Just cut the parts of the family that are playing childish favoritism. She has a husband, if she didn’t get over her crush, she shouldn’t have married.
I was thinking the same thing like what logic does the younger sister have she's married and has a child what more does she want she should of gotten over that crush. P.s. wasn't trying to be mean just stating a fact that for some reason stills baffles me🤨
Narrator bias. You can't see through this? She snuck around with the guy for years. Husband never gave boundaries, she never told her sister. She sucks
@JBTFan124 If a person is that obsessed, then getting married to someone else is not the answer until the unresolved feelings are dealt with. It was not fair to her husband or Baby to keep dreaming of a man who wasn't her husband.
Regardless if the sister didnt marry the dude, the younger one would've still been obsessed and caused the end of the marriage. The obsession is the issue, it's stalker behaviour.
So no one is really angry with her for marrying or going out with him, yet all of them have essentially rejected her, didn’t come to her wedding, made her out to be the bad guy, mostly cut contact, what all because they want to appease the youngest. This family is incredibly toxic, op should put up a wall and block them.
OP needs to quit feeling guilty about finally being with the love of her life. God knows they try to make it not happen for a long time. The best thing that you did, OP, was finally contact your sister and the fact that she replied the way she did made me think that maybe she was finally realizing the part she played in the whole drama. I hope you too can work things out together in the future.
absolutely disgusting behavior, and her husband SHOULD be pissed about how she's reacting. if my spouse acted that butt-hurt about someone marrying someone else they liked years ago, I'd be in couples therapy immediately, and if they refused to go, then immediately gone.
the sisters husband is galactically stupid because he knew prior to marrying her she was obsessed with another man. then he compounded his garbage decision making by having a child with her. his misery is self inflicted
You have NO reason to apologize, your husband had NO interest in your sister and had ever right who he wanted to be with. The fact she carried on like that was insane and your mother needs help too. She has a husband and child which should be her priority not a delusion
Op's family is ridiculous and entitled. This man was not an ex, not any one the sister dated, never got close to her. There is no reason why OP can't marry him and be happy. Sister has her own husband and family now. OP, you didn't do anything wrong, your sister has to stop treating this guy like her property.
Stop saying you did the wrong thing. You & he have been in love for years. A Real Family would be happy for you. Stop making your self the bad guy. There the bad guy.
I'm so mad that even in the end the first OP was still feeling she did something wrong. It was a CRUSH from a DECADE ago with a guy SHE NEVER ASKED OUT. Like wtf. The younger sisters husband shouldn't have married her knowing she was still so obsessed and she should 100% be fucking over it by now. 2 single people fell in love and got married but are somehow the villains?????
Why does it seem like there’s a disturbing amount of people not going to their daughter’s weddings. I can’t imagine my whole family being in agreement to NOT attend one of my daughters wedding for some stupid crush when she’s ostensibly moved on, got married, and even had a kid.
I'm going to be honest here if this was my child which would be the sister pulling this crap I think I would have told her a long time ago you need to get over this shit clearly the guy wasn't into you and things happened between him and your sister I understand you didn't like that but you're married now you have a man that's very loving and faithful to you he's giving you two children that you love and care for get over it You're not a little girl that's in high school anymore You're a full grown woman with a husband and kids stop it me and your mother and the rest of the family were going to go up to that wedding without you and if you could contact with us we don't care our grandkids are going to be old enough to eventually want to come and seek us out and that's their choice not yours that would literally be the end of that crap because I hate when people enable their children to be terrible little shits
This, I think there are too many people that haven't been told "Though Shit" this is life and you aren't you aren't the most important person to everybody out there.
If they never dated and the younger sister is married with children. If the younger sister is upset about this then her husband needs to divorce her because she clearly thinks her unrequited crush is more important than her sister. The parents should have asked her to wake up long ago. As long as the younger sister never dated or slept with the guy and there was no malicious intent the parents should have told their youngest to grow up.
I'm sorry why does YS need tome to forgive OP? This a grown ass man YS cant call dibs on and deem her Second/BackUp Husband. Its even worse bc NO ONE but the parents cared and yet they still decide NOT TO COME TO OP'S WEDDING little what a bunch of cowards. They skipped their Sisters, Niece, and Grandchild wedding bc YS would have had a fit despite the fact SHE MARRIED AND HAS A BABY. OP and Hubby should go LC with her family.
Agree!! And he doesn't even remotely like her. This is all in her head the deluded creep who went on to marry and have kids with someone while sneakily lurking on his social media pages and prying into, commenting on his love life like some predator. I'm most sorry for the child in all this. Even the hubby of the sister seems to have known a little about her 'obsession'. OP and hubby do not owe the sister and crappy golden child's family anything.
@personwithaquestion1800 What's funny is the whole I was listening to the story Miraculous Lady Bug and Cat Noir kept popping up in my head. Like how Marinatte is with Adrian throughout the show. The whole story is a handbook in Gaslighting 101 and How to Identify It In Family.
My opinion on the first story. It's not Ops fault. She fell in love, her sister apparently never got over the guy, so why marry and hsve a child with someone you don't love. Op tryed to hide her love for years just to not hurt people but you can't hide true love. Op deserves to be happy sometimes love is wierd but that doesn't mean sacrifice your happiness for someone else.
Anyone with a brain involved in situations like this should just flat out ask that very question right in front of the husband. Baffles me how some people think they can lay claim to someone who they're not married to, WHILE THEY ARE MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE.
