Thank you for sharing the thoughtful and informed comments! I hope you get all the support you need to have a good experience online. I agree that it’s better that posters consider the impact on the viewer and the example you gave definitely crossed a line where warning was appropriate. Thank you for your good work supporting civil discussion so communities can work towards solutions!
I actually agree with your POV on this. And may I say you surprised me by handling a really tough and delicate topic with maturity and sensitivity. I applaud you for that.
I just bought Skya! Messaged you on insta regarding gender preference. I totally get what you mean on trauma dumping..we all have our thing and trauma dumping literally dumps all of those negative emotions and past experiences onto a stranger who now has to process what the other person has dumped.
I have seen this too and I've had the same feelings about it..i just kept it to myself. ☺️ I never post all my personal stuff in any of my doll groups or my CZcams Channel or my Instagram account. I'm just in it for the beautiful art and the fun of playing with dolls.
I had trauma buying after my sweet Dad passed. Retail therapy was a thing even though I couldn’t and shouldn’t have spent the money. I’m 65 and I never would have imagined I would do retail therapy as I never was a big shopper. I do love my reborn however and I think it did help me. I was a L&D and nursery nurse prior to my heartbreak and the babies really helped. My sweet Dad took his own life and I will feel forever guilty I never imagined hating would happen. I should have known even though I lived in Hawaii and he was in Canada. H passed in 2010 and that was my last baby. Although I would love a new one I cannot afford one. Holding a reborn on my chest makes my dopamine surge and makes me happy. So no real regrets. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ oh yes and empty nest syndrome as my little grandkids moved to Canada.
I think you missed the point of the video because what you just did in this comment was exactly what trauma dumping is and what I don’t think is appropriate.
I think there's a bit of a grey area to this topic. I think the reborn community should be safe place for folks who have experienced trauma. We already get ostracized from the rest of society, this really shouldn't be the place to tell people what to say or what not to say if they feel like sharing anything at all. That being said however, there's a basic rule to posting anything online: the internet is forever. And when making anything public, whether online or in person, everything you say can and WILL be used against you. There are way too many ill intentioned people out there that will weaponize your own trauma against you. And we are never in control of these folks but we can control our own actions and it's always best to keep such anecdotes either private or confined within a safe group of individuals. In any case, just like you said, many people here really do need therapy. And that's obviously not to shame anyone, I struggle with depression and anxiety and that's precisely how I know some people avoid psychologists like the plague.
My point is that shouldn't there be some consent? There are ways to go about sharing trauma in a responsible way. If you find a group of people within the reborn community that are willing to listen and share, that wouldn't be trauma dumping, in my opinion?
@@UniRebornDad and I completely understand your point. What I'm saying is that I wouldn't feel as confident as you do telling people what they should or shouldn't post on their social media. That's really up to the individuals discretion, much less saying that we should report the post (unless they straight up go against community guidelines). I'm sure there's plenty of things you've said that have made other people uncomfortable because that's not the type of things they want to hear when they search for reborn videos on youtube but I doubt you will start censoring yourself for the comfort of others. People have the freedom to express themselves however they choose in their platforms, whether smart or not. When it comes to facebook groups, there should be admins and moderators that approve each post before it goes up and I'm on other hobby groups besides reborns and usually whenever someone is about to post something very deep and personal they start the post with the trigger warning initials (TW) so that whoever is not interested can just keep scrolling which I feel is the best way to go about it when opening up about personal things. Of course, if I were in their shoes I would go about it very differently for safety and privacy concerns...but I'm not in their shoes so I keep to myself. At the end it's not up to you or me to decide what others post on social media, we only have the option to delete what we don't like. There's plenty of stuff online that I don't want to see but still somehow get recommended to me and all I can do is choose what I do or don't engage with.
@@lunamoonursery Not an equal comparison at all, people have a choice whether to click on my videos or my instagram profile. These posts I am referring to are on public buy/sell groups where you wouldn’t know what you may see. People need to be considerate of others at the very least and “nest” the content if it’s graphic.
@@UniRebornDadwell, like I said, there should be moderators for that. Also a list of rules of what is or not allowed to be posted in the group. If those posts exist on those groups it's because the admins or moderators allow it. Different groups have different rules. It's okay for you to feel uncomfortable with those posts but your right ends where someone else's begins. Keep in mind I'm not arguing with you. I really enjoy your videos and your straight-to-the-point way of addressing things. But I'm offering other points of view you might be missing. The internet is as much yours as everyone else's. If these posts are in groups it's because the ones in control allow it to be there. If they are on someone's personal account it's because they have the right to post whatever they want. IF these things were being said to you face to face on a personal conversation then you 100% have the right to tell the other person that you do not feel comfortable with the topic at hand. But as long as we are online there's really no exact way to tell someone "hey, don't share your story because *I* don't want to hear it".
