How to turn anyone into a CLOSE friend in 45 minutes

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  • čas přidán 15. 11. 2018
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    In this video, I talk about the Fast Friend Protocol. How you can become close friends with anyone in 45 minutes and how you can use this to connect better with people you like.
    Click here to read the full article about how to make friends: socialself.com/blog/worlds-fa...
    References:
    1. Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. doi:10.1177/0146167297234003
    2. Page-Gould, E., Mendoza-Denton, R., & Tropp, L. R. (2008). With a little help from my cross-group friend: Reducing anxiety in intergroup contexts through cross-group friendship. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(5), 1080-1094. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.95.5.1080
    3. Slatcher, R. B. (2010). When Harry and Sally met Dick and Jane: Creating closeness between couples. Personal Relationships, 17(2), 279-297. doi:10.1111/j.1475-6811.2010.01276.x

Komentáře • 124

  • @mandakhbayar.m8298
    @mandakhbayar.m8298 Před 4 lety +512

    Me 450 minutes later: *mom meet karen,ary, kevin, micheal, michelle , zac, alex, chou, kalashnikov, james

  • @ppmp9937
    @ppmp9937 Před 2 lety +291

    Moral lesson: get to know that person in personal way by asking personal questions gradually. Also helps if you both go thru significant events together

  • @cadii1119
    @cadii1119 Před 3 lety +251

    Me when I introduce my best friend to my other friends and then they start hanging out without me:
    Time to search this up!

  • @davidferret
    @davidferret Před rokem +126

    The best way to make a friend is to spend a lot of time together doing activities. That’s why it’s easy to become friends with a classmate who sits next to you every day vs. someone you rarely spend time with. And I think you should really open up about yourself and say things about yourself first before you ask them personal questions

    • @ItsAryax
      @ItsAryax Před rokem +4

      Yeah but,the good people i see who are like me and we even talk together alot has other friends to talk & our teachers just changed our places and my partner is a lil awkward

    • @greenwood7734
      @greenwood7734 Před 11 měsíci +2

      But how do you turn a friend into a boyfriend?

  • @kartikkumar4636
    @kartikkumar4636 Před 3 lety +160

    i am a little surprised to see how come he only has 2k subs, i found his videos and emails very helpful, you deserve a lot more.

    • @sanguivoir6923
      @sanguivoir6923 Před 3 lety +7

      I agree! His videos are straightforward and so helpful. He deserves much more attention.

    • @StephJ0seph
      @StephJ0seph Před 3 lety +3

      I thought the same thing
      He makes very quality content

  • @taylorror
    @taylorror Před 5 měsíci +6

    it feels like my friends arent even my friends. i mean its not awkward, or atleast on my end. ill ask a question, and they answer, but it normally doesnt even last long enough, and it feels as if im interviewing them.

  • @nelleews
    @nelleews Před 5 lety +104

    This was just what I need and searched for!

  • @unclebob8419
    @unclebob8419 Před rokem +9

    A big piece of information missing here is that you need to share information about your personal life with them as well. They are not going to open up unless you do.

  • @cv_np
    @cv_np Před 3 lety +14

    Me wanting to say to my online friend to face me: also me being nervous

  • @Immatteodupont
    @Immatteodupont Před 10 měsíci +3

    I really think making new friends is the best thing, i feel loved gsjsjjs

  • @raczyk
    @raczyk Před 5 lety +100

    Would also have to disclose personal information? Cause if you just ask questions, that be like an interview.

    • @socialselfdaily
      @socialselfdaily  Před 5 lety +13

      You´re right! We go more into detail about the method here: socialpronow.com/blog/worlds-fastest-way-to-become-friends/

    • @SuperUnknownNetwork
      @SuperUnknownNetwork Před 4 lety +31

      When you ask them a question then make sure you stick to that topic for few moments thats how you do it if you asked question and they replied and you are ready to ask another question then it will become stress conversation
      You cant just directly ask them personal questions
      Lets say If you met this person at gym now context is gym make sure you talk about gym if hes really engaging and you feel the vibe then ask them what they do and stick to the that question

  • @valskorupko8714
    @valskorupko8714 Před 3 měsíci

    Very succinct and to the point. Keep it just like that. Best of luck.

