4 Tips On How To Approach Women (WITHOUT BEING CREEPY!) | Courtney Ryan
Vložit
- čas přidán 19. 05. 2024
- In this video, I go over 4 tips on how to approach women without being creepy. It's no secret that more women get approached by men than men do women...so it's important to stand out from the crowd! Thank you all for watching and let me know some stories you've had with approaching a girl in public.
CONTACT/ FOLLOW ME:
Instagram: @courtneycristineryan
EMAIL/COLLAB: courtneycristineryan@gmail.com - Jak na to + styl
If shes attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you do. If shes not, it doesn't matter what you do.
This is the absolute best quote ever
@@dumkaisachakal6341 It's a mindless cliche losers tell themselves so they never have to change.
Matters if you try or not though....
Facts. Like people love to say that oh if your ugly just work on ur humor or go to the gym. Most of us lonely guys are actually funny as hell and are told by all our friends we are the funniest people to be around but people dont want to actually admit how shallow they are when it comes to dating. Why wouldnt women care as much about looks as men? I honestly think it just goes both ways.
@@10colej being funny as a ugly dude is a permanent friend zone sentence, you are litteraly one of the girls for the female you want to pick up. I mean just imagine the disrespect the dude is getting by being put in the "i feel him like he is one of my girl friends" that literally means she dose not see you as a male human being, therefore no matter how much weights you lift or how tall shoes you wear, in her mind you are one of her girls, she will never have the hotts for you. Now im the last guy to ever tell you "just give up bro" NO, Don't give up, try as many times as you like, but never sit there in the friend zone and be funny for a girl that will never be attracted to you sexually. Never play the clown role for females who openly state you are just their friend
If you're attractive, it's not creepy. If you're unattractive, it's creepy.
yes. in random girls its creepy
That’s why you look if she giving you signals if she interested
@@one-eyedking9674 most of the time those "signals" are just her teasing you just so you'll give her attention and when you try to talk to her she says she's not interested.
@@one-eyedking9674 yeah that's how I do it. I wait to see if a girl is giving me choosing signals. Also, if you're looking at a girl and she looks back, don't break eye contact. If she does, see if she looks interested or not. If she is, go from there. It's our world guys, let's act like it (in a positive manner of course).
If you're attractive you can still give of "desperate" vibes which will ward off most women.
1. Make it Make Sense
2. Keep it Clean
3. Be Confident
4. Read the Room
#1 tip for learning how to develop confidence: Stop giving a f@&k. You're nervous because you're doing something you're not comfortable doing and you are in your head. Start just complimenting strangers and striking up conversations fully intending for it not to go anywhere or mean anything. Remove the stakes. Dare yourself to make a compliment or random remark to a woman every day and just walk away after a short interaction. Do this until you realize those women are just other people going about their shitty days like you are. Then when it could easily just be another random throwaway conversation for you, that's when you're ready to make a move.
Well said, and so true.
Yeah, so good man. Really solid , accurate, articulated advice. Solid. Unfortunately, though, for me anyways, once you learn to not give a fuck, then, I can't learn to give a fuck (OR FUCK , for fuck sakes, to even spite the girl). Cos I can tell you, the minute you realize the realization of your above post, you are free, and delivered from evil; there's no way to go back to caring or wanting or desiring.
I purposely lead women on now, and fuck them up in the head. I get off on rejecting them. It turns me on mentally that they think they're gonna get sex from me when I have NO intention what-so-ever. I've turned the tables on feminism, and well, yeah, I've fucked up more fucks than been fucked. I've turned down more women than I've been with. But, what's it all about really? Isn't sex just an over-rated, underwhelming boringly objective social construct designed to exploit the virtues and vulnerabilities of men? Isn't sex just the objectification of men by women? Isn't that really what sex is and has been for over 2,023 years, since, time immemorial?
It's women gaslighting men. Then, if you do get "lucky" (or, unlucky as I would say), you either get charged with rape 33 years later, OR, she wants and abortion, (or she doesn't want one, depending on where you stand with Roe v. Wade). Women are a pestilence to society. Surely to God there's got to be another better species out there!?! Jesus.
Exactly, they are not magic creatures. Just normal people like the rest of us. And I'm sure that they take a sh*t in the morning too.
why should i compliment people if i never get compliments. f that
@@coryleblanc Sounds like proof of viewing behavior and relationships in your life as transactional
A guy can simply say "hello" and be considered "creepy" if the woman is not attracted to him. I've seen so many women bad mouth guys behind their back for simple things like that.
... females are socially aggressive... gossip is one tactic employed... along with reputation damage...
Either that’s your limiting belief or you care too much about the outcome
@@marceloarctic... I've been dragged through a HR process simply for looking at a female at work... that is sociopathic aggression.
@@dn1697 so your lone unfortunate experience means ALL women are like that… come one, there are women and men like this everywhere
@@marceloarctic... I'm not Stereotyping by my experience... I've had more abuse and physical aggression from men... even gay men I've met... this is not a gender specific problem. But to say females aren't aggressive is nonsense too.
My motto is rejection from a woman can be a way God saving you from a headache you don't need. The woman that's meant for you won't reject you. Give her a compliment and keep on moving.
If she says your her world remember there are 8 other planets
There is no "woman thats meant for you" there is only woman that find you either attractive, attractive&interesting or unattractive. "Real love" is disney blue pill
@@anonymus2586 Theres IS women meant for you. Not in the romantic sense. Just in the scentific and common sense sense... Like, theres women compatible with you. And by you I mean the REAL YOU. So, if you want to not waste time, around women, just be you and you'll see the women compatible with you naturally. If theres sexual tension then jackpot, thats your woman.
Most women have the attitude of "If you arent handsome, you'd better be handy."
Men should never approach women. It only increases her bargaining chip in a relationship and power in her hands. Women must start approaching in todays times.
What I learned in my 46 years is that you should never justify what you're doing. I still have to work on this because I am used to explaining myself. Just to look good. I need the attitude like take it or leave it
So do i.!
I am 45 and I just found out how to do it. I tried so many things before and nothing worked well. Now I just ask her with my body language. I just come close to her and get her attention saying "hey" or "just looking" or something like that and then I look deeply in her eyes thinking how I am f... her hard and if she likes it she will respond with a smile or she will submit... If she doesn't like it or she is just cold then I say no and I move on. It is such a great way to find the right one...
@@tongobong1yooo the middle part what you said is a bit crazy but the first part is good advice
@@edboss36 this is the natural way cavemen were using to ask women if they want love. Anything else might confuse them.
@@tongobong1 listening to podcast in another language, great immersion method for learning
Thank you, I’m very social with most people but my brain just shuts off when speaking to someone I’m attracted to. These tips are exactly what I needed.
When you brain shuts off near a nice girl then just follow your heart and do what it says.
@@arctic92truth. And also, try and have no expectations and that usually works.
@@arctic92 yeah. They are very intuitive, especially in the beginning. Almost looking for reasons to not pursue people (don’t blame them for this, dangerous world). They lose a lot of intuition once they fall in love and are just blinded by the love even if a man cheats or isn’t great to her, but yes, beginning for sure. I don’t mind chasing the physicality but you’re right, she’s gotta like you more almost always. Pre sex though, men always “like or want” more but abundance is key for sure. They can sense that shit. Never tried it but wanted to go out certain places with a wedding ring and see what kind of reception I got. I always felt like women would be like hits in baseball, they come in bunches. It’s like a pheromone thing. But confidence is huge. Again, so right…Women have a great knack for feeling the confidence of a person and mirroring those emotions. In my 20 years of dating, I’ve had a lot of personal ups and downs and that shit is so palpable to them. They could smell security a mile away.
