getting rejected from almost every college I applied to: my experience | what (not) to do, advice
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- čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
- fight or flight when seeing the common app site now dear lord
seriously though, this was the first video I had in mind when creating this channel. it's been a long long time in the works and now that it's finally done, I had second thoughts about posting initially. I'm not particularly fond of showing my vulnerabilities that easily, as I doubt anyone is, and sharing to where it's accessible to literally everyone on this platform is more than a bit scary.
but I have also wanted to get this experience off my chest for a long time. uni applications weighed down on me so much during the process, and in the months after finding out the results as well. I felt like a total disappointment - to my family, to all who have supported me and my academic career, and to myself most of all.
first, thinking on it, I definitely didn't put enough work and preparation into my application and into myself as I could have during that time. I am absolutely at fault here, but I choose not to blame myself too harshly for that. circumstances I faced then aligned to make high school tough in many ways, though sometimes that happens - that's life, and the only thing I can do is learn from it and move forwards.
which is why I'm making this video - I'm letting go of the negative feelings surrounding this event. this is a thing that happened, and it's been a year, and I'm learning from it and moving on!
and for you too; if you're in the same or similar situation, I feel ya.
really, I do.
you're thinking and going through a lot, - but let me just tell you - life will move on. there are so many other bright, good things to see and explore. college is just college, and there's so much more beyond that.
this was literally almost the worst case scenario for me a year ago, and it happened, and I'm still living life and exploring so much! I am thankful for this experience though, and for all that it's taught me.
I hope you can get something from this video too, and as always,
thanks for being here :)
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chapters!
00:00 intro
00:48 preface; be water, my friend
01:12 exposition
02:24 uni stats
02:43 what colleges I applied to
03:04 applying + my high school life
06:50 nut dealer
06:57 on applying to 'fit in'
08:41 things I could've done better
09:00 1. plan in advance.
09:20 2. research.
10:31 3. delulu ain't the solulu
12:05 4. take chances! (make mistakes. and get messy!)
12:16 ethos
12:38 intermission; montage w mildly sad piano
13:29 and we're back, 4. pt. 2
13:53 uni review!
14:55 things I did
15:29 stunt break
15:44 on friendships :)
17:09 flexing on u
17:19 of ski racing and this semester
19:40 one last reminder
20:10 for incoming college freshmen
20:58 bye!!
21:36 asmr bonus ;)
This is so real. Even though i didn’t get into my dream school(UPenn), I got into some really good universities like Gtown, Tufts, and Swarthmore, but i wasn’t able to pay because of the financial aid and I’m going to one of my target schools. Im so grateful to have even been accepted anyway though, and I definitely learned a lot from tjis process. This video is a gem thank you 🙏
Congratulations on going to one of your target schools and on your acceptances!!! Thank you for being here :) wishing you all the best 💪
@@chiplock8927My sister didnt get into her dream ivy for medicine. She got into honors college for rutgers instead. If she went to the ivy, it would be way more competitive and she would be less likely to get into grad school for medicine. God has a plan for u! Everything happens for a reason❤ So keep your head high and smile😃
Real
Girl, you are so freaking real. Let me tell you, you might not be at an Ivy, but you have something that most people don't get until way later in life (if at all) - head on your shoulders, feet on the ground, and perspective. Are you going to make more videos? Because I subbed!
I love this comment
Thank you so much for your kindness, I really appreciate it!!! making more videos for fun is the plan :)
I don't fucking know how this landed on my feed , but on the most needed time . I'm not from the US I'm not applying for Universities there but I'm also questioning what I'll do if I don't get into my dream University. I gave up. 4 years of my life for and you words are an absolute gift thank you so much ❤
good luck with everything!! wishing you the best :)
Everything happens for a reason. When one door is closed, God opens up another, a better one to keep you moving forward. Life is about ups and downs.
Winners pick themselves up after getting knocked down and do not dwel in the past.
It's not the first school you go to that's important, but the last one. Thanks for sharing to help others, especially those that share similar experiences ❤😊.
As a 55yo father of identical twins who will be applying to schools this summer, I am scared to death hoping my kids can make it through the college application and decision process unscathed 😮. My biggest concern is that one gets in to their ideal school, but the other doesn't even though both have same academic achievements.
I hope it turns out well for your children and good luck for their application process!! It can definitely be a stressful time for both kids and parents but having good support and clear communication helps to reassure both sides, in my experience :) hope this video helped in some small way!