Oh for the love of Pete!!! Sister needs to grow up!! Parents need to stop coddling and OP needs to backbone up and tell sister to grow up!!! Why in the hell does OP even care that sister throwing a fit. Sister at no point even had sights on OP hubby for the long term and now her life is over???? Good lord some of these stories piss me off!!
So, the sister seemingly never made a move, eventually moved on, got married, and is still so hung up on this guy that she can't be happy for her sister. Not only is OP's family worthless, but her sister's husband also needs to file for divorce considering he's apparently just what she settled for and isn't even who she really wants to be with.
This sounds overblown. Everyone in this family is too dramatic. The little sister shouldn’t have been the emotional center of the family so shame on the parents. The toxic reactions to a decades old crush situation is ridiculous. Idk why this was even posted. Everyone here OP included annoyed me.
Probably is fake. Pretty sure I've heard the exact lines at 14:24 in another story from one of these channels. I think it had to do with cheating? They're entertaining, but when they start talking all deep like that it really breaks the immersion.
It's a CRUSH... not an ex... he didn't like her. A crush shouldn't be off limits imo. Especially if she got married and had a kid with someone else. Wth
Little sister is delusional. And the parents especially the mom is an enabler. Little sister’s crazy obsession caused a huge problem and ripple effect.
Dude I’ll never understand this, how is someone who is MARRIED blaming their sister for marrying she USED to have a crush on. It’s like the younger sister was still holding out hope that he would confess to her so that she can start an affair, while the parents are so immature how are you going to blame your daughter for marrying someone her younger sister used to like and never had a relationship with? That’s a huge L on the parents part
Story 1 - The youngest sister is of hers is an obsessive monster . . . She has been stalking her sister’s husband for years. The Mother is somewhat responsible for this she put her youngest daughter on a pedestal and spoilt her.
"Fiancé broke off the engagement with her cause she became different after proposal." Ya I'm calling cap, dude lied because he isn't willing to admit a different side of him comes out after he puts a ring on it. I doubt the OP ever met the Ex's ex. It's the same as the GF/BF going "Oh my ex was just crazy, foaming at the mouth, going completely wild. They were a total Narcissist.", and usually the GF/BF is waving giant red flags at the exact same time.
Damn, damn, the stalker sister threw a tantrum, ruined her marriage all on her own. And this girl feels so bad, and is made to feel so bad when she has done absolutely nothing wrong.
Oof that story was hard to sit through. Was this some weird reverse powertrip? As if she really could have had that much of an impact on her family... OP and her sister fell in love with OP's husband, the husband didn't love the sister, sister marrying someone she didn't love and even conceiving a child with that poor dude, the family playing favourites... None of that is caused by OP. She needs a long hard look in the mirror, see her own role in all this and take a good look at who these people are. Begging for forgiveness from someone that should be begging themselves is spineless and dumb.
I think the mother of this siblings is the problem. She don't help, she make things worse for supporting her youngest daugther in a wrong way and the fact that she is the queen bee in the family is many worse, she probably control the family as she like. I'm sure that if you give a good lesson at her mother, you can resolve the all problems of the family
Ya Op shouldn't be apologizing at all There is something seriously wrong with this family. This is what happens when you have favoritism for 1 child over the other Parents are 1000% to blame I think the right thing to would be to yes leave the sister alone but it'd be so much more satisfying to tell her what you wanted to tell her in the first place
The family were the ones that caused the rift. They're the ones out casting and black sheeping family members just because someone who is married suddenly wants to go to the bone zone with someone who was very clearly never interested in that way. The rift between the sister and her husband is coming from the fact that the sister had herself a right little temper tantrum about who her sister was marrying when she herself is already married to someone. I'd be mad at my significant other too if they were having a fit because their sibling married their crush from college. Especially if that crush had never once reciprocated in any way and the relationship was only in my SO's head.
I'm honestly confused with this first story because what exactly is wrong with op and her relationship? Sounds like the sister needs to be put in a mental hospital something ain't right in her head.
It would be one thing if OP stole her sister's man, but this is entirely different. They were never together. It's not OP's fault her sister can't get over her crush.
Second girl She needs to leave him He's a narcissist and a manipulator. The fact that he's so much older than her and she's so young shows predatory behavior He needs to just leave and go on with his own miserable self She talking about she wants to give him a final ultimatum. And she don't want to be a victim. Well sometimes you are the victim whether or not you like it
This must run in almost every family because my younger sister had a "crush" on my husband. My husband didn't even know she existed and related to me or our mum. He thought she was a friend of our mum that went to the casino. (He was a slot technician at the casino here in Az) When my younger sister found out we were moving in together she literally flipped out and dropped a bomb on the family saying she was in love with him.
So OP's family is siding with the younger sister who had a crush on a guy, became obsessed to the point she actively stalked him and everyone is backing her and don't show up to *OP's wedding* to him because...her sister called dibs 10 years ago and is pissed even though she's married with a kid? The sister is literally delusional and the family are *massive* enablers to the sister and assholes to OP, putting her younger sisters one sided obsession over OP and her husband *mutual* love and it is so messed up! Especially since her obsession is causing a rift in their family and OP feeling guilty when all she did wrong was date a guy who liked her back. It would be one thing if OP's sister shot her shot and the guy turned her down viciously, but she stalked him from a distance and still acted like she *owned* him. It's so delusional and creepy and the fact *no-one* in their family called her out on it before OP's wedding and continued to heap the 'blame' on OP for living her life is nuts to me. "I'm not ready to forgive you," FOR WHAT?! For shattering the illusions you wrapped yourself in that he could every return your feelings when he only ever saw you as a sister? For falling for a guy that felt the same way about her? For deciding to stop keeping their relationship a secret (if someone doesn't want to make their relationship public, they DO NOT HAVE TO; it's no-one's business as long as they aren't in a relationship with someone else) and get married, especially since the younger obsessed sister was already MARRIED WITH A KID?! I'm not sorry, but the sisters sense of entitlement towards this guy is so toxic and that everyone is catering to her and her obsession and heaping blame on OP for being the one he actually loves is so mind-bogglingly STUPID! How are they all this delusional, it was a crush from 10 YEARS AGO and she's MARRIED WITH A KID! Cut the woe-is-me victimhood and fix your dang marriage and raise your kids for crying out loud!
