HOW TO KNOW IF A MAN IS CAPABLE OF LOVING A WOMAN by RC Blakes

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    How to know if a man is capable of loving a woman by RC Blakes
    In this video, Bishop RC Blakes shares insights on how to know if a man is capable of loving you. He highlights that simply desiring to love someone doesn't make a person capable of loving them. He and his wife chose each other based on their internal qualities and shared vision for the future. He encourages women to think deeper and ask if a man is truly capable of loving them in the way they deserve. He emphasizes the importance of understanding not only the person's definitions of love, manhood, and womanhood but also their capacity to love and provide. He explains that a man who is capable of loving you will calm your fears and insecurities, be patient, insist on generosity, command respect through their consistent character, and exhibit sobriety and meekness. The speaker encourages women to focus on these qualities rather than superficial attributes when choosing a partner. He concludes by emphasizing the importance of healing and self-discovery in order to make better choices in relationships.
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Komentáře • 1K

  • @jayleenjimenez9346
    @jayleenjimenez9346 Před 2 lety +374

    The healthier you get the less your going to crave toxic masculinity 😌😵

  • @GlowandGrow_
    @GlowandGrow_ Před 2 lety +444

    It’s nice to hear a man confirm my belief that a woman will willingly submit to a man who is a leader. He doesn’t need to demand submission.

  • @marymalloy2848
    @marymalloy2848 Před 2 lety +276

    The right person will eliminate fears, one that makes you feel safe. Beautiful.

  • @vaclinciapounds8859
    @vaclinciapounds8859 Před 2 lety +377

    Only choosing men that you could love but never stopping to question yourself is he capable of loving you.....that is really deep!

    • @cristinaroe2166
      @cristinaroe2166 Před 2 lety +21

      Pastor Blake. It is with a heavy heart that I'd like to point out, despite agreeing with everything you say, many men including brothers in Christ have adopted the secular patterns of masculinity with all the negative attitudes you describe. As a teenager and for many years after, I was the woman of substance and honesty you describe. Yet my sisters who would dress up, flirt etc were marrying all around me. I was told I was too idealistic. Yet, men seemed to expect perfection from me. I do feel quite broken, despite years of therapy. Having keen intelligence, I find many men dull and uninspiring with no conversation. I would also love a protective man as I've never had this in my life. Because I look strong and courageous, I have been told by men that they don't need to protect me. When I assure them that this is a maladaptive strategy to ward off the teasing and bullying I endured for many years, they don't seem capable of understanding. My Saviour has the right kind of love. All problems would be solved if we truly conformed to His image. May God bless your ministry.

    • @hs-qk9qf
      @hs-qk9qf Před 2 lety +6

      It was like a punch to the gut. I know I'm not the only one that has done this in the past🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️😣. I know better now, and I realize why it's said, "Youth is wasted on the young." Some lessons can only be gained by wisdom/ discernment and age.

    • @justynak3867
      @justynak3867 Před 2 lety

      @@cristinaroe2166 how do we conform to his image?

    • @aceazar2806
      @aceazar2806 Před 2 lety +3

      This is deep because it can be applied to the friends you choose to pursue and the people you allow to be close to you. EYE OPENER statement

    • @scheherazadewherry1410
      @scheherazadewherry1410 Před 2 lety +1

      I needed to hear this!! Thank you Pastor

  • @tib1632
    @tib1632 Před 2 lety +696

    Lord knows I need to hear this. Hard letting go of a man simply because I don’t want to start over but how am I starting over if he and I never really began. Stop holding on to potential LADIES! WE GOT THIS!

  • @youmnaamir9389
    @youmnaamir9389 Před 2 lety +77

    Man who is Capable of loving you :
    1. Will calm your fears and insecurities.
    2. Will be Exceptionally Patient with you.
    3. Will insist on his generosity towards you.
    4. Is able to Command your Respect.
    5. Is Sober and Meek.
    Another Master Piece from Pastor RC Blakes .. GOD BLESS YOU ❤️

  • @tab_b
    @tab_b Před 10 měsíci +13

    Every woman who did not grow up with a father figure should listen to Bishop Blakes. These teachings are healing my spirit.

  • @koris4283
    @koris4283 Před 2 lety +556

    I’ve learned to hold men accountable for their behaviors. And well let’s just say I’m single . But through watching your content, you have given me practical advice that I can truly say has blessed me. I no longer see being single as a flaw. It’s a blessing and God willing, when it’s my time I’ll meet the right person. No rush.

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +71

    A grown man is patient with a woman.
    A man that loves you is exceptionally patient. He will love you for who you are, even on your worst day/version...

  • @aceazar2806
    @aceazar2806 Před 2 lety +51

    “A man that can satisfy your eye and your body, is not necessarily the best caretaker for your soul” -RC Blakes

  • @jeanettesanabria7972
    @jeanettesanabria7972 Před 2 lety +324

    As a woman, I have never asked "is he capable of loving me?" We truly get caught up on the outside not knowing if he is capable of loving us in the way we need. A powerful statement pastor Blake's!

    • @preciousmcfarland5265
      @preciousmcfarland5265 Před 2 lety +1

      Same here 🥺

    • @kacistushtv
      @kacistushtv Před 2 lety +14

      So powerful. This man is a prophet. This video have me evaluating every guy I ever been with and every guy trying to pursue now. Thank you RC! Continuing helping us women.

