You Don't Lose People, You 'Return' Them
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- čas přidán 1. 05. 2024
- Are you grieving over the end of a relationship or friendship? You don't lose people, you return them...
Life is a series of comings and goings, and sometimes, people who were once a significant part of your journey may drift away. But here's a profound perspective: you don't necessarily lose them; you return them to the universe in a different way.
#selfhelp #personalgrowth #motivation #love
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The loss of a friend or close relationship can be painful, but you're not alone. Hope this video offer guidance and support to help you heal from heartache.
hi psych2go !!!
This deeply resonated with me today.
A very close childhood friend moved away without a goodby and left me feeling hurt and resentful.
So instead of reacting, I will honor the good memories, wish her well and leave the door open to a hopeful reconnection in the future.
Thank you!
Thanks for this important message
I needed this.
God placed this in front of me, it’s what I needed to hear, making it a little easier to let go of the past. God bless y’all 🙏
I always tell people, life is like a bus ride, some people get off at a particular stop, others get on at another stop. Very few people are going to be there with you from the first stop to the last stop.
And even then it's likely that for them you will be the one getting off the bus.
Brilliant...I'm gonna write that down.ty
Absolutely so true. Doesn't mean I fell out with them. I wish all those people the best that God will give them. Every one of these people, I desperately miss them. I pray God draws them unto Him!
No way it's Bus that is driven by Ambatukhan
I may even take this analogy further. You won’t know it at the time but sometimes you just have to get multiple busses to your final destination too.
There isn’t always a direct bus. Maybe you get stuck in traffic and a faster, better option becomes available or it had a metaphorical “breakdown” and you had to transfer each bus gets you closer to your final destination.
It’s like to a relationship. Ideally you’d find the perfect partner on the first journey and go to the end but if not, you’re in a closer position at the end and you’ve learnt along the way what to do better on the next ride.
Timestamps
1). Rethinking farewells 1:09
2). The treasures of shared moments 1:43
3). Navigating the winds of change 2:15
4). New hellos and beginnings 2:51
5). Returning to ourselves 3:28
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
So true - the more we try to control anything - the more it controls us ... Huge life lesson
I lost someone very dear to me and it was my fault. It took a long time to realize the damage I did to them. I've grown over the years and if you really love someone, you love them no matter how many years are passing by... i don't know if I will ever see them again, but the love we shared shall forever live on in my memories. This person is free to go wherever he wants to, I hope one day we will see each other again ❤
I’ve noticed there’s a pattern in narcissists they go from admiring the person , to devaluing the person to discard the person , i seen something about it on the internet and now i see it in my everyday life , it’s so very true that all narcissists think the same and therefore should be returned smh !!!!
This came at the perfect time for me. It made me cry. My friend needed me to help out with her house and her dogs. When I could no longer be there for them due to life circumstances, they discarded me. Bur this video helped me understand I am not the only one who has gone through this. Thank you so much😢❤
THANK YOU,MY EXACT THOUGHTS…This is how narcissists think,I wish a mf WOULD say they “returned” me,ok then “buy” “rent” “check me out” again.
Once you see evil, you cannot unsee it and you realize many people practice what was tought to them instead of becoming better and overcoming it. It's tragic.
@@sharonselvidge8307 why do you feel like you are owed something just because you helped out with animals?It should be normal to want to help out with animals even if the people youre helping out with are complete strangers. You just made yourself look like a selfish person that believes everything should benefit you
Thats what i do everytime and and then ask why nobody loves or be freind with me 👀
As someone diagnosed with BPD, this video really hit close to home, my friendships and relationships never last that long because I'm so afraid of losing other people that I end up just pushing them apart, I'm still trying to work on having a healthier look on the people surronding me, and this channel has really helped me a lot
Thank you
You dont sound like someone that has BPD especially considering what games you play.You are either lying or youve been 'self diagnosed'
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
"Thank them for stopping by in your life"
If only they'd let me thank them
Thank them in your heart. Do it for yourself, not for them - they don't have to hear it.
I struggle with letting go of people who threaten my wellbeing. I find myself replaying events, reflecting on my decisions, questioning if I should have done them, imagining what would happen if I see them again.
I’ve done a lot of research about how to ‘gracefully let go’ as this video puts it and stop overthinking and replaying things, but this video certainly speaks to me more than the other guides I’ve come across. I think I needed this, and that I need to watch it over and let the messages sink in. Thankyou
I think my issue is I don't get attached to people any more because I can't form close relationships to them. They just move on and forget me really quickly. I get numb to my feelings for people and it's horrible. I was wishing I had anyone in my life to care about. Then maybe I realised it was better to try and work on the relationships with those closest to me, my immediate family, because I know they'll always be there for me through thick and thin, even if we've been dysfunctional in the past, it all takes work. In the end I didn't have to look far to be loved, I just had to put a bit more effort in closer to home and not take my loved ones for granted.
thank you for the video ❤
refusing a hug or kiss from someone you love & them respecting that is just as beautiful if not more than actually having received it
"Any love they made you to feel is yours to keep because you created that"
Broke up from a 7 year relationship a month ago. The first love. The love of my life. My everything. I thought I'll never be able to love someone because all the love I had, I gave it to him. Now there's no love left for another person. But the quote made me realise I might be wrong.