Well it just proves her family think more of her sister than her. Her family didn’t even turn up to her wedding they caused the family rift not her. Don’t worry about it just go no contact with the lot of them.
Then the sister who likes him should but she decided not to so this sister got him and happy for her good luck and wish you the best and I just saw this video and ur parents are childish ur sister is childish to jus seems like it’s not ur fault u both fell for each other
OP in the sister story is an idiot. She had everyone telling her it wasn’t her fault, and she ignored them all and apologized anyway. Acting like she’s some monster. Really?
This woman has got to stop taking the blame for everything. She's being ridiculous. EDIT: Got to the end of the story, and now it adds up. She's got a complex. And the second story is even worse. These women are ridiculous. Like, get therapy or something. 🙄
So am I the only one a bit bothered by the fact that OP hooked up with the guy her sister was more or less have her parents meeting as a love interest on the same day the meeting happened....🤷
It is not your fault. Your BIL should be with someone who loves him. Your sister really need to go to therapy. She has to accept she cant have him, go over, find peace and hopefully find true love. Take your distance for now and your husband and you should put your social media private. To protect you and avoid gasoline on your sister and her obsession. It will be hard and long. But it is necessary and will be best for everybody on the long run.
Op and her husband did nothing wrong, the sister is the one in the wrong. She stocked him on social media while she was with someone else. That's creepy! I think she invited him to her wedding as a last ditch effort to make him realize his feelings for her and stop the wedding. I mean why else would you invite a man that your husband specifically asked you not to. I would have never married a person this obsessed with someone else. i feel sorry for the sisters husband, op, and ops husband. Ops mom and dad are pretty awful people. Not going to her wedding, and probably kept everyone Else from going as well
If any part of this AI generated story should be true, OP is such a doormat, it’s not even funny. Cut out that toxic mother, that ridiculous sister, and enjoy married life.
People like OP, the scapegoats raised in this type of family, need someone to snap them into reality. Hope Hubby is the right man for her. Because a good husband would remind her she's not to blame for this and help her all that toxicity behind.
Everyone pretty much overreacted like literally op sister is weird and that’s that everyone should have just told her to get over it her husband should have left her sooner and no one should be hurt by this or “caught in the middle” like the sister never even dated the guy she’s just weird and I find it weird that everyone is acting like op stole her sister’s husband but in reality they weren’t even a thing
bc the lady in story 2 did the right thing and left before the marriage im only gonna comment on the 1st story. if the younger sister supposedly moved on and is married AND has kids alr, idgaf if she HAD, not has but HAD aka past tense, a crush on this dude. move tf on and stay w ur husband who clearly cares for u. if u still had a rush on this guy who was NEVER interested in u romantically and u feel like u cant move on go to fuckin therapy. he never showed interest in u in the same way u did him so its clearly not gonna work out. and the mom irritates me so much, ur youngest daughter has a crush on someone who doesnt reciprocate feelings. SO TEACH HER HOW TO MOVE ON FROM THOSE FEELINGS. u can still sympathize n shit but tell her its not meant to be and teach her to grieve, and if its not workin TAKE HER TO THERAPY OR HAVE HER TALK TO HER GUIDANCE COUNSLOR.
Everyone is the A-hole. Op for sleeping with her sister's crush even after she new about her sister still had crush on that guy. That guy was there because your sister bought him to family to met as her crush. Doesn't matter he likes the sister or not, you shouldn't have slept with him Now your sister is A-hole. Even after being married she still have problems with this. She shouldn't. Op husband is also A-hole. He shouldn't have cause any rift between you and sister. I am assuming he knew about your sister crush on him. I would say the op is the biggest A-hole. Because she feels entitled that everyone should forgive her; it's like even if she says it's the biggest mistake she made, but she feels like it's not that big of a deal at this moment. Sister is A-hole in her marriage ( to her husband).
Tbh from my point no one actually is wrong here and at the same time everyone is wrong here.....one thing i like to say is op is ahole for keeping it a secret for all this time and ALSO ahole for going for her sister's crush ( For people who say you can't control who you fell for - just keep your BS away from me )........and the sister well it's not about being stuck on crsuh it's about you don't go for the person your sister/brother likes op should have confessed the moment she hooked up with the crush for the first time all in all i am with the sister on this one and tbh i would have preffered if the sister go nc with op........this is my opinion everyone has theirs and are entitled to have it but please don't start and arguement with me over this.
So she cyberstalks a man she has a crush on but he has no feelings for her she gets married has a kid but still cyberstalks him the refuses to go to the wedding of her sister even though she is married with a kid and even if he didn't marry her sister they would never be together she needs therapy and your family needs to stop encouraging this she needs therapy and none of this is your fault you just happen to be related to his stalker
Your sister married someone else and never dated your husband. Why all the drama over an obsessive crush?? Your sister needs to grow up and get over herself, and y'all need to stop enabling her.