    • @mikafishet8043
      @mikafishet8043 Před 2 lety +1

      This Man knows his stuff

    • @crystalbynum4465
      @crystalbynum4465 Před 2 lety

      I realized the same thing!

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem

      Valid 💯

  • @Ang_Nicole
    @Ang_Nicole Před 2 lety +403

    One thing I know for sure, if a man is emotionally closed off/ unavailable to himself, I know he won’t be emotionally available to me. I’m looking forward to learning more from you on this topic! ❤️
    Edit: I can’t believe how on point this message is, perfect timing for where I’m at in life right 👏🏽

    • @ARareGEM2890
      @ARareGEM2890 Před 2 lety +4

      Amen.. Sister👍

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 Před 2 lety +10

      I'm over meeting them kinds.

    • @brandyshaw5307
      @brandyshaw5307 Před 2 lety +2

      True

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 Před 2 lety +9

      What I as a man was unaware I needed from a woman apart from positive regard was also something called "felt security".
      Felt security, for those of you unfamiliar with the idea is about a person's ability to leave the sight of their care taker and begin exploring the larger world around them with a sense of self-efficacy(that no matter what obstacle I may face)on my way to a desired result I can/will figure a way through on my own.
      With the gift of felt security I am now confident I can not only initiate relationships, I can also sustain them by making sure I can hold space or actually be emotionally available for a relationship.
      Without those qualities of character I am not sure if it's possible to keep growing together as a couple?

    • @paradiselivinginpurpose
      @paradiselivinginpurpose Před 2 lety +3

      My thoughts exactly! This vid came for my NECK.

  • @minhbuile3407
    @minhbuile3407 Před 2 lety +285

    Summary: What is his financial philosophy? Can he lead? Can he protect me? Not only physically but emotionally? Am I safe with him? Can he be a good father? Is he patient with me? Does he insist on generosity? Is his energy consistent and his character so solid I can’t disrespect him? Is he sober and meek? Is he controlling his strength?

  • @jeanettesanabria7972
    @jeanettesanabria7972 Před 2 lety +163

    I have learned so much from you. A man's perspective is what a woman needs.

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +69

    1 Peter 3:7
    A man that is capable of loving you had knowledge of God.
    Knowledge of himself.
    Knowledge of you.
    He is on a personal healing journey.
    Emotionally and sensitive to you.

  • @teresathreatts4266
    @teresathreatts4266 Před 2 lety +90

    God has sent me a real man. He has a heart for God FIRST. I had to spend a lot of time alone to pray for the husband that I wanted. He is a praying man, a dedicated man & he is following the vision for his life. He's been through so much, yet he has trusted God the entire time. We are talking marriage now. I fell in love with his heart...& he wants to love me like God has commanded a husband to love his wife. I thank God for his heart...which God revealed to me.

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem +2

      Keep praying and shut the devil out. He will fight hard to destroy the good thing that you have. So keep the faith and those prayers going. Wishing you all the very best 🙏🏾

    • @madelinebigio7565
      @madelinebigio7565 Před rokem

      Teresa Threatts

    • @paulinerussell444
      @paulinerussell444 Před rokem +2

      That's what I want god to send me!! I've been waiting for 8 years I know God will do this for me, I'm trusting him to do this Amen!!

  • @queenconscious2989
    @queenconscious2989 Před 2 lety +129

    I've struggled with broken consciousness for a long time... the world tries to make a woman think that she somehow has to earn a man's love. So grateful for videos like this! A woman blossoms under the tender care of a man that is capable of loving her, not simply a man she feels that she can love.

    • @aceazar2806
      @aceazar2806 Před 2 lety +5

      I love this. One of the biggest hoaxes in the dating world today is the teaching that a woman has to earn *a* man’s love… In reality, a Loving King has to earn a Queen’s love in order for her to give hers to him.

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem +1

      Very well said 💯

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +48

    If he is not generous, he is incapable.
    Ephesians 5:25
    A man has to have the mindset to provide for his woman.

  • @bhavanidymonde
    @bhavanidymonde Před 2 lety +18

    Men will put forth the effort when they want you. When they’re not that interested in you; you will know bc their efforts will be the bare minimum.

  • @d.y.h.w.
    @d.y.h.w. Před 2 lety +214

    This was intense. One of your BEST "sermons" to date. This was heavy. Been with my husband for 16+ years and it took me awhile to realize I had a true gem of a KING on my hands. I send him tidbits of your channel often. We adore you. 🥰

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  Před 2 lety +43

      Thank you. Tell the KING I said hello.

    • @d.y.h.w.
      @d.y.h.w. Před 2 lety +28

      @@RCBlakesJr. OMG you responded!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 Thank you! I will!

    • @ajr7940
      @ajr7940 Před 2 lety +18

      So good 2 hear that! Kings need recognition2. 💗

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 Před 2 lety +8

      Yes 2 love and respect..

    • @queenbee297
      @queenbee297 Před 2 lety +5

      I wish. 18 yrs & I'm just realizing we shouldn't have ever been together. He has no idea how to love me properly & doesn't seem interested in trying.

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +25

    A healthy woman has fears and insecurities 🤔
    When loved by the right man he illuminates all fears and insecurities. Perfect love cast out all fear.

