BEING AN OPTION IS NEVER AN OPTION by RC Blakes
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Everytime a man ask my why I'm still single. I respond : I am single, So that I will be available when the right man comes along!!!
Yessss
Thanks for that line 😊😊😂
True Blue Love That
Great response!!!
Boom
Single for more than 4 years I have never been more relaxed and happier in my life. I look good, smell good, money is good, I have my own house, enjoy my job, nurture myself, pursue my hobby and develop spiritually. From this point on, I don't need a man. Many want to be with me but unfortunately these are men who don't meet my standards. My solitude is sacred and if the king approaches me my soul will recognize it. Until then, I enjoy my life that I have built for myself. Thank you so much for your teaching dear pastor Blakes! 😇
Thank you for sharing. It’s very encouraging. What is your hobby? I need one.
I want to get to that stage
Inspiring... Attracting this. In Jesus Name, I'll get that stage in my life.
“Just because you have the title it doesn’t mean you have the position.” Powerful ☄️⚡️🔥💥
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😂😂😂😂a lot deceive themself with that “I’m his queen” lol!
This hit deep.
Witness
"A Shopper will try you on take you home, wear you for a night and return you the next day!" Wow what a mind provoking thought!!
"Draining your future....for a person who should never even gotten a conversation with you" - that said it all for me.
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phew
Hello!! If time could be reversed, the first time, the ex narcissistic husband spoke to me, I wish I had shut down the communication. Who knew everything was about game. So many years, health and finances wasted.
Oh Pastor Blake's so so very true. Listen to your first mind, voice, intuition. Keep it moving. If, you are drawn in and realize it's a mistake, undo it!! Quickly! Line up with the will of God 💎😉
@@aharry31 That Part Narcissist Free 8 Mo months 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
"You should have known you were sexy when you woke up!" Be blessed Pastor Blakes!!
okurrrrrrrrrrrrt, been knew. i woke up fly
Yea, that part! 🙌🏽 😝
Hello!!!!!
😭😭
Thank you Pastor Blakes!
He is great, calls me everyday at the same time, does journaling with me, healing sessions, reads the Bible with me and all. As great as he is he said “I’m not ready for a relationship right now I want to work on myself and we can be friends” he told me that like a week ago but he still calls me and acts like a boyfriend pretty much. But he doesn’t want the title of my boyfriend and so because of that I had to make the painful decision to not speak to him until I’ve detached from the dreams I had of our future life together. Waiting around for him will just hurt me even longer so I had to cut the cord. Thanks to your videos it’s making me feel way better about my decision. I tend to put other people before me but not anymore.
Wisdom
Good for you. He would have kept you from meeting someone else.
Two days ago, my new bf of a month told me “he was interested in someone else”. I said “ok, bye”. I left and blocked him on everything. I will never speak to someone who said that to me ever again! I’m grateful it only wasted a month of my time. Thank you Lord🙏🏻💕
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Yass! 🙌🏾
Glad he told you. Trash took himself out.
Smart girl, well done!
You did well
"stop trying to do CPR on a corpse, in fact it NEVER lived" WOW 🤯🤯
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i know thats right
Loved this analogy😍
Truth!
Message
DONT ALLOW SOMEONE/ANYONE TO MAKE YOU AN OPTION WHEN YOU HAVE MADE THEM A PRIORITY.
Amen. I just did that. He said he was getting a divorce (supposedly)!! He was available to call and text during the week but would block my calls on the weekend!!!! Nope! No more
Facts !
@@shannongeter6641yea girl just leave 🤷♀️
"A Purchaser has questions. He wants more than just your body, he goes beyond that. A double minded man is inconsistent."
WOW!!!
"Just because you have the title doesn't mean you have the position." Whoaaa 💭
61 year old, now single female here and I want to testify that this man speaks TRUTH! I made mistakes after my divorce, thinking that if I was an "option" than my "foot was in the door" and men would see my value. NOT SO! Even my own SON has treated me as an option going in and out of my life when it suited him. NO MORE! I'm single and I am FREE. Free to explore the talents, gifts, dreams, and destiny that GOD has placed within me. Young ladies, DO NOT waste your entire life learning these lessons!
