthless with your cancer as hard as it is or your end will be ruthless. You are too special and beautiful and have so much more life to live and I worry this is going to be a devastating mistake if you wait. IN SIX WEEKS IT CAN BECOME INOPERABLE AND YOU WILL NEVER GET THIS MOMENT BACK. The moment when you had the choice to save your life. Love you so much. We got this.
I have never commented before but this is just not right. I hope I haven’t been to harsh. I say it all with all the love and compassion in the world. Ive just seen what can happen. ❤️
@@dianaramzinski6388
You were not too harsh ❤️
You are not too harsh you are telling her from your heart what is best for her. We care a lot about her and waiting is not the best option.
Please take the surgery. The answer to prayers is the surgery being offered to you, not having had a negative biopsy. Negative biopsy could mean there are cancerous cells, just not in the areas that were tested. The miracle is having been offered a surgery. Don’t take a risk on your life.
I’ve rewatched the video to listen again to your summary of the biopsy results. At 11:27, you say that the cancer cells have turned into mucin / mucus. Is the surgeon saying that the cancer mass he was expecting was not there and instead he found mucus? Or that the cancer cells were transformed into mucus?
My strong suspicion is that your surgeon is indeed a colorectal specialist, but in solid-mass tumours. What you are describing has the hallmark of Mucinous Adenocarcinoma, which more commonly appears in younger patients, is difficult to diagnose / observe with biopsy, the mass is more than 50% mucus, is less responsive to chemotherapy with the more mucus that is secreted and is best detected via MRI. The mucus is believed to aid in the spread of the cancer.
I’m very concerned that they went in expecting to find a solid mass, but were surprised to find mucus…aka Mucinous Adenocarcinoma. Please seek a second opinion, privately. Biopsies are known to be especially unreliable for this type of cancer. The fact this is again his suggestion in six weeks concerns me all the more. MRI is best for this type of cancer…
We are more than willing to support you should you seek a private consultation. Please take immediate action and seek a specialist private opinion.
Yes I noticed that she said the surgeon said the cancer cells turned into mucin/mucus
@@YouAreMySunshine2 I'm struggling to wrap my head around that statement, I don't understand how that can be. I suspect she means that a large volume of the tumour is made of mucus...
I was thinking exactly the same. But I cannot believe her surgeon is not considering that possibility. It should be impossible. According to her, he is a top oncological surgeon in one of the best oncological hospitals in Europe. I just don't understand....
Omg I hope she sees this comment, thank you for sharing this information it is so important. I have been so worried and find myself coming back to read the comments as I just can’t believe he recommended a wait and see approach
@A Zapater We have that confusion in common. I really really hope that he’s not just a specialist for solid mass tumours…perhaps he gave her advice and explanations which she hasn’t communicated clearly to us! In the excitement of it all, that’s certainly possible. I’m really hoping for her!
Dear Tiffany, I rarely ever post aything on youtube. As a former researcher in oncology and someone who went through a cancer scare myself many years ago, I totally agree with the others that surgery is the main option. It is the most definitive cancer treatment. It is your choice in the end but this may very well be a life or death decision. I know none of this is easy and it's clearly overwhelming. We only have one life to live and it's not easy to make the right decision when we are in the situation you are in. I firmly believe that removing a tumor or the problematic area is the safest way to go. Surgery is invasive but still worth it especially with the type of cancer you are dealing with. Even if no cancer cell were found, the chances that they are still there making their way through another area insidiously are extremely high. Your cancer had already spread but was still localised within the pelvis area. You do not want it to reach other major organs. I am also against biopsy as I also believe they do contribute to the cancer spreading which is why I refused the biopsy many years ago and opted for a surgery with wide margins instead. I didn't want them to poke the suspicious area at all or seed any cancer cell somewhere else. You have sustained several biopsies and scraping and if there were cancer cells still around, those may have spread already,. Cancer cells are not regular cells. They are fierce and often very aggressive, they may already be somewhere else spreading uncontrollably. I wish you all the courage you need to make an informed decision that you will feel comfortable with. Sends you lots of prayers as well to you, Matt and Amma. Take care.
Oh I hope she sees this comment, this is so important
I hope so! This is the day we have been waiting for .. it’s nearly a year - get the surgery.. I didn’t even sleep thinking about it x
I totally agree with you, cancer is a sneaky little character, I've sadly witnessed it with both my beloved sisters, she has been given a false sense of security I believe. I really hope she changes her mind bless her.
100% agree . She needs surgery asap not another biopsy.
