6 Behaviors That Make People Dislike You
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- čas přidán 25. 08. 2024
- Have you ever worry about how your behaviors or bad habits may make others dislike you? That's okay! People are social beings and depend heavily on other people. Everyone wants to be liked, and desire approval, appreciation, and acceptance from others. To help you work on self improvement, let's look at the common behaviors that may be pushing others away.
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People talking about themselves the whole time without showing interest in others would definitely make people dislike you too.
Yes indeed! Especially when it is a family or friend who waffles on about very irrelevant things during dinner and then mentioned something important in the middle of it. As I had stopped paying attention to him, I had missed that information.
This is why I'm scared to recommend my stuff. Well... Weird thing aside
@@EddyWoon Some people are socially awkward to where they have “irrelevant,” ice breakers, during dinner.
But...oomf did that all the time still got so much love starting from the principal to the teachers to the janitors to the seniors to the juniors to the peers till the stray cats..
There are lots of people like that. Purely like to talk about themselves w/o listening to what others want to say. Usual case, my conversation with them won't last long.
“3. Not smiling”
Ohhh that explains it
I smiled all the time and people hated it :) so don’t worry
Is that why I got bullied in 4th grade? I don't smile much I don't show enough emotions 😔
@@imthicc69 ah don’t worry about it too much mate. Not showing emotion can be a strength in some cases :)
@@slayre1408 Ok 😊
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I think people dislike me because I'm generally quiet and private. And I have overshared on social media in the past, because even though i'm private I wish people knew who I really am I deep down. But I decided to let social media go for other reasons. Honestly I don't really care how people view me anymore, I like myself and the majority of people are temporary anyway
Good for you
Relatable. Social media is one way for people to know more about me :)
Doesn't this count as social media?
Yeah, n sometimes we "over share" on social media cause we're looking for support. Especially if we're in a situation where we literally cannot get out into the real
world, such as disabilities. I've learned that it's good to join groups that understand whatever ur going thru. ❤️
You’re perfect the way you are!
I’m socially awkward, so when I first meet people I usually just keep to myself and I choose to open up when I feel comfortable, but for some reason people translate me being quite and shy as me being rude and thinking I’m too good to talk to them. So people usually don’t like me when they first meet me.
People like this make me laugh. It's like they can't relax around introverts unless they know almost everything there is to know about them which is absurd, silly, irrational and to be honest kind of creepy and suspicious to me. It seems like they're just mad and anxious because they won't have a very big story to tell to other people about you.
Just be yourself and let the people who are meant to be in your life come to you.
Me too! And it’s always annoying when they ask the same stupid question “why are you so shy and quiet?” Like how tf am I supposed to answer to this ? If anything it makes me more socially awkward
literally me
Same. Because I dont smile they think iam mad, mean, so serious. I like to speak allot and laugh but, i do it all that but alone . Yes i do talk to myself, and laugh at my own jokes
I don't know why but this art style is oddly comforting 😌
i know right!
It is aesthetic style :D
Same makes me feel really comfy
Light hues and colors or something like that.
Yes
Time stamps:
1.Over sharing on social media 0:42
2. Humblebragging 1:24
3.Not Smiling 2:23
4.Constantly criticising others 3:00
5.Suppressing or faking emotion 3:52
6.Using emoticons in formal writing 4:27
Thanks bro :)
ty ♡
I cant smile tho..
Why does it say 1 month ago!!!!!! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh
I'm guilty of 2 of these - not smiling and suppressing emotions. Probably why I only have two friends :')
I tend to not smile at strangers, as it worries me that they might think I'm flirting with them.
You commented this in 2022, and I can relate to that too
This video seems to be completely oblivious that being authentic could make one appear unlikeable in the first place (family of orgin and childhood experience plays a major role here).
Basically you're saying people only like you when you're in a good mood. And i genuinely feel those are the worst people to associate with. They'll never be around when you need them.
I think it's more "at first". For example, you might not start to like a person who is not smilling, is gloomy, when you see it for the first times. When you already make friends, they will be with you even if you are not in a good mood. But to make a friend is a long journey and you have to put effort into it.
@@metalman666ization Maybe you just had bad expierences, because people are social beings and most of them wants to make relationships. And of course people may be put off or get scared if you show too much emotion too soon. Especially if they don't know you too well. That's why it's important to work with your psychology and how you treat other people. They are just like you, some of them are sensitive, some of them have problems or anxiety. And they aren't psychologist to help you with your deepest problems/emotions. People often confuse friends with psychologists. It's not the same and shouldn't be.