I dont mind if people keep it vague and to the point but if its paragraphs of their life story I dont really want to see/know that! Its just too much! I agree with what youve said here. Especially with the photo!! Yikes! That also would have ruined my day!😯 Everyone has some kind of trauma in their life, but alot of us are just here for the cuteness!!!
When someone says “I have *insert condition* so I should get a free or heavily discounted doll I cringe!!! First off, I’m sure you aren’t the only person with whatever condition you have so you are saying that artists should just give away their dolls aka money simply because you exist? Inappropriate.
I will never understand people that feel the need to air their deeply personal problems to a bunch of strangers. Public spaces are not your safe spaces.
Hello unidad😊, So, this needs to stop! I agree with you! There are other parents who lost their babies who are working hard on going on with their lives and about their days. After losing a loved one there are moments where you don't "actively" think about them. With time these moments become more often and longer. So a grieving mother or father is having a good day is scrolling to look at the babies and BAM! they come across a photo of a poor little one who has passed. Their day is ruined! Post traumatic flashbacks and shock is what such photos provoke. This parent is not going to collect dolls ( anymore ), and will miss out on a great hobby with great people...just saying.... Hugs and love from Tamara🤗❤️ @Heavenslittleblacklambsnursery PS: I really like your artwork! Too bad I can't afford Skya right now. She is gorgeous!
I am and reborn mommy i have a girl doll and nobody wants to help me with a free reborn boy doll opened eyed because people say i have autism and font deserve a doll
No one should fell like they need to help with someone who begs for a doll because of what condition they have. You want a doll then save up for one like we all do. Many of us have your condition or others yet we save up and buy them. It may take awhile but that’s what you gotta do. Asking for free dolls is highly inappropriate.
Asking for a free doll is just sad stop with your sob stories get a job just like all the rest of us gotta do save your money and buy one asking for free dolls is not cool and make yourself look like a total fool 😂
Thank you for sharing the thoughtful and informed comments! I hope you get all the support you need to have a good experience online. I agree that it’s better that posters consider the impact on the viewer and the example you gave definitely crossed a line where warning was appropriate. Thank you for your good work supporting civil discussion so communities can work towards solutions!
I actually agree with your POV on this. And may I say you surprised me by handling a really tough and delicate topic with maturity and sensitivity. I applaud you for that.
I just bought Skya! Messaged you on insta regarding gender preference.
I totally get what you mean on trauma dumping..we all have our thing and trauma dumping literally dumps all of those negative emotions and past experiences onto a stranger who now has to process what the other person has dumped.
Hi ☺️,he is precious. She is cute 🥰
I have seen this too and I've had the same feelings about it..i just kept it to myself. ☺️ I never post all my personal stuff in any of my doll groups or my CZcams Channel or my Instagram account. I'm just in it for the beautiful art and the fun of playing with dolls.
I had trauma buying after my sweet Dad passed. Retail therapy was a thing even though I couldn’t and shouldn’t have spent the money. I’m 65 and I never would have imagined I would do retail therapy as I never was a big shopper. I do love my reborn however and I think it did help me. I was a L&D and nursery nurse prior to my heartbreak and the babies really helped. My sweet Dad took his own life and I will feel forever guilty I never imagined hating would happen. I should have known even though I lived in Hawaii and he was in Canada. H passed in 2010 and that was my last baby. Although I would love a new one I cannot afford one. Holding a reborn on my chest makes my dopamine surge and makes me happy. So no real regrets. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ oh yes and empty nest syndrome as my little grandkids moved to Canada.
I think you missed the point of the video because what you just did in this comment was exactly what trauma dumping is and what I don’t think is appropriate.
I am so sorry you are hurting so much❤
I think there's a bit of a grey area to this topic. I think the reborn community should be safe place for folks who have experienced trauma. We already get ostracized from the rest of society, this really shouldn't be the place to tell people what to say or what not to say if they feel like sharing anything at all. That being said however, there's a basic rule to posting anything online: the internet is forever. And when making anything public, whether online or in person, everything you say can and WILL be used against you. There are way too many ill intentioned people out there that will weaponize your own trauma against you. And we are never in control of these folks but we can control our own actions and it's always best to keep such anecdotes either private or confined within a safe group of individuals. In any case, just like you said, many people here really do need therapy. And that's obviously not to shame anyone, I struggle with depression and anxiety and that's precisely how I know some people avoid psychologists like the plague.