Note - confidence is not being sure of yourself, its being ok with yourself even if something goes wrong
In fact no, confidence is trust in yourself: you expect to succeed. What you are describing is being a conformist: being ok with either result.
All the confidence in the universe means nothing if you are approaching a woman who isn't attracted to you.
@@SL2797 thats a sad veiwpoint
@@shamyshamuswow213 but he is right
@@SL2797 thats a perfect example of no confidence 😳
Dating a woman these days is like a job interview to be brutally honest.
A job interview where the job, if hired, is to entertain 24/7 and throw your money at your employer, and eventually if you're hired full time on staff (marriage) and she decides to fire you, her lawyers will take half your stuff and half your future income for life.
It is a job interview…
If you don’t want the job, don’t do the interview
~Paul Proteus
@@007phokus At no point in human history has it been a job interview. Not having a relationship with the opposite sex is unhealthy, but today women and to a lesser extent men have been so corrupted that having one is also unhealthy. This is not the way humans have evolved to exist, and "just dont take the job" is not a real solution.
You're right
If it feels like that…just let it and her GO
A quick note on something Courtney mentions about being appropriate is that people with ptsd never feel as safe as they did before an incident so its about accepting that, and that life goes on as almost everything in life is challenging, demanding
I really like how you intersperse your recommendations with revelations about yourself (like "I'm an introvert"). Your being an attractive woman yourself, learning more about you adds motivation to watch your videos. It also conveys credibility to your advice.
I agree, well said
Don’t be ugly. That definitely helps
At least wear cool clothes that fit you well and get a cool haircut that suits your face. You will at least look average.
@👑Moreno👑 spammer
@👑Moreno👑 if you flirt and are ugly youre considered a creepy desperate dude.
@@antonboludo8886 facts bro
Only if that is in someone's control. Being ugly or attractive is something you don't need to do anything for.
One thing that helps me is to have casual conversations with people I interact with from time to time local waitress, hair stylist, or even co-workers. Not necessarily being romantic but just breaking out of my comfort zone and be more conversational in order to connect with others. It really helps boosting confidence
The problem is if your unattractive saying hello to any women automatically means in their mind that your trying to hit on them
You my friend 100% found the answer, all you have to do now is be patient, as with anything in life
Simps
Yep, I'm almost 40 and have always sucked at approaching women.. just appearing comfortable even if you're not helps so much and practicing with the random interactions you have during the day does help a ton
I do this all the time but I find it hard to take it further. any tips?
This is some real solid advice! I don't really approach girls (or guys, or anyone) like this, I'm just not into relationships like other people are - this information is just as applicable, even if you are looking to make a good working relationship with someone, or trying to get close to them in ways that are not romantic, eg as friends or as a mentor type relationship. You should be chill with how things go, and work with it - if it's going to work, you will eventually be able to pick up on that, and you can practice that with other videos and such resources to help you learn the tips, then practice that out, slowly, one video a day, focusing on things one at a time, and your relationships will all fall into place, and you'll have oppurtunities you can't even imagine. Life, is indeed, much easier than I thought it was, now that I'm learning there's a strategy guide, and a lot of them, and, with consistent, daily effort, they really do end up working if you put the effort, blood, sweat, and tears into them. Best to you all, I know you can do this, you are wonderful.
Courtney you are always perfect. Keeping the conversation going. That is so simple.
It’s only ‘creepy’ when it’s unwanted and she’s not attracted to him.
Witch is most of the time
and yes dont be a simp
True !
Facts.
If a girl only wants to talk to me and doesn't find me creepy because of my looks, then she ain't worth my time.
Tip 1: Be hot
Tip 2: Don't be ugly
Tip 3: Be confident
Tip 4: Don't be awkward
Tip 5: Be Tall
Tip 6: be Rich.
Tip 7-infinity.....
It's easy guys just be top 5% alpha Chad.
hope ur joking cuz there was good advice here
How does a person stop being ugly?
@@matthewbaumann630 Get a good hairstyle that matches you, usually a nice clean fade and not long ass droopy hair. Dress nicely like an alpha chad would and there you go.
This channel has a lot of gems. Keep producing more content and keep up the good work. Us guys need stuff like this.
Thanks for your help on how to approach women without feeling like a creep. I will keep watching this video a few more times just so I can get it all down. As soon as I do that I’ll be able to approach girls with confidence in no time. I haven’t really tried to approach a girl since before the start of the COVID 19 pandemic unless if I needed directions to a specific area.
For those who are in a hurry👌🏻:
Props to Courtney Ryan🤙🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼🔥
1. Make it make sense
2. Keep it Clean
3. Be Confident
4. Read the Room
Thank you sir.
I know sometimes these comments are frowned upon but one the right way and delivered correctly makes or breaks the understanding. Well done sir.
Ye these types of comments are frowned upon because they dont give context, and because people (like myself) will see the comment and then not bother watching the whole video… which cuts into content creators ratings and ad revenue. However, having said that, content creators COULD help themselves out alot by doing this themselves (in the actual video) and giving a short brief overview of the context that the tip will have. So while these types of comments hurt content creators, they serve the purpose of showing content creators a better way to make videos other than “hey wait its a surprise! Watch the whole video to find out my non original take on not being creepy and how to have confidence, be funny, and attractive all at the same time while being genuine and alive to the moment”
Thanks
0. Be attractive.
Step 1: Be rich
Step 2: Be attractive
Step 3: Don’t be unattractive
Everybody loses
🤣
Step 1 is enough. every millionaire is a 10
Lol
Incel
'I watch a lot of crime shows, I watch a lot of murder documentary's. All of these things that make me freak out a little bit. Which I probably should stop doing' this part was so hilarious, I laughed out loud! Thank you for that Courtney 😄also, really helpful video!
Yeah, I caught that too. I realize murders happen every day. But the chances of it happening to you are slim to none. What women don't realize is that by filling their heads with that murder stuff, they're setting themselves up to think that way in everyday interactions. Dating is the perfect case in point. Guy comes up and says hi. Totally innocent. But what the girl sees is likely the perpetrator from the latest episode of Snapped on television.
And women have the nerve to say men are the problem.. lol. No wonder more and more of them are making videos of their boxed wine and cat collection.
So do i
@@UFDionysus that is true
@@UFDionysusholly sh* 💩 you’re dead right!
@@seanbangerter4145 There's still a large greyscale between a murder and nothing. You can get harassed or molested or r*ped or assaulted or robbed or drugged or someone can just be very creepy. I'm a tall grown ass man and I've been attacked (when I was 15 btw) and followed by creeps without ever getting murdered, and I can defend myself better than 99% of girls but still didn't like that shit.
Thanks to your videos, my own journey of self-discovery and my dearest friends I'm starting to develop the confidence to say hi to women :)
A couple nights ago I went to a jazz club with my friends and insignificant as it may seem, I found the courage to ask a girl there if she knew any of the band members (just to say something).