Idc what no one else’s opinion is but if you marry someone, your sister was crushing on you’re not a very good sister. I don’t think that it will be worth not coming to my child’s wedding because it’s not like the crush and sister were in a relationship but still if I was the sister who had the crush, I wouldn’t come.
While I don’t think your the AH how your relationship started is kinda messed up. You just don’t sleep with your sisters crush. Besides that everything is on your family for being an AH
am i the only one who thinks this is stupid. I mean i understand not going after your siblings crush at the time. But after many years and after your sibling has already started another family, it hold no point. He was not her ex, not someone who abused her. The sister and mother in this story are just plain weird. And the way the elder sister is like none of blame you but still did not come to the wedding is messed up. There is something seriously wrong here. I mean why do you feel so strongly about this. YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT NOR IS YOUR HUSBAND.
Is it me or is this whole f-d io? Like it was a damn crush nothing else.you.you, your sister, your whole family needs therapy. You did nothing wrong in any sort of way.
I get it but there are rules to this thing. Don't ever go after your sibling's crush because a storm will brew and will drive a rift between you two. That's not cool 😐
The OP did not go after the crush, he went after her. And the sister has the problem, what is she, 12? Who gets crushes like that? Unrealistic immature behavior.
Nah, that's some highschool-level thinking. You don't get to call dibs on someone you're not dating or pursuing romantically. The sister got married and never dated her crush, by all accounts she should have moved on. The issue is that she didn't move on, and that's not the OP's fault.
Wow what a horrible sister, dating a man your sister has a huge crush on since forever ….kinda a dick move. Even if she is married you don’t do that to your sibling. It seems intentionally trying to stick it to your sister. If she was at least a good sister she should have talked to her sister about it instead of just saying hey me, your older sister and your life long crush since forever just got married! Isn’t that AWSOME!! 😑
More than a decade ago i used to have a crush on this girl and was going after her. My friend supported me and tried to wingman. I got close to her, had a couple of dates. It turned out somehow my friend ended up falling for her and they got together in secret. When their relationship was out in the open, our friend group was split between those who think he got the girl fair and square and those who felt that you don't cut in a brother's way and do things behind his back. I'm a pretty chill guy so i didn't do anything bad or nasty towards them. In fact i did nothing. However, I never showed support for their relationship and marriage. The betrayal really hurt though. Just like my friend group, different people will have different perspectives on the ethics and sister/brother-hood code in situations like this. None are wrong. I personally will never do my brothers like that, its just part of my principles, goes the same for my half of the friend group.
Story 1: Massive ESH. Sure, sister being obsessed with a guy who probably will never return her feelings is dumb, but attractions and affections are irrational, so i can at least understand her a bit. Still an ah for marrying another man while crushing on the first guy. Now OP is a jerk as well, starting with the first time they met the guy; she knew her sister liked him and still went for him and f**ked him. And since it was the first time, it means she chose a ons over her sister, so her "love" for her family wasn't that much that a quick f**k trumped it. Idk, these is one of the rare cases in wich, with the exception of BIL and the niece, i hope everyone ends up miserable because they all suck.
YS should have tried if she cared, but she never asked and the guy never had interest in the YS. If they were dating/had dated then it would be different, but that was not the case. Heck, they only got together seriously after the YS got married. So there was no reason to hold back at that point.
Just cut the parts of the family that are playing childish favoritism. She has a husband, if she didn’t get over her crush, she shouldn’t have married.
This!!!
I was thinking the same thing like what logic does the younger sister have she's married and has a child what more does she want she should of gotten over that crush. P.s. wasn't trying to be mean just stating a fact that for some reason stills baffles me🤨
PERIOD!!!!
She’s a brat
Your sister and her ridiculous obsession is what is wrong here. You and your husband are not to blame.
Narrator bias. You can't see through this? She snuck around with the guy for years. Husband never gave boundaries, she never told her sister. She sucks
If anyone else is to blame, it’s their horrible mother for spoiling that brat
@JBTFan124 If a person is that obsessed, then getting married to someone else is not the answer until the unresolved feelings are dealt with. It was not fair to her husband or Baby to keep dreaming of a man who wasn't her husband.
why is this woman so concerned about HER effect on the sister's husband? this is not her fault or problem.
Empathy. It can be a curse sometimes.
@@LocksAndChains"Can?!" Nah, it IS a curse.
That little sister is a freakin brat! And their mother spoiled her too much
This is where toxic empathy comes into play
Regardless if the sister didnt marry the dude, the younger one would've still been obsessed and caused the end of the marriage. The obsession is the issue, it's stalker behaviour.
That is a very good observation.
So no one is really angry with her for marrying or going out with him, yet all of them have essentially rejected her, didn’t come to her wedding, made her out to be the bad guy, mostly cut contact, what all because they want to appease the youngest. This family is incredibly toxic, op should put up a wall and block them.
OP needs to quit feeling guilty about finally being with the love of her life. God knows they try to make it not happen for a long time. The best thing that you did, OP, was finally contact your sister and the fact that she replied the way she did made me think that maybe she was finally realizing the part she played in the whole drama. I hope you too can work things out together in the future.
She’s literally married what does she have to be mad about
absolutely disgusting behavior, and her husband SHOULD be pissed about how she's reacting. if my spouse acted that butt-hurt about someone marrying someone else they liked years ago, I'd be in couples therapy immediately, and if they refused to go, then immediately gone.
the sisters husband is galactically stupid because he knew prior to marrying her she was obsessed with another man. then he compounded his garbage decision making by having a child with her. his misery is self inflicted
You have NO reason to apologize, your husband had NO interest in your sister and had ever right who he wanted to be with. The fact she carried on like that was insane and your mother needs help too. She has a husband and child which should be her priority not a delusion
HYPOCRITE!