The transfer of love from one person to another maybe difficult. But the love is still there.
I really get affected when people I used to be close with just grow apart and fade away, returning to strangers once again. I've first felt this loss during high school, when after graduation the people I'm close to just have straight up become strangers. This theme has recurred in every stage in my life. What I've learned is that you really should try to build deeper relationships with others and hopefully, some will stick with you for longer of if fortunate, till the end.
This showing up right when im "losing" a friend lmao maybe it's the right thing to do
This resonated so well with me. I recently let go of a 6-year long friendship. The reason is simple enough…our values changed and so did we. When opinions began to get in the way of listening, trust was broken. I’ve made a gratitude list to remember our love and friendship (along with pictures) ❤ In the process of letting go with grace and looking forward….
I’m really happy that this video popped up. I just ended a friendship I’ve had for almost nine years a couple of days ago. It hurts but I know that it was the right choice. I still wish her the best
Cried uncontrollably from start to finish..
This video maked me cry.
A lot of people I used to be attached to has walked out of my life, and almost always, I thank them for the journey, the joy and the experience I had with them. I got really good at it over the years.
But there is one person I can't let go. I don't know, why, but I can't let him go, even if I want to
Maked ❌️
Made ✅️
I would like yo share a story here:
I have a friend. We are longdistance online friends. I love them, platniically and romantically. Lately they have pulled away from me more and more. I noticed it long before they ghosted me. I spoke to them about it, but they denied it.
I tried to get them to talk to me. They have ghosted me for 6 days now. I was crying a bit before I watched this video.
I will try to heal and just... let them go. Maybe they will come back, maybe not. I need to focus on my well being now and cherish the chapter we had.
I wish it happened after their birthday, because I already got a few things for them 😂
I know there are people out there who feel the same/similar as I do. Alone, wondering what happened, questioning themselves and their actions and so on.
You will be okay ... as will I
This channel always have to upload when I need it the MOST.. Whenever I’m having an issue with my life this channel is like a mind reader, like an event tracker!!! The videos always come at the right time, keep up the work :))
seriously though, i just came out of a relationship but we’re still friends but at this point it feels like it’s too much and i need to cut it off but felt like i couldn’t, but i think this video seriously helped at exactly the right time
I love this video! I’ve been actively mourning the loss of one of my bff’s/extended family. She didn’t pass on, she divorced her abusive husband & had to move away. I’m a big proponent of Stoicism’s focus on only what you can do to for yourself, but I miss our great closeness. I’ve been battling mental illness for the past 25 years & change is so difficult at times, but I’ve learned to trust the Universe. Thank you for all of your informative vids.
Me with attachment issues: *NUH UH* 🐟💀
I met a girl who i really liked, i found out she liked me back, i dont mean this as a little highschool crush either, this is the only time ive ever felt true love. Sadly, i had to move away and we came to the conclusion a long distance relationship wouldnt work.
We're still sorta in contact as friends but it hurts still, even almost 7 months later, ill probably always wonder what could have been.
Somehow, I still miss the one who got away, no matter how thankful I am for her.
This is why Life is so mesmerizing because it constantly changes you learn to appreciate life because of it and although letting go of people you value may be the hardest thing it's also the most eye-opening thing that will happen in your life because it shows that life is everywhere the weather,the land, evolution is the biggest clue because although we go through different phases of our lives we always leave a part of ourselves no matter what happens we will always change for better or worse because change mean growth and growth means you're the same person but better because you learned that change is just the world saying "You are going to become someone incredible just hold my hand and follow me"
Omg ❤❤❤❤❤
All easier said then done. It's not so easy to let go of the past when there is nothing to look forward too in the future
Well actually there is, it's called hope :)
@@Cherry_picked00 I apreciate the optimisme but i'm afraid my hope is in very dwindeling supply at the moment.
This video came out the day my dad passed away. I've been spending the past week and change with family reminiscing on what he's done not just for us, but for all of the people in his long life. He'd been a stroke victim for 20 years and 18 weeks, so while we always knew our time with him was borrowed, we also never fully processed the loss from all those years ago because he was still there. He was so immensely kind and talented that it's not even a matter of philosophy that the best way to carry on from him leaving is to be inspired to be better people ourselves. Plus, whether you're Christian like most of my family, or a skeptic agnostic like myself that has a hard time seeing past the real, figuring out that him leaving our lives as he came into our lives doesn't mean that he's disappeared, his influence and memory remaining is the kind of comfort he would want for us as he goes back to where he came from.