Thanks for sharing. I am 56. Divorced for 18 months. Doing the work to heal which brought me to Pastor Blake’s videos. Lesson learned. I will not be an option. Be blessed.
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Thank you
Talk truth 💯 👏
I’m in my sixties as well and have made this mistake in the past as well. So much wisdom now and I am also single and free and it never felt so good . Yes he speaks the absolute truth and I pray all women heed his words!!!! Even women our age need to hear this and so glad you are one in your power!!!
I Am No One's Option. Treating Others As Options Is Cruel & Ungodly.
The point is for YOU to not be an option. Don’t concern yourself those that treat others as options, they usually get what’s coming to them
@Bufftygirl 72 why are you so mad? Calm down and utilize the fruits of the spirit
So true 🌹🌺🌺
I couldn't agree more its do cruel and evil in my opinion!
Exactly sis ♥️
This hurts because this is my husband!! It breaks my heart ♥️ because I know I have to let him go, but I’d rather loose someone who doesn’t value me then loose me again! Thanks for being the father figure I always needed.
I'm trying to process. My husband has treated me as an option as well. For ten years! My husband went to a men's Christian rehab home, and they don't mess around, it's about fasting the word of God prayer and church. I'm super excited. Because if God can bring the Israelites out of Egypt through the Red Sea, make the lame to walk and the blind to see, change Pharaoh's heart,, he can set the captive free!!
You'll have seriously start to warfare!!! God is Able to change him!!
Talk to your Pastor about your situation. Remember that God hates divorce.
I know exactly what your talking about. My husband treats me like he doesn't want to be married. It's time to move on. I will not be his option.
I hope you didn't divorce your husband. You accepted and married him the way he was for who he was. What about marriage, vowels and honoring God's word? I don't believe the purpose of this channel is to promote divorcing your husband's because you have become "enlightenined".
God is saving me from the wrong relationship through you!
Same ! Tough truth
“Don’t provide value without price” Wow! 🤔
Yes, that one is a GOOD one!!!
Yes that was powerful !!!
Yes that was an uppercut for me!!
I finally fully realized that I was an option to him so I put a stop to it all yesterday. This video is so on time and so on point.
you go sis
@@nikkyshamz2696 Thanks
So proud of you and for you!!! Walk in your true value!!!
So on point I literally could feel my heart breaking with happiness and relieve from watching this video. The absolute truth, totally resonates ❤️
Thank you in tears I feel so stupid. I loved a man to death that I wasn't even an option he did everything to me but I didn't have any idea really because I was tripped up on swag. I was different than the other women he liked so I allowed him and the surroundings to change me completely. I wanted his approval 😪 so bad, but I finally understand I have been no contact for a year learning to love me and put me first stop being scared to be alone and stop being an option. I wish I would have got out earlier the pain of being an option for 14 years hurts really bad but I did it to myself, Lord give me strength no more drama or lies to myself I deserve the best because I am the best and I am nobody's option.
Being an option make you a placeholder. It simply means you're preparing the man you're with for the type of woman (the game changer) he really wants to be with. When you know your worth and are high value you don't allow this.
“Just because you have the title doesn’t mean you have the position. “. “Someone who exploits you sees you an an option.” You speak truth, Pastor.
Absolutely sound advice 🙏🏻amen 🙏🏻
Be a priority and not an option. When a woman is desperate she will take and settle for any “mess”.
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Just Got away from my mess after 3 years...it's being a Queen that got me there..The King was disguised...And I finally said this isn't right. It obviously was a process...God opens to broken down to walk with him in the Light. No more exploitative behaviours..I feel Liberated..one baby step at a time. Not positioning myself as an
option.Thank you RC...
Hmmmmm, “do I really need air conditioning, do I need power windows?” “You want to be the engine or the steering wheel.” Whew!!