The little sister is just a spoiled brat thanks to her stupid mother
Op's family is ridiculous and entitled. This man was not an ex, not any one the sister dated, never got close to her. There is no reason why OP can't marry him and be happy. Sister has her own husband and family now. OP, you didn't do anything wrong, your sister has to stop treating this guy like her property.
Stop saying you did the wrong thing. You & he have been in love for years. A Real Family would be happy for you. Stop making your self the bad guy. There the bad guy.
I'm so mad that even in the end the first OP was still feeling she did something wrong. It was a CRUSH from a DECADE ago with a guy SHE NEVER ASKED OUT. Like wtf. The younger sisters husband shouldn't have married her knowing she was still so obsessed and she should 100% be fucking over it by now. 2 single people fell in love and got married but are somehow the villains?????
Why does it seem like there’s a disturbing amount of people not going to their daughter’s weddings. I can’t imagine my whole family being in agreement to NOT attend one of my daughters wedding for some stupid crush when she’s ostensibly moved on, got married, and even had a kid.
the mom should be absolutely ashamed of herself. if you're capable of this level of favoritism, you have no business having children in my opinion
I agree
It’s a normal thing at gay weddings..
I'm going to be honest here if this was my child which would be the sister pulling this crap I think I would have told her a long time ago you need to get over this shit clearly the guy wasn't into you and things happened between him and your sister I understand you didn't like that but you're married now you have a man that's very loving and faithful to you he's giving you two children that you love and care for get over it You're not a little girl that's in high school anymore You're a full grown woman with a husband and kids stop it me and your mother and the rest of the family were going to go up to that wedding without you and if you could contact with us we don't care our grandkids are going to be old enough to eventually want to come and seek us out and that's their choice not yours that would literally be the end of that crap because I hate when people enable their children to be terrible little shits
Completely agree
me too
This, I think there are too many people that haven't been told "Though Shit" this is life and you aren't you aren't the most important person to everybody out there.
This is sound advice.
If they never dated and the younger sister is married with children. If the younger sister is upset about this then her husband needs to divorce her because she clearly thinks her unrequited crush is more important than her sister. The parents should have asked her to wake up long ago. As long as the younger sister never dated or slept with the guy and there was no malicious intent the parents should have told their youngest to grow up.
Why does she need to forgive you??? SHE'S MARRIED TO ANOTHER MAN!! SHE NEEDS TO GET OVER OPS HUSBAND!
Op sis was not in love with her husband, she was OBSESSED with him. She’s a stalker, creeper. She needs help and keep your husband away from her.
I'm sorry why does YS need tome to forgive OP? This a grown ass man YS cant call dibs on and deem her Second/BackUp Husband. Its even worse bc NO ONE but the parents cared and yet they still decide NOT TO COME TO OP'S WEDDING little what a bunch of cowards.
They skipped their Sisters, Niece, and Grandchild wedding bc YS would have had a fit despite the fact SHE MARRIED AND HAS A BABY.
OP and Hubby should go LC with her family.
I'd go NO CONTACT with that group of dysfunctional entitled idiots
Agree!! And he doesn't even remotely like her. This is all in her head the deluded creep who went on to marry and have kids with someone while sneakily lurking on his social media pages and prying into, commenting on his love life like some predator. I'm most sorry for the child in all this. Even the hubby of the sister seems to have known a little about her 'obsession'. OP and hubby do not owe the sister and crappy golden child's family anything.
@personwithaquestion1800 What's funny is the whole I was listening to the story Miraculous Lady Bug and Cat Noir kept popping up in my head. Like how Marinatte is with Adrian throughout the show.
The whole story is a handbook in Gaslighting 101 and How to Identify It In Family.
My opinion on the first story. It's not Ops fault. She fell in love, her sister apparently never got over the guy, so why marry and hsve a child with someone you don't love. Op tryed to hide her love for years just to not hurt people but you can't hide true love. Op deserves to be happy sometimes love is wierd but that doesn't mean sacrifice your happiness for someone else.
Anyone with a brain involved in situations like this should just flat out ask that very question right in front of the husband. Baffles me how some people think they can lay claim to someone who they're not married to, WHILE THEY ARE MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE.
Oh for the love of Pete!!! Sister needs to grow up!! Parents need to stop coddling and OP needs to backbone up and tell sister to grow up!!! Why in the hell does OP even care that sister throwing a fit. Sister at no point even had sights on OP hubby for the long term and now her life is over???? Good lord some of these stories piss me off!!
So, the sister seemingly never made a move, eventually moved on, got married, and is still so hung up on this guy that she can't be happy for her sister. Not only is OP's family worthless, but her sister's husband also needs to file for divorce considering he's apparently just what she settled for and isn't even who she really wants to be with.
If he never bothers to question this, then this man has no self-respect.
Why get married if you are still in love with someone else?
This sounds overblown. Everyone in this family is too dramatic. The little sister shouldn’t have been the emotional center of the family so shame on the parents. The toxic reactions to a decades old crush situation is ridiculous. Idk why this was even posted. Everyone here OP included annoyed me.
Probably is fake. Pretty sure I've heard the exact lines at 14:24 in another story from one of these channels. I think it had to do with cheating? They're entertaining, but when they start talking all deep like that it really breaks the immersion.