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@@metalman666ization You’re rightttttt 😄😻
Also, a morbid cycle: Being depressed -> being sad, unconfident and insecure in a social setting -> trouble making friends -> no one to talk to -> being depressed (and having low social skills, 'cause practice makes perfect)
Of course it's not always like this, but what always pissed me off is the fact that happy, energetic people usually have many friends and they could probably even manage with one or two (real) friends and still be happy with life, whereas depressed, traumatized, anxious people have to (again: not always of course) suffer in loneliness which "snowballs" that cycle above
This world is so unfair
#1: randomly punching people in the face
@@ellah6194 ah, don’t worry it’s a simple and common mistake
@@mr.sheeppeehs4204 yep
Oh, how I wish I could...
@@mr.sheeppeehs4204 😂
Lol - when turning the other cheek won't work!
Who cares if people don't like me . I'm not here on this earth to impress people. The only one I've got to impress is myself.
Also being a narcissist. When everything is about you and you can care less about others. I was at dinner with a couple friends one night, and one of my girlfriends started sharing a very personal problem she is dealing with at the time. Meanwhile, our other friend was not engaging or listening to her and seemed to not want to be bothered with something that didn't interest her. So she began to look at her phone and watch tik tok videos and started laughing loudly at the table at the videos. Completely oblivious to the other person's pain and feeling the need to talk to a friend and be heard. At that very moment, I decided to slowly let this person go and move on. I have no patience at my age to deal with people like this. Taking selfies at the table, my god.... grow up!
Sharing in the middle of dinner very sensitive issues is also narcissistic since you’re holding everyone hostage! Expecting all adults present to just automatically attend to you at the drop of a hat sounds very immature to me.
@@africanglobalnomad my friend was discussing her mom having dementia and how hard it was to deal with. She rarely opens up like this meanwhile the other friend was drunk on tik tok. Yeah… I made the right choice.
Everytime I get to hang out with more than one friend, it just happens to them to share private things to eachother, and I just always happen to ask "can I also see or hear what you're doing ?" But they are like "oh, just nothing" 😞 it hurts, it feels like I am out of the group
If a person is genuine and doesn't hog or crave the attention I will listen and give them the floor but if your one of those people that need attention and all eyes on you then I would be on my phone too thinking...oh here we go again but it all depends on the person. Some people get my full attention and respect while others get to watch me ignore their cry for attention.
I really admire the fact that you could notice this friends rude behavior and walk away. I would have probably lost respect for that person but still kept contact, but this is a great example of when to let go people that I'll remember. Thanks ❤
“Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life is not so good, remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.”
nah
That's bs if it's temporary whys it been like this this long and if it's gonna get better it's taking long enough lol
Thank you ICEcold JT wise words
Outside of ferry tails and cartoons, things get worst fast and they keep getting worst. So if you arent in the position to deal whit it, or someone dont help you, your done. And when you are in that much of a problem hearing friends say "It will pass." or " It will sort it self out" translates to " Not my problem".
This too shall pass
I always seem to be more comfortable by myself, and even act more like me while I'm alone.
For example, if someone else is around, I'm less likely to get up and grab a glass of water. I also avoid crying or singing a lot in front of others. However, when I'm alone I'll cry, sing, talk to myself, work on passion projects, work on problems, come up with ideas, work out, and many other things. I do like playing games with others and talking, but I feel like every moment is more meaningful when I'm alone. Like I don't have to freak out about anything. When I'm with others it's like I'm transported to an alternate dimension, and when they leave, I feel I can be expressive again.
I just wanted to vent a little. Have a good day everyone!
Same
Same
You only grow when you're alone
-Paul Newman
I can relate, you seem like a pretty cool person
@@LifeisaBeautifulting Thank you!
I would like broader research done on the “ smile more” one. I have met with many people outside of the US and even people within the US where smiling isn’t exactly looked at as a good thing. Turns out, it makes people uncomfortable, even suspicious. I personally think it’s more of a case by case basis and we should just stick with “ don’t fake emotions”.
Fake smiles are creepy! Real ones are good.
Big fake toothy smiles are in style rn.
@@David-eu1ms Sadly. They come across as fake.