Listening to you, is exactly what my dad taught me. Men value the things that they love & men invest in things that they love. Options r never an investment.
REAL And TRUE
Oh yes and settling for potential
Wow, 4 min in and I'm feeling the shame of having done just this--wasting so many years with someone who had no concern for me. Please heed his advice, his words, DONT stay with someone who doesn't honor you, love you, support you, value you---believe me, it is a long, miserable life and you cant get back that time. God does not ordain messes. You staying in the relationship, is not honoring any imagined commitment you think you have.
"When you present yourself as one that's open to being an option, you'll always attract shoppers."
"A Rolls Royce doesn't do donuts in the street, Rolls Royce doesn't do commercials." Stand alone, value!!
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Yes love it
Yes!!! This is why I have always been drawn to and love Rolls Royce. Their value stands alone, no advertising and commercials necessary. I view myself in the same way, no advertising and commercials necessary! I refuse to be anyone's options. If you can take or leave me then I always tell folk, just leave me!!! I'm always gonna be good
Sooo good!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@@michelletiaraharris this is a bad analogy Michelle. RRs lose their value faster than any other car...actually all superrich automobiles tend to lose value rather precipitously as they age.
Dignity, Self respect, & Self love!!!! Invaluable teaching!!!
yessssssss, add self awareness.....recipe for greatness, Queen conscious woman
This is so deep and true. If I'm not number one, and the only one, I will not be number two.
" Just Because you have the Title, doesn't mean you have the Position"
Alright now Holy Spirit, bringing nothing but the truth ✍
This is what all of us, as young ladies, needed to hear. Thank God for lessons learned.
What about after 65? Lol
@@sabrinataylor7578 that is the same! Don't compromise!
Yes 🌺
Yea blame our parents too but now it is on us to retrain our children so they don’t allow themselves either an option or a secret to any man
Men and women play games and it’s not right I will say just be up front people will respect you more
Bishop Blakes is a national treasure 🙌🏾
You know? Right 😇
Truly AN ANSWERED PRAYER.. MY GOD IN HEAVEN WORDS CAN'T EXPRESS HOW MY MINDSET HAS RADICALLY CHANGED!! GLORY TO GOD!!!
He IS to us women, as the late Dr. Myles was/is (his teachings) are to this world for the Kingdom of God. Selah...
Breaking the back of the enemy in my life...& kind with the wounded but REAL
Yes Pastor your signal is good
Make that international
"You have to be aloneto be DISCOVERED." 💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
"Never make any investment into somebody who doesn't want you"
I never knew God would send me spiritual guidance from a pastor. I say that because I was born and raised in Islam and always searched for relationship advice through my Islamic religious leaders, however God is able to do all things. I needed these words. These words have opened my eyes that I never realized I was blind to. Thank you. I appreciate you.
you are blessed sis...God is love
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I love your testimony!!! Thanks for sharing.
My dear sister the truth is in the word of God always!!!🥰 and Bishop Blake's is surely preaching the wisdom of God through His Son Jesus Christ!!!❤❤❤ My testimony is I was raised Sunni Muslim. I gave my life over 10 years ago to God through His Son Jesus. And by the Holy sSpirit is the best thing I ever have done in my life. I encourage you to seek God of the Bible out for yourself, it would change you life forever. And you'll be so grateful you did. God loves you and I love you too, Be Blessed!!!🥰🙏🙏🙏
@@shebaabdullah5929 That is a beautiful transformation. Continue sharing!
Being an option is not a option for me ,i would rather be alone than sitting at home guessing
That's right.. Just cut them off str8 away.. No point praying n wishing for a title
absolutely
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Amen!!
SAY THAT!!!
You spoke a word. Every little girl needs a father who will tell her these things the exact way you are doing it for us women. Thank you!!
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I've always felt like an option - it all makes sense now. I need to not settle... expect more ... and educate myself more !!
Just ended a situationship... again.. with a shopper. I love these analogies. Thank you for your work. You are my internet Dad. 🙏🏻💖🙏🏻
@RC Blakes Jr , stop lying, you impersonator!