  • @samislam2746
    @samislam2746 Před 3 lety +15

    I hate when I feel like I'm interviewed by someone

  • @yoursoulessmate
    @yoursoulessmate Před 9 měsíci +1

    I have been following u through emails for years and i just know ur channel now😂

  • @maryevansbaker2879
    @maryevansbaker2879 Před 3 lety +7

    Me and my friend, just upgraded to bffs, and I want us to be closer friends!

  • @user-tt5tw3ut1x
    @user-tt5tw3ut1x Před 3 lety +76

    This is what happens when you’re awkward and don’t know what to say or do.. hi that’s me

    • @gyeomibear
      @gyeomibear Před 3 lety

      xD

    • @is5714
      @is5714 Před 2 lety +1

      i can talk to people but i hard agree with this in one and one conversations

  • @Metro248
    @Metro248 Před 2 lety +105

    Me- "How are you doing today?"
    Her- "Good!"
    *5 minutes later*
    Me- "Have you ever been sexually molested before?"

    • @ilivemylifeforthestarsthat3140
      @ilivemylifeforthestarsthat3140 Před 2 lety +17

      Right it just seems kinda weird to put of the blue ask personal questions. Idk I think people would just find it weird and wouldn’t want to be your friend then

    • @viannccaa
      @viannccaa Před rokem +6

      nah you have to be like “do you have any siblings??? you seem like an only child🤣🤣” make it funny then something like “I don’t know why but i feel like you’re the type of person who doesn’t know how to swim” then yeah

    • @user-gx8iz1le3z
      @user-gx8iz1le3z Před rokem

      LMAO 🤣🤣🤣

    • @Freetobeme8181
      @Freetobeme8181 Před rokem +1

      Omg 😳 😂

  • @user-cd3gx6qt4x
    @user-cd3gx6qt4x Před 2 měsíci

    I met a coworker about 4 months ago. We started out just casual talking and I’ve noticed we’ve started talking about our upbringings, how we were raised, where we’re from, etc. I check up on him whenever I notice him having a bad day. I remember he went on vacation for 2 weeks and I didn’t see him on the week he came back. Thought he went on vacation for 3 weeks. When eventually I did see him he looked upset and ignored me. Saw him again and he waved from a far but didn’t say anything. I went into his room and he somewhat indirectly said he was upset we didn’t cross paths the 1st week he came back. He and I call each other “brother” / “bro”. He’s a cool dude. Sometimes I hear ppl call him things or talk about him but I don’t involve myself in that. Lately he’s been a bit “off” again and I can’t figure out what it is

  • @motherprisma
    @motherprisma Před 3 lety +11

    I’m crushing on this woman and this helps thanks

    • @cheese7781
      @cheese7781 Před 3 lety

      Wait if you like her why are you turning her into a close friend???

    • @geomorales1897
      @geomorales1897 Před 3 lety +9

      @@cheese7781 he probably wants to make her a close friend to get closer to her and have a better chance of getting in a relationship with her

  • @Ifaii9l
    @Ifaii9l Před 6 měsíci

    في البداية اتكلم عن حقائق ثم احول المحادثة إلى أسئلة شخصية ورأي الشخص الآخر , فيديو مفيد شكرا جزيلا

  • @sheeplegend1324
    @sheeplegend1324 Před 2 lety +25

    That is insane, how is asking them gradually more personal questions going to help me get a close friend

    • @elli1327
      @elli1327 Před 2 lety +7

      Isn't it about getting to know eachother? Without being too invasive of their personal life right away?

    • @jameskelly3129
      @jameskelly3129 Před rokem +1

      @@elli1327 You're never going to get to know each other if you completely avoid any personal questions.

  • @jeremyhaines3847
    @jeremyhaines3847 Před 2 lety +3

    This is very interesting and informative

  • @matthewfreitag6995
    @matthewfreitag6995 Před 3 lety +9

    I like his accent😀 (also good info thx)

  • @pinasupernova5229
    @pinasupernova5229 Před 2 lety +65

    I wanna become friends with someone who has catched my eye, but he always goes with 4 other friends of his, I've started working together with him and 1 of his friends in a group project at university. But is still very difficult and almost impossible to approach him alone. And I don't want that the rest of either groups (his friends or the project group) really notice that I have a preference for him above the rest. How would you handle the situation?
    P.s. I don't have any romantic interest for him and I barely know him but since we've started the project, I've started liking him more and I really wanna know more about him and become friends with him.