What a real vid man, I get where ur coming from. I was basically in the same situation in hs almost to the tee, and also got a lot of waitlists and rejects. It's a hard thing to deal with and tbh idk if I'm still over it, but you just gotta keep going on and push through. College is rly what you make of it (idk I just had my first year). Convert all the knowledge from scrolling to making yt videos, it'll help. Good luck with everything!
thanks dude, I appreciate it!! same for you as well, good luck 💪
I think even the strongest most dedicated candidates could have had similar results as you. I think the issue was really that you only applied to HIGHLY HIGHLY selective schools. If you could have applied to more it would have been fine- you could’ve added more targets, safeties etc. I don’t think it’s about you not doing enough, I think it was your strategy and your counselor should’ve advised you to add more safeties
I agree with your point; looking back I think I could have tried going deeper into research for other less well known schools for my major that would have hit the safety / target categories (at the time I wasn’t as much attracted by those options). Thanks for your thoughts and for watching!
Thank you soo much for this video. i love your transparency. Im almost in the same position since i couldn’t do well on my entrance a month ago and i was heartbroken because i couldnt get into my dream school. But after taking some time to calm down and after watching your video i felt better, im grateful to you for that. Ive started to give other exams as well, hopefully to make it to some community college. I wish you all the good things in this world! Keep up the good work 🤍
im literally like you always using yt and not focusing more. im so convinced to now work harder
I’ve binged your vids and I love your style and voice (both literal voice and how you present ur vid) so much
Keep killing it
Gosh I’m so like you😢Super useful and touchy advices !
Bro, such a real vid. I shared a lot of the same circumstances that u described. Someone like you will do great wherever you are, and I’m happy to see ur success! I went from feeling lost as a person when high school ended three years ago to getting accepted to ucla as a transfer this year. I think a lot of us gain the same thing through this process and our struggles, which is perspective. Wishin u continued success, this vid was awesome!!! ❤❤
thanks dude :)) congratulations on your transfer! 🥂 I’m glad you got to somewhere you hopefully feel good and wishing you success & continued happiness for your future!!
Good video for those who fell and needed to pick themselves up to continuo the race. Interesting way of capturing your audience attention by moving around!
You also have the option to transfer to another college but if you have already found fulfillment at your current place then kudos to you! You can always start a new chapter of your life at another college for graduate study. Time is still on your side and the choices are only limited by your imagination. Good luck and please continue to share your evolving story.
I just want to say thank you for making this video. I have been stressing out over college stuff and I have trying to calm myself down and know that getting rejected from my dream school will not be the end of the world, but it has been hard. Its just comforting in a way to see that hey people DON'T just drop off the face of the Earth if they don't get into huge colleges like my subconscious has been telling me! I really appreciate your perspective on it and i hope that you know that you are lovely and awesome and exactly what I needed right now. Thank you.
I’m really thankful to hear that, I hope everything goes well for you! Thank you for being here :)
Such a good video. I love how honest you are about college admissions. girl i am literally in your shoes right now. I am in 8th grade, but i just felt like i have tons of work to do(even though i don't have lots of homework to do). I suffer with friendship, family problem, and mental problems to. I procrastinate a lot but it just become a habits of me :((( i watched your videos and i felt like this is my future. I once used to be so wonderful in my early age around elementary school i was the golden kid who can do anything and good at anything. But now i'm just fallen behind, seeing other people succeed in their academic.
Hey girl, in the same grade as you. I feel the exact same way! I don't know what to do anymore. I mean I have been preparing early for college by studying hard, working hard on extracurriculars, and planning my own projects (some of which are really personal to me and which I actually want to do). I even got with non-profits!. But still, people around me make me feel like everything I do is wrong and I am just so tired. I want somebody who is not biased toward me to look at my portfolio and the things I got and tell me whether I am good enough :(
My son got into WashU in St. Louis last year. I was extremely surprised to see how comparative college admission has become over the years. Not only my son had put enormous amount of efforts, but also costed a lot of money too. I only went to the state schools for undergrad and dental school back in 90s. One of my classmates back in dental school told me her boyfriend didn't do well in high school so he ended up going to a community college. From there, he began working harder and transferred to a 4-year college. He ended up getting Ph.D from MIT. So you might have a slow and late start but there are plenty of time and opportunities to excel. Just require a lot of persistent work for a long time.
You are going to do great in college! Be proud of yourself. It sounds like you persevered through some difficult circumstances.