I didn't know how to go on from there, but that's ok, as that was more of a test run and to even find the courage to overcome my fears and talk to her was massive for me :D
My friends later told me that they were trying to signal to me that she would keep looking at me when I looked away and that she even deliberately came to sit close to me. I wasn't able to take this chance, but that's fine: there will be others and I'll learn how to see them :)
So I wanted to thank you, Courtney, for this and many more videos
I can say from experience, that when approaching a random girl and sparking up a conversation, it's important to be preceptive to her demeaner. If you're feeling like she's being aloof, and with short answers, she may very well want to be alone. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. She just may not be interested, or she's preoccupied with something in her life. In that case, it's important to pick up on that early. If instead, she is being conversational back, it's a clear signal she's possibly interested, and that would be a good time ask her out.
The point being, you can tell pretty quickly if it's the right time to ask for her number. Could be a bad day. Or she may just not like you. But being receptive towards her demeanor is an important skill to learn imo.
Yeah I feel like a lot of guys in here that are frustrated pay little or no attention to the receptivity of a woman. Like you said, if she's being cold, short or aloof, politely excuse yourself and cut your losses. You will know as soon as you say two words to her if she likes you or not and a lot of times before the words even exit your mouth if you pay attention. Body language doesn't lie. Even when women test you because they are interested, their body language and facial expressions are normally receptive and open. If her body language is closed off and she has a scowl on her face, she isn't testing you. She isn't interested lol. I don't know why most guys can't put that together.
right right on😊
Has any girl 👧 bluntly told you to get away from her and leave her the hell alone just for speaking to her? If that was the case she is probably a cold 🥶 hearted psychopath .
@@stevec8872 idk this seems like something I thought every guy would know lol people actually can’t figure that out?
@@chewy99. dude apparently guys keep trying with a girl that clearly has no interest. They are under the impression that being cold and lightweight running away are "tests" lol
Attraction is important, but here is a HUGE thing nobody really talks about. We’re all different and are attracted to different things. Just because 1 girl says your not attractive doesn’t mean you’re unattractive. Some women dislike bald guys, some love them. Some men like thick girls others don’t it’s not a personal thing, don’t let your pride get you down.
You nailed it dude ! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder !!
True. Attraction is different for everyone. I had a friend who likes morbidly obese girls. Not my cup of tea, but that really got his motor running.
OMFG no one is talking about "1 Girl" here, everyone knows that. Just stop with the BS. You idiots will do anything to make it the guys fault, even if he has half his face drooping from a nerve injury. It can't possibly be that girls in general aren't attracted to people who look like Two-Face. Nope, it's "take 5 more showers" or "be 10x more confident". Stfu it's just annoying how you think people still believe this crap.
All women are attracted to a man with a big fat bank account.
Almost no men are attracted to a woman with money because we already know that's "her" money and she will never share.
So true.
I’m on this channel because I really like Courtney’s insight. I’ve never really had a problem with approaching women. I respect and love them greatly. And they know that.
Just have to realize what I realized years ago, women are a lot like men, in certain ways. Don’t think too much about it.
Very true! What I find odd is that young guys (very young ) seem to be more confident randomly hitting on me than men my age or older. Not sure if they're just practicing but it happens a lot.
@@user-ky3ph9nw2d is that a cactus as your profile picture?
That’s why. Guys are practicing not getting stung 😆
Started watching this channel to hear women's perspective on us guys (I don't approach girls or try and flirt in person so I'm a newbie 😂). Very refreshing and informative, so might approach women I like respectfully now (improve confidence!)
At the end of the day, it comes down to practice. I've always been a shy person, and have struggled with communication my entire life. This is why when you decide to put yourself out there, you have to keep in mind that you're going to inevitably make yourself look like a fool at least a few times. But the more you get comfortable with yourself, getting into awkward situations and fumbling over your words, the more situational awareness you'll develop. My dad told me that when he first started trying to ask out girls he would get rejected by at least 99/100 (and yes, he asked out that many women, hundreds actually), for most of his life it was a numbers game, then something clicked and he suddenly began to have more success. I'm still not great at this myself, but I have consciously put an effort to get into situations where my wit and level-head are put to the test. I've learned that my dad has his way of asking people out, and I have my own, the same will be true for you. I believe interacting with women is a skill, and just like any other skill, you need to practice to get better. Watching videos may be good for learning concepts, but you can't learn skills simply by spending time in front of a screen, you have to put in the work. Good luck to anyone and everyone who reads this long-winded comment hahaha, we're all fighting the same battle, just don't give up. Rejection is always an opportunity to learn :)
@@StirlingPlays play video games instead
Yeah, no thanks
@@vishwarao6064 ...
@@adam.maqavoywodefok
M.G.T.O.W. for life much cheaper don't have to have a lawyer on retainer
The only difference between creepy and romantic is whether she thinks you're hot.
Edit: I'm sure dudes would feel the same being approached by women. Attractive women would bring positive feelings. Unattractive women would leave me wondering if they'd take a subtle hint or if I need to be direct or even harsh, regardless of any supposed "game". I understand the principle here.
Yup. To make matters worse women will often flirt with dudes they ain't even into because they want to gain validation from him. Then if he makes a move she gets to play the victim and say she felt uncomfortable and the dude was being a creep. They also just enjoy rejecting dudes it makes them feel like they are above him.
@@rickterrance4981 That's why you don't give validation. The only validation she should get from you is you fucking her. That's how you win that game.
@@old_school_egyptian2903 or if she acts a way that you like, then comment on it, let her know you like it, she'll feel validated and be more likely to try to do what you like
Physical attraction matters to some extent, but most women would probably reject an attractive guy if he came across as creepy.
I don’t think so, some guys just come off very creepy, whether it’s the way they talk or body language, etc. I’ve hung around quite a few girls and it’s quite easy to pick up what they find creepy. If you’re a guy that’s easy to talk to then you’re already at a head start. Ofc being more attractive puts you at a major advantage but that’s not the only factor. I’ve had friends that made this mistake too and it blew my mind lmao.
Tip 3 it's really easy for a woman to say "just be confident" when they don't have to do any work other than just exist.
Hey Courtney,
You are not just beautiful; you also give beautiful advice. I'm 51, single, and I'm beginning to approach women. I want to do it genuinely, which will work for me and the one I'm speaking to. Thank you so much.
First rule: If you are hot, women Will see you as a candidate, if not, you Will be seen as a desesperate dude
Gerardo - somewhat true.
First: There are many things, which can upgrade your appearance. Second: If you're a cool dude, you don't need to be hot. Remember, looks isn't everything.
@👑Moreno👑 In some cases no matter what amount of self improvement an unattractive guy does it wont help his cause. Women have a way of spinning anything an unattractive man does towards the negative. IE oh hes not trying to improve his wardrobe or physique because he really wants to look better hes just doing that so he can try to get laid.
5
@@johnnythekid4601 if you’re in good shape, dress nice and genuinely confident in yourself. She’s probably shit testing, if not then why would you bother pursuing a woman like that
Desperate is cool
1st Step: Be Handsome
2nd Step: Don't be unattractive
3rd Step: Looking Rich also helps.
these 3 steps are a good point to start.
Miss Ryan is adorably naive...
@Richard Schiffman omg, how I was forgetting about this one, I especially suck at this one, yeah, if you aren't lucky you can still spend 150,000$ on a surgery that breaks your legs, go to a 1 year of painful post-operation to get a few inches taller, Simply thing.
4th Step: DON'T BE SHORT
Lambo doesn't hurt anything either!