@@nessparadis6948 Yeah ... what the heck!!! That creeped me TF out!! lol
Amen!!!
I thank God the day I discovered you, you're the father I never had. Your guidance has made me a better and wiser woman. Even though I'm not a Christian, your teachings resonate with me and probably all women. I'm a 37yr old African lady from South Africa. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family. I really appreciate you
@Loveness Ngwenya. Bishop RC Blakes has been a huge blessing indeed. I pray that you will get to know Jesus personally. He makes all the difference. Secondly, beware of the request from a purported RC Blakes asking for money...Bishop will NEVER do that. Thank you.
@RC Blakes Jr whoever this is you should be a shamed of yourself using God's word to get gifts. Shame on you.
@@sherryRcreations that isnt the real rc blakes
Its some conman trying to hustle $ via gofundme
@@HD-xb9mj I’m older. Don’t be scared and whatever you do don’t settle, or be an option. Pray on it and leave it in the hands of God.
@@ejuraabah9489 thanks a lot
I finally figured out I was simply scared of being alone. I took the advice and left with my dignity and I refuse to be an option. I love myself and know my worth.
To God Be The Glory!!
I have dealt with a man for a year that treated me like an option. When I found you and listened to your amazing words, I have learned to love and heal myself. I can now feel the loving energy of Jesus flowing through me, I believe in my soul it was him guiding me to you because your words truly helped me see my worth. Amen, thank you for all the amazing healing work you do on your channel
I’m grateful for this message!
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Amen 🌹
selah
AMEN 🙏 ‼️Now that’s a Devine message straight from Heaven 😇❤️🙏
Yes! more like Build a Boy!
Amen
The best sermon every WOMAN needs to hear!!!! Lets start with our daughters/nieces 13 and up.
Amen!! Let’s help the girls coming behind us, I forward each video to my daughter and nieces and every woman I know
17 year old girl here!❤️
Don’t wait until age 13
I am a woman in my sixties experienced this first hand in my past I’m older and extremely wise now. I pray young women and really women of all ages heed these words of Pastor Blake’s. This is all the real truth!!!!! Know the value and worth of yourself and your precious time and life !!!!!
Thank you 💕
Thank you for this message. I hate that I am just understanding this at 40 years old. I wasted 8 years dealing with someone who had me as an option. Embarrassing but true. In process of healing and building myself back up. Thank you so much for your videos🙏🏾
You didn’t wasted your time with him.we learn every day in our life
By the grace of Allah you’ll meet your your future husband,
I’m sure Allah has a good plan for you
keep on praying
@@rduale2676 Thank you
I almost put myself in an option position. I tried to throw myself on this person and he told me he had kid drama baby momma drama. We feel something for each other but I am not going to have sex or be an option so I have backed off. I must be a priority and I told him that! I am a Queen! Thank you Pastor for your message 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Broken consciousness, mistreated, mishandled for so long....🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I am working on me #healing♥️♥️♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾✍🏾✍🏾
Try working on positive affirmations as soon as you get up. Look at yourself in the mirror while doing it. Incorporate more prayer and you’ll see a renewal of your mind.
heal beloved, you are worth it
Same here❤🙏🏽
Me too. Broken consciousness is defeating without God's help. Thank God for finding the lost sheep.
You're such a blessing to all the girls here who ain't got their fathers to talk to them like this
Absolutely. 🌹
I agree Sis 👊🏿
@@marjorie_muiruri thats a scam page sis
@@nikkyshamz2696 girl, thank you. I just checked the profile. It's legit fake❤️
I was just yelling my best friend this
As a young lady who is seeking God and loving herself. I appreciate your words. I'm so blessed to be on this journey.
Option is something you can take or leave, not a necessity! Lord allow us to all see and know the VALUE you’ve placed in us!
Those words are so very powerful!!!! Praise the lord
Even when we are married (to them) they treat us as options. Never again!