Thank you so much :) I really appreciate it!
thanks for such a deep talk on this topic. very refreshing to hear from the typical college admission videos / stats. you're super well spoken and have a great aptitude about life and growing i can tell... talking about connections with people who will give deeper meaning to life and finding yourself. good luck and I wish you the best!
btw you should keep doing these videos I enjoy hearing you talk and i'm sure many others do too you genuinely have a way of speaking and interacting with the camera
thank you so much! that means a lot :) wishing you the best too!! (please don’t drink more bleach 🚱)
@@chiplock8927 LMAO thanks for the throwback
damn i'm obsessed with your channel, subscribed! love the vids. made me smile and feel like everything's gonna be okay :)
i'm a freshman in high school, and watching this video calmed my heart
Wonderful vid!!! So true, so raw and so sad. If only everyone watched it
You're right to get it off your chest and continue being the best you :)
how come nobody stopped you from applying to 9 reaches and 1 safety?
wow...this was so comforting. i am soon gonna be in my last year of highschool and i feel so lost and defeated already? but your video really gave me the motivation and the comfort needed to get myself together. thank you 🥺💗
Cheering for you, good luck!! 🍀
girl , same here , but don't be sad our time will come.
for sure 🦾 all the best for everything
Fun, creative, introspective video. Job well done! My son did sort of the opposite of you. He mostly focused on safety schools that was within WUE (Western Exchange state tuition). He was a good student but not those brainiac types. I wish he tried for a ‘reach’ school just to see if it was possible but in the end he made the correct choice getting the scholarship, school and major he wanted. It’s not a brand name school but he is proud to be there. They have a great philosophy and great facilities and they successfully crank out engineers that are easily and quickly hired right out of college.
Random note: Jason Momoa went to high school in Iowa and he really loves it there.
Congratulations to your son and thank you for watching! And I didn’t know that previously about Jason Momoa, thanks for sharing 😁
Thanks for your video. My daughter will do the college application process in coming fall.
Good luck to her! 🍀 Thank you for watching, I do appreciate it.
im not even in america or planning on a traditional university path and im freshman age but this was a good wakeup call after a year off education anyway thank youu
I’m a very high achieving rising high school senior who currently has absolutely no idea what to do for college. I PROBABLY have the stats to get into at least one ivy or other prestigious university, but honestly I’m having trouble justifying paying a quarter million dollars to go to one when I could go to a state school for free (I got national merit in Texas). Seeing the people one grade above me get into all the big schools and bragging about it on instagram makes me a bit nervous, like maybe I have to get into one of these to be worth something. It also just feels like a waste to work so hard in high school just to go to a college that I probably could have gotten into by coasting. I feel like many of these schools are useful for boosting self esteem like you said, but not much else; you can get a good education almost anywhere, and you can get connections (if you work hard enough) almost anywhere. Regardless, being in a friend group of Asians who think that a “good college” is all that matters puts a lot of pressure on me to conform. In my opinion, it takes a lot of maturity to look away from the ivies as a successful student, and even if you didn’t do it by choice (ie you got rejected), it could end up helping you in the end.
To anyone who read this far: we all feel it, we can get through this together. A bunch of old guys who run a expensive country club school should not determine your self worth 🫶
American high schoolers thinking they’re high achieving is funny 😭😭
i dont know what ur aspirations are but as someone who is currently a phd student and had similar thoughts back in undergrad, let me tell u that high school and undergrad is only an incredibly small piece of ur life's puzzle. Its not the end all be all, and believe me that u will have multiple chances during undergrad to "course correct" ur trajectory (but only if ur unsatisfied with it, ofc)
♥️ enjoy
Iowa's Writer's Workshop is literally the most prestigious creative writing program in the country. How is this a disappointment again?
Bc the workshop is grad school and she was accepted to undergrad which is still good but not the same thing
@@maya.hernan05 I’m aware that’s a grad program. But we really think the teaching and resources don’t trickle down? I don’t know how much the focus on 84% admissions is genuine. But I found this fact conveniently omitted.
Hey Emily, it’s true that the undergraduate program for sure benefits from some of the resources and teachers that the University of Iowa’s Writers’ Workshop hosts! (I got to meet Carmen Maria Machado first semester :0) I’m not really sure what you mean by the «conveniently omitted focus » on the 84% (86% during my application year) acceptance rate, though I’d be grateful if you could elaborate on it
@@chiplock8927 U of Iowa is a top 5 writing program no matter who you ask, what list you look at. The suggestion is to focus and highlight the half of the glass that is full for yourself and your audience.