I think smiling is universally friendly, although you can tell which ones are fake. However, I've never seen someone complain about a genuine smile and I'd be interested to hear what you find. Let us know! :)
Who cares what people don’t like, they don’t even like themselves.
exactly!
Yeah right?
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Everyone is diffrent, and people shouldn't be hated/disliked because of that! Being diffrent is ok as long as it's not hurting anyone or you
Very true! People forget the golden rule and treating others like you would like to be treated
@Jason Torres that's literally what i was thinking and i'm also on the spectrum.
I wish. So many ppl are very judgemental but then refuse to self reflect. Why ppl with ASD have such a hard time. While ppl that can navigate these situations but are quite horrible objectively get included
My hero of a big sis is on the spectrum too. She'll always be my best friend, even though she sees the world differently than I do.
Yeah. Just be yourself.
well I'm autistic so it literally doesn’t matter what I do: People dislike me
You're not a golden coin so that everybody loves you. Best way to live your life is to stop caring about what others think. Workout, build confidence, learn new things, be kind to others without expecting anything, be humble but not spineless, be strict but fair, be nice but not a people pleaser, build and build confidence in yourself and you will eventually achieve all your goals. Do all of these things for you. Don't be a people pleaser, if you want happiness think of yourself but do not abandon people that you love. Keep your mind occupied with goals and don't worry about what others think. At the end of the day, the only one that is going to get your goals done is yourself. I leave this message here if anyone needs reading it.
Brilliant! I love this channel as much for people's comments as I do the content.
Good god I didn’t know how much I needed to read this comment
Thank you ❤
I have the feeling that, if you´re different from what people consider "normal", then they don´t like you.
If you´re swimming against the stream, instead of with it, people seem to dislike you much faster.
If you´re speaking up against things and tell other people that you don´t like this or that, then they dislike you as well.
People even tent to dislike you when you suddenly say "no" to certain things you always said "yes" to before.
Why can´t they just try to understand each other better? Why don´t they question the reasons for your decisions instead of immediately judging and disliking you?
Why do we have to try to be someone else to be liked by others? It´s rare to be able to be yourself around other people because they might tend to dislike you for that.
I just tey not to worry to much about what other people think and just do what I think is good. Some people like me and whoever doesn't I don't worry about. I'm happy how i am and with the friends who do like me. Just be you and people will like you anyway if they are worth it.I've always been different and I am happy that way. Why be normal?
Sounds like you need new friends. "What a friend we have in Jesus".
I like your comment it truly resonates with me, when you think differently, you swim against the grain, and when you stand up for yourself people don’t like that.
People treat me like shit and it hurts a lot
I’ve never fitted in anywhere since l was a kid, people treat me poorly.
Like you were saying, you stand up for what’s right, and people treat you like shit. I’ve done that.
"Normal is what people are before you get to know them."
Michael Bolton
Yeess. Thank you for writing this. Totally agree with everything you said. It's funny because I was just talking to someone and found out that a person doesn't like me because I'm weird. But now that I read your message, I feel a lot better. You're right, it would be better if people just talked to us first instead of judging. There is nothing wrong with being different.
*smiles*
"why are you smiling for no reason"
"why do you smile like that"
"what are you smiling for? theres nothing good happening"
*never again*
Not everybody is gonna like everybody like how everybody doesn’t find the everybody attractive its just life🤷🏽♂️
Sometimes, I feel like I'm annoying when I hang out with my friends, I feel like it's kinda normal.
I feel the same
Yeah it's normal in a moderate level.
I'm the same way. It's part of why I'm so quiet
Same that's why I left my friend group and became lonely :)
same someone help me with this plz i am 14 and i don’t know why it’s just i feel like i don’t belong with my friends i just feel like i’m alone but the real problem is that i don’t feel that i belong and it bothers me because before i could vibe with them be happy and we would all have a smile in our faces but now they all have a good time and i just feel like i don’t belong
WHY PEOPLE DISLIKE ME
- I'M NOT ATTRACTIVE
- I'M POOR
- I'M NOT COOL
- I DON'T CONFORM TO SOCIAL STANDARDS
Even if that's real in your mind .. u may find people that appreciate u for who u are ...
If u want we can be friend?
@@fatmaalban7294 but why do people always come up with prepackaged affirmations? It could be that I'll never meet the people who will appreciate me for who I am and I won"t even find love
True!!!!