    • @queenr.480
      @queenr.480 Před rokem +1

      Perfect loves drives out fear.- Only this comes from Jesus.

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem

      Valid 💯

    • @dorrettp1339
      @dorrettp1339 Před rokem +1

      Eliminate not illuminate

  • @vaclinciapounds8859
    @vaclinciapounds8859 Před 2 lety +138

    A man told me once that he was single for so long after many failed relationships that he was scared that he may be content with being single. This was the second day of talking to him so I did an exit stage left. 🚶🏽‍♀️🚶🏽‍♀️🚶🏽‍♀️

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 Před 2 lety +16

      Wow. You did correct. That's already a Red Flag. That conversation starting off wrong.😕

    • @DanaWill__
      @DanaWill__ Před 2 lety +10

      Good for you.

    • @peyotekaiyote4312
      @peyotekaiyote4312 Před 2 lety +22

      At least he was honest but why on Earth is he in the dating game 🤡

    • @deliteful1991
      @deliteful1991 Před 2 lety +16

      So, why is he out there wasting a woman’s time? It’s like a sport to them.🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @btfields323
      @btfields323 Před 2 lety +14

      I must be the female version of him. Bc I'm starting to be ok with being single.🤷🏾‍♀️ Too many failed attempts

  • @marvavandyke1559
    @marvavandyke1559 Před 2 lety +150

    I sooo miss my hubby. Deceased 9 years ago, after 31 amazing years. He was A Real man, just like you are talking about. Love listening to you. You give great advice. Much respect to you and your Queen Lisa. Maybe one day I’ll find someone capable of loving me like I deserve to be loved. Not settling. Doing good and loving me all by myself. It will be God’s willing if it’s meant to be.

    • @myieshaboyd3222
      @myieshaboyd3222 Před 2 lety +8

      In Jesus Name Amen ! May God continue to bless you with all of the pure desires of your heart and may your husband continue to Rest In Peace and watch over you!

    • @pamelaflanagan9119
      @pamelaflanagan9119 Před 2 lety +15

      Hello I am a widow myself I lost my husband 10 years ago we were married for 30 years he was my high-school sweetheart my first love It's hard out here trying to find the right man out here these guys are hitting their all they want is sex they just want to sleep around with you and they don't want to commit I am a wife I listen to Bishop Blake's and he has taught me a lot I am not a young woman I'm over 40 but he has taught me a lot and he continues to teach me and I appreciate and I thank God for him and his wisdom

    • @marvavandyke1559
      @marvavandyke1559 Před 2 lety +7

      @@pamelaflanagan9119 So sorry for your loss🙏🏾. We have similar situations. We were Blessed to experience love the way it should be. It is hard out there, they mostly have sex on their minds. Bishop RC Blakes is a Blessing to us and it all makes sense in what he advises. Be patient because we are not looking for a clown 🤡 in a crown 👑 😀. The right person will show up that GOD has for us. Take care of YOU snd your well being. We are worthy of the love that we want. May you be Blessed and happy. Much love my Sister 🤗🌷😊🙏🏾

    • @marvavandyke1559
      @marvavandyke1559 Před 2 lety +3

      @@myieshaboyd3222 Thank you so much. May GOD Bless snd Keep you 🙏🏾🤗😊

    • @ang78able
      @ang78able Před 2 lety +1

      🤗

  • @maureenstephens3402
    @maureenstephens3402 Před 2 lety +44

    That is profoundly true! Loving a woman is different from being capable of loving a woman the way she desires to be loved. Wow!

    • @justynak3867
      @justynak3867 Před 2 lety

      but what if his desire is not to give that, then her desire would also not be self seeking as being self seeking is not love. For example a man who does not talk about his feelings with a wife who would want him to-she does not self seek him to. But on the other hand, him giving that to her would be love on his side. However we may never get everything we want from anyone, too.

  • @simonemichellelloyd5435
    @simonemichellelloyd5435 Před 2 lety +37

    "If you are a woman who has been battered or traumatized and in the process of healing, you need a man who is spiritually intuned, connected to God, emotionally intelligent and sensitive to you. One who can take care of your soul. He has to be connected to your soul. This is what will endure. The mind, will and emotions. Does he possess all that will enable him to truly love you?"

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem +1

      Extremely well said! Valid 💯

  • @MultiMichaelcarter
    @MultiMichaelcarter Před 2 lety +6

    If he doesn’t fully value you, he is not capable of loving you they way your spirit desires

  • @vinnieedwards9699
    @vinnieedwards9699 Před 2 lety +33

    Stop choosing whom I want to love, Start choosing who will love ❤️ me. That’s a message all by itself. God Bless you🙏🙏🤗🤗Amen

  • @jeanettesanabria7972
    @jeanettesanabria7972 Před 2 lety +18

    Ladies, listen up! He knows what he's talking about.

  • @ed000
    @ed000 Před 2 lety +30

    ''When a man lives with a woman the right way,the natural reaction from a woman is SUBMISSION''~~RC Blakes Jr.
    thank you for the prayer. Amen

    • @15lee89
      @15lee89 Před 2 lety +1

      What exactly defines submission would you say?