is there a reason you avoided unis with a 30-60% acceptance rate? i feel like your application strategy was make or break but then idk cause i’m not from the US
you’re absolutely right, I was thinking pretty much on the « all or nothing » track when applying - added w the application limit of 10 I only thought about attending those more selective schools. of course, I did consider schools in the range you mentioned but I was more drawn to Iowa anyways than the others I looked at
@@chiplock8927 yeah fair, the 10 school application limit would be a constricting factor.
creative writing major at university of iowa! that sounds so fun
It is!!! Really looking forward to continuing :) if you’re considering it I’d definitely recommend! Thank you for watching !!
this one is getting a sub
I'm going to apply for unis next school year and when u said to think of the unis at least the summer before I kinda laughed cuz I've been thinking bout them and doing tons of research bout them since I was 8 but I still have no idea which ones I want to apply to😔
You still have time, try not to stress too much imo :) campus visits are great for helping get the vibes of a place and seeing if you’d actually wanna live there I’ve heard, otherwise I’d say go with your gut feeling.
Take it from an extremely underachieved person who is an academic failure:
I know I could have gone Ivy if I had really applied myself, but I didn't. You know that about yourself too, right? Ivy is only Ivy because of sports. Prestigious schools partner with state Unies ell the time on vital research. Do well at a state Uni and try for grad school. At the end of the day, if you have what it takes to contribute to your school, whichever school you go to, it will be you writing the papers, it will be you making your school look good.
Bring the prestige to the school you go to and make them proud to teach you!
Much love.
I’m in the same boat, I got waitlisted from EVERY place I applied
How come your HS only allows students to apply to 10 schools?
Why did you only apply to 10 schools?
Please give more stats and ecs. There are people that got into these schools with a 3.89 and 5s in 7 aps is great not lazy! What sat and extracurriculars?
I got a 1490 on the SAT my first try which I didn’t submit in the end, and I didn’t retake the test. I was somewhat active in other extracurriculars, including being leader of a couple clubs for my school
It depends person to person and school to school tbh. The top 10 at my public school all have 4.7-4.8 from 18+ APs and dual enrollments. Because they all apply to georgia tech and emory as targets/safeties, it makes it harder for people with 4.0 gpas to get in. 3 kids in my grade got 1600s this year so the bar was kinda high 😭 Every application is different and essays matter!! don’t stress it
why did ur schools only let u apply to 10???
mate my school only let me apply to 5 lmao
@@kad9449 why is there a limit lol? how does ur school limit it??
@@tank2879 just school policy, the reasoning was they wanted students to focus only on the schools that appealed most to them and also not to stress out too much n go crazy applying to everything in sight. hope that helps !
@@chiplock8927 how was it enforced? What a laughable requirement.
What major does the "student" want to study? Apply to the Universities with the best programs for the aforementioned major. Said another way, show me an engineering major who attends Harvard and I will show you a fool. If you do not know what you want to major in, then go to community college. By the end of Sophomore year, these young people will wake up to the fact that "college" is a business.
You would be wise to treat it as such before entering the transaction.
applying to only ivy league schools is a terrible idea... you should've applied to some safety schools like arizona state or florida state
yep I would’ve changed some things for sure about my application looking back, I was looking for schools that had a bigger focus on/were more reputed for my major specifically, but thank you for your input!
It depends which universities you applied for… go for Harvard Stanford good luck. Go state universities!!
i like you
can you teach me how to be secure with moles on my face? you seem very mature
I’ve never thought of my moles as more than just part of my face haha 😄 they’re part of me and I like them because they’re unique « beauty marks », as some people call them. Other spins I’ve heard on moles are constellation patterns on one’s face, or marks where a lover kissed you in a past life (that ones from insta reels lol)🫣 but I hope that helped in some small way and thank you for being here!
Moles are beautiful, sometimes i forget i have one bc i always see it and think it’s normal. it’s a beautiful part of u ‼️
It's the same for me.
Wishing you the best 💪 keep fighting!
Whts wrong with community colleges
Nothing at all!
I wanna be simpatethic but 8 out of the ten universities you applied to where like reach reach you prolly shoul have applied to more targets. I don't know you in real life and im not in your head so literally take what I said with the tinest grain of salt and I wish ou the best in your future endeavors.
I agree with you haha, looking back I would’ve changed some things but thank you for watching and for your input! Wishing you all the best too :)
Pls get a better mic 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 hella relatable content tho
LMAO ok noted 👌I’ll see what I can do
i love this style of video, cant wait for ur next one haha
Charlotte you’re an amazing person and I’m so glad you ended up with us at Uiowa. And I’m not giving you back 🥸
Thanks Maya!!! don’t worry, the return policy on yours truly is happily null :)