@@TheletterR. 🤔🤔🤔??!
people may dislike you because you’re literally giving them a reason to dislike you, just like now. do NOT complain to anybody about yourself.
How in the hell will not smiling make others not like you? If you don't wanna smile that shouldn't be a problem.
FACTS 💯
I would rather people dislike me than like me.If too many people like me,I would feel trapped to always have to be more nice,and it's too much work.Take it or leave it.
0:02 I THOUGHT THAT WAS A GRAVESTONE FOR A SECOND
I've literally been thinking about this subject for months.
This is so needed rn. Thx
Same thoughts🙂
I'm so glad I learnt manners and public relations skills early in life. It cannot be stressed enough how important it is in all areas of life.
My Grandfather gave me a great piece of advice. Be Happy! Find something to laugh about every day. Don't let others interfere with your peace or happiness. And love yourself.
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Me too!!
How did you post this a month ago?
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I think people don't like me because I m loud and talk to much. And since the pandemic I constantly complain about every thing.
@nurulfarhana meow yeees
But your complaints are validated and reasonable to me. 2020 and slowly 21 suck sweaty balls. Sorry but those years are bad. Most people hate the truth. I hate the lies and falseness of people. There are people who will always enjoy your honesty and emotional outbursts! Then again, I am a Cancer, so I enjoy folks who express their true selves rather than dealing with their dishonesty. You keep being true.
I rather enjoy talkative people, I’m an introvert & a good listener, I appreciate people like you
@@LadyCoyKoi Thank you! ❤️
@@Kenna198 Thank you 😊!
My problem is - existing . Simply existing is probably the top reason
I’ve found that my blunt honesty is only appreciated by my close friends. Everyone else seems to want me to tell them what they want to hear.
why is this style so CUTEEEE?!
I am cute because I am a qualified lesbian
Um - no, I will not smile whenever I can. 1. I never want to 2. If I smile whenever I CAN I'd always be smiling, and no one wants that. My fake smile is so obvious
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@@richardmata660 k, I'm not gonna go to some random website someone on CZcams sends me, I'm not an idiot. And just cause I don't smile doesn't mean I need to contact an adult.
Well, maybe it’s a good idea to practice smiling with the mirror or cute videos of animals and such. Cuz even though it is fine if you don’t usually feel like smiling, it is a good way of leaving a good impression! You also don’t have to smile all the time as well but a smile will help during first meetings and occasionally with closed ones to show your appreciation.
@@feelsbadman7134 Eh, if someone is bothered by me not smiling that's their problem. If they don't like me as much at first cause of a smile then I don't want to know them.
Ah, I see. I just hope you’ll keep this in mind during situations that require social interactions with others, like a polite smile during sales, it certainly helps. I hope you have a nice day!
I also hate when someone laughs at me when I’m clearly being serious. Offensive. Very disrespectful.
Thats so true
I know a lot of people with all these issues and still they have so many friends and family members around them all the time
IDC if people like me or not .. im not born to impress them ..
then don’t watch the video.. why are u here?
The phrase is reasonable
But the phrase is also somewhat stupid
You know were social beings
Even if you do say that
It is hard to do it
@@kaito4926 this person's right, as social beings we care about others and how other perceive us. hard to fight human nature
@@kaito4926 the video also mentions insulting someone's opinion makes you dis likable maybe they have that frame of mind because of personal experiences, I wouldn't care what any one thinks of me if all they have to say about me is something negative.
@@kaito4926 when I give into human nature and try to be likable by caring about others opinions of me I just get depressed because I'm surrounded by negative people, I've been happier since I stopped caring, you can call it hard because it is but it's a very worth it fight, I took years to build my OWN personality instead of projecting human ideals
A piece of advice to all, just be yourself and don’t ever change yourself just to please or wanting people to like you. It’s fine if you want improve yourself but there will always people who going to dislike you with whatever you do. Be with people who love you the way you are not what you are not. 💕
no
"just be yourself"
i tried it
it was horrible
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@@DragoSmash it’s okayyy... try to improve yourself slowly to be a better person. But there is a different between improving and changing and people always mistaken by this. You are not horrible, it just you have a different personality than others and that’s make you unique ☺️
you are born a certain way.