    • @niyaax7214
      @niyaax7214 Před 2 lety +6

      Im doing this cause i have this one friend in hawks nest and we don’t talk a lot

    • @brat2hi
      @brat2hi Před 2 lety +3

      same here omgg

    • @ItsAryax
      @ItsAryax Před rokem +1

      Man same here we have talked alot online and very similar but sometimes he is absent or with other people

    • @teamleagcy7780
      @teamleagcy7780 Před rokem

      if u wanted to know him u will never get to know him but if u do the opposite by not caring about anyone u will get them to like you.

    • @dkprohouse933
      @dkprohouse933 Před 6 měsíci

      It's great that you want to be friends! You can try initiating casual conversations within the group project, then gradually find opportunities to chat individually. Maybe suggest grabbing a coffee or discussing project details. Keep it natural and inclusive, so it doesn't raise suspicions. Building connections takes time, and your genuine interest in getting to know him will likely shine through.

  • @nab.7250
    @nab.7250 Před 8 měsíci

    im gonna try this

  • @mickeyaltieri-
    @mickeyaltieri- Před rokem +2

    I really really like this boy like I've never felt this way about anyone but I'm not even friends with him I mean he's in my friend group but he dosent really talk to me but I all wnat is to be friends with him like that's all I ask for I just want to talk to him

  • @tiffony5069
    @tiffony5069 Před 3 lety +12

    Me and my friends are the trio

    Im the one that gets left out 😶👍

  • @yolostetr
    @yolostetr Před 2 lety +2

    is it bad that my best friend ashley me and her became best friends after two seconds same thing happend with mckenzie
    we didnt start off as friends we were best friends

  • @niyaax7214
    @niyaax7214 Před 2 lety +1

    Im doing this cause i have this one friend in hawks nest and we don’t talk a lot

  • @Aniwtxh
    @Aniwtxh Před rokem

    Well! U well explained 💗

  • @sirirfanschannel766
    @sirirfanschannel766 Před 3 lety +2

    Hi guys, nice to meet here on youtube. First if all, let me introduce myself. Im sir irfan from indonesia. Im a teacher of english. Im so much eager to make close friendship with those of english speaking country. I hope you would respond me guys.
    With love.
    Sir irfan, indonesia, asia continent..😊

  • @melinahoffman1036
    @melinahoffman1036 Před 4 lety +51

    Are you Swedish?

    • @socialselfdaily
      @socialselfdaily  Před 4 lety +27

      Ja!

    • @speedykid3485
      @speedykid3485 Před 3 lety +2

      @@socialselfdaily haha I think you mean YA!!!

    • @noodle_6718
      @noodle_6718 Před 3 lety +7

      @@speedykid3485 I think that’s the joke dude

    • @speedykid3485
      @speedykid3485 Před 3 lety

      @@noodle_6718 yea ik just making a joke with another joke....ok fine id really get it either lol

    • @tropix1679
      @tropix1679 Před 3 lety

      @@socialselfdaily Jag med! Tack för Videon!

  • @jennie_lily949
    @jennie_lily949 Před rokem

    Please uplod a video on how to make your best friend when she/he is in another section

  • @hibyeeatpie1040
    @hibyeeatpie1040 Před 2 lety +1

    What questions are considered slightly personal

  • @sithangahansana4979
    @sithangahansana4979 Před 2 lety +6

    Hi someone please help and advice me as soon as possible, I am a boy and am 16 and 17 this year. I have not had true best friends actually in life and now I swam to have got close to 4 best friends(1 boy and 3 girls) who on their own are 4 best friends. I love them sooo sooo much and they mean a damn lot to me. Sometimes I feel as though I love them more than my own sibling. I want to be more included in their lives but although they do make me feel included that is really rare and they get along themselves much more readily..and I really love 2 of those friends (1 boy and 1 girl)really very much and I feel I never get that love back. Because I sometimes get really short replies for long messages I send saying how I feel. I love them as friends(not with the intention of having a crush or forming relationships). I feel very sad. Someone pls help me