It's a CRUSH... not an ex... he didn't like her. A crush shouldn't be off limits imo. Especially if she got married and had a kid with someone else. Wth
I felt for the sis at first, then found out she’s married with a kid. What the fuck? Her kid should be the priority, not her crush from college
Sucks for the sisters husband. Imagine your wife going hystarical because she can't get over an old crush. He's not even an ex, she just had a crush
Little sister is delusional. And the parents especially the mom is an enabler. Little sister’s crazy obsession caused a huge problem and ripple effect.
"I wasn't completely honest with my family about how we first met". That's the problem champ
It sounds like OP was raised as a scapegoat.
Dude I’ll never understand this, how is someone who is MARRIED blaming their sister for marrying she USED to have a crush on. It’s like the younger sister was still holding out hope that he would confess to her so that she can start an affair, while the parents are so immature how are you going to blame your daughter for marrying someone her younger sister used to like and never had a relationship with? That’s a huge L on the parents part
The end of Story 1 sounded like a movie or tv show. Like a sappy drama trying to teach you a life lesson.
Sisters obsession destroyed her
Story 1 - The youngest sister is of hers is an obsessive monster . . . She has been stalking her sister’s husband for years. The Mother is somewhat responsible for this she put her youngest daughter on a pedestal and spoilt her.
the second story seems like someone who is right and is never wrong
"Fiancé broke off the engagement with her cause she became different after proposal." Ya I'm calling cap, dude lied because he isn't willing to admit a different side of him comes out after he puts a ring on it. I doubt the OP ever met the Ex's ex. It's the same as the GF/BF going "Oh my ex was just crazy, foaming at the mouth, going completely wild. They were a total Narcissist.", and usually the GF/BF is waving giant red flags at the exact same time.
Damn, damn, the stalker sister threw a tantrum, ruined her marriage all on her own. And this girl feels so bad, and is made to feel so bad when she has done absolutely nothing wrong.
OP did absolutely nothing wrong. Her sister has a weird obsession that is destroying her life
Oof that story was hard to sit through. Was this some weird reverse powertrip? As if she really could have had that much of an impact on her family... OP and her sister fell in love with OP's husband, the husband didn't love the sister, sister marrying someone she didn't love and even conceiving a child with that poor dude, the family playing favourites... None of that is caused by OP.
She needs a long hard look in the mirror, see her own role in all this and take a good look at who these people are. Begging for forgiveness from someone that should be begging themselves is spineless and dumb.
I think the mother of this siblings is the problem. She don't help, she make things worse for supporting her youngest daugther in a wrong way and the fact that she is the queen bee in the family is many worse, she probably control the family as she like. I'm sure that if you give a good lesson at her mother, you can resolve the all problems of the family
Ya Op shouldn't be apologizing at all
There is something seriously wrong with this family.
This is what happens when you have favoritism for 1 child over the other
Parents are 1000% to blame
I think the right thing to would be to yes leave the sister alone but it'd be so much more satisfying to tell her what you wanted to tell her in the first place
I honestly feel so bad for op's brother in law, poor guy, he wouldn't even have had time to celebrate his daughter's birth
The family were the ones that caused the rift. They're the ones out casting and black sheeping family members just because someone who is married suddenly wants to go to the bone zone with someone who was very clearly never interested in that way. The rift between the sister and her husband is coming from the fact that the sister had herself a right little temper tantrum about who her sister was marrying when she herself is already married to someone.
I'd be mad at my significant other too if they were having a fit because their sibling married their crush from college. Especially if that crush had never once reciprocated in any way and the relationship was only in my SO's head.
Your sister is the one creating the storm, not you. Good lord, your sister needs therapy.
Sister is such a brat
This is pathetic on so many levels! She had a crush and isn’t entitled to him because of that! And she’s married so why is she so concerned
I'm honestly confused with this first story because what exactly is wrong with op and her relationship? Sounds like the sister needs to be put in a mental hospital something ain't right in her head.
1st story op is enabling her entitled sister and mother's behaviour by blaming herself.
It is fked up the sister reacted like that, she was married already with the "love of her life", OP is not the AH, the sister is
It would be one thing if OP stole her sister's man, but this is entirely different. They were never together. It's not OP's fault her sister can't get over her crush.
Second girl
She needs to leave him
He's a narcissist and a manipulator.
The fact that he's so much older than her and she's so young shows predatory behavior
He needs to just leave and go on with his own miserable self
She talking about she wants to give him a final ultimatum. And she don't want to be a victim. Well sometimes you are the victim whether or not you like it
This must run in almost every family because my younger sister had a "crush" on my husband.
My husband didn't even know she existed and related to me or our mum. He thought she was a friend of our mum that went to the casino. (He was a slot technician at the casino here in Az)
When my younger sister found out we were moving in together she literally flipped out and dropped a bomb on the family saying she was in love with him.
What happen after that?
So OP's family is siding with the younger sister who had a crush on a guy, became obsessed to the point she actively stalked him and everyone is backing her and don't show up to *OP's wedding* to him because...her sister called dibs 10 years ago and is pissed even though she's married with a kid? The sister is literally delusional and the family are *massive* enablers to the sister and assholes to OP, putting her younger sisters one sided obsession over OP and her husband *mutual* love and it is so messed up! Especially since her obsession is causing a rift in their family and OP feeling guilty when all she did wrong was date a guy who liked her back. It would be one thing if OP's sister shot her shot and the guy turned her down viciously, but she stalked him from a distance and still acted like she *owned* him. It's so delusional and creepy and the fact *no-one* in their family called her out on it before OP's wedding and continued to heap the 'blame' on OP for living her life is nuts to me.