Not everything is for you.
not all rockclimb or paint. or like cars.
be yourself.
your comfort zone is to protect you.
it's who you are.
we. are. not. the. same.
we should Not try to do everything others do. or be all things.
we can't.
accept your born limitations.
love yourself.
do not go with the flow.
ignore the crowds. the majority.
they are wrong.
be you. be kind
and find God
Literally EVERYONE I meet ends up disliking me even if they liked me at first. I genuinely don’t understand why. I’m a bit awkward but besides that idk what it could be. I even feel like I’m OVERLY friendly at times. But everyone ends up drifting away from me. Every. One. I need to know what I’m doing wrong 😞
Fr
Phillipians 4:13
Do not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition, present your request before the Lord, and the peace of God which transcends all understanding shall rest on you.
Alot of people are lost and faking everything, pretending to be better than they are, when you see it this way you wouldn't even care about what you're doing that bothers them because it could be a number of different things and it's more about them than you, alot of people can't get past their judgements and prejudices because they themselves hate themselves and are insecure, good luck to you
I feel like if you don’t like someone because of these reasons you are a control freak. I don’t care how many photos my friends post or if they brag about something. I want good things for them. If that makes them feel good it makes me feel good.
I really didn't get the photos and bragging thing either!
Funfact: We are all time travellers. Just the boring kind.
Bruh tell me how
Really?
It's more like we technically live in the past.
Basically, our eyes and brain takes a tiny bit of time to process what's happening, so we see the past.
Times traveler by a few seconds, but eh.
Thank you! About time (no pun intended) someone who understands me.
What the f??? You must of been the guy in pursuit of happiness ha ha it's not a time machine geesh
Smile when you don’t feel like it and keep your opinions to yourself but don’t fake emotions or be inauthentic. Got it. Got it.
Neurotypical folk are not okay.
Agree its so confusing... so be ourselves and don't be yourself cuz it annoys others.
They literally said, smile whenever you feel like it. They didn't say smile when you don't feel like it. Why bring neurotypical-ness into it? I'm on the spectrum and understood what it meant. Perhaps you should try turning the captions on if you feel like you have misheard something?
@@inferiorinferno8859 what if you dont smile much but just so people will like you, you force yourself to smile for everyone else. i know the video said smile whenever you can but that can be a struggle to some. theyre literally saying you have to smile so people like you but be yourself what if myself is someone who doesnt smile especially when i dont want to.
Yes exactly.... 🤦🏼♀️🤷🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️
As a nonneurotypical person, I agree beyond 10000%. Then again, I am the type to always smile, that's just my face. 🤷♀️I also share opinions no matter way. I wasn't taught to lie or be fake. My mother stated that if I am placed on a lying detecting machine, the machine would malfunction over being heart broken at how honest and sincere I am. 🥰I am a terrible liar. I just can't. My brain makes an alarm and says only say the truth, because that is always better than the lies.
"I don't want to be part of a world where being kind is a weakness."
Keanu Reeves
"Suppressing or fakeing emotions"
That explains alot. Imma go rethink all my life choices now.
"Smile more"
"Don't fake your emotions"
That's where my problem lies. I hardly smile because I can't smile when I don't feel like it. And that makes me unapproachable. But I'm not complaining. I don't want people around me.
Bro I feel this sm- I hate when people tell me to be happy or smile when I’m not like if I don’t have a reason to them I won’t it’s so frustrating how people always want you to be how they want and when your not it’s a problem this is why is im starting to hate every one around me at this point😪🤷♀
Ikr, but the right people will always approach you u know
Women say my smile is gorgeous but 1. I rarely smile because I hate insincere smiles, and 2. I grow my beard which hides my mouth.
Number 3 hit too close to home. In middle school and some of high school, I was always scowling, because I thought people would think I'm cool if I acted stoic and unemotional. Sometimes I wonder if my life would be better right now if I was friendlier back then.
Funny thing with me is I'm photosensitive which means my eyes are sensitive to light. When I was younger I was always squinting and people would ask me why I'm always mad. I think wearing sunglasses all the time is rude and probably not healthy either though.
I just have a RBF and was shy, smart, clumsy, strong. I think I intimidated a lot of people especially the boys- one time a boy saw a pocket knife in my school bag which I keep for protection since sometimes I went walking home and I think that did it ;-;- ngl kinda glad the school didn't find out-
Also, you'll meet more people in your life, and yes your life would have been different but it would be a good or bad different there is no knowing. And what happened back then is in the past, and I hope you create great friendships.