@@Seaflower1008 I agree, I’ve been worried sick. I keep thinking she is going to post an update saying she is having surgery. I’m so angry with her doctor for even giving her the wait and see option. Why in the hell risk her life. Her entire care has been so many delays it makes me crazy. Our health care has flaws in the United States that’s for sure but I feel things move much quicker here with more aggressive approach
Dear Tiffany, as a GP in the Netherlands, I would never comment but I care about you. It is now time to stand up for your health and life. More than ever. Do not wait 6 weeks now but ask the coming days for your GP to overthink the options with you, ask for a second talk with your specialist or a second opnion in another hospital. I advise you to let your decision be made not on hope or fear but only make your decision once you are well informed of the risks, pros and cons. It must be an extremely hard time for you and your family. I wish you all the best and strenght.
Dear Tiff, you asked for our advice and we gave it wholeheartedly based on knowledge, experience and care for you too. We hope none of these comments hurt you in any way shape or form as they all came from love and care. Now we'll just pray you take the decision that you'll celebrate in the long term young sweet lady.
WE GOT THIS 💙
I feel like we don't have all the info that the doctor has. And Tiffany and her family are not researching anything on their own. It is dangerous to ONLY go by what the doctor says and you have to advocate for yourself ALWAYS (Tiffany already had learned this the hard way BEFORE when the cancer diagnosis was delayed). My opinion based just on what we could see in the video is that Tiffany is freaked out by her bad response to the exploratory surgery/biopsies and is choosing to find some hope in that the biopsies the doctor took did not find any cancer cells. And so despite being told that in 6 weeks, there is the chance that cancer cells reach her lungs, liver and other organs and once again make her situation inoperable, she is deciding to take that risk. I looked up the pelvic surgery that had been offered and it is hardcore surgery with the removal of basically everything in her pelvis. I understand not wanting to have such a severe surgery. But if it gives you better odds of survival, doesn't it make sense to do it? If you are reading this Tiffany, I'm appealing to your very intelligent brain to please don't bury your head in the sand. Right now it is TIME TO FIGHT! FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! Sending you hugs.
Removing everything in pelvic surgery means removing intestine and uterus? I didn’t get it
Well said i really hope Tiffany heeds this!
@@aileen8492 Yes, and the vagina, cervix and sometimes the blatter too. This is a huge decision, this surgery is dangerous and prone to complications, and her quality of life is going to be severely impacted. Plus she seems very weak, she needs time to recover. I dont know if im understanding correctly, but maybe if after the 6 weeks the biopsies are still negative she can keep some of her organs?
If she is having doubts about doing the surgery because of how radically it will change her life, I hope she will just say so and we can respect that. At this point we are all confused and speculating because we are in the dark. Alternatively maybe the surgeon isnt very optimistic about the surgery being able to reduce risk enough or isnt confident of pulling it off. Hasnt she said that other surgeons were reluctant to operate? The tumour hasnt shrunk so nothing has changed.
Tiffany, having lost my gorgeous partner to inoperable cancer, if they are offering surgery now, please please take it, if it is a aggressive large tumour as they have said in the past, it may well have gone negative cells but it is still there, get it out asap and move on with your recovery with the best future outcome. You got this girl, in six weeks if you have it done now your body will be healing instead of waiting for more damaging biopsies.
I agree. I think waiting is a mistake & could make things much worse for her I wish she would have taken more time before making her decision. I would not wait 1 more day!
I 100% agree
your last point is so true about where she could be in 6 weeks. I would tell my loved one not to delay too. the faster you get the cancerous area out of the body, the better
Please don’t give any advice to people in this situation 🤯. They should listen to their doctor and their intuition, no one else 🙄
@@elliez4871 hey I think the cancer has been obliterated by radio and chemo.
Tiffany , if it were me or anyone in my family I’d get the surgery asap . There is No Way it’s gone & I’m sure the PET scan confirmed that . Getting a negative surface biopsy means nothing . The fact that you bled so much & the mucus like consistency makes me believe after being in medical field for 30 years that you are risking your life by waiting 6 weeks . If you get the surgery it will ge rough but you’re young & you’ll recover . If you wait & it spreads & becomes inoperable you don’t have a chance . Get a second opinion. This may be your only window to gray this monster . We are all praying for you but don’t get false reassurance because if the “ power of prayer” . You are way to young to succumb to this cancer .
Praying for you & your family to come to the best decision for you 💙🙏
I had the same thought. Not taking the surgery seems like offering a punctured inflatable to a man lost at sea. Short term gain, long-term pain.