"I'm not ready to forgive you," FOR WHAT?! For shattering the illusions you wrapped yourself in that he could every return your feelings when he only ever saw you as a sister? For falling for a guy that felt the same way about her? For deciding to stop keeping their relationship a secret (if someone doesn't want to make their relationship public, they DO NOT HAVE TO; it's no-one's business as long as they aren't in a relationship with someone else) and get married, especially since the younger obsessed sister was already MARRIED WITH A KID?! I'm not sorry, but the sisters sense of entitlement towards this guy is so toxic and that everyone is catering to her and her obsession and heaping blame on OP for being the one he actually loves is so mind-bogglingly STUPID! How are they all this delusional, it was a crush from 10 YEARS AGO and she's MARRIED WITH A KID! Cut the woe-is-me victimhood and fix your dang marriage and raise your kids for crying out loud!
Well it just proves her family think more of her sister than her. Her family didn’t even turn up to her wedding they caused the family rift not her. Don’t worry about it just go no contact with the lot of them.
Then the sister who likes him should but she decided not to so this sister got him and happy for her good luck and wish you the best and I just saw this video and ur parents are childish ur sister is childish to jus seems like it’s not ur fault u both fell for each other
I had a stroke reading this.
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No way he’s 37 and making half a million as a doctor. It’s wouldn’t even be ten years since the end of his education/post-doc
OP in the sister story is an idiot. She had everyone telling her it wasn’t her fault, and she ignored them all and apologized anyway. Acting like she’s some monster. Really?
This woman has got to stop taking the blame for everything. She's being ridiculous.
EDIT: Got to the end of the story, and now it adds up. She's got a complex. And the second story is even worse. These women are ridiculous. Like, get therapy or something. 🙄
Op wake up and acknowledge that your sister has always been the golden child and your just the side kid.. cut all that side with it out of your life..
Where do they find these families?
i hate how she makes herself to be the ah even though its painfully obvious she isnt
Did she marry that kind of guy and expect love in return?
So am I the only one a bit bothered by the fact that OP hooked up with the guy her sister was more or less have her parents meeting as a love interest on the same day the meeting happened....🤷
OP didn’t do a single fucking thing wrong.
Selfishness 😮 Selfishness everywhere
It is not your fault.
Your BIL should be with someone who loves him.
Your sister really need to go to therapy. She has to accept she cant have him, go over, find peace and hopefully find true love.
Take your distance for now and your husband and you should put your social media private. To protect you and avoid gasoline on your sister and her obsession.
It will be hard and long. But it is necessary and will be best for everybody on the long run.
Story 1 - You did not do anything wrong . . .
this is so much drama and not the entertaining kind of drama.
Op and her husband did nothing wrong, the sister is the one in the wrong. She stocked him on social media while she was with someone else. That's creepy! I think she invited him to her wedding as a last ditch effort to make him realize his feelings for her and stop the wedding. I mean why else would you invite a man that your husband specifically asked you not to. I would have never married a person this obsessed with someone else. i feel sorry for the sisters husband, op, and ops husband.
Ops mom and dad are pretty awful people. Not going to her wedding, and probably kept everyone Else from going as well
If any part of this AI generated story should be true, OP is such a doormat, it’s not even funny. Cut out that toxic mother, that ridiculous sister, and enjoy married life.
People like OP, the scapegoats raised in this type of family, need someone to snap them into reality. Hope Hubby is the right man for her. Because a good husband would remind her she's not to blame for this and help her all that toxicity behind.
The sister is ridiculous shes married and has a baby and her and her crush never dated
Everyone pretty much overreacted like literally op sister is weird and that’s that everyone should have just told her to get over it her husband should have left her sooner and no one should be hurt by this or “caught in the middle” like the sister never even dated the guy she’s just weird and I find it weird that everyone is acting like op stole her sister’s husband but in reality they weren’t even a thing
Your sister is a stalker and a emotional cheater, she doesn't deserve any apologies
The sister is a stalker and a psycho
Your sister is an arse.....it's not your fault AT ALL that she's completely OBSESSED with someone who was never interested in her
I don't understand why it matters the sister was never with the guy
It is not ops fault that little sisters marriage broke up. IT is hir fault. It is your problem It is the family's.
bc the lady in story 2 did the right thing and left before the marriage im only gonna comment on the 1st story. if the younger sister supposedly moved on and is married AND has kids alr, idgaf if she HAD, not has but HAD aka past tense, a crush on this dude. move tf on and stay w ur husband who clearly cares for u. if u still had a rush on this guy who was NEVER interested in u romantically and u feel like u cant move on go to fuckin therapy. he never showed interest in u in the same way u did him so its clearly not gonna work out. and the mom irritates me so much, ur youngest daughter has a crush on someone who doesnt reciprocate feelings. SO TEACH HER HOW TO MOVE ON FROM THOSE FEELINGS. u can still sympathize n shit but tell her its not meant to be and teach her to grieve, and if its not workin TAKE HER TO THERAPY OR HAVE HER TALK TO HER GUIDANCE COUNSLOR.
Cut out the silly toxicity. They arent worth it
Everyone is the A-hole.
Op for sleeping with her sister's crush even after she new about her sister still had crush on that guy. That guy was there because your sister bought him to family to met as her crush. Doesn't matter he likes the sister or not, you shouldn't have slept with him
Now your sister is A-hole. Even after being married she still have problems with this. She shouldn't.
Op husband is also A-hole. He shouldn't have cause any rift between you and sister. I am assuming he knew about your sister crush on him.