@@mars_taem4537 Thank you, that really helps. I hope you find great friends too.
Naaa.... even if you are the friendly type... people will think you are easy and will abuse you. F*ck humanity! It is filled with ungrateful sh!theads!!!
I was taught growing up, no one cares about my accomplishments or potential accomplishments. Now at 48, I’m painted in a corner of nothingness, and even when I shared with a grandparent got a business licence to hopefully avoid having to do quotas at school, and make my own money, all I got was “well don’t be so hard on yourself, just keep trying” , realizing no one listens to my words ever, and it is assumed I will quit or fail, because I’ve quit everything I’ve done….oddly enough because no one encouraged me or cared Ever.
When you don't do any of these things, but you are still disliked
I'm just a simple Time Traveler saying. Have a good day
Thank you :)
thank u
Me too :)
Hi time travellers
Shouldn’t the joke of you being a time traveler be you’ll have a good day?
Moral of the story:
*Try to fit in the crowd*
Or you'll be ignore 4ever
Some people are brave enough to stand out!
you are born a certain way.
Not everything is for you.
not all rockclimb or paint. or like cars.
be yourself.
your comfort zone is to protect you.
it's who you are.
we. are. not. the. same.
we should Not try to do everything others do. or be all things.
we can't.
accept your born limitations.
love yourself.
do not go with the flow.
ignore the crowds. the majority.
they are wrong.
be you. be kind
and find God
+Vengeful Polititron
You actually had some good points and some sage advice about being yourself and not compromising on hobbies and interests. Then you went and made one of the worst mistakes anyone could make when giving advice. You brought religion into and tried to convert people. Not everyone believes in god. Not everyone wants or needs to share your faith. Keep it to yourself.
@@razorwindrazor3981
consider that maybe my sage advice is because I'm seeing the world from the other side. I'm spiritually dead now. I failed.
you should realize that maybe I included that last bit, because it is sage advice.
@@razorwindrazor3981 Sage advice isn't negated by religiosity!
“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time.” - John Lydgate
I'm really appreciative of this content it throws a lot of light. Many people dislike me for being myself. I feel more comfortable when I'm alone so I really don't like being around people except my immediate family. My social skills are not the best but trying to change seems like a very difficult task.
#3 not smiling
Face masks: we don't do that here
Put a smiley onto it. Oh wait that makes you unserious. We are doomed.
@@wernerhiemer406 double standards do suck and they're a large reason why there's so much hatred in the world.
I won't wear one. Body language is essential.
even though I don't relate to any of these signs (besides the not smiling one) I still feel like I am annoying everyone I know. I've even asked them about it, and they say that I'm not doing anything wrong, yet every time, I feel like they're lying (or sugar-coating it).
Yes, I feel the same way.
Then it might be a more internal thing and issues with your self and self-confidence. I’m like that too but we all have to remind ourselves that at the end of the day, people are more concerned with themselves then they are with other people. And who knows. It also might be that they act a certain way because they too also have internal issues they’re struggling with and like to project it towards others.
Awe. That's awful. Usually the fears we have about what other people think are us just beating ourselves up for nothing. They are usually too busy being scared of what we think of them......😉
I used to not have any close friends and a lot of people used to dislike me in school. But all those experiences made me a better person, taught me to accept my mistakes and made me an open minded person :) I sure do have a long way to go and a lot more to learn, but at least I got till here! I'm proud of myself for who I am today ^^
I hate how people just expect us to be happy all the time.
it's all well and good to tell people to express their emotions until it bites them in the ass.
In 2021, speaking the TRUTH is what makes people not like you. Have the courage to speak truth. At least you’ll like yourself. Most people aren’t going to “like” you unless you can do something for them.
That might be true to some, but please keep the idea that there are others who like you for you and have good intentions. Being honest is good yet people might feel intimidated if you just say everything without filter. Finding another way to phrase things still counts as being honest.
People who only like you for favors are toxic but not everyone is the same. I hope this helps.
The people who used to praise me mock me,the one who used to respect me jokes about me the girls who used to always talk to me nicely now speak ill to me.