@Richard Schiffman "being tall" is covered under "be handsome" and "don't be unattractive" 😒
What you said is actually common sence, personally I opened the video just for your being pleasant which boosts morale.
Learning to approach women is like a comedian bombing on-stage. You build the confidence from getting out there and trying. Salute yourself for making the effort. Be bold and mighty forces will come your way.
If you are rich and attractive, asking a girl out will be easy. There's no way to screw it up.
If you're poor and unattractive, it'll be an episode of Law and Order: SVU
🤣🤣
Lmao
BRUH!!!!!!!!!! LMFAO
that is priceless
The sad truth
About the point regarding “approaching with confidence”: When it is said like that, as in, “just be confident!”- I think a lot of men think, “Well, why didn’t I think of that!” As if confidence is a choice. When you’re insecure, and you feel like you have nothing to offer, it’s hard to just will confidence into being: it feels like you are putting in a show for a woman. You end up thinking of what kind of man the woman you want to ask out would like, and change your behavior accordingly. You use ‘game’ to navigate your nervousness. Is “being confident” something women can just do, or is confidence just something women are just better at faking? It’s not about “being confident” for most men. What are we supposed to be confident about?? That she’ll like us? What is it about our confidence, fake or not, that is so attractive to women? That’s my question! Thank you.
I agree Jacob. The answer you will get if you ask how to be confident is 'work on yourself, bro.' But this ignores that 1) often you can do everything right and have a great life from the outside, but still feel very insecure, and 2) working on yourself is no sure-fire way of getting better anyway. Some people are just predisposed to anxious feelings no matter what. Does that really make them a worse prospective partner? Nothing worse than faking confidence, as it merely compounds that feeling of being an imposter. I think the lack of answers or understanding in this area is where a lot of incels come from. Having conversations about this sort of thing will probably help though!
@@OzmaThe I like your response. And thank you for it. It’s internal man. This “have confidence” thing, I think, lot of men need guidance on- hence the Redpill movement, hence the MGTOW movement, hence the dating gurus. From the outside, confidence-and I assume from any particular woman’s perspective- looks like “he either has it or he doesn’t”. But, I think women don’t realize that confidence is a skillset men acquire through practice….hence all the movements etc. mentioned above which anxious, hurt, and burned men are drawn to. I was drawn to them. I had my own delusions about women- and myself for that matter. I think a lot of men don’t know what women see in them, apart from what we feel about ourselves, and that is a huge blind spot in relationship dynamics. As for gaining confidence, I love Cornell West’s video on philosophy; start with the broken pieces: czcams.com/video/YfhqEi6R5e8/video.html
In my opinion if you're insecure, be genuine and don't overstep. Last thing you want is to come off as creep and insecure.
the thing is women dont have to be that confident we dont discriminate that much on confidence actually there are some guys who prefer shy girls.we man just have wide vatiety of taste and discrimate less in general when it comes to girl
you are right, there is a lot of overlap and different ppl imagine confidence differently, but for a man in this particular situation it usually means two things - he fixed his most glaring insecurity or suppressed it up to the point, that his communication
elationship are not being distorted by insecurity. Like you are not being silent just because you don`t like your voice, you don`t try to avoid smiling because you don`t like your smile, you don`t try to force conversation into something artificial to make up for insecurity etc.
And next thing is that you have that inner feeling, that you are worthy man, and you are not begging her, you are not approaching a goddess, you are looking for a human being that will suit you too. This creates a different tone to your voice, different posture, different gestures etc.
It is like in a shop, where you know, that you are not begging, but you are valuable client, and you have calm and respectful conversation (compared to begging for better marks while in school, for example, when therefore we had totally different tone , body language etc :D)
I stopped bothering with this random approach thing though it was an excellent tool for becoming a better version of myself by pushing my comfort zones. I still talk to women randomly often & it's a great thing to be able to do so without expectations. My opinion it's best to meet women through your social circles. I'm more marriage minded type & not frivolous.
So... in the end you didn't stop bothering?
@@Jacco0 I stopped bothering with random approaching women expecting it to lead to anything other than winning a smile:)
If you’re an attractive lad, what you say and how you say it doesn’t matter all too much. If you are not incredibly attractive, what you say and how you say it matters a lot more
Yes women are little girls so into looks that they jeopardize everything including their future and safety over it
Here's the harsh truth. If a woman does not feel physically attracted to you, no matter what you say or how you say it, no matter how much you try not to be creepy, she will think you are creepy because she is not attracted to you.
Depends, if the ugly dude has money hypergamy Will kick in
this is true. Thats why you approach girls on the same physical attraction level as yourself, the only way you can get a girl alot better than yourself is if you are extremely extroverted and confident, dress with huge swag etc... but even then she might be using that guy. Best thing is to jsut find someone like yourself, similar attraction level, similar level of introversy or extroversy and jus go for it
Obviously you don't have game son.
@@old_school_egyptian2903 Wow Guru, please upload your knowledge
@@old_school_egyptian2903 na game is overated mate. 99 times out of 100 in healthy relationships people end up with others a very close attraction level to themselves. They have similar personalities, similar interests and overall similar desirability.
"#3: Be Confident"
A lot of the reason why girls go through a phase or three of choosing jerks, sociopaths, and a-holes in general, is because those guys usually come off as confident. View it as some raw evolutionary survival instinct: Someone who looks like they're surviving and thriving will look confident, won't they.
It's kinda like people saying to lift weights or to be tall: It's not so much about being that buff or that tall, it's about looking like you're someone who can survive and thrive.
Same with the debate as to whether to "show emotion" to girls you're interested in: Does what you're showing her portray you as someone who can survive and thrive? Does how you handle yourself in arguments and sh!t tests portray you as someone who can survive and thrive?
Girls who are snoots about wanting someone taller than you are basically saying that their opening bid is 6'; she's immediately passive-aggressively putting you on the defense, and it's your first sh!t test to provide a counter-offer. She's implying that 6' is what it takes to thrive out here, so if you're not 6', then what else ya got?
Girls who bemoan that their men need to show more emotion are likely thinking of the 'jerks, sociopaths, and a-holes' they've shacked up with in the past, who don't or can't show normal emotions anyway; they're not talking about the good and nice guys who are invisible to them or just in orbit while they're going through their current bad boy phase. What's not said is that those bad boys were already passing other tests which just weren't being mentioned, be they indicators of hotness, intrigue, thriving, or whatever else.
Regardless: If you show up looking like you can casually confidently take the lead, and lead a girl into your world and frame, where they can freely mirror your confidence and feel like they are surviving and thriving along with you, that's ticking some evolutionary box that we don't really talk about. We just say "Be Confident" and leave it at that.
Man, your comment was some good reading
Great read
Girls that go for those toxic men have no self esteem. Confident good women don’t waste their time with losers
damn
I work in a field that is mostly women. I am married and happily so. I don’t want to be “attractive” but there is something to be said about the type of personality that lends women to being comfortable and friendly and well, making work more bearable. I recently switched to a job where I go to many locations so I’m constantly meeting new people, most are women and I just don’t want to feel like I can’t meet people and be friendly naturally in a short time as I may see these people or a minority of them I won’t. I am typically more quiet and head down kind of worker but I’ve already learned that in my current job it is a very important quality to become a team and do it quickly. I would love to see a videos on this, a less “trying to get a number” but just be likable and quickly.