    • @15lee89
      @15lee89 Před 2 lety

      @@ed000 I have and I don’t clearly understand the submit part and what that entails

    • @thobekamaloyi1783
      @thobekamaloyi1783 Před 2 lety

      @@15lee89 q⁰

  • @Cupid_
    @Cupid_ Před 2 lety +72

    I met some amazing men who loved me and cherished me so much, I was so young, was getting so much attention that blurred my sight, chasing excitement, enjoying the attention and now here I am realizing where I went wrong. As much as it hurting me to listen to this message its needed.

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 Před 2 lety +12

      You’re not alone. Many of us are lined up along side of you. Some of us older ones enjoyed the excitement that we neglected the reason why.

    • @Cupid_
      @Cupid_ Před 2 lety +16

      @@Vicki1951 I turned 35 5 days ago and only now I realize I lost really good men, all the men Uncle Blake is talking about, those good men have been in my life. Even when he talks about patience. They would drive me around all day wait 1 hr in the car for me. I even had men who would pay for a dress but I would wear the dress for another guy bcos I found them boring to hung out with. Oh man! I messed up and lost all those good men. Still single 😂😂

    • @BeBeautifullyYou
      @BeBeautifullyYou Před 2 lety +10

      You’re still very young and beautiful. You’ll be ok. Just choose for YOU.

    • @fluffysox6072
      @fluffysox6072 Před 2 lety +6

      Thanks for saying this. I am 24 and engaged to a pretty good guy. I also get alot of attention like you do. It’s exciting when the men that you want also want you. But it’s overwhelming when you have so many options - too many options. Sometimes I fear missing out, I fear that I’m settling. I also fear losing a good man because i was chasing excitement. With so many great options, i wonder if I’d ever be satisfied settling down for the long term - or if I’d always be looking for the next best thing. It may sound vain, but I know that you get where I’m coming from. Your feelings are valid. If you ever crack the code, please share your wisdom!

    • @fluffysox6072
      @fluffysox6072 Před 2 lety +17

      My mother was extremely beautiful in her 20s & 30s. She had her three daughters and even married once. She constantly left men behind because she knew she’d have another one right around the corner. After leaving a trail of broken hearts, she’s single now at the age of 50. She’s still beautiful, still looking for love. She spends a lot of time reminiscing about her past and about the men that could’ve been good for her that she left behind. I guess we can learn from her. Once you find a good man who feeds your soul. It’s better to truly commit

  • @elviraceasar5989
    @elviraceasar5989 Před 2 lety +96

    Omg!! This was great!!! I had my teen daughters listening in on this with me!! I told them listen up, had my son join us and told him this how you do it

    • @LA-jy4sc
      @LA-jy4sc Před 2 lety +3

      🥺🥺🥺

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 Před 2 lety

      This is awesome!!

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem

      Valid 💯
      Listen up son 😄
      Good that you're training your daughters too ✊🏾
      All the very best to y'all 🙏🏾

  • @LC-cg7bs
    @LC-cg7bs Před 2 lety +25

    If I could have a meal with 3 individuals it would be Jesus, Maya Angelou and Pastor Blakes. Like Seriously!!! Pastor Blake’s if the networks or Oprah call you to be syndicated as I pray that this will happen 1 day, but be prayerful that they never let you dummy down message and the reading of the Gospel when you interject scripture, love how the Holy Spirit empowers you with such profound wisdom, close to a King Solomon spirit. You and Mrs Blake’s are an inspiration to me. I’ve been healed through these teachings and they get more profound each and every time. May God continue to bless the hearers of his word through the Holy Spirit and wisdom of your teachings and be receptive to a changed life. Amen 🙏

  • @cloyettegrant3889
    @cloyettegrant3889 Před 2 lety +74

    Pastor, you're dropping some real gems right now. Thank for walking in your purpose. Your are breaking generational curses but awakening some of us who were once silly women.

    • @moniquelampkin7212
      @moniquelampkin7212 Před 2 lety +2

      I would suggest the woman are not silly. Yes holy scripture talks about those types too. However most especially those in the body of Christ "are destroyed for a lack of knowledge." Hosea 4:6 so many families of origin are fragmented (broken) which fosters the inability to 💘 regardless of gender. Let everybody get healed and whole is the 🔑. Good Sound teaching Sir from a holistic (spirit-soul-body) realm.

    • @joan6175
      @joan6175 Před 2 lety +2

      Absolutely 💯

  • @amyrenee8249
    @amyrenee8249 Před 2 lety +57

    I have no doubt that I was divinely guided to your channel. I’m 47 and I have never had a normal relationship. I come from a broken home/family and I am an Empath and I have taken on a lot of BS that I could have avoided had I known what I have learned from this channel. Thank you for helping me grow and giving me clarity.

    • @kaykay9280
      @kaykay9280 Před 2 lety

      God help you dear! Any life lessons you could pass on to your younger self, balancing the brokeness and empath with love? And meeting the right person.. :) Thank you!

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem

      Wishing you all the very best! You deserve the best 🙏🏾

  • @Beebeetaylor15
    @Beebeetaylor15 Před 2 lety +84

    Wow, Bishop this was a MESSAGE ! Because of your words and my prayer life increasing, I’ve been able to let go of the men of my life who left me confused and unsettled from my soul to my body. I’m in transition to bettering my mindset as a young lady . I’m so excited that I started in my early 20s, I can’t imagine the woman I’ll be a year from now.