Gemma this is one of the most sensiblest and straight to the point replies I’ve seen,we all love tiff and want the best possible outcome for her,I agree,too much of a gamble to wait,as you say it will be tough,very tough you are young tiff but it will be worth it in the end.💙🙏xxxx
So much can happen in six weeks. Covid waves, infection, surgeon changed his mind, metastasis, delays in tests. She has cancer and without surgery, it is not going away. I am not sure how anyone can think that she can be cured without surgery. God gave us science and medicine to heal us. Not prayers alone are needed.
She needs someone to tell her the truth being nice won't make her change her mind
Gemma I hope she reads your comment you couldn't have worded that better well said
I have been sitting here reading comments after comments after comments thinking I would finally get to the end. Then I see there is over 5000 comments! I can't read them all! I just need to say it was so special sitting here reading them and seeing how perfect strangers, can care so much for someone they watch on CZcams. ALL OF YOU WONDERFUL, CARING PEOPLE, ARE AMAZING! I just had to tell you that!
Feel the same
I feel compelled to comment again after doing a little research on the proposed 'wait and watch' option. From my understanding (bearing in mind I am not a qualified doctor), the wait and watch approach is only a valid option for patients who have achieved 'complete clinical response' from chemo and radiotherapy. This status is only achieved if there's no evidence of disease on any examination (colonoscopy, digital anal exam, MRI, PET scan). If cancer shows on any of the previously mentioned examinations, then the patient is not suitable for a 'wait and watch' approach and should have the radical surgery. In the case of complete clinical response, the limited studies so far have suggested it has a comparable outcome to radical surgery, but with much better retained function for the patients. So, it seems that Tiffany really needs to know the results of the MRI and PET scan before she can make a fully informed decision.
Thanks for this info, it makes a lot of sense. Yes, the scan results are the key. I think if the scans showed no cancer they all would have been shouting and screaming for joy and they were not. Matt looked very concerned, even during his party.
@@maureenshea4268 he always looks that way though lol
I would get the surgery, Tiffany….
(speaking as someone with both ovarian and uterine cancer surgery and chemo).
No evidence of disease on scans is not no disease, esp if you’ve had a lot of recent chemo, it can destroy it but can also send it into hiding - as anyone who has been in remission and then had a recurrence of their cancer will attest to!
This is about saving your life.
Yes! Totally agree!
Noooo, please don´t wait!!! The risk is so high to take that cancer can spread out. In 6 weeks can many things happen. I am definitely supporting to get the surgery right away. Please receive a lot of hugs!.
PLEASE Tiffany… I love and care about you so much and have been watching your videos since day 1. The fact that the doctor is saying it’s possible for it to spread to your liver or lungs means the cancer isn’t gone. Please do not wait and let this become inoperable. I think he’s just telling you to wait because he’s really busy. That must be the case because he wasn’t even available to talk to when you were recovering from your biopsies. Please reconsider. I think you should come to the United States to get help, here you wouldn’t have had to wait! They would’ve helped you a lot sooner.
agree about the doctor
And if it's spreading to liver of lung IT Will then be metastatic cancer which means incurable. She would have to deal with terminal cancer. This is HUGE !!!!
Dearest Tiffany, I have been following your story. I am gravely concerned for you. This is all a bit illogical right now. I’m in a medical family… no dr should suggest ‘waiting’ with the risk being inoperable. Please watch your own video back when you are thinking more clearly. I want the best for you as do the thousands of others who have also voiced their concerns. Please seek an urgent second opinion or see your dr again as a matter of urgency. Your life literally depends on the decision you make in the next couple of weeks. Hugs and best wishes x
🌟TIFFANY PLEASE READ ALL THE COMMENTS . PEOPLE HAVE REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES WITH CANCER EITHER HAVING HAD IT THEMSELVES OR FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS WHO HAVE HAD IT . MOST PEOPLE THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE THE SURGERY ASAP BECAUSE EVERYONE ON THIS CHANNEL LOVES AND CARES FOR YOU , 😘❤️
Yes 100% agree 👍
Very good point cherry,please Tiffany read this lady’s comment,it may not be what you or anyone would want to hear but it this lady is talking sense xx
I agree I had stage 3 breast cancer and I truly believe the only reason I'm here today is they had me in within 2 weeks for a mastectomy and I then went through chemo and radiation, there no time to wait with cancer it needs to be taken straight away , I really hope she listens to everyones advice,