Finding someone else attractive while in a committed relationship?! | Hush Podcast
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- Have you ever found yourself thinking, "That person's pretty cute," only to be hit with the internal debate: Is it okay to feel attracted to others while committed to someone else? Inevitably, the nagging doubt surfaces: Does this attraction signify a lack of devotion to my partner? These moments can make you question your commitment and stir up some uncomfortable feelings.
Understanding the realities of human desires and learning to navigate them with conscious choices and a balanced perspective is crucial for enduring relationships. In this episode of Hush, we delve into the uncomfortable side of human desire, exploring how to navigate it constructively within the confines of a relationship.
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0:32 Thoughts on topic of the day
2:30 Is liking your ex's Instagram crossing the line?
3:44 Would you tell your partner if you find someone attractive?
6:34 Dealing with temptations: self aware v/s self control
7:50 Stats and facts on temptation
10:03 What if an attractive person flirts with you?
11:35 Being honest about your past relationships
12:18 Boundaries for temptations
12:46 Ashley Madison extra-marital affairs and cheating
16:23 Making relationships exciting. What to do when the romance dies out?
22:22 Inventory Stock Take in relationships
23:05 Handling uncomfortable thoughts
28:25 Bonus clip
Featuring:
Hazelle - / heyhihazelle
Germaine - / germaineleonora
Azura - / azuragoh
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19:16 That only becomes a serious question if you believe and define love as a feeling, an emotion. For me, love isn't just a feeling, whether momentary or something lasting weeks, months, years. Love, for me personally, is a decision and a commitment. A daily decision to commit to the person that I have chosen to spend a lifetime with, come what may. That has always been how I've approached all my past relationships and a previous marriage. I've never been the one to initiate a break as I see every difficulty encountered as just another opportunity for my partner and I to grow and bond.
See only, no action. I think we are personally accountable for how we act. We are all wired towards finding what we deem attractive and the next good thing (arguably even more so when you are attached because of the contrast vs your current partner who is now your stable, 'boring' everyday), so the temptation is always there. But that's what the thing between the ears is for, those in a committed relationship, one needs to establish and keep to physical boundaries and especially emotional boundaries with the other sex. Similar thoughts for idols, it's mostly fine unless it's to the point of obsession. Also, I've read experiences of couples who share with their partner when they spot attractive people they know their partners find attractive and point them out to each other, I think that's pretty cute and healthy too. We all will feel abit jealous la, that one can't deny, it's different for every couple. But I think it's important to communicate too, as what our partner feels matters equally.
Edit: Agree on the regular check-ins, the point raised on active listening and holding space. Personally, I place being able to talk about difficult topics pretty highly, since in my experience, a lot of people tend to get defensive or just shut off. Overall I'd say this video has pretty good coverage of my pre-watching/listening thoughts and more.
28:36 same same for the girls 😂
Agree with the practice of couples sharing with their partner on who they think their partner might find attractive. Me and my wife do it all the time.
You don't want to be in a relationship where a VS model walks by and the male partner have to answer "not pretty" when his mind and body says otherwise. That's toxic.
My ex of 7 years cheated on me with my housemate, but the reason for breaking up was “I felt like I was treating you more and more like family and not as a partner, hence I don’t feel intimate with you”, half a year has passed now and I’m still dumbfounded by that gaslighting sentence
WHAT?! 😡
many podcasts and I've always told myself 'i'm def Germaine'. this podcast just seals it la. i'm def Germaine. she speaks my views and thoughts haha
28:36 let's be honest. You wouldn't like it if it was the other way around. Your guy telling you that another girl flirted with him. You will be pissed off.
agree
There's a documentary on the Ashley Madison issue. The founder is a guy, no surprise there, and the documentary also discovered that about 90%, if I remember correctly, of the women were fake. They were all bots created by the system to attract people to subscribe. Apparently, the founder is still trying to revive it or start something similar.
17:28 Sure there are alot of couples are like that(no S* for M/Y or since 1st/2nd/3rd child), maybe you can start an episode on how to improve the situation. It’s will be informative for any couples are experiencing it. Due to the busy lifestyle/stress level in Singapore or any parts of the world, it’s gd that couple can acknowledge and find ways to improved and save their marriage.
My favourite podcast ❤❤❤
Azura is my crush 😍😍😍
Hrmm depends on what kind of photos was shared eg if it’s like some milestones photo the attractive person shared honestly I don’t think it’s an issue
If find the other party attractive but don’t click like in ig? Hahaha we won’t ever know 😢
If we r always trying our best to stand up for everything,
In the end we stand up for nothing😂😂😂
I think is normal to find someone attractive, but I don’t think Is ok to be attacked to the person 😂
A wise man once said.....
Women are only decent because they have yet to taste temptation....
My name is Jeff >.
though im a chicken person, who say i cannot like fish
Men: don’t fall for this trap
What instagram liking??😂😂 u need a checkup seriously
This see through piece isn't very flattering on Azura. Just some feedback #fyi to her styling team. The numerous folds on her tummy are explicitly glaring (and kinda spilling out). That said, if she is entirely comfortable with this look and doesn't mind it at all ... then it's fine. Just offering some feedback from my (and several others') perspective.
Got numerous folds? U know how to count? I only see 1. When someone sit down naturally will have a fold over the top hem of skirt? U dk meh? Explicitly glaring? To who? You ah? Who's the "several others" you talking about?
seems like someone’s obsessed with azura. past comments all about her and her personal life too 😂. dude leave her alone, stop the harassment, it’s getting freaky.
also, i don’t see “numerous folds”, i think it’s bold and beautiful.
@@cloud096 i'm female :) No intention to harass. Don't be so insecure.
Simply offering genuine feedback to online content. If you're going to be putting your faces and your lives out so openly, then it's completely fair to expect criticism. If you want every one to love your content and say nothing about things they feel are unpleasant / unflattering, then you should take yourself off the online sphere :)
@@k.k.w.2024 wow coming from a female… i gotta say im surprised… well i hope you be kinder to yourself fellow stranger. seeing the way you’re so harsh and critical on other people’s bodies - “numerous folds”, “explicitly glaring” 😅and expecting other people to share their personal life when it’s honestly nothing to do with you…. well i can only say i hope you find peace with yourself and maybe something more with your life as well 😂. just wanna say I’m offering my “genuine feedback” to an online comment too. Hope you take it well too, cheers!
As a guy, I would like to encourage this type of dressing pls..