First time I have EVER commented on one of these videos. First, though not the only angle on things (obviously), Courtney's content is pretty damn good, so kudos to you Courtney. Second, I have met many ladies that check many of the boxes of what I'm looking for, however, it wasn't until I started to look at the boxes I might check FOR HER and work on those things (that were in the realm of possibility) that quality of female human beings around me start to go up. Third, I've heard it said someone before, and I paraphrase terribly: When you find someone you are interested in, don't focus so much on what she brings to the table, but focus on those things about her that you are willing to put up with and hope she is willing to give you the same consideration.
*somewhere before ... my editing skills clearly lack.
Creepiness levels are dictated by if the woman finds you attractive or not.
“Creepy” is one of those Humpty Dumpty words; it can mean whatever the user chooses it to mean
Who cares if she finds you creepy? You’ll never see her again. Just take action and live and learn
@@MrCjchamp2001 If you are from a big city maybe
The only difference between being "creepy" and flirting is if she is attracted to you. Their is no technique that can make you attractive to a woman, and their is pretty much no wrong way to approach a woman if she is attracted to you. You can not negotiate desire ever.
If a woman isn't physically or sexually attracted to you she doesn't want to get to know you...... and doesn't give a shit about anything you have to say and anything you do say on any topic will be considered creepy, weird and wrong.
Women have a way of spinning anything an unattractive man does towards the negative. IE oh hes not trying to improve his wardrobe or physique because he really wants to look better hes just doing that because he is overcompensating so he can try to get laid. Women will always think look dude no matter what you do to yourself you will always be low value so don't even bother as it will make no difference in being able to attract us
@@johnnythekid4601 This really isn't 100% true... Incels just assume every average and even below average looking dude with a decent looking girlfriend all have high paying jobs and are in transactional relationships when this obviously isn't true
@@michaelangst6078 maybe the decent chick just found the guy physical attractive. No game needed.
@@heathjoints9845 average looking men for the most part do need some type of ''game''' and attractive personality.. No woman is going to be with some monotone boring average looking dude if they have options
You're one of two Dating coaches that I actually watch. Your advice is straight forward and grounded in common sense.
This is a good vid, I’m trying to build up confidence to ask this girl out and this feels very authentic. Really appreciate it
I heard this alot:
"Its only creepy if your ugly"
Means, if you are very attractive there is no way beeing creepy even if you do creepy shit it makes her giggle instead of "eww". Max out your looks.
Agreed
@Verkünder des Massenwahns where did i say giggling is a sign of attraction? I said if you are attractive to her and do creepy shit shes not like "eww get away creep" like when your ugly to her, instead she could be giggling or whatever
That's true, double standards
Totally true words. LOL
Yeah the only problem is theres only so little things you can do to max out your looks as a man. Work out and get a good hair style
I think the reason women find being approached in a polite manner, especially within today’s digital age, so refreshing is because everyone is hiding behind phone screens. Simon Sinek does a great job of pointing this out. A lack of genuine human interaction is detrimental to society as a whole. As it pertains to women and dating, humans have developed mate selection techniques over millions of years without the usage of digital media. Therefore, it’s more likely someone will be successful building a genuine connection through a holistic interaction, rather than one based upon superficiality a la Tinder.
Walk up to a young woman and ask them out. They don't even know how to talk.
Getting off social media would help. It's a stupid waste of time.
Could you compliment on her on the nice bikini shes wearing
@@peterryan438 only if you bought em
Ik but i hate it cuz i approach women politely and sometimes they are just rude like. If they know im gonna ask her out. But like you don't know what im bout to say. I guess cuz she got hit on before but i "don't hit on" i actually talk and have conversations with women. But maybe shes just having a bad day but thats kinda NOT a excuse.
This is something i struggle with. I can relate with being an introvert. Really love this video its a motivator thank you for this video..
shes very good.
Dear Courtney, I'm so grateful to you for these realistic explanations!
I would like to ask you for one more detail:
What could be the first words for initiating a conversation with a woman at all (refer to time 1:50)? After these very first words the context of the situation should be involved in order to continue with the conversation and getting to know a bit each other, that is clear. But how to start at all, just from nothing, avoiding template phrases like "Hi, it's a nice day, isn't it."?
A few times I have had positive signs from women to approach them and didn't have the courage to do it. Regreted it and felt horrible for a few days after. It just doesn't come as easy to some of us. Each time I promised myself that I would never allow myself for the same thing to ever happen again, and yet I still do it.
its because females suck at this and give innuendos and vague signals that you have to be very attuned to catching, and she always has the ace up her sleeve that she says she didn't do nothing and you were misunderstanding her making you look like a total goof
@@13abcde
You have articulated exactly what the problem is: the nervousness and hesitation (and also being excessively nice) is what's creepy.
Why? It is similar to the energy of a child molester.
That realisation should be enough to make you act more boldly.
😉
Compliments about hair, eyes, smile are generally accepted positively. Anything below the shoulder is not very safe to comment on at first contact. Confidence is about feeling that you are OK however she responds. And you are
Unless she's a fitness girl. Fitness girls love being complimented on their legs and glutes as long as you do it in a polite way.
So don’t compliment her shoulder blades 📝 Got it
Good point!
Shoes. Don’t forget the shoes
"Your hair smells lovely, especially while you're sleeping."
You have personally helped so many men who watched this and implement it.
Thanks for this video Courtney. In the summer of 2022 I went to a bar with a friend and after awhile 2 girls walked in and sit down. I really liked the one girl and I told my friend we gotta talked to them. He said "What? No, wait! they might waiting for someone else" so we waited a little and I went to the bathroom of the bar. I saw the girl that I liked coming at the entrance. I said "Oh I think I saw u at the bar, r u sitting there?' (the WC was on a different floor). After that we went and sat down on our own spots and she pulled out her phone and started taking a picture of a Bob Marley portrait that was behind me. I said "Am i gonna be on instagram?" so basically things floated naturally from there and we ended up talking until 5 AM and we were the last company that left the bar. I bought them 2 rounds of shots and we had fun.
I really liked ur video and I love videos like these because i get insights from the girl's perspective. take care
I’m reminded of the SNL skit where the unattractive guy asks the female coworker out and she screams “harassment”…then Tom Brady shows up at her desk in his underwear and she gives him her number without his asking. He puts the number in his underwear..hahahaha
czcams.com/video/PxuUkYiaUc8/video.html
It's called Status and if you have none you won't get none. Unless you have some sort of status and the only way you will get noticed is to attend events where people have status. Social gatherings, Like art auctions, real estate events where high end homes are for sale or celebrity gatherings you have been invited to. Clubs aren't the place to be now these days, just too many shootings.
I once was listening to Neil Bortz talk about the Golf tournament in Augusta and he was invited to a gathering in some ritzy area called Buckhead in Atlanta and he remarked on how many hot young women where there to try and bag a professional golfer. Status.
@@johnwayne2103 it’s not just about being there it’s about actively taking part. Buying a great home, car, big investment clubs, Entrepreneur gatherings, money and developing yourself. That works.
@@icm65 it's just money at the end. all else is for decorum and not worth it
@@gabyk2163 It really isn't through... yeah, women aren't going to date a dude with no job and will always prefer a dude making at least $30 an hour, but incels like you think the average looking women are with multimillionaires....