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem +1

      Wishing you all the very best! You deserve nothing but the best 🙏🏾

  • @clarae80
    @clarae80 Před 2 lety +10

    I am Always choosing men that are incapable of loving me, a painful cycle that slowly destroys you

  • @teresabrown8224
    @teresabrown8224 Před 2 lety +55

    Amen 🙏🏽. I have dealt with a man for a few months and I felt like I was dealing with a drill Sargent and then he started asking me about my bank account and telling me how I needed to change my home and myself. 😱 I just couldn’t do anymore.

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 Před 2 lety +12

      🤨🤔😵🧐 you'll never be perfect enough Run!!👏🙌🏃‍♀️

    • @tainachapman9486
      @tainachapman9486 Před 2 lety +16

      That sounded like control ...he probably was a narcissist!!!

    • @teresabrown8224
      @teresabrown8224 Před 2 lety

      @@ladyzinada5341 ikr 🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @quoteme.goddess6957
      @quoteme.goddess6957 Před 2 lety +16

      Sounds like a scammer, moocher, a user, manipulator, narcissist, an egoist, to me.

    • @teresabrown8224
      @teresabrown8224 Před 2 lety +5

      @@tainachapman9486 I totally agree 💯. And the First Lady said that he needed anger management classes. Wow 😮

  • @amourah3132
    @amourah3132 Před 11 měsíci +4

    That's describing my ex husband. So handsome, dresses like a gentleman, has to have the expensive cars. I was 16, and didn't know how to pick a husband. I was married to him at 19, and found out how he was selfish, arrogant, a showoff, not the best for our sons, and not a provider. (Also a narcissist) I had to find out the hard way.😢

  • @yanne7sereine751
    @yanne7sereine751 Před 2 lety +11

    Best life coach here on CZcams i swear...knowing that he is a Pastor is like the Rolls Royce of teachers and adviser.

  • @raularmas317
    @raularmas317 Před 2 lety +22

    The last time I fell in love, I fell in love like most people usually and healthily fall asleep-- a little at a time and then all at once.
    At 63 years of age, this was the way(15-20 years ago) that young women fell in love.
    It was a lot less about the physical or carnal characteristics that a man brought to the relationship "negotiation table" and more about his ability to be honest (matching words to reality) and his level of integrity (matching reality to his words) or promise-keeping.
    I sincerely hope humans return to this style of courtship because it will likely mean a child can benefit from having both Parents living under the same roof.
    That's extremely emotionally stabilizing to a child who might otherwise feel an underlying anxiety/insecurity for most or all of their life.

  • @psychicladyg9415
    @psychicladyg9415 Před 2 lety +9

    I wish they taught this stuff in church. These are the real sermons!

  • @Tinaspirits
    @Tinaspirits Před 2 lety +36

    I ALMOST let go. Thank You for reminding me that the man God has kept for me will be the one who will stimulate more than my mind and body, but spirit. According to knowledge of God, self and me, he is healing himself and therefore, will be capable of spiritually covering me. He is emotionally sensitive to me and the soul is what will help us endure.

  • @rhondawalker2020
    @rhondawalker2020 Před 2 lety +30

    Thank you so much. I was a people pleaser and had a very low self esteem! I married 2 narcissists and I divorced them.
    Spot on! You've taught me so much, so I say never again! No more selfish, needy clowns 🤡. Learned this much too late. God Bless you and Lisa 🌞

    • @noirefit5954
      @noirefit5954 Před 2 lety +4

      Same!! Now I’m just sitting back, taking a time out and taking notes

    • @theGPS.
      @theGPS. Před rokem

      Just remember one thing please Rhonda...what turned out to be bad/evil for you, God can always turn it to be good for you. It's never too late to better oneself and to achieve what you deserve and desire as long as you're alive.
      When you have a moment please watch one of my videos titled 'Age Ain't Nothing But A Number! Forever Young!'
      Be encouraged 🙏🏾

  • @vale.m15
    @vale.m15 Před 2 lety +20

    Pastor, when you said 'men are patient with the women they love' I remembered my guy friend who once tell me the same - that he's patient with me because he likes me a lot. I'm still friends with him and he's a great guy. He accepts me for who I am and motivates me to become better. We've been friends for 2 years now and he's been asking for a date with me countless times. But the thing is he's non-christian which makes it difficult for me to be in a relationship with him if we ever started one.

    • @jcfreedom7289
      @jcfreedom7289 Před 2 lety +1

      Are you going to give him a chance?

    • @worshiprose3932
      @worshiprose3932 Před rokem +2

      @vale My elders always Say a patient man will ride a donkey just to get to a good woman. I would not lower my standards for a non Christian man, that would be unequally yoked. May start beautiful in the beginning but bound to be problematic

  • @arbidayoung1308
    @arbidayoung1308 Před 2 lety +11

    When a woman has the right tools a man can't play with her.♥️🔥❤
    Thank you Sir Good Stuff!

  • @shebutter3195
    @shebutter3195 Před 2 lety +19

    Thank you for this a woman’s natural response is submission to the right man with the right character.