Yes they do
Then thats when you let him know that he can be an option as well then divorce that ass!
No we don't, some of these clowns do, ALL men are NOT, THAT WAY! maybe you need to fish in a different pond and find e REAL MAN! Maybe then you, STOP STEREOTYPE ALL OF US BROTHER'S.
Yes, my pond is small, I live on a small island. But I don't do much fishing, I believe in marrying once and fighting for that marriage. I did that for over 23 years, and trust me the pond was totally different from what I grew up in. It's hard not to stereotype when all you see is the same behavior over and over. I am now rounding off my studies in psychology, and I am specializing in sex addiction, I believe the core issue is in sex addiction, the devil is a liar! Mr 4th and Long to tell me stop stereotyping is useless and sounds controlling, I obviously do, and with reason, instead start men groups and encourage the weaker ones, we are not upset because we want to be, we are suffering too much. All the best to you.
I understand that sis,I totally get it, I hear women including my own sisters saying similar things. We have to do ALOT of soul searching from the choices we have made,I mean if you sister out here or one of these women out here saying ALL MEN OE,NO GOOD DOGS, ERC ETC, then maybe you have to stand up and ask the questions, why AM I always, getting NO GOOD MEN, I mean you dating one man, you finally see him for what he is, or maybe I should say what he's NOT, you end this situation ship to just do the same thing again a few months later, It's like you sent this guy in his way and he goes down the block, put on some different clothes, and comes back again, and you entertain it, like you didn't learn anything from the previous one, same guy he just came back in different firm You can't keep getting the same type of man or no good man, OVER and OVER , come on now AT SOME POINT YOU HAVE TO LOOK UN MIRROR AT SELF, I MEAN COME ON! NOBODY'S LUCK IS THAT BAD! it just what you see attracted to, your attracted to what's FAMILIAR, because for the most part that's all you've seen ànd All you know!
This came right on time, I was battling whether or not to end things...this was confirmation. I wish I knew this as a younger woman.
“You have been contained by the chains that have been established on your brain” -RC Blakes
I will never again put myself in a position to be someone's option. The good thing about it was, when I had gotten the revelation that I was better than that and deserved better..I didn't allow the "relationship or better yet, situationship to last long. Thank you Jesus!!
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Make sure that their words and actions match.
The six people that 👎🏼this are mad that the truth is being told. Demons don't like light.😂🤣
Or they were losers who like 2 use people as options.
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Very well said!
🗣Please say it again for the people in the back of the room!
Say that again
This spoke to my soul. I will treat myself better in the present than I have in the past. I will not allow myself to be anybody's option.
I had the wrong mindset for many years: "I'm strong enough to be immune to this treatment". When you want to keep someone, it's shocking what you'll tell yourself. It took God's saving intervention to direct me to the right path - away from option status.
I also had the wrong mindset and took my determination to not be divorced to an extreme. He had 4 affairs. And the worst part of it, was I made that decision and was supported by the religious machine to stay married. Insanity to live in a way God never intended me to live. But I know I needed to learn and now I have learned. And stopped going to church but I haven't stopped acknowledging the Creator and the Grace Giver.
@@kristelwalton3141 That's disgraceful that he broke his covenant to you and to God who does not take adultery lightly. I'm sorry for what you had to go through. I don't know if you're Christian, but that's what any bible believing pastor would tell you concerning divorce.
Message received and accepted. "Shopper vs. Purchaser" is one of your best analogies. Your teachings have been consistent and on point. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink it. #selflove #loveyourself
WELL.....well.. I am in utter silence after this one.
Going to play this on repeat in my sleep tonight.
Me too. Let it sink in and block the shopper. We're worth more. Not options.
You can say that again.
@@zurigee6 blocked okayyy
To all the Vashti's wait for a dignified man. Thank you for this message.
😎 I AM AN ENGINE NOT AN AIR CONDITIONING 💪💪 Thank you Pastor !!