Dude just be confident and positive it will make her feel so much more confident
Make eye contact take your hands out of your pockets and pay attention to your body language
Smile be friendly stand up straight get to know her
Dude read the room bro if she says no do not keep pursuing it just be a gentlemen and tak eit has a loss or a win its all practice rejection happens to all of us
Be proud of yourself for getting out of your ckmfort zone
Any advice on City girls? In my experience, they're hard to talk to. I've tried.
I love you
Well said with body language and hands out of pockets. Fix ur posture sit up right chest out and be engaging with eye contact and you’ll be soiled and making her want to be around you more :).
Lol you hear that ugly guys, just be confident and girls won’t reject you. Such great advice.
@@159753smith LMFAO. U killed me. It's so true tho
I absolutely love these tips and how you present them! Thank you 🙂👍
Thanks, love this video. I was shocked when a wonderful woman approached me and asked me to dance, made me feel wonderful.
Physical Attraction.. That's all there is to it.
Women's body language, reciprocation, and interest in conversation are determined by how attracted she is to you.
They will sabotage/ cut any conversation short that you try to make when they don't find you attractive. You can say all the corny pickup lines you want, but it will be a 1 sided conversation.
I mean, that's kind of the point. Why would they continue a conversation if they aren't attracted to you? Why would anyone? It doesn't just have to be looks, either. Attraction can be physical, but can also come down to attitude, demeanor, and other non-physical communications. If you don't have the qualities she likes, why should she feign interest just because you're striking the right conversational chords? It really isn't just about physical attraction, but it is a part of it, and if she isn't interested in you for one reason or another, she should have no obligation to entertain your advances.
So true!
I think there's a pathway for a less obviously attractive guy to get her interest, but he needs to be on point with everything that's in his control.
And a good looking dude... can still f**k it up. 😆
"Take it as a loss.. or a win! Because you still got practice" Love that 😎
Winners use failures as lessons.
So true bub,win win situation.
Practice getting rejected and humiliated and then getting use to the cycle
This was definitely helpful for me as I really struggle with approaching girls. Thanks for making this video
i love someone and not just talh to her till now . seeing this video to get prepared for that fully. i had my eyes full of tears when a thought came into my mind that man what will you do if u will not meet her ?? 🥺🥺
It’s creepy when the girl finds the guy unattractive.
And yea don’t ask the fish how to catch a fish ask the fisherman
Even so you can always get the fish's perspective as well as the fisherman for a more complete story. With that more full story, the individual can make a more informed choice.
She is making me laugh, tell the girl her jeans look nice.
How lame.
I would mock it. I would go up to her and tell her, listen, don't I look good in my jeans. Don't I look nice in this shirt.
Am I not the pretties man you have ever scene. If she don't get the mocking joke, she is dumb!
Maryland Guy0326, do you think the Fisherman will tell you how to catch the Fish? If he's Fishing the Same Fish you are After? Yeah! Good Luck with that! LOL, LVL, LOL!
@@chronoszeus9267 Right, the fisherman is just going to send you on a wild goose chase so you don't fish out of the same pond, and the fish are going to 'teach' you so badly that you just end up feeding them.
Day game with Tusk so ❤️💪🏼
I would love to see her transforming herself into a man and try to approach a girl without being creepy. Really these days creepy is whenever the girl has no attraction for you.
No, creepy is when you can't read her body language that shows that she's not interested yet you continue to pursue her and after you get done harassing her you ask yourself why did that feel like such a one sided conversation?
@@alencifps1535 Lol woman these days use plausible deniability. If a girl wears make up and it helps her attract a high value guy people will applaud her for succeeding, but if she gets complimented by a guy she doesnt like then she says Ew creep, i wear make up for myself.
Creepy or creep is just a word for a guy that she doesnt want, not a guy that is actually creepy. If it was actually creepy then why arent awkward girls that cant read body language called creep? It is almost exclusively a male oriented term because woman use it to describe a man that does not meet her criteria and wants to leave her alone.
@@zukodude487987 it's because women, being on average smaller and possessing less upper body strength, have the fear of being attacked by strange men. It is an understandable fear, I think.
@@TheBeatle49 Lol they do that even in a setting where they feel safe. You never hear guys call woman creeps even if they feared her attacking him. You can bet that a girl will still call a guy creepy even if she is tall and athletic and the guy was short and weak.
@@zukodude487987 agreed, some of the biggest most muscular women I see at the gym would definitely fit into this category.
Some women, however, have told me that they get turned off when a man they otherwise like and whose company they are enjoying gives them his number, instead of asking for hers.
I always love the 'be confident' comments from women. It's hysterical. You can't just turn on confidence. Either you're comfortable with your ability to be charming and interesting, or you're not.
You can very much practice confidence. It has to do with avoiding escapism and safe zones and going out of your way to put yourself in difficult situations and mastering them.
Some things are never easy but it makes a difference if you feel up to the challenge or not and you'll never feel up to it if you hide from responsibility and hardship
These things aren't something you're either born with or not and a lot of the time people hold them self back from progressing in this specific area and blame someone else or the situation or what not. Not saying that's you, but a lot of the people in this comment section seem a bit delusional in this concern
Be stereotypically attractive, be at least six ft tall plus, be ripped, and be visibly wealthy and you will never be considered creepy. If you’re an average guy it’s an uphill battle.
If you are all of those things, she may not consider you creepy but in almost all cases she will still not be interested and will be made uncomfortable and annoyed in having to tell you the usual message: "just go away".
@@KpxUrz5745 Dude are you okay?
No girl has ever rejected me and said “just go away”. It’s always “sorry I have a boyfriend” or something polite. I actually don’t think I even believe this has happened to you TBH. Women wouldn’t just insult men that in such a direct way unless it’s a one in a million psycho chick
@@nbaworld4426 I didn't mean those were the literal words she would say, but that is the message she is giving you, however she says it. In other words, since they always "already have a boyfriend", then it raises the question: why is she there in the first place? To have a drink without her boyfriend always? Sometimes they are polite about it, and often they are really annoyed by being approached. After enough rejections I quit making an approach many years ago. And it's not because I lacked height or looks or anything else. But it is because there is no payoff, it just doesn't work, I mean a cold approach in public or at a bar. There are other ways to meet women but none of them are very easy.
@@KpxUrz5745 Just cuz it doesn't work for you doesn't mean it doesn't work for everyone. There's probably something you're doing wrong in your approaches.
I’m literally all that & it’s still an uphill battle 💀
I've seen numerous videos on this topic. At least 30. Not all at once but, you know, over the course of a few years. Every single one either marketed something, had terrible advice, or a mix of both.
This is so much better than anything else I've seen about this subject. Really great stuff. Never seen you before but you get a subscribe.
As a man who goes to the gym to stay fit I like to stay mentally and emotionally fit as well so when I go out and I see an attractive woman I will approach. To me rejection is like the pain you feel in the gym. It breaks you down at first but it builds you up little by little and they don’t even realize. It’s a good way to build confidence mentally.
I love the tips that she give us and her vibe is awesome 👌🏼✌🏼❤
I met my gf at the mall. She thought I was cute so she was helping me try on various clothes and it worked because it she was simply helping a customer. I didn't know if she actually liked me or was just being friendly cause of her job but I just went for it and got her number and things worked out.
Are you a white guy?
And how tall are you?
@@Mogamishu polish -Canadian and 5'11". I am actually shorter than a lot of people.