I am a loser,a person incapable of doing what I truly want and achieving the thing I want but I have a hope that someone or something will pull this loser up and make me better.
i do not follow any of these... yet people naturally just dislike me. I kinda got used to it so its not a big deal anymore
It'd be interesting to have a video describing the differences between humblebragging, virtue signalling and genuinely being humble/good/kind/self-confident. For someone with anxiety and depression, I find it difficult to talk about myself or sell myself in interviews because I don't want to come across as arrogant/selfish etc. Especially since humblebragging and virtue signalling are thrown around as insults when people are doing something good, like posting a photo of themselves volunteering, or talking about something they're doing.
I think some level of openly flaunting/bragging should be acceptable... especially when you're proud of something you've accomplished or succeeded in. I personally feel happy for other people when I see they've accomplished something that they're proud of. In moderation, of course.
I'm confused 😅...
Yes this is a great idea! I need examples since I tend to find myself overthinking these concepts! Often I see one small example of something and it frames my whole mindset on how to do it, so yeah this is a great idea!
Something that I've noticed that causes people to possibly not liked is me being self aware. Trying to learn how to be more self aware but it's really difficult
Im one step ahead of yall, everyone hates me just because i exist
I really disliked the one about people not liking you for putting any emojis in a formal email. Emails are generally so cold, so detached, so corporate feeling, that I decided to add some emojis to remind myself, and others that I am human, and that they are too. ❤️ What spurred me to search this topic, is me trying to understand why so many viewers on CZcams do not like me, or my content , enough to subscribe, click like, or leave a positive comment, etc. I have low self esteem when it comes to my CZcams channel.
"suppressing or faking emotions"
That explains a lot.
Passive aggressive and the victim behavior aspects as a means for bullying are trending these days. My generation is living through it.
I feel like people always misunderstand me everytime. I just come across as rude no matter what i say.
“People can tell when you are being inauthentic” bahahahah no they sure as hell cannot.
There is so many videos I can time travel to-
I don't care if people don't like me anymore
The first and last mistake is to care what others think about you.
I don't even humblebrag and I am totally honest with my classmates in college but despite this I wander around alone in recess and no one likes to talk to me. A friend of mine from school days blamed me for being obsessed with a band (I didn't talk to her about that band very much cuz I knew she hated them) and broke up with me saying that I copy people. I don't have social contacts. Being too honest and sincere broke my friendship. I am a small youtuber and artist, mind my own business and I care about others' feelings too much. The problem is I still can't find what I look for in people. This is just my nature that I cannot hurt others knowing their flaws but they don't care if they hurt me without any reason. Just got too emotional! Apologies
you are born a certain way.
Not everything is for you.
not all rockclimb or paint. or like cars.
be yourself.
your comfort zone is to protect you.
it's who you are.
we. are. not. the. same.
we should Not try to do everything others do. or be all things.
we can't.
accept your born limitations.
love yourself.
do not go with the flow.
ignore the crowds. the majority.
they are wrong.
be you. be kind
and find God
@@VengefulPolititron 💓😭Thank you so much for advice! Agreed with your point of view
You just need to find friends you don't secretly hate or envy. Sound obvious, but sometime we try to be friends with people we are somehow competing against them, and that can't really work out.
Real friends, you find caring for them natural and the right thing.
Or that don't secretly hate or envy you! I have had that happen to me in the past. Not very nice at all, and I thought they were my best friend, but I was wrong.
Don't forget to smile guys! With your mask on.
I had this one girl I was friends with who multiple times lied and criticised others, and she was obsessed with one of my best friends to the point where she’d be asking questions every millisecond and lying about who my best friend was dating and that she was sick and wasn’t at school (even though I literally saw my best friend an hour ago) 😂
This video made me remember her cause most of this is listed with her and how she was treated by people in class
It ain't humble bragging the person listening is just listening with a jealous heart. A person is literally saying I'm not doing well and all you are getting from it is the person is bragging.
Somewhere there's probably a video titled *"6 Behaviors That Make People Like You and How To Stop It."*
1)Do more social media
2)Start humblebragging
3)Stop smiling
4) Constantly criticize
5) Fake emotions
6) Start using emoji in formal email...
i've been told i was outright intimidating to most of my friends before we actually met
it's probably because i never smile
@@peace-ur6ns cool video but i don't have a whole lot of memories to smile about and i certainly don't regret them
Sometimes it can be good to be at least a little intimidating. :)
At this point, I just don't care at all. Life is too short, you just can't and won't please everybody no matter what you say/do or not say/do.