I would say the op is the biggest A-hole. Because she feels entitled that everyone should forgive her; it's like even if she says it's the biggest mistake she made, but she feels like it's not that big of a deal at this moment.
Sister is A-hole in her marriage ( to her husband).
THANK U SO MUCH LITERALLY NO ONE AGREES WITH US
Ur sis needs to see a therapist. She is delulu. Plus she is married , wth? Her husband needs to move on.
If u guys decide to have kids I would be really careful letting her around them. I just don't trust it. Sorry buy not sorry
Tbh from my point no one actually is wrong here and at the same time everyone is wrong here.....one thing i like to say is op is ahole for keeping it a secret for all this time and ALSO ahole for going for her sister's crush ( For people who say you can't control who you fell for - just keep your BS away from me )........and the sister well it's not about being stuck on crsuh it's about you don't go for the person your sister/brother likes op should have confessed the moment she hooked up with the crush for the first time all in all i am with the sister on this one and tbh i would have preffered if the sister go nc with op........this is my opinion everyone has theirs and are entitled to have it but please don't start and arguement with me over this.
He's not an ex of hers. Your opinion is stupid.
So she cyberstalks a man she has a crush on but he has no feelings for her she gets married has a kid but still cyberstalks him the refuses to go to the wedding of her sister even though she is married with a kid and even if he didn't marry her sister they would never be together she needs therapy and your family needs to stop encouraging this she needs therapy and none of this is your fault you just happen to be related to his stalker
Your sister married someone else and never dated your husband. Why all the drama over an obsessive crush?? Your sister needs to grow up and get over herself, and y'all need to stop enabling her.
my crush is mines even if i have a hubby i dont care you shouldnt go after my back plans crushes
b**** wtf
Not your ex.
This is fake....
Idc what no one else’s opinion is but if you marry someone, your sister was crushing on you’re not a very good sister.
I don’t think that it will be worth not coming to my child’s wedding because it’s not like the crush and sister were in a relationship but still if I was the sister who had the crush, I wouldn’t come.
Typical female thinking. 🙄
It's a crush. They weren't in love. They didn't date. Your opinion is stupid.
This story is so stupid
While I don’t think your the AH how your relationship started is kinda messed up. You just don’t sleep with your sisters crush. Besides that everything is on your family for being an AH
am i the only one who thinks this is stupid. I mean i understand not going after your siblings crush at the time. But after many years and after your sibling has already started another family, it hold no point. He was not her ex, not someone who abused her.
The sister and mother in this story are just plain weird. And the way the elder sister is like none of blame you but still did not come to the wedding is messed up. There is something seriously wrong here.
I mean why do you feel so strongly about this. YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT NOR IS YOUR HUSBAND.
Is it me or is this whole f-d io? Like it was a damn crush nothing else.you.you, your sister, your whole family needs therapy. You did nothing wrong in any sort of way.
I get it but there are rules to this thing. Don't ever go after your sibling's crush because a storm will brew and will drive a rift between you two. That's not cool 😐
The OP did not go after the crush, he went after her. And the sister has the problem, what is she, 12? Who gets crushes like that? Unrealistic immature behavior.
Nah, that's some highschool-level thinking. You don't get to call dibs on someone you're not dating or pursuing romantically. The sister got married and never dated her crush, by all accounts she should have moved on. The issue is that she didn't move on, and that's not the OP's fault.
Wow what a horrible sister, dating a man your sister has a huge crush on since forever ….kinda a dick move. Even if she is married you don’t do that to your sibling. It seems intentionally trying to stick it to your sister. If she was at least a good sister she should have talked to her sister about it instead of just saying hey me, your older sister and your life long crush since forever just got married! Isn’t that AWSOME!! 😑
She was married with a child.She should have moved on.
You broke the unwritten code of siblings, and that's the issue, so communicate (no lying this time)and act.
He wasnt interested in the Sister, therefore the sister had no claim.
She literally married and had a kid.
First 🎉
More than a decade ago i used to have a crush on this girl and was going after her. My friend supported me and tried to wingman. I got close to her, had a couple of dates. It turned out somehow my friend ended up falling for her and they got together in secret. When their relationship was out in the open, our friend group was split between those who think he got the girl fair and square and those who felt that you don't cut in a brother's way and do things behind his back. I'm a pretty chill guy so i didn't do anything bad or nasty towards them. In fact i did nothing. However, I never showed support for their relationship and marriage. The betrayal really hurt though.
Just like my friend group, different people will have different perspectives on the ethics and sister/brother-hood code in situations like this. None are wrong. I personally will never do my brothers like that, its just part of my principles, goes the same for my half of the friend group.
Story 1: Massive ESH. Sure, sister being obsessed with a guy who probably will never return her feelings is dumb, but attractions and affections are irrational, so i can at least understand her a bit. Still an ah for marrying another man while crushing on the first guy. Now OP is a jerk as well, starting with the first time they met the guy; she knew her sister liked him and still went for him and f**ked him. And since it was the first time, it means she chose a ons over her sister, so her "love" for her family wasn't that much that a quick f**k trumped it.
Idk, these is one of the rare cases in wich, with the exception of BIL and the niece, i hope everyone ends up miserable because they all suck.
Tard op.
you dont gi after your friends crushes. i am guessing thats just bro code doesnt apply to women
YS should have tried if she cared, but she never asked and the guy never had interest in the YS. If they were dating/had dated then it would be different, but that was not the case. Heck, they only got together seriously after the YS got married. So there was no reason to hold back at that point.
She is in the wrong. All I needed to here is the first minute