You have become a spiritual father to me this year through youtube. I have learned so many things from you since June 2020. Thank you for teaching us women all the lessons we never learned properly growing up. You are a beloved gem in my life. Praise Jesus for sending me to your channel. Will be purchasing your book!
I found it 2019. He just increased my Worth since then. I feel healthier.
Amen Amen Amen... thank you..
Me as well. I look at him as my spiritual father too!
Sadly, exactly my Story ! But finally i was able to block the Dude 😏
Took me a lot of Power💪but with your awesome Talk (and previous Talks)im more stronger and convinced to follow through ! And keep those Guys out of my life, from the beginning. 🙏
You pushed my self esteem higher today.
Thank you so much Mr. Blakes 💐
You got this sis! With God's help and great teaching like Bishop Blakes, you are going to do even better!!!
Amen. A Queen conscience woman will never allow herself to be handled like an option. I would rather deal with the pain and have my dignity.
Lord, he was preaching!!! Every women in my family believes that a "piece of man is better than no man." They have called me a lesbian or told that no one wants me bevause I am not attracted to bums nor are bums attracted to me. I would rather work in my purpose and die an old woman before I settle for a bum. To those woman who told me that put that in your pipe and smoke it
Glad you didn't listen to them........I'm not dating no bum either
Right on, and I'm right here with you!
Bravo my Sister!🙏🏾👊🏾🔥💕
DON'T need no bums.
Thank you for the reminder Father! Ladies, please have self respect to never be an option to these boys out here! You are the priority and the prize! Lot's of love to everyone! 🙏🏻💞
Thanks 🌹🌹🌹🌹
What I’ve learned to do is disappear when he calls I don’t answer my phone when he ask me to come over I say sure I’ll be there and I never show up and don’t call with an explanation,sex is out of the picture and going out on dates I say I’ll take a rain check......keep this up and he will get the message F#ck off period no drama no conversation.done 💪🏾💋
I love it 👏🏾
Good idea. Shoppers want to use us up then put us back on the shelf. No more!
He shouldn't even have the ability 2 reach out 2 u. Block him.
@@October3074 that's not him. Someone sent same thing. They're using his picture.
Yes. 🌹
He is really spitting facts on this one💯💯💯💯I have 2 masters degrees, a house and a great career, one daughter from my previous marriage. I found some real strength and threw my narcissistic ex-husband out and filed divorced before he could do it to me😁! I watched God's blessing reign down on my daughter and I! Yet, I still see myself in dating, post marriage, tolerating bs. I usually get rid of them after a while but I just wish I didn't have that settling curse still in me. It's a generational curse, and by any means necessary. I WILL NOT SETTLE! I sacrificed my whole family for a man that would do right by me and reciprocate the kind of love I give. I'm not playing anymore. I will have a faithful, God-fearing, God-loving, respectful, compassionate, caring man of Character. In the name of JESUS! 🙏🏾
Best analogies and metaphors I’ve heard you use yet Bishop Blakes. I don’t think most women want to be lied to or played with. They come to expect it because while there are available men out here many of them operate out of an emotionally immature consciousness, even the ones who are not gaming, gas lighting or ghosting. Hurt women just need consistent, healing doses of patient tenderness and grace from those who take the time to build them back up, alongside a central relationship with the Lord and careful self work.
I thought I met a great older guy(61) . We had great conversation then one day he face time and was around 2 small babies. So I stated are those your grands, he said no my babies. So I’m 50 and the first thing I said where there is small babies a mother is near by. Well the mother is a 32 year old. So I quickly said I’m out.. you don’t get to make me a sister wife.. life goes on. By the way he is a Rasta man stating that’s part of his culture, well I’m a Christian and in my culture it is not. Period T..
I'm so glad you mentioned the test drive. I've seen so many men using the excuse sex before marriage the same as the "test drive" before buying a car. A test drive is like 10 minutes max. It is not equal to years of sex without any commitment. It is not equal to getting to really know a person. Now I see the excuse of the test drive is just shoppers.
my legs are closed until marriage and wont live with any man before marriage, I couldnt care less about their lines..Tell them that..Im not a slave..and walk away
@RC Blakes Jr Fake page. Stop impersonating preachers smh
@@lifeventures6651 Thanks for that. I reported that comment. We'll see if it's removed or not
This man of God has been such a blessing in my life!