  • @christarlex3236
    @christarlex3236 Před 4 lety +12

    Man u're awesome make more videos u'll be famous

  • @sherlocktsang9004
    @sherlocktsang9004 Před 3 lety +7

    Im gonna try this tmr hope this will work;)

  • @Bill0102
    @Bill0102 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I'm amazed by the quality of this. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was a revelation. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @victorianjeri1000
    @victorianjeri1000 Před 3 lety

    Cool video

  • @BadalKumar-ee9xh
    @BadalKumar-ee9xh Před 2 lety +2

    can you plzzzzzzz give the list of those personal questions plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz sir

  • @AncientDogeFly
    @AncientDogeFly Před 6 měsíci +1

    Nice in a few years I’ll have an army

  • @lizziexxx2798
    @lizziexxx2798 Před rokem +2

    I'm gonna try this on my friend lara
    last year we were very close and she used to stand up for me
    this year she made other friends and is awkward with me

  • @RandomGuy-bb6ru
    @RandomGuy-bb6ru Před 3 lety +10

    OMG me and my best friend accidentally did this method. We werent very close but became best friends in like 2 months on accident

    • @seraphicchic8829
      @seraphicchic8829 Před rokem +1

      What were some of the quesitons you asked😊 I wanna have best friends

    • @RandomGuy-bb6ru
      @RandomGuy-bb6ru Před rokem +1

      ​@Seraphic Chic I honestly don't even remember. We progressed really fast and ended up dating about a month after I posted it. It happened so fast that it's hard to recollect

  • @MariaMilenovasArt
    @MariaMilenovasArt Před rokem

    Interesting

  • @confusedlemon9289
    @confusedlemon9289 Před 2 lety

    but.. how do you do this without talking :\

  • @Aniwtxh
    @Aniwtxh Před rokem

    How so sure in 45 mins?

  • @SamuBird
    @SamuBird Před 3 lety +1

    Mabye close best friend (:

  • @jperez9528
    @jperez9528 Před rokem

    Then play "Never Say Never" by Romeo Void at the end of the 45 min interview and ask them where the song makes their mind wander in respects to the newly struck close friendship... 🤣😎😉

    • @jperez9528
      @jperez9528 Před rokem

      Cue Austin Powers favourite question... 🥳

  • @msmventures799
    @msmventures799 Před 3 lety

    I subscribed.

  • @lifewithmeerab
    @lifewithmeerab Před 3 lety +15

    I litterly want my ex bff to be my bff again lol

    • @maryamahmed7841
      @maryamahmed7841 Před 3 lety

      Did it work cause I need to know howlol

    • @z4.meenkhan
      @z4.meenkhan Před 2 lety

      Plz tell when she became yr friend I want tips😳

    • @coneheadlivie4037
      @coneheadlivie4037 Před 2 lety

      Did it workkk

    • @bakedpotato28
      @bakedpotato28 Před 2 lety

      Yeah same situation 😅. Did it work .And i want tips too

    • @lifewithmeerab
      @lifewithmeerab Před 2 lety

      @@maryamahmed7841 yeah kinda were just friends and sry for late reply

  • @abdulkarimaminu22
    @abdulkarimaminu22 Před rokem

    Me currently doing this to my crush over the next few weeks 🤭😹 (21/09/2022) bdr tlm

  • @mcjs8640
    @mcjs8640 Před 2 lety +2

    I can't make friends as I don't trust anyone.

    • @strawberryanimation9294
      @strawberryanimation9294 Před 2 lety

      Trust me then! Put all your faith in a random stranger just because why not. Give me your contact info and take a leap of faith because it's fun!

    • @wherestheexit5046
      @wherestheexit5046 Před rokem +1

      Don’t do it man.

  • @danielesteve8359
    @danielesteve8359 Před měsícem +1

    45'? XD I can do it in 5.

  • @Luffy_3656
    @Luffy_3656 Před 5 měsíci

    Me:Do you watch anime ?
    Random person:yes
    Me:what's your fav anime?
    Random person: Onepiece
    That's it

    • @aujlo
      @aujlo Před 22 dny

      Well then ask why? Then you get an answer, then relate it to something else

  • @jackxu6523
    @jackxu6523 Před rokem +2

    Ohh I know my problem now… I was straight up asking people personal questions 🥲🫠