  • @simplycarolyn777
    @simplycarolyn777 Před 2 lety +69

    There is 1228 people watching and 289 likes. Ya'll this is good teaching let's get these likes up and share this video to your other social media accounts. There are so many people that this needs to reach. Thank you pastor for your great wisdom and teaching. I appreciate you and your ministry! Thank you pastor God has sent me a man with all of your key points you duscussed this evening and I almost passed him up until I started listening to you. I took notes from several of your videos and he has all of those qualities. I really thank God for you!💝

  • @kambajatarr9090
    @kambajatarr9090 Před 2 lety +21

    I just wanted to say thank you for the time you take to make these videos. After I left my home in Africa in search of a better life in the US I spent most of my time in survival mode trying to figure life out by getting a useful education. Graduated with my masters and then I felt ready to start dating and realized how naive I was in that department and how I started lowering my standards thinking they were too high just to blend in. Watching your videos has helped me realize my standards weren't too high and I realized my worth based on the type of woman I am. That has really changed the game for me. I had no idea I was walking around asleep. I literally felt like I was slapped in the face so I could wake up. It has also been great and empowering to hear from Lisa, she definitely is such an incredible woman. I am blessed to have found your channel🙏🏾

  • @MsVee7
    @MsVee7 Před 2 lety +4

    "when you're being loved right by the right man, he'll eliminate your fears and insecurities...brings a calm"....WOW

  • @bonitacarlisle6081
    @bonitacarlisle6081 Před rokem +3

    This is Awesome ❤ Yes (after the fact😢 )God will SEND the Right MAN for US. Men see us before we see them. God Bless You All

  • @cw8365
    @cw8365 Před 2 lety +35

    Thank you Bishop🙏🏾🙏🏾 You and Lady Blakes are such a Blessing. You are truly helping. Last September the day I was separated after a 15 year marriage/ now divorced, your channel literally popped up on my YT feed.. it was God. I watch you daily and many I’ve watched over and over. Taking time to heal as I work towards opening my heart. Most importantly at my single state healing and learning who I am through the eyes and heart of Christ. Your daughter in Christ. Peace and Blessings.

  • @indriadrayton1132
    @indriadrayton1132 Před 2 lety +5

    I love when he pays for things and I know it is a struggle for him. I tell him, thank you for being a man.

  • @DC73092
    @DC73092 Před 2 lety +8

    "You aint got no man, you got a son" 🔥🔥🔥🤣🤣🤣

  • @theundergroundcancersociety

    I started my journey of celibacy this month, I feel so ready and so excited to focus on ME, my energy, God, and my healing. Amen.

  • @reginahutchinson4057
    @reginahutchinson4057 Před 2 lety +6

    Uncle R you broke this thing all the way down. I have been digesting this video starting it and stooping it for about 3 hours or more. I could not believe what I was hearing. I had no teaching in this area coming up.

  • @jr9941
    @jr9941 Před 2 lety +13

    Thank you Bishop! I continue to grow from you. This message was a God sent. The main takeaway, "is this man capable of loving you the right way". 'Stop choosing men that you can love but choose a man who can love you". ♥️

  • @miriampowell3108
    @miriampowell3108 Před 2 lety +13

    You are a gift to us women ,from I listened the father daughter talk, my life has been changed, thanks for opening my eyes, I'm on a new page

  • @SunShyne-of3xj
    @SunShyne-of3xj Před 2 lety +9

    Bishoppp!! Teach!! I discovered your ministry over a year or more ago and I took to heart your messages! I read Father Daughter Talk and even though I have met a man who you describe to a "T" I still listen to your messages... I absolutely LOVE your ministry!
    EVERY WORD you preached! I SEE daily! I just want to thank you!
    The most important piece is that the man who is capable of loving you is that MAKES YOU FEEL SAFE!! he is not about drama or confusion!! He's CONSISTENT and he SHOWS UP!

  • @hymnodyhands
    @hymnodyhands Před 2 lety +9

    This was really helpful ... the man who was the most capable of loving me DIED suddenly, but he was so different that I kept that idea in my heart not knowing why it was so important ... in the next decade, I found myself looking more at not only whether a man was good, but whether he had the capability, given everything else going on with him, to love me the way I needed. Now, in the future, I can have the question in the back of my mind OUT FRONT. I have never dated "bad men" or "thugs" ... but now I realize that "good" is not enough. A man may be good in every area of his life but one: how to love a woman. As the elders say, "ninety-nine-and-a-half" just won't do...

  • @teresabrown8224
    @teresabrown8224 Před 2 lety +26

    I so enjoy listening to you talk on this topic, because I have been through so much and I’m learning more about a man loving me and wanting me and not just for sex!!! Ughhhh

    • @Cristina_43
      @Cristina_43 Před 2 lety +3

      You are worth so much more! Keep your standards high. The next man that passes your new standard will make those others seem so insignificant :)

    • @teresabrown8224
      @teresabrown8224 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Cristina_43 Thank You 🙏🏽

    • @teresathreatts4266
      @teresathreatts4266 Před 2 lety +1

      Hi, Teresa. You and I share some commonalities: We share the same name. My name is Teresa Ann Brown. My married name is Threatts. I've been divorced for almost 10 years now. The other commonality that we have is we both like Bishop RC Blakes! Bless you, sister! 🙏🏾

    • @teresabrown8224
      @teresabrown8224 Před 2 lety +1

      @@teresathreatts4266 Amen 🙏🏽 , and Blessings to you also my sister.

  • @kayemess382
    @kayemess382 Před 2 lety +15

    This is going to save me so much time, effort and emotional pain. Thank you!