Thank you so much Bishop Blakes for sharing your spiritual wisdom. Awesome message! I made the conscious decision to stop being someone’s option in 2004, kept my mind, my spirit, my heart and my body to myself. Met a most wonderful man in 2006, got married in 2008 just a couple of months shy of turning 42 and been married now for 13 wonderful years. ALL things are possible with God. Moral of the story: I DECIDED to stop being an option. It’s doable ladies. It’s a choice. God bless you🙏🏾
I was floored when a younger man hit on me at work. He said he was in an open relationship. I couldn’t believe how he kept propositioning me after asserting it’s never going to happen because we don’t have the same values. He said was happy to be the person in my life until the “right” person came along. I’m thinking 🤔 doesn’t he have a live in girlfriend who he has so much in common with and totally adores? Why would I be willing to be his #2 and me take her sloppy seconds. It’s just gross! I’m worth so much more than just being thrown a bone! 🦴
I didn't recognize these younger men wanting to advance their status or just get money. Until I heard RC Blakes & Tony Gaskins! Easing up on me... I look them straight in the face and treat them like any other professional relationship. No, they don't get an emotional hook....
This poor live in girlfriend probably doesn't even know she's in an 'open relationship'...
Good for you. Next...
You should report him to HR. If you've had to tell him more than once that you are not interested, that means that he does not respect your boundaries, but also that you are not enforcing them.
He's awful. 🌹
Like kids in Candy stores 🍬 Options can confuse the very elect. Don't allow your Desiree to become your Destruction😭 Watch as well as pray.
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Dear Pastor, I’ve been following you on this channel for a long time; I wish I’d heard or seen your wise words earlier in my life. You’re doing so much good for the women who are listening ❤️
Same here.
I listen to you everyday. I was very sad, couldn't eat or anything. I was really lost due to being in a long relationship that was not good for me at all. Recently, I ask him to leave just like that, I was shocked that he was like "okay". He just left. I thought it would be hard this time due to the last several times were horrible. I'm dealing with the moving on part but since I've been watching your channel, it's been better. I'm able to eat a little now. I was happy to listen to the video you shared about your wife on how she didn't call, text, message, drive by or anything. That really opened my eyes. I'm a very classy lady and I knew that doing such nonsense would really make him feel bigger than he really is. I just have to finish healing which I tell you is the hardest part of it all. I don't want my love for him to travel to another man. This is the best rewarding counseling site I could ever have found. Thanks for helping a sister out. Be blessed.
I'm going through the same now!! Got the proof that he was cheating and he turned it around that my nosiness is what I got. Told him its over and he said "okay, no probkem" then the insults started. I've blocked him to avoid the threats and insults. Wow!!! I was clearly an option...one of his options. Pastor Blake is helping me tremendously with all of his videos. At 51 I don't have time to waste anymore with a 54 year old boy who is needing who knows what from several women at once. How hurtful an experience this has been. Hooe you are doing okay and healing India 🤗
Wow, this was an ENTIRE word from start to finish! It was painful to hear, but I needed this more than ever.
Thank you, Pastor Blakes, for allowing the Lord to use you in the ministry of liberating women from broken consciousness.
Entrusting God in my road to healing as I do the work to change, learn, and evolve! #QUEENmindset
Stop with the scamming who ever you are!!!! you’re ruining someone’s reputation, someone that is actually helping and building us.... get out!!!😡
ditto
I’m sitting here just shaking my head. All of your points makes so much sense. God bless you
No compromising ain't anybody's option cause am not an option....dropping your standards damages ones psych...i refuse to be desperate i am a priority and i make myself available to a man ready to make me a priority not an option...age ain't making me drop my standards...thanks Pastor Blakes..bless you.💕
Just know....