@@whatislife6988 there you go. You are a white guy and you are about average height for a white male. Bottom line: you are not short, and being white is an advantage.
If you had been short and Asian or Middle Eastern for example, she would never have been attracted to you and you would never have been able to get her number.
@@Mogamishu lmao, whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat???? 😂😂😂
@@Mogamishu sounds to me like you’re making excuses as to why things haven’t been working out? Maybe I’m wrong.
What about women approaching men for once and show us their "confidence" so we can learn how to "just be confident" lol
Trust me that's the worst creepiest thing that can happen ! A girl aprouch you in public that made me feel less masculin i should be the predator and i just keep walking
@@oussmed4000 manz stuck in 1920's, why tf would you feel less masculine if a girl approached u!!? How's that even make sense!? You maybe just insecure bro, there's nothing wrong with it
Nothing will boost an fella's ego like being pursued by a good looking woman. It's happened to me twice in my life...it was rad to say the least.
Men and women are not the same. Step up.
well said.
I agree with 98% of this and I am so glad to see good advice being spread! My one caveat is the guy giving his number instead of getting her number. On the plus side it shows confidence, on the negative side he can't do anything further to meet up with her. If you really like someone after talking to them, I advise asking for the number or connecting through a chat app so you can take action and progress forward.
That's the wrong mindset. You want her to come after you. Don't chase her. If she's at all interested she will use it. Don't chase.
I remember standing next to a friend at a bar having a beer and I was accused by some random woman stranger of being “creepy” for standing nearby and talking loudly to my friend
Life’s tough boys. We got this ! Just keep being yourself!
That’s what I was told to do during a speech at a wedding: “don’t try to be intellectual…don’t try to be funny….just be yourself!”……great advice…🫤
But if you're being yourself and no woman is interested in you, then what?
@@BloodyHeck then turn your real self into a real man that all normal women crave for.
@@tongobong1 But isn't that going against "be yourself"?
@@BloodyHeck most men today don't know what true self is because most of them are messed up by media propagating feminist agenda. Your true self is the real man that nature created. So the real man in you is a serious man, thought, egoistic, masculine, brave... It is not a nice guy, funny guy with humor or polite guy without an ego... This is what feminist agenda installed in you and it is hard to get rid of it even once you know that they brainwashed you. Watch Andrew Tate to understand this better.
Here is the problem after dealing with paying for meals and trips it comes down to being rejected. Most guys are used to being rejected. Its not the end of the world. What really happens is you just get tired of all the BS. Women want strong confident men. They want to be complemented. They want to be wooed. In the end you find out living with yourself is not so bad. You have friends and maybe you will find someone you like and get along with. Maybe not. Life moves on and you do you and that is what makes you the happiest.
Here is the solution: don't paying anything before you make love to her.
Preach, brother.
rejection=confidence. better to rack up the rejection later, i got 5 in counting but really doing it to boost my ego when approached or talking to a girl
@@Live_for_God123 how does rejection give confidence? you mean it kills confidence
I have had no luck with your advice so far but I keep on trying. My advice is to hit up men because they accept us all for who we are Ned always bend over willingly and it’s a beautiful thing. We all leave feeling good and a plan to do it again. Still so thrilling for me
Thank you for putting this out there!
I was married for 24 years and have started going out again. I have had zero interest in going out with anyone etc and have had girls hitting on me. I enjoy my time alone, it’s awesome.
Nowadays a woman will think a simple hello is “creepy”. Thank you modern feminism. Jokes on them when they’re 75 and still single 😂😂
The definition of feminism really depends on the person. That's why I can't just say I do or don't support it. When it comes to loving women, knowing they should be respected, and so forth, most men do support this. The big issue is that the feminism ideology has been highjacked by people in power, using the media they control, to gain votes, money, etc. Yet those profiting from this Trojan horse are some of the worst abusers of women. That's why it's so complicated. Every woman in my life tells people I treat them and help them and that I am such a good.... Yet depending on the definition, I do or don't support feminism. Many other movements based on identity, such as race, have also been Highjacked for profit, especially money, while doing the opposite of the claims. So, people can abide by their values without being a part of a group called feminism, etc.
Women will only be single if they want to be single. It's very easy for them to get a guy if they want one.
@Malvo not at the moment, but they’re only with guys who are hot and only are interested for selfish reasons. They aren’t with guys who will stick around in other words.
@@ReformedSooner24 whatever you have to tell yourself lmao
I've always heard the saying: "Don't ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask a fisherman", however, I think you channel might be an exception. I've only watched 2 of your videos so far but they seem to contain useful information that could actually help me, thank you.
I don't go looking for it, nor do I care. I workout, live my life and do what I want to do. It's nice to know that I don't need to worry or care on these things.
Right on again. This is definitely hitting me where I am at. I have screwed up so many times, I had to learn this the hard way--but I feel a little better now because I was in a "read the room" situation. I was kicking myself thinking I should have been more aggressive. It's comforting knowing that, even though I didn't score, I exited correctly. Thank you. You have a way of being honest with a respectful level of compassion. Respect. ✊
"omg i went to a bar and noone approached me"
this is 2021, women can start experiencing what it's like to initiate a conversation..."Equal Rights" right?!
Spot on!!
I think it's a bad idea for us as men to promote this 'women should be approaching us instead'. Just like women can be picky we can also be very picky. I would much rather shoot my shot with those that I am interested in than have those who might not be exactly what I'm looking for shoot their shot with me.
@@DivineFrag well said. It also would be nice at times to see them ask the same questions we are expected to ask. It works both ways and is also refreshing.
I’m the one who pursued a man first. That man decided to make me his wife. Enough games. If you like someone, have the confidence in yourself to approach them regardless of your sex!
@@FriarFaithfulLFGSD happy for you!
Great video. There’s a girl at work I’m trying to get the nerve up to talk to this helps. Maybe I can at least talk to her even if nothing comes of it. At least 10 years from now I can look back and say I tried. There are so many instances in my life where I’ll never know because I was too scared to try.
Not a good idea to mess with a coworker, but regret hurts way more than rejection
Thank you so much this video helped me a lot. I feel a little more confident talking to girls.
I thought it was just a matter of being tall and attractive. If you're ugly, women will think you're creepy. If you're hot, you can get away with almost anything, really.
The fact that you use the small percentage of women outshine the 100s of great ones out there is sad
@@alencifps1535 Bold of you to assume that most women are some magical beings that can do no wrong. Most women do this, it is the odd few these days that are still great woman otherwise this video would not exist.
yes that's all it is, all this stupid stuff about where or how to approach is nonsense
@@johnames6430 have you ever heard of game? It definitely matters
preach just look at dudes like Miamithekid who just says whatever tf he wants to girls
I just want to say, I fully appreciate you Courtney. You've been my dating coach for the last several months. lmao
I used to always attract and deal with toxic women, and put myself into toxic situations. Your videos have truly changed my outlook, my approach, and even more so the type of women I deal with for the better. Thank you.
Courtney is one of the best dating advisors on the internet.
If someone asked you in front of their parents, this means they have nothing to hide from each other, which would also translate into your relationship - he'll be honest and upfront about everything with you. Then again, his parents may know things you consider private.
But you are right that asking a waitress at work is not appropriate. As a manager, I was asked way too many times by waitresses to handle frisky clients.