At least we learned that love has a price to pay. Even if it hurts, thank you for making us know what love is like.
When you love, love mindfully. When you break up, break up mindfully. Then we'll never regret it because we did our best. Make sure that you always do everything with grace and then leave gracefully. There will be no feeling of being owed anything to anyone.
My experience: Try to keep a friendship/relationsship alive _through force_ ends always in suffering
I'm really curious why the videos lately are too much relatable to my strugglings in life. thanks for existing psych2
This hits differently when you think about your relationships with immediate family.
It seems like every day the scenery is different- mountains, snow, fields- you've seen such a variety. And the towns ate gorgeous- such history
كل الذين أحبتتهم غادرو بكامل إرادتهم
حاولت أن أحافظ على الصداقة , على الحب , لكنهم غادرو ... لقد تعلمت من هذا و بعد مراحل عدة و وجع نفسي أن لا يجب علي أن أتعلق بالأشخاص كلهم راحلون ... ف أنا أيضا رحلت عني لم أعد أعرفني
This came out in the best time possible. Thank you.
The timing of this video is impeccable. Thank you for this video today.
Thanks psych2go, valuable information👍🏻
I needed this right now.... Thank you 🥹
Interesting perspective! It's a refreshing way to think about relationships that have run their course. It’s not losing, it’s returning and making room for new growth. Thanks for sharing!
This is so simple yet so true. We already know so much, we just have to be open to remembering. #onelove
Thank you for this 🙏🏼💕
this video comes at the right time for me. A few years ago I became an online friend with a guy from other country, and we've spent every single day since then talking and sharing everything, even planning things for when he will come to my country next year. But I've realised he spends more time time chatting with others now and he even let me know that he's tired of the way he treats me -greeting me every morning or saying goodnight when we're about to sleep or replying to me all the time (things that I never asked him to do but he got me used to). Also, he went through some trouble with his best friend, but even though she deliberately hurted him, he decided to forget it all and he's happy to have her closer to him again.
It's really hard for me to stand that I'm not an important friend any more, and the worst part is that he denies the way he's putting this distance between us, he blames me for everything, so he feels he didn't do anything wrong. So, I think I'd better stay out of his life. At this moment I feel so sad that I'm not even interested in meeting him next year when he'll come to my country. I don't feel him as my friend anymore, now he's just an aknowledge.
What a marvellous take on such a difficult topic, outdone yourselves once again Psych2Go!
Thank you so much for this video.
Always the perfekt timing of your videos
Yes, be scared of losing yourself🙏🏻
This made my day
Exactly, what I was thinking for my past relationships, thank you❤
Thank you for this amazing reminder 🙏😭💜
I value everyone I spent time with in my life. What they've taught me lives on in all I do. The time is more precious than the people. We only have so much time. People come and go. How much is the time you spent with them worth to you, is between you and your Gods/self...
Thank you at the moment i was struggling with these thoughts and stress but now i should accept the fact that it's time to let them go even if that person used to be my best friend
Man this couldn't have been posted at a better time. My best friends who I've known since 3rd grade are all graduating, but since I fell back a year and didn't want to do summer schooling, now they're gonna be graduating. I knew it was coming, but now that its coming close I'm a bit scared to say goodbye.
Thank you for this video. It helped me a lot
I needed this.
Developed feelings in the last few years for a girl that is a long time friend of mine (17 years). Unfortunately when I confessed it was not mutual or she ''wasn't ready'' as she said.
I don't want to loose this friendship either, it hurts so bad to pretend I can just turn the page on those feelings for her. 😢
You are wherever you're meant to be, and meet people by mere coincidence, cultivating and growing together.
😔Perfect timing💔
Please can I have a pin! To everyone who reads this you are amazing and even tho I don’t know you I’m sure your a great person and you deserve the best ❤❤❤ god bless you
Stop begging,you don’t mean any of what you wrote,you just want the attention. You’re too late to be “FIRST 😀” so your thing is to write a super kind Ned Flanders comment and ASKING to be pinned? Gtfoh,if we see it,we’ll see it.
I kind of disagree that having people leave your life (excepting death) is normal. Sure it is normal in today's society, but in pre-historic times if someone left they would have to physically move to a different tribe. This would have happened occasionally, but not even close to the extent that we have it today. I think that a lot is lost by not prioritizing connections with other people. Sure, we have to deal with this in today's society, but I think a lot of people let a connection go without realizing its positive impact, without considering how they can modify it so the connection still exists as much as it can positively.