Not everyone's journey has connected them with this brother, father, friend, pastor Robert Blakes!
Know, that you are BLESSED. 🙏🏾
Thank you sincerely RC Blake's ....God bless you and all in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏼
Such a smart beautiful powerful message. 🥰 I love it!!!! I’m 39 yes it plays a little on the mind but, I been still developing to still have a queen mindset. Not easy but, we all have to keep that queen mindset. It does help how you deal with men. You don’t take a lot of mess when you think like a queen.
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Yes indeed sis. I agree with you.
This was powerful, if I can only get other women to see that their value is too costly to settle with for a man/boy who don't deserve their Worth 😔🙏🏾😔💛🙏🏾
“Man Boy” that part
This one touched my soul. God is good. Thank you, R.C. Blakes.
Stop sticking around trying to do CPR on a corps! Word! That hits me so hard
@RC Blakes Jr , you’ve started impersonating this pastor again?
@@nessparadis6948 this is crazy how someone is trying to impersonate the pastor. People are so sick!
When ur broken, it's not desperation. it's toxicity in a person that needs to be fixed. Most of the time is how they got treated by her father that repeats itself as an adult. God can heal all that are broken. Let's look at the whole picture not just say that you should do this and that when a person has no idea how to get out of that cycle. God can deliver us all.
Amen! He preaching to be discovered is to be found alone 🔥 🔥 fulfillment comes when you know your purpose. Amen!
My parents raised me to have a Queen’s mentality, yet I believe I have taken a few steps back, so I better fix this now! Thank you for this message👍it’s never too late to get right.
Yes this is true. If an option in love you get no respect and fleeing it can save your life. Why mess with a man if not truly care for you? I agree. Life is too short for such psych head games of being used, not liked or loved.
Amen!
My man thinks you're one sided. Oh well. Keep telling the truth! Again I love your messages.
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ that says something...
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Keep your eye on a man who has negative things to say bout some1 schooling women on how 2know their worth & value
Of course he does!
One sided with the truth!
The excellent sound quality of his videos make it so easy to binge watch his videos all day all night every day.
Thank you. That means a lot to me.😊🙏🏽
Been through this , it's painful walking away but it's not worth sacrificing your self love and respect . You are worth more!! ❤️❤️
Amen to that Belle
some men always says am not a perfect man but want to be with you....i have doubt when a man confessed about his perfection
Your value is being lowered because of your placement. No one can see your value.You said a mouthful today. Thank You Rev. Blake.💜
yup, wrong company can misrepresent a Queen
I'm happy for my sister's before me that got blessed to be with the right man and my sister on they way the way to being a wife 😊 happy Friday every one
This is so refreshing as opposed to listening to someone who thinks that women who are over 40 and single moms, somehow have no value. I'm thankful that God looks at our hearts and calls us the apple of his eye! Our value is in Christ!!
Thank you 🙏 THIS WAS GOOD 👏👏👏
You CHANGED THE DAY ‼️☀️🌈❤️🌷 My husband treated me like an option and the outside women like the priority. Unapologetic I filed for Divorce I’m OUT‼️ Walking away without apologizing Opting to preserve my 👑 Crown, my Dignity, and Self Respect.
Good for you. You suppose to be the priority.
Good for you!!
@@ladyzinada5341 yes your right is good of been the priority it’s been a very painful experience lesson learned thank you it’s reassuring knowing your not the crazy one. God Bless you 🙏☀️🌈💖💖💖
🤯 Everyone should hear this
I've been single my whole life (24 going on 25), finally thought about getting into the dating scene.
I am highly picky and the first 2 guys that I've spent months getting to know dropped me the moment they found someone else that would send them nudes/do sexual acts. I didn't realize I became an option until they dropped me and reasoned it was because the other girls would actually engage in sexual activity. It made me feel like I was the problem.
I'm really upset. I don't know if I'll ever find a relationship that will be strong.
This video made me feel better. Thank you!
Wise words for all of us. Thank you.