I think it’s weird that not posting at all is preferred over posting. The whole point of social media is to post and it’s so true people don’t like me because I post too much and I get insecure about it and just deactivate all my accounts because no cares about seeing me succeed because I’m not a typical “pretty” girl. Story is people only care about your happiness if you are attractive, rich, or posting something about them.. social media is a sick and twisted game.
Ah yes 3 and 5 are relatable
As someone on the autistic spectrum, 3 and 5 are just who I am. It's bad enough not being able to deal with social cues without people disliking me because of who I am. Before anyone says "fake it"; yeah that's called masking and I do but you have no idea how exhausting it is. Think about playing a role which isn't you from the moment you wake up until you go to bed, every day of every year. And STILL not getting it right. The world needs to just accept people for who they are and not superficial nonsense.
“Try to smile often! It makes you attractive”
Masks: uh I think tf not 😃
You can still easily see when people are smiling even behind the mask :)
Being angry will definitely turn people off. I lost a few important relationships because of my anger/attitude
I never hide my emotions. I always tell the truth. Sometimes it can be Harsh, but I can't help it, the truth is the truth. And that's my biggest problem.
"You are interesting as long as you are interested." -some acting professor
"Not smiling"
I know smiling is an obvious factor to how people perceive you but the fact that I'm someone who never smiles unless they find something funny or gets shy.... *:'- )*
Felt-
I have noticed that people who are more reserved, and don't chatter,endlessly, are more likeable than the majority of those who are excessively talkative.
Things I learned...
Don't post photo
Don't talk
Don't smile
Don't show your emotions
Don't approach anybody
Don't make friend/relation
But what if you don't do any of these but still most people don't like you? I find it so hard to find friends...
Her voice 🥺 make me calm.
I've never really experienced such anxiety over not being liked by people before. I have great friends and was always surrounded by good people, but things have now started turning weird, more precisely, some people have. I am talking abt my classmates in my academy and I don't know any of them personally. They are good in studying and always score the highest in the academy tests. So basically, I achieved the top score in my finals papers of last year and ever since then, I feel this weird vibe coming from all those students. They keep staring at me, talking behind my back, and it's like they don't believe that I worked for it. They seem to judge me a lot. And somehow I feel guilty abt it!! I don't know what's wrong with me. I've always avoided those groups ever since I joined the academy, I have no friends there cuz I feel anxious meeting new people so I decided I won't make any new friend since I already have my school ones thankfully. I am very quiet and reserved there. I think they all see me as the arrogant type, and they never really viewed me as someone who has the potential of achieving good grades like them. I took them by surprise, and now I feel like they are all against me...or maybe I'm over thinking it. But I do get negative vibes from them. Hardly anyone congratulated me for my score! The environment in my class makes me so so uncomfortable. I'm happy that my last year is going to be over soon. I hope I never see them again, because they make me feel like I don't deserve it.
Yusra whatever you wrote i go through the same and you won't believed i have cried 2 times in my class cause of people behaviour to me. They are so mean. But i realised that if you are dumb people will like you and if you are smarter than them they will hate you... So they already hate us so let's be smarter than them :)
They are just jealous of you that's all. Tune them out and keep being wonderful you. You are a success and have a great future ahead. Be very proud of yourself and your achievements! Top marks in the class Is something to celebrate not feel badly for. Congratulations!!! 🎉
@@henishakharhuma6003 yes. Just think abt it, if they're jealous of you then that means that you are much better than them, that's why they see the gap and feel this way. Let's work hard and be successful for ourselves, not them.
@@sharonhunter2081 thank you so much, your kind words really made me feel better. Thankfully my academy is finished, so I'm not surrounded by negative people anymore. It's a blessing.
@@yusra3949 i hsd almost similar experience.
#1 suppressing your true nature due to fear of being disliked
1. "Oversharing on social media"
Me who copes with oversharing: 😟😟
I like how CZcams recommends this to me XD
The reason people don't like me mostly in my class is because i am not into trends i dont like anime, I don't like doing makeup, i don't like kpop,i dont like a specific author,i don't like a specific game etc
I have tried to change my hobbies so much just to talk to someone and its just not working out everyone calls me childish and annoying.
Ur not alone, man. I felt the same way too. Just don't give up and keep living :)
@@SquidwardRulez you want to give up when you have nobody with you and your the only one sitting alone.
There is a reason I can't smile but I can't mention it. It's not because I am depressed either.