I’m very thankful for the time we’ve shared together. I do miss you, and I guess that’s something I’ll have to deal with for the rest of my life. Although I wish things would’ve turned out differently, in retrospect I can see why things happened the way they did. Like I told you, maybe one day our paths will cross again. I still believe this, but if they don’t well it is what it is. Life will always go on
Oh my yes!!!❤❤❤
Yup! They were always a gift. During the time of grieving, Islamic tradition says: inna lillayhi wa inna ilayhi raji'un (To God we belong and unto Him is our return )
You don’t return gifts,you return rentals
@@sadetwizelvelife is a rental then.
@@technicallyright16 how? You can rent something over again,you can't rent life again. Even if you believe in reincarnation,you don't choose what you want or when or for how long. How is it a rental?
Yea, I'll probably never learn this... when someone very important leaves me, I feel like a part of me has died and all memories of that person bring more pain than joy. I can't make sense of something that's over and enjoy the memories. Due to these constant changes, I cannot identify myself, define myself... I no longer know who or what I am.
But yea, maybe in another life..
Too many people in my life, I’ve lost… like tears in the rain.
Thank you ❤🫂
Deep... very deep psych2Go🙂🙂
Yay first comment I love your videos!
Yay! Thank you!
Huge fan
Thanks!
Thank you for your extra support! We hope this video can help you out!
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I love another such2go
Thank you for your huge love and support in our work! It means so much to us!
I’m just glad you’re making videos it’s been really hard these years and these videos have really helped me to understand how I feel and what’s happening in my life
they always says breakups are hard, I can attest since I was once put in that conundrum, however, I say parting friendships are even harder cause they actually last longer and *sometimes* lead to said relationships, it'd be difficult to look at ending friendships as farewells vs losing them, but that is all indeed relatable
My sister is like this... losing love ones and break ups.... my sister don't like being alone.. so she try to control but the more she tries to control the more she pushes people away..
This is perfect cause I lost my girlfriend six months ago. We broke up. I miss her and still love her. We just had different beliefs and approaches on life and we weren't good for each other. Really wish we could have made it work. :/
I love videos that have to do with psychology, I always use psychology to my own advantage in life. (To be happy)
Philosophy rarely helps deal with the trauma
Wag nang balikan ang nakaraan pa tignan ang kasulukuyan at pahalagahan ang kinabukasan.
Please make a video on GENERALIZED ANXIETY DISORDER... PLEASE 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m having this exact problem rm 😅
stoicism? nice add ❤
I know this might be a bit off context but recently this girl I was friends with had a crush on me I never had anyone like me shes also one of the only girls i really talk to, we both friend zoned each other becuase i truely didnt liked her and it was complicated. She told me before people would stare at her, older people too becuase she had curves. Her ex's where pretty bad,I kinda wanted to help her and i also wanted someone to love since everyone else i know is getting someone while am still alone in my room and i might of like faked my self in believing i loved her. We are still friends and talk, but it feels different, and i felt really bad for it about days, but she just wants to leave it at that, so that's what I am doing.
Once again the timing was oddly right.
4:20 you can’t return time,to return means it was checked out rented and used,you cannot replace or reproduce used time.
I feel the same way when I have to say goodbye to my bestfriend. It's hard for me to let go and not see her.
Adapting is easy... but change is hard 😟
I do tend to let it go but like a boomerang it comes back right in my head at first its like okay its been a while before came back and all the sudden i got hit in the head- and even tho the memories were great i wish we atleast are friends for at least 5 yrs but ofc my chatty mouth ruins everything and my core values i know this is part of life but i hate it i wish i can delete everyhthing abt that person i dont have now just so that i wont go thru hell for the next monts or weeks of pain and guilt i will feel-
feeling in the same boat my friend...
I want the original gentle voice of Psych2go, the voices in their videos lately aren't the same anymore
It all is very wise but on the other hand it sucks a lot for someone who wants emotional bonds with others for a lifetime. >< Losing things in time and accepting it it NOT so easy and not harmful for some...
The timing of this vdo notification is like a knee strike to my ribs.
I loosed my bff,she is the one that left...
:( must be super tough! Hope this video can help you
@@Psych2go thank you..
The truth is you do lose some people. Most people. This is cope and setting you up for future suffering.
Alcohol is the only "friend" that will never leave me...
It's still sad to part ways..
I’m not good with changes to be honest 😥🖐🏻
It would be nice if these lessons were read in both m&f voices. The m voice is much harder to listen to. But thank you.
Please bring back narrator Amanda Silvera
Early again wow
So early this time! :D thanks for being part of the early squad!
I been for long time to see happened Psych2go
well if they were toxic, i aint thankin them for nothing.
Y’all can say “ you return love” but I don’t think that’s the reality. It wouldn’t hurt so much to lose them if it was “a return”
😭😭😭