Anxiety Recovery: Do You Have To Feel Motivated To Recover? (Podcast Ep 270)
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- čas přidán 15. 08. 2023
- Help! I can't get motivated to do my exposures and work on my recovery!
This is a thing I hear often in this community, so this week let's address motivation and the myth surrounding it. Often we think that getting motivated means that we create a certain feeling, then we act on that feeling. This is incorrect. In fact, it's almost entirely backwards! Demanding to conjure of a feeling called "motivation" before you can act is selling yourself short and can accidentally lead harsh self-judgment that doesn't have to be there.
In this episode we talk about the myth of "feeling motivated", how feeling does not have to precede action, values and goals in relation to motivation and how to tap into self-compassion and smaller steps to build momentum and feelings of motivation through action.
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Wow Drew, you must be reading my mind. I was thinking about this very topic upon rising this morning. I have little to no motivation to fight some days & it’s exhausting. Thank you for these upload. 🙏😊
You're welcome! I'm glad I can help in some way. Try not fighting. This really isn't a fight. Its a classroom. What if you try to let go and allow it today rather than fighting against it? Maybe just for a few minutes at a time?
Thanks for articulating the myth behind motivation so well Drew! I will try out the 3 things discussed by you in this podcast
I'm glad this resonated for you in some way. Give it a try, and be nice to yourself while you change course. New things take time and practice. xx
I’ve commented on a few of your videos because I find them helpful. I’m hopefully starting the right therapy in a couple of days. I’ve never felt more down and stuck in my entire life. Just when I think my thoughts can’t get worse, they do. Im at the point now where I’m a walking panic attack lol. It’s not even the thoughts that scare me. I fear them getting stuck and evolving. All my thoughts are about my toddler and that is what is keeping me down. My biggest fear is something happening to him and him being taken away from me. I’d give anything to have 10 minutes of my old self back
Well we might say that the thoughts are already "stuck" to some degree because they are persistent, right? But that's pretty common. Many many many member of this community that are struggling with tired, anxious minds wind up with thoughts that start playing on what feel like endless loops. Its not just you, and that's not an indication that you will be like that forever. Trash the word "evolve" when it comes to your thoughts. You're probably afraid that the more you have them the more likely it becomes that they will either become true or somehow become uncontrollable impulses, but that's not a thing. This episode of the podcast from 2019 might be helpful:
czcams.com/video/Ud6T2u8P3oo/video.html
@@TheAnxiousTruth I was getting my toddler ready for bed and thought I hope i don’t get the Pocd theme. I’ve spiraling since Saturday. I can’t look at my child because I’m scared a thought will show up. I’ve had multiple panic attacks in the last 24 hours. I don’t know how to handle taboo thoughts like that. It’s like I opened the flood gates to these awful things
This one may also help you understand what's going on. I had Jenna Overbaugh on to talk about postpartum OCD. What you are experiencing is very scary, but while you are probably terrified that somehow you will turn into a monster that you do not want to turn into, thoughts do not predict that or make it happen. You, and your little one, are safe. You're just really really scared of your thoughts now.
theanxioustruth.com/ep-137-postpartum-mental-health-jenna-overbaugh/
@@TheAnxiousTruth yes I’m terrified. I’m terrified of the fear and the anxiety I’ve also become depressed because of everything. I feel like this just all goes back to what triggered this episode. Hearing of a mom who ended her life but she had psychosis and a bunch of other things.
hi , i knew to this and just want to ask what you mean by not" feeling right" . many thanks.
In the context of this lesson, "not feeling right" is what an anxious person would generally say if they sense ANYTHING mentally, emotionally, or physically that scares them and gets interpreted as a threat in some way. It's also what an anxious person might say if they can't magically create a specific state of feeling that they desire. "I can't seem to get the right feeling I need to do my exposures" is an example. Either misinterpreting or twisting the meaning of feelings, or insisting that feeling a certain way is required in order to be OK or capable.