  • @Kee316
    @Kee316 Před 2 lety +12

    Putting this on repeat. You say things I don't want to hear sometimes but I need it. Please keep it coming!

  • @stellamonu3110
    @stellamonu3110 Před 2 lety +16

    You are simply the father I never had! Thank you so much for all your messages,I listen to all and take notes.Your teachings are transforming me from the inside out.I am work in progress and I cannot thank you enough.

  • @lashscouts8145
    @lashscouts8145 Před 2 lety +21

    Love your content. Never had a male role model and you truly help me out a bunch

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +3

    He must be patient by nature.

  • @julieelliott943
    @julieelliott943 Před 2 lety +37

    This was a wonderful and very important talk. Peoples' priorities have become really skewed regarding relationships. Thank you so much.

  • @patriciabrammer9177
    @patriciabrammer9177 Před rokem +1

    Pastor Blake's. Everything you have shared is what I had when I was married until my husband passed away. I will never settle for less. Even if zi remain a widow, that is fine with me until I meet a man like you described here. I am almost 70. And have no desire for a clown. God bless you for being so straightforward

  • @mechiabrowne2889
    @mechiabrowne2889 Před 2 lety +4

    A man can talk a good talk, but it’s his walk- his actions and behaviors-that demonstrate his true values and definitions of love, women, etc. Listen to what men DO, not what they say.

  • @lanarose2460
    @lanarose2460 Před 2 lety +32

    My heart and mind are always ready to hear from Pastor RC Blakes. And I just exited stage left from a gentleman who claims to be capable of loving multiple women at one time. He tried to convince me that I should accept his polygamy need because it’s apparently the new wave anyway. I didn’t buy it, but hoping to hear more about this “new wave” from Pastor soon.

    • @KellyCartney
      @KellyCartney Před 2 lety

      I would like to hear more about it too💯

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 Před 2 lety

      Have you checked out the Bible? There are many kinds of love that a person is capable of expressing. They are not necessarily as deep as spousal love, but they are a kind of love nonetheless.
      That said, once both parties have agreed to exclusivity, then I agree that a boundary has been violated if the other person is carrying on another relationship without getting your O.K.

    • @CeeceeH1819
      @CeeceeH1819 Před 2 lety +5

      Men wanting multiple wives are just pure greedy and selfish.
      What other reason is there to justify this new wave?
      Plus, can they afford this 'new wave' lifestyle?

  • @judywade3124
    @judywade3124 Před 2 lety +6

    I like that: A capable man should command a woman's respect. Love it.💜

  • @TrinekaClayton
    @TrinekaClayton Před 2 lety +4

    I have experienced a man asking me to go 50/50 and it didn't feel good. It never felt right internally, but I thought it made sense. Now, I understand that it fundamentally goes against my femininity. Wow, God created every aspect of the woman for a purpose. God gave us a barometer that lets us know who and who not to choose 🙌🏿🙏🏿🙌🏿

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +4

    The man that is capable of loving you is sober and meek.
    Sober: Level headed
    Meek: A man under control - not boring.
    He asks questions that average men don't ask.

  • @SheliaRBrown-oq1bu
    @SheliaRBrown-oq1bu Před 2 lety +5

    Oh my... For all the days that I've been on earth, I've never thought about whether or not a man was capable of loving me. What??? I would always think about "him" but not me. Then like Bishop said, you give it all to this man but then you end up with nothing. You're drained because you emptied your tank on a man who wasn't capable, didn't want to try to figure out and had no intention of wanting to know how to love ME. Oh my! I'm still in shock. I look back over the years and the men I dated and none of them were able to love me back because all of them were simply not capable of being able to do it. What? Have I been living under a rock or was this simply because growing up I didn't feel valued enough to think of myself as being lovable? I will listen to this message a few more times because I'm still at I never thought about is this man that I'm about to date capable of loving me? I have to meditate on this some more because the shock of never thinking about that concept still stings.

  • @purplelily6950
    @purplelily6950 Před 2 lety +4

    I'm 57 years old, and I have never asked myself this question. Thank you, RC

  • @HALFPINTSHAWTY
    @HALFPINTSHAWTY Před 2 lety +1

    Masculine energy is so consistent and character is so solid that you can't disrespect!!!! ON ME !!!!!!!
    COMMAND IT 👶 👨‍🍼 🚼

  • @ninapresto6824
    @ninapresto6824 Před 2 lety +4

    WOW! Mr RC Blakes is right! This is how good my man is to me. a good man that loves a woman will demonstrate all these character. God Bless you more everyday Mr RC Blakes

  • @bollid4151
    @bollid4151 Před 2 lety +8

    Pastor Rc Blakes, I have no words to thank you for changing and influencing my life the way you have. I thank God every day, because I know he put you in my path to change my life from the first day I started listening and following you. I’ve come from being as broken as can be, to being a queen and let me tell you, my life is beautiful today. It’s taken a lot of work, lot of therapy and a lot of hours listening to you, but it’s been so worth it.
    I have finally tapped into the feminine queen God created me to be and let me tell you, there is nothing better than that. My actions, my demeanor, my character all align with that of a queen today and your teachings got me here.
    Thank you for teaching everything and love my father didn’t have the wisdom or discernment to do.
    God bless you every day, and please continue the work you do, there are so many broken women who do not know their worth and need you. I need you every day, sometimes when things get dark, I say, let’s see what pastor Blakes has to say. You words of wisdom always, give me clarity and direction
    Thank you and Hod bless you.