The comment section is legitimately saddening. Guys, I've been rejected quite a few times and I know everything about the manosphere and hypergamy and yade yada. However I always felt like something was off about how dark it was there. It's difficult to get rejected 1000 times and not say "this is pointless", but I think bravery is knowing the world is a dark place and still having hope in your heart. It may be harder, but that's why it's satisfying eventually. Just keep working on what you can do, even if others have it much easier than you
I agree. There's so much negativity in the manosphere. All we can do is work on ourselves to become the best version of ourselves and put our best foot forward.
@@pranavnnair5 my sentiments exactly. The way I see it is if I can't date, surely I haven't worked enough yet. But the manosphere influence got way too dark, I'm glad I got out in time
@@pranavnnair5 That's the point of the manosphere
Amen to that brother , I’m on the same boat focus more on yourself and life will eventually gravitate towards you, patience is tough but worth it , God bless.
Fight back! Go to the GYM, get buffed and get the girl! Period!
Courtney, thanks for your work here. Have you made a video for women's information, about what is important to a man during the first couple interactions; first encounter and follow-up? One thing I mean is, I want women to be more willing to call if I give my number after a first talk that seems to go well. Of course, no one can cause a woman to make a phone call, if she doesn't want to, but the impression I have is that many women are perhaps scared or too socialized against it, to call or chat after encounter #1; to resume communication that started in person. I have often behaved similar to the man in the story in this video, talking about something current that the woman is interested in, developing relaxed and cordial rapport, giving calling card with name, number, email, and that I'm an architect (which most people of all types perk up about) . . . And often those women have seemed to enjoy the talk, they say some appreciation at the end ("It was nice to meet you", with some enthusiasm, not just going through the motions) . . . and almost none have ever reached me to continue. It's possible, there is something about me or my behavior, that they felt unhappy or uncomfortable with during you first encounter, and that's why they don't reach back later, but I'm confused about the times when she seems to be enjoying the first encounter truly, and makes no step toward another talk or meet up to get to know better. Is there something in women's culture, which inhibits them from reaching back to a guy they met once? Is there something which women ought to learn, to facilitate connections, rather than sit back and wait for a guy who they're attracted to to approach them in the way that they feel compelled to respond? In other words, I feel a lot of pressure to behave in the way women want, but I don't notice on the internet any talks about the responsibility of women in starting or facilitating a relationship of the type they want. Like, if they see a cute guy across the room, and they like how he behaves, his mood and how he seems to be as a person, I think they almost never start to talk. The guy may be kind of shy and not brave enough to stick his neck out at that time, though he would respond really well to a simple opening of a talk, and be confident enough to show up really, then. Some guys have had traumatic experiences in their lives, which inhibit them from taking a risk at all, socially ... But I know many of them who have eventually become good boyfriends or husbands, after one successful startup, so to speak. Yet, most of those guys are single for a long times, lonely, discouraged, while if a woman with a decent personality opens up a conversation simply, like "Hi. I'm ____." and/or "How are you doing?", the guy lights up, opens up, is interesting, intelligent and careful with how he talks. So, she feels comfortable and attracted somehow, to a degree, which could be built on thereafter. Thinking of the woman in your story, who complained that she had been out the night before and no one had talked to her, I have no sympathy. If she isn't willing to attempt to meet a guy who she might like, if she tries to leave all the responsibility on men to initiate, in a developing society where we're supposed to treat women equally, we're supposed to behave with compassion to everyone, perhaps in the few cities in America where regional culture is more enlightened than a typical American dick head is, then I think she has no right to complain about not being approached. Mainly, I want women to be willing to act, at least a little, to open or encourage connection with men. With that, I think much fewer people would be chronically single, lonely, pessimistic.
... Or at least, send a friend over to talk with a guy and see if he behaves well and seems compatible with the subject woman, without identifying that woman to the man, for her safety.
I think, as much as a man ought to get better at noticing and interpreting non-verbal cues of a woman, a woman ought to get better at communicating clearly. And communication could be nonverbal. A wave from across a room, with a little gesture to come toward her, is probably all most guys need to feel much more comfortable about approaching, even to a group of women at once. ... But I almost never witness a woman communicating to open a door to an encounter and possible good connection.
Have you already made a video on this? If no, how about answering or designing your own question related to " What should a woman do if she wants an encounter with a guy, to get a sense of how he is, but the guy isn't coming over? " .... Instead of spend the whole time, wishing he would, then leaving the place disappointed, discouraged.
Thanks for considering.
Courtney - Just found your Videos surfing You Tube. This one was spot on. I found what works for me years ago when it comes to Females. Just a few things that work for me. I completely agree when you said when you break the ice with her. It helps to be in an environment where you both have a common bond. Museum, Gym, School ETC. And confidence as you stated is such a biggie. No Lady wants to be approached by a wishie washie Man. Females have outstanding instinct. I tell Guys all the time. When you approach a Gal. Just talk to her as a Human Being & not as a potential Sexual experience. Finally. Very important. Great Hygiene & Great Grooming is a must !!!!! No Unkempt Hair. No Cousin It Eyebrows. No Nose hairs growing down for Tarzan to swing on. Keep your fingernails & Toenails 11:22 clean. Be Authentic in your game plan. And yes. We all get shot down from time to time. Brush your self off & get back on the Horse 🐴 Thanks.
Presenter glosses over the most important point - that being she has to extend you an invitation first. Women initiate and invite contact via clusters of non-verbal cues if they are open to and interested in making your acquaintance at any given moment. Approaching a woman when you haven't received an invite is a fool's errand unless humiliation is one of your turn-ons. For example if she doesn't touch her hair immediately upon becoming aware of your presence and her feet and/or navel aren't pointing at you -the shop is definitely closed as far as you're concerned. Cold calling may work out every blue moon or so - but it's grueling way to go about the thing.
approaching any woman is an invite for humiliation
I agree. You must look for those subtle non verbal cues from body language to eye contact before even trying to say hi anymore the way things are now.
cold approaching is a no go
Yeah , or I could just ignore them out right and just focus on myself and my own sanity. Been doing this 8 years and it's magical. Focus on yourself gents, embrace watching wall hitters panic for recreation.
That's horseshit. Girls are looking at their phones or the mirror most of the time. They don't seek out guys, they wait to be approached so they can't complain when a guy does so
Really, these videos need to start with a disclaimer on the importance of being attractive, or rather the importance of not being unattractive. And a link to a video dealing specifically with what is attractive/unattractive. If you are attractive, you may get away with just not being actually creepy. If you're unattractive, the threshold for being "creepy" is lowered, sometimes to the point of a "Hi" being perceived as creepy. Kind of important to be honest about that I think. And for those who are overweight and so on, it's good to get tips and ideas on what to do, other than "work out", "go on a diet" and so on
I believe playing within your boundaries is the unspoken rule.. or the ballpark as its so commonly referred to.. If your appearance is average and your trying to play at the "10" level, your gonna get rejection.. maybe alot.. (I do this alot).. Most don't have the stomach for it though). I still prefer to lay back and see what/who approaches me.
Great vid, has givin me great tips and confidence :))))!!!!
Nearly 20 months after the upload of this video, did anyone practice these tips in an approach? Did it effectively help? I'm skeptical about that, but I was satisfied to hear Courtney is an introvert person: my time spent, watching this video, was worth in the end
Seriously, I wish there were alot more women like you out there. Online dating has ruined women in my opinion.
Womens complete unaccountably for their actions, and weak men have ruined women