My point is that shouldn't there be some consent? There are ways to go about sharing trauma in a responsible way. If you find a group of people within the reborn community that are willing to listen and share, that wouldn't be trauma dumping, in my opinion?
@@UniRebornDad and I completely understand your point. What I'm saying is that I wouldn't feel as confident as you do telling people what they should or shouldn't post on their social media. That's really up to the individuals discretion, much less saying that we should report the post (unless they straight up go against community guidelines). I'm sure there's plenty of things you've said that have made other people uncomfortable because that's not the type of things they want to hear when they search for reborn videos on youtube but I doubt you will start censoring yourself for the comfort of others. People have the freedom to express themselves however they choose in their platforms, whether smart or not. When it comes to facebook groups, there should be admins and moderators that approve each post before it goes up and I'm on other hobby groups besides reborns and usually whenever someone is about to post something very deep and personal they start the post with the trigger warning initials (TW) so that whoever is not interested can just keep scrolling which I feel is the best way to go about it when opening up about personal things. Of course, if I were in their shoes I would go about it very differently for safety and privacy concerns...but I'm not in their shoes so I keep to myself. At the end it's not up to you or me to decide what others post on social media, we only have the option to delete what we don't like. There's plenty of stuff online that I don't want to see but still somehow get recommended to me and all I can do is choose what I do or don't engage with.
@@lunamoonursery Not an equal comparison at all, people have a choice whether to click on my videos or my instagram profile. These posts I am referring to are on public buy/sell groups where you wouldn’t know what you may see. People need to be considerate of others at the very least and “nest” the content if it’s graphic.
@@UniRebornDadwell, like I said, there should be moderators for that. Also a list of rules of what is or not allowed to be posted in the group. If those posts exist on those groups it's because the admins or moderators allow it. Different groups have different rules. It's okay for you to feel uncomfortable with those posts but your right ends where someone else's begins. Keep in mind I'm not arguing with you. I really enjoy your videos and your straight-to-the-point way of addressing things. But I'm offering other points of view you might be missing. The internet is as much yours as everyone else's. If these posts are in groups it's because the ones in control allow it to be there. If they are on someone's personal account it's because they have the right to post whatever they want. IF these things were being said to you face to face on a personal conversation then you 100% have the right to tell the other person that you do not feel comfortable with the topic at hand. But as long as we are online there's really no exact way to tell someone "hey, don't share your story because *I* don't want to hear it".
Cute babies ❤❤❤
I dont mind if people keep it vague and to the point but if its paragraphs of their life story I dont really want to see/know that! Its just too much! I agree with what youve said here. Especially with the photo!! Yikes! That also would have ruined my day!😯 Everyone has some kind of trauma in their life, but alot of us are just here for the cuteness!!!
Oh I’m so sorry. I guess I did not understand hun.
Trauma dumping pushes people away
New subscriber . Your reborn is so adorable . Nice subject your right.❤
he is so cute
Excellent conversation
When someone says “I have *insert condition* so I should get a free or heavily discounted doll I cringe!!!
First off, I’m sure you aren’t the only person with whatever condition you have so you are saying that artists should just give away their dolls aka money simply because you exist? Inappropriate.
I will never understand people that feel the need to air their deeply personal problems to a bunch of strangers. Public spaces are not your safe spaces.
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Hello unidad😊,
So, this needs to stop! I agree with you! There are other parents who lost their babies who are working hard on going on with their lives and about their days. After losing a loved one there are moments where you don't "actively" think about them. With time these moments become more often and longer. So a grieving mother or father is having a good day is scrolling to look at the babies and BAM! they come across a photo of a poor little one who has passed.
Their day is ruined! Post traumatic flashbacks and shock is what such photos provoke. This parent is not going to collect dolls ( anymore ), and will miss out on a great hobby with great people...just saying....
Hugs and love from
Tamara🤗❤️
@Heavenslittleblacklambsnursery
PS: I really like your artwork! Too bad I can't afford Skya right now. She is gorgeous!
I am and reborn mommy i have a girl doll and nobody wants to help me with a free reborn boy doll opened eyed because people say i have autism and font deserve a doll
No one should fell like they need to help with someone who begs for a doll because of what condition they have. You want a doll then save up for one like we all do. Many of us have your condition or others yet we save up and buy them. It may take awhile but that’s what you gotta do. Asking for free dolls is highly inappropriate.
@@PineDollies44this girl above is Jessica layman she’s a scammer she’s gotten a bunch of free dolls over the years
Asking for a free doll is just sad stop with your sob stories get a job just like all the rest of us gotta do save your money and buy one asking for free dolls is not cool and make yourself look like a total fool 😂