  • @amy44499
    @amy44499 Před 2 lety +16

    Thank you for the valuable wisdom you've shared with God's daughters. And thank you especially for praying for us. May every blessing be yours, RC Blakes. ♥️🙏🏼 Be encouraged ladies!

  • @jenniferreedcoachjrose4301

    This is true when I loved more than he loved me it Never Worked!!

  • @Liv3lov3laug3
    @Liv3lov3laug3 Před rokem +1

    I am the most blessed of women - to be loved by a man who is both my type and is also loving me as a King loves his Queen. I have been living with and spending a lot of time, through hard times, with him and not once did he lose my respect. I still can't believe this is for real!

  • @mg9475
    @mg9475 Před 2 lety +11

    This hit home for me tremendously. I needed to hear this to get a better understanding. Thank you ❤️

  • @trutalk12
    @trutalk12 Před 2 lety +5

    I wish I could like this five times, please continue these type lessons, you are making me stronger day by day.💖

  • @audreymickens4390
    @audreymickens4390 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Pastor Blakes. You are preaching better than we're shouting. Amen.

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 Před 2 lety +2

    When living the right way, submission is natural.

  • @cherrY28201
    @cherrY28201 Před 2 lety +5

    Every morning I listen to you, with my coffee in the hand and a smile
    Thanks! 😍
    Greetings from germany

  • @ladyzinada5341
    @ladyzinada5341 Před 2 lety +5

    🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️. I'm Running through the Screen Sir....😂👏 When he looked at Us with a stern look saying," IT AIN'T GONNA WORK bae!" 😆

  • @anaymousjohn5227
    @anaymousjohn5227 Před rokem +1

    He will show it by actions that speaks louder then words he wont hide from you he wont ignore you he will be open up front he will treat you with respect protect you from harm

  • @luvvaluvva
    @luvvaluvva Před 2 lety +8

    I listen with tears flowing..this sermon is a blessing to my life..I needed this, right time..God bless you Pastor..

  • @TrinekaClayton
    @TrinekaClayton Před 2 lety +5

    Many women are married to men who love them and whom they love, but are nowhere near being loved to the fullest. Wonder if settling into the committment becomes the priority at that point? 🤔

    • @kdmylove
      @kdmylove Před 2 lety +1

      I think that word "commitment" is very alluring.

  • @audreymighty-harmon3319
    @audreymighty-harmon3319 Před 2 lety +13

    What a profound lesson. Thank you Bishop Blakes💯

  • @patriciataylor2661
    @patriciataylor2661 Před 2 lety +1

    Looking good and smelling good is NOT the cake - it’s just the icing.

  • @kemilolafadeyi5483
    @kemilolafadeyi5483 Před 2 lety +2

    A man can love you but he has no capacity to love me the way I need to be loved . Let this marinate first . You preaching sir ! Toxic masculinity confused love with sex . This is so deep here . Every woman has to be loved uniquely tailored to her need whatever that is . Is a woman a slave or a utensil to be used ?

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 Před 2 lety +3

    This was right on time. I thank you Bishop and Lady Blakes ❤️. I shared it with my mama and niece.

  • @woolenwebsofbeauty6206
    @woolenwebsofbeauty6206 Před 2 lety +3

    "No Sweetheart, You continue to GO and Choose from a polluted pool because you are operating from a place of broken consciousness....."

  • @denisejackson7520
    @denisejackson7520 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you Rev. Blakes! Wise advice!

  • @1975Godmade
    @1975Godmade Před 2 lety +2

    THIS MESSAGE IS GOLD!!

  • @mariasewell3825
    @mariasewell3825 Před 2 lety +10

    This is such a great teacher and I wish I could start my life all over again and know all of this that you’re talking about because I was never taught and I’m up in my early 70s so I find that it’s too late it’s very frightening now in these times to get involved with anyone

    • @jumshor
      @jumshor Před 2 lety +2

      You can still find someone. Love knows no age limits.

    • @patforeman9576
      @patforeman9576 Před rokem

      Maria I’m 73 and have made every mistake possible in my past relationships. I took out 3 years to get my mindset right, determined what I needed in a spouse (never did that before) and let God take the wheel. I have a dear friend who is the embodied of what I needed at this stage of my life. Was I interested? No! He had to be a fake like all the others were. But he has never changed, bc these characteristics are what makes him unique. To make a long story short, I went on a date with him. Then another and another. We are a matched pair bc we have been through everything together supporting each other. We are engaged now and I’m happy everyday bc he would not have it any other way. His favorite sayings are: “I LOVE YOU” and “My Queen you deserve the best from me everyday and I am happy everyday bc God blessed me with the best…You”
      Never give up Maria. God will send the right person when he knows you are ready. Be blessed Dear One with Heaven’s best. Mz Pat

  • @gwendolynhandy7415
    @gwendolynhandy7415 Před 2 lety +4

    Great Word from God! God bless you and Lady Blakes. 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @delightserene
    @delightserene Před 2 lety +2

    Thankyou RC Blakes Jr! This is really helpful!

  • @bewell.rochellemg5668
    @bewell.rochellemg5668 Před 2 lety +1

    Enjoyed every minute of this. Thank you!